I appreciated the talk with mama Jill, a lot. and I'm 24. But that was a conversation that my mom has never had with me, and I needed to hear that, even at this age. Working is hard. Being lonely is hard! Thank you for that talk Jill. This channel promotes happiness, but its good to talk about the low times too! It isnt always easy, thats for sure. Much love
thank you jill for that little speech. as a senior in college, preparing for grad school has me definitely relating to katie. as a fellow type A personality, taking breaks can be difficult for me. and stress definitely does not help. it was nice just to take a breather listening you talk. love the vlogs :)
I loved the speech you did Jill it was so heart warming. I went from high school to college and then I was at college for 2 and half years and decided it wasn't for me. Unfortunately my family decided to judge me and saying I failed so knowing people go down there own paths in life without judgment was nice to hear because my parents, some friends and others judged me on leaving college when I knew I wanted to go into work force. Thankyou for understanding people's decisions your parenting is amazing❤
Jill, loved your talk regarding life after high school! I was one of the ones who had no idea what I wanted to do after high school. It was frustrating and sometimes embarrassing when people would ask and I would say I’m not sure. It felt like I was being judged. When I did finally make decision to go to community college, people would react negatively like I was “dumb” for not doing a 4 year college. It took me and extra year but I can say I’m now a nurse and don’t regret my journey to get here. Proud of you Katie. It’s hard, confusing, mentally exhausting being a senior. Very mature of you to realize you need help and take time for your self. Whatever you do next, I know you’re going to be fantastic!
Thank you, Jill. I’m a 60 year old mom that totally appreciated your words today. I’m a silent fan of your family but your words moved me today and it was awesome and I had to comment. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom as I’m sure your target audience (which I’m sure I’m not :-)) will pause to hear your message.
I understand completely over being drained. I actually am coping with depression and anxiety and I am currently working on me which is definitely a big need. My thoughts and prayers are with Katie. Bless her young heart.
*As a mom, thank you for that!! My sister who has older children 21 & 24, she learned to ask what are your plans after high school. My nephew is in the workforce and my niece went to A&M, both different and both great. My sophomore daughter has been getting nervous about not knowing what to do after high school. She is a young sophomore because of her birthday and will graduate at 17. I mentioned the other day about a gap year and she lit up and said that she never thought about that! She said it relieves stress and she said that extra year would give her some time to mature. Love your family very much and thank you to you and Katie for being so honest. The Lord has great things for our kiddos no matter what path He has them on because it’s His plan.*
Thank you so much. As a mom of a junior, even I am getting tired of people asking me where he’s going to college. There is zero reason he has to have it all figured out at 16. Let the kids have a chance to breathe and figure out what makes them happy. They’ve been told where to be, what to do, when to be there since they were 5. This is a huge decision and they deserve the time to figure it out for themselves.
@@kimmayo7251 Agreed. Schools need to lay off somewhat otherwise their efforts will soon backfire. Live & let live always best. Help each student 200% yet according to his/her unique abilities, needs,desires/wants & skills, etc etc.
What a beautiful way to support your daughter!! I faced a similar situation this past summer. I told my child much of the same thing you said. You're right. It's quite ok not to know exactly what your next step in life is. I pray all kids have that support like your and my babies have. I hope Katie gets things straightened out. Praying for you and your family.
My heart goes out to Katie. During my granddaughter’s senior year of high school she was playing high school soccer, club soccer, had an internship in the District Attorney’s office, had a full schedule of classes, applying to colleges as well. As parents, it is our responsibility to listen, guide, and support our children during this time. What worked for us was to remind our granddaughter that the season is temporary and hang onto her faith during the stressful time.
Best advice I have ever heard Jill give. I took a gap year that turned into two year. And figured out I wanted to do military for four years. Through that I learned I loved to drive. And after I got out I started driving trucks. Been doing it for 6 years. And I love it. My advice is always take things one day at a time. And see where life takes you. Life always has a funny way of working out.
Great speech. I had a gap year after finishing school, focused on my health, lost 60lbs and after that year I started training for the job I still do 12 years later. Katie will figure it out when the time is right. She will be awesome at whatever she chooses to do. 🤟
What a thoughtful vlog today, not only for young people but for everyone! Sometimes your cup can overflow! It’s ok to take a break, and reevaluate! Life is like a game of chess. Each piece you play is a part of you that you navigate across the board! There will be obstacles and risks for each piece! It’s ok to take it slow and see what move works best for you…..that’s why the game takes so long! Katie’ll be fine! Remember to breath….and faith! 😊
thank you so much for your speech jill, hearing your speech made me feel so much better about the rest of my schooling years and just life in general. i and everyone else knows that katie will find the right path for her, no matter how long it takes or what path she may partake in. sending my love to all of you 💕
Awww! Poor Katie! I’ve never commented on your channel before. I struggled with what I was going to do after college but it was amazing how the Lord worked things out. I’m now 41 and have had several jobs since I graduated. It’s neat how the lord just plans each job. I love where I’m at and my job.
Jill, you sharing with us your speech will be so helpful to so many Seniors, and Mom's and Dad's. Give Katie a hug for me when you get home, and let her know, it will be ok...Happy Thanksgiving to all of you!
I wish I had your advice Jill when I was Katie’s age. I had to learn everything later in life. Still trying to figure things out in my late 20s. Glad that you are there for her and made her feel not judged. Love that ❤️
As a parent all we want is for our kids to be happy 😊 most teens don’t know what they want to do fresh out of high school . Your a great mum and your kids are lucky to have you . 💕 love from Australia 🇦🇺 xx
I hope that this comment is seen.....Jill, what you said about Katie really rings true for me. I have twin girls that are juniors in college and when they were in HS it was very competitive and it mattered so much to them where they would attend college. I now have one that is transferring because she just was not happy. I have learned that they have to figure out what they want to do and what will ultimately make them happy. You seem to have a great family and I think that the way you are handling things with Katie is SPOT ON! Love from the great state of Maine!
Beautifully said you are such an amazing mother. I wished I would had this incite when my children were seniors. They both attended college,and graduated but it was very difficult for them both.
Katie I have a 16 YO daughter she is a junior. She suffers from anxiety and serve allergies. She has missed over 35 days so far this year alone. Why is this important you might be thinking. My daughter loves your family and has kinda got me hooked on your family also. But to hear you mom talk about stress and things she thought she was alone hearing that some one she respects and admires is going threw the same things she is. Makes her feel normal and not like she is the only one going threw this stuff. So to you and Mom thank you for sharing it has helped one 16 YO you dont know. Sending my love to the whole family. Edit: PS even missing 35 days shes still has a 3.5 average
such a wondeful family, very supportive to one another, very loving and caring parents, Katie will figure it out, there is always solution to every problem, thank you for sharing your wisdom in life
I definitely went through what katie is going through. I graduated early and went straight to college with no idea what I was doing. My parents pushed me to go away to school and get my bachelors so I went because I didn't know how to speak up. I got very depressed and moved back home. I again went back to school and once again struggled and ended up just getting a job. After hitting a rough patch about two years ago, I finally decided on what I wanted to do and went back to school full time but this time it was my decision and my dreams. I made straight As in a program I absolutely loved and landed my dream job that I started last week. Everyone has a different path to finding their purpose and sometimes it happens at 21 or sometimes it happens at 28 like it did for me.
Love the bike. Thank you for the talk you gave us and Katie about college. I wish I had a talk like this when I was deciding college. I didn’t have a choice, I was told I had to go and I ended up dropping out and stayed at the job I was at for another 10 years. Now, I’ve been out of high school for about 12 years and have changed jobs 3 times but I’m getting closer to where I want to be with my life. Thank you again.
Great point about college after high school. Also realizing/ accepting that you can try something out for awhile and if you don’t like it, change your course in life!
Thanks for the lovely insight and reminder to take time for ourselves! I’m a college senior doing a lot with clinicals, club sports, club requirements, working. It’s hard to find time to take a breathe but it’s so important to make that time!
Jack of all trades master of none, I’ve been there. Katie, whatever you do, you’ll be fine. It’s okay to stop and just breathe. Sometimes when you step back and just go through the motions things come to you. It’s okay to not know at 18 what you want to do next. My friend started nursing school in her late 30’s. She’s working as a nurse now and loves it. If she forced herself into something at 18 or 25, she would’ve been feeling stuck and miserable. She needed time to get to know herself and try different avenues. You’ll get there. Maybe in a year or two or five or ten, you’ll get there!
My best advice for Katie at this point is not to think too much about her future about college especially if she's not decisive is to take some time off. It might be the best thing in terms of her physical health so she can recover, that way she can figure out what her passion is. I did that during my time at community college and it did me a world of good because I was at the end of high clueless if I could handle the pressure of university classes and I was applying as a music and geology major. It wasn't for me, later I discovered my love for designing and astrophysics and I'm going to 2 schools for both fields.
Great advice! They really are so young as Seniors to make life long decisions. We also have a senior and it is so overwhelming even for us parents trying to help them navigate the next phase of their lives. Thanks for always being so relatable.
Jill Ryan shows such great appreciation he is awesome and he is having fun along with the family as a whole. Jill as for Katie taking things 1 day at a time and not someone else's time. I was like Katie school, sports, work and helping out at home, I learned take things one day at a time. Ultimately, she will change her major 4 or 5 times in college so focusing on the present helped a bunch. Tell Katie enjoy today for today and cut yourself some slack. Enjoy being a young vibrant teenager with a big heart that you have inside. Cheers.
What a wonderful and important message today about taking your time and choosing your path in life instead of doing what you think is expected or “correct.” I’m a long time fan of the channel but first time commenter. I just wanted to thank you for using your platform to send such an important message to all of your watchers.
i’m several months behind on your videos but the heart to heart you gave us jill almost made me tear up. as a senior in highschool who has no interest in continuing school after i graduate and have always been told “that’s a bad idea” or “you’re young you shouldn’t be burnt out yet” or “i really hope you decide to go to college” , what you said really made me feel better because i’m just doing what i think is best for me and schooling after highschool is just not happening for me for so many reasons and i have thought it through i just wish i had more support rather than having people questioning me and disregarding what i may be going through all because “i’m young.”
I so appreciate hearing your thoughts on asking people what is next instead of what college are you going to. A lot of my extended family had the highest expectations of me, so I avoided them once I realized I was not going off to college. I’m in my 30s now, but as a teen/young adult, it really messed with my mental health & made my anxiety even worse. I always felt I had to have a response planned when seeing certain people for questions like that. I felt so judged & frustrated. It’s great to hear you being supportive of all options!
Therapy is always a good idea for Katie! Even if it’s just to talk about everything she’s been stressing over so she can unload it all onto a professional. My parents have probably lost years of their lives because of my problems…lol 😩 I’ve finally started seeing someone that has helped tremendously.
I felt the same way last year as it was my senior year. I absolutely despised the college question because I truly had no clue where I saw myself and felt as if “I don’t know” made me seem lazy or not put together. I didn’t figure out where I wanted to go or what I was doing until early August of this year. I hope Katie can get herself situated and decide what’s next for her and doesn’t stress too much because I know it got me no where. Best of Luck
Too much pressure, imo. Much/most of it both needless & unwanted & counterproductive. Best to simply look around school systems tjroughout the world (ideally Europe, Russia,,Japan, Australia & Latin America) select the Best aspects/programs of each one & then simply & quickly & permanently apply them all Here ASAP (just like cpuntless nations have copied (to some extent) so many things from us (USA) for so long (1945-onwards). Works both ways, now more so in this interconnected globalized world. In short, things can, should & must improve by looking at the larger, GLOBAL picture. In MY case, it was the Military that worked wonders for me but thats another unique world not meant for everyone. Long story. Whatever works & having options & flexibility is Key, Vital & Priceless........One day at a time. Cheers! :) ☺
I agree with you 100% Jill. When I graduated from high-school 20+ years ago I too did not know what I wanted to do. I went back and forth deciding between trade school and college and I took a 6 month break from school to work and save money for a car and decided on trade school. I took an 18 month Pharmacy Technician course graduated and became a licensed certified Pharmacy technician. I got a job right after externship at a hospital and 6 months in learned that the hospital would pay for my tuition at any 4 year college to become a licensed Pharmacist and I did exactly that. Took advantage of the incredible hospital benefits and here I am 2021 a licensed Clinical Pharmacist doing what I love. I'm sure Katie will be great at whatever she decides to do. She's a tough girl, works hard and very committed to everything she sets out to do.
This is a great story and should be an inspiration for other kids getting ready to graduate. Having a trade is so much more important these days than ever before. So much emphasis is put on "going to college" that people forget about the fact that even college grads need to pay someone else for the other important things in life! Plumbers, electricians, carpenters, technicians of all types, etc., are still what makes this country run! After you've figured out the field you really like and are happy with, then look at college, if you want, to supplement that great experience ! Don't ever do anything solely to satisfy what you think are other people's expectation! Good luck Katie!
Amazing present for Ryguy, nice surprise 😮😮😊. I see more people riding ebikes. Its a trend. May have to save for one. Your uplifting watch you whenever possible aside from the Binghams( This is how we Bingham, Life in Holland Bingham family- Landon has Cerebral palsy is special, Jared and Britt touring 🇪🇺 Europe and Dan and Chelle) as they say, Thank you we love you!😮😮
I can relate; I'm constantly trying to please everyone else, which means fitting in everything and anything in order to help others before helping/making time for myself and I have such pride in making everything perfect/giving 100% effort and if I can't do it to the standard at which I hold myself too it feels like I'm somewhat failing - not just myself but everyone around me too and you just feel like when things get to that point that it's almost as if it's spiralling out of control/you don't know whether you're coming or going and it's hard to just stop and take a break for a moment or two because you've been doing the above for so long you don't know any different. I guess you just need to learn todo what's right sometimes for you rather than following what everyone else is doing.
Will be thinking of Katie ,she s kind of a rowdy person ,but when she s stressed or upset about something ,she's sincere about it. 😊college choices change ,and so do majors. Glad she s got caden ,and listening parenits.😎
I am a college senior and wish I took a gap year to get things figured out. I feel for Katie- it's extremely stressful being a high school senior and its so annoying hearing people ask things like "oh where do you want to go to college" and questions like this. I hope Katie is able to enjoy her senior year with her friends!!!!! I Ur speech is so on point.
Agreed. Gap years are crucial (always have been both in US & in Europe) & strongly believe that great practice should be mass implemented & expanded significantly ASAP both in US & worldwide as it is not only refreshing but offers the person time needed/wanted to try other things & gain extra perspective(s). One can always go back to college later.
My favorite cruise line, Norwegian, is back in the Port of New Orleans, so is Carnival. That made me happy today. 🛳 ⚜️. Congrats Ryan! Hang in there Katie hopefully things will get better soon, the best years of your life are coming up.
The final speech describes what I'm going through. I fully agree with what you said. There are people who achieve the level first and others later, but always will have a time for everything. Ryan, congrats about your gift and drive that safe, xdxdxd.
Got her on the prayer list! I felt the same way when I graduated. But give it to God. He will direct your steps. God led me to spend 30 plus years working to protect children and families from unhealthy, abusive situations. It was never my plan. It was always God’s plan for me.
Made me happy today was this video. I slept in today till 9:20; Walked to the grocery store and spent what bit of money I had. Came home talked with a neighbour for a few minutes. Had potatoe chips for dinner and that was pretty much it. Just watching the rest of the yot tube channels that posted today and it'll be a early night. Getting tired of seeing everything through a fog can't waite for my eyes to heal, When that happens it'll be the time for another eye operation and then repeat. What fun yayyy. Did Ryan figure out how many charges and how long it would take to ride the new bike home? Keep Smiling :)
Love your videos,seeing your nana nana and pop blogging was adorable ❤️ your channel,I definitely feel like Katie too but the amount of activities she does I can’t do what half of what she does. I also feel the stress of picking colleges and deciding on what to do,hope Katie can still have a fun senior year while relaxing too.,loved your speech Jill about college and everything else in life about your health
I struggled for a long time knowing what I wanted to do in the future. I knew college wasn’t for me. I never enjoyed school and was pressured into going after a few years of struggling financially as a single mom. Everyone always told me that college was different and even though I never enjoyed school I would love college. They were wrong. Luckily because I was a single mom I had school paid for because I only went one semester. I started taking civil service tests and now have a career in the court system in my state. I now make more than enough money to support myself and my son and unlike my coworkers I have no student loans. For anyone that doesn’t have a passion and doesn’t know what they want to do for the rest of their lives, take civil service tests!
College isn’t for everybody, I was in the same boat as Katie my Junior year, I ended up taking a gap year after I graduated high school a year early. Now I am in Real Estate School and if I’m being honest I’m still figuring out my Life. I totally agree with you Jill, One should never ask someone especially a Senior where are they going to college. All I have to say is run your own race and for me, I will follow my heart and have Faith in God.
I’m a bit like Katie, hard to say no! Praying for her peace of mind! She will figure it out!! God has her plans and it will fall in place!! I love your family you guys are awesome! Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving from my family to yours!
I took a gap year after high school and I cannot say enough good things about making that decision. I am at the end of my 20s now and when I look back, so many of my friends are doing jobs that have nothing to do with that they went to school for. They felt pressured to make a decision when they weren't ready. With a gap year, I could take a year to travel, have fun, and figure out what I wanted to do without there being any pressure. It was the best decision I ever made. My brother ended up taking one as well for the same reasons. While putting myself through university, I worked at the local pool as a Supervisor and recommended taking a gap year to every high schooler I worked it. There will never be another time in your life where you have little-no responsibilities and no debt weighing you down.
Taking a few years off after high school to find what I really wanted to do was the best decision I ever made in my life. Kids feel pressured to go to college and to pick something to pursue when maybe they don’t know what they will even enjoy yet and to need to gain some life experience before the choose to spend money studying their field. There’s no right or wrong path, only God’s path! The older we get, the more we realize everything ALWAYS works out. Always. :)
I liked how Mike had a cold Miller Lite @Nana’s who looks amazing by the way. I do have a question, do you both like living in adjoining houses in a neighborhood? Luv your channel also. Go Ryan....
I remember how stressful asking what college I’m going to in my senior year was bc I had a plan that I was going to go to my brothers college for most of my junior year. The beginning of my senior year I realized I only want to go to that college for my brother, it didn’t even have the program I wanted at it. My top choice in college the rest of my family hated so I was so confused. The only time that someone asked me what college I’m going to and I responded with “I have no clue” was a helpful was when my 9th grade math teacher that inspired me to become a math teacher asked me and when I said I had no clue she sat down with me for an hour talking through and writing down the pros and cons of each college to help me decide
Hi Donnellys! It's been a long time since I watched this channel, but I'm glad I was able to view this video. I hope this helps Katie because I've certainly been exactly where she is. I've done tons since I've graduated high school but I can definitely say that the reason I'm where I am now is all because of my decision to take a gap year after high school. I had so many ideas and directions in my head when I was in highschool but because I was in school and doing so much, I couldn't pinpoint the exact direction I needed to go. So I took a gap year and I honestly believe any success that I had after that was solely because I made that decision. During that gap year, I was able to finally pinpoint the direction I wanted to go for my life and because of that, I gained so much desire to see it through. And that desire pushed me in college... and I would say more so than a lot of my friends and acquaitances. I got my bachelors early and I'm currently finishing up my last year of med school at Vanderbilt. That's all because of the gap year. I'm not saying a gap year is the only decision, it's just that Katie's situation sounds just like mine when I was a senior and that's just what helped me in so many more ways than I could have predicted. I hope this helps!
It doesn't matter where Katie goes to college or not. She has alot of skills. Katie needs a break from sports for awhile and spend time with friends. I did horticultural course 16 years ago love every minute of it but after that course I didn't really do anything. Never did anything in the 16 years. Now I'm making handmade jewelry and selling them, volunteering to my local town, we won 2 awards this year. Also I am walking dogs €15 per dog, per hour. That what makes me happy. I still get disability allowance every week which also makes me happy. So Katie do what you want in life but make sure you spend time with friends.
Jill your little heart to heart really moved me! I'm going through a very similar thing to Katie right now but just at a different tie in my life. I'm about to finish my undergrad engineering degree now in December and I'm feeling very lost and unsure. I've always gotten super good grades throughout high school and now at university, and I feel like everyone constantly expects more from me. Everyone keeps asking me if I have a job lined up for next year but I don't and I really don't want to start working just yet. I want to take a break and take a gap year next year and try other options for a bit. So my two cents for Katie is that if she feels like she's the only one feeling like that she's absolutely not! It's also much better to be feeling this way now rather than 30 years down the line and you suddenly realise that you rushed into college after school and ended up making the wrong decision. At the end of the day, whatever she chooses to do, I have no doubt in my mind that Katie will absolutely thrive!
That’s awesome. Just tell him to be careful. These have gotten super popular with thieves all over the world. So, just be careful where he leaves it. It was on the news yesterday.
Grade 12 is such a tricky year . People expect you to have all your answers and know what you will be doing the rest of your life . I remember how hard that was . I hope the best for her . I hope she gets to enjoy her last year .. Also , what’s a service academy?
I've worked with youth for over 30 years, and I've learned to ask non-specific questions like, "What are your post graduation plans right now?" Then not be judgmental toward their answer, but encourage them in whatever they want to do.
I was the same thing has Katie was hard worker and I did not know what I wanted to do after highschool. So hard when society put pressure on you. I am glad I choose college will strive educationally and socially. Also took a transition year before college. It was huge help mentally.
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I appreciated the talk with mama Jill, a lot. and I'm 24. But that was a conversation that my mom has never had with me, and I needed to hear that, even at this age. Working is hard. Being lonely is hard! Thank you for that talk Jill. This channel promotes happiness, but its good to talk about the low times too! It isnt always easy, thats for sure. Much love
I love how excited Ryan gets when he receives a gift. He’s always so appreciative and thankful. Never lose that love of life, Ryan!!
thank you jill for that little speech. as a senior in college, preparing for grad school has me definitely relating to katie. as a fellow type A personality, taking breaks can be difficult for me. and stress definitely does not help. it was nice just to take a breather listening you talk. love the vlogs :)
I loved the speech you did Jill it was so heart warming. I went from high school to college and then I was at college for 2 and half years and decided it wasn't for me. Unfortunately my family decided to judge me and saying I failed so knowing people go down there own paths in life without judgment was nice to hear because my parents, some friends and others judged me on leaving college when I knew I wanted to go into work force. Thankyou for understanding people's decisions your parenting is amazing❤
Jill, thank you so much for your great words of encouragement, you are such an inspiration, such warmth and love exudes from you ❤️ xx
thank you jill for including us in your heart to heart with katie when i get stressed from now on imma watch this help me calm down
Jill, loved your talk regarding life after high school! I was one of the ones who had no idea what I wanted to do after high school. It was frustrating and sometimes embarrassing when people would ask and I would say I’m not sure. It felt like I was being judged. When I did finally make decision to go to community college, people would react negatively like I was “dumb” for not doing a 4 year college. It took me and extra year but I can say I’m now a nurse and don’t regret my journey to get here.
Proud of you Katie. It’s hard, confusing, mentally exhausting being a senior. Very mature of you to realize you need help and take time for your self. Whatever you do next, I know you’re going to be fantastic!
Thank you, Jill. I’m a 60 year old mom that totally appreciated your words today. I’m a silent fan of your family but your words moved me today and it was awesome and I had to comment. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom as I’m sure your target audience (which I’m sure I’m not :-)) will pause to hear your message.
Jill, You are such a kind soul who's happiness and care for others radiates through them. I hope to be a mother and person as great as you one day.
I understand completely over being drained. I actually am coping with depression and anxiety and I am currently working on me which is definitely a big need. My thoughts and prayers are with Katie. Bless her young heart.
*As a mom, thank you for that!! My sister who has older children 21 & 24, she learned to ask what are your plans after high school. My nephew is in the workforce and my niece went to A&M, both different and both great. My sophomore daughter has been getting nervous about not knowing what to do after high school. She is a young sophomore because of her birthday and will graduate at 17. I mentioned the other day about a gap year and she lit up and said that she never thought about that! She said it relieves stress and she said that extra year would give her some time to mature. Love your family very much and thank you to you and Katie for being so honest. The Lord has great things for our kiddos no matter what path He has them on because it’s His plan.*
Thank you so much. As a mom of a junior, even I am getting tired of people asking me where he’s going to college. There is zero reason he has to have it all figured out at 16. Let the kids have a chance to breathe and figure out what makes them happy. They’ve been told where to be, what to do, when to be there since they were 5. This is a huge decision and they deserve the time to figure it out for themselves.
It's ridiculous how much people expect teens to have things all figured out. Puts so much unnecessary stress on them.
Amen totally agree, I have a senior and a Jr! School pushes them so hard for college college which is great but not all are made for college!
@@toria1209 some people, yes. Many others less so (both nationally & globally), thank God.
@@kimmayo7251 Agreed. Schools need to lay off somewhat otherwise their efforts will soon backfire. Live & let live always best. Help each student 200% yet according to his/her unique abilities, needs,desires/wants & skills, etc etc.
What a beautiful way to support your daughter!! I faced a similar situation this past summer. I told my child much of the same thing you said. You're right. It's quite ok not to know exactly what your next step in life is. I pray all kids have that support like your and my babies have. I hope Katie gets things straightened out. Praying for you and your family.
My heart goes out to Katie. During my granddaughter’s senior year of high school she was playing high school soccer, club soccer, had an internship in the District Attorney’s office, had a full schedule of classes, applying to colleges as well. As parents, it is our responsibility to listen, guide, and support our children during this time. What worked for us was to remind our granddaughter that the season is temporary and hang onto her faith during the stressful time.
Best advice I have ever heard Jill give. I took a gap year that turned into two year. And figured out I wanted to do military for four years. Through that I learned I loved to drive. And after I got out I started driving trucks. Been doing it for 6 years. And I love it.
My advice is always take things one day at a time. And see where life takes you. Life always has a funny way of working out.
Great speech. I had a gap year after finishing school, focused on my health, lost 60lbs and after that year I started training for the job I still do 12 years later. Katie will figure it out when the time is right. She will be awesome at whatever she chooses to do. 🤟
What a thoughtful vlog today, not only for young people but for everyone! Sometimes your cup can overflow! It’s ok to take a break, and reevaluate! Life is like a game of chess. Each piece you play is a part of you that you navigate across the board! There will be obstacles and risks for each piece! It’s ok to take it slow and see what move works best for you…..that’s why the game takes so long! Katie’ll be fine! Remember to breath….and faith! 😊
thank you so much for your speech jill, hearing your speech made me feel so much better about the rest of my schooling years and just life in general. i and everyone else knows that katie will find the right path for her, no matter how long it takes or what path she may partake in. sending my love to all of you 💕
Awww! Poor Katie! I’ve never commented on your channel before. I struggled with what I was going to do after college but it was amazing how the Lord worked things out. I’m now 41 and have had several jobs since I graduated. It’s neat how the lord just plans each job. I love where I’m at and my job.
Jill, you sharing with us your speech will be so helpful to so many Seniors, and Mom's and Dad's. Give Katie a hug for me when you get home, and let her know, it will be ok...Happy Thanksgiving to all of you!
I wish I had your advice Jill when I was Katie’s age. I had to learn everything later in life. Still trying to figure things out in my late 20s. Glad that you are there for her and made her feel not judged. Love that ❤️
As a parent all we want is for our kids to be happy 😊 most teens don’t know what they want to do fresh out of high school . Your a great mum and your kids are lucky to have you . 💕 love from Australia 🇦🇺 xx
Oh how I wish I had active parents in my life when I was younger. You are an absolute great mom.
I hope that this comment is seen.....Jill, what you said about Katie really rings true for me. I have twin girls that are juniors in college and when they were in HS it was very competitive and it mattered so much to them where they would attend college. I now have one that is transferring because she just was not happy. I have learned that they have to figure out what they want to do and what will ultimately make them happy. You seem to have a great family and I think that the way you are handling things with Katie is SPOT ON! Love from the great state of Maine!
At a young age, after breaking out of school, it is ok to take some time to relax . N think things over. For Katie. I'm a new grandma to miss Little.
Jill I really needed to here that. I’m sending my love to katie and hope all works out soon for her❤️
Beautifully said you are such an amazing mother. I wished I would had this incite when my children were seniors. They both attended college,and graduated but it was very difficult for them both.
My favorite part of the video today was absolutely watching Nana and Pap Pap film you guys, it was the absolute sweetest thing!❤️
Katie I have a 16 YO daughter she is a junior. She suffers from anxiety and serve allergies. She has missed over 35 days so far this year alone. Why is this important you might be thinking. My daughter loves your family and has kinda got me hooked on your family also. But to hear you mom talk about stress and things she thought she was alone hearing that some one she respects and admires is going threw the same things she is. Makes her feel normal and not like she is the only one going threw this stuff. So to you and Mom thank you for sharing it has helped one 16 YO you dont know. Sending my love to the whole family.
Edit: PS even missing 35 days shes still has a 3.5 average
Thank you for sharing Jill. Praying for Kate as she navigates this special time in her life. Love you guys!
such a wondeful family, very supportive to one another, very loving and caring parents, Katie will figure it out, there is always solution to every problem, thank you for sharing your wisdom in life
I definitely went through what katie is going through. I graduated early and went straight to college with no idea what I was doing. My parents pushed me to go away to school and get my bachelors so I went because I didn't know how to speak up. I got very depressed and moved back home. I again went back to school and once again struggled and ended up just getting a job. After hitting a rough patch about two years ago, I finally decided on what I wanted to do and went back to school full time but this time it was my decision and my dreams. I made straight As in a program I absolutely loved and landed my dream job that I started last week. Everyone has a different path to finding their purpose and sometimes it happens at 21 or sometimes it happens at 28 like it did for me.
Love the bike. Thank you for the talk you gave us and Katie about college. I wish I had a talk like this when I was deciding college. I didn’t have a choice, I was told I had to go and I ended up dropping out and stayed at the job I was at for another 10 years. Now, I’ve been out of high school for about 12 years and have changed jobs 3 times but I’m getting closer to where I want to be with my life. Thank you again.
Great point about college after high school. Also realizing/ accepting that you can try something out for awhile and if you don’t like it, change your course in life!
Agreed
Jill thx for sharing with us, it was really nice to hear your advice
Thanks for the lovely insight and reminder to take time for ourselves! I’m a college senior doing a lot with clinicals, club sports, club requirements, working. It’s hard to find time to take a breathe but it’s so important to make that time!
You guys are such an awesome loving family. It is refreshing to see how well you all genuinely interact with each. You have beautiful kind children ❤
Jack of all trades master of none, I’ve been there. Katie, whatever you do, you’ll be fine. It’s okay to stop and just breathe. Sometimes when you step back and just go through the motions things come to you. It’s okay to not know at 18 what you want to do next. My friend started nursing school in her late 30’s. She’s working as a nurse now and loves it. If she forced herself into something at 18 or 25, she would’ve been feeling stuck and miserable. She needed time to get to know herself and try different avenues. You’ll get there. Maybe in a year or two or five or ten, you’ll get there!
My best advice for Katie at this point is not to think too much about her future about college especially if she's not decisive is to take some time off. It might be the best thing in terms of her physical health so she can recover, that way she can figure out what her passion is. I did that during my time at community college and it did me a world of good because I was at the end of high clueless if I could handle the pressure of university classes and I was applying as a music and geology major. It wasn't for me, later I discovered my love for designing and astrophysics and I'm going to 2 schools for both fields.
Great advice! They really are so young as Seniors to make life long decisions. We also have a senior and it is so overwhelming even for us parents trying to help them navigate the next phase of their lives. Thanks for always being so relatable.
I appreciate Miss Jill’s words of advice at the end 🥺 as well as her cooking lesson!
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Ryan shows such great appreciation he is awesome and he is having fun along with the family as a whole. Jill as for Katie taking things 1 day at a time and not someone else's time. I was like Katie school, sports, work and helping out at home, I learned take things one day at a time. Ultimately, she will change her major 4 or 5 times in college so focusing on the present helped a bunch. Tell Katie enjoy today for today and cut yourself some slack. Enjoy being a young vibrant teenager with a big heart that you have inside. Cheers.
What a wonderful and important message today about taking your time and choosing your path in life instead of doing what you think is expected or “correct.” I’m a long time fan of the channel but first time commenter. I just wanted to thank you for using your platform to send such an important message to all of your watchers.
i’m several months behind on your videos but the heart to heart you gave us jill almost made me tear up. as a senior in highschool who has no interest in continuing school after i graduate and have always been told “that’s a bad idea” or “you’re young you shouldn’t be burnt out yet” or “i really hope you decide to go to college” , what you said really made me feel better because i’m just doing what i think is best for me and schooling after highschool is just not happening for me for so many reasons and i have thought it through i just wish i had more support rather than having people questioning me and disregarding what i may be going through all because “i’m young.”
Good morning fam I loved this because you guys are all amazing I'm proud of all of you guys
I so appreciate hearing your thoughts on asking people what is next instead of what college are you going to. A lot of my extended family had the highest expectations of me, so I avoided them once I realized I was not going off to college. I’m in my 30s now, but as a teen/young adult, it really messed with my mental health & made my anxiety even worse. I always felt I had to have a response planned when seeing certain people for questions like that. I felt so judged & frustrated. It’s great to hear you being supportive of all options!
Therapy is always a good idea for Katie! Even if it’s just to talk about everything she’s been stressing over so she can unload it all onto a professional. My parents have probably lost years of their lives because of my problems…lol 😩 I’ve finally started seeing someone that has helped tremendously.
I felt the same way last year as it was my senior year. I absolutely despised the college question because I truly had no clue where I saw myself and felt as if “I don’t know” made me seem lazy or not put together. I didn’t figure out where I wanted to go or what I was doing until early August of this year. I hope Katie can get herself situated and decide what’s next for her and doesn’t stress too much because I know it got me no where. Best of Luck
I love this video. SO much pressure on young adults. My daughter is still working on this too!
Too much pressure, imo. Much/most of it both needless & unwanted & counterproductive. Best to simply look around school systems tjroughout the world (ideally Europe, Russia,,Japan, Australia & Latin America) select the Best aspects/programs of each one & then simply & quickly & permanently apply them all Here ASAP (just like cpuntless nations have copied (to some extent) so many things from us (USA) for so long (1945-onwards). Works both ways, now more so in this interconnected globalized world. In short, things can, should & must improve by looking at the larger, GLOBAL picture. In MY case, it was the Military that worked wonders for me but thats another unique world not meant for everyone. Long story. Whatever works & having options & flexibility is Key, Vital & Priceless........One day at a time. Cheers! :) ☺
Nana and pap pap are grandparent goals 🤗
I agree with you 100% Jill. When I graduated from high-school 20+ years ago I too did not know what I wanted to do. I went back and forth deciding between trade school and college and I took a 6 month break from school to work and save money for a car and decided on trade school. I took an 18 month Pharmacy Technician course graduated and became a licensed certified Pharmacy technician. I got a job right after externship at a hospital and 6 months in learned that the hospital would pay for my tuition at any 4 year college to become a licensed Pharmacist and I did exactly that. Took advantage of the incredible hospital benefits and here I am 2021 a licensed Clinical Pharmacist doing what I love. I'm sure Katie will be great at whatever she decides to do. She's a tough girl, works hard and very committed to everything she sets out to do.
This is a great story and should be an inspiration for other kids getting ready to graduate. Having a trade is so much more important these days than ever before. So much emphasis is put on "going to college" that people forget about the fact that even college grads need to pay someone else for the other important things in life! Plumbers, electricians, carpenters, technicians of all types, etc., are still what makes this country run! After you've figured out the field you really like and are happy with, then look at college, if you want, to supplement that great experience ! Don't ever do anything solely to satisfy what you think are other people's expectation! Good luck Katie!
Your speech was fantastic Jill.
Jill, thank you for that! 💓💓💓
Hi Donnellys family
I love your family and I watch your videos all the time love you videos
That sounds like very sound advice for a HS Senior. It should be fun and memorable.
Amazing present for Ryguy, nice surprise 😮😮😊. I see more people riding ebikes. Its a trend. May have to save for one. Your uplifting watch you whenever possible aside from the Binghams( This is how we Bingham, Life in Holland Bingham family- Landon has Cerebral palsy is special, Jared and Britt touring 🇪🇺 Europe and Dan and Chelle) as they say, Thank you we love you!😮😮
I can relate; I'm constantly trying to please everyone else, which means fitting in everything and anything in order to help others before helping/making time for myself and I have such pride in making everything perfect/giving 100% effort and if I can't do it to the standard at which I hold myself too it feels like I'm somewhat failing - not just myself but everyone around me too and you just feel like when things get to that point that it's almost as if it's spiralling out of control/you don't know whether you're coming or going and it's hard to just stop and take a break for a moment or two because you've been doing the above for so long you don't know any different. I guess you just need to learn todo what's right sometimes for you rather than following what everyone else is doing.
Will be thinking of Katie ,she s kind of a rowdy person ,but when she s stressed or upset about something ,she's sincere about it. 😊college choices change ,and so do majors. Glad she s got caden ,and listening parenits.😎
I am a college senior and wish I took a gap year to get things figured out. I feel for Katie- it's extremely stressful being a high school senior and its so annoying hearing people ask things like "oh where do you want to go to college" and questions like this. I hope Katie is able to enjoy her senior year with her friends!!!!! I Ur speech is so on point.
Agreed. Gap years are crucial (always have been both in US & in Europe) & strongly believe that great practice should be mass implemented & expanded significantly ASAP both in US & worldwide as it is not only refreshing but offers the person time needed/wanted to try other things & gain extra perspective(s). One can always go back to college later.
Such great parents. Adore this family. That dinner looked delicious!!!
My favorite cruise line, Norwegian, is back in the Port of New Orleans, so is Carnival. That made me happy today. 🛳 ⚜️. Congrats Ryan! Hang in there Katie hopefully things will get better soon, the best years of your life are coming up.
How can I be best utilized- Love this Jill! 🙏
RYAN IS SO HAPPY ABOUT HIS NEW BIKE!
The final speech describes what I'm going through. I fully agree with what you said. There are people who achieve the level first and others later, but always will have a time for everything. Ryan, congrats about your gift and drive that safe, xdxdxd.
Got her on the prayer list! I felt the same way when I graduated. But give it to God. He will direct your steps. God led me to spend 30 plus years working to protect children and families from unhealthy, abusive situations. It was never my plan. It was always God’s plan for me.
Good advice for anyone!! You are spot on!!
Daddio is so dramatic holding his chest and gasping for air. LOL 😆
Dr Jill you were prominent in what you said and I send out prayers for Katie. I love the bike Ryan got
Made me happy today was this video. I slept in today till 9:20; Walked to the grocery store and spent what bit of money I had. Came home talked with a neighbour for a few minutes. Had potatoe chips for dinner and that was pretty much it. Just watching the rest of the yot tube channels that posted today and it'll be a early night. Getting tired of seeing everything through a fog can't waite for my eyes to heal, When that happens it'll be the time for another eye operation and then repeat. What fun yayyy. Did Ryan figure out how many charges and how long it would take to ride the new bike home? Keep Smiling :)
Yes Jill!! Say it louder 🎉 I have a Junior in high school and the pressure that’s out on them is crazy.
Love your videos,seeing your nana nana and pop blogging was adorable ❤️ your channel,I definitely feel like Katie too but the amount of activities she does I can’t do what half of what she does. I also feel the stress of picking colleges and deciding on what to do,hope Katie can still have a fun senior year while relaxing too.,loved your speech Jill about college and everything else in life about your health
I struggled for a long time knowing what I wanted to do in the future. I knew college wasn’t for me. I never enjoyed school and was pressured into going after a few years of struggling financially as a single mom. Everyone always told me that college was different and even though I never enjoyed school I would love college. They were wrong. Luckily because I was a single mom I had school paid for because I only went one semester. I started taking civil service tests and now have a career in the court system in my state. I now make more than enough money to support myself and my son and unlike my coworkers I have no student loans. For anyone that doesn’t have a passion and doesn’t know what they want to do for the rest of their lives, take civil service tests!
Thank you Jill for your little speel so helpful and needed love this !!
College isn’t for everybody, I was in the same boat as Katie my Junior year, I ended up taking a gap year after I graduated high school a year early. Now I am in Real Estate School and if I’m being honest I’m still figuring out my Life. I totally agree with you Jill, One should never ask someone especially a Senior where are they going to college. All I have to say is run your own race and for me, I will follow my heart and have Faith in God.
I’m a bit like Katie, hard to say no! Praying for her peace of mind! She will figure it out!! God has her plans and it will fall in place!! I love your family you guys are awesome! Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving from my family to yours!
You are a great mom 🌟
I just love your family so much! Please consider helmets! Your brains are too smart to break.,
I took a gap year after high school and I cannot say enough good things about making that decision. I am at the end of my 20s now and when I look back, so many of my friends are doing jobs that have nothing to do with that they went to school for. They felt pressured to make a decision when they weren't ready. With a gap year, I could take a year to travel, have fun, and figure out what I wanted to do without there being any pressure. It was the best decision I ever made. My brother ended up taking one as well for the same reasons. While putting myself through university, I worked at the local pool as a Supervisor and recommended taking a gap year to every high schooler I worked it. There will never be another time in your life where you have little-no responsibilities and no debt weighing you down.
I was so thankfully. That we are home safe....💜💜💜💜
Taking a few years off after high school to find what I really wanted to do was the best decision I ever made in my life. Kids feel pressured to go to college and to pick something to pursue when maybe they don’t know what they will even enjoy yet and to need to gain some life experience before the choose to spend money studying their field. There’s no right or wrong path, only God’s path! The older we get, the more we realize everything ALWAYS works out. Always. :)
Graduations 🎉I am so excited😃 for Rya🙍♂️ new 🚴Electric bicycle 🚴
I liked how Mike had a cold Miller Lite @Nana’s who looks amazing by the way. I do have a question, do you both like living in adjoining houses in a neighborhood? Luv your channel also. Go Ryan....
I remember how stressful asking what college I’m going to in my senior year was bc I had a plan that I was going to go to my brothers college for most of my junior year. The beginning of my senior year I realized I only want to go to that college for my brother, it didn’t even have the program I wanted at it. My top choice in college the rest of my family hated so I was so confused. The only time that someone asked me what college I’m going to and I responded with “I have no clue” was a helpful was when my 9th grade math teacher that inspired me to become a math teacher asked me and when I said I had no clue she sat down with me for an hour talking through and writing down the pros and cons of each college to help me decide
What a reaction legend Ryan hope you enjoyed the bike and golf
What made me happy is going to the zoo for Wild Lights.
Hi Donnellys! It's been a long time since I watched this channel, but I'm glad I was able to view this video. I hope this helps Katie because I've certainly been exactly where she is. I've done tons since I've graduated high school but I can definitely say that the reason I'm where I am now is all because of my decision to take a gap year after high school. I had so many ideas and directions in my head when I was in highschool but because I was in school and doing so much, I couldn't pinpoint the exact direction I needed to go. So I took a gap year and I honestly believe any success that I had after that was solely because I made that decision. During that gap year, I was able to finally pinpoint the direction I wanted to go for my life and because of that, I gained so much desire to see it through. And that desire pushed me in college... and I would say more so than a lot of my friends and acquaitances. I got my bachelors early and I'm currently finishing up my last year of med school at Vanderbilt. That's all because of the gap year. I'm not saying a gap year is the only decision, it's just that Katie's situation sounds just like mine when I was a senior and that's just what helped me in so many more ways than I could have predicted. I hope this helps!
I’m 26 and very satisfied with my life path but the ending of this video still lit me up
It doesn't matter where Katie goes to college or not. She has alot of skills. Katie needs a break from sports for awhile and spend time with friends.
I did horticultural course 16 years ago love every minute of it but after that course I didn't really do anything. Never did anything in the 16 years. Now I'm making handmade jewelry and selling them, volunteering to my local town, we won 2 awards this year. Also I am walking dogs €15 per dog, per hour. That what makes me happy. I still get disability allowance every week which also makes me happy. So Katie do what you want in life but make sure you spend time with friends.
Jill your little heart to heart really moved me! I'm going through a very similar thing to Katie right now but just at a different tie in my life. I'm about to finish my undergrad engineering degree now in December and I'm feeling very lost and unsure. I've always gotten super good grades throughout high school and now at university, and I feel like everyone constantly expects more from me. Everyone keeps asking me if I have a job lined up for next year but I don't and I really don't want to start working just yet. I want to take a break and take a gap year next year and try other options for a bit. So my two cents for Katie is that if she feels like she's the only one feeling like that she's absolutely not! It's also much better to be feeling this way now rather than 30 years down the line and you suddenly realise that you rushed into college after school and ended up making the wrong decision. At the end of the day, whatever she chooses to do, I have no doubt in my mind that Katie will absolutely thrive!
Awesome advice from Jill! Awesome bike! Awesome vlog! 😁👍
That’s awesome. Just tell him to be careful. These have gotten super popular with thieves all over the world. So, just be careful where he leaves it. It was on the news yesterday.
Grade 12 is such a tricky year . People expect you to have all your answers and know what you will be doing the rest of your life . I remember how hard that was . I hope the best for her . I hope she gets to enjoy her last year ..
Also , what’s a service academy?
Coast guard, naval academy…etc
LOL I THOUGHT HE WAS THE WICKED WITCH OF THE EAST!
I've worked with youth for over 30 years, and I've learned to ask non-specific questions like, "What are your post graduation plans right now?" Then not be judgmental toward their answer, but encourage them in whatever they want to do.
I was the same thing has Katie was hard worker and I did not know what I wanted to do after highschool. So hard when society put pressure on you. I am glad I choose college will strive educationally and socially. Also took a transition year before college. It was huge help mentally.
Nice bike. Two things I know he is past the age for a helmet but with a new bike he might want to consider it. The other is a real good lock.
OMG NAN AND PAP’S HOUSE I MISSED THEIR HOUSE
You should have got him a Helmet
God Bless Family
Congratulations for the bike ryan