Very true, I join you in this prayer, may I never marry my enemy, may my feet never cross paths with any man in the name of relationship that will lead to my demise in Jesus name Amen.
Gosh Toke, you just said what’s been going through my mind, I’m so scared of this love now, my mom always pray a prayer, that we wouldn’t end up with men who will die on us or kill us
Mental health issues are on the rise now seriously. The stress of these times are literally getting into people’s head. We have to be vigilant and watch for the signs. There are always signs
This is nothing but the truth. Don’t be with someone that brings out the craziness in you. Relationships can be so passionate until it leads to violence. Biko.
We need to start praying for God's way,not our way coz God knows and see all, sometimes we even see the signs but ignore them, only God can show us when we meet these people in our lives coz it's crazy out there 😫😫🙏🙏
It's crazy! It's scary! People need to be vigilant. Observe the behaviours of people we are in relationships with. The small triggers are signs and we're honest, our inner spirit or intuition always tells you when there's danger.....embrace the gift of fear and ruuuunnnnn!!
There are many animals in human skin, wearing agbada and putting tie as Fela said. Many were born and bred in lower levels of dysfunction than you have ever experienced or can handle. Keep a diary on your phone. Don't take a U-Haul to your third date. Don't ignore the types of anger your romantic interest displays. Don't ignore comments they make when you watch movies or gist about current affairs. Watch how they treat their domestic staff. How does he/ she talk to the cleaners in the office? How do they act when someone other than you is late? How do they handle a messed up order? How many of your friends do they want you to cancel and for what? Look at those two idiots in the video- the guy probably grew up with his parents putting their kids in dangerous situations just to fight. The girl probably grew up thinking you get attention by doing the craziest thing hence her forgetting the pains of her nine months course and putting that innocent kid at risk. The living dead are those who have silenced their instinct. Ji! Ma sun! Let the mad date themselves. When they show you their colour, don't play unpaid therapist. Don't pick up another project: you won't succeed where their mother failed. Don't compete with Jesus for the miracle worker title. Leave your slippers and run. May the dead rest in peace and may the bound be set free.
Sha this is so real Sis Toke. Let me be late to that sort of appointment. That was never love in the first place. That was infatuation or something or other. Love is kind and patient. Not volatile and deadly. The one thing we women have is our intuition and it is never wrong. Trust it ladies. It shall never lead you astray
Now someone will say toke makinwa should not have allllll the likes from this world....u are going places ma,I m a die hard fan. I promise to make you proud....if only lil frosh gf saw this maybe she would have picked race.. ....this video is all in all❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I agree 2020 is a fragile year, and while we stay vigilant to protect ourselves, we must also be careful how we treat other people. Some people can be very callous in how they handle people banking on the "turn-the-other-cheek" response. In this season people are already on edge, and "turn-the-other-cheek" may not be the default response.
I've watched your vlog from the time you started :) biggest fan from Uganda ..you always know what to talk about. ..always relevant . You have been like the big sister I never had things I couldn't talk to ppl about...u had talked about almost all of them on your channel.. this is an appreciation post .. you are doing the most for us :*
You couldn’t have said it better. . One got to slow down. Being in love with oneself most times is better than the hassle of these so called relationships
Toke... There are so many mad people roaming the earth. May God not let us meet them... At the end of the day, relationship/love is not for everyone. Las las, Focus on healthy friendships. Because most people are also incapable of handling "love". As simple as that four letter word is, not everyone can handle it.
@DaReal Emm Lol. We all have some level of craze within us; including you. Who knows to what extent your madness could reach!? That being said, you're entitled to your opinion, as am I. Do what works for you, there's really no rule book that guides life in general, just don't make whoever you choose to be with, suffer.
Thank you so much Toke, I bumped into this vlog and I remembered the toxic relationship I ended 2 years ago. My ex was always so angry that he could break things and on one fateful day, he beat me up. I left without regrets cos love is never enough. He wanted us to get back together but I was too scared to agree.
I've always seen beyond actions and hear beyond what is being said and being able to do that takes some sort of intellectual capability. some girl told me if she loves the guy she won't leave, she will change him and I was like ok. I can't even have that conversation
I can't thank you enough for making this video because it is the honest truth! The thing about domestic violence is that the victims still somehow make excuses for the abusers. I say this cos I was in a similar situation and it took the grace of God and my sister to get me out of it. For anyone going through it, I pray you find the strength to leave and the grace to get through the hurt.❤
“He doesn’t get mad at me, he is as gentle as a dove” Hmmn pls that’s Disney tales oo. Don’t marry anyone you havnt seen their anger! If you know what drives him mad, do it over and over to see how he reacts.
That’s also a form of abuse, you can’t constantly make somebody mad and play with their emotions just for your experiment... no no no, I refuse, once is enough
This happen to me. I only saw my partner angry once but when we got married i now saw his real anger. And I am now divorcing him. I cannot come die all in name of being "married" abeg.
You said it all Toke💐. However, please keep in mind that tough times are nothing new. Thanks to social media we all have a front row seat to the drama and carnage. The graveyards and the prisons are filled with people thanks to out of control passions. 2020 has just printed it in BOLD letters abi?
Big Amen to that prayer 🙏🏽 The rate at which all these relationships and marriages crash ehn to the extent of claiming lives hmmmn... Shey mo ma marry sha🤔🤔🤔
I had that fear really because I was in a relationship with a very possessive guy and I knew I had to runnnnnnnn. Toke,I ran for my life. He was obsessed so I knew I couldn't marry such a person else one or both of us will go to jail
You said it all. when people show you who they are believe them, they say it's mental health, narcissism, psychopath I can go on, in summary is called witchcraft .we are in the end time the devil is at work, be alert be wise .
Love is not a scam. Like she said, look out for those things you partner isn’t saying. Those consistent attitude they choose to ignore, thinking it’s nothing is the real issue. I wish people watching this will let it sink in their heart and brain.
It isn't. Unspoken brokenness and low self esteem and belief systems are the real concerns.. God is love. Be healthy as a person, and be what you ask for.
Waoh.......This is really Inspiring Toke.......I have your book "The On becoming " but I have been skeptical about you before I left Nigeria but you won my heart with this Video.....O to ni ooooo......change your number is a superb strategy".....no one's life is worth taken in any relationship.Nice words Toke ....God bless you.
True !! People should check thier mental health!! Be careful with triggers. When you start feeling bad.. check yourself so you dont fall a victim. True true
African women and Black women all over the world 🌎 we need to learn from these mistakes. As Malcom X said “ The black woman is the most disrespected person in America ”. Please protect your self, your children from violence, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional manipulation.
Daniela Fajemisin thank you 🙏🏾 for correcting me. The quote “The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman “ - Malcolm X
Important message👌🏾 I feel it is always overlooked, na love cause am If there is anything I’m taking joke from this video, it has to be “listen to their actions” 😉
Beta prayer points here o!!! Funny but real video...Let the people say Amen!! .God let some kain people not cross my path in Jesus name. Its so sad in today's world...just as you sd, truly most times it may be the passionate forbidden sex that affects rational judgement to move on.
1.35 mins in, totally agree. Toke you hit it again. Mental health check, very necessary but the prayers even more important. Let the Holy Spirit order our steps.
It's so crazy how love turns sour. I say that two of the world's most dangerous emotions are love and anger. Sour Love breaks the heart so badly. It's mental.
It's hectic outchea.... I'm glad I'm seeing a therapist cause I've seen it all, I've been around toxic people and exs, and they always blame you for it. My ex ended up saying i can kill him, cause i found out that he has many girlfriends.
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Very true, I join you in this prayer, may I never marry my enemy, may my feet never cross paths with any man in the name of relationship that will lead to my demise in Jesus name Amen.
“We give the devil too much credit, and God too much work.” Truth 💯
Gosh Toke, you just said what’s been going through my mind, I’m so scared of this love now, my mom always pray a prayer, that we wouldn’t end up with men who will die on us or kill us
Mental health issues are on the rise now seriously. The stress of these times are literally getting into people’s head. We have to be vigilant and watch for the signs. There are always signs
This is nothing but the truth. Don’t be with someone that brings out the craziness in you. Relationships can be so passionate until it leads to violence. Biko.
Toke OMG , she said my skin is not condition for suffering 🤣🤣🤣. I concur oh
Our reality today,as women, we should love our selfs more than anything.Let society brand us anyway but we have to still do us.
😀👍👍🙌🙌💯
We need to start praying for God's way,not our way coz God knows and see all, sometimes we even see the signs but ignore them, only God can show us when we meet these people in our lives coz it's crazy out there 😫😫🙏🙏
😂😂😂I doubled over when Toke said the skin can not survive prison!
It's crazy! It's scary!
People need to be vigilant.
Observe the behaviours of people we are in relationships with. The small triggers are signs and we're honest, our inner spirit or intuition always tells you when there's danger.....embrace the gift of fear and ruuuunnnnn!!
There are many animals in human skin, wearing agbada and putting tie as Fela said. Many were born and bred in lower levels of dysfunction than you have ever experienced or can handle. Keep a diary on your phone. Don't take a U-Haul to your third date. Don't ignore the types of anger your romantic interest displays. Don't ignore comments they make when you watch movies or gist about current affairs. Watch how they treat their domestic staff. How does he/ she talk to the cleaners in the office? How do they act when someone other than you is late? How do they handle a messed up order? How many of your friends do they want you to cancel and for what?
Look at those two idiots in the video- the guy probably grew up with his parents putting their kids in dangerous situations just to fight. The girl probably grew up thinking you get attention by doing the craziest thing hence her forgetting the pains of her nine months course and putting that innocent kid at risk.
The living dead are those who have silenced their instinct. Ji! Ma sun! Let the mad date themselves. When they show you their colour, don't play unpaid therapist. Don't pick up another project: you won't succeed where their mother failed. Don't compete with Jesus for the miracle worker title. Leave your slippers and run. May the dead rest in peace and may the bound be set free.
You have a way with words oh, no lies told here!
Hey God..who are you. You deserve an accolade
Well said
I concur
You have said it well
Mental health is really important these days. Mad people roaming the streets 🙌
This generation is just so scary . I pray we meet people that lengthen our lives not shorten it
Amen!!!
Hearing the things people don't say, is a rear gift.
Listen to their actions!!!! I was just watching your video when this one popped up i enjoy your vlogs 🥰
Her vlogs are lit🔥
Sha this is so real Sis Toke. Let me be late to that sort of appointment. That was never love in the first place. That was infatuation or something or other. Love is kind and patient. Not volatile and deadly. The one thing we women have is our intuition and it is never wrong. Trust it ladies. It shall never lead you astray
Now someone will say toke makinwa should not have allllll the likes from this world....u are going places ma,I m a die hard fan. I promise to make you proud....if only lil frosh gf saw this maybe she would have picked race.. ....this video is all in all❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m in South Africa and I can relate with this topic. Femicide and GBV is way too high here. There’s not where to run.
I agree 2020 is a fragile year, and while we stay vigilant to protect ourselves, we must also be careful how we treat other people. Some people can be very callous in how they handle people banking on the "turn-the-other-cheek" response. In this season people are already on edge, and "turn-the-other-cheek" may not be the default response.
I've watched your vlog from the time you started :) biggest fan from Uganda ..you always know what to talk about. ..always relevant . You have been like the big sister I never had things I couldn't talk to ppl about...u had talked about almost all of them on your channel.. this is an appreciation post .. you are doing the most for us :*
You couldn’t have said it better. . One got to slow down. Being in love with oneself most times is better than the hassle of these so called relationships
Toke... There are so many mad people roaming the earth. May God not let us meet them... At the end of the day, relationship/love is not for everyone. Las las, Focus on healthy friendships. Because most people are also incapable of handling "love". As simple as that four letter word is, not everyone can handle it.
Hmmmm,word💯💯👌
Couldn't have said it better💯
@ violet Johnson you're 💯 spot on girl!!!!! You know the saying....... Many are Mad only few are roaming! Love is definitely NOT for everyone.
@DaReal Emm Lol. We all have some level of craze within us; including you. Who knows to what extent your madness could reach!? That being said, you're entitled to your opinion, as am I. Do what works for you, there's really no rule book that guides life in general, just don't make whoever you choose to be with, suffer.
Thank you so much Toke, I bumped into this vlog and I remembered the toxic relationship I ended 2 years ago. My ex was always so angry that he could break things and on one fateful day, he beat me up. I left without regrets cos love is never enough. He wanted us to get back together but I was too scared to agree.
Well said toke. This 2020 quarantine has helped to destroy toxic relationships. This year is the best year of getting your mental health together.
We really need to get mental check up result. It’s scary what people do to their partners.
“Many are mad, few are roaming”
I've always seen beyond actions and hear beyond what is being said and being able to do that takes some sort of intellectual capability. some girl told me if she loves the guy she won't leave, she will change him and I was like ok. I can't even have that conversation
Looking so much like Taraji in this video Toke 😊
Thanks Aunty Toke,🙌🙌Mental health is the thing nowadays,with all these stories coming up in marriages,we no longer know the meaning of love🤷♀🙄🙄
I can't thank you enough for making this video because it is the honest truth! The thing about domestic violence is that the victims still somehow make excuses for the abusers. I say this cos I was in a similar situation and it took the grace of God and my sister to get me out of it. For anyone going through it, I pray you find the strength to leave and the grace to get through the hurt.❤
“He doesn’t get mad at me, he is as gentle as a dove” Hmmn pls that’s Disney tales oo. Don’t marry anyone you havnt seen their anger! If you know what drives him mad, do it over and over to see how he reacts.
That’s also a form of abuse, you can’t constantly make somebody mad and play with their emotions just for your experiment... no no no, I refuse, once is enough
@DaReal Emm true,that is a good point,just once is enough,it is better to notice and observe the Red Flags on time
@@thapelomthembu9464 u have a good point,i agree with u,just once is enough
This happen to me. I only saw my partner angry once but when we got married i now saw his real anger. And I am now divorcing him. I cannot come die all in name of being "married" abeg.
@@Janet-wy2io abi na😀
You said it all Toke💐. However, please keep in mind that tough times are nothing new. Thanks to social media we all have a front row seat to the drama and carnage. The graveyards and the prisons are filled with people thanks to out of control passions. 2020 has just printed it in BOLD letters abi?
Big Amen to that prayer 🙏🏽 The rate at which all these relationships and marriages crash ehn to the extent of claiming lives hmmmn... Shey mo ma marry sha🤔🤔🤔
I had that fear really because I was in a relationship with a very possessive guy and I knew I had to runnnnnnnn. Toke,I ran for my life. He was obsessed so I knew I couldn't marry such a person else one or both of us will go to jail
You said it all. when people show you who they are believe them, they say it's mental health, narcissism, psychopath I can go on, in summary is called witchcraft .we are in the end time the devil is at work, be alert be wise .
Love is a woman's biggest enemy. the older i get the more i realise it is a SCAM✌🏿
Big scam
Love is not a scam. Like she said, look out for those things you partner isn’t saying. Those consistent attitude they choose to ignore, thinking it’s nothing is the real issue. I wish people watching this will let it sink in their heart and brain.
It isn't. Unspoken brokenness and low self esteem and belief systems are the real concerns.. God is love. Be healthy as a person, and be what you ask for.
@@Segigo words of affirmation and wisdom there👍👍💕
Segigo Ajo this makes so much sense. Thank you 💗💗
An extremely important topic! God bless you, Toke.
This is a greater truth that some men and women don’t take notice when they are in a relationship. God Bless You for this video.👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Toke na pure vibes
This skin won't last in prison abeg oh
the number of deaths as a result of domestic violence and abuse and having escaped it myself is why I am content to be single and childfree.
So true, once a guy is saying terrible things to you doing a disagreement, 🏃♂️ RUN!
TM hits issues with both seriousness and comedy ❤
I wish I could like this video several times.
Do men truly love? 🤔
I doubt deeply. 😑
There's a thin line between love & hate.
I doubt that too especially when they don't love God
One of the best blogs ever ✅
We really need mental health facilities now in Nigeria.some issues lead to depression and make one wander around in darkness...
God will surely help us in choosing the right person 🙏🙏
Waoh.......This is really Inspiring Toke.......I have your book "The On becoming " but I have been skeptical about you before I left Nigeria but you won my heart with this Video.....O to ni ooooo......change your number is a superb strategy".....no one's life is worth taken in any relationship.Nice words Toke ....God bless you.
True !! People should check thier mental health!! Be careful with triggers. When you start feeling bad.. check yourself so you dont fall a victim. True true
So much truth 👌
African women and Black women all over the world 🌎 we need to learn from these mistakes. As Malcom X said “ The black woman is the most disrespected person in America ”. Please protect your self, your children from violence, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional manipulation.
It was Malcolm X that said “ The most disrespected person in America is the black woman”
Daniela Fajemisin thank you 🙏🏾 for correcting me. The quote “The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman “ - Malcolm X
love this video..love you already
Toke! BAM!!!! I've been telling my friends. LISTEN TO THE ACTIONS AND UNSPOKEN WORDS. Thank God for you
Me I'm already keeping the social distancing. No one is worth it.
Important message👌🏾
I feel it is always overlooked, na love cause am
If there is anything I’m taking joke from this video, it has to be “listen to their actions” 😉
Very important topic ❤
You are spitting facts. I love you so much
You are the aunty I never had... You said it all...
True talk. I love you because you tell the truth. It’s high time people get attentive when dating
Y do I just love this lady
This was a very passionate video. Domestic violence is really on the high side this year. May God help us all.
I love you Toke all the way from Ghana 🇬🇭... love your videos
Good advise ..ladies be vigilant
First time listening to this lady, woow I never knew she is this realistic, thanks toke, let those who have ear let them hear
Best wishes in October! God bless Nigeria at 60
You nailed it toke ✔💯.
This is so true . Thanks for the message . I must say you’re funny 😂 love from Jamaica
This conversation was very NECESSARY.
After watching so much Criminal Minds me I dey fear human beings oh
Only God can protect us becos abnormal is not written in people faces anymore. TOKESTARR love u.
This is a serious topic o but you are funny 🤣🤣🤣🤣
This was a great video !!!!!
That shout ehn is a pointer!!!
Amen to that prayer!!!
Beta prayer points here o!!! Funny but real video...Let the people say Amen!! .God let some kain people not cross my path in Jesus name. Its so sad in today's world...just as you sd, truly most times it may be the passionate forbidden sex that affects rational judgement to move on.
1.35 mins in, totally agree. Toke you hit it again.
Mental health check, very necessary but the prayers even more important. Let the Holy Spirit order our steps.
Mental health issue is key to analysing these abuses and deaths. We all should work on ourselves.
It's so crazy how love turns sour. I say that two of the world's most dangerous emotions are love and anger. Sour Love breaks the heart so badly. It's mental.
This is so insightful
Thank you Toke for this.
Watching those videos was really sad 😢
So grateful that you talked about this! God bless you Tokstarr! Now let me share😩
I think exactly like you!
My love am happy for you my role model thanks dear
That's right Tokstarr with a double rr ❤️🧡💚
Question is did they really love???? True love proves it's self overtime.
Thank you so much for this much needed vlog.
Sooo true👌🏾👌🏾❤️
Wow, thanks momma 💪❤️❤️
Yet again, another great episode. PLEASE KEEP IT UP TOKSTARR.
The day my ex said he had a choice to kill me, I ran for my life.
My peace of mind is more important than anything.
Why won't Godbless you... ILOVEYOU 💛 jaweee
Mental health is very important! When you see red flags 🏃🏾♀️
The problem is most people don't know the exact red flags to look out for
The people that disliked this video have all the listed tendencies
You spoke to me.. God bless you
Well said
U are right...
Love u lots hun.
Thks for the advise..
It's hectic outchea.... I'm glad I'm seeing a therapist cause I've seen it all, I've been around toxic people and exs, and they always blame you for it. My ex ended up saying i can kill him, cause i found out that he has many girlfriends.
I cried through this whole video 😭😭😭
Sisturhhh when you prayed that prayer . I prayed with you abeg🙏🙏God please
Whatttt is this one doing here 🤣🤣🤣ive caught you. Me I started watching toke before you sha 🤣
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ITUA LILIAN lmaooo wow i thought I was the first 🤣😂
It's so serious but I couldn't stop laughing.... Its so true mad people r now looking like normal people.
UG representing ❤️❤️
I love your message, it was so necessary for me