being "too much" | the labels we’ll never live up to
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- Опубликовано: 14 май 2024
- Riayn Christina & Paloma Malfavón chat being “too much”, soft girl eras, theater hot takes and how labels & identity in your 20s are so deeply intertwined.
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Twenty Whatever features Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon talking candidly about navigating your 20's with your friends through different phases of life. (formerly Sierra Unfiltered)
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I can't believe we talked THIS much about legally blonde... WE SHOT THIS BEFORE AUDITIONING YALL. 💖it was written in the stars 💖
You both really girl bossed it into existence
I was thinking this the whole time! As you guys kept talking I was like: wait.... they are totally talking like they either hadn't auditioned yet or at least were keeping it under wraps until they heard back. Then I saw your comment and i was woooah! thats so wild. I'm so happy for you guyssss!!💕😊
My woo girl minute is I have severe anxiety and depression but I continue to wake up every day.
Woo girl! Good job. Same here. We got this
Woo girl ❤ take it day by day
Whooo girl! Proud of you! Taking it day by day you got this! ❤
Wooooo! Same, girl. We're doing the thing!
Me leaving to do my laundry right now despite not wanting to leave the house😅 we got this girl
My woo girl minute is that I just received my second degree and after 6 years of hard work, I am now officially a teacher with my own class next year!!
Wow how wild is it that they spent so much time talking about Paloma playing Elle Woods and now she is again!!! 🩷🩷 Congrats 🎀
Still listening but I’m a little confused. This was filmed before they started this current show of legally blonde right? So they are discussing a past show? Also they’re talking like there has been drama or some people saying that P didn’t deserve the lead or something but like I’m unaware of any drama. Am I just out of the loop???
this was shot before we auditioned for the show we are currently in! SO CRAZY 💖 FATE!!! 💖
My woo girl minute is that I was finally able to overcome my driving anxiety and I got my license this past Sunday!! 🎉
Take it one step...or street....at a time!
OH MY GOSH!!! congratulations!!!!!!! be free and hit the road bestie
This is my goal! I hope I can get there
Growing up I was very shy and quiet, and along with that came being labeled as a “good kid”. I was seen as mature and well behaved, so much so that my friends’ moms would call my mom and ask if I could come over because I was such a good influence on their kids. I internalized this so intensely for so many years and then felt like anytime I made a mistake it was SUCH a huge deal to everyone. I ended up with some serious anger issues because of how much I would internalize when I was younger and feel like I could never let anything out. I’m a parent now and I try hard to be aware of the labels I use for my own daughter and it is really hard not to put your kid into boxes.
I 100% relate to that! I was the same way.
I am sorry that you went through this growing up, but also really happy to see that you are teaching your children not to box themselves in this way.
I've heard that asking, "So what do you get up to during the day usually?" opens the question up so folks can answer with their work or if they stay at home with children, hobbies, etc.
LOVE THIS!
The last minute shout out to stay at home moms really hit my heartstrings, thank y’all for saying that❤
Stay at home moms do so much, I have so much respect for people who do, we need to do more of building each other up and supporting one another!! So WOO Stay at home moms
I was always called “too nice”. And as I’ve gotten older yes I’ve gotten better about standing up for myself in certain situations and not being taken advantage of (a lot of this growth comes from working with the public, lol), but like, what do you want me to be….mean??? I just treat others as I would like to be treated! Labels are incredibly stupid.
It makes me emotional knowing the two of you are in a show again together. I wish more than anything i could come see you guys *cries in England* (p.s. yes you can read all this in an british accent)
BAHAHAH love you so much
Also a former "gifted kid" 😂 the struggle was real!!!
Thank you so much guys for reading my woo girl moment 💖💖💖
Dood!!!! you are doing the thing!!! I am happy that your radiation is working well, there is a whole comments section invested in your success!!!
Labels suck. Especially when teachers gossip with each other about students. It doesn't give kids a chance. I was labeled stupid and disruptive. A teacher told me I wasn't smart enough for a career and should just be a mom. It made me want to prove the haters wrong. It still triggers me to this day.
As a former teacher, this is a BIG reason I got out of education. I couldn’t STAND how about half my coworkers would talk a our students. I’m so sorry this happened to you, you deserved so much better and I’m sure you’re out here proving them wrong every freaking day ❤
@ruthstewart3999 I went on to get a bachelors and masters degree. I wrote and published 8 novels and made it on the best seller list twice. I am a director of marketing and communications, and I am a sought-after fundraiser. I still have time to do even more.
My husband is going to be a teacher, currently he is a sub and he's heard some DISGUSTING comments from teachers talking about their students. He doesn't sub at this one school at all because there's this one guy that was bitching about a female senior asking for a recommendation for the college she wanted to go to. He says, what's the point of me giving her a recommendation when all she is going to be is a trophy wife? I can not tell you how enraged I was hearing that. I wish I could have turned what happened with me into success but I just fell into a deep depression and still struggling today lol. SO proud of you though
@@Phoxa8 kids like us can go either way. I still feel like the stupid kid. No success gets rid of that.
@Phoxa8 ps: Wow about the trophy wife comment. That is crazy.
Listening to the part where you guys were talking about Riayn’s dad and the singing was so sweet 🥹 that’s going to be a memory you guys cherish for sure. And P, you really are that talented!
With labels in school, at least for me.. there was some racism in it as well sometimes. Being black and in the south my schools were predominantly white. For a talkative black kid we were “loud and disruptive” talkative white kids were “future lawyers and politicians.” Picking up on that at a young age was so disappointing. I got that label when I was in elementary and it shifted to being quiet and shy. And still dealing with letting this idea go.. I can talk and voice my thoughts and opinions too.
I was always labeled “mature” growing up… looking back at it now, I see how weird it was for grown adults (men especially) to tell me that I didn’t look my age or I could pass for 18, not just in looks but the way I acted. Now at 24 I feel like I’m 30 because at 12 I was told I acted like I was 18 so I feel like I completely skipped years of my childhood and young adult life all because I was labeled “mature.”
My woo girl minute is its my birthday the day this episode is posted 🎉🤩🥳
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FRIEND!!
Yay happy birthday!
Happy birthday!!! 🎉
WOO!!! Happy birthday for Wednesday!!
My school just did a production of Urinetown and the leads slayed, but the ensemble blew me away. Specifically the dancing in Cop Song and Snuff That Girl was astounding
My 3rd daughter is 13 and in the 7th grade. She is doing good in school except in reading and English. Her teacher has emailed me multiple times and said if she continues to catch my daughter drawing in class she was going to be talking to the principal. My daughter has severe ADHD and STRUGGLES in reading cause she doesn't see eye to eye with her teacher and her teacher isn't doing anything to try and understand my child and her learning disabilities. She just yells and punishes. Its gotten so bad between that and bullying that I am pulling my child out of school next year and homeschooling her. It breaks my heart to have to do but my child needs encouragement not to be screamed at and bullied EVERY DAY. Its beyond ridiculous. Some teachers need to realize not all kids learn the same and sometimes you need to teach in a manner that everyone can learn to. Some teachers are awesome and for the most part her teachers are but this one English teacher is making my child feel worthless and "lazy" because she's struggling in a boring class. And in her teachers words "not meeting her potential" no matter how hard she tries.
I went through this with my oldest son. He also has ADHD and had a English teacher doing the same and told other teachers he was a problem. I live in a different country than the US and we have these exams she refused to sign him up for saying he could never pass them. Well I took him out of school for a year and home schooled him. He took the tests and passed with out a problem. He wanted to go back for high school. He got lucky with a few amazing teachers. It made such a difference in his life. The kid they said would not pass English or science. Came back and rocked physics, English and everything else. Teachers that take the time to understand a child make such a high difference. I hope your daughter does the same. Send a hug your way because honestly seeing your child go through this is so hard.
@@seleana3929 I'm so glad your son is doing better! My daughter wants to go back for high school too. I've never had an issue with the teachers at the high school as I have one who graduated last year and one thats in 10th this year. They have always been helpful and patient with my other 2. Good job to your son for showing that teacher he was more than her harmful words!
The only time I’ll talk about an ex to someone I’m dating is to tell them how I was and am affected. If you’re trashing your ex it’s giving high school. Immediate ick🤢
This video was so perfect for this point in time in my life. I've been struggling with using "just" its nice to know so many of us struggle with the same thing and we can all figure it out together. You guys are amazing!
It actually was always the English/Writing/Yearbook/Drama/Choir teachers!!! They were always the sweetest, most gentle, understanding humans. Part of the reason I was always able to grow as a person. 💕👏🏽
i was riayn in school! I thank God my mom was my #1 advocate, she would not let teachers speak negatively of me.
I had that english teacher too in hs🥲🥲🥲
Your mom is the best!!!
As a fellow theatre girly, in college theatre I got labeled as "stuck-up" and wasn't invited to my own cast party as the lead. I don't even know what I did wrong really, I just wasn't as social as the rest of them, I have a lower social battery than most theatre kids. I thought I was friends with them until about half way through rehearsals when I realized I wasn't in the "cool" group chat. That show ended up being my last before I quit. But I'm working on getting back into it.
you can sit with us 💖💖
This has officially became one of my favorite episodes. Love you soooo much!!
The gifted kid turned ADHD burnout in me needed this episode so much. I was always told I talked too much, had too much energy and was just too difficult. It literally wasn't until like 2 months ago when my fiance looked at me and was like "can you please hear me right now. You are not this chaotic monster, you're not too much, and you're not a stupid failure. You've been running a lifelong mile with no legs, you're learning and that's ok". I was speechless for like 25 minutes, no joke 🥹🤣 S/O to my "too much" girlies, I adore y'all and I see you. We're doing great.
Hii! Paloma’s outfit is slay❤️ loved this episode
The education system fails so many kids and it’s heartbreaking. I was a “problem child” in school I was bossy, I was talkative, I didn’t pay attention etc but had someone just stopped to help me as a literally CHILD maybe the problems I was having could have been solved instead of just saying I was bad. I started going to college to be a teacher and after seeing kids just like me I couldn’t do it. I dropped out of school. I couldn’t see them everyday and know that other people were brushing them off too
I look forward to this podcast every week, Ryan and Paloma, you are such lights, and I'm so glad to be able to hear your valuable insights on things we all go through. Obviously love Sierra and the trio, but it has been so great to hear more from you two, thank you for giving this working mama such joy and entertainment every week. Much love to you both!
I love so much to see how supportive you are of each other, it gives me so much hope
That was the best woo girl minute i’ve ever heard. So happy for her. Riayn and P and Jess you girls are killlling this podcast trifecta. Love u.
The bad teachers actually CONTRIBUTE to the good teacher burnout. I responded to another comment too, but I left education because of the adults, not the kids. So many of them did not give a single SHIT about whether kids felt respected and comfortable in their classrooms. And then would come talk shit TO MY FACE ABOUT ME because I “let them do too much” and it made them “think they’re also allowed to act that way in [their] classroom.” You mean allowing kids to eat when they’re hungry, use the bathroom freely, get up and walk around the classroom if they need to during work time, and let them talk to each other while they work provided the environment is safe, productive, and they’re not abusing the “extra” (read: BASIC) freedoms I give them is letting them do too much???? Ok. Plus- so many teachers don’t go through any sort of DEI training and my Black and Latino students were coming to me DAILY complaining about other teachers’ microaggressions. Not every educational environment is like that, but it is far too common.
HE WAS SIGHT READING 😭😭😭 ur dad already sounded incredible bc of the range of what was being played like it sounded like he rlly put the time into just playing all of them AND HE WAS SIGHT REAAADING ?? 😭😭😭😭
The lack of compassion is really the root of so many issues our society has right now.
I was always labelled the “shy, goodie good, nice girl who is super clumsy, forgetful, dramatic, and a scaredy-cat ” but in reality I was the “missed/undiagnosed autistic, masking 24/7, adhd, and TRUAMATIZED girl with lots of anxiety” 😂
So grateful that my chosen career path as an Early Childhood Educator gave me the language I needed to describe my experience and made me realize I was neurodivergent and was finally able to advocate for myself and receive a far too late/ so needed/ validating diagnosis as a 28 year old.
Now 30 and starting to thrive as I finally get that I’m not a shitty apple, I’m an orange living in a world made for apples, so no shit life has been a struggle! I’m not stupid, I’m not strange, my brain is simply not a neurotypical brain and that is okay! The relief I felt when it was confirmed to me that I’m not dumb or just not trying hard enough was sooooooo immense!
Also thank god for my supportive partner who accommodates me and always is wanting to learn about how to support me 🩷
such a good insightful video 🫧🤍🤍🪷🫧🤍🤍 my favorite of the solo episodes so far OMG BRAIN TUMOR CONGRATULAAAATIOOONSSS I’m sooo fucking happy for u omg 😭😭😭😭
This hits so hard!!! Riayn: "No one's okay" I cannot tell you how this statement had me in tears. It is hard enough to be growing up, and trying to understand - or manage the children because the teacher is over it, we don't need to also be out here battling one another.
Love Paloma’s pants
No because why did I think it was a blanket this entire time 😭
My sister was salutatorion of her class, I was a year behind and a c-d student, I always heard, your her sister? From the teachers in a disappointed way, it just made me wanna stay middle of the road, never trying to excel. Now 53 and still living life middle of the road
The Trixie reference 🤣🤌
I have watched yall since yall joined Sierra and this episode meant the world to me. I am going to grad school for teaching and I felt like it wouldn’t impact people the way going into other professions would and this makes me so excited to be in a classroom. 🎉❤
paloma- that used to be my order, tooooo!!!! they don't have it at the locations by me, either, and i'm in the midwest😭
This episode was so special. Thanks for sharing. ❤❤❤ Also huge WOO for that woo girl minute!!!
The John Mulaney drama is piping hot tea
my go to "get to know you" question: what's your favorite form of potato?
if someone says French fry, I always ask a follow-up because it could be a curly fry, a waffle fry, or a long and skinny boy.
I dont know why, but its so random and I love it!
It is so much better to collaborate with students to help them learn the best way they can. My English teacher thought I was in the bottom class because I was poorly behaved, she didn't realize I was there because I have a learning disability.. so she treated me like I was the problem the entire year, killing my confidence.
Loving this episode!! The girlies hyping each other up is everything I needed on this Monday morning!! (Late to the party this episode… sorry ladies!!)
Just a little update on my WGM: …We’ve made it to sunny California baby!!! Been here about 2.5 weeks and having really been enjoying it so far!!
So kind of off-topic, but kind of related to the labels conversation- my freshman year of college, probably a week into the first semester, this man stops me in my tracks while I’m walking to class and asked me “who are you?” So I told him my name and he was like “no but who ARE you?” And I truly didn’t know how to answer, I don’t think I’ve ever been so without words lmao. Like sir I am a 17 year old college student I don’t KNOW 😭 he was so attractive and definitely disappointed in my response, but looking back I think maybe I dodged a bullet 😂
I was told by a teacher that I would never achieve anything, and for an entire year, I didn't even try.
I am totally saying that next time someone asks me what I do, I'm just going to tell them I cry.
Now the hump day commercial is stuck in my head 😆
My woo girl minute is that I recently graduated college and am about to start my PhD in the fall!!! I can’t wait to be a math professor in a few years 💪💪
The ear worm thing is called ecolalia! It's common with people woth adhd and autism
I was always labeled as the smart girl who got in all the hardest classes. But I was also the fat girl in volleyball for 5 years. I finally broke free of that when I started doing theatre and fell in love with it!
I still struggle through what happened in my school life. Talk too much, didn't want to learn, I had ADHD and my private school didn't either want to recognize or because the majority were not certified teachers they didn't know but like I still feel so stupid lol I am still going back to the days of feeling like well everyone has given up on me so what's the point. I didn't get diagnosed until I was 16 because I finally met someone outside of private school that had ADHD. Turns out close friends at my school had it too and they only found out after highschool
I am just going to say.... when you meet a pianist who is happy to play musical tunes for you.... YOU SING
My woo girl minute is I got into Harvard for grad school and got to say “What like it’s hard?” 🎉🎉🎉
Long John silver had broccoli bites I had them since jr high they discontinued them I miss them
I was cast as an extra in the first production I did in University, and never got cast as anything else the remainder of the time I was there.. In my last year, the prof who casted most department productions, told me she never cast me because I never proved I was any better than an extra
I too was sat next to all the little ADHD boys in school. I paused the video to google inattentive ADD 😅
Another amazing convo ladies 👏👏👏
Sweden represent👏🏽🥂✨
Girls you made me cry, idk if im the stay mom you're are referring to but i felt a little recognition❤
Also i love this episode and how jess feels more comfortable, i hope we can see more of this when sierra is back🎉
Gifted and talented programs usually have funding behind them and are limited to a certain number of students per year. Many students can qualify for the program but teachers usually assign the students that thry think can benefit from extra challenges in the curricular areas.
I'd never skip a theater episode ❤
Good morning ladies!!
My woo girl minute is I just graduated with my MBA despite all my grade school teachers labeling me as not smart
Ok but I’ve been getting my monthly delivery of a bundle of Poppi because you can get a subscription on Amazon 💀
The lingonberry crepes are also my favorite! Noooooo!
CAN YOU BELIEVE
@palomamalfavon i cannot! I loved those. I also dont think ive been in an ihop in so long 😭
Ihop also no longer sells my chicken Florentine crapes.
There is no service anymore, no matter where you are at. Back in the day managers and supervisors were responsible for keeping staff on task. Leadership is lacking now so we sre st the mercy of those who are "working" on any given shift, especially in sit down food service.
The part about picking up people accents. I would think it was so funny if I wad talking to you guys and you starting sounding Minnesotan 😂
Could you please talk in one episode about how you all (the collective) met? Cause somehow I missed that you met Jadyn years ago for example!
Y’all threw me BACK with GATE… and I lived in Maryland lol. I had no idea that was a thing in other states!!
Also, Riayn’s story about school broke my heart. So often (also, I’m not diagnosing) but adhd often goes unnoticed by the adults in little black girl’s lives. I got diagnosed at 8…ONLY because 1. My sister was diagnosed first and 2. My mom worked in special education at an elementary school, so she was familiar with the signs 3. I showed the signs of chattiness and fidgeting in my desk. I don’t know where I’d be if I hadn’t gotten diagnosed. I’m so glad that Riayn didn’t let the negativity spoken over her to deter her from her greatness 💕
actually riayn has mentioned before that her dad plays piano !! and that he likes musical theatre and wants 2 sing together haha i think it was the episode about singing ? not sure but i remember it coming up !! 🤓☺️
I thought this too and I’m thinking maybe it’s come up on her vlog and not the podcast?
@@SecretPunk1 possibly ? i swear i heard it on the pod tho !! i just started watching riayn’s vlogs so i think there’s a good chance it was here !!
Paloma. I need a link for those amazing pants RNNNN
@paloma where are those pants from?!?!?😍😍😍😍😍
I change my phone and forgot to set my alarm😢 I'm so late😅
Wait im confused.. so Paloma played Elle in legally blonde before? Right? And now this will be the 2nd time? CONGRATS BTW TO YOU BOTH ❤
I feel like these Riayn and Paloma episodes are like 👍🏼 snide a sleepover but with a topic. Definitely miss sierra joining you girls are like my internet besties!
👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼 ❤️🩷 good morning