So, I date a man and I have relationship OCD and among others, I was super addicted to adult videos with lesbian themes, I satisfied myself while watching the video, (I'm a girl) and from an early age I was like that, I lost my virginity I was 19 and it was with my boyfriend, but before I lost my virginity I fantasized about characters, I couldn't think about male characters and I only thought about female forgiveness because of the videos, but there was one time when I thought about a girl during the I was dating my boyfriend and I couldn't stop, I don't know if it was OCD, I liked the feeling but it didn't attract me, because of the relationship OCD I feel betrayed, guilty...
and the feeling that I am excited by that ocd image, and that I want to imagine it with groin reactions? I really don't know if that is also part of OCD, sometimes out of pure peace in the middle of the night or day it comes like that...sexual taboo ocd
General Arousal is general arousal just means to be awake and alerted (nothing sexual there) sexual arousal is a subtype, of course feelings in the groinal etc etc. sexual arousal wanted or not is still sexual arousal. So if you are experiences that around someone of the same sex. Weather you wanted to feel it or not is still sexual arousal that you felt. People need to stop saying oh it’s just my ocd.. no your body is reacting to stimuli that’s all. I Even if you didn’t have ocd and you still didn’t want to feel the arousal, it’s the same thing just let your body do what it does and move on that simple. No need to dwell on that. Every single human experiences general arousal as well. We can be walking with are head down and someone approach us and then we react of alertness and become startled that’s general arousal. Nothing serious. It’s not hard to determine if something’s exciting, if something or someone is sexually arousing to you this is when mindfulness comes in to be aware of what is causing this and if it’s actuality if this is what you desire. Because at the end of the day we can feel anything we want in the body but is this what YOU desire ? Arousal and desire two different things ! Back in the day many years ago and still to this day, there is actually something called ego dystonic homosexuality, this one s when young men and even young woman would realize at an early age they had these attractions for the same sex that they did not choose or ask for but were there. They 100% did not want to feel like this but again they had these attractions/and arousal. Just because someone at an early age has these feelings at an early age doesn’t make it ego syntonic or mean that this is WHO THEY ARE. They didn’t choose this. Same for someone with OCD who didn’t choose that and their theme. When you talk to someone who grew up with these attractions who in their heart does not want those attraction and would love to be with the opposite sex but doesn’t know what to do with these feelings and doesn’t align with their true values this is what you call ego dystonic homosexuality. It’s the same thing as someone with HOCD this is why you can have same sex attraction EXPERIENCES No it doesn’t mean your gay. But you can have these experiences and now start to question “oh now does this mean I’m gay” does this mean I have to go be with the same sex because I felt some sexual arousal” does it now mean I’m gay cus I thought this woman was pretty or I thought this guy had great abs ? No no no no no no. We are taught as a society that are arousal is what leads the way for who we are destined to be with. And that is far from the truth. Attraction and arousal and desire are all different. Attraction is simply interest in what you see. Does not have to be sexual Interest either. Arousal is just doing what the body is doing. We should learn to bless the arousal instead of punishing it. Desire is simply your cravings and longings separate that from your arousal.
So thankful for you! Educating, sharing personal experiences, not being afraid to say what it really is🙌🙌🙌🙌
Thank you so much Chrissy you are a true God send to all the children dealing with this. My 13 year old is starting to and your help is immeasurable
Thankyou so much for this video.. what a relief ❤
Lovely Chrissie Hodges
So, I date a man and I have relationship OCD and among others, I was super addicted to adult videos with lesbian themes, I satisfied myself while watching the video, (I'm a girl) and from an early age I was like that, I lost my virginity I was 19 and it was with my boyfriend, but before I lost my virginity I fantasized about characters, I couldn't think about male characters and I only thought about female forgiveness because of the videos, but there was one time when I thought about a girl during the I was dating my boyfriend and I couldn't stop, I don't know if it was OCD, I liked the feeling but it didn't attract me, because of the relationship OCD I feel betrayed, guilty...
and the feeling that I am excited by that ocd image, and that I want to imagine it with groin reactions? I really don't know if that is also part of OCD, sometimes out of pure peace in the middle of the night or day it comes like that...sexual taboo ocd
5:09 i didnt notice that banana before (iirc) but now i notice it in every thumbnail
General Arousal is general arousal just means to be awake and alerted (nothing sexual there) sexual arousal is a subtype, of course feelings in the groinal etc etc.
sexual arousal wanted or not is still sexual arousal. So if you are experiences that around someone of the same sex. Weather you wanted to feel it or not is still sexual arousal that you felt.
People need to stop saying oh it’s just my ocd.. no your body is reacting to stimuli that’s all. I
Even if you didn’t have ocd and you still didn’t want to feel the arousal, it’s the same thing just let your body do what it does and move on that simple. No need to dwell on that. Every single human experiences general arousal as well. We can be walking with are head down and someone approach us and then we react of alertness and become startled that’s general arousal. Nothing serious.
It’s not hard to determine if something’s exciting, if something or someone is sexually arousing to you this is when mindfulness comes in to be aware of what is causing this and if it’s actuality if this is what you desire. Because at the end of the day we can feel anything we want in the body but is this what YOU desire ? Arousal and desire two different things !
Back in the day many years ago and still to this day, there is actually something called ego dystonic homosexuality, this one s when young men and even young woman would realize at an early age they had these attractions for the same sex that they did not choose or ask for but were there.
They 100% did not want to feel like this but again they had these attractions/and arousal.
Just because someone at an early age has these feelings at an early age doesn’t make it ego syntonic or mean that this is WHO THEY ARE.
They didn’t choose this. Same for someone with OCD who didn’t choose that and their theme.
When you talk to someone who grew up with these attractions who in their heart does not want those attraction and would love to be with the opposite sex but doesn’t know what to do with these feelings and doesn’t align with their true values this is what you call ego dystonic homosexuality.
It’s the same thing as someone with HOCD this is why you can have same sex attraction EXPERIENCES No it doesn’t mean your gay. But you can have these experiences and now start to question “oh now does this mean I’m gay” does this mean I have to go be with the same sex because I felt some sexual arousal” does it now mean I’m gay cus I thought this woman was pretty or I thought this guy had great abs ? No no no no no no.
We are taught as a society that are arousal is what leads the way for who we are destined to be with. And that is far from the truth. Attraction and arousal and desire are all different.
Attraction is simply interest in what you see. Does not have to be sexual Interest either. Arousal is just doing what the body is doing. We should learn to bless the arousal instead of punishing it.
Desire is simply your cravings and longings separate that from your arousal.
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Hey ya! Sorry for bother you, but sometimes i see the profile picture of my now bf and my mind say : you wanna see the picture of your ex :(