It made me eager to never get married in the frist place. Financial freedom is something men never really had the right to experience. It has always been assumed and still is by many women and conservative men to be our obligation to take care of women when they need it
As a man divorced one year ago I found this to be absolutely true. Although I earned 70% of the house income, my ex wife decided how to spend most of our money. After the divorce I feel like I got richer, even though my income is the same
Just don't ever get married!!!! I'm 63 and just got a divorce and lost everything my house 🏡🏡 40 acres Alot of money and a car ECT. I was only married for 7 years and no kid's. Never Get Married!!!!
Sorry Dan, get back back on the things you love doing, after covid, try cheap travel and remember that millions of men are in your shoes, they feel and understand you.
My divorce was hard at first but over time I felt like a weight was lifted. It’s freeing and refreshing. Life is actually better. Traveling more, making more money and in the best physical and mental shape of my life.
I always had some girl or girlfriend in my life, then got married then divorced and a few girlfriends after that. I said to myself "maybe I should try being alone for awhile." I loved it and have been single for a decade. I work hard, debt free, travel, read, gym, martial arts, even volunteering when I can. Friends and co-workers try to set me up and I say "NO"!
Still recovering after 17years together. Took it like a bitch and slowly becoming the man i used to be. Man take the short end of the stick after divorce. Nothing bothers me more then not been able to see and raise my boy. The ungrateful bitch took him 5000 miles away. Life becomes different once you take the red pill.
@@isacha1 She moved to Bulgaria and i am in the States running a 7 figure business,house on a pond,employ 5 other people. Moving where she is now = chasing her and leaving everything i ever build behind. I visit my boy twice a year now and keep a good relationship with him until he is old enough to make his own decisions. Time and pations is the key. I am slowly recovering and dating again while she is depressed,unemployed and confused . Can't wait to see my son slamming the door on her and reuniting with me one day. He is only 12 now, but i know this day will come.
@@kirilvlastanov444 Нещо много злорадстваш за бившата. Все се чудя защо всички се юрват да имат деца, при положение че вече почти половината от браковете свършват с развод. Странен свят.
I got divorced back in March of 2020. I was only married for 2 years. I lost my house, had to file bankruptcy for debts we were still paying off. I'll never get married again. Its a scam. They stop loving you once they get that ring. She started cheating 6 months after we got married. We were together for 8 years. We live in a world now where women look at us like we are another bank account
Women using men as a bank account is nothing new. The term is called "Hypergamy". A quick search on YT will show 100's of great videos on the topic. Hypergamy has been around for thousands of years. The only difference is that today many more men are aware of it thanks to information on the internet.
I divorced 2019 after 11 years together and lost my home to her with 6 years for child support but I got my freedom back and a new home. I'm 53 now and I don't regret anything. Life is great and get to see my daughter anytime I want. Get rich or die trying brother.
I’m an old lady almost 50, got dumped before the pandemic. It was like getting fired from a stressful job, no more sleep deprivation and competition. I’m glad that the younger more attractive women can take my place. I’m retired from it and am no longer for sale in the dating market.❤
I not only dated a single mom, I married her. Her daughter was a handful and we finally decided to send her to Catholic Boarding School. I've seen her once in the following 45 years. The boy, as an honor to me, changed his last name to mine when he turned 18. She left us when the fight against cancer became too strenuous and God called her home in April of last year. Rest in Peace, my beloved.
Lol females on here being toxic on a video that's advice for men. Like if you over ur ex y u here? Trying make us feel bad on a video thats giving us tips to move on in life for the better. Trying find their ex commenting on here so they can continue the drama.
@@elainenilsson5472 Right and go follow every tiktok and "FYI some men are bread winners' lol. Your not gonna find your ex on here commenting about you.
@@dangtrader Are you serious? If you are the bread winner you are going to lose big time. I was not the bread winner and I tried to tell him he was going to lose. My exact words were "You can spend a lot of money and lose or you can just lose. That's up to you." He would NOT listen! Just like you aren't listening. I loved my husband. You guys are crazy. He lost BIG TIME. Then he died. So, take the advice or don't but this guy is sucking you down a losing path. Best make things right with your wife if you can. Geesh! The bread winner always loses. It's how it works.
@@elainenilsson5472 i want to be me and be free. I'm tired of having having listen to someone that can just leave when when want. There's no working on the marriage if all we men have to do is listen. I'm tired of women on a timer and ready go off. I cam to this video for positivity not for some other girl to tell me what to do.
@@dangtrader Is it a short term or long term marriage? You entered into a life time commitment. If this is a long term marriage and you are a bread winner, ie; she makes less than 50% than you....hang on for the ride.
In a divorce a man looses his house his kids his savings his pensions his whole life. A woman gains a house her kids savings she never paid into a pension she never knew existed. Women will always win cos they play the victim. Having kids is not the same as working your arse off for all those years providing for your family taking them on holidays and giving them a life. All of a sudden they worked harder. Women are just scroungers who use "I'm a mum" as an excuse for everything. Get over your self if you have 2 kids you basically laid on your back twice. You didn't invent the wheel. Rip men.....
It’s one thing to ‘lay on your back’ and a COMPLETELY different thing to love, nurture and raise a kid for 18 years. How many diapers did she change, did she nurse your child & spend months being an on-call milk machine? Did she stay home running a free daycare for your kids while you got to build your resume and social security account while she didn’t? Who took the kids to their events, to most of their doctors & dentist appointments? Who do they want to call when they are in pain?
I’m 53 married headed to divorce-have 0 friends -covid ended my buisness .not bragging I am good looking and in shape. I spent everything I made during marriage while my wife worked at union job collecting benefits. I let her take car of all finances .I gave her every dime I made to do what she thought was right for our family .I’ve never seen her paycheck. She has retirement etc. I have nothing. What happens when we get divorced do I get half of her retirement etc…
Likely you'll get half, but it depends on several factors. I'd be happy to help. Please set up a free consultation and let's talk: www.greatdivorceadvisors.com/consultation
Just got served papers today. She's a covert narcissist. I cried outside so my kids wouldn't see, but composed myself so I could go inside and do an assets and liabilities spread sheet. Not to bad. I'm 46 and she's 43. The idea is starting to grow on me.
It's been a year since your comment. I do hope you survived the divorce and have made a new start. It's been 3 years since the divorce became final here and now I'm being hauled back into court after almost a year no contact. I'd say she's wanting to see me real bad
My first marriage lasted 7 years. I then sat and did nothing for 7 years being thoroughly miserable. The 7th anniversary of my second marriage is in 45 days. Wish me luck. 😂
Shiii..... nigga, get this. Once beaten, twice shy. I'm sure you picked better this time. You still got 42 days my g. one love.😂😂😂 I'm bow-legged and just dated at 27, had my first girlfriend, she fucked me over maaan. Y'all making this thing scary. AND IT IS, FOR MEN.
My ex husband cheated. I gave him the house and left with my one year old sick baby went on to accumulate, 4 properties and a second degree earning 6 figures. Guess who came back after realizing what a terrible husband and father he was? Don’t paint all women with the same brush. My market value wasn’t affected. I’m in shape and look much younger than I am, I had many wealthy men want to date me, even knowing I don’t have casual relationships. It’s about having good values. I’m not a serial dater and my family is more important than dating
Outliers do exist. You likely had great insight, discipline, and management skills, and he likely didn't have the ability to give up leadership. Hopefully you both thrive in a modified model.
I understand not really wanting to be in another relationship, but I think as both men and women, we should realize that not everyone is our ex. Don’t just blindly hate the opposite sex because of the bad actions of one person.
it took me over 2 years after separation to start thinking about dating again. First date was a complete disaster. After that I've been having lots of fun meeting people and exploring what do I want from them and also what can I offer. I'm learning a lot about relationships and I move on as soon as I detect a red flag. Don't give up people. Although, if dating/marring again is not for you then don't force it. Bring by yourself is great too.
I understand you’re trying to help and give advice but I’ve been married going on 17 years and if my wife is telling the truth then neither of us ever had cheated on each other. We live together in an old house but it’s a house I had to take care of two parents who are very ill with my dad who passed away in 2012 and a 90 year old mom who still alive but lives on her own. Our sex life has dropped off the deep end because of me and some health issues but I do love my wife very much and our two children. I would never want to see them go without. In fact I deposited $190000 in a bank I’m retired and soon to get social security. I don’t believe our marriage can make it do to some bad advice from friends or church members. I want the very best for all three and I want my wife to be happy. Btw I should mention although we’ve been married 17 years with two children I am now 50 and she 37. I don’t ever want to remarry but I hope if she does she finds a great younger man that can tend to her needs and sweep her off her feet.
You have the right mindset and I like your attitude. Statistically speaking, those men that say they'll never get married again are actually more likely to get married again. A strange but true fact.
@@rerikm 💯 if you do the work as a man physically emotionally financially we can go onto bigger and better things, my ex wife tried to monkey branch to her friends husband, yep it failed I'm a now in shape guy of 46 she is a 46 year old overweight washed up single mum to my 10 year old son good luck my lovely 😂
You might be trying to make a point, but I hope the dads and husbands out there dont drink this koolaid, your state and district court defines family law. 5 “free consults” with other attorneys will help you more. He says you should never be stressed thru the divorce process. Marriage is hard, divorce is hard. Choose your hard
Too many men (and many of my clients) think a divorce is the end of life. The point of this video is to let guys know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Life 2.0 awaits. I never meant to imply that life after a divorce won't be hard, I'm simply saying that there is reason to be optimistic.
24 years married to the same woman I gave her my life my sanity my heart not to mention all of my finances. 2021 is the year I start over pray for me fellas I'm going to need it
I’m with you. After 19 years she decided she’s done. It’s been the worst 3 months of my life. The emotional toll has been huge. A year ago we bought a nice house down here in the southwest. Next week I’m moving back to the midwest to small apartment to rebuild my life (whatever that means). But....I have a job. If I have a job I can live. If I can live, I can rebuild. If I can rebuild, I can find happiness again. Good luck and stay positive!
We can do this! 12 years and 3 young kids now I'm a batchelder again. Yes it sucks, BUT, now we have the chance to work on ourselves and flourish. Be Strong and do the work!
@@Fa11ou7 @Bruce Lee I’m sorry we are are all going through this. It’s a real MF! It’s difficult to offer positive vibes on a YT reply but.....we are going to make it through this! This is just a set back that will work itself out. What has worked for me is physical exercise (running)...and believe me @55 it ‘s not easy but it’s the only time I feel powerful and some sense of control. I’m even thinking about a mini triathlon....stay positive and keep moving forward....forward is the only way!
I did it twice in my twenties. Both were cheaters who could not keep their legs closed and I have azero cheating tolerance and policy. No kids came from either one. I am now on number three and this one is going the same way. Difference is that her affair is an online, emotional, one with an old lover of hers. She has threatened divorce once a week-minimum as a weapon since our second year of marriage. She tries to pit both of our religious faiths against me as a weapon. She is narcissistic, inconsistent with our kids, and abusive to me (verbally, mentally, emotionally). She wants a fourth kid. I don't. I was done after two and then we got a surprise. Once I said that I was done and didn't want anymore she said, "Maybe I should take (name withheld) up on his offer to get the fourth baby that I want!". I asked her if she was blatantly saying she was going to commit adultery in front of me (and our kids, which I LOATHE her doing all of the time). She replied with, "No. You don't get it. We will be divorced when this happens." Typical shit she always says. She threatens divorce when she is mad, doesn't get her way, doesn't get me to rise to her baiting me; you name it. She has threatened to send our special needs daughter to a home to "see if they can't work with her and 'fix' her; and if they can't, then she can just stay there (again said to and in front of our autistic daughter who can be a bit loud and destructive as well as hyperactive. Being autistic myself, that really pisses me off.). This guy she mentioned is the same guy she wants to have take our family portrait with the help of his wife whom he cheated on her with when they dated and lived together. She has also made it quite clear that she will do everything she can to obliterate me financially and has begun dragging me to a marriage counselor where I am talked over, down to, and at like a child by both the counselor (male) and her; while she gets to jabber away and play pity party. So...I have taken to keeping a written log of her bullshit and getting audio on my phone when I can. I have been accused of not being romantic and pushing her away (bullshit. It is just like the two country songs go, "She only bitches when she breathes" &, "It's hard to kiss the lips at night that chew your ass out all day long."). I am on a fixed income from VA Disability and unable to work. She uses my severe, to the point of crippling, some days PTSD and associated symptoms. Thankfully, I have found out that the state that I live in takes earning POTENTIAL and WHO HAS THE HIGHER DEGREE/EDUCATION LEVEL into account when deciding child support and things. I have also had her berate me in public, in stores and sidewalks full of people. Just this week she flat out said, "Why can't you just have 100% disability already so that I can divorce you to get the services I want and need (welfare perhaps?); and you can get your own place-meaning kicking me out and her staying in a rental home she could not afford but, I could if I had full disability. She makes shit up that I am abusive... here's a spoiler...I AM NOT! She uses what she "learns" online and from her friends, family, and the marriage counselor as a weapon and to try and build a case for divorce and maximum shared custody with me getting the kids every other weekend. She puts words in my mouth that I never said. Could I work harder with things? Yup. Am I and have I been? Yup. Does it matter? Not with her! Even with me trying to improve myself for the kids and for me. She has gone so far as to tell me that she is money hungry and regardless of amount that it will NEVER be enough (first year of marriage and we both grew up poor). She has said that I and what I do have never been, aren't, will NEVER bee good enough. She told me a few months back that she has never, doesn't, and will NEVER respect me regardless of what I do. Said the women in her family "train" their men and break them like an animal but that she would "never do that (I call bullshit. She has been trying to since we married without her realizing it.). Her dad even warned me of all of this and what her mother's family would do when I met him. Including what they did to him and what he did to them. He warned me and explained that it was part of the reason that they had split. He even asked me if I was sure that this was what I wanted and if I could handle it if she pulled it. I said yes. He told me I was stupid to do so but, if it made us happy, to go right ahead. She has her friends and family convinced that I am a narcissistic abuser. I mean...yeah...after just shy of 8 years of my writing this...I am just waiting on the claims appeal process and how long it will take to get 100% to see if she is actually going to pull her B's and try what she said. So...yeah...I can feel the pain on that one (Especially with a young son, young daughter, and infant daughter.). I wish anyone in this situation the best of luck and to know that you will learn your lesson and make it through. Just focus on being the best you that can be. P.S. Sorry for any mistakes and blabbering on. Speech-to-Text makes it easy for both to happen.
@@brandonriggs1788 wow brother that was deep lots of the same red flags here too. It's hard with these women today. Lord give us the strength we need to carry on
I like this guy. But once my divorce is finalized, forget about me trying to date. One woman ruined all of women for me. No, not going to bat for the other team, but I just don’t care to do it all over again!
@@earlmiles5834 Hang in there bro. This seems to be happening A LOT to the best men. My opinion the internet apps have warped the minds of these women. You will be better but it will take time. DO NOT do or say anything you’ll regret…don’t give her anything to use against you. Stay a strong man and be in your masculine frame at all times. Trust me!
I'm a single dad, not quite long I started investing. I'm very curious and need help on how to enhance and increase my returns. Any good investment tips would be appreciated
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I’ve been watching and applying save-your-marriage videos for months. It’s getting me nowhere, and my wife still adamantly insists she doesn’t want to be married to me. At a certain point you have to believe her and move on. I wasn’t looking for greener grass, but the grass is dead on this side of the fence.
I’m going through this. I know it hurts, but you have to move on or you’ll be stuck in misery the rest of your life. Tough it out for a year and the pain will subside in your life will become much better. That’s what people tell me and that’s what I’m going to do.
I dodged a bullet with my ex-wife. I spent a decade trying to keep her "level". My only regret is that I didn't leave earlier. Current status: no wife, no kids, no bills and not looking.
There are quite a few reasons, some men are really bad with relationships too attached to women, some personalities are uncontrollable. I would not remarry again unless it was to make a family commitment.
@@tsgarage2382 yes ,I was never desperate to get a g/f it was just something on top of enjoying my life ,although some males maybe have hard situations
Never sign an agreement that benefits one party. I will marry again but only if the woman has just as much to loose as me financially. Not paying again. First divorce sucked .
Why on earth would you marry again? I am going through the process and as time goes by, her lawyer is coaching her into becoming more and more angry with me. So, I have lost hope. I also bought a scottish croft sex doll. google it. USSexToy has them for under $800, standing, no pubes. Hottest body I have ever seen.
@@badass420weedsmoker5 You should be scared, you're at a dangerous age. Make certain you don't get someone pregnant unless you want to have custody of kids 2 weeks every month. Any man who doesn't accept the responsibility of being a father when he is a father is simply not a man, but an overgrown boy.
Regardless of your smv on the chart if you have more than one child, paying alimony or children support, are overweight, out of shape, unhealthy, broke, a cheater or have a bad attitude then that chart doesn't apply to u.
@@w.s.2102 do you have children and did the marriage end bad or good. How is the relationship with the ex. Me and mine wanna just walk away on good terms after 18 years. Im only 43 and i feel like i look the best ive looked my whole life but i feel like crap. I hope that changes
Modern society it’s crazy to get married. The nutty 4th wave feminism & laws are so warped, it’s playing Russian roulette with all bullets in the chambers. The odds are so terrible, the juice isn’t worth the quezz.
Actually, if there are minor kids involved AND she gets custody (which is often the case), then she most likely will indeed get the house...at least for a while.
@@GreatDivorceAdvice You missed my point: To women: "get" equals given. To everyone else: "get" means they get to live in the house, but they are not given the husband's equity. Her sister divorced her own husband and once quipped "at least I got the house". That's because her stupid husband signed over the title to her without taking any money. Most likely, because he's an idiot, but also because he wanted to be rid of the bitch once and for all. In my case, I will NEVER "give" my soon to be ex wife the house. The only ways she can live in the house is: 1. She buys me out (she cannot afford to) 2. I give it to her (not happening) 3. We live in the house together (most likely, in my case)
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. Also, most people are pretty much comfortable enough to be naked around someone and have sex with someone that they have no romantic feelings towards. So sex isn't really a thing about romance. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse. People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.
It also helps that your best friend is usually a man so he thinks a lot more logically. They want a lot less from you including spending your money like it’s water.
Divorces dating you go out with a divorced woman and she’ll have a resident ask you for a résumé and on why are you divorced? Can I tell you something men hate going back to the past and I shouldn’t have to and moving ahead.
Just leave the B. You will be happier. I have been through two divorces. Happiest when not married. 23 years since my last divorce and and the happiest I have ever been
@@nixvetthat’s what I’m saying , if men are still getting married , im sorry , but they deserve it , especially now that pretty much every women it’s looking for a rent free experience
OMG....yes, indeed. That would be like comparing me to ANY actress. OMG, this...omg you just made me laugh. But to be honest, Brad Pitt would have nothing on you. Good looks and money is all he has and that is NOT what women are looking for. Some men might be that shallow, which is what hookers are for, but women want a soul mate.
Ruined me. I lost my forever home. Had to buy in a bad neighbourhood that has me under massive stress and anxiety.if I'd stayed single I would have been mortgage free at 35 and living in a good area. ( I had saved a house deposit before I met her... she had nothing but debt)Now I have some money but can't afford to move to a better neighbourhood . I'm in a hole I'll never climb out off. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought this would be my life at 57. Sometimes I contemplate ending it but then I know what it would do to my kids.thats what keeps me here
Hey Grant, I feel for you brother. I had a similar situation, my ex took my for everything. Lost my house, reduced access to my kid (every other weekend), and heavy child support payments. Regardless, I've crawled/struggled and finally got new home, which I just got last month. It's hard and every day is a fight, but I move on and keep swinging. My mission in life is to focus on rebuilding my life and my finances to put me in a place that is secure and safe. I have also learned to accept that my life with my child will never be the same or how I want it. It's just the way society views us men, we'll never be treated as equals, and always seen as a resource to be utilized. Letting go and accepting this reality is something I work on everyday, but it's something that I'm getting use to, and letting go and accepting the realities of this new life has help me cope. What keeps me going now is my mission to succeed and become secure and a better man... for me. I spend my time working on side online business. It's not easy, and it takes time, but I refuse to go down without a fight. I will say this, in the past year I've seen family members go from being broke to having $200,000 in a few months through the stock market. What this has taught me is that there are options out there to succeed, you just have to work and keep trying. Eventually, something will connect. Use your free time to work on finding these possibilities, it beats sitting around feeling depressed. Good luck and keep fighting brother.
Me too grant -53 lost my small business to covid -car dealership-it’s impossible to start in that business again .I’m lost and of course now it’s time for my wife to make it worse I’m not wanted no good no more can dish out money anymore .I think the government knows that covid will kill the guys who lose there livelihood.
Just divorcing due to her affair after 25 years of marriage. I agree with you. I will never put myself in the position to be hurt like this again. Give me my dog, my hobbies and my career.
Your points are not very accurate. I had less discretionary money for many years after my divorce mostly because of the burden of paying for the kids and the cost of living alone. Women who did not have kids did not want to date a divorced man with children. My relationship with my kids was never great because all they heard was their mother`s poison. Still single 15 years later.
As your kids got older, we’re they able to see through your ex-wife’s lies and realize you were not who she said you were? This is one of my fears as I go through divorce, that my soon to be ex will poison my kids against me.
It can be tough as hell being a single dad... I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it may help you...just to share stories. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝
@@wlamb9 My guess is it depends on the woman. In my case, she is very controlling and the guy she’s with now parrots every word that comes out of her mouth. When my kids got older they did see some of her lies but they are afraid to contradict her versions of my character. She disassociates herself with anyone who doesn’t buy into her view including some of her own family. My kids now come around for money more than to maintain a proper relationship. My son may be the most sensible of my children and goes to therapy. My daughter refuses to as her mother did when she was a child. Unfortunately that leads to what I think will happen- she will repeat her mother’s behavior and cause another generation of trauma.
He is not accurate at all. I got railroaded in divorce court. The financial hardship alone can be downright taxing. Child support and all the other extra you have to dish out has a very big negative impact on regular life unless you make a ton of money to the point where you wouldn't even miss it. And you're absolutely right about the dating market being skewed towards divorced men with kids. Our resources are depleted and no woman is patient enough to deal with that. And we haven't even gotten to the emotional and mental impact it has. This guy has no idea what he's talking about. I wonder what state does he practice.
Really crappy times ahead. That isn't being 'negative.' Anyone who sees what is REALLY happening in our society knows it as fact. Do NOT marry. But especially do not have kids. No way. 2021 through 2030 will try the hearts of men and many will fail. SOLO is the way to go - with 'kids' you are handicapped and vulnerable. You will need every survival advantage. NO FEAR required, just common sense and planning for the rough times that are coming.
I don’t know how to tell my parents or her parents been together 20 years and she told me I work too much and I’m not her true love. I will miss her but it’s no point working it out. Biggest concerns are the kids.
I’m praying for you Sam. Going through same next month (10/2024). 25yrs found 7 year affair that she says “meant nothing. Wanna bet! Pray for me to. This hurts but it’s over.
A lot of women say their happier when single but I think men who are divorced are equally or even more so, we’ve been fed this garbage that we need women to make us happy but that’s bullshit. These broads are never happy how can we expect them to keep us happy. I have a controversial opinion; single fatherhood may be the best thing for men, we are best when building, building your children into great human beings will always be more fulfilling than building a relationship with a man hating bimbo who is incapable of giving love.
I agree. A lot of truth in what you said. Your life after divorce is what you make of it. Too many men going through a divorce see nothing but gloom and doom...especially in the first few days.
It's pretty obvious that you guys are not from traditional families that looks up to, and respects God, because divorce is not a thing if you and your partner keep God close to you.
Sorry you have to go through this. Hang in there. I’m going through the same after 25 years. I’m filing next month because I found out she’s been having an affair for the past seven years. It’s hard because we were happy and got along great. What a tragic waste of a great relationship. of course she is devastated and so sorry now that she’s been caught. She says she doesn’t know why she did it. My guess is a simple one. She wanted her fun on the side and never thought it would come to light a day.
Just found your channel, you are filling a very needed void for our men. We need men of all ages and cultures to spread this message. Men need to relearn and reearn their place in society. Very professional video, another good source of intel is Coach Greg Adams, if you want to be about that life.
My income went up over 30k the year after as I took a role I wouldn’t have been able to satisfy before trying to balance domestic life. As he said only loss is time with my little one. But as he notes the time I have with him is higher quality. It’s scary getting out of the relationship cocoon. But growth happens In uncomfortable situations. Be happy set goals don’t rush to date life is long relationships are but one aspect of life. You’re not the first to go through this and your not the last. Reach out to other men we are a community and we care.
Glad I am Divorced from my Super Narcissistic Ex wife who was toxic and verbally abusive (God with us all still fighting to see our children and dealing with “Parental Alienation” and Ex Spouses deliberately trying to destroy relationships) ❤️🤘✝️
After 30 yrs of marriage and her cheating, I spent and liquidated everything we had . Grown kids = no child support. We had nothing to split. I rebuilt she didn't and is living with her Dad . Karma is a bitch .
I married into a prenup, but didn’t find out till later that was not enough. Total separation of every thing before marriage. She has total control of all aspects of our marriage. I also didn’t find out my value to her until after the marriage started. She constantly dips into 401k that we just recently started finding. As a test we put petty cash in the house for emergency.. less than 6 months the money had been spent. My first marriage her second. No kids. Only two years married total 4 together. Control issues a major role in our current situation. Planning on uncontested with one lawyer. I did the move so we could be together. So the worst part is starting over with nothing.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel. The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death. The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15. Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife. Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15. Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16. The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions. The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24. Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
So true Mr. layer. Everything changed: more money, more quality time with kids, expending business - even opened a new firm, more dates and women.... Divorce is a legal MIRACLE!
No doubt. I’m divorcing next month and I hate it I discovered a seven year affair after 25 years of marriage and it has to end. as far as the money, she is always spent it faster than I could make it no matter how much I made. I know I will have more money left over after we divorce. Still I wish this didn’t have to happen, but it does.
As a man and doting father of three young children my ex, after having gone on a fishing expedition on the Internet for a man with more money and hooked one, made me out to be a sick sexual pervert and hideous monster to our friends and her family. Over a few short years she and her family, with the help of the police and the social services/welfare system, systematically dismantled my rights as a father and her stories literally had me hounded out of town. In the end I chose to start a new life in a new country because my children were beginning to believe the stories she was telling.
I'm sorry but you did the same thing I did... You chose a covert narcissist for a wife. We just have to accept that in the end it is our own poor decision that held us back and punished us for our good. Peace
I have a huge question and one which perhaps you could devote an entire video: Don't divorce. Just get separated and delay every court session. Don't hire a lawyer. Just object to her divorce settlement demands, and again, delay every court session. This way, you can date, keep your home, keep seeing your kids, and lose the nag. Just ignore her when you're in the house. Maybe even redline the house, ie. turn it into a two flat. Move into a mancave in the basement. Go out on weekends. Maybe even get a separate apartment where you can entertain women, build businesses, read, and chill. No more nag. So my question is, do you see that sometimes it's better to just get separated? Stay friends with her, but lose the nag that's in all of them.
BASIC Programmer, I hear you but ALL women are not ‘Nags.’ I probably used to be - but since my husband and I have been working on the marriage, I let pretty much everything go because I would rather have peace. Either I take care of it or most of the time it doesn’t get done because my spouse’s favorite thing is watching Netflix and napping. He works hard so I don’t say anything although I wish he would be active around the house like my friends husbands are. We respect each other much more now that we have learned the components of a good relationship. For example, we have stopped yelling, calling names and are more considerate of each other. You can’t paint ANY group of people with one paintbrush. I am one female who is NOT a ‘Nag.’
@@stacysnider4899 Your response helps, thanks. I could also use a LOT of work. I'm trying... She did this abruptly, but perhaps it is best. We'll see what happens. Both of our in laws did a lot of damage, too, though. It's weird how cruel they are, mine and her's.
@@basicprogrammer6147 💗 When I almost lost everything was when I leaned on Christ. He got me through it and gave me even MORE than I asked for. I hope if you aren’t a praying person that you give Him a try. What could it hurt? People will let us down but Jesus NEVER will. 👍
I am divorced with 2 children. A man will not walk out of court with half. He is not explaining that the lawyer will charge you based on your resources. The judge gives you what they want, but the attorney takes the rest. You won't have much when you walk out of court.
@@marcusjones1432 You are right. That is probably because you have the earning potential to make up the loss. But, hey, he says your social life will improve because you'll have more time, wink wink, lol. Noooooo, you wont. You will be working around the clock to pay your lawyer and all those credit cards you ran up during the divorce...not to mention paying rent and spousal support.
Men, NEVER get married!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Sorry, I'm one and done. There is absolutely no way that I want to or need to date after going through 35 years of BS
"You will no longer have a woman draining your finances". This, amongst other phrases, made me very eager to get divorced :D
It made me eager to never get married in the frist place. Financial freedom is something men never really had the right to experience. It has always been assumed and still is by many women and conservative men to be our obligation to take care of women when they need it
As a man divorced one year ago I found this to be absolutely true. Although I earned 70% of the house income, my ex wife decided how to spend most of our money. After the divorce I feel like I got richer, even though my income is the same
@@rodrigolimasereno3636 Neat! Enjoy your financial freedome mate!
Sounds like you married for what you can give and not love wish you luck
Just don't ever get married!!!! I'm 63 and just got a divorce and lost everything my house 🏡🏡 40 acres Alot of money and a car ECT. I was only married for 7 years and no kid's. Never Get Married!!!!
Great advice for younger guys! I'm also trying to help those that are already married and facing a divorce.
Seriously,everything went ?that is so unfair
Sorry Dan, get back back on the things you love doing, after covid, try cheap travel and remember that millions of men are in your shoes, they feel and understand you.
Sounds horrible.
This sounds like a nightmare
My divorce was hard at first but over time I felt like a weight was lifted. It’s freeing and refreshing. Life is actually better. Traveling more, making more money and in the best physical and mental shape of my life.
Thanks for sharing this. My divorce has been hard, but I'm beggining to see things getting much better
Good to hear mate 👍
@@Justvisitin It is hard at first… but you will get through it 🙏🏼
@@jaybrown7434 how old are you now? How long were you married?
Some men are defeated, others strengthened. That's how it's been forever.
I always had some girl or girlfriend in my life, then got married then divorced and a few girlfriends after that. I said to myself "maybe I should try being alone for awhile." I loved it and have been single for a decade. I work hard, debt free, travel, read, gym, martial arts, even volunteering when I can. Friends and co-workers try to set me up and I say "NO"!
The problem, though, is that, given enough information including RUclips videos like this, no man on earth would ask a woman to marry him.
Still recovering after 17years together. Took it like a bitch and slowly becoming the man i used to be. Man take the short end of the stick after divorce. Nothing bothers me more then not been able to see and raise my boy. The ungrateful bitch took him 5000 miles away.
Life becomes different once you take the red pill.
Why don’t you move to where they live?
@@isacha1 She moved to Bulgaria and i am in the States running a 7 figure business,house on a pond,employ 5 other people. Moving where she is now = chasing her and leaving everything i ever build behind. I visit my boy twice a year now and keep a good relationship with him until he is old enough to make his own decisions. Time and pations is the key. I am slowly recovering and dating again while she is depressed,unemployed and confused . Can't wait to see my son slamming the door on her and reuniting with me one day. He is only 12 now, but i know this day will come.
@@kirilvlastanov444 Нещо много злорадстваш за бившата. Все се чудя защо всички се юрват да имат деца, при положение че вече почти половината от браковете свършват с развод. Странен свят.
Sorry man.
I got divorced back in March of 2020. I was only married for 2 years. I lost my house, had to file bankruptcy for debts we were still paying off. I'll never get married again. Its a scam. They stop loving you once they get that ring. She started cheating 6 months after we got married. We were together for 8 years. We live in a world now where women look at us like we are another bank account
Women using men as a bank account is nothing new. The term is called "Hypergamy". A quick search on YT will show 100's of great videos on the topic. Hypergamy has been around for thousands of years. The only difference is that today many more men are aware of it thanks to information on the internet.
I divorced 2019 after 11 years together and lost my home to her with 6 years for child support but I got my freedom back and a new home. I'm 53 now and I don't regret anything. Life is great and get to see my daughter anytime I want. Get rich or die trying brother.
@@carlos31302 thank you for the advice. I appreciate it man
@@carlos31302 👍
wow, im 18 and really thinking of never getting married, at least to an american women
I’m an old lady almost 50, got dumped before the pandemic. It was like getting fired from a stressful job, no more sleep deprivation and competition. I’m glad that the younger more attractive women can take my place. I’m retired from it and am no longer for sale in the dating market.❤
I not only dated a single mom, I married her. Her daughter was a handful and we finally decided to send her to Catholic Boarding School. I've seen her once in the following 45 years. The boy, as an honor to me, changed his last name to mine when he turned 18. She left us when the fight against cancer became too strenuous and God called her home in April of last year.
Rest in Peace, my beloved.
My condolences to you!!
Know why marriage is like a fishing lure. ? All you see is the glitter.,and shape, and smell, while not seeing the hooks
Your analogy isn't too far off.
Lol females on here being toxic on a video that's advice for men. Like if you over ur ex y u here? Trying make us feel bad on a video thats giving us tips to move on in life for the better. Trying find their ex commenting on here so they can continue the drama.
Dude, follow his advice. I dare you, lol.......and fyi, some females are the bread winner
@@elainenilsson5472 Right and go follow every tiktok and "FYI some men are bread winners' lol. Your not gonna find your ex on here commenting about you.
@@dangtrader Are you serious? If you are the bread winner you are going to lose big time. I was not the bread winner and I tried to tell him he was going to lose. My exact words were "You can spend a lot of money and lose or you can just lose. That's up to you." He would NOT listen! Just like you aren't listening. I loved my husband. You guys are crazy. He lost BIG TIME. Then he died. So, take the advice or don't but this guy is sucking you down a losing path. Best make things right with your wife if you can. Geesh! The bread winner always loses. It's how it works.
@@elainenilsson5472 i want to be me and be free. I'm tired of having having listen to someone that can just leave when when want. There's no working on the marriage if all we men have to do is listen. I'm tired of women on a timer and ready go off. I cam to this video for positivity not for some other girl to tell me what to do.
@@dangtrader Is it a short term or long term marriage? You entered into a life time commitment. If this is a long term marriage and you are a bread winner, ie; she makes less than 50% than you....hang on for the ride.
In a divorce a man looses his house his kids his savings his pensions his whole life. A woman gains a house her kids savings she never paid into a pension she never knew existed. Women will always win cos they play the victim. Having kids is not the same as working your arse off for all those years providing for your family taking them on holidays and giving them a life. All of a sudden they worked harder. Women are just scroungers who use "I'm a mum" as an excuse for everything. Get over your self if you have 2 kids you basically laid on your back twice. You didn't invent the wheel. Rip men.....
‘Being a mother is the hardest job in the world’ 😂
@@Sparkyspage oh yes 24 hours a day they don't stop.
Absolutely love this comment!
@@Sparkyspage Being a dad is a lot harder. We do everything a mom can do except give birth.
It’s one thing to ‘lay on your back’ and a COMPLETELY different thing to love, nurture and raise a kid for 18 years.
How many diapers did she change, did she nurse your child & spend months being an on-call milk machine?
Did she stay home running a free daycare for your kids while you got to build your resume and social security account while she didn’t?
Who took the kids to their events, to most of their doctors & dentist appointments?
Who do they want to call when they are in pain?
I’m 53 married headed to divorce-have 0 friends -covid ended my buisness .not bragging I am good looking and in shape. I spent everything I made during marriage while my wife worked at union job collecting benefits. I let her take car of all finances .I gave her every dime I made to do what she thought was right for our family .I’ve never seen her paycheck. She has retirement etc. I have nothing. What happens when we get divorced do I get half of her retirement etc…
Likely you'll get half, but it depends on several factors. I'd be happy to help. Please set up a free consultation and let's talk: www.greatdivorceadvisors.com/consultation
And the lesson is never let a woman run your finances.
You might get half the retirement but only if the divorce is her fault. It does work both ways. It's going to come down to who destroyed the marriage.
Just got served papers today. She's a covert narcissist. I cried outside so my kids wouldn't see, but composed myself so I could go inside and do an assets and liabilities spread sheet. Not to bad. I'm 46 and she's 43.
The idea is starting to grow on me.
Don’t cry, celebrate
It's been a year since your comment. I do hope you survived the divorce and have made a new start. It's been 3 years since the divorce became final here and now I'm being hauled back into court after almost a year no contact. I'd say she's wanting to see me real bad
Women don’t think it’s easy to date after divorce. Especially when a husband walks out on their kids.
Mostly the leaving husband cheated. They find out the grass want greener on the other side.
A guide for a foolish man.
This is good. TQ and appreciate.
Yet second marriages end in divorce at higher rates than first marriages.
Someone is lying. Second marriages probably lasts longer
Now I know why I never tried at school ,think I am sweating my ass off to give to wifey
Great video!!!
My first marriage lasted 7 years. I then sat and did nothing for 7 years being thoroughly miserable. The 7th anniversary of my second marriage is in 45 days. Wish me luck. 😂
Shiii..... nigga, get this. Once beaten, twice shy. I'm sure you picked better this time. You still got 42 days my g. one love.😂😂😂
I'm bow-legged and just dated at 27, had my first girlfriend, she fucked me over maaan. Y'all making this thing scary.
AND IT IS, FOR MEN.
Just know what you put in. You will get out
My ex husband cheated. I gave him the house and left with my one year old sick baby went on to accumulate, 4 properties and a second degree earning 6 figures. Guess who came back after realizing what a terrible husband and father he was? Don’t paint all women with the same brush. My market value wasn’t affected. I’m in shape and look much younger than I am, I had many wealthy men want to date me, even knowing I don’t have casual relationships. It’s about having good values. I’m not a serial dater and my family is more important than dating
Outliers do exist. You likely had great insight, discipline, and management skills, and he likely didn't have the ability to give up leadership. Hopefully you both thrive in a modified model.
@@finished6267
She's not an outlier. She's as delusional as pretty much every post wall single mom.
I smell a narcissist....and a liar
Best comment I've read here... 👏
After divorce i left n never want to be with any man 3years now they are all the same ihate them all
We hate you too catharine.
I understand not really wanting to be in another relationship, but I think as both men and women, we should realize that not everyone is our ex. Don’t just blindly hate the opposite sex because of the bad actions of one person.
it took me over 2 years after separation to start thinking about dating again.
First date was a complete disaster. After that I've been having lots of fun meeting people and exploring what do I want from them and also what can I offer.
I'm learning a lot about relationships and I move on as soon as I detect a red flag.
Don't give up people. Although, if dating/marring again is not for you then don't force it. Bring by yourself is great too.
I understand you’re trying to help and give advice but I’ve been married going on 17 years and if my wife is telling the truth then neither of us ever had cheated on each other. We live together in an old house but it’s a house I had to take care of two parents who are very ill with my dad who passed away in 2012 and a 90 year old mom who still alive but lives on her own. Our sex life has dropped off the deep end because of me and some health issues but I do love my wife very much and our two children. I would never want to see them go without. In fact I deposited $190000 in a bank I’m retired and soon to get social security. I don’t believe our marriage can make it do to some bad advice from friends or church members. I want the very best for all three and I want my wife to be happy. Btw I should mention although we’ve been married 17 years with two children I am now 50 and she 37. I don’t ever want to remarry but I hope if she does she finds a great younger man that can tend to her needs and sweep her off her feet.
You have the right mindset and I like your attitude. Statistically speaking, those men that say they'll never get married again are actually more likely to get married again. A strange but true fact.
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28
High quality women?
Im assuming 4k 🤣
This guy must live in some alternate reality.
How so?
I can confirm he's right. At least in my personal experience.
@@rerikm 💯 if you do the work as a man physically emotionally financially we can go onto bigger and better things, my ex wife tried to monkey branch to her friends husband, yep it failed I'm a now in shape guy of 46 she is a 46 year old overweight washed up single mum to my 10 year old son good luck my lovely 😂
@@carlmarch9591 the way you speak of your sons mother speaks volumes of your lack of character
I don't like this dude
You might be trying to make a point, but I hope the dads and husbands out there dont drink this koolaid, your state and district court defines family law. 5 “free consults” with other attorneys will help you more. He says you should never be stressed thru the divorce process. Marriage is hard, divorce is hard. Choose your hard
Too many men (and many of my clients) think a divorce is the end of life. The point of this video is to let guys know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Life 2.0 awaits. I never meant to imply that life after a divorce won't be hard, I'm simply saying that there is reason to be optimistic.
@@GreatDivorceAdvice Great point. I also am on the journey towards Life 2.0.
Does this guy look like someone you would be trying to date? lol
Wow! The most chauvinistic load of crap I have ever heard!!!!
Triggered lol !!
Just really bad advice
24 years married to the same woman I gave her my life my sanity my heart not to mention all of my finances. 2021 is the year I start over pray for me fellas I'm going to need it
I’m with you. After 19 years she decided she’s done. It’s been the worst 3 months of my life. The emotional toll has been huge. A year ago we bought a nice house down here in the southwest. Next week I’m moving back to the midwest to small apartment to rebuild my life (whatever that means). But....I have a job. If I have a job I can live. If I can live, I can rebuild. If I can rebuild, I can find happiness again. Good luck and stay positive!
We can do this! 12 years and 3 young kids now I'm a batchelder again. Yes it sucks, BUT, now we have the chance to work on ourselves and flourish. Be Strong and do the work!
@@Fa11ou7 @Bruce Lee I’m sorry we are are all going through this. It’s a real MF! It’s difficult to offer positive vibes on a YT reply but.....we are going to make it through this! This is just a set back that will work itself out. What has worked for me is physical exercise (running)...and believe me @55 it ‘s not easy but it’s the only time I feel powerful and some sense of control. I’m even thinking about a mini triathlon....stay positive and keep moving forward....forward is the only way!
I did it twice in my twenties. Both were cheaters who could not keep their legs closed and I have azero cheating tolerance and policy. No kids came from either one. I am now on number three and this one is going the same way. Difference is that her affair is an online, emotional, one with an old lover of hers. She has threatened divorce once a week-minimum as a weapon since our second year of marriage. She tries to pit both of our religious faiths against me as a weapon. She is narcissistic, inconsistent with our kids, and abusive to me (verbally, mentally, emotionally). She wants a fourth kid. I don't. I was done after two and then we got a surprise. Once I said that I was done and didn't want anymore she said, "Maybe I should take (name withheld) up on his offer to get the fourth baby that I want!". I asked her if she was blatantly saying she was going to commit adultery in front of me (and our kids, which I LOATHE her doing all of the time). She replied with, "No. You don't get it. We will be divorced when this happens." Typical shit she always says. She threatens divorce when she is mad, doesn't get her way, doesn't get me to rise to her baiting me; you name it. She has threatened to send our special needs daughter to a home to "see if they can't work with her and 'fix' her; and if they can't, then she can just stay there (again said to and in front of our autistic daughter who can be a bit loud and destructive as well as hyperactive. Being autistic myself, that really pisses me off.). This guy she mentioned is the same guy she wants to have take our family portrait with the help of his wife whom he cheated on her with when they dated and lived together. She has also made it quite clear that she will do everything she can to obliterate me financially and has begun dragging me to a marriage counselor where I am talked over, down to, and at like a child by both the counselor (male) and her; while she gets to jabber away and play pity party. So...I have taken to keeping a written log of her bullshit and getting audio on my phone when I can. I have been accused of not being romantic and pushing her away (bullshit. It is just like the two country songs go, "She only bitches when she breathes" &, "It's hard to kiss the lips at night that chew your ass out all day long."). I am on a fixed income from VA Disability and unable to work. She uses my severe, to the point of crippling, some days PTSD and associated symptoms. Thankfully, I have found out that the state that I live in takes earning POTENTIAL and WHO HAS THE HIGHER DEGREE/EDUCATION LEVEL into account when deciding child support and things. I have also had her berate me in public, in stores and sidewalks full of people. Just this week she flat out said, "Why can't you just have 100% disability already so that I can divorce you to get the services I want and need (welfare perhaps?); and you can get your own place-meaning kicking me out and her staying in a rental home she could not afford but, I could if I had full disability. She makes shit up that I am abusive... here's a spoiler...I AM NOT! She uses what she "learns" online and from her friends, family, and the marriage counselor as a weapon and to try and build a case for divorce and maximum shared custody with me getting the kids every other weekend. She puts words in my mouth that I never said. Could I work harder with things? Yup. Am I and have I been? Yup. Does it matter? Not with her! Even with me trying to improve myself for the kids and for me. She has gone so far as to tell me that she is money hungry and regardless of amount that it will NEVER be enough (first year of marriage and we both grew up poor). She has said that I and what I do have never been, aren't, will NEVER bee good enough. She told me a few months back that she has never, doesn't, and will NEVER respect me regardless of what I do. Said the women in her family "train" their men and break them like an animal but that she would "never do that (I call bullshit. She has been trying to since we married without her realizing it.). Her dad even warned me of all of this and what her mother's family would do when I met him. Including what they did to him and what he did to them. He warned me and explained that it was part of the reason that they had split. He even asked me if I was sure that this was what I wanted and if I could handle it if she pulled it. I said yes. He told me I was stupid to do so but, if it made us happy, to go right ahead. She has her friends and family convinced that I am a narcissistic abuser. I mean...yeah...after just shy of 8 years of my writing this...I am just waiting on the claims appeal process and how long it will take to get 100% to see if she is actually going to pull her B's and try what she said. So...yeah...I can feel the pain on that one (Especially with a young son, young daughter, and infant daughter.). I wish anyone in this situation the best of luck and to know that you will learn your lesson and make it through. Just focus on being the best you that can be.
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Sorry for any mistakes and blabbering on. Speech-to-Text makes it easy for both to happen.
@@brandonriggs1788 wow brother that was deep lots of the same red flags here too. It's hard with these women today. Lord give us the strength we need to carry on
"Future dating life"...why in the hell would I do that? 😂
No kidding. Wife just left after 24 years for no reason. Why risk starting new. Just find hobbies and get good at them
I’m going through D now, after 25 years and her seven year affair. The idea of dating again doesn’t sound very appealing right now or maybe forever.
I like this guy. But once my divorce is finalized, forget about me trying to date. One woman ruined all of women for me. No, not going to bat for the other team, but I just don’t care to do it all over again!
That is exactly how I feel now with a divorce she initiated in January of this year and it was finalized this past May 15, 2023 after 14 years.
This guy nailed it!! I’m divorced two years…it’s actually a great life! Stress free!
will you recommend someone to marry or not?
Going through now. Glad to hear there’s life on the other side.
I’ve been separated from my wife for a week now. It’s going to be rough, but I already feel less stressed.
@@earlmiles5834 Hang in there bro. This seems to be happening A LOT to the best men. My opinion the internet apps have warped the minds of these women. You will be better but it will take time. DO NOT do or say anything you’ll regret…don’t give her anything to use against you. Stay a strong man and be in your masculine frame at all times. Trust me!
I'm a single dad, not quite long I started investing. I'm very curious and need help on how to enhance and increase my returns. Any good investment tips would be appreciated
@@eadad4371 Generally, investing requires higher knowledge. For this reason, It's important to have a solid support structure (financial consultant) to guide you through especially in asset picking. I operate with (Regina Louise Collaro) an investment advisor who partners with a licensed wealth management firm. For the record, the experience has been the best for my finance.She is quite popular for her services so you might have heard of her.
She made me financially stable investing through her help, now I earn on a monthly basis through her passive income strategy... So I’ll advise you do get a good Investment advisor for yourself.
@@emeldcentor1474 That’s great , your investment advisor must be really good,I have seen testimonies of people using the help of investment advisors in making them more financial stable. Do you mind sharing more info on this person?
@@eadad4371 She is easy to find , make a quick research of her on the internet with her name Regina Louise Collaro and leave her a message .She works with anyone independent of their location.
@@emeldcentor1474 I got separated last month,I have had the intentions of starting investing. But I always thought it was late and I think I need to stop procrastinating. I will definitely 🔍 Regina Louise Collaro and see what she can advise .Thanks a lot . This was of so much help to me .
Being insecure and scared of rejection by women was the best decision I ever made
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I agree!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
I’ve been watching and applying save-your-marriage videos for months. It’s getting me nowhere, and my wife still adamantly insists she doesn’t want to be married to me. At a certain point you have to believe her and move on. I wasn’t looking for greener grass, but the grass is dead on this side of the fence.
I’m going through this. I know it hurts, but you have to move on or you’ll be stuck in misery the rest of your life. Tough it out for a year and the pain will subside in your life will become much better. That’s what people tell me and that’s what I’m going to do.
Only women, single moms & blue pill beta males disliked. Great video sir
I dodged a bullet with my ex-wife. I spent a decade trying to keep her "level". My only regret is that I didn't leave earlier.
Current status: no wife, no kids, no bills and not looking.
Ain't the peace and quiet wonderful Mickey? :)
Tbf why would anyone be so desperate to re hitch after an unhappy marriage
There are quite a few reasons, some men are really bad with relationships too attached to women, some personalities are uncontrollable. I would not remarry again unless it was to make a family commitment.
@@tsgarage2382 yes ,I was never desperate to get a g/f it was just something on top of enjoying my life ,although some males maybe have hard situations
Never sign an agreement that benefits one party.
I will marry again but only if the woman has just as much to loose as me financially.
Not paying again.
First divorce sucked .
Why on earth would you marry again? I am going through the process and as time goes by, her lawyer is coaching her into becoming more and more angry with me. So, I have lost hope.
I also bought a scottish croft sex doll.
google it.
USSexToy has them for under $800, standing, no pubes. Hottest body I have ever seen.
@@basicprogrammer6147I’m 21 years old and all these comments scare me
@@badass420weedsmoker5 You should be scared, you're at a dangerous age. Make certain you don't get someone pregnant unless you want to have custody of kids 2 weeks every month. Any man who doesn't accept the responsibility of being a father when he is a father is simply not a man, but an overgrown boy.
Regardless of your smv on the chart if you have more than one child, paying alimony or children support, are overweight, out of shape, unhealthy, broke, a cheater or have a bad attitude then that chart doesn't apply to u.
If you aren’t broke now, your next wife, like the previous, will spend you into the poor house, no matter what you make.
I find it very difficult to believe men ever have it easier than women
The best thing I ever did was get a divorce.....it’s been 2 years now and I’ve never been happier
Wayne, while I'm not a fan of divorce, I'm happy to hear that your post divorce life is great. Good for you!!
Hey Wayne how long was you married for I'm trying to get a little guidance I'm on the edge of a divorce after 24 years any advice would be helpful
@@sambigg4620 I served a 19 year sentence....as for advice....Bud Light, Weed, and bang lots of chicks...good luck
@@w.s.2102 I understand thank you
@@w.s.2102 do you have children and did the marriage end bad or good. How is the relationship with the ex. Me and mine wanna just walk away on good terms after 18 years. Im only 43 and i feel like i look the best ive looked my whole life but i feel like crap. I hope that changes
I’m still never going to marry.
your uploaded videos have nature , you are not seen there , happy to be alone
So my SMV is the same as Brad Pitt. Got it!
yes actually. Just remember to eat well, exercise and pick a hobby. At 37 I have a bigger portfolio, savings and arrogance...I mean confidence.
@@afrotraveller3768 A comedic slip of the tongue? 😉
Marriage is like a Tornado: "In the beginning there's a lot of blowing and sucking, Then you lose your house".
Lol… great one because it’s true! 😂
I'm joyful that I've made to decision to never marry. I live and fight for myself.
Smart Man
Modern society it’s crazy to get married. The nutty 4th wave feminism & laws are so warped, it’s playing Russian roulette with all bullets in the chambers. The odds are so terrible, the juice isn’t worth the quezz.
This comic talking about how you shouldn't be stressed about divorce is wearing a wedding ring. Am I the only one that sees this?
I think many if not most women are under the delusional notion that women "get the house".
which is very, very weird.
Actually, if there are minor kids involved AND she gets custody (which is often the case), then she most likely will indeed get the house...at least for a while.
@@GreatDivorceAdvice
You missed my point:
To women: "get" equals given.
To everyone else: "get" means they get to live in the house, but they are not given the husband's equity.
Her sister divorced her own husband and once quipped "at least I got the house". That's because her stupid husband signed over the title to her without taking any money. Most likely, because he's an idiot, but also because he wanted to be rid of the bitch once and for all.
In my case, I will NEVER "give" my soon to be ex wife the house.
The only ways she can live in the house is:
1. She buys me out (she cannot afford to)
2. I give it to her (not happening)
3. We live in the house together (most likely, in my case)
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death.
Also, most people are pretty much comfortable enough to be naked around someone and have sex with someone that they have no romantic feelings towards. So sex isn't really a thing about romance.
I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse.
People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.
It also helps that your best friend is usually a man so he thinks a lot more logically. They want a lot less from you including spending your money like it’s water.
Divorces dating you go out with a divorced woman and she’ll have a resident ask you for a résumé and on why are you divorced? Can I tell you something men hate going back to the past and I shouldn’t have to and moving ahead.
Marriage is like a Tornado: "In the beginning there's a lot of blowing and sucking, Then you lose your house".
lol
Haaahaha. I needed a good laugh!
Just leave the B. You will be happier. I have been through two divorces. Happiest when not married. 23 years since my last divorce and and the happiest I have ever been
Id say it sounds pretty awful since the girl usually takes everything lol
She doesn't take "everything"; usually only half...unless you conduct your divorce improperly. Do it right and your damage is limited to 50%.
Damage is limited to 0% if you avoid marriage in the first place ;p@@GreatDivorceAdvice
@@nixvetthat’s what I’m saying , if men are still getting married , im sorry , but they deserve it , especially now that pretty much every women it’s looking for a rent free experience
You can’t compare regular joe bloggs to Brad Pitt
OMG....yes, indeed. That would be like comparing me to ANY actress. OMG, this...omg you just made me laugh. But to be honest, Brad Pitt would have nothing on you. Good looks and money is all he has and that is NOT what women are looking for. Some men might be that shallow, which is what hookers are for, but women want a soul mate.
True that.
You said it all sir and thank you !!!
Ruined me. I lost my forever home. Had to buy in a bad neighbourhood that has me under massive stress and anxiety.if I'd stayed single I would have been mortgage free at 35 and living in a good area. ( I had saved a house deposit before I met her... she had nothing but debt)Now I have some money but can't afford to move to a better neighbourhood . I'm in a hole I'll never climb out off. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought this would be my life at 57. Sometimes I contemplate ending it but then I know what it would do to my kids.thats what keeps me here
Love and light to you Grant 🌸💕
Hey Grant, I feel for you brother. I had a similar situation, my ex took my for everything. Lost my house, reduced access to my kid (every other weekend), and heavy child support payments. Regardless, I've crawled/struggled and finally got new home, which I just got last month. It's hard and every day is a fight, but I move on and keep swinging. My mission in life is to focus on rebuilding my life and my finances to put me in a place that is secure and safe. I have also learned to accept that my life with my child will never be the same or how I want it. It's just the way society views us men, we'll never be treated as equals, and always seen as a resource to be utilized. Letting go and accepting this reality is something I work on everyday, but it's something that I'm getting use to, and letting go and accepting the realities of this new life has help me cope. What keeps me going now is my mission to succeed and become secure and a better man... for me. I spend my time working on side online business. It's not easy, and it takes time, but I refuse to go down without a fight. I will say this, in the past year I've seen family members go from being broke to having $200,000 in a few months through the stock market. What this has taught me is that there are options out there to succeed, you just have to work and keep trying. Eventually, something will connect. Use your free time to work on finding these possibilities, it beats sitting around feeling depressed. Good luck and keep fighting brother.
Rebuild my friend…rebuild. Come back and update us in a few months.
Me too grant -53 lost my small business to covid -car dealership-it’s impossible to start in that business again .I’m lost and of course now it’s time for my wife to make it worse I’m not wanted no good no more can dish out money anymore .I think the government knows that covid will kill the guys who lose there livelihood.
Dating after divorce is just repeating the same f¥cking mistake
Not really just don't get serious and live ur life free :)
Breaking up after 21 years. I’ll be surprised of i ever wanna see another woman.
don't hate the game, hate the player.
women are wonderful at small dosis
Just divorcing due to her affair after 25 years of marriage. I agree with you. I will never put myself in the position to be hurt like this again. Give me my dog, my hobbies and my career.
After listing to him, I feel like I should divorce my wife and get a brand-new and much-improved life although I'm unmarried.
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Your points are not very accurate. I had less discretionary money for many years after my divorce mostly because of the burden of paying for the kids and the cost of living alone. Women who did not have kids did not want to date a divorced man with children. My relationship with my kids was never great because all they heard was their mother`s poison. Still single 15 years later.
As your kids got older, we’re they able to see through your ex-wife’s lies and realize you were not who she said you were? This is one of my fears as I go through divorce, that my soon to be ex will poison my kids against me.
It can be tough as hell being a single dad... I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it may help you...just to share stories. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝
100% true!
@@wlamb9 My guess is it depends on the woman. In my case, she is very controlling and the guy she’s with now parrots every word that comes out of her mouth. When my kids got older they did see some of her lies but they are afraid to contradict her versions of my character. She disassociates herself with anyone who doesn’t buy into her view including some of her own family. My kids now come around for money more than to maintain a proper relationship. My son may be the most sensible of my children and goes to therapy. My daughter refuses to as her mother did when she was a child. Unfortunately that leads to what I think will happen- she will repeat her mother’s behavior and cause another generation of trauma.
He is not accurate at all. I got railroaded in divorce court. The financial hardship alone can be downright taxing. Child support and all the other extra you have to dish out has a very big negative impact on regular life unless you make a ton of money to the point where you wouldn't even miss it. And you're absolutely right about the dating market being skewed towards divorced men with kids. Our resources are depleted and no woman is patient enough to deal with that. And we haven't even gotten to the emotional and mental impact it has. This guy has no idea what he's talking about. I wonder what state does he practice.
Really crappy times ahead. That isn't being 'negative.' Anyone who sees what is REALLY happening in our society knows it as fact. Do NOT marry. But especially do not have kids. No way. 2021 through 2030 will try the hearts of men and many will fail. SOLO is the way to go - with 'kids' you are handicapped and vulnerable. You will need every survival advantage. NO FEAR required, just common sense and planning for the rough times that are coming.
No kids, period. Most kids wind up indoctrinated in school to become liberals or they windup becoming drug addicts.
Thanks for the lifting message. I'm 29 and got my first divorce and now I'm just trying to cope
I don’t know how to tell my parents or her parents been together 20 years and she told me I work too much and I’m not her true love. I will miss her but it’s no point working it out. Biggest concerns are the kids.
Your children are your highest priority. If they are minors, get joint custody.
I’m praying for you Sam. Going through same next month (10/2024). 25yrs found 7 year affair that she says “meant nothing. Wanna bet! Pray for me to. This hurts but it’s over.
A lot of women say their happier when single but I think men who are divorced are equally or even more so, we’ve been fed this garbage that we need women to make us happy but that’s bullshit. These broads are never happy how can we expect them to keep us happy. I have a controversial opinion; single fatherhood may be the best thing for men, we are best when building, building your children into great human beings will always be more fulfilling than building a relationship with a man hating bimbo who is incapable of giving love.
Precise. Never imagined this to be true but life is more fulfilling.
fully agree. Single fatherhood helps focus energy.
I agree. A lot of truth in what you said. Your life after divorce is what you make of it. Too many men going through a divorce see nothing but gloom and doom...especially in the first few days.
It's pretty obvious that you guys are not from traditional families that looks up to, and respects God, because divorce is not a thing if you and your partner keep God close to you.
They do keep me happy , the key word , Stay SINGLE
Just signed divorce papers after 30 years of marriage😞
Congratulations!!
@@GreatDivorceAdvice Divorce isn't good. Don't be a psycho.
Sorry you have to go through this. Hang in there. I’m going through the same after 25 years. I’m filing next month because I found out she’s been having an affair for the past seven years. It’s hard because we were happy and got along great. What a tragic waste of a great relationship. of course she is devastated and so sorry now that she’s been caught. She says she doesn’t know why she did it. My guess is a simple one. She wanted her fun on the side and never thought it would come to light a day.
Just found your channel, you are filling a very needed void for our men. We need men of all ages and cultures to spread this message. Men need to relearn and reearn their place in society. Very professional video, another good source of intel is Coach Greg Adams, if you want to be about that life.
I appreciate that. Thanks.
My income went up over 30k the year after as I took a role I wouldn’t have been able to satisfy before trying to balance domestic life. As he said only loss is time with my little one. But as he notes the time I have with him is higher quality. It’s scary getting out of the relationship cocoon. But growth happens In uncomfortable situations. Be happy set goals don’t rush to date life is long relationships are but one aspect of life. You’re not the first to go through this and your not the last. Reach out to other men we are a community and we care.
You should have joint custody so you have 2 weeks every month with your child.
Glad I am Divorced from my Super Narcissistic Ex wife who was toxic and verbally abusive
(God with us all still fighting to see our children and dealing with “Parental Alienation” and Ex Spouses deliberately trying to destroy relationships) ❤️🤘✝️
I feel like this will age poorly, but this made me feel a bit better.
I dunno, there's a lot of angry women in the comment section which usually means your over the target
After 30 yrs of marriage and her cheating, I spent and liquidated everything we had . Grown kids = no child support. We had nothing to split. I rebuilt she didn't and is living with her Dad . Karma is a bitch .
Thank you for the light thru the dark times
Dateing mothers with step kids its a double end sword
Yes! I know from personal experience!
I married into a prenup, but didn’t find out till later that was not enough. Total separation of every thing before marriage. She has total control of all aspects of our marriage. I also didn’t find out my value to her until after the marriage started. She constantly dips into 401k that we just recently started finding. As a test we put petty cash in the house for emergency.. less than 6 months the money had been spent. My first marriage her second. No kids. Only two years married total 4 together. Control issues a major role in our current situation. Planning on uncontested with one lawyer. I did the move so we could be together. So the worst part is starting over with nothing.
That is spot on.
I'm sorry but I laughed hard af after that first line 🤣
why women are bitter about break up after so many years? i.e 11 years and why still bitter when remarried? why use child as a weapon?
True love and Honesty seems hard to find this days.... Guide your heart everyone
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If you don't look like Brad Pitt plan to move out of usa if u want to remarry sucessfully
Thank you man, this video saved my life.
You are the best.
Glad to hear that!
Selling house due to break up…… money in the bank 😁
Divorce is easy. Custody is a nightmare
Just leave all with them
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
Yo, I can really picture you thumbing that Bible.
Seems like he had a shit ton of time after his divorce....
So true Mr. layer. Everything changed: more money, more quality time with kids, expending business - even opened a new firm, more dates and women.... Divorce is a legal MIRACLE!
How much did you get paid to say this?
@@elainenilsson5472 commenting on everything 🤣 so pathetic
@@RickyTPB4L See Mr. Fett Esq below
As an old coworker used to say "if prostitution was legal, marriage would become obsolete!"
You will no longer have a woman draining your finances!!! Hahahahahha this guy keeps it too real.
No doubt. I’m divorcing next month and I hate it I discovered a seven year affair after 25 years of marriage and it has to end. as far as the money, she is always spent it faster than I could make it no matter how much I made. I know I will have more money left over after we divorce. Still I wish this didn’t have to happen, but it does.
As a man and doting father of three young children my ex, after having gone on a fishing expedition on the Internet for a man with more money and hooked one, made me out to be a sick sexual pervert and hideous monster to our friends and her family. Over a few short years she and her family, with the help of the police and the social services/welfare system, systematically dismantled my rights as a father and her stories literally had me hounded out of town. In the end I chose to start a new life in a new country because my children were beginning to believe the stories she was telling.
Wow that's a tough story glad that you made a positive change
I'm sorry but you did the same thing I did...
You chose a covert narcissist for a wife.
We just have to accept that in the end it is our own poor decision that held us back and punished us for our good.
Peace
I have a huge question and one which perhaps you could devote an entire video:
Don't divorce. Just get separated and delay every court session. Don't hire a lawyer. Just object to her divorce settlement demands, and again, delay every court session.
This way, you can date, keep your home, keep seeing your kids, and lose the nag.
Just ignore her when you're in the house. Maybe even redline the house, ie. turn it into a two flat. Move into a mancave in the basement. Go out on weekends.
Maybe even get a separate apartment where you can entertain women, build businesses, read, and chill. No more nag.
So my question is, do you see that sometimes it's better to just get separated? Stay friends with her, but lose the nag that's in all of them.
BASIC Programmer,
I hear you but ALL women are not ‘Nags.’
I probably used to be -
but since my husband and I have been working on the marriage, I let pretty much everything go because I would rather have peace.
Either I take care of it or most of the time it doesn’t get done because my spouse’s favorite thing is watching Netflix and napping.
He works hard so I don’t say anything although I wish he would be active around the house like my friends husbands are.
We respect each other much more now that we have learned the components of a good relationship.
For example, we have stopped yelling, calling names and are more considerate of each other.
You can’t paint ANY group of people with one paintbrush.
I am one female who is NOT a ‘Nag.’
@@stacysnider4899 Your response helps, thanks. I could also use a LOT of work. I'm trying...
She did this abruptly, but perhaps it is best. We'll see what happens.
Both of our in laws did a lot of damage, too, though. It's weird how cruel they are, mine and her's.
@@basicprogrammer6147 ,
It’s good when we can work on our flaws because we ALL could learn and grow! 👏👏👏
@@stacysnider4899 Very true. In the meantime, the lawyers are taking everything.
@@basicprogrammer6147 💗 When I almost lost everything was when I leaned on Christ. He got me through it and gave me even MORE than I asked for. I hope if you aren’t a praying person that you give Him a try. What could it hurt? People will let us down but Jesus NEVER will. 👍
I guess a shit sandwich can taste good.....
Lies
Men afterwards... happiness
All your examples are very rich and good looking. Ive worked hard blue collar jobs my whole life. I don't look my best
Save up and go to Asia and live your best life
Then get in the gym… Get some therapy sow up your weak points… Don’t be a victim or soy boy
I can guarantee you good looks for men mean next to nothing. Unless Greek God but even near model like it does absolutely nothing.
@@axs7689 Not true, looks matter especially if you're out of shape.
There’s a saying that half of all marriages end in divorce…..but not the better half. And I’m glad that I’m in the better half.
Dating younger hot woman having amazing fun. Giggity
I am divorced with 2 children. A man will not walk out of court with half. He is not explaining that the lawyer will charge you based on your resources. The judge gives you what they want, but the attorney takes the rest. You won't have much when you walk out of court.
Why don't men listen to this sound advice?
Idk where in the hell he's getting his info from. No way a man leaves with even near half. I wonder what state he's in..
You would have been wise to never enter into the court and settle at the judicial settlement.
@@marcusjones1432 You are right. That is probably because you have the earning potential to make up the loss. But, hey, he says your social life will improve because you'll have more time, wink wink, lol. Noooooo, you wont. You will be working around the clock to pay your lawyer and all those credit cards you ran up during the divorce...not to mention paying rent and spousal support.
@@marcusjones1432 He represents women
Enjoyed your advice and perspective. Thank you