Sean is so real for saying that he’s afraid to love someone/opening up their heart for them bc they’re gonna be gone someday. I’m the same way and I hate thinking/having that mindset bc it really ruins how you see life and makes you afraid of making certain choices. I’m so happy he brought this up 🫶🏻
literally I never spoke about it before or even said it out loud and hearing him say it was kind of mind blowing idky. Its never happened to me or anyone I know but it became a fear tht I genuinely think is going to happen and its the worst feeling
That's life. If you're fortunate to find someone who cares for you and loves you, why deprive yourself of it just because of that fear? That possibility is always there. I guarantee you when you're looking back, if you had someone by your side that you lost, you're going to be happy you atleast got to experience a part of your life with them and not think why you ever ended up in that relationship in the first place.
Definitely growth but I do think it has something to do with Christine not being there anymore. She was constantly bagging on him for being closed off.. which is not gonna make a person open up so her not being there anymore definitely helped in my opinion
@@oookie1946 Yeah I kinda agree. I do like her and her inputs when she was on the pod but she was a little too straightforward(?) sometimes and while there’s nothing wrong with that, it can be uncomfortable for the other person. I remember in a previous podcast when Sean would say he’s emotionless (or struggling recognizing his emotions) Christine told him that she wants to talk to his sister and idk it just felt too much 😭 but like I said I like Christine and I believe she had good intentions but her execution wasn’t always the best
@@iamwattpadandrhyslarsentrashi think it’s ‘cause christine is not really a close friends to them. and to be fair at that time sean and christine is still new to the podcast.
I never comment but something about the moment at 19:26 where sage and Sean open up and sage says "I never met anybody that thinks like that too," really hit me and I thought it was so beautiful that they've been friends for so too long and this podcast allows them to get to know them better each day. I also love how much we get to learn about you guys and it allows us to reflect on ourselves when you guys ask the hard hitting questions. Much love
I’m a silent viewer and have always felt cringey leaving comments. For this episode tho, I want to express appreciation for your content. I’ve been watching consistently for abt 2 years now and I love the direction y’all have gone. The level of growth and maturity is really refreshing and y’all may not know it, but the topics you covered today really reach a lot of people. Thanks for deciding to have a deep, vulnerable episode. It makes the rest of us feel a little less alone :)
Nah cz i js want nick and maru’s friendship like in the first question when maru was answering n she felt like she was gonna cry nick js instantly knew and got tissues for her and before that when she didn’t answer he elaborated on his answer to try and make maru feel more comfortable for feeling what she’s feeling like their friendship is js so wholesome.
My heart goes out to Maru. When she started tearing up I felt that. It's hard to open up and I am proud of you for doing so! I know this because I too can't talk about these subjects with just anyone and not feel a flood of emotions pouring out of me. 😢
i understand sage and sean’s fears about losing the ones we love and being feared about dying. it’s so terrifying and my anxiety always gets the best of me, but remember everyone anxiety doesn’t control you, you control it; your mind is your temple and so is your body, so treat it right and treat it like you are so much more important than your worries and fears. pray, find a motive, create calmness in the chaos.
Oh so we all crying tonight. No but on a serious note thank you for sharing part of your past and present. It is hard to open up to friends and even harder to open up for the whole world to see. For anyone reading this don’t give up. It will get better and you are loved. The world is a harsh place but they are people who will love you for who you are. Thank you you guys for making this a safe place for many and thank you for opening up to us. ❤
27:07 nick 100x yes i saw this one quote on twi that said “if you grew up with an angry man in the house there will always be an angry man in your house but the angry man is you” & that altered my brain 😵💫
Sean and Sage talking about their struggles with family illness and Maru’s issues with feeling validated in her pain made me cry bc damn their pain is so apparent. Also Nick lore is getting cray!
As a younger millennial (29) I think the thing I enjoy most about this pod is the fact I get to see these guys grow. They are one the more positive pieces to the influencer puzzle, which is so important for this current generation. They represent the importance of community and I hope they continue to flourish so more young people can be exposed to said importance. There’s a lot of lonely people out in the world and I genuinely think this group can make a real difference.
this episode is by far one of my favorite ones. This was everything I needed to hear and it is so comforting to know others have experienced loss and are open to talk about it. I can't wait until I can tell people about my mom and grandparents.
fear of losing someone and loving someone new is so real. This part made me tear up cause I remember watching my grandparents slowly slip away; that's why I really loathe hospitals, and funerals cause it just brings me back to that moment. :( whew. Sage and Sean were so real for this. Damn.
Im very proud at how well spoken Nick really is with his and other peoples emotions. Even though he giggles and jokes alot, he really is a good and mature man
nicks thing about the parents 27:13 going to a 10 is so real. my dad was the same my whole life and now when i get in arguments i would take it to a 10 rather then moderate it. i get it nick
maru ilysm i relate to everything you said and i grew up feeling soooo alone and i hate that there are so many people that have gone through similar experiences hearing you talk about it really makes me feel seen and i understand how hard it can be talking abt it so thank u sm
15:28 omg cynthia i feel that so hard 😭 i am an emotional person but i also hateee being vulnerable around people and kinda like distance myself from my own emotions and as a result theirs? like i feel bad for them, but i don’t know how to handle or comfort people crying to me
This episode was soooo good 😭 I found myself crying when you guys were talking about loved ones dying to cancer, which is crazy cuz I never cry about anything ever. But Nick's story about his Tia and how he couldn't process his emotions just broke me down because I'm literally the same way. When my grandma died to cancer I didn't cry, when my Godmother died to covid I didn't cry, and when my Aunt died due to illness, I didn't cry, even though I was super close to all of them, I genuinely didn't know how to process my emotions and would just watch my family members break down and cry and I used to think for the longest that something was genuinely wrong with me. But hearing you guys voice that you also struggle with the same thing just makes me feel like I'm not alone haha. So thank you guysss lol I love you so so much!
It’s nice to see y’all open up once in a while because while it’s nice to have laughs, y’all are also real people and we get to see another side of y’all.
The only thing I watch anymore is suburb talks and it's simply because you guys have a different energy that just lightens up my day. I love the fact y'all are so close together so that you guys can joke around but be serious and vulnerable as well. I admire that a lot and I hope everyone here finds their own group like this
I love that there able to have such great boundaries enough to say no when they don’t want to answer a question!! Really shows comfortable everyone is and how much they know they’ll understand there feelings.
I literally felt so seen when Maru started talking about not being able to talk about their feeling due to being afraid of being seen as over dramatic, genuinely my loved this one 🫶🏼
i saw a quote that said “I WAS TAUGHT THAT KEEPING QUIET KEPT THE PEACE UNTIL I REALISED WHOSE PEACE IS IT KEEPING? THEY WERE AT PEACE, AND I IN THAT LITTLE BODY WAS HOLDING ALL OF THE WAR, AND I DIDNT WANT TO HOLD IT ANYMORE.”
my dad was fighting cancer for the past 5-6 years, & we just lost him a couple months ago, so hearing people my age talk about similar experiences -- Sean with his dad being sick & feeling pressure to be the "rock" in his relationships with his mom/sister, Sage talking about the fear of illness/hurting your loved ones because of it, Nick talking about how we can start to avoid seeing our loved ones & miss out on time with them b/c we subconsciously protect ourselves from the hurt of watching them fade away, Cynthia+Sean talking about the avoidance & "I don't know" explanation of it all with their families, Maru talking about "bottling up" her emotions -- was so eye-opening (in a good way) and made me feel less alone in my own experiences with those struggles too. The switch to deeper topics/convos was really cool to listen to, because most people don't think about how heavily you think about (and are affected by) things like that when you're young, so you guys talking about it is setting an awesome example for the young people watching by showing them that it's okay to feel it & talk about it. I know that this made me look at love/family/loss in my life differently (by showing me that I'm not alone in these experiences) -- and I'm sure it has done/will do the same for others watching out there too. Thank you so so much for being vulnerable & sharing as much as you guys felt comfortable -- we appreciate the authenticity so much.
Oh no, not me crying with the first question answers. I’m happy you guys decided to talk about it, because it’s relatable, it helps process what you went through and how that affects you nowadays!!
watching this like y'all are my besties and we're being there for each other. it's so refreshing to see all of you share such personal stories, especially the guys because I feel like male emotional intelligence and vulnerability is not prioritized. thank you guys for being so brave, sending so much love
i love maru so much her voice breaking during talking about her family was so heartbreaking and so relatable holding in most of your problems cause they"d be invalidated making you pile it up and having it come up all at once in a bad outburst
it takes a lot to talk about these things, and im rlly proud of yall for being able to open up and be vulnerable about your feelings :’) i love yall & keep doing what you guys do
I felt like crying this whole pod, was so nice to hear all these topics get spoken about and hear different experiences, being able to relate. lots of love to you guys xx
Gotta applaud Sean for picking up that question it really was a great start, it’s like another aspects of you guys I was introduced to and we got to know you better, gotta say my fav podcast episode so far
I definitely teared up a few times throughout the video and im not even done w it but i rlly love y’all so much. The facts that u guys are willing to talk abt topics like these and post them means so much for so many people and makes me feel like y’all are rlly my family fr 🤍🤍
i’m so glad nick brought up him and his parents + sister dynamic when it came to fights bc i’m the same way with my family. i’m so patient and bite my tongue with friends, strangers, and other adults if they make me mad but when it comes to my parents and brother, they really do bring the worst out of me. i swear my family LOVES to push my buttons and push boundaries but not only that, they refuse to stop yelling when communicating. it’s so damn hard dealing with it
this episode actually made me cry. i really loved hearing everyone’s experiences throughout their life. i relate to Maru on the feeling like i shouldn’t be able to speak up. i think it’s a thing with asian parents, cause that’s what i dealt with my mother. our childhoods really do mess us up😞but i love how yall came out stronger and better☺️
Love how yall can open up with eachother and let us see it , it shows the true strength of yalls friendship, and i definitely feel maru and nick on the parent thing , it always felt like we'd be great or nearly fist fighting , so it was so hard to talk to them aboyt anything rlly
gawd when maru started talking oh i was bawling i fear, i resonated with it sm. feeling like a bother, it’s something i’m still navigating n healing from bc it still happens till this day. and same with cynthia like staying in my room n not opening up bru 😭
thank you guys for opening up. You guys have no idea how much you guys are helping people who think they are alone and feel like no one has thoughts like them. We appreciate you guys. Never suffer in silence. ❤❤
Not even all the way through the video. And I want to commend you guys for having the maturity and vulnerability to be real with your audience. At the end of the day what brings people together is the fact that we share similar experiences, good and bad, because we are human. Who knows who you guys might of helped by sharing your stories. I truly think our generation will revolution society from here on out, because of our ability to express ourselves openly. Love this! And I look forward to seeing more of these videos from you guys.❤
that talk abt losing family members at the beginning hit really hard for me, mu uncle passed 5 months ago and ever since the funeral ive been pretty numb abt it but for the last couple months ive been obsessing abt death and dying and thanks to yall talking abt it im realizing it probably was bc of my uncle and unresolved feelings abt him dying(ik its obvious now but like i said i felt numb and just assumed it wasnt affecting me hindsight is 20-20) thanks for the great content and for being so willing to open up in such a personal way to a bunch of internet strangers
Thank you for making this pod cast yall ❤ I feel like lately, your podcasts have been a lot more humor but this specific pod is really bringing me back to the reason why I started listening to you in the first place :’) I love the deep questions and topics so much
Just wanted to say that sage and sean you both are so valid for feeling the way you do!!! for being scared of loosing someone and getting sick. Cancer runs in my family and everytime I feel sick I’m too afraid to tell ANYONE even seeing my family members sick makes me terrified.❤️thank you guys for being so vulnerable and sharing things like this makes me feel less alone.
This is probably my first comment on youtube.. i got so emotional specially when you were talking about sickness and death, i had to watch my mom go through hell with ALS , she was so full of life, beautiful soul and heart and in a 2 years span everything changed and i couldn’t do anything to help her i felt alone and helpless it just sucks i’m now avoidant and in a way i think i lost my empathy, in those years i cut off all my friends and family because i thought they wouldn’t understand and if they did they would not care so why bother, but this channel gave me joy in the midst of grieving so thank you for sharing what you guys went through, this personally made me feel not alone.
thank you for opening up and being vulnerable with us. I really see in these episodes how much I am like all of you. I find It's easier to open up when someone is answering the hard question with you, instead of in some book asking you personal questions.
Dude this podcast gave the vibe of the pods back like a year to a year and 1/2 ago and it was a breath of fresh air to hear the real conversations throughout the episode🫶🏼🦦
I love when Maru talks about her feelings/past, i'm the same way when it comes to talking about my past and don't want to because i know i will cry, it's inspirational to see her talk and start to cry because it's okay to cry! Yall are awesome and inspiring to me and many others
I love episodes like this because sometimes we just feel like we are the only ones going through things but seeing other people talk about things that you are dealing with as well makes you understand that we arnt ever really alone. We all go through a lot of similar things just not a lot of people talk about the deep stuff when sometimes we should.
This session hit really hard, I really liked how you open about your problems, I also feel identified with Maru´s experience. I really love this podcast. Keep it going 😊😊😊😊😊😊
i loved every single one of your guys answer to the first question, thank you for opening up and being vulnerable with us. also just for fun I’d like to answer the question as well. I feel like just having a bad or like chaotic family where most of us arent close at all bc we can’t get along bc of so much gossip, rumors and just hating on one another definitely affects any and all relationships I have whether it’s friends or romantic and including family honestly. Like cynthia mentioned i feel like that’s why i sometimes feel emotionally unavailable, don’t know how to communicate properly and have major trust issues. Which is why i don’t personally have any close friends or family bc it’s always in the back of my mind that theyll never be as genuine as they say and show that they are. anyways sending so much love to you all🤍☺️🫂
I love when you guys go into a deep conversation. Though I’ve the light hearted stuff, I live alone and don’t have many friends and just hearing how comforting you guys are for each other makes me so emotional. And it makes me realize I’m not the only one who thinks about stuff like this. 💞
i’m only at minute 45:00 but maru talking about that comment really made me think so much about Vereena. I am unsure if they have talked about anything publicly but I have watched her since she was in high school and the idea of any one I have grown up with being harmed physically emotionally mentally breaks my heart. I am praying for her and I know you guys are too privately 🫶🏾
I cant deny i sobbed a couple times while watching this. Especially when maru was talking about her struggles with family at 32:34, but in general this video made me tear up for majority of it.
I appreciate ya’ll for being vulnerable for us although it’s tough. I could definitely relate to some of y’all’s life experiences so it was an enjoyable segment to listen to. Supporting you always!
I love yall fr. this podcast is so comforting and I feel SO HEARD and understood without even needing to say anything. pls never stop this. coming from a fam with immigrant parents too and insane family history I literally related to EVERY single thing said in the first question❤❤❤❤ yall are amazing fr!!! NEVER FORGET IT
im ngl, I started watching suburb talks from one video I saw on tiktok for comfort, but ever since its been so much more than comfort! you can feel the genuine energy of each podcast episode. the vulnerability you guys are comfortable sharing with eachother makes me feel okay with my vulnerability
you guys have really changed my perspective on so many social topics. You guys talk about us keeping y’all going, man sometimes these podcasts are the only thing that keep me going, keep me thinking, keep me appreciating how even though humans are so complex, there is beauty to complexity. I have a long drive to commute everyday and these podcasts keep me up, keep me thinking. I even bring these topics to my own friend group to talk about. I remember when y’all mentioned you guys were going to hardsummer, I had already bought tickets and when it came to it, I was in line for food with my group and I manifested “man it’d be crazy if I saw suburb talks right about now.” I kid you not, 20 seconds after saying that to my friends, I looked over and saw Nick. I ran up to you and I was really faded, I was trying to thank you guys for the perspectives of society you guys gave me, but I just ended up mumbling and asking for a picture. You guys are amazing fr 🤝
This honestly is one of my favorite episodes. This honestly helped me realize my problems and you guys always help me realize and have a better mindset and become more mature
Hi Maru, I went through the same thing and I became closed off as a child until I was 20 and started trying to be more vocal about my feelings bc my therapist told me that I can say anything as long as it’s not harmful to others so in dating I’ve gotten better at talking about how I feel but you still have no control over how ppl react to them so :/ but I think me even trying to be more open has made me feel better about myself and I’ve come across ppl who have tried to validate my feelings and it’s nice. I would say that you holding it in is the same as invalidating your own self. You should be with someone who wants to validate and help you talk about your feelings and vice versa like maybe you could tell them that’s one of your struggles so it doesn’t get messy.
I genuinely love you guys so much. The first question made me realize how similar my childhood and traumas are to your guys’. Especially Sean with forcing yourself to stop feeling so much in order to be the rock for your family.
sage is so real. a lot of women in my family have been diagnosed with breast cancer n everytime i feel a lil pain or soreness or something, i feel like this is it. my life is over. n i wish i wasnt so anxious all the time about it but i think about how many family members my mom has lost and im scared of leaving her alone or being left alone. its only us two so its on my mind a lot
Sean is so real for saying that he’s afraid to love someone/opening up their heart for them bc they’re gonna be gone someday. I’m the same way and I hate thinking/having that mindset bc it really ruins how you see life and makes you afraid of making certain choices. I’m so happy he brought this up 🫶🏻
literally I never spoke about it before or even said it out loud and hearing him say it was kind of mind blowing idky. Its never happened to me or anyone I know but it became a fear tht I genuinely think is going to happen and its the worst feeling
That's life. If you're fortunate to find someone who cares for you and loves you, why deprive yourself of it just because of that fear? That possibility is always there. I guarantee you when you're looking back, if you had someone by your side that you lost, you're going to be happy you atleast got to experience a part of your life with them and not think why you ever ended up in that relationship in the first place.
not to make it unserious or anything but hes giving anthony bridgerton from brigerton
time stamp?
Literally
sean being able to open up so much now makes me tear up. thank you all for being so vulnerable
literally!!!
Definitely growth but I do think it has something to do with Christine not being there anymore. She was constantly bagging on him for being closed off.. which is not gonna make a person open up so her not being there anymore definitely helped in my opinion
@@oookie1946 Yeah I kinda agree. I do like her and her inputs when she was on the pod but she was a little too straightforward(?) sometimes and while there’s nothing wrong with that, it can be uncomfortable for the other person. I remember in a previous podcast when Sean would say he’s emotionless (or struggling recognizing his emotions) Christine told him that she wants to talk to his sister and idk it just felt too much 😭 but like I said I like Christine and I believe she had good intentions but her execution wasn’t always the best
@@iamwattpadandrhyslarsentrashi think it’s ‘cause christine is not really a close friends to them. and to be fair at that time sean and christine is still new to the podcast.
@@kaideloscopeyeah exactly she wasn’t close friends with them so her being straightforward with him overstepped a boundary 😭
I never comment but something about the moment at 19:26 where sage and Sean open up and sage says "I never met anybody that thinks like that too," really hit me and I thought it was so beautiful that they've been friends for so too long and this podcast allows them to get to know them better each day. I also love how much we get to learn about you guys and it allows us to reflect on ourselves when you guys ask the hard hitting questions. Much love
cynthia checking in on maru @ 34:46 is so wholesome
Maru crying breaks my heart 💔But all of you handled it so well you guys are great friends 🫶🏻
where did she do this?
@@maikaham5715 31:27
@@maikaham5715 32:18
I’m a silent viewer and have always felt cringey leaving comments. For this episode tho, I want to express appreciation for your content. I’ve been watching consistently for abt 2 years now and I love the direction y’all have gone. The level of growth and maturity is really refreshing and y’all may not know it, but the topics you covered today really reach a lot of people. Thanks for deciding to have a deep, vulnerable episode. It makes the rest of us feel a little less alone :)
literally same 😭
I’ve only felt comfortable commenting w them 😭
🫶🏽🫶🏽
This!!! 🥹
i am a silent viewer too, this episode touched me
Nah cz i js want nick and maru’s friendship like in the first question when maru was answering n she felt like she was gonna cry nick js instantly knew and got tissues for her and before that when she didn’t answer he elaborated on his answer to try and make maru feel more comfortable for feeling what she’s feeling like their friendship is js so wholesome.
maru being like “i don’t know if i’m doing the right thing” and then turning to nick and saying “what do u think” OMG SHES SO CUTE
Time stamp?
Even when she was crying she kept looking at him you can tell he is her safe person they have a great friendship!
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wait that was such a cute moment- my heartttt
Let’s start the NARU EDDDIIITTTTSSSS
maru is so funny help " i saved sean from a predator"
The way her voice dropped😭
Because she was like "uh uh thAT is MY man!" and then she dropped it to the floor
fr they be bashing her but she’s a comedic genius ong😭
My heart goes out to Maru. When she started tearing up I felt that. It's hard to open up and I am proud of you for doing so! I know this because I too can't talk about these subjects with just anyone and not feel a flood of emotions pouring out of me. 😢
My comfort people ❣️
Agreed❤
Yes!!!❤️🩹
Same fam ❤️
Always ❤❤
literally
i understand sage and sean’s fears about losing the ones we love and being feared about dying. it’s so terrifying and my anxiety always gets the best of me, but remember everyone anxiety doesn’t control you, you control it; your mind is your temple and so is your body, so treat it right and treat it like you are so much more important than your worries and fears. pray, find a motive, create calmness in the chaos.
Not Maru and Sean saving each other🥹👀
Well yea they’re friends
Time stamp I thought it was Cynthia not maru?
3:58
Their voices breaking when they’re talking is making me tear up 🥹
literally didn’t expect to cry sm
Maru sitting as far away from Sean as she can get to avoid the saru edits 😂😂
25:48 nick and sean asking maru if she has anything she wants to say because she was quiet the whole time was so wholesome
The dynamic of y’all’s friend group to be able to protect eachother like that is so good to see 😭‼️🩷
Oh so we all crying tonight. No but on a serious note thank you for sharing part of your past and present. It is hard to open up to friends and even harder to open up for the whole world to see. For anyone reading this don’t give up. It will get better and you are loved. The world is a harsh place but they are people who will love you for who you are. Thank you you guys for making this a safe place for many and thank you for opening up to us. ❤
Thank you for sharing that beautiful message 🫶🏽🫶🏽
27:07 nick 100x yes i saw this one quote on twi that said “if you grew up with an angry man in the house there will always be an angry man in your house but the angry man is you” & that altered my brain 😵💫
The legalize eating ass cup in the middle of this serious episode😭
Always somethin😭
😭
LMAOOO
3:15 some girl grabbing her face to kiss THAT IS CRAZY and sean and maru saving eachother is the best thing ever
Not the gaslighting about veggies 😂 probably why nick is a pro gaslighter
Yes😭
Sean and Sage talking about their struggles with family illness and Maru’s issues with feeling validated in her pain made me cry bc damn their pain is so apparent. Also Nick lore is getting cray!
"some may say, but few know😭", sage is so funny
As a younger millennial (29) I think the thing I enjoy most about this pod is the fact I get to see these guys grow. They are one the more positive pieces to the influencer puzzle, which is so important for this current generation. They represent the importance of community and I hope they continue to flourish so more young people can be exposed to said importance. There’s a lot of lonely people out in the world and I genuinely think this group can make a real difference.
this episode is by far one of my favorite ones. This was everything I needed to hear and it is so comforting to know others have experienced loss and are open to talk about it. I can't wait until I can tell people about my mom and grandparents.
this is def the best seating arrangement
fear of losing someone and loving someone new is so real. This part made me tear up cause I remember watching my grandparents slowly slip away; that's why I really loathe hospitals, and funerals cause it just brings me back to that moment. :( whew. Sage and Sean were so real for this. Damn.
Im very proud at how well spoken Nick really is with his and other peoples emotions. Even though he giggles and jokes alot, he really is a good and mature man
Maru wasn’t saving a friend, she was saving her mans 🤣
nicks thing about the parents 27:13 going to a 10 is so real. my dad was the same my whole life and now when i get in arguments i would take it to a 10 rather then moderate it. i get it nick
maru ilysm i relate to everything you said and i grew up feeling soooo alone and i hate that there are so many people that have gone through similar experiences hearing you talk about it really
makes me feel seen and i understand how hard it can be talking abt it so thank u sm
15:28 omg cynthia i feel that so hard 😭 i am an emotional person but i also hateee being vulnerable around people and kinda like distance myself from my own emotions and as a result theirs? like i feel bad for them, but i don’t know how to handle or comfort people crying to me
yesss omg I feel u
This episode was soooo good 😭 I found myself crying when you guys were talking about loved ones dying to cancer, which is crazy cuz I never cry about anything ever. But Nick's story about his Tia and how he couldn't process his emotions just broke me down because I'm literally the same way. When my grandma died to cancer I didn't cry, when my Godmother died to covid I didn't cry, and when my Aunt died due to illness, I didn't cry, even though I was super close to all of them, I genuinely didn't know how to process my emotions and would just watch my family members break down and cry and I used to think for the longest that something was genuinely wrong with me. But hearing you guys voice that you also struggle with the same thing just makes me feel like I'm not alone haha. So thank you guysss lol I love you so so much!
Sean saying this is a fun one before reading the question and then going into the deepest hardest conversation ever
It’s nice to see y’all open up once in a while because while it’s nice to have laughs, y’all are also real people and we get to see another side of y’all.
Devin’s “legalize eating ass mug” got me gassed 💀
The only thing I watch anymore is suburb talks and it's simply because you guys have a different energy that just lightens up my day. I love the fact y'all are so close together so that you guys can joke around but be serious and vulnerable as well. I admire that a lot and I hope everyone here finds their own group like this
this friendship is so healthy i love seeing them like this
I love that there able to have such great boundaries enough to say no when they don’t want to answer a question!! Really shows comfortable everyone is and how much they know they’ll understand there feelings.
I literally felt so seen when Maru started talking about not being able to talk about their feeling due to being afraid of being seen as over dramatic, genuinely my loved this one 🫶🏼
cynthia speaking facts @52:40 maru pls film/post the content YOU want. i only love watching ur vids cuz it's YOUR vids
Maru asking Nick if he thinks she’s doing the right thing with her RUclips was so precious 🥹🫶🏼 51:00
protect maru at all costs 🥺💗
Devin is so in touch with his emotions it’s so beautiful to see a guy have this level of vulnerability
i saw a quote that said “I WAS TAUGHT THAT KEEPING QUIET KEPT THE PEACE UNTIL I REALISED WHOSE PEACE IS IT KEEPING? THEY WERE AT PEACE, AND I IN THAT LITTLE BODY WAS HOLDING ALL OF THE WAR, AND I DIDNT WANT TO HOLD IT ANYMORE.”
my dad was fighting cancer for the past 5-6 years, & we just lost him a couple months ago, so hearing people my age talk about similar experiences -- Sean with his dad being sick & feeling pressure to be the "rock" in his relationships with his mom/sister, Sage talking about the fear of illness/hurting your loved ones because of it, Nick talking about how we can start to avoid seeing our loved ones & miss out on time with them b/c we subconsciously protect ourselves from the hurt of watching them fade away, Cynthia+Sean talking about the avoidance & "I don't know" explanation of it all with their families, Maru talking about "bottling up" her emotions -- was so eye-opening (in a good way) and made me feel less alone in my own experiences with those struggles too.
The switch to deeper topics/convos was really cool to listen to, because most people don't think about how heavily you think about (and are affected by) things like that when you're young, so you guys talking about it is setting an awesome example for the young people watching by showing them that it's okay to feel it & talk about it. I know that this made me look at love/family/loss in my life differently (by showing me that I'm not alone in these experiences) -- and I'm sure it has done/will do the same for others watching out there too. Thank you so so much for being vulnerable & sharing as much as you guys felt comfortable -- we appreciate the authenticity so much.
Oh no, not me crying with the first question answers. I’m happy you guys decided to talk about it, because it’s relatable, it helps process what you went through and how that affects you nowadays!!
sean not being able to empathize with people's issues (like whats annoying etc) bc he only couldve worried abt the big things ☹️☹️☹️
watching this like y'all are my besties and we're being there for each other. it's so refreshing to see all of you share such personal stories, especially the guys because I feel like male emotional intelligence and vulnerability is not prioritized. thank you guys for being so brave, sending so much love
i love maru so much her voice breaking during talking about her family was so heartbreaking and so relatable holding in most of your problems cause they"d be invalidated making you pile it up and having it come up all at once in a bad outburst
it takes a lot to talk about these things, and im rlly proud of yall for being able to open up and be vulnerable about your feelings :’) i love yall & keep doing what you guys do
I felt like crying this whole pod, was so nice to hear all these topics get spoken about and hear different experiences, being able to relate. lots of love to you guys xx
Gotta applaud Sean for picking up that question it really was a great start, it’s like another aspects of you guys I was introduced to and we got to know you better, gotta say my fav podcast episode so far
I definitely teared up a few times throughout the video and im not even done w it but i rlly love y’all so much. The facts that u guys are willing to talk abt topics like these and post them means so much for so many people and makes me feel like y’all are rlly my family fr 🤍🤍
i’m so glad nick brought up him and his parents + sister dynamic when it came to fights bc i’m the same way with my family. i’m so patient and bite my tongue with friends, strangers, and other adults if they make me mad but when it comes to my parents and brother, they really do bring the worst out of me. i swear my family LOVES to push my buttons and push boundaries but not only that, they refuse to stop yelling when communicating. it’s so damn hard dealing with it
Y'all saved my life and I genuinely mean that. I just wanna say you guys feel like home to me, every single one of you guys has taught me something
Sean calling Maru “my dawg” ahh I love their friendship sm ❤️🩹❤️🩹
Can we get yalls siblings on the podcast??
Omg yes!!
@user-tu3tu6xe6ti’m pretty sure maru only has younger siblings
@user-tu3tu6xe6t haha don’t quote me on it because i’m not 100% sure. but i do remember her mentioning it on a podcast :)
this episode actually made me cry. i really loved hearing everyone’s experiences throughout their life. i relate to Maru on the feeling like i shouldn’t be able to speak up. i think it’s a thing with asian parents, cause that’s what i dealt with my mother. our childhoods really do mess us up😞but i love how yall came out stronger and better☺️
Saige: throat goat ? Some may say, few will know 😂😂😂😂 quote of the year !
Insane quote 😭
nahhh go back nicks mom took the CHEESE OFF the pizza and IRON in apple juice LMAOO
Lmaoo
ya'll don't even understand how much I love this friend group
Love how yall can open up with eachother and let us see it , it shows the true strength of yalls friendship, and i definitely feel maru and nick on the parent thing , it always felt like we'd be great or nearly fist fighting , so it was so hard to talk to them aboyt anything rlly
gawd when maru started talking oh i was bawling i fear, i resonated with it sm. feeling like a bother, it’s something i’m still navigating n healing from bc it still happens till this day. and same with cynthia like staying in my room n not opening up bru 😭
when maru cries my heart cries with her😭😭😭 love yall for opening up so much!
thank you guys for opening up. You guys have no idea how much you guys are helping people who think they are alone and feel like no one has thoughts like them. We appreciate you guys. Never suffer in silence. ❤❤
Not even all the way through the video. And I want to commend you guys for having the maturity and vulnerability to be real with your audience. At the end of the day what brings people together is the fact that we share similar experiences, good and bad, because we are human. Who knows who you guys might of helped by sharing your stories. I truly think our generation will revolution society from here on out, because of our ability to express ourselves openly. Love this! And I look forward to seeing more of these videos from you guys.❤
that talk abt losing family members at the beginning hit really hard for me, mu uncle passed 5 months ago and ever since the funeral ive been pretty numb abt it but for the last couple months ive been obsessing abt death and dying and thanks to yall talking abt it im realizing it probably was bc of my uncle and unresolved feelings abt him dying(ik its obvious now but like i said i felt numb and just assumed it wasnt affecting me hindsight is 20-20) thanks for the great content and for being so willing to open up in such a personal way to a bunch of internet strangers
Sage, Cynthia and maru being so interested in love island is so funny to me I love it
Thank you for making this pod cast yall ❤ I feel like lately, your podcasts have been a lot more humor but this specific pod is really bringing me back to the reason why I started listening to you in the first place :’) I love the deep questions and topics so much
Just wanted to say that sage and sean you both are so valid for feeling the way you do!!! for being scared of loosing someone and getting sick. Cancer runs in my family and everytime I feel sick I’m too afraid to tell ANYONE even seeing my family members sick makes me terrified.❤️thank you guys for being so vulnerable and sharing things like this makes me feel less alone.
This is probably my first comment on youtube.. i got so emotional specially when you were talking about sickness and death, i had to watch my mom go through hell with ALS , she was so full of life, beautiful soul and heart and in a 2 years span everything changed and i couldn’t do anything to help her i felt alone and helpless it just sucks i’m now avoidant and in a way i think i lost my empathy, in those years i cut off all my friends and family because i thought they wouldn’t understand and if they did they would not care so why bother, but this channel gave me joy in the midst of grieving so thank you for sharing what you guys went through, this personally made me feel not alone.
thank you for opening up and being vulnerable with us. I really see in these episodes how much I am like all of you. I find It's easier to open up when someone is answering the hard question with you, instead of in some book asking you personal questions.
Dude this podcast gave the vibe of the pods back like a year to a year and 1/2 ago and it was a breath of fresh air to hear the real conversations throughout the episode🫶🏼🦦
I love when Maru talks about her feelings/past, i'm the same way when it comes to talking about my past and don't want to because i know i will cry, it's inspirational to see her talk and start to cry because it's okay to cry! Yall are awesome and inspiring to me and many others
Love listening to you all talk. I cried when you were talking about your close ones passing and being afraid to face that.
I love episodes like this because sometimes we just feel like we are the only ones going through things but seeing other people talk about things that you are dealing with as well makes you understand that we arnt ever really alone. We all go through a lot of similar things just not a lot of people talk about the deep stuff when sometimes we should.
i loved this segment and how open you all are with each other and respective of what each other when through. literally friend goals
This session hit really hard, I really liked how you open about your problems, I also feel identified with Maru´s experience. I really love this podcast. Keep it going 😊😊😊😊😊😊
i loved every single one of your guys answer to the first question, thank you for opening up and being vulnerable with us. also just for fun I’d like to answer the question as well. I feel like just having a bad or like chaotic family where most of us arent close at all bc we can’t get along bc of so much gossip, rumors and just hating on one another definitely affects any and all relationships I have whether it’s friends or romantic and including family honestly. Like cynthia mentioned i feel like that’s why i sometimes feel emotionally unavailable, don’t know how to communicate properly and have major trust issues. Which is why i don’t personally have any close friends or family bc it’s always in the back of my mind that theyll never be as genuine as they say and show that they are. anyways sending so much love to you all🤍☺️🫂
I love when you guys go into a deep conversation. Though I’ve the light hearted stuff, I live alone and don’t have many friends and just hearing how comforting you guys are for each other makes me so emotional. And it makes me realize I’m not the only one who thinks about stuff like this. 💞
i’m only at minute 45:00 but maru talking about that comment really made me think so much about Vereena. I am unsure if they have talked about anything publicly but I have watched her since she was in high school and the idea of any one I have grown up with being harmed physically emotionally mentally breaks my heart. I am praying for her and I know you guys are too privately 🫶🏾
I cant deny i sobbed a couple times while watching this. Especially when maru was talking about her struggles with family at 32:34, but in general this video made me tear up for majority of it.
I appreciate ya’ll for being vulnerable for us although it’s tough. I could definitely relate to some of y’all’s life experiences so it was an enjoyable segment to listen to. Supporting you always!
I love yall fr. this podcast is so comforting and I feel SO HEARD and understood without even needing to say anything. pls never stop this. coming from a fam with immigrant parents too and insane family history I literally related to EVERY single thing said in the first question❤❤❤❤ yall are amazing fr!!! NEVER FORGET IT
im ngl, I started watching suburb talks from one video I saw on tiktok for comfort, but ever since its been so much more than comfort! you can feel the genuine energy of each podcast episode. the vulnerability you guys are comfortable sharing with eachother makes me feel okay with my vulnerability
you guys have really changed my perspective on so many social topics. You guys talk about us keeping y’all going, man sometimes these podcasts are the only thing that keep me going, keep me thinking, keep me appreciating how even though humans are so complex, there is beauty to complexity. I have a long drive to commute everyday and these podcasts keep me up, keep me thinking. I even bring these topics to my own friend group to talk about. I remember when y’all mentioned you guys were going to hardsummer, I had already bought tickets and when it came to it, I was in line for food with my group and I manifested “man it’d be crazy if I saw suburb talks right about now.” I kid you not, 20 seconds after saying that to my friends, I looked over and saw Nick. I ran up to you and I was really faded, I was trying to thank you guys for the perspectives of society you guys gave me, but I just ended up mumbling and asking for a picture. You guys are amazing fr 🤝
This honestly is one of my favorite episodes. This honestly helped me realize my problems and you guys always help me realize and have a better mindset and become more mature
Hi Maru, I went through the same thing and I became closed off as a child until I was 20 and started trying to be more vocal about my feelings bc my therapist told me that I can say anything as long as it’s not harmful to others so in dating I’ve gotten better at talking about how I feel but you still have no control over how ppl react to them so :/ but I think me even trying to be more open has made me feel better about myself and I’ve come across ppl who have tried to validate my feelings and it’s nice. I would say that you holding it in is the same as invalidating your own self. You should be with someone who wants to validate and help you talk about your feelings and vice versa like maybe you could tell them that’s one of your struggles so it doesn’t get messy.
maru i understand what you’re talking about and it’s so hard. i empathize with you so much💝
52:58 - 53:05 nick be staying a dynthia fan 😂
BEST PART OF MY WEEK 💝
9:45 Cynthia saying “ till June “ has me cryingggg here at work Iove y’all bruh 😂😂😂😂😂
I love the seat change maru looking so much taller
1:00:43 you guys talking love island is so crazy to me 😭 British reality tv will always be on top
Omg Devin’s pain with seeing his sister struggle is so sad. Really valid struggle
I genuinely love you guys so much. The first question made me realize how similar my childhood and traumas are to your guys’. Especially Sean with forcing yourself to stop feeling so much in order to be the rock for your family.
maru just know we all love your videos you been putting out 🫶🏽🫶🏽loved the video yall
sage is so real. a lot of women in my family have been diagnosed with breast cancer n everytime i feel a lil pain or soreness or something, i feel like this is it. my life is over. n i wish i wasnt so anxious all the time about it but i think about how many family members my mom has lost and im scared of leaving her alone or being left alone. its only us two so its on my mind a lot