Warning: Celeste and "If Found" Spoilers! Also excuse me! It's been a real rough year. Had a few things to get off my chest ^^ I promise I'll try to make next year less uh...edgy
The "accepting that you're not broken for being trans" is such an hard thing to accept for me, thanks for making this video and reminding myself that i'am a human being too even tho i was assigned the wrong gender at birth
I'm lucky enough to have a supportive family and friend group, so I haven't (personally) experienced any of these problems. I do hope, though, that you're alright. Your coming out gave me the confidence to do it myself. I can not thank you enough for that, ever. I do hope, that you have a good day/night, and don't let anyone treat u like garbage.
Oh gosh, words can't describe how happy that makes me to hear. And the fact that you're claiming I helped inspire you in any way, truly fills my heart. I wish you, all the best. Thank you so much for being true to you
Congrats on a year! Parts of this hit hard, not gonna lie. My parents are "supportive" in the sense that they didn't disown me or anything, but they have barely tried on my pronouns. Last year I left an abusive relationship where my ex boyfriend not only caused me to lose at least year of my transition, but tried to slow down or stop every step I did do when I couldn't deal with it anymore. I'm in a better situation now, but fuck it still hurts
Sorry for the late response. It's hard to compare pain..But I'm very familiar with the feeling of compensating yourself, your transition even, and bending over backwards for the people you love, only to have them in no way attempt to do the same. It's a pain that's incredibly hard to forgive and forget. But I'm happy you're on the other side of it and that even if you're only taking small steps, then you're on the road to recovery. I wish I could hug you. I know I'm rambling and can't string words together well right now but. I'm really happy you're getting better.
I watched both videos back to back. I just want to say that this honestly helped me a lot. I'm currently approximately a year and a half through HRT, and I've had family and some friends give me hell for being who I am to the point where I get dysphoric from simply thinking about things, and it genuinely helped me a lot to know that I'm not alone in the struggle. I don't have a lot to say, but I'm hoping that you're doing ok at this point, and I hope regardless both--all of us will be. Thanks, Scribbs. Sending a hug your way. - Dani
As a person who recently realised that they're gender apathetic, I could relate to this. I didn't come out to my family, due to them possibly not liking that. Instead, I came out to my classmates. My first realisation of me not being cis is when someone used they/ them pronouns for me, in with I realised that I actually liked those, that was a few months ago. A few weeks/ a month ago, I asked my classmates to try he/him pronouns for me, in which I also realised that I actually like those a well. At the same time, I've heard about the identity gender apathetic, and then I realised that I might actually be that, and not cis. I now uses he/she/they + neopronouns. I may not be out to my family, but I know I have the support from my friends, my mutuals and the community. Remember, be yourself, only you knows who you truly are.
"Because you're afraid of the pain you might put them trough" I don't have unsupportive parents (although I'm also not trans) but one thing I notice about stories of people who did grew up with an unsupportive family, is that they always make everything about them, it's never about their child's suffering, it's about THEIR suffering, it's never about what the child wants, it's about what THEY want, it's never about the child, it's always about THEM, never about the sons and daughters, always about the parents. It's disgusting and sad.
This is truly a great milestone to reach, I'm happy for you :) I've tried to come out but always got told not to not worry about it or that "it's just puberty" as if those words would suddenly make all the pain go away. I'd rather not talk more about it tho since I don't want this to be a vent. I just hope all trans poeple out there are feeling loved and appreciated today
Parents are a huge connundrum for a lot of trans people. Myself included. Because our parents are supposed to guide us, help us along the way in life. But sometimes even when they're doing their very best, then sadly that's still not good enough. Try not to listen if they tell you that you're someone else. You're perfect the way you are
I'm so sorry your family is like that. You are a WOMAN, a very WOMANLY WOMAN! We will ALWAYS love you unconditionally! ALWAYS! We do NOT miss a boy like your unloving family, because there was never a boy! Just a beautiful girl living her beautiful life 😊
A trans woman is a trans woman, a woman is a woman, you are no less of a person for being trans but the same way a dog cant be a cat a man cant be a woman. And sorry to pop your bubble but I heard that from transexuals, the real transexual people know this and they are fine with it, its biology... transtrenders and confused people on the other hand...
this video is so amazing. i have really supportive friends, but my family is like yeah we support you but we won't cal you by your new pronouns because what really matters is the physical part and because you are physically a boy then that means we would call you he/him but you also aren't allowed to do surgery (, mainly because I am under 18 but yeah) this video made me feel so much better and it made me feel like there are other people that understand me
I've come out as Trans to a few select people in my life. My parents might never know. Who knows. I know their reaction already lol, and I think that's the hardest part. Knowing that if I do something that might push me ahead, I'll lose those that were with me for most of my life. Still, I just try to be myself, and explore new avenues of my personality that I never gave the time of today before. Thanks for your videos, they help me feel more secure about my place in my life as well.
I’m not trans myself but many friends and family members are. these type of videos make me so happy. Videos like these really do help people. I’m so proud of you here’s to another year of you being you. Oh and Celeste is a really good game.
Despite how supportive i know my family will be. I am still scared to come out. I'm scared I'll have to go threw something no one should. I'll get over that hill at some point but for now I'll stay in my cozy little hypothetical cottage at the bottom of that "hill". One day. I mean i still don't know if I'm trans since i only started really questioning my whole identity like a week and a half ago. (Ignoring my obvious denial) i just hope that I'll make the right choice when the time comes.
This video is great and very close to how I feel, around 7 months ago my parents found out I was transfem and destroyed me emotionally and got rid of my fem stuff and also told me what I was doing was killing them and it just been really hard for me cause I love them but also i wish they would accept me
I hope you are dooing well and I wish you all the best and all the happynis you could ever hope for, and that one day you parents will be happy and proud to call you there daughter.
No one is ever 'broken'. My friends, nothing can ever make you sub-human and nothing will ever change that. You are the most beautiful as yourself. Please never forget that you can only be yourself if you want that to be.
nice, so people who think trans women are not women and trans men are not men are also not sub-human either and trans people shouldn't be allowed to force them to pervert their perception of reality either, got it right?
I really want to thank you for making this video. I've known i was trans since I was 12, im almost 15 now. I live in florida and it's really hard, honestly, living in such a conservative area. Right now im in one of the lowest areas I've probably ever been in and ended up really alone after a long time of shutting myself out from everyone because I didn't know what to do with myself. Anyways, the point im trying to get to is that this video makes me feel so much better because seeing that other people are going through things like this and hearing you verbally say it with emotion and stuff makes me feel less alone, even if you're just a stranger on youtube. idk if youll read this but i thought i should thank you because if it werent for people like you who are willing to share experiences like this to help others feel less alone, I might not be here today. thank you so much
This is maybe my third or fourth time coming back to this video as it helps me get through these days. The positive messages you spread in this video helps me keep an open mind about my own trans identity. With all the transphobia out there, inside and outside of family, it is nice to watch this video; removing any negative thoughts about my gender identity. So I must thank you for making this video. You have truly helped me get through these last few days where dysphoria hasn't been the nicest. I wish you the best with the rest of your own transition
I just needed to hear this. My life has been miserable for a long time. I had to move to a unknown to me country, in which I can’t find any friends or people who i would enjoy talking with. I can’t even come out as transgender and bisexual, because my parents are really religious and homophobic. One time my father overheard me joking with my friend that i’m gay. This evening he told me horrible things about what would happen to me if he would find out to even support lgbtq people. That night, was the first of many nights spent with crying my soul out.
Ever since I came out, my mother has made a correction on her narrative. She told me last year: "Actually, love isn't unconditional. Whoever tells you that is lying to you. I can take my love for you away at any second."
I am so sorry friend.. I do apologize for speaking against your mom, if maybe you'd prefer I didn't.. But I hope for both your sakes, that she realizes sooner rather than later. That if you coming out to her, is the only confrontation her parental worldview can handle before it collapses. Before she decides it's too much to overcome and instead adapts this easy idea to let herself off the hook, that good parents don't love unconditionally. Then she's the one with problems. You're a beautiful person. Love exists, and you're worthy of it. If she begins to put her love as something to earn, then I hope you let her know your love should be earned too. Wishing you all the best of luck, and if I interpreted a little much based on your comment alone. Then I hope you know it was written with supportive intentions
@@ScribblyHoots Hey, thank you! Do not worry about speaking against her, long ago I stopped considering her a "mom"; she's now only a mother. I came out to her four years ago, and she has not changed for the better. But she made her love explicitly conditional and something to earn and maintain not as long ago, I think it was nearing the end of last year. And the thing is, I agree. She's the one with problems. A parent should love their child unconditionally, but like you said, it's easier for her to tell herself the lie that all parents are like her, that all parents can take their love away so easily, because otherwise she's alone. I did tell her that loving her, for me, is a chore. It's an active task and it drains me, it doesn't come to me naturally. This offended her. I think she had me for me to love her, not the other way around. Thankfully I'll get out of her life (or rather, get her out of mine) soon enough, probably next year or so. I'm getting top surgery and starting HRT soon, and she cannot control that, even though she still treats me as though I were a teenager. Thank you so much for your words of reassurance.
It shouldn’t be “us and them.” You are allowed to exist in the way you best feel like you should, as long as you’re not purposefully trying to hurt anyone else.
after watching this video ive realised that 99% of the "support" ive gotten from my family was the kind of toxic and manipulative kind very similar to what you have gone through and they aren't letting me start my medical transition because they're worried of the repercussions or some bullshit that they say and im so confused and so angry like why are they like this to me
Thank you for this video. Considering I am watching this at 3 in the morning and haven't been able to sleep until even later for several nights in a row now... I just wish I could just feel that way, too. You're helping, I can tell you that much. Stay strong, and keep being your amazing self.
this video almost made me cry (im not someone who cries easily at all), i just found out about your channel today and i came for your vids from like 2 years ago about celeste, and i just saw your two videos about being trans. i havent really felt like this in a long time, lately ive been struggling too much with my own identity, and after having came out to myself around a year ago i, hearing this made think and reflect a lot, i deeply felt what you said on this video and i just want to thank you for just helping me know that i am not the only one, hopefully it all gets better for us and yeah... thanks
You're so welcome (I was about to say your profile name, but I didn't want to risk deadnaming you if that's the case ^^'). But just please remember you're so perfect the way you are. Even if you don't figure it out right away, then that doesn't in any way make you broken. You're beautiful. And you're not alone. I can almost promise you, anything you're going through emotionally, I've been there myself
@@ScribblyHoots tysmmm (also this acc is like the one i made after i came out so yea claire do be my name now but i appreciate the precaution) and i still cant even thank you enough for this video, it helped me out so much bc it was almost like my feelings but told and explained by someone else and yeah idk it was so emotional, thank you
I'm happy there are people out that understand my feelings, My parents doesnt are very supportive with this, but i'm a trans women, and i'm very happy because i found someone that loves me, he knows about this and it's nice that people understand people like me more every day
then why when someone says a trans woman/men are not woman/men is treated so visciously? If a trans person wants to say its a cat, more power to that person, but don't force others into that delusion. right? or is it yet another "Rules for thee and not for me"?
I am very unlucky to have transphobic parents as I stated previously with them. As well as me doubting if I really am simply nonbinary but..I found out I am a Demiboy! I hope things go well for you, Scribbs! We will always be here for you!
Thank you so much for such a lovely video. It really is easy to forget these words sometimes when we're in our darker moments. I'm so grateful for publicly facing trans people like you. You are all very important to me.
I kind of understand my brother and sister are bi and I'm not trans or gay but I like wearing women's clothing and I'm straight. Kind of like a crossdresser or a femboy. I prefer femboy because it's the opposite of a tomboy and also because I have a feminine personality to. I have also had problems with my parents accepting me to when I got caught my parents were mad and I was sooo scared I didn't come out of my room till the next day. Also I didn't even come out to eat. Sooo yeah I understand.
and that's the issue, some men like crossdressing and it's totally fine, but in todays world they would force you to "transition" if they saw you doing that. In Canada they do that in primary schools and its enforced by law...
While there are some transphobic comments in this video's comment section, most of it are clearly supportive, which makes me incredibly happy. Because dehumanizing people for being who they are is some of the most evil shit you can do. I'm not joking or exagerating, it's really disgusting, specially because if left unchecked, it's not long for what some would consider just "mean comments" to devolve into actual violence against minorities.
@@QWERTY-gp8fd You're aware that the suicide is more often than not a direct response to said violence, right? A feeling of loss of control, of being so hated by society for no reason that you feel there's no point to living? You're such a disgusting person for making this stupid comment, but you also help to prove my point. Also yes, they are afraid of killing themselves, no one looks the idea of feeling that your life is so pointless that you might throw it away with enthusiasm.
This hit me hard, thank you! I have a hard time believing I'm not broken. I'm a trans man, and I'm out to friends and my mom, but not my other family. I'm too afraid to come out. There was some rough patches with my mom, but we're good now. I wish the world was nicer to trans people, and I wish it was easier to transition. It all feels monsterous. I found out a year (And almost six months) ago that I was trans, and its terrifying me (This video- theo only one I've seen of you- I think; made me subscribe!)
i dont feel any type of love. but i can understand. i can see many advantages. with wife comes segs, life saving in emergency situation , kids. you are not logical. lack of interest to certain activity doesnt equal lack of intelligence to grasp it. you are broken. @@StormsofPeril
You are not broken the world is. We live in a time where we all could be how we want to be but some of us choos to be limited and unhappy. These people than go on to make other feel bad so thay are not alown in there suffering. But there are manny people that will like you no matter what you look like these are the peolple that matter.
thank you so much. im nonbinary and even though i know other people feel the same and struggle, i steel feel like its a problem that i have to deal with myself and its just a me thing. i live in sweden, its on paper really great. i live in a accepting city and is rarely harrased or encounter negativity but i encounter something else. maybe it isnt a problem to complain about but here, its like people pretend to understand, pretend to feel bad but its like i can see that most people are transphobes internally and are too scraed to even ask for pronouns. its other people making me feel ashamed for being trans becuase they treat it like its something that has to be said quiet. The worst part of this is i cant even stand up for myself or argue because they dont actually say trabsphobic things and act like they are on my side. sorry for ranting, this video is really motivating me to come out to my parents, i hope that maybe this gives you a new perspective. thank you
aaaaa I loved this video so much! Cried like a big baby as someone that just recently came out as a trans girl, and can relate to having someome belittle and drag you down. Having someone kicking you out for you just trying to be happy in peace. I'm so scared and happy for the future, and I hope you continue your own personal climb up that mountain queen. 💙
i am gender fluid and iam still not sure how to come out to people but i do no they will accept me for who I am but still it's scary this video has helped me thank you
I really appreciate you making this video because I relate to it on a very personal level. I just started my journey and I'm still terrified of the future but I am also hope full. It nice to know your not a lone
This vido made me cry but it was still realy good but coming out to people is so hard, especialy if thay think you are perfect the way you seem to be, and even if theyx say they are fine with you being you, you stille feel ther paint and fear and it makes you whant to be anything but trans. But I am how I am and I will do what I have to do, I just hope that I can find the happyness I think it will bring me.
@@willfowler8540 nice lol I sometimes see comments like this and then it'll turn out like years later someone realizes they're gay/trans or something so I just HAD to check lmao
Something something you're not broken for being trans, I wanna post something meaninfull but can't find the words so to keep it simple you're not broken for being different just unique
It's amazing to see how friggin far you've come, friendo! Hugs to everyone. And my deepest respect to every beautiful person out there that has the strength to fight for their true self. You are amazing, at least in the eyes of this random person from the youtube comment section
I've had very similar experience with my family in other aspects of my life, and that's exactly why I currently have no intentions of coming out as gay any time soon. I probably will end up coming out at some point. But for now I'm just fine with them not knowing. On a more related note, one of my schoolmates in high school was openly trans, and our class teacher refused to refer to them with their chosen name and pronouns "because that's how it's written in the official documents" and they almost got in major trouble for insisting to be called differently.
My relatively supportive parents misgendered me in front of a random car insurance guy we met with and he misgendered me and I was stuck correcting them repeatedly and in the car ride home, I cried and told them off and basically non-stop for 15 minutes and then didn't so much as respond to texts from them for close to 4 months. They're a lot better about it now, but every time they hit me with a "oh but it's hard for us," I tell them off and leave. I'm incredibly privileged that I have the option to step away from them, and I'm forever thankful for it. Learning to tell off your parents is a challenge for anybody, but esp trans people. Ily everyone 💜🏳️⚧️
The world does not revolt around you, you have no idea how fcking hard it is to the parents and family too. You get support from media, from the government and from random people in the internet... your parents? they get all the hate from the ones mentioned above and even from you, you have it the easiest but you prefer to play victim 24/7, you are scvm (and not for being a transtrender precisely)
This is one of the most incredible videos I've ever seen. I've watched it countless times over the last two years. I can't thank you enough for sharing your experience and helping to pave the way for us. The conclusion of this video never fails to bring me to tears. I come back to this often to remind myself that no matter how difficult things get, it is so worth it. Also thanks for showing me If Found which recently became one of my favorite games. I just felt compelled to thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing such a raw video. It's really helped me to accept myself and cope with some of the challenges I face. Also inspired me to share my own story in hopes that I could help other people like you have helped me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🩵 🩷 🤍 🩷 🩵
I hearted this comment a while ago, so I could make sure to come back and respond.. Thank you, genuinely so much for your kind words. These videos are, as you probably understand, very nervewracking to make. But knowing they might strike a chord with someone out there like this always makes me so very happy I ended up releasing it! You're such a kind soul friend. And I truly hope where-ever you happen to be in life, then it's treating you kindly and lovingly. Absolute best of luck!
@@ScribblyHoots I know just how incredibly difficult it is to create and release something like this and I'm really grateful to you and countless others for laying a foundation for me and others to follow in. It's so important to have our stories told. I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. It felt really nice. When I made that comment I was in a really dark place after a pretty rough encounter with family not accepting me. That brought me back here to hear your words about similar experiences you had faced. Things are moving in a better direction for me now. I'm doing my best to keep moving forward despite the challenges. I even recently submitted the documents to legally change my name! Reading this really helped to remind me that I'm not alone that things can and will get better. Keep being your awesome self and I wish you nothing but the best!
Warning: Celeste and "If Found" Spoilers!
Also excuse me! It's been a real rough year. Had a few things to get off my chest ^^ I promise I'll try to make next year less uh...edgy
be strong.
things will get better over time. :)
@@ThatLostGamer yeah.
hello man
The "accepting that you're not broken for being trans" is such an hard thing to accept for me, thanks for making this video and reminding myself that i'am a human being too even tho i was assigned the wrong gender at birth
**big 'ol virtual hug bc you're awesome and deserve to be proud of yourself and this is very well-said**
I'm lucky enough to have a supportive family and friend group, so I haven't (personally) experienced any of these problems. I do hope, though, that you're alright.
Your coming out gave me the confidence to do it myself. I can not thank you enough for that, ever. I do hope, that you have a good day/night, and don't let anyone treat u like garbage.
Oh gosh, words can't describe how happy that makes me to hear. And the fact that you're claiming I helped inspire you in any way, truly fills my heart.
I wish you, all the best. Thank you so much for being true to you
@@ScribblyHoots bravo for coming out! dude the video was so insparing and happy for the feedback
Congrats on a year!
Parts of this hit hard, not gonna lie. My parents are "supportive" in the sense that they didn't disown me or anything, but they have barely tried on my pronouns. Last year I left an abusive relationship where my ex boyfriend not only caused me to lose at least year of my transition, but tried to slow down or stop every step I did do when I couldn't deal with it anymore.
I'm in a better situation now, but fuck it still hurts
Sorry for the late response.
It's hard to compare pain..But I'm very familiar with the feeling of compensating yourself, your transition even, and bending over backwards for the people you love, only to have them in no way attempt to do the same. It's a pain that's incredibly hard to forgive and forget. But I'm happy you're on the other side of it and that even if you're only taking small steps, then you're on the road to recovery.
I wish I could hug you. I know I'm rambling and can't string words together well right now but. I'm really happy you're getting better.
You are not whatever you "transitioned" to. You never will.
@@abcdefgasdfgshut up.
I watched both videos back to back. I just want to say that this honestly helped me a lot. I'm currently approximately a year and a half through HRT, and I've had family and some friends give me hell for being who I am to the point where I get dysphoric from simply thinking about things, and it genuinely helped me a lot to know that I'm not alone in the struggle. I don't have a lot to say, but I'm hoping that you're doing ok at this point, and I hope regardless both--all of us will be.
Thanks, Scribbs. Sending a hug your way.
- Dani
As a person who recently realised that they're gender apathetic, I could relate to this. I didn't come out to my family, due to them possibly not liking that. Instead, I came out to my classmates. My first realisation of me not being cis is when someone used they/ them pronouns for me, in with I realised that I actually liked those, that was a few months ago. A few weeks/ a month ago, I asked my classmates to try he/him pronouns for me, in which I also realised that I actually like those a well. At the same time, I've heard about the identity gender apathetic, and then I realised that I might actually be that, and not cis. I now uses he/she/they + neopronouns. I may not be out to my family, but I know I have the support from my friends, my mutuals and the community.
Remember, be yourself, only you knows who you truly are.
I constantly get the whole “I’m grieving the loss of my son/brother/best guy friend” instead of “I’m so happy you told me!
"Because you're afraid of the pain you might put them trough"
I don't have unsupportive parents (although I'm also not trans) but one thing I notice about stories of people who did grew up with an unsupportive family, is that they always make everything about them, it's never about their child's suffering, it's about THEIR suffering, it's never about what the child wants, it's about what THEY want, it's never about the child, it's always about THEM, never about the sons and daughters, always about the parents. It's disgusting and sad.
im simple, i see celeste, i click
This is truly a great milestone to reach, I'm happy for you :)
I've tried to come out but always got told not to not worry about it or that "it's just puberty" as if those words would suddenly make all the pain go away. I'd rather not talk more about it tho since I don't want this to be a vent.
I just hope all trans poeple out there are feeling loved and appreciated today
Parents are a huge connundrum for a lot of trans people. Myself included. Because our parents are supposed to guide us, help us along the way in life. But sometimes even when they're doing their very best, then sadly that's still not good enough.
Try not to listen if they tell you that you're someone else. You're perfect the way you are
I'm so sorry your family is like that. You are a WOMAN, a very WOMANLY WOMAN! We will ALWAYS love you unconditionally! ALWAYS! We do NOT miss a boy like your unloving family, because there was never a boy! Just a beautiful girl living her beautiful life 😊
A trans woman is a trans woman, a woman is a woman, you are no less of a person for being trans but the same way a dog cant be a cat a man cant be a woman. And sorry to pop your bubble but I heard that from transexuals, the real transexual people know this and they are fine with it, its biology... transtrenders and confused people on the other hand...
this video is so amazing.
i have really supportive friends, but my family is like yeah we support you but we won't cal you by your new pronouns because what really matters is the physical part and because you are physically a boy then that means we would call you he/him but you also aren't allowed to do surgery (, mainly because I am under 18 but yeah)
this video made me feel so much better and it made me feel like there are other people that understand me
I've come out as Trans to a few select people in my life. My parents might never know. Who knows. I know their reaction already lol, and I think that's the hardest part. Knowing that if I do something that might push me ahead, I'll lose those that were with me for most of my life. Still, I just try to be myself, and explore new avenues of my personality that I never gave the time of today before. Thanks for your videos, they help me feel more secure about my place in my life as well.
Happy Anniversary, Scribbs
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I'm not trans or gender queer, but many of my friends are and I try to support them. Videos like these just make me so happy ^^
It might not feel like it. But simply being supportive and being there for your friends, is enough to move mountains
many? real transexual people that got diagnosed or people who say they are trans? totally different things. Stop mocking transexual people ffs
I’m not trans myself but many friends and family members are. these type of videos make me so happy. Videos like these really do help people. I’m so proud of you here’s to another year of you being you.
Oh and Celeste is a really good game.
many? real transexual people that got diagnosed or people who say they are trans? totally different things. Stop mocking transexual people ffs.
Despite how supportive i know my family will be. I am still scared to come out. I'm scared I'll have to go threw something no one should. I'll get over that hill at some point but for now I'll stay in my cozy little hypothetical cottage at the bottom of that "hill". One day. I mean i still don't know if I'm trans since i only started really questioning my whole identity like a week and a half ago. (Ignoring my obvious denial) i just hope that I'll make the right choice when the time comes.
This video is great and very close to how I feel, around 7 months ago my parents found out I was transfem and destroyed me emotionally and got rid of my fem stuff and also told me what I was doing was killing them and it just been really hard for me cause I love them but also i wish they would accept me
I hope you are dooing well and I wish you all the best and all the happynis you could ever hope for, and that one day you parents will be happy and proud to call you there daughter.
5 months late but i have a stupidly similar experience
No one is ever 'broken'.
My friends, nothing can ever make you sub-human and nothing will ever change that. You are the most beautiful as yourself.
Please never forget that you can only be yourself if you want that to be.
I agree
nice, so people who think trans women are not women and trans men are not men are also not sub-human either and trans people shouldn't be allowed to force them to pervert their perception of reality either, got it right?
I really want to thank you for making this video. I've known i was trans since I was 12, im almost 15 now. I live in florida and it's really hard, honestly, living in such a conservative area. Right now im in one of the lowest areas I've probably ever been in and ended up really alone after a long time of shutting myself out from everyone because I didn't know what to do with myself. Anyways, the point im trying to get to is that this video makes me feel so much better because seeing that other people are going through things like this and hearing you verbally say it with emotion and stuff makes me feel less alone, even if you're just a stranger on youtube. idk if youll read this but i thought i should thank you because if it werent for people like you who are willing to share experiences like this to help others feel less alone, I might not be here today. thank you so much
You are valid, and the truth will allway win in the end
Just climbed celeste mountain, and watching this is an amazing way to celebrate. Extremely happy for you, and happy anniversary :)
gonna send this video to my parents with my coming out message when I get around to doing that
hope you got there and that it went well.
This is maybe my third or fourth time coming back to this video as it helps me get through these days. The positive messages you spread in this video helps me keep an open mind about my own trans identity. With all the transphobia out there, inside and outside of family, it is nice to watch this video; removing any negative thoughts about my gender identity. So I must thank you for making this video. You have truly helped me get through these last few days where dysphoria hasn't been the nicest. I wish you the best with the rest of your own transition
I just needed to hear this. My life has been miserable for a long time. I had to move to a unknown to me country, in which I can’t find any friends or people who i would enjoy talking with. I can’t even come out as transgender and bisexual, because my parents are really religious and homophobic. One time my father overheard me joking with my friend that i’m gay. This evening he told me horrible things about what would happen to me if he would find out to even support lgbtq people. That night, was the first of many nights spent with crying my soul out.
😭 I am sure you are a great person and that you will find awsome friend soon and that one day your partns will be proud of the girl you are.
Ever since I came out, my mother has made a correction on her narrative. She told me last year: "Actually, love isn't unconditional. Whoever tells you that is lying to you. I can take my love for you away at any second."
I am so sorry friend.. I do apologize for speaking against your mom, if maybe you'd prefer I didn't..
But I hope for both your sakes, that she realizes sooner rather than later. That if you coming out to her, is the only confrontation her parental worldview can handle before it collapses. Before she decides it's too much to overcome and instead adapts this easy idea to let herself off the hook, that good parents don't love unconditionally.
Then she's the one with problems.
You're a beautiful person. Love exists, and you're worthy of it. If she begins to put her love as something to earn, then I hope you let her know your love should be earned too.
Wishing you all the best of luck, and if I interpreted a little much based on your comment alone. Then I hope you know it was written with supportive intentions
@@ScribblyHoots Hey, thank you! Do not worry about speaking against her, long ago I stopped considering her a "mom"; she's now only a mother. I came out to her four years ago, and she has not changed for the better. But she made her love explicitly conditional and something to earn and maintain not as long ago, I think it was nearing the end of last year.
And the thing is, I agree. She's the one with problems. A parent should love their child unconditionally, but like you said, it's easier for her to tell herself the lie that all parents are like her, that all parents can take their love away so easily, because otherwise she's alone.
I did tell her that loving her, for me, is a chore. It's an active task and it drains me, it doesn't come to me naturally. This offended her. I think she had me for me to love her, not the other way around.
Thankfully I'll get out of her life (or rather, get her out of mine) soon enough, probably next year or so. I'm getting top surgery and starting HRT soon, and she cannot control that, even though she still treats me as though I were a teenager.
Thank you so much for your words of reassurance.
It shouldn’t be “us and them.”
You are allowed to exist in the way you best feel like you should, as long as you’re not purposefully trying to hurt anyone else.
I didn’t know about “If Found” before your video, paused, and cried many times while playing. Now back to the video
after watching this video ive realised that 99% of the "support" ive gotten from my family was the kind of toxic and manipulative kind very similar to what you have gone through and they aren't letting me start my medical transition because they're worried of the repercussions or some bullshit that they say and im so confused and so angry like why are they like this to me
Thank you for this video. Considering I am watching this at 3 in the morning and haven't been able to sleep until even later for several nights in a row now... I just wish I could just feel that way, too. You're helping, I can tell you that much. Stay strong, and keep being your amazing self.
this video almost made me cry (im not someone who cries easily at all), i just found out about your channel today and i came for your vids from like 2 years ago about celeste, and i just saw your two videos about being trans. i havent really felt like this in a long time, lately ive been struggling too much with my own identity, and after having came out to myself around a year ago i, hearing this made think and reflect a lot, i deeply felt what you said on this video and i just want to thank you for just helping me know that i am not the only one, hopefully it all gets better for us and yeah... thanks
i am self aware i may not be the best at expressing myself but I hope you kind of understand what i mean
and with all seriousness, thank you for this
You're so welcome (I was about to say your profile name, but I didn't want to risk deadnaming you if that's the case ^^').
But just please remember you're so perfect the way you are. Even if you don't figure it out right away, then that doesn't in any way make you broken.
You're beautiful. And you're not alone. I can almost promise you, anything you're going through emotionally, I've been there myself
@@ScribblyHoots tysmmm (also this acc is like the one i made after i came out so yea claire do be my name now but i appreciate the precaution) and i still cant even thank you enough for this video, it helped me out so much bc it was almost like my feelings but told and explained by someone else and yeah idk it was so emotional, thank you
i keep coming back to this video, it displays my feelings so well as a trans person, you are amazing, thank you
I'm happy there are people out that understand my feelings, My parents doesnt are very supportive with this, but i'm a trans women, and i'm very happy because i found someone that loves me, he knows about this and it's nice that people understand people like me more every day
youtube is targetting me way too accurately with those recommendations ;-;
nobody ever deserves to be treated so visciously for just being who they want to be
i hope you are doing alright out there!
then why when someone says a trans woman/men are not woman/men is treated so visciously? If a trans person wants to say its a cat, more power to that person, but don't force others into that delusion. right? or is it yet another "Rules for thee and not for me"?
I am very unlucky to have transphobic parents as I stated previously with them. As well as me doubting if I really am simply nonbinary but..I found out I am a Demiboy!
I hope things go well for you, Scribbs!
We will always be here for you!
Thank you so much for such a lovely video. It really is easy to forget these words sometimes when we're in our darker moments.
I'm so grateful for publicly facing trans people like you. You are all very important to me.
I needed this video. To anyone feeling this way please talk to friends if it is safe around them. And if not I'm here too
We support you, you are loved, you are valid!
Thank you for sharing your experience ❤❤❤
I kind of understand my brother and sister are bi and I'm not trans or gay but I like wearing women's clothing and I'm straight. Kind of like a crossdresser or a femboy. I prefer femboy because it's the opposite of a tomboy and also because I have a feminine personality to. I have also had problems with my parents accepting me to when I got caught my parents were mad and I was sooo scared I didn't come out of my room till the next day. Also I didn't even come out to eat. Sooo yeah I understand.
and that's the issue, some men like crossdressing and it's totally fine, but in todays world they would force you to "transition" if they saw you doing that. In Canada they do that in primary schools and its enforced by law...
While there are some transphobic comments in this video's comment section, most of it are clearly supportive, which makes me incredibly happy. Because dehumanizing people for being who they are is some of the most evil shit you can do. I'm not joking or exagerating, it's really disgusting, specially because if left unchecked, it's not long for what some would consider just "mean comments" to devolve into actual violence against minorities.
bro is afraid of violence but not afraid of kil,ling himself.
@@QWERTY-gp8fd You're aware that the suicide is more often than not a direct response to said violence, right? A feeling of loss of control, of being so hated by society for no reason that you feel there's no point to living?
You're such a disgusting person for making this stupid comment, but you also help to prove my point. Also yes, they are afraid of killing themselves, no one looks the idea of feeling that your life is so pointless that you might throw it away with enthusiasm.
This hit me hard, thank you! I have a hard time believing I'm not broken. I'm a trans man, and I'm out to friends and my mom, but not my other family. I'm too afraid to come out. There was some rough patches with my mom, but we're good now. I wish the world was nicer to trans people, and I wish it was easier to transition. It all feels monsterous. I found out a year (And almost six months) ago that I was trans, and its terrifying me (This video- theo only one I've seen of you- I think; made me subscribe!)
if someone need to tell you then u are already broken and trynna fix it.
@@QWERTY-gp8fd I'm not broken, I'm, aromantic. I fundamentally don't understand romantic love, and rarely feel it
i dont feel any type of love. but i can understand. i can see many advantages. with wife comes
segs, life saving in emergency situation , kids.
you are not logical.
lack of interest to certain activity doesnt equal lack of intelligence to grasp it.
you are broken.
@@StormsofPeril
You are not broken the world is. We live in a time where we all could be how we want to be but some of us choos to be limited and unhappy. These people than go on to make other feel bad so thay are not alown in there suffering. But there are manny people that will like you no matter what you look like these are the peolple that matter.
@@NowXenia THANK YOU
thank you so much. im nonbinary and even though i know other people feel the same and struggle, i steel feel like its a problem that i have to deal with myself and its just a me thing. i live in sweden, its on paper really great. i live in a accepting city and is rarely harrased or encounter negativity but i encounter something else. maybe it isnt a problem to complain about but here, its like people pretend to understand, pretend to feel bad but its like i can see that most people are transphobes internally and are too scraed to even ask for pronouns. its other people making me feel ashamed for being trans becuase they treat it like its something that has to be said quiet. The worst part of this is i cant even stand up for myself or argue because they dont actually say trabsphobic things and act like they are on my side. sorry for ranting, this video is really motivating me to come out to my parents, i hope that maybe this gives you a new perspective. thank you
aaaaa I loved this video so much! Cried like a big baby as someone that just recently came out as a trans girl, and can relate to having someome belittle and drag you down. Having someone kicking you out for you just trying to be happy in peace. I'm so scared and happy for the future, and I hope you continue your own personal climb up that mountain queen. 💙
That title is very accurate
This was a beautiful video. I can't seem to put into words how much it meant to me and how happy I am for you! Thank you😊❤
i am gender fluid and iam still not sure how to come out to people but i do no they will accept me for who I am but still it's scary this video has helped me thank you
I mean i'm not trans but my boyfriend is so that was nice to hear 👍
I have been subed to your Channel for over a year now and you are one of the best most underrated Channel ever you deserve so much more sub
I am broken not for being trans, my parent broke me when i comed out
I really appreciate you making this video because I relate to it on a very personal level. I just started my journey and I'm still terrified of the future but I am also hope full. It nice to know your not a lone
This vido made me cry but it was still realy good but coming out to people is so hard, especialy if thay think you are perfect the way you seem to be, and even if theyx say they are fine with you being you, you stille feel ther paint and fear and it makes you whant to be anything but trans. But I am how I am and I will do what I have to do, I just hope that I can find the happyness I think it will bring me.
I saw this video at the exact right time for me, and I'm glad that I did. Thank you.
Damn why’d RUclips have to hit me in the feels today
Thanks!
Wtf basket irl?!?!?
@@basil_gamin yes I became real
Omg brisket
@@Fade_NB I became real
I really needed this video 🩷💙🤍
I don't know who you are or why you're in my recommended but nice
how about now?
@@AliceMGT still no lol
@@willfowler8540 nice lol
I sometimes see comments like this and then it'll turn out like years later someone realizes they're gay/trans or something so I just HAD to check lmao
I need to hear that thank you.
Something something you're not broken for being trans, I wanna post something meaninfull but can't find the words so to keep it simple you're not broken for being different just unique
It's amazing to see how friggin far you've come, friendo!
Hugs to everyone. And my deepest respect to every beautiful person out there that has the strength to fight for their true self. You are amazing, at least in the eyes of this random person from the youtube comment section
I've had very similar experience with my family in other aspects of my life, and that's exactly why I currently have no intentions of coming out as gay any time soon. I probably will end up coming out at some point. But for now I'm just fine with them not knowing.
On a more related note, one of my schoolmates in high school was openly trans, and our class teacher refused to refer to them with their chosen name and pronouns "because that's how it's written in the official documents" and they almost got in major trouble for insisting to be called differently.
This was beautiful, thank you
🥺💖 you're amazing Scribbs
Thank you for the Video hope you find/have found someone in rl that unconditional loves you
Not trans but my best friend is and she is my best friend and this message could be perfect for her
My relatively supportive parents misgendered me in front of a random car insurance guy we met with and he misgendered me and I was stuck correcting them repeatedly and in the car ride home, I cried and told them off and basically non-stop for 15 minutes and then didn't so much as respond to texts from them for close to 4 months. They're a lot better about it now, but every time they hit me with a "oh but it's hard for us," I tell them off and leave. I'm incredibly privileged that I have the option to step away from them, and I'm forever thankful for it. Learning to tell off your parents is a challenge for anybody, but esp trans people. Ily everyone 💜🏳️⚧️
The world does not revolt around you, you have no idea how fcking hard it is to the parents and family too. You get support from media, from the government and from random people in the internet... your parents? they get all the hate from the ones mentioned above and even from you, you have it the easiest but you prefer to play victim 24/7, you are scvm (and not for being a transtrender precisely)
True.
Amazing video! Love ya
But... But I am broken, I have IBS 😞
Thank you so much for this video
I love you
I love you too!
thanks
What the heck does this have to do with celeste
Madeline is a trans woman and the game was made by a trans woman and the games soundtrack was made by a trans woman.
thank you this is an amazing video I really needed to hear this thank you please keep it up 👍😊🌈
So first I hear of you being Trans...
Nice.
It's nice like a lot of things are.
but i do hate life for it
🫂💖💖💖💖
🤓
What?
Bro has nothing better to do than harass people who are minding their own business
Incel behavior
Wait wuh
Second
But you are.
Nehj I don’t think she is
yes you are
😐😐😐😐
ok "matt"
yeah we deserve a nerf ngl, double jump is broken as hell
trans people are broken, like they're so op and cool there's just no way to compete devs please nerf
(jk btw)
Yeah like trans girls can double jump and fly we're broken as fuck fr
This is one of the most incredible videos I've ever seen. I've watched it countless times over the last two years. I can't thank you enough for sharing your experience and helping to pave the way for us. The conclusion of this video never fails to bring me to tears. I come back to this often to remind myself that no matter how difficult things get, it is so worth it. Also thanks for showing me If Found which recently became one of my favorite games. I just felt compelled to thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing such a raw video. It's really helped me to accept myself and cope with some of the challenges I face. Also inspired me to share my own story in hopes that I could help other people like you have helped me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🩵 🩷 🤍 🩷 🩵
I hearted this comment a while ago, so I could make sure to come back and respond..
Thank you, genuinely so much for your kind words. These videos are, as you probably understand, very nervewracking to make. But knowing they might strike a chord with someone out there like this always makes me so very happy I ended up releasing it!
You're such a kind soul friend. And I truly hope where-ever you happen to be in life, then it's treating you kindly and lovingly. Absolute best of luck!
@@ScribblyHoots I know just how incredibly difficult it is to create and release something like this and I'm really grateful to you and countless others for laying a foundation for me and others to follow in. It's so important to have our stories told.
I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. It felt really nice. When I made that comment I was in a really dark place after a pretty rough encounter with family not accepting me. That brought me back here to hear your words about similar experiences you had faced. Things are moving in a better direction for me now. I'm doing my best to keep moving forward despite the challenges. I even recently submitted the documents to legally change my name! Reading this really helped to remind me that I'm not alone that things can and will get better. Keep being your awesome self and I wish you nothing but the best!