I’m not a big comment person but I feel I had to- I see a lot of myself in you (I’m now 39) from San Diego, moved to nyc late 20s and lived there for 5-6 years, I want to let you know what you’re going through is VERY normal, but for someone who’s gone through it I’m here to tell you this doesn’t fully go away- it means you’re evolving. Practicing gratitude daily and embracing the time alone - you’ll go back one day and be so thankful for it. Be easy on yourself, it’s ok to just enjoy being in the “moment”. If I can give any young woman advice on floating, do NOT put pressure on yourself, I met my husband in ny and didn’t get married until 37 and I have zero regrets not putting the society pressures or following my friends or ofhers timeline. Please please enjoy it now because it all went by like a snap of a finger. I think it’s AMAZING you moved to Paris - I wanted to move to London for awhile but I’m in DC and that’s ok haha. Please be kind to yourself and take in every experience. If I have one regret- it’s not realizing the time I had just sitting with myself in nyc. ❤❤ you got this x
I feel like so many millennial and now Gen-Z had quarter life crisis because there's so little stability. Everything is so expensive and feels so uncertain, dating is a nightmare, we literally cannot plan for our futures, we are just trying to get to tomorrow. And that's really unhealthy for us.
True. I already have a job and a loving husband (newly married). I would be called stable in the past but now I can't survive without doing a second job. So I'm exhausted. Meanwhile I also need to prepare for a better job and need to have a kid as I'm already 26. But I don’t have time or energy for any of the later two things. So I worry too much about future.
Man I'm 26 and I ain't got shit, military turned me down, all I can get is entry level jobs in either food or retail and while I'm trying school, I feel so out of place with everyone being younger than me and tbh, I have no idea what I even want with school. What's worse is that I'm at the point now where most people look at me like I'm old and ask "wtf are you doing why don't you have a career a house and a wife or girlfriend?" Jobs are limited aswell because of my age and lack of experience to.
The fact that i would love to trade places with where you are in life. You feel stagnant? You’ve done amazing things in the past few years. You are living someone’s dream life.
Comparison is the thief of joy! It can be tough to fully appreciate our lives and how far we have come. This especially rings true when we are constantly flooded with information on how others are living their lives via social media.
right like I wish I had a job that allowed me to travel the world and afford to decide to try new things and places on a whim! happy for her but wish I had that for myself, too LOL
@@AlissaandJager The girl is so privileged it's ridiculous. But maybe that's the curse of privilege: everything is open to to you, so it's analysis paralysis.
Elena this will be wonderful for you! I am 35 years old and last year I lost the love of my life, my husband. Life is full of surprises some tragic and some positive. The point I’m trying to make is that life is too short, live your best life ❤
What you spoke about reasons with me, even if I'm 22, and, although it does not give you a or - the - solution, knowing other people feel the same way, are going going through similar phases, is really comforting. Thanks for sharing ❤
Hi Elena, it was so nice to meet you in Paris. I just forwarded this video to my daughter, who is your age. This content is relevant to people of any age, really. Life can take on a "been there, done that" quality if you are the kind of person who likes challenge and novelty. And for slightly anxious, driver/striver types, it's also difficult to just live your life without a clear goal in mind. At 62, having been happily married for 32 years, having raised two great kids who are now adults, and being successful in business, I STILL struggle at times with the same feelings you describe. And anyone my age except the most jaded and hardened who are not in touch with their feelings, has these moments. These feelings propel one forward. Being ever so slightly (or maybe a lot) dissatisfied is a huge motivator for change and achievement. Balancing that with enjoying the moment is the art of a life well lived. You are doing a great job of that, even though it's difficult at times. Thank you for boldly sharing your journey with others. Say "Hi" to Paris for me!
Hey Kathy! It's so great to hear from you again and I truly appreciate all your wise words. This is such a helpful and encouraging reminder to continue leaning into these feelings in each chapter of life :)
I'm in the same boat you're in. You're not alone in feeling these feelings :). I love your authenticity in this, it's super precious to have on RUclips when I feel like inauthenticity has taken over for a while. Something thats helped me move forward is realizing that much of what was holding me back was self denial, not listening to my gut, and trusting other people's words over mine. the second I began to lose the self doubt and trust in myself, I began to move forward again.
It’s nice to hear you’re going through the same thing, especially bc a lot of times I compare myself to influencers who get to do whatever they want/make good money/etc. in their mid 20’s and I’m here at 26 with no idea what I’m doing! But I think I’ve also come to realize there’s beauty in the unknown, I would hate my life to be predictable with the good husband, house and kids, it’s exciting to think about all the possibilities our lives can take!! -coming from someone just coming off her quarter life crisis 😂💗
You'll figure it out Elena. In my twenties I didn't have a plan for anything and lived in the moment. My late twenties is when I figured out what I liked to do and went after it pedal to the metal. 🤟🏼 You'll feel this way if your purpose doesn't align with your heart and soul. if you believe in that sort of thing. 😁 But yes find those things you want to do and don't worry about who you will do it with. They'll find you!😉👊🏼 I'm 42 and I feel I just started living. Keep this 🫶🏼 full and share it. ✌🏼
Thank you so much for this video! Feeling a lot of uncertainty and stagnation in my late 20-s I remembered that unknown can also be exciting and inspiring❤
This video is beautifully done, and I couldn’t agree more with everything you said. My quarter life crisis brought me moving to nyc alone…for a new chapter, to take a chance on myself in the unknown and just see what happens. I’m 6 months in and it’s been a journey for sure, but it was the best thing I could’ve done for myself coming from a small town 🤍 congrats to you for digging deep and making this change, very excited to see where France leads for you 🙏🏻 the magic is in the unknown!
Such a beautiful vlog. Thank you for sharing. I’ve been there and I think you’re doing the right thing! Following your heart and listening to the little whispers in life is such a special skillset to have, and you have it for a reason! ❤
I have watched this video a couple times because it’s so beautifully edited and filmed. I enjoy ALL of your videos but this one felt indy and yet intimate. Also, I wanted to say congratulations on your Paris adventure!! I am 45 and have had different “life resets” over the various chapters of my life, and I’m here to say everyone is unique and special. I’ve had the opportunity the past few years to work and travel abroad and have lived in Paris, Costa Rica, Mexico in other places, and every time I step into the unknown with an open heart the most amazing growth and transformation takes place. No it’s not always easy, but yes, it’s always worth it. I am cheering and rooting for you Elena!!
Wow this speaks to me on a deeper level... Currently 29 years old, going on 30 and man I'm really having a hard time 😅 Just changed career and I feel like I didn't choose it for the right reason. I think I would like to go back to school but at the same time I want children, etc, etc. I feel like I'm missing out on my life because I always wanted to study abroad or live abroad and I did none of these things yet.... Anyways thank you for your content. It feels good to know i'm not the only one who's at the crossroads of her life.
I felt the same way up until this year... I struggled a LOT with anxiety and depression for most of my life. Not to mention I hadn't found a partner or a community that truly felt like home. I never in a million years would have thought I'd ever say this but what helped me find the deepest peace I have ever known, more energy and overflowing excitement about waking up in the morning... has been faith. Again, NEVErrr did I think I'd become a Bible-thumping Christian, someone who looks forward to praying every day but truly, the sense of certainty, purpose, and the complete obliteration of my depression and anxiety is what has made me lean into this. Also, one out of every 1800 couples who pray together get divorced AND the longest and happiest marriages in pier review studies are often couples who met through shared faith. It took me a long time to come around, but when I saw the people in my life who had the most peace and purpose, they also had the most faith. A default to thanking God instead of overthinking/believing that you as a person need to have all the answers, you don't :) Maybe look in your life for the people who seem the happiest in who they are and how they live and get curious with them about what you can learn from them. I hope this helps
you don't need Christian faith to be happy. You can have many nontraditional beliefs and belief in yourself is one. Everyone has some anxiety even with prayer. It's the "answer" for some. But it can't be quantified. The 1/1500 couples staying together is a flawed study by Baylor University. The stat is thrown out as "fact" to support religious beliefs. Among the limitations of this study is that it is not possible to establish whether high-quality relationships promote religiousness, or vice versa, or to rule out the possibility that although the large minority oversamples are a major strength of this survey, the data are also characterized by rather low response rates.
I lost my job after 30.5 years 2 months ago at 50. Your story right here is even relatable to me. Having to start over at 50 isn’t sitting right with me….. questioning can I do this. Well…. On Tuesday I’ll be registering for graphic design. I haven’t been in school since I graduated high school 1991. Can’t wait to follow your adventures. I guess you can call my life in that pivot mode.
I watched you all summer long planning my life and what I wanted and now I moved to a city and have an amazing friend group / job. I feel so happy and at peace.
From one Elena to another, congrats on working to bravely create the life you want! ✨ I had my 1/3rd life crisis in 2019. The launch of my first novel was on the eve of my 30th birthday - I'd had meaningful work & had travelled a fair bit in the years prior, but couldn't help but wish that the novel was a baby. A break-up and re-evaluation of life during the pandemic inspired a cross-country move and quest to have a family. It was so worth it, I met my partner and his daughters in 2020 and I love our little family. Looking forward to watching your life unfold in Paris as you go after what you want and expand your creative pursuits 🌿🇫🇷
I feel like I lived my early years satisfied with little to no dreams. But now that I'm older I have this feeling of NEEDING to abandon that comfy life. I want to pursue dreams that I didn't know I have, fill a void that I didn't know existed. Now I have these big goals, with no clue how to get there, the only thing I know is that I won't reach them if I don't move. If I don't move on.
This is exciting! Good for you! And I feel you on the no-idea-what's-next-or-how-to-get-there thing.. happens to us all! It's so normal! Sending you lots of good vibes on this next chapter 🙏🏼
Ah, Elena! I hope to meet you there. It's also been a dream of mine to move to Paris, and it's finally going to become a reality in January. I'm super nervous about the jump, but I know I'll grow so so much in a new environment after living in NYC for most of my life. Wishing you the best on this new journey!
Every age has a crisis of some sort. Every season is about searching. If you're a thoughtful human, this sense of feeling lost will be a constant. I mean this in a good way. After all, there is so much out in this beautiful world. If you're comfortable, you must miss some of it. Also, I think it's "crap" that you couldn't stay on YT indefinitely. I think about this a lot. The most interesting creatives (think Taylor Swift) stay interesting because they explore each phase of their life. I think I speak for a lot of your audience; I am invested to see what happens next. What is 10 years from now like? Is there a beautiful French boy that will drive you mad? As long as you are evolving, your content is going to mean something to us. :)
Elena I am SO impressed with you. I’m a 60 year old, Marketing chick, who also hit that wall (at 55 I would say) and ALL the techniques you are recommending are excellent. Yes, you moved to Paris but you also did a lot of stopping to understand what was going on with you. Asking yourself what’s working today, what’s not. You are incredibly talented. Feel like you are the new Barbara Walters of this generation. Your content (and I speak professional experience) is EXCELLENT. Keep on peeling away that onion. Keep creating the rich content you do. And you will find your path. Perhaps you are already on it (-:
This was so thoughtful. It's inspiring me to make my own version for my story. 24 and in NYC 2 years now and thinking about the crisis alot. Writing on a type writer has definitely helped process some of it. Good luck in Paris!!
This video is so perfectly timed, I think so many of us feel this quarter life crisis. And I think hearing it from someone we aspire to be - like you - because for me, you're living the dream (and I know it's mostly the good bits), but to be reminded that we all feel this way in our twenties/thirties, makes it seem a little less scary. So thank you 💓
I’m literally going through the same thing right now, I could cry. I’ve wanted to move to Paris for so long to better my French. Instead I bought a house, got a good job, car, did it all and now I don’t really understand why I did it. You’ve inspired me ❤️.
I turned 25 earlier this year and have been experiencing this quarter life crisis for awhile now. I’ve spent so much time reflecting on my life this year, and thinking about what I want to do or what will bring me more joy. I hope Paris sparks inspiration for you, and I’ll be excited to see what the future holds :)
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way - I'm graduating university this year and I have no idea what I'm supposed to do now (so I'm not in the exact same situation but anywho) and I am so incredibly anxious about the future and also how to make my parents proud because their opinions have always been very important to me and sometimes a bit of a pressure. I think I need to calm down and just take it one step at a time because I'm not living in the moment currently. I only have about one more month with my closest friends ever and I'm wasting these precious moments worrying about the future. Sorry for the rant lol but this is a whole lot of pent up worries I've not been talking about hehe
I’m 33. Currently in the same state. Even after the stable job and payed off mortgage it still seems like something is missing. Sometimes it’s not about the financials.
Loved the storytelling and editing on this one! Can definitely relate as I went through something similar about a year ago! Just keep going, keep doing, taking action counteracts the stagnant "stuck" feelings. You got this, Elena!
I seriously relate to this SO much! I’m in my early thirties and have definitely been feeling a sense of quarter life crisis the last couple of years. Thank you for sharing your experience and making all of us feel less alone in it!! Excited to see more about your journey in Paris 🤗
Thank you for sharing this because it’s difficult! I definitely went through this ten years ago (wow I’m old!). Something that gave me tremendous comfort was this verse from Deuteronomy: “Do not fear for I am with you. Do not be dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you and keep you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” This helped me take off so much pressure from myself to have it all figured out.
Hey Elena! 🌟 I stumbled upon your channel during the chaotic COVID times, and ever since, you've become my go-to for realness and genuine vibes. 🙌 Your authenticity on screen is like a breath of fresh air, and I genuinely believe that if we ever cross paths, you'd be the same awesome person I see in your videos. Your content has been my escape during the pandemic, and I can't express how grateful I am that RUclips is your gig. 🌈 This quarter-life crisis video hit me hard; it's like you're reading my mind! I've been in this funk for about a year and a half, questioning everything daily. Your words made me feel less alone, like we're all in this together. Thanks for the fresh perspective and the motivation to rediscover my values and purpose. 🚀 Your video is not just relatable but also beautifully edited, capturing both you and nature in a magical way. Sending you loads of love from India, and a massive virtual hug! 🤗💕 Keep shining, Elena! ✨
“It’s not by accident that people talk of a state of confusion as not being able to see the wood for the trees, or of being out of the woods when some crisis is surmopunted. It is a place of loss, confusion, terror and anger, a place where you can, like Dante, find yourself going down into Hell. But if it’s any comfort, the dark wood isn’t just that. It’s also a place of opportunity and adventure. It is the place in which fortunes can be reversed, hearts mended, hopes reborn.” ― Amanda Craig
As a French person, I find it so funny that you feel like being in Paris forces you to slow down. I feel like the exact opposite when I go there, I can just feel the stress everywhere around me but I hope you'll like it a lot!
This is so real!! I quit my corporate job in September and moved to Paris in October, so your words resonate so much with me!! If you ever want to get a coffee or drink, let me know! I'm always looking to meet new people here - and it's nice to connect with other Americans/expats! xx
You and Nathaniel really seem to thrive in experiencing new things. You both are so thoughtful and have such a similar drive to learn and understand the world & people. That’s why I love both your channels so much.
Aww 💕 we met briefly at a coworking space in NY pre panini and after moving back here during my own QLC I was wondering what you were up to and found this 😂 I love your videos, they are so inspiring. Taking notes for this next chapter of my own where I’m trying to follow my own creative intuition and freedom instead of what I feel is expected of me. Good luck, much love 👏
I'm left struck with thousands of dollars disappearing from my 401k due to soaring inflation, and my concern is where to safeguard and grow remaining cash about $500k for the next 2-3 years at no risk, my goal is to retire early and afford my lifestyle after retirement.
@@LaurenGilmorAgreed, I’ve been investing in the stock market for 11 years now, last 4 years with the help of a financial planner apparently due to the covid-19 pandemic crash. Throughout these years of guidance, I've been fortunate enough to 10x my return as a DIY investor, summing up nearly $1m as of today.
@HaroldsTKOCan't divulge much, my portfolio is overseen by a Pennsylvania-based wealth advisor 'Theresa Leigh Detrick' she is highly qualified and experienced, luckily she has her presence widely visible on the internet.
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Great video! I really do have a question. For someone with less than $10,000 to invest, how would you recommend we enter the crypto market? I am looking at studying some traders and copying their strategy rather than investing myself and losing money emotionally. What’s your take on this approach?
VENTURING into the trading world without the help of a profesionals, trading and expecting profit is like turning water into wine you would need a miracle...
GOOD CONTENT !!! Very engaging right from the beginning These are tough times and frankly I appreciate how you discuss global finances in such a delicate way . Business and investment
Mrs jenefred charles mark was my hope during the 'bear summer' last year. I did so many mistakes but also learned so much from it, and of course from mrs jenefred charles.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 9 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,549 subs and > 1,000 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
You’ve been a huge inspiration to me through your videos, editing, & storytelling. I’m really glad you decided to move with this chapter. We’re here for it, Elena❤
It's amazing how in our 20s and 30s we have this feeling of pretending to be an adult. The thing is when you are in your 50s and 60s, etc... some of those feelings linger but by then you realize you are an adult. You are doing it. May be different than how others do it, but still, it means taking care of yourself and your family. If you have kids, well that is an added level of responsibility. In other words, it's not like one day you wake up and you feel different. There is no firm timeline. You have arrived. No, it's a slow evolutionary process. Gaining wisdom by virtue that you have seen this and done that. The bottom line is don't overthink it. You will get there.
Absolutely loved the way you put this together! Back when I was in high school, I started watching your videos in San Diego dreaming of undergrad in a beach town. Now in my early twenties, I am doing just that! I have loved following the chapters of your life, and it has continuously made me more excited for what's to come in my own life. Thank you for documenting all parts of your life in these early stages of adulthood -- I'm sure it has helped many others going through similar things right behind you just like myself :) so excited to see what this new chapter brings you Elena!
Thanks for your honesty here Elena. I have felt this as an underlying theme in your recent videos, and it does take courage to name it for what it is - and not shame it. You appear to be embracing it - the messiness is also okay, feeling the feelings as they come and know this is a calling to go deeper into yourself, not a thing to fix/change/run from. Your conscientiousness, self reflection and courage have signalled to the universe that you're ready to move beyond, and I hope you can see that as a true priveledge of how you have grown and how far you have come to be here. What you crave is not unrealistic - its true and pure. And I send you so much love as you move toward it wholeheartedly. Enjoy the ride ❤ with love from afar, Samia
Im not a big comment person either but your videos always make me feel like i want to say something about it. Firstly it was beautiful. Secondly, i can so much relate, im 27 from a different country and living different life but also always striving for change and believing beinh out of your comfort zone will always push you to be a better version of yourself. Ive gone far in terms of my teenage dreams as you have and now i feel the life literally is easy, because you feel that you can do anything and you dont doubt yourself, to the extend that it might be boring and less exciting. I agree that life is a journey and there are better and worse moments but you always learn and you should appreciate eac h of them. Finally, there is so much out there that you never gonna get that all so its important to find somewhere where you can settle also for your inner piece. Its not that time for me yet but maybe Paris will be your place for good.
Bienvenue en France Elena ! Lors de ces moments de doute, il faut continuer d’avancer et de vivre des aventures. Tu as su écouter ton cœur et suivre ton instinct, c’est le plus important. ☺️
Turning 30 in a month I used to get caught up in the number when I was younger of getting older but I never been more content in life and what I’ve been doing so now I’m actually happy to turn 30
How wonderful that you are challenging yourself with new ways of life in France! Good luck, culture shock is a real thing, but one that enriches your soul!
such a wonderful and vulnerable video, you represented so much of what I’ve been feeling and it is helpful to hear that even someone in the creative space who seems to be doing & creating so much still feels this way! I loved hearing about your action items at the end that align with your values and are helping you get in touch with your truest self again 😌
This resonates so deeply for me. You’re always so well articulated and I have immense respect for your motivation to make yourself uncomfortable for the sake of growth…. It feels like people (both our age and different ages) all too often shy away from the discomfort. Keep shining Elena, I hope your insights from your time in Paris are invaluable and your experiences are memorable ✨
you have perfectly captured how i’m feeling. I turned 27 this year and I couldn’t ignore any longer the feeling of something being completely amiss in my life. I realized I missed being creative, writing and making films. I missed the feeling of joy in what I did. So I moved back to my hometown in Mallorca and started a youtube channel because I’ve always processed things better through art. I take comfort in knowing that I am not alone in this journey. Sending you love from Mallorca.
Hi there! First time seeing your videos. How exciting, France! You portray having such a sweet spirit. I'm in my early 40's, and I relate having feeling like you describe in not feeling purpose-filled and anxious about direction and other things. Not be cheesy, but focusing on building a life founded and centered around seeking God in my life which can be done so well now because of Jesus's sacrifice, I have been shepherded into more and better than the low I started in without Him. Finding a bible teaching local church has been the cornerstone of this for us. God bless you Elena.
I’m been following you since you lived in California, and after years of following you and seeing this video - it is true heart balm. I absolutely loved the editing and the message of this video, felt raw and i felt connected to our humanity. Thank you for creating this video. May France bring you new insights, internal harmony, and endless re-connection to self ✨
currently also on a gap year / 24 year old life crisis. Now set on moving to NY for grad school but everyday, I have second thoughts. Feel like I'd be throwing away so much peace and stability (I'm from Portugal) for a dream that might not even be there. Would love to hear from you on comparing the NY and European way of life for girlies who are both nature but also career oriented... and are also stuck in this "should I get a new job in a big city/go to a farm" phase of life.
Hey just found your channel and what a lovely person you are. Wish I had you as a friend. I have not found your channel and this video by accident. I was meant to find this at this time. I have changed so much this last few years. I do believe i am on a spiritual awakening 😊. I’m lost and don’t really have any friends or know what I want to do next. I kinda want to go travelling. But something is holding me back. I want to meet nice people that think free and open minded like we do. I have moved around England a little. Think it’s time to check out a few more countries. This video is amazing and so are you. Love Matthew from the south coast of England
Yes. This is indeed a problem. I think I'm still in crisis mode, and have been for many years. I started working at 15 years old. because I had to start helping my family financially. Now, 20 years later, I look at my life now and think about all the experiences I didn't have, the opportunities to study and learn more and maybe be someone with a successful career. This makes me very anxious about the future.
I have been following you since your channel started and we’re the same age so we go through similar seasons of life together. Thank you for sharing this❤ it feels a bit less lonely knowing other people are going through this too. Love your channel and you’ve been such an inspiration for me. Continue adventuring on❤
Great video with a thoughtful and touching message Elena. We are thankful for you being you and your always amazing content. Those that give will be rewarded richly.
Thank you so much for putting into words this „change of seasons”! In the last year, I've definitely felt... lost: I feel like I'm way back in life, compared to my friends who are getting married or moving in with a partner. I changed cities a year and 3 months ago and this feeling of being lost has blossomed more and more on me. I left my circle of friends and now, being an employed adult, I find it so much harder to make friends: all my friends are from school or university. I have the job that I dreamt of when I was in high school, but I'm no longer happy: I feel like I can do more, but I'm so afraid. I sometimes think of bright things that I can do with my life, but imidiately 3-4 thoughts of how comfortable `now` is, are making me stay. I feel that at my age I should be BOLD and to crazy, brave, impactful things, but I'm stuck. I admire your will of creating opportunities for yourself and taking risks! I really hope the world opens great doors for you!
Just wanted to say thank you. I saw your swiss backpacking video in May, after which I decided to do a month backpacking myself. If it weren't for your video, I would have never stayed in Interlaken (at Balmers), and I would have missed out on making my best travel memory ever. You helped me find a sense of direction, and I hope someone in Paris will help find yours. Take care, -KP
Wow, this was beautifully edited, a masterpiece. Currently going through similar feelings… moved abroad 3 years ago and boy can it be lonely! I’ve been struggling with my channel and have those thoughts 💭… is this even going anywhere… where am I going? It’s a struggle but pushing through these thoughts of uncertainty is beautiful and makes us all stronger. Thanks for the inspiration and welcome back to France!
I’m 27 in January and have been in an industry that is not aligned with who I am for the past four years. Trying to get out of it now but also have the fear of starting my side hustle I’ve been putting off for the same amount of time. I am starting to realize that life is far shorter than I want to admit and to take chances is the only way to move forward with volition.
Thank you so much for this video, this has been me for the last few years as well, it really helps to see that I'm not by myself in this feeling. Always love your videos xx
Elena, if the Paris grey gets you down & you need a dose of the sea, I'd highly recommend coming down to Montpellier as a quick weekend train trip on the TGV. I'm a 38 year-old American with a wandering spririt that manifests geographically and activity-wise. 10 years ago, Paris was my oyster and so stimulating when I lived there. Now, the even calmer, mid-size, French cities in the sunny south with nature nearby to fulfill that for me. Different chapters, diferent needs for flourishing as you've already experienced. :) Courage !
I loved this, and resonated with it far more than I thought I would. But take solace from a great quote from Oscar Wilde, as much as you can, in that those who know where they’re going, and what they want to be, they will inevitably become it. That is their punishment. But if you never know, then you can be anything. You’re doing a great job, Elena. Try not to worry about the expectation of others, be yourself. Enjoy the journey.
i cant believe i watched you already for 6-7 years now. I was a sophomore in high school in southeast asia, Indonesia, now I am a senior in college moved abroad to California. And you are one of my favorite youtubers growing up. Not knowing that, apparently UC San Diego would be the school I ended up going to (did not realize Point loma university was also here untill today). I wondered for 2 whole years, “Why am I here? I don’t belong here” this existencial crisis left me going from a 3.9 gpa to a 0.2 (I mean it). The university wanted me to take a break for a year, and that leads to where I am now. College less, clueless, unemployed & feeling so lost about where in life i currently am. depression hits every day. I have no aspirations no goals nor willpower to execute them. if you have an advice to give me at my lowest point in life elena, what would you do?Thank you🌺
Hi Elena, totally resonating! Thank you for putting in the effort to make your story into such a wonderful creatively made story & video to share with us. I think all of us girls who moved across the world by themselves should do a meet up and share moments of success, challenges and learnings and just embrace each other 🙌 I’m 28, just moved from Vienna to Sydney on a longterm working visa by myself and share all the anxiety, novelty and change you’ve been describing. I celebrate us!! 🎉 You only have one life to be bold (and somewhat naive/ crazy :D)
I’m watching a bunch of videos just to keep me sane….i feel lost and it is eating me up, i don’t know what to do, i have no particular direction and I’m breaking down right now I really don’t believe that being lost is to be found…ouit’s a fucking nightmare and wanna get out of it
Hey girl! Huge congratulations on the move. That is so awesome, we can’t wait to see your journey there! PS. Love the style of editing/filming. Keep it up❤
Elena, thank you for your vulnerability. I watch your videos with all of your travels thinking “I wish I could be her,” and yet you were so open that you have struggles just like any other twenty something. I think you should start some kind of business that supports and connects young women through travel :)
Beautiful and insightful video. I certainly feel I can relate to the feelings you express about a quarter life crisis. I love how you highlight the points of seeking novelty and challenging yourself. I resonate with this too ❤ Throughout our lives, I think a lot of us are eager to experience all facets of life and make the most of our short time here on earth.
I'm 21, I live in Brazil, and I'm in my second year of law school, but I feel very lost. I've told my parents that I wanted to try being an au pair for one year so I could see different things, meet different people. I'm in my 20s, and here where I live, I can barely walk on the street. I have always want travel the world, but I was too scared to take the first step.
What a smart, beautiful, and creative being! Elena, I’ve been following you for a while, and you have been nothing but an inspiration. I think it’s quite normal to feel anxious when you don’t know what the outcome is like, but i would say that you should just trust the process! I am certain you’re going places:) Lots of love
I’m not a big comment person but I feel I had to- I see a lot of myself in you (I’m now 39) from San Diego, moved to nyc late 20s and lived there for 5-6 years, I want to let you know what you’re going through is VERY normal, but for someone who’s gone through it I’m here to tell you this doesn’t fully go away- it means you’re evolving. Practicing gratitude daily and embracing the time alone - you’ll go back one day and be so thankful for it. Be easy on yourself, it’s ok to just enjoy being in the “moment”. If I can give any young woman advice on floating, do NOT put pressure on yourself, I met my husband in ny and didn’t get married until 37 and I have zero regrets not putting the society pressures or following my friends or ofhers timeline. Please please enjoy it now because it all went by like a snap of a finger. I think it’s AMAZING you moved to Paris - I wanted to move to London for awhile but I’m in DC and that’s ok haha. Please be kind to yourself and take in every experience. If I have one regret- it’s not realizing the time I had just sitting with myself in nyc. ❤❤ you got this x
I’m 19 and feel extremely behind because I haven’t hit those “adult milestones” yet. I really really needed to hear this thank you.♥️
This video could not come at a more perfect timing. I’m 25 right now and have felt a lot of this “crisis” in the past year. Thank you, Elena.
I feel like so many millennial and now Gen-Z had quarter life crisis because there's so little stability. Everything is so expensive and feels so uncertain, dating is a nightmare, we literally cannot plan for our futures, we are just trying to get to tomorrow. And that's really unhealthy for us.
Yeah and then our boomer parents add all this pressure not knowing that their lifestyles growing up was completely different to ours
This... and I'm saying that as someone who already has a kid and a partner
True. I already have a job and a loving husband (newly married). I would be called stable in the past but now I can't survive without doing a second job. So I'm exhausted. Meanwhile I also need to prepare for a better job and need to have a kid as I'm already 26. But I don’t have time or energy for any of the later two things. So I worry too much about future.
Man I'm 26 and I ain't got shit, military turned me down, all I can get is entry level jobs in either food or retail and while I'm trying school, I feel so out of place with everyone being younger than me and tbh, I have no idea what I even want with school.
What's worse is that I'm at the point now where most people look at me like I'm old and ask "wtf are you doing why don't you have a career a house and a wife or girlfriend?"
Jobs are limited aswell because of my age and lack of experience to.
@@delta2372 man that is something else im so sry genuinely i am
The fact that i would love to trade places with where you are in life. You feel stagnant? You’ve done amazing things in the past few years. You are living someone’s dream life.
Comparison is the thief of joy! It can be tough to fully appreciate our lives and how far we have come. This especially rings true when we are constantly flooded with information on how others are living their lives via social media.
right like I wish I had a job that allowed me to travel the world and afford to decide to try new things and places on a whim! happy for her but wish I had that for myself, too LOL
This is not a helpful comment lol
@@AlissaandJager The girl is so privileged it's ridiculous. But maybe that's the curse of privilege: everything is open to to you, so it's analysis paralysis.
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I love the message but MY WORD the editing is bananas! You’re so skilled
This def made me feel better today and is good for perspective
Elena this will be wonderful for you!
I am 35 years old and last year I lost the love of my life, my husband.
Life is full of surprises some tragic and some positive.
The point I’m trying to make is that life is too short, live your best life ❤
Wishing all the support and strength in your loss. You are not alone❤
What you spoke about reasons with me, even if I'm 22, and, although it does not give you a or - the - solution, knowing other people feel the same way, are going going through similar phases, is really comforting.
Thanks for sharing ❤
Hi Elena, it was so nice to meet you in Paris. I just forwarded this video to my daughter, who is your age. This content is relevant to people of any age, really. Life can take on a "been there, done that" quality if you are the kind of person who likes challenge and novelty. And for slightly anxious, driver/striver types, it's also difficult to just live your life without a clear goal in mind. At 62, having been happily married for 32 years, having raised two great kids who are now adults, and being successful in business, I STILL struggle at times with the same feelings you describe. And anyone my age except the most jaded and hardened who are not in touch with their feelings, has these moments. These feelings propel one forward. Being ever so slightly (or maybe a lot) dissatisfied is a huge motivator for change and achievement. Balancing that with enjoying the moment is the art of a life well lived. You are doing a great job of that, even though it's difficult at times. Thank you for boldly sharing your journey with others. Say "Hi" to Paris for me!
Hey Kathy! It's so great to hear from you again and I truly appreciate all your wise words. This is such a helpful and encouraging reminder to continue leaning into these feelings in each chapter of life :)
I'm in the same boat you're in. You're not alone in feeling these feelings :). I love your authenticity in this, it's super precious to have on RUclips when I feel like inauthenticity has taken over for a while. Something thats helped me move forward is realizing that much of what was holding me back was self denial, not listening to my gut, and trusting other people's words over mine. the second I began to lose the self doubt and trust in myself, I began to move forward again.
It’s nice to hear you’re going through the same thing, especially bc a lot of times I compare myself to influencers who get to do whatever they want/make good money/etc. in their mid 20’s and I’m here at 26 with no idea what I’m doing! But I think I’ve also come to realize there’s beauty in the unknown, I would hate my life to be predictable with the good husband, house and kids, it’s exciting to think about all the possibilities our lives can take!! -coming from someone just coming off her quarter life crisis 😂💗
So relatable!! It is sometimes a bit nice to see so many people are going through the same challenges, no matter which country we are from 🤗🤗
You'll figure it out Elena. In my twenties I didn't have a plan for anything and lived in the moment. My late twenties is when I figured out what I liked to do and went after it pedal to the metal. 🤟🏼 You'll feel this way if your purpose doesn't align with your heart and soul. if you believe in that sort of thing. 😁 But yes find those things you want to do and don't worry about who you will do it with. They'll find you!😉👊🏼 I'm 42 and I feel I just started living. Keep this 🫶🏼 full and share it. ✌🏼
Thank you so much for this video! Feeling a lot of uncertainty and stagnation in my late 20-s I remembered that unknown can also be exciting and inspiring❤
This video is beautifully done, and I couldn’t agree more with everything you said. My quarter life crisis brought me moving to nyc alone…for a new chapter, to take a chance on myself in the unknown and just see what happens. I’m 6 months in and it’s been a journey for sure, but it was the best thing I could’ve done for myself coming from a small town 🤍 congrats to you for digging deep and making this change, very excited to see where France leads for you 🙏🏻 the magic is in the unknown!
Such a beautiful vlog. Thank you for sharing. I’ve been there and I think you’re doing the right thing! Following your heart and listening to the little whispers in life is such a special skillset to have, and you have it for a reason! ❤
I have watched this video a couple times because it’s so beautifully edited and filmed. I enjoy ALL of your videos but this one felt indy and yet intimate.
Also, I wanted to say congratulations on your Paris adventure!! I am 45 and have had different “life resets” over the various chapters of my life, and I’m here to say everyone is unique and special.
I’ve had the opportunity the past few years to work and travel abroad and have lived in Paris, Costa Rica, Mexico in other places, and every time I step into the unknown with an open heart the most amazing growth and transformation takes place.
No it’s not always easy, but yes, it’s always worth it. I am cheering and rooting for you Elena!!
Wow this speaks to me on a deeper level... Currently 29 years old, going on 30 and man I'm really having a hard time 😅 Just changed career and I feel like I didn't choose it for the right reason. I think I would like to go back to school but at the same time I want children, etc, etc. I feel like I'm missing out on my life because I always wanted to study abroad or live abroad and I did none of these things yet.... Anyways thank you for your content. It feels good to know i'm not the only one who's at the crossroads of her life.
I felt the same way up until this year... I struggled a LOT with anxiety and depression for most of my life. Not to mention I hadn't found a partner or a community that truly felt like home. I never in a million years would have thought I'd ever say this but what helped me find the deepest peace I have ever known, more energy and overflowing excitement about waking up in the morning... has been faith. Again, NEVErrr did I think I'd become a Bible-thumping Christian, someone who looks forward to praying every day but truly, the sense of certainty, purpose, and the complete obliteration of my depression and anxiety is what has made me lean into this. Also, one out of every 1800 couples who pray together get divorced AND the longest and happiest marriages in pier review studies are often couples who met through shared faith. It took me a long time to come around, but when I saw the people in my life who had the most peace and purpose, they also had the most faith. A default to thanking God instead of overthinking/believing that you as a person need to have all the answers, you don't :) Maybe look in your life for the people who seem the happiest in who they are and how they live and get curious with them about what you can learn from them. I hope this helps
you don't need Christian faith to be happy. You can have many nontraditional beliefs and belief in yourself is one. Everyone has some anxiety even with prayer. It's the "answer" for some. But it can't be quantified. The 1/1500 couples staying together is a flawed study by Baylor University. The stat is thrown out as "fact" to support religious beliefs. Among the limitations of this study is that it is not possible to establish whether high-quality relationships promote religiousness, or vice versa, or to rule out the possibility that although
the large minority oversamples are a major strength of this survey, the data are also characterized by rather low response rates.
I lost my job after 30.5 years 2 months ago at 50. Your story right here is even relatable to me. Having to start over at 50 isn’t sitting right with me….. questioning can I do this.
Well…. On Tuesday I’ll be registering for graphic design. I haven’t been in school since I graduated high school 1991.
Can’t wait to follow your adventures.
I guess you can call my life in that pivot mode.
I watched you all summer long planning my life and what I wanted and now I moved to a city and have an amazing friend group / job. I feel so happy and at peace.
From one Elena to another, congrats on working to bravely create the life you want! ✨ I had my 1/3rd life crisis in 2019. The launch of my first novel was on the eve of my 30th birthday - I'd had meaningful work & had travelled a fair bit in the years prior, but couldn't help but wish that the novel was a baby. A break-up and re-evaluation of life during the pandemic inspired a cross-country move and quest to have a family. It was so worth it, I met my partner and his daughters in 2020 and I love our little family. Looking forward to watching your life unfold in Paris as you go after what you want and expand your creative pursuits 🌿🇫🇷
I feel like I lived my early years satisfied with little to no dreams. But now that I'm older I have this feeling of NEEDING to abandon that comfy life. I want to pursue dreams that I didn't know I have, fill a void that I didn't know existed.
Now I have these big goals, with no clue how to get there, the only thing I know is that I won't reach them if I don't move. If I don't move on.
This is exciting! Good for you! And I feel you on the no-idea-what's-next-or-how-to-get-there thing.. happens to us all! It's so normal! Sending you lots of good vibes on this next chapter 🙏🏼
Ah, Elena! I hope to meet you there. It's also been a dream of mine to move to Paris, and it's finally going to become a reality in January. I'm super nervous about the jump, but I know I'll grow so so much in a new environment after living in NYC for most of my life. Wishing you the best on this new journey!
Every age has a crisis of some sort. Every season is about searching. If you're a thoughtful human, this sense of feeling lost will be a constant. I mean this in a good way. After all, there is so much out in this beautiful world. If you're comfortable, you must miss some of it.
Also, I think it's "crap" that you couldn't stay on YT indefinitely. I think about this a lot. The most interesting creatives (think Taylor Swift) stay interesting because they explore each phase of their life. I think I speak for a lot of your audience; I am invested to see what happens next. What is 10 years from now like? Is there a beautiful French boy that will drive you mad? As long as you are evolving, your content is going to mean something to us. :)
Going so fast, to get to nowhere, redoing it all again and again. - quote from me.
Elena I am SO impressed with you. I’m a 60 year old, Marketing chick, who also hit that wall (at 55 I would say) and ALL the techniques you are recommending are excellent. Yes, you moved to Paris but you also did a lot of stopping to understand what was going on with you. Asking yourself what’s working today, what’s not. You are incredibly talented. Feel like you are the new Barbara Walters of this generation. Your content (and I speak professional experience) is EXCELLENT. Keep on peeling away that onion. Keep creating the rich content you do. And you will find your path. Perhaps you are already on it (-:
I never comment on here, but this really resonated with me. Beautiful video and love this style of storytelling.
This was so thoughtful. It's inspiring me to make my own version for my story. 24 and in NYC 2 years now and thinking about the crisis alot. Writing on a type writer has definitely helped process some of it. Good luck in Paris!!
Beautiful video that I really needed right about now - hope the Paris chapter treats you well!!
This really hit home and I can relate so much! Thank you for this!
Love this for you elena. Best of luck to you 🎉
This video is so perfectly timed, I think so many of us feel this quarter life crisis. And I think hearing it from someone we aspire to be - like you - because for me, you're living the dream (and I know it's mostly the good bits), but to be reminded that we all feel this way in our twenties/thirties, makes it seem a little less scary. So thank you 💓
I’m literally going through the same thing right now, I could cry. I’ve wanted to move to Paris for so long to better my French. Instead I bought a house, got a good job, car, did it all and now I don’t really understand why I did it. You’ve inspired me ❤️.
I turned 25 earlier this year and have been experiencing this quarter life crisis for awhile now. I’ve spent so much time reflecting on my life this year, and thinking about what I want to do or what will bring me more joy. I hope Paris sparks inspiration for you, and I’ll be excited to see what the future holds :)
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way - I'm graduating university this year and I have no idea what I'm supposed to do now (so I'm not in the exact same situation but anywho) and I am so incredibly anxious about the future and also how to make my parents proud because their opinions have always been very important to me and sometimes a bit of a pressure. I think I need to calm down and just take it one step at a time because I'm not living in the moment currently. I only have about one more month with my closest friends ever and I'm wasting these precious moments worrying about the future. Sorry for the rant lol but this is a whole lot of pent up worries I've not been talking about hehe
this is soooo good elena. amazing job i love your storytelling
I’m 33. Currently in the same state. Even after the stable job and payed off mortgage it still seems like something is missing. Sometimes it’s not about the financials.
Loved the storytelling and editing on this one! Can definitely relate as I went through something similar about a year ago! Just keep going, keep doing, taking action counteracts the stagnant "stuck" feelings. You got this, Elena!
you are my role model Elena, thankyou for sharing your life with us. A big thankyou for this video, it found me in my first mid 20's crisis
Beautiful video Elena!!! I'm 28 and absolutely love this for you and resonate so hard with this
I seriously relate to this SO much! I’m in my early thirties and have definitely been feeling a sense of quarter life crisis the last couple of years. Thank you for sharing your experience and making all of us feel less alone in it!! Excited to see more about your journey in Paris 🤗
That’s awesome! I regret I didn’t travel more when I was younger! Good for you! Enjoy life
Thank you for sharing this because it’s difficult! I definitely went through this ten years ago (wow I’m old!). Something that gave me tremendous comfort was this verse from Deuteronomy: “Do not fear for I am with you. Do not be dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you and keep you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” This helped me take off so much pressure from myself to have it all figured out.
Hey Elena! 🌟 I stumbled upon your channel during the chaotic COVID times, and ever since, you've become my go-to for realness and genuine vibes. 🙌 Your authenticity on screen is like a breath of fresh air, and I genuinely believe that if we ever cross paths, you'd be the same awesome person I see in your videos.
Your content has been my escape during the pandemic, and I can't express how grateful I am that RUclips is your gig. 🌈 This quarter-life crisis video hit me hard; it's like you're reading my mind! I've been in this funk for about a year and a half, questioning everything daily. Your words made me feel less alone, like we're all in this together.
Thanks for the fresh perspective and the motivation to rediscover my values and purpose. 🚀 Your video is not just relatable but also beautifully edited, capturing both you and nature in a magical way. Sending you loads of love from India, and a massive virtual hug! 🤗💕 Keep shining, Elena! ✨
“It’s not by accident that people talk of a state of confusion as not being able to see the wood for the trees, or of being out of the woods when some crisis is surmopunted. It is a place of loss, confusion, terror and anger, a place where you can, like Dante, find yourself going down into Hell. But if it’s any comfort, the dark wood isn’t just that. It’s also a place of opportunity and adventure. It is the place in which fortunes can be reversed, hearts mended, hopes reborn.”
― Amanda Craig
I guess lots of us are feeling the same way in our 20s, love your video Elena🤍
As a French person, I find it so funny that you feel like being in Paris forces you to slow down. I feel like the exact opposite when I go there, I can just feel the stress everywhere around me but I hope you'll like it a lot!
This is so real!! I quit my corporate job in September and moved to Paris in October, so your words resonate so much with me!! If you ever want to get a coffee or drink, let me know! I'm always looking to meet new people here - and it's nice to connect with other Americans/expats! xx
Aw no way ! So proud of you wow and that would be amazing!
You and Nathaniel really seem to thrive in experiencing new things. You both are so thoughtful and have such a similar drive to learn and understand the world & people. That’s why I love both your channels so much.
As a 24 year old, I related to this video so much. Thank you for sharing :)
Aww 💕 we met briefly at a coworking space in NY pre panini and after moving back here during my own QLC I was wondering what you were up to and found this 😂 I love your videos, they are so inspiring. Taking notes for this next chapter of my own where I’m trying to follow my own creative intuition and freedom instead of what I feel is expected of me. Good luck, much love 👏
This was a big video to plan,write, film ,edit,produce ...Well done Elena !
I'm left struck with thousands of dollars disappearing from my 401k due to soaring inflation, and my concern is where to safeguard and grow remaining cash about $500k for the next 2-3 years at no risk, my goal is to retire early and afford my lifestyle after retirement.
I cannot provide tailored investing advice unfortunately, but I recommend you speak to a trusted advisr for proper investment planning
@@LaurenGilmorAgreed, I’ve been investing in the stock market for 11 years now, last 4 years with the help of a financial planner apparently due to the covid-19 pandemic crash. Throughout these years of guidance, I've been fortunate enough to 10x my return as a DIY investor, summing up nearly $1m as of today.
@HaroldsTKOCan't divulge much, my portfolio is overseen by a Pennsylvania-based wealth advisor 'Theresa Leigh Detrick' she is highly qualified and experienced, luckily she has her presence widely visible on the internet.
@@JamesWillock quite informative, I just copied and pasted her full name on my browser, spotted her site easily and was able to send my message across, she seems proficient... thanks for putting this out
Great video! I really do have a question. For someone with less than $10,000 to invest, how would you recommend we enter the crypto market? I am looking at studying some traders and copying their strategy rather than investing myself and losing money emotionally. What’s your take on this approach?
VENTURING into the trading world without the help of a profesionals, trading and expecting profit is like turning water into wine you would need a miracle...
GOOD CONTENT !!! Very engaging right from the beginning These are tough times and frankly I appreciate how you discuss global finances in such a delicate way . Business and investment
Mrs jenefred charles mark was my hope during the 'bear summer' last year. I did so many mistakes but also learned so much from it, and of course from mrs jenefred charles.
The fact that I got to learn and earn from her program is everything to me think about it, it's a win-win for both ways.
Wow. I'm a bit perplexed seeing mrs jenefred charles. name been mentioned here also. Didn't know she has been good to so many people.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 9 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,549 subs and > 1,000 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
you are so friggin talented! ahhhh! this vid hits all the feels in all the right ways. thank you for creating this masterpiece.
You’ve been a huge inspiration to me through your videos, editing, & storytelling. I’m really glad you decided to move with this chapter. We’re here for it, Elena❤
It's amazing how in our 20s and 30s we have this feeling of pretending to be an adult. The thing is when you are in your 50s and 60s, etc... some of those feelings linger but by then you realize you are an adult. You are doing it. May be different than how others do it, but still, it means taking care of yourself and your family. If you have kids, well that is an added level of responsibility. In other words, it's not like one day you wake up and you feel different. There is no firm timeline. You have arrived. No, it's a slow evolutionary process. Gaining wisdom by virtue that you have seen this and done that. The bottom line is don't overthink it. You will get there.
Absolutely loved the way you put this together! Back when I was in high school, I started watching your videos in San Diego dreaming of undergrad in a beach town. Now in my early twenties, I am doing just that! I have loved following the chapters of your life, and it has continuously made me more excited for what's to come in my own life. Thank you for documenting all parts of your life in these early stages of adulthood -- I'm sure it has helped many others going through similar things right behind you just like myself :) so excited to see what this new chapter brings you Elena!
Thanks for your honesty here Elena. I have felt this as an underlying theme in your recent videos, and it does take courage to name it for what it is - and not shame it. You appear to be embracing it - the messiness is also okay, feeling the feelings as they come and know this is a calling to go deeper into yourself, not a thing to fix/change/run from. Your conscientiousness, self reflection and courage have signalled to the universe that you're ready to move beyond, and I hope you can see that as a true priveledge of how you have grown and how far you have come to be here. What you crave is not unrealistic - its true and pure. And I send you so much love as you move toward it wholeheartedly. Enjoy the ride ❤ with love from afar, Samia
Im not a big comment person either but your videos always make me feel like i want to say something about it. Firstly it was beautiful. Secondly, i can so much relate, im 27 from a different country and living different life but also always striving for change and believing beinh out of your comfort zone will always push you to be a better version of yourself. Ive gone far in terms of my teenage dreams as you have and now i feel the life literally is easy, because you feel that you can do anything and you dont doubt yourself, to the extend that it might be boring and less exciting. I agree that life is a journey and there are better and worse moments but you always learn and you should appreciate eac h of them. Finally, there is so much out there that you never gonna get that all so its important to find somewhere where you can settle also for your inner piece. Its not that time for me yet but maybe Paris will be your place for good.
Moved cities twice in my late 20's, never regretted it because i found out who i truly was without the "noise"
I love that!
Bienvenue en France Elena ! Lors de ces moments de doute, il faut continuer d’avancer et de vivre des aventures. Tu as su écouter ton cœur et suivre ton instinct, c’est le plus important. ☺️
Turning 30 in a month I used to get caught up in the number when I was younger of getting older but I never been more content in life and what I’ve been doing so now I’m actually happy to turn 30
How wonderful that you are challenging yourself with new ways of life in France! Good luck, culture shock is a real thing, but one that enriches your soul!
such a wonderful and vulnerable video, you represented so much of what I’ve been feeling and it is helpful to hear that even someone in the creative space who seems to be doing & creating so much still feels this way! I loved hearing about your action items at the end that align with your values and are helping you get in touch with your truest self again 😌
Ah yes we are truly in this together! I’m so glad you enjoyed it :,)
This resonates so deeply for me. You’re always so well articulated and I have immense respect for your motivation to make yourself uncomfortable for the sake of growth…. It feels like people (both our age and different ages) all too often shy away from the discomfort. Keep shining Elena, I hope your insights from your time in Paris are invaluable and your experiences are memorable ✨
love this video ❤ that quarter life crisis is realll
you have perfectly captured how i’m feeling. I turned 27 this year and I couldn’t ignore any longer the feeling of something being completely amiss in my life. I realized I missed being creative, writing and making films. I missed the feeling of joy in what I did. So I moved back to my hometown in Mallorca and started a youtube channel because I’ve always processed things better through art. I take comfort in knowing that I am not alone in this journey. Sending you love from Mallorca.
I can't belive i've been watching your channel for more than 6 years now, OMG, hope you have a lovely new chapter ❤
Hi there! First time seeing your videos. How exciting, France! You portray having such a sweet spirit. I'm in my early 40's, and I relate having feeling like you describe in not feeling purpose-filled and anxious about direction and other things. Not be cheesy, but focusing on building a life founded and centered around seeking God in my life which can be done so well now because of Jesus's sacrifice, I have been shepherded into more and better than the low I started in without Him. Finding a bible teaching local church has been the cornerstone of this for us. God bless you Elena.
I love it! And the video editing style was beautiful and nostalgic 💖
This is so timely, I moved from North Carolina to Cali (San Diego) 10 years ago. It was the best decision. I know you will enjoy your self. 😊
I so relate to this. Just moved to a new city and I'm excited to see how things evolve!
I’m been following you since you lived in California, and after years of following you and seeing this video - it is true heart balm. I absolutely loved the editing and the message of this video, felt raw and i felt connected to our humanity. Thank you for creating this video. May France bring you new insights, internal harmony, and endless re-connection to self ✨
currently also on a gap year / 24 year old life crisis. Now set on moving to NY for grad school but everyday, I have second thoughts. Feel like I'd be throwing away so much peace and stability (I'm from Portugal) for a dream that might not even be there. Would love to hear from you on comparing the NY and European way of life for girlies who are both nature but also career oriented... and are also stuck in this "should I get a new job in a big city/go to a farm" phase of life.
Hey just found your channel and what a lovely person you are. Wish I had you as a friend. I have not found your channel and this video by accident. I was meant to find this at this time. I have changed so much this last few years. I do believe i am on a spiritual awakening 😊. I’m lost and don’t really have any friends or know what I want to do next. I kinda want to go travelling. But something is holding me back. I want to meet nice people that think free and open minded like we do. I have moved around England a little. Think it’s time to check out a few more countries. This video is amazing and so are you. Love Matthew from the south coast of England
Yes. This is indeed a problem. I think I'm still in crisis mode, and have been for many years. I started working at 15 years old. because I had to start helping my family financially. Now, 20 years later, I look at my life now and think about all the experiences I didn't have, the opportunities to study and learn more and maybe be someone with a successful career. This makes me very anxious about the future.
I have been following you since your channel started and we’re the same age so we go through similar seasons of life together. Thank you for sharing this❤ it feels a bit less lonely knowing other people are going through this too. Love your channel and you’ve been such an inspiration for me. Continue adventuring on❤
Great video with a thoughtful and touching message Elena. We are thankful for you being you and your always amazing content. Those that give will be rewarded richly.
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Thank you so much for putting into words this „change of seasons”! In the last year, I've definitely felt... lost: I feel like I'm way back in life, compared to my friends who are getting married or moving in with a partner. I changed cities a year and 3 months ago and this feeling of being lost has blossomed more and more on me. I left my circle of friends and now, being an employed adult, I find it so much harder to make friends: all my friends are from school or university. I have the job that I dreamt of when I was in high school, but I'm no longer happy: I feel like I can do more, but I'm so afraid. I sometimes think of bright things that I can do with my life, but imidiately 3-4 thoughts of how comfortable `now` is, are making me stay. I feel that at my age I should be BOLD and to crazy, brave, impactful things, but I'm stuck. I admire your will of creating opportunities for yourself and taking risks! I really hope the world opens great doors for you!
Just wanted to say thank you. I saw your swiss backpacking video in May, after which I decided to do a month backpacking myself. If it weren't for your video, I would have never stayed in Interlaken (at Balmers), and I would have missed out on making my best travel memory ever.
You helped me find a sense of direction, and I hope someone in Paris will help find yours.
Take care,
-KP
Wow, this was beautifully edited, a masterpiece. Currently going through similar feelings… moved abroad 3 years ago and boy can it be lonely! I’ve been struggling with my channel and have those thoughts 💭… is this even going anywhere… where am I going? It’s a struggle but pushing through these thoughts of uncertainty is beautiful and makes us all stronger. Thanks for the inspiration and welcome back to France!
I’m 27 in January and have been in an industry that is not aligned with who I am for the past four years. Trying to get out of it now but also have the fear of starting my side hustle I’ve been putting off for the same amount of time. I am starting to realize that life is far shorter than I want to admit and to take chances is the only way to move forward with volition.
Thank you so much for this video, this has been me for the last few years as well, it really helps to see that I'm not by myself in this feeling. Always love your videos xx
Elena, if the Paris grey gets you down & you need a dose of the sea, I'd highly recommend coming down to Montpellier as a quick weekend train trip on the TGV. I'm a 38 year-old American with a wandering spririt that manifests geographically and activity-wise. 10 years ago, Paris was my oyster and so stimulating when I lived there. Now, the even calmer, mid-size, French cities in the sunny south with nature nearby to fulfill that for me. Different chapters, diferent needs for flourishing as you've already experienced. :) Courage !
Stumbled across this video at the right time, it was so reassuring. Loved every minute of it 🥰
I loved this, and resonated with it far more than I thought I would. But take solace from a great quote from Oscar Wilde, as much as you can, in that those who know where they’re going, and what they want to be, they will inevitably become it. That is their punishment. But if you never know, then you can be anything. You’re doing a great job, Elena. Try not to worry about the expectation of others, be yourself. Enjoy the journey.
i cant believe i watched you already for 6-7 years now. I was a sophomore in high school in southeast asia, Indonesia, now I am a senior in college moved abroad to California. And you are one of my favorite youtubers growing up. Not knowing that, apparently UC San Diego would be the school I ended up going to (did not realize Point loma university was also here untill today). I wondered for 2 whole years, “Why am I here? I don’t belong here” this existencial crisis left me going from a 3.9 gpa to a 0.2 (I mean it). The university wanted me to take a break for a year, and that leads to where I am now. College less, clueless, unemployed & feeling so lost about where in life i currently am. depression hits every day. I have no aspirations no goals nor willpower to execute them. if you have an advice to give me at my lowest point in life elena, what would you do?Thank you🌺
Hi Elena, totally resonating! Thank you for putting in the effort to make your story into such a wonderful creatively made story & video to share with us. I think all of us girls who moved across the world by themselves should do a meet up and share moments of success, challenges and learnings and just embrace each other 🙌 I’m 28, just moved from Vienna to Sydney on a longterm working visa by myself and share all the anxiety, novelty and change you’ve been describing. I celebrate us!! 🎉 You only have one life to be bold (and somewhat naive/ crazy :D)
I’m watching a bunch of videos just to keep me sane….i feel lost and it is eating me up, i don’t know what to do, i have no particular direction and I’m breaking down right now
I really don’t believe that being lost is to be found…ouit’s a fucking nightmare and wanna get out of it
Hey girl! Huge congratulations on the move. That is so awesome, we can’t wait to see your journey there! PS. Love the style of editing/filming. Keep it up❤
Love love love this video! Love the honesty, new ways you filmed and edited, and the content!
Elena, thank you for your vulnerability. I watch your videos with all of your travels thinking “I wish I could be her,” and yet you were so open that you have struggles just like any other twenty something. I think you should start some kind of business that supports and connects young women through travel :)
Beautiful and insightful video. I certainly feel I can relate to the feelings you express about a quarter life crisis. I love how you highlight the points of seeking novelty and challenging yourself. I resonate with this too ❤ Throughout our lives, I think a lot of us are eager to experience all facets of life and make the most of our short time here on earth.
I love this video so much. We really should enjoy the present ❤
I'm 21, I live in Brazil, and I'm in my second year of law school, but I feel very lost. I've told my parents that I wanted to try being an au pair for one year so I could see different things, meet different people. I'm in my 20s, and here where I live, I can barely walk on the street.
I have always want travel the world, but I was too scared to take the first step.
What a smart, beautiful, and creative being! Elena, I’ve been following you for a while, and you have been nothing but an inspiration.
I think it’s quite normal to feel anxious when you don’t know what the outcome is like, but i would say that you should just trust the process! I am certain you’re going places:)
Lots of love