I dont really comment, but this struck a chord. Whatever happened to "treat others how you want to be treated"? I'll never understand the keyboard trolls... 🤷🏻♀️ Thanks for always being so amazing 💖
My older son (who’s almost 30 now) had a gaming channel in high school and he would show me the mean comments sometimes. I couldn’t believe how horrible people could be. I asked him how he could stand to read them and he’d just explain that they were haters or trolls and it didn’t bother him. That’s the reason I’ve never had even the slightest desire to be on social media. I guess my skin is too thin 😟. Great video!
Wow I learned a lot! I had no idea about any of this stuff. I wasn’t raised in the internet age ( I’m 72) but I can’t believe people say such rude things. I was raised to think if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything! Love your channel Charlotte ❤
Omg! I had no idea that it was a sort of click bait trick to not tell the viewer what color you're wearing or top or whatever. I will stop asking! Loved this video, thank you for sharing 😊
I fully understand the blocking of cumulative comments. I've started doing that on my FB with even longtime "friends" because like you said, it's my space to express myself. If you don't like what I think about something just scroll on by but I'm old enough now to realize I don't need toxic comments or things that bring me down. And I especially don't like sarcasm or people claiming they're being funny when it's really just mean under the cover of humor.
Please Don’t forget how easy it is to misinterpret the written word. Some people just can not express themselves well, or communicate well in writing. There have been many times, I have looked back at my own comments or texts that I thought were saying one thing, then looked back or received a weird response and thought, well, I wrote that poorly didn’t I? I think part of that is the rush rush of life. It is disheartening on both ends.
I get it! One time I got into a really bad car accident and I was SO sad. I posted on my FB about it and this guy shows up out of no where to talk down to me about the situation and how it’s most likely my fault on and on. But that wasn’t the only time, he’d left one or two hurtful things before. So I blocked him. He was really upset and tried to contact me about it! Sometimes I miss MySpace 😅
@@jbbb7418Yes! I also believe that if you post your opinion and someone comments their own differing opinion, that’s not a reason to block if they are trying to have a civil discussion or just want to show you a different perspective. After all, you yourself wanted to share your opinion, why shouldn’t other people share theirs, too? Having conversations and exchanging different views, instead of always scrolling by unless you want to express agreement, can be a huge win for all of us and we might be wiser at the end if the day. That being said, if someone only wants to pick a fight all the time, I block people like that, too. But I think we should always ask how they meant what they wrote if it’s not obvious that they just wanted to fight. Like you said, written words can often be misunderstand. For example, I once wrote “I see where you’re coming from” meaning “I can understand why you have this point of view” (though I disagreed), and the other person thought I meant where they geographically came from and was mad and thought I was racist. Luckily, I had the chance to explain what I really meant and we could continue our conversation.
Very interesting. Personally, while I can understand blocking people who make you feel bad, no matter what their intentions are (I’ve done that on Facebook, even with people who were very nice to me, but just extremely pushy, or people who posted stuff that was harmful to me personally. However, I do think it’s problematic when very big accounts just block anyone they don’t want there for whatever reason or when they restrict certain words or comments. Sometimes, more critical comments are so helpful to other viewers (e.g. make them think twice if a product is really that good or if they really need it, if something actually works, etc.) or they even raise awareness on an issue the influencer tries to deflect from (like spreading misinformation, exploiting your children for content, scamming the viewers, etc.). That’s why I urge everyone to look for more information when really big influencers always only have very positive comments. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad, but looking for some more information elsewhere might be a good idea.
I am really shocked at how some influencers pump up their numbers! I guess I’m just naive😏! I adore your videos and your honesty, Charlotte. Please keep sharing information about beauty and some darker stories!
Hannah Alonzo goes into depth on her channel about influencers doing this! Thanks for bringing it to the forefront. There’s a lot of people that don’t know this. Love your channel. 👍🏼
Thank you, especially for the "purposely not answering comments'! I was just watching several youtube short and it drove me nuts that the creator didn't show the product information. Now I know!!
When it comes to blocking, creators have a right to not be harassed on their social media. You’re not being denied free-speech, because you also can create content and enjoy getting harassed for your opinions. Don’t forget, whatever percentage of the population is mentally unstable, there will be that percentage among influencers. Some of it might be strategic, but plenty will be unstable people doing unpredictable, strange things for no logical reason.
The cumulative negativity block is so true. I like to share my life on social media, and when I had a really rough year due to trauma I really noticed the ppl who are always negative. I could literally end a post with "This is just stupid fun because I'm sad, please don't offer constructive criticism" and some ppl would still go at it and not apologize when I pointed out that instruction. Like yes I get that I can't control others, but if you're gonna be on my social media commenting on my life as someone I know in real life... Have some manners. As you said, this is my house, act like a guest or leave.
As a guest in your "home" I love your chanel and I am glad you keep it "clean" and free of bad coments. Thank you ❤ It should be obvious to respect each other, but people online think they can say whatever they want without any consequences.
I'm constantly amazed that people use their energy to negativity instead of positivity support and brigthen one's day. Creators are humans too that have struggles and it cost us nothing to be kind and supportive. If you have nothing nice to say it's better to say nothing at all. Anyways love you Charlotte thanks for bringing those matters to surface. ♥
I can’t understand why someone would write negative stuff on someone like you especially you exude fun and lLovely vibe.., your video always puts me in a good mood ❤
Hi Charlotte! This was very enlightening! It’s sad that people feel anonymous enough behind their screens to be hurtful and negative. My Dad always told me that if I couldn’t say something nice, not to say anything at all. Excellent advice, that I’m always mindful to follow. It makes it a pleasant place for everyone. Excellent video. I loved it 😊
Thank you, Charlotte - “be kind” is a great message. I think the anonymity of social media gives people a sense there are no boundaries and/or consequences regarding our voice of words and how we use them. Love you content and you look fabulous ❣️❣️
I once got to work with this group of exchange students from Turkey, and they were literally the best group I’ve ever gotten to work with. But there was one girl who was tall and brunette, and so beautiful inside and out. Her skin tone was actually more on the 🍊 side and that was her natural tan! She confided to us that she was actually blonde, but died her hair brown because she felt that her blonde hair did not match her skin tone. She didn’t mind if people thought her hair color was not real, but it did bother her greatly if people were not OK with her skin tone. That really made me sad for her. Her brown hair was so so so pretty. I could only imagine how gorgeous her blonde hair was. But that is an actual person that actually exist! And I never understand why people cannot just take something at face value. For myself, I am blonde, and I have no heritage in my blood that allows me to tan. I will just burn. That means that I am from very blonde countries. Think Viking! Think anything Europe! But no matter what I still have people around me in my real life trying to catch me in some lie about where I’m getting my hair bleached. My eyebrows are blonde. My eyelashes are blonde which, actually you can’t fake that, you cannot fake blonde eye lashes. I seriously do not prefer myself without mascara, but I will show up sometimes, with no mascara just so that people can stop talking for a little while. It becomes such a burden. I really wish people would just lighten up, if they think that something is not real why go so hard on it?
Omg, this was eye-opening! Thank you for being so candid about these things, Charlotte ❤Despite working in online marketing I never realized creators would add spelling mistakes just to up the engagement. I guess some ppl (like me up until now) just end up thinking so many creators "aren't good with language" 😹
Charlotte, question please. You said this in todays video, but I have heard recently a lot of other RUclipsrs say the same thing. “The clock app”, why do people seem to be saying that lately? Does something bad happen if you say the “clock” apps actual name? Does it cause problems for your channel?? It is so curious, and I am absolutely ignorant of all of this kind of social media thing. Great video today, but also, it is really truly sad. The whole thing. People being intentionally mean or harsh, and the flip side, the inability to communicate well in writing, or misinterpreting the written word. It has happened to me to from the viewer end. I have commented, then later realized either by a response, or by thinking the video and comment over later, that what I wrote did not come across as intended, or I wrote it very poorly. (Holy run on sentences batman)
Growing up is realizing other people aren't looking for your 'constructive criticism'. When I was a teenager I genuinely thought I was cool and helpful.
Charlotte, im so glad I clicked on this video today. I have a micro account on IG and just this week I *agonized* about blocking someone who I know truly enjoys my content but has regularly, over a span of years, crossed my boundaries and just been a “mood ruiner”. I discussed it with my husband too😅. I feel guilty but I couldn’t tolerate it any longer. Nice to hear you describe this conundrum so clearly!
My poor mom at the start of her dementia started leaving negative and rude comments on her favorite instagram influencers. She eventually got blocked by almost all. I felt so bad for the influencers! They were collateral from the dementia. Although I agree for them to do that. How could they know? Love your channel, love listening to your videos & also looove the products you choose to review
I’m so glad you all can block the negativity. We all ( all sane reasonable people) know and understand what comments could do to someone’s self esteem or simply the fear of danger from some I’m sure if you couldn’t block them.
I just want to say thank you for always listing your nail polish and clothing in the description box so I never have to ask ☺I've heard all these secrets except the tricking us into engagement by withholding. Also saw another creator say that influencers make a higher commission off of products sold within the first week of launch. She said that's why a lot of their "first impressions" are always positive but they say they will have to update us later in their monthly favorites and that's when we get their real thoughts. Is that true? I do try to comment on every video watched as an added way to thank someone for their content, even though some say they only read the comments within the first hour and I know it may not be seen. Glad to know that's not true for you. ♥
I loved this video. I know you explaining Internet and social media etiquette but I feel like this really applies to all of life's aspects. I'm a person who really tries to raise above and stay positive. It's really hard in a world full of negativity. When you cut out the negative life is just a bit easier to navigate 😊. Thank you for your content, I just started following you but really enjoy it.
I can’t understand how people can comment mean statements. They would never or I hope would never talk to someone face to face like that. Thank you for your positivity and sharing this information. ❤
I honestly think part of this is that many creators say things like “what do you think? Let me know in the comments.” Which is also a trick to up engagement, so someone says to themselves, well, they asked so (insert *I don’t like that* comments) so in some cases it isn’t purely being mean for sport. Also some leave open ended questions that DRAW criticism as a mean comment is still a comment and engagement makes the algorithm happy. Back when you could see the downvotes so people used them it WAS STILL ENGAGEMENT so still “helped” the video.
Thanks for posting this, Charlotte. 💕 This is one of the best and most informative videos I've seen on RUclips. I wish others were as considerate as you are trying to keep scammers and haters (aka "baddies") away from your subscribers. I have been with you since you first started on RUclips and you shared your love of makeup with us. You have always been honest and never pretended to be a professional makeup artist, and you make makeup relatable to us since most of us are not professional makeup artists either. Keep doing what you are doing and continue to be your honest self. That's what we're here for. 😊
Love this! So many young people are “raised” by the internet and don’t realize how important kindness is (some old ones need reminding, too). I remember being told that you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar. There are many old phrases that are just not used anymore but stuck back in the day! ❤
Thank you Charlotte, this is so insightful. Also explains the videos where influencers talk about a foundation and never mention the shade. Love your videos and your sense of humour. Looking forward to your next one. ❤
Love the “tea” videos. Regarding the missing product name/shade…now it makes sense, many times i’ve been asking the question or searching for the answer among many comments without success… clever 😏 . Looking forward for another chatty video ❤
I have been looooving all your content! You’re amazing and hilarious and I really appreciate all these secrets you’re spilling! Thank you for making Wednesday delightful 🥰💜💜
Hi Charlotte, this was so interesting, and such a unique idea for a video! One thing I don’t understand from creators is when they say “let me know in the comments” and then don’t respond to people. Now after watching this video, I’m guessing they don’t really want to know, but only asked in order to boost engagement. I know they can’t respond to everyone, but often they don’t reply or give a ❤️ to anyone. Also, I’ll never understand mean people, so I’m glad you have ways to protect yourself from nastiness! You’re great Charlotte! ❤️🤗
My "always negative" person isn't even a follower. Nor there always. But any time I discuss Final Fantasy 7 they will show up just to make a negative comment or joke about the game not being "the real game" or to pick fights with people in the comments. They've never said anything mean or offense, so I've not blocked or banned them - engagement is nice - but they do bring my own vibe down enough so I know their name without thinking, but not in a good way.
Charlotte this sounds a bit like high school and sadly some people never grow out of that. Whether it’s someone is truly hateful or someone who,is more passive aggressive, you get to decide what you are willing to tolerate or not on your channel. Bravo to you for addressing this issue directly xxxx
I thoroughly enjoyed this video, Charlotte. I have a question for you - do you get to pick where the ad break falls or does YT do it? The reason I ask is they often fall immediately after a cliffhanger. Just wondered if that is a tactic to keep the view engaged.
Absolutely loving the videos you have been doing about influencers, your commentary on social media and popular culture. So eloquently put and thought out. Your make up videos are great too, but I have been loving this change up ❤
Love your videos! I watch almost all. Found you through Lisa Eldridge reviews years ago. Very interesting what you explain about social media. And yes, I agree, it is your space, so you decide. I am not an influencer, but on my socials I am the same. If a friend writes something negative, I will just delete it, it's my space, and if they want to be negative they can be that in their own space. Love your approach. And the white things in your mouth look so pretty and make you extra beautiful.
This is so interesting and you’re absolutely right, I’ll never un-see the spelling mistakes or omitted details on something they’re wearing or using. I saw a sign once in a cafe that I loved “Kindness is free, sprinkle that s-- everywhere!” 💛
Omg this video was eye-opening 😳 Charlotte i love your videos, and they just keep getting better and better. I wouldn't dream of telling a creator, "i don't like that on you." i may think I'm not sure about that shade, but i just say nothing. You know the saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, then say nothing." Charlotte, if you do know where i live, you can come around any time 😂
I admire your mental strength dealing with people. I’m super social but as I’m getting older, I’m finding people are just too peopley. P.s. love your work xx
You always spread so much sunshine and happiness into our lives, Charlotte! Not only are you informative about products, but you often make me howl with laughter! You’re such a classy, talented lady, I can’t believe anyone would leave you mean comments! Says much more about them, and they deserve a good blocking. 😊
I thought I was pretty well versed in this stuff, but you taught me a TON today! Thank you for going in depth and giving examples. It was very eye-opening. Thanks for being such a fun and informative content creator!
Hi Charlotte! Completely different topic: you’re always spot on when it comes with matching your makeup with the color and style of your clothes. I’m not… when I look the end result in the mirror it’s quite random if I’m going to like it or not, specially using eyeshadows in different colors. I would love a video with some tips about this!
Yes…I totally agree. I have also noticed that Charlotte’s makeup so beautifully compliments her outfit for the video. I would also like to get some tips on that.
Hi Charlotte, thank you so much for this video, I truly learned so much & my heart is just singing right now! So many in today's culture need to hear this - positivity is contagious 🎉, & negativity is too. How we say things is just as important as what we say, and it actually does influence the energy of our surroundings. Thank you for helping to spread this message via your incredibly lovely, informative, funny, helpful, applicable, useful, positive content, I am so grateful for you. In case no one has told you yet today - you are such a valuable, lovely human, you rock girl!! ❤
I don’t usually say anything if I don’t like a look, but I had no idea that only compliments are allowed when an influencer asks how we like a look they’ve done. Thank you so much for making it clear that constructive criticism or true honest feedback is not allowed unless one thinks they look good. Also, thank you for making it clear that not watching is the appropriate way to state if the product an influencer is producing--their videos--is not meeting one's needs. I appreciate knowing that! I don’t blame you all for blocking people. The bullying that goes on on social media is horrendous. I used to be too shy to comment on videos, and I think I had it right the first time. RUclips is creating a really wonky society. I think I’ll observe from a distance from now on, thank you very much.😂
This is fascinating! You can see every comment? Just your channel or for everyone's? Can you see deleted comments too? And the way blocking works was a revelation. Thanks for the video!💚
Had no idea about all this stuff, Charlotte! As you say, if you behave yourself and be nice to people, no problem. Why can't people just get along and be nice to each other? Social media seems to give people a platform to be nasty when they would never say these things to their face. Thanks for giving us quality content.
1) this is amazing. Well done. Well said. 2) you are making it hard to resist getting that blush. It looks stunning on you every time 3) *not me checking to see if I’ve been blocked despite never commenting on anything* 😂
Charlotte your content is so interesting. I watch almost all of your videos and I love that you talk about make-up yet a lot of other topics as well. Informative, researched and funny on top! 🖤
Here's a different angle on this, but it still leads to not leaving negative comments ... I find that if I'm starting to feel negatively while watching someone, then that means I should stop watching them for a time, or unsubscribe. Sometimes people reveal themselves more, the more I watch them, and I realize I like them less than I thought, or their content may change to something I like much less. Instead of putting negative comments on their channel, it's simply time for me to leave. Don't "hate watch!" If you stop liking someone's stuff, just be a grown-up and leave their channel.
Yes!! It’s so strange to continue to CHOOSE to engage with someone that draws your ire or brings you down. The content creator reaps benefits from all engagement, even if it’s negative! To hate watch is truly cutting off your nose to spite your own face.
Not gonna lie I can understand why your husband loves discussing the cumulative blocks, lol! We all have those people in our lives, work places, even families sometimes! We need some kind of a real life block feature 😂. I always remind myself that super negative people are almost universally unhappy, and it is themselves, not their targets, with whom they have issues. But by all means, block away! Protect your garden! Tend upur zen!!! Fun video !
Hi Charlotte, This was so interesting. I never knew or noticed any of this stuff going on. My mum used to say, "If you can't say anything good, don't say anything at all." 😊 ❤
Really interesting! I love the analogy of being in the creators’’home’! If people don’t like the content they don’t have to watch at all, don’t need to be unpleasant. Well said! ❤
Actually, that metaphor isn’t exactly accurate. It’s more like people being in their business place. This is a business most influencers have created to make money, and it’s a product that they produce. (besides a few that do it as a hobby for fun, which are rare)
I’ve heard you tubers get really horrible comments but am surprised how thin skinned they can be. I always see comments overly complimentary. I guess the other comments get deleted. Funny how you tube does that sneaky thing and how people pump up their numbers and don’t disclose sponsorships!! Count on you to be the honest one!! You do have the best personality for sure!❤️❤️❤️
I think everyone has the right to block anyone for any reason. I don't understand why those who get blocked get so upset about it. Why do people get so involved or obsessed over ppl they don't even know personally? I understand the appreciation of someone's art, but not enough to stalk or get upset over. Same with mean comments, you don't know that person enough to be so mean. Glad you're explaining the gate-keeping videos😂. I can't believe people haven't figured it out years ago.
This was a fascinating and informative video Charlotte! I’ve never understood why people leave mean and hateful comments on someone’s channel. I loved what you said “Freedom of Speech does not mean freedom of consequences” I’ve followed Sam March for years and years. I remember some of the not so nice comments she was receiving about things going on in her life. It’s such a shame. I can’t see anyone being mean to you you’re such a lovely person with amazing content. I’ve made comments wondering what bronzer someone used and I see so many of the same comments but the creator never responds to anyone and now I know why. Great video ❤❤ Have a great night!!
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all”. It’s really this simple. I just don’t get why people say mean things. And sometimes they’re in disguise. Like a friend once said “you look great, don’t let anyone tell you any different”. What exactly was she saying? Was it nice or inferring she thinks so but maybe not every/anyone else? Such a bizarre way to compliment. 🤯
"Everyone has something going on..." - so true - you're dead right, and it's nearly always not obvious. I love your videos Charlotte! My son sometimes calls me a dinosaur (as I still use email etc) but when I watch your updates and I learn terms like "mood hoover" it's a complete education, and I can drop it in the conversation over dinner and if he hasn't heard it he loves it! And suddenly I'm a super-cool Mum once more! :D
Thank you for this, I personally have experienced the immediate removal of a comment that was in no way offensive or mean and I’m realizing it’s the blocked word issue. I’m almost positive.
That's so cool that your remember some of your followers! Not sure if you remember me, but am one of your fellow UK followers and one of my favourite youtubers, i discovered so many great products and also Lisa Eldridge from your channel
Thank you for your perspective on negative comments and how someone can think they are not coming across as negative but they do anyway. I never thought about how posting an unpopular opinion can come across negative instead of helpful for people in the comments so they know why some people don't like a product. We should always phrase our constructive criticism of a product in a way that it's understood that just because it didn't work for me it may work for someone else and why that would be. I believe that I do try to phrase things in as much of a positive way but going forward I'll double check and triple check that it cannot be misunderstood. I love your videos and enjoy every bit of your content.
Mute is a great thing. It's more appropriate for mildly annoying versus abusive. But yeah, never messing with you....though it would be hilarious if you turned up at my door to tell me off! 🤣
Ugh, social media gives me anxiety in the long run. But I keep chasing a quick dopamine hit. So, thank you for making it easier and more comprehensible ❤
How dare anyone disparage or leave inappropriate comments on our sweet Charlotte’s channel!! Idiots! She provides us with an education, information, kindness and humor! Love you Charlitte and sincerely appreciate all of your efforts, research and humorous style!!❤❤
Well done for calling them out. I must admit I had fallen for this in the past. I no longer comment requesting details of the product. I really hate that recently noticed this for recipes. Why must I comment recipe to get it. Just give it to me. Thanks again . Love your content
"Freedom of speech does not mean freedom of consequences"
Perfectly said! 🙌
I loved that too!
I loved that too! Perfectly said!
I love this and I'll definitely use it in future
Love this one too! And also, the comparison with 'you are in my space / my house / my guest'.
I need to remember this phrase!
I dont really comment, but this struck a chord. Whatever happened to "treat others how you want to be treated"? I'll never understand the keyboard trolls... 🤷🏻♀️ Thanks for always being so amazing 💖
Exactly
So true.
It’s difficult to see who’s real anymore. People are being paid to type disagreeing statements.😮
My older son (who’s almost 30 now) had a gaming channel in high school and he would show me the mean comments sometimes. I couldn’t believe how horrible people could be. I asked him how he could stand to read them and he’d just explain that they were haters or trolls and it didn’t bother him. That’s the reason I’ve never had even the slightest desire to be on social media. I guess my skin is too thin 😟. Great video!
I feel the same way... I could not do it... I am such a connector... it would take me down for days dealing with the b.s. and the haters.
When a person is intentionally being rude or cruel, it truly speaks more about their character than anything they could say about another.
EXACTLY
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It’s like a backhanded compliment we used to get from a ‘well meaning’ relative or friend.
In my house with 2 daughters, we call those jellyfish. It's beautiful to look at, but stings like crazy.
Wow I learned a lot! I had no idea about any of this stuff. I wasn’t raised in the internet age ( I’m 72) but I can’t believe people say such rude things. I was raised to think if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything! Love your channel Charlotte ❤
If only we could use the ‘block’ function in traditional offices!! 😂
That would be a dream come true! The best places for work can be ruined by one or two toxic persons.
@@jelena2752Exactly!!! Although quite often I use my office door as a ‘block’ function of sorts, lol. 😂
I’d also like a life remote control where I can fast forward or mute some people 😂😂
And at home.
@@tallisinwonderland4724😂😂😂 what a super power that would be!! 🤣
Omg! I had no idea that it was a sort of click bait trick to not tell the viewer what color you're wearing or top or whatever. I will stop asking! Loved this video, thank you for sharing 😊
Me either!
Same, I believe I have also experienced them not ever giving an answer which is very annoying.
You missed the point, if you enjoy her video you should ask ;)
I fully understand the blocking of cumulative comments. I've started doing that on my FB with even longtime "friends" because like you said, it's my space to express myself. If you don't like what I think about something just scroll on by but I'm old enough now to realize I don't need toxic comments or things that bring me down. And I especially don't like sarcasm or people claiming they're being funny when it's really just mean under the cover of humor.
Please Don’t forget how easy it is to misinterpret the written word. Some people just can not express themselves well, or communicate well in writing. There have been many times, I have looked back at my own comments or texts that I thought were saying one thing, then looked back or received a weird response and thought, well, I wrote that poorly didn’t I? I think part of that is the rush rush of life. It is disheartening on both ends.
I get it! One time I got into a really bad car accident and I was SO sad. I posted on my FB about it and this guy shows up out of no where to talk down to me about the situation and how it’s most likely my fault on and on. But that wasn’t the only time, he’d left one or two hurtful things before. So I blocked him. He was really upset and tried to contact me about it! Sometimes I miss MySpace 😅
@@jbbb7418Yes! I also believe that if you post your opinion and someone comments their own differing opinion, that’s not a reason to block if they are trying to have a civil discussion or just want to show you a different perspective. After all, you yourself wanted to share your opinion, why shouldn’t other people share theirs, too? Having conversations and exchanging different views, instead of always scrolling by unless you want to express agreement, can be a huge win for all of us and we might be wiser at the end if the day.
That being said, if someone only wants to pick a fight all the time, I block people like that, too. But I think we should always ask how they meant what they wrote if it’s not obvious that they just wanted to fight. Like you said, written words can often be misunderstand.
For example, I once wrote “I see where you’re coming from” meaning “I can understand why you have this point of view” (though I disagreed), and the other person thought I meant where they geographically came from and was mad and thought I was racist. Luckily, I had the chance to explain what I really meant and we could continue our conversation.
Very interesting.
Personally, while I can understand blocking people who make you feel bad, no matter what their intentions are (I’ve done that on Facebook, even with people who were very nice to me, but just extremely pushy, or people who posted stuff that was harmful to me personally.
However, I do think it’s problematic when very big accounts just block anyone they don’t want there for whatever reason or when they restrict certain words or comments. Sometimes, more critical comments are so helpful to other viewers (e.g. make them think twice if a product is really that good or if they really need it, if something actually works, etc.) or they even raise awareness on an issue the influencer tries to deflect from (like spreading misinformation, exploiting your children for content, scamming the viewers, etc.). That’s why I urge everyone to look for more information when really big influencers always only have very positive comments. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad, but looking for some more information elsewhere might be a good idea.
Good point
I am really shocked at how some influencers pump up their numbers! I guess I’m just naive😏! I adore your videos and your honesty, Charlotte. Please keep sharing information about beauty and some darker stories!
I also was surprised by how they work the system. I'm going to remember that little hack in the future.
Hannah Alonzo goes into depth on her channel about influencers doing this! Thanks for bringing it to the forefront. There’s a lot of people that don’t know this. Love your channel. 👍🏼
Thank you, especially for the "purposely not answering comments'! I was just watching several youtube short and it drove me nuts that the creator didn't show the product information. Now I know!!
When it comes to blocking, creators have a right to not be harassed on their social media. You’re not being denied free-speech, because you also can create content and enjoy getting harassed for your opinions.
Don’t forget, whatever percentage of the population is mentally unstable, there will be that percentage among influencers. Some of it might be strategic, but plenty will be unstable people doing unpredictable, strange things for no logical reason.
The cumulative negativity block is so true. I like to share my life on social media, and when I had a really rough year due to trauma I really noticed the ppl who are always negative. I could literally end a post with "This is just stupid fun because I'm sad, please don't offer constructive criticism" and some ppl would still go at it and not apologize when I pointed out that instruction. Like yes I get that I can't control others, but if you're gonna be on my social media commenting on my life as someone I know in real life... Have some manners. As you said, this is my house, act like a guest or leave.
As a guest in your "home" I love your chanel and I am glad you keep it "clean" and free of bad coments. Thank you ❤ It should be obvious to respect each other, but people online think they can say whatever they want without any consequences.
I'm constantly amazed that people use their energy to negativity instead of positivity support and brigthen one's day. Creators are humans too that have struggles and it cost us nothing to be kind and supportive. If you have nothing nice to say it's better to say nothing at all. Anyways love you Charlotte thanks for bringing those matters to surface. ♥
I can’t understand why someone would write negative stuff on someone like you especially you exude fun and lLovely vibe.., your video always puts me in a good mood ❤
Hi Charlotte!
This was very enlightening!
It’s sad that people feel anonymous enough behind their screens to be hurtful and negative.
My Dad always told me that if I couldn’t say something nice, not to say anything at all. Excellent advice, that I’m always mindful to follow.
It makes it a pleasant place for everyone.
Excellent video. I loved it 😊
Thank you, Charlotte - “be kind” is a great message. I think the anonymity of social media gives people a sense there are no boundaries and/or consequences regarding our voice of words and how we use them. Love you content and you look fabulous ❣️❣️
I think you are an absolute delight!
You have to protect yourself and your mental health!
I once got to work with this group of exchange students from Turkey, and they were literally the best group I’ve ever gotten to work with. But there was one girl who was tall and brunette, and so beautiful inside and out. Her skin tone was actually more
on the 🍊 side and that was her natural tan! She confided to us that she was actually blonde, but died her hair brown because she felt that her blonde hair did not match her skin tone. She didn’t mind if people thought her hair color was not real, but it did bother her greatly if people were not OK with her skin tone. That really made me sad for her. Her brown hair was so so so pretty. I could only imagine how gorgeous her blonde hair was. But that is an actual person that actually exist! And I never understand why people cannot just take something at face value. For myself, I am blonde, and I have no heritage in my blood that allows me to tan. I will just burn. That means that I am from very blonde countries. Think Viking! Think anything Europe! But no matter what I still have people around me in my real life trying to catch me in some lie about where I’m getting my hair bleached. My eyebrows are blonde. My eyelashes are blonde which, actually you can’t fake that, you cannot fake blonde eye lashes. I seriously do not prefer myself without mascara, but I will show up sometimes, with no mascara just so that people can stop talking for a little while. It becomes such a burden. I really wish people would just lighten up, if they think that something is not real why go so hard on it?
People are jealous creatures
You nailed it! And I couldn’t misspell on purpose. It would kill me. 😂
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I know. Me too 😂😂
Thank you 💛 I’m so sorry you have to even deal with this stuff. You are always a delight, and I look forward to your content each week :)
Thanks for always being so transparent - it’s something I really value in this space.
Omg, this was eye-opening! Thank you for being so candid about these things, Charlotte ❤Despite working in online marketing I never realized creators would add spelling mistakes just to up the engagement. I guess some ppl (like me up until now) just end up thinking so many creators "aren't good with language" 😹
I’m glad there are many options for you as a creator. I often cringe reading the nasty comments to people make and smile when I see them disappear!
This is a great video! People should respect boundaries.
Charlotte, question please. You said this in todays video, but I have heard recently a lot of other RUclipsrs say the same thing. “The clock app”, why do people seem to be saying that lately? Does something bad happen if you say the “clock” apps actual name? Does it cause problems for your channel?? It is so curious, and I am absolutely ignorant of all of this kind of social media thing.
Great video today, but also, it is really truly sad. The whole thing. People being intentionally mean or harsh, and the flip side, the inability to communicate well in writing, or misinterpreting the written word. It has happened to me to from the viewer end. I have commented, then later realized either by a response, or by thinking the video and comment over later, that what I wrote did not come across as intended, or I wrote it very poorly. (Holy run on sentences batman)
I was also wondering about this ( the clock app part)
Growing up is realizing other people aren't looking for your 'constructive criticism'.
When I was a teenager I genuinely thought I was cool and helpful.
😂😂 true
Great video, Charlotte! Thank you for your own slice of positivity on RUclips!
Charlotte, im so glad I clicked on this video today. I have a micro account on IG and just this week I *agonized* about blocking someone who I know truly enjoys my content but has regularly, over a span of years, crossed my boundaries and just been a “mood ruiner”. I discussed it with my husband too😅. I feel guilty but I couldn’t tolerate it any longer. Nice to hear you describe this conundrum so clearly!
My poor mom at the start of her dementia started leaving negative and rude comments on her favorite instagram influencers. She eventually got blocked by almost all. I felt so bad for the influencers! They were collateral from the dementia. Although I agree for them to do that. How could they know?
Love your channel, love listening to your videos & also looove the products you choose to review
That’s heartbreaking for your mom. It must have made her feel so isolated and silenced.
I’m so glad you all can block the negativity. We all ( all sane reasonable people) know and understand what comments could do to someone’s self esteem or simply the fear of danger from some I’m sure if you couldn’t block them.
I just want to say thank you for always listing your nail polish and clothing in the description box so I never have to ask ☺I've heard all these secrets except the tricking us into engagement by withholding. Also saw another creator say that influencers make a higher commission off of products sold within the first week of launch. She said that's why a lot of their "first impressions" are always positive but they say they will have to update us later in their monthly favorites and that's when we get their real thoughts. Is that true?
I do try to comment on every video watched as an added way to thank someone for their content, even though some say they only read the comments within the first hour and I know it may not be seen. Glad to know that's not true for you. ♥
Your whole vibe in this video is stunning! Makeup, shirt, style and color... everything!
Great video!
I loved this video. I know you explaining Internet and social media etiquette but I feel like this really applies to all of life's aspects. I'm a person who really tries to raise above and stay positive. It's really hard in a world full of negativity. When you cut out the negative life is just a bit easier to navigate 😊. Thank you for your content, I just started following you but really enjoy it.
I can’t understand how people can comment mean statements. They would never or I hope would never talk to someone face to face like that. Thank you for your positivity and sharing this information. ❤
I honestly think part of this is that many creators say things like “what do you think? Let me know in the comments.” Which is also a trick to up engagement, so someone says to themselves, well, they asked so (insert *I don’t like that* comments) so in some cases it isn’t purely being mean for sport. Also some leave open ended questions that DRAW criticism as a mean comment is still a comment and engagement makes the algorithm happy. Back when you could see the downvotes so people used them it WAS STILL ENGAGEMENT so still “helped” the video.
Thanks for posting this, Charlotte. 💕 This is one of the best and most informative videos I've seen on RUclips. I wish others were as considerate as you are trying to keep scammers and haters (aka "baddies") away from your subscribers.
I have been with you since you first started on RUclips and you shared your love of makeup with us. You have always been honest and never pretended to be a professional makeup artist, and you make makeup relatable to us since most of us are not professional makeup artists either.
Keep doing what you are doing and continue to be your honest self. That's what we're here for. 😊
Love this! So many young people are “raised” by the internet and don’t realize how important kindness is (some old ones need reminding, too). I remember being told that you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar. There are many old phrases that are just not used anymore but stuck back in the day! ❤
Thank you Charlotte, this is so insightful. Also explains the videos where influencers talk about a foundation and never mention the shade. Love your videos and your sense of humour. Looking forward to your next one. ❤
Love the “tea” videos. Regarding the missing product name/shade…now it makes sense, many times i’ve been asking the question or searching for the answer among many comments without success… clever 😏 . Looking forward for another chatty video ❤
I have been looooving all your content! You’re amazing and hilarious and I really appreciate all these secrets you’re spilling! Thank you for making Wednesday delightful 🥰💜💜
Hi Charlotte, this was so interesting, and such a unique idea for a video! One thing I don’t understand from creators is when they say “let me know in the comments” and then don’t respond to people. Now after watching this video, I’m guessing they don’t really want to know, but only asked in order to boost engagement. I know they can’t respond to everyone, but often they don’t reply or give a ❤️ to anyone. Also, I’ll never understand mean people, so I’m glad you have ways to protect yourself from nastiness! You’re great Charlotte! ❤️🤗
My "always negative" person isn't even a follower. Nor there always. But any time I discuss Final Fantasy 7 they will show up just to make a negative comment or joke about the game not being "the real game" or to pick fights with people in the comments. They've never said anything mean or offense, so I've not blocked or banned them - engagement is nice - but they do bring my own vibe down enough so I know their name without thinking, but not in a good way.
Final Fantasy 7 was the first non-Super Mario console game I ever played as a kid and it holds a special place in my heart. Always. ❤
Charlotte this sounds a bit like high school and sadly some people never grow out of that. Whether it’s someone is truly hateful or someone who,is more passive aggressive, you get to decide what you are willing to tolerate or not on your channel. Bravo to you for addressing this issue directly xxxx
I thoroughly enjoyed this video, Charlotte. I have a question for you - do you get to pick where the ad break falls or does YT do it? The reason I ask is they often fall immediately
after a cliffhanger. Just wondered if that is a tactic to keep the view engaged.
Such great information to keep in mind while navigating social media. Thanks, Charlotte!
Absolutely loving the videos you have been doing about influencers, your commentary on social media and popular culture.
So eloquently put and thought out.
Your make up videos are great too, but I have been loving this change up ❤
Love your videos! I watch almost all. Found you through Lisa Eldridge reviews years ago. Very interesting what you explain about social media. And yes, I agree, it is your space, so you decide. I am not an influencer, but on my socials I am the same. If a friend writes something negative, I will just delete it, it's my space, and if they want to be negative they can be that in their own space. Love your approach. And the white things in your mouth look so pretty and make you extra beautiful.
This is so interesting and you’re absolutely right, I’ll never un-see the spelling mistakes or omitted details on something they’re wearing or using. I saw a sign once in a cafe that I loved “Kindness is free, sprinkle that s-- everywhere!” 💛
Omg this video was eye-opening 😳 Charlotte i love your videos, and they just keep getting better and better. I wouldn't dream of telling a creator, "i don't like that on you." i may think I'm not sure about that shade, but i just say nothing. You know the saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, then say nothing." Charlotte, if you do know where i live, you can come around any time 😂
💯 agree!
Thank you for postinng this. It's important to reiterate the need for kind communication.
I admire your mental strength dealing with people. I’m super social but as I’m getting older, I’m finding people are just too peopley. P.s. love your work xx
You always spread so much sunshine and happiness into our lives, Charlotte! Not only are you informative about products, but you often make me howl with laughter!
You’re such a classy, talented lady, I can’t believe anyone would leave you mean comments! Says much more about them, and they deserve a good blocking. 😊
I thought I was pretty well versed in this stuff, but you taught me a TON today! Thank you for going in depth and giving examples. It was very eye-opening. Thanks for being such a fun and informative content creator!
Hi Charlotte! Completely different topic: you’re always spot on when it comes with matching your makeup with the color and style of your clothes. I’m not… when I look the end result in the mirror it’s quite random if I’m going to like it or not, specially using eyeshadows in different colors. I would love a video with some tips about this!
Yes…I totally agree. I have also noticed that Charlotte’s makeup so beautifully compliments her outfit for the video. I would also like to get some tips on that.
Hi Charlotte, thank you so much for this video, I truly learned so much & my heart is just singing right now! So many in today's culture need to hear this - positivity is contagious 🎉, & negativity is too. How we say things is just as important as what we say, and it actually does influence the energy of our surroundings. Thank you for helping to spread this message via your incredibly lovely, informative, funny, helpful, applicable, useful, positive content, I am so grateful for you. In case no one has told you yet today - you are such a valuable, lovely human, you rock girl!! ❤
I can’t imagine the stuff you see people say 😳 You are such a refreshing person on this platform ❤
Thank you, Charlotte!!! Very interesting video 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Btw, I love your t***h 😍 Perfect veneers scare me 😂😂😂
I don’t usually say anything if I don’t like a look, but I had no idea that only compliments are allowed when an influencer asks how we like a look they’ve done. Thank you so much for making it clear that constructive criticism or true honest feedback is not allowed unless one thinks they look good.
Also, thank you for making it clear that not watching is the appropriate way to state if the product an influencer is producing--their videos--is not meeting one's needs. I appreciate knowing that!
I don’t blame you all for blocking people. The bullying that goes on on social media is horrendous. I used to be too shy to comment on videos, and I think I had it right the first time. RUclips is creating a really wonky society. I think I’ll observe from a distance from now on, thank you very much.😂
Good information. Thanks for sharing.
LOVE the bronzy tones on your eyes in this video! Really makes the blue of your eyes pop!!!!!!!
This is fascinating! You can see every comment? Just your channel or for everyone's? Can you see deleted comments too? And the way blocking works was a revelation. Thanks for the video!💚
Click on anyone’s name in the comments and it will show all of their comments 😊
Had no idea about all this stuff, Charlotte! As you say, if you behave yourself and be nice to people, no problem. Why can't people just get along and be nice to each other? Social media seems to give people a platform to be nasty when they would never say these things to their face. Thanks for giving us quality content.
1) this is amazing. Well done. Well said.
2) you are making it hard to resist getting that blush. It looks stunning on you every time
3) *not me checking to see if I’ve been blocked despite never commenting on anything* 😂
Hello!
@@MsBNoodle thank you 😆
@@butshetalksalot1804 thank you!
You’re good! 👍🏽
Charlotte your content is so interesting. I watch almost all of your videos and I love that you talk about make-up yet a lot of other topics as well. Informative, researched and funny on top! 🖤
Here's a different angle on this, but it still leads to not leaving negative comments ... I find that if I'm starting to feel negatively while watching someone, then that means I should stop watching them for a time, or unsubscribe. Sometimes people reveal themselves more, the more I watch them, and I realize I like them less than I thought, or their content may change to something I like much less. Instead of putting negative comments on their channel, it's simply time for me to leave. Don't "hate watch!" If you stop liking someone's stuff, just be a grown-up and leave their channel.
Yes!! It’s so strange to continue to CHOOSE to engage with someone that draws your ire or brings you down. The content creator reaps benefits from all engagement, even if it’s negative! To hate watch is truly cutting off your nose to spite your own face.
Not gonna lie I can understand why your husband loves discussing the cumulative blocks, lol! We all have those people in our lives, work places, even families sometimes! We need some kind of a real life block feature 😂. I always remind myself that super negative people are almost universally unhappy, and it is themselves, not their targets, with whom they have issues. But by all means, block away! Protect your garden! Tend upur zen!!!
Fun video !
Hi Charlotte,
This was so interesting. I never knew or noticed any of this stuff going on. My mum used to say, "If you can't say anything good, don't say anything at all."
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Really interesting! I love the analogy of being in the creators’’home’! If people don’t like the content they don’t have to watch at all, don’t need to be unpleasant. Well said! ❤
Actually, that metaphor isn’t exactly accurate. It’s more like people being in their business place. This is a business most influencers have created to make money, and it’s a product that they produce. (besides a few that do it as a hobby for fun, which are rare)
This is great info, thanks! I'd never heard anyone going into the details like this before.
I’ve heard you tubers get really horrible comments but am surprised how thin skinned they can be. I always see comments overly complimentary. I guess the other comments get deleted. Funny how you tube does that sneaky thing and how people pump up their numbers and don’t disclose sponsorships!! Count on you to be the honest one!! You do have the best personality for sure!❤️❤️❤️
You are always classy & lovely. I can’t wait until you reach 1 million subscribers. You deserve it & more 💜
I think everyone has the right to block anyone for any reason. I don't understand why those who get blocked get so upset about it. Why do people get so involved or obsessed over ppl they don't even know personally? I understand the appreciation of someone's art, but not enough to stalk or get upset over. Same with mean comments, you don't know that person enough to be so mean. Glad you're explaining the gate-keeping videos😂. I can't believe people haven't figured it out years ago.
This was a fascinating and informative video Charlotte! I’ve never understood why people leave mean and hateful comments on someone’s channel. I loved what you said “Freedom of Speech does not mean freedom of consequences” I’ve followed Sam March for years and years. I remember some of the not so nice comments she was receiving about things going on in her life. It’s such a shame. I can’t see anyone being mean to you you’re such a lovely person with amazing content.
I’ve made comments wondering what bronzer someone used and I see so many of the same comments but the creator never responds to anyone and now I know why.
Great video ❤❤
Have a great night!!
Thank you so much for addressing this Charlotte, its about time someone did xx
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all”. It’s really this simple.
I just don’t get why people say mean things. And sometimes they’re in disguise. Like a friend once said “you look great, don’t let anyone tell you any different”. What exactly was she saying? Was it nice or inferring she thinks so but maybe not every/anyone else? Such a bizarre way to compliment. 🤯
I find people either think they are being clever or superior, or they are projecting their own miseries
"Everyone has something going on..." - so true - you're dead right, and it's nearly always not obvious.
I love your videos Charlotte! My son sometimes calls me a dinosaur (as I still use email etc) but when I watch your updates and I learn terms like "mood hoover" it's a complete education, and I can drop it in the conversation over dinner and if he hasn't heard it he loves it! And suddenly I'm a super-cool Mum once more! :D
Thanks to you Charlotte, the phrase "right up my street" is in my conversational rotation! TYSM
Thank you for this, I personally have experienced the immediate removal of a comment that was in no way offensive or mean and I’m realizing it’s the blocked word issue. I’m almost positive.
Thank you for this. It explains disappearing comments that were not rude at all. It’s just a word that was blocked.
You have a beautiful smile! I love that you choose to keep your unique facial characteristics.
Fascinating! I truly had no idea. 😊👍
That's so cool that your remember some of your followers! Not sure if you remember me, but am one of your fellow UK followers and one of my favourite youtubers, i discovered so many great products and also Lisa Eldridge from your channel
Thank you for your perspective on negative comments and how someone can think they are not coming across as negative but they do anyway. I never thought about how posting an unpopular opinion can come across negative instead of helpful for people in the comments so they know why some people don't like a product. We should always phrase our constructive criticism of a product in a way that it's understood that just because it didn't work for me it may work for someone else and why that would be. I believe that I do try to phrase things in as much of a positive way but going forward I'll double check and triple check that it cannot be misunderstood. I love your videos and enjoy every bit of your content.
Commenting to increase engagement :)
Great content, as always. Thank you for being you. ❤
Mute is a great thing. It's more appropriate for mildly annoying versus abusive. But yeah, never messing with you....though it would be hilarious if you turned up at my door to tell me off! 🤣
I actually really appreciate your channel because I trust your recommendations.
Ugh, social media gives me anxiety in the long run. But I keep chasing a quick dopamine hit. So, thank you for making it easier and more comprehensible ❤
I want to comment and say thank you for your transparency and insight into some aspects of YT influencers' world!
How dare anyone disparage or leave inappropriate comments on our sweet Charlotte’s channel!! Idiots! She provides us with an education, information, kindness and humor!
Love you Charlitte and sincerely appreciate all of your efforts, research and humorous style!!❤❤
This was a great video. Thanks for giving us the inside scoop. 😊
This was very interesting! Thanks for spilling the secrets. The world could use more kindness right now!! 🥰
Love this lipstick on you! This was very informative and interesting.
Well done for calling them out. I must admit I had fallen for this in the past. I no longer comment requesting details of the product. I really hate that recently noticed this for recipes. Why must I comment recipe to get it. Just give it to me. Thanks again . Love your content
Wow thanks for blocking the spammy scammers. i didn’t know most of these, nice!
This was a very interesting topic, thank you for sharing. The color of that sweater and eyeshadow is gorgeous on you!
I truly appreciate this video!
This is so interesting ❤