*IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER* These affirmations are meant to provide the kind words and validation every child deserves, but many did not receive. 😞This can stir up deep emotions. Please be gentle with yourself as you listen, and take breaks if needed. If you find that it brings up overwhelming feelings, consider reaching out to a trusted friend, therapist, or mental health professional for support. ♥ You’re not alone on this journey, and your well-being is so, so important!! Thank you for being here. I really hope this video can bring you comfort and help you find a sense of healing (that you very much deserve). 🥹💕 LOVE YOU ALL SO FRICKIN HECKIN MUCH! Let's keep going; we got this!! ♡
Thank you frivvi 💜 My parents weren't a part of my life until I was almost an adult, and I'm only 21 now. I can almost guarantee this viddy is gonna make me cry before I even watch. Thank you so much frivvi
one thing my mom has said that I never fully appreciated until I was older was "I will always love you". I messed up in my life and felt unlovable so often- so hearing her say that even after I have messed up and gone through hell has meant so much.
My parents said that but they also said that I was ungrateful and once I said I didn’t want to wear a certain color to school bc I rlly hated my school and the environment of it so I told my mom that I didn’t want to wear it bc my school said so (she was a teacher and I was going to her school the next year for a cte) she said that if I did that she wouldn’t let me go there bc they could hurt her image at work. I was in eighth grade. She also favored my brother and spoiled him so much and if I had done half the things he did my mother would have offed me. Whenever I’d try to apologize my dad would always say don’t be sorry be better and I was trying to say sorry for doing something wrong and he discarded that as if it was just a word that means nothing
I was going so strong until 33:15. But I felt my heart stop at "You don't have to take care of me. I'm supposed to take care of you." Yep. That's the one. That's the kicker. "You deserve to be treated with respect. Its okay to have boundaries. That makes sense." *sigh* ouch... haha...
I hope you’re doing okay. Those words are true, ofcourse! You deserve respect, to be able to have boundaries. You’re a human, and I really hope you’re… well, doing okay!
Awh, thank you for your empathetic comment, @soberbin I'm okay. I just need to keep healing from a difficult relationship with my Mum, which this very much reminded me of. It's a process.
I'm an orphan, 28 years old now. Grew up in the foster system as a teen. My life is good now. I have a roof over my head, and a 4 legged son (My cat.) It's easy for me to forget how much I wish I could hear these things from parental figures.
Man why are all of your backstories so damm depressing. I m just a stupid, overweight dude who is just frustrated with live thats why I watch Frivie to simply let my self go.
about a year ago i received a new mental health diagnosis and it sent me into a really bad panic attack. i freaked out because i felt like i didn’t know who i was anymore or that everything i knew about myself was wrong. but i will NEVER forget when, during my attack, i was texting my mom and she said to me “all that we know now is there’s a name for what you’re feeling. it doesn’t change who you are or how much we love you”
🥺 I thought about this scenario, actually when I said “I could ramble a lot about this all…” I’m so sorry for your loss and wish you the best on what I’m sure is rollercoaster of grief and healing 💕 Sending you my love and a big hug!!! And i’m sure your mom is doing the same 🥹💕
This is no doubt my favourite video that you’ve ever made friv.. I love you, You’ve made me feel so unbelievably safe and comfortable for years, I don’t know if you will, But you’d make a wonderful mother or a wife one day to someone. This is my favourite video ever:) It makes me feel like I’m okay. you’re a wonderful human being and I hope that everything good will happen for you, You deserve happiness.❤❤ Have a good day! make sure you take care of yourself too
I had one parent who refused to say these things, and one that was afraid to because of the other. I'm sure these will be wonderful. You're the queen of affirmations.
please i haven’t even watched it yet (it was posted 1 minute ago) but the title alone made me cry. thank you for your existence, i know i comment this a lot but you’re such a beautiful soul and human and your presence has really helped me through my hardest times. i’m so thankful to have grown up with your support, i’m so thankful i’ve had access to your calming voice and energy for so many years, you’ve helped me when i was a 13-year old insecure kid and you still help me now that i’m 22 years old & a little less insecure but still lost & struggling in many ways. THANK YOU❤️
@@tiliaevm beautifully said and a 1000% agree. She’s been a gift to us and honestly I want to give the same kind of impact when as I get older in life.
@@gmsi7d371 The beginning of your comment is weird, arrogant and icky. Being contrarian doesn’t make you interesting. And the second part…. Is what the whole video is about…. Finding peace within ourselves and being the adult we deserved.
@@gmsi7d371 well you don’t know what she going through who are you to speak for her. By the looks of it you were raised wrong and your comment is selfish.
“You are your own, different person, and I’m sorry I raised you to feel guilty or ashamed whenever you tried to live for yourself instead of living up to your mother’s beliefs and standards.” Something she (my mom) would never say or understand.
the cool thing about being a human on earth - even w traumas- is that every person you interact w or know has some kind of baggage or trauma. there’s a kind of special wholesomeness when people with scars come together in one space to work on healing. ❤️🩹 That’s what this video is. a loving community coming together to share our stories & connect on a deeper level. Much Respect for the love you share Frivvi. We need it 💗💗🫶🏼
@@HectorG-f5x i will never understand why internet trolls like yourself feel the need to engage in videos or comments that clearly dont resonate w you. if you don’t agree or like the content, take the 1/2 second to just scroll past. 🙄🙄
My parents get an A+ but I would have benefited from something along the lines of: It doesn't matter what you do, how much you accomplish, your success rate, or magnitude of impact, as long as what you try to do reflects what you want the world to be. Also plan around wanting a family regardless of how late a bloomer you are. Also generosity (inward and outward) is the foundation of happiness.
I got a performance bonus at work. Later I went to pick up my girlfriend for a date and I told her about it. I didn't explain the exact criteria for it or the exact amount but she understood I was paid extra money as a reward for being good at my job. She was very excited about it but never once said anything about spending. No shopping or trips or even dinner plans beyond what we already made. Later we are hanging out with 2 of her girlfriends and she's telling them about my bonus. Again, nothing about spending it, she's simply bragging to her friends that she has a guy with a job and he's good at it enough to be rewarded with extra pay. She was proud of me. It's something I never even expected from her because it's something I never got from either of my parents.
I recently had one parent break no contact after 12 years and completely gaslit me about abuse and my childhood. I was so angry because i genuinely thought they wanted to apologize and acknowledge me but.. in the end it was just for them. Thank u frivv
My parents are truly wonderful and I wouldn’t trade them for anything, but there are things that I think they struggled to say at times that I really needed to hear. Thank you for this.
You probably won’t see this, but I wanted to take time to say thank you. Growing up, my father was rather abusive and narcissistic, and would always take his anger out on me. I don’t know why, but this video has given me solace in my past and I’m feeling more at peace. Thank you, you’re helping people like me more than you’ll ever know.
this truly is healing something in my soul, thank you much frivvi. while i may not have heard these words as a kid when i needed it, hearing it from you and hearing the genuine tone in your voice made me feel so safe and that maybe, even if i get so worried about it all, everything will be okay. your whole person is so amazing, thank you so much.
This video made me cry,it also made me think deeper about what some people went through and what they are going through. I hope everyone has a blessed day/night, sending lot’s of love to those in need.💗
As someone who has watched you for years, and lost their mother 7 years to the date tomorrow, this video made me have such a well needed cry. I knew I’ve needed to for awhile, stress has made itself a fact of life for me as of late, and yet didn’t know where to begin to wind down anymore. Just a simple reminder of love and self love, and even seeing the vulnerability, was exactly what I needed to remember I’m not alone. Thank you Frivi, you are genuinely such a sweet and kind soul, we are all so grateful to have a friend in you through these videos. Please, take care of yourself and treat the gorgeous person you are with some love, because you are just as important.❤️💖
It's not easy being a parent. Sometimes saying the things we feel is difficult and sometimes we're so caught up in life we forget to find time for what is actually important.
As a guy who went through alot from being a kid, my teen years/middle school years and to now being out of high school, this is needed. Dealing with mentally abusive "father" figures growing up and dealing with it into my middleschool years, and now not seeing much of my mom, sister, or little brother. Thank you, so much
When I was little, I grew up with reoccurring nightmares and my mom would let me crawl into bed with her and she'd whisper to me in the dark while she held me. I miss her a lot, and I wish she could have been here to see me grow as a person and mature. I wont say too much because this is a youtube comment section, and you don't deserve to have that bomb dropped on you. But I just wanted to say thank you for everything. Thank you for your kindness, and your gentle words and hands. You seriously deserve all the good in the world Frivvi. Please be kind to yourself, be gentle with yourself ❤❤❤
The timing of this video is actually crazy. My mom passed away when I was five, and recently I’ve been going through a lot of things that I wish I was able to have her around for. Going through a complicated breakup with my first love and everything, it would be nice to have her around for. This was honestly very nice to hear. (I’m crying)
I remember commenting once before about my parents, and to hear these words that i should have heard on a regular basis, breaks my heart for myself and others that didn’t get this. I was body shamed by my aunt for most of my childhood. She would prod at my stomach during the chubby stage of my childhood. Saying i should watch what I ate or I’d end up like my mother, etc. Saying i had a bad childhood makes me feel unworthy, knowing so many others had way worse experiences than me. So in the end, I’d like to say thank you Lauren, thank you for always being a outlet and a safe space for myself and so many others. And for people reading this, you are worthy of love, respect, and support. No child should go without hearing those words. Stay safe and know that it is 100% ok to ask for help. Love, Love, Love ❤️
As a kid, everything that went wrong was always “my fault”. Nothing I wanted mattered. I was the villain in every scenario of my life no matter what happened. And I built up a wall of resentment as a defense. I am a very tough woman because of it. But hearing “you didn’t deserve what happened to you” immediately shot me back to the first time I was accepted and cared for. It was a memory I had forgotten. Thank you so much for bringing it back
It’s like you knew we needed support today ❤ I’m saying goodbye to one of my beloved kitties tomorrow (kidney failure, we don’t want him to hurt) and I definitely need kind words in these times…
Lately I’ve been taking a bit of a break from ASMR as I don’t like being reliant on things, especially for something as important as falling asleep. But today I was feeling nervous since I’m studying abroad next semester, and putting on this video made me realize how safe, loved, and most importantly not alone you made me feel. What you’re doing is so important and even though we’ll probably never even meet each other, I care about you too and sincerely wish you all the best
yes, please do this as a series. this type of video is why I started following you 7-ish years ago now - it hit home. Even though you don't know me and I don't know you, videos like this have made me feel like my heart has touched with yours, and the things being said resonate deeply in a very healing way. I know they are probably emotionally draining for you, but they are worth doing as you have the capacity. many of us are repairing ourselves, too, and for me, this type of stuff hits home in a way that other things in life just don't.
As a millennial, my parents never told me these things. Showing vulnerability was a guilt for both parts, perfection was the goal yet nothing was ever enough. I know they brought the results of their own paths and we're now working through that together... but this got me emotional. I so wish I was told these words when I needed them, rather than being described as an overreacting dramatic attention seeker.
I was never told an apology. Ever. I felt your message of apology to the core. Felt real and powerful. Peaceful. Tingling. Amazing ASMR performance once again 👏🏾👏🏾
This is so great, thank you so much. It's not "woowoo" at all to me, it's a very valid "tool" in psychology to reach out to the child part of ourselves that has been hurt and that still exists, that we still carry within our hearts. So this is very valuable, I'll listen to it a lot because these messages are so needed and I'm sure they'd be reinforced even if I listen while doing something else. Probably one of my favorites of yours.
im growing up, having the hardest time of my life right now. i found your channel a loonnggg time ago, and have always felt so much comfort in every video. this video just... feels different. its a mixture of everything ive never heard and everything ive always wanted to hear. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking time to do this. i appreciate you
And this is why I tell both my kids, "I love you, and I'm proud of you." I didn't hear either of these things as a kid. Frivvi you're incredible and am proud of YOU for engaging with this inner work. It is not for the faint of heart and can be absolutely brutal. You got this 💪🏻
Aw man this is gonna cut so deep and can help many people Frivv! Thanks for making this ❤ you much deserve so much of this to yourself also. 2 thumbs up from me for a series like this!!! You’re the best
I can’t tell if this broke or healed my soul. I wasn’t told most of these things, and because of that has made me now wonder if they actually cared about me
I have been working through some childhood trauma and issues. This video came at the absolute right time. I love it so much frivi thank you for all you do ❤❤❤😢
a thing i wish my dad someday says to me is; i know i traumatized you, i understand you cant fully trust me now even though our realtionship is better, and i won't pressure you in that process, take your time and i promise to never treat you that way again
i thought this was going to be a funny video like "this is how you do your taxes" or "sexual health is important" but instead it's heartbreaking and wholesome
it's 4 in the morning where I live, and I'm crying. Friv, you can't imagine how much of a mental support you are, you feel like a distant cousin somehow. That might be weird to say idk. My parents never said stuffs like these and as a young women who is lost in life, you are tremendously helping. Love you. I hope you feel loved too, we are here for you !Thank you
Starting off with “I love you just as you are” to be semi-vulnerable I have eczema and have it worse on my feet. I was self conscious about it but just simply hearing those words literally calmed my nervous system all the way down instantly. This video continuously helps me understand the importance of self-love and the power of its restoration. I really felt God through this video. This is a prime example of “words have power.” Love you Frivvi!!!
I've been watching your asmr for years, and I know you've struggled with mental health a lot, so hearing that you're trying to heal yourself really warmed my heart ♥️ It always made me sad to hear that you're fighting that silent battle. You are such a kind, beautiful soul, and you deserve happiness as much as everybody else does. It's a tough battle but we are strong. Love you so much, Frivvi
As someone who has had a traumatic and horrific childhood, I wasn’t able to really get to know myself as a person until now as an adult. I am really proud of myself this year because now that I’m not in survival mode, I’ve really started to grow and nurture my inner child/ teen, and figure out who I am as a person❤ your videos have really helped me in times of need, please keep doing what you’re doing frivy ❤
Thank you for this Friv. I really needed these. I lost my dad a little over a week ago and have been dealing with all of the insanity of planning, tidying up his loose ends, and all the rest. My relationship with him wasn’t always great, but it was always led with love. I miss the guy more than anything, and he didn’t say most of these things out loud even if he felt them. It’s wonderful to see many in the comments bonding over lots of shared grief, trauma, and also love. Learning to lead with love is something the world needs more than ever. This video is one of the best lessons on exactly that.
your eyes look so sad, but we love you too. i personally do and thank you for absolutely everything you did for each one of us all these years. crying to your videos, sleeping to your videos , feeling loved through your videos. i truly appreciate you so much , words cannot describe. ❤
Thank you so much Andra 😭💕 I’m so glad my videos have helped, it’s the most important thing to me and this affirmation means so much. 😭 I appreciate you more than you know ♥️♥️♥️
Ive been going through the same thing (inner child stuff) with my therapist recently (for the first time ever!) and this is exactly what I didn’t know I needed ❤ love to all of you who also didn’t hear these things at all or enough from your caregivers
This is extremely healing and therapeutic... Thank you. Truly. This is very deep, heartfelt and honest - a rare gem to find on the internet indeed ❤ You deserve all the love, Friv🥰🥺
frivi! didn’t know i needed this omg thank you so much and please do not apologize for being emotional while filming!! your little red nose and teary eyes made me tear up too im not gonna lie 😭😭😭
Hey I am the one who asked you about your insecurities on that Halloween night and I just wanted to tell you that you are loved more than you could ever know and you are forgiven for everything you have ever done or could do. God bless and we love you ❤
When I was little, my mother always calmed me down when I cried or got angry, by hugging me and whispering very close to me and saying I love you. Your word is almost same Friv and your voice is very relaxing. thank you. And this what reason I love Close up Whispering ASMR while I'm going to sleep. Oh I miss my mom so much
I love it when you say I love you. It feels so good. There’s another asmrtist (slight sounds asmr) who has an I love you video, but it’s just the whole video saying I love you. It’s like my drug 😅. I’m glad there are people like you. I hope you know many people love you including me and you deserve every bit of that love.
This just hit different. I totally needed these kind and heartwarming words, this was an absolute treat. And thank you friv. Thank you for everything you do, also you're amazing for being a force for good and having intense compassion for yourself and for others. I truly appreciate your existence. Thank you again friv, we all love you. You're the absolute best.😊💖💖💖
Currently in tears as I listen to this video...Growing up, my father was an abusive alcoholic. I had a mom with bad cancer and a horrible father, eventually it got so bad I started cvtting and wishing I'd just die. Now, as I'm older I've noticed my wounds are still left open, and my pain from my father has made me crave attention from my peers. I actually spent about a year in the mental hospital for svicideal ideation. Thank you for these words and phrases, my inner child can now picture life with a good family so thank you!
Wow. I really needed this. The hardest part about my trauma for me was hiding who I am and how I felt, and becoming the ideal person I thought my parents wanted, pushing away everything that ate away at me and putting on a show for the, people and myself. And because of this, they think think they did everything right, and idk how im going to tell them to get them to see me, and that really hurts.
I'm gonna rewatch and relisten to this again in the weekend, last weeks have not been the greatest so I really needed to listen to some much needed affirmations, thanks Frivvi, you're the best 😊
Wow, I’m not sure I’ve watched a video with your soft spoken voice before but i passed out within SIX minutes 😂😂 love your soft spoken voice so so so so much
I appreciate this I was talking about my late mother today she was my entire world, it's not easy but through suffering I have become the man I am today. I am proud of who I am and y'all should to. ❤
I've been struggling so hard with thinking nobody is ever going to love me as much as i love them recently to the point that I've been trying to force myself to be perfect in order to please everyone and feel good enough (especially for my boyfriend) but hearing "You don't have to be perfect to he loved" and "You don't have to earn my love" hit close to home.. thank you, Frivvy. I needed this more than you or anyone knows.. 🧡🧡
Thank you for these. Especially the 'it's okay to take a break', my mother would often call me lazy and get angry and frustrated with me when I was in the deepest end of my depression and still living at home. Even if she understands now, years later; I still sometimes wish she had understood me when I needed it most 💔
My parents are not perfect but they always told me they loved me and how proud they were of me, I always appreciated that but now that I read these comments, I feel so lucky. I hope all of you find in life the love you didn't get from your family, I don't know you but I know you are so brave and I am so proud of you ❤️ sending my warmest hug to all of you
I don’t think you understand how much I needed this, I didn’t grow up with a mom, I grew up with a grandma who loved me, but she as well had her own problems. And so hearing this was just healing in some way
one of my parents frequently yelled, hollered, & criticized me as a kid, and still now. i haven't heard many of these affirmations from them. that made me teary eyed while watching. thank you so much.
I think that the worst part about being a man is that nobody ever says they are sorry. Sure somebody bumps into me in the supermarket they say "My bad man. I'm sorry." But nobody ever apologises for the stuff that actually hurts or matters to me. My folks, my brothers, my exes, my friends, my coworkers. I'm just expected to deal with it. And when I have tried to open up I've about stuff that bothered me or hurt me, I was ridiculed or made fun of. There was a lot in this video that was very cathartic to hear so thank you Frivvi ❤
My inner child is sending the biggest virtual hug ever to your inner child. Me as the adult I am today sympathize with your wounds, heart and soul, and I am also sending you the biggest back cracking virtual hug ever 🥺🩷
Frivvi, ive beem watching you since i started uni in 2018 when I discovered ASMR within the loneliest state I had ever reached. Thank you for always being someone I could rely on to at the very least calm me down from whatever panic I set myself within. ♥
Thank you friv for being a. Good RUclips mom to all Of us you literally help me with my sleep an depression anxiety tysm you have changed life ^_^ what u do matters an does save people Like me ty ❤😊
Frivvi there's something about your soft-spoken voice that calms my world and makes me feel so comfortable. I always try to listen to these types of videos when im studying, or about to sleep, or literally bored because it makes my brain rest. Thank you! You are loved by many of us.
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*IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER* These affirmations are meant to provide the kind words and validation every child deserves, but many did not receive. 😞This can stir up deep emotions. Please be gentle with yourself as you listen, and take breaks if needed. If you find that it brings up overwhelming feelings, consider reaching out to a trusted friend, therapist, or mental health professional for support. ♥ You’re not alone on this journey, and your well-being is so, so important!!
Thank you for being here. I really hope this video can bring you comfort and help you find a sense of healing (that you very much deserve). 🥹💕 LOVE YOU ALL SO FRICKIN HECKIN MUCH! Let's keep going; we got this!! ♡
You rock, Friv.
Just be gentle with yourself too.❤
You're always appreciated Frivvi.
We appreciate you a lot, Frivvi. You're the best infinity. ❤️❤️🦊🫶🏼
We appreciate you Frivvi!❤️
Thank you frivvi 💜
My parents weren't a part of my life until I was almost an adult, and I'm only 21 now. I can almost guarantee this viddy is gonna make me cry before I even watch. Thank you so much frivvi
One thing my parents always told me is "I love you more than anything in the world". I wish everyone was able to hear these 9 words as a kid.
I can't remember if either parent has ever said they love me. They surely have, right? But I can't picture it
Saying it is easy. Showing is another story.
one thing my mom has said that I never fully appreciated until I was older was "I will always love you". I messed up in my life and felt unlovable so often- so hearing her say that even after I have messed up and gone through hell has meant so much.
My parents said that but they also said that I was ungrateful and once I said I didn’t want to wear a certain color to school bc I rlly hated my school and the environment of it so I told my mom that I didn’t want to wear it bc my school said so (she was a teacher and I was going to her school the next year for a cte) she said that if I did that she wouldn’t let me go there bc they could hurt her image at work. I was in eighth grade. She also favored my brother and spoiled him so much and if I had done half the things he did my mother would have offed me. Whenever I’d try to apologize my dad would always say don’t be sorry be better and I was trying to say sorry for doing something wrong and he discarded that as if it was just a word that means nothing
I was going so strong until 33:15.
But I felt my heart stop at "You don't have to take care of me. I'm supposed to take care of you." Yep. That's the one. That's the kicker.
"You deserve to be treated with respect. Its okay to have boundaries. That makes sense."
*sigh* ouch... haha...
I hope you’re doing okay. Those words are true, ofcourse! You deserve respect, to be able to have boundaries. You’re a human, and I really hope you’re… well, doing okay!
Awh, thank you for your empathetic comment, @soberbin
I'm okay. I just need to keep healing from a difficult relationship with my Mum, which this very much reminded me of. It's a process.
@@soberbin Yeah, I'm okay. Probably everyone is healing from something, and this is what it is for me. I know that I am loved.
I'm an orphan, 28 years old now. Grew up in the foster system as a teen. My life is good now. I have a roof over my head, and a 4 legged son (My cat.) It's easy for me to forget how much
I wish I could hear these things from parental figures.
Man why are all of your backstories so damm depressing. I m just a stupid, overweight dude who is just frustrated with live thats why I watch Frivie to simply let my self go.
@zarjohannesdiabolo4530 don't put yourself down by comparing yourself to others, everyone has their own struggles and capability of coping with them
@@zarjohannesdiabolo4530 uh ok..
about a year ago i received a new mental health diagnosis and it sent me into a really bad panic attack. i freaked out because i felt like i didn’t know who i was anymore or that everything i knew about myself was wrong. but i will NEVER forget when, during my attack, i was texting my mom and she said to me “all that we know now is there’s a name for what you’re feeling. it doesn’t change who you are or how much we love you”
That’s so sweet 😭 Hope you’re doing better
your mom sounds really sweet ❤
My mom use to talk to me like this. I lost her in 2016. I genuinely needed this Frivvi. Thank you ❤️
🥺 I thought about this scenario, actually when I said “I could ramble a lot about this all…”
I’m so sorry for your loss and wish you the best on what I’m sure is rollercoaster of grief and healing 💕 Sending you my love and a big hug!!! And i’m sure your mom is doing the same 🥹💕
your a genius @FrivolousFoxASMR
sending so much love
@@xxkrystlee sorry for your loss ❤️
The "I'm sorry" stung my soul. 💔 Thank you.
This is no doubt my favourite video that you’ve ever made friv.. I love you, You’ve made me feel so unbelievably safe and comfortable for years, I don’t know if you will, But you’d make a wonderful mother or a wife one day to someone. This is my favourite video ever:) It makes me feel like I’m okay. you’re a wonderful human being and I hope that everything good will happen for you, You deserve happiness.❤❤ Have a good day! make sure you take care of yourself too
I had one parent who refused to say these things, and one that was afraid to because of the other. I'm sure these will be wonderful. You're the queen of affirmations.
@@thepassivesaiyan3028 I relate hard
@@thepassivesaiyan3028 this has a kicker to it❤️🩹
God bless you I’ll pray for you that’s all I can do to help you I’m sorry your parents haven’t told you these things!❤
please i haven’t even watched it yet (it was posted 1 minute ago) but the title alone made me cry. thank you for your existence, i know i comment this a lot but you’re such a beautiful soul and human and your presence has really helped me through my hardest times. i’m so thankful to have grown up with your support, i’m so thankful i’ve had access to your calming voice and energy for so many years, you’ve helped me when i was a 13-year old insecure kid and you still help me now that i’m 22 years old & a little less insecure but still lost & struggling in many ways. THANK YOU❤️
@@tiliaevm beautifully said and a 1000% agree. She’s been a gift to us and honestly I want to give the same kind of impact when as I get older in life.
You reminded me that I've been watching friv for 7 years now, crazy
@@gmsi7d371 The beginning of your comment is weird, arrogant and icky. Being contrarian doesn’t make you interesting.
And the second part…. Is what the whole video is about…. Finding peace within ourselves and being the adult we deserved.
@@gmsi7d371 well you don’t know what she going through who are you to speak for her. By the looks of it you were raised wrong and your comment is selfish.
Real 🏳️⚧️
“You are your own, different person, and I’m sorry I raised you to feel guilty or ashamed whenever you tried to live for yourself instead of living up to your mother’s beliefs and standards.”
Something she (my mom) would never say or understand.
the cool thing about being a human on earth - even w traumas- is that every person you interact w or know has some kind of baggage or trauma. there’s a kind of special wholesomeness when people with scars come together in one space to work on healing. ❤️🩹 That’s what this video is. a loving community coming together to share our stories & connect on a deeper level. Much Respect for the love you share Frivvi. We need it 💗💗🫶🏼
suffering? the oldest concept ever. comment section stuck in puberty
@@HectorG-f5x i will never understand why internet trolls like yourself feel the need to engage in videos or comments that clearly dont resonate w you. if you don’t agree or like the content, take the 1/2 second to just scroll past. 🙄🙄
My parents get an A+ but I would have benefited from something along the lines of: It doesn't matter what you do, how much you accomplish, your success rate, or magnitude of impact, as long as what you try to do reflects what you want the world to be. Also plan around wanting a family regardless of how late a bloomer you are. Also generosity (inward and outward) is the foundation of happiness.
Love it, i would add gratitude to generosity as the foundations of happiness ❤
Emphasis on inward, until only very recently I exclusively practised the outward kind and pondered about why I'm so dissatisfied with my life. Haha
My parents lecturing me about my future children when I was 9 was something I could have done without. Count yourself lucky
I got a performance bonus at work. Later I went to pick up my girlfriend for a date and I told her about it. I didn't explain the exact criteria for it or the exact amount but she understood I was paid extra money as a reward for being good at my job. She was very excited about it but never once said anything about spending. No shopping or trips or even dinner plans beyond what we already made. Later we are hanging out with 2 of her girlfriends and she's telling them about my bonus. Again, nothing about spending it, she's simply bragging to her friends that she has a guy with a job and he's good at it enough to be rewarded with extra pay.
She was proud of me. It's something I never even expected from her because it's something I never got from either of my parents.
Well I would like to congratulate you! It’s always nice when your hard work is appreciated!
Love that for you!
Seems your winning at work and at home. Happy for you, and well done for all your hard work. ❤
Sounds simple but, “Your dreams and ideas are important,” REALLY got me in the feels 🥺.
I appreciate this wholesome concept, Frivvi. Tysm!
agreed
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I recently had one parent break no contact after 12 years and completely gaslit me about abuse and my childhood. I was so angry because i genuinely thought they wanted to apologize and acknowledge me but.. in the end it was just for them.
Thank u frivv
THIS IS THE VIDEO WE DIDN'T KNOW OUR INNER CHILD NEEDED. EASILY THE BEST ASMR VIDEO OF THE YEAR HANDS DOWN!! THANK YOU!!!
My parents are truly wonderful and I wouldn’t trade them for anything, but there are things that I think they struggled to say at times that I really needed to hear. Thank you for this.
This is lovely. This world is losing its vulnerability and empathy. Words like these are important to hear.
not even 10 minutes in and im teary eyed. thank you for being so genuine with such a sensitive idea
You probably won’t see this, but I wanted to take time to say thank you. Growing up, my father was rather abusive and narcissistic, and would always take his anger out on me. I don’t know why, but this video has given me solace in my past and I’m feeling more at peace. Thank you, you’re helping people like me more than you’ll ever know.
this truly is healing something in my soul, thank you much frivvi. while i may not have heard these words as a kid when i needed it, hearing it from you and hearing the genuine tone in your voice made me feel so safe and that maybe, even if i get so worried about it all, everything will be okay. your whole person is so amazing, thank you so much.
@@farrahmonet2222 I'm sorry but how did you watch the video in 4 minutes?
This video made me cry,it also made me think deeper about what some people went through and what they are going through. I hope everyone has a blessed day/night, sending lot’s of love to those in need.💗
As someone who has watched you for years, and lost their mother 7 years to the date tomorrow, this video made me have such a well needed cry. I knew I’ve needed to for awhile, stress has made itself a fact of life for me as of late, and yet didn’t know where to begin to wind down anymore. Just a simple reminder of love and self love, and even seeing the vulnerability, was exactly what I needed to remember I’m not alone. Thank you Frivi, you are genuinely such a sweet and kind soul, we are all so grateful to have a friend in you through these videos. Please, take care of yourself and treat the gorgeous person you are with some love, because you are just as important.❤️💖
It's not easy being a parent. Sometimes saying the things we feel is difficult and sometimes we're so caught up in life we forget to find time for what is actually important.
As a guy who went through alot from being a kid, my teen years/middle school years and to now being out of high school, this is needed. Dealing with mentally abusive "father" figures growing up and dealing with it into my middleschool years, and now not seeing much of my mom, sister, or little brother. Thank you, so much
Stay strong ❤
The title made me immediately think “You don’t have to be perfect, to be loved.” ❤ Annnnd there it is… 12:42
When I was little, I grew up with reoccurring nightmares and my mom would let me crawl into bed with her and she'd whisper to me in the dark while she held me. I miss her a lot, and I wish she could have been here to see me grow as a person and mature. I wont say too much because this is a youtube comment section, and you don't deserve to have that bomb dropped on you. But I just wanted to say thank you for everything. Thank you for your kindness, and your gentle words and hands. You seriously deserve all the good in the world Frivvi. Please be kind to yourself, be gentle with yourself ❤❤❤
11:46
ouch.
i love how expressive she is and how gentle her tone is. it really creates a safe vibe. thank you.
*Whisper shouts so we all don't get a fright * THIS IS THE EARLIEST IVE BEEN WITHOUT IT BEING A LIVE!!!
The timing of this video is actually crazy. My mom passed away when I was five, and recently I’ve been going through a lot of things that I wish I was able to have her around for. Going through a complicated breakup with my first love and everything, it would be nice to have her around for. This was honestly very nice to hear. (I’m crying)
I’m sorry you’re dealing with that right now. Just do what’s best for you and what will make you the happiest. Things will get better ❤
Mine passed away too when I was young and I'm feeling the same ❤
i needed this, me and my mom aren’t on the best terms and this makes me feel the love that she couldn’t give me throughout my childhood.
Some people might see this but it might not be many and all I want those people to know is you are loved, you are enough and you are a bad ass
I remember commenting once before about my parents, and to hear these words that i should have heard on a regular basis, breaks my heart for myself and others that didn’t get this. I was body shamed by my aunt for most of my childhood. She would prod at my stomach during the chubby stage of my childhood. Saying i should watch what I ate or I’d end up like my mother, etc. Saying i had a bad childhood makes me feel unworthy, knowing so many others had way worse experiences than me. So in the end, I’d like to say thank you Lauren, thank you for always being a outlet and a safe space for myself and so many others. And for people reading this, you are worthy of love, respect, and support. No child should go without hearing those words. Stay safe and know that it is 100% ok to ask for help. Love, Love, Love ❤️
This is actually a very sad video,but thank you for making it ❤
As someone from a family not big on emotion, this is valued a lot. Thank you
same
As a kid, everything that went wrong was always “my fault”. Nothing I wanted mattered. I was the villain in every scenario of my life no matter what happened. And I built up a wall of resentment as a defense. I am a very tough woman because of it. But hearing “you didn’t deserve what happened to you” immediately shot me back to the first time I was accepted and cared for. It was a memory I had forgotten. Thank you so much for bringing it back
It’s like you knew we needed support today ❤ I’m saying goodbye to one of my beloved kitties tomorrow (kidney failure, we don’t want him to hurt) and I definitely need kind words in these times…
Ugh I’m so sorry! Can’t stand to think of the day I have to say goodbye to my fur babies. Sending you the biggest hug 💕💕💕💕
sorry to hear that ❤
Lately I’ve been taking a bit of a break from ASMR as I don’t like being reliant on things, especially for something as important as falling asleep. But today I was feeling nervous since I’m studying abroad next semester, and putting on this video made me realize how safe, loved, and most importantly not alone you made me feel. What you’re doing is so important and even though we’ll probably never even meet each other, I care about you too and sincerely wish you all the best
🫂 good luck with your new experience
yes, please do this as a series. this type of video is why I started following you 7-ish years ago now - it hit home. Even though you don't know me and I don't know you, videos like this have made me feel like my heart has touched with yours, and the things being said resonate deeply in a very healing way. I know they are probably emotionally draining for you, but they are worth doing as you have the capacity. many of us are repairing ourselves, too, and for me, this type of stuff hits home in a way that other things in life just don't.
i hope someone is telling you these things as well frivvi ❤️
As a millennial, my parents never told me these things. Showing vulnerability was a guilt for both parts, perfection was the goal yet nothing was ever enough. I know they brought the results of their own paths and we're now working through that together... but this got me emotional. I so wish I was told these words when I needed them, rather than being described as an overreacting dramatic attention seeker.
i FEEL this
@@alizadavis9217 I'm so sorry. I hope you're ok. Hugs
I was never told an apology. Ever. I felt your message of apology to the core. Felt real and powerful. Peaceful. Tingling.
Amazing ASMR performance once again 👏🏾👏🏾
yep
after having a really bad day due to my dad yelling at me again i really needed this. thank you friv, your videos always help me when i need it
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Girl was trying to sleep amd now im sobbing...I love you for doing this kind of content♡ you're amazing!!
This is so great, thank you so much.
It's not "woowoo" at all to me, it's a very valid "tool" in psychology to reach out to the child part of ourselves that has been hurt and that still exists, that we still carry within our hearts. So this is very valuable, I'll listen to it a lot because these messages are so needed and I'm sure they'd be reinforced even if I listen while doing something else. Probably one of my favorites of yours.
im growing up, having the hardest time of my life right now. i found your channel a loonnggg time ago, and have always felt so much comfort in every video. this video just... feels different. its a mixture of everything ive never heard and everything ive always wanted to hear. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking time to do this. i appreciate you
And this is why I tell both my kids, "I love you, and I'm proud of you." I didn't hear either of these things as a kid. Frivvi you're incredible and am proud of YOU for engaging with this inner work. It is not for the faint of heart and can be absolutely brutal. You got this 💪🏻
I've been watching your videos for about a year now and they never fail to relax and calm me, thanks you again for the great video!
Oh, I can tell just by the title how good this video will be me for me. Thanks, Frivvi.
I love the idea of it being a series.
Aw man this is gonna cut so deep and can help many people Frivv! Thanks for making this ❤ you much deserve so much of this to yourself also. 2 thumbs up from me for a series like this!!! You’re the best
I can’t tell if this broke or healed my soul. I wasn’t told most of these things, and because of that has made me now wonder if they actually cared about me
I lost my mum at 11 years old and this video is bringing back so many beautiful memories thank you frivvi
I have been working through some childhood trauma and issues. This video came at the absolute right time. I love it so much frivi thank you for all you do ❤❤❤😢
a thing i wish my dad someday says to me is; i know i traumatized you, i understand you cant fully trust me now even though our realtionship is better, and i won't pressure you in that process, take your time and i promise to never treat you that way again
i thought this was going to be a funny video like "this is how you do your taxes" or "sexual health is important" but instead it's heartbreaking and wholesome
it's 4 in the morning where I live, and I'm crying. Friv, you can't imagine how much of a mental support you are, you feel like a distant cousin somehow. That might be weird to say idk. My parents never said stuffs like these and as a young women who is lost in life, you are tremendously helping. Love you. I hope you feel loved too, we are here for you !Thank you
Starting off with “I love you just as you are” to be semi-vulnerable I have eczema and have it worse on my feet. I was self conscious about it but just simply hearing those words literally calmed my nervous system all the way down instantly. This video continuously helps me understand the importance of self-love and the power of its restoration. I really felt God through this video. This is a prime example of “words have power.” Love you Frivvi!!!
I have been fortunate to have the parents that do say most of these things, I definitely don't take it for granted.
I've been watching your asmr for years, and I know you've struggled with mental health a lot, so hearing that you're trying to heal yourself really warmed my heart ♥️ It always made me sad to hear that you're fighting that silent battle. You are such a kind, beautiful soul, and you deserve happiness as much as everybody else does. It's a tough battle but we are strong. Love you so much, Frivvi
I'm so happy that you're here with us Frivvi. Thank you.❤
Didn't expect anything to hit, I was blessed. But the "it's okay to fail" got me ❤
Mommy Frivvi Fox is like Mother Nature: beautiful af & always there for her children. Have a wonderful weekend
As someone who has had a traumatic and horrific childhood, I wasn’t able to really get to know myself as a person until now as an adult. I am really proud of myself this year because now that I’m not in survival mode, I’ve really started to grow and nurture my inner child/ teen, and figure out who I am as a person❤ your videos have really helped me in times of need, please keep doing what you’re doing frivy ❤
Thank you for this Friv. I really needed these. I lost my dad a little over a week ago and have been dealing with all of the insanity of planning, tidying up his loose ends, and all the rest. My relationship with him wasn’t always great, but it was always led with love. I miss the guy more than anything, and he didn’t say most of these things out loud even if he felt them. It’s wonderful to see many in the comments bonding over lots of shared grief, trauma, and also love. Learning to lead with love is something the world needs more than ever. This video is one of the best lessons on exactly that.
your eyes look so sad, but we love you too. i personally do and thank you for absolutely everything you did for each one of us all these years. crying to your videos, sleeping to your videos , feeling loved through your videos. i truly appreciate you so much , words cannot describe. ❤
Thank you so much Andra 😭💕 I’m so glad my videos have helped, it’s the most important thing to me and this affirmation means so much. 😭 I appreciate you more than you know ♥️♥️♥️
Ive been going through the same thing (inner child stuff) with my therapist recently (for the first time ever!) and this is exactly what I didn’t know I needed ❤ love to all of you who also didn’t hear these things at all or enough from your caregivers
This is extremely healing and therapeutic... Thank you. Truly. This is very deep, heartfelt and honest - a rare gem to find on the internet indeed ❤ You deserve all the love, Friv🥰🥺
I've been waiting for this video for two years since you posted that question. I'm so excited you want to do a series on this!
frivi! didn’t know i needed this omg thank you so much and please do not apologize for being emotional while filming!! your little red nose and teary eyes made me tear up too im not gonna lie 😭😭😭
clicking on the video i anticipated adulting stuff like taxes, bills, home maintenance, etc - but this is so much more sweet and wholeome :)
lmao
Hey I am the one who asked you about your insecurities on that Halloween night and I just wanted to tell you that you are loved more than you could ever know and you are forgiven for everything you have ever done or could do. God bless and we love you ❤
i can tell this not only benefited us but her as well, we love you frivvi
“It's okay to cry” that hit a little harder than I expected. Thank you, frivvi 🧡🦊
When I was little, my mother always calmed me down when I cried or got angry, by hugging me and whispering very close to me and saying I love you. Your word is almost same Friv and your voice is very relaxing. thank you.
And this what reason I love Close up Whispering ASMR while I'm going to sleep. Oh I miss my mom so much
The video hasn’t even started yet and I’m in tears already 😭💖🫶🏽 thank you, Frivvi🥺
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I love it when you say I love you. It feels so good. There’s another asmrtist (slight sounds asmr) who has an I love you video, but it’s just the whole video saying I love you. It’s like my drug 😅. I’m glad there are people like you. I hope you know many people love you including me and you deserve every bit of that love.
This just hit different. I totally needed these kind and heartwarming words, this was an absolute treat. And thank you friv. Thank you for everything you do, also you're amazing for being a force for good and having intense compassion for yourself and for others. I truly appreciate your existence. Thank you again friv, we all love you. You're the absolute best.😊💖💖💖
Currently in tears as I listen to this video...Growing up, my father was an abusive alcoholic. I had a mom with bad cancer and a horrible father, eventually it got so bad I started cvtting and wishing I'd just die. Now, as I'm older I've noticed my wounds are still left open, and my pain from my father has made me crave attention from my peers. I actually spent about a year in the mental hospital for svicideal ideation. Thank you for these words and phrases, my inner child can now picture life with a good family so thank you!
Wow. I really needed this. The hardest part about my trauma for me was hiding who I am and how I felt, and becoming the ideal person I thought my parents wanted, pushing away everything that ate away at me and putting on a show for the, people and myself. And because of this, they think think they did everything right, and idk how im going to tell them to get them to see me, and that really hurts.
I'm gonna rewatch and relisten to this again in the weekend, last weeks have not been the greatest so I really needed to listen to some much needed affirmations, thanks Frivvi, you're the best 😊
Thank you. Just... thank you. I'm struggling pretty bad lately, and I needed this.
Wow, I’m not sure I’ve watched a video with your soft spoken voice before but i passed out within SIX minutes 😂😂 love your soft spoken voice so so so so much
this is the sweetest thing i've ever seen on my feed, we love you so much and also braids suit you so well!!
tingling whilst simultaneously crying is a new experience... thank u mother fox 💕
I appreciate this I was talking about my late mother today she was my entire world, it's not easy but through suffering I have become the man I am today. I am proud of who I am and y'all should to. ❤
NEEDED to hear this, be gentle and kind to yourself too Frivvi, and your videos always bring a much needed comfort at the end of the day ❤❤
I've been struggling so hard with thinking nobody is ever going to love me as much as i love them recently to the point that I've been trying to force myself to be perfect in order to please everyone and feel good enough (especially for my boyfriend) but hearing "You don't have to be perfect to he loved" and "You don't have to earn my love" hit close to home.. thank you, Frivvy. I needed this more than you or anyone knows.. 🧡🧡
“I’m so proud of you” broke me so hard. I’m 18 in college and things are weighing heavy on me I needed to hear that. Thank you Friv
Thank you for these. Especially the 'it's okay to take a break', my mother would often call me lazy and get angry and frustrated with me when I was in the deepest end of my depression and still living at home. Even if she understands now, years later; I still sometimes wish she had understood me when I needed it most 💔
Thank you Lauren, I really needed this ❤
My parents are not perfect but they always told me they loved me and how proud they were of me, I always appreciated that but now that I read these comments, I feel so lucky. I hope all of you find in life the love you didn't get from your family, I don't know you but I know you are so brave and I am so proud of you ❤️ sending my warmest hug to all of you
I don’t think you understand how much I needed this, I didn’t grow up with a mom, I grew up with a grandma who loved me, but she as well had her own problems. And so hearing this was just healing in some way
one of my parents frequently yelled, hollered, & criticized me as a kid, and still now. i haven't heard many of these affirmations from them. that made me teary eyed while watching. thank you so much.
I think that the worst part about being a man is that nobody ever says they are sorry. Sure somebody bumps into me in the supermarket they say "My bad man. I'm sorry." But nobody ever apologises for the stuff that actually hurts or matters to me. My folks, my brothers, my exes, my friends, my coworkers. I'm just expected to deal with it. And when I have tried to open up I've about stuff that bothered me or hurt me, I was ridiculed or made fun of. There was a lot in this video that was very cathartic to hear so thank you Frivvi ❤
Awake at 340am literally mourning my childhood so - thank you frivvi again
My inner child is sending the biggest virtual hug ever to your inner child. Me as the adult I am today sympathize with your wounds, heart and soul, and I am also sending you the biggest back cracking virtual hug ever 🥺🩷
Frivvi, ive beem watching you since i started uni in 2018 when I discovered ASMR within the loneliest state I had ever reached. Thank you for always being someone I could rely on to at the very least calm me down from whatever panic I set myself within. ♥
Thank you friv for being a. Good RUclips mom to all
Of us you literally help me with my sleep an depression anxiety tysm you have changed life ^_^ what u do matters an does save people
Like me ty ❤😊
Frivvi there's something about your soft-spoken voice that calms my world and makes me feel so comfortable. I always try to listen to these types of videos when im studying, or about to sleep, or literally bored because it makes my brain rest. Thank you! You are loved by many of us.