Yes! I feel similarly. I’d rather save actual sex for marriage or a very meaningful relationship, however I still want sensual energy in my relationships
As a 61 year old woman, divorced,2 kids, my sexlife was and is very problematic, I would never have a relation in my life again,cause I hate sex! Hearing you talking about this almost make me cry,you are a great rolemodel for a lot of young woman!
Please write a book, you're so full of such good energy and high vibrations, I feel like writing a book would be such a good way for you to spread some of the wisdom to us :)
Nicole Granados I would feel HonOreD to publish a book one day. I kind of feel like it has been writing itself since my first awakening, but the vision is still crystallizing heh. I have always wanted to write a poetry book, but lately I have felt more connected to essays or something of that nature
@@HitomiMochizuki222 It's destiny!! I love poetry books, and honestly, I think that anything you would come up with is going to be amazing. A book of both poetry and regular essay-like chapters would be really fun. Whenever you do actually get to publishing anything, I will gladly be purchasing. You're such a good role model and you're inspiring to me.
I can totally see you publishing something with bits of raw poetry, sketches of silhouettes, some vivid short stories about you and your experiences, a faded Polaroid or two and colorful drawings of daffodils and sunflowers.
With so much toxicity in my life, your corner of the internet has felt like a home full of nurturing and love for years!! I am eternally grateful for your existence Hitomi!! Much love!!
Melisa You associate sex with trauma, pain, someone doing something to you against your will. It’s a beautiful things created for us. Unfortunately, there are people that are so fucked up in the head and just evil in their heart they prey on kids and people. I’ll never get my answer as to why, but God hears me when I cry, cuss, and am angry about it happening to me and other people. It’s better to be a prude then to try finding your worth in giving yourself away like I did. Two books that I loved that helped me were by Christa Black Gifford. It’s okay if you buy them and don’t read them right away or if you take a year to finish reading:). It was one step that you acknowledged what you wrote.
random human I’m certain you’ve heard the saying “Hurt people hurt other people”, and that’s the truth. In my experience I can only pray for those people, and pray for the healing of my own heart, body, and mind. All the pain, rage, anger, loneliness, and confusion I’ve felt I talk to God about. Your not alone. We have a God that wants our hearts, and to give us new life. I’m still learning how to live a new life too. If you’d like tools that helped me learn more about Jesus I recommend going Hannah Brenchers website.
And by the way Hitomi I would be forever grateful if you made a podcast series, because I would love to learn more from you and spirituality really, that knowledge girl must be shared with the world!
Favorite moment listening to you : knowing that you always bond with the people with who you have sexual interaction. I've always felt alone with this, you're the first person that I hear saying that ! I can't help but get an emotional attach to all of my sexual partners but, from what they say, none of my sexually active friends are experiencing that I've always knew it was okay but now I feel less alone
I LOVE when you do those type of videos where you speak for 30 min about different topics. You’re a very interesting person with a lot of things to say I hope you know that ! I learn so much watching your videos !
I have always had a hard time accepting myself as a sexual being and expressing myself sexually. During sex I am so closed off and anxious but I truly just want it to be fun, expressive and adventurous. Unfortunately, I haven't found a way for me to experience that other than when I am under the influence and my anxieties are taken away. I want to be connected and confident in my sexuality and I want to express it so freely. I sincerely hope I can get to that point in the near future. I feel like I will be so fulfilled once I get to that point :)
I connect with your comment so much. I'm 18 and I just have such a tough time seeing myself as a sexual being, and I'm unsure in my sexuality (pan, bi or just gay..? who knows, not me!) and I also don't know if I'm asexual, demisexual or grey sexual? I'm fine with labels but I also think it's a spectrum and can often limit you if you don't think of it that way. Sorry for going on that tangent, but I just connect with what you said about being anxious. I'm hoping to work on it in the future, but I also just don't wanna press myself. I hope you're able to get to the point you want to.
@@dbs2051 thanks for sharing your story too! It’s wonderful to see other people who can relate to one another. I hope you get to a place where you feel more connected with your sexuality. My advice would be to explore yourself, explore your desires, listen to your body, connect the mind and the body and let it all go. Know that your body is your choice, your best friend and that it can be there for you. However, I hear your situation and I think how you feel is your truth and completely normal. It’s perfectly ok to feel that way. Being on the asexual spectrum can be difficult at times, sometimes it brings peace and sometimes it doesn’t. But you’re never alone and speaking up in one comment can help hundreds of people who see it. Sending love, light and good energy to you. ✨
I never really discussed sex with my parents either, my parents were very conservative. I use to get sad after sex too but I started practicing setting intentions with orgasms 3 months ago and it makes me feel happiness and pure love ✨ I believe that having sexual contact with someone provides us with an exchange of energy that can either bring us happiness or bring us down. Thank you for sharing Hitomi 💛💛💛
you’re the one youtuber I really don’t want to share w my friends coz you’re so special and I don’t want anyone else knowing about you lol, I hope this makes sense🥺😂💕
I find it so strange how sex bonds women but men want distance afterwards or just ignore you. It kinda feels like compatibility is extremely difficult to find.
Oh girl no. Sex should be bonding both ppl. It’s not a male/female thing. It’s a human thing. Sex should be bonding. If afterwards a man is distant it means he doesn’t appreciate u & u should not be sharing your beautiful self w him. Porn had rly fucked things up for everyone.
I am a man and If I had sex with a women I’d want to be with that first person forever. I don’t believe sex should be used out of a loving relationship.
It's because they aren't using sex as a way to intimately connect, they are more using it for just physical gratification. They are f*cking, not making love.
I love these type of videos and this is such an important topic to talk about. This has made me see my own sexuality and sex life in a new light and the power I have to take control of it and honor myself through these experiences rather than go in to them with anxiety or any negative emotions. Thank you Hitomi
I appreciate this video a lot. I currently have vaginismus and I always feel so alone because I don't know anyone else that has it personally?? Vaginismus has made sex really uncomfortable for me and I need the motivation to want to heal myself. I need to learn that sex can be enjoyable and not just painful. This video gave me hope, thank you. The fact that I am commenting this so openly is very unusual for me, but I feel save here.
@@lovemylillie1 This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you for your kind words and points! I've had it for nearly two years too now but only recently started looking for help. It has taken most of my desire for any sexual experience away and therefore I guess I never had the motivation to fix it. Interestingly, I ended things with my long-term boyfriend in July because I realised that I had no desire for him in that way, like you mentioned. I then started seeing another guy recently, that left me shortly after I told him about this. This was of course quite hurtful because he had first told me that he was okay with it and wanted to help me. Now I am scared to meet new people and I dread having to open up about this to someone again... The point you made about not focusing too much on getting something in there is helpful too. I think I have been guilty of just trying to increase the size of the dilator. I need to reeducate my brain that it is supposed to be pleasurable so this approach does not make much sense when you think about it. I will try a more tantric approach. Once again, thank you for taking the time to write to me like you did. It really warms my heart to hear that I'm not alone, that someone else knows how I feel, to get some hope in a situation where you feel hopeless!
Im currently in the same boat and your comment actually brought me a bit of comfort because you do feel alone when you have it. I'm married have been for 2 years almost and I waited for marriage to have sex. It breaks my heart because I love my husband so much and want nothing more than be able to have a healthy loving sex life with him. I just started using dilators and it has helped some but I still struggle with arousal because of the pain. You aren't alone and we will beat this!
feel like this topic could be so taboo and i love how open minded you are. your perspective on all things is truly beautiful. thank you for this hitomi 💫
This is, actually, really informative. To see sex from female’ pov really bring my perspective to another level. Thankyou for sharing, this will help my relationship tremendously.
gosh i love writen porn!!!!!! and you can usually tell when it's writen by women, because it's REALLY detailed, whereas men just get the job done hahah
@@douloureux. then I would recommend books, because good short stories are really hard to find. I have one of those reading apps on my phone and download books from there. But then I also forget to masturbate because I get so cought up in the story haha. Anyway, enjoy ;)
I have only read 3 books, and they were a trilogy. Alpha, beta, omega. Its tricky with these things, because we all have our own kinks ;) so i can really recommend anything.
Can I just say thank you bc with this video you’ve broken many boundaries set for women to talk about their sexual experience and I’ve learned things that no one will ever tell me ..you rock girl !! So inspiring
I'm woke up in touch with my emotions today, anger, sadness. I love watching your videos and got excited about this one. I've only watched the first 5min and I'm aligning so much with what you are sharing and it feels incredible to be able to relate to another like this. The part about sexual traumas, crying during and after, celibacy and owning your sexuality. Okay I'm going to keep watching your video :)) Love you Hitomi and sending you love to support you through your break up as well. Love from Canada
I love how you've said you didn't feel like a scorpio, and here we are, with the most Scorpio thing I've ever seen and heard in my life 😂 I love it 💖💕✨
God I want to meet you; I've been so choosey with my sexual partners my while life, because I simply cannot feel sexual attraction before soul attraction. The two are mutually exclusive for me. To be with someone when I don't connect with them, or they leave my life soon after, leaves me feeling a crater in my heart. Love you Hitomi ❤️✨
maddy y woahh, that’s a pretty epic gift. If you want to use it now after all these years I definitely recommend cleansing it in natural running water and maybe burning some special herbs around it, like cedar, and setting an intention for this new tool. Then of course just sanitizing it in super hot water and a little bit of apple cider vinegar or soap :) I can’t wait to share this wisdom with my own daughter one day ah 💫
@@HitomiMochizuki222 thankyou so much for your guidance!! I bet the person who gifted me the egg didnt know that it was a yoni egg, seems like it was divinely guided to me haha. But the egg is kinda big and I haven't had sexual intercourse before, so I am not sure if I can try it... Since u are reading this I just want to tell u how much love I have for you, like u are such a wonderful being. You are so loving and caring and I really appreciate you! Thankyou so much for being. Sending u love and blessings
This is great. I'm so glad you posted this video. Thank you Hitomi for what you share with us. When you were opening the video you were talking about how you've been feeling so connected to your body and your sensuality and I was just reading the astrology for this eclipse and that sounds so much like Scorpio and Sagittarius' forcast (which I believe was meantioned was your sun and moon/ascendant). Scorpio will be experiencing new chapters of communication, learning, and thinking (3rd house) and Sagittarius will be experiencing new chapters of embodiment, pleasure, and sensuality (2nd house). Anyways, don't know if that's relevant to you but big love to you regardless. Thank you again for your content and connection💓
Kaila Webb Wow babe thank you so much for sharing the astrology wisdom, really resonating with these shifts. I am a Scorpio sun and Sag moon, ascendant in Capricorn. Excited for the fruits this new harvest will bring 💫🦋🙏🏼
@@HitomiMochizuki222 oh dang, with a Capricorn ascendant that would mean you're even more potent of a teacher for the times right now with all the planetary bodies and the eclipse, new moon, and South node all in your 1st house of self. I look forward to learning and connecting with whatever fruits you choose to share especially over the next few months😊
You are so so open and I really appreciate that. Growing up I always felt so ashamed whenever I would touch myself, but as I've gotten older I have learnt to embrace that and love it and not feel shameful. Thank you for creating such an open space and sharing your experiences xx
you talk with so much wisdom, it blows me away. you are so wise, beautiful and kind. you are an amazing role model for everyone!! thank you for being who you are!! ❤️
Hitomi, as a Tantra initiate (and I know you also studied Tantra) I recommend perhaps going deeper into it, since masturbation is the most surface way of using kundalini energy, since it is simply creative energy. Specially with ejaculation or the "sneeze" orgasm (bringind the kundalini energy downwards). It heals simply because as you orgasm you enter a hypnotic state which gives you access to your subconscious mind so you can reprogram. As a practioneer for many years now, I found that it is so much deeper to use that energy in other ways or realms (such as dreamwork). Masturbation usually generates thought forms that can drain energy out of you, I mean it creates thought forms everytime since sexual energy is the most powerful state. But anyways, be mindful and go within ♡.
Thank you so much for this video🙏🏽 been dealing with so much shame related to sex and my own femininity and seeing how beautifully empowered you are reminds me that I can also release all this shame and embrace my essence as a feminine sexual being:) Edit: I have been taking your advice and I feel SO empowered already thank you thank you letting go of all my sexual trauma and even bringing in so much positivity, you are a beam of LIGHT
it’s so nice having these sit down kinda conversations with you, i feel like i’m just sitting on my sisters bed learning from each other :) i find that i often don’t want to be sexual which sometimes upsets me because i wish i wanted to?? i think a lot of that is that my meds mess up my sex drive :( i also know that i have some unresolved sexual trauma and honestly i just don’t feel ready to address it, i know it’s important to heal and learn from it but i guess i’m just not ready and i’ll just have to work to get myself there :) thank u so much for these kinda of videos, it’s so nice talking with you
We recover in our own time. Also, trauma never gets "resolved", it's always with us. Sometimes we make moves to come to terms with it and heal, sometimes we move backwards. Don't feel like there's a clock but remember we can't move forward if we decide to never deal with it.
I really wish that the people around me were like you. You really seem to love people just for themselves and you are so incredibly inspiring. If you read this I just want to say I love you and watching you grow as a person over time is amazing🤍
I just had a dream about u last night where I was literally talking about this with u and I felt like really comfortable about it cause my friends aren’t really into deep convo about like sexuality and intimacy that’s so wildddd 😭
Hitomi you shine so brightly!!! I am not even 2 minutes into the video and I am reminded to why I appreciate your channel so much since you speak about spirituality and sexuality so freely and beautifully ❤❤❤
This post is one of the best I’ve seen online maybe ever. You should teach a course on this if you don’t already. Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable topic online.
Women need to focus on making sexuality a conversation that is OKAY. Men have made women’s sexuality a taboo topic and women haven’t seemed to break that lock. As a man we know everything about our friends sex lives and masturbation lives because we talk about it.
will forever be grateful for how open and how gentle you are. i’ve been watching your videos for a while and theyve really been teaching me all of the things ive felt like i need to know. keep doing what you’re doing ! its greatly appreciated :)
Hitomi you are an angel 💗 I can tell you are not judgmental at all and only care about empowering and sharing knowledge with others and that is super inspiring 💗
Please do this more often... I love the way you word things, and especially with this topic, I really felt your positiv energy and it gave me so much confidence ❤️
Gosh your videos are such a breathe of fresh air✨. I love how insightful and loving your content is. If you ever have kids in the future, they will be truly blessed to have a mother who is so nurturing and open. Much love❤️
hitomi...I channeled the word ‘pleasure’ and ‘safety’ during a self care session and could feel my aura for the first time. it shifted from a dark and yellow tone to a full pink body wrapping energy when I climaxed...I feel so connected to my divine feminine now- all because of the way you shared your journey with your body and sex. Thank you for opening my mind and body to the possibilities of exploration and raising my vibrations. you’re the best 🖤
Kaja Magdalena Hii thank you! If you saw my “Reset Routine “ video, the one I uploaded before this one, I had two little space buns on the top of my head that were made with two strands of hair twisted around each other and then wrapped into buns. I kept those in for a day and then when I unwrapped the buns at night this is what my hair looked like. Having damp hair or a little bit of leave in conditioner when you wrap it up will help the curls form !
Thank you so much for this video💜 my conscience had told me to go watch your vids, since I haven’t caught up in a while and this was the first to pop up.
This is my first time ever actually watching a whole Q&A video... EVER! I really wanna have a more relaxed me, I always look so angry and I hate it everyone always tells me to smile but im fine. I really love your channel, I feel like I've learn so much since I've been subscribe and watching your videos. My boyfriend and I just had an hour deep conversation I love that we communicate. Thank you for sharing 💖
I love you so much Hitomi. Thank you for sharing this video. One of my goals as of for this month going into next year is to get back in tuned with my divine feminine sexual energy. I think there's so much pressure on us to have sex by this time and if you're not you're like this prude and if you are your labeled a "hoe" for me, I haven't had many sexual experiences but I am also learning that just because I am not necessarily sexual with a specific person at the moment doesn't mean I can't own, embrace and honor that. I have a bit of sexual trauma I am working through & making sure I release those blockages through yoga, meditation and breathing. Sex isn't just penis in vagina as well 🙄 it annoys me when we don't include LGBT sex. 💮🦋🌷 it's just as valid. Anyways, thank u for this video.
No matter the topic I always love what you have to say, you are such a great teacher, you really bring divine energy into your videos and it really shows/I can feel it. Your videos always have a wonderful energy, and I want to thank you for sharing your energy.
I don't have many friends that I can have these types of sex talks with and mainly because most people in my culture don't talk about sex openly. The only time I was able to have a deep talk was with one of my older friends who so kindly gave me the opportunity to ask about sex and shared her experiences, and it was one of the most mind opening conversations I've ever had. This video gave me an even more mind opening discussion, and although I felt slightly uncomfortable clicking on this video at first (not because of you but because of my hesitance and insecurity to even have this discussion since I've never even had sex), I don't regret watching you at all. I learned so much about how to connect with my sexual energy and I appreciate you making this video to share and educate about such an intimate and personal topic. (That was way too long to be a comment.)
thank you for another phenomenal video hitomi. can't wait to watch and listen again. also, i feel the always forming an emotional attachment with sexual partners. it's made me feel sort of stupid or naive or like something was wrong for me. it's nice hearing someone who understands.
Thank you so much for this. I am trying to heal from sexual trauma and I can definitely relate to the sadness feeling you mentioned at the beginning. I have caught myself lying just to get out of sex in the past because it takes so much emotional energy out of me. This video was a great first step to my healing.
I have been so lost in the craziness of this year that I have completely forgotten about my spirit and the depth to me. Thanks for the videos. You've awakened a little bit of me I have forgotten existed. :)
Thank you so much Hitomi for speaking about such vulnerable experiences, just hearing you talk about the magic you experience with your sexuality reminds me that I can feel these things too!! Much love 💓💓💓
Alot of my sexual relationships ended up in a lot of pain for me, so like you, I took time away from sex (it's been 2 years). I'm afraid of experiencing that pain again, but at the same time, I want to enjoy sex again because Its one of my favourite things. How did you know the guy you met after your celibacy period was different and safer than the other people who didn't honor you?
I am so grateful to have found and subscribed to your channel. You have so much light, wisdom and good vibrations. The topics and the way you speak about them is just pure magic. Thank you so much! ♥️
Your words were so wise, full of love, compassion and positive energy ❤ I feel so calm and appeased now ❤ You're so inspiring, thank you for this video it was really helpful ❤
Start feeling confident and practice self love and gratefullness and you can defenitely manifest friends 🧡 By feeling how you would want to feel, while being grateful and happy for where you are, even if you are lonely-be fully okay with that. And love yourself sooo much everyday, take time everyday to invest in yourself, and let it go- just literally think “I trust I will meet my soul friends or soulmate when the time is ready. Right now I am happy too.” And like.. really soon after I had that mindset I met my now partner and all the friends that came with and I have so much people around me that I love and connect with 🧡✨ so this is my advice one year later haha hopefully you or someone else may read it and find it useful 🙏🏼🧡✨
She actually right. The atom and protons ans neutrons and electrons whwn you hit the climax it like a volcano blowing up. So with that burst of energy don't put it to waste. If you have a desire whether is financial, trying to manifest a special partner or whatever you want to create in this 3D realm you can use that energy to do it and let go! Watch the universe ✨️ have it come to play. Powerful stuff!!
you should write an essay or some other writing piece, no length is too short or long, and just go for it. write about all the things or whatever specific thing in this moment speaks to you. and then publish it online somewhere.
I just got Francesca Rose's 'Eat with the Moon' e-book that I have found to be super helpful! While it doesn't pertain to sex, it focuses on your cycle with the moon's cycle which you mentioned at the end and I bet you would love it! All of her recipes are vegan of course and she uses seed cycling which I though was very educational! I am going to try it out to see if it makes a difference.
Hitomi, what are your thoughts on birth control/what kind do you use etc.? Would love to hear you talk about that (and also in regard to spirituality) in a future video! ❤️
I love the idea of being naked around others even in non sexual contexts but idk how to find other people who would be down. Me and my friends are all pretty reserved with each other (not a bad thing I just don’t think we’d be comfortable in that situation)
thank you so much. i was brought to this at just the right time. i'm glad to receive it, and am grateful you shared your stories. i'm more excited and feel guided now :)
i could tell that your partner was perhaps inhibiting your growth... so proud of u ... you’re just a source of pure love and feminine power and it’s especially coming thru lately !!!!
I am so happy that I have found your channel. I am also at this point of my spiritual journey. Just understanding my sexual energies a little bit more, and this video resonated to me quite a lot. Thank you! I just felt an energy of excitement from what you've shared.
When I watch videos like this, that really expresses a persons intellect, it makes me want to do solo activity to kind of figure out who I am and what I want from life.
"When I want to be sensual with someone, but not SEXUAL with someone."
I felt that. I just never knew how to word it to people.
Yeah it's called being a beta male.
Yes! I feel similarly. I’d rather save actual sex for marriage or a very meaningful relationship, however I still want sensual energy in my relationships
Both is better though ☺️
As a 61 year old woman, divorced,2 kids, my sexlife was and is very problematic, I would never have a relation in my life again,cause I hate sex! Hearing you talking about this almost make me cry,you are a great rolemodel for a lot of young woman!
JannetjwW I love this comment!!! So cool to see how Hitmomi resonates with a variety of people!
oh shit
U r 61.
Why do you hate having sex? Did something bad happened?
@Dougie sounds like you are projecting... nothing in her comment indicates controlling behaviors
Please write a book, you're so full of such good energy and high vibrations, I feel like writing a book would be such a good way for you to spread some of the wisdom to us :)
Nicole Granados I would feel HonOreD to publish a book one day. I kind of feel like it has been writing itself since my first awakening, but the vision is still crystallizing heh. I have always wanted to write a poetry book, but lately I have felt more connected to essays or something of that nature
@@HitomiMochizuki222 It's destiny!! I love poetry books, and honestly, I think that anything you would come up with is going to be amazing. A book of both poetry and regular essay-like chapters would be really fun. Whenever you do actually get to publishing anything, I will gladly be purchasing. You're such a good role model and you're inspiring to me.
@d b aww :( we love you, poor soul. i hope you get a good good hug today.
I can totally see you publishing something with bits of raw poetry, sketches of silhouettes, some vivid short stories about you and your experiences, a faded Polaroid or two and colorful drawings of daffodils and sunflowers.
@@HitomiMochizuki222 That would be so beautiful ♥️
With so much toxicity in my life, your corner of the internet has felt like a home full of nurturing and love for years!! I am eternally grateful for your existence Hitomi!! Much love!!
HITOMI you literally radiate the divine feminine so effortlessly and it's so beautiful to witness
This!!!
If you were ever molested as a child i hope you heal. I pray for you and hope you know it wasn't your fault. Love you.
Ash amen 🙏🏻
Thanks. I have become such a prude because of it.
Melisa You associate sex with trauma, pain, someone doing something to you against your will. It’s a beautiful things created for us. Unfortunately, there are people that are so fucked up in the head and just evil in their heart they prey on kids and people. I’ll never get my answer as to why, but God hears me when I cry, cuss, and am angry about it happening to me and other people. It’s better to be a prude then to try finding your worth in giving yourself away like I did. Two books that I loved that helped me were by Christa Black Gifford. It’s okay if you buy them and don’t read them right away or if you take a year to finish reading:). It was one step that you acknowledged what you wrote.
random human I’m certain you’ve heard the saying “Hurt people hurt other people”, and that’s the truth. In my experience I can only pray for those people, and pray for the healing of my own heart, body, and mind. All the pain, rage, anger, loneliness, and confusion I’ve felt I talk to God about. Your not alone. We have a God that wants our hearts, and to give us new life. I’m still learning how to live a new life too. If you’d like tools that helped me learn more about Jesus I recommend going Hannah Brenchers website.
thank you 😔
And by the way Hitomi I would be forever grateful if you made a podcast series, because I would love to learn more from you and spirituality really, that knowledge girl must be shared with the world!
Lu anmo yes!! i’d love a podcast series from her
Yessss
YESSS A PODCAST !!
Favorite moment listening to you : knowing that you always bond with the people with who you have sexual interaction. I've always felt alone with this, you're the first person that I hear saying that ! I can't help but get an emotional attach to all of my sexual partners but, from what they say, none of my sexually active friends are experiencing that
I've always knew it was okay but now I feel less alone
I LOVE when you do those type of videos where you speak for 30 min about different topics. You’re a very interesting person with a lot of things to say I hope you know that ! I learn so much watching your videos !
So true!
I have always had a hard time accepting myself as a sexual being and expressing myself sexually. During sex I am so closed off and anxious but I truly just want it to be fun, expressive and adventurous. Unfortunately, I haven't found a way for me to experience that other than when I am under the influence and my anxieties are taken away. I want to be connected and confident in my sexuality and I want to express it so freely. I sincerely hope I can get to that point in the near future. I feel like I will be so fulfilled once I get to that point :)
I connect with your comment so much. I'm 18 and I just have such a tough time seeing myself as a sexual being, and I'm unsure in my sexuality (pan, bi or just gay..? who knows, not me!) and I also don't know if I'm asexual, demisexual or grey sexual? I'm fine with labels but I also think it's a spectrum and can often limit you if you don't think of it that way. Sorry for going on that tangent, but I just connect with what you said about being anxious. I'm hoping to work on it in the future, but I also just don't wanna press myself. I hope you're able to get to the point you want to.
Thank you for sharing that. I’m sure many people feel the same and are smiling at your comment because they can relate and they know their not alone.
@@dbs2051 thanks for sharing your story too! It’s wonderful to see other people who can relate to one another. I hope you get to a place where you feel more connected with your sexuality. My advice would be to explore yourself, explore your desires, listen to your body, connect the mind and the body and let it all go. Know that your body is your choice, your best friend and that it can be there for you. However, I hear your situation and I think how you feel is your truth and completely normal. It’s perfectly ok to feel that way. Being on the asexual spectrum can be difficult at times, sometimes it brings peace and sometimes it doesn’t. But you’re never alone and speaking up in one comment can help hundreds of people who see it. Sending love, light and good energy to you. ✨
I never really discussed sex with my parents either, my parents were very conservative.
I use to get sad after sex too but I started practicing setting intentions with orgasms 3 months ago and it makes me feel happiness and pure love ✨
I believe that having sexual contact with someone provides us with an exchange of energy that can either bring us happiness or bring us down.
Thank you for sharing Hitomi 💛💛💛
That last part 💯
you’re the one youtuber I really don’t want to share w my friends coz you’re so special and I don’t want anyone else knowing about you lol, I hope this makes sense🥺😂💕
lowkey, c hahaha I’m giggling homie ♥️🙏🏼 love you. Thank you for receiving me
Saaaaame hehe...
Sameee! She's so calming and like a bigger wise sister❤❤❤
I find it so strange how sex bonds women but men want distance afterwards or just ignore you. It kinda feels like compatibility is extremely difficult to find.
Oh girl no. Sex should be bonding both ppl. It’s not a male/female thing. It’s a human thing. Sex should be bonding. If afterwards a man is distant it means he doesn’t appreciate u & u should not be sharing your beautiful self w him. Porn had rly fucked things up for everyone.
I am a man and If I had sex with a women I’d want to be with that first person forever. I don’t believe sex should be used out of a loving relationship.
I think men in general are just used to certain (horrible and misogynistic) social norms or aren’t encouraged to see sex the way it should be seen
I've had sex with men, and I don't want to see them afterwards again. Everyone is different.
It's because they aren't using sex as a way to intimately connect, they are more using it for just physical gratification. They are f*cking, not making love.
I love these type of videos and this is such an important topic to talk about. This has made me see my own sexuality and sex life in a new light and the power I have to take control of it and honor myself through these experiences rather than go in to them with anxiety or any negative emotions. Thank you Hitomi
"If it’s not a fuck yes it’s a fuck no." Preach Sis! 👏🏾👏🏾 That’s all I needed for 2020.
I appreciate this video a lot. I currently have vaginismus and I always feel so alone because I don't know anyone else that has it personally?? Vaginismus has made sex really uncomfortable for me and I need the motivation to want to heal myself. I need to learn that sex can be enjoyable and not just painful. This video gave me hope, thank you.
The fact that I am commenting this so openly is very unusual for me, but I feel save here.
It's gonna get better babe, sending you love and courage
First of all: You are not alone
@@LaLaLaLaLifeFabyu Thank you so much babe
@@lovemylillie1 This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you for your kind words and points! I've had it for nearly two years too now but only recently started looking for help. It has taken most of my desire for any sexual experience away and therefore I guess I never had the motivation to fix it.
Interestingly, I ended things with my long-term boyfriend in July because I realised that I had no desire for him in that way, like you mentioned. I then started seeing another guy recently, that left me shortly after I told him about this. This was of course quite hurtful because he had first told me that he was okay with it and wanted to help me. Now I am scared to meet new people and I dread having to open up about this to someone again...
The point you made about not focusing too much on getting something in there is helpful too. I think I have been guilty of just trying to increase the size of the dilator. I need to reeducate my brain that it is supposed to be pleasurable so this approach does not make much sense when you think about it. I will try a more tantric approach.
Once again, thank you for taking the time to write to me like you did. It really warms my heart to hear that I'm not alone, that someone else knows how I feel, to get some hope in a situation where you feel hopeless!
Im currently in the same boat and your comment actually brought me a bit of comfort because you do feel alone when you have it. I'm married have been for 2 years almost and I waited for marriage to have sex. It breaks my heart because I love my husband so much and want nothing more than be able to have a healthy loving sex life with him. I just started using dilators and it has helped some but I still struggle with arousal because of the pain. You aren't alone and we will beat this!
feel like this topic could be so taboo and i love how open minded you are. your perspective on all things is truly beautiful. thank you for this hitomi 💫
When u post I get so excited it's actually embarrassing.....
Sry I ruined the 69 likes
This is, actually, really informative. To see sex from female’ pov really bring my perspective to another level. Thankyou for sharing, this will help my relationship tremendously.
your spiritual journey is wild and a gift to hear
gosh i love writen porn!!!!!! and you can usually tell when it's writen by women, because it's REALLY detailed, whereas men just get the job done hahah
Omg i never watch porn because it makes me feel uncomfortable! I will look into this!!
@@douloureux. then I would recommend books, because good short stories are really hard to find. I have one of those reading apps on my phone and download books from there. But then I also forget to masturbate because I get so cought up in the story haha. Anyway, enjoy ;)
what are some women authors that you recommend?
Please send some recommendations our way! lol
I have only read 3 books, and they were a trilogy. Alpha, beta, omega. Its tricky with these things, because we all have our own kinks ;) so i can really recommend anything.
Can I just say thank you bc with this video you’ve broken many boundaries set for women to talk about their sexual experience and I’ve learned things that no one will ever tell me ..you rock girl !! So inspiring
This is very encouraging. I needed a reminder of my sexual energy and power as a woman. Thank you for discussing this in a safe space! :)
It's so cool to hear someone speak so authentically. Thank you for being you.
I'm woke up in touch with my emotions today, anger, sadness. I love watching your videos and got excited about this one. I've only watched the first 5min and I'm aligning so much with what you are sharing and it feels incredible to be able to relate to another like this. The part about sexual traumas, crying during and after, celibacy and owning your sexuality. Okay I'm going to keep watching your video :)) Love you Hitomi and sending you love to support you through your break up as well. Love from Canada
I love how you've said you didn't feel like a scorpio, and here we are, with the most Scorpio thing I've ever seen and heard in my life 😂 I love it 💖💕✨
This was soooo educational. It’s wasn’t trashy or negative. You kept it very open ,raw and some class. Thanks doll 💕
God I want to meet you; I've been so choosey with my sexual partners my while life, because I simply cannot feel sexual attraction before soul attraction. The two are mutually exclusive for me. To be with someone when I don't connect with them, or they leave my life soon after, leaves me feeling a crater in my heart. Love you Hitomi ❤️✨
when I was younger I got an egg shaped rosequartz for my birthday and I just realized that its a yoni egg omg
maddy y woahh, that’s a pretty epic gift. If you want to use it now after all these years I definitely recommend cleansing it in natural running water and maybe burning some special herbs around it, like cedar, and setting an intention for this new tool. Then of course just sanitizing it in super hot water and a little bit of apple cider vinegar or soap :) I can’t wait to share this wisdom with my own daughter one day ah 💫
@@HitomiMochizuki222 thankyou so much for your guidance!! I bet the person who gifted me the egg didnt know that it was a yoni egg, seems like it was divinely guided to me haha. But the egg is kinda big and I haven't had sexual intercourse before, so I am not sure if I can try it... Since u are reading this I just want to tell u how much love I have for you, like u are such a wonderful being. You are so loving and caring and I really appreciate you! Thankyou so much for being. Sending u love and blessings
Essi thank you so much for the advice 💗
They’re not all meant to be that. Some are just decorative
what is a yoni egg?
This is great. I'm so glad you posted this video. Thank you Hitomi for what you share with us. When you were opening the video you were talking about how you've been feeling so connected to your body and your sensuality and I was just reading the astrology for this eclipse and that sounds so much like Scorpio and Sagittarius' forcast (which I believe was meantioned was your sun and moon/ascendant). Scorpio will be experiencing new chapters of communication, learning, and thinking (3rd house) and Sagittarius will be experiencing new chapters of embodiment, pleasure, and sensuality (2nd house).
Anyways, don't know if that's relevant to you but big love to you regardless. Thank you again for your content and connection💓
Kaila Webb Wow babe thank you so much for sharing the astrology wisdom, really resonating with these shifts. I am a Scorpio sun and Sag moon, ascendant in Capricorn. Excited for the fruits this new harvest will bring 💫🦋🙏🏼
@@HitomiMochizuki222 oh dang, with a Capricorn ascendant that would mean you're even more potent of a teacher for the times right now with all the planetary bodies and the eclipse, new moon, and South node all in your 1st house of self. I look forward to learning and connecting with whatever fruits you choose to share especially over the next few months😊
You are so so open and I really appreciate that. Growing up I always felt so ashamed whenever I would touch myself, but as I've gotten older I have learnt to embrace that and love it and not feel shameful. Thank you for creating such an open space and sharing your experiences xx
you talk with so much wisdom, it blows me away. you are so wise, beautiful and kind. you are an amazing role model for everyone!! thank you for being who you are!! ❤️
Hitomi, as a Tantra initiate (and I know you also studied Tantra) I recommend perhaps going deeper into it, since masturbation is the most surface way of using kundalini energy, since it is simply creative energy. Specially with ejaculation or the "sneeze" orgasm (bringind the kundalini energy downwards). It heals simply because as you orgasm you enter a hypnotic state which gives you access to your subconscious mind so you can reprogram. As a practioneer for many years now, I found that it is so much deeper to use that energy in other ways or realms (such as dreamwork). Masturbation usually generates thought forms that can drain energy out of you, I mean it creates thought forms everytime since sexual energy is the most powerful state. But anyways, be mindful and go within ♡.
Thank you so much for this video🙏🏽 been dealing with so much shame related to sex and my own femininity and seeing how beautifully empowered you are reminds me that I can also release all this shame and embrace my essence as a feminine sexual being:) Edit: I have been taking your advice and I feel SO empowered already thank you thank you letting go of all my sexual trauma and even bringing in so much positivity, you are a beam of LIGHT
dude she's like my therapist
This girl radiates positivity
it’s so nice having these sit down kinda conversations with you, i feel like i’m just sitting on my sisters bed learning from each other :) i find that i often don’t want to be sexual which sometimes upsets me because i wish i wanted to?? i think a lot of that is that my meds mess up my sex drive :( i also know that i have some unresolved sexual trauma and honestly i just don’t feel ready to address it, i know it’s important to heal and learn from it but i guess i’m just not ready and i’ll just have to work to get myself there :) thank u so much for these kinda of videos, it’s so nice talking with you
We recover in our own time. Also, trauma never gets "resolved", it's always with us. Sometimes we make moves to come to terms with it and heal, sometimes we move backwards. Don't feel like there's a clock but remember we can't move forward if we decide to never deal with it.
Omg, we definitelly need more content of this quality when it comes to sex and sexual energy.
I really wish that the people around me were like you. You really seem to love people just for themselves and you are so incredibly inspiring. If you read this I just want to say I love you and watching you grow as a person over time is amazing🤍
this is the best video about sex ive ever had. i got a whole new view on different things now, thank u soo much 💕
I literally need this session
What an important video Hitomi. Every time I see your videos I feel like you are one of the people that are changing the world
I just had a dream about u last night where I was literally talking about this with u and I felt like really comfortable about it cause my friends aren’t really into deep convo about like sexuality and intimacy that’s so wildddd 😭
I see colors as well!! I've never heard of others seeing that, so it's so good to hear🤍
Girl this outfit is everything, you look so good! And thank you for allowing yourself to be so open and personal about this topic ❤️
Hitomi you shine so brightly!!! I am not even 2 minutes into the video and I am reminded to why I appreciate your channel so much since you speak about spirituality and sexuality so freely and beautifully ❤❤❤
This post is one of the best I’ve seen online maybe ever. You should teach a course on this if you don’t already. Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable topic online.
Women need to focus on making sexuality a conversation that is OKAY. Men have made women’s sexuality a taboo topic and women haven’t seemed to break that lock. As a man we know everything about our friends sex lives and masturbation lives because we talk about it.
will forever be grateful for how open and how gentle you are. i’ve been watching your videos for a while and theyve really been teaching me all of the things ive felt like i need to know. keep doing what you’re doing ! its greatly appreciated :)
Hitomi you are an angel 💗 I can tell you are not judgmental at all and only care about empowering and sharing knowledge with others and that is super inspiring 💗
Your energy is so joyfull and peaceful, that just listening to you seems to inspire and recharge me in a way that is just indescribable. Thank you.
Please do this more often... I love the way you word things, and especially with this topic, I really felt your positiv energy and it gave me so much confidence ❤️
When i get out of a relationship im sad for months You go single and post something like this. Truly inspirational, i wish i was like u
Ooooh the magick of the Yoni 🥳✨🧡
Freedom flower can you make this a teaching moment for me please?
Gosh your videos are such a breathe of fresh air✨. I love how insightful and loving your content is. If you ever have kids in the future, they will be truly blessed to have a mother who is so nurturing and open. Much love❤️
hitomi...I channeled the word ‘pleasure’ and ‘safety’ during a self care session and could feel my aura for the first time. it shifted from a dark and yellow tone to a full pink body wrapping energy when I climaxed...I feel so connected to my divine feminine now- all because of the way you shared your journey with your body and sex. Thank you for opening my mind and body to the possibilities of exploration and raising my vibrations. you’re the best 🖤
i know its irrelevant to the topic, but how did you curl your hair like this? it looks beautiful
Omg i really wanted to ask this, its so beautiful 😂💕
Kaja Magdalena Hii thank you! If you saw my “Reset Routine “ video, the one I uploaded before this one, I had two little space buns on the top of my head that were made with two strands of hair twisted around each other and then wrapped into buns. I kept those in for a day and then when I unwrapped the buns at night this is what my hair looked like. Having damp hair or a little bit of leave in conditioner when you wrap it up will help the curls form !
Thank you so much for this video💜 my conscience had told me to go watch your vids, since I haven’t caught up in a while and this was the first to pop up.
This is my first time ever actually watching a whole Q&A video... EVER! I really wanna have a more relaxed me, I always look so angry and I hate it everyone always tells me to smile but im fine. I really love your channel, I feel like I've learn so much since I've been subscribe and watching your videos. My boyfriend and I just had an hour deep conversation I love that we communicate. Thank you for sharing 💖
I didn’t want this video to end 😩
I love you so much Hitomi. Thank you for sharing this video. One of my goals as of for this month going into next year is to get back in tuned with my divine feminine sexual energy. I think there's so much pressure on us to have sex by this time and if you're not you're like this prude and if you are your labeled a "hoe" for me, I haven't had many sexual experiences but I am also learning that just because I am not necessarily sexual with a specific person at the moment doesn't mean I can't own, embrace and honor that. I have a bit of sexual trauma I am working through & making sure I release those blockages through yoga, meditation and breathing. Sex isn't just penis in vagina as well 🙄 it annoys me when we don't include LGBT sex. 💮🦋🌷 it's just as valid. Anyways, thank u for this video.
No matter the topic I always love what you have to say, you are such a great teacher, you really bring divine energy into your videos and it really shows/I can feel it. Your videos always have a wonderful energy, and I want to thank you for sharing your energy.
The fastest I clicked on a vid all year😝
69 likes. nice!
Your so wise and open. I hope I can find a woman as smart and kind as you to be my partner. Thank you for this.🙏
Wow you have no idea how relevant this is to my recent internal subconscious traumas and thought eruptions the timing is crazy...💗 thank you
I don't have many friends that I can have these types of sex talks with and mainly because most people in my culture don't talk about sex openly. The only time I was able to have a deep talk was with one of my older friends who so kindly gave me the opportunity to ask about sex and shared her experiences, and it was one of the most mind opening conversations I've ever had. This video gave me an even more mind opening discussion, and although I felt slightly uncomfortable clicking on this video at first (not because of you but because of my hesitance and insecurity to even have this discussion since I've never even had sex), I don't regret watching you at all. I learned so much about how to connect with my sexual energy and I appreciate you making this video to share and educate about such an intimate and personal topic.
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I come back and watch this every so often for my own practice-such wonderful information 🥰
thank you for another phenomenal video hitomi. can't wait to watch and listen again. also, i feel the always forming an emotional attachment with sexual partners. it's made me feel sort of stupid or naive or like something was wrong for me. it's nice hearing someone who understands.
Thank you so much for this. I am trying to heal from sexual trauma and I can definitely relate to the sadness feeling you mentioned at the beginning. I have caught myself lying just to get out of sex in the past because it takes so much emotional energy out of me. This video was a great first step to my healing.
I resonated so much w this. Its so nice to find like minded ppl on the interwebs 😌
I feel you girl on such a deep level!
Thank you for this video💕💕💓 lots of love to us all☺️🥰
this is so incredible. your words resonate so deeply. thank you for being, i cannot wait to meet your light some day 💛
I have been so lost in the craziness of this year that I have completely forgotten about my spirit and the depth to me. Thanks for the videos. You've awakened a little bit of me I have forgotten existed. :)
Thank you so much Hitomi for speaking about such vulnerable experiences, just hearing you talk about the magic you experience with your sexuality reminds me that I can feel these things too!! Much love 💓💓💓
Alot of my sexual relationships ended up in a lot of pain for me, so like you, I took time away from sex (it's been 2 years). I'm afraid of experiencing that pain again, but at the same time, I want to enjoy sex again because Its one of my favourite things. How did you know the guy you met after your celibacy period was different and safer than the other people who didn't honor you?
I am so grateful to have found and subscribed to your channel. You have so much light, wisdom and good vibrations. The topics and the way you speak about them is just pure magic. Thank you so much! ♥️
I love that " If It's not a fck yes it's a fck no"
Your words were so wise, full of love, compassion and positive energy ❤ I feel so calm and appeased now ❤ You're so inspiring, thank you for this video it was really helpful ❤
How can I find people like you in the real world? I feel so lonely..
Elisabetta Cabiale try going meet people
Travelling
Start feeling confident and practice self love and gratefullness and you can defenitely manifest friends 🧡 By feeling how you would want to feel, while being grateful and happy for where you are, even if you are lonely-be fully okay with that. And love yourself sooo much everyday, take time everyday to invest in yourself, and let it go- just literally think “I trust I will meet my soul friends or soulmate when the time is ready. Right now I am happy too.” And like.. really soon after I had that mindset I met my now partner and all the friends that came with and I have so much people around me that I love and connect with 🧡✨ so this is my advice one year later haha hopefully you or someone else may read it and find it useful 🙏🏼🧡✨
@@ameliaheart5091 thank you so much ❤️
I'm so grateful I found your channel! 🙏🏽 Keep speaking your truth sister. ♑
She actually right. The atom and protons ans neutrons and electrons whwn you hit the climax it like a volcano blowing up. So with that burst of energy don't put it to waste. If you have a desire whether is financial, trying to manifest a special partner or whatever you want to create in this 3D realm you can use that energy to do it and let go! Watch the universe ✨️ have it come to play. Powerful stuff!!
you should write an essay or some other writing piece, no length is too short or long, and just go for it. write about all the things or whatever specific thing in this moment speaks to you. and then publish it online somewhere.
I just got Francesca Rose's 'Eat with the Moon' e-book that I have found to be super helpful! While it doesn't pertain to sex, it focuses on your cycle with the moon's cycle which you mentioned at the end and I bet you would love it! All of her recipes are vegan of course and she uses seed cycling which I though was very educational! I am going to try it out to see if it makes a difference.
You’re hair looks so so pretty!
This is exactly the type of talk every young boy and girl should be experiencing. And one i'm hopefully will be able to have with my kids one day.
i was just on her app and wanted to watch some old content of her aND BANG! NEW VID! clicked so fast
Thank you so much for this :,)) I'm visiting New York soon for my dance research and just wanted to say your honesty and vulnerability inspires me
Hitomi, what are your thoughts on birth control/what kind do you use etc.? Would love to hear you talk about that (and also in regard to spirituality) in a future video! ❤️
I love the idea of being naked around others even in non sexual contexts but idk how to find other people who would be down. Me and my friends are all pretty reserved with each other (not a bad thing I just don’t think we’d be comfortable in that situation)
thank you so much. i was brought to this at just the right time. i'm glad to receive it, and am grateful you shared your stories. i'm more excited and feel guided now :)
yes girl yeees! I love the way you use your channel and platform 🙏🏾 so much love & appreciation ✨🌷
You actually bring into me sexual energies haha
needed to hear the advice about "if its a fuck yes, then its a fuck no". ahhh thank you
i could tell that your partner was perhaps inhibiting your growth... so proud of u ... you’re just a source of pure love and feminine power and it’s especially coming thru lately !!!!
you’re such a glowing radiant light. thank you for sharing your wisdom and experiences! 🥰
i want to cultivate such healthy relationships with other ppl that are built on trust and openness but i just dont know how to ):
You’re so gorgeous and not just physically! I started doing this probably around the time you posted this but I JUST SAW THIS NOW in Sept 2020 ✨✨✨✨✨✨
Also wtf is your Venus? Bc yes to everything you say!!!!!!
came here after seeing you posted 15 mins ago, i’m here 😳💓
I am so happy that I have found your channel. I am also at this point of my spiritual journey. Just understanding my sexual energies a little bit more, and this video resonated to me quite a lot. Thank you! I just felt an energy of excitement from what you've shared.
When I watch videos like this, that really expresses a persons intellect, it makes me want to do solo activity to kind of figure out who I am and what I want from life.