From my experience, when a girl is into me, her entire list goes out the window. But if a girl is not into me, even if I meet all the requirements, it still wouldn't help. So from a guy's perspective, trying to meet the requirements of a girl we like is futile. Yes, you have to work on yourself, be a gentleman and make something of your life. But don't do it in the hopes a girl will take notice and like you. Because there's a good chance that she may not be into you, so then there goes the motivation for self improvement. And I believe that women can see that too. They can tell if you are genuinely investing into your life, or if you're just doing it to catch attention.
Working on yourself should be for yourself. Your self worth should not be determined by the girls you like and their outside validation. As long as you are comfortable with yourself that confidence will attract others to you. Don't give up
@@rw5622Wrong. Like attracts like. People that self-improve for hopes of impressing others will attract the same type of people and they will like each other. So just be yourself to attract what you are/ like.
You nailed it. It’s just LMSG (looks, money, status, game). In that order. Everything else women say they care about is less than 1% of the picture, but they say it to not look shallow.
Ladies, when you meet the right person, all of those "boxes" checking will go out the window and you will make it work and compromise and grow along the way. That's how a relationship is supposed to be. Often times the best relationship comes unexpectedly or when you're least expecting it. It's not about someone coming into your life and living up to your expectations because they're not object but rather human beings with their own individual emotions and perspective, nor is it about someone coming into your life and bringing you your own happiness. You're supposed to be happy without or without an external factor coming into your life. Relationship is simply about two people coming together, growing together, enjoying each other's company, face the problems along the way together and grow from those problems, as well as sharing all the happy moments that are important to the both of you. At the end of the day, it isn't about celebrating holiday or buy expensive gift, but it's the day-to-day normal life that consist of putting all the pieces together, such as going to work to pay bills, coming to home and your partner may have a day off when you're having a bad day and he took care of the house chore for you already and made dinner. Or he took out the trash, put the toilet seat down because he's considerate toward you, or put unused cups inside dishwasher because you told him to stop leaving dirty cups everywhere out on the table. It's those small details that will make or break your actual relationship of living together as a couple in the long term, and the list just goes on. And the simplest way to tell if you meet the right person is asking yourself if you can just take a dump in the middle of the night and he/she won't give a crap with door opened and instead tell you to turn the bathroom light off because it's too bright 😅
Honestly, intentionally trying to find someone is a lot harder then just eventually meeting the one. If you just stop trying to show off (in an offputting way), and surround yourself with the right people who lift you up, you might find yourself with someone sooner then expected. *just my opinnion, you should always try and be your best self, and find someone of your standard*
my main red flag with women is when they won't let me take them out for even a coffee date but are willing to go home with me 30 minutes after meeting me. i'm old fashioned for the most part and don't want to be someone's play toy. they're either just getting out of a relationship or just looking to cheat on someone when they do that. plus women that are flaky i can't stand. another thing is don't give me your number unless you're truly interested. i hate calling women right before a date to get some excuse that sounds like it came from a book on dating. i'm good at sensing a lot of things about people. i have a friend that constantly sends me pictures of men she might want to date. i look at the picture and can tell if the guy is worth her time just by that alone. i guess it's sort of an odd gift because one of them just got out of jail that she was talking to.
Am i wrong for thinking a red flag in girls is when they don't say outright what they're thinking and expect me to read their mind? Like life isn't a Kdrama I'm not a genius either
"i am not the reincarnation of Nostradamus" has been my tagline ever since my first serious relationship till the last one i had. them wanting you to know what is on their mind is cute at first, but it becomes annoying fast specially used as a toll for argument
I think red flags for me are: - When girls are talking to multiple guys at once (other than their male friends) - When girls expect guys to make all the moves (ex: If I make 99% of the effort, the girl should make the remaining 1% effort) - Girls expect guys to carry the conversation while they just give off one sentence/few words answer - Also when girls are rude/judgmental to others like a server or random people on the street - Being fake (I don't like it when girls pretend that they eat only a little to portray themselves as "skinny" or "small" or starving themselves for that matter) - When a girl tells me that she talked to some guys and matched with x amount of guys and compares me to them, especially in the early stages
Yeah bro girls are taught to do what is right for them but we have to do what’s right in general. Never fall for this! You will get taken advantage of and be left as another option. Girls usually have more red flags than guys but they want us to overlook them lol.
After the first 4 minutes, the biggest impression I have is how well these two interact with each other. Dating aside, I don't see guys synching up their thoughts this well with each other much less with ladies. If they did, I think there wouldn't be as many issues.
🚩 The best way to "advertise" yourself is to be authentically yourself whilst having the goal of being the best person that you can be. Of course, you would need to be courteous and be respectful regardless of your authenticity of your character. I'm 31, and I am *still trying to complete a degree* - But that's only part of the story. I have had to deal with people actively causing me harm - knowing that they would probably get away with it. This was done to me even though I would never be a threat to these individuals. I am not going to reveal what they did or who they are because it's irrelevant; It's irrelevant because I am still actively pursing the skills that I need to give, in my own little way, things that are good for the betterment of society - even though they have caused me (or still causing me) harm in the past.
I do the same exact thing. I don't flirt with men, I just straight-up act like myself, and try to see who I'm naturally compatible with. If I feel like I have to put in a lot of effort or hanging out with someone feels like "work" then I peace out.
🚩hahahaa this was really fun/interesting to watch. Re: the Q at the end, I think lack of empathy/EQ would be one of the big ones for me. It’s good as a guy to have one’s life sorted, but when bad things inevitably happen (especially if chasing challenging things) you still want/need someone who is caring/supportive.
🚩Don't mind me, just catching up with all of these videos now that it's the weekend. I really like these simple talks about different subjects, and having Riley there makes it even more fun! A red flag that I see in some girls? Maybe waiting for the guy to always initiate. Sometimes, dropping hints here or there can be too subtle for guys like me to notice, so I appreciate it when they just ask if I want to have dinner with them or go on a fun date. It's nice to be asked, even just once in a while.
instead of asking a girl for her number... I wonder why it isnt more common to just have your number written on a small piece of paper, tell the girl she looks beautiful and that she can decide to reach out if shes interested? Wouldnt that take off a lot of the pressure.
🚩🚩🚩 Hi Coco, nice seeing you again. Hi Riley thank you both for this conversation. I am very shy and quiet but I do have moments where I forget and just find myself talking and having the other person interested in me as well. Red flags for me are when she is agressive and not very caring with the people around her. If you go to a restaurant and the person you are with treats the staff as help to boss around or throw remarks at, I don't like it. If they are too demanding or want to decide who your friends will be, I don't like that either. I mentioned my shyness, I'm a gentleman, I have a lot of respect for women but I don't like when you are ridiculed in front of their friends or yours. It is just hurtful and serves no purpose. I like people I see as kind, I feel I can speak freely and I like to listen. It is a nice thing when there is trust, you feel freedom, and acceptance. Take Care you two! 🚩🚩🚩
Some of major red flags i founds in girls: girls ONLY have guy friends (she is manipulating them) girls are always out at night (partying, drinking) play too much games in dating (very in mature) girl keep talking about their past relationship/and trauma (we all have failure in our life, we have responsible to fix them on our own) and coco can you gives advices on places to meet girls (other than online dating app)
The fact that you worry about "red flags" is a red flag . Any girl who spends her life on social media instead of relationships is ... a red flag . Bars are a red flag .
🚩 🚩🚩 Nice video.. I really like what Riley said. "There's no hard to get". Because the reality is that if girl likes you, she will like you, no matter what you do.. If both of you vibe, you vibe.. That's it.. Love is a mystery, there's no really cause, only effect..
I know this is a boring comment but, Coco - it’s not easy to find the one that checks all boxes. You should find a way to let him know so you won’t regret later in your life. Speaking from experience.
⛳️ man when they said no cringy stuff, all i can think is Joma getting roasted. not saying joma pursue any or either of them, just his personality from his vids lol
If I'm messaging girl I like, my first reponse to a text is always the shittiest one. I give myself time to think about her feelings first before I send. Hence the slow typing. Texting is still one of the worst ways to express your feelings..
nice video，i am a mid 30 year Chinese engineer recently moved to Japan from mainland China, for me, the biggest red flag is girl with double standards, which is very picky with normal guys, but pick playboy guys and get dumped quickly
I dislike when people use the word redflags. they should be called dealbreakers. a dealbreaker to some would be 1) being a single parent 2) not having enough relationship experience (I've only dated and had slept with one person) 3) living with roommates or parents I could go on. but redflags is such a poor word.
imo the red flag in girls, i personally dont like girls that being keep everything on herself, so lets say if i did something wrong, at least let me know , so i can make it up to you instead of me just guessing whats wrong 😂, then blame me for being so inconsiderate but this is from my pov, may be girls have different pov about this
they think its romantic if the guy knows what is running on their brain... never fall on that pit... try to give them their own medicine and the relationship instantly collapses, then you would still be the one at fault
pretty, good morals and good at conversation .Done. and use voice notes better than text cause texts are ambiguous 😂 . sarcasm is difficult to understand thorough text...
in a world where people are dating multiple people in the beginning before going exclusive, you kind of have to have backups so you don't get overly attached to someone that isn't putting in the same emotions as you are. It's just the state of the current unfortunate dating culture in this generation. Also, some girls think it's an ick if men reply fast too. So guys have to kind of play mind games with texting. I usually disregard that bs and just reply as soon as I see a text, like I do for all my friends. If they think I'm icky, then I just don't care.
yea...these 2 immature girls are gonna be single for a long time. i predict they probably wont find a decent guy unless they change their weird standards lol. im willing to check back in 10 years to see if im right.
Red flags: - not looking after her body, don't exercise, eat junk food, too much sugar, etc. - Not learning and improving herself, if u don't have a passion, what r u doing with ur life? - Spending everything and get into credit debts. - No self control and have addiction to bad substances or behavior like gambling - Too negative and complain about everything - Wears too much makeup 😅 - Rude and entitled
From my experience, when a girl is into me, her entire list goes out the window. But if a girl is not into me, even if I meet all the requirements, it still wouldn't help. So from a guy's perspective, trying to meet the requirements of a girl we like is futile. Yes, you have to work on yourself, be a gentleman and make something of your life. But don't do it in the hopes a girl will take notice and like you. Because there's a good chance that she may not be into you, so then there goes the motivation for self improvement. And I believe that women can see that too. They can tell if you are genuinely investing into your life, or if you're just doing it to catch attention.
well said!
If a girl isn’t physically into you then no matter how many red flags/green flags you get won’t matter much unfortunately..
Working on yourself should be for yourself. Your self worth should not be determined by the girls you like and their outside validation. As long as you are comfortable with yourself that confidence will attract others to you. Don't give up
@@rw5622Wrong. Like attracts like. People that self-improve for hopes of impressing others will attract the same type of people and they will like each other. So just be yourself to attract what you are/ like.
You nailed it. It’s just LMSG (looks, money, status, game). In that order. Everything else women say they care about is less than 1% of the picture, but they say it to not look shallow.
So can Riley now tell us the difference between a 2jz and a b58 engine sound?
bushhhh bushhh vrom vrom
ZF ECOMAT transmission has the most musical sound.
Bus nerd 🤓
Ladies, when you meet the right person, all of those "boxes" checking will go out the window and you will make it work and compromise and grow along the way. That's how a relationship is supposed to be. Often times the best relationship comes unexpectedly or when you're least expecting it. It's not about someone coming into your life and living up to your expectations because they're not object but rather human beings with their own individual emotions and perspective, nor is it about someone coming into your life and bringing you your own happiness. You're supposed to be happy without or without an external factor coming into your life. Relationship is simply about two people coming together, growing together, enjoying each other's company, face the problems along the way together and grow from those problems, as well as sharing all the happy moments that are important to the both of you.
At the end of the day, it isn't about celebrating holiday or buy expensive gift, but it's the day-to-day normal life that consist of putting all the pieces together, such as going to work to pay bills, coming to home and your partner may have a day off when you're having a bad day and he took care of the house chore for you already and made dinner. Or he took out the trash, put the toilet seat down because he's considerate toward you, or put unused cups inside dishwasher because you told him to stop leaving dirty cups everywhere out on the table. It's those small details that will make or break your actual relationship of living together as a couple in the long term, and the list just goes on.
And the simplest way to tell if you meet the right person is asking yourself if you can just take a dump in the middle of the night and he/she won't give a crap with door opened and instead tell you to turn the bathroom light off because it's too bright 😅
Coco and Riley remains the iconic duo they are
4:23 yeah the guy was very passionate about his interest. i respect that
Honestly, intentionally trying to find someone is a lot harder then just eventually meeting the one. If you just stop trying to show off (in an offputting way), and surround yourself with the right people who lift you up, you might find yourself with someone sooner then expected.
*just my opinnion, you should always try and be your best self, and find someone of your standard*
my main red flag with women is when they won't let me take them out for even a coffee date but are willing to go home with me 30 minutes after meeting me. i'm old fashioned for the most part and don't want to be someone's play toy. they're either just getting out of a relationship or just looking to cheat on someone when they do that. plus women that are flaky i can't stand. another thing is don't give me your number unless you're truly interested. i hate calling women right before a date to get some excuse that sounds like it came from a book on dating. i'm good at sensing a lot of things about people. i have a friend that constantly sends me pictures of men she might want to date. i look at the picture and can tell if the guy is worth her time just by that alone. i guess it's sort of an odd gift because one of them just got out of jail that she was talking to.
Am i wrong for thinking a red flag in girls is when they don't say outright what they're thinking and expect me to read their mind? Like life isn't a Kdrama I'm not a genius either
"i am not the reincarnation of Nostradamus" has been my tagline ever since my first serious relationship till the last one i had. them wanting you to know what is on their mind is cute at first, but it becomes annoying fast specially used as a toll for argument
I think red flags for me are:
- When girls are talking to multiple guys at once (other than their male friends)
- When girls expect guys to make all the moves (ex: If I make 99% of the effort, the girl should make the remaining 1% effort)
- Girls expect guys to carry the conversation while they just give off one sentence/few words answer
- Also when girls are rude/judgmental to others like a server or random people on the street
- Being fake (I don't like it when girls pretend that they eat only a little to portray themselves as "skinny" or "small" or starving themselves for that matter)
- When a girl tells me that she talked to some guys and matched with x amount of guys and compares me to them, especially in the early stages
Yeah bro girls are taught to do what is right for them but we have to do what’s right in general. Never fall for this! You will get taken advantage of and be left as another option. Girls usually have more red flags than guys but they want us to overlook them lol.
After the first 4 minutes, the biggest impression I have is how well these two interact with each other. Dating aside, I don't see guys synching up their thoughts this well with each other much less with ladies. If they did, I think there wouldn't be as many issues.
Tbh I think it's cause girls are more intuitive of each other's feelings and we are more emotionally supportive of each other.
Riley gives off red flag vibez lol
Because she’s beautiful, independent and assertive?
@@cocoxu lmao coco coming in hot with the rebuttal what a great friend
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The best way to "advertise" yourself is to be authentically yourself whilst having the goal of being the best person that you can be. Of course, you would need to be courteous and be respectful regardless of your authenticity of your character.
I'm 31, and I am *still trying to complete a degree* - But that's only part of the story. I have had to deal with people actively causing me harm - knowing that they would probably get away with it. This was done to me even though I would never be a threat to these individuals.
I am not going to reveal what they did or who they are because it's irrelevant; It's irrelevant because I am still actively pursing the skills that I need to give, in my own little way, things that are good for the betterment of society - even though they have caused me (or still causing me) harm in the past.
I do the same exact thing. I don't flirt with men, I just straight-up act like myself, and try to see who I'm naturally compatible with. If I feel like I have to put in a lot of effort or hanging out with someone feels like "work" then I peace out.
Yoooo another video is needed where the guys can defend them selfs, I sign up for that video coco.
Would be nice if you could have this Red Flags talk with someone in the opposite gender...
that's a great idea, it brings a whole new perspective with both sides of the spectrum
🚩hahahaa this was really fun/interesting to watch. Re: the Q at the end, I think lack of empathy/EQ would be one of the big ones for me. It’s good as a guy to have one’s life sorted, but when bad things inevitably happen (especially if chasing challenging things) you still want/need someone who is caring/supportive.
Love coco content
🚩always going to watch. your videos to the end🏁
after watching this: "girls are scary"...& this coming from a married man
🚩Don't mind me, just catching up with all of these videos now that it's the weekend. I really like these simple talks about different subjects, and having Riley there makes it even more fun!
A red flag that I see in some girls? Maybe waiting for the guy to always initiate. Sometimes, dropping hints here or there can be too subtle for guys like me to notice, so I appreciate it when they just ask if I want to have dinner with them or go on a fun date. It's nice to be asked, even just once in a while.
instead of asking a girl for her number... I wonder why it isnt more common to just have your number written on a small piece of paper, tell the girl she looks beautiful and that she can decide to reach out if shes interested? Wouldnt that take off a lot of the pressure.
I feel like that wouldn't work because having a girl not accept the paper would be more awkward than her refusing to give someone her number
🚩🚩🚩 Hi Coco, nice seeing you again. Hi Riley thank you both for this conversation. I am very shy and quiet but I do have moments where I forget and just find myself talking and having the other person interested in me as well. Red flags for me are when she is agressive and not very caring with the people around her. If you go to a restaurant and the person you are with treats the staff as help to boss around or throw remarks at, I don't like it. If they are too demanding or want to decide who your friends will be, I don't like that either. I mentioned my shyness, I'm a gentleman, I have a lot of respect for women but I don't like when you are ridiculed in front of their friends or yours. It is just hurtful and serves no purpose. I like people I see as kind, I feel I can speak freely and I like to listen. It is a nice thing when there is trust, you feel freedom, and acceptance. Take Care you two! 🚩🚩🚩
I FEEL RELATED TO EVERY SINGLE POINT YOU SAID
This was a juicy video jeez
Koenigsegg. I finally remembered
Vrooooooomm
Some of major red flags i founds in girls:
girls ONLY have guy friends (she is manipulating them)
girls are always out at night (partying, drinking)
play too much games in dating (very in mature)
girl keep talking about their past relationship/and trauma (we all have failure in our life, we have responsible to fix them on our own)
and coco can you gives advices on places to meet girls (other than online dating app)
Green flag: provides free food
More like green flag:work for a tech company that provides free food?
🚩I really like your videos! Have you considered making these longer/more podcast like?
1:16 bar? how old are yall
The fact that you worry about "red flags" is a red flag . Any girl who spends her life on social media instead of relationships is ... a red flag . Bars are a red flag .
🚩🚩 nice vids!!! very interesting video and sharing those personal experiences.
When a women moves fast with casual encounters 🚩
Man their standards are ridiculously high, they want Ferrari but look like Toyota Corolla, also very contradictory. Rip boys
🚩When a girl compliments a guy and we don't know whether that's flirting or just being friendly 🥴(not a red flag, just something from my POV)
🚩 🚩🚩 Nice video.. I really like what Riley said. "There's no hard to get". Because the reality is that if girl likes you, she will like you, no matter what you do.. If both of you vibe, you vibe.. That's it.. Love is a mystery, there's no really cause, only effect..
"I dont wana play games, i just want to tell you i like you...your putting alot of pressure on the girl"
Coco got a question lol do u see ur future partner being from New York or nz?
My GF (bf) did not check all the boxes at first. But every year we were together, one box of each was checked. 10+ boxes been checked 😎
I know this is a boring comment but, Coco - it’s not easy to find the one that checks all boxes. You should find a way to let him know so you won’t regret later in your life. Speaking from experience.
Yes we remember you Riley :)
⛳️ man when they said no cringy stuff, all i can think is Joma getting roasted. not saying joma pursue any or either of them, just his personality from his vids lol
Very informational
not for kids
Nice!!!😊
I consider it a red flag when the adjacent squares indicate there might be a mine in that square.
If I'm messaging girl I like, my first reponse to a text is always the shittiest one. I give myself time to think about her feelings first before I send. Hence the slow typing.
Texting is still one of the worst ways to express your feelings..
Honestly same and yes I hate texting too
supercar man is so attractive 😩
Riley is so cute !
7:15 The men are slow not fast at all.
🚩. There you go.
what are some of your yellow flags? not a complete deal breaker but something to consider moving forward
🚩biggest red flag is probably not subscribing to coco channel, show her more love folks
"i'm currently single"....guys be like - "hellll yeahhhhhhh"
taking notes....
🚩thank you for everything :)
guys watching this video have a cheat code for riley and coco lol
dinner first dates is the red flag
Mummy’s boy 😬😬😬
red flag: said nothing about our favourite Joma!
12:07 the dentist? 😂
too old bruh
the korean oppa good with the kids though
nice video，i am a mid 30 year Chinese engineer recently moved to Japan from mainland China, for me, the biggest red flag is girl with double standards, which is very picky with normal guys, but pick playboy guys and get dumped quickly
yall both my green flags :)))
I dislike when people use the word redflags. they should be called dealbreakers.
a dealbreaker to some would be
1) being a single parent
2) not having enough relationship experience (I've only dated and had slept with one person)
3) living with roommates or parents
I could go on. but redflags is such a poor word.
red flag: blaming the patriarchy for all their problems and doing nothing to fix their problems (not taking accountability)
imo the red flag in girls, i personally dont like girls that being keep everything on herself,
so lets say if i did something wrong, at least let me know , so i can make it up to you
instead of me just guessing whats wrong 😂, then blame me for being so inconsiderate
but this is from my pov, may be girls have different pov about this
they think its romantic if the guy knows what is running on their brain... never fall on that pit... try to give them their own medicine and the relationship instantly collapses, then you would still be the one at fault
Make a video, do women test men? Do you? And how do you test them?
I like u two soooooo much❤❤❤(🚩🚩🚩)
pretty, good morals and good at conversation .Done.
and use voice notes better than text cause texts are ambiguous 😂 . sarcasm is difficult to understand thorough text...
in a world where people are dating multiple people in the beginning before going exclusive, you kind of have to have backups so you don't get overly attached to someone that isn't putting in the same emotions as you are. It's just the state of the current unfortunate dating culture in this generation.
Also, some girls think it's an ick if men reply fast too. So guys have to kind of play mind games with texting. I usually disregard that bs and just reply as soon as I see a text, like I do for all my friends. If they think I'm icky, then I just don't care.
I FEEL HEARTBROKEN WHY DONT YOU CARE ABOUT MY SUPERCAR INTEREST
hey umm riley's kinda cuteeee
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hi riley👋
hi coco😍
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I just want to be happy
yea...these 2 immature girls are gonna be single for a long time. i predict they probably wont find a decent guy unless they change their weird standards lol. im willing to check back in 10 years to see if im right.
Hi coco, I'm an asian guy but i worship White and Latina women. Is that a 🚩?? :(
guys watching this taking notes ✍
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It's a huge red flag if a guy is under 6ft 🚩
jk insecurity is bad guys 🚩
Red flags:
- not looking after her body, don't exercise, eat junk food, too much sugar, etc.
- Not learning and improving herself, if u don't have a passion, what r u doing with ur life?
- Spending everything and get into credit debts.
- No self control and have addiction to bad substances or behavior like gambling
- Too negative and complain about everything
- Wears too much makeup 😅
- Rude and entitled
all girls are like this lol
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From your IG u are too tall
what if the guy making the dirty joke is jidion? will you make an exception for him? he is making bank $$$ and a cool dude
Promo-SM
Date me then ill show u a good time coco uwu xoxo
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Both sl.utes are red flags for guys.
Lmao Toxic misandarists who are red flags for guys are talking about red flags of guys.
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