I was assisting the head of my Sixth Form with duty outside on the hard courts and had a teacher ask if I was a year 10 (age 14-15), and when I said no asked if I was a new staff member 😩 I'm a sixth form student, I'm 19 😩
I assume you are all talking about Jammidodger, the man in the video? First of all, WHY ARE USING THE WRONG PRONOUNS?? Some men do have periods and some men lactate. HE IS NOT A LESBIAN💀 First of all it’s impossible since he is a man, sec of all, he identifies as BI. “tries to look like a boy (and is failing)” excuse me what? He passes very well, if I met him in public I would think it’s a handsome man (bcs it is) but still. Even if you think he failes at LOOKING manly, THEN YOU STILL HAVE NO RIGHTS TO USE THE WRONG PRONOUNS AND SAY THAT HE IS A WOMAN BECAUSE YOU CAN IDENTIFY AS A MAN MENTALLY!!!! Please, have at least a minimum of respect idk
@Jaiden Animations should starve herself Does making this comment improve anything? Does it solve world hunger? Does it help save the Earth? No, no and no. So why make it? It's offensive to many people. There was literally no reason to make it.
So I'm out as a transgirl for around 1.5 months and today I bought my first skirt! Edit: this kinda blew up and I kinda can't keep replying to everyone so I'm sorry if I missed you by any chance when going through, so I'll say it now, THANK YOU!
I think it’s a cheers reference but I may be wrong. If you don’t know it’s this one tv show that is honestly kinda boring but birthed my fav show Frasier.
A little message to anyone who needs it: You're valid. No matter if people misgender or deadname you, you are still valid. I love you even if others don't. I am so proud of you and all that you have done. You are beautiful and loved. You are worthy of happiness. Have a good day or night ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
@@gawd-zila I regret being so sure that my family was going to accept me... I wish I never said anything. I really needed your supportive words (especially today which was especially rough) , thank you ❤️
Daily reminder: * You are valid! 💜 * You are loved! 💜 * You are beautiful! 💜 * You are worthy of everything good! 💜 * Be proud of yourself! 💜 Sending Mom-Hugs to everyone who need one! 💜 - The proudest mother to an enby lesbian child 🏳️🌈
Remember everyone, when talking about a trans person before they came out, please do not use their deadname and old pronouns! Referring to someone with their old name and pronouns can be very dysphoria. It’s kind of hard to get used to at first, but after a while it becomes second nature. Have a nice day!
Unless they specify otherwise of course. Some nonbinary or binary trans people (few, but some) don't mind or do so themselves because they do genuinely feel like the past they lived as a different/wrong gender is a part of their experience they don't want to forget. But this is rare and the general rule should definitely be assume they do NOT want to be referred to as their old name and pronouns unless it is clearly stated otherwise. Just wanted to add that nuance.
That part, along with the sponsor, reminded me of when someone I used to be friends with had counselling at university and all the counsellor would talk about was him being trans which isn’t what he wanted to talk about and HE ASKED HIM WHAT HIS DEADNAME WAS 💀 I was ready to educate some counsellors who should’ve already been educated that day 😂
I have an enby friend, they're still figuring out exactly what type of enby they are (agender, gender-fluid, demi, etc.), and it was hard at first to get used to it but now it's so much easier.
I have a friend who is gender fluid and likes to be called Yuri. And i also have a friend who is nonbinary who prefere be called Luke. At first i was very confused and keep using theyr old pronoums and names during conversation. But now i kinda undertand and i'm using the correct pronoums/names. The problem is that all of us have 12/13y and they don't come out tho they're parents yet. So when i thalk with my parents i use theyr old pronoums and names. There are 2 reasons: 1. I am afraind that my parents tell theyr parents and i edding ruinning theyr comming out. 2. I am afraid that they don't understand and i have to explain to them, but actually neighther i fully understand! Yuri and Luke alreddy explain to me hundreds of times but i always fell insecure, and like i don't completly undertand. They're tired to explain to me so i prefer just be quiet. I am afraind to ask them more about the subject yknow? Like if i should start to use theyr actual pronoum with my parents or tell them. What if they get mad at me and don't talk to me anymore?... So... thats it. Sorry if there are any mistakes in the sentences, i'm not an eglish speaker, still learning.
I work in home care and one of the lady's we go to is trans ( MTF,) we have only been going to see her for about 2 months and today she asked me to make a cup of tea for each of us. When I sat down with the drinks she said "I want to show you something, I don't show many people but I trust you" She then handed me a stack of photos of her pre transition. ❤️❤️❤️
Not really a trans fail or anything, but I'm nonbinary/transfemme and I'm not out, but a few weeks ago my grandmother said a whole couple sentences about me to my mother, and completely unintentionally used they/them the whole time and it was lovely.
That must've felt so nice! I'm really happy for you!!❤ My grandma has memory problems and one time she used my real name and pronouns half the of the times, I felt euphoric!
The worst kind of trans fail is when you accidentally deadname/misgender yourself. Like how do i get other people to use they them if i dont fucking use it myself im crying dude😭😭😭
Aw it takes practice and a lot of self talk but you'll get there. I remember just talking to myself and giving myself pep talks in 3rd person lol but you'll find your way.
I hate that!!!! I do that too. It's the actual worst and it gives me so much self doubt and dysphoria. Almost worst than if someone else misgenders me.
Goo Gone is a orange scented cleaning product used to remove sticky substances like residue left by stickers if you accidently leave them on your clothes in the laundry
@Skeptical Idealist early in the video a trans man had an exploding packer and had to shower in Goo Gone. Jammie didn't know what that was, so now everyone knows
I came out as a transwoman in the latter part of last year, and the most awkward/funny thing was when not everyone was aware of it at my workplace. So we had folks using the correct pronouns, and those who were not up to date due to the rotating shifts using the old ones along with my old name. And when corrected, basically all would apologize profusely for their mistake, it was very heartwarming. There's also the boss, who wasn't aware yet, and who I wanted to bring the situation up to myself- but a coworker accidentally talked about it thinking he was aware. He was kind enough to act as if he didn't know so that I'd be comfortable talking about it, and wouldn't be mad at the poor guy who slipped up. They're all sweet people.
I get ya. Real name ? My current name IS my real name, not just my legal one nor the one I go by. I don't get why someone would use your dead name or AGAB pronouns in any argument-
@@painslut right? like I'm cis but if a person tells me their name and pronouns than why the hell wouldn't I call them by that? It's really not that hard, I could care less about their dead name, if they don't use it then why would I wanna know? I really don't get it
@@painslut yeah fr. where I live it's rather easy to get it changed (get 100 people to sign a petition then pay $50 and boom you've got your name on your birth certificate) so I'm gonna get it legally changed this summer (to double check this is actually the name I want and also walking around is nicer in summer)
That first story about the bf's packer, apparently Jammi didn't notice that apparently the person telling the story is male, meaning the relationship was between two males, and the father had zero problem with that.
You know what is so much more interesting than knowing a deadname.... Finding out why and how the correct name was chosen. Honesty, I've been honored to know a few people's deadnames, but I would much rather know the history of the living name.
lmao my name-choosing story is literally just- I was watching a non-binary tiktok comp one day and I saw one of the tiktoker's name was 'ozzie' and I was just like 'oooooo me likey' and I started going by that ever since lmao
I once had a packer that always wanted to lay so it looked “happy” so me and my friends made the joke “are you trans or are you just happy to see me?” I still think about it every time i see my packer
I have a friend who is not trans but does have a "deadname" of sorts. She never liked her first name nor the association of her last name with her family. She at first went by a nickname but it reminded her too much of her given name. She started going by just her first initial and her middle name as her last name. She's a writer so she used it as her nom de plume as well as with her friends. When she decided she wanted to change her name legally she had to create a new first name since you aren't allowed to have an initial as your legal name. She found a spelling that sounds like her initial. She picked out a lovely new middle name (since her prev middle is now her last). She is so happy to have her chosen name be official now. I've never met her family but they deadname her on Facebook all the time.
I also have a cis friend who always goes by her middle name, although I don't THINK she has any plans to change it legally, so it's definitely not an exclusively trans thing! I also changed my nickname when I was around 15 and have noticed that some people who knew me from childhood have made an effort to use my 'new' name (the stakes aren't as high as with many trans people, though; I feel odd when people use my old nickname because it's so rare nowadays, but I don't mind that much, and like my full first name as well).
Sharing a quick little happy story! I came out as non-binary a few months ago, and today I told my mom I also identify as trans and that I’m going to change both my first and last name this current year. I explained her why etc etc and she was very understanding and accepting of it. The whole thing did make her cry, but she told me it’s more because she’s happy that I told her and that I know who I am/what I want. Then after our chat, we went to the mall and when she called me over to check something out she went “hey Este-wait, hey Ezra!” And I nearly cried in the store lol because she said she would dk her best to call me Ezra from now on and she got me cool Lucky Cat socks as a ‘rebirth gift’ as she called it🥺
That's so cute!! My dining siblings non-binary and I've gotten the pronouns down but I'm still figuring out the name haha, but I'm trying my best and I never realized how much happier just calling someone a different name can someone feel. Anyway I hope you have a great day!!
That last story reminds me of a time when my aunt decided to write a book on our family history to give to everyone and she asked me to preaprove the passage which went " "deadname" now "current name" lives with "wrong pronoun" husband... "wrong pronoun" is a stay at home "wrong gender" to "wrong pronoun" kids." She corrected the pronouns, but she refused to get rid of the name stating that she doesn't want to confuse anyone. I wish I told her to keep any mentions of me out of it all together.
Regarding the theater teacher's questions: My bff is ftm. Of course, I know aaaaallll about it because bff. So to avoid asking him the tmi personal questions, people often ask *ME* the questions about him. I simply reply "All questions may be directed to Google. Thanks."
I don't entirely get the obsession of finding out someone's deadname, I'd be more interested in asking them how they came up with their chosen name. There is more of a story there.
Maybe it is so people who only knew the person by the dead name would realize they are the same person? But yeah, the person whose name it is/was should decide.
I don’t either. I admit I’m mildly curious but that’s just cos I’m a nosy cow who likes to literally know everything about everyone. I have a friend who is a trans man and I apparently knew him in a Facebook group by his deadname but only really spoke to him once he’d started transitioning…so I knew him but because I don’t k ow his deadname I can’t remember half of our friendship…it’s not important but it does get me some days. But only because I don’t remember what I said to him back then or what we talked about. But no matter how much it bugs me, I won’t ask because that’s not right.
Ftm story time - I was recently in hospital with pneumonia (again) and I was there for 12ish days. For the first week I was on so much oxygen I wasn't allowed to walk to the bathroom and had to use a commode instead. Anyways i am ftm and have been out for 10 years and on t for 6, I have a full beard and basically no hair but I haven't had any surgery due to mental health. Soo the awkward part of this story time - every time I needed a wee (which was a lot because I have massive anxiety) I had to ask for the loo and everyone just assumed I needed a "bottle" because of the way I looked. Which is great because it means I pass extremely well. But I basically had to out myself every time I needed the loo and tell every new nurse that i couldn't use a bottle which was extremely awkward and annoyed but eventually they just left a commode on the ward specifically for me haha. So yes awkward because I had to out myself alot but it's also really nice to know that I pass well enough that this happened :P Anyways I am okay and am home now btw so please noone worry. I hope everyone is okay:) remember you are loved ♡♡
"«deadname»" is the name of Jamie's twin sister from a parallel universe. In this universe, there is only Jamie. That's how I think of it, anyway. Feel free to use it.
I legit forget he's trans sometimes ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ EDIT: what I mean is that in my head he's a guy and always has been, the idea that he ever went by female pronouns breaks my brain
I'm not trans, but I go by a new name. A dude once asked me if I was trans straight up bc I cut my hair, and it felt weird, not because I'm against trans people, its because he was so blunt while in public like??? I may be legally changing my name and buzzed my hair, but that doesn't mean anything
That's very weird. Not all trans people change their name, and anyone can change it or get any hairstyle they like. That also could have put you or another trans person in danger. I'm sorry about the rudeness of some people and hope you're doing well!
Have had the same issue when I initially started going by my current name. It is traditionally a masculine name, though I had only known it as feminine prior. Had a pixie cut as well. This all apparently confused some. My name change had nothing to do with my gender either.
Lol meanwhile I am literally an enby with a shaved head changing my name and everyone* in my life assumes it is NOT trans related *Everyone I'm not out to anyways
I had to tell one of my friends that my name change is "retroactive" so no, you don't get to deadname me in a story because " at that time you were still called [deadname]"
When I tell stories aboit when Grumpling was little I don't use their deadname, I use their chosen name because that's the person I'm talkimg about. IMO it's the only time retconning is OK.
My Dad does that all the time to his Trans cousin it drives me absolutely insane. She recently passed away from complication of a chronic illness and in his Facebook memorial post he was like "My cousin Christina (born **insert deadname**) I was livid. I was like "Even in F*cking death you cannot give her the freedom of just being who she was!?"
Since I am very passionate in the LGBTQ+ topic and a lot of my friends, acquaintances and my sibling are queer, I tend to talk a lot about queer topics with my mom. My parents raised with the importance of tolerance, acceptance solidarity and to not get stuck in older believes, because times change fast and so does society. But now for the first time I realized that my parents are growing older. Because they have a bit of a harder time getting used to my now non-binary siblings new name (not in a rejecting way) and it my mom also happened to say something close to “That’s probably just because you haven’t experienced s*x yet, once you’ve experienced that, I’m sure you’ll know that feeling.” about asexuality. But I’m so proud of her because soon after she herself realized, that what she said was critical and could be very invalidating and told me that she still needed to learn a lot about LGBTQ+. She’s still trying and I love her for that :)
I've never been here so early, hell yeah! I'm going to take a moment as I watch to mention something real quick: tomorrow, I'll be a week on T after waiting for years with the UK's system and being unable to get shared care. It feels absolutely wonderful to finally overcome that biggest hurdle and that things are finally going up. Thank you Jamie for being one of the wonderful trans people I've watched during this long wait and kept me pushing on through it, I'm truly grateful and I know I'm not the only one. Keep being such a positive influence 💙
I want to go to pride therapy but my transphobic mother won’t let me. I’m in a very rough spot but I have my friends to help me out. Also, if you’re a homophobic/ transphobic adult who wants kids: ✨don’t✨ as a parent you are supposed to love your child no matter who they are.
Hello everyone, I hope you are all well. Never forget you have so much value and potential in life. You are a valid beautiful person and know you are loved. Have a fantastic day and stay safe. Also never forget that I will always be here for you and help in anyway possible.
dont be in a rush to find a name. i used to have such anxiety, and i still do. but to me names are special for each person. they are what you are called by after all. so my name is different for each person. its fun and i get to hear WHY they picked that name and what i mean to them.
I’m not out as a Trans Boy yet but my hair gives me a lot of dysphoria. I’ve been trying to convince them to give me a haircut for months now, and finally my mom agreed to get me “evaluated” by a professional stylist tomorrow, I’m hoping I can cut it tomorrow. Wish me luck 🥺 Edit: OMG I GOT IT AND ITS AMAZINGNSINSHINSIHNDIH DIH DIH DXI DHIN I LOVE IT SO MUCH AHHHH
If all else fails.... Cut it yourself 😅 And then if needed a stylist can 'fix it up'. I really hate the whole "you appear to be female so you can't *really* want to have your hair short" (and of course the opposite). I'm a cis woman who loves super short hair and it's so frustrating to go to a hairdresser - at least half of them don't really want to cut it short "because you won't look 'feminin'" and then they also make me pay more because it's a 'woman's haircut' oh p*ss off, it's just a haircut, how is that gendered?! Sorry, bit of a tangent. I really hope your new haircut will fit you well!
@@meisjeViv Yeah! No I get it. For the longest time I had to convince one of my parents just to think about it. They said that short hair “made me look like a lesbian” and “sent off the wrong message” to whom I may ask? I literally told them if you won’t get it professionally cut soon I’ll just do it myself, I’ll risk a month long grounding if it means less dysphoria. It made me seem like a brat since I’m not out yet, but one of my parents in kind of transphobic. I dint think it’s their fault considering on how they were raised, but they have a friend who really encourages it- Anyways sorry for ranting lol
@@K9883-w7j Rant away! I don't really get why parents think it's up to them what haircut their child has, anyway, especially once they are old enough to decide on other things (like what clothes they like, what books they read etc aka like from the age of four or something...) Let us know how it goes at the hairdresser? :)
People are frighteningly obsessed with deadnames. Either that or they don’t understand that they are DEADnames. Once I had someone say to me “I know your name..... but can I call you... [deadname]?
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Cis guy here. Just made my first skirt. It took FAAAAAR too long it took like 2 months edit: 1. I was quite big and I ended up just using it as a poncho (I'm from finland and its real chilly up here. I made it way too thick so it ended up baing a great insulator) 2. I have managed to lose it ):
I have a transfail if anyone would like to read I'm a trans FtM who hasn't started T and I'm really into the game League of Legends and about a year ago my bestfriend invited me to play a game with him and one of his friends. Right of the bat I was terrified of this person; extremely extroverted, a litteral mountain of a person, not affraid to speak his thoughts and very intimidating. The very first thing he asked me was if I was a guy or a girl and I told him I was a guy which he then never questioned, but I did get the nickname twink and tomboy. And when I said I was terrified; I mean I was shaking the entire 3 matches I played with them and promised myself afterwards to never play with people I don't know ever again. But I got dragged into more games and conversations with this guy and we ended up speaking almost every day. After one or two months I get a message from him asking if I'm trans and I realise that another person from my school had outed me and my thoughts immediately went to "He's gonna kill me" but no, he was just very confused and apologized a lot. He did know that my bestfriend's bestfriend was trans but it never clicked for him that it was me. I still talk to the guy and now he is one of my favourite people despite how scared I was at first.
I feel so awkward with dead naming. In my job, we have to do background checks on people and we had to do a background check on a trans-woman and they made me do searches for her dead name as well. I understood why we had to do it (we search for legal cases and things like that) but I felt so uncomfortable.
Me at my trans friends house: so ugh....* trying to figure out what name to use infront of his parents* His dad: so how to you and kayleigh get along Me:ughhh we get along great * looks at friend to see if hes ok* heee-sheeeeee is super funny
@@princetonalec8695 They might have used a made up name as an example. It's messed up if they didn't and hopefully something they won't do in the future, but it's fully possible they considered the fact that wouldn't be okay and used a place holder name instead.
this reminds me of when i was moving into my college dorm and my RA helped me with some boxes. i’m a trans woman, but she mistakenly “clocked” me as a trans MAN, and had a meeting with all the other people in the hall to make sure they called me sir and he. totally inappropriate but she had NOTHING but good intentions!! 😭❤️
I'm out to my mom and has been for a long time, so when she reads a news article or something about someone who is trans she usually tells me about it, but sometimes she says it like "[person's name] was named [deadname] before" and I just cringe so hard, I know she doesn't mean it like a bad way but it's just so awkward
Genuinely just spending Pride month watching your videos as an attempt to deal with the stress of The Discourse. Thank you for being a calming, charming, funny moment that takes the weight off my shoulders for the rest of the day!
I've been having a really rough few days but this channel has really cheered me up and helped me get through it, even the more "negative" videos. You're just so warm and kind and comforting and it's made me smile. Thank you so much
I told my therapist about you and she said she might check out your channel. She works with Transgender patients and is now interested because I told her how much I loved your channel.
Reminding me of the time that, my transphobic family was roasting me about being trans. Saying that I am a man and men should not wear womens clothes. The fact that I do is disgusting, makes everyone uncomfortable and I need to stop or they're going to kick me out. My brother, who is a fairly dispassionate man. Harder to set off than a bundle of wet fire crackers, marched out of his room and screamed, "What the fuck is wrong with you, SHE!!! Is my sister, and SHE!!!, is a human. And SHE!!! Deserves love the same as anyone else weather she's a (t-slur) or not. You're the ones who are disgusting". I was just so shocked it took me a full 10 minutes before I realized that he used a slur. I brought is up later in private thanking him for standing up for me. But pointing out that that word is actually a slur.
My trans son asked what his new name should be, as though I was going to dictate it to him (all four of my children had A.L. initials at that time). It was a sweet gesture (or maybe a sign that I'm too controlling, lol?), but I told him I only named him because he was too young to do so himself, so now he should choose a name that he thinks fits him best. He went with Salem, which I LOVE!!! I've never misgendered or deadnamed him since I became aware that he was trans, but I do have pictures of him when he was younger. He's never asked me to delete them, but if he did, I'd have an incredibly hard time doing so. It's not because I care to have pictures of him as a "girl," it's just because he's my baby one way or the other and I don't want to lose memories of him when he was little. I don't share the pictures with others or even with him. He's very open with me and I'm about as accepting as a person can be - I truly do not care if my children (or anyone else for that matter) are trans, cis, gay, straight, or anywhere in between or otherwise. I say as long as there are no children or animals involved, love is love, lol! So I sure hope he'd tell me if he expected me to delete/destroy all pictures of him before he transitioned. I'd hate to think that something I've done or failed to do has been upsetting him for all this time and he didn't tell me...
I'm sorry that happened to you. My response to that is always "I do. That's why I hate the parts that aren't me." But they're usually just a transphobe so the outcome is rarely good. I have had some people who actually bothered to learn what I meant though.
@@feistsorcerer2251 that's actually such a beautiful way to describe it it's like for me being afab my chest is not a part of me so i love the things about me that are more masculine
So, I'm non binary but I am not fully out yet, and my mom is very religious. One time, me and my two brothers were sick, so my mom said a prayer that basically said "please help the boys so they can get better soon and please help *deadname* so they can get better soon I MEAN SHE" and that made my whole week.
heyyy i have a good deadnaming story. my mom and i work at the same place, all my coworkers know me as myles and know im a man but my mom (whos known im a transman for 3years) still deadnames and misgenders me infront of my coworkers all the time, confusing them and sometimes getting them to deadname/misgender me bc they think she knows something about me that they dont. its incredibly frustrating and no matter how many times i talk to her about it she keeps doing it in front of them
I‘m so sorry, that sounds terrible ❤️. I hope you manage to talk some sense into your mom and maybe explain to your coworkers why she keeps doing that (hope no one‘s transphobic over there). I wish you the best of luck!
@@sanityidontknowher5057 ty princess 🥺, my coworkers all know that im a transman but since my mom keeps doing that stuff to me i think they think that ive like,,,detransitioned or smth. idk🤷 none of them understand trans stuff so i dont blame them for not knowing whats going on but my mom is their biggest source of knowledge about me so they just mimic what she does, even if shes wrong
I love the over supportive dad. That is so cuuute. It just means he loves you so much that it doesn't matter how you identify. You are still his child and he will love you always.
I have a story that happened last year. My sophomore year in high school. I was wearing a packer and basketball shorts, so as I was walking to my class I decided to get a shortcut through a tiny hallways nobody goes to. A really old teacher was walking to the direction opposite to mine and my packer fell and I just heard a PLOP on the floor. The teacher just looked at it, looked at me, nodded and went "Me too buddy" AND THEN HE WAS MY SUBSTITUTE TEACHER FOR STUDY HALL
My trans fail was in a group chat. So, my deadname has two names, one I don't use and Dione, that I use with the people I'm not outed to yet. I also have the name Argo, which is my actual name. Dione is basically one I'm ok with and won't out me if I use. So this guy used my first name because it was what was on the document. I corrected it and said "Please don't call me that name, no one calls me that" And this guy said "Oh, okay. What are your pronouns?" And i just shut down. I wasn't ready to out myself, but the question just b r o k e me. I ended up just saying I don't mind any lmao
Here, idk I just thought I should put it in here just to cheer someone up- hopefully- Roses are red Violets aren't blue You are valid And that's the truth If you think not, well you're wrong Because you are amazing, unique and strong I am proud of you and I'm here for you, I love you very much
The worst question "those" people ask is "What's your *real* name?" Uhm.... excuse me? THE NAME ON MY NEW PAPERS IS MY REAL NAME! XD I've been asked a few times before, but thankfully NOT with those words, it was simply what *was* my name. Still very uncomfortable, tho ^^"
Also, a packer story I had was when my then friend gave me one and my parents asked me if they could see it since they were supportive and everything I didn't mind all that much. Once they saw it my dad was like, "It's so realistic, wow." And they just fascinated themselves over my packer. It was awkward then and funny now.
So I'm nb (As you can probably tell by the PFP) and I wanted the name Alex but my parents didn't like it. A few months later, I told my mom I wanted to be called Kai. She asked what the name meant and I told her I'd look it up. I did so a few days ago and the first thing I said was "Mom I can be Hagrid!" Kai is known to mean Keeper of the Keys (:
Never a better day for Jamie 🥰 I was having a really sucky day today (lots of dissociation, lots of random pains, exhaustion, etc) and seeing your face and hearing your voice was just the perfect remedy for these hard times! Thank you! ❤️
Over the top supportive parent, my mom has photoshopped my CURRENT, bearded face onto all my baby pictures, despite my telling her I don’t actually mind pre-puberty pictures of myself. She redid a whole family photo album with those pictures... luckily I was able to get her to keep a non photoshopped version of the album as well.
I had an awkward Trans moment today after I had to explain over the phone to a lady why I (a dude) had the legal name of a woman. It was sort of flattering, but boy I can't wait to get my papers back from the judge so I can change my name on all my papers.
I've heard a friend just tell people "my parents lost a bet" and usually the person asking the questions is shocked into silence or laughs and moves on. Maybe something like that can help?
My first time wearing a packer to university and as I went to the toilet and pulled my pants down the packer flew out and landed juuuust under the partition in the stall next to me. The OCCUPIED stall. I'm panicking and freeze when the guy just goes "Oh, uh...try to keep it in your pants next time bro?"
3:55 Goo-Gone is a product here in the U.S. (and possibly elsewhere) that removes any type of adhesive, sticky stuff, etc. It's really handy for removing stickers, glue, and apparently packer goo. So sorry they had to go through that! My interesting story is how CONFUSED my mailman is about WHO should be living in my flat, I'm one person, but get mail with 4 different names (a variable mix of my old and new names) I tried putting on my mailbox the two names I will accept in my mailbox, but still, I can see him wondering if he should put mail in the box or not (probably thinking 4 different people live in one flat lol!) I feel bad for the postman... 🤪🤔
Hi so I have another ✨ wholesome story✨ So I was on another channel (it was a channel that reads strange internet things, not much else), and it was a channel that has alot of charities/fundraisers for various causes. I didn't really think much of it, other than a passing 'oh that's neat, they're helping some people' until there was a fundraiser for trans rights basically. I just,, never really thought about that channel in how their position on trans people having rights (which I know shouldn't be a debate at all but), so I was really glad that they supported trans people. :) The comment section on posts regarding the fundraiser were really wholesome, as well as one or two people asking about what being trans was, people kindly explaining what it is, and minimum transphobia overall. I also think over $1,000 were raised so that's great as well :D
@@thatoctahedronfan8othercha37 One Topic is great, (and ever so kind and supportive to all of his veiwers), but I'm talking about Luke Correia here! Though to be fair, OT _does_ have alot of fundraisers too!
My embarrassing story: I am ftm and still pre-T. My dad and I were at a hardware store buying a sprayer attachment for our shower head. I was really confident in how I looked at the time because I was wearing some super masculine clothes. Anyways, my dad and I are discussing the new shower head sprayer and he says something along the lines of how great it will be for me to use to clean myself during my period. He said this in a volume where everyone in the aisle and the surrounding aisles could hear him. It was so embarrassing and it made me feel really insecure because he called me out as a female in front of so many people. He didn’t know I was trans at the time but I bet that would still be embarrassing for a cis woman.
Ughhhh with Caitlyn G. Running for Governor of California. There have been so many people dropping her dead name and in one news article someone even was like "Omg I dont know why they are using the wrong name for Bruce" I was like "if someone changed their name for any other reason you wouldnt call them by that name. Same as a married person not going by their maidan name anymore. Its 2021 and you dont have the respect or common decency to call someone by their chosen name. It shouldnt matter if they are trans or not or if you knew them by that name or not. Once someone expresses the name they want to be called its just kind to quit with the dead name." And the amount of people who laughed at me was horrendous but if my statement changes how one persons treats trans people then I will forever be the ally who fights for everyone to be respected
I’m a cis woman and I don’t personaly know any trans people. Your videos help me understand more and see how much you people have to go through. Thank you very much for what you’re doing. You are amazing. I wish you lots of love and happiness
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Always do
I love them always!
I love ur vids
Jamie I just want to ask you one question: why the flying hell do you look so much like Kendall Schmidt??!
always 😌
Nobody:
Half of the awkward stories that come with being transmasc:
"Are you 13?"
"Im 25-"
this
I get that without being transmasc (i am demigirl however) and like.. I was asked if I was twevle before. I'm gonna be 21 in August-
My cis boyfriend was asked if he was 16 when he was 24. Not as bad obv but still. And a shop clerk thought my ex was my dad. I was 21, he was 23.
I might finally look 16. I'm in my 20s...
I was assisting the head of my Sixth Form with duty outside on the hard courts and had a teacher ask if I was a year 10 (age 14-15), and when I said no asked if I was a new staff member 😩 I'm a sixth form student, I'm 19 😩
Let us all take a moment to laugh at all the transphobes who clicked on Jamie's Trans Fails series without knowing he was trans.
transphobe: oh look an "actual" guy reacting to trans fails!
jamie: *that one image of jim peeking through the blinds*
@Antonio do you mind explaining?
I assume you are all talking about Jammidodger, the man in the video? First of all, WHY ARE USING THE WRONG PRONOUNS?? Some men do have periods and some men lactate. HE IS NOT A LESBIAN💀 First of all it’s impossible since he is a man, sec of all, he identifies as BI. “tries to look like a boy (and is failing)” excuse me what? He passes very well, if I met him in public I would think it’s a handsome man (bcs it is) but still. Even if you think he failes at LOOKING manly, THEN YOU STILL HAVE NO RIGHTS TO USE THE WRONG PRONOUNS AND SAY THAT HE IS A WOMAN BECAUSE YOU CAN IDENTIFY AS A MAN MENTALLY!!!! Please, have at least a minimum of respect idk
@@stephaniesteph1748 who we responding to and what did they say Im dying of curiosity
@@CheriePie14 they deleted the reply sadly so we will never know what that transphobe said
When transphobes realise they also have preferred pronouns: 👁 👄 👁
Jaiden animations should not starve herself!
*uno reverse card*
I’ve seen transphobes say they don’t have pronouns LMFAO like - bro everyone has pronouns . You learn that in elementary school
@Jaiden Animations should starve herself like Jesus? we should all worship those beautiful women just like we worship jesus then
@@milo1685 some nonbinary people dont use pronouns tho and prefer when people only use their name :)
@Jaiden Animations should starve herself Does making this comment improve anything? Does it solve world hunger? Does it help save the Earth? No, no and no. So why make it? It's offensive to many people. There was literally no reason to make it.
So I'm out as a transgirl for around 1.5 months and today I bought my first skirt!
Edit: this kinda blew up and I kinda can't keep replying to everyone so I'm sorry if I missed you by any chance when going through, so I'll say it now, THANK YOU!
yay!
congrats!
YAY!!!!!
Good luck
@@onyx747 thank you!
Can we PLEASE talk about the fact that Jamie's sweater is totally wholesome?
yes
jamie’s* :) and YES IT V MUCH IS i want it lol
It says cheers and all I can think of is the TV show! I wonder if Jaime is a cheers fan...
For a moment I thought Grim AKA Funny Sage watched Jamie's content
I think it’s a cheers reference but I may be wrong. If you don’t know it’s this one tv show that is honestly kinda boring but birthed my fav show Frasier.
"So, you''ve just retired after 70 years of clothesmaking- what got you into sewing in the first place?"
"Funny story, actually..."
A little message to anyone who needs it:
You're valid. No matter if people misgender or deadname you, you are still valid. I love you even if others don't. I am so proud of you and all that you have done. You are beautiful and loved. You are worthy of happiness. Have a good day or night
❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Thanks 😊 Much love and positivity to you as well 💙
Thank you :)
I almost cried when I read this. I’m not accepted by my fam or anything so it means a lot.
@@dumpsterracoon9920 I know how you feel, I'm still in the the closet and my parents are homophobic/transphobic. Just know you aren't alone ❤️
@@gawd-zila I regret being so sure that my family was going to accept me... I wish I never said anything. I really needed your supportive words (especially today which was especially rough) , thank you ❤️
Daily reminder:
* You are valid! 💜
* You are loved! 💜
* You are beautiful! 💜
* You are worthy of everything good! 💜
* Be proud of yourself! 💜
Sending Mom-Hugs to everyone who need one! 💜
- The proudest mother to an enby lesbian child 🏳️🌈
tysm!
thank you!!
Thanks
Thanks!
thank you! that’s so sweet for everyone
Remember everyone, when talking about a trans person before they came out, please do not use their deadname and old pronouns! Referring to someone with their old name and pronouns can be very dysphoria.
It’s kind of hard to get used to at first, but after a while it becomes second nature. Have a nice day!
Unless they specify otherwise of course. Some nonbinary or binary trans people (few, but some) don't mind or do so themselves because they do genuinely feel like the past they lived as a different/wrong gender is a part of their experience they don't want to forget. But this is rare and the general rule should definitely be assume they do NOT want to be referred to as their old name and pronouns unless it is clearly stated otherwise. Just wanted to add that nuance.
@@Lisa_Flowers Thanks for adding that!
That part, along with the sponsor, reminded me of when someone I used to be friends with had counselling at university and all the counsellor would talk about was him being trans which isn’t what he wanted to talk about and HE ASKED HIM WHAT HIS DEADNAME WAS 💀 I was ready to educate some counsellors who should’ve already been educated that day 😂
I have an enby friend, they're still figuring out exactly what type of enby they are (agender, gender-fluid, demi, etc.), and it was hard at first to get used to it but now it's so much easier.
I have a friend who is gender fluid and likes to be called Yuri. And i also have a friend who is nonbinary who prefere be called Luke. At first i was very confused and keep using theyr old pronoums and names during conversation. But now i kinda undertand and i'm using the correct pronoums/names. The problem is that all of us have 12/13y and they don't come out tho they're parents yet. So when i thalk with my parents i use theyr old pronoums and names. There are 2 reasons:
1. I am afraind that my parents tell theyr parents and i edding ruinning theyr comming out.
2. I am afraid that they don't understand and i have to explain to them, but actually neighther i fully understand!
Yuri and Luke alreddy explain to me hundreds of times but i always fell insecure, and like i don't completly undertand. They're tired to explain to me so i prefer just be quiet.
I am afraind to ask them more about the subject yknow? Like if i should start to use theyr actual pronoum with my parents or tell them. What if they get mad at me and don't talk to me anymore?...
So... thats it.
Sorry if there are any mistakes in the sentences, i'm not an eglish speaker, still learning.
I work in home care and one of the lady's we go to is trans ( MTF,) we have only been going to see her for about 2 months and today she asked me to make a cup of tea for each of us. When I sat down with the drinks she said "I want to show you something, I don't show many people but I trust you" She then handed me a stack of photos of her pre transition. ❤️❤️❤️
Oh that's so sweet that she trusted you with that info and those photos ❤️
@Antonio what no he isn't he is a man. I hope this is a joke
Not really a trans fail or anything, but I'm nonbinary/transfemme and I'm not out, but a few weeks ago my grandmother said a whole couple sentences about me to my mother, and completely unintentionally used they/them the whole time and it was lovely.
That must've felt so nice! I'm really happy for you!!❤
My grandma has memory problems and one time she used my real name and pronouns half the of the times, I felt euphoric!
Good for you!! Glad you're getting the support you deserve.
The worst kind of trans fail is when you accidentally deadname/misgender yourself. Like how do i get other people to use they them if i dont fucking use it myself im crying dude😭😭😭
Aw it takes practice and a lot of self talk but you'll get there. I remember just talking to myself and giving myself pep talks in 3rd person lol but you'll find your way.
That feeling whenever I need to put my signature on something, and my hand writes the first letter of my deadname from muscle memory.
@@rusted_ursa I've left a page in my notebook so when I come up with a name that I want to go by I can write my new signature without thinking.
@@Moo-2310 Good plan; I practiced the heck out of my new signature, too. I make a false start less than 1% of the time, but it always stings.
I hate that!!!! I do that too. It's the actual worst and it gives me so much self doubt and dysphoria. Almost worst than if someone else misgenders me.
Goo Gone is a orange scented cleaning product used to remove sticky substances like residue left by stickers if you accidently leave them on your clothes in the laundry
@Skeptical Idealist use it to remove sticky substances from your clothes
@Skeptical Idealist also of note, it's main ingredient is kerosene, so it's rather flammable/literal fuel.
@Skeptical Idealist early in the video a trans man had an exploding packer and had to shower in Goo Gone. Jammie didn't know what that was, so now everyone knows
@Skeptical Idealist it's a question Jamie asked in the video that you clearly never watched 🤷♀️
my heart can't take Jamie, OT, and QueerKiwi posting videos at the same day
Wait queen kiwi posted today niceee
@@achsah4517 yep
**heart explodes in blue pink and white**
*heart explode back in black, grey, white and purple*
*heart explodes in pink, purple and blue*
I came out as a transwoman in the latter part of last year, and the most awkward/funny thing was when not everyone was aware of it at my workplace. So we had folks using the correct pronouns, and those who were not up to date due to the rotating shifts using the old ones along with my old name. And when corrected, basically all would apologize profusely for their mistake, it was very heartwarming. There's also the boss, who wasn't aware yet, and who I wanted to bring the situation up to myself- but a coworker accidentally talked about it thinking he was aware. He was kind enough to act as if he didn't know so that I'd be comfortable talking about it, and wouldn't be mad at the poor guy who slipped up. They're all sweet people.
That's really cool
Omg what a great workplace! I love it!!!!!!
@Antonio Uh... If you want to waste your time posting shit I'm not going to stop you but... You're wrong
I'd leave a like but the current number of likes is already...... nice 😏
LMAO OK THAT TITLE REMINDED ME OF THE TIME A TRANSPHOBE ASKED FOR MY “REAL NAME” (they said that because they disagreed with my opinion 💀)
I get ya. Real name ? My current name IS my real name, not just my legal one nor the one I go by.
I don't get why someone would use your dead name or AGAB pronouns in any argument-
So they rudely asked for your current name.
@@painslut right? like I'm cis but if a person tells me their name and pronouns than why the hell wouldn't I call them by that? It's really not that hard, I could care less about their dead name, if they don't use it then why would I wanna know? I really don't get it
@@painslut yeah fr. where I live it's rather easy to get it changed (get 100 people to sign a petition then pay $50 and boom you've got your name on your birth certificate) so I'm gonna get it legally changed this summer (to double check this is actually the name I want and also walking around is nicer in summer)
Hey - I’m newly a part of the LGBTQ+ community, and I don’t think I’ve seen the flag in your pfp before. Could you tell me what it is for? Thanks x
That first story about the bf's packer, apparently Jammi didn't notice that apparently the person telling the story is male, meaning the relationship was between two males, and the father had zero problem with that.
Ohhhh!! That's true! I didn't notice that. Awww
Oh yeah
I like half noticed that but “gay” didn’t really click for some reason lmao
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I think he did notice he just didn't comment on it tbh
@@OfficiallySarabi omg we have the same name-
his name is spelled "jamie" btw
You know what is so much more interesting than knowing a deadname.... Finding out why and how the correct name was chosen. Honesty, I've been honored to know a few people's deadnames, but I would much rather know the history of the living name.
Yes! I agree! "Selecting name storys" are the greatest thing ever!
lmao my name-choosing story is literally just-
I was watching a non-binary tiktok comp one day and I saw one of the tiktoker's name was 'ozzie' and I was just like 'oooooo me likey' and I started going by that ever since lmao
@@brvo8188 Ayyy, one of my chosen middle names is Ozzie! I wanted one beginning with O and it was the first name i thought of lol
@@SmerkyRandomised OZZIES, ASSEMBLE
lmao
My middle name is Solar (a.k.a. Sol :D)
@@brvo8188 It's kinda unrelated but Solar is a very pretty name I must say!
I once had a packer that always wanted to lay so it looked “happy” so me and my friends made the joke “are you trans or are you just happy to see me?” I still think about it every time i see my packer
That’s brilliant.
That's fucking gold oh my God
I have a friend who is not trans but does have a "deadname" of sorts. She never liked her first name nor the association of her last name with her family. She at first went by a nickname but it reminded her too much of her given name. She started going by just her first initial and her middle name as her last name. She's a writer so she used it as her nom de plume as well as with her friends. When she decided she wanted to change her name legally she had to create a new first name since you aren't allowed to have an initial as your legal name. She found a spelling that sounds like her initial. She picked out a lovely new middle name (since her prev middle is now her last). She is so happy to have her chosen name be official now. I've never met her family but they deadname her on Facebook all the time.
I also have a cis friend who always goes by her middle name, although I don't THINK she has any plans to change it legally, so it's definitely not an exclusively trans thing!
I also changed my nickname when I was around 15 and have noticed that some people who knew me from childhood have made an effort to use my 'new' name (the stakes aren't as high as with many trans people, though; I feel odd when people use my old nickname because it's so rare nowadays, but I don't mind that much, and like my full first name as well).
Sharing a quick little happy story!
I came out as non-binary a few months ago, and today I told my mom I also identify as trans and that I’m going to change both my first and last name this current year. I explained her why etc etc and she was very understanding and accepting of it. The whole thing did make her cry, but she told me it’s more because she’s happy that I told her and that I know who I am/what I want.
Then after our chat, we went to the mall and when she called me over to check something out she went “hey Este-wait, hey Ezra!” And I nearly cried in the store lol because she said she would dk her best to call me Ezra from now on and she got me cool Lucky Cat socks as a ‘rebirth gift’ as she called it🥺
Aww! That’s really wholesome. Have a nice e day, Ezra!
this is so cute! i hope you and your mom have a great week.
wholesome af
that is awesome! 💛
That's so cute!! My dining
siblings non-binary and I've gotten the pronouns down but I'm still figuring out the name haha, but I'm trying my best and I never realized how much happier just calling someone a different name can someone feel. Anyway I hope you have a great day!!
That last story reminds me of a time when my aunt decided to write a book on our family history to give to everyone and she asked me to preaprove the passage which went " "deadname" now "current name" lives with "wrong pronoun" husband... "wrong pronoun" is a stay at home "wrong gender" to "wrong pronoun" kids." She corrected the pronouns, but she refused to get rid of the name stating that she doesn't want to confuse anyone. I wish I told her to keep any mentions of me out of it all together.
ughhhh that's so shitty I'm sorry
Regarding the theater teacher's questions:
My bff is ftm. Of course, I know aaaaallll about it because bff. So to avoid asking him the tmi personal questions, people often ask *ME* the questions about him. I simply reply "All questions may be directed to Google. Thanks."
Oh that's such a funnt answer! Your friend is very lucky to have you!
I don't entirely get the obsession of finding out someone's deadname, I'd be more interested in asking them how they came up with their chosen name. There is more of a story there.
Its vindictive to try to find someone's birth name
Maybe it is so people who only knew the person by the dead name would realize they are the same person? But yeah, the person whose name it is/was should decide.
I don’t either. I admit I’m mildly curious but that’s just cos I’m a nosy cow who likes to literally know everything about everyone. I have a friend who is a trans man and I apparently knew him in a Facebook group by his deadname but only really spoke to him once he’d started transitioning…so I knew him but because I don’t k ow his deadname I can’t remember half of our friendship…it’s not important but it does get me some days. But only because I don’t remember what I said to him back then or what we talked about. But no matter how much it bugs me, I won’t ask because that’s not right.
And I do agree, someone’s chosen name is way more of an interesting story.
I just joined a support group today for trans/non-binary peeps! :) It was wholesome.
Thank you for inspiring me to accept myself Jamie
❤️
💛💛🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
💛🤍[insert grey heart]🖤
@@katiegaffney4066 I love this SO MUCH
@@anonymouscausewhynot Thank youuuu
Jamie back at it again with the funny trans experiences, maybe there's some hope for 2021
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Ftm story time -
I was recently in hospital with pneumonia (again) and I was there for 12ish days.
For the first week I was on so much oxygen I wasn't allowed to walk to the bathroom and had to use a commode instead.
Anyways i am ftm and have been out for 10 years and on t for 6, I have a full beard and basically no hair but I haven't had any surgery due to mental health.
Soo the awkward part of this story time - every time I needed a wee (which was a lot because I have massive anxiety) I had to ask for the loo and everyone just assumed I needed a "bottle" because of the way I looked.
Which is great because it means I pass extremely well.
But I basically had to out myself every time I needed the loo and tell every new nurse that i couldn't use a bottle which was extremely awkward and annoyed but eventually they just left a commode on the ward specifically for me haha.
So yes awkward because I had to out myself alot but it's also really nice to know that I pass well enough that this happened :P
Anyways I am okay and am home now btw so please noone worry.
I hope everyone is okay:) remember you are loved ♡♡
Honestly, anyone else feel like Jamie doesn't have a deadname? He is, always has been, and always will be Jamie
Ikr, I have absolutely zero desire to learn his deadname.
"«deadname»" is the name of Jamie's twin sister from a parallel universe. In this universe, there is only Jamie.
That's how I think of it, anyway. Feel free to use it.
@@John_Weiss that’s pretty cool ngl
What deadname?
I legit forget he's trans sometimes ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ EDIT: what I mean is that in my head he's a guy and always has been, the idea that he ever went by female pronouns breaks my brain
I'm not trans, but I go by a new name. A dude once asked me if I was trans straight up bc I cut my hair, and it felt weird, not because I'm against trans people, its because he was so blunt while in public
like??? I may be legally changing my name and buzzed my hair, but that doesn't mean anything
That's very weird. Not all trans people change their name, and anyone can change it or get any hairstyle they like. That also could have put you or another trans person in danger. I'm sorry about the rudeness of some people and hope you're doing well!
Have had the same issue when I initially started going by my current name. It is traditionally a masculine name, though I had only known it as feminine prior. Had a pixie cut as well. This all apparently confused some.
My name change had nothing to do with my gender either.
Lol meanwhile I am literally an enby with a shaved head changing my name and everyone* in my life assumes it is NOT trans related
*Everyone I'm not out to anyways
I don't respond to my deadname anymore. It's a deadname, the name is dead.
👍
Good job friendo!
the comment section is so wholesome, i love it.
I had to tell one of my friends that my name change is "retroactive" so no, you don't get to deadname me in a story because " at that time you were still called [deadname]"
That's a super good word to use actually, I'm gonna start phrasing it that way
@@EVERYWHEREinc Glad it helps ^^ TBH I used it in a "playful" way because Cis people really don't like being corrected :/
When I tell stories aboit when Grumpling was little I don't use their deadname, I use their chosen name because that's the person I'm talkimg about. IMO it's the only time retconning is OK.
My Dad does that all the time to his Trans cousin it drives me absolutely insane.
She recently passed away from complication of a chronic illness and in his Facebook memorial post he was like "My cousin Christina (born **insert deadname**)
I was livid. I was like "Even in F*cking death you cannot give her the freedom of just being who she was!?"
@@SjofnBM1989 I hope he changed it after that. Even if it was too late.
can we have a Q&A about just general things? like favorite shows/movies and stuff? that would be awesome!
oo yess
Since I am very passionate in the LGBTQ+ topic and a lot of my friends, acquaintances and my sibling are queer, I tend to talk a lot about queer topics with my mom. My parents raised with the importance of tolerance, acceptance solidarity and to not get stuck in older believes, because times change fast and so does society. But now for the first time I realized that my parents are growing older. Because they have a bit of a harder time getting used to my now non-binary siblings new name (not in a rejecting way) and it my mom also happened to say something close to “That’s probably just because you haven’t experienced s*x yet, once you’ve experienced that, I’m sure you’ll know that feeling.” about asexuality. But I’m so proud of her because soon after she herself realized, that what she said was critical and could be very invalidating and told me that she still needed to learn a lot about LGBTQ+. She’s still trying and I love her for that :)
*now openly non-binary sibling (Somehow RUclips doesn’t allow me to edit my comments)
I've never been here so early, hell yeah! I'm going to take a moment as I watch to mention something real quick: tomorrow, I'll be a week on T after waiting for years with the UK's system and being unable to get shared care. It feels absolutely wonderful to finally overcome that biggest hurdle and that things are finally going up. Thank you Jamie for being one of the wonderful trans people I've watched during this long wait and kept me pushing on through it, I'm truly grateful and I know I'm not the only one. Keep being such a positive influence 💙
it is wonderful that you are now on T, wish you the best 💛
I want to go to pride therapy but my transphobic mother won’t let me. I’m in a very rough spot but I have my friends to help me out. Also, if you’re a homophobic/ transphobic adult who wants kids: ✨don’t✨ as a parent you are supposed to love your child no matter who they are.
Hope you're going okay. Remember, you are beautiful and valid
Oh god that must be rlly bad I hope it changes for u soon and ur mother starts to accept u for who u r
Hello everyone, I hope you are all well. Never forget you have so much value and potential in life. You are a valid beautiful person and know you are loved. Have a fantastic day and stay safe. Also never forget that I will always be here for you and help in anyway possible.
Hi!!
THE Cactus! You are Always so amazing! Take care of yourself, our world need more people like you! 💜
hii! i always see you in these videos! i hope you’re doing ok :)
Tysm :)
Oh hi cactus! New pfp?
dont be in a rush to find a name. i used to have such anxiety, and i still do. but to me names are special for each person. they are what you are called by after all. so my name is different for each person. its fun and i get to hear WHY they picked that name and what i mean to them.
Take your time to find a name, bones.
@@anonymouscausewhynot oh of course! but for some people, names are fluid. one doesnt fit all ya know?
@@3ll3llyyy yeah I know. Wish ya luck.
@@anonymouscausewhynot you too
@@3ll3llyyy thanks!
I’m not out as a Trans Boy yet but my hair gives me a lot of dysphoria. I’ve been trying to convince them to give me a haircut for months now, and finally my mom agreed to get me “evaluated” by a professional stylist tomorrow, I’m hoping I can cut it tomorrow. Wish me luck 🥺
Edit: OMG I GOT IT AND ITS AMAZINGNSINSHINSIHNDIH DIH DIH DXI DHIN I LOVE IT SO MUCH AHHHH
good luck ❤️
If all else fails.... Cut it yourself 😅 And then if needed a stylist can 'fix it up'. I really hate the whole "you appear to be female so you can't *really* want to have your hair short" (and of course the opposite).
I'm a cis woman who loves super short hair and it's so frustrating to go to a hairdresser - at least half of them don't really want to cut it short "because you won't look 'feminin'" and then they also make me pay more because it's a 'woman's haircut' oh p*ss off, it's just a haircut, how is that gendered?!
Sorry, bit of a tangent. I really hope your new haircut will fit you well!
@@corneliaklug9108 Thanks so much, I’m so nervous lol.
@@meisjeViv Yeah! No I get it. For the longest time I had to convince one of my parents just to think about it. They said that short hair “made me look like a lesbian” and “sent off the wrong message” to whom I may ask? I literally told them if you won’t get it professionally cut soon I’ll just do it myself, I’ll risk a month long grounding if it means less dysphoria. It made me seem like a brat since I’m not out yet, but one of my parents in kind of transphobic. I dint think it’s their fault considering on how they were raised, but they have a friend who really encourages it-
Anyways sorry for ranting lol
@@K9883-w7j Rant away! I don't really get why parents think it's up to them what haircut their child has, anyway, especially once they are old enough to decide on other things (like what clothes they like, what books they read etc aka like from the age of four or something...)
Let us know how it goes at the hairdresser? :)
When I saw the words “I love my trans gay son” (around 6:17) All I could think of was Heathers: The Musical
SAME I SAID IT IN THE SAME WAY TOO
People are frighteningly obsessed with deadnames. Either that or they don’t understand that they are DEADnames. Once I had someone say to me “I know your name..... but can I call you... [deadname]?
Okay, my fellow potato friends!
Remember to consume water, to grow big.
Consume food, to grow even bigger.
Rest and sleep to grow giant.
And remember to take care of yourself and your potato friends around yourself.
I pledge to be a good potato! 🥔
Also thank you this was so sweet 🥺❤️
I will take care of my co-potatoes, thank you
@Jolyne Cujoh You have the right idea.
I'm a pretty tall, broad and masculine trans girl who just wants to be shorter and smaller
I wanna listen to your advice but...
Cis guy here. Just made my first skirt. It took FAAAAAR too long it took like 2 months
edit: 1. I was quite big and I ended up just using it as a poncho (I'm from finland and its real chilly up here. I made it way too thick so it ended up baing a great insulator)
2. I have managed to lose it ):
Hope you like wearing it and good job for working so hard on it! :)
Wow nice hope it went well 👍🏻
Sooo... Spinny amirite?
I want a skirt but I know my mom will get mad at me "flip-flopping" (I'm a demiboy btw and she doesn't like how I was just nonbinary at first)
You a femboy? Just curious.
I have a transfail if anyone would like to read
I'm a trans FtM who hasn't started T and I'm really into the game League of Legends and about a year ago my bestfriend invited me to play a game with him and one of his friends. Right of the bat I was terrified of this person; extremely extroverted, a litteral mountain of a person, not affraid to speak his thoughts and very intimidating.
The very first thing he asked me was if I was a guy or a girl and I told him I was a guy which he then never questioned, but I did get the nickname twink and tomboy. And when I said I was terrified; I mean I was shaking the entire 3 matches I played with them and promised myself afterwards to never play with people I don't know ever again. But I got dragged into more games and conversations with this guy and we ended up speaking almost every day.
After one or two months I get a message from him asking if I'm trans and I realise that another person from my school had outed me and my thoughts immediately went to "He's gonna kill me" but no, he was just very confused and apologized a lot. He did know that my bestfriend's bestfriend was trans but it never clicked for him that it was me. I still talk to the guy and now he is one of my favourite people despite how scared I was at first.
The binder passed off as a sewing project one is funny because that's legit my plan when my mum eventually catches me with one.
I feel so awkward with dead naming. In my job, we have to do background checks on people and we had to do a background check on a trans-woman and they made me do searches for her dead name as well. I understood why we had to do it (we search for legal cases and things like that) but I felt so uncomfortable.
My heart swelled when he said "its ok ,i have a spare razor"
thanks for the video jamie! i have been so dysphoric lately and this made my day
Me at my trans friends house: so ugh....* trying to figure out what name to use infront of his parents*
His dad: so how to you and kayleigh get along
Me:ughhh we get along great * looks at friend to see if hes ok* heee-sheeeeee is super funny
I just say they’re for most people and no one notices
Nice one deadnaming your friend to strangers on the internet for youtube likes 👍
@@princetonalec8695 They might have used a made up name as an example. It's messed up if they didn't and hopefully something they won't do in the future, but it's fully possible they considered the fact that wouldn't be okay and used a place holder name instead.
this reminds me of when i was moving into my college dorm and my RA helped me with some boxes. i’m a trans woman, but she mistakenly “clocked” me as a trans MAN, and had a meeting with all the other people in the hall to make sure they called me sir and he. totally inappropriate but she had NOTHING but good intentions!! 😭❤️
3:56 Goo-Gone is a cleaning product that helps get rid of sticky things! I used it to get some gum off the bottom of my shoe once
I'm out to my mom and has been for a long time, so when she reads a news article or something about someone who is trans she usually tells me about it, but sometimes she says it like "[person's name] was named [deadname] before" and I just cringe so hard, I know she doesn't mean it like a bad way but it's just so awkward
Did you tell her that it's not nice to do this? She probably doesn't know better and will stop when you keep correcting her.
@@unbekannternutzer25 uh no I haven't told her, I probably should, I haven't thought about it, stupid me
@@alle7255 tell me how it went once you did ;)
@@unbekannternutzer25 okay I will if I remember! I just gotta wait for the right moment and I hope I have the confidence to correct her
Genuinely just spending Pride month watching your videos as an attempt to deal with the stress of The Discourse. Thank you for being a calming, charming, funny moment that takes the weight off my shoulders for the rest of the day!
Yes, one of my favorite series of Jammie’s! Woot woot!
Edit: And check out that sponsor. Me likey :D
I've been having a really rough few days but this channel has really cheered me up and helped me get through it, even the more "negative" videos. You're just so warm and kind and comforting and it's made me smile. Thank you so much
IF YOU SEE THIS I JUST WANTED TO SAY THAT YOU ARE VALID AND I LOVE YOU
You too!
This is a comment I’ve needed for a while
Tysm
No - YOU’RE VALID and I love YOU 🥳
Stay wholesome and fabulous !
As soon as I read the notification I stopped for a second so I can play this while doing my gcse course work
Same
I told my therapist about you and she said she might check out your channel. She works with Transgender patients and is now interested because I told her how much I loved your channel.
Oof I wish I was far enough out the closet for my public humiliation to be considered a trans fail-
I just came out to my parents as Trans (FTM), and you and lots of other RUclipsrs
Really helped me out alot.
i really like ur hair here !!
Imagine repurposing a DIY packer into an IED goo bomb.
What's a packer?
@@billciphergirl6049 Fake penis, essentially. Very simplified explanation, look it up if you want a better one lol
"and yeah i just hope this video can make you smile"
every single one of your videos makes me smile, you wonderful human being.
Reminding me of the time that, my transphobic family was roasting me about being trans. Saying that I am a man and men should not wear womens clothes. The fact that I do is disgusting, makes everyone uncomfortable and I need to stop or they're going to kick me out. My brother, who is a fairly dispassionate man. Harder to set off than a bundle of wet fire crackers, marched out of his room and screamed, "What the fuck is wrong with you, SHE!!! Is my sister, and SHE!!!, is a human. And SHE!!! Deserves love the same as anyone else weather she's a (t-slur) or not. You're the ones who are disgusting". I was just so shocked it took me a full 10 minutes before I realized that he used a slur. I brought is up later in private thanking him for standing up for me. But pointing out that that word is actually a slur.
I hate it when Jamie’s videos just end so unexpectedly! And yes that is my only complaint
The comments section on Jammidodger's videos is one of the most wholesome places on the internet
My trans son asked what his new name should be, as though I was going to dictate it to him (all four of my children had A.L. initials at that time). It was a sweet gesture (or maybe a sign that I'm too controlling, lol?), but I told him I only named him because he was too young to do so himself, so now he should choose a name that he thinks fits him best. He went with Salem, which I LOVE!!!
I've never misgendered or deadnamed him since I became aware that he was trans, but I do have pictures of him when he was younger. He's never asked me to delete them, but if he did, I'd have an incredibly hard time doing so. It's not because I care to have pictures of him as a "girl," it's just because he's my baby one way or the other and I don't want to lose memories of him when he was little. I don't share the pictures with others or even with him. He's very open with me and I'm about as accepting as a person can be - I truly do not care if my children (or anyone else for that matter) are trans, cis, gay, straight, or anywhere in between or otherwise. I say as long as there are no children or animals involved, love is love, lol! So I sure hope he'd tell me if he expected me to delete/destroy all pictures of him before he transitioned. I'd hate to think that something I've done or failed to do has been upsetting him for all this time and he didn't tell me...
i told someone about my gender dysphoria and they deadass just said "love yourself"
90's platitudes
I'm sorry that happened to you. My response to that is always "I do. That's why I hate the parts that aren't me." But they're usually just a transphobe so the outcome is rarely good.
I have had some people who actually bothered to learn what I meant though.
@@feistsorcerer2251 that's actually such a beautiful way to describe it it's like for me being afab my chest is not a part of me so i love the things about me that are more masculine
So, I'm non binary but I am not fully out yet, and my mom is very religious. One time, me and my two brothers were sick, so my mom said a prayer that basically said "please help the boys so they can get better soon and please help *deadname* so they can get better soon I MEAN SHE" and that made my whole week.
heyyy i have a good deadnaming story. my mom and i work at the same place, all my coworkers know me as myles and know im a man but my mom (whos known im a transman for 3years) still deadnames and misgenders me infront of my coworkers all the time, confusing them and sometimes getting them to deadname/misgender me bc they think she knows something about me that they dont. its incredibly frustrating and no matter how many times i talk to her about it she keeps doing it in front of them
I‘m so sorry, that sounds terrible ❤️. I hope you manage to talk some sense into your mom and maybe explain to your coworkers why she keeps doing that (hope no one‘s transphobic over there). I wish you the best of luck!
@@sanityidontknowher5057 ty princess 🥺, my coworkers all know that im a transman but since my mom keeps doing that stuff to me i think they think that ive like,,,detransitioned or smth. idk🤷 none of them understand trans stuff so i dont blame them for not knowing whats going on but my mom is their biggest source of knowledge about me so they just mimic what she does, even if shes wrong
@@princehowl That sucks. Hang in there bro ❤️
I don't know why, but I love Jamie's voice- It's like so calming, i could hear him talk for a hours or so
love you Jamie ❣️
I love the over supportive dad. That is so cuuute. It just means he loves you so much that it doesn't matter how you identify. You are still his child and he will love you always.
I JUST GOT AN ANTI LGBTQ+ AD ON THIS 😭
NOO
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I have a story that happened last year. My sophomore year in high school. I was wearing a packer and basketball shorts, so as I was walking to my class I decided to get a shortcut through a tiny hallways nobody goes to. A really old teacher was walking to the direction opposite to mine and my packer fell and I just heard a PLOP on the floor. The teacher just looked at it, looked at me, nodded and went "Me too buddy" AND THEN HE WAS MY SUBSTITUTE TEACHER FOR STUDY HALL
I fucking swear I am going to die of wholesomeness because Jammi has such dad energy.
These videos make me smile so much, Jamie you're adorable sunshine in human form.
My trans fail was in a group chat.
So, my deadname has two names, one I don't use and Dione, that I use with the people I'm not outed to yet. I also have the name Argo, which is my actual name. Dione is basically one I'm ok with and won't out me if I use.
So this guy used my first name because it was what was on the document. I corrected it and said "Please don't call me that name, no one calls me that"
And this guy said "Oh, okay.
What are your pronouns?"
And i just shut down. I wasn't ready to out myself, but the question just b r o k e me.
I ended up just saying I don't mind any lmao
Just came out to some of my extended relatives. Watching this and it helped me stop crying. I feel better, so thanks Jamie.
Here, idk I just thought I should put it in here just to cheer someone up- hopefully-
Roses are red
Violets aren't blue
You are valid
And that's the truth
If you think not, well you're wrong
Because you are amazing, unique and strong
I am proud of you and I'm here for you, I love you very much
The worst question "those" people ask is "What's your *real* name?" Uhm.... excuse me? THE NAME ON MY NEW PAPERS IS MY REAL NAME! XD
I've been asked a few times before, but thankfully NOT with those words, it was simply what *was* my name. Still very uncomfortable, tho ^^"
The first time a stranger referring to me as sir I audibly cried
Also, a packer story I had was when my then friend gave me one and my parents asked me if they could see it since they were supportive and everything I didn't mind all that much. Once they saw it my dad was like, "It's so realistic, wow." And they just fascinated themselves over my packer. It was awkward then and funny now.
So I'm nb (As you can probably tell by the PFP) and I wanted the name Alex but my parents didn't like it. A few months later, I told my mom I wanted to be called Kai. She asked what the name meant and I told her I'd look it up.
I did so a few days ago and the first thing I said was "Mom I can be Hagrid!" Kai is known to mean Keeper of the Keys (:
The funny thing is, my name is Alex and I have a best friend named Kai😂
But still, **strangles you with support and love**
Never a better day for Jamie 🥰
I was having a really sucky day today (lots of dissociation, lots of random pains, exhaustion, etc) and seeing your face and hearing your voice was just the perfect remedy for these hard times!
Thank you! ❤️
here's my trans fail story: I'm not trans (and that's the only way you can fail at trans y'all are valid and beautiful and I wish you all the best)
thank you so much for the pride counseling ad too, its one of the very few ads i really want to look into
Over the top supportive parent, my mom has photoshopped my CURRENT, bearded face onto all my baby pictures, despite my telling her I don’t actually mind pre-puberty pictures of myself. She redid a whole family photo album with those pictures... luckily I was able to get her to keep a non photoshopped version of the album as well.
I had an awkward Trans moment today after I had to explain over the phone to a lady why I (a dude) had the legal name of a woman. It was sort of flattering, but boy I can't wait to get my papers back from the judge so I can change my name on all my papers.
I've heard a friend just tell people "my parents lost a bet" and usually the person asking the questions is shocked into silence or laughs and moves on. Maybe something like that can help?
@@platypusdara That is a brilliant idea, thank you!
My first time wearing a packer to university and as I went to the toilet and pulled my pants down the packer flew out and landed juuuust under the partition in the stall next to me. The OCCUPIED stall. I'm panicking and freeze when the guy just goes "Oh, uh...try to keep it in your pants next time bro?"
3:55 Goo-Gone is a product here in the U.S. (and possibly elsewhere) that removes any type of adhesive, sticky stuff, etc. It's really handy for removing stickers, glue, and apparently packer goo. So sorry they had to go through that!
My interesting story is how CONFUSED my mailman is about WHO should be living in my flat, I'm one person, but get mail with 4 different names (a variable mix of my old and new names) I tried putting on my mailbox the two names I will accept in my mailbox, but still, I can see him wondering if he should put mail in the box or not (probably thinking 4 different people live in one flat lol!) I feel bad for the postman... 🤪🤔
Hi so I have another ✨ wholesome story✨
So I was on another channel (it was a channel that reads strange internet things, not much else), and it was a channel that has alot of charities/fundraisers for various causes. I didn't really think much of it, other than a passing 'oh that's neat, they're helping some people' until there was a fundraiser for trans rights basically. I just,, never really thought about that channel in how their position on trans people having rights (which I know shouldn't be a debate at all but), so I was really glad that they supported trans people. :)
The comment section on posts regarding the fundraiser were really wholesome, as well as one or two people asking about what being trans was, people kindly explaining what it is, and minimum transphobia overall.
I also think over $1,000 were raised so that's great as well :D
That sounds like One Topic at a Time!
@@thatoctahedronfan8othercha37 One Topic is great, (and ever so kind and supportive to all of his veiwers), but I'm talking about Luke Correia here! Though to be fair, OT _does_ have alot of fundraisers too!
@@kae41 Oh, I also watch Luke's channel as well. Their voice acting clips are funny.
My embarrassing story: I am ftm and still pre-T. My dad and I were at a hardware store buying a sprayer attachment for our shower head. I was really confident in how I looked at the time because I was wearing some super masculine clothes. Anyways, my dad and I are discussing the new shower head sprayer and he says something along the lines of how great it will be for me to use to clean myself during my period. He said this in a volume where everyone in the aisle and the surrounding aisles could hear him. It was so embarrassing and it made me feel really insecure because he called me out as a female in front of so many people. He didn’t know I was trans at the time but I bet that would still be embarrassing for a cis woman.
Q:What's your original name?
A: Six feet under.
The over supportive dad story made me tear up, it was so wholesome!
I got my first binder! I feel the happiest ever! Ah! 💛✨
Anyway nice video. Sorry euphoria is real right now.
❤️ Congrats!
What's euphoria
@@theorangedinosaur4098 euphoria: a feeling or state of intense excitement and happiness (basically feeling giddy)
@@sanityidontknowher5057 Thanks. I am bad at explaining words and feelings. ^^´
Ughhhh with Caitlyn G. Running for Governor of California. There have been so many people dropping her dead name and in one news article someone even was like "Omg I dont know why they are using the wrong name for Bruce" I was like "if someone changed their name for any other reason you wouldnt call them by that name. Same as a married person not going by their maidan name anymore. Its 2021 and you dont have the respect or common decency to call someone by their chosen name. It shouldnt matter if they are trans or not or if you knew them by that name or not. Once someone expresses the name they want to be called its just kind to quit with the dead name."
And the amount of people who laughed at me was horrendous but if my statement changes how one persons treats trans people then I will forever be the ally who fights for everyone to be respected
Already smiling and haven’t even watched it yet, so it’s definitely a win Jamie!
I’m a cis woman and I don’t personaly know any trans people. Your videos help me understand more and see how much you people have to go through. Thank you very much for what you’re doing. You are amazing.
I wish you lots of love and happiness