Tom Confesses Oxford University Mental Health Struggles | First Dates Hotel

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  • @nadineflow
    @nadineflow Год назад +67

    What a lovely open, honest and mindful communication between these two beautiful humans . And how they listen to each other 🥰...."sigh"

  • @JamesCraigWhoop
    @JamesCraigWhoop Год назад +33

    Wow very sweet. She seemed very caring and compassionate. Cant wait to see the next episode.

  • @roxanne9651
    @roxanne9651 Год назад +33

    My wife has a PHD in computer science and mathematics and everyone loves her. After being together for 12 years I can understand why she loves math so much. Love my mathematician 💕💕🌈🌈

  • @kittengem4243
    @kittengem4243 Год назад +31

    Glad he had all the support he needed when times get tuff, so much easier to get through them, than alone.

  • @amys2650
    @amys2650 Год назад +27

    Someone that can openly talk about mental health and struggles that we all have and it’s still taboo to speak of is hard to find. He is a strong yet soft man to the woman that gets him congrats in advance

    • @jacobs3031
      @jacobs3031 Год назад +1

      Sadly women don't appreciate soft men he will stay single for a long time.

    • @hd-xc2lz
      @hd-xc2lz Год назад +3

      True, but past mental health struggles aren't the best first date topic.

    • @jacobs3031
      @jacobs3031 Год назад +2

      @@hd-xc2lz I wouldn't even tell a woman these issues. Iv had periods of vulnerability while talking to women for a while and they just cut you off. All women seek alphas.

  • @ralphlyda4545
    @ralphlyda4545 Год назад +36

    What lovely people! It’s so wonderful that they were put together!

  • @jojobee42
    @jojobee42 Год назад +6

    He's intelligent and handsome, and not aware how attractive he is - which makes him even more attractive!

  • @cbeautifulworld11
    @cbeautifulworld11 Год назад +5

    Wonderful match of two intelligent, thoughtful people.
    He is a perfect man, brilliant, handsome, articulate, sensitive.
    He also has gorgeous hair, contrary to the stereotype of mathematicians, yet merely has a bad haircut.
    He would look stunning with a more flattering shape to his hair (just a trivial observation).
    I hope he knows not to worry about the overwhelming stress of Oxford.
    Many, many people share similar feelings.

  • @oliviamartini9700
    @oliviamartini9700 Год назад +24

    Once again - DATING IS NOT THERAPY.

    • @jacobs3031
      @jacobs3031 Год назад

      Couldn't agree more, two different entity's. I find dating stressful I don't even like it.

  • @shaunbarnett2972
    @shaunbarnett2972 Год назад +2

    HIs social skills are perfect! Had nothing to worry about, mathematician or not. NIce work!

  • @squeet6831
    @squeet6831 Год назад +12

    lol she has lipstick on her teeth. Endearing lol. They're both very good looking, intelligent, kinda nerdy, compassionate and understanding. I ship them.

  • @Londonergeek
    @Londonergeek Год назад +10

    I went to Oxford university. It can be very demanding. There’s quite a high dropout rate

  • @Luboman411
    @Luboman411 Год назад +42

    Tom is 6 ft. 6 in, smart, Oxford grad, with an English accent, and very cute. I don't think he'll be having any problems landing a lady. Unless he's got the personality of a donkey or a paper clip. We shall soon see! :D

    • @georgielancaster1356
      @georgielancaster1356 Год назад +3

      He must be sending out NOT AVAILABLE vibes.
      He should have a queue longer than the Queen's lying in state traffic jam.

    • @Luboman411
      @Luboman411 Год назад +6

      @@georgielancaster1356 After seeing this snippet, he strikes me as a nerdy, shy guy. Before university he was probably in his own little world, doing the mathematics he loved. Which meant little to no dating with girls. Then at Oxford, he spiraled into some serious anxiety and depression about living up to the expectations imposed on Oxford math students. That was very relatable. He was vulnerable about this regrettable situation, which made him even cuter. I think he'll do fine if he puts some effort in dating.

    • @kabysummit5801
      @kabysummit5801 Год назад

      @@Luboman411 well said. Some people just need time to get more comfortable with themselves. He's on his way

  • @mariaetternavn5549
    @mariaetternavn5549 Год назад +8

    He's lovely. She as well.

  • @kittengem4243
    @kittengem4243 Год назад +8

    I 💜First Dates!

  • @Von_RX
    @Von_RX Год назад +3

    another great date!

  • @Ou8y2k2
    @Ou8y2k2 Год назад +7

    This kid's gonna break some ladies' hearts as soon as he figures out the 'formula.'

  • @stanbalo
    @stanbalo Год назад +4

    Good at math and very handsome!!!

  • @anastasia10017
    @anastasia10017 Год назад +1

    Mathematics must either attract nervous personalities or the syllabus makes them over anxious. obviously, anybody who studies higher mathematics is some kind of genius so it is not that they are failing the classes. I once met a guy who was getting a PhD in mathematics at MIT and something went wrong and he transferred to another university because he was so unhappy.

    • @pdruiz2005
      @pdruiz2005 Год назад +2

      It's the hyper-competitive nature of it that really gets people down, anxious and depressed. Once you're up at the MIT/Oxford level in math (or any science), you're dealing with world-class geniuses. And some of these people are COMPETITIVE, and will make sure they make that known to everyone. Some people can survive in that environment--a lot of people can't. Especially those who were just naturally attracted to math and loved it as a pursuit before it became this overly-stressful race to the top. I think that's what happened to this guy--his passion suddenly became his torture.

    • @jacobs3031
      @jacobs3031 Год назад

      Correct there is some correlation, I know of someone done a master's degree in physics yet he suffers from mental health really bad and even been sectioned.

  • @viviennedunbar3374
    @viviennedunbar3374 Год назад +2

    Well that was interesting about him but we found virtually nothing out about his date!

  • @TomNook.
    @TomNook. Год назад +4

    Yeah, that all unis for STEM subjects.

    • @josephhill2868
      @josephhill2868 Год назад

      Yes mate my masters year in chemical engineering almost pushed me over the edge multiple times. Almost completely lost it.

  • @dougn2350
    @dougn2350 Год назад +4

    If a guy with all of his advantages suffers from depression then I don't know what

  • @javed5415
    @javed5415 Год назад +5

    Girl was not really interested as I understood 😢

    • @SamStone1964
      @SamStone1964 Год назад

      She needs a more confident and mature man.

    • @vinnybyrne09
      @vinnybyrne09 Год назад +2

      You don't get girls by being self obsessed. Need to find out who she is.

  • @mjferroni
    @mjferroni Год назад +2

    I actually don’t think she was into him. She jumped into therapist mode.

    • @jacobs3031
      @jacobs3031 Год назад

      Worst thing you can do is open up about your vulnerabilities to a woman iv done it before she didn't want to know and ghosted me. Women have more options than men they don't care.

    • @toxictottie
      @toxictottie 3 месяца назад

      ⁠@@jacobs3031I’m sorry you have had a bad experience in your past but not all women are like that!
      Please don’t generalise us, the woman you met was a coward and gives compassionate women like myself and others a bad name!!
      I do hope you meet someone worthy of you and wish you good luck with your search, you can’t meet the right one if holding on to the wrong one and personally I think you had a lucky escape!
      If a woman can’t handle hearing about you at your worst, well she certainly doesn’t deserve to see you at your best! 😊

  • @gillowens24
    @gillowens24 Год назад

    Both very nice

  • @alfredbonnabel7022
    @alfredbonnabel7022 Год назад +6

    He is a brain and might need the challenge of another brain...or maybe someone the exact opposite.

  • @openeyes2086
    @openeyes2086 Год назад

    Tamara deberia ir a first dates

  • @Fatfrogsrock
    @Fatfrogsrock Год назад +2

    Poshies!

    • @georgielancaster1356
      @georgielancaster1356 Год назад +2

      Lol. Under your comment, yt has an option to translate to English.
      Curious, I pressed it and got nothing.

  • @selvamani1973-p7b
    @selvamani1973-p7b Год назад +6

    went to oxford, posh and is a Marxist. the irony lol

    • @bigm317
      @bigm317 Год назад

      Champagne socialist tbh there intelligence & privileged enough to get it

  • @allisoncampbell8263
    @allisoncampbell8263 Год назад +2

    Omg, a Marxist :o.

  • @hamzza8963
    @hamzza8963 Год назад +1

    I don’t belive that at 6”6 as a male you can be deppressed broski

  • @jojobee42
    @jojobee42 Год назад +70

    He's intelligent and handsome, and not aware how attractive he is - which makes him even more attractive!