I am two days into a no spending month, I didn’t realize how much I use online shopping as a form of escapism and self soothing. I was feeling anxious about not opening the amazon app. I feel some shame in how much I’ve struggled I just two days! Thank you for this video it gave me some perspective and hope that I am going to make it.
_imum_ maybe try calling a friend instead? Or reading a good book? Or going for a walk? Maybe just try sitting through those feelings of loneliness or sadness so that you can process them and let them pass. Feeling are like clouds, they do pass xCC
_imum_ Try journaling why you feel this way. Instead of clicking "buy" put the item in the basket and then force yourself to wait 24 hrs - often you will have forgotten the item by the next day and you will have got the buzz of buying the item without ever going through with the purchase.
Trenae DaVinci I feel much the same, but her advice is so good and non-judgmental I'm hoping I can improve myself and you can too. Sending lots of good vibes your way =)
There's nothing funny about shopping addiction, specially when it effects your mental wellbeing, you feel down so you buy and your happy for a day then the same feelings will come back.
Sugar Mamma Exactly. I find the media glorify endless spendless specially with instagram, what those photos or background story of it all is those people could be struggling finically and even emotionally, they can have a closet full of clothing and products but a fridge that's empty and barely making it to their next payday.
100% this is me my depression makes me shop because it's one of the only things i can do to feel genuinely excited I'm so tired of faking my joy to seem normal i fake laugh and smile all day when I'm out in the world my husband knows me like the palm of his hand and he's realized i do this with him at times too it's just because i have no more genuine happiness within myself and i don't want him to get sad so i laugh if he laugh at something funny on tv etc
I always feel like I need every item I buy.... but to stop me being reckless with online shopping, I put each item in my favourites, and if I don't think about them after a week or so, I delete them from the folder 😀
I just spent maybe $800 on online shopping in the course of just three days. I always knew I had an addiction. But I’m having a child soon and so I know/need to stop. So hearing this was good for me. Thank your for making this video.
As soon as I get money into my bank account, I get this anxious feeling. Almost like a little voice saying "Okay. I have money. Now how am I going to get rid of it?". It's really frustrating because I desperately try to save but then some scenario comes up like a mall trip or a convention where I just can't stop myself from spending and then I overspend. I haven't gotten a credit card because I have enough student debt to worry about. It's income based so right now it's based on my tax return from when I was unemployed. When my new job's tax return kicks in, I don't know what I'm going to do.
I love that this video isn't a put-down. It feels informative and helpful. My mom suffered from this for a long time and it really affected the family. She is fully recovered now but it was a hard process. This is a real issue and the effects on people are real. Thank you again for treating it with such respect.
Katie P thank you, I really want to help people and make them realise what they are capable of achieving. Glad to hear that your mother has overcome this, it must have been hard for you to experience watching this xCC
This was so painfully accurate for me. THANK YOU for opening my eyes. I'm incredibly overwhelmed at the thought of digging my way out of this mess and the debt but you inspired me to at least try.xoxoxox
I noticed my shopping addiction about 2 years ago. Since then I had worked super hard to stop it. I discovered minimalism, and have been trying to put my money to good use. When I feel a little sad, I tend to look at clothes online - mainly the ethical brands (Everlane). I place things into my shopping cart, but close the tab. I still have one issue, when I really feel like spending money, it goes to food. When I do buy something for myself, my hands get so sweaty! Not from the rush anymore, but because I'm realising it's my money I'm spending.
Auvro it is so good that you are aware of this, and that you are consciously doing clever things that work for you. I too sometimes add things to the basket and then get a reality kick and shut it down. I also love saving up and waiting to buy things...layby is also a great strategy. Thank you for sharing xCC
I definitely grew up in a low-income household and a shopaholic mother who shopped to make herself feel better. I am trying to kick those habits that I picked up on living at home, and now that I am out as a full-time college student I know that finances are important as ever. I do find myself shopping when stressed/bored/depressed and I find that when I'm not shopping for beauty/clothes it's on food. Thank you for being so upfront and honest and I'm going to try to adopt a healthier lifestyle of switching habits and small changes. Like now I recently got a library card instead of buying at the large chain bookstore.
It is great that you are so motivated to do things differently ! Spending in a healthy way is fine but making sure you are in control at all times is essential xCC
This was like a kick in the guts. I have a serious problem with shopping. The rush i get from thinking about going to get me clothes... homewares everything. I have a lump some of money from a divorce settlement which is just getting spent. I am feeling sick. But i will stop it. Thank you for your advice and plain common sense. Tomorrow is a new day.
Thank you hun. I'm coming to terms that I have a shopping issue. My home is literally busting at the seems and my poor man is so upset. Piles everywhere. Under things, on every surface, drawers, on too of drawers, a book shelf in the bathroom to hold allllll my make up.....I'm going to start writing things down to see how much I really blow every week. Good luck to you all!
Cana, this video has spoken to my soul! This is an on-going addiction for me. It boils down to self sabotage! I can seem to shake the habit. I'm fine for a bit but whenever things are going well. There I am back to the on-line, mall, anything. It's crazy. When I'm depressed its out of control. I have tried everything! But I've learned don't give up! No matter what! I want to buy a home, this is a goal that I really need to obtain. I will be 40 soon. I'm going to try your techniques! THANK YOU....PLEASE DO A SERIES!!!!
I am 20. I make the most money compared to my friends, I spend the most, but have somehow saved the most. However I get so many packages, want to go shopping all the time, and am running out of space in my room and closet. My sister and father are concerned with my spending but it feels so good. I used to have a stealing problem, and it seems spending has become my new habit. It's an overconsumption problem, and I know I need to address it. Thank you for posting this.
Thank you Canna, I really enjoy your videos! I loved the act of shopping and the rush it gave me, but would often feel buyers remorse and later return the item or keep it and never wear it. A major waste of money! One of the most helpful things I've done is unfollow bloggers exclusively sponsored by my favorite clothing stores as well as unsubscribe from all shopping sale emails. I feel so much better and not inclined to shop for things I wasn't even looking for. I've already noticed a difference this month and my closet and state of mind feel clutter-free!
Jennifer Schiavone great advice! It kind of feels refreshing not feeling the desire to buy things and simply enjoying what you already have. Thank you for sharing these great tips! xCC
Thank you Cana, such helpful ideas & suggestions.For those who don't understand shopping addiction, they won't understand but this was heartbreaking for me to watch. I could answer YES to all the symptoms. I even stole money from my work to fund my addiction. After recently falling seriously ill, it made me take a long hard look at myself & I hated what I saw. I've stopped the shopping, am selling some items to pay off debt & have started saving, which I love & am so proud of. It took me years & nearly dying before I could finally face my problem. These posts have helped so much thank you & made me feel not so alone. The guilt & shame is overwhelming and it is a real addiction just like drugs or alcohol.i wish I had done something sooner but I can only look forward to future.
Thank you for this video. I really needed this. I am a single mother of 2 girls. I cant afford to let this shopping addiction anymore. I can see that this has been happening and everything you said was true. I think I will watch this video several times to help me. Thank you again.
I shop whenever I get sad or feel self conscious. I have so many clothes that Ive bought and after a few days I hate them and I feel like I need new clothes.
This is just what I needed to hear. I’ve been on my debt free journey and have been making big strides. Looking at you tubers a nd Instagram posts I have fallen in love with a handbag and have been obsessing over it for the past few days. After listening to this, I know I need to stay on course and pay off my debt instead of buying a new luxury handbag. Maybe I will reward myself with the handbag after I am debt free! Thanks sugar momma. The addiction is real!
FANTASTIC Canna! I've just spent the last hour unsubscribing to the majority of email 'newsletters' and 'updates' that I get from stores. That's a huge precursor for my shopping :/
tastytulip I have done that too in the last weeks and I can say has helped me resist that temptation! Hopefully we can come out recovered shopping addicts 😂 Good luck x
I will buy clothes before I buy gas. It's like i purposely blind fold myself. This is a problem and it does need to stop. There was a sale today with a sweatshirt i have been looking for for almost a year brand new and a great price. I almost had an anxiety attack telling myself that i wasnt going to buy it. I got through it and i didnt get it but I should definitely not feel that strongly about a sweatshirt
I definitely need to stop shopping, over the course of a few months I went from excellent finances to very poor finances through frivolous spending on credit cards of food and things I don't even need/justified I needed! I want a minimalist lifestyle and yet buy stuff constantly. Credit cards are now cut up until all paid off and cash only! Friends make funny comments such as "you love to buy stuff/you've bought more stuff!?" I always laughed it off but now facing the cold hard truth after watching this video that I have a spending problem that needs to be sorted now! Thanks for this video xxx
I started taking action recently and I am so glad I found your channel. I finally accepted I had a problem a while ago now and I've been taking small steps to recover from it. I had all 7 signs, thankyou💜
Thank you for this video Cana! I've always been a shopping addict especially more because of instagram and seeing all fashion bloggers posting photos of their new clothes but I've got to put a stop to it now to try save up for a deposit for a house for me and my family. So I'm going to try limit my time on instagram and online shopping and replace it with reading and looking at houses to keep me motivated ☺ xx
Sophie Honey 💜 I fall into that but via youtube. Remember a lot of them get vouchers or free clothes or may not even actually own those items. Good luck saving for your deposit. A past video Canna's guest said she would look at her dream houses to avoid shopping. Try that instead :)
Love this! Definitely need to do the same, you see all these things on instagram and just end up wanting instant gratification to have the same things/lifestyle! Best to stay off it and focus on basic necessities whilst saving!
glad you made this video! i feel like this issue isn't taken nearly seriously enough by many people. i put myself on a "no-buy" this summer for clothes & cosmetics (for financial reasons, not because i was addicted...though looking back i probably was a little addicted) and found that it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be..especially the more that time passed. It doesn't take long to regain a sense of control and empowerment. Thanks for these wonderful tips
Thank you! I needed this today! I have been a stay at home mom for the last year and have been online shopping a lot! It's way too easy to shop online and it's exciting when the packages get delivered. You are completely overwhelmed by social media and especially bloggers on Instagram to shop ☹️
Heather Melancon this is so me! I wasn’t a huge shopper before I was a SAHM but now it’s like an escape. I spend so much time online shopping. I definitely needed this wake up call today!
If I try to shop shopping for clothes, I've noticed I tend to overspend on other things such as groceries or home goods... 🤦🏻♀️. I'm working on it though 🤞
Also, I've been limiting shopping to convenience. I think it helps in some ways- like if I have to go to the mall for makeup, I might only buy a piece of clothing in that particular department store or store next to it. Otherwise, I try to only stick to the makeup item I need and not shop around the whole mall. Same thing with Target- if I need toilet paper, but also a new top, I try to just get it there and not spend the day shopping around town.
1 sign number one is 02:04 you never have enough money you're 02:07 always borrowing money you're always 02:08 reaching for a credit card to pay for 02:10 things you never have any money in 02:12 savings and you certainly don't have any 02:13 money set aside for an emergency 2 you are lying or hiding purchases now this may mean you may downplay how much something really cost or can lie about how often you shop or simply hiding those items 3 you buy new things before you even used or worn the previously purchased items 4 you've had friends and family confronts you and share with you their concerns about your shopping habits and what the way that you are managing your personal finances now this may make you angry or ashamed or a whole range of uncomfortable emotional feeling 5 you have a sense of anxiety when you don't shop almost like that feeling of going out for the day leaving your mobile phone or water at home almost like a you feel miss naked without it and when you do put yourself on a shopping ban you quickly find that you *relapse and spend even more 6 you find yourself shopping purely out of a reaction to an uncommon or situation or feeling (e.g. depression e.t.c) 7 you tend to experience a euphoric high or rush or even a form of anxiety when you are actually shopping or you know you're about to go shopping is this an intense explosion and excitement running through almost like a high and you know that you're gonna have a great experience but it's very short-lived and you do come crashing back downyou tend to experience a euphoric high or rush or even a form of anxiety when you are actually shopping or you know you're about to go shopping is this an intense explosion and excitement running through almost like a high and you know that you're gonna have a great experience but it's very short-lived and you do come crashing back down
I am a recovering shopping addict. You nailed it with this video. I still feel all these emotions and own all 7 signs but have at least gotten out of debt. I think it will be a long-term temptation but your solutions are sound.
Thank you so much for this excellent video. This is my line in the sand. Today I start spending in my life for things that really matter. I am a RUclipsr and unfortunately this does fuel a lot of intense shopping. Lately, I have been buying lots and lots of clothes that I really don’t need as I just retired. I am looking forward to working with you and your channel and learning more about this process. I did just unsubscribe to all of the emails I get from the stores I frequent. I am really looking forward to starting to emphasize real meaning in my life instead of just endless buying. I want what you have for sure. Fortunately I have no debt, but I am spending my available money too much. I am wasting funds. I have really done this all my life. When I was a child, I lived in a substandard house, and I was always embarrassed by how we lived. Now, I live in a beautiful home, and I keep redecorating to make it even better spending thousands of dollars each year. I also like to look good and of course this feeds into make up and clothing purchases I don’t need. Thank you so much for being who you are and for sharing so honestly about your life. It is time for me to change and today is day one.
I will go out and buy a bunch of stuff and then go through it carefully when I get home to ensure I will use the items. I used to be embarrassed when I returned things, but I have gotten a lot more comfortable with it. When I buy luxury, I plan out my purchase for months and ensure it is something I will use. I have a monthly budget and I have to pace myself throughout the month. My husband thinks I am a shopaholic, but I think I have pretty good restraint. I may have an out of control moment, but I end up returning a lot when this happens.
I am so simular! And I am now really comfortable with returning things. Once I make that decision to return something I cannot wait to head to the store and get a refund. And planning luxury purchases is something that I ike to take slowly and build up on the excitement so that I truely appreciate the experience of buying and enjoy my purchase...this has saved me making a lot of bad decisions....thank you for sharing! xCC
I'm really trying to save money but there comes a point when I feel like being a spendthrift.. sometimes if I see money on my credit card I just can't stop wasting it online. I enjoy buying stuff but at the end of the day I always think about the amount spent. Then I get too excited when I get my orders & then realize I dont really need them.
When i shop online you are sitting on my shoulder talking to me...i now take my time choose style and quality over impulse quantity. I don't go to the shops often but now put a lot of thought into what i truly want and how it makes my existing wardrobe work. (If I'm impulse buying or over spending i bust for the toilet and get out!!!) I haven't purchased the beautiful handbag yet as that is something I'm going to work towards (my vegan one is good for now) Now to my budget and savings plan. Can't thank you enough Canna ⚘💜
Thank you much for that. Someone I deeply care about has a serious shopping addiction, much worse than I thought, AND I just realized (after watching your vid) that I have been only supporting it, and it is driving me and this person into completely unnecessary debt. We’ll see how this story unfolds. Your vid gives me hope. So so sad.
I had seen my Amazon shopping history I was shocked to see I'm buying a lot 36 items in just last two and half months We get attracted to heavy discount and specially in India where Amazon and Flipkart are fight with each other to gain the market Share They are selling goods much much cheaper
Oh wow! Does that exclude food? My theme for 2019 is “Less But Better” this video may help you cut down on your shopping? xCC ruclips.net/video/uuhnUh3tHYo/видео.html
Omg same! I'm from India and all these discounts along with lockdown boredom have made me a serious shopaholic. I've been lying to my parents and I feel so guilty. I have gotten a wake up call
I'm always so impressed with your videos, I think you've given really great actionable solutions. I read a comment below saying that you seem nervous in the video, that's not the impression I got at all, in fact I think your delivery execution has become much more relaxed and natural as time has passed. I thought it was a bit mean especially as you were so vulnerable sharing your personal story of postnatal depression. Would you ever share how you got started on you tube, how you plan what you're going to do and how you make time for it? Also how do you deal with mean comments!? That would put me off, I'm a bit sensitive to things to things like that! I know a few full time bloggers in the UK that are managed, have videographers for their RUclips and teams of people running their social media and you have more followers than they do! I think that's testament to the quality of your content, it's actually coming from a genuine place and helpful for your subscribers.
I need to delete my shopping apps... I take one weekly trip to town and blow my paycheck but when I get home I’ll spend my savings online shopping at least two items a day...
I only turned shopaholic when I was depressed. I’m thankful to God For Breaking that Habit. I av got God now so I don’t need the shopping 🛍 Therapy. Sis if I av listened to any feeds by mistake,pls forgive me coz It’s difficult to tell the difference pls. I will always support u no matter what Sis,I want u to be Happy & I know God will Honour His Promises to us🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
It's like any other addiction like gambling. But people laugh about it because you have to shop or you have to for another example eat anyway. So you try to convince yourself it's ok.
Another sign is hiding receipts and not being able to find one you need in order to return something (constant returns is another sign). I shop when depressed for a high and escape. Clothes, makeup and shoes. Got a handle on the shoes by not going on websites that made me drool, mainly marked down sites of designers - my mentality wasn't how much I was spending, but how much I was SAVING. What?? After all, what's $50 here and there? Actually it added up to $1000 in ONE year. I decided enough was enough. What made me the most upset is I gave away most of the shoes because I didn't really like or want them after all. Just looking at the summary of my orders in a one year span was shocking. I have to see the numerical damage to "get" what's going on and it can be hard to admit there's a problem. Please talk about how to not beat yourself up from throwing away money because that's living in the past and holds me back. Thanks.
Shopping addiction is widespread and serious. Recently, the pressure for everyone, regardless of resources, to buy luxury items like designer handbags has only exacerbated the problem. We should remember that while the problem and cure come from within us, there is a lot of social pressure to buy things we just can’t afford, also. I see a lot of young women who are still living at home with their parents, and without any financial responsibilities, who spend all their pay on their wardrobes and going out for meals and drinks with friends. This is not the real adult world.
Thank you so much for this. I know that negative emotions make me want to acquire new things. I’m about to embark on a moderately stressful work day and I was getting the urge to buy something but I watched this instead. You’re so right about it being self-sabotage. It also wouldn’t solve anything, the problem would still be there but I would be further away from my goals than before. Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re doing an excellent job
I really enjoyed this thank you so much. I'm a lot better this year than I have been in the previous years. I was definitely a shop acholic . It really started when my youngest was born and my husband worked away and we moved to s town where I knew no one. I used to go into this shop because the ladies were so motherly and shop. I sometimes went in everyday. Out of loneliness. Hate to think how much I spent. I now spend time walking , reading and doing things I love. I give myself a bit of money to shop. It's such a learning curve but I'm learning all the time. I had to realise I was filling a void in me with shopping . Had to face my hard facts which isn't always easy.
I really needed this! I only work part time because I am a college student but I see that I spend money on little things because it's fun or some items are just cute. I am going to try to be stricter with myself because I find it so hard to be strict with myself. I feel inspired to plan out where my money goes and have a budget. I hope Ill be able to keep my budget and really buy things that I totally love and know are worth the money I have available in my budget. Thanks Canna! X
Thank you. I am very very close to having a internet shopping addiction. I don’t have many of those signs. But I am getting delivery’s nearly every day. And my husband wants me to stop. I am living with in our means and Don’t shop on credit. But I buy “bargains” that I don’t need and don’t last. I have banned my self for at least a month.
I have struggled with shopping addiction for as long as I can remember. I live with Type 2 Bi-Polar and ADHD. I was diagnosed this year and have suddenly started to gain a little bit of impulse control after beginning medication. It's still a problem but now I have hope. Thank you so much for sharing this video with us. 💗
Thank you so much for this video, Canna!! I recently came out to my partner about my hidden purchases & addiction. I also came face to face how much I'd spent which would've covered my costs for a holiday I have planned in Feb. so goals are in placed to put what would be my shopping money to an account for that holiday and hopefully can finally afford that bag I want for my birthday next year too!
This video came at a very appropriate time as I've just recently blown through my savings and I literally can't get money out at the ATM. I'm also unemployed at the moment which is not good news. I'm not an extravagant shopper per se, but I do splurge on certain nice things without crunching the numbers and thinking twice and that really needs to change. Love these super practical tips. Thanks mum!!!!
John Law you are welcome John. Maybe having a think about your goals, values and dreams could be worth while so that you can set yourself a good game plan ? Time to ignite your inner motivation!!! xCC
This is going to sound so silly 😂 but I have a pandora charm addiction. I've spent thousands. The thing is I only have 2 wrists and tons of completed bracelets. I need to stop! This video helped, thanks 👍
Thank you for sharing your experience with shopping addiction. I find myself disciplining myself and then going bad to my old habits. These were some really coping tips and one thing I will do is invest in things that can help me grow as person or talents rather than just make me look good.
I’ve realize I have a shopping addiction! I know what triggers me to shop more! When I get calls from my favorite boutiques shops, letting me know they have the cuties tops in and how wonderful they would look on me! They just realed me in!! Other times depression. It is a high, but the high doesnt last long. I now use cash only. It is so much harder! To let go of that cash! For sure!! I have a ways to go but, have come to the realization that I do have a problem! Taking baby steps , to be happier without the need to shop all the time! Thank you for this video🙂
Thank you for this video, I've been struggling with this ever since I lost my entire wardrobe to a water damaged home. I got sort of obsessed with replacing my wardrobe and it became a habit to go to discount stores where I'd occasionally find a "treasure" for a bargain. The rush I get is addicting. It's amazing how these smaller purchases add up and half the stuff I end up not liking later on because it was bought impulsively. I have a pit of anxiety in my stomach all the time because of it and I know it's not good but I do it anyway. All of your suggestions sound helpful and realistic and I'm making a commitment right here and now to change my habits and set some goals for myself. I'm thinking about all the time I could use for developing my talents, exercise, reading, etc instead of shopping, and how great it would feel to be debt free and have more savings.
This was a very helpful video. Thank you so much... I’m dealing with the problem for more than 30 years... It’s gotten worst but now I am aware and I WILL do something about it. Thank you so much for your help
Yes, I'm coming clean I have a shopping addiction, for sometime now, every sign you mentioned I raised my hand to. I plan to break this habit by being honest with myself and focus on solutions. I'm in credit card debt and it doesn't feel good at all. I have plenty of material things but no money saved at all because i have none to save because of my shopping. I keep shopping knowing that I need to payoff bills. To be honest I'm stressed and want to be free. I appreciate your videos, so helpful. I'm going to watch this video again.
Thank you for this video. I have been trying to learn more about this addiction seeing as I went from alcohol and drugs to now shopping. At first telling myself atleast I'm not using...it is just as bad. It is the behavior. I am grateful you listed some ways work with turning the addiction around and saving for a better life and outlook on life. Grateful to all the people who shared their experience as well. It's nice to know we are not alone.
Wow. This hit home. I also have a new baby. But this behaviour is not new to me. I had a plan, but something comes over me when I'm in a store. It's a feeling of satisfaction until I get to the till, pay, then leave. Then guilt and shame rush in. I have a spending addiction. I'm on maternity leave and have a small income. My husband is concerned, as am I. I'm ready to change. To become excited for the future, not just the pleasure of right now. Thank you for this video.
Brilliant video... Thanks for this... Iam currently on a DMP (debt management plan) through my addiction of buying and selling mobile phones and contracts... What helped me was stop watching RUclips videos on mobile phone reviews and visiting 2nd hand stores like CEX and Game and the Mobile phone outlets (EE, O2, Carphone warehouse...etc), also asking myself "is it a need or a want".... Its hard and i have tripped a few times (sold a phone) but quickly got back up again because i bought a cheaper one... So didnt spend more... Its strange,, i believed a phone would change my life or do different things to the last one, instead of it just being a functional item... but its my fault, Iam responsible for the this, not RUclips, Cex or Carphone...Me, i did this to myself and i own it.... I just have to get through it... Thanks for this video
I online shop because I’ve got depression and undiagnosed ADHD... I spend all of my money on food and clothes and have little to nothing to show for it. I get excited about new drinks and candles. Thank you for this video, I start getting help today.
I shop because I'm a recovering alcoholic (3 years sober woop!), but i replaced the alcohol for overeating and buying home decor and clothes mainly. I also have cptsd and borderline personality disorder, so I know I'm just trying to fill the empty void and loneliness I feel most of the time , despite having an amazing network of friends. I've decluttered Alot over the past 2 years but have only just decided to start saving up for driving lessons and either a campervan to travel the world in. Or to invest to start myown business one day...its hard to plan when you're struggling to find your way in life but I'm just trying to find enjoyment out of the little things in life (knitting and my cats) and I understand now that shopping just makes me feel crap. I know I used to buy so many clothes because I was desperate to feel like I 'passed ' as pretty but deep down never felt good enough nomatter what I bought. So I'm working on understanding my self worth just as I am. It's really hard,its like a foreign language but I'm working really hard on it and ultimately, that's all we can do xxxxx
congratulations on your sobriety! Have you heard of Cr'appy Childhood Fairy? She's a therapist named Anna who makes content about c-ptsd coping. Her videos help me a lot 🥰
This was an excellent video. I"m 70 years old and coming to terms with the fact that I've developed a serious shopping addiction in retirement. I watch alot of the homeshopping networks like QVC and HSN.. There are so many reasons for it. Its mostly clothes. I believe the clothes thing is because as a young person, I had so many body image issues that I didn't want to shop for clothes and didn't get them. I was a large size but still very pretty. I can see that now. I just couldn't face dressing room mirrors but you don't have to with home shopping. It comes to your door. Besides making up for clothes that I didn't buy when I was young, watching these channels and connecting to these hosts which are quite entertaining fills a void. Sometimes I just want escapism. Reading a book, watching a great series on Netflix, studying on Creative Live are all good things I do but sometimes I just want to watch something that I really don't have to concentrate on. One thing I've found that does help that and takes me away from the television is getting a big cup of coffee and going to the park. I sit on a bench and sip. Being in nature helps me think straight and I get some Vit D too. I just recently told my daughter about the addiction. Of course she already knew and she was the one who suggested I watch this video. It was really helpful to tell her. I also think she likes knowing I'm not perfect and I need her sometimes. We decided that she would come to my house, block the channels and not tell me the code for starters. I did the budget thing but budgets on paper don't mean anything if you don't follow them. I need to follow it. This video was very helpful. I identified with all 7 signs. I need a community. Sorry I rambled on. Thanks so much. Do more. I need it.
Thank you so much for this powerful message. I always need to hear this, coz I love to shop. But I came to the realization this year, that I cannot continue to lie to myself and live this kind of life. Lipsticks used to be my thing, and food.
This just came up in my feed, I know it's an old video but thank you, this was helpful! I guess some people don't take shopping addiction seriously because it's not seen as a very serious addiction compared to drug or alcohol addiction which directly affects one's health to a high degree. However, the massive financial problems that can come from having a shopping addiction are real and it's a stressful issue for many people, western women in particular, and it can of course, affect one's health. We're exposed to targeted advertising constantly, every day, and are pressured to look a certain way to be accepted in society. This is unhelpful - but we can overcome that. I do have a shopping problem and I'll be doing a 'low-buy' year in 2021 to try to change this. I've set shopping rules for myself, but basically there will be no purchasing fashion or beauty products (excluding hygiene products). I have enough clothes and shoes for 3 people, maybe more! I shop out of boredom (usually at work).
Oh my god. I felt 5/7 of the signs in my soul. My mother calls me out all the time. It’s gotten to the point where I sneak packages into the house now. My addiction has especially manifested now during quarantine where I’ve spent SO MUCH online shopping. And then I feel so sad afterwards. Hopefully this helps. Thank you (:
Good video. I fall into this in time periods, related to depression. Unfortunately I'm in that phase now. Substituting for exercise or painting is good.
Canna this was wonderful! These are my most favorite of your videos (love them all though ...) - the ones where you inspire us to get real about our finances and get control. The rest of the world seems to scream ... buy buy buy! Your message is an antidote for the constant message that we need more to be "enough." Thank you for your motivation and for caring about us and our futures. Please keep the inspiration coming!! xoxo
Thank you. I am a shopping addict. I love shopping. I love finding deals. I can't pass up a sale. My house is full of things I do not need. I end up giving away things which only proves I'm actually wasting money. I'm trying to be honest about my addiction.
I struggle with a spending addiction...it’s really bad and sometimes I do it unconsciously. I have great job that I love, and I’ve been trying to save money for the last 6 months...but I just keep spending. I am trying to follow Dave Ramsey and The Budget Mom but I just keep failing. It is a literal addition and I have end up in tears multiple times over this. And people always just say, well just stop. Don’t you think I would if I could?? 😞😞
Appreciate so much of your sense of responsibility of financial life. We should be responsible of our own life. Debts are ugly troll that controls many people's life. Thank you for encouraging us to be our better selves and be responsible adults. You are awesome!
I’ve always loved shopping ever since I was a kid, but as I grew older and had the chance to go shopping by myself, I ended up feeding into my shopping addiction. When I’m not shopping, I feel anxious. It’s hard for me to stay home because I always want to go out and shop. I’ve lost a lot of money and want to change. I’m only a teenager right now but I don’t want to take the bad habits of shopping too much into my future. Thank you for your video it’s very helpful and informative 💕
Wow Canna, this was such a great video! Many important and useful advice, thank you for putting all of your advice together and sharing them, much appreciated. Keep up the good work and the longer videos, you have more time to elaborate! :)
Thank you i am a total shopoholic but i now know this its took along time ,i have had a great time being carefree and never taking responsibility for my actions,it took until i was 40 i decided to learn to drive it was the first time i had to keep cash in envelopes ready to pay and could not believe how much money i was getting through ,also i could not go out with friends as i had no money because it all went on the three lessons sometimes five a week ,my interests changed i bought a dog i walk i don,t shop all day or lunch out with friends i'm calmer and happier,loved your honesty i just subscribed
Thank you. If you are reading this comment. Just know you are taking the right steps. Keep binging saving videos, make it a habit. I fell to this spending trap too. We will get out of this negative habit.
I've just watched your last vidéo. SO as you know I am back from Holidays and like everyone else I am tempted to buy. since I follow you I watch several times your videos every time I am tempted to spend. I have a passion is to learn and all Your advice helps me day by day and I apply them. So I achieve financial goals👍👏.
thank you for putting it in words, nice point-wise presentation. i had a gut feeling something like this might be happening, business is all about exploiting human psychology for profit.
It’s taken me years to admit to myself that I have a problem. I am always finding ways to justify my purchases. I’m ready now to make better choices. I want to have savings and prepare for my future.
I am two days into a no spending month, I didn’t realize how much I use online shopping as a form of escapism and self soothing. I was feeling anxious about not opening the amazon app. I feel some shame in how much I’ve struggled I just two days! Thank you for this video it gave me some perspective and hope that I am going to make it.
My pleasure! Hang in there and look for the lesson! Sounds like you are healing already! xCC
How are you doing now? I need to do the same thing.
I deleted amazon app so its a detour cuz i have problem...
I online shop when I am upset or lonely 😢 it is all too easy....
_imum_ maybe try calling a friend instead? Or reading a good book? Or going for a walk? Maybe just try sitting through those feelings of loneliness or sadness so that you can process them and let them pass. Feeling are like clouds, they do pass xCC
_imum_ Try journaling why you feel this way. Instead of clicking "buy" put the item in the basket and then force yourself to wait 24 hrs - often you will have forgotten the item by the next day and you will have got the buzz of buying the item without ever going through with the purchase.
Sajida Raja great advice!!!! xCC
And thats all too normal, it doesnt mean you have a "clinical addiction". Dont let this shame you.
Delete that app
Its gotten so bad. I have nothing to show for myself. This really spoke to me
Trenae DaVinci I feel much the same, but her advice is so good and non-judgmental I'm hoping I can improve myself and you can too. Sending lots of good vibes your way =)
I know exactly how u feel sis
Vani I know how you feel I want to improve on myself too.
There's nothing funny about shopping addiction, specially when it effects your mental wellbeing, you feel down so you buy and your happy for a day then the same feelings will come back.
Sjmillerxo X exactly! I just wish everyone saw it this way...xCC
Sugar Mamma Exactly. I find the media glorify endless spendless specially with instagram, what those photos or background story of it all is those people could be struggling finically and even emotionally, they can have a closet full of clothing and products but a fridge that's empty and barely making it to their next payday.
100% this is me my depression makes me shop because it's one of the only things i can do to feel genuinely excited I'm so tired of faking my joy to seem normal i fake laugh and smile all day when I'm out in the world my husband knows me like the palm of his hand and he's realized i do this with him at times too it's just because i have no more genuine happiness within myself and i don't want him to get sad so i laugh if he laugh at something funny on tv etc
@@SugarMamma For me it's instant gratification. I absolutely get a rush when I buy something for my Sports Cars or Jeep.
I always feel like I need every item I buy.... but to stop me being reckless with online shopping, I put each item in my favourites, and if I don't think about them after a week or so, I delete them from the folder 😀
I just spent maybe $800 on online shopping in the course of just three days. I always knew I had an addiction. But I’m having a child soon and so I know/need to stop. So hearing this was good for me. Thank your for making this video.
As soon as I get money into my bank account, I get this anxious feeling. Almost like a little voice saying "Okay. I have money. Now how am I going to get rid of it?". It's really frustrating because I desperately try to save but then some scenario comes up like a mall trip or a convention where I just can't stop myself from spending and then I overspend. I haven't gotten a credit card because I have enough student debt to worry about. It's income based so right now it's based on my tax return from when I was unemployed. When my new job's tax return kicks in, I don't know what I'm going to do.
I love that this video isn't a put-down. It feels informative and helpful. My mom suffered from this for a long time and it really affected the family. She is fully recovered now but it was a hard process. This is a real issue and the effects on people are real. Thank you again for treating it with such respect.
Katie P thank you, I really want to help people and make them realise what they are capable of achieving. Glad to hear that your mother has overcome this, it must have been hard for you to experience watching this xCC
People don't like bad news about their bad habits. Love that you're sticking to your beliefs...that is brave & really helpful 👊👏👏👏
This was so painfully accurate for me. THANK YOU for opening my eyes. I'm incredibly overwhelmed at the thought of digging my way out of this mess and the debt but you inspired me to at least try.xoxoxox
I noticed my shopping addiction about 2 years ago. Since then I had worked super hard to stop it.
I discovered minimalism, and have been trying to put my money to good use.
When I feel a little sad, I tend to look at clothes online - mainly the ethical brands (Everlane). I place things into my shopping cart, but close the tab.
I still have one issue, when I really feel like spending money, it goes to food.
When I do buy something for myself, my hands get so sweaty! Not from the rush anymore, but because I'm realising it's my money I'm spending.
Auvro it is so good that you are aware of this, and that you are consciously doing clever things that work for you. I too sometimes add things to the basket and then get a reality kick and shut it down. I also love saving up and waiting to buy things...layby is also a great strategy. Thank you for sharing xCC
I definitely grew up in a low-income household and a shopaholic mother who shopped to make herself feel better. I am trying to kick those habits that I picked up on living at home, and now that I am out as a full-time college student I know that finances are important as ever. I do find myself shopping when stressed/bored/depressed and I find that when I'm not shopping for beauty/clothes it's on food. Thank you for being so upfront and honest and I'm going to try to adopt a healthier lifestyle of switching habits and small changes. Like now I recently got a library card instead of buying at the large chain bookstore.
It is great that you are so motivated to do things differently ! Spending in a healthy way is fine but making sure you are in control at all times is essential xCC
This was like a kick in the guts. I have a serious problem with shopping. The rush i get from thinking about going to get me clothes... homewares everything. I have a lump some of money from a divorce settlement which is just getting spent. I am feeling sick. But i will stop it. Thank you for your advice and plain common sense. Tomorrow is a new day.
Thank you hun. I'm coming to terms that I have a shopping issue. My home is literally busting at the seems and my poor man is so upset. Piles everywhere. Under things, on every surface, drawers, on too of drawers, a book shelf in the bathroom to hold allllll my make up.....I'm going to start writing things down to see how much I really blow every week. Good luck to you all!
Cana, this video has spoken to my soul! This is an on-going addiction for me. It boils down to self sabotage! I can seem to shake the habit. I'm fine for a bit but whenever things are going well. There I am back to the on-line, mall, anything. It's crazy. When I'm depressed its out of control. I have tried everything! But I've learned don't give up! No matter what! I want to buy a home, this is a goal that I really need to obtain. I will be 40 soon. I'm going to try your techniques! THANK YOU....PLEASE DO A SERIES!!!!
Acosya2 update?
Same I just fell off the wagon after month of sobriety....it’s quarantine during the pandemic
I am 20. I make the most money compared to my friends, I spend the most, but have somehow saved the most. However I get so many packages, want to go shopping all the time, and am running out of space in my room and closet. My sister and father are concerned with my spending but it feels so good. I used to have a stealing problem, and it seems spending has become my new habit. It's an overconsumption problem, and I know I need to address it. Thank you for posting this.
Thank you Canna, I really enjoy your videos! I loved the act of shopping and the rush it gave me, but would often feel buyers remorse and later return the item or keep it and never wear it. A major waste of money! One of the most helpful things I've done is unfollow bloggers exclusively sponsored by my favorite clothing stores as well as unsubscribe from all shopping sale emails. I feel so much better and not inclined to shop for things I wasn't even looking for. I've already noticed a difference this month and my closet and state of mind feel clutter-free!
Jennifer Schiavone great advice! It kind of feels refreshing not feeling the desire to buy things and simply enjoying what you already have. Thank you for sharing these great tips! xCC
Thank you Cana, such helpful ideas & suggestions.For those who don't understand shopping addiction, they won't understand but this was heartbreaking for me to watch. I could answer YES to all the symptoms. I even stole money from my work to fund my addiction. After recently falling seriously ill, it made me take a long hard look at myself & I hated what I saw. I've stopped the shopping, am selling some items to pay off debt & have started saving, which I love & am so proud of. It took me years & nearly dying before I could finally face my problem. These posts have helped so much thank you & made me feel not so alone. The guilt & shame is overwhelming and it is a real addiction just like drugs or alcohol.i wish I had done something sooner but I can only look forward to future.
My pleasure! Take care of yourself and focus on small baby steps and constant awareness xCC
Thank you for this video. I really needed this. I am a single mother of 2 girls. I cant afford to let this shopping addiction anymore. I can see that this has been happening and everything you said was true. I think I will watch this video several times to help me. Thank you again.
I shop whenever I get sad or feel self conscious. I have so many clothes that Ive bought and after a few days I hate them and I feel like I need new clothes.
Same I always feel like I need new clothes and hate the ones I bought
Yeah I spend when I am depressed... it gives a temporary happiness boost...
This is just what I needed to hear. I’ve been on my debt free journey and have been making big strides. Looking at you tubers a nd Instagram posts I have fallen in love with a handbag and have been obsessing over it for the past few days. After listening to this, I know I need to stay on course and pay off my debt instead of buying a new luxury handbag. Maybe I will reward myself with the handbag after I am debt free! Thanks sugar momma. The addiction is real!
I think I have a food addiction and these tips still helped.
FANTASTIC Canna! I've just spent the last hour unsubscribing to the majority of email 'newsletters' and 'updates' that I get from stores. That's a huge precursor for my shopping :/
tastytulip I have done that too in the last weeks and I can say has helped me resist that temptation! Hopefully we can come out recovered shopping addicts 😂 Good luck x
Yes did that today👍
I will buy clothes before I buy gas. It's like i purposely blind fold myself. This is a problem and it does need to stop. There was a sale today with a sweatshirt i have been looking for for almost a year brand new and a great price. I almost had an anxiety attack telling myself that i wasnt going to buy it. I got through it and i didnt get it but I should definitely not feel that strongly about a sweatshirt
I definitely need to stop shopping, over the course of a few months I went from excellent finances to very poor finances through frivolous spending on credit cards of food and things I don't even need/justified I needed! I want a minimalist lifestyle and yet buy stuff constantly. Credit cards are now cut up until all paid off and cash only! Friends make funny comments such as "you love to buy stuff/you've bought more stuff!?" I always laughed it off but now facing the cold hard truth after watching this video that I have a spending problem that needs to be sorted now! Thanks for this video xxx
I started taking action recently and I am so glad I found your channel. I finally accepted I had a problem a while ago now and I've been taking small steps to recover from it. I had all 7 signs, thankyou💜
Thank you for this video Cana! I've always been a shopping addict especially more because of instagram and seeing all fashion bloggers posting photos of their new clothes but I've got to put a stop to it now to try save up for a deposit for a house for me and my family. So I'm going to try limit my time on instagram and online shopping and replace it with reading and looking at houses to keep me motivated ☺ xx
Sophie Honey 💜 I fall into that but via youtube. Remember a lot of them get vouchers or free clothes or may not even actually own those items. Good luck saving for your deposit. A past video Canna's guest said she would look at her dream houses to avoid shopping. Try that instead :)
Love this! Definitely need to do the same, you see all these things on instagram and just end up wanting instant gratification to have the same things/lifestyle! Best to stay off it and focus on basic necessities whilst saving!
Omg were in it together sister !!! We can do this.! Lol I know this is a yr ago but I am totally in this situation right now. 😞
Sophie Honey I’m also a shopaholic because of the vloggers and instagram models I see
STFU
glad you made this video! i feel like this issue isn't taken nearly seriously enough by many people. i put myself on a "no-buy" this summer for clothes & cosmetics (for financial reasons, not because i was addicted...though looking back i probably was a little addicted) and found that it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be..especially the more that time passed. It doesn't take long to regain a sense of control and empowerment. Thanks for these wonderful tips
Thank you! I needed this today! I have been a stay at home mom for the last year and have been online shopping a lot! It's way too easy to shop online and it's exciting when the packages get delivered. You are completely overwhelmed by social media and especially bloggers on Instagram to shop ☹️
Heather Melancon this is so me! I wasn’t a huge shopper before I was a SAHM but now it’s like an escape. I spend so much time online shopping. I definitely needed this wake up call today!
If I try to shop shopping for clothes, I've noticed I tend to overspend on other things such as groceries or home goods... 🤦🏻♀️. I'm working on it though 🤞
Also, I've been limiting shopping to convenience. I think it helps in some ways- like if I have to go to the mall for makeup, I might only buy a piece of clothing in that particular department store or store next to it. Otherwise, I try to only stick to the makeup item I need and not shop around the whole mall. Same thing with Target- if I need toilet paper, but also a new top, I try to just get it there and not spend the day shopping around town.
1 sign number one is
02:04
you never have enough money you're
02:07
always borrowing money you're always
02:08
reaching for a credit card to pay for
02:10
things you never have any money in
02:12
savings and you certainly don't have any
02:13
money set aside for an emergency
2 you are lying or hiding
purchases now this may mean you may
downplay how much something really cost
or can lie about how often you shop or
simply hiding those items
3 you buy new things
before you even used or worn the
previously purchased items
4 you've had friends and family
confronts you and share with you their
concerns about your shopping habits and
what the way that you are managing your
personal finances now this may make you
angry or ashamed or a whole range of
uncomfortable emotional feeling
5 you have a sense of anxiety
when you don't shop almost like that
feeling of going out for the day
leaving your mobile phone or water at
home almost like a you feel miss naked
without it and when you do put yourself
on a shopping ban you quickly find that
you *relapse and spend even more
6 you find yourself
shopping purely out of a reaction to an
uncommon
or situation or feeling (e.g. depression e.t.c)
7 you tend to
experience a euphoric high or rush or
even a form of anxiety when you are
actually shopping or you know you're
about to go shopping is this an intense
explosion and excitement running through
almost like a high and you know that
you're gonna have a great experience but
it's very short-lived and you do come
crashing back downyou tend to
experience a euphoric high or rush or
even a form of anxiety when you are
actually shopping or you know you're
about to go shopping is this an intense
explosion and excitement running through
almost like a high and you know that
you're gonna have a great experience but
it's very short-lived and you do come
crashing back down
I am a recovering shopping addict. You nailed it with this video. I still feel all these emotions and own all 7 signs but have at least gotten out of debt. I think it will be a long-term temptation but your solutions are sound.
Thank you so much for this excellent video. This is my line in the sand. Today I start spending in my life for things that really matter.
I am a RUclipsr and unfortunately this does fuel a lot of intense shopping. Lately, I have been buying lots and lots of clothes that I really don’t need as I just retired. I am looking forward to working with you and your channel and learning more about this process. I did just unsubscribe to all of the emails I get from the stores I frequent.
I am really looking forward to starting to emphasize real meaning in my life instead of just endless buying. I want what you have for sure. Fortunately I have no debt, but I am spending my available money too much. I am wasting funds. I have really done this all my life. When I was a child, I lived in a substandard house, and I was always embarrassed by how we lived. Now, I live in a beautiful home, and I keep redecorating to make it even better spending thousands of dollars each year.
I also like to look good and of course this feeds into make up and clothing purchases I don’t need.
Thank you so much for being who you are and for sharing so honestly about your life. It is time for me to change and today is day one.
Thank you. Hearing 10 mins of this video, I requested cancellation of 2 unnecessary purchases.
I will go out and buy a bunch of stuff and then go through it carefully when I get home to ensure I will use the items. I used to be embarrassed when I returned things, but I have gotten a lot more comfortable with it. When I buy luxury, I plan out my purchase for months and ensure it is something I will use. I have a monthly budget and I have to pace myself throughout the month. My husband thinks I am a shopaholic, but I think I have pretty good restraint. I may have an out of control moment, but I end up returning a lot when this happens.
I am so simular! And I am now really comfortable with returning things. Once I make that decision to return something I cannot wait to head to the store and get a refund. And planning luxury purchases is something that I ike to take slowly and build up on the excitement so that I truely appreciate the experience of buying and enjoy my purchase...this has saved me making a lot of bad decisions....thank you for sharing! xCC
Of course companies would like to have everyone be addicted to shopping
I'm really trying to save money but there comes a point when I feel like being a spendthrift.. sometimes if I see money on my credit card I just can't stop wasting it online. I enjoy buying stuff but at the end of the day I always think about the amount spent. Then I get too excited when I get my orders & then realize I dont really need them.
My oh my!! I just realised I have all the 7 signs! Now I better work on the solutions!😧😧😧
When i shop online you are sitting on my shoulder talking to me...i now take my time choose style and quality over impulse quantity. I don't go to the shops often but now put a lot of thought into what i truly want and how it makes my existing wardrobe work. (If I'm impulse buying or over spending i bust for the toilet and get out!!!) I haven't purchased the beautiful handbag yet as that is something I'm going to work towards (my vegan one is good for now) Now to my budget and savings plan. Can't thank you enough Canna ⚘💜
Thank you much for that. Someone I deeply care about has a serious shopping addiction, much worse than I thought, AND I just realized (after watching your vid) that I have been only supporting it, and it is driving me and this person into completely unnecessary debt. We’ll see how this story unfolds. Your vid gives me hope. So so sad.
I am currently on a downward spiral, but I’m ready to change. I’m going to succeed. It starts here and now. Thanks, I do needed to hear this.
I know this video was posted awhile ago but I appreciate finding it now. :) Thank you
I had seen my Amazon shopping history
I was shocked to see I'm buying a lot
36 items in just last two and half months
We get attracted to heavy discount and specially in India where Amazon and Flipkart are fight with each other to gain the market
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They are selling goods much much cheaper
Oh wow! Does that exclude food? My theme for 2019 is “Less But Better” this video may help you cut down on your shopping? xCC ruclips.net/video/uuhnUh3tHYo/видео.html
Omg same! I'm from India and all these discounts along with lockdown boredom have made me a serious shopaholic. I've been lying to my parents and I feel so guilty. I have gotten a wake up call
I'm always so impressed with your videos, I think you've given really great actionable solutions. I read a comment below saying that you seem nervous in the video, that's not the impression I got at all, in fact I think your delivery execution has become much more relaxed and natural as time has passed. I thought it was a bit mean especially as you were so vulnerable sharing your personal story of postnatal depression. Would you ever share how you got started on you tube, how you plan what you're going to do and how you make time for it? Also how do you deal with mean comments!? That would put me off, I'm a bit sensitive to things to things like that! I know a few full time bloggers in the UK that are managed, have videographers for their RUclips and teams of people running their social media and you have more followers than they do! I think that's testament to the quality of your content, it's actually coming from a genuine place and helpful for your subscribers.
I need to delete my shopping apps... I take one weekly trip to town and blow my paycheck but when I get home I’ll spend my savings online shopping at least two items a day...
I only turned shopaholic when I was depressed. I’m thankful to God For Breaking that Habit. I av got God now so I don’t need the shopping 🛍 Therapy. Sis if I av listened to any feeds by mistake,pls forgive me coz It’s difficult to tell the difference pls. I will always support u no matter what Sis,I want u to be Happy & I know God will Honour His Promises to us🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
It's like any other addiction like gambling. But people laugh about it because you have to shop or you have to for another example eat anyway. So you try to convince yourself it's ok.
this is one of the best channels for finance none of this motivational talks that lead you no where just straight facts and good advice.
6 out of 7. Can't deny it anymore. Thank you.
Another sign is hiding receipts and not being able to find one you need in order to return something (constant returns is another sign). I shop when depressed for a high and escape. Clothes, makeup and shoes. Got a handle on the shoes by not going on websites that made me drool, mainly marked down sites of designers - my mentality wasn't how much I was spending, but how much I was SAVING. What?? After all, what's $50 here and there? Actually it added up to $1000 in ONE year. I decided enough was enough. What made me the most upset is I gave away most of the shoes because I didn't really like or want them after all. Just looking at the summary of my orders in a one year span was shocking. I have to see the numerical damage to "get" what's going on and it can be hard to admit there's a problem. Please talk about how to not beat yourself up from throwing away money because that's living in the past and holds me back. Thanks.
Shopping addiction is widespread and serious. Recently, the pressure for everyone, regardless of resources, to buy luxury items like designer handbags has only exacerbated the problem. We should remember that while the problem and cure come from within us, there is a lot of social pressure to buy things we just can’t afford, also. I see a lot of young women who are still living at home with their parents, and without any financial responsibilities, who spend all their pay on their wardrobes and going out for meals and drinks with friends. This is not the real adult world.
Thank you so much for this. I know that negative emotions make me want to acquire new things. I’m about to embark on a moderately stressful work day and I was getting the urge to buy something but I watched this instead.
You’re so right about it being self-sabotage. It also wouldn’t solve anything, the problem would still be there but I would be further away from my goals than before. Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re doing an excellent job
I really enjoyed this thank you so much. I'm a lot better this year than I have been in the previous years. I was definitely a shop acholic . It really started when my youngest was born and my husband worked away and we moved to s town where I knew no one. I used to go into this shop because the ladies were so motherly and shop. I sometimes went in everyday. Out of loneliness. Hate to think how much I spent. I now spend time walking , reading and doing things I love. I give myself a bit of money to shop. It's such a learning curve but I'm learning all the time. I had to realise I was filling a void in me with shopping . Had to face my hard facts which isn't always easy.
It is a perfect video for me and am trying to get out from my impulsive shopping
Really needed to watch this. I have some new strategies to try out because of this video, thank you so much. It’s been dark times. 🙏🏽
I really needed this! I only work part time because I am a college student but I see that I spend money on little things because it's fun or some items are just cute. I am going to try to be stricter with myself because I find it so hard to be strict with myself. I feel inspired to plan out where my money goes and have a budget. I hope Ill be able to keep my budget and really buy things that I totally love and know are worth the money I have available in my budget. Thanks Canna! X
Thank you. I am very very close to having a internet shopping addiction. I don’t have many of those signs. But I am getting delivery’s nearly every day. And my husband wants me to stop. I am living with in our means and Don’t shop on credit. But I buy “bargains” that I don’t need and don’t last. I have banned my self for at least a month.
It is hard but you will find that you do not miss it after a while. Good luck xCC
I have struggled with shopping addiction for as long as I can remember. I live with Type 2 Bi-Polar and ADHD. I was diagnosed this year and have suddenly started to gain a little bit of impulse control after beginning medication. It's still a problem but now I have hope. Thank you so much for sharing this video with us. 💗
I have 4 out of the 7 signs - thank you for this rude awakening
Thank you so much for this video, Canna!! I recently came out to my partner about my hidden purchases & addiction. I also came face to face how much I'd spent which would've covered my costs for a holiday I have planned in Feb. so goals are in placed to put what would be my shopping money to an account for that holiday and hopefully can finally afford that bag I want for my birthday next year too!
This video came at a very appropriate time as I've just recently blown through my savings and I literally can't get money out at the ATM. I'm also unemployed at the moment which is not good news. I'm not an extravagant shopper per se, but I do splurge on certain nice things without crunching the numbers and thinking twice and that really needs to change. Love these super practical tips. Thanks mum!!!!
John Law you are welcome John. Maybe having a think about your goals, values and dreams could be worth while so that you can set yourself a good game plan ? Time to ignite your inner motivation!!! xCC
This is going to sound so silly 😂 but I have a pandora charm addiction. I've spent thousands. The thing is I only have 2 wrists and tons of completed bracelets. I need to stop! This video helped, thanks 👍
Shopping to fill a empty void.
Thank you for sharing your experience with shopping addiction. I find myself disciplining myself and then going bad to my old habits. These were some really coping tips and one thing I will do is invest in things that can help me grow as person or talents rather than just make me look good.
I’ve realize I have a shopping addiction! I know what triggers me to shop more! When I get calls from my favorite boutiques shops, letting me know they have the cuties tops in and how wonderful they would look on me! They just realed me in!! Other times depression. It is a high, but the high doesnt last long. I now use cash only. It is so much harder! To let go of that cash! For sure!! I have a ways to go but, have come to the realization that I do have a problem! Taking baby steps , to be happier without the need to shop all the time! Thank you for this video🙂
Thank you for this video, I've been struggling with this ever since I lost my entire wardrobe to a water damaged home. I got sort of obsessed with replacing my wardrobe and it became a habit to go to discount stores where I'd occasionally find a "treasure" for a bargain. The rush I get is addicting. It's amazing how these smaller purchases add up and half the stuff I end up not liking later on because it was bought impulsively. I have a pit of anxiety in my stomach all the time because of it and I know it's not good but I do it anyway. All of your suggestions sound helpful and realistic and I'm making a commitment right here and now to change my habits and set some goals for myself. I'm thinking about all the time I could use for developing my talents, exercise, reading, etc instead of shopping, and how great it would feel to be debt free and have more savings.
This was a very helpful video. Thank you so much... I’m dealing with the problem for more than 30 years... It’s gotten worst but now I am aware and I WILL do something about it. Thank you so much for your help
I was hooked on the shopping network & ended up with stuff that I didn’t like & spent way too much! I won’t turn those channels on anymore!
Oh gosh those shopping channels are dangerous! They should come with warnings! Switch off and unsubscribe! xCC
Yes, I'm coming clean I have a shopping addiction, for sometime now, every sign you mentioned I raised my hand to. I plan to break this habit by being honest with myself and focus on solutions. I'm in credit card debt and it doesn't feel good at all. I have plenty of material things but no money saved at all because i have none to save because of my shopping. I keep shopping knowing that I need to payoff bills. To be honest I'm stressed and want to be free. I appreciate your videos, so helpful. I'm going to watch this video again.
I needed to watch this today.
Thank you for this video. I have been trying to learn more about this addiction seeing as I went from alcohol and drugs to now shopping. At first telling myself atleast I'm not using...it is just as bad. It is the behavior. I am grateful you listed some ways work with turning the addiction around and saving for a better life and outlook on life. Grateful to all the people who shared their experience as well. It's nice to know we are not alone.
Wow. This hit home. I also have a new baby. But this behaviour is not new to me. I had a plan, but something comes over me when I'm in a store. It's a feeling of satisfaction until I get to the till, pay, then leave. Then guilt and shame rush in. I have a spending addiction. I'm on maternity leave and have a small income. My husband is concerned, as am I. I'm ready to change. To become excited for the future, not just the pleasure of right now. Thank you for this video.
I needed this right now - perfect timing. Thank you!
Brilliant video... Thanks for this... Iam currently on a DMP (debt management plan) through my addiction of buying and selling mobile phones and contracts... What helped me was stop watching RUclips videos on mobile phone reviews and visiting 2nd hand stores like CEX and Game and the Mobile phone outlets (EE, O2, Carphone warehouse...etc), also asking myself "is it a need or a want".... Its hard and i have tripped a few times (sold a phone) but quickly got back up again because i bought a cheaper one... So didnt spend more... Its strange,, i believed a phone would change my life or do different things to the last one, instead of it just being a functional item... but its my fault, Iam responsible for the this, not RUclips, Cex or Carphone...Me, i did this to myself and i own it.... I just have to get through it... Thanks for this video
I online shop because I’ve got depression and undiagnosed ADHD... I spend all of my money on food and clothes and have little to nothing to show for it. I get excited about new drinks and candles. Thank you for this video, I start getting help today.
I shop because I'm a recovering alcoholic (3 years sober woop!), but i replaced the alcohol for overeating and buying home decor and clothes mainly. I also have cptsd and borderline personality disorder, so I know I'm just trying to fill the empty void and loneliness I feel most of the time , despite having an amazing network of friends. I've decluttered Alot over the past 2 years but have only just decided to start saving up for driving lessons and either a campervan to travel the world in. Or to invest to start myown business one day...its hard to plan when you're struggling to find your way in life but I'm just trying to find enjoyment out of the little things in life (knitting and my cats) and I understand now that shopping just makes me feel crap. I know I used to buy so many clothes because I was desperate to feel like I 'passed ' as pretty but deep down never felt good enough nomatter what I bought. So I'm working on understanding my self worth just as I am. It's really hard,its like a foreign language but I'm working really hard on it and ultimately, that's all we can do xxxxx
congratulations on your sobriety! Have you heard of Cr'appy Childhood Fairy? She's a therapist named Anna who makes content about c-ptsd coping. Her videos help me a lot 🥰
This was an excellent video. I"m 70 years old and coming to terms with the fact that I've developed a serious shopping addiction in retirement. I watch alot of the homeshopping networks like QVC and HSN.. There are so many reasons for it. Its mostly clothes. I believe the clothes thing is because as a young person, I had so many body image issues that I didn't want to shop for clothes and didn't get them. I was a large size but still very pretty. I can see that now. I just couldn't face dressing room mirrors but you don't have to with home shopping. It comes to your door. Besides making up for clothes that I didn't buy when I was young, watching these channels and connecting to these hosts which are quite entertaining fills a void. Sometimes I just want escapism. Reading a book, watching a great series on Netflix, studying on Creative Live are all good things I do but sometimes I just want to watch something that I really don't have to concentrate on. One thing I've found that does help that and takes me away from the television is getting a big cup of coffee and going to the park. I sit on a bench and sip. Being in nature helps me think straight and I get some Vit D too. I just recently told my daughter about the addiction. Of course she already knew and she was the one who suggested I watch this video. It was really helpful to tell her. I also think she likes knowing I'm not perfect and I need her sometimes. We decided that she would come to my house, block the channels and not tell me the code for starters. I did the budget thing but budgets on paper don't mean anything if you don't follow them. I need to follow it. This video was very helpful. I identified with all 7 signs. I need a community. Sorry I rambled on. Thanks so much. Do more. I need it.
Thanks Canna. Your videos are always so helpful and encouraging to me!
Thank you so much for this powerful message. I always need to hear this, coz I love to shop. But I came to the realization this year, that I cannot continue to lie to myself and live this kind of life. Lipsticks used to be my thing, and food.
Really great video. You are a good presenter. Well informed and I feel that you genuinely care. Well done.
This just came up in my feed, I know it's an old video but thank you, this was helpful!
I guess some people don't take shopping addiction seriously because it's not seen as a very serious addiction compared to drug or alcohol addiction which directly affects one's health to a high degree. However, the massive financial problems that can come from having a shopping addiction are real and it's a stressful issue for many people, western women in particular, and it can of course, affect one's health. We're exposed to targeted advertising constantly, every day, and are pressured to look a certain way to be accepted in society. This is unhelpful - but we can overcome that.
I do have a shopping problem and I'll be doing a 'low-buy' year in 2021 to try to change this. I've set shopping rules for myself, but basically there will be no purchasing fashion or beauty products (excluding hygiene products). I have enough clothes and shoes for 3 people, maybe more! I shop out of boredom (usually at work).
Oh my god. I felt 5/7 of the signs in my soul. My mother calls me out all the time. It’s gotten to the point where I sneak packages into the house now. My addiction has especially manifested now during quarantine where I’ve spent SO MUCH online shopping. And then I feel so sad afterwards. Hopefully this helps. Thank you (:
Good video. I fall into this in time periods, related to depression. Unfortunately I'm in that phase now. Substituting for exercise or painting is good.
Canna this was wonderful! These are my most favorite of your videos (love them all though ...) - the ones where you inspire us to get real about our finances and get control. The rest of the world seems to scream ... buy buy buy! Your message is an antidote for the constant message that we need more to be "enough." Thank you for your motivation and for caring about us and our futures. Please keep the inspiration coming!! xoxo
Beth Holmes thank you Beth, I will keep these types of videos coming! xCC
Thank you. I am a shopping addict. I love shopping. I love finding deals. I can't pass up a sale. My house is full of things I do not need. I end up giving away things which only proves I'm actually wasting money. I'm trying to be honest about my addiction.
I struggle with a spending addiction...it’s really bad and sometimes I do it unconsciously. I have great job that I love, and I’ve been trying to save money for the last 6 months...but I just keep spending. I am trying to follow Dave Ramsey and The Budget Mom but I just keep failing.
It is a literal addition and I have end up in tears multiple times over this. And people always just say, well just stop. Don’t you think I would if I could?? 😞😞
Appreciate so much of your sense of responsibility of financial life. We should be responsible of our own life. Debts are ugly troll that controls many people's life. Thank you for encouraging us to be our better selves and be responsible adults. You are awesome!
You are correct. Thank you for telling the Truth. The Truth will set us Free.
I’ve always loved shopping ever since I was a kid, but as I grew older and had the chance to go shopping by myself, I ended up feeding into my shopping addiction. When I’m not shopping, I feel anxious. It’s hard for me to stay home because I always want to go out and shop. I’ve lost a lot of money and want to change. I’m only a teenager right now but I don’t want to take the bad habits of shopping too much into my future. Thank you for your video it’s very helpful and informative 💕
Thank you for this! I love your content, and needed to hear this after hitting rock bottom and getting in a hole.
Glad to help, wishing you the best!
Wow Canna, this was such a great video! Many important and useful advice, thank you for putting all of your advice together and sharing them, much appreciated. Keep up the good work and the longer videos, you have more time to elaborate! :)
I have all seven signs. So glad this video pointed it out to me.
Thank you i am a total shopoholic but i now know this its took along time ,i have had a great time being carefree and never taking responsibility for my actions,it took until i was 40 i decided to learn to drive it was the first time i had to keep cash in envelopes ready to pay and could not believe how much money i was getting through ,also i could not go out with friends as i had no money because it all went on the three lessons sometimes five a week ,my interests changed i bought a dog i walk i don,t shop all day or lunch out with friends i'm calmer and happier,loved your honesty i just subscribed
Thank you. If you are reading this comment. Just know you are taking the right steps. Keep binging saving videos, make it a habit. I fell to this spending trap too. We will get out of this negative habit.
I've just watched your last vidéo. SO as you know I am back from Holidays and like everyone else I am tempted to buy. since I follow you I watch several times your videos every time I am tempted to spend. I have a passion is to learn and all Your advice helps me day by day and I apply them. So I achieve financial goals👍👏.
thank you for putting it in words, nice point-wise presentation. i had a gut feeling something like this might be happening, business is all about exploiting human psychology for profit.
Just casually really scrolling through Amazon looking at what I'm going to buy next as I listen to her tell me I need to do better. No biggie😭🤦🏽😞🤷🏽
It’s taken me years to admit to myself that I have a problem. I am always finding ways to justify my purchases. I’m ready now to make better choices. I want to have savings and prepare for my future.
You were not being mean. You gave good advice. Thank you. I'm trying to get over a shopping addiction and I am considering becoming a minimalist.
Lol I really need to stop shopping I'm obsessed😂😂