Yeah, my father was married and divorced 5 times, said about 75 percent of the money he ever made in his life went to ex wives. I know it is not even worth trying to marry at this point, I've seen too much dysfunction to have a good marriage.
Been married 15 years now and the bit about tambourine is so true. The hard part is if another band offers you lead singer, but beware the bait and switch, because you eventually end up on tambourine again.
Coach Greg Adams' "marriage wheel" is undefeated. He says this all the time, "With vvomen, the bait and switch is always in play." That changed me forever. Because I know it's true. I've been divorced after 11 years of marriage and I've been in relationships before that. VVomen always "change the parameters" after some point. And NO, men do not do this. We actually want whatever made us want to commit to her, to STAY THE SAME! It's the vvomen who flip the script. Honest psychologists will tell you this (they are a minority but they will tell you...) 95 percent of marital/relationship problems/divorces are caused (whether directly or indirectly) by VVOMEN/VVIVES! And the "bait and switch" is the culprit. Men should stay single as long as their is a family court that exists to extort the higher earning spouse (mostly men) for money, just so he can be a dad, and move on. It is an evil system, and vvomen in general are it's agents. Ladies, it's true, you know it's true so STFU trying to deny it.
@@psplayer1344 the crux of the joke was that rich people could afford divorce…if you have $30 million and she gets half, you ain’t starvin! But you only have $30,000…
dude gave advice because he realized and had the balls to admit he built a foundation then destroyed it on his own some people use the victim card and blindly think theyre not at fault from the problem they became part of but not my man chris rock hes too mature for that
@@FistandFootMartialArtsalthough they do need punctuation, the text is comprehensible without it. No need to decipher, unless you struggle with reading.
Marriage is great if both are INTENTIONAL in making it work by constantly finding ways to make it better. Anything short of that, the marriage will not work.
I thought I loved her. But how can you love somebody that would stab you in the back like that? It took me 4 years to get over it. But now I'm in Thailand with a loving relationship. My new girlfriend is feminine is mostly agreeable LOL has a nice body. Is 23 years younger than me and loves me. I would not go back even if she offered me all my stuff back which is impossible. And the funny thing is is she divorced me because she said she wasn't happy and from the last time I saw her she still wasn't happy. She thought she was going to be able to scoop up a really good guy pretty quick and she's still single as far as I know. I'm pretty happy now and glad that the divorce happened. Yeah it cost me a lot of money but I would have been an unhappy relationship until I died. I prefer it this way.
What's crazy is that a man will get divorced.....and then get married again and again and again. Look, I understand getting married the first time and getting a divorce. But once you get taken to the cleaners once, you'd think people would learn.
You're assuming the man always earns more so you're missing the obvious solution... Only marry (or remarry) within your "tax bracket". You can't lose half when your spouse earns as much as you.
He said his life was crazy. Little did he know it was about to get a whole lot crazier with a "slap heard around the world". Happy for his followed success though. Rock is a King!
He deserved that slap, he's always rude about Black women Jada, Winnie Mandela, Michelle Obama. He never speaks about the strength of the Black woman, but he's always quick to bash.
"Sometimes you sing lead, and sometimes you're on tambourine. " I'd like to add also that sometimes you gotta play songs you don't necessarily like. And it's hard as a lead singer to sing songs that might not represent you, but the band as a whole.
I disagree. Divorced 13 years ago. Lost friends, family. The court ordered outrageous spousal support and ultimately paid 50 k per year for out of state college tuition. Lost equity in house. Drove away with an old pickup truck.
He was being blackmailed by a mistress a long time ago and his P.I. leaked some tapes of them talking. That's the realest you will ever hear him being.
Damn man, he gets it and not for just the guy or the girl but both of them. It doesn't matter how you feel or what kind of shitty day you had, at the end of it you are going back to the person you love so slap a smile on your face and treat them right, they don't have to suffer because Deborah in Accounts was a bitch. Cook for them, f*ck em, act normal and love them. Sounds like a good life.
I know he's doing a comedy routine, but the worst mistake you can make is not getting a divorce when one of you is unhappy in the marriage. It's worse than being dead, and you'll never get that time back again. No consequences that you suffer from getting a divorce will match what you will lose by continuing to stay in an unhappy marriage.
I'm an Uber driver and their was a large socialite wedding in my city 3 or so months ago where the passenger was detailing the features and costs of the wedding (apparently north of $150k) and all I could think of was "How fervent and complete does the narcissism have to be on someone to spend that outrageous amount of money on a one day event" - you could just about retire in SEA or travel the world for YEARS with that kind of coin... "And they had Cartier cufflinks!"
That's right, don't even talk to your lover, then you become friends. That's a slippery slope. Best to arrange hookups via emojis or, preferably, smoke signals whenever possible.
This resonated more than any couples counseling session I went to with my soon-to-be. Wish he helped me move our metaphorical couch more, when he didn't feel like it or wasn't feeling the greatest. So I didn't have to do it alone, no matter what.
Marriage is just like the rest of life, you only get out of it the effort YOU put into it. You gotta love that person more than yourself and if you don't love them that much, don't marry them. Mostly, you are not the prize you think that you are either. It's easy to complain about your spouse but being honest about yourself is hard. Don't believe your own hype, and remember that no one knows you better than your longtime spouse, but they love you despite you. ❤
@@mark9294 I don't agree. A major factor in a successful relationship is some level of compromise. To share your life with another you both have to give a little to get a lot. There is no "perfect partner" or "perfect relationship". You also have to be honest always...
When she leaves you it’s upsetting and you feel like a failure. This lasts for a few months while you wonder what you did wrong and how you could have done things differently. The next phase is interest from other women which is exciting at first but then gives you a feeling that you are not worthy.. and they will figure out you are not that great. At this point depression gets worse and you feel like starting over again would be a very daunting task. Then you miss your wife and wonder how much better the next guy is. Next you stop caring what she’s doing and begin finding yourself again. Your confidence builds and are more willing to accept attention which before you thought you weren’t worthy of. The rest is up to you… you must make choices of what you now want. My advice would be this. Only get married if you are desperate for attachment. Freedom.. true freedom is staying single with options.
Going on 15 years married with my wife this year. The dude is right. The sad reality, society today doesn't really hold serious the concept of marriage or commitment. People quit soon as there is a problem. You can be married to 15 different people, you'll have 15 different problems. There is no perfect.
Everything Chris Rock has said in his comedy would happen when it comes to relationships happened. To me and everyone I know... especially when he said "Men, when you lose your job, you'll lose your girl. It won't happen immediately, BUT THE CLOCK IS TICKING". I didn't listen. Thought I was exempt because we were together for 12 yrs. Then the Great Recession happened. I haven't touched a woman since.
Chris Rock is on the right track. Intimacy, communication, and trust. You have to have all three. You have to be talking, engaging, and loving... and you can't be competing, you can't get jealous of your partner, you can't get spiteful. The moment either one of you starts to feel a sense of spite or anything like that, that's when you grab them and you love them. Hug, hold, kiss, get down and dirty. It should never stop being an adventure for the two of you. Romance should never stop.
Marriage is one of the BIGGEST decisions someone can make because in many cases you are committing to someone for longer than you've been alive. In NO other aspect of our lives do we make such a commitment... not for car purchases, and not even for job offers. Honestly, it's a HUGE agreement and there is no contract or rules of engagement on how 2 "strangers" should hold together.
Do yourself a favor. If you are thinking of getting married, then talk to three (3) recently divorced men. Divorced in last 3 years. Talk to them. Learn what they went through. Then ask them one simple question --- "Was getting married worth it?" Do that before you propose to your woman.
I remember reading a story. And yes, was just a story. Noting real about it. But it made sense to me. Don't know to how many others it would make sense to, but it made sense to me. Two from different worlds got married. Was like magic for them both. Was so in love with each-other. But they both knew, noting is perfect. No relationship is perfect. But they both wanted to hold onto that feeling of being in love with their partner, for the duration. They never wanted to loses it. So, they made a pact. That whatever happens outside the bedroom, stayed outside the bedroom. No outside conflicts in the bedroom ever. The bedroom was for two things only. To rest, and to share their love for one-another. All else outside, didn't matter, but their love for one-another. This indeed meant sex. They both wanted it. And knew to never use it as a tool or lever to get what they wanted, or to win some argument. For to deny their partner some sex when they wanted it, meant getting denied when they wanted it themselves also. And they both have seen how such a thing can and has, destroyed many relationships. And that was not going to be them. - Chris Rock maybe a comedian. No. He is. And a good one at that. But he not joking about keeping up having sex with each-other. That be quite serious. Cheating happens when one of the two is not getting any. And it happens a lot. Even applies to women. Though less for them than for men. But many women, who are not with a man, have at times complained about how long it had been since the last time they have has sex. And even women have cheated on their man to get-some at times, even when their partner is willing to provide. Men are not alone in this. It's not just a man only thing. But, men usually cheat, when their women becomes unwilling, for a long time. Women usually cheat, due to wanting something different, not because their guy is unwilling. To help keep it together, do it together. Get the idea? You're partners for a reason. To help each-other to feel you have someone that want's you, rather than having to go out looking again, or make oneself feel OK living alone, untouched, and unwanted. What is worse? Think real hard about it. Seriously. What is worse? Doing what one can to keep a lover in your life, even during some times you may not feel like it? Or living a life, feeling alone, untouched, unwanted, and unloved, while making your partner you say you love, feel the same? O.o Is it a hard question to answer?
74 yrs old married guy. Chris, 3 simple rules. 1) be as kind as you can. 2)never, ever criticize your spouse, especially constructive criticism. Don't do it! This doesn't mean you can't stand up for yourself. You better stand up for yourself or she won't respect you. But you can be assertive without being demeaning to her. 3) be patient. Now alot of women want men as their beast of burden to control. These men are screwed. There is nothing that is going to please these women, because they hate themselves more than they hate you. Forgot to add, get a prenup or at least bring up the topic with her. If she says no, don't marry her. Men don't have a problem with a prenup, because most men do not marry for money. There is nothing wrong if she marrys for money as long as she is upfront about it.
@@bjkarana Have relationships, sex and date all you want, cultivate hobbies, travel, make friends etc just don't get the government involved in your personal life
I saw it coming years ago when him and his wife were on some sort of TV interview together. His wife was actually the one being interviewed, and he intervened with a few funny points and you can see the annoyance on her face. She looked over him. This was a few years before they divorced.
Dont rush into marriage especially if you're young (my father made this mistake several times. Always rushed in, didnt think, all his marriages failed) And make sure your partner is someone you know beyond a shadow of a doubt you want to spend the rest of your life with.
He is on point. As boys we always thought what if we left. You just don’t leave your wife, you leave your kids. But we stick with our football team when they suck. Why can’t husbands stay with their wives when things aren’t going well. Need to serve each other and husbands need to make sure that you date your wife and keep things out of the routine.
I'm not all that smart, eloquent or even qualified - but I look the best I can. I am pretty jacked and I think you are right. I make good money and opportunities seem to come to me without tons of effort. Having a nice body and taking care of the neck up too is probably more valuable than a college degree.
If your beyond unhappy and staying just to stay, that’s just a slow death and everyone around you sees it. It’s just time you’re losing that you never get back. In my opinion unless you’re staying together cause that’s the literal only way you can avoid living with your parents, time to go.
Marriage not entered to with a strong foundation is more like a jail sentence where the guy has to go against every natural instinct of self defense against a continuing chipping away at his manhood. It’s either that or he mans up quick and quickly loses his income from a vindictive woman who planned on amassing more cash and property for much longer before he decided to check out.
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Came for comedy
Stayed for the life advice
All the great comedians are also very observant / smart.
I have been married for over 20 years, and this man just spoke to me. I'm sending this to my wife next.
I’m not afraid of marriage, I’m afraid of divorce.
Yeah, my father was married and divorced 5 times, said about 75 percent of the money he ever made in his life went to ex wives. I know it is not even worth trying to marry at this point, I've seen too much dysfunction to have a good marriage.
Don’t marry women from cultures that don’t value it
@@rhuarcaran3427f that. Life is WAY too short for that nonsense
@@rhuarcaran3427 "I've seen too much dysfunction to have a good marriage" dude if it's a good marriage it's not a dysfunction. Yeah stay single.
@@vatop1304not sure what this comment is trying to say, that was literally OP’s point
There are some good kernels of truth there.
Facts
Humping and going out is pretty much the foundation of a healthy relationship.
Date night one a month a must. Oh yeah, and don’t get married. Ever.
I wonder why so many people stop having sex after marriGe
I know!! And the majority quit having sex & going on dates. Its like a misery slog! No way
@@williamwoolf8072 because the wife stops wanting to have sex
@@midnight816 Simply put.
Been married 15 years now and the bit about tambourine is so true. The hard part is if another band offers you lead singer, but beware the bait and switch, because you eventually end up on tambourine again.
Brilliant
Coach Greg Adams' "marriage wheel" is undefeated. He says this all the time, "With vvomen, the bait and switch is always in play." That changed me forever. Because I know it's true. I've been divorced after 11 years of marriage and I've been in relationships before that.
VVomen always "change the parameters" after some point. And NO, men do not do this. We actually want whatever made us want to commit to her, to STAY THE SAME! It's the vvomen who flip the script.
Honest psychologists will tell you this (they are a minority but they will tell you...) 95 percent of marital/relationship problems/divorces are caused (whether directly or indirectly) by VVOMEN/VVIVES! And the "bait and switch" is the culprit.
Men should stay single as long as their is a family court that exists to extort the higher earning spouse (mostly men) for money, just so he can be a dad, and move on. It is an evil system, and vvomen in general are it's agents.
Ladies, it's true, you know it's true so STFU trying to deny it.
Or worse ,you're a roadie now
In a relationship, you're in a service industry. How true & people need to remember that
I don’t know what Oates does, but Hall never had a hit without him
It’s not even true. I wish he had said it the other way around.
@@nikokaapabut everyone knows what Hall does.
@@dr.winstonsmith fair enough :D
I like his old joke where he says even people with only 20k dollars need a prenup because if she gets half you only have 10k left.
That just sounds like math
@@psplayer1344 Yes it does, if you are MISSING THE JOKE.
@@psplayer1344 …the idea is that prenups are for rich people with a lot of big assets to divvy up in a divorce as if poor people won’t need them…
@@psplayer1344 the crux of the joke was that rich people could afford divorce…if you have $30 million and she gets half, you ain’t starvin! But you only have $30,000…
Correct, but take the k’s off those numbers
Once again, Chris Rock displays his masterful use of comedy to share some profound truths.
Wish I heard this set 3 months ago.
I'm listening...👀
1 year ago for me😂😂😢😢
dude gave advice because he realized and had the balls to admit he built a foundation then destroyed it on his own some people use the victim card and blindly think theyre not at fault from the problem they became part of but not my man chris rock hes too mature for that
Visualize punctuation.
@@FistandFootMartialArts
His post is almost better without it.
It's stream of consiousness. And what every man is thinking.
I blew it.
@@basicprogrammer6147 If you say so. I'm not gonna bother trying to decipher it. Lol Good luck.
Peace
@@FistandFootMartialArtsalthough they do need punctuation, the text is comprehensible without it. No need to decipher, unless you struggle with reading.
@@IAmMrJonny Does being rude make you feel better?
Marriage is great if both are INTENTIONAL in making it work by constantly finding ways to make it better. Anything short of that, the marriage will not work.
Chris is some how the spiritual successor of both Carlin and Pryor.
I wouldn’t wish divorce on my worst enemy…it was the worst…I loved her, she left me.
I’m so sorry
Don't worry, you'll find someone even better. Just keep your chin up, live your life and you'll find your true soulmate!
You’ll find someone better. Go to a non-Western country for better quality women.
Same here, buddy. It was just our turn.
I thought I loved her. But how can you love somebody that would stab you in the back like that? It took me 4 years to get over it. But now I'm in Thailand with a loving relationship. My new girlfriend is feminine is mostly agreeable LOL has a nice body. Is 23 years younger than me and loves me. I would not go back even if she offered me all my stuff back which is impossible. And the funny thing is is she divorced me because she said she wasn't happy and from the last time I saw her she still wasn't happy. She thought she was going to be able to scoop up a really good guy pretty quick and she's still single as far as I know. I'm pretty happy now and glad that the divorce happened. Yeah it cost me a lot of money but I would have been an unhappy relationship until I died. I prefer it this way.
What's crazy is that a man will get divorced.....and then get married again and again and again. Look, I understand getting married the first time and getting a divorce. But once you get taken to the cleaners once, you'd think people would learn.
One and done for me.
Bot if they haven't overcome Hope, Validation, Male Mother Need. Search those three and you have your answer. Chris hasn't overcome the last one
You're assuming the man always earns more so you're missing the obvious solution... Only marry (or remarry) within your "tax bracket".
You can't lose half when your spouse earns as much as you.
That also always confuses me, I’ve been through the wringer and wouldn’t think about touching marriage with a ten foot pole again
Agreed 👊🏾
He said his life was crazy. Little did he know it was about to get a whole lot crazier with a "slap heard around the world". Happy for his followed success though. Rock is a King!
He deserved that slap, he's always rude about Black women Jada, Winnie Mandela, Michelle Obama. He never speaks about the strength of the Black woman, but he's always quick to bash.
Most women will burn the relationship to the ground before playing the tambourine.
Most women? WHat crap - Stop with the bogus genralizations
" 2 people can move a couch reeal easy!"
"Sometimes you sing lead, and sometimes you're on tambourine. "
I'd like to add also that sometimes you gotta play songs you don't necessarily like. And it's hard as a lead singer to sing songs that might not represent you, but the band as a whole.
Still got it....after all these years.
He's slowed down a bit, had to watch him at 1.25X.
A mad tambourine player: Liam Gallagher
Factual
LOL
Why is divorce so expensive?...
Becasue its WORTH it.
I disagree. Divorced 13 years ago. Lost friends, family. The court ordered outrageous spousal support and ultimately paid 50 k per year for out of state college tuition. Lost equity in house. Drove away with an old pickup truck.
Seems easier being single and just paying $200 /month for OF
Like the Johnny Taylor Song "It's Cheaper to Keep Her".
lol
Like my old boss used to say " marriage is grand, divorce is 100 grand"
@@daviddavidson4496 Touche' (smile)
Gotta pay to get away
Even cheaper not to marry.
I needed to hear this - both the jokes and the sincere advice. Thanks Chris, you’re a legend.
People who love; don't threaten to leave.
So true Chris Rock! So true!
He was being blackmailed by a mistress a long time ago and his P.I. leaked some tapes of them talking. That's the realest you will ever hear him being.
Damn man, he gets it and not for just the guy or the girl but both of them. It doesn't matter how you feel or what kind of shitty day you had, at the end of it you are going back to the person you love so slap a smile on your face and treat them right, they don't have to suffer because Deborah in Accounts was a bitch. Cook for them, f*ck em, act normal and love them. Sounds like a good life.
I know he's doing a comedy routine, but the worst mistake you can make is not getting a divorce when one of you is unhappy in the marriage. It's worse than being dead, and you'll never get that time back again.
No consequences that you suffer from getting a divorce will match what you will lose by continuing to stay in an unhappy marriage.
Grass is not always greener.
@Jenda-ld8dj that's right
However, but going through the motions is S/M
@@abc-bu7nr Maybe.
Tell that to the kids
Agreed
At last! The unvarnished truth about the faces of sex in relationship.❤
He's right: just don't get married.
That's not GODLY, ts not how GOD designed it to be
@@rashidah8621
The design is flawed.
@jlindsa, nothing about God is flawed.
@@rashidah8621can be celibate
@@rashidah8621 i dont care about gods
He was preaching!
I considered getting married...
But then I got scared when I learned that almost half of all marriages end up LASTING FOREVER!!
Chris is my favorite 😂
Don’t get married. It already starts off with an expensive party that’ll put you in debt.i don’t know why so many people fall for this shit.
I'm an Uber driver and their was a large socialite wedding in my city 3 or so months ago where the passenger was detailing the features and costs of the wedding (apparently north of $150k) and all I could think of was "How fervent and complete does the narcissism have to be on someone to spend that outrageous amount of money on a one day event" - you could just about retire in SEA or travel the world for YEARS with that kind of coin... "And they had Cartier cufflinks!"
And don't live together..Once you move in together, you just turned your lover into a family member!
That's right, don't even talk to your lover, then you become friends. That's a slippery slope. Best to arrange hookups via emojis or, preferably, smoke signals whenever possible.
@@johngilmore697his point is valid though.
This should be required in all high school curriculum!
This resonated more than any couples counseling session I went to with my soon-to-be. Wish he helped me move our metaphorical couch more, when he didn't feel like it or wasn't feeling the greatest. So I didn't have to do it alone, no matter what.
Coming and Going 😂
Omg! Chris rock is getting better with age.
That's how it shud b ........
He's an idiot. He preaches about women then goes and gets married
Thanks! This was great! As a divorce survivor, much truth spoken with humor! Excellent
You'll never really understand what legal marriage is until you try to get out of it.
"We got breakup booths in the back."
I love Chris Rock the marriage counselor.
One of the best stand up comedians there will ever be in humanity history.
Marriage is just like the rest of life, you only get out of it the effort YOU put into it. You gotta love that person more than yourself and if you don't love them that much, don't marry them. Mostly, you are not the prize you think that you are either. It's easy to complain about your spouse but being honest about yourself is hard. Don't believe your own hype, and remember that no one knows you better than your longtime spouse, but they love you despite you. ❤
Yeah, no
If it's a job, don't want another.
The Dislikes are from Will Smith and Jada
😅😅😅😅😅
Don't get married in the first place , simple 👍
Some people are just bad at picking a partner. Or they themselves are a bad partner.
Yes, some are. Mostly however, it’s that you discover your incompatibilities as you go, by which point it’s usually already too late.
@@mark9294 I don't agree. A major factor in a successful relationship is some level of compromise. To share your life with another you both have to give a little to get a lot. There is no "perfect partner" or "perfect relationship". You also have to be honest always...
Not getting married fixes all of it!!
Amen to that. It used to be a good deal for men. But now it is the absolute worst financial move you could possibly ever make, period.
Even if she gives you everything you want, never, ever, ever, ever get married, ever.
Worst business deal for men in existence Marriage is designed to keep Men in debt
Facts.
Facts 👌🏾
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Assignment Understood!🖤🖤🖤
When she leaves you it’s upsetting and you feel like a failure. This lasts for a few months while you wonder what you did wrong and how you could have done things differently. The next phase is interest from other women which is exciting at first but then gives you a feeling that you are not worthy.. and they will figure out you are not that great. At this point depression gets worse and you feel like starting over again would be a very daunting task. Then you miss your wife and wonder how much better the next guy is. Next you stop caring what she’s doing and begin finding yourself again. Your confidence builds and are more willing to accept attention which before you thought you weren’t worthy of. The rest is up to you… you must make choices of what you now want. My advice would be this. Only get married if you are desperate for attachment. Freedom.. true freedom is staying single with options.
Pretty accurate
Chris always drops comedy and advice at the same time…..Him and Chappelle!!!! Everytime
Pastor Rock does it again - #PREACH!
Going on 15 years married with my wife this year. The dude is right. The sad reality, society today doesn't really hold serious the concept of marriage or commitment. People quit soon as there is a problem. You can be married to 15 different people, you'll have 15 different problems. There is no perfect.
This is 100% the context for “The Slap”
Too right, Chris!
Chris is a Giant 💽👍🏾
Everything Chris Rock has said in his comedy would happen when it comes to relationships happened. To me and everyone I know... especially when he said "Men, when you lose your job, you'll lose your girl. It won't happen immediately, BUT THE CLOCK IS TICKING".
I didn't listen. Thought I was exempt because we were together for 12 yrs. Then the Great Recession happened. I haven't touched a woman since.
You never wanna get slapped either.
This is so accurate, powerful and funny.
Chris Rock is on the right track.
Intimacy, communication, and trust. You have to have all three. You have to be talking, engaging, and loving... and you can't be competing, you can't get jealous of your partner, you can't get spiteful. The moment either one of you starts to feel a sense of spite or anything like that, that's when you grab them and you love them. Hug, hold, kiss, get down and dirty. It should never stop being an adventure for the two of you. Romance should never stop.
Marriage is one of the BIGGEST decisions someone can make because in many cases you are committing to someone for longer than you've been alive. In NO other aspect of our lives do we make such a commitment... not for car purchases, and not even for job offers. Honestly, it's a HUGE agreement and there is no contract or rules of engagement on how 2 "strangers" should hold together.
Do yourself a favor.
If you are thinking of getting married,
then talk to three (3) recently divorced men.
Divorced in last 3 years.
Talk to them.
Learn what they went through.
Then ask them one simple question ---
"Was getting married worth it?"
Do that before you propose to your woman.
Guess Chris Rock missed that bit of comedy in one of Eddie Murphy's stand up shows where Eddie yelled " HALF ! "
Don’t get married
this advice is so good, i think Chris's second marriage is really gonna work
I remember reading a story. And yes, was just a story. Noting real about it. But it made sense to me. Don't know to how many others it would make sense to, but it made sense to me.
Two from different worlds got married. Was like magic for them both. Was so in love with each-other.
But they both knew, noting is perfect. No relationship is perfect. But they both wanted to hold onto that feeling of being in love with their partner, for the duration. They never wanted to loses it.
So, they made a pact. That whatever happens outside the bedroom, stayed outside the bedroom. No outside conflicts in the bedroom ever. The bedroom was for two things only. To rest, and to share their love for one-another. All else outside, didn't matter, but their love for one-another.
This indeed meant sex. They both wanted it. And knew to never use it as a tool or lever to get what they wanted, or to win some argument. For to deny their partner some sex when they wanted it, meant getting denied when they wanted it themselves also. And they both have seen how such a thing can and has, destroyed many relationships. And that was not going to be them.
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Chris Rock maybe a comedian. No. He is. And a good one at that. But he not joking about keeping up having sex with each-other. That be quite serious.
Cheating happens when one of the two is not getting any. And it happens a lot. Even applies to women. Though less for them than for men. But many women, who are not with a man, have at times complained about how long it had been since the last time they have has sex. And even women have cheated on their man to get-some at times, even when their partner is willing to provide. Men are not alone in this. It's not just a man only thing. But, men usually cheat, when their women becomes unwilling, for a long time. Women usually cheat, due to wanting something different, not because their guy is unwilling.
To help keep it together, do it together. Get the idea?
You're partners for a reason. To help each-other to feel you have someone that want's you, rather than having to go out looking again, or make oneself feel OK living alone, untouched, and unwanted.
What is worse? Think real hard about it. Seriously. What is worse?
Doing what one can to keep a lover in your life, even during some times you may not feel like it? Or living a life, feeling alone, untouched, unwanted, and unloved, while making your partner you say you love, feel the same? O.o
Is it a hard question to answer?
Listen to some experience 😂😂
Chris Rock is the GOAT.
Coming and going lol yessss I am using this.
😂🤣😅 Some of you have been in a relationship so long YOU DON'T KNOW HOW UGLY YOU ARE..👍👍👍 GREAT LINE 😂😂😅😆
I’ve absolutely forgotten that I’ve SEEN footage of people on stage slapping a tambourine on their ass with a ecstatic smile on their face 🤣🤣🤣
The man eat it in a horrible mood 😂
74 yrs old married guy. Chris, 3 simple rules. 1) be as kind as you can. 2)never, ever criticize your spouse, especially constructive criticism. Don't do it! This doesn't mean you can't stand up for yourself. You better stand up for yourself or she won't respect you. But you can be assertive without being demeaning to her. 3) be patient. Now alot of women want men as their beast of burden to control. These men are screwed. There is nothing that is going to please these women, because they hate themselves more than they hate you. Forgot to add, get a prenup or at least bring up the topic with her. If she says no, don't marry her. Men don't have a problem with a prenup, because most men do not marry for money. There is nothing wrong if she marrys for money as long as she is upfront about it.
Don't get married
Prob solved
It's been tried, and for some, it works, but life gets awfully lonely after 30 for most people.
@@bjkarana Have relationships, sex and date all you want, cultivate hobbies, travel, make friends etc just don't get the government involved in your personal life
@@bb.buchanan Good luck with that when kids arrive. Every generation thinks it has a marriage workaround, but they all learn ...eventually.
@@bjkaranano they don’t. The numbers speak a clear language. Marriage is going the way of the dodo
@@mark9294 It's been said before.
Probably the most accurate video on RUclips
I saw it coming years ago when him and his wife were on some sort of TV interview together. His wife was actually the one being interviewed, and he intervened with a few funny points and you can see the annoyance on her face. She looked over him. This was a few years before they divorced.
Lol oh my goodness Chris is hilarious 😆
Band Name: Melancholy Dick
if you never get married, you never get divorced
if you never have kids, you never bring a life into this fucked up world thus they can't suffer
Dont rush into marriage especially if you're young (my father made this mistake several times. Always rushed in, didnt think, all his marriages failed)
And make sure your partner is someone you know beyond a shadow of a doubt you want to spend the rest of your life with.
One person can chunk a couch out of a door about 20’ and then flip it again if he’s pissed enough
I threw away all my useless "How To Have a Good Relationship" books after watching this.
Thanks for posting!
The only thing worse than divorce is marriage
He is on point. As boys we always thought what if we left. You just don’t leave your wife, you leave your kids. But we stick with our football team when they suck. Why can’t husbands stay with their wives when things aren’t going well. Need to serve each other and husbands need to make sure that you date your wife and keep things out of the routine.
he still got it
I remember what I was doing on 9/11…….not listening to Kevin Hart.
I'm not all that smart, eloquent or even qualified - but I look the best I can. I am pretty jacked and I think you are right. I make good money and opportunities seem to come to me without tons of effort. Having a nice body and taking care of the neck up too is probably more valuable than a college degree.
I wish I would have e getting married now there is one there for me when I need it
Chris, when the women gets too comfortable in the marriage, the sex stops
‘You can’t wait for the Holy Ghost to get you’ HAHAHA
If your beyond unhappy and staying just to stay, that’s just a slow death and everyone around you sees it. It’s just time you’re losing that you never get back. In my opinion unless you’re staying together cause that’s the literal only way you can avoid living with your parents, time to go.
Unless you need one.
Divorce is an opportunity to upgrade your life. Don't squander it.
I think what he was really saying is, you shouldn't get narried.
Marriage not entered to with a strong foundation is more like a jail sentence where the guy has to go against every natural instinct of self defense against a continuing chipping away at his manhood. It’s either that or he mans up quick and quickly loses his income from a vindictive woman who planned on amassing more cash and property for much longer before he decided to check out.
I love that now women are making more money and they are starting to sound exactly like men.
the irony you dont ever hear men calling women cheap
"They are starting to sound exactly like their shittiest idea of men."
There, I fixed it for you.
Sometimes divorce is blessing
You don't wanna get married...