Great advice! It really works. Healthy men like to be our heroes and they love feeling appreciated and respected. If a man is attracted to you and you show him respect and appreciation, you'll make it easy for him to fall in love with you and cherish you. I wish I had started listening to things like this a decade sooner. Thank you, Brian!
This is true! Very useful to married couples. Dont forget what Brian said ONLY WHEN HE DESERVED/EARNED IT. Be real and authentic in giving complements.
Haha same with mine. He's been questioning his decisions lately and being super existential 🤦🏼♀️😂 It's kinda satisfying to see him regret losing me. 🤷🏼♀️ His loss is someone else's gain.
Why is it always the woman who must please the man? Why can't men learn how to please the woman as well? It should not be one sided. Women want respect too. Women do not want men to criticize them., or make them feel less important. They want to be able to do projects, and not have the man think he should take it over, or belittle them, or not have confidence in them. They don't want to be mocked, when they cry, because they are sad. If you men treat a woman with respect, and love and kindness, and not be harsh to her or ridicule her, you will find a woman who will treat you with respect, because she will be so happy ,and feel so loved, that the outcome for you will be an outpouring of respect, and love.
To be honest, you will have respect, being spoiled a lot when you meet the man who is right for you and a good man. They are gemes. U wont have to ask for it, they will do those because they want to make u happy. Then u please them cos they are deserve to be treated good.
@@lindmizar9401 my ex hated the word mutual. Even we I spoke about respecting each other. This is a wrong man! I think he hated strong women in general. His sorry ass is alone right now lol
This guy is just trying to help show women how men behave. This is to help women. And there’s also a million channels to help men understand and please women. Why wouldn’t a man try to please and respect his girl? Unless you dat terrible men. I wish more women would understand in this world today that a man needs a woman just as much a woman needs a man. When you find the right person. It’s a beautiful partnership. Each bring their own strengths and weaknesses.
You are definitely one of the better info deliverers. You're comedy sets you apart. I don't listen to alot of u tube anymore and I know yours is always pleasure. Thanks for making them. You rock.
good men are indeed hard to come by! And good men are not necessarily good to every woman. when you love someone, adore them, they become someone who matters. I guess for me, I have yet to matter to anyone. No guy makes me feel special; maybe it's the way guys are today but I often feel that I don't matter. As if I could walk out the door and get run over the bus and they wouldn't have noticed. I see so many guys in special ways but have yet to meet someone who feels the same way back. I like your anecdotes and they make me smile that maybe in another life, I might meet someone who'll like me! I do like your thoughts on changing the mindset etc. I think praise only matters if he cares about you; tbh. I think most guys don't like me complimenting them because I don't matter.
Well said as always & all so true. All works well w/my man. One of reasons he fell for me. I complement him, give appreciation, and always have his back. He knows & appreciates it very much. Has put me through some stuff, while going through hell himself, but I stood & stand by him. He's very greatful for this & of course made up for being a jerk at times. Proof all said in video is very true & works immensly well.
Thank you alot Brian ! I can't tell you how much you help us to understand ourselves and learn more about our love life .. I really appreciate your hard work 💗😊
He wasn't a quality man.He didn't deserve your effort in the first place.Only do this with a man who is worthy.Put yourself first and show you have a life without a man and only give when you know a man is worth it.Being too giving /accommodating can make a man loose interest.Sometimes we have to put the work in knowing / healing ourselves before we can get in any kind of relationships if not we end up with the dregs / narcissists. Trust me ,I know.
Love you always... Ur videos make me feel really good... Whenever i feel like i am drowning away in emotions or feeling low i do watch a video of yours and i come back more strongly ❤️
This seems weak and problematic when so many guys are NOT earning it anymore. Men are being taught still to get LOTS of women. While they're like that. They're just a disappointment
I have very good sense of direction. It is more or less an inborn trait. I dated guys who are naturally bad at route finding. I didn’t have to say anything before they were already frustrated. They were even more crestfallen after I took over the wheels. It is a great way to see a guy’s true color, doing something better than him. The ones not fazed are much more confident and fair. They complement me doing a good job, not jealous, feel threatened.
I complimented, appreciated, verbally expressed my admiration toward his person, talents and diy skills, but still our relationship ended. Really, it's as if most men are oblivious to their emotions and emotional growth, to be able to appreciate these things.
@@thomasstanford80191 I saw that. I never wanted something in return, I did it because I felt like it and to boost his self-confidence because I noticed him being stagnant in a lot of things. Doing it for boosting the man's ego is an absolute mistake, as I think more about it. Being in a relationship is not about being a saviour or therapist.
@@mnmz9304 I'm sorry your relationship did not work out and I appreciate you considering my reply without backlash and honestly with sincerity, clarity and emotional maturity I'm definitely not blaming or shaming you; it takes courage to step into the positive side of a difficult relationship
Immense Merci Geert! J’ai rencontré un homme dont je suis en train de tombée amoureuse. Il est visiblement pas a l’aise avec des compliments. Je sais que parfois je degage une energie masculine mais je veux qu’il ce sente comme mon Héros! Cette vidéo m’a bcp aidée. Salutations chaleureuses de Montréal 🇨🇦
I really appreciate your advice and the videos you make, thank you! The helpful and honest advice is spot on and makes so much sense, I love that they're short and sweet, getting straight to the point! Thank you H. I'll call you H as I'm not sure of the spelling of your name 😊
I agree If someone treat you bad don't treat them good Don't tolerate them It's enabling there behavior to get worst But If someone is treating you good In fairness treat them right Yes guys like to be the hero save the day I always told my ex it's not what you say is how u say we broke up cause he admitted that he had a family His way of protecting me was canceling the plans and telling mi it's over an blocking me on everything. I just blocked him on Facebook. I don't want either of us playing check up this ain't the doctors office Men that don't give a crap would still tell the girl to come knowing she will get hurt I don't consider that a good guy My ex was a good guy he has flaws like everyone else We just couldn't be together I would really question my self if I wanted to stay with him after he told mi he has a child with someone who's he's with It will question my self worth So yes the men love to play super man an batman than I question my self after this viedo why a man seeked me out. There someone wrong with me that he saw he can fix If your whole and confident you don't need a man . That's why man will reject a woman too they don't see how they fit into that woman life .that's why it seems men date more broken women especially in today world. When my ex broke up with me .he knew I no longer needed him the Job was already done Ladies seek wisdom ❤
First is appreciated and respectful to each other and if one never do this just run away from that person. Because no person ever change this pattern for you. So never try hard for get respect
Perfectly spoken. All those words of wisdom have been deep in my heart. I haven't known these beautiful understandings and knowledge all my life until the last few years. Every word you said is what I've learned. But you put it together so lovely and wise in your video. After a few disappointing experiences in the last few years, I did appreciate what I did learn from the sad times and knew those men were not meant for me. There is someone I want to get to know more. He's kind and with the same values as myself. I think there is a strong attraction, but what's most attractive to me about him is his kindness and faith. I plan to have the courage to offer and give him my phone number. We're in a class. Even though I'm older than him, I don't think it will matter. I've learned confidence in myself and I respect him. I want to offer him respect, admiration and appreciation. So, I'm hoping he will receive my gesture to connect on a deeper level than aquatinted. Thank you 😊
@@bertille19 I gave him my phone number but he hasn't called. He's friendly at church but that's it. He Did give me a big hug when I gave him a compliment with my phone number but he didn't say he would call just that he'd put my number in his phone. He's not interested just friendly he likes attention I think. I called him and found out more things about him. It wasn't a great conversation. I've lost interest.
@@lindawaxman570 "He likes attention"--------- Yes, those types of men are a nightmare... I have knew someone like that as well, he behaved as if he was interested but in fact he just wanted my attention (and attention from a lot of other girls as well!), what an as*h*le!! Good that you found early on that is not the right guy for you and just wanted your attention! You gain time for finding a new person!
What he left out was, the kind of man you can do this with. Women do not need a lesson on how to “ love” were born with that, and WHEN we receive a good man who it is safe to do this with and he is appreciative and not egotistical and arrogant and entitled this works out.
Can’t help but think it sounds like flattery. I am not going there. I want the man be my hero, and I will show and voice appreciation for said action. But flattery? Is nothing but bait. If a man needs to be baited? Then he is too immature and shallow for me.
Thank you Brian 🙏🏼 Much needed advice and reminders as always 😌🧘🏽♀️🌱💓🌱 I am going to get a few of your books 📚 now - I saw 3 titles that resonate 🤸🏽♀️
Sometimes, when you mention what we like about them or whatver our partner is doing...they stop doing it when you fight. That's when I feel so distant coz now your partner exactly knows what you love but bcoz he is angry or something, will not do it anymore. And Then I feel like a needy person :(
Like the other person said, this is emotional manipulation. Calling you needy is gaslighting. This person is not treating you with the respect that you deserve
Really find your information very insightful. And this is great if and when one might be in a full-blown relationship or starting one. But that initial time when you’re meeting someone seems to even be as important or more critical. I can’t figure out which way to go especially when someone doesn’t give me Any information to move or act on. Example see this person all the time in the woods where I walk. Thought they were attracted to me couldn’t tell totally. Started trying conversations with them and they never ask me any questions but they tell me enough about themselves. I understand you know we’re gonna meet lots of people in the trial and error but just trying to meet someone and trying to figure them out is very challenging if I can get past that part then maybe the rest of the information that you have put forth in these various videos will be helpful. Just can’t figure them out or where to go. They tell me a lot of personal things but they don’t ask me any questions. My big state my major this one person was I really like to go kayaking but I don’t have anybody to go with. Hint hint and they didn’t say a thing they kept talking about themselves. I was confused. So right now I am being friendly to the person but But not expecting anything just practicing if anything else. Any thoughts
Move on past. Even if they ask a question guaranteed they won’t hear the answer, only their own next proclamation percolating up thru the narcissistic soup of the day.
Dont fall for someone who only talks abt himself without wanting to know anything about you. 1st is they prolly arent interested in getting to know you, 2nd they are narcissist and loves validation and attention. You will find someone right for you, trust me its possible through my experience
True, careful with compliments though. If you praise or reward for things he hasn't shown to be or do yet, you'll get more of nothing and he'll expect you to love him for that! 🥲
We've had some adventures because I have put my trust on my husbands compass. I agree, would have got there quicker if I'd intercepted but not half as much fun.
Ahahaha this ending sbout a puppy is smashing 😂😂😂 But truth is it all should be used towards the man who really deserves it. Women frequently supporting men who doesn't deserve it adoll...
Not dating the person. He is special. I need to make amends or explain some of my actions from a few years ago. As a person without issues of being authentic. Suddenly, i had no words. Again not dating not even in contact . Just would like to acknowledge somethings & clear any upsets if there were any in the wake. 😏
Instant Subscribe! This is the realest advice that heard about men And because obvious I can proceed to go slowly and cautiously with my Twin Flame. Greetings and Blessings to you Brian, from West Auckland, New Zealand.
Please women be gentler on men respect them. And look at your own feminine energy or lack of that makes him run from us. Sorry it's the truth, I'm tired of the man bashing. Men are so very valuable, they are not a door mat or a women's lap dog. Don't get mad when a man doesn't act with emotions like women do. Society has fkd them up in the emotion department. Feminies lead with grace, not expectation. Let him be himself, if u want to share your love for it but don't expect or demand in return, it shows a lack of self love for urself. Not being a b..ich just learning a hard lesson after a 12yr relationship, I play a huge role, I have all the power as a feminine to get a man that is interested. Self reflection first, sorry I love men let's hold them high instead of bashing them with toxic outdated beliefs. They have beautiful hearts, probably more so then women these days. A good man has to be built from a man that isn't. Build men up!
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone. Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more patient, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends.
Your comment is extremely biased and prejudicial. Men can be intensely loyal to each other. They experience emotions very deeply. I could go on, but let me just say that you are categorically wrong on so many levels. Don’t confuse expression with emotion. Plus remember, there are plenty of not-so-kind and not-so-loving women around.
You nailed it. Men just don't have deep feelings because of testosterone and women do because of estrogen. But also little boys are taught not to cry when they are emotionaly or physically hurt and little girls are coddled when they are hurting.
@@gia7698 Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do. Most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father. Most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers. A big reason why many women hope to have a daughter instead of a son when they are trying to get pregnant is for the experiences one doesn't get with a son, like shopping for her prom dress together or going for mother/daughter manicures. In many cases as a girl grows up, she becomes closer to her mother whereas boys aren't generally as close with their parents. And also, it's also harder for females to bond with their brothers than it is with their sisters for the exact same reasons. The bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. The friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view. How can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other?
I have a lifelong experience with this but my answer is doubted by many. For me it was a simple as men/boys are human beings. I was 4 and there my best friend was a boy. And then I was 13 and I met this neighbor and he had a motorcycle I was fascinated with and he’s my best friend I still have in my life, though we are continents apart now. My local/current happen to be male too. No I’m not to,boy or “pick me “ and I have female friends as well, but the bottom line is I’ve never had any issue bonding with men romantically or otherwise across different cultures continents and decades (am now this year 40s). I never even thought about such a thing like how do I bond with men versus women. Just they are people. Maybe this conceptualization can help
Oh no... the more I listen to this video, the more I think it's not worth the trouble at all! I cannot for the life of me think of something genuine that makes me think or feel the guy is a hero. I mean, he has good qualities. But hero qualities? I honestly feel yucky when I think of men needing to feel like heroes and providers, even if it's a biological and psychological thing. I just wonder though, is it not enough for them to be seen as honest and good and ethical and simply be praised for good character and personal goals, etc. Do women really HAVE to make them feel like heroes and stuff? I can't. I mean, making him feel special yes, but hero, no. Unless he really did something that would qualify as such. But I'm thinking it's not something that happens often. Anyway. I suppose I don't need to be adored either, just treated right would be enough, thank you.
Well, this is nice, but as a woman, I want my man to trust me, want me just as much as I want and trust him too, I would never try to melt his heart, but I want him to stay with me because that is his sound and healthy decision. If he didn’t want me as much as I him, I would let him go, because true love is wishing the best for your loved one.
I took your advice and I am so Happy he has been back and forth so many times and I realized He doesn’t know what he wants and no respect for me . Thank you 🙏🏼
Are we 2 min in and being negged already? If you have a hard time not feeling clingy or using "love" words in the first place, check out Thais Gibson to do the inner work of meeting your own needs first so that you love out of the overflow of your self love and self confidence. Or listen to a guy who thinks women are easy to win over with puppies. Joke! Can't you take a joke?!
Hi Brian. I really like this guy but i am always the one that texts first. We never dated yet but i told him i like him and i think he likes me too but he wont admit it. He friendzoned me. What should i do???
He is already telling you that he isn't interested in a relationship with you. He has "friendzoned" you because he thinks you are a nice person and doesn't want to hurt you. He doesn't fancy you though. Over the years, I have seen women dye their hair a different colour (because he always dates redheads), lose weight (he's going to fancy me if I get this 40lbs off) etc etc but in all the cases it never worked. Do yourself a massive favour and move on - don't contact him or to places where he will be. After six months, I guarantee that you will wonder what the hell you saw in him in the first place. And if you get tempted, then remember this - you are blocking the space for the right guy who feels for you as you feel for him and you might just miss your opportunity by holding on to this uninterested guy.
Great advice! It really works. Healthy men like to be our heroes and they love feeling appreciated and respected. If a man is attracted to you and you show him respect and appreciation, you'll make it easy for him to fall in love with you and cherish you. I wish I had started listening to things like this a decade sooner. Thank you, Brian!
Problem is it only works on non narcissistic men. Can't find any that aren't narcissistic.
@@vhayashi7369 bingo. Exactly.
@@vhayashi7369 this!!!
@@vhayashi7369 well said!
Unless he's a narcissist, then it doesn't work. In fact, the more you love him, the more he treats you badly.
This is true! Very useful to married couples. Dont forget what Brian said ONLY WHEN HE DESERVED/EARNED IT. Be real and authentic in giving complements.
Omg, the sarcasm gets me every time 😄
My ex dated a girl after me and it took her treating him like crap to realize I actually was with him for good reasons.
Haha same with mine. He's been questioning his decisions lately and being super existential 🤦🏼♀️😂 It's kinda satisfying to see him regret losing me. 🤷🏼♀️ His loss is someone else's gain.
Why is it always the woman who must please the man? Why can't men learn how to please the woman as well? It should not be one sided. Women want respect too. Women do not want men to criticize them., or make them feel less important. They want to be able to do projects, and not have the man think he should take it over, or belittle them, or not have confidence in them. They don't want to be mocked, when they cry, because they are sad. If you men treat a woman with respect, and love and kindness, and not be harsh to her or ridicule her, you will find a woman who will treat you with respect, because she will be so happy ,and feel so loved, that the outcome for you will be an outpouring of respect, and love.
It’s both ways always. Mutual please
To be honest, you will have respect, being spoiled a lot when you meet the man who is right for you and a good man. They are gemes. U wont have to ask for it, they will do those because they want to make u happy. Then u please them cos they are deserve to be treated good.
@@lindmizar9401 my ex hated the word mutual. Even we I spoke about respecting each other. This is a wrong man! I think he hated strong women in general. His sorry ass is alone right now lol
This guy is just trying to help show women how men behave. This is to help women. And there’s also a million channels to help men understand and please women. Why wouldn’t a man try to please and respect his girl? Unless you dat terrible men. I wish more women would understand in this world today that a man needs a woman just as much a woman needs a man. When you find the right person. It’s a beautiful partnership. Each bring their own strengths and weaknesses.
We were created for them, not them for us 💁♀️ #truth
You are definitely one of the better info deliverers. You're comedy sets you apart. I don't listen to alot of u tube anymore and I know yours is always pleasure. Thanks for making them. You rock.
Brian deserves all the credit, more acknowledgement, thank you Brian!
"I love it when you fall asleep on the couch after dinner" is NOT a compliment
Ouhh! Gross
good men are indeed hard to come by! And good men are not necessarily good to every woman. when you love someone, adore them, they become someone who matters. I guess for me, I have yet to matter to anyone. No guy makes me feel special; maybe it's the way guys are today but I often feel that I don't matter. As if I could walk out the door and get run over the bus and they wouldn't have noticed.
I see so many guys in special ways but have yet to meet someone who feels the same way back. I like your anecdotes and they make me smile that maybe in another life, I might meet someone who'll like me! I do like your thoughts on changing the mindset etc. I think praise only matters if he cares about you; tbh. I think most guys don't like me complimenting them because I don't matter.
Be easy on yourself. Stop being bothered and they'll lick your foot
Well said as always & all so true. All works well w/my man. One of reasons he fell for me. I complement him, give appreciation, and always have his back. He knows & appreciates it very much. Has put me through some stuff, while going through hell himself, but I stood & stand by him. He's very greatful for this & of course made up for being a jerk at times. Proof all said in video is very true & works immensly well.
Thank you alot Brian ! I can't tell you how much you help us to understand ourselves and learn more about our love life .. I really appreciate your hard work 💗😊
Raneem you’re gorgeous 😊💖
@@GypsyRock so are you sweetie ❤️
Thank you 😁 love how you make these videos light-hearted, this advise is fantastic 🐾🐾 And so true!
Especially thank you for giving examples. Always enjoy your messages.
Dear Brian, this helps a lot, I change my mindset and can resist sad emotions better. Thank you
I did this and more and still got left like I meant nothing to him.
Sometimes we over do it,ity not good when u are too good..happend to me also
@@meoonly4989 well screw that
If I'm too much then he must go find less
@@mbalimashaba agree✌
He wasn't a quality man.He didn't deserve your effort in the first place.Only do this with a man who is worthy.Put yourself first and show you have a life without a man and only give when you know a man is worth it.Being too giving /accommodating can make a man loose interest.Sometimes we have to put the work in knowing / healing ourselves before we can get in any kind of relationships if not we end up with the dregs / narcissists. Trust me ,I know.
he said a good man.
Love you always... Ur videos make me feel really good... Whenever i feel like i am drowning away in emotions or feeling low i do watch a video of yours and i come back more strongly ❤️
Yes..only when he earns it
This seems weak and problematic when so many guys are NOT earning it anymore.
Men are being taught still to get LOTS of women. While they're like that. They're just a disappointment
This is so true. There impossible and without any feelings. There’s no use
@@galaxygirl9253 don’t give up, still really good men out there
I have very good sense of direction. It is more or less an inborn trait. I dated guys who are naturally bad at route finding. I didn’t have to say anything before they were already frustrated. They were even more crestfallen after I took over the wheels. It is a great way to see a guy’s true color, doing something better than him. The ones not fazed are much more confident and fair. They complement me doing a good job, not jealous, feel threatened.
Thanks for guiding us, dear Brian. I' ve definitely learnt something valuable. Love to hear you
What about a man being loyal and faithful?
Thank you Brian!! I totally love you 💓🌹
I complimented, appreciated, verbally expressed my admiration toward his person, talents and diy skills, but still our relationship ended. Really, it's as if most men are oblivious to their emotions and emotional growth, to be able to appreciate these things.
2:35-2:45
@@thomasstanford80191 I saw that. I never wanted something in return, I did it because I felt like it and to boost his self-confidence because I noticed him being stagnant in a lot of things. Doing it for boosting the man's ego is an absolute mistake, as I think more about it. Being in a relationship is not about being a saviour or therapist.
bro not every relationship will work out. he is one guy, you will survive, move on girly
@@mnmz9304
I'm sorry your relationship did not work out and I appreciate you considering my reply without backlash and honestly with sincerity, clarity and emotional maturity
I'm definitely not blaming or shaming you; it takes courage to step into the positive side of a difficult relationship
Sounds like you were dating a Dusty.
Loved this video and all of your positive suggestions. Thank you! 😊♥️
Thank you Brian looking forward to seeing more adivce and tips in the future.
Immense Merci Geert! J’ai rencontré un homme dont je suis en train de tombée amoureuse. Il est visiblement pas a l’aise avec des compliments. Je sais que parfois je degage une energie masculine mais je veux qu’il ce sente comme mon Héros! Cette vidéo m’a bcp aidée. Salutations chaleureuses de Montréal 🇨🇦
I really appreciate your advice and the videos you make, thank you! The helpful and honest advice is spot on and makes so much sense, I love that they're short and sweet, getting straight to the point! Thank you H. I'll call you H as I'm not sure of the spelling of your name 😊
Thanks Brian your a good man and I enjoy your videos.
I agree
If someone treat you bad don't treat them good
Don't tolerate them
It's enabling there behavior to get worst
But If someone is treating you good
In fairness treat them right
Yes guys like to be the hero save the day
I always told my ex it's not what you say is how u say we broke up cause he admitted that he had a family
His way of protecting me was canceling the plans and telling mi it's over an blocking me on everything. I just blocked him on Facebook. I don't want either of us playing check up this ain't the doctors office
Men that don't give a crap would still tell the girl to come knowing she will get hurt I don't consider that a good guy
My ex was a good guy he has flaws like everyone else
We just couldn't be together
I would really question my self if I wanted to stay with him after he told mi he has a child with someone who's he's with
It will question my self worth
So yes the men love to play super man an batman than I question my self after this viedo why a man seeked me out. There someone wrong with me that he saw he can fix
If your whole and confident you don't need a man . That's why man will reject a woman too they don't see how they fit into that woman life .that's why it seems men date more broken women especially in today world.
When my ex broke up with me .he knew I no longer needed him the Job was already done
Ladies seek wisdom ❤
First is appreciated and respectful to each other and if one never do this just run away from that person. Because no person ever change this pattern for you. So never try hard for get respect
Thank you so much Brian ! This helps very much , I know now what to say to him , positive compliments 🥰💝
Perfectly spoken. All those words of wisdom have been deep in my heart. I haven't known these beautiful understandings and knowledge all my life until the last few years. Every word you said is what I've learned. But you put it together so lovely and wise in your video. After a few disappointing experiences in the last few years, I did appreciate what I did learn from the sad times and knew those men were not meant for me. There is someone I want to get to know more. He's kind and with the same values as myself. I think there is a strong attraction, but what's most attractive to me about him is his kindness and faith. I plan to have the courage to offer and give him my phone number. We're in a class. Even though I'm older than him, I don't think it will matter. I've learned confidence in myself and I respect him. I want to offer him respect, admiration and appreciation. So, I'm hoping he will receive my gesture to connect on a deeper level than aquatinted. Thank you 😊
Don't do it. Let him ask. Just position yourself around him and be open
@@bertille19 I gave him my phone number but he hasn't called. He's friendly at church but that's it. He Did give me a big hug when I gave him a compliment with my phone number but he didn't say he would call just that he'd put my number in his phone. He's not interested just friendly he likes attention I think. I called him and found out more things about him. It wasn't a great conversation. I've lost interest.
@@lindawaxman570 "He likes attention"--------- Yes, those types of men are a nightmare... I have knew someone like that as well, he behaved as if he was interested but in fact he just wanted my attention (and attention from a lot of other girls as well!), what an as*h*le!!
Good that you found early on that is not the right guy for you and just wanted your attention! You gain time for finding a new person!
If possible, avoid doing making the first move ever again.
Thank you very much. I found out I have a rare diamond. 🌞🙋♀️❤
Thank you 😊 💓 🙏
Hi Brian ! 💝 Can you make more Videos Please 😊🌸
I love the way you deliver jokes *winkwink*
What he left out was, the kind of man you can do this with. Women do not need a lesson on how to “ love” were born with that, and WHEN we receive a good man who it is safe to do this with and he is appreciative and not egotistical and arrogant and entitled this works out.
Can’t help but think it sounds like flattery. I am not going there. I want the man be my hero, and I will show and voice appreciation for said action. But flattery? Is nothing but bait. If a man needs to be baited? Then he is too immature and shallow for me.
Love your videos. They are full of great content, just not often enough
Thank you Brian 🙏🏼 Much needed advice and reminders as always 😌🧘🏽♀️🌱💓🌱 I am going to get a few of your books 📚 now - I saw 3 titles that resonate 🤸🏽♀️
Make a video about narcissist.... I'm so confused about someone if he is a narcissist or what
Sometimes, when you mention what we like about them or whatver our partner is doing...they stop doing it when you fight. That's when I feel so distant coz now your partner exactly knows what you love but bcoz he is angry or something, will not do it anymore. And Then I feel like a needy person :(
No. That’s passive aggressive, controlling, manipulative behavior.
You’re not needy - that’s not okay behavior, from your partner, whatsoever.
@@XOChristianaNicole Thanks Christiana. I think you are right. I have observed it a lot. But I tend to overlook it due to my attachment to him.
Like the other person said, this is emotional manipulation. Calling you needy is gaslighting. This person is not treating you with the respect that you deserve
That's a terrible thing to do, please don't be with someone like that. they don't respect you.
@@nishta3769 break with this person.... You deserve more than toxic relationship
Appreciate all your advice. Wish me luck! 🐘💕💕💕
Please find me a good man! I promise I’ll be so good to him
Brian I love your videos. You have a good sense of humour 😀
Really find your information very insightful. And this is great if and when one might be in a full-blown relationship or starting one. But that initial time when you’re meeting someone seems to even be as important or more critical. I can’t figure out which way to go especially when someone doesn’t give me Any information to move or act on. Example see this person all the time in the woods where I walk. Thought they were attracted to me couldn’t tell totally. Started trying conversations with them and they never ask me any questions but they tell me enough about themselves. I understand you know we’re gonna meet lots of people in the trial and error but just trying to meet someone and trying to figure them out is very challenging if I can get past that part then maybe the rest of the information that you have put forth in these various videos will be helpful. Just can’t figure them out or where to go. They tell me a lot of personal things but they don’t ask me any questions. My big state my major this one person was I really like to go kayaking but I don’t have anybody to go with. Hint hint and they didn’t say a thing they kept talking about themselves. I was confused. So right now I am being friendly to the person but But not expecting anything just practicing if anything else. Any thoughts
Move on past. Even if they ask a question guaranteed they won’t hear the answer, only their own next proclamation percolating up thru the narcissistic soup of the day.
Dont fall for someone who only talks abt himself without wanting to know anything about you. 1st is they prolly arent interested in getting to know you, 2nd they are narcissist and loves validation and attention. You will find someone right for you, trust me its possible through my experience
True, careful with compliments though. If you praise or reward for things he hasn't shown to be or do yet, you'll get more of nothing and he'll expect you to love him for that! 🥲
Love your videos 👌🏻 TYVM🎯🙏🏻🌹💝🌟
Dunno... I think if I got my guy a puppy he'd propose on the spot 😂
Have to add "*" to all relationship advice...*These methods will not work when dealing with narcissists
We've had some adventures because I have put my trust on my husbands compass. I agree, would have got there quicker if I'd intercepted but not half as much fun.
What if he lost passion and not enjoying the things we used to do togther and he loved a lot???? How to get it back ?
Ahahaha this ending sbout a puppy is smashing 😂😂😂 But truth is it all should be used towards the man who really deserves it. Women frequently supporting men who doesn't deserve it adoll...
@Brian Nox You are able to heal someone with a narcissistic disorder
Not dating the person. He is special. I need to make amends or explain some of my actions from a few years ago. As a person without issues of being authentic. Suddenly, i had no words. Again not dating not even in contact . Just would like to acknowledge somethings & clear any upsets if there were any in the wake. 😏
I'll take the puppy anytime...
Instant Subscribe! This is the realest advice that heard about men
And because obvious I can proceed to go slowly and cautiously with my Twin Flame. Greetings and Blessings to you Brian, from West Auckland, New Zealand.
Good news: I haven’t found a partner , but I just discovered a planet.
actually?? do you work for nasa?
I don't beed a man this fragile.
Good video
Nice
Please women be gentler on men respect them. And look at your own feminine energy or lack of that makes him run from us. Sorry it's the truth, I'm tired of the man bashing. Men are so very valuable, they are not a door mat or a women's lap dog. Don't get mad when a man doesn't act with emotions like women do. Society has fkd them up in the emotion department. Feminies lead with grace, not expectation. Let him be himself, if u want to share your love for it but don't expect or demand in return, it shows a lack of self love for urself. Not being a b..ich just learning a hard lesson after a 12yr relationship, I play a huge role, I have all the power as a feminine to get a man that is interested. Self reflection first, sorry I love men let's hold them high instead of bashing them with toxic outdated beliefs. They have beautiful hearts, probably more so then women these days. A good man has to be built from a man that isn't. Build men up!
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They are funny. . Just make them leaders
Hi Nox .I wanna ask some questions related to my relationship .how can I contact you ???
Beautiful
I love your video…. I hope get a good man 🤗
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other.
Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more patient, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men.
Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends.
Your comment is extremely biased and prejudicial. Men can be intensely loyal to each other. They experience emotions very deeply. I could go on, but let me just say that you are categorically wrong on so many levels.
Don’t confuse expression with emotion. Plus remember, there are plenty of not-so-kind and not-so-loving women around.
You nailed it. Men just don't have deep feelings because of testosterone and women do because of estrogen. But also little boys are taught not to cry when they are emotionaly or physically hurt and little girls are coddled when they are hurting.
@@bls5160 It's not just those hormones. Women release more oxytocin during intimacy for example.
@@gia7698 Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father. Most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers.
A big reason why many women hope to have a daughter instead of a son when they are trying to get pregnant is for the experiences one doesn't get with a son, like shopping for her prom dress together or going for mother/daughter manicures. In many cases as a girl grows up, she becomes closer to her mother whereas boys aren't generally as close with their parents. And also, it's also harder for females to bond with their brothers than it is with their sisters for the exact same reasons.
The bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. The friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view. How can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other?
I have a lifelong experience with this but my answer is doubted by many. For me it was a simple as men/boys are human beings. I was 4 and there my best friend was a boy. And then I was 13 and I met this neighbor and he had a motorcycle I was fascinated with and he’s my best friend I still have in my life, though we are continents apart now. My local/current happen to be male too. No I’m not to,boy or “pick me “ and I have female friends as well, but the bottom line is I’ve never had any issue bonding with men romantically or otherwise across different cultures continents and decades (am now this year 40s). I never even thought about such a thing like how do I bond with men versus women. Just they are people. Maybe this conceptualization can help
Wow!!!!
Heath, are you a Libra? Lol.
I want this :(
I love you❤️🤗
Oh no... the more I listen to this video, the more I think it's not worth the trouble at all! I cannot for the life of me think of something genuine that makes me think or feel the guy is a hero. I mean, he has good qualities. But hero qualities? I honestly feel yucky when I think of men needing to feel like heroes and providers, even if it's a biological and psychological thing. I just wonder though, is it not enough for them to be seen as honest and good and ethical and simply be praised for good character and personal goals, etc. Do women really HAVE to make them feel like heroes and stuff? I can't. I mean, making him feel special yes, but hero, no. Unless he really did something that would qualify as such. But I'm thinking it's not something that happens often. Anyway. I suppose I don't need to be adored either, just treated right would be enough, thank you.
Basicamente un tipo diciendote como tenes que relacionarte con otro tipo. En serio a nadie le suena raro este contenido??
The intro is exactly how I feel. Brian doesn't have too much waffle
A sign of stupidity is following gps 4x when it’s wrong
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sweet as.
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Gr8 advice delivered with a touch of humour! I love it and smile all the way through your videos!
Well, this is nice, but as a woman, I want my man to trust me, want me just as much as I want and trust him too, I would never try to melt his heart, but I want him to stay with me because that is his sound and healthy decision. If he didn’t want me as much as I him, I would let him go, because true love is wishing the best for your loved one.
I took your advice and I am so Happy he has been back and forth so many times and I realized He doesn’t know what he wants and no respect for me . Thank you 🙏🏼
If he’s constantly thinks the foot is going to drop, because of trauma in a past relationship
Wisdom AND humor. I appreciate you! And thank you 😊
You could absolutely melt my heart with a puppy! 🐶🥰😂
The *puppy* would melt your heart
Are we 2 min in and being negged already? If you have a hard time not feeling clingy or using "love" words in the first place, check out Thais Gibson to do the inner work of meeting your own needs first so that you love out of the overflow of your self love and self confidence. Or listen to a guy who thinks women are easy to win over with puppies. Joke! Can't you take a joke?!
Super light. You made me smile tonight.
You rhymed =D
This is the best RUclips intro ever
Hi Brian. I really like this guy but i am always the one that texts first. We never dated yet but i told him i like him and i think he likes me too but he wont admit it. He friendzoned me. What should i do???
You're chasing him. Don't. Forget about him and be the you - the woman a guy would absolutely chase.
Stop texting him
He is already telling you that he isn't interested in a relationship with you. He has "friendzoned" you because he thinks you are a nice person and doesn't want to hurt you. He doesn't fancy you though. Over the years, I have seen women dye their hair a different colour (because he always dates redheads), lose weight (he's going to fancy me if I get this 40lbs off) etc etc but in all the cases it never worked. Do yourself a massive favour and move on - don't contact him or to places where he will be. After six months, I guarantee that you will wonder what the hell you saw in him in the first place. And if you get tempted, then remember this - you are blocking the space for the right guy who feels for you as you feel for him and you might just miss your opportunity by holding on to this uninterested guy.
@@alexandrasmith7682 This. Very well said!!