Let's Talk LIVE About Emotional Unavailability in Dating
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 26 сен 2024
- Pre-Order your copy of my new book, Love Life at LoveLifeBook.com
Secure your copy before April 23rd to redeem your bonus package (plus be entered into my exclusive giveaway where you could win a ticket to my in-person retreat and much, much more!).
There is deff a difference between being emotionally unavailable and being guarded and taking time to open up, especially if you've been hurt
Yeah I think a lot of ppl here thing they can just “turn on” their emotional unavailability so they sign get hurt. Don’t think they are understanding what real emotional unavail is. It’s more subconscious. Most ppl who are EmoUnavail aren’t that aware they are that way.
I keep hearing the line, “Rejection is God’s protection.” It can be a reassuring quote when someone rejects us, but it is an extremely humbling inner voice when we do the rejecting.
Was rewarded as a child for suppressing emotions
26:00 Thank you! I’m coming through a situationship, and it’s the greatest life gift. It helped me realise that I’m chasing this emotionally unavailable, guarded, shielded, insecure guy who had a similar upbringing to me because I had always had to earn approval and affection from my dad, who I saw as an authority figure growing up. I have then, recently been fortunately enough to have a few deep and meaningful conversations with my dad, more so than ever before, and there has been many. I have since found that he has learnt so, so much from life, and now he says, from me. I have stopped feeling like a victim. I have always, always been human, and sovereign.
Thank you so much for your vulnerability Matt. It is so needed in this world! I'm going through a hard time rn and re-found your work. It's helping me heal during a breakup and focus on moving forward.
Because of unavailable parents
Unavailable=Its all about me, I don’t like you that much to care. 😂
What makes you so special and different 😂
Indeed
I’m so glad you specifically talk about this topic there’s not much information around this and will love for you to continue to unfold all these doubts we have!! Thank you!!!
I've been too available. I had to reel it in in order to get my life in order. In order to work on myself and grow spiritually.
I feel I attract the ones that are unavailable for fear of repeating mistakes of my past
Happy Birthday.....you have beautiful days ahead.
All of your videos have been amazing Matthew!
I’m a single Mom and I feel like I’m emotionally unavailable to a point because I’ve been hurt. Also I’m so terrified I’ll make a poor choice and it will affect my kids.
I deff attracted - actually went for - emotionally unavailable guys, but I myself give too much emotion. I think I'm attracted to it because my parents were emotionally unavailable so it feels "normal" but it keeps opening those childhood wounds and isn't fulfilling
I resonate with that.
Happy Birthday Celia 🥳
I do atract emotionally unavailable people but that is because i m very patient and independent ..i don t get upset easily !
Thank you so much Matthew!
Thank you for the tip! If you're not embarred.. then it won't be an embarring moment. That's great!
I haven't had a date in over 20 years... I paid to meet someone once 10 years in but that felt worse... I could never work out why it's so hard to meet someone but I'm a loser pretty simple...
You shouldn't say unkind things about yourself. I looked at your channel, you make music (which is a gift), you're handsome and you seem to have a good sense of humour. Be more loving and kind to yourself. Love will find you. Cheers from across the ditch 🇦🇺
Yes Celia! Don’t ever say you’re sooo old! 😂 I’m 58!!!
Yeah, right. "We think that they are valuable, bc they are hard to get" IT IS NOT THE REASON!
Do you realize how hard it is to meet someone in a big city?! We don't chase them bc we don't appreciate ourselves, we just HOPE that something could really work between us! Simply bc we like them, that's that! Beacause they are in our taste! Because we want to feel a real human being near by at least from time to time! Because it is quite rare situation when we have a line of other candidates waiting for us outside the door! Because we think that finally there is someone who would be glad to spend some time with us! That other person makes us feel like we are not alone anymore! It is just a culture of self-centered people now, thanks to coaches, who only repeat themselves all the time:"All you need is yourself! Enjoy YOURSELF! Live life for YOUSELF only!" Etc!
Question so how do I tell the difference between “this is really not my guy” and “ I am just not in because he is available there isn’t a chase
Hello everyone from New Mexico 💗
In my last relationship of almost 23 years, I was always emotionally available. He was not. I tried to open up and help him open up- he couldn’t. Now that I’m single and in my 40’s, I would love to meet someone abs be emotionally available, but I don’t want to. It’s not that I can’t, I know I can. I just don’t want to because I know it requires a lot of effort. Trying to figure out how to want that again.
We are complicated if we are serious minded and are not the best in relationships
if there's only love in the world, heal with love
I divorced after 10 years. I gave myself a year. Now I feel I am emotionally available. I felt numb. So the hurt of rejection was too fresh.
I needed this today. Thank you so much!
Hi Matthew from the UK 😊
Hello! I love your podcast. Ive learned so much. Thank you
Hello from Tel Aviv!!!
Was a really needed live Thank you so much ❤
Motivation
Happy Birthday Celia! 💖 Celia is very pretty!
For me, I am too clingy and needy. And always get attracted to unavailable people (men literally). So I started working on in at my 37
Good evening
Im new to your group
I suspect it is sometimes somehow about power over for the emotionally unavailable person.
Hello hi waiting for your comments to rolling in. Yep being codemned enough which i had enough with many relationships did not meet with what i want to my taste.despite all relationships started with them
Hello Mathew, nice to see you, live from Portugal. Esther (Dutch)
Indeed valuable if that person see me who am truly am 🦋
Because I want to help that person.
I think it's not as simple as "oh you're not ready for a real relationship so you attract duff people". Most of us have ingrained beliefs from the patriarchal society we live in, we might think something someone says is romantic, because Disney said it was, but actually it's a signal of an abusive person. We need more education to fully understand the meaning behind certain phrases used in dating, and what is healthy and what is not. I've seen, in groups studying dating wording, people thinking something was OK, but when broken down, you can see how awful it was in reality.
Hallow Matthew from South Africa
Notice how Matt still used the word "weak" at the end to describe someone who was honest about feeling humiliated 😳
Good morning from Australia - yes very interesting topic
Hello from Australia
I'm here
Hello Matthew! Happy Birthday to Celia!
Hi from Belgium !
Hello, from Toronto, Canada
Hello Matt, you are awesome!
Hi Matthew from Uk❤ yes I have the book So excited
Hahaha. Happy Birthday Cilia! Yes.. not to the older.. that you feel old lol
Hi Matthew from Uk
Enjoyed watching even though a bit late 🤗
Dear Matthew, thank you for your openness in your video about your own emotional unavailability. I would be interested to know what was the reason or why didn't your emotional walls and protective mechanisms come up with Audrey. What feeling did Audrey give you to become emotional available?
Hello from Weatherford Texas
our greatest enemy is fear
I’m watching the replay… I hope my question is in this video. I think it might be.
I am not sure. I think I am emotionally available. But this got me thinking
Hi Matthew!! Big fan!
Hello from Australia!!!
Ordered the audio book❤️
One week to go!!!🤩😍🙌🏽
Traverse City, Michigan
Afraid of being hurt
Right
Wow... this is late indeed!
Im here Mathew
Yes, a bit. Failed marriage and a 15 years relationship.
REnee says hi from South Africa
Dont like to be stuck
Thankyou for all you do... cant stay but bern drinking in your videos thankyou again
Aww, I missed this live! 😍 Just woke up and it's 4:58am now... 💓💞💕
Been trying to get your book and I'm just having difficulty... please help me. I'm from the Philippines (Pasig City).
Hi from Mexico!
I knew it was the end when he got married! No!!! 😩😖☹️
Hey Matthew, hi from Toronto
This is Pearl in Athens.
Happy birthday 🎉❤😊
What is your take i know their avoidant but i saw Ester perel say this is the part of us we don't want to deal with. I suppose if its mild or moderate but not in diagnosed narcissistic? So if part of me is unavailable because my partner says my needs are unimportant and have reach out for years. I will own my distancing. But would love to open up. AIR IS MORE IMPORTANT.
Hi from Colorado
I know whole heartedly what mines distracting me from. Its so hard. I want to be distracted.
Renee from South Africa says hi
Hi from Brooklyn Ny
Howdy from ATX
Hurt too many times
Why do we punish ourselves?!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Hi, all. still someone there
Hey ☺️
Hello Mathew from wales
Dear Matthew, I couldn’t preorder the ebook from Austria :( is there any solution to it ?
Hey there, please email our support team at support@matthewhussey.com and they’ll help you pre-order! -Bianca, MH team
Hello MH!
from 🇬🇧
Hello
Hi Matt!
❤❤❤
Hi Mathew 😊
Springer
Jerry
Present on YT
Hi Hun!
Traverse City, Michigan
Hey Mathew