You guys are legit witnessing live therapy sessions 😭😂 I know things get intense here on Chai Talk but it’s nothing but love and it’s important that we spark such conversations ♥️
I am lawyer and my mama and brothers against of my law studies .. Even they torture me for getting further studies ...they broke my laptop an cut my law books and until I got in depression and anxiety attacks and moved with my aunt with my 3 dresses and law books ... After that they blame on my character and never want me to do practice in the court ... Yes few people consider it fictional but because I born as a girl . live in a household where men are dominate and girls are slave who obey them so it happens and i am from Karachi Pakistan ... So if your parents are forcing you for studies you are bless ...at least nobody beating you because you wanna go to college and see libraries ..........fun fact is that I gave L.L.B exams without attend the class or see the books or teachers .. My close friends submit my fee .... Life is so hard for everybody
Crying mama jeee remind my time when I was crying before gave the PhD exams or Bar exams ..no body was there to motivate me or hug me ... Even thro I got A1 grades on finals and cried the whole night because nobody was there who happy for me ....
Parents don’t understand that a child is Allah SWT amanat to them, they are not their property nor it’s their job to make you happy or to satisfy your wishes. After becoming a mother myself I got to understand how hard it is to accept this but then it is what it is, Allah already mentioned in Quran that you will be tested with your children. Was so eager to watch this podcast to get mama jees insight on how to raise kids as I’m also a new immigrant but while watching it I really wanted to sit along Wajeeh to make mama jee realise no doubt you’ve done a great job in raising your kids but still his points are so valid and now that as a grown up he is discussing this with you, you need to atleast acknowledge him and try to educate others but mama jee still wants to name his grand children 😅 Loved watching this ❤
I can’t handle her…..defensive from the get go without even letting him say what he felt. With you Wajeeh. Her heart is in the right place but Desi moms have no clue about emotional aspects of kids issues!😊
Thanks for bringing attention to this. Not sure why doctors are held in such high regard in the Pakistani culture. Our moms are OBSESSED with doctors. Let’s break this and help ourselves and our kids prioritize Love, Happiness and PEACE over social status and superficial things.
I just listened to this on Spotify but wanted to say that this was so difficult to listen to emotionally but so so validating. I recently finished my second round of board exams and have been going through it. I felt so guilty for so long for feeling like this and having these thoughts but hearing others feel like this too makes me feel seen. Sorry for the ramble but thank you for having these conversations ❤
The quality has drastically improved from the first two episodes. Good job Wajeeh. Absolutely enjoyed this episode. Its really nice seeing you have this conversations and seeing Mama Jee's perspective as well.
While watching your podcast I realized that mothers like mama ji sacrifice their chance of being a “easy going” “chill” parent. It is very easy to be an easy going parent and let life take its course. So count mama ja as a blessing twice. My mother is mama jis souls sister, we have had exact same arguments/open conversations as this podcast. I aspired to be a balanced parent and not be a pushy mother. But, after having kids of my own, I can assure you kids need the discipline and the bar to held high. A concerned parents love does not allow them to rely on chances. Something you only realize when you walk 10 miles in those shoes. Kudos to your parents on being pushy enough to have you guys religiously secured, finically secured. People say money can’t buy happiness, neither does poverty.
All desi people who are raising their kids abroad, this podcast is a must watch for them. I have a 4 year old boy and that's what I always say I will let him do anything he wants to do as wajeeh says. But at the same time I want to discipline him as mama ji might have done. May I find the right balance❤ ameen
Can we just take a second to appreciate how his moms ACTUALLY open to understanding that their generational trauma might've been passed down to us in a way they didn't even realise? She's actually willing to be more mindful about her words and approach in the future. That's some top level stuff right here.
I have 4 kids, born and raised in Canada. I tried my best but I started to listen and learn from them as well during their teenage years. I understand from where Wah Jee is coming, I can feel his pain. For desi parents it’s time to change their way of thinking.
It’s very hard to convince desi parents, keep trying Beta. Fingers crossed I changed my way of thinking that’s why I have a great connection with my kids, Alhumdulilah
Please more of these podcasts! As a Pakistani American myself, your parents remind me so much of my own! It's all love, but it can be a lot of tough love sometimes. Sending love to mama jee! 🎉
This podcast just reminded me of all the arguments with my parents. While parents are always loved and respected they still need to understand that a child’s life is not its parents life and that the parents need to stop living their lives through their children. It is such a big pressure around that and the generational cycles continue. Another part of this entire conversation I wish we all did talk about is how the desi society has associated only certain occupations with certain genders, eg women can mostly only be doctors or teachers or nothing else because those are the only occupations for them that are respectful. There’s only hope that at least the coming generation can break the toxic cycles.
this title I totally believe she has always been so hard on Wajeeh and wants him to live the life she wants not what he wants..The other son is stronger and went and did his own thing..who knows what is going on with the daughter ..I hope Wajeeh gets strong and lives the life that makes him happy.. She thinks she owns her kids but she doesn't..Plus she doesn't listen and thinks she is right but she is not..Never pressure your kids and let them be who they are you need to be there either way..I actually feel bad for Wajeeh..I am glad he opened up and told his mother..I hope she knows she did wrong..He says your not going to get near my kids with education..that tells it all how he feels...
Please can you ask Mama jee if she made a difference in her parenting raising a son and a daughter and why? Loving these podcasts so much! May Allah SWT always keep you and your family happy. Ameen.
I would have disagreed with mama ji few years back but now I think after becoming a parent I agree with her on a lot of things. Wajeeh doesn’t understand these things coz he isn’t a parent yet the day he becomes like mama ji says thn one can say coz things change once you become a parent. Now a days kids think they know more thn parents. But time does come when you will only understand what parents meant. Just wait and watch.
Wow one thing I have been seeing in these podcast is that there isn’t a single minute I haven’t heard Wajeeh complaining abt mom being wrong. Man you have some issues now I think. Which you are taking out on your mom 24/7 on podcasts. Hats off to your mother the way she is dealing with your taunts constantly. Parents never want bad for their kids ever. Uff be nhi kehna chaye bt yahan tu uff haye haye chal raha hai lamba.
This was so many levels of chaos. As much as my mum is traditional, I'm glad she didn't try to predetermine what I was to become. I love Mama Jee but I've accepted even for my mum they'll never understand how much they've traumatised us even if they didn't mean to. I think watching this pushed my hairline back.
MaMa Ji is awesome but also a control freak and still a helicopter mom. She wants to fulfill her own dreams and live vicariously thru her children. Wajeeh is such a respectful son and also executes this podcast beautifully! He is so sensible and MaMa Ji should be very proud! Well done to you two!!!😮
completely agree. My mom started telling everyone that i will be a doctor when I was in preschool....i had no chance to think about what i wanted to become. It was just instilled in me from the very beginning. Im sure if I had my own choice to explore different options I probably would have gone into a creative or corporate field.
Let me say watching these podcasts, being an outsider of brown, arab culture etc. I feel like hugging so many people who have been hurt by embedded mindsets and toxicity in many families. These situations that anyone has gone through, know that generational curses CAN be broken, PRAY about EVERYTHING... Even if you think it's silly. God sees your tears and knows your heart, always know that God CAN handle everything your going through. Just give it to him and he'll handle the rest. You ARE seen, loved, protected and cared for 💖YOUR EXISTENCE IS IMPORTANT.
Asak I started off wid team Wajeeh but bro… Mammaji is real as she can be! Hats off yaar im 1000% team Mammaji. Tough love i agree & also feel wat Wajeeh is getting to but u wil thank Mammaji for ur bright future! ❤️LOVE this new Side of this ! Also MashaAllah keep doin it as some new parents like me get to learn from it!!!🤲🏻❤️😘
This is so true Wajeeh if someone is a doctor that is the first thing that is brought up. I have friends who were both doctors and on their wedding invitation they wrote Dr. x marrying Dr. Z instead of just writing their names. It’s all about status and knowing a dr and showing off, this is how our desi mentality is.
Wajeeh - thank you for bringing the difficult aspects into the podcast. Our parents mean well, but may inadvertently harm our esteem, career aspirations, and future in the name of "respect". There are so many other topics that breed toxicity but are so common in our cultures (i.e., colorism, religion vs. culture, family planning, etc.)
Bruh, when you get to my age (35) with a kid or two, you'll understand mamajee a lot more. Being born and brought up in Australia, I understand your point of view, and being a father of 2 (Alhumdulillah) my eyes/mind have opened up to what mamajee is trying to articulate. Keep up the great work 👍🏼 Papajee Zindabad ✊🏼
This a good example of generational trauma. Where she says our parents did this too and that’s what we knew. It’s our responsibility to heal the trauma so we don’t pass it on to the next generation.
Ngl as much as I agree with you on most things I definitely see things from your mom’s perspective too. When she said she started crying and it felt as if her world had ended when u called her after the Bar, I can totally see my mom reacting the same way. In a way our parents live through us so when we’re stressed they are too. They just don’t how to approach us and communicate that to us properly. Overall great episode keep making more content like this!
Hats off to Mama Ji for arguing with a lawyer. I understand Wajeeh's side, I know Desi's parents are hard to please, but as she said they have the best intentions. Wajeeh, let her talk more and don't use blame language. The fact she was crying when you did not do well in fact means she cared and she cared a lot. Blessed are those who have people who will cry with them.
Disagree you can’t take this “we tried out best “ approach as parents and turn ur kids into mentally traumatized …being parent is HARD if you are abusing ur kids and making them feel less and scared to talk to you. and say no parents tried their best is bullshit.
I seriously get so sad when the episode is done 😭😭 because it means I have to wait for another one 😂 but wallahi this podcast is everything it’s educational, motivational, funny, and light hearted love you both!🤍
I just love Mama Jee!! Our parents brought us up in abroad and they did really a good job!! They've raised us three sisters so well and good, Alhamdolillah.
Give parents some credit! They probably know they weren’t perfect parents but you’re here and successful and a child of God bc of everything that happened from our parents.
Thanks for taking one for the team and bringing this up!! I'm currently in med school and my parents are pretty proud of me for it. But, like you said, they tend to (unintentionally) brag about it and think it'll help me find the best husband...again with the idea of prestige 😐I found myself wondering recently - did I really pick medicine because I love it, or was I led to believe that "I wanted to be a doctor since childhood"...
Yeah it’s all about prestige for most. And for some reason, doctors tend to marry another doctor. The classism among the medical profession is on another level.
This podcast is like a therapy session for you guys haha!! I can understand from both perspectives, one day when you have a child Wajeeh you will understand why your mum did what she did, this is coming from someone who doesn't have a mother in her life! But mama jee also needs to chill 😂 it is the 21st century and she needs to work on her parenting approach....sending love ❤️
I am born and raised in Canada by immigrant Indian parents. I am an Optometrist and now have an 8 year old daughter, second gen Canadian. I 100% agree with everything MamaJee is saying. Her words gave me tingles. If she wasn’t who she was, you wouldn’t be who you are. You need to stop talking so much Wajeeh 😜
Wajeeh thankyou for doing this topic with Mama Jee as this is such a sensitive topic to even bring up! Let alone do a whole ep on this. And this not only applies to desi parents this is to oriental Asians or those that have parents that also has a lot of say in shaping their kids lives.
At 2:44 and I needed to comment. You hear it so much “wait until you have your own kids”. Guess what? Have my own kid and I STILL feel the same as I did before. No way I can do to my child what was done to me.
You’re actually lucky your parents push you to your limits to have a good profession and career path for you. Some doesn’t have that and they’re not prepared to face reality of life. We’re just children of our parents we definitely need guidance from them.
I agree 100% with u here Wajeeh but one must not judge their parents.They are also learning with time and mostly carrying the biases and mentality of their ancestors.
I was raised here, and now my kids are being raised. Never have I said you should, I’ve said do whatever you like to do to make yourself happy. Now my mom tells them be a doctor,hahaha. I’m like mom let them be what they want to be as long as they are happy.
Love the podcast broo! I was listening on Spotify and got to the doctor part.Tbh I don’t blame her for thinking that because that’s how they grew up. With that being said, NO, you do not have to be a good person to be a doctor. I know plenty of horrible doctors but the community brushes aside the way they treat their spouses because of the title. This narrative has to change because there’s plenty of people who aren’t doctors who are wonderful people but they get passed up because of a lack of MD or DO….
Mama ji seems like a tough mom, her thinking is a very typical desi thinking which can be suffocating for children. I’m raiding a son now & I can never force him like this because my parents never forced me. Everything seems to be about her 😂
Mama Jee is adorable. I thought that i would become the advocate of Mama Jee in front of lawyer who liked and admired to become dancer in Punjabi movie. It's good that Mama Jee broke his dancing fortune. Thank God.
Wajeeh pressure make’s diamonds and pressure also bursts pipes, pressure from your mom is what made you a Lawyer. A good coach knows how to apply the right amount of pressure depending upon the player’s abilities!
I totally get about you saying of adding another layer of stress by our parents on top of strenuous long exams. I had the same experience during my MCAT. Our parents have outdated approach of parenting. Kindness goes long way.
Wajeeh!!! You're mom is just right!!! I didn't stress my kids what to opt. But now they are so confused which profession to opt. Our parents were just right ,they set an aim for us. I don't say we achieved that but at least we became good citizens,educated, disciplined and civilized. There should be some ain for kids to follow.
Loved this...its funny how she was proving your points but still trying to say its not parents fault. I'm alittle bit older than you, but I went through the same. Parent's brainwashed me to study in Medical field, but soon as I realized in College its not for me...I switched and that was end of their world. Desi parents have a way of using emotional drama to force things on you and it can be toxic. At the sametime it good you have someone like your mom to keep you in track. Loved this podcast and hope you continue to talk about more topics like this.
I don't think anyone can force you to become anything. You just chose the easy option to go with what was instilled in you or shown to you. You brother is a clear example of how he chose his own path. It's difficult to find your own path. If you couldn't speak up for yourself then it's your problem. You can't blame others for your shortcomings. Also life does not end after you do one degree, you can always switch careers. Try doing what you think is right. Blaming others is easy, paving your own path is difficult.
I know I'm late to these podcasts but after watching this episode, I think the biggest takeaway from this discussion in particular is that Mama Jee didn't trust Wajeeh enough that he knew what he needed to do and she felt that she needed to remind him and pressure when like he was trying to allude to, if he got to the bar exam which is so hard and intense as it is, how would he not know the bar exam is gonna be the hardest thing he's going to take
As someone who was born with hearing and vision disabilities, it always felt like the goal post was moving. 1st it was like oh my son isn't "normal" he's not mentally there. Then when I got a little older and proved that there wasn't anything wrong with me mentally or anything. I just need to wear hearing aids and glasses, then I"m good. The goal post changed to why aren't you basically a doctor now. Like bruh, so no support either way?
God this triggers me so much. Indian parents want their kids to sacrifice their lives and future so they can be happy. Forcing your kids into careers they don't want. Good for Ahmed for taking that step. He has shown real strength and courage. Shame on Indian parents with this backwards mentally. In all of the episodes, her ignorance and inability to understand and listen and empathize with her kids is so frustrating to see. I hope you all free yourself from these shackles. God bless you kids and love n prayers to your wives.
Salaam Wajeeh, I’m loving these podcasts, being Desi these talks are much needed! Can you ask mamajee about getting married, living with parents after you’re married and the daughter in law living with parents why it’s expected from the only son and nothing else is. This will be much appreciated.
I would also Like to add that in desi parents even though we as a human are full of flaws but they want their kids to be perfect and they scare them forever That's one of the biggest issue in desi households.. “Do not raise your children the way [your] parents raised you, they were born for a different time.” ― Ali Bin Abi Thalib
Amazing relation just like friends, you are alwz like you are scared of your mom, but i can see many tims there were moments where you scared her n made her come back on main topic.. i am not saying its bad its like best friend.. and yes only one thing is "no one is perfect in this world" neither you nor she... Everyone makes mistakes and learns.. she is strong lady i like her and the upbringing and culture value she have put in her kids is amazing...
You guys are legit witnessing live therapy sessions 😭😂 I know things get intense here on Chai Talk but it’s nothing but love and it’s important that we spark such conversations ♥️
Good podcast but just a friendly suggestion , don’t talk over your mum.😊
Can we get an episode on aymens driving and her whole journey getting her license because those videos that you posted where so funny.
I am lawyer and my mama and brothers against of my law studies .. Even they torture me for getting further studies ...they broke my laptop an cut my law books and until I got in depression and anxiety attacks and moved with my aunt with my 3 dresses and law books ... After that they blame on my character and never want me to do practice in the court ... Yes few people consider it fictional but because I born as a girl . live in a household where men are dominate and girls are slave who obey them so it happens and i am from Karachi Pakistan ... So if your parents are forcing you for studies you are bless ...at least nobody beating you because you wanna go to college and see libraries ..........fun fact is that I gave L.L.B exams without attend the class or see the books or teachers .. My close friends submit my fee .... Life is so hard for everybody
Get papa jee in and how does he cope with your mums mouth.
Crying mama jeee remind my time when I was crying before gave the PhD exams or Bar exams ..no body was there to motivate me or hug me ... Even thro I got A1 grades on finals and cried the whole night because nobody was there who happy for me ....
We need Papa ji on here
Coming soon 👀
Yes
Great idea
Papa ji and mama ji together
*Wajeeh, this is the BEST podcast thus far! It’s a topic that many of us from all cultural backgrounds can relate to on a profound level.*
she does have a point, Wajeeh is a smart and quick talker.. hallmarks of a lawyer.
I think my blood pressure goes up watching these. But I can’t stop 😂
😂
Are u dobi or what????
Parents don’t understand that a child is Allah SWT amanat to them, they are not their property nor it’s their job to make you happy or to satisfy your wishes. After becoming a mother myself I got to understand how hard it is to accept this but then it is what it is, Allah already mentioned in Quran that you will be tested with your children.
Was so eager to watch this podcast to get mama jees insight on how to raise kids as I’m also a new immigrant but while watching it I really wanted to sit along Wajeeh to make mama jee realise no doubt you’ve done a great job in raising your kids but still his points are so valid and now that as a grown up he is discussing this with you, you need to atleast acknowledge him and try to educate others but mama jee still wants to name his grand children 😅
Loved watching this ❤
Stop talking shit
14:03 "your ass is like Leela Bansali ass" 🤣🤣
God, I love Mama Jee
I can’t handle her…..defensive from the get go without even letting him say what he felt. With you Wajeeh. Her heart is in the right place but Desi moms have no clue about emotional aspects of kids issues!😊
We should all report her for child absuse.
Thanks for bringing attention to this. Not sure why doctors are held in such high regard in the Pakistani culture. Our moms are OBSESSED with doctors. Let’s break this and help ourselves and our kids prioritize Love, Happiness and PEACE over social status and superficial things.
Because they make loads of money
I'm a nurse and some doctors are some of the worst professionals in healthcare. They don't make as much money as people think either.
@@HKAMILAH + Student Loans
ive met some very unprofessional and rude nurses as well so what is your point?@@HKAMILAH
I need Ahmed on here!! I just know he went through the most crap being the oldest.
I just listened to this on Spotify but wanted to say that this was so difficult to listen to emotionally but so so validating. I recently finished my second round of board exams and have been going through it. I felt so guilty for so long for feeling like this and having these thoughts but hearing others feel like this too makes me feel seen. Sorry for the ramble but thank you for having these conversations ❤
Life for girs and boys are really different in a desi household. I want to know Mama jee's approach towards your sister's life..
The quality has drastically improved from the first two episodes. Good job Wajeeh. Absolutely enjoyed this episode. Its really nice seeing you have this conversations and seeing Mama Jee's perspective as well.
While watching your podcast I realized that mothers like mama ji sacrifice their chance of being a “easy going” “chill” parent. It is very easy to be an easy going parent and let life take its course. So count mama ja as a blessing twice. My mother is mama jis souls sister, we have had exact same arguments/open conversations as this podcast. I aspired to be a balanced parent and not be a pushy mother. But, after having kids of my own, I can assure you kids need the discipline and the bar to held high. A concerned parents love does not allow them to rely on chances. Something you only realize when you walk 10 miles in those shoes. Kudos to your parents on being pushy enough to have you guys religiously secured, finically secured. People say money can’t buy happiness, neither does poverty.
All desi people who are raising their kids abroad, this podcast is a must watch for them. I have a 4 year old boy and that's what I always say I will let him do anything he wants to do as wajeeh says. But at the same time I want to discipline him as mama ji might have done. May I find the right balance❤ ameen
Can we just take a second to appreciate how his moms ACTUALLY open to understanding that their generational trauma might've been passed down to us in a way they didn't even realise? She's actually willing to be more mindful about her words and approach in the future. That's some top level stuff right here.
I have 4 kids, born and raised in Canada. I tried my best but I started to listen and learn from them as well during their teenage years. I understand from where Wah Jee is coming, I can feel his pain. For desi parents it’s time to change their way of thinking.
It’s very hard to convince desi parents, keep trying Beta.
Fingers crossed
I changed my way of thinking that’s why I have a great connection with my kids, Alhumdulilah
Your mom cracks me up! Love her sass and confidence.
Please more of these podcasts! As a Pakistani American myself, your parents remind me so much of my own! It's all love, but it can be a lot of tough love sometimes. Sending love to mama jee! 🎉
She is 100% right about disciplining the children. I have seen so many children destroying their lives by not getting disciplined by their parents.
This podcast just reminded me of all the arguments with my parents. While parents are always loved and respected they still need to understand that a child’s life is not its parents life and that the parents need to stop living their lives through their children. It is such a big pressure around that and the generational cycles continue. Another part of this entire conversation I wish we all did talk about is how the desi society has associated only certain occupations with certain genders, eg women can mostly only be doctors or teachers or nothing else because those are the only occupations for them that are respectful. There’s only hope that at least the coming generation can break the toxic cycles.
this title I totally believe she has always been so hard on Wajeeh and wants him to live the life she wants not what he wants..The other son is stronger and went and did his own thing..who knows what is going on with the daughter ..I hope Wajeeh gets strong and lives the life that makes him happy.. She thinks she owns her kids but she doesn't..Plus she doesn't listen and thinks she is right but she is not..Never pressure your kids and let them be who they are you need to be there either way..I actually feel bad for Wajeeh..I am glad he opened up and told his mother..I hope she knows she did wrong..He says your not going to get near my kids with education..that tells it all how he feels...
So true. Parents think they own their kids.
Please can you ask Mama jee if she made a difference in her parenting raising a son and a daughter and why?
Loving these podcasts so much! May Allah SWT always keep you and your family happy. Ameen.
Great topic choice
I would have disagreed with mama ji few years back but now I think after becoming a parent I agree with her on a lot of things. Wajeeh doesn’t understand these things coz he isn’t a parent yet the day he becomes like mama ji says thn one can say coz things change once you become a parent. Now a days kids think they know more thn parents. But time does come when you will only understand what parents meant. Just wait and watch.
What if you kids say they want to become a part of lgbtq plus plus thn what bro?
Wow one thing I have been seeing in these podcast is that there isn’t a single minute I haven’t heard Wajeeh complaining abt mom being wrong. Man you have some issues now I think. Which you are taking out on your mom 24/7 on podcasts. Hats off to your mother the way she is dealing with your taunts constantly. Parents never want bad for their kids ever. Uff be nhi kehna chaye bt yahan tu uff haye haye chal raha hai lamba.
And what you are today are coz of Allah and thn your parents and thn it comes coz of you!
Period.
I love how Wajeeh stands up for the kids! (-something for the kids😂) Reminds me so much of my younger brother!
This was so many levels of chaos. As much as my mum is traditional, I'm glad she didn't try to predetermine what I was to become. I love Mama Jee but I've accepted even for my mum they'll never understand how much they've traumatised us even if they didn't mean to. I think watching this pushed my hairline back.
This conversation is everything... Thank You Wajeeh!
MaMa Ji is awesome but also a control freak and still a helicopter mom. She wants to fulfill her own dreams and live vicariously thru her children. Wajeeh is such a respectful son and also executes this podcast beautifully! He is so sensible and MaMa Ji should be very proud! Well done to you two!!!😮
completely agree. My mom started telling everyone that i will be a doctor when I was in preschool....i had no chance to think about what i wanted to become. It was just instilled in me from the very beginning. Im sure if I had my own choice to explore different options I probably would have gone into a creative or corporate field.
Let me say watching these podcasts, being an outsider of brown, arab culture etc. I feel like hugging so many people who have been hurt by embedded mindsets and toxicity in many families. These situations that anyone has gone through, know that generational curses CAN be broken, PRAY about EVERYTHING... Even if you think it's silly. God sees your tears and knows your heart, always know that God CAN handle everything your going through. Just give it to him and he'll handle the rest. You ARE seen, loved, protected and cared for 💖YOUR EXISTENCE IS IMPORTANT.
Love this series . It’s so accurate . Keep them coming pls 😂
Asak
I started off wid team Wajeeh but bro…
Mammaji is real as she can be! Hats off yaar im 1000% team Mammaji. Tough love i agree & also feel wat Wajeeh is getting to but u wil thank Mammaji for ur bright future! ❤️LOVE this new Side of this !
Also MashaAllah keep doin it as some new parents like me get to learn from it!!!🤲🏻❤️😘
I love this guy! Buh his mom also a GEM! ❤
This is so true Wajeeh if someone is a doctor that is the first thing that is brought up. I have friends who were both doctors and on their wedding invitation they wrote Dr. x marrying Dr. Z instead of just writing their names. It’s all about status and knowing a dr and showing off, this is how our desi mentality is.
These talks are so therapeutic! Great to see that other desi kids out there can relate to the universal struggles we all go through
Wajeeh - thank you for bringing the difficult aspects into the podcast. Our parents mean well, but may inadvertently harm our esteem, career aspirations, and future in the name of "respect". There are so many other topics that breed toxicity but are so common in our cultures (i.e., colorism, religion vs. culture, family planning, etc.)
Bruh, when you get to my age (35) with a kid or two, you'll understand mamajee a lot more. Being born and brought up in Australia, I understand your point of view, and being a father of 2 (Alhumdulillah) my eyes/mind have opened up to what mamajee is trying to articulate.
Keep up the great work 👍🏼 Papajee Zindabad ✊🏼
The way I can relate to everything they say is literally insane so addicted to these podcasts love them😂
Im dying hahahahaahahah at 18:28 'oh he could be a terrible person BUT hes a doctor' loool
This a good example of generational trauma. Where she says our parents did this too and that’s what we knew. It’s our responsibility to heal the trauma so we don’t pass it on to the next generation.
Ngl as much as I agree with you on most things I definitely see things from your mom’s perspective too. When she said she started crying and it felt as if her world had ended when u called her after the Bar, I can totally see my mom reacting the same way. In a way our parents live through us so when we’re stressed they are too. They just don’t how to approach us and communicate that to us properly. Overall great episode keep making more content like this!
Hats off to Mama Ji for arguing with a lawyer. I understand Wajeeh's side, I know Desi's parents are hard to please, but as she said they have the best intentions. Wajeeh, let her talk more and don't use blame language. The fact she was crying when you did not do well in fact means she cared and she cared a lot. Blessed are those who have people who will cry with them.
Disagree you can’t take this “we tried out best “ approach as parents and turn ur kids into mentally traumatized …being parent is HARD if you are abusing ur kids and making them feel less and scared to talk to you. and say no parents tried their best is bullshit.
Abuse is a strong word and has a specific meaning. Are you saying she abused him? Only Wajeeh can answer.
@@mamtasaxena5316 mental abuse …is still abuse. I am saying in general not for his mother,,
this podcast is sooo needed! ty for the subtitles and ofc the vulnerability between you both :)
Mama jee makes such a great co host to your podcast!! I love how she always has to argue back, and how relatable her response are!!
One of your episodes should be about love vs. arrange marriage!!! Love this podcast!
Your mom is amazing ! This is the best thing i ve seen in so long May allah give you all the happiness and bless your mother. ❤
I seriously get so sad when the episode is done 😭😭 because it means I have to wait for another one 😂 but wallahi this podcast is everything it’s educational, motivational, funny, and light hearted love you both!🤍
Omggg the heatttt😂 I so relate to your struggles
I just love Mama Jee!! Our parents brought us up in abroad and they did really a good job!! They've raised us three sisters so well and good, Alhamdolillah.
Give parents some credit! They probably know they weren’t perfect parents but you’re here and successful and a child of God bc of everything that happened from our parents.
Thanks for taking one for the team and bringing this up!! I'm currently in med school and my parents are pretty proud of me for it. But, like you said, they tend to (unintentionally) brag about it and think it'll help me find the best husband...again with the idea of prestige 😐I found myself wondering recently - did I really pick medicine because I love it, or was I led to believe that "I wanted to be a doctor since childhood"...
and sorry mama jee there are tons of terrible people who are doctors
Yeah it’s all about prestige for most. And for some reason, doctors tend to marry another doctor. The classism among the medical profession is on another level.
I want to have this conversation with wajeeh again after he becomes a parent 😂
Mama ji is great!! Love the two way conversation, I really agree in discipline part and today's parents
I was waiting for this so desperately
This podcast is like a therapy session for you guys haha!! I can understand from both perspectives, one day when you have a child Wajeeh you will understand why your mum did what she did, this is coming from someone who doesn't have a mother in her life! But mama jee also needs to chill 😂 it is the 21st century and she needs to work on her parenting approach....sending love ❤️
I am born and raised in Canada by immigrant Indian parents. I am an Optometrist and now have an 8 year old daughter, second gen Canadian. I 100% agree with everything MamaJee is saying. Her words gave me tingles. If she wasn’t who she was, you wouldn’t be who you are. You need to stop talking so much Wajeeh 😜
Wajeeh thankyou for doing this topic with Mama Jee as this is such a sensitive topic to even bring up! Let alone do a whole ep on this. And this not only applies to desi parents this is to oriental Asians or those that have parents that also has a lot of say in shaping their kids lives.
At 2:44 and I needed to comment. You hear it so much “wait until you have your own kids”. Guess what? Have my own kid and I STILL feel the same as I did before. No way I can do to my child what was done to me.
You’re actually lucky your parents push you to your limits to have a good profession and career path for you. Some doesn’t have that and they’re not prepared to face reality of life. We’re just children of our parents we definitely need guidance from them.
I agree 100% with u here Wajeeh but one must not judge their parents.They are also learning with time and mostly carrying the biases and mentality of their ancestors.
Favorite podcast rn, so relatable and it touches on important topics. Appreciate your hard work!
I was raised here, and now my kids are being raised. Never have I said you should, I’ve said do whatever you like to do to make yourself happy. Now my mom tells them be a doctor,hahaha. I’m like mom let them be what they want to be as long as they are happy.
My favorite part was the truth about our society and doctors . Finally someone said it
Chaye talk has made me go from a Wajeeh West fan to Mama jee fan 😂
Love both of you because your arguments are real raw and coming from heart ❤️
Love the podcast broo! I was listening on Spotify and got to the doctor part.Tbh I don’t blame her for thinking that because that’s how they grew up. With that being said, NO, you do not have to be a good person to be a doctor. I know plenty of horrible doctors but the community brushes aside the way they treat their spouses because of the title. This narrative has to change because there’s plenty of people who aren’t doctors who are wonderful people but they get passed up because of a lack of MD or DO….
Mama ji seems like a tough mom, her thinking is a very typical desi thinking which can be suffocating for children. I’m raiding a son now & I can never force him like this because my parents never forced me. Everything seems to be about her 😂
Mama Jee is adorable. I thought that i would become the advocate of Mama Jee in front of lawyer who liked and admired to become dancer in Punjabi movie. It's good that Mama Jee broke his dancing fortune. Thank God.
Wajeeh pressure make’s diamonds and pressure also bursts pipes, pressure from your mom is what made you a Lawyer. A good coach knows how to apply the right amount of pressure depending upon the player’s abilities!
I totally get about you saying of adding another layer of stress by our parents on top of strenuous long exams. I had the same experience during my MCAT. Our parents have outdated approach of parenting. Kindness goes long way.
Wajeeh talks so fast MashAllah without stuttering! I love this podcast! Love you guys so much!
Another amazing episode!!! Keep going ❤
Wajeeh Plz do an episode on desi culture and the syappe with marriage as a concept, eg: living with inlaws etc
Wajeeh!!! You're mom is just right!!! I didn't stress my kids what to opt. But now they are so confused which profession to opt. Our parents were just right ,they set an aim for us. I don't say we achieved that but at least we became good citizens,educated, disciplined and civilized. There should be some ain for kids to follow.
The best thing on RUclips right now is watching your podcast wajeehh ❤❤❤
Wajee: I won't tell me kids that!
Mama ji: I will tell them!!!
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Absolutely smashing podcast!
Loving the podcast bro, shout out from UK!
Loved this...its funny how she was proving your points but still trying to say its not parents fault. I'm alittle bit older than you, but I went through the same. Parent's brainwashed me to study in Medical field, but soon as I realized in College its not for me...I switched and that was end of their world. Desi parents have a way of using emotional drama to force things on you and it can be toxic. At the sametime it good you have someone like your mom to keep you in track. Loved this podcast and hope you continue to talk about more topics like this.
I don't think anyone can force you to become anything. You just chose the easy option to go with what was instilled in you or shown to you. You brother is a clear example of how he chose his own path. It's difficult to find your own path. If you couldn't speak up for yourself then it's your problem. You can't blame others for your shortcomings. Also life does not end after you do one degree, you can always switch careers. Try doing what you think is right.
Blaming others is easy, paving your own path is difficult.
Loving this consistency, podcasts and MAMA JEE
I literally stop everything just to watch these podcasts ❤ thanks for bringing the awareness wajhee
I know I'm late to these podcasts but after watching this episode, I think the biggest takeaway from this discussion in particular is that Mama Jee didn't trust Wajeeh enough that he knew what he needed to do and she felt that she needed to remind him and pressure when like he was trying to allude to, if he got to the bar exam which is so hard and intense as it is, how would he not know the bar exam is gonna be the hardest thing he's going to take
As someone who was born with hearing and vision disabilities, it always felt like the goal post was moving. 1st it was like oh my son isn't "normal" he's not mentally there. Then when I got a little older and proved that there wasn't anything wrong with me mentally or anything. I just need to wear hearing aids and glasses, then I"m good. The goal post changed to why aren't you basically a doctor now. Like bruh, so no support either way?
Such a great topic bro 😅
God this triggers me so much. Indian parents want their kids to sacrifice their lives and future so they can be happy. Forcing your kids into careers they don't want. Good for Ahmed for taking that step. He has shown real strength and courage. Shame on Indian parents with this backwards mentally. In all of the episodes, her ignorance and inability to understand and listen and empathize with her kids is so frustrating to see. I hope you all free yourself from these shackles. God bless you kids and love n prayers to your wives.
love you Wajeeh and love you Mama Jee and i also love your chai talks :)🥰
I'm living vicariously through Wajeeh rn
Salaam Wajeeh, I’m loving these podcasts, being Desi these talks are much needed! Can you ask mamajee about getting married, living with parents after you’re married and the daughter in law living with parents why it’s expected from the only son and nothing else is. This will be much appreciated.
I would also Like to add that in desi parents even though we as a human are full of flaws but they want their kids to be perfect and they scare them forever That's one of the biggest issue in desi households.. “Do not raise your children the way [your] parents raised you, they were born for a different time.” ― Ali Bin Abi Thalib
Being a new mother I totally get mama ji.would want to learn so much more from her and would be updated version of her insahAllah ❤❤
GOSH I love how you bought up this topic to discuss ❤❤❤❤❤
Ughh so relatable. The title thing takes you down🥲🥹
They do give you the choice but only when its too late and you are too into it🥹
Absolutely loved this ❤
You don't understand how happy these subtitles made me 😂😭
You guys need a "no interruptions" rule lol
I love these podcasts!
Amazing relation just like friends, you are alwz like you are scared of your mom, but i can see many tims there were moments where you scared her n made her come back on main topic.. i am not saying its bad its like best friend.. and yes only one thing is "no one is perfect in this world" neither you nor she... Everyone makes mistakes and learns.. she is strong lady i like her and the upbringing and culture value she have put in her kids is amazing...
Excellent pod cast...it was a good to hear both side...❤❤❤
the way you told her “bro be fr” is hilarious to me