I was never read or played with as a child, but I made a concerted effort to do these things later in life when I became a nanny and worked in playgroups, and I saw the huge difference giving children time made in their lives. You are validating them so that they learn to value themselves and others.
My trauma caused me to have an addiction later in life for over half my life. I met my wife and continued my addiction. She sensed something wrong and finally I told her. She encouraged me to seek help and at the same time, I realized I harmed her. Today, sober not acting out for six years and hopefully for my lifetime. Day by day
I think most of us was trained like that all we can do is just increase awareness so wounds of childhood will not haunt us easy to say than done at least we are pro~ active to become better sending ❤️
You don't need an abusive household, or a bad environment. Something as simple as not development of a will of our own can give you a trauma in the future. Today i realized, that im still my child self, i was mature for my age, which made me take too long to realize i hadn't grown up..... I never had a free will, which now makes it complicated now that i have to make decisions on my own as an adult. I'm so mad it took me 12 years to realize this....
the really tragic ting about this, i that the neglected and traumatised child will be punished and rejected at school and in social situations, compounding their distress
As a hypnotherapist I wanted to share that I have had phenomenal results with helping people overcome trauma with hypnotherapy without having to endure years and years of talk therapy or dangerous prescription drugs. I never understood however how yoga and exercise can help heal trauma. I would be curious to learn. I exercise consistently for the health benefits but never experienced a “healing” effect. Could you share more about this please? Your channel is fantastic. I just found you. 🙏🥰
Wow..thankyou dr Mate,your insights have turned my world around..so much so im not only entering a healing time but also the opertunty has come to shsre this experince with the world..thsnkyou ❤
I grew up constantly being shamed and punished. It seems as an adult I have been ridiculed, and made fun of by those who picked up on my feeling of inadequacy
same here which is why i learned to never show it alnd always project a "positive" personality. fun and nice and great for making freiends... until the inevitable intimacy/abandonment wound trigger and then suddenly i'm shame spiraling and avoiding them and the friendship is soon over. you are not alone and the shame and punishment wounds can express in different ways in different people. even some people who appear very sociable and well-adjusted to you may be under the surface unable to maintain deeper connections than just surface level due to childhood wounding similar to yours. some of them even become abusers to hide their wounding.
Eu diria, falando sobre mim. Já vivia em ambientes extremamente perigosos. Onde essas "pequenas" decisões eram feitas em uma fração de segundo, e toda uma vida seria guiada por esses milésimos de fragilidade... Nunca vivi perto do crime. Meu único perigo na comunidade era ser morta por falta de política pública. Teríamos um mundo diferente se filhas pudessem confiar em seus pais, num mundo onde pensarmos como não gerar CRIME. 60% dos casos de abuso, são de familiares ou conhecidos. Seja melhor do que nosso hoje, onde todo crime tem raiz, seja semente de LUTA!!!!
I agree, but I might forward this to some- one who is new to the whole concept, as in the world of today, the average client/friend/patient might want the basics presented in a recent podcast, possibly in the form of a brief summary, similar to this one. 🤗
This video is misnamed, it is not "Dr. Maté on Authenticity as the Antidote to Trauma". It is very short clips of him with distracting video and some guy expounding on what he thinks Dr. Maté is saying. You took bits and pieces of an interview of him for your own ends. Pathetic!
Why is this distractive, terrible habit of putting film footage under this talk. It is so stupid and far from helpful. Cut is out! Just show the person who is speaking.
I grew up constantly being shamed and punished. It seems as an adult I have been ridiculed, and made fun of by those who picked up on my feeling of inadequacy
I was never read or played with as a child, but I made a concerted effort to do these things later in life when I became a nanny and worked in playgroups, and I saw the huge difference giving children time made in their lives. You are validating them so that they learn to value themselves and others.
My trauma caused me to have an addiction later in life for over half my life. I met my wife and continued my addiction. She sensed something wrong and finally I told her. She encouraged me to seek help and at the same time, I realized I harmed her. Today, sober not acting out for six years and hopefully for my lifetime. Day by day
I never expressed my emotions as a child because I never knew it was an option.
I think most of us was trained like that all we can do is just increase awareness so wounds of childhood will not haunt us easy to say than done at least we are pro~ active to become better sending ❤️
I wish more caregivers/parents realized they are raising adults 🙏
I was raised by parents who also have childhood traumas. Knowing this, it made it easier for me to forgive.. my parents and myself.
Unfortunately, too many parents have not even healed from their own childhood trauma so they are passing on their limitations to their children
@@Lotus3six9when I was a child no one saw a counselor or therapist for trauma...trauma was something no one spoke about, let alone heal.
Thank you Dr. Mate.
I was a victim of abuse. Raised under fear & guilt. Parentification too. I'm 65 & still suffer.
You don't need an abusive household, or a bad environment.
Something as simple as not development of a will of our own can give you a trauma in the future.
Today i realized, that im still my child self, i was mature for my age, which made me take too long to realize i hadn't grown up.....
I never had a free will, which now makes it complicated now that i have to make decisions on my own as an adult. I'm so mad it took me 12 years to realize this....
"Trauma does not happen to you
Trauma is what happens inside you."
Thank you, Dr. Mate🙏
I have long believed The Creator Is Within ❤
the really tragic ting about this, i that the neglected and traumatised child will be punished and rejected at school and in social situations, compounding their distress
@@marysmail8994 Hello 👋Beautiful Lady 🌹..How are you and the weather condition like ?
Wow. This video is so on point. Great advice too. Thank you.
As a hypnotherapist I wanted to share that I have had phenomenal results with helping people overcome trauma with hypnotherapy without having to endure years and years of talk therapy or dangerous prescription drugs. I never understood however how yoga and exercise can help heal trauma. I would be curious to learn. I exercise consistently for the health benefits but never experienced a “healing” effect. Could you share more about this please? Your channel is fantastic. I just found you. 🙏🥰
Wow..thankyou dr Mate,your insights have turned my world around..so much so im not only entering a healing time but also the opertunty has come to shsre this experince with the world..thsnkyou ❤
I grew up constantly being shamed and punished. It seems as an adult I have been ridiculed, and made fun of by those who picked up on my feeling of inadequacy
same here which is why i learned to never show it alnd always project a "positive" personality. fun and nice and great for making freiends... until the inevitable intimacy/abandonment wound trigger and then suddenly i'm shame spiraling and avoiding them and the friendship is soon over.
you are not alone and the shame and punishment wounds can express in different ways in different people. even some people who appear very sociable and well-adjusted to you may be under the surface unable to maintain deeper connections than just surface level due to childhood wounding similar to yours. some of them even become abusers to hide their wounding.
Eu diria, falando sobre mim. Já vivia em ambientes extremamente perigosos. Onde essas "pequenas" decisões eram feitas em uma fração de segundo, e toda uma vida seria guiada por esses milésimos de fragilidade... Nunca vivi perto do crime. Meu único perigo na comunidade era ser morta por falta de política pública. Teríamos um mundo diferente se filhas pudessem confiar em seus pais, num mundo onde pensarmos como não gerar CRIME. 60% dos casos de abuso, são de familiares ou conhecidos. Seja melhor do que nosso hoje, onde todo crime tem raiz, seja semente de LUTA!!!!
we understood it the first time. No need to repeat it for every time Gabor says it.
I agree, but I might forward this to some- one who is new to the whole concept, as in the world of today, the average client/friend/patient might want the basics presented in a recent podcast, possibly in the form of a brief summary, similar to this one. 🤗
@@cianormia8638 sure, but I dunno. Right now it feels just like repetition. But I was pissy yesterday, so I apologize
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When our e-motions move us, we can begin to create instead of "act out" unconscious knee-jerk reaction ✊
Hello 👋Beautiful Lady 🌹..How are you and the weather condition like ?
Emotions are great behavior thermometers
❤ Gabor Mate MD PhD CM ❤
This video is misnamed, it is not "Dr. Maté on Authenticity as the Antidote to Trauma". It is very short clips of him with distracting video and some guy expounding on what he thinks Dr. Maté is saying. You took bits and pieces of an interview of him for your own ends. Pathetic!
Why is this distractive, terrible habit of putting film footage under this talk.
It is so stupid and far from helpful.
Cut is out! Just show the person who is speaking.
it helps me. i very much enjoy seeing clips of various humans that reflect what's being spoken of. it shows me i am not alone.
I grew up constantly being shamed and punished. It seems as an adult I have been ridiculed, and made fun of by those who picked up on my feeling of inadequacy
@@amelittaberretta9109 same