Road To Recovery: A Truck Driver's Battle With Mental Health
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- Опубликовано: 1 фев 2024
- Where have I been? What happened? Am I okay? More specifically is Dakota okay?
In short yes we are fine. We are still trucking. This video is meant to really pay respects to not just my struggles, but to all those truck drivers out there also struggling. I know many are just holding it in and acting strong, but I hope I can speak to your heart with this video.
We aren’t alone. We isolate ourselves. Let’s try to do better.
Trucking and its toll on mental health is not something that should be looked over. The damage you can take on is severe if you don’t protect and manage your mental health.
There is help out there if you need it.
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P.S. Please don't delete your videos, I always enjoy watching them, especially the ones with the wonderful landscape shots or your adventures on the road. Your live videos from 2022 were also great! Please don't delete them.
PSS. Speaking of snakes never reach your hand inside a tire laying on the ground! Ditto turning something over laying on the ground with your hand! It won't just ruin your day but could ruin your career, or worse.
@@dantimber Hmm as someone from Australia our dogs always sense and find and know where snakes are before we do and am sure her dog would of found it first and given a idea of it.
Depends if her and her dog have worked together finding snakes etc as to if she would know it found something too,
But if you have no dog yes taking more care is very smart, Australia we have red back spider issues in tyres laying around we need to be careful of.
You don't know how many people you might have saved by being so open, and vulnerable. I'll be thinking of you! Thank you for the beautiful views. Stay safe out there. :-)
I hope at least a few seek the help they need and a few more consider taking a look at how they feel more closely ❤️
@@ShelbyHBTM You are one of my favorite channels Wish you the best You make the life of a trucker very interesting And, the ONLY trucking channel I will ever watch I'm into ships and trains never got to do either one the crews are getting smaller train crews are down to 1 -2 And, the merchant industry isn't want it was like back in the old days Loved your ferry vids :) Love ALL your vids For years I look at the trailers on the road to see the company name like E B Hunt or where it came from like COSCO which is China Ocean Shipping CO Am a subscriber
Sometimes in life all you need is somebody to open up and realize hey there's other people out there like me does a lot of times when you're lonely sad depressed you think it's only you
I'm jeff I love your video can you drive wiith your black flats touching the gas
Loveyou
If you tube presents awards for best cinematography you would win hands down! Welcome back.
Shelby, my wife and I have followed your videos for years and love them. We really love to see your interaction with Dakota, your driving buddy/security officer. Remember that your not alone in your struggles and the more you share of the "trucking life" only helps all to understand the challenges that are faced in this industry. Nothing happens without trucks - no food, no products, no fuels - no anything! Truckers are like "Captains of the Road". Their Trucks are like a boat on the sea, with a very limited crew. Dakota is your first mate, but who is doing your filming (a deck hand). LoL Wonderful videos, we live in Bullhead City AZ about 30 miles west of Kingman. Please keep fighting the good fight and you will win!
Very well said Dido… don't give up!!!
So Well put "Old Guy"
@The_Oldguy Hello from Bullhead here on the parkway..
Wow it’s been almost a year. Glad to see you’re ok.
I’m a retired Truck Driver after 26 years OTR. I’m Glad to be home safely relaxing and working on my projects.
Trucking is stressful at times.
I remember the guy who trained me said “There will be times when you will want to cry!” He was correct!
Trucking can be very stressful that's for sure.
I have been trucking for 45 year's but you always have to keep people around you that have positive energy.
There is a fine line between adventure and ordeal , but always look for the adventure.
Mistakes are part of the job and just look at them figuring out how not to do it .
Find a handful of people in the trucking industry that you can trust.
I have life long friends that I have trucked with that you can call and ( talk you off the ledge ) when things are not going well.
Always remember that beautiful sun rise or sunset you seen and don't let the WTF stuff ruin your day.
You have done things in life most people just talk about.
Always stay positive.
Perfectly said
Much respect for your 45 years. Im at 32, just before the start of the CDL. Thank you for your service.
You took the thoughts right out of my head i been trucking for only 10 years now but many many hours behind the wheel and i have two or three people i know if i need to call them usually no matter the time they will pick up an let me ramble my thoughts or tell me tomorrow is another day when stuff hits the fan and feels like nothing goes right
@@someguysfishing
I don't think I would still be trucking if it wasn't for my other friends that are trucking also.
It's kinda a support group that knows that it's like out on the road. Like you said you can call them or they can call you anytime and just talk .
I just gotta say that you were one of the RUclips drivers that encouraged me to become a CDL A driver almost four years ago. I can remember when your channel was just called “Shelby”. I’ve been driving since 2020, and I do understand all the trials and tribulations that are entailed with truck driving. I appreciate you and your videos. Thank you!❤
I always tell people trucking is bitter sweet and like a abusive relationship
This video could not have came at a better time for me. It helps to know I’m not the only one who is struggling with the emotional turmoil that comes with trucking. Trucking is very rewarding but it can also completely shatter you if your not careful. I am currently about to take a year off of trucking for myself after 8 years…because trucking is is killing my mental. But I love trucking so I’ll be back. So glad your doing better…thanks for this video..❤
We are certainly a masochistic bunch aren't we. Lol. Ain't a trucker out there who isn't brand new (I specify cuz every rookie is super pumped off the hop but a couple years in you start to understand the hate part of the love/hate relationship lol) who doesn't have a love hate relationship with this profession. All the best my friend, take care of yourself!
It’s the push and pull. That’s the toxic bit. Not sure if we are chasing something imagined or something we love and put up with all that comes with.
@@ShelbyHBTM I fall into the 2nd camp. I do genuinely love this job. 3 years in myself and although the honeymoon phase ended around 1 year mark for me the last 2 years have still been extremely rewarding. I have way more good days than bad. BUT that being said, the little things add up enough that when I have a bad day I REALLY have a bad day like mentally off the rails kinda day where every small thing feels like someone just murdered my family. Basically my highs are HIGH and my lows are LOW there's not much in between. Blessed enough though that I have way more high/great days than low/bad days. But you really spoke to me though about the mental health side as realistically even though there's more good days than bad days, if my bad days cause me to completely go off my rocker that's an obvious sign I have a lot going on deeper that needs to be addressed. My patience on my bad days is non-existent. Shelby you really are a great person and following your journey has always been great we are all grateful you brought up the mental health topic more in depth as it's something that doesn't get enough attention in this industry!
@@ShelbyHBTM i am a huge fan of you and your dog and I love watching your trucking videos on your RUclips channel
@@ShelbyHBTM I agree…this is exactly how I feel about it…
Mental health for drivers is huge. You helped me realize that stopping and "smelling the roses" is something we all should do. Also, the benefits of a "traveling companion," especially a dog could help all drivers with safety and companionship could help sole the problems associated with mental health and the over population of dogs in the shelter situations. Thank you for your openness and sharing this crucial part of trucking.
On the dog comment, I say companies that don't allow pets, don't care about their drivers, plain and simple. You wanna charge a deposit to drivers due to cleanup and damage risks sure. But to outright not allow pets is a red flag for me in a company who have no clue what being on the road is really like and run by desk jockeys who have never been over the road. I have a dog and am thankful to be with a company who is very supportive of pets and actually encourages drivers to get them as they know how much our pets keep us sane.
I have been trucking 36 years and I can tell you this job is not for the weak but I must say you have done a good job and don't worry it gets to everyone at some point . Remember you health is more important than the job . Take care and be safe .
Wow, 2 drivers with more time than me in 1 day. Im at 32. Cheers driver!
Shelby !!!!!!! Me and my wife are still trucking . 4 Yrs ago you inspired us to take the leap. We look for you all the time . We are on 80 just left Salt Lake City headed to Pa .
I’ll be heading across 80 in the next few days. I’ll be around still doing my thing
@@ShelbyHBTM we was so happy to hear from you . Your video really hit home for us . As we also have had very difficult life’s. We actually discussed the possibility of getting some counseling. Our life’s growing up was filled with cruel and toxic people. We both feel that we rescued each other . Keep your head up and keep trucking.
What shoes do you wear when you drive
@@Jeffrey-xs3px ariat ropers why ! What does that have to do with it ahh I get it you want to no if I wear flip flops . Nope but this 260 pound NC mountain boy loves to go around wearing nothing but my bib overhauls . Driving for 25yrs
Married to my high school sweetheart. What about you ? Jeffrey !
I love your video of you
As an injured longhaul OTR driver, your videos have always brought me hope. My biggest hurdle right now is my mental health but as you said, we are all in it together. The attitude of gratitude has gotten me this far in my recovery. I'll be back to all the places you were in this video. I miss it so much. Safe travels to you and Dakota and your support team. (I honestly hoped you would make a vid about mental health- I would like to contribute one day if we ever cross paths).
I wish you the best. Thank you for dropping into the comments 💛
Same here! I'm an injured long haul driver, i was injured 2 years ago. My doctor informed me about 5 months ago that i won't be able to return to the job i was doing. I drove OTR for 32+ years!
❤ ( U. SHOULD. GET. A. PROHEATER. INSTALLED. ON. TRUCK. -- SO. U. DONT. HAVE. TO. IDLE. [ FOR. INTERNAL. HEAT. IN. CAB. ) !!! ❤ .
I as a driver experienced isolation and loneliness. Trucking for me was a job I loved. Here today gone tomorrow. Yup it was stressful at times and there were times I would freak out. Even today at 71 I want to go back out. There is a very big truth in you can take the driver out of the truck but you can’t take the truck out of the driver. Once you get diesel in your vains, it keeps calling you, as it does that to me all the time. Trucking is tuff on drivers, it spits them out regularly. You my dear I have always loved your videos. Your special in my eyes. Maybe run with someone you like. But please keep getting help.
Get help with the things that are dragging you down
I can see it in your eyes and your facial expressions . I was much the same so I recognize it in others. If you need to talk reach out. I am here for a fellow driver. Thank you for posting. Have a great and a safe day. Happy trails to you. D..
My dad was a long haul trucker in the 70’s and 80’s. He suffered with mental health issues really bad and didn’t get help, mostly because it was a taboo topic. Thanks for being transparent as you could to help others, that’s very kind of you to touch a sensitive topic.
This is the first video of yours I’ve seen - and woah. The fact that you’re able to meet your delivery times while also filming yourself and so many unique compositions - impressed is an understatement. Mad respect. New sub 🤍
You make me smile and laugh. I drove in the late 70s on the east coast
I drove an old cab over kw
Black on black with no ac
I am an air force veteran going through hard times now
Thank you for your Service - Lets get Shelby to the RUclips ... and better supportive platforms she deserves to be part of! I hope in my crouds her numbers will make a tangable difference to her bank account ... she (you Shelby) is just such a Natural friend that draws us in for more ... TO TEACH US PATIENCE when times get too tough for her to post ...
Good to see you again, Happy. I was just watching a sad video from Big Rig Becca....her company decided flatbedding wasn't their bag and shut it down leaving her wondering what to do next. I recommended team driving with a friend and actually having time to stop sometimes and have fun.
I forgot to say I'm glad to see Dakota happy and healthy....I was afraid something really bad happened when you said she got hurt and then you kind of disappeared.
For anyone thinking they want to "see the country!" in a truck....it's not like what they say in the brochures;....most of the time trucking is like riding a seesaw by yourself.
I completely agree with that last statement 😅
I am a former semi driver myself. I am going to try and drive a dump truck, but I am not sure if I can. I’m in menopause, and I never fully wake up. I start orientation on March 12 th. I will try not sure what my future holds? And I was dumped by a guy friend last Friday just a very heartless man.
Good luck with your driving. I’ve been in your shoes with my late in heaven Richard. We drove team all 48 states.
GOOD. LUCK. TO. U. MAM. , FELLOW. DRIVER. ❤❤❤! .
You got a new camera person. Yay!! Lucky person. 🙂 Hope you and Dakota are doing good. You look Great. Welcome back. We missed you. ❤ Keep on keeping on. 🕺
You are awesome. You appear to handle the unhook like a professional. It didn’t look dorky at all.
Not possible for Shelby to ever look dorky. You are one impressive person !
lol I beg to differ. But to each their own, thank you ☺️
Dorky is the new Gorgeous.
You're an inspiration and I'm sorry to hear you've struggled Shelby. Thank you for being brave and willing to share this. Wishing you nothing but the best whatever you decide to pursue.
The camera angles, the views, the editing, music choice... Amazing!! You are clearly an inspiration for many people in the trade and just regular folks like me. Your aura, the look in your eyes, your honesty, and just being real in front of the camera. The whole thing put together is truly therapeutic. DON'T stop making these videos. I kinda hope someday I could run into you and thank you in person for what you do and maybe we could share in the consumption of adult beverages...😇
Thanks for sharing, I needed this!
Thanks for sharing, Shelby. You’re helping people you’ll never meet or know. 🎉
I'm so glad your back and feeling at peace now. Thank you so much for sharing your love/hate journey with us . Know that you are very appreciated by this rookie trucker :)..... "love/hate" is the perfect way to describe this profession. Be safe out there.
Keep at it. Don’t let the industry take you down. But at the same time listen to your heart and body. Go where it calls you 🥰 Thank you for this comment
Thank you for this, this video was encouraging ❤
Thank you for the video Shelby and I’m sorry for what you’ve been through.Wish you all the best and safe trips.
Thanks for being a voice. You're extremely brave for sharing your story and speaking for people. I commend you. You got this.
I appreciate this. Thank you
I can only admire Shelby's courage to talk about it so openly. I know it's more common in the States than in many other countries, but it's still very admirable.
Great video! Everything you talked about hit the nail on the head. Stay safe and healthy out there. Good to see your ok.
Thank you for being so open about your struggles.
I'm not a trucker, I do live with mental health struggles. We get stuck inside ourselves, believing others couldn't understand. Turns out we're not alone. Thank you for sharing parts of your life with us. One day, one mile at a time 💙
After 17 years of driving, I went on my own mental health Journey last 3 years trying different work and facing my fears as to what kept me in that lifestyle. It's a very thankless high demanding job, for anyone thinking of getting out just do it, not sure I will ever return, stay blessed Shelby time is the most valuable thing we have do what you love most. Thanks for being a positive influence in an industry that made me the worst version of myself. Love from Robert ❤
Nice to see you back. Thanks for the great video!
This Video is visually so well done , its a big pleasure to watch it! Thanks and heads up you will make it , no doubt
Nice to see you and to see you smiling too Shelby, had wondered if you were ok. You and Dakota have been missed. Wishing the best of everything for you.
I’m so glad you’re back but, most importantly, I’m glad you’re feeling better. You have a big heart Shelby. My favorite video was when you made cookies for your fellow truckers. Really warmed my heart. I hope you’ll make more videos for us. Never forget to stop and smell the flowers.❤😊
Good luck on your journey! And thanks for sharing. Very theraputic. Enjoy!
You’re an absolute inspiration. Happy to see you back!
This video was so beautifully put together. Welcome back!
I'm glad to see you back on RUclips. Keep pushing on, girl. I love the music always 💯
Shelby, I enjoyed watching and I hope you continue to improve day by day Thank you for all you do.
Awesome to see you and Dakota back.
Safe travels!
Thank you for your transparency, your honesty, your openess, and your humility. You are a bright and very brave person. Thank you for the message and for this video!
Welcome back! I have been there and taking that first step to get help was the most difficult. Still finding my way back. You are not alone and you will make it back stronger than ever before! God bless!
Thank you for talking about mental health and I have been dealing with that for years am still deal working on me and my mental health
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is so lovely to see you back missed you so much ❤ stay strong and keep on trucking
Thanks for this! You are an inspiration to us all, also thank you for the shots of my home state, Vail, Glenwood Canyon, Grand Junction....Funny you were also in Kingman. I currently live near there in Bullhead City, AZ. Keep on truckin'! :)
So glad u got the help, and I can see that ur very happy now, dont ever give up, ur so worth it
Glad to see another video. Sorry that your having struggles we all have struggles. Hope everything pans out for you. Cannot wait to see more.
Great video as usual. Love all the different camera views like out the windows and under the truck. So cool. Take care of yourself and Dakota. ❤❤
Thank you! Feel this, mental health is real and we all need to be kind to yourself and others. Love this, great work Shelby and co ✨
Appreciate what you do driving on the road all the time. Hope you feel better soon and thank you and all the truckers out there keeping America going. With all respect let keeps truckers safe.
Good to have ya back Shelby! God bless your journey!
Great job on this video. Glad you're getting the help you need
Good to see you Shelby!
So good to see a new video and catch up with you, you have been missed. I also want to say you did an excellent job on the camera work on this video. Great scenery shots. Take care and all the best to you.
Thanks for all you've shared over the years. And thanks for sharing your struggles in this video. It's incredibly brave of you, and I'm sure not easy in the least. I know you're gonna help at least one person, probably a trucker, with this message. And that's a great thing. Be safe out there. Be healthy in your mind and body!
Loved the video Shelby!!! Definitely take time out to enjoy the different areas, Definitely good for your health. I'm excited for the next adventure
Hi Shelby!! You made my day when your video popped up!! Glad to see your smiling face again!! Sending lots of love to you!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Welcome back Shelby. Keep up the good fight. We look forward to seeing you feeling better. And a big thank you to Taylor for conveying your message so beautifully!
I'm so glad you sought out help. I'll be looking forward to more vids.❤🙏
Glad to see a new video. Sending my best wishes for you, and Dakota.❤
So so great to see you back. I truly missed your cheerful personality and commitment to the trucking industry. I know you will continue on with an updated and manageable life style and continue to have 'Happiness by the mile'. Lot of love and respect from Australia!
GREAT TO SEE YOU BACK ON-LINE Shelby .
So good to see you again Shelby & Dakota! Thank you for all your hard work to create another great video. Your transparency is an inspiration and help for many people. Looking forward to more wonderful videos! Take care and drive on....
It's so nice to see a video from you. And I hope that you will find the right thing for you and you will be able to continue to stay strong and be able to keep os with you on your journey 😊😊
Good to see you and Dakota in a new vlog! Best wishes always as you journey thru work and life. We all come up against rough decisions due to changes in life. Some things we have control over and some things we don't. Please stay positive and do what's best for you along the way.
It is wonderful to see you and Dakota back! Thank you for sharing your journey, both your trucking journey as well as your mental and spiritual health journey, with us. Your openness, candor, and honesty are deeply appreciated. Thank you for just being you and not just striving for viewership. Truckers and Mariners are people we don't know, all doing jobs we don't ever think about, but without them civilized life for the rest of us would not be possible. I wish you well on your journey of recovery and discovery. You have been missed by many people around the world, including me.
Always look forward to your videos! Glad you are feeling better and staying positive. Thanks for posting this important message.
So happy to see a video again. You could tell in the last video that you were having a rough time. So glad you found help. Stay safe, and stay well.
So glad to hear from you. We’re pulling for you. Take care of yourself. It’s the one time we can be rightfully selfish. God bless 🙏🏿
Good things come to those (of us) who wait.
Welcome back Shel, u’ve been missed.
Glad to see you back! Thanks for everything you do.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way and hope you find a good balance and peace while you maneuver through Life and all it throws our way. 🙏✌️❤
I’m not a trucker but a warehouse worker. I always love your take on trucking! Thanks for the video and stay safe out there!
Always wonderful to see you again Shelby. I'll come on to your YT channel and FB page every so often to see if you've posted. I'm glad that you are putting time and attention into your personal wellbeing and mental health, especially with the challenges you have mentioned you have been facing the last few years. Loved the Southwest scenery, drone, and gopro shots, as usual with your videos - they're awesome! - and seeing Dakota again too. She's a wonderful companion. Take care and stay safe and well. ❤🛣❤
Welcome back. I hope you keep doing what you do best, and that's being the best person you can be. Be safe and keep 🚚.
I’m so glad that you are able to open up and help others that may be struggling. The job that truckers do is so important to everybody’s everyday life. Many Thanks and may God Bless you
Missed ya a bunch. You've helped my wife and I transition into the industry and take our place, to running our own rig. Thank you for your vulnerability, expertise, and heart.
Hello Shelby
I very rarely add any comments, but thank you for sharing this video with your Truth. Mental and physical health are so closely related and when people understand that both are valuable and both need attention, the world will be a better place. I am very glad you are better and back on RUclips. If you and Dakota need a peaceful place to rest & experience healing in Colorado mountains near Black Hawk, let me know. I have unspoiled acreage adjoining National Forest. I keep it wild and help people experience Mindfulness in the Wild Forest there. Sending you positive, healing energy!
Glad to see you back. Stay well and stay Blessed.
I'm happy to see you back and looking great! Glad you had the courage to get some help and talk about it, a lot of people suffer in silence.
Welcome back Shelby!! Mental health is no joke. Thank you for sharing your story. You inspire me and others. Hi Dakota!!! Take care and stay safe. You are a strong lady!! You got this!!😊
we love you shelby hugs xx you helped methrough a tough time xx
Glad to see you back and okay,🌹
take care of yourself first and others around you then all the rest will follow and remember you are a beautiful person🌹
You are in a word, adorable. Your character really shines and I appreciate your openness and willingness to share your highs and lows.
While I’m not a trucker, I think all of us can relate that our lives sometimes feel like we are in a lonely cab, while we attempt to navigate through all the pitfalls we encounter on our journey.
You are an inspiration and the world is a far better place with you in it.
Much love to you ❤
Great to see you're back. We all have our struggles. But you're definitely right. Trucking is a love/hate relationship. The general public has no idea how stressful this job is. I'm glad to hear that you're getting some therapy. I know from experience that it helps a lot. Be it mentally or physically. Stay safe out there and will be looking forward to your next video.
Well said and thank you for being honest. I hope you find your your answers. Hats off to Taylor for a great editing job.
so glad to see you back mental health is number one keep strong! Also so crazy to thing u were in a town just 30 min from me hope to meet ya one day! Stay true Stay Strong!!
So sorry you are going through this. I am glad you have found some help. I missed seeing your videos. Happy you are back looking forward for more videos.
I appreciate you. Thank you for your support
Welcome back, I have missed your videos. Thanks for sharing your journey, I was driving a flatbed to Milwaukee and a stroke on July 5 2023 I’ve trying to get back to work since. So I understand to struggle.
Congrats on making your way back to work. I hope you make it through any medical hurdles you have ahead of you.
Much love and prayers your way Shelby! I know what you're talking about. All the best in the future!
Thanks for sharing your life and challenges? It’s reassuring to folks that are experiencing similarly challenges knowing they not alone with their struggles. The desert landscapes and sunsets in your vid are amazing.
Shelby, we subscribers missed you indeed!! Glad to see that you've gotten some help and are back making videos.
I'm out of trucking - not because of the lifestyle, stress or strain but because of the lousy pay. I just got tired of being gone so much, and not having a whole lot of money to show for it. I regret that I never got to meet you and Dakota out on the highway. Is BKM still doing your videos for you?
Good luck, best wishes, and keep smiling!!!(and making videos 👍👍)
Dear Shelby
Welcome back. Noone is more happy to see you & Dakoda again. Much thanks to your camera help as well. I hope others back me up on my assessment that the work you are doing is the biggest factor of your stress level. My wife and i traveled all 48 with our GSD's Monk & Dayzee for 6 years. Please let me share career notes with you and your team via email or chat or whatever works best for you. Your content brightens my day and certainly many others as well. We care about you very much. Just give us a listen. Yours truly, Bill & Lisa, GSD Logistic SW MS
Great seeing you again!! Take care of yourself. Look forward to seeing more of your journey. ❤
happy to see you back and doing well thanks for every thing you do out there and be save out there
Shelby, I am at the wee beginning of my trucking career (school). I aspire to provide for myself financially as a single lady and be a positive force in the world like you - thank you for your vulnerability and inspiration 💛 Love from SLC