You have to think about this one boss. You won't be in college for much longer so stop having this anxiety that you don't belong in different friends groups. Try this, it may make you anxious but these are genaral thoughts of the worst so brake this pattern by just letting on to random people. When talking to a group try not to involve yourself in there conversation it's known as rude but college students cannot comprehend emotions, so you get a look of confusion which is making you feel pushed away. Instead make everyone see your face and let them know your a nice guy so just walk past and say goodmorning, smile at these people give them a positive look and they'll surely come to you for help. You also need some sort of relation with other people to relate on certain stuff. In these time aswell man you have to be focusing on yourself, healing yourself, feeding yourself, go to the gym meet people there that are all focusing on themselves. When you're at college, it's a focus of popularity and these people may struggle more coming away from college as those same "friends" may not be around throughout their life. Loneliness. It's you that has someone. But you feel like then don't have you. These are the steps of life and soon your minds going to change massively over the next 2 years (20). You should speak about this topic "Loneliness" to someone on your mother or fathers age. They'll have so much wisdom and they can guide you so much better. Just think about yourself for the time being. Respect yourself and just throw general respect out as it's a 2 way street. I said bless you 🙏. Ay you should cry. We're all bound to be Lonely. Think about if you get married your love will die and again you'll be thrown into the deep end of guilt and Loneliness. I'd like to say these thoughts of your own emotions and you wanting to talk about them to others and to get this heavyweight off your shoulders is a massive sign of maturity. What i will say is no a single soul at your college will be thinking about themselves they've been given a focus, and you've found your focus. The people you know wouldn't be on the same mentality as you. Keep it up bro and hopefully this will give you some insight. This is my projection from the age of 17-19 as for tho years I was playing video games for 12 hours a day. Then my emotional understanding came through and it made me depressed and anxious. I was also made homeless via a section 21 (No fault kick out) and through that time I met so many people that are so inclined. Much love. You'll feel better soon.
10 seconds in: [Asks philosophical question].... *kills cow* Jokes aside... Life is shit wall-to-wall. Don't rely on reaching out to people for mental stability, learn how to be self-sufficient. Get a hobby, preferably something you do physically whether it be lifting weights or painting figurines, the less digital stuff you do, the better. The old saying "idle hands are the devil's workshop" rings very true. Because the older you get I promise you, people will have less and less time for 1-on-1s and just hanging out in general. I've known my best friend for 28 years, but we hang out maybe once every 6 months. People will live their own lives, and make their own micro-communities that are connected to their work and/or hobbies, and unless you're part of those, you will inevitably drift apart, because an unfortunate truth is, the people you were friends with in school, were your friends mainly because of proximity, when you grow up, you realize you didn't really have a lot in common with those people. If you wanna make friends, engage in activities that force human interaction. My huge recommendation would be martial arts. You'll release stress, meet new people. Have physical contact with them, which makes it easier to bond, and you'll forge a connection that can't be made through superficial small-talk. It'll also boost your confidence more than any other activity, which people will notice, and will be more likely to gravitate towards you. The older you get, the harder it is to make friends, because we're all busy and it's harder to accomodate one more person. Stay strong man. EDIT: Nice deadlift.
Hey man, you seem like an emotionally intelligent person who would be a worthy and valued friend to the right people for you. I have been at university for 4 years in my hometown and i cannot honestly say I have made one friend there who I would confide in or rely on. In the early part of your adult life, the most important thing is staying motivated and staying physically and mentally healthy. I understand the desires you have. I have shared them at many points in my life, but believing that a new phase will come is the best thing to do. If you put the work into yourself you will enter the "real world" prepared, confident, and hopefully happier. This time in life is very isolating for many people. I also get the thing about people in classes. I wouldn't say i have a real aversion to talking to new people but the things i observe of these people usually make me wonder why they are so different to me, and thus I don't really engage, and i think that is ok, and not something to reflect negativity on yourself. Rambling aside, please remain positive, keep putting yourself out there, and try to engage in activities outside of your normal circles (like sports, social events, activities, volunteering, etc). I have found that these are the places where you meet some of the best people who come from a whole range of backgrounds and have new and valuable perspectives. All the best.
Also wanted to say that I have had multiple partners, best friends, friend groups, etc. But I have rarely found that one person has really "got me". I think the idea that someone can 100% get you is unrealistic and has only left me feeling disappointed, but I believe you can certainly grow with someone and value that period of time in which that happens for what it is, regardless of the result. I think the journey to understand and explore yourself is far more valuable when met with your dilemma, and putting your energy into that can alleviate some of the negative feelings. but it is ok to feel what you're feeling. you are not alone and you will find the person/people for you some day. don't let the things that matter in your life slip, because your education, health, and eventual career will carry you through life. A friendship will likely not. much love man.
I feel you bro. I literally dropped out of college because my group of friends who I thought were my friends just began to avoid me. I know how you feel. I sort of got used to being lonely. I'm 25 now but what helped me a bit was joining the army (not US). But it helped me be a part of a team. Last time I felt like this was when I was a kid and playing sports. Most of my friends are from back then. But I have new friends now thanks to my job. I don't like being used to being lonely but I try to make the most of it. I guess what I'm trying to say is you're not alone. Stay strong and god bless you.
You have to think about this one boss. You won't be in college for much longer so stop having this anxiety that you don't belong in different friends groups. Try this, it may make you anxious but these are genaral thoughts of the worst so brake this pattern by just letting on to random people. When talking to a group try not to involve yourself in there conversation it's known as rude but college students cannot comprehend emotions, so you get a look of confusion which is making you feel pushed away. Instead make everyone see your face and let them know your a nice guy so just walk past and say goodmorning, smile at these people give them a positive look and they'll surely come to you for help. You also need some sort of relation with other people to relate on certain stuff. In these time aswell man you have to be focusing on yourself, healing yourself, feeding yourself, go to the gym meet people there that are all focusing on themselves. When you're at college, it's a focus of popularity and these people may struggle more coming away from college as those same "friends" may not be around throughout their life. Loneliness. It's you that has someone. But you feel like then don't have you. These are the steps of life and soon your minds going to change massively over the next 2 years (20). You should speak about this topic "Loneliness" to someone on your mother or fathers age. They'll have so much wisdom and they can guide you so much better. Just think about yourself for the time being. Respect yourself and just throw general respect out as it's a 2 way street. I said bless you 🙏. Ay you should cry. We're all bound to be Lonely. Think about if you get married your love will die and again you'll be thrown into the deep end of guilt and Loneliness. I'd like to say these thoughts of your own emotions and you wanting to talk about them to others and to get this heavyweight off your shoulders is a massive sign of maturity. What i will say is no a single soul at your college will be thinking about themselves they've been given a focus, and you've found your focus. The people you know wouldn't be on the same mentality as you. Keep it up bro and hopefully this will give you some insight. This is my projection from the age of 17-19 as for tho years I was playing video games for 12 hours a day. Then my emotional understanding came through and it made me depressed and anxious. I was also made homeless via a section 21 (No fault kick out) and through that time I met so many people that are so inclined. Much love. You'll feel better soon.
Thank you. I’ll take this advice and try and apply it
10 seconds in: [Asks philosophical question].... *kills cow*
Jokes aside... Life is shit wall-to-wall. Don't rely on reaching out to people for mental stability, learn how to be self-sufficient. Get a hobby, preferably something you do physically whether it be lifting weights or painting figurines, the less digital stuff you do, the better. The old saying "idle hands are the devil's workshop" rings very true. Because the older you get I promise you, people will have less and less time for 1-on-1s and just hanging out in general. I've known my best friend for 28 years, but we hang out maybe once every 6 months. People will live their own lives, and make their own micro-communities that are connected to their work and/or hobbies, and unless you're part of those, you will inevitably drift apart, because an unfortunate truth is, the people you were friends with in school, were your friends mainly because of proximity, when you grow up, you realize you didn't really have a lot in common with those people.
If you wanna make friends, engage in activities that force human interaction. My huge recommendation would be martial arts. You'll release stress, meet new people. Have physical contact with them, which makes it easier to bond, and you'll forge a connection that can't be made through superficial small-talk. It'll also boost your confidence more than any other activity, which people will notice, and will be more likely to gravitate towards you. The older you get, the harder it is to make friends, because we're all busy and it's harder to accomodate one more person. Stay strong man.
EDIT: Nice deadlift.
Hey man, you seem like an emotionally intelligent person who would be a worthy and valued friend to the right people for you. I have been at university for 4 years in my hometown and i cannot honestly say I have made one friend there who I would confide in or rely on. In the early part of your adult life, the most important thing is staying motivated and staying physically and mentally healthy. I understand the desires you have. I have shared them at many points in my life, but believing that a new phase will come is the best thing to do. If you put the work into yourself you will enter the "real world" prepared, confident, and hopefully happier. This time in life is very isolating for many people. I also get the thing about people in classes. I wouldn't say i have a real aversion to talking to new people but the things i observe of these people usually make me wonder why they are so different to me, and thus I don't really engage, and i think that is ok, and not something to reflect negativity on yourself. Rambling aside, please remain positive, keep putting yourself out there, and try to engage in activities outside of your normal circles (like sports, social events, activities, volunteering, etc). I have found that these are the places where you meet some of the best people who come from a whole range of backgrounds and have new and valuable perspectives. All the best.
Also wanted to say that I have had multiple partners, best friends, friend groups, etc. But I have rarely found that one person has really "got me". I think the idea that someone can 100% get you is unrealistic and has only left me feeling disappointed, but I believe you can certainly grow with someone and value that period of time in which that happens for what it is, regardless of the result. I think the journey to understand and explore yourself is far more valuable when met with your dilemma, and putting your energy into that can alleviate some of the negative feelings. but it is ok to feel what you're feeling. you are not alone and you will find the person/people for you some day. don't let the things that matter in your life slip, because your education, health, and eventual career will carry you through life. A friendship will likely not. much love man.
Thank you for the kind words and for sharing. I definitely have started just doing my own thing again and am just waiting lol
i feel u bro, playing any games alone for many years, make a big void in my heart.
if play with you homie
First video i seen from you, but the subject hits a a little to close to home, i feel it
It’s definitely real
i feel really similar currently, but trust it does get better. gotta keep telling myself that. there’s always people i haven’t met yet. good luck man
I feel you bro. I literally dropped out of college because my group of friends who I thought were my friends just began to avoid me. I know how you feel. I sort of got used to being lonely. I'm 25 now but what helped me a bit was joining the army (not US). But it helped me be a part of a team. Last time I felt like this was when I was a kid and playing sports. Most of my friends are from back then. But I have new friends now thanks to my job. I don't like being used to being lonely but I try to make the most of it. I guess what I'm trying to say is you're not alone. Stay strong and god bless you.
Thank you for sharing
you have no idea how closely I relate to this video, I hope you feel better man ❤
I just what to say this was an amazing video and god loves you and so do I. Keep up the good work.
what? discovered ya today you're not alone keep goin, like it hurts my soul hearing you being like that; I'm very sorry for ya buddy
thank you
@@okimryan I posted it unintentionally while i was typing, i edited it to finish
Respect bro, you will find friends who be there for you and will talk to you about deep conversations. Keep it up ❤
Your not alone brother.
many ways to deal with it. but in my opinion the best way to ease the pain is to stick to your religion.
God bless you bro
1:58 is hilarious to me
cuz it is brotha
Insanely goated video
25:52 bless you btw
If you need a friend on Minecraft I’ve never beat it and need help 😭😂
I just found you, but here to stay!!
Join the discord lol I play with viewers all the time there
man
are you okay okimryan?
Yea
@@okimryan nice
Real
just get on fortnite bro
Fortnite is NOT it