Do YOU have to SUPPORT your FILIPINAS WHOLE FAMILY?
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I will tell her that SHE alone is my responsibility. NOT HER FAMILY. I may help from time to time but it will not be every day or week like a paycheck. If she can't understand that, it'll never work.
Told mine the same. She told her family their money problems were theirs not mine
I am retiring in the Philippines in just 3 short weeks and I am probably one of the few who is not coming to meet a Filipina. I have my 2 dogs and they are enough.
Congratulations on your retirement.please keep up posted on when or if a Filipina would steal your heart. You are retiring not visiting. Cheers
Are there any problems bringing your pups with you, I have 2 of my own.
When I first arrived already having a Filipina LDR girlfriend was the best choice of my lifetime a travel guide a best friend a translator and a lover made my adjustment so easy
Dude stay in your country we are over populated already, I noticed usually old foreigners settle in Asia for retirement I wonder why your country just to difficult to survive when your depending on pension , that’s how it is….
Great show ladies, but you didn't address ethnicity requirements with Filipinas. Most Filipinas prefer white men with blue eyes. Black men NEED to know this. So please don't leave this out next time. Thank you.
No.
Hell no.
F no.
Absolutely not!
If a Filipina and her family can't financially sustain themselves without your money,
DON'T GET INVOLVED!!!!!!!!!!
DO NOT lend money under any circumstances and refer them to a bank with a straight face!!!!!!!!!!
But it's a law that a husband has to provide money for his Filipina wife's family. So that would means never marry a Filipina. Just having a Filipina girlfriend.
@@mickeyrey4455
Exactly.
What's the obsession with marriage anyway?
There's no upside for men.
*No marriage
*No cohabitation
*No impregnation
***Just retire in peace!!!
@@mickeyrey4455 No the law does not say that the husband has to provide to the Filipina's family. It says that the family should support each other. The Filipina is only responsible to support with her own money not the money of her husband. The Foreigner husband has ZERO responsibility under that law to provide to the family .
@VENEMPASTOR it's the culture
@@christopherkwit3177
Such baloney.
F word the culture.
My wallet is closed and I suggest you do the same.
do families put serious pressure demanding support through the pina involved?
If we all just follow what the Bible teaches we would avoid so much heartache. Be not unequally yoked with unbeleivers
Amen! Do NOT date outside of your religion. Christians need to be married to *CHRISTIANS*! No atheists! No muslims! No jews! etc. ONLY christians!! 2 Cor 6:14-18
Yup…I was thinking the same thing Nathan….
Amen! @@dathip
The Christian Crusades killed hundreds of thousands in the name of religion . . . .
Agree
It depends on the situation, but usually... MOST Filipino girl expect you to help and support her family. The parents do expect the kids too financially support them when they have income,or a Forigner to support them . have seen this a lot.
Many Filipino think this.
Im american i do not support her family i expect her daughter to work after 18. However they all doveverything behind your back like giving money to there family when you visit,
??? You say you consider yourself kind of an atheist, but that you “do” believe in a higher being. You are seriously contradicting yourself, but that way of thinking. Atheist believe that absolutely “IS” no God, know how you’re being. The fact that you believe in a higher being, Means that religion and spirituality “ARE” within you. Good for you, there “isn’t” announce of atheism within you, because you can’t have it both ways…
Exactly. She's still a theist but it sounds like she isn't subscribing to any particular sect anymore.
Really good discussion Leah, Jessel and Gladys. All of you are very honest and open.
Gladys, I would love to meet a woman like you sometimes...
English is my second language too.
Man do not get any benefit from a wedding. We can have everything from a woman without beeing married. And we don't have to pay in a divorce.
I would give my girlfriend a certain allowance. It's up to her, what she wants to do with the money.
My thing is im willing to help her family, BUT, I'ma do so in a way where they'll be able to help themselves. I'll set them up with the equipment they'll need to start farming livestock for personal use, and I'll help a few members start a small business and we split the profits, and send a few other to college. The rest is on them, I put you in a position to succeed on your own now go out there and get it. They tend to have multiple siblings so they'll be the main ones im investing in and they'll be responsible for taking care of their elderly members or disabled members. Im not allowing them to be lazy on my dime, you will get a chance to succeed but it'll be entirely up to you. How badly do you want to help your family? Go out and take advantage of the situation I put you in cause I can't afford to play financial baby sitter and I'm not going to let them exploit my future wife.
Leah this is a great show no disrespect to you or any of the Ladies the Lady in the middle has a great understanding of marriage and she can help many other Flipna.
If i were to marry a filipina she was my family most important .... her most important family should then be me and with regards of the family she came from it depends.... what do I mean with that? Sympathie... I wouldnt support anyone from my money I dont really like if she were to work she could do with a portion of it what she wants.. so this question is generally hard to answer.
I have a lot of respect for your guests, Leah and I subscribe to their channels also. It was an interesting interview, thank you. ❤
Wow, the three of you are so pretty, mature, & considered. Some other channels are more like silly little girls playing around. It's good to see less superficial vlogs. However, my chances with Filipinas, as a vegetarian & atheist, would be limited, beyond simple flings, despite being only 45, fit, and reasonably attractive. 😥
Leah,great content and questions for your guest congrats.
Good job, great discussion girls. I like the discussion of long-distance relationships because that’s where we’re all going to be at soon or later.
It's easy to say that you don't have to support the whole family. But from my own experience this is how it really is: Uncle badly injured in motor accident needs surgery, cousin needs dental care, another cousin needs dental care, Another uncle suffers from diabetes & dies..help needed, Cousin's baby unexpectedly dies...help needed, Needs to borrow clothing & household items that do not return, Needs to share rice/food, Cousins dropping in to have a bite to eat. Needs to borrow money that do not return, Needs to borrow money for the rice harvest that may/may not payback, Nieces & nephews need school supplies, Birthday gifts for all the kids, Chip-in to food preparations for dozens of parties throughout the year. Treats & snacks for the kids throughout the year. Taking all the kids to the swimming pool/beach. Schools/churches/orgs/volunteers seeking donations & sponsors. If you get my drift, it's really unavoidable. Your girlfriend will be under pressure to help whether it's duty, obligation, or guilt.
The bottom line. Absolutely yes!!!! They view every American man as "rich". The woman and, the family will expect their husband to financially support her family. So, be prepared for that I understand what you're getting yourself into 😊
Does your FILIPINAS has to SUPPORT WHOLE FAMILY ?
It is interesting you go on about how 'Christian' the Philippines and how important your religion is. It seems to be lip service. How about contributing to lessen the mass poverty - charity? How about electing non-corrupt representatives? How about exercising some restraint and not having multiple kids out of wedlock - chastity or (fathers) how about not deserting your wives/partner/kids and and having extra-marital affairs - lust - and when a foreigner turns up and assumes your responsibilities expecting a payout. I support my step-daughter. I employ my wife's family in our business and I put the various kids through school. That goes beyond my responsibilities.
Never date anyone that might dilute your belief. No relationship is worth giving up your belief in Jesus . Eternity is a long time to suffer for the wrong choice in a mate
Be advised. The “once saved always saved” theory simply is not true! We make our choices.
Under the protection of Jesus Christ, when you are by choice in His fold, you cannot lose your salvation.
However, God will not force your hand. If you buy your own volition, choose to end this relationship,you will not attain eternal salvation if you die in this condition.
It sounds very chic and evolved to say that once you believed in God and now you are beyond that, but actually it is the absolute most terrible mistake you could make.
I hope Gladys finds her way back into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
“ Eternity is a long time to be wrong.”
The young lady in the middle is a keeper!
I have my own parents to support when they get older, if your Filipina wants to support her parents a little, that’s fine. If she wants to support her parents that aren’t in retirement age, so they don’t have to work, then that’s a hard no. It’s pretty easy.
Timeframe 10:16…she did not say what she could personally offer….red flag 😀…then she passed the mic 🤣
I think I have to totally agree with jasael I’m a born and babtized American & religion is a major factor to me & my family
What a stupid unnecessary question? Not one peso go to family, never. Not my problem! 🤷♂️🙈
Sorry with all do respect, not your business if I do or not! click bate topics
Hi Leah, this interview is very informative and fun.
One thing for sure we Filipina are precious, rare and worth it to love.
Thats why lets preserve our uniqueness!
This is not to brag but to inspire.
God bless everyone.
Gisselle......I am an American......and ready
I'm in the USA and their some people that are atheist that I have work with they try to make fun of me because I Believe in God I'm a Baptist and my wife is Catholic we both believe in God I would not date a woman or marry a woman that didn't believe in God my wife is a Filipino
I like what you ladies commented here….
I like the atheist! I had enough of organized religion 😅
Sorry Gisselle....you have a guy,,,,,
3 Intelligent Morena's***
Being kind dont get you into heaven. The devil has a hold of that girl
Everyone I know; (around four people); that have married women from Philippines is required to send money to her parents in the Philipines, as well as to assist with paying for surprise expenses, such as medical bills for the entire family. The cheapest monthly payment I have been told by one friend was he was sending $500 per month and the most expensive payment per month I was told by another friend, was he was sending $1,500 per month. Just my experience from the outside looking in, as I am not married to a Philippine woman myself.
Well they are not required to pay that money it is their choice to do it so they should not complain they should have discussed and set rules before hand with their partner or wife
@@davidridland They are not complaining. I'm just saying it seems common for people married to Philippine women to send money to their wives family.
Communication communication communication. These things need to be discussed and agreed on BEFORE getting married. Where will you live, how will you worship, family support, division of chores in the house, will the family grow with additional children. Don't get swept away by love without taking the details into account. It's not fair to EITHER of you to enter thinking the other one will automatically agree. It can work, but we have a merging of cultures, and these things need to be discussed BEFORE making a life together.
Guys do not be fooled. You marry a Filipina you marry the whole family. There is no way around this. Rich Filipinas only marry other Filipinos. The Philippines is hard pass for me, the world is a big place. The family will drain you so fast you will be on Raffy Tulfo complaining 3 weeks later.
In some cases you are right and often when it does it is your own fault for allowing it to happen. In my experiences you make it clear from the start what you will and won’t do. If they don’t respect your decision then they may not be a good choice.
@@americanchristianinphilipp960 It's 100% the foreigners fault! Some guys are just needy and desperate. No argument from me.
Well said!@@chosen_one1602
True you should help but "if they drain your finances" that is on you not knowing your boundaries 😅
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Thank you. I just watch other people and learn from them.
As an Atheist, I'm happy to hear there are open-minded women like Gladys in the Philippines. ❤
Honestly I would't bring up the atheist thing at all and when asked I would use the label of "Christian-other". We don't get any special points for not believing and if it makes them happy just go to church with them once a month or something. Christianity is just social therapy, know what I mean?
16:10 I love that, talk about a power couple.
In the US we look at the age gap like that to be very disturbing. Good thing the Philippines is open to accepting that.
There are many things that are disturbing in the USA at the moment
The USA is a very disturbed and disturbing country. And the age gap is very common outside the West.
What Gladys said about these 3 elements - chemistry (sexual attraction), compatibility in goals and connection ("click") - is so true! She perfectly pointed it out. Gladys is such a wise person, amazing 😊 All the best to everyone! ☺
The Girl in the Middle is a Heathen!
Great work Leah as usual😎
Thank you John !! 😁
Watching this video and carefully listening to the great conversations and in depth thoughts shared with your guests, I’ve seen very strong Filipinas, great hearts and minds and wonderful catches for their men. I have no problem sharing my life and heart and resources with the right Filipina, and her family. I’ll go to the online apps 3 months before I arrive to the Philippines in late October, so as to get to know some Filipinas to visit.
🤣 According to CFO (Commission on Filipinos overseas), 56% of Filipinas who marry Foreigners don't have college degree...57% don't have work.... So yes.... Rock Star Foreigner will be bread winner of the whole Clan...
If you let it happen, yes.
I plan to retire aroubd 45-50 over there and honestly if and when I get married or have a serious long term relationship with a Fililina I wouldn't want her to work some 9-5 since I won't be working at all.
@@MaullerTwin 🤣 so you go half way across the world to marry a college drop out
@@passportbrolife well having a degree does not make a woman good marriage material just look at all the university brainwashed idiot woman in the USA with useless degrees who no men want to even talk to let alone marry
Passportbrolife , the SMART Clan !!!!!
I believe in Jesus. Was Catholic but too many non-Christian things in the Church made me walk away. I think that as long as you believe in a higher power, and want to become closer to that, then I can be with you. But if you believe in nothing then why would you believe in faithfulness and put someone before you? Can't trust that type of person. Just my opinion and experiences.
Hi Leah. Thanks for another great down to earth conversation with these two wonderful ladies. I think most guys are generous but they don't want to be taken advantage of. Being together with a filipina does not obligate us to provide for her entire family. It's important to have that conversation early in the relationship. Also help her to know how to say no when she is pressured to get resources from her man.
amazing topic. i’m filipino and living in the us. i plan on retiring to the philippines where i was born, bulacan. i don’t speak tagalog so i’m at a bit of disadvantage. i don’t believe in dating apps, but still hope to find the true one for me
This is a great video... And the answer would be.... 😮
If she is just an employee, then yes. If she is a real girlfriend, of course not.
Awesome video kaibigan
Great conversation ladies!
Rich, old and white. Everything else is window dressing.
You forgot to add blue eyes
You ask some of the best questions. Love your interviews. Look forward to every video you make. 👍👍
Glad you like them!
For Gladys atheist or agnostic?
She's agnostic by her description (a person who believes that nothing is known or can be known of the existence or nature of God or of anything beyond material phenomena; a person who claims neither faith nor disbelief in God).
Good job
Hey Leah, I wanna meet the girl in the middle, the one that wants to date an atheist. I think she is smart, cute and has a nice personality.
She's taken already.
You obviously did not listen to the video she is taken
Three beautiful Filipinas but all are taken
Giselle ❤
I give my GF 20 k a month to buy herself what she wants and to give her family money when needed. However, I still get asked for extra money occasionally. Sometimes for reasonable things like help with a hospital bill, other times for silly stuff.....my GF does an overall good job of shielding me.
Well you give her the money so don't complain
Happyguy are you really Happy ? you have to know that when you start to giving there will be no end to it !!!!!
No your girlfriend is in love with your money not you and you are just renting her instead of finding a down to earth girl who loves you
@@davidridland well, your not gonna find a decent girl in the West....where do you suggest we look?
@@happyguy7836 well maybe start looking for a down to earth girl who is not materialistic might be a good starting point
There is no such thing as atheists - most Filipino don’t read bible, you agree with me.Amen - All is truly well 🌺🌹🥀❤
There's no such thing as a theist.
Your friend needs prayed for. When you turn your back on that's a very sad thing.
Atheist
Hard no. We. Come from a higher power. If you dont beleive and folllow a gods life its a no for me.
Jessel is Catholic and Christian. Don’t you have to pick one or the other
They are the same thing Catholic is a christian religion same as church of England,Presbyterian,uniting church etc etc
I love my Filipina and been together about a year. 30 days ago her dad got into a bike accident. I took it upon myself to take care of the family until he is better
Her name isn’t Maria Ethel I hope.
@@thejoe4000 no
@@thejoe4000 trust me i verified my girl is a province girl so humble and grounded
@@TruckerBill0531thank God ! I got the same story, same time 😂
Good wishes for your future sir 👍
It is written we should not be equally yoked with unbeliever’s.
So quick to bring up that verse, yet ignore:
- 1 Corinthians 7:9 "But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion."
- 1 Thessalonians 4:3 "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you ABSTAIN from sexual immorality."
- Hebrews 13:41 "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be UNDEFILED, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous."
- Deuteronomy 23:2 “No one born of a forbidden union may enter the assembly of the Lord. Even to the tenth generation, none of his descendants may enter the assembly of the Lord."
Why are those important? Because you have single mothers sitting there claiming to be religious, when they violated the word of God and the morals and values set forth in the Bible.
Romans 14:1: "As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions."
Absolutely true, can’t have none without the other.
It is also written that if married to an unbeliever that is the choice of the believer if they want to stay together.
@@Tony-m4h omg this site has been taken over by the amish
Just wondering: what do Filipinas bring to the table?
All they are talking about is what they want the foreigner to bring to THEIR table.
They're answering the specific questions asked to them. You're asking what do filipinas in general have to offer. Try Google if you don't already know the answer. Or maybe just use your ears and your eyes.
@@sempertito3515,
the interviewees can/should/must say: "wait, I dont like your line of questions." followed by what she herself will bring to the table and what she likes him to bring to the same table.
But its not part of the concept in PH to question the interviewer.
This is ALL women. Western women all have their huge laundry list of what a man has to provide, yet none of them say what they will provide. Yet still can't figure out why men are walking away. Instead of saying what he needs to give, these women should start with what they will give, so the man can see if she possesses the traits he values in a woman he will commit to.
Honesty loyalty love strong desire to please and make their man happy all the things that most western women don't give men nowadays
Go there for vacations and see for yourself :)
Experience is the best practice!
I plan to put money into a fund monthly (for example, $500/month) for the family to draw from. If the money runs out and someone in the family asks for money, he or she will be told which family members used up the money. My wife will be in charge of dealing with any questions.
If any filipina tells you that you are expected to provide for the family, run, it is a lie.
2 corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
So quick to bring up that verse, yet ignore:
- 1 Corinthians 7:9 "But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion."
- 1 Thessalonians 4:3 "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you ABSTAIN from sexual immorality."
- Hebrews 13:41 "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be UNDEFILED, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous."
- Deuteronomy 23:2 “No one born of a forbidden union may enter the assembly of the Lord. Even to the tenth generation, none of his descendants may enter the assembly of the Lord."
Why are those important? Because you have single mothers sitting there claiming to be religious, when they violated the word of God and the morals and values set forth in the Bible.
Romans 14:1: "As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions."
Those scriptures are very important, I agree, I’m not ignoring them by not mentioning them, by writing in. It’s just the gal in the middle said she was once very Godly, but she changed. I thought that was off , seeing she said that she would date a atheist, and that was the first verse that came to my mind, so how is one to understand all the other things if they don’t even grasp the fundamental rudimentary thing by not being unequally yoked.
YES! it's part of their culture, tradition, and race. Hypergamy is very well and alive in the Philippines.
If I am going to MARRY someone?.....why the hell would I NOT want to help them?,.....and this now...causes an even bigger question: WHY are you getting married to someone you don't feel the need to help in Life? I dunno maybe I see things differently, but I'm of the mind if I'm spending money to fly all the way to a far-away land?...and I meet someone whom I think is deserving of my love and devotion?.....then me helping her or her family shouldn't be a problem.
But that's just me.
You must be playing the simp at this moment with your LDR
@eddie
This mindset has ruined the Philippines.