Why You Procrastinate Even When It Feels Bad (& How To Easily Stop)
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Rían here. Thanks for watching! Procrastination isn’t about laziness--it’s a neurochemical battle that can be overcome.
With the science-backed techniques in this PDF, you can conquer your brain chemistry and complete a month’s worth of work in less than a day.
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Your desperate tactic of using a click bait title prevents me from ever trusting you and I will never buy your products and services but I am grateful for the info you have provided here to be researched elsewhere.
@@HOADisinfectant dude, Rian is the one owner of the original content, The one I posted is the one ripping people off
“Save to watch later”
Professional procrastinator....
Are you a hacker or a witch ?
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When your watch later list is at max capacity of 5000 😂
Clear Targets 7:05
Break tasks 8:18
Challenge-Skills Balance 9:45
lower the hurdle 10:35
regulate time 12:51
define the scope 13:29
Bypassing -response inhibition 14:15
the sleep to flow strategy 17:08
the flow pay off 17:25
Break tasks*
+Ambivalence at the end
@@LuciSheppy thanks; and Sorry for the mistake
@@peaku8129 you’re right:I’ll add this
I'll do it later
A big win for me was this approach: tell myself that whatever I’m supposed to do, I only have to do it for 20 minutes. Maybe it’s doing the dishes or cleaning up, or a task at work. 20 minutes is all I ask of myself. But invariably, after that 20 minutes is up, I continue with the work quite happily.
read the 5 second rule
@@jamesmccaul2945I thought that was the 3 second rule…
If that worked so well, I’d be curious how implementing these approaches work for you. The 20 min rule kind of touches shoulders with some of them. I’m autistic & add, plus longtime trauma carrier, so the concept of time is a tough one for me. The concept of “20 min” might as well be no time or all the time, for me. LOL -But, I wonder if implementing these ideas would have you in longer, more consistent flow, having the one concept down so successfully.
I do 30 minutes but same principle it makes tasks and blocks easier to jump into
Motivation comes after action. As Caroline Buchanan teach the 15 Minutes Rules, and Mel Robbins teach the 5 Second Rules ❤
Those were the magic words “Never say no to what needs to be done”
Conjuring the motivation to even say no would be a lot.
What uses more energy is making an excuse instead of saying no, if its the other way around you are using the same energy to justify not doing it when you legit could have just had it completely done.
@@jackpumper1364 Inefficiency is my middle name. Making excuses and procrastinating can sometimes take more energy than doing the actual task(always is for me) but brain not like do so brain make excuse
So treat it like a gentle cattle prod@@9tales9f
I'll be honest with you. At first, I thought you were yet another influencer who was gonna preach hustle culture. My o my was I wrong.
I have literally watched hundreds of hours of psychologists and neurologists talk on RUclips but you have managed to distill all that, connect them together and then some in just 23 minutes.
This needs to shown to every high school and college student and again as working professionals. This shit is that good!
I have to agree completely with you, like yourself, after being through so many similar videos, I had the same feeling, but decided to watch anyway and I am happy that I did, the explanation was clear, the advice of how to overcome obstacles are relevant and it was done in an engaging way. Which gives me hope that in the sea of clickbait and half-truths there are still gems to be found
Agree too. I'm 52 and wondering why it's so hard to do what I should. Rare to get a RUclips video where I've gone back and taken notes!
@@chrisolivier6415 Oh no, I didn't say those videos weren't useful. 80% of them were certainly quite helpful. And they went in-depth about a lot of things I was/am having a difficulty with. Like I have ADHD & depression and other stuff.
But yeah, he has connected the dots between how we think, how neurotransmitters affect us and how to be more productive etc. Which otherwise, I've heard those RUclipsrs talk only about productivity or neurotransmitters and so on.
Seems that algorithm has failed you.. 😅 It’s just New age capitalism 101… Exploiting “neuroscience” to deliver more, more effectively with a good dopamine boost afterwards.
@@marjanek1 How?
What he has said makes a lot of sense. All of videos I watched about psychology, Philosophy, neuroscience, 90% of them made a lot of sense. I learnt quite a bit from them. And it's helping me with my ADHD etc.
I've been breaking down tasks for years. It's incredibly helpful. "Write spec for Project X" never gets done. "Create blank document for Project X" _does_ - open Word, Save As. That's all I require of myself. And because I was successful at accomplishing that, the next small step is even easier. It's silly but it works.
I've heard the same from other psychologists. Basically if you put something nebulous in front of a person they'll "uhh..." until they start subdividing on their own.
Give that same person a list of 10 steps to do the same task, and they'll pat themselves on the back for figuring it out. The trick is teaching people to make the list on their own.
Setting weirdly specific goals is eye opening.
I hate disrupting but it's hard to maintain a long enough session due to my work schedule and family time, I have to change the time frame of me working on my personal project, it's the most high hurdle at this point.
As an adult I'm becoming aware that I've had ADD and ADHD my whole life, I've been referring to what I called flow state occasionally in my life (before hearing about "flow state" externally. I defined it as a state where I'm not distracted and I'm hyper focused on whatever task I'm trying to accomplish. In this state I notice that my hand eye coordination, the way I move through rooms, My ability to act without overthinking all improve. However it's hard for me to maintain the state. This whole inertia thing in this video rings so true, it's like my mind and body need to return to a state where I'm at maximum rest. Where I'm not using energy. In fact when I do enter these flow states they tend to leave me quite exhausted they can last anywhere from 5 minutes LOL into 5 days. depending on the task that needs to be accomplished; for an example, when I'm tending to an emergency state like the hurricane that we got hit with here in Nova Scotia last year I jump into action. I end up hyper focused on protecting my neighbors my home the community. I've noticed it's easier for me to access this "state" In times of emergency. After two years of self reflection I think it's because I grew up in a survival state for so long, living on the streets etc.
so this video is very enlightening for me, but I find it extremely hard to access this state with intention outside of emergency
It's another neurotypical-only advice that still only works for 50% of neurotypicals.
actually 50% is generous
@@9tales9f What's your point? Are you trying to help this man? Or hinder this man? What is the goal of these words?
I just wanted to note that hyperfocus is not flow. I used to believe it was, but if you actually analyze them, one is debilitating while the other is not. Hyperfocus is an ADHD symptom and cannot be controlled. It is you unable to break away from browsing digital cameras for 4 hours. Sometimes, both can align, and hyperfocus can lead to flow, but this isn't guaranteed and is highly dependent on factors. So, while both present similar states, there are nuances, especially around control.
@@alek2341 Hey, I am starting to learn about ADD right now and it sounds like you have more experience than me in that regard. So I have a question. Do you think if you would combine the information from this video and the primal part from the video "3-Minute Mental Hack to Take Control of Your Subconscious" from Colin Galen it would give you enough factors to purposely come into the hyperfocus state? Because hyperfocus sets in when you have a fear of missing a deadline for example and through the primal factor part from Colin Galen you could also achieve that fear part on purpose(At least in theory). And the video from Rian Doris helps you with getting as much distractions as possible out of the way in regard of helping to achieve the hyperfocus state easier. But that is just a random idea from a guy that got recently diagnosed and tries to get the most out of it so it would be nice if you could give me a second opinion about this topic and tell me if im completely wasting my time with trying to create this hyperfocus state on command.
1.Clear goals
- focus on target than outcome
Break down/fragment into Microscopic goals
2.challange-skill balance
3.override emotional
The explanation around why and how those points help are as important as remembering to do them. The video is already pretty oversimplified lol
"Overriding emotional" is imprecise too. It's more about being aware of your emotions and your internal state + acting accordingly. Being aware of your true fears and insecurities will help you figure out "why" you're avoiding stuff and "what" exactly you're avoiding.
Our emotions are like a sea, and as if catching waves as a surfer, you need to connect with that feeling to ride it out. Sometimes you wipeout and that's ok... get back on and give it another shot.
Thank you 🙏
@@bapanada9446 i could be wrong but i think they were just writing quick notes so they dont forget, for when they return to this video.i do that sometimes.
@@nahbirdie4773exactly tbh. Thanks.
This is a work of art. The content itself has rich substance and true value. You agitated a deeply relatable pain, revealed impact, evoked tension, then relieved it fluidly. Your powerful use of story telling with the authority and cadence you delivered this video was amazing. You even had the gracefulness to trigger 0 resistance, making it feel as if we were realizing what we've always known, then leaving us lingering with a power to actualize that your framework alone empowered in us.
This sounds so vague that I think it's a bot...or a tarot card reading...
Your work is incredible. The way you build off of each video/lesson and stay on topic, while providing easy-to-digest data and actionable steps…. It’s unmatched and I am so grateful for you and Steven.
Appreciate the support.
@riandoris thank u for explaining this .I didn't notice I was using some of these techniques subconsciously and so I don't think they were effective. I think this video will help me thank u
This is the best video on solving Procrastination I've ever seen. Now I'm shutting RUclips and going straight to work. Thank you
I was thinking all through the video "yeah, but what if it's actually dangerous, cruel, rash, or whatever?" Enjoyed that part at the end about ambivalence! Sometimes those inner voices are important intuitions.
Procrastination is watching a 23 minutes video about procrastination
flowing vicariously through a 23 minute video on flow 😅
This is so accurate and well done!! General written goals are great, But specific goals, with deadline, is supercharged.
Yes! Thank you!
Your message and delivery was brilliantly engaging and even gave me goosebumps. I struggle with an anxiety disorder and ADHD, and use procrastination as a crutch. I'm overwhelmed with the simplicity of this concept and am eager to commit to putting it into practice. I sense it will be life changing for me. Many thanks!
Thank you, Bud (and team).
Will do.
Yes, starting is 50% of the work, sometimes.
Stupid, stupid fact.
Sometimes I hate facts.
But ignoring them would be disastrous.
Open laptop.💻
I don't even need to decide what the first step should be!
Thank you. 🙏🏻
I'll also reduce or increase my allotted time to do a task;
Jump in quickly before I can think about the negative emotions;
Get going after sleep
(And I'll try using work music with the right frequencies in them to get that effortless alpha and theta waves).
4. I'll still need to have talking meetings to get clients.
But I help people get chatbots, so that saves people time.
In-person meetings are only good for fun or big events where many people can be met at once.
And I'll look out for ambivalence.
I'll get that flow state.
Best of success, everyone.
Appreciate the support!
I really enjoyed this. Your point about ambivalence really hit home for me because I’m someone who regularly gets into flowstate when it involves things I enjoy. I feel the line in the sand beginning to be drawn to where I can decide for myself which tasks are being avoided and which are being put off.
Interpreting procrastination as ambivalence is a true game changer. Thanks for bringing that up!
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 📚 Understanding Procrastination
- Procrastination types: inertia, distractibility, chronic delay.
- Procrastination as a result of the approach-avoidance conflict in the brain.
03:00 🏄♂️ The Flow Cycle and Its Phases
- Flow as a four-phase cycle: struggle, release, flow, and recover.
- The role of struggle in initiating the flow cycle.
05:32 💼 Engage: The Crucial Pre-Struggle Phase
- The importance of the "engage" phase in overcoming procrastination.
- How to make the engage phase easier for knowledge workers.
07:51 🎯 Clear Goals and Their Role
- Clear goals as a powerful trigger for entering a flow state.
- The difference between clear goals and broader outcome-based goals.
10:12 ⚖️ Tuning Challenge-Skills Balance
- The significance of the challenge-skills balance in overcoming procrastination.
- Strategies for regulating the challenge-skills balance: lowering the hurdle, adjusting time, and defining the scope.
12:45 🧠 Response Inhibition
- The importance of response inhibition in avoiding procrastination.
- Training response inhibition to overcome avoidance tendencies.
15:49 🌅 Leveraging Morning Brain State
- Using morning brain waves to reduce procrastination and enhance focus.
- The importance of starting focused work immediately after waking up.
17:41 💰 The Flow Payoff
- Ensuring a sufficient uninterrupted flow session to make the struggle worthwhile.
- Strategies for managing interruptions and scheduling to optimize flow.
20:01 🔍 Understanding Procrastination vs. Ambivalence
- Distinguishing between procrastination and ambivalence.
- Ambivalence as a signal that you should pay attention to.
- How ambivalence can yield insight and lead to better decision-making.
21:40 🚦 Overcoming Procrastination by Recognizing Ambivalence
- The importance of distinguishing between procrastination and ambivalence.
- Using ambivalence as a tool for self-improvement and effective decision-making.
- Building the skill of interpreting procrastination to recognize ambivalence in real-time.
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Thank you!
thank you!
So many AI this days😂 but very much appreciated
Thank you! This is really helplful. It was a lot to take in, so breaking it down like this is really helpful, as are the time stamps - and both together are extra helpful!!!
The first video that actually explains what I experience, and NO buy my product "X" to learn how to deal with this, amazing!
And the best part is I'm in sales to the Swiss cheese calendar part was also very helpful.
Lots of things to try, thank you!
Wow, it takes a lot to impress me. This is possibly the BEST video I have yet to see on RUclips, and I have watched an enormous amount of total hours. The concentration of valuable and credible content is simply amazing. Of course I gave it a thumbs-up and I subscribed. I look forward to watching more of your videos.
The last point of "Ambivalence" was just so insightful and new , different from all the research based scientific solutions and questioning the fundamental purpose of the work . ❤❤❤
I would have never thought that a video could actually help me so much.
I havent tried it out but I feel like i understood so much about myself and how i can engage in tasks easier
Thank you so much
“Haven’t yet tried it out” is the key part.) Have you, by now? Just curious 😮
Most welcome!
its a little late but I actually did try it out and it did work but somehow i just fell back to old habits but thats just something you need to break i guess
"Thank you for sharing this on RUclips for free; it was incredibly helpful. I've been grappling with the inertia problem, and until now, it was a mystery. Your genuine approach is truly refreshing in a RUclips world often plagued by clickbait. I appreciate the valuable content!"
Who else is watching this while procrastinating?? 👇
Really understanding the fundamentals of SCRUM can help with this. A super clear DoD, definition of done. Defining tasks that don't take longer then half a day max, otherwise break them up in smaller tasks. Start with the (detailed) end in mind. Imagine the feeling you get when the task is done. Eat the frog. Does working on your current task help you working towards your next phase or is it just to make you feel productive? (urgent, important, urgent and important, not urgent and not important) Listen to your subconscious to verify if it is the right thing to do, is it procrastination or even the rational mind thinks it's the way it is actually not.. Starting to prepare the task first can help with the actual starting the task as a follow up unconsiously, you trick your brain and take away the threshold of starting. Thanks for this nice summary video!
I listened to this podcast some 2 months ago or thereabouts. I have been cursed by procrastination the whole of my adult life. I am now in my mid-fifties. Procrastination has had horrible consequences - life limiting consequences.
The key idea for me was the idea of a task that is outrageously easy. It is not as if I hadn’t thought of that before. I had but not the next bit. Determine the next outrageously easy task. I don’t know if you said that or not but I applied it. The first week was not all that easy. I frequently had to stop (I think you said that) but by week 2 or 3 I didn’t. I could work. I was getting what was for me an unimaginable amount of work done. Just before Christmas I was walking down to the shops. Easy enough, you would have thought but a month earlier I could not have done it - not at that time, not on that day. For the first time in my adult life I felt normal.
This could, of course, all be a false dawn. I’ve had plenty of those down the years but I don’t think it is.
“Thank you” doesn’t really do justice to the difference that this video has made. But it’ll have to do for now.
I'm so glad that this video helped. Keep going strong brother!
Thanks, Rian, for putting structure into understanding procrastination in a way that I can now be aware in taking actionable steps in beating it!! I've lost some key opportunities in life because of procrastination, with this new knowledge i will apply will have the opportunity to show up as my best version of myself - Life is too short to waste it!! - Thanks!!
Thanks for watching!
Thank you so much! I’m learning how to overcome my anxiety to do because of this video. Your insights are life changing.
You are absolutely engaged on your content. Extremely valuable video. Thanks for taking the time to put this together. Much appreciated
I appreciate that!
I put this in my playlist 4 days ago. I still haven't gotten around to watch it yet. I'll get to it.... hopefully.
Thanks! I've heard a lot of these concepts before, but the way you talk about them and put them in context shed some new light on ways I could manage my motivation and energy better. I especially was struck by the idea of making sure your skill level is appropriate to the task, and tips on how to adjust the task to fit your skill level.
My pleasure!
Finally, something clearly, precisely described re how to defeat procrastination. So much high-value content. Will review this again. Thank you!
Most welcome,appreciate the support.
I get distracted by youtube and end up in a sort of flow state watching random educational videos and learning. I think this has significantly helped me to this point because of how much I have learned, but right now it has switched to being a problem because I am no longer learning things that are important in my life. The youtube flow state now just prevents me from starting any other flow state. I'm going to start working now though I promise.
Wow I struggle with this so much. In my business I have to create all of the product before I can sell it, and it's nerve-wracking to get started without any way of knowing whether a single one will sell... I supplement with livestreams for tips and that is just as hard lol... knowing that I have to just put myself out there and be open to all kinds of criticism and ridiculous anonymous internet people for x amount of time to make ends meet... it's WILD. It's stuff I have to be put together for, so it's not like I can just roll out of bed and get to work right away, which can be frustratingggg.
Breaking down the tasks definitely helps a lot. This info I sure hope helps me melt into the work rather than spending all day magically pulling excuses out of my hat
I needed this. Thank you ❤
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@@yourlittlehelper8778 ohh thank you dear ❤️
One of the most effective videos on getting into flow and breaking procrastination
Thank you for sharing this!
as someone with ADHD, people often say to us "just break it down into smaller pieces so it isn't overwhelming" without actually explaining that in any kind of meaningful way. What happens for me is "where do I start this breaking down process!?" and I'm still overwhelmed XD
I think this will help a lot and keep the doom scrolling down as well.
Most welcome,appreciate the support.
I've run into this too; when I break a task into every tiny component, the list becomes overwhelming. So instead, what I've found helps is not breaking down everything to this level; just the first steps. If I'm painting a miniature, I won't break down every paint I need to use, I'll just go for "sit at the desk, set up the palette, apply this paint to this surface". Once I've started, the rest will hopefully flow naturally; and if not, I can stop and try again later. Reducing the barrier to starting means I can make more attempts, which means more chances to reach flow.
ADHD is hell, hang in there; I too definitely appreciate advice that takes into account our strengths and weaknesses. Procrastination is a struggle for everyone but it's life and death for us.
Predomrtinal expectations resulting in a diverse personality diversity. Thank you Rian Doris. The Magdalen eye keeps speaking to me, influenced or not. Fear and desire wants completion...
I'm naturally a very anxious/avoidant person, and I have at least two diagnosed disorders that fuck my dopamine receptors up Bad, I've never clocked that procrastination/task starting is a chemical risk/reward struggle, that seriously opened my eyes, and all the following advice felt particularly tailored to my general Whats Wrong With Me. great vid man
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🤖 Introduction to procrastination and the 3 main types: inertia, distractibility, and chronic delay
01:20 🛡️ The approach-avoidance conflict in the brain that leads to procrastination
03:29 💼 The flow cycle and its role in overcoming procrastination
06:00 🧠 4 ways to overcome the approach-avoidance conflict:
- Use clear goals and tune the challenge-skills balance
- Bypass procrastination with response inhibition
- Ensure a sufficient flow payoff
- Distinguish procrastination from ambivalence
10:12 ⏰ Regulate the challenge-skills balance by adjusting time and scope
15:49 😴 Leverage morning brainwaves for effortless focus
22:35 🎯 Summarizes key strategies and emphasizes the learnable nature of overcoming procrastination
Saved this in my “watch later” playlist
Wow! I have a problem with procrastination. I am also familiar with the flow state. This video resonated with me and got me started on a project that’s been hanging over my head… I got into the flow…! I have to pause it right now for another commitment but I’m looking forward to getting back into it and finishing! Thanks so much!
I used to be highly motivated.
I have tried so hard as laziness has never been me.
Chronic pain is the underlying issue but i try everyday.
Thank you for some new ideas.
Going keto and then carnivore helped me so much with chronic pain and mental problems. Read Chris Palmers book Brain Energy. Everything is connected. Metabolism, inflammation, mitochondria, motivation, energy to do things, mental clarity and mood.
Most welcome!
Is it me or does the background music always bang. It’s an audio masterpiece every video
Wish I had watched this at 15 years of age. This advice is pure gold.
I've used a couple of these methods intuitively, like easing the anxiety that builds before starting tasks to very small goals, [example:zero excuse workout starters like goals of only 5 pushups a day], but this is a great breakdown of a complex multifaceted problem.
I work as a middle school teacher and I'm a new dad. There's no uninterrupted time. Ever.
And parts of the video still help.
Already doing this, this has been my cure to a fantastic but very confusing stream of thoughs.
where i struggle the most now, is when my goal is not clear.
But I'm trying to break that down also, and get onto the assignments following.
luckily for me, I'm taking an education that strengthens my toolbelt when i dont know which direction i need to go.
so i´ll be fine... But ill pick up the 15sec mentality from this.
You are such a talented educator man. I was captivated while watching this and everything you said clicked... An observer flow- state perhaps. Thank you for this free information ❤
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 💼 The COO of the flow research Collective outlines three types of procrastination: inertia (where important tasks are delayed), distractibility (where attention is diverted from important tasks) and chronic delay (constant postponement of life goals or projects).
01:08 🧠 Procrastination often derives from an internal conflict, where the brain's approach (pleasure and reward) and avoidance (fear and anxiety) systems are at odds, making it difficult to initiate tasks.
04:24 🔄 Flow isn't binary, but rather a four-phase cycle: struggle, release, flow, and recovery. The first step is the struggle phase, where you fight to engage with the task.
06:27 🛠️ Overcoming procrastination involves setting wildly specific clear goals for every task and tuning the challenge-to-skill balance, aligning it to your perceived ability. Tasks should be challenging, but not overly difficult.
11:37 ⏰ Regulating your time can also alleviate procrastination. If a task is too boring, set a shorter deadline. If it's too complex, allocate more time than you think you need.
14:25 🎯 Another way to beat procrastination is through 'response inhibition', which involves overriding automatic reactions. By harnessing the sleep-to-flow strategy, you immediately start working upon waking up, reducing the chance to procrastinate.
17:14 📆 The fourth anti-procrastination tool, 'flow payoff', requires you to ensure you have ample uninterrupted time to relish in the flow and receive the reward after the struggle of starting.
20:15 🚩 Sometimes, what appears as procrastination might be a sign that something does not feel right intuitively about the task or project at hand, and it might be a signal that should be looked into and considered further.
20:59 🕵️ Ambivalence can often masquerade as procrastination, causing confusion. It might actually be a signal you are on the wrong path or making a wrong decision.
21:40 💡 It’s important to distinguish between procrastination due to approach avoidance conflict and an intuitive sense of ambivalence signaling that a task should be done differently or not at all.
22:08 📚 Becoming attuned to ambivalence disguised as procrastination can lead to realizations and insights, which are useful for effective decision making.
22:35 🌊 With the right strategies and understanding, you can eliminate procrastination by leveraging clear goals, balancing challenge and skills, and fixing your schedule for effective flow payoff.
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Could you also provide a transcript of the video for a more thorough study?
I'm learning English, and it's not always easy to catch the meaning just by listening.
This is the third time I come back to watch this video and I'm closing it after watching for 15 seconds, because this video is taking so much energy I want to close it ASAP
I rarely find myself in this situation, this analytical view of procrastination makes perfect sense and that sense was somehow always in the back of my mind but completely unrealized until now - somehow hidden from me by my own brain and clearly a mechanism of my own procrastination. Thanks for bringing this into a light for me, thank you so much.
I can get into the flow state at will, thank you very much. My procrastination is not inertia. If I am able to do something I will do it, especially if I actually enjoy doing it (and I love my flow state so most tasks are actually enjoyable to me). Distractibility is also not a problem. It might prevent me from starting the work but once I start working I get in flow state and the work gets done. I'm actually damaging my health because in flow state I forget how much time passed and I don't realize I am hungry. My problem is chronic delay. If a task is too big and I find myself unable pick it apart in a bearable pieces or if one of the pieces is something I am teriffied of I won't start. Like... I am currently thinking about changing my workplace and rented place, I would even switch towns because I am bored with my current life but I can't bring myself to take a step because I am afraid of the first days in a new jobs where I will be totally green and inexperienced (and people might even think I should know their stuff because I have experience in a similar job - but every company is different, damn it), I will have to learn all the customers again and the social rules of interaction with the customers and new coworkers, they will judge me for my social mistakes etc. And if I switched houses I would have to deal with the new property owner, I would have to move all my stuff, ask feinds for help with bringing stuff up and down the stairs and transferring them by car, getting yelled at for "having too much stuff". Then bring back stuff I don't own that people who helped me accidentally stole from my old apartment and say sorry for that to the property owner. And my moving into a new town I would have to find a new doctor and new group of friends etc. on top of all that. so I want a change but I am a hostage of my social fears. Well.. perhaps it isn't procastination at all but the ambivalence. People keep telling me I should change my job because I am not earning enough and it will be bad for my retirement, and also that the job is causing me too much stress. And I know my current work is bad for me because I don't get any social interaction at all, other than maybe a few phone calls from customers (my coworkers are never there and I am doing their work aside my own, my boss doesn't give a shit). But the job is convenient for me - it's just 4 minutes walk from my current house and I would have real trouble getting to another work because there is currently a road renovation nearby which disabled public transport in my area for about a year and now I have to walk 18 minutes to a nearest tram stop. Hence if I changed my work I would have to change my living place too. But my living place pisses me off because any shopping I go makes me walk 18 minutes with heavy bags and its a huge waste of time in general. And to be honest I am bored with my current town because I know every nook of it by now and one of my favorite pastime is visiting new places. Perhaps I should just travel more... but traveling by trams and busses on a monthly ticket is much cheaper than joining organised trips. And for the trips I would have to wake up very early and I am a night owl...
Have you ever been tested for autism or ADHD?
@@elisee9935 Yes. I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome as an adult. And when I was a child people assumed I might have ADHD but they judged that out due to my hyperfocus (if I was watching a cartoon or playing it was really difficult to switch my attention and if the forcefully took me away from the object of my hyperfocus I would throw a tantrum). Back then they believed people with ADHD can't hyperfocus. And the Asperger Syndrome was unknown in my country till I was like 15yo. And as 15 yo I didn't cause much problems because I was getting good grades in high school and I was attending a school with a small number of students (my whole grade contained 12 people) so social issues were also not visible.
@@Astrid-88 I recognized it by how detailed your story was. :) Having interacted with a lot of people with autism, I understand how hard this must be for you! I'm not gonna pretend to know how you can solve your problems, I'm not a therapist. But this is just a little word of encouragement for the day! :) You're doing great, don't let anyone tell you otherwise! :)
Man, all your videos are gold. Ive read many books but these videos explain it better than anything I've ever Read....keep up the good work
I have the first two. Thanks for putting this up, I'll try it.
This dude's got one of the best RUclips channels right now. Stellar content. God bless you mate!
Appreciate that
This. Is. Game changing. Holy cow thank you for creating such a clear and concise video breaking down this terrible demon. I think I understand and I’m excited to start picking away at what’s probably by this point become a habit. Thank you so much!!
Damn like a lot of folks i thought this was going to be fluff. If i want just taking a shower i would have changed channels. But this is so meaty and really hits home.. I'm a chronic procrastinator and can see the value of the ideas presented here.. I'm going to start by doing up my tasks to fall specific things. Thanks!!!
Holy sugar and spice! Such invaluable information. God bless you Rian. This is a game changer for me. I'm taking notes. Stay blessed ✌️
You're so welcome!
This video is so underrated! You definitely deserve a lot more views and subscribers!
I was skeptical, but this looks legit. Subbed. Thanks for this.
Amazing video, I always felt that I hated these long preparations in the morning, I dreaded, usually it put me off doing things. When I had to do something at the computer I felt just getting up and barely getting dressed gave me way more motivation and kinda like being on a roll, a momentum. Do something else before it that felt like chores only lost my momentum. I didn't push the rest away, if I did it after that thing that was nagging on my brain then all those chores that would drain my energy otherwise felt easy.
It's great to feel that it's something that was right. Oddly enough I've never felt procrastination being an issue in physical activities or activities not about myself, like work. I've always been the person in a friend group or at school who would turn my brain off (despite being someone who overthinks a lot) and "just do it". I'd jump into the cold water first or do whatever felt uncomfortable or scary physically. But mental work like sitting at the computer, personal stuff, felt tedious.
One way I've usually found is the best way to break it which I'm curious if there's any studies on it regarding this and flow, is: having people around, not even people that are friends, just being there. It's hard to explain, it's a weird mix of moral support and competition. When I'm at work with co-workers I get this boost of "I'll be the one to push past what others don't", and that happens with everything from fun hobbies to exercise. But then when I'm alone I lose it completely.
It's like a form of validation or attention, but at the same time I don't feel like I seek it or want attention. It's competition and rivalry but not cause the actions don't really speak for it. Perhaps it's just having someone watch you overcome and you yourself possibly inspiring others is the boost I feel and like, but if there's nobody there to see it then there's nobody to get inspired by you or anyone to acknowledge you're a driving force, as opposed when you sit alone doing your own thing.
8:22 about the microscopic goals thing, YES. THIS. My grandmother used to force me to go be in a swim team and I hated it so bad and would literally be full on sobbing as I swam. I began to do this: the pool was marked by lines of darker colored tiles at points, I think there were about 10? So, when I would swim across the lane, I wouldn’t think of it as 5 laps or whatever, I thought of it as 50 lines I had to pass. This seems like a lot but I was passing them so quickly I was basically just counting the entire time. It seemed to be going so much faster than if I was just going by laps. Made it much more bearable.
I placed this video on my watch list - I'll get around to watching it eventually...
ADHD/High Functioning Autism here... Need this!
+1 on ambivalence. Looking before jumping is sometimes the best strategy to adopt especially during the beginnings of a project when there’s just fog everywhere. If the gut tells us there’s something wrong, we can pay attention to the message to inspect and determine the issue. Once that’s sorted out, it paves the way for smoother operation. Trust your intuition!
Can't wait to watch this video later, I've saved it in my watch later playlist.
I like to think and do. I'm glad there are things i procrastinate over otherwise i would be spread to thinly.
couldn't agree more with the points about approaching a lot of to do by managing one small part, and then another, and another...this is a great way to keep yourself moving, and eventually accomplishing the "overwhelmingly" large amount of stuff you feel you have to get done that can paralyze you from doing "anything"...as the saying goes: "the best way to eat a mountain, is one spoonful at a time..."..
I am so glad this got in my recommendations, really appreciate it bro
Thanks for watching!
I genuinely found this useful, thank you.
I definitely am not procrastinating to this instead of doing my 1000 word 10 page essay due tomorrow worth 99% of the grade
TL;DW Small is big, and slow is fast. I figured this out a long time ago. Life is still very difficult, but it’s a hell of a lot easier after this. The other big thing I can say to help others is do t be afraid, embarrassed, and full of anxiety of fear of failure because of how you PERCEIVE others may view you through your journey. Don’t sweat the dest, but instead embrace the quest. God speed fellow travelers.
Love this point about meetings. We have too many people who are resistant to getting meetings done at 8am because they claim to be "not a morning person." Consequently I have to get my flow disrupted mid day because they want to stay up late watching Netflix. Unfortunately, people also don't want end of day meetings, especially on Fridays when committees work, because they want to check out early.
Wow you're a nasty piece of work. We have too many people who are resistance to working hard late in the evenings so I have to get out of bed too early to be productive and have morning meetings because they are too lazy to work sensible hours like noon to 8pm.
See how it sounds?
Or instead we can recognise people have different body clocks and not judge them for something they can't change
Thanks Rian for a great video! Your anecdote about cold calling prospects reminds me of a telemarketing job I
had when I was a university dropout; I'd sell subscriptions to a daily newspaper.
They had this auto-dialing system so that when a call was over, a new number was automatically dialed so I
had no choice but to ENGAGE the conversation with the next prospect
You're very welcome!
Interesting information. Thank you. Gives me new insights into some of my own tendencies, mainly finishing as opposed to starting. I'm aware of the solutions, such as chunking the goals to easily achievable bits. Forgetting them is easy when you have a tendency to jump to the excitement of new starts and new projects.
Most welcome,appreciate the support.
So much information! Have to watch multiple times and take notes!
Glad it was helpful!
I had a brain injury TBI in combat and now i suffer from this. Where i used to put in 18-20 hour days, and honestly 22h but not healthy, all day i was in a flow and a rhythm at my best... now im really struggling... wasting my genius, im wicked smart, just not starting on something and worse im not a productive procrastonator now. I need to fix this so bad.
Left the video on while I was taking a small coffee nap, yeah this video is definitely it
task 1 make a new note based off the previous one and write down ideas to say
task 2 think on your own of which sentences would be better said
task 3 finalize and write down what your going to write
task 4 transfer it onto paper
task 5 record and read off paper
I feel like this makes it easier for me a lot. And the only problem is letting myself
I eas goong to start work when I saw this useful video! Thanks for helping me get on, when Ive warched this and worked on this method for avoiding procrastination I should be in a better position to get something done. Unless you have more videos for me?
Phew, that was exhausting but I'll definitely get on when I've had a rest. Then I can make a start on my clear goals list.
Gold! Amazing video, deserves the million views!
I toured Monticello recently. Thomas Jefferson's bed was in the wall between his bedroom and workshop. He could literally get out of bed right into his workshop. This method sometimes works for me too. I'm at my startup, in the room where things should be happening, procrastinating, with my mattress on the floor behind me.
I have many different ways to approach a goal. I get stuck in the headspace of trying to make sense of what makes the most sense and the totality of the project from beginning to end. Ultimately nothing I can think of makes sense to completion. Right now, I am trying organize my 50x50 shop with all my machines and tools, along with trying to get storage systems built and the interior space finished, like insulation and wall coverings. It was more of an expansion, where we added 12’x50’ to each side, making the shop’s finished interior space 50’x50’. It is not as simple as one would think. And it’s just me.
The world needs to protect this man at all costs.
What I do is just tell myself is to: "Go and start (insert task), and if I don't like it, then I can always stop."
Usually when I have begun doing what it is I'm supposed to do, then I don't feel like stopping and see it through. For me things always seem so much harder when I think about them before I have even tried to do it. So I just started to not listen to that little voice in my head saying It's gonna be too hard or you can wait till tomorrow, and just go do it, cause 90% of the time It's really not as hard as I make it out to be.
worst case, you can just stop what you were doing and return to procrastinating.
I did not expect this video to be so valuable
Really great - clear, dense, and helpful.
Rian, you are an incredible instructor.
What! 23 minutes video on procrastination? I will procrastinate to watch this indefinitely.
Wow, just what I needed. I'm definitely going to finish watching this tomorrow.
This video deserves billion views
Best video I’ve seen on this topic! Thank you.
love the old tavern music 7:40
I think you just saved my (laboral) life. Thank you Rian ❤️
Most welcome!
Man, this one will take me a bit to digest, but *big* thanks for collecting and comprehensively presenting this matter in an accessible way! 🙏🏻🏆👌🏻
_FOR FREE!!!_ 😘🌱
My pleasure!
Ill save this video sometime next week and watch it later next month