Mental Glow Up Day ✨🌿 (how to boost your mood, ground self & adhd)
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- Опубликовано: 25 мар 2024
- Join me as I take back some control in my life!! I've been feeling so down recently and I needed to dedicate some intentional time to myself 🌞
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DISCLAIMER - of course one day will not solve all your problems, but this hugely helped me take an intentional STARTING point. I hope this helps!!
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I love the honest experience shown in this video! I often feel shame when I don’t feel 100% better after trying a mental health day. This video showed me that it’s normal, and its okay to not fix everything in just one day! I even made the connection that sometimes the mental health days and following the cues I’m giving creates SPACE for a meltdown which often releases a lot of emotion that I didn’t realize I was shoving down. This video is so valuable, thank you for your vulnerability Hayley.
You are lovely!! Thank you for the comment and support! 💛💕
That is really insightful and helpful. Thank you for writing about it... Providing the space for the release through a meltdown makes sense!
yeah, it's like you actively tap into your emotions. It is healthy in a long run but could be overwhelming in the moment, especially if you've been bottling it up for some time
Thank you so much for including the honesty about your meltdown. It helps me feel less alone and reinforces the idea that progress is not linear. The meltdown does not negate the care you took for yourself for the rest of the day!
It kinda does negate that day. Wasn't the point of doing this that she feels better and can get stuff done? Having a meltdown sounds as bad if not worse than her previous mental state. When you eat a huge meal and are still hungry and craving afterwards, eating that food was useless, since it didn't achieve any of the typical goals.
I'm grateful for her honesty too though. The meltdown might have happened because Hayley stressed too much about doind her day right, making all these activities feel like a chore and leaving her exhausted. It might also have happened due to some unknown reasons.
To me, this video is valuable because it shows that things won't always work out, so try to be prepared for that
@@frohnatur9806 I don't know if you've had an adhd/autism related meltdown before but I will tell you that I think it was the time taken to start working through the emotions, and all the activity and vulnerability that occurred throughout the day that actually allowed for her brain/body to feel safe enough to have that meltdown. Typically when you are audhd meltdowns get suppressed and turn into shutdowns that are really unhealthy for you and put a lot of stress on your body/mind. While meltdowns tend to feel awful, they also are a way that your brain uses to flush the system out. They are exhausting and can be distressing, but are necessary to a brain with adhd/autism that has been overloaded. Her body still gained the benefits from being out and active and showering and all that good stuff, and her mind still got to have a great therapy session and journaling/outdoor time to just be present. None of that goes away because of the meltdown. And productivity is not the goal of taking time for your mental health, its a reward to spend that time focused on yourself.
Honestly, doing ALL of that in one day would've given me a meltdown 😅 but sometimes you don't know what you need until it happens. The important thing is you're trying to listen to your needs and meet them where you can.
It would have overloaded me, so much... But she is young, too. I had more capacity for big days, back then. 58, now. Calmer, but i pace myself a lot. Also chronic fatigue puts a dampener on that much activity.
Something that really stuck out to me was the part where you said that a mental glow up day shouldn’t be an isolation day. I’m an introvert so being around people for even 1 hour in those times really takes a lot out of me, but at the same time it kind of heals me? Like, it just makes me feel seen in those moments even though it takes a lot outta me. So, I tend to stay inside my room quite a lot when I’m having rest days for my mental health and just ignore some signs of my mind wanting to be productive. So, I want to work a bit on that. And the part that just taking a day for yourself will fix everything is definitely not true. Seeing this video just further helped me understand that healing is not a straight path, it’s curvy and sometimes might take you back to the starting point. But, having the same patience, compassion and courage for yourself will make it easier to start again. I find that really beautiful. Thanks Hayley for such an amazing video!!
I have started to notice my ADHD symptoms get way worse around my period. I’d love to see a video on how yours is affected by it and how you manage that week because I feel like I’m falling apart around that time of the month & id love to learn more, manage, & understand how ADHD is affected by that rise and fall of our hormones.
You should look into PME and PMDD !
Catieosaurus talks about this sometimes
Yesss! I experience this too but I think it’s a mixture of adhd and pmdd 🙈 what I do for myself: I always know when my period comes and I know on which day I’m feeling off and miserable (usually 3 days prior and the first two days, so 5 in total). I try to cook nice meals and prep as much good food as I can before. Bc I know I either eat nothing or all the fast foods I can get on those days. So I prepare something sweet too (like protein brownies/banana bread etc) to make sure I don’t eat 2 chocolate bars in an hour 🙈 also I try to work more the week before to make sure I need to work less then. Or I’ll push work in the next week bc after your period most often is the time to rise up like a phoenix and be super motivated. Same thing with chores. Wash your laundry, do the dishes, clean the apartment etc
To sum up the goal is to make your life easier within those days.
@@mercury2533 Thank you!!! I appreciate you sharing your experience & what has worked for you :)
This reminds me of when I first got diagnosed, I didn’t realise it at the time but the whole reason I suddenly started having meltdowns was because I felt I had ‘permission’ to have them. They were horrible and overwhelming but it was like (sorry for the gross imagery) finally puking after having awful nausea for 20 years. I had a lot of build up to let out, yknow? I always felt better a day or so after. Now I’m a lot better with regulating before getting to that point of a meltdown but sometimes I think it acts as a way of unclogging a really blocked something, so it makes sense for one to happen after allowing yourself to really stop and feel for a day.
This is so important to remember!!
Sometimes we break down to build back up
i'm late, but it's really awesome that you decided to include mentioning the meltdown. it's nice to see that sometimes meltdowns/breakdowns just happen even if you do take care of yourself. i've always blamed myself for having breakdowns, thinking that i just didn't take care of myself well enough, so it's nice to see that it just happens sometimes.
Also! I love that you mentioned spending time with friends and family cause it's really grounding for me too to be around others and socialise
I think a therapy after a period without therapy could be pretty overwhelming on it's own, even though it's usually really helpful. Just because it is kinda timed dive into pretty deep things. And also by the things you're saying after your therapy I would say it was an intense one. I know for myself that I get easily overwhelmed with that and usually plan only things like playing a game or something like that. I think being with people after that even for an extravert could be taxing since in social situation you still use specific processing that is harder for neurodivergent brain. Well, also we could have a meltdown because food was a bit too cold sometimes lol, so who knows.
I absolutely appreciate the honesty in this video
Hi Hayley. Maybe you just did too much, hence the melt down. I have days when I feel I need to slow done and take care of myself, then after a while I get bored! I feel like you can’t win. I guess we need a bit of me time/ mental problem clearing, all the time to lessen overwhelmed times. Xx
I had a super bad day yesterday where I just felt terrible about myself and my inability to do anything at all, so watching this today gives me hope :) And I've actually managed to achieve an awful lot more today too, which is great :D but yesterday I just needed to watch 6 hours of RUclips shorts...
thank you for being yourself because i see a lot of myself in you and ive felt like the black sheep my whole life and finding your videos has brought me so much inner peace i cant thank you enough 💜
It is a relief, isnt it?
I love all your videos, Hayley! I'm probably neurodivergent/ADHD and I stay super f*cking busy with college and a part time job so I literally can't take entire days like this off but it's motivating to at least do little things for myself throughout the day, especially when I'm feeling down and still have so many responsibilities. Even discovering what works for me (journaling or taking walks) and prioritizing that time is better than nothing, as well as seeing my physical, mental, and emotional needs as valid and important enough to take seriously.
I love your honesty. Having a meltdown at the end of that day also shows another truth: having a meltdown doesn't negate all the good things you did for yourself! You took care of yourself, and even if that stellar mental health day didn't flip a switch and make the rest of the evening or week go well, those things, as you were doing them, were still 100% beneficial and helpful and good.
love the idea of a mental glow up day! i'm in quite a good mental space right now, but i'll keep it in mind for whenever i feel down. i hope you're feeling better now, Hayley! you deserve the world for helping so many of us through sharing your experiences and tips 💛
It can also be a helpful tool to upkeep a good mental space!! Don’t just use it as a reactive tool, perhaps it can be a proactive one! 💛💛
@@hayley.honeyman ooooh, that's a really good point!! a therapist once told me that mental health is like a garden -- it takes work to make it beautiful and it needs regular maintenance if i want to keep it that way. scheduling these mental glowup days would then mean taking a whole day to work on that garden and weed, fertilize and plant stuff, which i could do whenever, even when in a good headspace. i really love this metaphor because it's also very forgiving -- sometimes i don't tend to my garden and some flowers might die or weeds may take over, but i can always start working on it again. so i guess i will start planning for these mental gardening days now and not wait for my mood and energy levels to drop. thanks again, Hayley, for pointing this out! ☀️
@@hop_yoannaI love this garden metaphor.
Thank you so much for creating this video, I appreciate the realistic reminders at the end and I absolutely love the motivation this gave me since I desperately needed a mental reset today. Having a mental reset body doubling video hits different LOL
I was feeling the exact same and decided Sunday was time to start my mental glow up. Seeing it from an outer view I just realized that the things we need to have a mental glow are the things that we need to maintain ❤ thanks friend
This is one of the most important videos on the Internet so far.
Thank you immensely for sharing this day and video with us ❤ and I hope you're feeling better!
Thank you so much for this Hayley this really helped me too. Just watched this and listened to myself so I put some moisturiser on cause my face felt sore and dry, and grabbed some beads cause I now feel creative. I can understand the meltdown, you had spent the whole day resetting, it’s like an everything shower for your life, and we know how hard an everything shower is. Virtual hugs to you.
i noticed you had a dog reactive vest on your dog.. i would LOVE to hear more about your experience with that!!!
it’s so mentally (and physically) taxing to manage and adding a layer of adhd on top just makes it so much more difficult to work through (and even more so whenever mental health is just in a bad place on top of all that)
Thank you for being genuine. That is the best thing you can do. I love you for it.
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Your intro and your voice when you went "woo!" just reminded me of Alayna Joy xD
I'm so glad you included the last part about still not feeling better after doing all the self-help work. I recently tried to start seriously working on my mental health and had a pretty big setback/backslide into bad habits. I felt terrible for "failing" at getting better but hearing you go through the same thing gave me hope that I could pick myself back up and keep on trying, thank you for that. I have been lovong your content and am glad you are on this platform ❤😁
Thank you for being honest about the meltdown. I can relate so much - an evening with friends is just a lot of stimulation ;)
A screamed yes a couple of times. Some days I feel the same and this is so hard to remember yourself to do the same. Thank you for this great and helpfull video 🤗
The outro made me tear up. I know the frustration of doing everything I can to tend to my mental health and then getting a melt-down anyway. You took a little bit of the sadness about this off me. I feel less alone now. Also I feel sad, that you are going through a tough time. You deserve all the support and good things you can get, Hayley!
I think my meltdowns come, when I am putting too much pressure on myself to do things, even fun things with friends. I need time every day to zone out and calm down. Realizing and communicating this has helped me, to reduce the number of melt-downs. I can't just step out of my comfort zone too far and expect my body/mind to be fine with it. I need to prepare and be careful and slow with either new things and socialising to stay balanced.
Bless you, love! Love the transparency! ❤🎉
I am so happy I found your channel. I feel like I’m watching myself. The part where you are talking about your therapy session, I’m like , is this me?? Lol. New subscriber!
Love this video! You totally rock 😊
I love your channel so much! You're honest, fun to watch, interesting. Thank you for that!
I love your honestly. Thank you for sharing ❤
This was just the company I needed to get through my sink of dishes 😌
LMFAO I carried a HUGE rock home today from the forest!!! Like 10 minute walk
I kept carrying even through pain , to embrace the negative
Such a positive concept! Mental glow up day ✨😄
Honestly thank you for the reminder- over the past week I’ve had two meltdowns in school not to mention a few at home. I needed this reminder and I really appreciate you ❤ thanks
Would love more content like this it’s very on point thank you for sharing
Thanks. Love your videos.
I love your frog i have the same one! his name is William! Plus I loved this video and you have been a huge part of my ADHD journey! I have been feeling like I need a metal clean-out day and this has inspired me!
P.S. sorry this is all over the place!
This video came exactly when I needed it. I've been struggling with insecurity around work lately, and I really like your "Facts!" method for gaining perspective. Thank you for sharing all of this - your knowledge, experiences, and words of encouragement. Your content has helped me tremendously!!
Thank you for making your videos. They are so helpful. My off days have been chaotic lately. I have a lot of ideas now to make them count.
I like these sort of vlogs in general but I wanted to say I like your signature giggle at the end of some sentences ❤
It’s a vocal quirk that runs in my family (from nervous or genuine laughter, it’s all the time). It just brightens up even some of the harder things to say, yknow?
Hi i just wanted to say that your honesty about your experiences are what make me feel like im not alone. Your specific messages and advice are what help me the most. Thank you for not giving up. Thank you for challenging yourself to grow so that I have clues on where the next part of my path should be in my coping skill try out journey. Sorry if this makes no sense i am stoney baloney but ily.
Thank you for this
Thank you for this video and the honsety at the end!! I can totally relate to having a meltdown after all that 😞 (also audhd)
My glow up day would be less migrane and any other pain on body, and eager to do more things, take new challenges, hearing my therapist say that "I can see ur smile on your face".
Again, just in the right moment. Magical. *haaaa twinkle twinkle fairy dust*
Thank you!
you're so wise 😌
thanks for being real about the meltdown @ the end
Love every bit about this video, above all, the honesty you share because it’s so freakin relatable and genuine and awesome #laundrybedheretoo I don’t watch a lot of RUclips video content but you’re among the best. Thanks for doing what you do and keeping it real ❤ you’re doing amazing, keep it up!
You’re so lovely thank you!! The laundry bed has become floor laundry now 😂
Hi Haley you're the best! I just noticed your house is exactly like mine in terms of window frame, curtains, doors, railing and more 😅 ❤
I’ve been in such a bad mood today. Honestly the people I deal with sometimes. Never stay in cheap accommodation as you will lose your temper a lot. I went for a walk, went in a restaurant for a snack and then I put music on when I got back. I think I needed to switch off.
Love your videos! Can you make a video about your dog reactivity and training him? I have ADHD and also have a reactive dog, and I struggle with this a lot, keeping up with a training schedule, dealing with trainers expectations and etc.
Hey! Does anyone know if Hayley plans on having a video on unmasking? I find that Hayley’s videos have been the only way I’ve been able to actually digest content on these topics and properly comprehend.
I don't have ADHD, but have autism.
It's so easy to feel stressed, even when I've been doing nothing all day but chilling out on YT. And it's been hard to figure out why.
Thank you for teaching how to _actually_ relax. Will be trying. :)
I've had a feeling that YT was just making me feel worse, and I don't know why. Surely I should be feeling better on my "relax and just watch videos" days than on my busy days. But the thing I've always relied on to "relax" actually does the exact opposite. That's a hard realisation.
Recommend watching her video about different types of rest and how to find the right type for the type of tiredness (mentaly, fysicaly, emotionaly, socialy, sensory) you have..
Every type of tired takes a different kind of rest. Was such an eyeopener and helped me a lot. Doing nothing is not always the type of rest that helps you feel better.
Sometimes it might be something else, like taking a walk, visit a friend, pick wild flowers or pet a piggy. Did those things today, worked well for me. For you it might be something totally else though, depending on your interests and 'safe activities'.
lol I did the same fist pumping gesture to get hyped for therapy yesterday, too
I'd be curious to hear about your experience being an extroverted autistic person. As an introverted autistic person, I've always wondered how that works.
Hi Hayley, I enjoy your vibe! Also, can you tell me how to find your discord? Couldn't find it by searching the name.
Awesome video 😍 love how you organized it, thank you 😢
You mentioned a coach? An adhd coach ? If I can ask
I work with a beautiful soul named Eden! She is like a life coach :)
@@hayley.honeyman oooh a life coach ! I have been looking specifically for an ADHD coach and never considered a Life coach instead 🤔 I have been having trouble finding an ADHD coach that is a good fit for me. I think I will look into a life coach! Thank you for sharing.
What's the work out place called?
Where did you meet your friend?
Okay but what do I do if all the people that I did love/talk to finally shut me out because I keep making the same mistake over by not knowing how to be alone and lots of other issues. I no longer really have the people I was actually comfortable talking to 😅.. and when I do slightly talk to them it’s not good and it’s all about how I need to learn to be alone.. I’m going to therapy soon but gosh I’m in such a stuck pain spot right now.
I truly didn't explain this well and there's a lot more too it but just how do I be happy alone without HAVING to need that person to talk too? Because lately the only place where it feels I can let out emotions and thoughts is my journal and that helps yes it does a lot actually but I wish I just wish I had that other person to tell. Ah I need help and I'm ranting out on RUclips about it can you see how bad I am right now? lmfao
You should have a warning for the vulgar language. Kids might be listening
I’m sure it doesn’t feel great but thank you for sharing the reality of self care instead of just the pretty aesthetic and the highs. 🫶🏻