A lot of thoughts about this: my husband's first wife (they have a son together) became my birth coach; we invited her to parties and holiday dinners; she slept on our couch when she argued with her second husband; we moved onto her street so their son could see both parents. The crossing over of boundaries often caused me uncomfortable feelings... when she too often referred to her marriage with my husband, when she would tell me (now his wife of many decades) what he's like... as if he's still the teenager she married. She tagged along on our visits with his family, causing (I later learned) my husband's brother's wife to feel enraged. It got weird. I don't regret all that we did for their son. But it's not easy, bordering on claustrophobic and emotionally confusing for all.
It seems to me that you would want a divorce if you wanted to press the reset button on your life--or, at the very least, to stop living with someone you don't want to be around anymore (for whatever reason). Staying together "for the children" (or whatever reason one supplies in one's mind) is just basically called "marriage." By the way, Maya's an excellent book reader. I mean, she could do that professionally, too: a greatly, multi-talented individual!
"Sunday goodbyes" and "transition days" oh god, it hits so close to home. Parents, please remember, if both parents love their kids, their kids want to be in close presence / access to both their parents as much as possible. It boggles my mind that they can trust each other to live together separately (which seems as complicated as a marriage) but still couldn't get themselves together to maintain their marriage (I'm sure there was something there but still boggles my mind).
A lot of thoughts about this: my husband's first wife (they have a son together) became my birth coach; we invited her to parties and holiday dinners; she slept on our couch when she argued with her second husband; we moved onto her street so their son could see both parents.
The crossing over of boundaries often caused me uncomfortable feelings... when she too often referred to her marriage with my husband, when she would tell me (now his wife of many decades) what he's like... as if he's still the teenager she married. She tagged along on our visits with his family, causing (I later learned) my husband's brother's wife to feel enraged.
It got weird.
I don't regret all that we did for their son. But it's not easy, bordering on claustrophobic and emotionally confusing for all.
Marriage certificate and Marriage license should be renewed every 5 years.
It seems to me that you would want a divorce if you wanted to press the reset button on your life--or, at the very least, to stop living with someone you don't want to be around anymore (for whatever reason). Staying together "for the children" (or whatever reason one supplies in one's mind) is just basically called "marriage."
By the way, Maya's an excellent book reader. I mean, she could do that professionally, too: a greatly, multi-talented individual!
"Sunday goodbyes" and "transition days" oh god, it hits so close to home. Parents, please remember, if both parents love their kids, their kids want to be in close presence / access to both their parents as much as possible. It boggles my mind that they can trust each other to live together separately (which seems as complicated as a marriage) but still couldn't get themselves together to maintain their marriage (I'm sure there was something there but still boggles my mind).
Loved this episode!
dont get married. next q
I see more and more each day how much being old fashioned pays off in the long run. Western Society is doomed
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