I totally agree with Frances, even though there's still swelling there it's clearly a much more feminine look. I'm excited to see what the end result will be and extremely happy for you. :) xx
how did u pay for this? I really need help understanding how to pay for it and who to go to. I have been trying to build my credit, but that obviously isn't enough.. Please any tips!! c: I can't just "work a lot" for the money to pay for this. That would take a very very long time. I am going to be a student again next year, too. So working 2-3 back breaking jobs is really impossible
Kix I saved fairly aggressively but also my husband helped to pay for it; it was definitely a team effort; we currently live in a much smaller place than we could reasonably afford, but that's the "tax" of being trans i suppose. I had this done with Dr. Bart van de Ven in Belgium and it was about 20k euros I have a friend who did not pay in cash and the way she did it was via a loan (from a bank). of course then you need to worry about interest and repayments, but the cost of passing much better and the decrease in discrimination is also a lot, so it can be a good investment if you think about it that way
How'd you get a husband? Nobody will touch me with a 10 ft pole, or people just want my nudes or something, but don't take me seriously. Most guys who have shown interest are mostly mama's boys who can't find a girlfriend and still live at home and never had a job. I guess I'm seen as an easy target, but not worth a relationship or team work. Like I think a lot of people see me as having too much baggage. I'm 26 too, and it's starting to get pathetic because I've been alone my whole life, except one person when i was 18. Anyway, 20k euro is good.. That's like the price here in the US, but I think the surgeons here are garbage. They are so afraid of being sued or something, so they barely do anything noticeable. Honestly I have $500 in paypal right now, and another hundred in the bank. I have a $450 credit line too. I am so broke compared to what I need.
Kix it was a lot of looking through a lot of jerks and losers but eventually I found a good one :) the advice I would give us to *make him spend money on you before you do anything sexual* to be sure he is actually into a relationship. many women have a difficult time finding a good husband, and it's even harder for us, but it's certainly not impossible. focus on improving yourself and try to enjoy life, and that will shine through and attract like minded suitors (you still gotta filter, of course..)
I think lots of guys are being taught to not pay for dates and stuff, or it makes them "beta". I think feminists try to teach women and men to pay their half because equality. It just seems that kind of relationship is dead in the US at least. I live in a country area in north dakota, so there is a crap ton of marriage and stay at home moms, but a lot of phobia and stuff. Pretty much any guy I met just wanted sex right away, and I never gave it to them. Then they would either bitch a little or kick me out or not call. I've never been on a real date, and the closest was probably going through a drive thru to get KFC. It feels like I am bribed a lot of the time with food. Like food is the only thing guys think I apparently want. You know? Like somehow giving me a slice of pizza will make me "in debt" to fuck them. But I never really had romantic interests that were for who I was. I'll be honest... I'm really jaded now and constantly depressed about my life and my future. I've been through a lot of crap in my teens and early 20s that contributed. I have a friend who has a another friend who has a crush on them. I added this guy and we talked for like 2 weeks, and he said I have a "terrible personality" and doesn't "hate me", but doesn't like me either. Like I don't understand why I am so unattractive. Physically, mentally, everything about me is just wrong somehow to everyone. Someone always has a negative opinion about me, but then are confused how I have such a low self esteem. I feel like nobody ever notices me either since I was like 12 or 13, all the way to 26. I'm always seeing others find happiness or others have good things happen to them. I just get steamrolled by life over and over. Like society has thrown me away. I've been on the streets homeless, robbed and beaten, lived in shitty situations, lost my apprenticeship, ignored by supposed family. And then I just worked dead end jobs, traveled to a couple different places in the US, and then got stuck up in ND and things are so dark I feel like I won't live to see next week sometimes. I don't know what the secret is. When I'm beaten down so badly, how do I just magically "erase" all of this? Am I damaged and broken?
Kix I don't know you so I can't say for sure, but I felt in a similar situation to you a couple years ago. here's a video I made from around that time: ruclips.net/video/gfGrOonUjhg/видео.html that was my solution as far as what to do while waiting for Mr right.. might as well get paid if they're all wasting your time ;)
I totally agree with Frances, even though there's still swelling there it's clearly a much more feminine look. I'm excited to see what the end result will be and extremely happy for you. :) xx
Jeannie Wilder thank you.. it's nerve wracking waiting to see the final result but so far it seems OK at least.. glad you agree :)
you look much different Eva. the change is amazing... in a good way, more feminine.
Frances MaGinness 😀😀
how did u pay for this? I really need help understanding how to pay for it and who to go to. I have been trying to build my credit, but that obviously isn't enough.. Please any tips!! c:
I can't just "work a lot" for the money to pay for this. That would take a very very long time. I am going to be a student again next year, too. So working 2-3 back breaking jobs is really impossible
Kix I saved fairly aggressively but also my husband helped to pay for it; it was definitely a team effort; we currently live in a much smaller place than we could reasonably afford, but that's the "tax" of being trans i suppose. I had this done with Dr. Bart van de Ven in Belgium and it was about 20k euros
I have a friend who did not pay in cash and the way she did it was via a loan (from a bank). of course then you need to worry about interest and repayments, but the cost of passing much better and the decrease in discrimination is also a lot, so it can be a good investment if you think about it that way
How'd you get a husband? Nobody will touch me with a 10 ft pole, or people just want my nudes or something, but don't take me seriously. Most guys who have shown interest are mostly mama's boys who can't find a girlfriend and still live at home and never had a job. I guess I'm seen as an easy target, but not worth a relationship or team work. Like I think a lot of people see me as having too much baggage. I'm 26 too, and it's starting to get pathetic because I've been alone my whole life, except one person when i was 18.
Anyway, 20k euro is good.. That's like the price here in the US, but I think the surgeons here are garbage. They are so afraid of being sued or something, so they barely do anything noticeable. Honestly I have $500 in paypal right now, and another hundred in the bank. I have a $450 credit line too. I am so broke compared to what I need.
Kix it was a lot of looking through a lot of jerks and losers but eventually I found a good one :) the advice I would give us to *make him spend money on you before you do anything sexual* to be sure he is actually into a relationship. many women have a difficult time finding a good husband, and it's even harder for us, but it's certainly not impossible. focus on improving yourself and try to enjoy life, and that will shine through and attract like minded suitors (you still gotta filter, of course..)
I think lots of guys are being taught to not pay for dates and stuff, or it makes them "beta". I think feminists try to teach women and men to pay their half because equality. It just seems that kind of relationship is dead in the US at least. I live in a country area in north dakota, so there is a crap ton of marriage and stay at home moms, but a lot of phobia and stuff. Pretty much any guy I met just wanted sex right away, and I never gave it to them. Then they would either bitch a little or kick me out or not call. I've never been on a real date, and the closest was probably going through a drive thru to get KFC. It feels like I am bribed a lot of the time with food. Like food is the only thing guys think I apparently want. You know? Like somehow giving me a slice of pizza will make me "in debt" to fuck them. But I never really had romantic interests that were for who I was.
I'll be honest... I'm really jaded now and constantly depressed about my life and my future. I've been through a lot of crap in my teens and early 20s that contributed. I have a friend who has a another friend who has a crush on them. I added this guy and we talked for like 2 weeks, and he said I have a "terrible personality" and doesn't "hate me", but doesn't like me either. Like I don't understand why I am so unattractive. Physically, mentally, everything about me is just wrong somehow to everyone. Someone always has a negative opinion about me, but then are confused how I have such a low self esteem. I feel like nobody ever notices me either since I was like 12 or 13, all the way to 26. I'm always seeing others find happiness or others have good things happen to them. I just get steamrolled by life over and over. Like society has thrown me away. I've been on the streets homeless, robbed and beaten, lived in shitty situations, lost my apprenticeship, ignored by supposed family. And then I just worked dead end jobs, traveled to a couple different places in the US, and then got stuck up in ND and things are so dark I feel like I won't live to see next week sometimes.
I don't know what the secret is. When I'm beaten down so badly, how do I just magically "erase" all of this? Am I damaged and broken?
Kix I don't know you so I can't say for sure, but I felt in a similar situation to you a couple years ago. here's a video I made from around that time: ruclips.net/video/gfGrOonUjhg/видео.html
that was my solution as far as what to do while waiting for Mr right.. might as well get paid if they're all wasting your time ;)