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Oh my god yes ! I used be a nail tech and always do my toes but for my work and job I’m not allowed have nails done so mine are filed - cut and short ish !
I've had a manicure once in my life. For my own wedding I used press on nails from Target. Most of the time I have my nails bare. No shame in not being into nails!
i've never had my nails done and haven't used nail polish since i was like 9 and no one has ever commented on my hands, except my sister who's jealous of my nails supposedly being pretty but they're all different lengths lol
As a former Emirates flight attendant: I’ve seen sooo many people boarding the plane, quickly taking a photo in business class and going to economy where their seat was. Don’t believe social media
@@ilovenycsomuch I can't even imagine the embarassement of everyone boarding, and you have to pull off this quick little photoshoot. And then the person with the ticket shows up who has the seat you are posing at... NOPE. Can't do it.
Re: Flying first class - I was a flight attendant for several years and 99.999% of those who fly first class on a regular basis are business people. They never take photos of themselves and rarely do they even want anything from us! I've had so many business passengers just get on the plane and fall asleep. When we would have passengers in first class ringing the call button and demanding drink after drink we knew they weren't regular fliers, and they were oftentimes the rudest people on the plane. That, above everything else, screams "classless" to me which ironically is the opposite of what they're trying to convey to the internet!
I saw someone criticizing (rightfully so) that boomers tend to buy too much stuff then pass it off to their kids. However the irony was all the Gen Z people complaining about how they buy such useless stuff when in my opinion we are about on par or even worse than boomers with buying useless stuff I mean have they seen tik tok made me buy it?!
@@assassin8636 we don't need 6000 tik tok girlies to buy the new trendy blush everyone talks about for like 5 mins and "test it for their followers" then throw it out. No one needs that. It's wasteful and silly
I was heavily into shopping, getting my nails done, going on expensive vacations. Then, I was hit with a diagnosis of a very serious medical condition. Now, living on government assistance, I would love to have the money in a savings account rather than a closet full of designer handbags and a vanity covered in niche perfume. Gone are the days are the days of endless shopping, flat stomachs and perfect nails. Now, I devote my time to rescuing animals and giving them a better life. Honestly, I am happier than I have been in many years.
Honestly the best thing I ever did was delete my social media and now I just focus on books, RUclips, reading articles about stuff that interests me. I even made it a strong point to cater my RUclips to what’s good for me mentally. Any videos that pop up that recommend things that could mentally bug me I block or put not interested. I can’t even begin to tell you how much happier and how much more free time I have then my friends. I’m married as well and I enjoy keeping my personal life personal 😂🤷🏽♀️ Who would of thought the idea of privacy would be considered out of the norm in society
same here, sometimes i'll read reddit posts for research or youtube vids but that's about it, so much more peaceful not caring about others and what they are doing 😂
The sooner people realize that an addiction to shopping is a form of subjugation in buying crap we don’t need with money we don’t have, the better off they are. I stopped this years ago and am far better off. I’d rather be mortgage free than own all this crap that influencers are peddling. Once you realize that it is indeed crap, shit, junk, garbage, the better you can free yourself from this addiction.
Absolutely this! It’s being manipulated that you need these things to be happy resulting in having to grind your life away in hustle-culture. Both parts make lots of money for the billionaires and make us (the average person) unhappy, in debt, lacking in purpose, overworked and burnt out.
I mean it’s not normal to get your nails done *at all*. It’s only the past few years that it’s even become ‘a thing’ and it props up modern slavery It’s not normal to buy more than one or two bags a year IMO max.
Im here because i work in an expensive bedding shop. I am 4 weeks in and cant believe what people buy. They come in and spend hundreds on bedding sets and say things like "hmm no not that one, i have a similar set in my villa in spain" or "im here because I'm looking for a change up. Im bored of the sheets I have on now, its been a few months". And I just think excuse me? Do you know the time, effort, land and resources these items have took to make, but you're bored of them after a few months? It has really opened my eyes to how bad things have got. Just 20 years ago we used to keep using things until they were no longer functional, but now people go out and spend £100 on a bedspread every 6 months because they think their bedroom has to always be ready for a photoshoot. It needs to stop, its not normal.
Wow. That’s amazing! I love coloured sheets but I use them until they have holes in them. I bought a quilt cover that I love a decade ago and have used it ever since.
Being disabled or having a chronic illness can make it so hard to be on social media , I feel like I should be doing something more with my life , and I have to stop and remember being disabled is it’s own full time job
Wow, I am glad I am not alone in this. Online girlies be hitting gym at 7am, work till 5 and cocktail happy hour at 9, all while having flawless makeup, outfits and nails and turning/editing it all for the internet, when I use all 4 of my spoons to shower in the morning and after 2 pm we are running on an empty tank and WILL nap if left seated somewhere for too long. Like yes, I am young - I should be wild and free. But also. I have four spoons.
I agree with the flat tummy. A lot of people don't realize that you have to be at a very low body fat percentage (around 15-16%) but also have some muscle built up to look "good". That takes a lot of work at the gym and in the kitchen. Realistically most people can't keep that up long-term. Also, most of them are sporting a good tan - which will help define your muscles/body.
@@deepersoul689 I know some of these types of people in real life, and they look a lot different from what they look online. Sometimes like two different people.
Also, genetics play a big role. Some people do have a naturally flat tummy (not chiseled, just flat!) unless they've just eaten a full meal, are PMSing and bloated, etc.
That's exactly what I tell myself when I find myself feeling envious of people I see on social media, whether it's trips or material goods: "It's not normal." Also, things aren't always as they seem. It can appear like people have it easy, or things come easy. Like a family I know just went to Disney for a week, and stayed at one of their very expensive resorts. My first thought was, "Aww! I wish I could do that for my kids!!!" Later, I found out that the parents are both super hard-working, so much that their kids are in daycare very early in the morning, and get picked up very late in the evening. (Not judging - just saying how it is.) Meanwhile, I'm a stay-at-home mom, so we've had to make sacrifices (a one-night trip to Niagara Falls is our idea of a vacation.😆) but I'm thankful I was able to be at home with my kids, and they get dropped off and picked up my me. Anyway, it's all based on perspective, and people's priorities.
Im Travel Blogger from Germany. It’s my hobby- Im wealthy woman. Our trips not stop , because of our family business we are in automotive business. I was posting my pictures, and my life and never was thinking , people getting jealous. Now I’m stop uploading , I realize I will not show any more anymore any bags or my Porsche and so on .For me it’s my normal life - i understand how many people just dream to have my lifestyle. I spend one year non stop posting and I meet so many fake bloggers . Most of the time what you see on Instagram it’s not real believe me I meet this people, dress rented bags as well . Travelings with sugar daddy.. and so one . Send you love from Germany.
You have it right. Children remember the good times spent with you, what you did together. Believe me, the way your children see life reality, how you tackle hardships and push through to give them a good life, have time for them value being with them, supporting them and having fun, that will stay with them forever. You are doing it right. As you say perspective and priorities.
Omg! Preach! I had a severe shopping addiction for years. It was causing so much stress in my 15 year marriage. The constant boxes showing up would make my husband so angry. (I was a stay at home mom during those years). For the past year, I’ve been a personal stylist at Nordstrom. I’m not really sure why it’s changed, but I no longer struggle with the shopping problem. Possibly because I’m around all the beautiful designer products all day and it has scratched the itch. Either way I’m grateful I’ve come out on the other side more insightful about my behavior. ❤from Chicago!!
I’m in love with fashion and I was gonna spend money i should save for a car on beautiful dresses but i decided not to. I still fantasize about the dresses 😭😂 im manifesting my dream wardrobe 💜Your job is a dream tho ☺️💓🌹
Hey, I identity. I'm ashamed at the clothes and shoes I have with the labels still on. I had to stop using the clothing apps as I could never turn down a bargain for shiz I don't need. Big clear out on the way and hopefully someone can use them. I think I had an addiction because I was going through a hard time.
@@earth2riss133 It is definitely a dream job. I’ve tried 9-5 office jobs before and lasted about a week lol. Just not for me. I have 2 kids very active in high level sports so being able to make my schedule around my appointments with clients is so key. Honestly, though it wasn’t hard to get into if you’re interested. 🫶
Let's normalize being hot messes in our 20's again ala Gen X. I used to get my nails done a lot in the early 00's when you could get a full set for like $25 in LA because there were nail shops on every corner. Also, nails were less fancy back then so a simple polish change wouldn't take that long and might be $10 including tip. What people have to remember is that for these content creators consuming is their job. Also, they are going into debt and returning a lot of stuff. Their financials aren't always in order.
I am Gen X. In our 20s we weren’t hot messes. There is no evidence. We didn’t have phones. Nothing was posted on social media. We were busy being PRESENT. Yes, we got our nails done. Wanna know who knew? The nail tech. The people we would physically go visit. The people sitting across from us at the restaurant / bar. The people on the dance floor if they looked up while we were being wooooo girls lol I am soooooo proudly Gen X! Can we go back? Please and thank you.
I grew up in the 80's. Parents didn't religiously have their kids bathing every single day either. Kids went out to play. They got dirty. But we were never disgusting and smelly. We bathed when it was necessary. And got to be kids the rest of the time. And nobody got their nails done. The excuse was, "I wash my own dishes by hand. I don't feel like painting my nails just to for them to immediately be ruined washing dishes." I still live by that rhetoric to this day.
Sometimes social media is okay, but I avoid some things like that, but I'm a guy you know, I'll just see what's good for girls, even for my female friends too
1. Never had my nails done. I always believed it wasn't the healthiest. 2. Flew once in first class, meh flying itself used to be elitist in general. Now that has changed significantly. 3. I love to travel. I do it on the cheap. I don't know how people do all-inclusive or 5 star hotels consistently. Most get sponsored or asked to do promotions. 4. I'm over handbags... next! Most influencers can afford these. They come from comfortable financial backgrounds. I never followed people who came from the same life experiences as I do and often they come from money. 5. All photos are taken in the best light, before eating, and after a workout. I put water in my mouth and I boat, it's hormonal for me. I'm over fake skinny. Women need to stop judging, we are cruel to each other. Men love women in all shapes and sizes. Let's celebrate all body shapes.
Personally I don't use social media, so this all sounds absurd to me. Who even goes to nail techs? Like they charge $100 for a single color. You can buy that nail polish and the UV light gadget for that much. I feel like quarterly shopping works best for me. It makes you not impulse shop, but gives an updated wardrobe for each changing season.
1. The chemical smell in there nail salons...can't be healthy.😅 I have a nail file and some nice colours of polish and I do my own nails in the evening while watching Netflix.
@@TheAkumaChanyou pay for the skill, if you flood your cuticles and get an allergy, its possible to ruin certain acrylics for you. Like not being able to wear contact lenses or use certain surgical equipment.
I dislike "shovel nails" with a passion.😂 it is unhygienic, for sure. Imagine what kind of stuff gets pucked up under those things. I wash my hands 20 times a day, I wash dishes, I wash some garments by hand sometimes, I cook, peel vegetables etc. How could an average, normal woman function and do chores while having long, pointy nails?
@@denisapasca154 exactly! As you are a nurse, please confirm: when you have really long fake nails, is it difficult to clean the area under those nails? Are people able to properly clean?
@@TheOpy83 For me is easier to clean small nails....because I never had a long nails before 😅 But for clean hands is better to have them shorter. Even with short nails you have to clean them under but imagine with long nails...
Nearly everything on Social Media is fake, and because of that I don't care about Social Media at all. No Instagram, no TikTok, no Facebook (blergh!), nothing. And I'm happy.
Thank you, Caitlin! I’m 47 and I am reasonably well-travelled and I have never flown in first or business class nor have I ever worn a bikini (I’m tall and slim but my stomach has never been flat except for a brief terrifying period when my kidneys were failing). I also cannot manage to have a manicure last more than a day without getting a chip. And while my annual “big” vacation *does* involve renting a multi-million dollar house with a private beach…it is in the FALL. We are lucky to get a day when we can sit on the beach without long sleeves! But it is delightful and worth it. And none of it gets posted on social media. Also, it wouldn’t happen if I bought a luxury item more than once every couple of years.
I’m Gen X - and I honestly think so much of what social media shows is fake! I go on holiday in the U.K. (where I live) every year because … not leaving the dogs! I have also flown first in the past and yeah it’s not normal. My nails are a mess! I don’t have a gorgeous home - it’s full of dog hair. I love bags, but I don’t think I need forty Chanel’s. Im happy! I just think the PRESSURE that social media puts on people in their 20’s is horrendous.
Im 19 and so stressed that my 20’s won’t add up to Kylie Jenner at 20😭 I know that’s so stupid but it’s a real comparison I have. like damn she had a kid by a rapper a multi million dollar business multiple houses, and I’m in my parents home, with a few dollars in the bank. 😟
@@amethyste684Don't compare...plus you are young. I'm 23 and I just graduate university and I'm struggling to look for a job....actually I did hire this month but the money is so little compare to what I have to do...I'm a nurse btw. And guess what? No money, still living with my mom and can't afford a car or a proper holiday 😅 So yeah.....be patient. In life there are more things to come than compare with actors or celebrities. Don't loose hope 😊 You have an entire life to do what you want.
@@amethyste684don’t compare hun. You have your life and it is beautiful in its own way focus on your goals. Sometimes coming off of social media can help this. You have to be satisfied with your own life it’s so unique to you and you should enjoy it! Plus not all of us have the same start so we won’t achieve every goal at the same rate ❤
So many great points. I stopped getting my nails done regularly because of the lockdowns in 2020, I realised how much time I was wasting getting them done & never bothered to go back again once everything opened back up, now I just keep them neat, tidy & buffed myself. I don’t feel any less for it. My incredibly modest handbag collection already contains more than I use on a regular basis, so there’s no way I’m adding anything that I don’t have a direct purpose for. Same goes for clothing, I have an average amount & still forget about particular items I already own, no need to overwhelm myself with excessive amounts of new purchases there either. As one of the few freaks who has a naturally flat & toned tummy it’s still not like that all of the time, I bloat after a big meal, when I’m stressed, or at specific times in my cycle just like everyone else. So a completely flat tummy isn’t normal for ANYONE all of the time, not even the few people blessed with a body that doesn’t store much fat there. So how about we all decide that a little bit of a poochy belly is actually quite cute & leave social media influencers to influence each other.
Omg can we normalize period bloat too!! I look like I'm 3 months pregnant every time. Even my bf laughs at it with me, since I'm a petite, smaller body who suddenly gains 30 pounds on my period 😂
I don't understand the type of work people do to have nails done all the time! Social media influencers - sure..but everything else, even a desk job where you type all day, is very difficult with nails.
I once threw on a dress I had just finished making and tweaking. It's kind of like the viral skims dress a simple bodycon dress. I immediately noticed how big and round my stomach was. It made me look like I was expecting. Because the rest of my body is stick thin. Just out of curiosity I sucked it in and I felt a cramp. Before loudly farting. I wasn't big. I was bloated as hell. And I'm stick thin. And have gastric issues.
The people I know who go on multiple international trips have parents who still support them financially, so don't feel bad. It's normal to not go on vacations regularly
RUclipsrs APOLOGIZING for having natural, normal fingernails. Yikes. I'm 50 years old and I've traveled I would say a normal amount, and never have I flown anything other than coach. Still arrived at the same destination!
Its yikes in many ways, it's full of toxins buts also tested on poor animals, so not cruelty free but the bimbos don't seem to care, they're too self obsessed with showing off but it's just to mask the emptiness inside, I'm just bummed out about the poor animals...all the virtue signaling and canceling of this and that but where are they when it comes to their own habits...
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Agreed. Also, it is not normal to pretend you can have and do everything. People for example cannot be a top lawyer while also being at home to raise kids. People pretend on social media that you don’t have to choose life priorities and that it doesn’t have consequences. And to make it worse many of the “compromises” screw up both things instead of just one. It is a very unhelpful delusion that leads to poor planning and decisions.
Great topic, I suggest you take it further. It needs to be a series. There's so many aspects of life right now that are warped beyond belief because of the rise of influencers, and people these days (including myself) need a reality check every once in a while.
Great topic, I suggest you take it further. It needs to be a series. There's so many aspects of life right now that are warped beyond belief because of the rise of influencers, and people these days (including myself) need a reality check every once in a while.
I was in line at TJ Maxx surrounded by women who looked like they could be Instagram models. They had the hair, make up, spider lashes, long nails, Stanley cups and status bags. I was dressed normal in jeans, sneakers and my TN Titans hoodie. My hair was in two strand twists. I have been working on my skin this year. Anyway, a man came all the to the front of the line just to tell me how beautiful I was, that my skin was beautiful and how refreshing it was to see a "normal" woman because everyone is starting to look the same. Then he went back to the back of the line. It was nice getting a compliment for just being "basic".
I know what you’re saying, but I kinda hate this mentality too. I don’t personally have any cosmetic treatments beyond hair coloring, but I also recognize that doesn’t make me superior to other women who choose differently! We can praise “normal” or “natural” beauty without tearing down those who choose a different look.
@@Alicia-ReneBut it's not a "different" look. That's precisely the point. They all look the same, and it's obvious they are just responding to trends. I'm tired of being told to accept everyone and everything. I don't accept false and indulgent beauty. I don't applaud these women for choosing to spend so much time on their looks. If that's judgemental, then yes, I'm judging them. It's not going to make them happy.
@@neromillie oof. If you’re insecure just say that. Confident women don’t need to build themselves up by tearing down other women and before you try it EVERY single woman I’ve ever heard offer a take like that was 100% jealous of the women they were judging. It’s so transparent.
@@neromillieI really get your point here to be honest. I think the same but I see that there is no way to communicate to these women that this is not beneficial for them in a long term maybe even short because they always take it as an offence or jealousy or that you are the one insecure. Obviously almost all of us have something we could improve in our apperance so most of the discussions will end up accusing someone of being insecure. The point that you or me are trying to make is that these women are just doing too much, And I will say it - too much unnecessary damage to their health and psychic just to have the feeling of confidence and good enoughness based on the looks. Their mental health also matters, their bodies also matters. All the industry isnt natural - they tell ypu that everything is safe but based on research that says that small amount is safe. but if the small amount is multiplied by 100 because its coming from everywhere there we have women with cancer at the young ages. Mental health the same - conditioning that when you look good you are getting love, co pliments appreciation so you keep maintaining thatlook because without it you may not be loved anymore. I am not saying everyone has these issues but I am sure I am talking about majority of people. So I know why I will never be telling women to get all the available trash on their bodies or buy designer bags because I know these dont do much for people and they would be much better using stuff to build their self woorth and stay healthy physically = much better lives. Iused to love fashion but I think it has been taken to the extreme and destroys our lives, the same for cosmetics and other trends. Not a lot of people are interested enough in health. The life we live now its not the life we are designed to live as humans.
Thanks for a good video. It's a bit funny that in Europe we consider a trip to Australia to be a fantastic fairytale holiday. Australia has good weather, beautiful beaches, exciting culture and history, fascinating animals and flowers and so much more.... Maybe we have to learn to see the values in where we live. Then every day could be a holiday 🙂🙂🙂
RUclips served me this video today so I wanted to check it out. And I hate to admit it but I am part of the problem in this topic. The over consumption, traveling all the time. And I’ve been aware for a while but I loved the way you spelled this out. I’ve been thinking for months about how to change my content and channel. Hopefully inspiration will strike but thanks for posting this! Very thought provoking!
I talked about the beach body image this weekend.. that flat tummy for us mommies is not real and it’s ok.. wear your body with confidence whether big or small.. wear it proudly.. love this segment Caitlin ❤
Nope. It's not realistic for anyone who's had a baby, and not realistic for most people who haven't. We've been fed a lie to believe that all tummies, or even most, can be flat.
It's not realistic for most women, regardless of whether they've given birth. When I weighed 90lbs and was underweight, I had a belly. And at 130lbs when I was weightlifting, my belly appeared "flatter" (but never washboard flat) due to the muscle.
Reality check with Caitlin 👏🏼 The world needs more of these. For every 500,000 consumption posts, we see one of these (well, my feed anyway, so I know what that says about me.) A reminder on nails: some are press ons! One RUclipsr even confessed to them because she did not have time to get them done.
I am an avid plant mom indoors and outdoors. I love getting my bare hands in soil because it is like taking a ton of stress of my shoulders, I also always walk bare foot on my backyard. My neighbor offered me her nail artist contact and I refused and explained why. She didn't get it. I never ever do my nails, they are perfect and strong, why would I put acrylic on top of my perfect nails? I don't even think it is pretty plus they might be bad for your natural nails. I clean and cut my nails very short and it drives people crazy, and I love it.
I totally agree with you on mindful consumption- it took me 4 years to choose and purchase a designer bag. I knew I wanted a bag that suited my life and it took a lot of touching and visiting the stores over the years to make a decision. I’ve had it now for 2 years and still super happy with it, Didn’t buy any more bags as that one is perfect!
This video came up in my YT feed and so I gave it a whirl. I gather that Ms. Caitlin is changing up her channel to seek more meaningful content. Now THAT’s a first class ticket! After tending to my vegetable garden this weekend, I put on some tunes and sat in the backyard to soak my feet in a plastic tub full of fresh lavender. Gave self pedi sans polish. Felt grounded and grateful for blue sky with puffy clouds, butterflies & dragonflies, and bountiful, nourishing veggies growing nearby. The Lord is the ultimate content creator to this Kentucky gal! All the best to Caitlin on her journey to being “in the world, but not of the world.”
Love it! Fellow gardener in North Carolina. We also have a horse and dogs. Nails are just not compatible with my life and I’m so much happier for it (no judgement on those who love it). I do love a massage, though 😂
Social media and it’s algorithm has a way of making it seem like everyone has more than you, is more fit, stronger, etc. It can be very toxic. I think as humans we weren’t meant to see what everyone in the world has or does. Oh, and yes here in the United States it’s summer like you said (great for trips and travel etc) but we here in Florida are facing a dangerous heat wave. Things aren’t always what they seem!
I’m not really active on social media anymore, but I’m super tempted to take a photo of my polish-less, overgrown, cuticle-riddled nails in front of my 2008 Scion Tc steering wheel lol
My friend that I made recently recommended I should try to get my nails done to "treat" myself and well...I tried, and oh I tried to understand as a woman that part of this woman's world. For one, I am so unfamiliar and uncomfortable with manis and pedis and I grew up in Europe where having a mani and pedis was not such a deeply ingrained cultural thing and also money was tight and my mom only indulged in getting her hair done so that I understood. But now as I've been living in the US for over a decade, just everyone gets their nails done and it's so normal, even stress-free and supposedly relaxing? So, I tried following my friend's suggesting and six months down the line I had a full blown mental breakdown, because it became so overwhelming. Me having to constantly schedule an appointment and also come in for them to fix the chipping. The nail techs were harsh on my nails with the filing, my nails were getting weaker and chipping so quickly even using gel and some builder gel, I felt like they never were listening to me, being dismissive of what I wanted and expected, the proximity was too much, I hated the feeling like I had to do small-talk for an hour straight and the waiting was killing me. None of this was relaxing at all and it made me wonder if I was a woman at all for not enjoying this :(
You are far from alone. Here is a simple hack that gets you stunning natural nails. Get a glass nano grit nail files set, a chamois leather nail buffer, cuticle pusher…. To do it you push the cuticles, file not merely the tips but the top of the nail to a glossy sheen then polish with buffer. Cover it with a clear gloss if you want and done. Lovely healthy and easy elegant look.
Beware of filing the surface of the nail (as opposed to just the tip) as it weakens the nail and can lead to injury or infection. Just chuck a bit of clear polish on if you want your nails to look shiny!
I don't 'get' wasting money on manicures. When I HAD to dress up for work, I just put on some natural color to give a bit of shine about once a week. Life's too short for all that nonsense. I grew up around old money. OLD is the operative word...no flashy stuff. No $3,000 refrigerators, lots of older vehicles, favorite old T shirts and khaki shorts. No daytime fake eyelashes/heavy makeup. Lots of humble 'regular Joe' gear. No one really cares how much money u waste trying to look 'rich', when it's really just a mark of being middle class, or lower.
@Jay-xj5yt The title of the video contains a clue. Ironically enough, my dog's getting a manicure rn. She's impossible to nail clip unless under sedation. She's getting her teeth cleaned at same time. Her spa treatment costs almost $3,00 at most veterinary clinics. As u say, ppl have dif' crazy values. Dogs are our guardian angels, so well worth it.
@Jay-xj5yt i clearly said I don't get spending the time on manicures (plus the money ) Chopping wood, building a fire, pitching a tent...I do it all with no gloves and no worries of chipping a nail. Not everyone's lifestyle, but it's what I love n understand. I also save about $20,000, by not buying a new Honda Accord. Used is fine with me. To each their own.
After having not been watching videos on social media due to the unrealistic life expectation standard bringing me down a bit, I am LOVING this new vibe of your channel!😍 I loved your content before, but with this new vibe, it’s like you grew in this direction of growth the same time as me🤗 was nodding & smiling to all of what you said in this video!🙌🏻🥰💞
Thank you again for 5. Flat Tummies. It’s so hard to see flat tummies everywhere online. It’s important to prioritize your health but not an unrealistic body image❤
I love the direction you’ve taken with your channel. Totally agree that social media can brainwash us into thinking some things are normal, even though they’re not!
I just love you girl! I’m a nurse. Work hard and I’m blessed with a position in my life we’re I finally had my beautiful home, son in college and I’m happy but when I’m see around I everyone with this luxury style of life and I wonder I’m doing wrong? Then I saw your video and help me to remain my self. “Nop! I’m perfect the way I I’m “ big hug
The vacation thing really gets me. Where I come from people go on holiday domestically maybe once a year and abroad maybe every few years. I feel awful when I see everyone on social media travelling and I am not really doing it.
A new handbag each month (or year!) is deffffinitely not normal in my reality. I've been using the same two handbags (one summer, one winter) for I'd say close to 10 years now. I can't imagine the decision-fatigue I would face each day if I had a whole pile of them! 😳 I have two small clutches and a straw bag for special occasion outfits that call for those, although tbh I rarely use them. I purchased each bag preowned for less than $100 (less than $50 in most cases) and I get compliments from strangers on them ALL the time... probably more than any other part of my outfits. If I had a million dollars I would never dream of spending $6000 on a bag because I'd be scared to take it anywhere! My water bottle leaks in my bag almost weekly, I'm regularly around dirt, dust... hopefully someday children. I'd much rather enjoy being in the moment, and have more spare moments to enjoy than to spend my life saving for, and saving, physical possessions. To whoever is reading this: if you feel like the people around are expecting you to work your life away in order to have a new handbag each time you see them, I can confidently say -- they are not. Or, if they are, perhaps a stocktake on the people in your life is in order. If you're struggling with a shopping addiction, The Minimalists podcast (they are also on YT) is, I feel, a really great resource for unpacking the mindset behind that, and is just super inspiring in general. 💗
II agree with everything you said, all this consumption is absolutely nuts to me. I don't earn much but try and build wealth with what I have- there are some great sites for this too (there's definitely minimalist and wealth building crossover).
You are absolutely right, non of this is normal. Even buying 4 luxury bags a year is too many. Flat tummy story, I know girls who starve themselves just to take photos, some are genetically given but most of us get swollen stomach just from "inhaling air" I personally don't get affected by this but I know some people do. About mani a girl "friend" told me once OMG you better get your nail done, I had like 1.5 mm outgrown nails and she send me so many texts just to let me know. People just look for something wrong with you so they don't have time to look at their own reflection. Thank you for this video!
Am not a regular watcher of your content, but without a fail every video by you I watch resonates with me. LOVE your honesty and the values you try to convey to your audience 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
This video is very refreshing, thank you. Remember, a lot of people will go to great lengths to flex online and they will actually go broke, trying to look rich always just be grateful for everything that you have, and try not to compare.
As someone who doesn’t use social media aside from lurking on Tumblr and Reddit, it is MIND BOGGLING that social media has actually convinced anyone that any of this is normal.
😂I agree about the vacation stress! I prefer to not even go on a vacation and it’s sooo exhausting and need a vacation after traveling. Not to mention jet lag has always affected me and now that I’m a bit older even more so. All those standards woman suppose to follow is overwhelming.
Regarding number 1 - thanks to this, some students, like a classmate of my friend who is in med school, actually don't do lab work because they don't want to mess with their nails. It makes me think why they got into that course in the first place. Also, people with always-perfect nails give the impression you don't work or do anything at all, that you're just mooching off somebody else who's hard at work.
No, I’m just a girly girl who likes to have nice nails. The no judgement thing should go both ways. I’m not rich, I’m a student and I have no familial support at all. I live by myself do everything by myself. It’s called adapting. I just wear gloves when doing certain things.
@@coo7414having nice nails is ok, but you dont do your nails unrealistic long and pointy right? Because lets say it is impossible to have those scratchy nails covered up by gloves. Especially when you work on labs and medical field, its simply not allowed cause it brings harms. Nice nails can be short and not too long. I think ppl talk about the unrealistic long nails that can cut trough the gloves
I worked at an Applebees 20 years ago with a bartender who maintained 2 inch nails. I don’t know how she never broke them, but that girl worked her tush off. I don’t think Caitlin’s point that judgement should go the opposite way. Let’s just let people be on both sides.
I literally don't know anybody with false nails except for one of my nieces. I work in a hospital and NOBODY has false nails, it would be seen as trashy.
What a weird comment 😂 majority of people with long nails manage fine and they're usually not allowed in health/care jobs or working with food but I know plenty including myself who can work and have nice nails
Going through my parents passing on taught me a lot about the true meaning of material things. You can’t take them with you. My mom was very elegant and bought many designer and classic pieces. She had great taste and her home was so beautifully decorated. My brother and I were so stressed trying to figure out what to do with all their things. I do know that she enjoyed them while she was alive and I only kept a few choice pieces as a way to remember her.
I really love these videos! Feel like I would be able to talk and rant to you about these subjects for hours! One thing I do have to say, when you live in Europe it is really easy to go travelling within Europe. Europe isn’t super big and we have open borders so it’s really easy to travel within when you’re a European citizen. That’s how we (normal people) are able to take 4 to 5 trips a year. We can just take our car and an 8 hour drive gets us to Italy, Berlin, south of France,… plus, a lot of Europeans have a company car, which also cuts back on the costs of travelling by car. And even travelling overseas is quite ‘easy’ for us, because we are such centrally placed between east and west… but I do agree that those bougie trips occurring non-stop are definitely NOT normal. There is so much fake in the world. And even though we get to experience a lot of those bougie trips, the jet set lifestyle is not the thing you want to have in life. It’s so so so fake.
I am so glad you feel this way I bet we could rant together for hours 😆 Oh yes absolutely my point was more directed and aussies and Americans I think travel in Europe and Uk is much more normal so to speak ☺️
I just discovered your channel - this is literally my first video of yours - and I want to say BRAVO❣️ I honestly believe that these phone influencers are doing a lot of harm to the young people of today. To be transparent, I am a 59 year old woman who lives in the Canadian Arctic. There are no nail techs, hair stylists, or even doctors in our wee fly in / fly out town of about 700 ppl. We do fly a lot (that’s just a given due to our location), but there is no first class on our flight to a major airport. Everyone flies the same up here. We do, however, try to book first class on every other flight we can. My back is all messed up (I am in a wheelchair) and hubby’s knees are shot so the first class seats are just much more comfortable. Thank heavens that these issues happened when we were financially able to do it. If w3 had been hurt when we were still raising our children, we would have been hooped! The flat tummy thing is a long ago dropped dream. After giving birth to three children - one by Caesarian - as well as three miscarriages and three abdominal surgeries (I just now noticed how prevalent the number three is! lol), there is NO way this tummy is getting flat ever again! It bothered me for a very long time (about two decades, tbh) but I realized just about the time I was fifty that it really didn’t matter. I eat healthy as we cook every meal from scratch and I finally learned to put the dream of my twenty year old body where it belongs…… in the past. This is my NOW, and by looking back I risk issuing what is I the here and now. Since I admit to a tiny bit of FOMO, looking back just didn’t work and I was miserable. Today I can honestly say that I love myself, flaws and all. That was hard for so long but my grandbabies have allowed me to see through their eyes. I don’t think I will ever make it to their picture of me - one granddaughter told me I was her secret agent superhero - but I try to now everyday and that leaves me no time to obsess on things that just don’t matter.
I love your new direction of the channel! I totally agree with this video on you saying that social media is "not normal" most of the time. I used to think that I was poor because I don't travel overseas every two weeks or so (like what you see online) then I realized that they actually only went for one trip and "cheat" others by taking many different photos and saying that they are there now. I hope to see more videos from you with this kind of direction!
Thank you for the reminder! It is really nice to hear that these are not normal (especially the one about flat tummies). And I think they don’t even have to be “the goal” to aspire. at the end of the day, there probably are other activities that is going to make happier than spending time obsessively searching for the new item to buy. & I agree with most of these points - except holidays. But living in europe, traveling is definitely cheaper than Australia (I wanted to go there for the last 3 years, but I am always deterred by the expense). :)
Really glad you mentioned the research for online shopping. Whenever I shop on Amazon I swear I’ve spent HOURS wasting time scrolling & scrolling comparing every item & reading every description, sometimes just to not even find what I really want & it resulted in nothing, the amount of time I’ve wasted online shopping is infuriating
Great video Caitlin! It is not normal to travel that much, unless you are doing it as a job or if you are on a sabbatical. I had friends working in the tourism industry always sharing pictures of their new travel destination. From the outside it looked like they were enjoying life better than the others, but when talking to them, they will tell me how exhausted that life is, the family issues of being away, always on the go and changing luggage frequently, etc. Everything comes with pros and cons, we just have to figure out what we value more. Relating to those influencers travelling in first class, I think I saw while ago a RUclipsr exposing them of faking travelling in first or business class. I think you showed in this video one of those influencer girls which had a picture taken in first class, but then on the same flight, a follower exposed her with a picture in her "true" seat in economy! Lol!!! I find this quite depressing, that you need to lie and fake it to keep up the appearance of being wealthy, I find it quite stupid tbh. Lastly, regarding shopping, I agree it takes a lot of time to keep shopping and looking for the next thing to buy. I don't know how many influencers do it, I would give up. A part from the money you waste, but just the energy of researching the next bag to buy, have space in your wardrobe for it, and also have enough occasions to wear it to make it worth the money. I have a friend who has spending issues, I am trying to help. She is seeing a therapist for this, but the amount of shopping she does is incredible. She has 2 rooms just for clothes. I asked her if she needed help when she moved. It was super hard to see how these material things can chain you. I managed to persuade her to get rid of 1 bag full of clothes she never wore. She also experience moments where she spend £2k on clothing online orders, without remembering what she bought the next day. As I said this is an issue, that she is aware of and she is trying to do better.
This aspect of social media is one of the reasons why I abandon ship. It used to be much less in the 2010s. But in the age of influencers, it seems to be getting worse and actually damaging to mental health.
I’ve been SO guilty of overconsumption. I’ve never been one to jump on trends and buy the next best thing, but I would definitely get really excited about life or I’d feel really on track with my goals, and I’d celebrate by buying a big haul of fast fashion clothes. It was ridiculous and excessive and always left me feeling hollow. I love fashion, but buying new ones every couple of months isn’t healthy or necessary.
ahhh this made me feel so comforted, i keep my nails natural and i attempt to grow them out and manicure them myself but sometimes breaks happen, i just had to trim all of them back to square one and i’ve been feeling really upset this time around, thank you for the reminder that perfect nails are not the norm nor an expectation
Am loving every single video in your new chapter! Congrats again Caitlin! All your topics and observations are very thought provoking and insightful. Thank you for making these :D
I thought I would get annoyed at hearing you say not normal but I find it very endearing and you seem like a fun person you have a perfect figure. you really have nothing to worry about
yes these are all very good points! it is also good to remember that a lot of people are buying so many things because they are racking up debt either mindfully aware of or because they are wrapped up in consumerism or bad decisions. it's good to note that many people will never buy a designer purse and even most who will will only buy one once a year or every few years. we don't need so much stuff and even if we want it and can afford it then we should really think how much we will actually use that item instead of getting the serotonin boost from buying it and possibly look to other way to get that boost. great video! i also think a few other good things that aren't normal but on social media might seem like: buying a new car every couple of years, getting a new phone or computer every year, too much makeup/perfume/soaps/etc. that will go bad before we ever use up.
Excellent video, especially the part of conspicuous consumption. We need to slow down and enjoy what we buy, but too many people get too wrapped up in social media and the dopamine hit. Social media can be so dangerous, we have a commercial in the US at the moment that reflects on a young girl who gets her first cell phone at 12 and as the story evolves, it's revealed that she has an eating disorder and in recovery at age 19 due to negative influence from social media. So sad, but it really shows just how social media is not always giving us healthy messages.
I really enjoy and love ur content. I struggle with consumerism and I've been binge watching ur videos and taking notes down to start my anti-consumarism journey. Thank u for all the tips and transparency Love from South Africa ❤🇿🇦
I’m a 62 yro tubby old lady. With a six pack. It took forty years of hard training to make. I didn’t set out for abs, I trained to win at sport. If you’re doing looks, not experiences, you’re doing life wrong. Abs should be a by product of chasing those experiences.
Love this ❤ such a good reminder! I remember seeing all your handbag hauls and thinking oh my gosh she’s so rich I don’t think I own one designer bag 😂😂 nice to know these things are not the norm
People need to realize that most of these people don’t own the cars they are posing in. I’ve had people taking pictures for instagram with MY FREAKING CAR. I don’t post about my life on line. And I certainly don’t want others taking photographs of MY STUFF and pretending it’s theirs. They didn’t work for it. They didn’t earn it. But they certainly want to gain followers by pretending to have other people’s things.
not having hair, nails, tan and whatever other-body-stuff done b4 holidays or in everyday life IS NORMAL. getting sterssed about these being done / undone is ABNORMAL 😅
This was so great! I’m one of the people who always seem to be traveling, and yes, as time has gone on I’ e developed a desire to splurge on Business class. Anyone who gets jealous, I tell them it’s only because of what else I DON’T have- no car (I live in a big city), no mortgage (I rent), my children are grown, I rarely get my nails done, not interested in fashion, and I have cut down a lot on eating out. I know a lot of people are simply in debt, but sometimes it’s just choosing one thing over another. Thanks for the reminder to include that so I don’t make anyone feel bad
So happy this popped up on my feed ❤ this was a really great reminder. There’s one content creator I follow that I had to take a long break from because they had become so so soooo not relatable. Flying out to Tulum every other week… not normal.
If there was a way for me to love this video (rather than just clicking "Like"), I absolutely would have done it... all five of these points were spot-on! 👏
Great video. ❤ in my defense of traveling 😂 I’m in aviation and I have flight benefits so I travel for the low low and I always feel guilty for sharing my travel experiences and so this year I did not post any travel pictures. I can’t believe people follow everything they see online. You have to have discernment when watching content and TAKE SOCIAL MEDIA BREAKS!! Unplug sometimes.
Also important to note that the influencers traveling around the world in first class and buying a new designer bag every week are being gifted or even paid to do it
I believe social media is oversaturated with influencers and has taken away the genuine connection that it was originally presented as. My personal experience with people who get their nails done is they do keep them perfect. They get chips fixed immediately. They get them done on schedule, especially when they grow out fast.
I love your videos. And after my pregnancies my tummy is still soft. But that is ok, because I have two little wonders❤ a 3 y old and a Baby (4 month). And I always smile, when my older daughter sticks out her belly and then she says: Look Mama my belly is full."❤❤❤ we should all be so confident like your little ones.
Overconsumption is a huge issue and this idea of lavish lifestyles in your 20’s or even early 30’s. The majority (I know their are exceptions) will never be that wealthy or have access to that excess cash flow until they’re more established. I see so many people going into debt and being obsessed with consuming to fit the “norm” to the point of affecting their overall mental health. Thanks for the video, I hope a change is coming!
You have no idea how much I needed this. I used to travel at least once a year but I haven’t travelled after covid. It’s giving me a lot of anxiety when I see on social media everybody going on holidays abroad. And I agree with everything you pointed out and made feel so much better with my life. Thanks!
Love this video and especially the “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” reference. I love that movie it’s hilarious. And yes I agree none of these things are normal. I think it’s easy for some people to forget that all that content on Instagram is made for them to profit. It’s just advertisement. Anywho, love your channel and the direction you’ve taken. I love watching your videos, just makes me feel like I’m listening to one of my girlfriends talk. Lol 😅 😂 Thanks for sharing. 💜
Over the past few years I down sized my closet and wear the same 15 things over and over again. I love it! Makes decision making so much easier! Flat tummies 😅🤣 I still aspire but it's more just an encouragement to stay healthy.
Great points! I’ve stopped getting them done in 2020 mainly because of the shutdown then for a while in 2021 I went back to get them done regularly ever 2 weeks because I had the finances too but it’s been 3 days since i deleted all of my social media apps just to catch a break. It often makes you feel like your either not doing enough and/or comparing myself to other people’s lifestyle. It can be toxic and draining if not monitored. I’ve had so much more clarity since being off social media. I plan on being off of it at least for the remainder of the year.
People are extremely disconnected from reality. Imagine everyone on this planet wasted resources like we do? Let's be honest, it's wasteful, expensive and at best meaningless, at worst a symptom for us feeling chased and uncomfortable. Consumerism as a way of desperately seeking out validation and a short rush. I'd like to be kind, but not only is it not normal, it's ridiculous. Also: congratulations on kicking the shopping addiction - well done!
Best way to be wealthy is to be cheap! Save your money and spend as little as possible. That’s the “old money” way. All of your point are spot on-not normal!👍
It’s sad that young, impressionable people buy into social media. Social media is as fake as professional wrestling. It’s carefully curated, it’s heavily filtered, AND it’s heavily staged. Some of these influencers got exposed for taking pictures of being in a private jet on a sound stage, and they often take pictures in luxury hotel lobbies pretending that they’re staying there. Some of them will rent luxury cars or rent a mansion for the photo or video shoot. Let’s not forget that for many of these influencers, they’re getting paid and/or getting the stuff for free (including trips) in exchange for promoting on social media.
I’m so loving the new Caitlin. I still love old Caitlin ( I know I know not the best adjectives but you know what I mean). But I think that no matter when you start your lux journey after a few years you’re gonna realize what you truly love and examine your overall habits. I know I have. Still love Chanel. No longer in the budget. And that’s okay. 💖 June
I think you might like this video: Are Motivational Influencers Wasting Your Time???? New Year, New You Bulls**t
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From the jump..... we can normalize NOT GETTING OUR NAILS DONE. Tired of being asked about my naked hands ✋🏾
I like to get kits and do them from home, but totally agree that no polish can look amazing, sometimes I find a clear coat can make nails look fresh
As a nail tech I 1000% agree. Nobody should be shamed for not getting their nails done if they don’t want to. It’s weird.
Oh my god yes ! I used be a nail tech and always do my toes but for my work and job I’m not allowed have nails done so mine are filed - cut and short ish !
I've had a manicure once in my life. For my own wedding I used press on nails from Target. Most of the time I have my nails bare. No shame in not being into nails!
i've never had my nails done and haven't used nail polish since i was like 9 and no one has ever commented on my hands, except my sister who's jealous of my nails supposedly being pretty but they're all different lengths lol
As a former Emirates flight attendant: I’ve seen sooo many people boarding the plane, quickly taking a photo in business class and going to economy where their seat was. Don’t believe social media
I mean... if you have the means to fly AT ALL... 🙂↔️😟
That sounds very disruptive & annoying
@@ilovenycsomuch I can't even imagine the embarassement of everyone boarding, and you have to pull off this quick little photoshoot. And then the person with the ticket shows up who has the seat you are posing at... NOPE. Can't do it.
Tell it...😂
Thank God I didn't do that, I'll prefer listening to music than just "flexing" these kind of stuff
Re: Flying first class - I was a flight attendant for several years and 99.999% of those who fly first class on a regular basis are business people. They never take photos of themselves and rarely do they even want anything from us! I've had so many business passengers just get on the plane and fall asleep. When we would have passengers in first class ringing the call button and demanding drink after drink we knew they weren't regular fliers, and they were oftentimes the rudest people on the plane. That, above everything else, screams "classless" to me which ironically is the opposite of what they're trying to convey to the internet!
You’re so right. Over consumption is a huge problem. Nobody needs so much stuff.
Absolutely!
They do if they didn't grew up with it
I saw someone criticizing (rightfully so) that boomers tend to buy too much stuff then pass it off to their kids. However the irony was all the Gen Z people complaining about how they buy such useless stuff when in my opinion we are about on par or even worse than boomers with buying useless stuff
I mean have they seen tik tok made me buy it?!
It's actually destroying the planet
@@assassin8636 we don't need 6000 tik tok girlies to buy the new trendy blush everyone talks about for like 5 mins and "test it for their followers" then throw it out. No one needs that. It's wasteful and silly
I was heavily into shopping, getting my nails done, going on expensive vacations. Then, I was hit with a diagnosis of a very serious medical condition. Now, living on government assistance, I would love to have the money in a savings account rather than a closet full of designer handbags and a vanity covered in niche perfume.
Gone are the days are the days of endless shopping, flat stomachs and perfect nails. Now, I devote my time to rescuing animals and giving them a better life. Honestly, I am happier than I have been in many years.
I am so happy for you that despite everything you found a way to feel joy again. Wish you the best
Your life now sounds soo much more fulfilling and meaningful!
Wow and wow. Wishing you well!
HUGS ❤
Honestly the best thing I ever did was delete my social media and now I just focus on books, RUclips, reading articles about stuff that interests me. I even made it a strong point to cater my RUclips to what’s good for me mentally. Any videos that pop up that recommend things that could mentally bug me I block or put not interested. I can’t even begin to tell you how much happier and how much more free time I have then my friends. I’m married as well and I enjoy keeping my personal life personal 😂🤷🏽♀️ Who would of thought the idea of privacy would be considered out of the norm in society
I am so happy for you!
Me the same
same here, sometimes i'll read reddit posts for research or youtube vids but that's about it, so much more peaceful not caring about others and what they are doing 😂
I did the same a few years ago and am much better for it!!!! ❤
Same!
The sooner people realize that an addiction to shopping is a form of subjugation in buying crap we don’t need with money we don’t have, the better off they are. I stopped this years ago and am far better off. I’d rather be mortgage free than own all this crap that influencers are peddling. Once you realize that it is indeed crap, shit, junk, garbage, the better you can free yourself from this addiction.
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Absolutely this! It’s being manipulated that you need these things to be happy resulting in having to grind your life away in hustle-culture. Both parts make lots of money for the billionaires and make us (the average person) unhappy, in debt, lacking in purpose, overworked and burnt out.
I mean it’s not normal to get your nails done *at all*. It’s only the past few years that it’s even become ‘a thing’ and it props up modern slavery
It’s not normal to buy more than one or two bags a year IMO max.
You forgot the last part of the quote: buying things you don't need with money you don't have, in order to impress people you don't like 😅
@@SarahSB575I started doing my nails in 2005....it's not just the past few years!!! But, no more $ for that....
Im here because i work in an expensive bedding shop. I am 4 weeks in and cant believe what people buy. They come in and spend hundreds on bedding sets and say things like "hmm no not that one, i have a similar set in my villa in spain" or "im here because I'm looking for a change up. Im bored of the sheets I have on now, its been a few months". And I just think excuse me? Do you know the time, effort, land and resources these items have took to make, but you're bored of them after a few months? It has really opened my eyes to how bad things have got. Just 20 years ago we used to keep using things until they were no longer functional, but now people go out and spend £100 on a bedspread every 6 months because they think their bedroom has to always be ready for a photoshoot. It needs to stop, its not normal.
WOW!! I have 2 sets of sheets for our bed and both sets are white. I never get bored of them.
Wow. That’s amazing! I love coloured sheets but I use them until they have holes in them. I bought a quilt cover that I love a decade ago and have used it ever since.
Right on. Thanks for sharing your experience. Keep on keeping it simple!
Just bought a microfiber sheet set bc I had to. $50 was the lowest I could find. For microfiber! It's killing me...
@@irenes3470had too?
Being disabled or having a chronic illness can make it so hard to be on social media , I feel like I should be doing something more with my life , and I have to stop and remember being disabled is it’s own full time job
Could not agree more with you! It’s like this becomes first world problems in a way
Very true, and it also makes content creation way harder than it needs to be, when I can barely get out of bed most days
Wow, I am glad I am not alone in this. Online girlies be hitting gym at 7am, work till 5 and cocktail happy hour at 9, all while having flawless makeup, outfits and nails and turning/editing it all for the internet, when I use all 4 of my spoons to shower in the morning and after 2 pm we are running on an empty tank and WILL nap if left seated somewhere for too long. Like yes, I am young - I should be wild and free. But also. I have four spoons.
I wish we could see what people are really doing 24/7, it would instantly shatter the illusion of social media.
I feel you. I'm happiest in my own little world because I just don't have the energy to live up to these high standards in this dog eat dog world.
I agree with the flat tummy. A lot of people don't realize that you have to be at a very low body fat percentage (around 15-16%) but also have some muscle built up to look "good". That takes a lot of work at the gym and in the kitchen. Realistically most people can't keep that up long-term. Also, most of them are sporting a good tan - which will help define your muscles/body.
20% gym. 80% food. You can’t outwork a bad diet
Don’t forget all the editing and filters too on top of that
That low body fat percentage is also bad for born female hormones. It causes a lot of vitamin deficiencies, depression, and again hormone imbalances
@@deepersoul689 I know some of these types of people in real life, and they look a lot different from what they look online. Sometimes like two different people.
Also, genetics play a big role. Some people do have a naturally flat tummy (not chiseled, just flat!) unless they've just eaten a full meal, are PMSing and bloated, etc.
That's exactly what I tell myself when I find myself feeling envious of people I see on social media, whether it's trips or material goods: "It's not normal." Also, things aren't always as they seem. It can appear like people have it easy, or things come easy. Like a family I know just went to Disney for a week, and stayed at one of their very expensive resorts. My first thought was, "Aww! I wish I could do that for my kids!!!" Later, I found out that the parents are both super hard-working, so much that their kids are in daycare very early in the morning, and get picked up very late in the evening. (Not judging - just saying how it is.) Meanwhile, I'm a stay-at-home mom, so we've had to make sacrifices (a one-night trip to Niagara Falls is our idea of a vacation.😆) but I'm thankful I was able to be at home with my kids, and they get dropped off and picked up my me. Anyway, it's all based on perspective, and people's priorities.
Thankyou for sharing your perspective 💕
Im Travel Blogger from Germany. It’s my hobby- Im wealthy woman. Our trips not stop , because of our family business we are in automotive business.
I was posting my pictures, and my life and never was thinking , people getting jealous. Now I’m stop uploading , I realize I will not show any more anymore any bags or my Porsche and so on .For me it’s my normal life - i understand how many people just dream to have my lifestyle. I spend one year non stop posting and I meet so many fake bloggers . Most of the time what you see on Instagram it’s not real believe me I meet this people, dress rented bags as well . Travelings with sugar daddy.. and so one . Send you love from Germany.
You have it right. Children remember the good times spent with you, what you did together. Believe me, the way your children see life reality, how you tackle hardships and push through to give them a good life, have time for them value being with them, supporting them and having fun, that will stay with them forever. You are doing it right. As you say perspective and priorities.
Niagara Falls is so awesome!
I feel sorry for those poor kids who went to Disneyland- I bet they’d trade that holiday to be picked up every day by mum.
Omg! Preach! I had a severe shopping addiction for years. It was causing so much stress in my 15 year marriage. The constant boxes showing up would make my husband so angry. (I was a stay at home mom during those years). For the past year, I’ve been a personal stylist at Nordstrom. I’m not really sure why it’s changed, but I no longer struggle with the shopping problem. Possibly because I’m around all the beautiful designer products all day and it has scratched the itch. Either way I’m grateful I’ve come out on the other side more insightful about my behavior. ❤from Chicago!!
Thankyou for sharing your experience ❤️
I’m in love with fashion and I was gonna spend money i should save for a car on beautiful dresses but i decided not to. I still fantasize about the dresses 😭😂 im manifesting my dream wardrobe 💜Your job is a dream tho ☺️💓🌹
Hey, I identity. I'm ashamed at the clothes and shoes I have with the labels still on. I had to stop using the clothing apps as I could never turn down a bargain for shiz I don't need.
Big clear out on the way and hopefully someone can use them.
I think I had an addiction because I was going through a hard time.
@@earth2riss133 It is definitely a dream job. I’ve tried 9-5 office jobs before and lasted about a week lol. Just not for me. I have 2 kids very active in high level sports so being able to make my schedule around my appointments with clients is so key. Honestly, though it wasn’t hard to get into if you’re interested. 🫶
Let's normalize being hot messes in our 20's again ala Gen X.
I used to get my nails done a lot in the early 00's when you could get a full set for like $25 in LA because there were nail shops on every corner. Also, nails were less fancy back then so a simple polish change wouldn't take that long and might be $10 including tip.
What people have to remember is that for these content creators consuming is their job. Also, they are going into debt and returning a lot of stuff. Their financials aren't always in order.
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I remember this!!!!!!
Ahhh the 25 dollar full set
I am Gen X. In our 20s we weren’t hot messes. There is no evidence. We didn’t have phones. Nothing was posted on social media. We were busy being PRESENT. Yes, we got our nails done. Wanna know who knew? The nail tech. The people we would physically go visit. The people sitting across from us at the restaurant / bar. The people on the dance floor if they looked up while we were being wooooo girls lol I am soooooo proudly Gen X! Can we go back? Please and thank you.
I grew up in the 80's. Parents didn't religiously have their kids bathing every single day either.
Kids went out to play. They got dirty. But we were never disgusting and smelly. We bathed when it was necessary. And got to be kids the rest of the time.
And nobody got their nails done. The excuse was, "I wash my own dishes by hand. I don't feel like painting my nails just to for them to immediately be ruined washing dishes."
I still live by that rhetoric to this day.
I HATE SOCIAL MEDIA! I’m glad I deleted it years ago! I even need a break from RUclips sometimes as well! It’s all toxic 🤮
Sometimes social media is okay, but I avoid some things like that, but I'm a guy you know, I'll just see what's good for girls, even for my female friends too
1. Never had my nails done. I always believed it wasn't the healthiest.
2. Flew once in first class, meh flying itself used to be elitist in general. Now that has changed significantly.
3. I love to travel. I do it on the cheap. I don't know how people do all-inclusive or 5 star hotels consistently. Most get sponsored or asked to do promotions.
4. I'm over handbags... next! Most influencers can afford these. They come from comfortable financial backgrounds. I never followed people who came from the same life experiences as I do and often they come from money.
5. All photos are taken in the best light, before eating, and after a workout. I put water in my mouth and I boat, it's hormonal for me. I'm over fake skinny. Women need to stop judging, we are cruel to each other. Men love women in all shapes and sizes. Let's celebrate all body shapes.
I think saving money while traveling or shopping makes me super ecstatic...I've experienced so many cool things in a frugal manner ❤
Personally I don't use social media, so this all sounds absurd to me. Who even goes to nail techs? Like they charge $100 for a single color. You can buy that nail polish and the UV light gadget for that much. I feel like quarterly shopping works best for me. It makes you not impulse shop, but gives an updated wardrobe for each changing season.
I always wonder how the women who get freakishly long acrylic nails get their chores done.
1. The chemical smell in there nail salons...can't be healthy.😅 I have a nail file and some nice colours of polish and I do my own nails in the evening while watching Netflix.
@@TheAkumaChanyou pay for the skill, if you flood your cuticles and get an allergy, its possible to ruin certain acrylics for you. Like not being able to wear contact lenses or use certain surgical equipment.
As a person in my early 30s, I'm really glad to hear you say shopping takes soo much time. Shopping is exhausting!
I dislike "shovel nails" with a passion.😂 it is unhygienic, for sure. Imagine what kind of stuff gets pucked up under those things. I wash my hands 20 times a day, I wash dishes, I wash some garments by hand sometimes, I cook, peel vegetables etc. How could an average, normal woman function and do chores while having long, pointy nails?
Imagine me a nurse with nails like that 😂 I keep my nails short and clean.
@@denisapasca154 exactly! As you are a nurse, please confirm: when you have really long fake nails, is it difficult to clean the area under those nails? Are people able to properly clean?
@@TheOpy83 For me is easier to clean small nails....because I never had a long nails before 😅 But for clean hands is better to have them shorter. Even with short nails you have to clean them under but imagine with long nails...
I work as a volunteer in a soup kitchen. If you work in a kitchen in Germany, you aren't even allowed to have nail polish.
@solidstate9451 wow! Strict hygiene rules. I like it! 😀
Nearly everything on Social Media is fake, and because of that I don't care about Social Media at all. No Instagram, no TikTok, no Facebook (blergh!), nothing. And I'm happy.
Thank you, Caitlin! I’m 47 and I am reasonably well-travelled and I have never flown in first or business class nor have I ever worn a bikini (I’m tall and slim but my stomach has never been flat except for a brief terrifying period when my kidneys were failing). I also cannot manage to have a manicure last more than a day without getting a chip. And while my annual “big” vacation *does* involve renting a multi-million dollar house with a private beach…it is in the FALL. We are lucky to get a day when we can sit on the beach without long sleeves! But it is delightful and worth it. And none of it gets posted on social media. Also, it wouldn’t happen if I bought a luxury item more than once every couple of years.
I’m Gen X - and I honestly think so much of what social media shows is fake! I go on holiday in the U.K. (where I live) every year because … not leaving the dogs! I have also flown first in the past and yeah it’s not normal. My nails are a mess! I don’t have a gorgeous home - it’s full of dog hair. I love bags, but I don’t think I need forty Chanel’s. Im happy! I just think the PRESSURE that social media puts on people in their 20’s is horrendous.
It’s so sad! Thanks for sharing your two cents xx
Im 19 and so stressed that my 20’s won’t add up to Kylie Jenner at 20😭 I know that’s so stupid but it’s a real comparison I have. like damn she had a kid by a rapper a multi million dollar business multiple houses, and I’m in my parents home, with a few dollars in the bank. 😟
@@amethyste684Don't compare...plus you are young. I'm 23 and I just graduate university and I'm struggling to look for a job....actually I did hire this month but the money is so little compare to what I have to do...I'm a nurse btw. And guess what? No money, still living with my mom and can't afford a car or a proper holiday 😅 So yeah.....be patient. In life there are more things to come than compare with actors or celebrities. Don't loose hope 😊 You have an entire life to do what you want.
@@amethyste684I wouldn't be jealous of her baby daddy at all.
@@amethyste684don’t compare hun. You have your life and it is beautiful in its own way focus on your goals. Sometimes coming off of social media can help this. You have to be satisfied with your own life it’s so unique to you and you should enjoy it! Plus not all of us have the same start so we won’t achieve every goal at the same rate ❤
So many great points. I stopped getting my nails done regularly because of the lockdowns in 2020, I realised how much time I was wasting getting them done & never bothered to go back again once everything opened back up, now I just keep them neat, tidy & buffed myself. I don’t feel any less for it. My incredibly modest handbag collection already contains more than I use on a regular basis, so there’s no way I’m adding anything that I don’t have a direct purpose for. Same goes for clothing, I have an average amount & still forget about particular items I already own, no need to overwhelm myself with excessive amounts of new purchases there either.
As one of the few freaks who has a naturally flat & toned tummy it’s still not like that all of the time, I bloat after a big meal, when I’m stressed, or at specific times in my cycle just like everyone else. So a completely flat tummy isn’t normal for ANYONE all of the time, not even the few people blessed with a body that doesn’t store much fat there. So how about we all decide that a little bit of a poochy belly is actually quite cute & leave social media influencers to influence each other.
Love your take on this! 🥰
Omg can we normalize period bloat too!! I look like I'm 3 months pregnant every time. Even my bf laughs at it with me, since I'm a petite, smaller body who suddenly gains 30 pounds on my period 😂
@@carinaoliveira5850 girl, me too! 🤣
I don't understand the type of work people do to have nails done all the time! Social media influencers - sure..but everything else, even a desk job where you type all day, is very difficult with nails.
I once threw on a dress I had just finished making and tweaking. It's kind of like the viral skims dress a simple bodycon dress. I immediately noticed how big and round my stomach was. It made me look like I was expecting. Because the rest of my body is stick thin. Just out of curiosity I sucked it in and I felt a cramp. Before loudly farting. I wasn't big. I was bloated as hell. And I'm stick thin. And have gastric issues.
The people I know who go on multiple international trips have parents who still support them financially, so don't feel bad. It's normal to not go on vacations regularly
RUclipsrs APOLOGIZING for having natural, normal fingernails. Yikes.
I'm 50 years old and I've traveled I would say a normal amount, and never have I flown anything other than coach. Still arrived at the same destination!
Its yikes in many ways, it's full of toxins buts also tested on poor animals, so not cruelty free but the bimbos don't seem to care, they're too self obsessed with showing off but it's just to mask the emptiness inside, I'm just bummed out about the poor animals...all the virtue signaling and canceling of this and that but where are they when it comes to their own habits...
Part 2 is up! 😝 5 MORE Things Social Media And Influencers Have Made Us Think Are Normal But Actually Aren’t *part 2 ruclips.net/video/dEnUOG1ZPRY/видео.html
Agreed. Also, it is not normal to pretend you can have and do everything. People for example cannot be a top lawyer while also being at home to raise kids. People pretend on social media that you don’t have to choose life priorities and that it doesn’t have consequences. And to make it worse many of the “compromises” screw up both things instead of just one. It is a very unhelpful delusion that leads to poor planning and decisions.
I’m LIVING for this growth! You are so beautiful keep going girl! 🙏🏽
yes please!!! This gives me life haha
Great topic, I suggest you take it further. It needs to be a series. There's so many aspects of life right now that are warped beyond belief because of the rise of influencers, and people these days (including myself) need a reality check every once in a while.
Great topic, I suggest you take it further. It needs to be a series. There's so many aspects of life right now that are warped beyond belief because of the rise of influencers, and people these days (including myself) need a reality check every once in a while.
I was in line at TJ Maxx surrounded by women who looked like they could be Instagram models. They had the hair, make up, spider lashes, long nails, Stanley cups and status bags. I was dressed normal in jeans, sneakers and my TN Titans hoodie. My hair was in two strand twists. I have been working on my skin this year. Anyway, a man came all the to the front of the line just to tell me how beautiful I was, that my skin was beautiful and how refreshing it was to see a "normal" woman because everyone is starting to look the same. Then he went back to the back of the line. It was nice getting a compliment for just being "basic".
I know what you’re saying, but I kinda hate this mentality too. I don’t personally have any cosmetic treatments beyond hair coloring, but I also recognize that doesn’t make me superior to other women who choose differently! We can praise “normal” or “natural” beauty without tearing down those who choose a different look.
I hate the word Instagram model....I would never enter into a relationship with a man who has instagram
@@Alicia-ReneBut it's not a "different" look. That's precisely the point. They all look the same, and it's obvious they are just responding to trends. I'm tired of being told to accept everyone and everything. I don't accept false and indulgent beauty. I don't applaud these women for choosing to spend so much time on their looks. If that's judgemental, then yes, I'm judging them. It's not going to make them happy.
@@neromillie oof. If you’re insecure just say that. Confident women don’t need to build themselves up by tearing down other women and before you try it EVERY single woman I’ve ever heard offer a take like that was 100% jealous of the women they were judging. It’s so transparent.
@@neromillieI really get your point here to be honest. I think the same but I see that there is no way to communicate to these women that this is not beneficial for them in a long term maybe even short because they always take it as an offence or jealousy or that you are the one insecure.
Obviously almost all of us have something we could improve in our apperance so most of the discussions will end up accusing someone of being insecure. The point that you or me are trying to make is that these women are just doing too much, And I will say it - too much unnecessary damage to their health and psychic just to have the feeling of confidence and good enoughness based on the looks. Their mental health also matters, their bodies also matters. All the industry isnt natural - they tell ypu that everything is safe but based on research that says that small amount is safe. but if the small amount is multiplied by 100 because its coming from everywhere there we have women with cancer at the young ages. Mental health the same - conditioning that when you look good you are getting love, co pliments appreciation so you keep maintaining thatlook because without it you may not be loved anymore. I am not saying everyone has these issues but I am sure I am talking about majority of people. So I know why I will never be telling women to get all the available trash on their bodies or buy designer bags because I know these dont do much for people and they would be much better using stuff to build their self woorth and stay healthy physically = much better lives.
Iused to love fashion but I think it has been taken to the extreme and destroys our lives, the same for cosmetics and other trends. Not a lot of people are interested enough in health. The life we live now its not the life we are designed to live as humans.
Thanks for a good video. It's a bit funny that in Europe we consider a trip to Australia to be a fantastic fairytale holiday. Australia has good weather, beautiful beaches, exciting culture and history, fascinating animals and flowers and so much more.... Maybe we have to learn to see the values in where we live. Then every day could be a holiday 🙂🙂🙂
I love the direction you’ve taken your channel, Caitlin!
Thankyou!
RUclips served me this video today so I wanted to check it out. And I hate to admit it but I am part of the problem in this topic. The over consumption, traveling all the time. And I’ve been aware for a while but I loved the way you spelled this out. I’ve been thinking for months about how to change my content and channel. Hopefully inspiration will strike but thanks for posting this! Very thought provoking!
I talked about the beach body image this weekend.. that flat tummy for us mommies is not real and it’s ok.. wear your body with confidence whether big or small.. wear it proudly.. love this segment Caitlin ❤
Thankyou! 💕
Nope. It's not realistic for anyone who's had a baby, and not realistic for most people who haven't. We've been fed a lie to believe that all tummies, or even most, can be flat.
It's not realistic for most women, regardless of whether they've given birth.
When I weighed 90lbs and was underweight, I had a belly. And at 130lbs when I was weightlifting, my belly appeared "flatter" (but never washboard flat) due to the muscle.
Reality check with Caitlin 👏🏼 The world needs more of these. For every 500,000 consumption posts, we see one of these (well, my feed anyway, so I know what that says about me.) A reminder on nails: some are press ons! One RUclipsr even confessed to them because she did not have time to get them done.
Thankyou soo much for watching
I am an avid plant mom indoors and outdoors. I love getting my bare hands in soil because it is like taking a ton of stress of my shoulders, I also always walk bare foot on my backyard. My neighbor offered me her nail artist contact and I refused and explained why. She didn't get it. I never ever do my nails, they are perfect and strong, why would I put acrylic on top of my perfect nails? I don't even think it is pretty plus they might be bad for your natural nails. I clean and cut my nails very short and it drives people crazy, and I love it.
I totally agree with you on mindful consumption- it took me 4 years to choose and purchase a designer bag. I knew I wanted a bag that suited my life and it took a lot of touching and visiting the stores over the years to make a decision. I’ve had it now for 2 years and still super happy with it, Didn’t buy any more bags as that one is perfect!
That’s amazing!
This video came up in my YT feed and so I gave it a whirl. I gather that Ms. Caitlin is changing up her channel to seek more meaningful content. Now THAT’s a first class ticket!
After tending to my vegetable garden this weekend, I put on some tunes and sat in the backyard to soak my feet in a plastic tub full of fresh lavender. Gave self pedi sans polish. Felt grounded and grateful for blue sky with puffy clouds, butterflies & dragonflies, and bountiful, nourishing veggies growing nearby. The Lord is the ultimate content creator to this Kentucky gal! All the best to Caitlin on her journey to being “in the world, but not of the world.”
Aww you are so kind
Thanks for being here 🥰
Sounds amazing. That's my top goal.
Love it! Fellow gardener in North Carolina. We also have a horse and dogs. Nails are just not compatible with my life and I’m so much happier for it (no judgement on those who love it). I do love a massage, though 😂
Social media and it’s algorithm has a way of making it seem like everyone has more than you, is more fit, stronger, etc. It can be very toxic. I think as humans we weren’t meant to see what everyone in the world has or does. Oh, and yes here in the United States it’s summer like you said (great for trips and travel etc) but we here in Florida are facing a dangerous heat wave. Things aren’t always what they seem!
I’m not really active on social media anymore, but I’m super tempted to take a photo of my polish-less, overgrown, cuticle-riddled nails in front of my 2008 Scion Tc steering wheel lol
😂 👏
Lmao DO IT 🤣🤣🤣
My friend that I made recently recommended I should try to get my nails done to "treat" myself and well...I tried, and oh I tried to understand as a woman that part of this woman's world. For one, I am so unfamiliar and uncomfortable with manis and pedis and I grew up in Europe where having a mani and pedis was not such a deeply ingrained cultural thing and also money was tight and my mom only indulged in getting her hair done so that I understood. But now as I've been living in the US for over a decade, just everyone gets their nails done and it's so normal, even stress-free and supposedly relaxing? So, I tried following my friend's suggesting and six months down the line I had a full blown mental breakdown, because it became so overwhelming. Me having to constantly schedule an appointment and also come in for them to fix the chipping. The nail techs were harsh on my nails with the filing, my nails were getting weaker and chipping so quickly even using gel and some builder gel, I felt like they never were listening to me, being dismissive of what I wanted and expected, the proximity was too much, I hated the feeling like I had to do small-talk for an hour straight and the waiting was killing me. None of this was relaxing at all and it made me wonder if I was a woman at all for not enjoying this :(
You are far from alone. Here is a simple hack that gets you stunning natural nails. Get a glass nano grit nail files set, a chamois leather nail buffer, cuticle pusher…. To do it you push the cuticles, file not merely the tips but the top of the nail to a glossy sheen then polish with buffer. Cover it with a clear gloss if you want and done. Lovely healthy and easy elegant look.
@@LotusesGalaxyOcean Awww 🥺Thank you for taking your time to respond. I will definitely look into what you suggested🥰
I love her suggestion! Also don’t feel pressured by society to feel you need to have manicured nails because you absolutely do not 💕☺️
Beware of filing the surface of the nail (as opposed to just the tip) as it weakens the nail and can lead to injury or infection. Just chuck a bit of clear polish on if you want your nails to look shiny!
I don't 'get' wasting money on manicures. When I HAD to dress up for work, I just put on some natural color to give a bit of shine about once a week. Life's too short for all that nonsense. I grew up around old money. OLD is the operative word...no flashy stuff. No $3,000 refrigerators, lots of older vehicles, favorite old T shirts and khaki shorts. No daytime fake eyelashes/heavy makeup. Lots of humble 'regular Joe' gear.
No one really cares how much money u waste trying to look 'rich', when it's really just a mark of being middle class, or lower.
@Jay-xj5yt The title of the video contains a clue. Ironically enough, my dog's getting a manicure rn. She's impossible to nail clip unless under sedation. She's getting her teeth cleaned at same time. Her spa treatment costs almost $3,00 at most veterinary clinics. As u say, ppl have dif' crazy values. Dogs are our guardian angels, so well worth it.
@Jay-xj5yt i clearly said I don't get spending the time on manicures (plus the money ) Chopping wood, building a fire, pitching a tent...I do it all with no gloves and no worries of chipping a nail. Not everyone's lifestyle, but it's what I love n understand. I also save about $20,000, by not buying a new Honda Accord. Used is fine with me. To each their own.
After having not been watching videos on social media due to the unrealistic life expectation standard bringing me down a bit, I am LOVING this new vibe of your channel!😍 I loved your content before, but with this new vibe, it’s like you grew in this direction of growth the same time as me🤗 was nodding & smiling to all of what you said in this video!🙌🏻🥰💞
Thankyou for watching 🥰
I'm too stubborn to be influenced by social media and so is my kid. Thank goodness 😂😂
Thank you again for 5. Flat Tummies. It’s so hard to see flat tummies everywhere online. It’s important to prioritize your health but not an unrealistic body image❤
I love the direction you’ve taken with your channel. Totally agree that social media can brainwash us into thinking some things are normal, even though they’re not!
I just love you girl! I’m a nurse. Work hard and I’m blessed with a position in my life we’re I finally had my beautiful home, son in college and I’m happy but when I’m see around I everyone with this luxury style of life and I wonder I’m doing wrong? Then I saw your video and help me to remain my self. “Nop! I’m perfect the way I I’m “ big hug
The vacation thing really gets me. Where I come from people go on holiday domestically maybe once a year and abroad maybe every few years. I feel awful when I see everyone on social media travelling and I am not really doing it.
TO THOSE WHO LISTEN WITH EARPHONES: no, they're not broken, it's just somehow this video only streams the sound to only one of them
A new handbag each month (or year!) is deffffinitely not normal in my reality. I've been using the same two handbags (one summer, one winter) for I'd say close to 10 years now. I can't imagine the decision-fatigue I would face each day if I had a whole pile of them! 😳 I have two small clutches and a straw bag for special occasion outfits that call for those, although tbh I rarely use them. I purchased each bag preowned for less than $100 (less than $50 in most cases) and I get compliments from strangers on them ALL the time... probably more than any other part of my outfits. If I had a million dollars I would never dream of spending $6000 on a bag because I'd be scared to take it anywhere! My water bottle leaks in my bag almost weekly, I'm regularly around dirt, dust... hopefully someday children. I'd much rather enjoy being in the moment, and have more spare moments to enjoy than to spend my life saving for, and saving, physical possessions. To whoever is reading this: if you feel like the people around are expecting you to work your life away in order to have a new handbag each time you see them, I can confidently say -- they are not. Or, if they are, perhaps a stocktake on the people in your life is in order.
If you're struggling with a shopping addiction, The Minimalists podcast (they are also on YT) is, I feel, a really great resource for unpacking the mindset behind that, and is just super inspiring in general. 💗
Well-considered and well-written post! I admire your recommendation of The Minimalists’ podcast; less can truly be more.
II agree with everything you said, all this consumption is absolutely nuts to me. I don't earn much but try and build wealth with what I have- there are some great sites for this too (there's definitely minimalist and wealth building crossover).
You are absolutely right, non of this is normal. Even buying 4 luxury bags a year is too many. Flat tummy story, I know girls who starve themselves just to take photos, some are genetically given but most of us get swollen stomach just from "inhaling air" I personally don't get affected by this but I know some people do. About mani a girl "friend" told me once OMG you better get your nail done, I had like 1.5 mm outgrown nails and she send me so many texts just to let me know. People just look for something wrong with you so they don't have time to look at their own reflection. Thank you for this video!
Thankyou for watching! Xx
Hey there… I have watched you for many years. You look so healthy and happy!!! So happy for you.
Thankyou!
Am not a regular watcher of your content, but without a fail every video by you I watch resonates with me. LOVE your honesty and the values you try to convey to your audience 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Wow, thank you! Xx
This video is very refreshing, thank you. Remember, a lot of people will go to great lengths to flex online and they will actually go broke, trying to look rich always just be grateful for everything that you have, and try not to compare.
As someone who doesn’t use social media aside from lurking on Tumblr and Reddit, it is MIND BOGGLING that social media has actually convinced anyone that any of this is normal.
😂I agree about the vacation stress! I prefer to not even go on a vacation and it’s sooo exhausting and need a vacation after traveling. Not to mention jet lag has always affected me and now that I’m a bit older even more so.
All those standards woman suppose to follow is overwhelming.
Regarding number 1 - thanks to this, some students, like a classmate of my friend who is in med school, actually don't do lab work because they don't want to mess with their nails. It makes me think why they got into that course in the first place.
Also, people with always-perfect nails give the impression you don't work or do anything at all, that you're just mooching off somebody else who's hard at work.
No, I’m just a girly girl who likes to have nice nails. The no judgement thing should go both ways. I’m not rich, I’m a student and I have no familial support at all. I live by myself do everything by myself. It’s called adapting. I just wear gloves when doing certain things.
@@coo7414having nice nails is ok, but you dont do your nails unrealistic long and pointy right? Because lets say it is impossible to have those scratchy nails covered up by gloves. Especially when you work on labs and medical field, its simply not allowed cause it brings harms. Nice nails can be short and not too long. I think ppl talk about the unrealistic long nails that can cut trough the gloves
I worked at an Applebees 20 years ago with a bartender who maintained 2 inch nails. I don’t know how she never broke them, but that girl worked her tush off. I don’t think Caitlin’s point that judgement should go the opposite way. Let’s just let people be on both sides.
I literally don't know anybody with false nails except for one of my nieces. I work in a hospital and NOBODY has false nails, it would be seen as trashy.
What a weird comment 😂 majority of people with long nails manage fine and they're usually not allowed in health/care jobs or working with food but I know plenty including myself who can work and have nice nails
Going through my parents passing on taught me a lot about the true meaning of material things. You can’t take them with you. My mom was very elegant and bought many designer and classic pieces. She had great taste and her home was so beautifully decorated. My brother and I were so stressed trying to figure out what to do with all their things. I do know that she enjoyed them while she was alive and I only kept a few choice pieces as a way to remember her.
I really love these videos! Feel like I would be able to talk and rant to you about these subjects for hours!
One thing I do have to say, when you live in Europe it is really easy to go travelling within Europe. Europe isn’t super big and we have open borders so it’s really easy to travel within when you’re a European citizen. That’s how we (normal people) are able to take 4 to 5 trips a year. We can just take our car and an 8 hour drive gets us to Italy, Berlin, south of France,… plus, a lot of Europeans have a company car, which also cuts back on the costs of travelling by car.
And even travelling overseas is quite ‘easy’ for us, because we are such centrally placed between east and west… but I do agree that those bougie trips occurring non-stop are definitely NOT normal. There is so much fake in the world. And even though we get to experience a lot of those bougie trips, the jet set lifestyle is not the thing you want to have in life. It’s so so so fake.
I am so glad you feel this way I bet we could rant together for hours 😆
Oh yes absolutely my point was more directed and aussies and Americans
I think travel in Europe and Uk is much more normal so to speak ☺️
THIS needs to go viral. THANK YOU. We all needed this reality check.
I just discovered your channel - this is literally my first video of yours - and I want to say BRAVO❣️ I honestly believe that these phone influencers are doing a lot of harm to the young people of today. To be transparent, I am a 59 year old woman who lives in the Canadian Arctic. There are no nail techs, hair stylists, or even doctors in our wee fly in / fly out town of about 700 ppl. We do fly a lot (that’s just a given due to our location), but there is no first class on our flight to a major airport. Everyone flies the same up here. We do, however, try to book first class on every other flight we can. My back is all messed up (I am in a wheelchair) and hubby’s knees are shot so the first class seats are just much more comfortable. Thank heavens that these issues happened when we were financially able to do it. If w3 had been hurt when we were still raising our children, we would have been hooped! The flat tummy thing is a long ago dropped dream. After giving birth to three children - one by Caesarian - as well as three miscarriages and three abdominal surgeries (I just now noticed how prevalent the number three is! lol), there is NO way this tummy is getting flat ever again! It bothered me for a very long time (about two decades, tbh) but I realized just about the time I was fifty that it really didn’t matter. I eat healthy as we cook every meal from scratch and I finally learned to put the dream of my twenty year old body where it belongs…… in the past. This is my NOW, and by looking back I risk issuing what is I the here and now. Since I admit to a tiny bit of FOMO, looking back just didn’t work and I was miserable.
Today I can honestly say that I love myself, flaws and all. That was hard for so long but my grandbabies have allowed me to see through their eyes. I don’t think I will ever make it to their picture of me - one granddaughter told me I was her secret agent superhero - but I try to now everyday and that leaves me no time to obsess on things that just don’t matter.
Thankyou so much for watching ❤️
Social media is akin to people waving their personal diaries at us and demanding we like it.
I love your new direction of the channel! I totally agree with this video on you saying that social media is "not normal" most of the time. I used to think that I was poor because I don't travel overseas every two weeks or so (like what you see online) then I realized that they actually only went for one trip and "cheat" others by taking many different photos and saying that they are there now. I hope to see more videos from you with this kind of direction!
Thankyou so much for your support 🥰
Thank you for the reminder! It is really nice to hear that these are not normal (especially the one about flat tummies).
And I think they don’t even have to be “the goal” to aspire. at the end of the day, there probably are other activities that is going to make happier than spending time obsessively searching for the new item to buy.
& I agree with most of these points - except holidays. But living in europe, traveling is definitely cheaper than Australia (I wanted to go there for the last 3 years, but I am always deterred by the expense). :)
Travel when you live in the UK or Europe is so different, you are spot on xx
Really glad you mentioned the research for online shopping. Whenever I shop on Amazon I swear I’ve spent HOURS wasting time scrolling & scrolling comparing every item & reading every description, sometimes just to not even find what I really want & it resulted in nothing, the amount of time I’ve wasted online shopping is infuriating
Great video Caitlin! It is not normal to travel that much, unless you are doing it as a job or if you are on a sabbatical. I had friends working in the tourism industry always sharing pictures of their new travel destination. From the outside it looked like they were enjoying life better than the others, but when talking to them, they will tell me how exhausted that life is, the family issues of being away, always on the go and changing luggage frequently, etc. Everything comes with pros and cons, we just have to figure out what we value more. Relating to those influencers travelling in first class, I think I saw while ago a RUclipsr exposing them of faking travelling in first or business class. I think you showed in this video one of those influencer girls which had a picture taken in first class, but then on the same flight, a follower exposed her with a picture in her "true" seat in economy! Lol!!! I find this quite depressing, that you need to lie and fake it to keep up the appearance of being wealthy, I find it quite stupid tbh. Lastly, regarding shopping, I agree it takes a lot of time to keep shopping and looking for the next thing to buy. I don't know how many influencers do it, I would give up. A part from the money you waste, but just the energy of researching the next bag to buy, have space in your wardrobe for it, and also have enough occasions to wear it to make it worth the money. I have a friend who has spending issues, I am trying to help. She is seeing a therapist for this, but the amount of shopping she does is incredible. She has 2 rooms just for clothes. I asked her if she needed help when she moved. It was super hard to see how these material things can chain you. I managed to persuade her to get rid of 1 bag full of clothes she never wore. She also experience moments where she spend £2k on clothing online orders, without remembering what she bought the next day. As I said this is an issue, that she is aware of and she is trying to do better.
Thankyou for sharing this ❤️
This aspect of social media is one of the reasons why I abandon ship. It used to be much less in the 2010s. But in the age of influencers, it seems to be getting worse and actually damaging to mental health.
Thank you sooo much for this video Caitlin I 1000% agree with everything you said!!! PREACH IT SISTER!!!🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Your video is sooo on point!!!! Social media is soo fake and toxic...
Love you Caitlin for this video, it is a much needed reality check and you hit the nail right on the head with everything you said ❤
I’ve been SO guilty of overconsumption. I’ve never been one to jump on trends and buy the next best thing, but I would definitely get really excited about life or I’d feel really on track with my goals, and I’d celebrate by buying a big haul of fast fashion clothes. It was ridiculous and excessive and always left me feeling hollow. I love fashion, but buying new ones every couple of months isn’t healthy or necessary.
ahhh this made me feel so comforted, i keep my nails natural and i attempt to grow them out and manicure them myself but sometimes breaks happen, i just had to trim all of them back to square one and i’ve been feeling really upset this time around, thank you for the reminder that perfect nails are not the norm nor an expectation
Clean nails is a reasonable expectation.
Nails that are natural are normal.
Am loving every single video in your new chapter! Congrats again Caitlin! All your topics and observations are very thought provoking and insightful. Thank you for making these :D
Thankyou so so much! 😘
I thought I would get annoyed at hearing you say not normal but I find it very endearing and you seem like a fun person
you have a perfect figure. you really have nothing to worry about
My favourite video by far! ❤ we all get sucked into these social media traps, we need to get sucked back to reality.
Thankyou!! ❤️
Totally agree 👏
I feel so lucky to get a suggestion from RUclips for this channel! What fresh air and healthy critical thinking! Thank you and keep going! 🙏🙌
yes these are all very good points! it is also good to remember that a lot of people are buying so many things because they are racking up debt either mindfully aware of or because they are wrapped up in consumerism or bad decisions. it's good to note that many people will never buy a designer purse and even most who will will only buy one once a year or every few years. we don't need so much stuff and even if we want it and can afford it then we should really think how much we will actually use that item instead of getting the serotonin boost from buying it and possibly look to other way to get that boost. great video! i also think a few other good things that aren't normal but on social media might seem like: buying a new car every couple of years, getting a new phone or computer every year, too much makeup/perfume/soaps/etc. that will go bad before we ever use up.
Excellent video, especially the part of conspicuous consumption. We need to slow down and enjoy what we buy, but too many people get too wrapped up in social media and the dopamine hit. Social media can be so dangerous, we have a commercial in the US at the moment that reflects on a young girl who gets her first cell phone at 12 and as the story evolves, it's revealed that she has an eating disorder and in recovery at age 19 due to negative influence from social media. So sad, but it really shows just how social media is not always giving us healthy messages.
We had eating disorders before social media.
The truth about the stress of the build up of travelling !!! So much stress !!!
I really enjoy and love ur content. I struggle with consumerism and I've been binge watching ur videos and taking notes down to start my anti-consumarism journey. Thank u for all the tips and transparency
Love from South Africa ❤🇿🇦
This video is a breath of fresh air :) also, take a shot when Caitilin says "it's not normal" 🤣🤣🤣
🤭 shots shots shots lol
I’m a 62 yro tubby old lady. With a six pack. It took forty years of hard training to make. I didn’t set out for abs, I trained to win at sport. If you’re doing looks, not experiences, you’re doing life wrong. Abs should be a by product of chasing those experiences.
Love this ❤ such a good reminder! I remember seeing all your handbag hauls and thinking oh my gosh she’s so rich I don’t think I own one designer bag 😂😂 nice to know these things are not the norm
People need to realize that most of these people don’t own the cars they are posing in. I’ve had people taking pictures for instagram with MY FREAKING CAR. I don’t post about my life on line. And I certainly don’t want others taking photographs of MY STUFF and pretending it’s theirs. They didn’t work for it. They didn’t earn it. But they certainly want to gain followers by pretending to have other people’s things.
not having hair, nails, tan and whatever other-body-stuff done b4 holidays or in everyday life IS NORMAL. getting sterssed about these being done / undone is ABNORMAL 😅
This was so great! I’m one of the people who always seem to be traveling, and yes, as time has gone on I’ e developed a desire to splurge on Business class. Anyone who gets jealous, I tell them it’s only because of what else I DON’T have- no car (I live in a big city), no mortgage (I rent), my children are grown, I rarely get my nails done, not interested in fashion, and I have cut down a lot on eating out. I know a lot of people are simply in debt, but sometimes it’s just choosing one thing over another. Thanks for the reminder to include that so I don’t make anyone feel bad
I’ve been doing nail wraps at home every week so my nails are always perfect. I’m so obsessed with them and a set costs like $2
That’s amazing!
So happy this popped up on my feed ❤ this was a really great reminder. There’s one content creator I follow that I had to take a long break from because they had become so so soooo not relatable. Flying out to Tulum every other week… not normal.
If there was a way for me to love this video (rather than just clicking "Like"), I absolutely would have done it... all five of these points were spot-on! 👏
Yay Thankyou! ☺️
Great video. ❤ in my defense of traveling 😂 I’m in aviation and I have flight benefits so I travel for the low low and I always feel guilty for sharing my travel experiences and so this year I did not post any travel pictures. I can’t believe people follow everything they see online. You have to have discernment when watching content and TAKE SOCIAL MEDIA BREAKS!! Unplug sometimes.
Also important to note that the influencers traveling around the world in first class and buying a new designer bag every week are being gifted or even paid to do it
I believe social media is oversaturated with influencers and has taken away the genuine connection that it was originally presented as. My personal experience with people who get their nails done is they do keep them perfect. They get chips fixed immediately. They get them done on schedule, especially when they grow out fast.
I love your videos. And after my pregnancies my tummy is still soft. But that is ok, because I have two little wonders❤ a 3 y old and a Baby (4 month). And I always smile, when my older daughter sticks out her belly and then she says: Look Mama my belly is full."❤❤❤ we should all be so confident like your little ones.
You are so right! ❤️
Overconsumption is a huge issue and this idea of lavish lifestyles in your 20’s or even early 30’s. The majority (I know their are exceptions) will never be that wealthy or have access to that excess cash flow until they’re more established. I see so many people going into debt and being obsessed with consuming to fit the “norm” to the point of affecting their overall mental health. Thanks for the video, I hope a change is coming!
You have no idea how much I needed this. I used to travel at least once a year but I haven’t travelled after covid. It’s giving me a lot of anxiety when I see on social media everybody going on holidays abroad.
And I agree with everything you pointed out and made feel so much better with my life. Thanks!
Hallelujah. Finally someone said it out loud.
Especially about vacation trips.
Never understood. And never support.
Love this video and especially the “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” reference. I love that movie it’s hilarious. And yes I agree none of these things are normal. I think it’s easy for some people to forget that all that content on Instagram is made for them to profit. It’s just advertisement. Anywho, love your channel and the direction you’ve taken. I love watching your videos, just makes me feel like I’m listening to one of my girlfriends talk. Lol 😅 😂 Thanks for sharing. 💜
Outside of really young childhood, I’ve never had a flat stomach. I’ve (mostly) stopped worrying about it.
Over the past few years I down sized my closet and wear the same 15 things over and over again. I love it! Makes decision making so much easier! Flat tummies 😅🤣 I still aspire but it's more just an encouragement to stay healthy.
Great points! I’ve stopped getting them done in 2020 mainly because of the shutdown then for a while in 2021 I went back to get them done regularly ever 2 weeks because I had the finances too but it’s been 3 days since i deleted all of my social media apps just to catch a break. It often makes you feel like your either not doing enough and/or comparing myself to other people’s lifestyle. It can be toxic and draining if not monitored. I’ve had so much more clarity since being off social media. I plan on being off of it at least for the remainder of the year.
People are extremely disconnected from reality. Imagine everyone on this planet wasted resources like we do? Let's be honest, it's wasteful, expensive and at best meaningless, at worst a symptom for us feeling chased and uncomfortable. Consumerism as a way of desperately seeking out validation and a short rush. I'd like to be kind, but not only is it not normal, it's ridiculous.
Also: congratulations on kicking the shopping addiction - well done!
Thankyou for watching 😊
Best way to be wealthy is to be cheap! Save your money and spend as little as possible. That’s the “old money” way.
All of your point are spot on-not normal!👍
It’s sad that young, impressionable people buy into social media. Social media is as fake as professional wrestling. It’s carefully curated, it’s heavily filtered, AND it’s heavily staged. Some of these influencers got exposed for taking pictures of being in a private jet on a sound stage, and they often take pictures in luxury hotel lobbies pretending that they’re staying there. Some of them will rent luxury cars or rent a mansion for the photo or video shoot.
Let’s not forget that for many of these influencers, they’re getting paid and/or getting the stuff for free (including trips) in exchange for promoting on social media.
I’m so loving the new Caitlin. I still love old Caitlin ( I know I know not the best adjectives but you know what I mean). But I think that no matter when you start your lux journey after a few years you’re gonna realize what you truly love and examine your overall habits. I know I have. Still love Chanel. No longer in the budget. And that’s okay. 💖 June
😂 thanks June
I hope you are keeping well ❤️