In this video I wanted to see how long it would ACTUALLY take me to get every room in the house tidy at the same time. It proved to be a lot harder than I expected!
I'm so glad to have finally found a cleaning channel with someone who has a normal sized house, a normal job and realistic house messes! Everything about your channel is so relatable and you're going to just keep growing!
Wow; I don’t even know where to begin to describe how amazing you are. You are the Mother Teresa of struggling house cleaners, depressed souls, those who beat ourselves up, judge our failings and all who are barely hanging on by the skin of our teeth! Thank you for your kindness, gentle words of support, acceptance, and love. I wish you were my next-door-neighbor. You seem like the best of best friends. I recently found your channel and have been so inspired. Please keep sharing your gift and uplifting the world. You are an angel!!!♥️♥️♥️
I am one of those clean people who haven't been blessed with a husband or kids yet. I want to thank you for explaining how your mind works, how the mess is made, and taking time for self care. I was mostly judgemental of people who couldn't keep a clean house, but you have changed my perspective. I like how you said you wouldn't look back on your life and think I wish I would've cleaned more. I just found your channel and watched all of your videos. I can't get enough of your voice. Thank you for helping me understand, and it makes me want to help the moms in my life. Cleaning videos relax me and you've helped me so much.
You’re a lovely person, thank you for being understanding and wanting to see things through the eyes of others. I’m sure with these qualities you will make a great partner/parent one day (should you choose to go down that path) ❤️
I really have to thank you for mentioning menopause and how bloody difficult life can be during and after menopsuse. I've found myself unable to work, unable to function properly. It really helps to hear a young woman who understands....thank you so much...xxxx
Im a home educating Mum of four with one at school, a husband, and a dog, and I'm crying listening to you here. I've never felt so understood. Im trying my hardest every day. It's never all tidy at once, theres always a million more jobs, but I dont want to miss my life cleaning, I want to live ❤
Ā friend came over the other day and I was excusing the mess, when my friend said, 'I think it's lovely, it looks lived in.' I needed to hear that so much.
You owe no explanation about your family or your house but I enjoyed listening to you. You are so articulate and well spoken, and I wish you well. You're doing what you can and that counts.
I appreciate you, Remi. When I was a young mother,I made the mistake of choosing to try and keep a clean home over spending time with my youngest son. Now my youngest is almost 27 years old, on his own, living in New York, having his own life, and it really hit me hard when you said that you cherished quality time with your boys over cleaning. I wished I had let those dirty dishes in the sink wait when he was calling out to me to play with him. If given a chance to do it all over again, I would choose sword fights with my youngest over folding clean laundry. Time is fleeting, Remi. Always choose time with your boys over anything else in the world. ❤❤❤❤
I'm in tears as I near the end of this video. So much truth, transparency, and heart + cleaning motivation all wrapped into one. Thank you so much for this blessing and what feels like a therapy session lol Praying you and your precious family are blessed beyond measure. ❤
Remi, you are an amazing young lady, and an awesome mom. I am now a grandma living with regrets because I didn’t know how to have fun with my babies. Order and a tidy house were priority, and you’re right, we can’t do it all, so it was my kids that didn’t get the attention they so rightly deserved. I wish I understood myself the way you understand yourself, and accept yourself. What a blessing you are to so many people.
I think that you are a super mum, as I live alone with my dog, am 66 years young, and just can not get motivated to do any cleaning! You have all your life on your plate, yet you get so much done. I really think that you are incredible, and I take my hat off to you! xxx
Hi. Having fibromaylgia stope me from being able to clean everyday. I do all the cleaning. My husband and teens never help me but complain when the place is messy. It causes me to get depressed 😔. Trying to get motivated today. Your doing an amazing job.
I know how that feels. Like I'm the only one who cleans. No one wants a dirty house but they also don't want to clean it. I feel like I'm going in circles
I have fibromyalgia as well. Chronic fatigue is my worst symptom/condition. I have had the condition most of my life. Since I was about 10-15 started slowly developing it. It has become increasingly worse as time have progressed. I am not able to work. I couldn’t walk for many months, nearing a year. I am doing a lot of self care and gentle stuff with myself because I’ve learned that is what is going to “cure” me. The medical world will fail me because it’s all about wellness and they don’t work that way. It’s taking a lot of gentle work and just caring for myself and I’m feeling a bit better the last few months. I found EFT tapping a great tool. I am painting. I am just trying to find things for me. I love to clean but I have to really pace myself and I find techniques that are quick and easy but again gentle in terms of their impact on my family/me/my home chemically. I just want to say I hope you can find peace and happiness in small corners of your existence. It will truly make all the difference. The people in your life who don’t understand and make demands can just live with it. You’re doing the best you can and you’re doing great! ❤
Thank you for being my cleaning buddy this week. Both my husband and myself suffer with chronic pain & mental health problems and it's been a particularly bad few months for us. I've had your videos, and a few other creators, playing whilst I've finally taken care of some much neglected parts of the house. From thousands of km's away here in South Australia you have brought some comfort and motivation 😊
I grew up in a home where my mother had to have everything tidy, clean and in order 24/7. As a now 32 year old, I can tell you it did more damage than good having an obsessively clean mom. Mess is alright.
I couldn’t have said it better! Word for Word!! From a young woman to now an old woman! I applaud you , honesty! I had no children and did have a dishwasher & a clothes dryer ! It still was a drudgery!! Your channel doesn’t only motivate, but remind me it’s ok I’m unable to physically do what I did anymore! My epitaph will not have memories of how clean my floors were! Lol Much luv , ♥️✝️🇺🇸 Ps- you should consider writing!
Sadly, any form of social media attracts people who thrive on tearing other people down. I really hope you don't let it get you down. You are wonderfully and beautifully AUTHENTIC❤ Which is a very rare quality to see. Keep doing you, and please don't dim your light for anyone🙏
Remi you are the absolute best! You have really inspired me AND my 11yo daughter. We are working slowly through the house to organize every closet and cabinet. We missed your videos so much and have been praying for you and your family. God bless you and your efforts! Please never give up because we need you and that amazingly positive and REALISTIC attitude.
Remi, if no one haven't told it to you today, you're awesome! You're a star! You're a great motivation to us all. And this is the comment that doesn't need to be answered 😀 Just know that we love you!
I’m married single with a house and yard to take care of. I regularly got comments from outsiders about my house and yard. No one ever noticed that when the yard was mowed and clean and the house was untidy, and when the house was clean, the yard needed attention. All of the work fell to me and here you are, working your buns off, and recognising others and their struggles. You are very sweet, you’re one of my favorite people, I wish we were neighbours. Don’t listen to anyone but yourself. Others are too judgmental, there’s a special hell for those people. You are fabulous. P.S. your lawn looks great! Your grass looks do green and so thick
I’m the same way with my kids. They spend hours making pretend worlds and those worlds stayed where they were for days, until they were done. We picked the toys and soon, more worlds were built. Your only young for a minute, in the grand scheme, let the kids have fun
I was thrilled when I saw a full length video this morning. I sat down, had a cuppa and enjoyed every minute of it. I wish you had more time to create these, but you make such great decisions when it comes to house, kids and Charlie...I understand. Definitely would love to see you tackle the decluttering series. Take care of you and thank you for all the effort you put in...everywhere!
Your channel is so relatable Remi. I ve always felt like I’m lazy and unmotivated because I can’t keep a perfect house. I have now learnt to relax with it and as long as the kids are happy and fed that is the most important thing. Your channel is motivating and actually makes me want to get up and clean. anyway thanks is what I’m saying ❤ thanks for being you. Definitely keen for a decluttering series!
Remi I don't know exactly why, but the last few minutes of this video brought me to tears. Maybe it's because I am one of those married single parents. I am home all day with my four children and I do ALL of the work around the house. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, trying to be the best mom I can be, homeschooling, yard work...everything! By 7 PM I just want to be left alone and not bothered with anything or anyone. I'm irritable and my husband and kids get the worst side of me. It's tiring trying to do everything by yourself!
If you'd be the perfectly ripe, sweetest and juiciest peach on the planet, there would always be people that simply don't like peaches. I only hope you read more positive comments on your channel than negative ones, after all the hard work you do and the inspiring, honest and impressive narration you add here. ❤
I’ll never have a perfect home because that’s just not how I am. I have fibromyalgia and arthritis, a crumbling spine and need two new knees but I try my best. I do what I can when I can and those that don’t like it can do one. I loved every second of this, Remi. You did really, really well but you do you, Love and that’s more than enough. I love you, Honey.xxxxx
Remi, you are an awesome mom! You have it more together than you believe! There is so much to learn from you! Keep on living your life. You are such an inspiration!
The time with small children is temporary. I’m a single parent with 2 boys and I wish I had known that getting rid of clutter would have helped. Tidy house or not, you have got your head screwed on lass, a wonderful empathetic look at the world, and your kids will be lovely human beings too, that’s the most important thing❤
I usually don't like hearing people talk all through your cleaning videos but I love listening to you. You're so positive, anyone can complain about their life but you seem to have a lot of gratitude with your life. Also the pizzas are a good idea
Oh Remi...what a joy you are. You do work so hard, I too have issues with my mind making decisions and staying motivated with the mundane day tasks. I am in my 60s and actually enjoyed tidying up after my boys when they were young as yours are. It meant they had enjoyed their time. Thank you for your nice and caring attitude. Have you ever thought about being a social worker or psychologist? You have the sense and ability to be an amazing one. I so enjoy your videos. Stay who you are, don't let other people change you. I love you. I am so proud of you. Thank you for who you are. Love your family.
I had 3 kids in 3 years, and during those first few years, I remember thinking cleaning with small children was like trying to brush my teeth while eating Oreos. You're doing great mama! Focus on what is important- those sweet children =)
I have PTSD, depression and anxiety disorder. Cleaning is massively difficult for me, but I'm listening to your videos while cleaning, because it's encouraging. Thank you for posting!
Ima much older lady and😢my kids are grow up. Life gets in the way and keeping a tidy home isn't easy. My difficulty relates to a disability and extreme tiredness. Keep trying Remy, you do amazing and I greatly admire your endless endeavour for a clean home.
This is awesome. Made me laugh when you said "take a seat, get a drink" like I'm not cleaning along with you! It's like having a friend to be fed up with! Feels like I've found my soul's sister having you cleaning and chatting along with me while I am trying to get my shit together too! 😂😅
Have you tried any of the 5x5 secret slob videos? I swear by her 25 minutes 5x5 min timer video with music. Great to get things not perfect but looking better and live-able!
Hi Remi. To follow on my rant. I can tell you that the priority you put on Charlie and your children is the important part of your balanced approach to life. And your message of acceptance to all of us who struggle to maintain an acceptable home is priceless. Your willingness to expose your home space and imperfections makes you so incredibly relatable. Keep up the good work!! I admire you and you inspire me. Thankyou so much.
Instead of folding things, my daughter has bins labeled with different clothes. Instead of folding, I hang everything I can. I just find folding so unhelpful. Loving your videos!! Dishes and laundry just never end. But how wonderful we have families to love and feed. Thanks for keeping me company 😊
You should consider writing a self help book. You have a very clear, thoughtful, smart way of relating. It's a gift. Thank for sharing your life with us.
I love love love your videos. I struggle with ADHD and depression because I don't allow myself to grieve. Your words are so heartfelt and I feel like I'm seen and understood. I always had that little voice in my head saying, "You're a failure and a bad wife and mother," because no one in my life understands what it means to live with executive disfunction. I'm a smart woman with a big heart, but that doesn't matter because I can't manage the housework. It seems that's the only thing that matters. If you can't clean your house well enough, you're worthless. But your content shows me that I am not alone. I really want to tidy up my apartment in a tolerable state but it's so hard working full time, taking care of my elderly neighbor and having time for family and friends. Sorry for my English, I'm from Germany. I bless you for your realistic content and encouragement.
You are amazing, Mommy. When your little ones are more grown, it will be easier but honestly, the little things that bother you now won't matter. You'll never think about the dishes in the sink or the unfolded laundry. All you are going to remember is how fast they grew up and the happy times cuddling and counting toes. I love your encouraging remarks.
If you actually do get the kind of comments you referenced in this video (and I am not for a moment doubting your veracity), I am appalled that anyone would have the gall to offer advice, assessment or criticism of anyone else's home life. There is very little as personal, private and subjective as managing one's life, home and (if applicable) family. Those rude commenters must have nothing better to do than convince themselves that they have superior standards and abilities along with the right to take a holier than thou attitude with other people. I don't think I could ever be a RUclips creator if for no other reason than I am very thin skinned when offended, and find it almost impossible to ignore, forgive or forget when I feel wronged or insulted. You keep right on doing what you do, exactly the way you do it, as it is very inspirational to see a realistic looking, sounding, living person who is struggling to make it all work.
Remi, You have encouraged me via your videos. I just started to clean up faster and changed my strategies and just did what I could. Either a goal of a certain tasks by category (clothes, windows, dusting) or by time chunks. I used to do it by room which takes longer. Sometimes I watch you video before I get started to get me motivated. I’m 59 years old, and I struggle to keep a tidy house. So you’re not alone in this world I haven’t watch this video yet but since it was posted an hour ago, I hope you read it. Keep up the good work with your videos and sharing this vulnerability. I know you’ll grow from this experience! Much love from the 🇺🇸 ❤️ In Chicago, Illinois
You made a very good point, maintaining a home is a lot of work every single day. It’s so important that you find that balance to rest, play with your children, time with family, etc and at 64 I’m still learning that. No one ever lays on their deathbed wishing they’d cleaned more, they wish they had spent more time with family, friends and just doing better. I love that you are so real and motivational even if you might not realize it.
I literally cried at this video. You said everything I needed to hear this week. I had a rough month and the house got completely out of control. No kids but a bird pet is just as messy in my opinion. Telling me that it's okay to be messy and to live in my home. To not care what others say and to just to what I can. Thank you. Thank you for these videos and your constant affirmations. You are a true inspiration.
"How comes this things come so easily to everybody else?" One sentence that followed me my whole life, in almost every aspect of it. I do feel sometimes understood and assured in other adhd communities. But never to the point as with your videos. Never have I had so often tears in my eyes as when I see your videos and hear your thoughts. Because I have never saw someone be so raw, so uncensored, as you are. I cant express in words how much this helps to know, so deep, that I am not the only one and to understand that I am okay the way I am. Remi, hank you so much! ♥
Remi, thank you yet again. I like to clean and tidy along to your videos. As one ADHD mum to another, you are amazing to achieve the things you do. Sometimes I feel judged when the house is a mess. But I work over 40 hours a week, I have a house to run, I have children and pets and school runs and shopping and… life.. I have next to no help and sometimes it all feels overwhelming. You’ve helped me to remember that I’m doing the best I can.
Oh man, every time I watch your videos, I wish you lived closer to me. We'd be such good friends!!! You do you! If you don't tidy every day, if you tidy all day long, whatever works for you, that's what you should do. Because your kids are not going to care that their playroom was picked up on some random day. Neither are you for that matter, when all is said and done. Good job!
I think you are doing wonderful job. There are so many things that contribute to a messy home like size of home, how many people and animals, whether you work outside the home and yes our natural tendencies to be on the neater or messier side of things, My sister and I are complete opposites and so are our kids. It took me a long time to learn that even though we have the same number of kids and we both stay home, she and her family are just messier. That being said, there were times I wish I could have relaxed more and not focused on having my home perfectly tidy. Over the years the biggest thing that helped both of us was teaching our kids how to help and take care of their own things and just not owning so much stuff. The best thing I recently heard from a youtuber was that your whole house doesn't have to be clean at the same time, cycle through and maintain but stop trying for perfection. Keep up the good work, you are helping out so many other young moms out there.
What a meaningful video and a great voice over. Sometimes when I complain about the mess in our house my husband says one could have a very clean house and live completely by yourself in that tidy house and be very lonely, but which would you choose? I am from South Africa and here a lot of families have some kind of help with cleaning (a person who comes to clean a few days a week) and that is how they manage. We don't have help, so cleaning is a big family effort, and yet it feels that our house is never tidy. So I totally understand this video. ❤️
Please dont let the haters get to you, you are so wise and your videos are the best! I feel the exact same as you. Just never enough hours in the day. Self-care is basically non-existent because if i get a free minute, i think of all the things on the to-do list. You are a great mother, thank you!!
Wow I love how much you role model for your kids. Your little one is happy hanging around and being part of the tidying that you're doing. I think that is so important. I know that it's harder, and sometimes we need to do something without our kids around. But it's awesome to see them playing and you guys just doing life together. Good job momma 👍🏻
I love you. You are honest and compassionate which is such an encouragement to me. I get overwhelmed easily and listening to your advice is a comfort. Thanks
“Their not going to remember what the house looked like from day to day but their going to remember what it felt like. The energy of the home.” 26:12 This quote is gold! Thank you! So much of my mom guilt comes from not being able to keep an impeccably clean house! Like you, I rather spend my energy and free time making happy memories with my child. Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts!
I love your Videos. Remi, explaining yourself to opinionated people is a waste of your breath and energy, because generally those people have already made up their minds and no matter what you say, they won't be swayed! You just keep doing what you do, you rock. 🎉
Remi, You are doing a great job! It’s more important to make memories with your family and friends. Kids grow up so fast. Housework will always be there
@ 4:14 really resonated with me when you said "at what cost" I'm so happy you addressed this. I suffer with executive dysfunction and because of mum guilt and as you said at what cost does this whole day clean come at. I always wait till my kids go to bed before I can concentrate but then this leaves me exhausted because I end up going to bed past midnight
I found your channel and find it so motivating. I have a huge task of removing my Mom thing's and making it into a guest room. I have collected boxes( which are everywhere, garage too) you said to just start somewhere. Its also difficult and emotional too. I thought you helping your Dad out was so sweet. I know he was so proud.
Love how honest you always are Remi Not my poem but I used to have this in my head when my lil girl called & so did housework Cleaning & scrubbing will wait until tomorrow Children grow up I’ve learnt to my sorrow So quiet down cobwebs Dust go back to sleep I’m rocking my babies And babies don’t keep Just sums up pressures that sometimes parents feel whilst trying to juggle life
There are hundreds of positive messages in your comments, focus on those! Who cares about the other couple of idiots who don't get it! Don't let it get to you, we love you! I have been checking for a new video every single day, so happy today! Greetings from Switzerland ❤
The comments you receive must obviously come from those that have a dryer and dishwasher and certainly does not consistently cook three meals a day! You are amazing taking care of your family the way you do 💗
Lol I thought I was the only one that cuts up grapes for the lil ones. So this is Michelle from Denver CO USA, you'll be hearing a lot from me as I'm new to your videos and I just love you, I am 57 years old I was a single mom of 5 now I'm a single grandma of 5, I take care of them and the house it's a lot, they are 14, 10, 7, 5 and 2 years old, you've been great for me, thanks
Hi I really love your videos and I can't wait to see your declutter videos! I also couldn't get over your lawn mower cause I have never ever seen one like that in all of my 67 years of life! It looked more like a vacuum cleaner for your lawn. I did think that it was cute though! You just need to do you and don't worry about what other people think cause I think you're awesome!!!
I saw myself from a bird’s eye view for the first time watching this. Thank you! I’ve been in menopause for 6 years now and the paralysis you mentioned just gets worse and worse. I just beat myself up daily for being lazy. But I’m nothing like what I was in my 40s and before. Very enlightening. Now what to do though? Well, maybe I should try the antidepressants I was prescribed a year ago 🤷♀️😊💐.
I love this channel!! I can relate to this so much, as I was sitting completely unmotivated to do anything! just watching this video has got me up and moving. I also slice my grapes still for my 8 and 10 year old and I too will carry it on. I would love a decluttering session… we have so much stuff I’ve made a start, but like you say life, chores, children and work still carry on. Much love to you lady, your inspirational xx
I just found her too a couple hours ago. I am in Washington State although I did live in Texas for a year as a kid, Nicer people you won't find anywhere else. The people of Texas are phenomenal.
You ❤ are precious! Thanks for being real and honest with what you do. Love hearing you talk and clean at the same time!! I don't think I could do that. Keep it up
I am so thrilled that I discovered your channel! Your videos are so comforting to me. You are so reassuring in everything you say to moms like us who struggle with a constantly untidy house. I put your videos on and they've been motivating me to do a few cleaning projects and a bit more tidying here and there. Thank you so much.
I loved the part about not being able to relax with something out of place -- that's me. My best friend has task paralysis. Your words are healing and helpful
First time watcher & Omgosh loved it. You said everything I feel, everything you did I do too. I take everything so hard & I keep telling myself it’s okay but others bring me down, but I get up & keep trying regardless. I needed this video, so thank you!! xx
When my kids were young I somehow had the energy to keep the house tidy like you do. I was thankfully a stay at home mom. Now I’m 62 with two grown children and recently retired. My children are busy with their lives and I am home. Now I finally have the time to keep my home beautiful, but rarely have the energy. I do have depression and Lupus. So that definitely plays a part in my energy level. I currently have some deep cleaning and carpet shampooing that needs done, but I am truly struggling at the moment. Watching your videos gives me motivation. And some days when I feel my worst just watching you clean makes me exhausted…lol..
The trick of a clean house I found, is having more of a minamalist lifestyle. not stuff all over. not putting things in corners to put them away and so on. Having a placce for everything or don't have it at all. That works for me. Good job
Love this. I was a single married, and recently became a single working mum of 2 preschoolers. The pressure of trying to maintain my house to someone else's standards was damaging my mental health and the mum guilt of always saying no to the kids so i could clean was soul destroying. Im now trying to implement the "done is good enough" and it doesn't matter that 5seconds after i finished the kids have spilled thier dinner and empty a toy box and the cat ran across the floors with muddy paws. And realizations that to maintain a clean house takes more energy and time than i have to offer. Some days i can only give 15min of time to cleaning after kids are asleep and before im sleep walking myself, so i do what i can, i tackle the tasks that bug me the most, and once my 15min finished i stop and focus of my rest. Maybe i only manage to get the dishes done, or the toys picked up, or run the vacuum under the kitchen table, but thats "enough" and i praise myself for doing that. Part of maintaining a home is taking care of my health and prioritizing my rest.
There’s only one other channel I watch like this because y’all are REAL. Real life real kids real messes ! Homes are meant to be lived in and sometimes that means a mess and that’s okay ❤ I struggle too, we all do, and don’t let anyone here make you feel less for you cleaning or not cleaning 😂❤ Your helping so many of us mamas struggling with these things too. So much love from the USA❤❤
It's a week late, but I had to say thank you again for making these videos. It's so refreshing to see a human with normal daily struggles. I live in a home with five adults (whom I love dearly) and even then, our home is not clean. We all take turns cleaning, and it absolutely helps, but our home will never be spotless. It's demoralizing to see so many homes on social media that are pristine and to wonder why we aren't meeting those standards, but it's exactly as you said: we spend multiple days making crafts, we will leave a board game overnight, we'll do the dishes in the morning so we can all watch a movie together, we'll pick two weeds each when it's not too hot to do so, and other things to make progress. Anywho, rambling aside, you're doing a fantastic job being a mother and partner. Your young ones will absolutely reflect on your values (in fact, your older little is a shining example).
I agree about each of us being different and the need to forgive ourselves. Each person's tasks are as different as we are from each other. It wasn't until this year that I finally started to focus on how much I have changed. How I cleaned house when I was 25 is vastly different from how I can clean house now at 52. I can honestly say your house is way cleaner than mine. However, you're helping me see that I am an individual who has traveled a different journey than a lot of others. My late hubby got diagnosed with renal failure about a year after we were married. I was starting menopause at the same time. All the hospital stuff burnt me out so badly that when he died, I was completely wrecked. Was also covid as well. I am also the one with 5 cats who go outside and the boyfriend who lives with me who has cerebral palsy. He works lots as well. Looks like he has some form of ADHD. I do mostly everything around the house myself as it can be easier. I do wish I could teach the cats to help 😉. But sometimes migraines caused by arthritis and arthritis keep me from doing anything. The fatigue can be insane. My boyfriend does a lot of the shopping and running around so that helps a lot too. I love that your channel reminds me to think in terms of my home being like when I realised, at 12, that I wasn't built like Barbie, so I have never really tried, that I do not have a magazine picture, minimalist and focused mindset either. Therefore, it would be the kindest thing ever to breathe and enjoy the parts of my life that cause parts of my clutter. I really love books. So thank you for inspiring me to be me ❤
You are such a remarkable person. Your insight blows me away. And your kindness is the best of all. Thank you for sharing!!! You really are helping countless people
My mom was a stay at home mom who always prioritized the perfection of our home. You said you make sure to be present with your kids. YOU WILL NEVER REGRET HAVING DONE THAT! I hope you know what a gift you’re giving them. They are so fortunate to have you as their mother. ❤❤❤❤
What Americans don't understand is that our houses tend to be much larger, so a small amount of clutter can make your house look more disorganized. Therefore, a really small mess looks worse, but those small messes are CONSTSANT! And good for you for taking a day for yourself or your family form time to time. Thank you so much for understanding what I go through with task paralysis. You remind me that I"m not alone. You don't know if something will work until you try it and now you know. Maybe this method will work in 10 years or so, but you aren't in that season of life right now. Love Ike's little rain boots!
You made me cry several times in this, what you say and how you say it makes me feel that yeah, I’m doing my best and I’m doing a good enough job. My mental health has been fairly poor this year and this video has been what I needed to get me motivated to sort my little room, the only room that’s mine in the house that’s become a family laundry room. I’m now sorting it so it can be my reading room, my writing space, my ‘feet up and me’ space. Don’t know how often I’ll use it because I have a family and full time work, but I’m doing it for me with my things. So thank you so much for your content, it’s so inspiring 😊
im only 21, living with my boyfriend, no kids yet but i struggle a lot to keep my apartment up to my standards. Im autistic and also hate messes but you make me feel so much more calm about the mess, like its okay to have days where you dont have the energy to clean
Hey honey don't worry about people say I'm 71 almost 72 years old and people come and go in their way of thinking. I came from verrrryyy poverty stricken childhood. Working picking Strawberries at age 5. Then I married and had a little money, divorced back to no money, but so much happiness makes up for it. Just read their notes and think that until they walk a mile in your shoes. You're a wonderful momma and wife. Because you care and are trying doing really good to being with the boys and Charlie is most important. So that's my 2 cents. Keep up the good work. Carol
I'm so glad to have finally found a cleaning channel with someone who has a normal sized house, a normal job and realistic house messes! Everything about your channel is so relatable and you're going to just keep growing!
💯 agree!!!
Yep me too.
I gone off loads who have off the ones I did watch, as they now no longer relatable. Big houses and have money they can burn.
I definitely agree , she’s so relatable, and I’m so here for it being a stay at home mum of two toddlers ❤. X
you aren’t kidding!!
Yes💯 I love it here❤
Wow; I don’t even know where to begin to describe how amazing you are. You are the Mother Teresa of struggling house cleaners, depressed souls, those who beat ourselves up, judge our failings and all who are barely hanging on by the skin of our teeth! Thank you for your kindness, gentle words of support, acceptance, and love. I wish you were my next-door-neighbor. You seem like the best of best friends. I recently found your channel and have been so inspired. Please keep sharing your gift and uplifting the world. You are an angel!!!♥️♥️♥️
I am one of those clean people who haven't been blessed with a husband or kids yet. I want to thank you for explaining how your mind works, how the mess is made, and taking time for self care. I was mostly judgemental of people who couldn't keep a clean house, but you have changed my perspective. I like how you said you wouldn't look back on your life and think I wish I would've cleaned more. I just found your channel and watched all of your videos. I can't get enough of your voice. Thank you for helping me understand, and it makes me want to help the moms in my life. Cleaning videos relax me and you've helped me so much.
You’re a lovely person, thank you for being understanding and wanting to see things through the eyes of others. I’m sure with these qualities you will make a great partner/parent one day (should you choose to go down that path) ❤️
I really have to thank you for mentioning menopause and how bloody difficult life can be during and after menopsuse. I've found myself unable to work, unable to function properly. It really helps to hear a young woman who understands....thank you so much...xxxx
Im a home educating Mum of four with one at school, a husband, and a dog, and I'm crying listening to you here. I've never felt so understood. Im trying my hardest every day. It's never all tidy at once, theres always a million more jobs, but I dont want to miss my life cleaning, I want to live ❤
Ā friend came over the other day and I was excusing the mess, when my friend said, 'I think it's lovely, it looks lived in.' I needed to hear that so much.
There is a good friend! I do the same always feel I need to justify
You owe no explanation about your family or your house but I enjoyed listening to you. You are so articulate and well spoken, and I wish you well. You're doing what you can and that counts.
I appreciate you, Remi. When I was a young mother,I made the mistake of choosing to try and keep a clean home over spending time with my youngest son. Now my youngest is almost 27 years old, on his own, living in New York, having his own life, and it really hit me hard when you said that you cherished quality time with your boys over cleaning. I wished I had let those dirty dishes in the sink wait when he was calling out to me to play with him. If given a chance to do it all over again, I would choose sword fights with my youngest over folding clean laundry. Time is fleeting, Remi. Always choose time with your boys over anything else in the world. ❤❤❤❤
Minha enteada, a melhor mãe que eu conheço, me ensinou isso de priorizar as crianças e não a arrumação.
This is making me cry!! Sending you love and compassion as a fellow mom with the same regret. ❤ #youcantfencetime
I'm in tears as I near the end of this video. So much truth, transparency, and heart + cleaning motivation all wrapped into one. Thank you so much for this blessing and what feels like a therapy session lol Praying you and your precious family are blessed beyond measure. ❤
Remi, you are an amazing young lady, and an awesome mom. I am now a grandma living with regrets because I didn’t know how to have fun with my babies. Order and a tidy house were priority, and you’re right, we can’t do it all, so it was my kids that didn’t get the attention they so rightly deserved. I wish I understood myself the way you understand yourself, and accept yourself. What a blessing you are to so many people.
I think that you are a super mum, as I live alone with my dog, am 66 years young, and just can not get motivated to do any cleaning! You have all your life on your plate, yet you get so much done. I really think that you are incredible, and I take my hat off to you! xxx
Hi. Having fibromaylgia stope me from being able to clean everyday. I do all the cleaning. My husband and teens never help me but complain when the place is messy. It causes me to get depressed 😔. Trying to get motivated today. Your doing an amazing job.
I know how that feels. Like I'm the only one who cleans. No one wants a dirty house but they also don't want to clean it. I feel like I'm going in circles
I have fibromyalgia as well. Chronic fatigue is my worst symptom/condition. I have had the condition most of my life. Since I was about 10-15 started slowly developing it. It has become increasingly worse as time have progressed. I am not able to work. I couldn’t walk for many months, nearing a year. I am doing a lot of self care and gentle stuff with myself because I’ve learned that is what is going to “cure” me. The medical world will fail me because it’s all about wellness and they don’t work that way. It’s taking a lot of gentle work and just caring for myself and I’m feeling a bit better the last few months. I found EFT tapping a great tool. I am painting. I am just trying to find things for me. I love to clean but I have to really pace myself and I find techniques that are quick and easy but again gentle in terms of their impact on my family/me/my home chemically. I just want to say I hope you can find peace and happiness in small corners of your existence. It will truly make all the difference. The people in your life who don’t understand and make demands can just live with it. You’re doing the best you can and you’re doing great! ❤
I don't even need to WATCH I LOVE the therapy I get from you... With your words, always so encouraging.
This makes my heart happy, thank you!! ❤️
I 100% agree with you. It's just my husband and I, unless you count my husband. I enjoy your wisdom, and Remi, you're a natural at narrating.
Thank you for being my cleaning buddy this week. Both my husband and myself suffer with chronic pain & mental health problems and it's been a particularly bad few months for us. I've had your videos, and a few other creators, playing whilst I've finally taken care of some much neglected parts of the house. From thousands of km's away here in South Australia you have brought some comfort and motivation 😊
I grew up in a home where my mother had to have everything tidy, clean and in order 24/7. As a now 32 year old, I can tell you it did more damage than good having an obsessively clean mom. Mess is alright.
I couldn’t have said it better!
Word for Word!!
From a young woman to now an old woman!
I applaud you , honesty!
I had no children and did have a dishwasher & a clothes dryer ! It still was a drudgery!!
Your channel doesn’t only motivate, but remind me it’s ok I’m unable to physically do what I did anymore!
My epitaph will not have memories of how clean my floors were! Lol
Much luv , ♥️✝️🇺🇸
Ps- you should consider writing!
Sadly, any form of social media attracts people who thrive on tearing other people down. I really hope you don't let it get you down. You are wonderfully and beautifully AUTHENTIC❤ Which is a very rare quality to see. Keep doing you, and please don't dim your light for anyone🙏
Remi you are the absolute best! You have really inspired me AND my 11yo daughter. We are working slowly through the house to organize every closet and cabinet. We missed your videos so much and have been praying for you and your family. God bless you and your efforts! Please never give up because we need you and that amazingly positive and REALISTIC attitude.
Remi, if no one haven't told it to you today, you're awesome! You're a star! You're a great motivation to us all. And this is the comment that doesn't need to be answered 😀 Just know that we love you!
It’s called living. There seems to be no shortage of critics. You’re doing fantastic!! Believe it!🦋
I’m married single with a house and yard to take care of. I regularly got comments from outsiders about my house and yard. No one ever noticed that when the yard was mowed and clean and the house was untidy, and when the house was clean, the yard needed attention. All of the work fell to me and here you are, working your buns off, and recognising others and their struggles. You are very sweet, you’re one of my favorite people, I wish we were neighbours. Don’t listen to anyone but yourself. Others are too judgmental, there’s a special hell for those people. You are fabulous. P.S. your lawn looks great! Your grass looks do green and so thick
I’m the same way with my kids. They spend hours making pretend worlds and those worlds stayed where they were for days, until they were done. We picked the toys and soon, more worlds were built. Your only young for a minute, in the grand scheme, let the kids have fun
I was thrilled when I saw a full length video this morning. I sat down, had a cuppa and enjoyed every minute of it. I wish you had more time to create these, but you make such great decisions when it comes to house, kids and Charlie...I understand. Definitely would love to see you tackle the decluttering series. Take care of you and thank you for all the effort you put in...everywhere!
Your channel is so relatable Remi. I ve always felt like I’m lazy and unmotivated because I can’t keep a perfect house. I have now learnt to relax with it and as long as the kids are happy and fed that is the most important thing. Your channel is motivating and actually makes me want to get up and clean. anyway thanks is what I’m saying ❤ thanks for being you. Definitely keen for a decluttering series!
Remi I don't know exactly why, but the last few minutes of this video brought me to tears. Maybe it's because I am one of those married single parents. I am home all day with my four children and I do ALL of the work around the house. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, trying to be the best mom I can be, homeschooling, yard work...everything! By 7 PM I just want to be left alone and not bothered with anything or anyone. I'm irritable and my husband and kids get the worst side of me. It's tiring trying to do everything by yourself!
If you'd be the perfectly ripe, sweetest and juiciest peach on the planet, there would always be people that simply don't like peaches. I only hope you read more positive comments on your channel than negative ones, after all the hard work you do and the inspiring, honest and impressive narration you add here. ❤
Thank God, a real woman with a real life.........
I’ll never have a perfect home because that’s just not how I am. I have fibromyalgia and arthritis, a crumbling spine and need two new knees but I try my best. I do what I can when I can and those that don’t like it can do one. I loved every second of this, Remi. You did really, really well but you do you, Love and that’s more than enough. I love you, Honey.xxxxx
Remi, you are an awesome mom! You have it more together than you believe! There is so much to learn from you! Keep on living your life. You are such an inspiration!
The time with small children is temporary. I’m a single parent with 2 boys and I wish I had known that getting rid of clutter would have helped.
Tidy house or not, you have got your head screwed on lass, a wonderful empathetic look at the world, and your kids will be lovely human beings too, that’s the most important thing❤
I usually don't like hearing people talk all through your cleaning videos but I love listening to you.
You're so positive, anyone can complain about their life but you seem to have a lot of gratitude with your life. Also the pizzas are a good idea
"Married single parents" I am SO glad to know that someone else gets this.
Oh Remi...what a joy you are. You do work so hard, I too have issues with my mind making decisions and staying motivated with the mundane day tasks. I am in my 60s and actually enjoyed tidying up after my boys when they were young as yours are. It meant they had enjoyed their time. Thank you for your nice and caring attitude. Have you ever thought about being a social worker or psychologist? You have the sense and ability to be an amazing one. I so enjoy your videos. Stay who you are, don't let other people change you. I love you. I am so proud of you. Thank you for who you are. Love your family.
This is one of the beat cleaning videos on RUclips. I like your style! Such a down to earth lady xx
I had 3 kids in 3 years, and during those first few years, I remember thinking cleaning with small children was like trying to brush my teeth while eating Oreos. You're doing great mama! Focus on what is important- those sweet children =)
I have PTSD, depression and anxiety disorder. Cleaning is massively difficult for me, but I'm listening to your videos while cleaning, because it's encouraging. Thank you for posting!
Ima much older lady and😢my kids are grow up. Life gets in the way and keeping a tidy home isn't easy. My difficulty relates to a disability and extreme tiredness. Keep trying Remy, you do amazing and I greatly admire your endless endeavour for a clean home.
This is awesome. Made me laugh when you said "take a seat, get a drink" like I'm not cleaning along with you! It's like having a friend to be fed up with! Feels like I've found my soul's sister having you cleaning and chatting along with me while I am trying to get my shit together too! 😂😅
Have you tried any of the 5x5 secret slob videos? I swear by her 25 minutes 5x5 min timer video with music. Great to get things not perfect but looking better and live-able!
Hi Remi.
To follow on my rant. I can tell you that the priority you put on Charlie and your children is the important part of your balanced approach to life.
And your message of acceptance to all of us who struggle to maintain an acceptable home is priceless. Your willingness to expose your home space and imperfections makes you so incredibly relatable. Keep up the good work!! I admire you and you inspire me. Thankyou so much.
Instead of folding things, my daughter has bins labeled with different clothes.
Instead of folding, I hang everything I can.
I just find folding so unhelpful.
Loving your videos!!
Dishes and laundry just never end. But how wonderful we have families to love and feed.
Thanks for keeping me company 😊
I don't know how you do it!!
You hold down a job, run the house, and have 2 small boys. You're doing a great job.
YES to the decluttering series! 🤩
I simply LOVE listening to you! You deserve your own show- and I mean it! 💯
What a massive compliment, thank you! ❤️
You should consider writing a self help book. You have a very clear, thoughtful, smart way of relating. It's a gift. Thank for sharing your life with us.
I completely agree! ❤
She should be a recorded book, though! 🙂 Hearing her talk is more motivating to me that just reading words on a page.
@@edithengel2284 what a fantastic idea!!!
You are amazingly inspirational, good spirited and loving of people you don't know, that really need it. We love you back too. ❤
I love love love your videos. I struggle with ADHD and depression because I don't allow myself to grieve. Your words are so heartfelt and I feel like I'm seen and understood. I always had that little voice in my head saying, "You're a failure and a bad wife and mother," because no one in my life understands what it means to live with executive disfunction. I'm a smart woman with a big heart, but that doesn't matter because I can't manage the housework. It seems that's the only thing that matters. If you can't clean your house well enough, you're worthless. But your content shows me that I am not alone. I really want to tidy up my apartment in a tolerable state but it's so hard working full time, taking care of my elderly neighbor and having time for family and friends. Sorry for my English, I'm from Germany. I bless you for your realistic content and encouragement.
You are amazing, Mommy. When your little ones are more grown, it will be easier but honestly, the little things that bother you now won't matter. You'll never think about the dishes in the sink or the unfolded laundry. All you are going to remember is how fast they grew up and the happy times cuddling and counting toes. I love your encouraging remarks.
If you actually do get the kind of comments you referenced in this video (and I am not for a moment doubting your veracity), I am appalled that anyone would have the gall to offer advice, assessment or criticism of anyone else's home life.
There is very little as personal, private and subjective as managing one's life, home and (if applicable) family.
Those rude commenters must have nothing better to do than convince themselves that they have superior standards and abilities along with the right to take a holier than thou attitude with other people.
I don't think I could ever be a RUclips creator if for no other reason than I am very thin skinned when offended, and find it almost impossible to ignore, forgive or forget when I feel wronged or insulted.
You keep right on doing what you do, exactly the way you do it, as it is very inspirational to see a realistic looking, sounding, living person who is struggling to make it all work.
Remi,
You have encouraged me via your videos. I just started to clean up faster and changed my strategies and just did what I could. Either a goal of a certain tasks by category (clothes, windows, dusting) or by time chunks. I used to do it by room which takes longer.
Sometimes I watch you video before I get started to get me motivated.
I’m 59 years old, and I struggle to keep a tidy house. So you’re not alone in this world I haven’t watch this video yet but since it was posted an hour ago, I hope you read it. Keep up the good work with your videos and sharing this vulnerability. I know you’ll grow from this experience!
Much love from the 🇺🇸 ❤️ In Chicago, Illinois
Hi, thank you so much for this message, I’m so so pleased that you’ve found ways of doing things that make life easier 😊❤️
You made a very good point, maintaining a home is a lot of work every single day. It’s so important that you find that balance to rest, play with your children, time with family, etc and at 64 I’m still learning that. No one ever lays on their deathbed wishing they’d cleaned more, they wish they had spent more time with family, friends and just doing better. I love that you are so real and motivational even if you might not realize it.
My mom always said "My house is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy."
Love that!!!
I literally cried at this video. You said everything I needed to hear this week. I had a rough month and the house got completely out of control. No kids but a bird pet is just as messy in my opinion. Telling me that it's okay to be messy and to live in my home. To not care what others say and to just to what I can. Thank you. Thank you for these videos and your constant affirmations. You are a true inspiration.
"How comes this things come so easily to everybody else?" One sentence that followed me my whole life, in almost every aspect of it. I do feel sometimes understood and assured in other adhd communities. But never to the point as with your videos. Never have I had so often tears in my eyes as when I see your videos and hear your thoughts. Because I have never saw someone be so raw, so uncensored, as you are. I cant express in words how much this helps to know, so deep, that I am not the only one and to understand that I am okay the way I am. Remi, hank you so much! ♥
Remi, thank you yet again. I like to clean and tidy along to your videos. As one ADHD mum to another, you are amazing to achieve the things you do. Sometimes I feel judged when the house is a mess. But I work over 40 hours a week, I have a house to run, I have children and pets and school runs and shopping and… life.. I have next to no help and sometimes it all feels overwhelming. You’ve helped me to remember that I’m doing the best I can.
Oh man, every time I watch your videos, I wish you lived closer to me. We'd be such good friends!!! You do you! If you don't tidy every day, if you tidy all day long, whatever works for you, that's what you should do. Because your kids are not going to care that their playroom was picked up on some random day. Neither are you for that matter, when all is said and done. Good job!
I think you are doing wonderful job. There are so many things that contribute to a messy home like size of home, how many people and animals, whether you work outside the home and yes our natural tendencies to be on the neater or messier side of things, My sister and I are complete opposites and so are our kids. It took me a long time to learn that even though we have the same number of kids and we both stay home, she and her family are just messier. That being said, there were times I wish I could have relaxed more and not focused on having my home perfectly tidy. Over the years the biggest thing that helped both of us was teaching our kids how to help and take care of their own things and just not owning so much stuff. The best thing I recently heard from a youtuber was that your whole house doesn't have to be clean at the same time, cycle through and maintain but stop trying for perfection. Keep up the good work, you are helping out so many other young moms out there.
What a meaningful video and a great voice over. Sometimes when I complain about the mess in our house my husband says one could have a very clean house and live completely by yourself in that tidy house and be very lonely, but which would you choose?
I am from South Africa and here a lot of families have some kind of help with cleaning (a person who comes to clean a few days a week) and that is how they manage. We don't have help, so cleaning is a big family effort, and yet it feels that our house is never tidy. So I totally understand this video. ❤️
Please dont let the haters get to you, you are so wise and your videos are the best! I feel the exact same as you. Just never enough hours in the day. Self-care is basically non-existent because if i get a free minute, i think of all the things on the to-do list. You are a great mother, thank you!!
Your videos are sooo soothing, love to watch you clean and love your voiceover as well!
You are a breath of fresh air! Thank you for being positive, uplifting, and honest. I'm glad I found your channel ❤
Wow I love how much you role model for your kids. Your little one is happy hanging around and being part of the tidying that you're doing. I think that is so important. I know that it's harder, and sometimes we need to do something without our kids around. But it's awesome to see them playing and you guys just doing life together. Good job momma 👍🏻
I love you. You are honest and compassionate which is such an encouragement to me. I get overwhelmed easily and listening to your advice is a comfort. Thanks
So happy to see you back with a new full length video! I find you such a breath of fresh air, and I love listening to you.❤️
Remi...I could listen to you for hours. I absolutely love your accent. Watching you from Boston, Massachusetts,USA
“Their not going to remember what the house looked like from day to day but their going to remember what it felt like. The energy of the home.” 26:12 This quote is gold! Thank you! So much of my mom guilt comes from not being able to keep an impeccably clean house! Like you, I rather spend my energy and free time making happy memories with my child.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts!
I love your Videos. Remi, explaining yourself to opinionated people is a waste of your breath and energy, because generally those people have already made up their minds and no matter what you say, they won't be swayed! You just keep doing what you do, you rock. 🎉
Remi, You are doing a great job! It’s more important to make memories with your family and friends. Kids grow up so fast. Housework will always be there
It always gets me how many people come on to channels like this, only to criticize. You are amazing Remi. Keep up the good work.
@ 4:14 really resonated with me when you said "at what cost" I'm so happy you addressed this. I suffer with executive dysfunction and because of mum guilt and as you said at what cost does this whole day clean come at. I always wait till my kids go to bed before I can concentrate but then this leaves me exhausted because I end up going to bed past midnight
I found your channel and find it so motivating. I have a huge task of removing my Mom thing's and making it into a guest room. I have collected boxes( which are everywhere, garage too) you said to just start somewhere. Its also difficult and emotional too. I thought you helping your Dad out was so sweet. I know he was so proud.
Love how honest you always are Remi
Not my poem but I used to have this in my head when my lil girl called & so did housework
Cleaning & scrubbing will wait until tomorrow
Children grow up I’ve learnt to my sorrow
So quiet down cobwebs
Dust go back to sleep
I’m rocking my babies
And babies don’t keep
Just sums up pressures that sometimes parents feel whilst trying to juggle life
There are hundreds of positive messages in your comments, focus on those! Who cares about the other couple of idiots who don't get it! Don't let it get to you, we love you! I have been checking for a new video every single day, so happy today! Greetings from Switzerland ❤
The comments you receive must obviously come from those that have a dryer and dishwasher and certainly does not consistently cook three meals a day! You are amazing taking care of your family the way you do 💗
"We need to stop placing our value as people in the hands of others."
So very true ❤
Lol I thought I was the only one that cuts up grapes for the lil ones. So this is Michelle from Denver CO USA, you'll be hearing a lot from me as I'm new to your videos and I just love you, I am 57 years old I was a single mom of 5 now I'm a single grandma of 5, I take care of them and the house it's a lot, they are 14, 10, 7, 5 and 2 years old, you've been great for me, thanks
Hi I really love your videos and I can't wait to see your declutter videos! I also couldn't get over your lawn mower cause I have never ever seen one like that in all of my 67 years of life! It looked more like a vacuum cleaner for your lawn. I did think that it was cute though! You just need to do you and don't worry about what other people think cause I think you're awesome!!!
I saw myself from a bird’s eye view for the first time watching this. Thank you! I’ve been in menopause for 6 years now and the paralysis you mentioned just gets worse and worse. I just beat myself up daily for being lazy. But I’m nothing like what I was in my 40s and before. Very enlightening. Now what to do though? Well, maybe I should try the antidepressants I was prescribed a year ago 🤷♀️😊💐.
I love this channel!! I can relate to this so much, as I was sitting completely unmotivated to do anything! just watching this video has got me up and moving. I also slice my grapes still for my 8 and 10 year old and I too will carry it on. I would love a decluttering session… we have so much stuff I’ve made a start, but like you say life, chores, children and work still carry on. Much love to you lady, your inspirational xx
Just found you .. from Texas USA ! I really enjoy your uploads ! And seeing how people live over the pond ! Keep up the great work. 🎉❤
I just found her too a couple hours ago. I am in Washington State although I did live in Texas for a year as a kid, Nicer people you won't find anywhere else. The people of Texas are phenomenal.
You ❤ are precious! Thanks for being real and honest with what you do. Love hearing you talk and clean at the same time!! I don't think I could do that. Keep it up
I feel in a neverevending loop cleaning same things multiple times a day 😂😂
I am so thrilled that I discovered your channel! Your videos are so comforting to me. You are so reassuring in everything you say to moms like us who struggle with a constantly untidy house. I put your videos on and they've been motivating me to do a few cleaning projects and a bit more tidying here and there. Thank you so much.
I loved the part about not being able to relax with something out of place -- that's me. My best friend has task paralysis. Your words are healing and helpful
First time watcher & Omgosh loved it. You said everything I feel, everything you did I do too. I take everything so hard & I keep telling myself it’s okay but others bring me down, but I get up & keep trying regardless. I needed this video, so thank you!! xx
When my kids were young I somehow had the energy to keep the house tidy like you do. I was thankfully a stay at home mom. Now I’m 62 with two grown children and recently retired. My children are busy with their lives and I am home. Now I finally have the time to keep my home beautiful, but rarely have the energy. I do have depression and Lupus. So that definitely plays a part in my energy level. I currently have some deep cleaning and carpet shampooing that needs done, but I am truly struggling at the moment. Watching your videos gives me motivation. And some days when I feel my worst just watching you clean makes me exhausted…lol..
Hang in there. Hope things get better.
The trick of a clean house I found, is having more of a minamalist lifestyle. not stuff all over. not putting things in corners to put them away and so on. Having a placce for everything or don't have it at all. That works for me. Good job
Love this. I was a single married, and recently became a single working mum of 2 preschoolers. The pressure of trying to maintain my house to someone else's standards was damaging my mental health and the mum guilt of always saying no to the kids so i could clean was soul destroying. Im now trying to implement the "done is good enough" and it doesn't matter that 5seconds after i finished the kids have spilled thier dinner and empty a toy box and the cat ran across the floors with muddy paws. And realizations that to maintain a clean house takes more energy and time than i have to offer. Some days i can only give 15min of time to cleaning after kids are asleep and before im sleep walking myself, so i do what i can, i tackle the tasks that bug me the most, and once my 15min finished i stop and focus of my rest. Maybe i only manage to get the dishes done, or the toys picked up, or run the vacuum under the kitchen table, but thats "enough" and i praise myself for doing that. Part of maintaining a home is taking care of my health and prioritizing my rest.
I love every single word of this!!! ❤️
There’s only one other channel I watch like this because y’all are REAL. Real life real kids real messes !
Homes are meant to be lived in and sometimes that means a mess and that’s okay ❤
I struggle too, we all do, and don’t let anyone here make you feel less for you cleaning or not cleaning 😂❤
Your helping so many of us mamas struggling with these things too. So much love from the USA❤❤
I just found you and love what you do. You see me and know what I have gone through. Such wisdom thank you 🎉.
It's a week late, but I had to say thank you again for making these videos. It's so refreshing to see a human with normal daily struggles. I live in a home with five adults (whom I love dearly) and even then, our home is not clean. We all take turns cleaning, and it absolutely helps, but our home will never be spotless. It's demoralizing to see so many homes on social media that are pristine and to wonder why we aren't meeting those standards, but it's exactly as you said: we spend multiple days making crafts, we will leave a board game overnight, we'll do the dishes in the morning so we can all watch a movie together, we'll pick two weeds each when it's not too hot to do so, and other things to make progress. Anywho, rambling aside, you're doing a fantastic job being a mother and partner. Your young ones will absolutely reflect on your values (in fact, your older little is a shining example).
You have no idea how much you have helped my mental health just now...... :) Your house is beautiful btw.
I agree about each of us being different and the need to forgive ourselves. Each person's tasks are as different as we are from each other. It wasn't until this year that I finally started to focus on how much I have changed. How I cleaned house when I was 25 is vastly different from how I can clean house now at 52. I can honestly say your house is way cleaner than mine. However, you're helping me see that I am an individual who has traveled a different journey than a lot of others. My late hubby got diagnosed with renal failure about a year after we were married. I was starting menopause at the same time. All the hospital stuff burnt me out so badly that when he died, I was completely wrecked. Was also covid as well. I am also the one with 5 cats who go outside and the boyfriend who lives with me who has cerebral palsy. He works lots as well. Looks like he has some form of ADHD. I do mostly everything around the house myself as it can be easier. I do wish I could teach the cats to help 😉. But sometimes migraines caused by arthritis and arthritis keep me from doing anything. The fatigue can be insane. My boyfriend does a lot of the shopping and running around so that helps a lot too. I love that your channel reminds me to think in terms of my home being like when I realised, at 12, that I wasn't built like Barbie, so I have never really tried, that I do not have a magazine picture, minimalist and focused mindset either. Therefore, it would be the kindest thing ever to breathe and enjoy the parts of my life that cause parts of my clutter. I really love books. So thank you for inspiring me to be me ❤
You are such a remarkable person. Your insight blows me away. And your kindness is the best of all. Thank you for sharing!!! You really are helping countless people
My mom was a stay at home mom who always prioritized the perfection of our home. You said you make sure to be present with your kids. YOU WILL NEVER REGRET HAVING DONE THAT! I hope you know what a gift you’re giving them. They are so fortunate to have you as their mother. ❤❤❤❤
What Americans don't understand is that our houses tend to be much larger, so a small amount of clutter can make your house look more disorganized. Therefore, a really small mess looks worse, but those small messes are CONSTSANT! And good for you for taking a day for yourself or your family form time to time. Thank you so much for understanding what I go through with task paralysis. You remind me that I"m not alone. You don't know if something will work until you try it and now you know. Maybe this method will work in 10 years or so, but you aren't in that season of life right now. Love Ike's little rain boots!
You made me cry several times in this, what you say and how you say it makes me feel that yeah, I’m doing my best and I’m doing a good enough job. My mental health has been fairly poor this year and this video has been what I needed to get me motivated to sort my little room, the only room that’s mine in the house that’s become a family laundry room. I’m now sorting it so it can be my reading room, my writing space, my ‘feet up and me’ space. Don’t know how often I’ll use it because I have a family and full time work, but I’m doing it for me with my things. So thank you so much for your content, it’s so inspiring 😊
im only 21, living with my boyfriend, no kids yet but i struggle a lot to keep my apartment up to my standards. Im autistic and also hate messes but you make me feel so much more calm about the mess, like its okay to have days where you dont have the energy to clean
So glad I came across your channel. Refreshing to see a relatable mother with a normal, every day functional family home. Thank you!
Hey honey don't worry about people say I'm 71 almost 72 years old and people come and go in their way of thinking. I came from verrrryyy poverty stricken childhood. Working picking Strawberries at age 5. Then I married and had a little money, divorced back to no money, but so much happiness makes up for it. Just read their notes and think that until they walk a mile in your shoes. You're a wonderful momma and wife. Because you care and are trying doing really good to being with the boys and Charlie is most important.
So that's my 2 cents. Keep up the good work. Carol
Sweetheart being a mom is the most judged job in the world and nobody has all the answers but you are doing a fantastic job
You are a lovely lady with a great family love Mushroom too ❤️🐾
You’re home is perfect, perfect for you & yours!❤❤❤