The fact that some people wish to inflict the suffering they endured on others says something. Because as someone who has endured my fair share, I could never imagine feeling okay knowing I’ve put that on someone else.
I don't think the point was that they are being hostile intentionally. I think the big picture he's trying to make is that being entitled is down to two variables being met: a poor childhood and an unintrospective, unexamined life. And although we can't fix an imperfect childhood, luckily for everyone we can introspect and examine our lives in order to become conscious of the harms we were once unintentionally causing, in order to stop the harm.
I agree with you totally. Feels just like a big mess. I think ALLOT OF PEOPLE HAVE ALLOT OF anger, tbh!!!! They take it out on whoever they can!! He's right!!!!! 😣😣😣😥
I think its more natural than malicious. Your standards are set by the life you've lived, and you dont know what other people are going through unless you've lived it. Say someone says they are starvinggggg. But you've been with them all week, ate the same, did similar amounts of exercise, and you feel fine. In fact, you think its absurd because we just ate together a couple hours ago. So you dismiss them. But their reality may have been that they usually eat more, they are muscular and need to eat every 3 hours, etc. Or they are a child and growing so metabolism is different. Or your friend is super hurt because someone gave them criticism. You hear that criticism all the time that you're numb to it. You dont think its a big deal. You think adults just say that. But your friend is more sensitive, and maybe the criticism is a trigger for them, but you dont know that. You think they are too soft, and you tell them you need to get over it cuz how are you gonna survive the real world? These are more passive examples, but differences in standards can create those situations where people dismiss others or do something because they dont know that it doesnt affect everyone just the same. A girl who grew up with 5 older brothers and wrestles with them everyday tackles a little girl at the playground. But the little girl is an only child or has sisters and has never been physical and thinks the girl is a crazy psycho for tackling her.
Bullies do that. They think they are better then certain people. They look for weaker people. The bullies probably learned from there parents. There parents were bullied and now they transferred to themselves. They are now become bullies.
I'm always mind-blown by your natural ability to deconstruct our emotional machinery so precisely. If Carl Jung were alive, you would be his most cherished disciple.
Very interesting and comforting to hear. Funny story, a woman at the grocery store, we were both looking at eggs. I get it if you open them up to see if they're all in tact and maybe open a few to pick the best carton of eggs.However, this woman took it to a whole new level. She opened up a box, started examining each egg and then removed all the small eggs from her chosen carton, and replaced them with bigger eggs from other cartons (it's normal for eggs to be slightly varied in size in the same carton, and apparently that bothered her). So now someone else will buy a carton with a higher than average amount of tiny eggs because she stole all the big ones.Hard to explain, but anyhow I was staring at her like, really? there was hostility there, for sure.
This video is gold. The retail workers of this world are the recipients of this phenomenon these days more than ever..... heaven help us all .Thanks Daniel ❤️
I was harassed today at work. It’s happened before. I was called “sexy” by a woman as I was changing my shirt (I had a tank top on) then today as I was going to work my manager asked how my back was (I hurt my sciatica) and my co worker literally says, “oh I know what you were really doing you were in all different positions” (referring to sex) and the manager just laughed. I left work 2 min after I just couldn’t deal with the harassment anymore. Idk if I’m entitled or what 🤷♀️ The reason why this triggers me is because my extended family members would joke around like this and the last thing I want to do is work with family.
Sorry for the late reply, you would've deserved feedback at that time. I'm proud of you for keeping up a boundary and acting on it when people are treating you poorly like this.
True, but we are also in a world of enablers. If everyone just spoke up and told the other person that their behavior was unacceptable we would all be in a better place. In the absence of people who haven't been parented properly the society, all of us, needs to be the parent.
We definitely live in a world of gas lighting enablers and it is getting worse. Another thing I've personally experienced the last while... something unfair happens to you - you point it out to the person and then they gaslight you as if you are a bad person instead of addressing what the real problem is. Example: getting blood work done at a lab. I was waiting a long time for my blood to be taken. In retrospect I realized they had forgotten about me. Then they usher some guy in, ignore that I'm sitting there and do his blood test. By this point I was losing my patience and I called it out. How did they behave? Like I was the problem! The technician and the guy even talked about me in the 3rd person. A few decades ago there was a movement towards 'conflict resolution' and understanding where the customer/patient is coming from to de-escalate a potential problem. Somehow all of that has gone by the wayside. Nowadays if you speak your mind about wrong treatment they behave towards you as if you are a trouble maker. You are considered to be 'harassing' them. It is unbelievable.
@@lesliegann2737 Very good point! And this failure to take responsibility and, heaven forbid, apologize (!) is pervasive and goes from what you described to colossal mistakes costing the other person time, money, and every serious medical problems (in my family's case definite malpractice) and people go to major lengths to do cover-ups. In the latter case one can somewhat understand not wanting to own a mistake due to possible lawsuits but even so, as you wrote, in every instance YOU are the problem. This is typical pathological narcissist behavior and I think the loss of a moral code, no matter what one thinks of religion, is partly to blame. Also in earlier times one's reputation in small communities was essential, everyone had a whole village/community watching. For many people I think a healthy fear of some sort of reckoning in the afterlife or belief in karma is the only thing which could do anything because the current "forgiveness" thing is counterproductive, and infuriating. Also we, as a society, aren't supporting each other in these situations. What should those people have done in your case? They should have apologized and offered you a cup of coffee and correct me if I say I bet that is all it would have taken for your mood and day not to have been ruined
@@juliettailor1616 Thanks for your understanding reply. I don't know if it will do any good but I wrote a complaint to the lab about my experience. Unfortunately I've had another unpleasant medical experience with a specialist but I won't get into those details here. It is downright scary to me that so many people are not able to or don't care enough to put themselves in someone else's shoes. It is like living in a world of aliens.
The thing is, very oftenly, people nowadays act like "they're always right" and refuse to accept they did something wrong or inappropriate. So, you might always think carefully if it's worth trying to talk to some people. It's like, in order to live in society with some people, you had to pretend you're nuts too 😮
I don't really care what triggered my mother's sense of entitlement. She was such a bitch towards me that it disqualified her from any understanding or sympathy. She has been dead many years now, but if I had the power to resurrect I would bring back my beloved dog before my mother any day. Are these people too stupid to realise their actions have consequences? And that they destroy their own lives?
i had a living nightmare move in behind me about 4 years ago to live with the girl that owns the house (she is very over weight low self esteem), this guy was always drunk playing sub-woofers, crazy mean huge pit-bull barking like a loud monster anytime i made any little noise when i was outside also they were always fighting and yelling, they would not show any consideration as neighbors anyway long story short, the dog bit the mother in law and then bit the drunk guy and they had to have it put down, then a few months later it was much quieter besides just the dog being gone which helped tremendously but i noticed there was even more of a peaceful improvement and then my friend called and told me that guys name was in the obituary so i did some checking and found out that he blew his own brains out, i have never been sooo glad when a person died in my life!!! and as a matter of fact it couldn't of happened to a better person. lol
he is also describing our country, and the way we treat other countries, if we invested the money we spent on bombs to bomb them instead to help them the world would be a safer better place for everyone, we are a narcissistic country and we have the perfect representative leading us. lol
"my false self is more important that what i perceive to be your lack of self". For me is ground breaking, hearing that hit like a bolt of lightning and i've been moved by the thunder of that expression, observation and quote from Daniel. That has resonated and made so much sense with me and to me it's grabbed me by the core. That has clarified so much of a confusion of navigating grandiose self important people. Thank you so much Daniel Mc. God love you. Peace my friend 🕊️
I remember seeing a middle aged woman ripping a cashew nut bag open inside the supermarket, eating a few and leaving it there. Didn't really _need_ to eat, didn't pay, left it there to get spoiled, pretty much wasted a perfectly good bag of food someone could have eaten, while giving debt for the market and giving the staff unnecessary work. It is even somewhat unhygienic, leaving food exposed. If she had stolen it I'd have been less annoyed.
Another thought-perhaps they were quite stale already, and she hadn’t wanted to bother buying then returning them. 😝 It is still quite rude, but several times I have bought supermarket food only to discover it was moldy or rancid. I don’t always get back for a refund-hopefully it all evens out for the store in the end!
yeah, the root of entitlement is having your own offspring and not caring and loving it. Look at the animal world, they look after their young, yet humans abandon their young
Entitlement can also be having your own offspring, loving and caring only for them. While a single man or woman can devote their time, love, and energy to organizations like Big Brother Big Sister, Churches, Monasteries. Their compassion goes out to many more kids. Depends on how you look at it.
Daniel, thanks for your insight into these broken people. It helps me to have compassion on them. Unfortunately, their hostile demands, disrespect and boundary stomping, causes hostility in return. Do you have any "scripts" that would help in these situations? I would love to say (in a gentle, voice), "I'm sorry you weren't loved by your parents." Then give them what they need without anger. Of course that would probably cause them to go balistic but maybe they'd reflect upon it later and consider what to do about it. Again, that's in a perfect world. As a past therapist, what do you think they need to hear? How do we get past their defense mechanism to give them the love they are so desperately seeking?
Even though my mom adored me, and treated me like a princess I never had boundaries with her. I lacked discipline and structure big time. These “tough love” parenting techniques are still vital and things I am learning to enforce in my adult life. Thanks for the video!
I have a cousin who says that she wishes her parents gave her more discipline and self-discipline and wishes her parents had more appropriate restrictions when she was young. It's the other end of the scale from overly controlling parents but maybe just as damaging
I feel like letting kids do whatever they want is a form of neglect. To the child, it says: “I don’t care enough about you to spend time teaching you, or to support you emotionally as you struggle and grow. I don’t see the unique potential you have inside, and am uninterested in helping you discover and develop those talents and virtues most important to your soul.” “It makes ME feel special and important when you are delighted by the gifts I give you. And partly because I don’t want you being upset with ME, and partly because you bore me, I won’t provide you with constructive feedback or set limits on your behaviour. I am indifferent to your emotional world, and I don’t want you to bother me so please go watch tv, or eat junkfood, or do drugs, or run with the wrong crowd-I don’t care, just get out of my hair!” The most entitled people I’ve known (some would say narcissistic) are those whose parents spoiled them with material things (some forcing gifts THEY like upon their children, and getting so offended and “hurt” if the child says it doesn’t suit them, that the child learns not to say anything-others taking the opposite approach and saying “there, there, I’ll get you something different”) while neglecting them emotionally in the above manner.
@@paperfrost yes, you are so right! I've observed that even though both overly strict and apathetic parents are both very painful contenders, the more damaging of the two extremes, in my opinion, is the "don't care" parent. The opposite of love is not hate, it's apathy.
Loud music booming out of cars passing through the hood, vibrating the windows and the dishes, not wearing a mask or keeping their distance, joining a movement to summarily dismiss you out of hand...
It seems entitled, but the mask shit is based on piss poor "science." Hear me out. How many months has the virus been around? Real science involves testing and retesting, cohort studies, observational studies, and experimental studies, and Meta analysis of those studies to come to clinical recommendations. The current mask science is as good as the headline "eggs are good for you again, according to recent study" or "saturated fat doesn't cause elevated LDL and heart disease, according to recent study." Both of the previous statements are how news reports science, but it doesn't flip the body of research still recommending people limit saturated fat and eggs being a significant source of saturated fat. The mask science has only a few months of observation and possibly cohort studies. And yet the public health rec is we need to wear one. That's where it is very controversial, and public health is almost acting like the Church did during the Inquisition. Instead of sin controlling people's lives, shitty science is becoming political and creating a psychology of shunning people who have a right to not wear a mask in America. No, it isn't entitlement. It is the fact I have 3.5 science degrees and don't buy the mask science or the coronavirus risk. To the lay person I'm "entitled." It is as though the news reporting is on the rare side effects of drugs and medications or if you Google your symptoms and find out you have cancer. The extreme cases of COVID is newsworthy. And yet, I'm in TX. We are supposed to have it "out of control" here. At the peak of it being "out of control" we had 3300 active cases in a county of 1274000. That's like a 1/450 chance of coming into contact with someone with COVID. For reference, Celiac disease affects 1/150 people! So no, I won't wear a mask unless the business requires it, which is everywhere, but I take it off the moment I walk outside. The fact businesses require it is a testament to population wide fearmongering and a litigious society. I'm a democrat, but I actually don't agree with the leftist tactics of fearmongering during an election year. It is pissing me off enough to want to vote for Trump! And I voted Hillary. I also think it is peculiar the BLM movement happened when it did. Would the left go so far as to have a black man killed on camera to get Biden elected in November? Sounds like antifa to me. Nothing could get such a knee jerk reaction nationally than such a video. National fear to national anger overnight. It seems too well orchestrated.
@@dcktater7847 I agree everywhere except the gym. People who tell me it's psychological that I have trouble breathing with a mask on while at the gym is like telling people with IBS it's in their head. I know for a fact I can't workout hard with a mask on. People who claim otherwise don't track their workout performance. The point of going to the gym is to push yourself
@@dcktater7847 I mean if you're at a level of fitness I am, I lose muscle from home workouts. It isn't heavy enough. Volume overload is boring. What I don't like is public health telling people it's not safe to go to the gym over fear of something that might kill a small percentage of people vs stuff we know already does kill people (with a lot better data than the coronavirus has) from not going like diabetes and heart disease. As someone who works in nutrition and exercise counseling, a small percentage of people thrive in home workouts. They ended up being a trend thru the first part of the pandemic, but lots of people are over it and completely out of shape and gaining weight. We need exercise to regulate our neurotransmitters in our brain, our gut motility, and our mood, and forcing people into fewer modes of exercise when it is hard enough to get people to do it at all is not productive for society.
Some people get this way by learned behavior. Beware of who you let in your ear they can change your mind. Have you ever seen someone's attitude and behavior change around toxic people and they become like those toxic people?
@@ohara8845 you are weak you need to be delivered and strengthened. Many people have died and toxic evil is still in our midst. Be delivered and made whole!
I became friends with Mrs. S when we worked together. She was a manager. Her husband had a high powered job. I was going thru some difficult times and she was a "comforter". Well, with this lockdown she doesn't have a job and the husband had to take a less prestigious job. At the same time I started to flourish. Guess who doesn't want to be friends any more. :(
The bigger problem, I think, is why in some cases entitlemend is ignored or even cherished (aka reverence and societal approval the bullies get for abusing others who in this idiotic "societal hierarchy" are perceived as "lower than them") while in other cases it is villified (when someone who repeatedly didn't get his legitimate needs met gets branded as "entitled" or "evil" for finally speaking up). I wouldn't put that much blame on the individual, but rather on the social system around which enables/incentivizes certain behaviors.
i had a woman charge at my 3year old son and i threw myself over him as the dog ran into me, my 7 and 8 year old were screaming, as the dog owner strolled over her response was her dog is entitled to run free in the park, as the dog then ran to bark and harrass another dog, some people are totally disconnected from reality
Can you please share your thoughts on hypnotherapy? Specifically if used to heal trauma. I've been seeing a hypnotherapist for a few months now and I'm really interested to learn your opinion or experience with this. Thank you!
The only way to cure entitlement is to make them humbled. Unfortunately, not everyone who is better than you at something is necessarily better personality-wise. The magnitude of the human ego is strong.
«their parents didn’t have a real self, weren’t connected because no parents who had a deeply connected sense of self would raise a child this way. They grew up in the environment of no self and started treating others this way. Nobody counts because nobody exists. They have a compulsion to do to others what was done do them, if only they could reconnect to their feelings.” “Not give a child a chance to grow up, and have a self. A real true self is the ultimate example of entitlement” cool
An interesting perspective Daniel, thanks for sharing. The issue I have here is that most parents are not self aware to raise children in a loving environment and how does once become self aware if they have no capacity to do so. You don't know what you don't know, this is how I see folks who are not self aware.
All religions consist of "adepts" who gatekeep the esoteric wisdom therein; touting themselves as divinely superior due to such "mastery". 😂 It's the Mark of Cain in the population that would use withheld or hidden knowledge over others. All old world and organized religions believe themselves superior over those who don't practice it. Like Christians, Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists, New Agers, Theosophical Mystics, Masons/Mesons/Free&Accepted/RosiCrusi/etc, blah blah blah. Only now have we started to appreciate OPEN SOURCE forms of "intelligence".
Thank you Daniel, I could never figure this out & it makes so much sense now! I always found that behavior so confusing. Perhaps that is the reason we are breeding a society of Narcissists.
To the entitled dog-walkers I would definitely add "cyclists" ! They think they're entitled to take over the roads from pedestrians even going through traffic lights, completely ignoring pedestrians who are already crossing the road before their arrival, taking over British canal towpaths which are clearly signposted as prioritising pedestrians.... they are completely narcissistic, the bike and the dog in my mind are used as phallic extensions of their entitled selfish behaviour.
Hi, I really like your video and your ability to communicate so well. Through your videos I found that you were a therapist before. Can I please get some help from you for my personal circumstances. Sorry if I am being intrusive. Thanks. You are doing a great job.
Daniel, do you ever watch the Joe Rogan Experience podcast? You should go on there. You should contact him and see about doing it. It'd be a great interview.
@Wayne M Have you ever actually listened to his show for more than five or ten minutes? Because I used to think that, but then I realized he's actually a really good interviewer.
I sent my mum this video (I suppose I intuitively felt the time was ripe, idk) but she messaged me and said she watched many of your videos; and that she felt she was an accepting person and wants me to be happy doing whatever my purpose is. Okay, I told her it’s more fitting if she were to replace the word accepting with passive-cowardice. I hope you have the capacity to unroot your own trauma and figure out how to love yourself. May she (and everyone else in the World) **learn** to be happy and take care of themselves like a self-cleaning oven... However I had your book Toward Truth delivered and I want to share a paragraph from CHAPTER 2 (Childhood: A Time to Grow, If You Are Fortunate): “It surprises almost no one that a child suffers trauma from being beaten with a whip or locked in a closet or raped, but only a rare few recognize that these traumas, as common as they might be, are but the merest tip of a huge iceberg. Ninety-nine percent of this iceberg lies below the surface of the water, below what society can recognize as trauma. A person’s ability to recognize the magnitude of this iceberg is dependent on the degree he has become aware of his own traumas.” Now, my mom’s response is all good, grand and wonderful, but I’m not going to get ahead of myself because, idk if you’ve ever experienced a ‘deja-moo’, where you’ve seen this bullshit before (my favorite kind of wisdom); I’ve experienced ruined relationships with the savior-complex so, I’ll continue keeping my distance and expect to be disappointed 👌✅🙏
You are forgetting Zionists. "God gave us this land, now get off!" Kicking people out of their homes at gunpoint claiming God gave them the right. Then when the people fight back they psychologically project on them and call them the religious fanatics....
Before college when I lived at home, my mother would straight up just decide to ignore me for the day. Being ignored is a type of emotional neglect that I don't know how ANY kid can cope with. If I had a kid, I can't imagine doing that to them.
Lol. Some disgustingly entitled people will say that they aren’t shy about “having their needs met” and being “very aggressive in enforcing their very firm boundaries”.
I try to get my dogs to the right side of the side walk but people still walk around I feel weird afterwards, like I gave you guys space, my pups are chill they don’t bite.
You are awsomme and valued Daniel. Selfish self centered people is here to stay unfortunately.What can be done about stuff happening?Well you can have a chat with them.I did this with a person stealing.They edend up giving the stuff back.Mainly we can focus on our selves of better ways not to be selfish and self centered as a goal.Our actions speak louder to others.You made me laugh about the dogs.Can you take a dog for a walk like a neighbors perhaps this would speak louder in all fields.❤
The children thing and dog thing I totally understand but the eating food in line thing i dont think matters to me.. they probably have a very short time to eat or are very hungry and they're not leaving the establishment so it isnt stealing.. they're just in line on the way to pay for it anyway so doesnt matter to me personally. The example of this I have done is drinking some sips from a bottle of water when shopping at target or something. I was super thirsty and did pay for it when I was done shopping, did not leave establishment.
They maybe not be aware that people are bothered by their dog. People are so in love with their dogs they expect everybody loves their dog. Maybe try to explain to people in å friendly manner.
I love your analysis, conjecture and peofessional opinion on so many important and taboo topics. I enjoy watching your videos and can feel the sincerity and heart that you put into them even when you seem to be playing devils adcocate or juxtapose im not sure what to call it... to your own initial or secondsry thoughts. Im not a professional but yechnology has afforded me to feel entitled as a human being and a fan of yours to throw in my 2 cents... I just wanted to say that I think entitlement isnt all that deep and would first blame society as a whole and technology for making human interaction so casual. If you consider how humans were meant to have been evolved and how techonological and many more scientific and engineering accomplishments have revolutionized us. Id love to see you do a video on tbose topics. Also your opinion in entitled behavior (which i also abhor) reminded me of an Elesnor Roosevelt quote.. i beleive it was: "you wouldnt worry so much what other people thought of you, if you realized how little they thought." Or something like that. Entitlement isnt premeditated at all. I beleive its a spectum of which we are all likely guitly of from one time to another.
Babies are born with 5D consciousness. Between birth and early childhood, they invariable suffer pain>shock>trauma which causes them to cut off from their 5D heart consciousness, which is in touch with the Universe, and leaves them in an existential vacuum. They then develop their mind which knows nothing inherently, and takes on a 3D matrix illusionary reality. The quests of religion, philosophy, science, therapy etc over centuries is to get to real reality, without much results. They do not know about Heart consciousness. How people turn out is about how well and straight they have played their hand. But it is all a soap opera in a global lunatic asylum with the inmates in charge.
I think it can go both ways..I've seen people belittled by their parents and treat like trash,so in adulthood they are no different,they dont think they are good enough,no confidence,anxiety issues.Then on the other side ive seen people born with a silver spoon up their ass,their parents put them on a pedestal,gave them everything and years later because of too much freedom and no boundaries they got into drugs,stole from the parents,literally bit off the hand that fed them. I really think it's how we deal with it as young adults. We chose ourselves if we want to be a good person or not?
Hey Daniel, I have one less relevant question here: I have a PG student who is very very lazy, up to the point of almost failing the PQE and having little chance of finding a job. I talked to him about this many many times, and he admitted his laziness, but found it very difficult to make substantial changes (and yes, he needs that to graduate on time and find a job). He said his relationship with his parents sucks, and that that had a negative influence on him. The university counseling does not help at all in this case. They keep telling me to mind my own business and let the student talk to them only if he finds it necessary to. I don't doubt about the seriousness of the issue and my boundaries of action here, but the situation simply doesn't improve. I try to motivate him with anything I could do, but I feel like he doesn't care deep inside. How can I improve the situation?
I'm in Canada and let me tell you only Americans stand out like sore thumbs for their obtuse rudeness and disrespect. Not all of you of course but when they got the Americans they really got the American. You seem rather Canadian to me actually...any american with a heart does lol.
So well said once again, so true indeed in narcissistic family environments where the disconnection of the egotic shell from the true-starved to death self is the rule dictated by the fight and flight response.. But Daniel, how can be Parents called responsible for being entitled if they aren't self-aware at all because themselves acting out just by this egotic shell being? clearly, they will teach the same even just by leading the example via their behaviours. Now, we have also to consider though human nature, cause there are basically at least 2, one only of which is keener on accepting this entitlement. Keep by example 2 kids, a little one in the play crib that runs to steal the toy the other calmer one is playing with.. if the parent will not bring back the balance taking away the stolen toy from the end of the entitled to give it back to the other one, the entitled by the omission of correction will get the message I CAN DO THIS and will go on enabled by the parents in their behaviour ..but still an originary spontaneous tendency has to be observed. In the person with entitled nature (if we do not want to define it by different words)we could even notice symptoms of their own inner depiction of the lack of love toward themselves from the parental environment, so even the little entitled one can display reactions that will be obviously considered in a wrong way from Doctors that don't understand anything about that or that will just laugh at that considering those reactions just funny or even normal when those aren't at all anything else than screams for help... If the little entitled shows as a little vane one, we can more correctly assume that this behaviour isn't just mocking an adult, it is more likely a seek for reassurance to be loved despite how they are beautiful or not..a seek for the unconditional love that instead once again is matched by parents only with CONDITIONS: you will be loved if you will act good, look pretty, be well mannered and so on..all things sold for EDUCATION but that really thorn apart the spontaneous true-self of the child since the earliest age.. on this length can go also physiological symptoms as enuresis in grown-up children(5-8years old): the physiological symptom is just a psychological grip to the early stages when the need of love wasn't met by the parents.. than if the symptom can be fixed with a bombing of vits and minerals by a paediatrician it is good but will care only that symptom, not of all the problem related the emotional and psychological side of the child, nor of his ambient of origin-Family dynamic!
So putting a child up for adoption is an act of entitlement. I disagree. It's a huge act of love and often desperation. This seems like a really close minded and judgemental viewpoint.
I think you take some things too personally, and you vastly underestimate how much people do not give a fuck.There is nothing entitled about much of what you described, because entitlement implies they are consciously and actively considering these things they transgress upon. Truth is they hardly consider it. And honestly, what they are doing is actually closer to the nature of reality, which is something like every power effecting its ultimate consequence every moment it sees fit. Even though I agree with you about how things SHOULD be, I think it could be argued that it is entitled of YOU to think they need to play by the rules, because you presuppose that everyone will play fair. It sounds like you try to bury your resentment of these types of people and what it can mean to be human in this sense inside of ideologies and "should be" scenarios. No ill intent with this, I'm a big fan of your videos and watch every one, I just think idealism almost always leads to disappointment, especially when it comes to people
As Much as i like your videos, the yellow lighting always irks me in some manner. I don't know why. Makes the video feel dated also , I think. But otherwise this is so good!
Not to get all political but this makes sense with what is happening in the states these days... many many people in our society really needed a hug and to have better parenting. Too many entitled people with destructive behavior. 😳😳 the connection is blowing my mind a bit!
The fact that some people wish to inflict the suffering they endured on others says something. Because as someone who has endured my fair share, I could never imagine feeling okay knowing I’ve put that on someone else.
I don't think the point was that they are being hostile intentionally. I think the big picture he's trying to make is that being entitled is down to two variables being met: a poor childhood and an unintrospective, unexamined life. And although we can't fix an imperfect childhood, luckily for everyone we can introspect and examine our lives in order to become conscious of the harms we were once unintentionally causing, in order to stop the harm.
I used to feel this way until it kept happening for over 35 years now. Humans are horrible
I agree with you totally. Feels just like a big mess. I think ALLOT OF PEOPLE HAVE ALLOT OF anger, tbh!!!! They take it out on whoever they can!! He's right!!!!! 😣😣😣😥
I think its more natural than malicious. Your standards are set by the life you've lived, and you dont know what other people are going through unless you've lived it. Say someone says they are starvinggggg. But you've been with them all week, ate the same, did similar amounts of exercise, and you feel fine. In fact, you think its absurd because we just ate together a couple hours ago. So you dismiss them. But their reality may have been that they usually eat more, they are muscular and need to eat every 3 hours, etc.
Or they are a child and growing so metabolism is different.
Or your friend is super hurt because someone gave them criticism. You hear that criticism all the time that you're numb to it. You dont think its a big deal. You think adults just say that. But your friend is more sensitive, and maybe the criticism is a trigger for them, but you dont know that. You think they are too soft, and you tell them you need to get over it cuz how are you gonna survive the real world?
These are more passive examples, but differences in standards can create those situations where people dismiss others or do something because they dont know that it doesnt affect everyone just the same. A girl who grew up with 5 older brothers and wrestles with them everyday tackles a little girl at the playground. But the little girl is an only child or has sisters and has never been physical and thinks the girl is a crazy psycho for tackling her.
Bullies do that. They think they are better then certain people. They look for weaker people. The bullies probably learned from there parents. There parents were bullied and now they transferred to themselves. They are now become bullies.
I'm always mind-blown by your natural ability to deconstruct our emotional machinery so precisely.
If Carl Jung were alive, you would be his most cherished disciple.
Very interesting and comforting to hear. Funny story, a woman at the grocery store, we were both looking at eggs. I get it if you open them up to see if they're all in tact and maybe open a few to pick the best carton of eggs.However, this woman took it to a whole new level. She opened up a box, started examining each egg and then removed all the small eggs from her chosen carton, and replaced them with bigger eggs from other cartons (it's normal for eggs to be slightly varied in size in the same carton, and apparently that bothered her). So now someone else will buy a carton with a higher than average amount of tiny eggs because she stole all the big ones.Hard to explain, but anyhow I was staring at her like, really? there was hostility there, for sure.
Dammit, she was not gonna be shortchanged by getting small eggs!
Let me guess... was it an vain elderly women?
(source: I worked at a supermarket)
@@TheOHenry666 No, she was actually like 30-40's , millennials you know :)
I wouldn't be surprised that if you pointed it out, you'd be made into the bad guy.
This video is gold. The retail workers of this world are the recipients of this phenomenon these days more than ever..... heaven help us all .Thanks Daniel ❤️
I was harassed today at work. It’s happened before. I was called “sexy” by a woman as I was changing my shirt (I had a tank top on) then today as I was going to work my manager asked how my back was (I hurt my sciatica) and my co worker literally says, “oh I know what you were really doing you were in all different positions” (referring to sex) and the manager just laughed. I left work 2 min after I just couldn’t deal with the harassment anymore. Idk if I’m entitled or what 🤷♀️ The reason why this triggers me is because my extended family members would joke around like this and the last thing I want to do is work with family.
you did good, you're not entitled, never accept harassment of any kind at work, it's never worth it
Sorry for the late reply, you would've deserved feedback at that time. I'm proud of you for keeping up a boundary and acting on it when people are treating you poorly like this.
True, but we are also in a world of enablers. If everyone just spoke up and told the other person that their behavior was unacceptable we would all be in a better place. In the absence of people who haven't been parented properly the society, all of us, needs to be the parent.
We definitely live in a world of gas lighting enablers and it is getting worse. Another thing I've personally experienced the last while... something unfair happens to you - you point it out to the person and then they gaslight you as if you are a bad person instead of addressing what the real problem is. Example: getting blood work done at a lab. I was waiting a long time for my blood to be taken. In retrospect I realized they had forgotten about me. Then they usher some guy in, ignore that I'm sitting there and do his blood test. By this point I was losing my patience and I called it out. How did they behave? Like I was the problem! The technician and the guy even talked about me in the 3rd person. A few decades ago there was a movement towards 'conflict resolution' and understanding where the customer/patient is coming from to de-escalate a potential problem. Somehow all of that has gone by the wayside. Nowadays if you speak your mind about wrong treatment they behave towards you as if you are a trouble maker. You are considered to be 'harassing' them. It is unbelievable.
@@lesliegann2737 Very good point! And this failure to take responsibility and, heaven forbid, apologize (!) is pervasive and goes from what you described to colossal mistakes costing the other person time, money, and every serious medical problems (in my family's case definite malpractice) and people go to major lengths to do cover-ups. In the latter case one can somewhat understand not wanting to own a mistake due to possible lawsuits but even so, as you wrote, in every instance YOU are the problem. This is typical pathological narcissist behavior and I think the loss of a moral code, no matter what one thinks of religion, is partly to blame. Also in earlier times one's reputation in small communities was essential, everyone had a whole village/community watching.
For many people I think a healthy fear of some sort of reckoning in the afterlife or belief in karma is the only thing which could do anything because the current "forgiveness" thing is counterproductive, and infuriating. Also we, as a society, aren't supporting each other in these situations.
What should those people have done in your case? They should have apologized and offered you a cup of coffee and correct me if I say I bet that is all it would have taken for your mood and day not to have been ruined
@@juliettailor1616 Thanks for your understanding reply. I don't know if it will do any good but I wrote a complaint to the lab about my experience. Unfortunately I've had another unpleasant medical experience with a specialist but I won't get into those details here. It is downright scary to me that so many people are not able to or don't care enough to put themselves in someone else's shoes. It is like living in a world of aliens.
The thing is, very oftenly, people nowadays act like "they're always right" and refuse to accept they did something wrong or inappropriate. So, you might always think carefully if it's worth trying to talk to some people.
It's like, in order to live in society with some people, you had to pretend you're nuts too 😮
People are too selfish and entitled to care about speaking up.
I don't really care what triggered my mother's sense of entitlement. She was such a bitch towards me that it disqualified her from any understanding or sympathy. She has been dead many years now, but if I had the power to resurrect I would bring back my beloved dog before my mother any day. Are these people too stupid to realise their actions have consequences? And that they destroy their own lives?
after many years of thinking about many related topics: yes
You are so on point. Wow
I have entitled bullies aka sociopaths as neighbors .They act like they are so much better than everyone else .Alot of them are theives !
Yeah, because they’re also entitled to your stuff.
Craig W I live next door to one too.
i had a living nightmare move in behind me about 4 years ago to live with the girl that owns the house (she is very over weight low self esteem), this guy was always drunk playing sub-woofers, crazy mean huge pit-bull barking like a loud monster anytime i made any little noise when i was outside also they were always fighting and yelling, they would not show any consideration as neighbors anyway long story short, the dog bit the mother in law and then bit the drunk guy and they had to have it put down, then a few months later it was much quieter besides just the dog being gone which helped tremendously but i noticed there was even more of a peaceful improvement and then my friend called and told me that guys name was in the obituary so i did some checking and found out that he blew his own brains out, i have never been sooo glad when a person died in my life!!! and as a matter of fact it couldn't of happened to a better person. lol
@@marmadukescarlet7791 They are from hell I have to gray rock them .
@pixielated23 That makes two of us then my neighbors & their children are all theives & bullies .
he is also describing our country, and the way we treat other countries, if we invested the money we spent on bombs to bomb them instead to help them the world would be a safer better place for everyone, we are a narcissistic country and we have the perfect representative leading us. lol
True. Gov sucks
"my false self is more important that what i perceive to be your lack of self". For me is ground breaking, hearing that hit like a bolt of lightning and i've been moved by the thunder of that expression, observation and quote from Daniel. That has resonated and made so much sense with me and to me it's grabbed me by the core. That has clarified so much of a confusion of navigating grandiose self important people. Thank you so much Daniel Mc. God love you. Peace my friend 🕊️
You mean Narcisism?
I remember seeing a middle aged woman ripping a cashew nut bag open inside the supermarket, eating a few and leaving it there. Didn't really _need_ to eat, didn't pay, left it there to get spoiled, pretty much wasted a perfectly good bag of food someone could have eaten, while giving debt for the market and giving the staff unnecessary work. It is even somewhat unhygienic, leaving food exposed. If she had stolen it I'd have been less annoyed.
Another thought-perhaps they were quite stale already, and she hadn’t wanted to bother buying then returning them. 😝 It is still quite rude, but several times I have bought supermarket food only to discover it was moldy or rancid. I don’t always get back for a refund-hopefully it all evens out for the store in the end!
But I do hate to see wasted food, as well, so I appreciate your annoyance! 🙂
yeah, the root of entitlement is having your own offspring and not caring and loving it. Look at the animal world, they look after their young, yet humans abandon their young
Entitlement can also be having your own offspring, loving and caring only for them.
While a single man or woman can devote their time, love, and energy to organizations like Big Brother Big Sister, Churches, Monasteries.
Their compassion goes out to many more kids.
Depends on how you look at it.
The last statement is not true. We are not truly different from animals.
i don’t think that’s a good comparison as many animals eat their young lmao
Congratz to 101 000 subscribers! Your channel is one of my favourites at the moment.❤🎉
Daniel, thanks for your insight into these broken people. It helps me to have compassion on them. Unfortunately, their hostile demands, disrespect and boundary stomping, causes hostility in return. Do you have any "scripts" that would help in these situations? I would love to say (in a gentle, voice), "I'm sorry you weren't loved by your parents." Then give them what they need without anger. Of course that would probably cause them to go balistic but maybe they'd reflect upon it later and consider what to do about it. Again, that's in a perfect world. As a past therapist, what do you think they need to hear? How do we get past their defense mechanism to give them the love they are so desperately seeking?
Thank you so much for this. I am also now thinking of ways in which I've acted entitled too. Oh, this being human thing...
Even though my mom adored me, and treated me like a princess I never had boundaries with her. I lacked discipline and structure big time. These “tough love” parenting techniques are still vital and things I am learning to enforce in my adult life. Thanks for the video!
I have a cousin who says that she wishes her parents gave her more discipline and self-discipline and wishes her parents had more appropriate restrictions when she was young. It's the other end of the scale from overly controlling parents but maybe just as damaging
I feel like letting kids do whatever they want is a form of neglect. To the child, it says: “I don’t care enough about you to spend time teaching you, or to support you emotionally as you struggle and grow. I don’t see the unique potential you have inside, and am uninterested in helping you discover and develop those talents and virtues most important to your soul.”
“It makes ME feel special and important when you are delighted by the gifts I give you. And partly because I don’t want you being upset with ME, and partly because you bore me, I won’t provide you with constructive feedback or set limits on your behaviour. I am indifferent to your emotional world, and I don’t want you to bother me so please go watch tv, or eat junkfood, or do drugs, or run with the wrong crowd-I don’t care, just get out of my hair!”
The most entitled people I’ve known (some would say narcissistic) are those whose parents spoiled them with material things (some forcing gifts THEY like upon their children, and getting so offended and “hurt” if the child says it doesn’t suit them, that the child learns not to say anything-others taking the opposite approach and saying “there, there, I’ll get you something different”) while neglecting them emotionally in the above manner.
@@paperfrost yes, you are so right! I've observed that even though both overly strict and apathetic parents are both very painful contenders, the more damaging of the two extremes, in my opinion, is the "don't care" parent. The opposite of love is not hate, it's apathy.
Can you give examples that you had/wish you had
Another awesome video. Thank you for making these!
Loud music booming out of cars passing through the hood, vibrating the windows and the dishes, not wearing a mask or keeping their distance, joining a movement to summarily dismiss you out of hand...
It seems entitled, but the mask shit is based on piss poor "science." Hear me out.
How many months has the virus been around?
Real science involves testing and retesting, cohort studies, observational studies, and experimental studies, and Meta analysis of those studies to come to clinical recommendations.
The current mask science is as good as the headline "eggs are good for you again, according to recent study" or "saturated fat doesn't cause elevated LDL and heart disease, according to recent study." Both of the previous statements are how news reports science, but it doesn't flip the body of research still recommending people limit saturated fat and eggs being a significant source of saturated fat.
The mask science has only a few months of observation and possibly cohort studies. And yet the public health rec is we need to wear one.
That's where it is very controversial, and public health is almost acting like the Church did during the Inquisition. Instead of sin controlling people's lives, shitty science is becoming political and creating a psychology of shunning people who have a right to not wear a mask in America.
No, it isn't entitlement. It is the fact I have 3.5 science degrees and don't buy the mask science or the coronavirus risk. To the lay person I'm "entitled."
It is as though the news reporting is on the rare side effects of drugs and medications or if you Google your symptoms and find out you have cancer. The extreme cases of COVID is newsworthy.
And yet, I'm in TX. We are supposed to have it "out of control" here. At the peak of it being "out of control" we had 3300 active cases in a county of 1274000. That's like a 1/450 chance of coming into contact with someone with COVID. For reference, Celiac disease affects 1/150 people!
So no, I won't wear a mask unless the business requires it, which is everywhere, but I take it off the moment I walk outside.
The fact businesses require it is a testament to population wide fearmongering and a litigious society. I'm a democrat, but I actually don't agree with the leftist tactics of fearmongering during an election year. It is pissing me off enough to want to vote for Trump! And I voted Hillary. I also think it is peculiar the BLM movement happened when it did. Would the left go so far as to have a black man killed on camera to get Biden elected in November? Sounds like antifa to me. Nothing could get such a knee jerk reaction nationally than such a video. National fear to national anger overnight. It seems too well orchestrated.
@@dcktater7847 I agree everywhere except the gym. People who tell me it's psychological that I have trouble breathing with a mask on while at the gym is like telling people with IBS it's in their head.
I know for a fact I can't workout hard with a mask on. People who claim otherwise don't track their workout performance. The point of going to the gym is to push yourself
@@dcktater7847 I mean if you're at a level of fitness I am, I lose muscle from home workouts. It isn't heavy enough. Volume overload is boring. What I don't like is public health telling people it's not safe to go to the gym over fear of something that might kill a small percentage of people vs stuff we know already does kill people (with a lot better data than the coronavirus has) from not going like diabetes and heart disease. As someone who works in nutrition and exercise counseling, a small percentage of people thrive in home workouts. They ended up being a trend thru the first part of the pandemic, but lots of people are over it and completely out of shape and gaining weight. We need exercise to regulate our neurotransmitters in our brain, our gut motility, and our mood, and forcing people into fewer modes of exercise when it is hard enough to get people to do it at all is not productive for society.
@M B hand washing and sanitization helps if you are the kind who touches his or her face. Surface transmission isn't a common mode
Mackler, you are good. This phenomenon is described so well in this video.
Some people get this way by learned behavior. Beware of who you let in your ear they can change your mind.
Have you ever seen someone's attitude and behavior change around toxic people and they become like those toxic people?
Yes I'm a toxic person now because i stay with my toxic family for a long time and now it's too late for change I think I deserve just to die.
@@ohara8845 you are weak you need to be delivered and strengthened. Many people have died and toxic evil is still in our midst. Be delivered and made whole!
I became friends with Mrs. S when we worked together. She was a manager. Her husband had a high powered job. I was going thru some difficult times and she was a "comforter". Well, with this lockdown she doesn't have a job and the husband had to take a less prestigious job. At the same time I started to flourish.
Guess who doesn't want to be friends any more. :(
I'm not going to lie this made me anxious. It stresses me out that there are people like this all over the place
@Klaa2 including myself
The bigger problem, I think, is why in some cases entitlemend is ignored or even cherished (aka reverence and societal approval the bullies get for abusing others who in this idiotic "societal hierarchy" are perceived as "lower than them") while in other cases it is villified (when someone who repeatedly didn't get his legitimate needs met gets branded as "entitled" or "evil" for finally speaking up). I wouldn't put that much blame on the individual, but rather on the social system around which enables/incentivizes certain behaviors.
I have three dogs and dog people like that really piss me off.
i had a woman charge at my 3year old son and i threw myself over him as the dog ran into me, my 7 and 8 year old were screaming, as the dog owner strolled over her response was her dog is entitled to run free in the park, as the dog then ran to bark and harrass another dog, some people are totally disconnected from reality
Can you please share your thoughts on hypnotherapy? Specifically if used to heal trauma. I've been seeing a hypnotherapist for a few months now and I'm really interested to learn your opinion or experience with this. Thank you!
And how would you open or create a safe space which would allowed them to meet (see) themself?
Hello Narcissism, my old friend, you've come to talk with me again, and as these visions softly creep in ... I need to abandon thee without delay!!!
The only way to cure entitlement is to make them humbled. Unfortunately, not everyone who is better than you at something is necessarily better personality-wise. The magnitude of the human ego is strong.
I often wish I could return to my childhood, I miss those days.
«their parents didn’t have a real self, weren’t connected because no parents who had a deeply connected sense of self would raise a child this way. They grew up in the environment of no self and started treating others this way. Nobody counts because nobody exists. They have a compulsion to do to others what was done do them, if only they could reconnect to their feelings.” “Not give a child a chance to grow up, and have a self. A real true self is the ultimate example of entitlement” cool
This is a genius video. Thank you so very much.
It would be really interesting to hear your thoughts on bipolar disorder and especially what is the root cause of it in your opinion, for example.
An interesting perspective Daniel, thanks for sharing.
The issue I have here is that most parents are not self aware to raise children in a loving environment and how does once become self aware if they have no capacity to do so. You don't know what you don't know, this is how I see folks who are not self aware.
you really opened my eyes so thanks on earth
A big blind spot here, is that there are some religions and cultures that actually do view themselves as "better" than the rest of us.
All religions consist of "adepts" who gatekeep the esoteric wisdom therein; touting themselves as divinely superior due to such "mastery". 😂
It's the Mark of Cain in the population that would use withheld or hidden knowledge over others. All old world and organized religions believe themselves superior over those who don't practice it.
Like Christians, Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists, New Agers, Theosophical Mystics, Masons/Mesons/Free&Accepted/RosiCrusi/etc, blah blah blah.
Only now have we started to appreciate OPEN SOURCE forms of "intelligence".
There's been pockets or eddies in every thread of time where we've been able to openly and freely share ideas amongst others without ostracization.
Thank you Daniel, I could never figure this out & it makes so much sense now! I always found that behavior so confusing. Perhaps that is the reason we are breeding a society of Narcissists.
To the entitled dog-walkers I would definitely add "cyclists" ! They think they're entitled to take over the roads from pedestrians even going through traffic lights, completely ignoring pedestrians who are already crossing the road before their arrival, taking over British canal towpaths which are clearly signposted as prioritising pedestrians.... they are completely narcissistic, the bike and the dog in my mind are used as phallic extensions of their entitled selfish behaviour.
I dont known why, but there are, sadly enough, children that are born unloved. And some of them behave like this.
I’ve been guilty for the real reason stated.
This is my dad to a T
Oh my thank you for this
Hi, I really like your video and your ability to communicate so well. Through your videos I found that you were a therapist before. Can I please get some help from you for my personal circumstances. Sorry if I am being intrusive. Thanks. You are doing a great job.
Daniel, do you ever watch the Joe Rogan Experience podcast? You should go on there. You should contact him and see about doing it. It'd be a great interview.
@Wayne M Have you ever actually listened to his show for more than five or ten minutes? Because I used to think that, but then I realized he's actually a really good interviewer.
I agree!
Thank you for this video. Much of what you say here is sooooo true!!!!! 😩😖
So how do you raise your child with proper love?
I sent my mum this video (I suppose I intuitively felt the time was ripe, idk) but she messaged me and said she watched many of your videos; and that she felt she was an accepting person and wants me to be happy doing whatever my purpose is.
Okay, I told her it’s more fitting if she were to replace the word accepting with passive-cowardice. I hope you have the capacity to unroot your own trauma and figure out how to love yourself. May she (and everyone else in the World) **learn** to be happy and take care of themselves like a self-cleaning oven...
However I had your book Toward Truth delivered and I want to share a paragraph from CHAPTER 2 (Childhood: A Time to Grow, If You Are Fortunate):
“It surprises almost no one that a child suffers trauma from being beaten with a whip or locked in a closet or raped, but only a rare few recognize that these traumas, as common as they might be, are but the merest tip of a huge iceberg. Ninety-nine percent of this iceberg lies below the surface of the water, below what society can recognize as trauma. A person’s ability to recognize the magnitude of this iceberg is dependent on the degree he has become aware of his own traumas.”
Now, my mom’s response is all good, grand and wonderful, but I’m not going to get ahead of myself because, idk if you’ve ever experienced a ‘deja-moo’, where you’ve seen this bullshit before (my favorite kind of wisdom); I’ve experienced ruined relationships with the savior-complex so, I’ll continue keeping my distance and expect to be disappointed 👌✅🙏
Mothers are the most entitled group on earth.
You are forgetting Zionists. "God gave us this land, now get off!" Kicking people out of their homes at gunpoint claiming God gave them the right. Then when the people fight back they psychologically project on them and call them the religious fanatics....
Before college when I lived at home, my mother would straight up just decide to ignore me for the day. Being ignored is a type of emotional neglect that I don't know how ANY kid can cope with. If I had a kid, I can't imagine doing that to them.
Lol. 😂
@@lissie3669 when you say your mother ignoring you, are you referring to " the silent treatment"?
@@pennyc7064 You got it
I can confirm.
Your animated nature makes me laugh so hard. So endearing...
Lol. Some disgustingly entitled people will say that they aren’t shy about “having their needs met” and being “very aggressive in enforcing their very firm boundaries”.
I try to get my dogs to the right side of the side walk but people still walk around I feel weird afterwards, like I gave you guys space, my pups are chill they don’t bite.
WOWW yessss!
Some people are just selfish sob's no matter what kind of childhood they had
You are awsomme and valued Daniel.
Selfish self centered people is here to stay unfortunately.What can be done about stuff happening?Well you can have a chat with them.I did this with a person stealing.They edend up giving the stuff back.Mainly we can focus on our selves of better ways not to be selfish and self centered as a goal.Our actions speak louder to others.You made me laugh about the dogs.Can you take a dog for a walk like a neighbors perhaps this would speak louder in all fields.❤
Thank you.
I would SO love to talk to you. I’ve watched several of your videos and an a new subscriber. I’m very confused about my daughter.
What if they're just super hungry?
It's all down to narcissistic personality disorder. Check it out.
NPD describes behaviors, NPD does not cause behaviors
The children thing and dog thing I totally understand but the eating food in line thing i dont think matters to me.. they probably have a very short time to eat or are very hungry and they're not leaving the establishment so it isnt stealing.. they're just in line on the way to pay for it anyway so doesnt matter to me personally. The example of this I have done is drinking some sips from a bottle of water when shopping at target or something. I was super thirsty and did pay for it when I was done shopping, did not leave establishment.
They maybe not be aware that people are bothered by their dog. People are so in love with their dogs they expect everybody loves their dog. Maybe try to explain to people in å friendly manner.
2:42 This sounds like Jeffree Star
Bingo you got me!
I love your analysis, conjecture and peofessional opinion on so many important and taboo topics. I enjoy watching your videos and can feel the sincerity and heart that you put into them even when you seem to be playing devils adcocate or juxtapose im not sure what to call it... to your own initial or secondsry thoughts.
Im not a professional but yechnology has afforded me to feel entitled as a human being and a fan of yours to throw in my 2 cents...
I just wanted to say that I think entitlement isnt all that deep and would first blame society as a whole and technology for making human interaction so casual. If you consider how humans were meant to have been evolved and how techonological and many more scientific and engineering accomplishments have revolutionized us. Id love to see you do a video on tbose topics. Also your opinion in entitled behavior (which i also abhor) reminded me of an Elesnor Roosevelt quote.. i beleive it was: "you wouldnt worry so much what other people thought of you, if you realized how little they thought." Or something like that. Entitlement isnt premeditated at all. I beleive its a spectum of which we are all likely guitly of from one time to another.
They’re just hungry 😅
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Typical narcissists.
Babies are born with 5D consciousness. Between birth and early childhood, they invariable suffer pain>shock>trauma which causes them to cut off from their 5D heart consciousness, which is in touch with the Universe, and leaves them in an existential vacuum. They then develop their mind which knows nothing inherently, and takes on a 3D matrix illusionary reality.
The quests of religion, philosophy, science, therapy etc over centuries is to get to real reality, without much results. They do not know about Heart consciousness.
How people turn out is about how well and straight they have played their hand. But it is all a soap opera in a global lunatic asylum with the inmates in charge.
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I think it can go both ways..I've seen people belittled by their parents and treat like trash,so in adulthood they are no different,they dont think they are good enough,no confidence,anxiety issues.Then on the other side ive seen people born with a silver spoon up their ass,their parents put them on a pedestal,gave them everything and years later because of too much freedom and no boundaries they got into drugs,stole from the parents,literally bit off the hand that fed them.
I really think it's how we deal with it as young adults. We chose ourselves if we want to be a good person or not?
Can you talk about sex addiction?
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Hey Daniel, I have one less relevant question here: I have a PG student who is very very lazy, up to the point of almost failing the PQE and having little chance of finding a job. I talked to him about this many many times, and he admitted his laziness, but found it very difficult to make substantial changes (and yes, he needs that to graduate on time and find a job). He said his relationship with his parents sucks, and that that had a negative influence on him. The university counseling does not help at all in this case. They keep telling me to mind my own business and let the student talk to them only if he finds it necessary to. I don't doubt about the seriousness of the issue and my boundaries of action here, but the situation simply doesn't improve. I try to motivate him with anything I could do, but I feel like he doesn't care deep inside. How can I improve the situation?
I'm in Canada and let me tell you only Americans stand out like sore thumbs for their obtuse rudeness and disrespect. Not all of you of course but when they got the Americans they really got the American. You seem rather Canadian to me actually...any american with a heart does lol.
Isn't it best to judge people on an individual level and not based on where they are from?
That sounds narcissistic 🤔
So well said once again, so true indeed in narcissistic family environments where the disconnection of the egotic shell from the true-starved to death self is the rule dictated by the fight and flight response..
But Daniel, how can be Parents called responsible for being entitled if they aren't self-aware at all because themselves acting out just by this egotic shell being? clearly, they will teach the same even just by leading the example via their behaviours.
Now, we have also to consider though human nature, cause there are basically at least 2, one only of which is keener on accepting this entitlement. Keep by example 2 kids, a little one in the play crib that runs to steal the toy the other calmer one is playing with.. if the parent will not bring back the balance taking away the stolen toy from the end of the entitled to give it back to the other one, the entitled by the omission of correction will get the message I CAN DO THIS and will go on enabled by the parents in their behaviour ..but still an originary spontaneous tendency has to be observed.
In the person with entitled nature (if we do not want to define it by different words)we could even notice symptoms of their own inner depiction of the lack of love toward themselves from the parental environment, so even the little entitled one can display reactions that will be obviously considered in a wrong way from Doctors that don't understand anything about that or that will just laugh at that considering those reactions just funny or even normal when those aren't at all anything else than screams for help...
If the little entitled shows as a little vane one, we can more correctly assume that this behaviour isn't just mocking an adult, it is more likely a seek for reassurance to be loved despite how they are beautiful or not..a seek for the unconditional love that instead once again is matched by parents only with CONDITIONS: you will be loved if you will act good, look pretty, be well mannered and so on..all things sold for EDUCATION but that really thorn apart the spontaneous true-self of the child since the earliest age.. on this length can go also physiological symptoms as enuresis in grown-up children(5-8years old): the physiological symptom is just a psychological grip to the early stages when the need of love wasn't met by the parents.. than if the symptom can be fixed with a bombing of vits and minerals by a paediatrician it is good but will care only that symptom, not of all the problem related the emotional and psychological side of the child, nor of his ambient of origin-Family dynamic!
So putting a child up for adoption is an act of entitlement. I disagree. It's a huge act of love and often desperation. This seems like a really close minded and judgemental viewpoint.
I think you take some things too personally, and you vastly underestimate how much people do not give a fuck.There is nothing entitled about much of what you described, because entitlement implies they are consciously and actively considering these things they transgress upon. Truth is they hardly consider it. And honestly, what they are doing is actually closer to the nature of reality, which is something like every power effecting its ultimate consequence every moment it sees fit. Even though I agree with you about how things SHOULD be, I think it could be argued that it is entitled of YOU to think they need to play by the rules, because you presuppose that everyone will play fair. It sounds like you try to bury your resentment of these types of people and what it can mean to be human in this sense inside of ideologies and "should be" scenarios. No ill intent with this, I'm a big fan of your videos and watch every one, I just think idealism almost always leads to disappointment, especially when it comes to people
This is a very interesting statement. "Every power effecting its ultimate consequence every moment it sees fit"
I don't like bossy people, either.
As Much as i like your videos, the yellow lighting always irks me in some manner. I don't know why. Makes the video feel dated also , I think. But otherwise this is so good!
I feel the yellow light brings more of a warm welcoming and he’s a therapist I’m sure he’s aware of it and it’s intentional...
Ultimate evil and unconciousness.
Ohhw
Not to get all political but this makes sense with what is happening in the states these days... many many people in our society really needed a hug and to have better parenting. Too many entitled people with destructive behavior. 😳😳 the connection is blowing my mind a bit!
I guess Stalin, Hitler and our current day politicians have some affinities in common.
Eat the rich!
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