What would happen if the son or OP had a life threatening emergency? The sons fall could have been much worse. The son was also probably terrified, in a lot of pain and needed both parents there to comfort him.
So. . .if she had a heart attack on the lawn, would he have still waited the ten minutes before helping? What about his kid? Either he gets therapy, or Leave him. Get sole Custody. Don't let them gaslight you.
If after 2yrs of marriage and also after having a child he still cannot get over his trauma then clearly he is not over his ex. You know what that means
Child In Pain. Sorry, so excuse. You can as uncomfortable as humanly possible, you Do Not leave your child in pain with a broken bone for Any amount of time over your feelings.
He needs therapy Tell him to go to therapy and fix his trauma Give him an ultimatum that if he doesn't go to the therapy and fix himself you and your son is out
@ishratjahan8627 the husband refuses to go to therapy at all so giving that ultimatum won't do anything but make him do the same thing longer. The only thing OP can do is divorce him since he can not be relied on in an emergency situation.
If your husband can't move forward from a girlfriend cheating on him many years ago, i question whether he has the fortitude to be a father and a husband. Life is unfortunately chock-full of micro traumas and full-blown traumas. So if your child was screaming that you were lying on the floor unconscious, would your husband stay in the car for 10 minutes to deal with his anxiety??
What did he think he would walk into? OP cheating in front of the son who’s crying in pain? What if the roles were reversed and the wife had broken her leg would he have waited ten minutes to come inside out of fear that she was cheating with her leg bone sticking out? I understand it’s trauma or what ever but there are just times where the husband has to get off his ass and realize maybe she’s not cheating in this situation. Like she’s outside yelling at him to come inside and he’s still scared he will find her cheating? This man is nuts and just made trauma for his whole family, divorce or therapy.
Your husband is an absolute child. His wife cheated on him, not you. He's married to a different person now. He doesn't need to sit in the car for the trauma of going in and finding you with somebody else. That's just damn ridiculous. That's an excuse for a selfish self-ritious behavior
what the actual f u c k? he needs to sit in a car because someone cheated on him? WHAT? *hey honey i know our son broke his leg but i need two more minutes because of my past trauma* what a dummkopf. so if OP was having a heart attack he would need to stay in the car? im sorry but that's not at all normal and is honestly so irresponsible. his family needs to stop coddling this idiocy. Get some therapy, don't just sit in your car. He felt stuck when his child had a broken leg? i normally don't say this but he's a beta.
Sorry, he has someone else. My ex used to sit alone at family functions and read the paper and wouldn't engage. I divorced him, and the truth started coming out. My ex died a few years ago, and he asked for forgiveness before passing. Be careful with your children being alone with him. He will not get them help, if needed.
Wtf get over it already! Everyone cheats! That doesn't mean u leave ur hurt child so u can sit for 10 mins. Then stay in a mental hospital if u cant handle life. Id divorce him too.
Emergencies, by definition, are uncomfortable! He's afraid to walk into his own home, because of an ex cheating? Obviously years ago? Something stinks. Either, he's incredibly broken or there is an additional unaddressed situation at play. He & his family are definitely gaslighting you.
I'm not going to say the guy was in the right, but playing devil's advocate, why didn't the OP bring the kid out to the car and have him ready to go to the hospital. Roles reversed you wouldn't want your husband for partner degrading you about this especially if he does have PTSD because that is serious. He definitely should seek out therapy.
wtf if he was in a military witness a murder I understand. But How do u get that kind of trauma from catching a girl cheating, story doesn’t sound real
Ok, why didn't you take the kid to the car? Not defending him thou but using the neighbor's help while he's in the car in front of your house sounds ridiculous
Him and his family gaslighting you does not make him right… no trust= no relationship
What would happen if the son or OP had a life threatening emergency? The sons fall could have been much worse. The son was also probably terrified, in a lot of pain and needed both parents there to comfort him.
So. . .if she had a heart attack on the lawn, would he have still waited the ten minutes before helping? What about his kid? Either he gets therapy, or Leave him. Get sole Custody. Don't let them gaslight you.
Regardless of any other circumstances, a partner who is completely useless during an emergency is a danger to the rest of the family.
If after 2yrs of marriage and also after having a child he still cannot get over his trauma then clearly he is not over his ex. You know what that means
What a nut. He's from a Family full of nuts. You're a Mother, but not his. Take your son to safe environment while your Husband lives in the past.
Husband needs to grow up. Your child needed him . If god forbid another accident happens call 911 then he can handle the ambulance bill.
Hubby needs therapy. In the meantime, maybe a separation rather than full on divorce?
I already saw this story and if I remember we'll, the husband didn't want to get into therapy
Child In Pain. Sorry, so excuse. You can as uncomfortable as humanly possible, you Do Not leave your child in pain with a broken bone for Any amount of time over your feelings.
He needs therapy
Tell him to go to therapy and fix his trauma
Give him an ultimatum that if he doesn't go to the therapy and fix himself you and your son is out
@ishratjahan8627 the husband refuses to go to therapy at all so giving that ultimatum won't do anything but make him do the same thing longer. The only thing OP can do is divorce him since he can not be relied on in an emergency situation.
If your husband can't move forward from a girlfriend cheating on him many years ago, i question whether he has the fortitude to be a father and a husband. Life is unfortunately chock-full of micro traumas and full-blown traumas. So if your child was screaming that you were lying on the floor unconscious, would your husband stay in the car for 10 minutes to deal with his anxiety??
What did he think he would walk into? OP cheating in front of the son who’s crying in pain? What if the roles were reversed and the wife had broken her leg would he have waited ten minutes to come inside out of fear that she was cheating with her leg bone sticking out? I understand it’s trauma or what ever but there are just times where the husband has to get off his ass and realize maybe she’s not cheating in this situation. Like she’s outside yelling at him to come inside and he’s still scared he will find her cheating? This man is nuts and just made trauma for his whole family, divorce or therapy.
Screw that. Run, Forest, RUN!
Your husband is an absolute child. His wife cheated on him, not you. He's married to a different person now. He doesn't need to sit in the car for the trauma of going in and finding you with somebody else. That's just damn ridiculous. That's an excuse for a selfish self-ritious behavior
He needs therapy
He can't be useless. What if it was a 🔥
what the actual f u c k? he needs to sit in a car because someone cheated on him? WHAT? *hey honey i know our son broke his leg but i need two more minutes because of my past trauma* what a dummkopf. so if OP was having a heart attack he would need to stay in the car? im sorry but that's not at all normal and is honestly so irresponsible. his family needs to stop coddling this idiocy. Get some therapy, don't just sit in your car. He felt stuck when his child had a broken leg? i normally don't say this but he's a beta.
Sorry, he has someone else. My ex used to sit alone at family functions and read the paper and wouldn't engage. I divorced him, and the truth started coming out. My ex died a few years ago, and he asked for forgiveness before passing. Be careful with your children being alone with him. He will not get them help, if needed.
Divorce ASAP....
I wonder if he would stay 10 minutes in the car if the car is on fire...
His past trauma put his own son's health at risk, divorce would be the only option to keep everyone safe.
Wtf get over it already! Everyone cheats! That doesn't mean u leave ur hurt child so u can sit for 10 mins. Then stay in a mental hospital if u cant handle life. Id divorce him too.
most men don't grow up anymore. They think "trauma" is their excuse to always be healing but never heal.
Absolutely not. Either go to therapy or leave.
Nope she needed him man up ! If it's a problem then get some help. K think they both need a break.
Leave him😢
Emergencies, by definition, are uncomfortable! He's afraid to walk into his own home, because of an ex cheating? Obviously years ago? Something stinks. Either, he's incredibly broken or there is an additional unaddressed situation at play. He & his family are definitely gaslighting you.
I'm not going to say the guy was in the right, but playing devil's advocate, why didn't the OP bring the kid out to the car and have him ready to go to the hospital. Roles reversed you wouldn't want your husband for partner degrading you about this especially if he does have PTSD because that is serious. He definitely should seek out therapy.
He sounds crazy. That's his son & he is in the car,," come on "
wtf if he was in a military witness a murder I understand. But How do u get that kind of trauma from catching a girl cheating, story doesn’t sound real
Ok, why didn't you take the kid to the car? Not defending him thou but using the neighbor's help while he's in the car in front of your house sounds ridiculous
as u should like what if ur son was kidnapped or a dog was bitting him and u cant count on him becuse hes not comfterbul like?
you are
Absolutely not. Either go to therapy or leave.