I understand that some people have difficulties when it comes to divorce, but it can't hurt to actually look up what the laws are BEFORE taking your ex to court. On a side note, my parents got divorced after 17 years of marriage and the only bit that saw the inside of a court were the applications that had to be sent there. They sold the (mortgage-free) house and bought a house each with the proceeds (it was a big house they got when house prices were affordable). They were able to buy a family house each (mortgage-free) and worked out between them how everything would be split. They sent each other birthday and Christmas cards until a few years ago. If every divorce went the way my parents' did (ie amicably) then the world would be a much better place. They've both since remarried. My dad has been married for 23 years and my mum 17. Neither of them have had a bad word to say about each other, or their new spouses, in the last 25 years.
@Christopher Pearson I remember the lawyer who tells people that he doesn't want to work, and would rather not do his job. He was doing workers comp claims.
@@NickanMexactly. This guys parents obviously just fell out of love, and took their child’s mental and physical health first. Divorces like this are completely natural and often end up leaving both party’s on a good note.
I remember one story where the guy talked to a lawyer first and found out that since he was in a no-fault divorce state, even though his wife cheated and was unemployed, she'd get half of everything. So he basically played dumb and flipped the script. He encouraged her to advance her career and become a nurse, which she did. He then volunteered to be a stay-at-home dad to support her career, all while she banged the doctor she worked for. Then once all the dominos were set, he left several searches of things like "how to survive your wife's infidelity" in the family computer's browser history and let the kids take care of the rest. They absolutley loved their father since he was always around, and barely knew their mother since she was at work. So naturally they were furious with their mom and wanted to live with dad. Since he was the primary caregiver he kept the house, and she had to pay him a boatload in alimony. And the funny part is the stress of the divorce made her "less fun" and her doctor dumped her too.
Story 1: Wow, talk about stubborn. She was willing to try to get as much of OP's money as possible, and wasn't willing to take anything else. Well, jokes on her, OP kept the receipts and won in the end
Final story: there was an update - he found a new job paying 2x as much! His shitty boss offered a .25 cent hour raise. He declined and is now working for a much better company.
@@NoPersona Yep. Twenty-five cents an hour, no sense yet in his lifetime. Kinda reminds me of Social Security cutting down a forest worth of trees to print notices to people all the time informing them that their SSI payments went up by 3 cents.
This has been covered on other YT channels with the edits and updates. I think I heard it on KCC yesterday, so I was familiar with the fallout. And Rob had a great addition for what OP should do: if there’s a referral bonus/incentive, take as many people away from that old job as possible to the new one and watch that place suffer. Lol.
@@NoPersona Dude. At my old job they thought I’d be happy with the awesome amazing 10-cent raise. I was so glad when I left for my new job that I’ve been at for 10 months now.
Reminds me this morning with a guy who was paying $700/month to her ex and it wasn't good enough for her, so she took him to court and all the guy had to pay was $149.56/month. This made my day
That first story was insane, though it sounded like the court officer was going to end up hurting him more than helping him. Glad to see that I was wrong and OP came out on top. Lol
Courts can only operate by the guidelines of the law (and any relevant precedents if allowable in that jurisdiction). If the law says 40% and only ever 40% then the officer can only issue 40%, no ifs nor buts and definitely no coconuts.
Oh she completely did that on purpose. Tell him to stop supporting his crazy ex, but do it in a tone that the crazy ex won't argue with. It's a great play commonly used in court.
Because in these kinds of courts, men against women, the women have a clear advantage. In court cases women can get everything and get away with it too. So that's why
I'm having flashbacks to my divorce. I dealt with so much bs, and took on so much debt because I wanted to clean up my credit. I even paid debts she accumulated after we separated because I knew she never would, but she got my name attached to them. She was a master a avoiding debt collectors. That was one of a million reasons why we were getting divorced.
God that sounded so much like my separation. We were never married however had a child together so that had some loops and tension that could possibly throw me under. She knew this and is why we went back to court almost immediately after a damn near perfect 50/50 agreement. She wanted more. And in the end I got more plus primary and now she pays a very small amount of child support.
That last story made me remember a co-worker Karen that thought she was hot fuzz when it came to doing jobs that needed to be done. Back when I was working at a sit-down fast food seafood restaurant, I was busy cleaning trays one day, during a lull in customers coming in, ((read: My job was a basic gopher job --"Go clean the tables", "take out the garbage", "Wash the tables", that sort of thing)) and I was cleaning off trays. "OP!" She says to me, as I balk and glance at her. "...there you are! I need you to go clean the bathrooms!". At this point, my brain was going "...but, I'm *ALREADY* doing something...", but I didn't say anything. She must have seen my look, because she snapped at me again. "I *SAID* go clean the bathrooms!". I then looked at her again, as she stalked over to me. "Did {boss} tell you to clean the bathrooms?" I asked, as she huffed. "No! *I* told you to do it!" She snaps back, as she literally pulls me away from what I'm doing, goes over to the small closet where the supplies are, pulls out all the supplies and thrusts them into my arms. She then literally drags me to the bathrooms, and opens the door. She then goes over the instructions and looks me dead in the eyes and says "...AND I want the celing scrubbed, too!" ((no, I'm NOT kidding. Keep that in mind.)). Cue my sly MC. So, here I am, scrubbing on my literal hands and knees in the bathrooms for what feels like hours ((while awkwardly apologising to customers as I move out of the bathroom to let them use it)), when guess who come hauling back to the bathrooms. Yup, Ms. "scrub EVERYTHING in the bathroom" herself. "OP!" She says, as I glance up from scrubbing the floor, as she puts her hands on her hips and takes an annoyed stance. "...where the heck have you been?! The trays need to be washed and you need to help give out orders to the customers!" At this point, I'm mentally smirking wickedly, as I glance up from the floor, wipe the sweat from my brows, and say in the most sickly sweet voice I can muster up: "I'm sorry, Karen. I was just SO busy back here trying to get everything clean! You know, LIKE YOU TOLD ME TO DO...". You can see the wheels in her head turning, as she puts two and two together, as she snaps with "Just...just go clean the trays and hand out the orders! I'll get someone else to clean!". I may have ticked her off more that day, but after that, she left me alone...
It’s almost hilarious how many divorcees think their ex is being malicious only to find out just how far above and beyond what’s legally required they were really going.
Guys please tell me, AITA? In my house, my family has a chore rotation. I had laundry yesterday, but I was out most of the day due to activities I couldn't miss. My dad asked my brothers to help me out while I was gone. Apparently, my older brother(OB) who had laundry before me, DIDN'T DO HIS JOB. So I had to catch up the laundry. But again, I was out for most of the day. I didn't get everything caught up, but did as much as I could. Then, this morning, my mom said "Oh there's no WAY she's passing laundry. She failed, YB(younger brother) you can have kitchen today since OP didn't do her job." But my OB didn't do his part, and got no flack for it! My mom keeps glaring at me, and telling me to do my job right, or I'll have it for a week. AITA?
Howdy my fellow longtime-listeners, I hope everyone is ready for the weekend. And to RSlash, I don’t know how you keep up your upload schedule. Even after telling us you were beginning to get burnt out, here you are uploading every day. You’re a total beast! I hope your family has been well too 😊
Prenup, prenup, prenup. Always get a prenup, no matter what. It doesn't mean you don't trust your partner, it means that both of you will be equally taken care of if something happens. If I had a fiance that didn't want a prenup, thats goodbye for me. I'm not risking it just to be taken advantage of later.
Idk if OP was in a no consent state for recording his ex with a cell phone. That's what he should have done when he was in the lounge when she was harping on him as well as the mediation if that was allowed should have been filmed.
The first story was mostly given context in the comments, the guy unfortunately lost the dog to his ex, as she knew that would hurt op the most. They were both in bad situations as children exes dad ended himself and i dont remember abt op anymore but both suffered a lot of trauma.
OP has shown that all you need to cancel a subscription and phone plan without running around talking to half a dozen people per plan is a court order.
I've been through it but I got nowhere. I found work as an apprentice in the electrical field when jobs were scarce and this is a great career, $10 an hour for the first 6 months so I showed the judge that I was actually giving 53% of my salary for child support when Nevada law was 18%. This idiot judge ordered me to quit and get a better job immediately to keep paying the triple amount! I had to leave that jurisdiction. Then I get paperwork from the D.A. family support saying I'm $8,000+ behind which I said was crazy wrong! In court I pulled the receipts and cancelled checks (could have brought more but much of my stuff was in another state but I showed she was lying as I had over $5,000 in proof, that's felony level attempted theft. She even said "that's my ID and signature but I don't remember getting those so HE SHOULD HAVE TO PAY ME AGAIN! WTF? She got no punishment and I had to pay the difference, about $3,000 which I kept paying extra each month. I then got more paperwork that says I owe $18,000 + so I showed the D.A. she was asking for the same months! They acted surprised and said they will expose this on the 15th (next court). You can guess what happened... maybe. I got a letter on the 14th saying I missed court and they are working with her to correct the amount but they didn't even retype the paperwork, just drew a line through the 15th, wrote 12th next to it and said I was not in court!
your story illustrates the importance of staying calm and having a plan during stressful times. The decision to switch to email communication to create a paper trail was also a smart strategy. This not only helped you avoid unnecessary arguments but also provided a clear "record" when needed in court.
11:55 Of course she can't claim anything. Inheritance is not seen as a shared asset and is not divided with the partner or ex, except in some specific situations where the money was treated as a common asset, placed in the joint account and used by both parties on a regular basis.
Hehehe. The first story brings back warm memories of my brother's divorce. My Karen of an ex-SIL made the process so entertaining. She switched attorneys after the first one didn't tell her what she wanted to hear. The second behaved almost like Eric Cartman. The legal documents that my brother's attorney would pass on had Post-it Notes with humorous and snide comments like "Some more Entertainment" on them. They read one to me while I was out of town in Chicago and I ended up rolling on the ground in the middle of the street laughing hysterically (I was drunk). Ultimately my ex-SIL screwed herself over as well. My brother just had to pay his legal fees which the attorney discounted because of all the ass-hattery my ex-SIL pulled. She ended up paying about 6 times that amount.
Just for anyone thinking of doing what that last story did-make sure you aren’t in an at will state before doing so. In Arizona, which is an at will state, employers can dismiss you for any reason (except for protected classes) or no reason at all. If you do that there, they can reach out the next day and say “we don’t think you’re a good fit for the position. We’d like you to never come back.” And there really isn’t any legal leg to stand on.
they can't fire you for retaliation reasons, and you'd have the burden of getting proof, but yeah, its just a great law we allowed to go through isn't it? fuck i hate that law
Granted, when it pays 8 bucks an hour, you probably don't want the job anyway. OP also said he was 20 with no bills to pay, which I take to mean he's still living with his parents (or some other relatives), and possibly going to college and the job is a side thing to build up a little money/experience.
Bussers and dishwashers will make or break a restaurant's operations. Can't serve food if you don't have clean plates and cutlery, can't sit new customers if the previous customers tables are dirty and full of plates.
I preferred the small sections when I was a server, and my coworkers would laugh at me when I'd ask for it. But by the end of the night they weren't laughing when I made more than them, the ability to give good service equals better tips and I knew I could handle less people more easily.
Take what is initially offered and not what you Think you’re entitled to… Unless you’re the victim of infidelity. In that situation, take EVERYTHING, and say it’s the least they can do since you were Enough for them…
I mean, first story good on OP letting his wife hang herself on the rope she brought but I'm just wondering how she tricked OP into tying the knot with her. I feel like she was a few steps away from physical abuse, if not already there with how nasty she was in trying to hurt him emotionally and financially.
well, there are a few scenarios off the top of my head for how that happened. most of them are based on maybe they just weren't together that long, like they got married within a year of meeting each other. hiding your true self for such a short amount of time is not that hard if you know that you'll get a big reward at the end of it. or maybe she got worse as time went on. how long was their marriage anyway? i don't think it was said, some people get really mean as they get older or their personalities change. did OP say why he wanted a divorce, maybe the wife was a good person but became mean because of the divorce, the post did say she doesn't want to divorce OP. anyway, there are lots of reasons why they'd get married only for her to turn out this mean.
"I guess you're writing what I'm saying so you can make your friends hate me" So you admit you're a terrible person and saying terrible things? Good to know.
This is why I refuse to get married, and remain single. I had an unsavory experience with an ex fiance years ago. Long story short she lied to county officials that I physically abused her, when in fact all I did was call off the engagement and left her. I ended up taking a plea deal cause I done dealing with her nonsense. I ended up having to serve probation for 18 months, and had to take an anger resolution class which costed me thousands. (Not including the monthly probation fee) As far as I'm concerned she can stay far tf away from me, and never speak to me ever again.
I worked at Denny's and on my first Sunday, we were short staffed. I had eighteen tables seated at the same time. Tracey would just keep seating them. I almost folded. One table alone ordered five shakes. I had to make them. The church ladies were so sweet. My manager and I kept them in coffee and decaf and they were cool. I made bank. I still have dreams/nightmares about this.
Its automatic uploads lol, he’s prolly got these pre recorded and ready on a upload schedule months in advance. He’s also read that first story in another video before so about half of this entire vid is a repeat story.
second story: A while back, in the UK, A guy was ordered by Courts to share his lottery winnings with his ex-wife. They had been divorced for longer than they were married when he won the lotto.
These divorce stories are insane to me as a Danish person. A woman is not entitled to anything but half of both of your assets and after that, nothing. No alimony, it doesn't exist here. If she's not working, she'd better start to then. If there are kids in the picture the woman only gets child support if she is the primary caregiver ie. they live with her and not the father. If it's split custody, forget about it.
I recently saw a story from a Reditor called Bnnuy-Dad44 that went absolutely scorched earth on his insane wife during the divorce. I mean he seemed to plan for everything. Including having cameras everywhere in the house and living in an at fault state. So his wife lost a LOT in the divorce and even got arrested once for attempting to frame her husband
....all you young guys out there, who have any romantic notions left from a typical American upbringing, please play close attention to this guy in the video! And ask yourself if you are prepared to face this future of, the second you get ahead in life accumulating money and property - then HAVE TO GIVE IT ALL AWAY, TO SOME HATEFUL WOMAN YOU USED TO BE IN LOVE WITH but made the fatal mistake of marrying!
My brother got a divorce and offered his ex way more than she should get. He wanted to make sure she would be ok. She decided to take him to court for more. During the case the judge found she was lying on her paper work, made false tax claims, falsely claimed her mother as a dependent, and multiple other issues. The judge awarded her the bare minimum before saying "By the way, the IRS will be contacting you soon about those tax forms."
Wow, all this stories about divorce makes me never want to get married. My mother and what I consider to be my Step Dad has been together for 10 years now, and they aren't married but that make it seem that marriage doesnt just decide if your family or not. It's your how you treat each other.
Waitress one was a little sad honestly. When the switched tables OP did not give them more work than she does, she let them do exactly what she does and they couldn't handle it.
Happy birthday to me! Another year I get to spend it listening to your videos. Thank you for making these videos, they've always helped me when things got tough. Thank you for making me smile everyday! 🥰
Story 1 and 2 : if both OP ex actually knew the law, they would have won for sure and the fact that both OP was be nice to their ex but both ex want more money and got greet and it literally cost them everything and Story 3: the fact OP and his boss let the new employee work his shift I love it and last story: there alway that one manager who think they better then anyone and be surprised when people stop list to them
First story. How did the crazy wife end up with the dogs? If i were a judge on this, I'd worry someone who derails court and mediator meetings and can't seem to accept anything but total surrender from her spouse would harm the dogs out of spite if she got to keep them
Not bragging but 10 tables!! Where I work, the smallest section is 10 tables and we give that section to new hires lol I take on 30+ tables at one time each day I work. Sunday's are upwards to 50 tables at one time. There's been nights that I've had two sections at once, which can seat 200 people. My point is, these people are sweating 10 tables! And their other sections only have 4 tables!!! I'm just in shock lol
I'm amazed at the number of people on both sides of the support coin (spouse or child) that get greedy and demand a hearing to get their fair share... and then get upset and want to appeal because the other person had been being reasonable. My exhusband had a brief 6 month stint with the FOC after he refused my negotiation for child support. He was convinced I was trying to screw him over- that was fun for my petty side because I'd had my lawyer calculate the support recommendation from the FOC's own guidelines and support recommendations. Some how though they still wanted him to pay more then I'd offered and even when he went offseason for his seasonal job was still taking the full child support amount. I did wait until he asked in the nicest way to suggest we go back to paying support between us and remove the FOC (you have to file paperwork for this to happen) mostly after that he did pay his child support and when his funds were short I worked with him because you know "kid's father".
For story 1- I don’t understand why one person needs to pay another anything ongoing, after a divorce. (Other than child support, that one’s obvious) Like, women can get jobs, why is the man responsible for his ex? They’re not a family anymore and he owes her nothing. Alimony sounds like the most absurd thing. Many ages ago, when women weren’t allowed to have jobs, sure…it kinda sorta makes sense (even then, why is someone that’s no longer family your duty???) but these days, women can make as much money as they want. Divorce should mean both people go their separate ways and move on as adults, both covering their own finances
@@Arob4343 There are many (legitimate) reasons why people co-sign loans. Co-signing increases available income, allows you to apply your co-signer's credit so you may end up getting a much better interest rate, and even may allow you to qualify for the loan to begin with. His name was on the loan. A bank does not care if you get divorced. the name that is on the loan are the people responsible as they signed the legal contract. This is the same for a house or any other legal contract. You're relationship is irrelevant, the fact you signed on the line makes you liable. in story 1, if he did not pay the loan it would go unpaid. Since that is on his name as well his credit report would show all these unpaid payments and the effect of that would be to drastically reduce his credit score and have to take ALL the consequences that comes with having a low credit score; higher interest rates, unable to get financing, being rejected from renting apartments or even being turned down for a job being just a few possible consequences of having his score drastically lowered. So to prevent this he paid the loan. It is possible to have a court order demand piece of joint property either be refinanced or sold. In fact that is what it means when someone 'gets the house' in the divorce, the person taking the property is obligated by the court to refinance it in their own name only or to sell the property and split the proceeds... oh, and in the case of an asset any equity of that property should be split 50/50 between the parties. (in a no-fault situation) The other part to mention with him is that they are separated, not divorced. The law is different here; when the divorce goes through all assets like cars and houses will have to come to the table and be divided up among the parties (assuming a no-fault divorce that means a 50-50 split.) so at that point she could be ordered by the court to refinance the vehicle in her name only, and if she cannot then she must sell the vehicle and split the proceeds with him in an equitable distribution as determined by the court.
Narcissistic people in divorces always project what they would do in your shoes and fights a fight that wasn't even there to begin with. This fight ends up with them in even more debt than they were to begin with, paying lawyer fees and even more, and potentially dragging every single person they can in with them. It's the most tiring thing to watch and be dragged into, as the oldest child in a family with two parents going through divorce (my father is the one dragging it out for so long). My heart goes out to people also struggling with stubborn divorces, both the divorcees and the children dragged into it.
Just because Reddit highlights these feel-good divorce stories doesn't mean it's the norm. These are the craziest women that are being denied. When it comes to normal negotiations, the husband gets screwed 90% of the time.
Abt the last story, In India we have a restaurant chain called "Indian Coffe House" they understand the customer experience is not just b/c of waiters but by combined efforts of all the staff. So, they have a policy to pool all the tips, and they distribute it later to all staff members equally.
I was in the process of a divorce. My ex believed our house was going to be foreclosed on (we were a month behind on the mortgage at that point) so in the pre divorce paperwork gave me all the rights to the house. Fine by me. She lived with her mommy at this point, in fact she still does to this day, so I changed all the locks and garage door code. I came home from work one day and my door was broken in and one of my cars was missing. I called the police before going into the house. When we went in the only things that were missing were my very extensive sports card collection the car keys and some gold coins. Nothing was ransacked so I immediately knew it was her. Turns out her and her brother had broken in so the police went to their house. They immediately admitted to it and I could do nothing since her name was on the house, even though I had documents stating she gave up the rights to it. There were a few cards in the collection worth hundreds and one worth over a thousand. According to the police, they were her cards too so I couldn't file a criminal charge against her, only a civil one.
The "Ten Table" story: Op, you know that tip is *for you* If they take *your* tip, you can take actions to prevent that from ever happening again. Also, not surprised that the "church crowd" is horrible; a bunch of selfrightious assholes who all are awesome in every way... 'cause they're a customer at *store*
I was served with the paperwork for a divorce after 30 years of marriage. A little while later, I get a :draft” separation agreement. Just about the only thing in that draft was “Husband has stock options from his employer. Wife agrees that these will probably never have value and therefore she agrees that she will get none of the stock options.” The company had not yet gone public on the Stock Exchange. He had been given the options as part of a signing bonus and then in later years they added stock options in lieu of cash. The company had been on the verge of an IPO for quite a while. Of course this is absolutely insulting. Sure they may never be worth anything but that was unlikely. A few days or a week later I found articles in 2 different business journals with an interview of the CEO. In the interviews the CEO stated that they planned to go public by the next fall (about a year). We ended up going to mediation to divide property and settle alimony. My lawyer said I would do better in mediation than letting a judge decide. It should be noted I am disabled and unable to work. I had been for years. Well,most of mediation was spent on those stock options (they would be worth a lot). He put the options down in the paperwork as “deferred compensation.” Nothing more, no details. At the mediation, he said that they had change the plan and he was getting a lower number of options but refused to give me any of the paperwork on it. Well we spent about 3 hours arguing over it until he capitulated. He finally figured out we wouldnt proceed in the process until the stock options were settled. No discussion of dividing up property or alimony until the options were settled. Well the lawyers finally came up with a number of options I would receive for each of the 5 vesting years. Eventually we moved on. He offered me a very tiny alimony. I got double that. So time moves on and the company finally goes public but they made additional changes to the plan. He couldnt exercise the options for 1 year. The options are in his name and cannot be transferred to me so he has to exercise the shares allocated to me and then transfer the remaining shares or any money to me. This will result in him having to pay additional taxes so there are details listed if the amount of taxes they take out when the shares are exercised is not enough. He has to have his taxes done 2 ways: with my shares exercise and without my shares exercised. If they didnt take out enough then I pay him the difference. So first we have to exercise the options. He gave me all kinds of trouble about doing it and when it was finally done, he refused to give me any of the paperwork so I didnt even know how many shares had been sold for taxes. The only thing I knew was the number of shares he had transferred to me. We it comes time to do 2022 taxes and he sends me an email stating I owe him $4700 for the taxes. I ask for the original brokerage statement and he refuses for a while but eventually gives it to me. As far as “proving” $4700 was the right amount he just sent me a spreadsheet with the amounts the shares were sold for and from that it calculates the taxes by multiplying his figures by the tax rate. This was not an actual tax return. It was just a spreadsheet he said was done by the account. It wasnt. The numbers were all wrong and the amount it said I paid in taxes was different than the amount actually taken out. An accountant wouldnt make that mistake. My ex did the spreadsheet. He doesnt know how taxes are calculated because in the 30 years we were married he never once did the taxes. I did. So I reminded him of the procedure set out in the court order for handling a disagreement on the amount of taxes owed. He categorically refused to do it. He wasnt going to let me see his taxes. So I ignored him. I had no obligation to pay a penny without the tax returns. Well while I was looking at the brockerage statement I noticed something. I had requested he use the “sell to cover” option which means they sell just enough shares to buy the rest and pay taxes. This way you get the most shares you can without having to lay out any money. At the time the shares were transferred to me I vaguely remember thinking that the number was too low but I was overwhelmed with stuff and hadnt gone back to figure it out. Well the number of shares was too low. Instead of “sell to cover” he did “sell to cover + $100K” He had them sell my shares and give HIM $100K in cash. Plus taxes had to be paid on the shares sold so they sold even more shares to pay the taxes. So he had $100K in his bank tax free ( I had paid those taxes). That’s theft by conversion. He converted my shares to cash and kept the cash. It’s also a violation of the court order which lays out very clearly how the exercising of my shares was to be handled. He wouldnt even allow me to sell them all and take the cash. So I sat down and figured out the total he had stolen. $100K shares for the cash and $49K for the shares sold to pay the taxes on the $100K. Plus I eventually sold the shares that had been transferred to me and made a profit. I calculated how much profit I lost of the extra shares he sold so he could keep the cash. It was about $25K. He owes me about $175K. Well the final lump of options became available this winter and he first threatened not to exercise them which would have violated court order but he did eventually exercise my shares but he kept 150 shares that belonged to me, Absolutely refused to transfer all the shares. We argued about it and he said “you are lucky to get anything. These are my shares from my hard work.” Right, while he was off traveling 3 out of 4 weeks I was home with 2 kids doing all the necessary things. In my state its all marital income doesnt matter who it came from and that is divided in a divorce. So my lawyer got to work on producing a “Motion to show cause and Contempt. He will have to appear before the judge in person and will have to pay me back about $200K plus my attorneys fees. He was served a few days ago. But just before we got the motion filed he sent me a letter thru my lawyer threatening me with Contempt for not paying the taxes. I was not in contempt. He was, by refusing to do the proper tax returns. My lawyer added that to the Motion for Contempt. Idiot thought he could bully me. He is in for a surprise. BTW, I’m fairly sure that he divorced me because he found out the company was going IPO and he thought if we divorced he wouldnt have to share the profits.
I have never understood the idea of "spousal support" when it comes to divorces. You're an adult, your spouse is an adult. You're supposed to be able to take care of your self. Your ex should have no obligation to keep feeding you after you are no longer together. Splitting assets makes perfect sense, but that should be it. In my country this is the way it goes. You divorce, you split what you own minus debts and that's it.
Ten Table Section: What the new servers don't understand is the role experience plays in the service industry. Or, well, most industries, actually. I make it a point to make sure anyone I train knows that speed comes with experience, and not to be intimidated or worried if it takes them longer to complete a new task.
People need to understand that marriage is not about love. Oh sure love can be a bonus but marriage is a legal contract and you have be 100% certain you want to enter a legal contract with this person. Love is irrelevant. Just think of how many people you love but would never ever even think of getting into a legal contract with them. The same should be with romantic partners. It doesn't matter if you love or them. What matters is are they are a reliable person to legally get connected to.
This is one of the reasons why shows like 'love is blind' drive me crazy. People claim they want love and marriage not realizing they're two vastly different things.
it is also why i support things like same sex marriage and interracial marriage (which i've heard is something people are trying to fight) and despise underage marriage. marriage is just a legal contract that ensures certain benefits for the couple. and every mentally sound adult, and only adults, should have that privilege.
Love certainly should come into it. It can be hard enough living with people you don't love, such as flatmates. Love is not the only thing to consider but is certainly vital to a good and happy marriage.
First Story: OP's ex's greed 100% screwed her over. I wonder why OP divorced this interesting character in the first place. Comment: So Brother's ex was paranoid that he was going to screw her over only to end up screwing herself over lmao. Karma Second Story: Just because someone has more work doesn’t mean they automatically get more tips. The quality of the work is all that matters Third Story: This manager sounds like a real joy to work with (sarcasm) 🙄. I mean, OP did follow orders and spent the entire shift cleaning lol. He really can’t be mad nor can fire OP
I understand that some people have difficulties when it comes to divorce, but it can't hurt to actually look up what the laws are BEFORE taking your ex to court.
On a side note, my parents got divorced after 17 years of marriage and the only bit that saw the inside of a court were the applications that had to be sent there. They sold the (mortgage-free) house and bought a house each with the proceeds (it was a big house they got when house prices were affordable). They were able to buy a family house each (mortgage-free) and worked out between them how everything would be split. They sent each other birthday and Christmas cards until a few years ago.
If every divorce went the way my parents' did (ie amicably) then the world would be a much better place.
They've both since remarried. My dad has been married for 23 years and my mum 17. Neither of them have had a bad word to say about each other, or their new spouses, in the last 25 years.
@Christopher Pearson I remember the lawyer who tells people that he doesn't want to work, and would rather not do his job. He was doing workers comp claims.
And that is what grown ups who puts their kids well being first do! I am happy for you, youf parents put you first.
@@NickanMexactly. This guys parents obviously just fell out of love, and took their child’s mental and physical health first. Divorces like this are completely natural and often end up leaving both party’s on a good note.
I read years ago that 70% of divorces are settled between the 2 parties, not in court.
I remember one story where the guy talked to a lawyer first and found out that since he was in a no-fault divorce state, even though his wife cheated and was unemployed, she'd get half of everything. So he basically played dumb and flipped the script. He encouraged her to advance her career and become a nurse, which she did. He then volunteered to be a stay-at-home dad to support her career, all while she banged the doctor she worked for. Then once all the dominos were set, he left several searches of things like "how to survive your wife's infidelity" in the family computer's browser history and let the kids take care of the rest. They absolutley loved their father since he was always around, and barely knew their mother since she was at work. So naturally they were furious with their mom and wanted to live with dad. Since he was the primary caregiver he kept the house, and she had to pay him a boatload in alimony. And the funny part is the stress of the divorce made her "less fun" and her doctor dumped her too.
Story 1: Wow, talk about stubborn. She was willing to try to get as much of OP's money as possible, and wasn't willing to take anything else.
Well, jokes on her, OP kept the receipts and won in the end
that's what you get for continuously spoiling and enabling entitled women
Final story: there was an update - he found a new job paying 2x as much! His shitty boss offered a .25 cent hour raise. He declined and is now working for a much better company.
Its Great to hear that
TWENTY FIVE CENTS, THAT'S HILARIOUS
@@NoPersona Yep. Twenty-five cents an hour, no sense yet in his lifetime. Kinda reminds me of Social Security cutting down a forest worth of trees to print notices to people all the time informing them that their SSI payments went up by 3 cents.
This has been covered on other YT channels with the edits and updates. I think I heard it on KCC yesterday, so I was familiar with the fallout. And Rob had a great addition for what OP should do: if there’s a referral bonus/incentive, take as many people away from that old job as possible to the new one and watch that place suffer. Lol.
@@NoPersona Dude. At my old job they thought I’d be happy with the awesome amazing 10-cent raise. I was so glad when I left for my new job that I’ve been at for 10 months now.
Guy: Overpays
Ex: "Not good enough!" Proceeds to court
Court: Makes him pay neccesities.
Ex: Surprised Pikachu Face
Reminds me this morning with a guy who was paying $700/month to her ex and it wasn't good enough for her, so she took him to court and all the guy had to pay was $149.56/month. This made my day
thanks for the summary, i found the story confusing
Is this ex-couple gay?
god, i love stories like this. greed just never works out in the long run
what a fucking shame, she learned to know the law before you try to play stupid games.
Boss: "Looks like you decided to come back and help, huh?"
OP: **Clocks out**
Boss: "You weren't supposed to do that."
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Story 3 (Deep Cleaning): Wow, what an idiot. He basically inconvenienced himself because he thought he was better. Definitely not
Managers on a power trip is a never ending theme on Reddit LOL
It wasn't a particularly satisfying story though. All he did was inconvenience himself for one shift.
He got a new job paying him twice as much and the manager offered him a 25 cent raise and Op basically said “F*** off”
That first story was insane, though it sounded like the court officer was going to end up hurting him more than helping him. Glad to see that I was wrong and OP came out on top. Lol
Courts can only operate by the guidelines of the law (and any relevant precedents if allowable in that jurisdiction). If the law says 40% and only ever 40% then the officer can only issue 40%, no ifs nor buts and definitely no coconuts.
Oh she completely did that on purpose. Tell him to stop supporting his crazy ex, but do it in a tone that the crazy ex won't argue with. It's a great play commonly used in court.
I have no idea how the ex in the first story never got charged with contempt of court.
I know right? Insane that some people are this insane.
Because in these kinds of courts, men against women, the women have a clear advantage. In court cases women can get everything and get away with it too. So that's why
Divorce court is a bit different. Plus they weren't in front of an actual judge apparently.
Woman 🤷
I do
Biases towards women and favoritism
Modern feminism at its finest
the first story is a sweet delicious mix of malicious compliance and pro revenge, sprinkled in is a bit of congratulations you played yourself.
:D
And a nice big dollop of choosing beggar getting put in her place, plopped right on top.
@@HumbleWooper makes for quite a delicious story!
I'm having flashbacks to my divorce. I dealt with so much bs, and took on so much debt because I wanted to clean up my credit. I even paid debts she accumulated after we separated because I knew she never would, but she got my name attached to them. She was a master a avoiding debt collectors. That was one of a million reasons why we were getting divorced.
That sounds like my mother’s situation, my dirtbag dad got her to borrow money (100k) in her name and took it all, i wish you the best
God that sounded so much like my separation. We were never married however had a child together so that had some loops and tension that could possibly throw me under. She knew this and is why we went back to court almost immediately after a damn near perfect 50/50 agreement. She wanted more. And in the end I got more plus primary and now she pays a very small amount of child support.
Hearing the toxic exes get their just desserts is an awesome way to start my birthday. Thank you, rSlash. Give Yugo some pets for me.
He'll yeah
That last story made me remember a co-worker Karen that thought she was hot fuzz when it came to doing jobs that needed to be done.
Back when I was working at a sit-down fast food seafood restaurant, I was busy cleaning trays one day, during a lull in customers coming in, ((read: My job was a basic gopher job --"Go clean the tables", "take out the garbage", "Wash the tables", that sort of thing)) and I was cleaning off trays.
"OP!" She says to me, as I balk and glance at her. "...there you are! I need you to go clean the bathrooms!". At this point, my brain was going "...but, I'm *ALREADY* doing something...", but I didn't say anything.
She must have seen my look, because she snapped at me again. "I *SAID* go clean the bathrooms!". I then looked at her again, as she stalked over to me. "Did {boss} tell you to clean the bathrooms?" I asked, as she huffed. "No! *I* told you to do it!" She snaps back, as she literally pulls me away from what I'm doing, goes over to the small closet where the supplies are, pulls out all the supplies and thrusts them into my arms. She then literally drags me to the bathrooms, and opens the door. She then goes over the instructions and looks me dead in the eyes and says "...AND I want the celing scrubbed, too!" ((no, I'm NOT kidding. Keep that in mind.)).
Cue my sly MC.
So, here I am, scrubbing on my literal hands and knees in the bathrooms for what feels like hours ((while awkwardly apologising to customers as I move out of the bathroom to let them use it)), when guess who come hauling back to the bathrooms.
Yup, Ms. "scrub EVERYTHING in the bathroom" herself.
"OP!" She says, as I glance up from scrubbing the floor, as she puts her hands on her hips and takes an annoyed stance. "...where the heck have you been?! The trays need to be washed and you need to help give out orders to the customers!"
At this point, I'm mentally smirking wickedly, as I glance up from the floor, wipe the sweat from my brows, and say in the most sickly sweet voice I can muster up: "I'm sorry, Karen. I was just SO busy back here trying to get everything clean! You know, LIKE YOU TOLD ME TO DO...".
You can see the wheels in her head turning, as she puts two and two together, as she snaps with "Just...just go clean the trays and hand out the orders! I'll get someone else to clean!".
I may have ticked her off more that day, but after that, she left me alone...
It’s almost hilarious how many divorcees think their ex is being malicious only to find out just how far above and beyond what’s legally required they were really going.
So glad to hear a toxic ex get there just deserves
You mean “their just desserts” right?
I think both would work
@@aboyle524 both work, yes just desserts is the more common version but they're pretty identical in effect
@@Mary_Rose_Uni Only one is the real phrase, the other one doesn't work.
You love some good malicious compliance in the middle of an existential crisis
Wooooo! Thank you for always being so consistent. Coffee and RSlash is my morning routine.
Guys please tell me, AITA?
In my house, my family has a chore rotation. I had laundry yesterday, but I was out most of the day due to activities I couldn't miss. My dad asked my brothers to help me out while I was gone. Apparently, my older brother(OB) who had laundry before me, DIDN'T DO HIS JOB. So I had to catch up the laundry. But again, I was out for most of the day. I didn't get everything caught up, but did as much as I could. Then, this morning, my mom said "Oh there's no WAY she's passing laundry. She failed, YB(younger brother) you can have kitchen today since OP didn't do her job." But my OB didn't do his part, and got no flack for it! My mom keeps glaring at me, and telling me to do my job right, or I'll have it for a week. AITA?
Howdy my fellow longtime-listeners, I hope everyone is ready for the weekend. And to RSlash, I don’t know how you keep up your upload schedule. Even after telling us you were beginning to get burnt out, here you are uploading every day. You’re a total beast! I hope your family has been well too 😊
Prenup, prenup, prenup. Always get a prenup, no matter what. It doesn't mean you don't trust your partner, it means that both of you will be equally taken care of if something happens. If I had a fiance that didn't want a prenup, thats goodbye for me. I'm not risking it just to be taken advantage of later.
W logic
Don't most prenups get thrown out by the courts when it comes to divorces tho?
@@DrDictator I looked it up and it says it's rare for them to get thrown out?
Idk if OP was in a no consent state for recording his ex with a cell phone. That's what he should have done when he was in the lounge when she was harping on him as well as the mediation if that was allowed should have been filmed.
😢😮
The first story was mostly given context in the comments, the guy unfortunately lost the dog to his ex, as she knew that would hurt op the most. They were both in bad situations as children exes dad ended himself and i dont remember abt op anymore but both suffered a lot of trauma.
Yeah, if we're gonna have alimony, it needs to be gender neutral.
Glad to see that there's at least some states where it is.
This gives me the energy to start my day every morning. Thank you, rSlash!
OP has shown that all you need to cancel a subscription and phone plan without running around talking to half a dozen people per plan is a court order.
I've been through it but I got nowhere. I found work as an apprentice in the electrical field when jobs were scarce and this is a great career, $10 an hour for the first 6 months so I showed the judge that I was actually giving 53% of my salary for child support when Nevada law was 18%. This idiot judge ordered me to quit and get a better job immediately to keep paying the triple amount! I had to leave that jurisdiction. Then I get paperwork from the D.A. family support saying I'm $8,000+ behind which I said was crazy wrong! In court I pulled the receipts and cancelled checks (could have brought more but much of my stuff was in another state but I showed she was lying as I had over $5,000 in proof, that's felony level attempted theft. She even said "that's my ID and signature but I don't remember getting those so HE SHOULD HAVE TO PAY ME AGAIN! WTF? She got no punishment and I had to pay the difference, about $3,000 which I kept paying extra each month. I then got more paperwork that says I owe $18,000 + so I showed the D.A. she was asking for the same months! They acted surprised and said they will expose this on the 15th (next court). You can guess what happened... maybe. I got a letter on the 14th saying I missed court and they are working with her to correct the amount but they didn't even retype the paperwork, just drew a line through the 15th, wrote 12th next to it and said I was not in court!
My heart goes out to this guy, who has to deal with such an evil harlot.
your story illustrates the importance of staying calm and having a plan during stressful times. The decision to switch to email communication to create a paper trail was also a smart strategy. This not only helped you avoid unnecessary arguments but also provided a clear "record" when needed in court.
Good morning Dabney. Hope your family and pupper are well. And I love stories where the light bulb just never goes off.
I hope that everyone is having a good Friday!
You too!
You as well!
You too. I got a haircut and am going to a concert later. I hope you are doing something nice as well!
Today's going to be a great Friday, im having a sleepover with a friend
It's Saturday for me, mate.
11:55 Of course she can't claim anything. Inheritance is not seen as a shared asset and is not divided with the partner or ex, except in some specific situations where the money was treated as a common asset, placed in the joint account and used by both parties on a regular basis.
Hehehe. The first story brings back warm memories of my brother's divorce. My Karen of an ex-SIL made the process so entertaining. She switched attorneys after the first one didn't tell her what she wanted to hear. The second behaved almost like Eric Cartman. The legal documents that my brother's attorney would pass on had Post-it Notes with humorous and snide comments like "Some more Entertainment" on them. They read one to me while I was out of town in Chicago and I ended up rolling on the ground in the middle of the street laughing hysterically (I was drunk). Ultimately my ex-SIL screwed herself over as well. My brother just had to pay his legal fees which the attorney discounted because of all the ass-hattery my ex-SIL pulled. She ended up paying about 6 times that amount.
0:41 I fail to how anyone could be biased TOWARDS her is she acts like that all the time
Just for anyone thinking of doing what that last story did-make sure you aren’t in an at will state before doing so. In Arizona, which is an at will state, employers can dismiss you for any reason (except for protected classes) or no reason at all. If you do that there, they can reach out the next day and say “we don’t think you’re a good fit for the position. We’d like you to never come back.” And there really isn’t any legal leg to stand on.
they can't fire you for retaliation reasons, and you'd have the burden of getting proof, but yeah, its just a great law we allowed to go through isn't it? fuck i hate that law
Granted, when it pays 8 bucks an hour, you probably don't want the job anyway. OP also said he was 20 with no bills to pay, which I take to mean he's still living with his parents (or some other relatives), and possibly going to college and the job is a side thing to build up a little money/experience.
Here a company can let somebody go for no reason, but they have to pay mandated severance or more.
Oh i loved this story, of the ex getting what she deserved!!! It's sweet sweet justice!!!!
Bussers and dishwashers will make or break a restaurant's operations. Can't serve food if you don't have clean plates and cutlery, can't sit new customers if the previous customers tables are dirty and full of plates.
A man with nothing to lose is one of the most dangerous things. In the world.
I preferred the small sections when I was a server, and my coworkers would laugh at me when I'd ask for it. But by the end of the night they weren't laughing when I made more than them, the ability to give good service equals better tips and I knew I could handle less people more easily.
Take what is initially offered and not what you Think you’re entitled to…
Unless you’re the victim of infidelity. In that situation, take EVERYTHING, and say it’s the least they can do since you were Enough for them…
I mean, first story good on OP letting his wife hang herself on the rope she brought but I'm just wondering how she tricked OP into tying the knot with her. I feel like she was a few steps away from physical abuse, if not already there with how nasty she was in trying to hurt him emotionally and financially.
well, there are a few scenarios off the top of my head for how that happened. most of them are based on maybe they just weren't together that long, like they got married within a year of meeting each other. hiding your true self for such a short amount of time is not that hard if you know that you'll get a big reward at the end of it. or maybe she got worse as time went on. how long was their marriage anyway? i don't think it was said, some people get really mean as they get older or their personalities change. did OP say why he wanted a divorce, maybe the wife was a good person but became mean because of the divorce, the post did say she doesn't want to divorce OP. anyway, there are lots of reasons why they'd get married only for her to turn out this mean.
Physical abuse? That's a massive call.
First story is a golden example of killing a goose that lays golden eggs because you wanted more now only to regret it
"I guess you're writing what I'm saying so you can make your friends hate me" So you admit you're a terrible person and saying terrible things? Good to know.
This is why I refuse to get married, and remain single. I had an unsavory experience with an ex fiance years ago. Long story short she lied to county officials that I physically abused her, when in fact all I did was call off the engagement and left her. I ended up taking a plea deal cause I done dealing with her nonsense. I ended up having to serve probation for 18 months, and had to take an anger resolution class which costed me thousands. (Not including the monthly probation fee) As far as I'm concerned she can stay far tf away from me, and never speak to me ever again.
Wow, some people are just too crazy, they're willing to lose two birds in their hands, for a fake one in somebody's lawn!
I worked at Denny's and on my first Sunday, we were short staffed. I had eighteen tables seated at the same time. Tracey would just keep seating them. I almost folded. One table alone ordered five shakes. I had to make them. The church ladies were so sweet. My manager and I kept them in coffee and decaf and they were cool. I made bank. I still have dreams/nightmares about this.
Dude you are so consistent that it's actually scary
Its automatic uploads lol, he’s prolly got these pre recorded and ready on a upload schedule months in advance. He’s also read that first story in another video before so about half of this entire vid is a repeat story.
@@bo_g4284 He needs to come up with a better system to know what he has covered before.
second story: A while back, in the UK, A guy was ordered by Courts to share his lottery winnings with his ex-wife. They had been divorced for longer than they were married when he won the lotto.
The last story. with the description of what actually was his job. He's a busser and should be getting a % of the tips. Hopefully he found a new job
These divorce stories are insane to me as a Danish person. A woman is not entitled to anything but half of both of your assets and after that, nothing. No alimony, it doesn't exist here. If she's not working, she'd better start to then. If there are kids in the picture the woman only gets child support if she is the primary caregiver ie. they live with her and not the father. If it's split custody, forget about it.
As an American, I will whole heartily admit that it is stupid here. Yours sounds fair
"true, I am going to live simple and cheap, but that's not your right to take more money from me"
I recently saw a story from a Reditor called Bnnuy-Dad44 that went absolutely scorched earth on his insane wife during the divorce. I mean he seemed to plan for everything. Including having cameras everywhere in the house and living in an at fault state. So his wife lost a LOT in the divorce and even got arrested once for attempting to frame her husband
....all you young guys out there, who have any romantic notions left from a typical American upbringing, please play close attention to this guy in the video! And ask yourself if you are prepared to face this future of, the second you get ahead in life accumulating money and property - then HAVE TO GIVE IT ALL AWAY, TO SOME HATEFUL WOMAN YOU USED TO BE IN LOVE WITH but made the fatal mistake of marrying!
so if you divorce someone in the uk they can get half of assets you don't have yet? That seems ridiculous.
No, not at all
I actually am connecting with a lot of people on my campus with R/slash, so seeing a new makes me happy!
Note to self: Don't ever get married.
Thanks for saving my future, rSlash.
Also note: don't ever become a server.
My brother got a divorce and offered his ex way more than she should get. He wanted to make sure she would be ok.
She decided to take him to court for more.
During the case the judge found she was lying on her paper work, made false tax claims, falsely claimed her mother as a dependent, and multiple other issues.
The judge awarded her the bare minimum before saying "By the way, the IRS will be contacting you soon about those tax forms."
Wow, all this stories about divorce makes me never want to get married. My mother and what I consider to be my Step Dad has been together for 10 years now, and they aren't married but that make it seem that marriage doesnt just decide if your family or not. It's your how you treat each other.
Those few few stories make me concerned about marriage. The last story confirms why certain restaurants "can't find workers"
Waitress one was a little sad honestly. When the switched tables OP did not give them more work than she does, she let them do exactly what she does and they couldn't handle it.
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Surely committing perjury should get a charge?
Rslash !!!!! how's Ugo doing???? there hasn't been any puppy bloopers lately!!!!
Wait wait wait, what??
How would the ex of story 2 ever get money that OP had inherited AFTER their divorce. That's insane.
Story 1 and 2 : if both OP ex actually knew the law, they would have won for sure and the fact that both OP was be nice to their ex but both ex want more money and got greet and it literally cost them everything and Story 3: the fact OP and his boss let the new employee work his shift I love it and last story: there alway that one manager who think they better then anyone and be surprised when people stop list to them
Story 3 : when you should abide by the rule of " know your role and shut your mouth ".. It's fun to make bigmouths look dumb..
Its crazy in the first story how guys are fed in difforce settlements if they dont keep check on money and stuf.
First story. How did the crazy wife end up with the dogs? If i were a judge on this, I'd worry someone who derails court and mediator meetings and can't seem to accept anything but total surrender from her spouse would harm the dogs out of spite if she got to keep them
That first story is exactly why you should stay single and not have kids
Not bragging but 10 tables!! Where I work, the smallest section is 10 tables and we give that section to new hires lol
I take on 30+ tables at one time each day I work. Sunday's are upwards to 50 tables at one time. There's been nights that I've had two sections at once, which can seat 200 people.
My point is, these people are sweating 10 tables! And their other sections only have 4 tables!!! I'm just in shock lol
Story 1... Why the hell did you marry this broad in the first place? That kind of crazy doesn't come on suddenly lol
1st story, the ex sounds like judith from Two and a half men.
"Oh my God, even NETFLIX?!" I more than giggled at that!
I'm amazed at the number of people on both sides of the support coin (spouse or child) that get greedy and demand a hearing to get their fair share... and then get upset and want to appeal because the other person had been being reasonable. My exhusband had a brief 6 month stint with the FOC after he refused my negotiation for child support. He was convinced I was trying to screw him over- that was fun for my petty side because I'd had my lawyer calculate the support recommendation from the FOC's own guidelines and support recommendations. Some how though they still wanted him to pay more then I'd offered and even when he went offseason for his seasonal job was still taking the full child support amount. I did wait until he asked in the nicest way to suggest we go back to paying support between us and remove the FOC (you have to file paperwork for this to happen) mostly after that he did pay his child support and when his funds were short I worked with him because you know "kid's father".
For story 1- I don’t understand why one person needs to pay another anything ongoing, after a divorce. (Other than child support, that one’s obvious) Like, women can get jobs, why is the man responsible for his ex? They’re not a family anymore and he owes her nothing. Alimony sounds like the most absurd thing. Many ages ago, when women weren’t allowed to have jobs, sure…it kinda sorta makes sense (even then, why is someone that’s no longer family your duty???) but these days, women can make as much money as they want. Divorce should mean both people go their separate ways and move on as adults, both covering their own finances
Why the heck does he need to pay HER car payment?
@@Arob4343 There are many (legitimate) reasons why people co-sign loans. Co-signing increases available income, allows you to apply your co-signer's credit so you may end up getting a much better interest rate, and even may allow you to qualify for the loan to begin with.
His name was on the loan. A bank does not care if you get divorced. the name that is on the loan are the people responsible as they signed the legal contract. This is the same for a house or any other legal contract. You're relationship is irrelevant, the fact you signed on the line makes you liable.
in story 1, if he did not pay the loan it would go unpaid. Since that is on his name as well his credit report would show all these unpaid payments and the effect of that would be to drastically reduce his credit score and have to take ALL the consequences that comes with having a low credit score; higher interest rates, unable to get financing, being rejected from renting apartments or even being turned down for a job being just a few possible consequences of having his score drastically lowered.
So to prevent this he paid the loan. It is possible to have a court order demand piece of joint property either be refinanced or sold. In fact that is what it means when someone 'gets the house' in the divorce, the person taking the property is obligated by the court to refinance it in their own name only or to sell the property and split the proceeds... oh, and in the case of an asset any equity of that property should be split 50/50 between the parties. (in a no-fault situation)
The other part to mention with him is that they are separated, not divorced. The law is different here; when the divorce goes through all assets like cars and houses will have to come to the table and be divided up among the parties (assuming a no-fault divorce that means a 50-50 split.) so at that point she could be ordered by the court to refinance the vehicle in her name only, and if she cannot then she must sell the vehicle and split the proceeds with him in an equitable distribution as determined by the court.
Narcissistic people in divorces always project what they would do in your shoes and fights a fight that wasn't even there to begin with. This fight ends up with them in even more debt than they were to begin with, paying lawyer fees and even more, and potentially dragging every single person they can in with them. It's the most tiring thing to watch and be dragged into, as the oldest child in a family with two parents going through divorce (my father is the one dragging it out for so long). My heart goes out to people also struggling with stubborn divorces, both the divorcees and the children dragged into it.
Just because Reddit highlights these feel-good divorce stories doesn't mean it's the norm. These are the craziest women that are being denied. When it comes to normal negotiations, the husband gets screwed 90% of the time.
Abt the last story, In India we have a restaurant chain called "Indian Coffe House" they understand the customer experience is not just b/c of waiters but by combined efforts of all the staff. So, they have a policy to pool all the tips, and they distribute it later to all staff members equally.
Wait, mediators can just quit like that? You have to be a real jerk to make a mediator quit like that lol
8:00 Marry in haste. Repent at leisure.
I was in the process of a divorce. My ex believed our house was going to be foreclosed on (we were a month behind on the mortgage at that point) so in the pre divorce paperwork gave me all the rights to the house. Fine by me. She lived with her mommy at this point, in fact she still does to this day, so I changed all the locks and garage door code. I came home from work one day and my door was broken in and one of my cars was missing. I called the police before going into the house. When we went in the only things that were missing were my very extensive sports card collection the car keys and some gold coins. Nothing was ransacked so I immediately knew it was her. Turns out her and her brother had broken in so the police went to their house. They immediately admitted to it and I could do nothing since her name was on the house, even though I had documents stating she gave up the rights to it. There were a few cards in the collection worth hundreds and one worth over a thousand. According to the police, they were her cards too so I couldn't file a criminal charge against her, only a civil one.
Spoiler alert: an AI wrote this
The "Ten Table" story: Op, you know that tip is *for you*
If they take *your* tip, you can take actions to prevent that from ever happening again.
Also, not surprised that the "church crowd" is horrible; a bunch of selfrightious assholes who all are awesome in every way... 'cause they're a customer at *store*
I was served with the paperwork for a divorce after 30 years of marriage.
A little while later, I get a :draft” separation agreement. Just about the only thing in that draft was “Husband has stock options from his employer. Wife agrees that these will probably never have value and therefore she agrees that she will get none of the stock options.”
The company had not yet gone public on the Stock Exchange. He had been given the options as part of a signing bonus and then in later years they added stock options in lieu of cash. The company had been on the verge of an IPO for quite a while.
Of course this is absolutely insulting. Sure they may never be worth anything but that was unlikely. A few days or a week later I found articles in 2 different business journals with an interview of the CEO. In the interviews the CEO stated that they planned to go public by the next fall (about a year).
We ended up going to mediation to divide property and settle alimony. My lawyer said I would do better in mediation than letting a judge decide.
It should be noted I am disabled and unable to work. I had been for years.
Well,most of mediation was spent on those stock options (they would be worth a lot). He put the options down in the paperwork as “deferred compensation.” Nothing more, no details. At the mediation, he said that they had change the plan and he was getting a lower number of options but refused to give me any of the paperwork on it. Well we spent about 3 hours arguing over it until he capitulated. He finally figured out we wouldnt proceed in the process until the stock options were settled. No discussion of dividing up property or alimony until the options were settled.
Well the lawyers finally came up with a number of options I would receive for each of the 5 vesting years. Eventually we moved on. He offered me a very tiny alimony. I got double that.
So time moves on and the company finally goes public but they made additional changes to the plan. He couldnt exercise the options for 1 year. The options are in his name and cannot be transferred to me so he has to exercise the shares allocated to me and then transfer the remaining shares or any money to me. This will result in him having to pay additional taxes so there are details listed if the amount of taxes they take out when the shares are exercised is not enough. He has to have his taxes done 2 ways: with my shares exercise and without my shares exercised. If they didnt take out enough then I pay him the difference.
So first we have to exercise the options. He gave me all kinds of trouble about doing it and when it was finally done, he refused to give me any of the paperwork so I didnt even know how many shares had been sold for taxes. The only thing I knew was the number of shares he had transferred to me.
We it comes time to do 2022 taxes and he sends me an email stating I owe him $4700 for the taxes. I ask for the original brokerage statement and he refuses for a while but eventually gives it to me. As far as “proving” $4700 was the right amount he just sent me a spreadsheet with the amounts the shares were sold for and from that it calculates the taxes by multiplying his figures by the tax rate. This was not an actual tax return. It was just a spreadsheet he said was done by the account. It wasnt. The numbers were all wrong and the amount it said I paid in taxes was different than the amount actually taken out. An accountant wouldnt make that mistake. My ex did the spreadsheet. He doesnt know how taxes are calculated because in the 30 years we were married he never once did the taxes. I did.
So I reminded him of the procedure set out in the court order for handling a disagreement on the amount of taxes owed. He categorically refused to do it. He wasnt going to let me see his taxes.
So I ignored him. I had no obligation to pay a penny without the tax returns.
Well while I was looking at the brockerage statement I noticed something.
I had requested he use the “sell to cover” option which means they sell just enough shares to buy the rest and pay taxes. This way you get the most shares you can without having to lay out any money.
At the time the shares were transferred to me I vaguely remember thinking that the number was too low but I was overwhelmed with stuff and hadnt gone back to figure it out.
Well the number of shares was too low.
Instead of “sell to cover” he did “sell to cover + $100K” He had them sell my shares and give HIM $100K in cash. Plus taxes had to be paid on the shares sold so they sold even more shares to pay the taxes.
So he had $100K in his bank tax free ( I had paid those taxes).
That’s theft by conversion. He converted my shares to cash and kept the cash. It’s also a violation of the court order which lays out very clearly how the exercising of my shares was to be handled. He wouldnt even allow me to sell them all and take the cash.
So I sat down and figured out the total he had stolen. $100K shares for the cash and $49K for the shares sold to pay the taxes on the $100K. Plus I eventually sold the shares that had been transferred to me and made a profit. I calculated how much profit I lost of the extra shares he sold so he could keep the cash. It was about $25K. He owes me about $175K.
Well the final lump of options became available this winter and he first threatened not to exercise them which would have violated court order but he did eventually exercise my shares but he kept 150 shares that belonged to me, Absolutely refused to transfer all the shares.
We argued about it and he said “you are lucky to get anything. These are my shares from my hard work.” Right, while he was off traveling 3 out of 4 weeks I was home with 2 kids doing all the necessary things. In my state its all marital income doesnt matter who it came from and that is divided in a divorce.
So my lawyer got to work on producing a “Motion to show cause and Contempt. He will have to appear before the judge in person and will have to pay me back about $200K plus my attorneys fees. He was served a few days ago.
But just before we got the motion filed he sent me a letter thru my lawyer threatening me with Contempt for not paying the taxes. I was not in contempt. He was, by refusing to do the proper tax returns. My lawyer added that to the Motion for Contempt. Idiot thought he could bully me. He is in for a surprise.
BTW, I’m fairly sure that he divorced me because he found out the company was going IPO and he thought if we divorced he wouldnt have to share the profits.
I have never understood the idea of "spousal support" when it comes to divorces. You're an adult, your spouse is an adult. You're supposed to be able to take care of your self. Your ex should have no obligation to keep feeding you after you are no longer together. Splitting assets makes perfect sense, but that should be it.
In my country this is the way it goes. You divorce, you split what you own minus debts and that's it.
That last story was a chef's kiss!
Simply beautiful malicious compliance
It was so satisfying to hear that he basically told his entitled kid “you don’t need me ok bye bye” and goes off and lives a even better life.
The just following orders has updates but got taken down by the mods
Story 3 was read already, i distinctly remember this story , rslash commented , we just want more money for doing less work
Do guys get ripped off this often in divorce court?
The idea of this woman being suprised and sending "OMG EVEN NETFLIX" has me laughing.
It's weird reading along and seeing Rslash skip segments of a post. I wouldn't even say they're irrelevant details.
Ten Table Section: What the new servers don't understand is the role experience plays in the service industry. Or, well, most industries, actually. I make it a point to make sure anyone I train knows that speed comes with experience, and not to be intimidated or worried if it takes them longer to complete a new task.
I love that the "fair share" and "unbiased" divorce is that the lazy manipulator who contributed nothing gets half of everything and a payday.
the first 2 stories is why i'll never get married
I bet these judges really thank the pandemic for virtual options in court cases. They get to simply hang up on the defendants that act unruly 😂
The final deep cleaning story was a repeat. I'll try to find the video where Rslash read it previously...
Rslash from Ohio 💀
stories are perfect example how one-sided it is in the u.s. against men that comes to divorce as regards what happens
People need to understand that marriage is not about love. Oh sure love can be a bonus but marriage is a legal contract and you have be 100% certain you want to enter a legal contract with this person. Love is irrelevant. Just think of how many people you love but would never ever even think of getting into a legal contract with them. The same should be with romantic partners. It doesn't matter if you love or them. What matters is are they are a reliable person to legally get connected to.
This is one of the reasons why shows like 'love is blind' drive me crazy. People claim they want love and marriage not realizing they're two vastly different things.
it is also why i support things like same sex marriage and interracial marriage (which i've heard is something people are trying to fight) and despise underage marriage. marriage is just a legal contract that ensures certain benefits for the couple. and every mentally sound adult, and only adults, should have that privilege.
Love certainly should come into it. It can be hard enough living with people you don't love, such as flatmates. Love is not the only thing to consider but is certainly vital to a good and happy marriage.
First Story: OP's ex's greed 100% screwed her over. I wonder why OP divorced this interesting character in the first place.
Comment: So Brother's ex was paranoid that he was going to screw her over only to end up screwing herself over lmao. Karma
Second Story: Just because someone has more work doesn’t mean they automatically get more tips. The quality of the work is all that matters
Third Story: This manager sounds like a real joy to work with (sarcasm) 🙄. I mean, OP did follow orders and spent the entire shift cleaning lol. He really can’t be mad nor can fire OP
These are perfect examples of why you should never get married. Going through all these situations is simply not worth it.