Timely advice Dr Cloud. Family relationahips can be dysfunctional when family members become materialistic. Your redemptive solution brings healing and mercy towards family members who are insensitive and arrogant. I needed this! Deeply grateful indeed!
I feel like I am one of God’s absolute slowest, dumbest children. I have needed concrete examples like this for years. My biggest challenge has been to not be operating based on my feelings. I’ve learned that they at times lie to me, inspiring revenge instead of loving service, but I haven’t truthfully had the role models of love that I understood, to know how to do things differently. I feel like I want to lay down on the floor and cry over finally finding examples of the truth.
Interesting teaching in the highly narcissistic world we live in right now. It is very wise to extend grace and love, but there is so much unhealthy codependency and control out there right now, I would think a mention of boundaries would be included.
I accidentally found out my dad is having an affair when I stayed with him in March. He's had me blocked ever since. He will not acknowledge my texts, phone calls or cards ( Father's Day & his birthday). At this point, I've given up as he's made up his mind and I can't change that I miss him but I won't chase him. Our relationship has always been on his terms. I guess that I'll just wait until Thanksgiving and play the pretend nothing's wrong game with him and the rest of the family. In the meantime, I'll keep working on my grief and my issues.
To Dr. Cloud’s team - yes, please compile his “one of my favorite verses from the Bible is…” verses! It would be interesting to see them together- principles to live by.
I’ve learned Boundaries are to be set for toxic and narcissistic people. But what he is describing here is for our OTHER relationships. It’s grace and love and the whole idea of the verse “love covers a multitude of sins”. He’s not saying you should deal with a toxic, narcissistic individual like this. ❤
I'd be interested in what he thinks. For me, these are effective responses with people of good will having bad days or going through a rough patch, but self-destroying when dealing with a narc who wants compliance and not relationship.
I also just pictured if I was that person with any of my narc exes then I wouldn’t have left. Sometimes it’s hard to decide when it’s okay to put up fences and when to give chances & be the bigger person with someone.
No, I would just go no contact or very limited contact. Narcs will take advantage of you time and time again. There is a necessary ending with some people that can be done gently.
The biggest lesson I learned is that you can’t control anyone. There’s a part of us that wants to believe that if we do the right thing, say the right thing then we can help that person. If that person doesn’t want to be lifted up, there’s nothing you can do. The sooner you accept that, the sooner the burnt out feelings will go away.
It takes a strong man to believe that he will one day be wealthy and successful, and wealth is not for everyone. I can say that I am wealthy, but even if I were not wealthy, I would be content. If you intend to make RUclips videos, get rid of the desire to make money. I always tell people to document rather than create. If RUclips does not work for you, try other options such as cryptocurrency, NFT, stocks, and so on. If you require assistance, please email me. Bottom line, keep your faith strong.
You have to have a big heart and maturity to not play fair.
Such an vitally important principle to live by. Love doesn’t keep score.
Timely advice Dr Cloud. Family relationahips can be dysfunctional when family members become materialistic. Your redemptive solution brings healing and mercy towards family members who are insensitive and arrogant. I needed this! Deeply grateful indeed!
Dr Cloud......this is the most important word anyone could put out........Love!!! please do more!!!!!
I feel like I am one of God’s absolute slowest, dumbest children. I have needed concrete examples like this for years. My biggest challenge has been to not be operating based on my feelings. I’ve learned that they at times lie to me, inspiring revenge instead of loving service, but I haven’t truthfully had the role models of love that I understood, to know how to do things differently. I feel like I want to lay down on the floor and cry over finally finding examples of the truth.
Interesting teaching in the highly narcissistic world we live in right now. It is very wise to extend grace and love, but there is so much unhealthy codependency and control out there right now, I would think a mention of boundaries would be included.
Much respect thank you so much for your videos. ❤️
Thank you Dr Cloud😊
God BLESS YOU, Dr. Cloud ♡
I accidentally found out my dad is having an affair when I stayed with him in March. He's had me blocked ever since. He will not acknowledge my texts, phone calls or cards ( Father's Day & his birthday). At this point, I've given up as he's made up his mind and I can't change that I miss him but I won't chase him. Our relationship has always been on his terms. I guess that I'll just wait until Thanksgiving and play the pretend nothing's wrong game with him and the rest of the family. In the meantime, I'll keep working on my grief and my issues.
Oh that is heartbreaking my goodness. I’m so sorry.
May God give you comfort and wisdom
No, ask him on Thanksgiving where his girlfriend is. Have pics of them together. Tell your mother.
Absolutely agree!, Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!,
To Dr. Cloud’s team - yes, please compile his “one of my favorite verses from the Bible is…” verses! It would be interesting to see them together- principles to live by.
How does this align with boundaries?
Ooh that’s a good question.
I’ve learned Boundaries are to be set for toxic and narcissistic people. But what he is describing here is for our OTHER relationships. It’s grace and love and the whole idea of the verse “love covers a multitude of sins”. He’s not saying you should deal with a toxic, narcissistic individual like this. ❤
So good! Thank you 😊
Now I'm conflicted! Am I playing "fair" and not being patient, or is it really time for me to move on 😔
EXACTLY..AMEM ❤
Does this work when you're dealing with a narcissist?
I'd be interested in what he thinks. For me, these are effective responses with people of good will having bad days or going through a rough patch, but self-destroying when dealing with a narc who wants compliance and not relationship.
I'm trying to figure this out too.
I also just pictured if I was that person with any of my narc exes then I wouldn’t have left. Sometimes it’s hard to decide when it’s okay to put up fences and when to give chances & be the bigger person with someone.
No, I would just go no contact or very limited contact. Narcs will take advantage of you time and time again. There is a necessary ending with some people that can be done gently.
@@juliesunnydaze Yes, I think you are right.
Agreed!
Wow.
return not evil
What if people refuse to let you lift them up, and now uoir burnt out
The biggest lesson I learned is that you can’t control anyone. There’s a part of us that wants to believe that if we do the right thing, say the right thing then we can help that person. If that person doesn’t want to be lifted up, there’s nothing you can do. The sooner you accept that, the sooner the burnt out feelings will go away.
It takes a strong man to believe that he will one day be wealthy and successful, and wealth is not for everyone. I can say that I am wealthy, but even if I were not wealthy, I would be content. If you intend to make RUclips videos, get rid of the desire to make money. I always tell people to document rather than create. If RUclips does not work for you, try other options such as cryptocurrency, NFT, stocks, and so on. If you require assistance, please email me. Bottom line, keep your faith strong.