I'm spending Christmas alone again & I have been married & I have adult children too. I come from a huge family, but they live far away now. I doubt that Christmas will ever be anything like it was most of my life.again. I will still eat something special & watch some good movies & be thankful that I'm not homeless.
@@CreateSparklesStudio I lost my mom this year in 2024 and she was my best friend. My dad died five years ago and all of my grandparents died decades ago. I also consider myself an orphan at 60. To me my mom was Christmas. My siblings were able to move on with their lives after our parents died because they all have children and grandchildren. My parents were my world and were always there for me. I also never married or had children...I am now alone. Christmas is just another day to me now...and I will probably never decorate for the holidays anymore. I do not care to be around people and stay isolated most of the time...and I used to be a huge people person before my mom's death. Life is hard. The older we get...the more life takes away from us. God bless you.
I don't have a family. Tomorrow is Christmas. I'll put a roast in for dinner. Kick back and write in my journal, read in my current book. Then eat in peace and solitude. I'll be just fine. Merry Christmas to all the other solos out there.
Spent Christmas alone again today. I have never been a huge fan of this season (my b-day is 12-29 so maybe that's why?) so I really just try to get through it as quickly as possible.
I’m also single, 50, never married and no kids. When my parents passed, I truly felt like I was walking the earth alone. I get joy in my dogs, hobbies , and working on myself. Honestly , when hearing my friends speak of their martial issues and kids problems , I appreciate my freedom and drama free life.
Me too just my son he went to Australia to see cousins. I love the drama free day, no over spending and on the 26 th I hit the stores for sale items especially the food and I throw a party in February just for fun.
Hear, hear. Same ! 60 years old and I don't have any kids or grandkids working me to death and bleeding me dry like everybody else I know. I have my Persians. I do have a husband and he's enough of a pain in the butt so I don't need kids on top of it. We live away from his family too and that's a big, big plus believe me. He has FIVE sisters and two brothers who all nose in each other's business. Drama, drama. Thank God we live on the other side of the country or I'd never have a minute of peace or quiet because of them
I have spent many holidays alone . I have no family also. I'd rather be alone than feel alone in a strangers house for an afternoon. I actually enjoy going out to eat, going to movies, and going to amusement parks by myself... because I know the Holy Spirit walks with me constantly.
And Jesus will hold your hand throughout it all. Be at peace, Knowing Jesus means your Christmas is so much better than for those who don't. It's all about Him! Be blessed 🕊️ Praying for you, Carol, that this Christmas you will draw even nearer to the Holy Spirit. And you will be so blessed with joy and peace
And you hit the nail on the head right there! As nice as it is to have Christmas with a warm and loving family, Christmas is about something profoundly personal. God's only begotten Son (who WAS God in the flesh) came to us to save us. From our sin, from our wrong ways, from our scars, from everything that has hurt us in our lives. He came & took the penalty for our sins so that if we choose, we can have Him as our very best friend forever - to always be with us and bring us joy, no matter the circumstances of our lives. He made it possible for us to be a part of His Family on Earth (the Church, which is composed of all people who have chosen Him and carry His Spirit within them).
Well said, I also don’t like people in my house I feel like my space is being invaded lol. Most of my family are judgmental and annoying so I’m around then only when I need to be. Me and my daughter and the cat spend the day alone but we have fun, we watch holiday, movies, cook, bake and play games on our tablets and then we walk around the neighborhood to look at holiday decorations.
🙌 I spend every Christmas alone 🎄other than my dogs. But I’m ok with it. I get a lil sad but I count my blessings … food, shelter, vehicle to drive to my job and able to pay my bills .
I too take time to thank God for all my blessings on Christmas (and Thanksgiving). Life for me ((a lot of people) could be so much worse, homeless, broke, etc.
I have a friend she never married, no children, both parents deceased. About 15 years ago she started her "Christmas" tradition. She doesn't decorate at home, because she goes on a cruise! Apparently, she gets good rates the week of Christmas. She has been so many places. She saves and treats herself to 7 days of enjoyment.
Great idea but I could never go on holiday on my own. I would find it too lonely, especially when people are in their little cliques & don’t include single childless women.
As a widow Christmas has changed forever. It helps me to reach out and help others. Maybe volunteering serving Christmas dinner to the homeless or volunteering at a local animal shelter? Getting outdoors really helps. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself grace.
You’re not alone with being alone at Christmas or any holidays. So many of us are. BUT I’m okay with the peace and I’m very spiritual so I actually don’t feel lonely❤. I enjoy nature and all it brings❤
So glad I don't have to put up with that baloney anymore. All that food, all that gossip, all that drama, all that gift giving. DEPRESSING ! I don't even decorate anymore and haven't in years. That way I don't have to take it down.
I think you are right when you said that you have to find traditions for yourself. This takes time and it's absolutely okay to not feel okay yet. I haven't celebrated Christmas with my family in nearly two decades (I stopped as soon as I moved out as a teenager because my mother was very emotionally abusive) and have spent this time of year alone, with friends, partners, etc etc. I truly enjoy spending this time by myself but I also established a lot of traditions. And if I don't feel very Christmassy one year, that's okay - I'll just go with the flow. Anyway, all this to say: there is no right or wrong way to spend this time. Give yourself the grace to feel meh if that's how you feel - and to speak about those feelings. I hope you're still having a lovely time and that knowing that there are other people out here spending this time by themselves gives you comfort.
Well, I’m in a 20 year live in relationship, and I’m lonely in the relationship. He’s in his mid 70’s, I’m in my early 60’s, I have 3 adult kids, they’re not married and don’t have any kids. The grass is not always greener on the other side either. His family has conflicts, and holidays can be difficult because of that. My 3 older brothers and their family, I don’t see, and my sister and I don’t talk with each other, she is toxic and for my own preservation, I don’t think it will change. I hope you can have a pet, it makes a world of difference. You’re not the only one who feels the loneliness during the holidays, lots of company in that respect. Keep the vlogs coming, we will be your family. Hugs to you ! ✨🎄✨
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me-it really means a lot. I can imagine how challenging it must be to feel lonely even within a relationship, and to navigate the complexities of family dynamics during the holidays. It’s a reminder that everyone’s situation comes with its own struggles, and you’re so right-the grass isn’t always greener. I do have a pet (His Majesty, The Beast, AKA my corgi Roland), and he truly is such a comfort, especially during times like these. It’s heartwarming to hear that this little community can feel like a family-I’m so grateful for that and for thoughtful people like you. Sending hugs and wishing you peace and moments of joy this holiday season. Thank you for being here and for your kind encouragement. ❤️✨🎄
@@CreateSparklesStudio Animals are wonderful, wonderful company and in many ways, I prefer spending time with them rather than with people. I hope you and your doggy have a wonderful Christmas - I am spending mine with my two sweet cats, and we plan to have a great holiday.
Watching your video just now was very comforting to me. I’ve been doing holidays mostly alone for about 11 years now. Never been married and in my 40s. My child is a little furry, but he’s house trained so that counts for a lot. Some years are easier/better than others. I thought I was doing better than I was. Thank you for being so kind and honest about how things are. I really needed your gentle honesty today, and it made me feel a little less alone. May God bless and lift up your heart.
I have spent many Christmases alone due to divorce. I decided I would make every effort to have a good day anyway. So I would make Christmas wreaths and decorate them for someone that was down and out and wouldn't be able to give anything in return. I can tell you I had the most amazing experiences. Blessing those who wouldn't have otherwise been blessed and it turned what could have been a negative opportunity into life-changing memorable moments. Look around and see who in your world you could bless because there's always people that have it way worse than we do. Make it a Merry Christmas. God bless
I decided to spend Christmas on my own this year as a positive choice. I'm 57, not married and no children. My mum sadly passed away this year. We have always spent Christmas together and had a wonderful time. I decided to do something different and go on holiday to Turkey to have lots of free time and relaxation and a bit of adventure. It was a good decision. Travelling home on Christmas day which I don't mind as thus us the first year without my mum. I wanted to spend time alone at Christmas to remember my mum and how precious she was.
Thank you for sharing your story-it sounds like you’ve made a thoughtful and meaningful choice for your first Christmas without your mum. I’m so sorry for your loss, and it’s beautiful that you’re honoring her memory in a way that feels right for you. Your trip to Turkey sounds like a wonderful blend of relaxation, adventure, and reflection-a great way to care for yourself during a time that can be so emotional. I hope your journey back home is peaceful and that you continue to find comfort in the memories of your mum. Wishing you all the best as you move through this new chapter. ❤️✨
I have a friend who's 73 now and never married or had kids either. Her dad died young and her mom died in 2014. She prefers to be alone on holidays and says she's happier that way. She's one of the most content person I've ever met.❤
My mom died 30 plus years ago. The first years after she pass were hard since she was the only family I had locally. After a couple of years I was invited to friends homes which was nice but I always felt out of place. I appreciated my friends having me over but it just felt odd. As time passed it gave me perspective. Growing up holidays usually ended up a shite show. So now I happily spend holidays alone. It is calm and enjoyable. Doing holidays on your own can be enjoyable. Fix yourself some of your favorite snacks, enjoy movies, or read.
I think it's a great channel idea to talk about midlife alone; there are lots of people out there who can relate to that. Even if someone has a family and friends they can still feel lost or alone. Maybe a new holiday tradition could be doing a holiday livestream and chatting with others who don't have friends and family. Maybe create a Friendsgiving with other alone locals. Or volunteer on holidays.
The problem itself isn't being alone on Christmas (and after it too), but not having a family (regardless if by choice or other reasons) to spend it with. Society tells you, something's wrong with you living like that, especially on Christmas. For the majority of people who celebrate Christmas it's about family. So without one you stick out, you're strange in their eyes. Or you have to be lonely. I'm 50 plus. I'm single. I don't have a family, no husband, no kids, no relatives at all. All year long it's ok. My church doesn't celebrate Christmas, so I'm not alone with it. But the people around me, strangers, neighbors ecetera make me feel uncomfortable being different these days.
I’m a widow of two years now I have an adult daughter who is married and I’m very close to, but she has other family to visit during the holidays who live far. I just don’t put much stock into Christmas. I don’t decorate my house not because I’m being Bah humbug. It’s just when I’m at home. I don’t wanna be reminded of the holidays 24 seven but when I go walking shopping or to others homes that are decorated, I thoroughly enjoy them. I decorated my home for the holidays for years and now I silently and secretly laugh at everybody who has to take down all the decorations and drag out their tree to the curb or stuff it back in the garage or closet until next year, I don’t have to do a thing Merry Christmas to me
I don't know your story, but I truly hope you have a Merry Christmas no matter where you find yourself. I'm sorry if times are hard now. Remember the positive things in your life and maybe read the Christmas story. God sees and loves you.
I’m 45 and never been married( and no kids) and sometimes I feel like the odd man out because I’ve never been married. But then it makes me feel good to see other women who have never gotten married either! I feel less strange. I’m glad you have your friend to spend Christmas Eve with!
I've never been married either, at 51 yrs old. You're not alone! I think I'm finally ready though 😂 and I'm going to start with a dating app. I hope you are well and have a very Merry Christmas✨🎄⛄🎅✨
@@vikkilenore1370 I stopped dating in 2017. 🤣 It stresses me out too much. Maybe one day I’ll try again. I hope you have great luck with it! Merry Christmas to you as well.
I watched your video today because I met a girl through a friend of mine who is in your situation, her mother passed this summer and she has no one. I lost my mother 28 years ago and it still hurts especially as I get older, life will never be the same again. I try to push forward, this year I volunteered at the Salvation Army’s Red Kettle, which I enjoyed and will do it again next year. If I didn’t have my husband I would think about serving dinners to the homeless or less fortunate. I have read that we need to look forward, not backward to miss all the old customs. I hope that you can find something that helps you feel happy again. I am very fortunate because I have God in my life to walk beside me everyday. I wish for everyone to be able to confess their sin and ask the Lord to come into your heart so you are never alone, you can talk to Him whenever you want and ask for comfort.❤
I have been an adult orphan for 24 years. I did the same and started new traditions for myself. Some of them stuck and some of them I did for a while and realized they weren’t fulfilling my heart. It can be hard to get motivation when you’re only motivated by yourself and not for sharing it with someone else. It may fill your heart to do acts of service during this time of year to fill that need and space in you .sending you a giant hug of love, motivation, and understanding.💗💗💗🎄
Thank you so much for sharing your journey and for your beautiful words-they really mean a lot to me. I love the idea of creating new traditions, even if some don’t stick; it’s all part of finding what truly resonates with our hearts. You’re so right about how motivation can feel different when it’s just for ourselves, and I think your suggestion of acts of service is such a wonderful way to bring meaning and connection during the holidays. Sending you a big hug right back, filled with gratitude and understanding. Wishing you peace and warmth this season and always. 💗✨🎄
There is an awful lot of pressure on people at this time of year. The truth is there doesn’t have to be a big gathering. You haven’t failed miserably, you tried something and it didn’t work. You can keep going until you find something that fits for you. You don’t need to have decorations or a tree or a big meal if you don’t want to. All the best for 2025 from Scotland
I've been ostracized from my family, and my in-laws don't care for me or our children! So it's just our little family, I'm grateful for my little family but do feel the loneliness of not wanted by either side of our families. Something I have to work on, and just keep moving forward.
Just returned from Christmas eve candlelight service. I took my brother. It was wonderful worshipping the Lord. Settling down with tea and cake at this late hour. Folks are already sending greetings and photos. To all on this message board - Merry Christmas and God bless. Oh Holy Night 🎶 We have each other. Thanks to Create Sparkles
I've lived a loner life, and for longer. Nostalgia often makes us sad. Conversely, be grateful for those years of connection and happy memories. Emotions are heightened during the holidays. I've come full circle; coming to terms with it, being in perfect peace, and integrating it into my life. Start your own tradition, or do whatever feels right for you that year.
I'm almost 73 and my 33 year old daughter stopped talking to me 4 years ago We were very close but now that is gone because of a lie someone told her. I NEVER thought this would happen to me. I'm all alone and it hurts so much.
I am so sorry about the circumstances you are facing. Have you tried reaching out to your daughter to see if you can reconcile, and move forward? I feel like Christmas is a great time to give it another try 🙏🏻
Reach out to your daughter. Write her a letter of apology and ask for her forgiveness, even if it was a lie, she believes it. Holding a grudge is like swallowing poison and waiting for the other person to die. Help her to get over it and get on with it. Life is too short.
I actually have come to love being alone on holidays. (This took a long time to achieve :) I had to acknowledge that Christmas would never be the same as my childhood; I figured I could come up with some new traditions. I take my little dog out to breakfast. (Dunkin Donuts is open in my area for a few hours on Christmas day. My pup and I split a bagel.) Then, we go on a long drive down roads I have never been able to explore. (I usually get lost, but that's ok.) Then, I find a nice and safe place to pull off the road and do a little goal setting for the next year (or I go home and do this). On the way home, my pup and I go for a walk at the park. (We almost always meet some folks to share greetings with.) Finally, we go home and have Christmas lunch and watch some old movies. Maybe we don't have the most exciting day, but we like it :) Merry Christmas, Everyone.
I am new to your channel. There are so many people, including myself that spend most Christmas alone. I remember wonderful times i had when my parents were alive. It certainly is not easy to get used to.
Thank you so much for joining the channel and for sharing your experience. It can be strange adjusting to spending Christmas without those we love, especially when we hold such cherished memories of the past. It’s not easy, and it’s okay to feel that. I hope you find moments of comfort and connection, even in the quiet times. Please know you’re not alone with this. Wishing you peace and warmth this holiday season. ❤️✨
@@vonalaird1883 Start a tradition of your own. Something that you love and can share. People are waiting on that special talent of yours. Have yourself a merry little Christmas now.😊
I am in the same situation as you. It is so hard. I put up a tree this year to try to make it better, but it hasn’t helped. What has helped a bit though is getting a kitty a few years ago. He helps with my loneliness, but I still want the human connection.
I completely understand how hard it can be. Putting up a tree is such a thoughtful way to try to bring some cheer, even if it doesn’t always make the loneliness go away. I’m so glad you have your kitty-they really can bring so much comfort and companionship. That longing for human connection is something I deeply relate to, and I hope you find moments of warmth and connection, even in small ways. Sending you lots of love and understanding this season. ❤️✨
After my grandparents died, so did the Christmas traditions for me. I lived with my grandparents and were extremely close to them. They were like my second parents. They are the only people I miss along with my aunts and uncle who also passed away. As we get older, we make our own traditions. Do something special for yourself and buy the things that make you happy.❤
I'm alone again this year. I have four kids but we aren't talking. I used to have huge Christmas parties. I had lots of traditions I really long to do with my grandsons. Thank God I do have custody of them on some weekends. But not Christmas. Even though I'm involved in a church, I'm just alone on Christmas. But after I get through this financial hump, if I ever do I guess. It seems like I've been saying that for my whole life. But if I get through this, I will spend the rest of my life making Christmas for those who have no one.
I so get it. You have the right to feel as you do. When the emotions come, let them move through you so they don’t get trapped in your body. You put your tree up, and some decorations, and should be proud of that! 😊 That’s more than I’ve done. Make something delicious, watch movies, and try to do whatever brings you joy. Each day, ask God to bring you your tribe. You will be amazed at how you will meet new people. Sending you a huge hug!!
I'm pretty much the same situation as you but my mom died 14 years ago. I'm good now with carrying on as if the holidays didn't even exist. Christmas is just another day like any other.
Thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry about your mom, the holidays bring up a lot of emotions, even years later. It’s perfectly okay to treat Christmas like any other day if that’s what feels right for you-it’s all about doing what works for your peace of mind. I hope you’re able to find little moments of joy and comfort during the season, even if it’s not tied to traditional celebrations that's what I'm working toward. Sending you warmth and understanding. ❤️
We seem to forget what Christmas is all about. Family getting together, being with the ones you love are great and give us connection but that's not "Christmas". We are literally celebrating the BIRTH of Jesus Christ. The ONLY one who loved us enough to die for us ~ for YOU! His resurrection gives all of us eternal life. That is worth celebrating!! Turn to Him!! He is ALWAYS there. Talk with Him, tell him your deepest feelings, the ones in your heart. He hears and He will bless your life. Christmas is no time to be SAD ! He literally will heal us if we invite Him into our lives and seek His will. Jesus Christ lives! Be thankful for that. That is Christmas! I'm single never married, no children. 66 yrs. old - still love Christmas!
My first yr spending holidays with friends instead of family. I feel sad and like an orphan. Tagging along with friends is odd. I’m grateful but it’s just not the holidays of the past. Wishing you a blessed day
Thank you for sharing how you’re feeling-that first time is a bittersweet experience. It’s wonderful that you have friends to spend the holidays with, but I completely understand how it can feel different and even a little strange compared to past traditions. I feel included with my friend's family but it still isn't the same. It’s okay to feel both grateful and sad at the same time-those emotions can coexist, especially during a season so tied to memories and family. Wishing you peace and comfort as you navigate this new chapter, and I hope you’re able to find little moments of joy along the way. Sending you warm thoughts and a blessed day as well. ❤️✨
I am somewhat estranged from my family and feeling isolated from them. This is their way of making me drive a long way to see them or nothing. The feelings are depressing, but I do all I can to keep my spirits up. Decorating, food, and celebrating my way is the plan. I am wishing you a very Merry Christmas✨🙏🎄🎅⛄
I'm sorry to hear about ur mom. I also lost my mom in march of 2021. It's not easy losing ur mom. But I guarantee u she is still with u in spirit. I use to have huge Christmas parties with my family, but now most of the members are passed away or moved away. So it will just be my daughter and myself this year. I'm so grateful to have my daughter with me. We will eat Christmas dinner, and play some games together and it will be lovely. I'm very grateful to God that we're not homeless. Merry Christmas to u... May ur Christmas be merry and bright.
My son and his girlfriend will be over for Christmas. They live behind my house in their own apartment. I probably won't see either of my grandchildren or my daughter. My daughter is in Paris. Back when I was a kid, the holidays were all about getting together with your family. We all lived in the same neighborhood. It was great seeing both grandmothers on Christmas! I miss those days.
I am so sorry for your loneliness! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and how it feels for you. I wish you a beautiful day tomorrow on Christmas day!
No family gatherings for 3 years. I fill my time with good friends, free activities and keeping busy. I'm into making gifts, don't spend much on retail. I've been doing thrift shop gifts for 20 years, buy a nice thrift basket or ceramic container, buy a new item to coordinate with thrift item, a cute ornament & baked goodies. I'm 74, still work at a gallery 1.5 days a week and live the best life I can. Christmas is tomorrow. I'm meeting friends at a local church for a free holiday meal. I've done this for years. We donate cash but not necessary. Keeping positive vibes is essential!!!
I just subscribed. I am in the same situation and I have learned over the years that many people wish they could be in our shoes so the grass is not always greener. I enjoy ME! I am my best company.
Yeah, I’ll be spending Christmas alone also. All of my immediate family members are dead and my partner passed away a little over a year ago. Also, my extended family stopped having holiday get togethers. As we get a little older, it’s easier to regret not getting married or having children. I try to remind myself that all these perfect looking families on social media are not actually perfect. We all tend to try make our online lives look perfect. Truth is, everybody is dealing with stuff and issues, even if it looks perfect in their photos. I’m getting better with just accepting it and making the most of my situation. Merry Christmas to you! -Jim in Atlanta
Thank you for sharing, Jim. I’m so sorry for your losses-it’s clear you’ve faced a lot of heartache, especially around the holidays. You’re absolutely right that those picture-perfect families on social media rarely reflect the whole story, and it’s a great reminder not to compare our lives to what we see online. It’s inspiring that you’re working toward accepting your situation and finding ways to make the most of it-that takes a lot of strength. Wishing you peace and comfort this Christmas, and thank you for being part of this conversation. Merry Christmas to you too! ❤️✨
I lost my partner last year and my mum this year, I am 64, no children and its just me and my little dog. I'm not sad though, I am an introvert and happy in my own company.
I grew up in Brilliant just south of Steubenville. It took me back hearing you talk about it. I can't take away your loneliness but I hope you have a good holiday and find some traditions of your own that bring you joy.
Spent all my Christmases except one since 2016 alone. I am still figuring it out, I can spend a fair bit without really having that festive mojo. Maybe I will get Chinese food delivered I have enjoyed that in the past. I do enjoy the Christmas radio stations you get online. You have mentioned elsewhere comments help the algorithm get videos out to those who need to hear it, I think your message is very worthwhile, so just wanted to send Christmas greetings to you and your online community from Glasgow, Scotland.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for taking the time to share your thoughts. Christmas radio stations are such a wonderful way to bring some cheer, too; it’s amazing how music can lift the spirit. I’m so grateful for your support and for being part of this community-it really does make a difference. Sending warm Christmas greetings right back to you and everyone in Glasgow! May your holiday be peaceful, and here’s to figuring out what works for each of us during this season. ❤️✨🎄
You’re story sounds so real and honest, the feelings within it hit home but in a comforting way. Thank you for sharing. Sending you love from Ireland ☘️❤❤❤❤
Over the years my family circle has become smaller, too. My dad is an @$$, also; I have had to grieve the loss of someone who is still alive and walking this earth. I have to say once I got past the 5 year mark everything became easier. I have learned to enjoy my own company and lean in to how peaceful it is.
God bless you for making this video.I lost my mom at the same rime you did. Since then, I see no point to celebrating Christmas without her. My father....he's pretty much cut from the same cloth as yours. Thank you. We are not alone
I'm in a similar position to yourself, except I'm divorced. Since my mum died in 2000, apart from the first Christmas in 2001, I have spent every one alone. I actually prefer it this way now, as I wouldn't want to spend it with a family. It is after all, just one day. Time does heal love, so try to stay strong and positive. So long as I have a roof over my head, a TV and some nice food, I'm fine. All the very best from the UK. 🤗
Thanks for sharing, Lisa. I have been so sad lately. It is unbearable at times. Seeing this video gives me a little comfort. What area of the US do you live in?
Feeling this sentiment so much! Thank you for sharing this, it’s easy to feel like you’re the only one who feels this way during this time of year. I hope we can all find new Xmas joy in coming years ❤
Love the video. I spent Christmas relatively alone even though I am married. Lots of transitions. I was alone with my cherished dog all day and then I pushed myself out the door to a Christmas party at a resource center nearby. I think I will take note of all of those for people. This one was open to anyone and was at an LGBTQ center. Our local mental health organization also has a support circle for people at the holiday. It was at the same time as the other one. Both were great ideas. I sure miss the other Christmases too but you know what we Christmas alone people are important too and Thank God for RUclips. Also, I though your authentic talk about wanting a family was so important. I never had kids either. I married late in life and now my husband is so ill that I am mostly on my own. Thanks again
I am a single orphan. I actually have spent most of my adult life during Christmas alone. I grew up with the traditional having to visit two grandmothers' houses for Christmas where I got to hang with my cousins and even with the family being disfunctional, I looked forward to being with my cousins, going to midnight mass and experiencing the magic of Christmas eve. Christmas day has always been an anti climax for me though after the presents are open and breakfast, my cousins and I would go see a movie. By my 20s I was living in another state and couldn't afford flying home. I actually made that as an excuse to be honest because I just got tired of the family drama and wanted a peaceful holiday season. I am now in my 70's and I divorced my family a few years ago because of the toxic relationship was getting worse to the point where I was seeing a therapist again. Holidays are hard being single, plus my friends are always with their families and out of state during Christmas. It sucks worse because my birthday is on the 27th so no friend was ever around on my birthday so I am alone. So what do you do? You have to reinvent your Christmas/Yule/Winter Solstice and every holiday during this season. I listen to Christmas music, listen to Old Time Radio Programs that have a Christmas theme, make my favorite food, decorate for the season and watch the classical Christmas movies and tv cartoons like Mr.Magoo's Christmas Carol. I have a fake fireplace turned on, flameless candles lit and I just have a peaceful time where I remember why we celebrate the season. This is a spiritual holiday so bring joy and happiness into it. For those of you who need more, volunteer at a food bank or a soup kitchen where you help feed the homeless and poor. Help collect toys for kids whose parents can afford much. Do something in the community which in turn gives you positivity in return. Just enjoy this special season the best way you can. I have been learning about Yule and that has actually helped me embrace the season better. Learn traditions you might not be aware of and put some into practice. Have fun. Those who are lonely, rescue an animal from the shelter My cat has kept me sane.
Hi. Thank you for sharing your feelings. I have a family and don’t know what it’s like not to have one. I do give thanks to God for everything he has given me. Life isn’t easy for me either. Even with my beautiful children and wonderful husband I still get sad at times. It’s life. We all have our crosses to carry. I rely on prayer and a true relationship with God to get me through. All this to say we all go through times of sadness but hang in there. I like how you try to have a positive outlook. See what you have when things get you down. You will be in my prayers. May you have a penitential and reflective advent and a Blessed Merry Christmas 🙏🏼🎄
Thank you for this vlog. We’re in similar circumstances. I also am single no children and 48 year old woman. I have no friends or extended family. My fur baby passed last month and I haven’t felt in the Christmas spirit like I usually do. Thanks for being venerable and candid about your situation. I always feel like I’m the only one ❤
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your fur baby. That’s such a hard thing to go through, especially around the holidays when everything feels even more emotional. I really appreciate you watching and connecting with my vlog. You’re definitely not alone, and it means so much to know this resonated with you. Sending you love and comfort this season-take care of yourself. ❤️✨
@@CreateSparklesStudio aww thanks for the response. It’s so nice not to be commenting into to void and know your reading your comments. I’m new subscriber look forward to your content it really resonates with me.
You are still grieving the loss of the traditions you did have with family. I lost my mom some years back and holidays generally are hard. I did not celebrate any of them for a number of years--just too triggering. With recent years, I have changed the menu for holidays to include 1 of 'her' recipes. I also changed how I decorated and what I did during the different holidays. If family or friends want to visit, I prepare for tea and the sweet treats--not a dinner. It is diffcult getting through Thanksgiving-Christimas. It is really about taking change and making the traditions 'fit' for where you are. Good luck.
Yep, you do you! We as a society are just invaded by the holidays. Everywhere you look people are trying to sell you something. Buy this and it will make you happy, do this and you'll have the perfect holiday season, be this, make this to have the best holiday season ever. Oh man! I am in the last year of the autumn of my life and I am in the process of down sizing with the philosophy of "less is more. " I cannot believe all the Christmas crap that I have accumulated in 58 years. Times and circumstances change and in the end, we all must all do the same. So I am donating and gifting almost all of my Christmas crap away to those that are need or in want of it. MERRY CHRISTMAS to me!
I have been alone on Christmas for many years. I put the tree up and my outdoor lights just like l did when my parents were here and l do very well. Tv. R
Plus l am an only child so l am used to being alone. I decorate the same.And l leave most of it up All year. This really helps me get through and be excited about it. Don’t forget the real reason for the season.
I lost my mom this year in 2024 and she was my best friend. My dad died five years ago and all of my grandparents died decades ago. I also consider myself an orphan at 60. To me my mom was Christmas. My siblings were able to move on with their lives after our parents died because they all have children and grandchildren. My parents were my world and were always there for me. I also never married or had children...I am now alone. Christmas is just another day to me now...and I will probably never decorate for the holidays anymore. I do not care to be around people and stay isolated most of the time...and I used to be a huge people person before my mom's death. Life is hard. The older we get...the more life takes away from us. God bless you.
Me and my cats hang out together for the holidays! I have had to get adjusted to spending them with only people who truly love and support me emotionally. Sometimes that means being alone. I still prefer my own company to most other people 😂
Thank you so much for sharing. Coming from a smaller family that moved around a lot, one of the reasons my daughter and I wanted to start a channel was to find community and to find a RUclips family. Seeing how many people can relate helps to put into perspective that not everyone has the picture perfect holiday and that if we all reach out to one other during this season with something as simple as a smile or asking how their day is going it sure can make a difference. I hope this year gets a little brighter. Sending some smiles your way. 💛
As tough as this is, I feel that you will find peace and gratitude in volunteering and giving. Help those less fortunate, there is always someone doing life tougher than us. When you come home later on Christmas Day and you're exhausted, have something wonderful that was previously prepared. Enjoy that, watch the special movie, cry if you want to and think..."Yeah, I've survived another one and I feel ok".
I tried that. But oddly many of those places aren't as easy to get involved in or they don't like newcomers. Or you still feel really alone while there and don't really help anyone. I'm going to still try to find a place where I can fit in and volunteer to bring others happiness but I haven't yet.
I usually had jobs where I worked holidays and sometimes I would sign up for because it was double time and a half. My kids are grown and out of state where it snows so traveling is hard. When you work you are there with everyone else who had or wanted to work. Some places advertise for seasonal workers and it's a productive way to spend Christmas and Thanksgiving. You can always volunteer too. Work is always at the hospitals, truck stops, hotels, nursing homes, homeless shelters, and animal rescues. 🎄🎀
I'm so glad you mentioned crochet, I find that keeping my hands busy, crocheting hats for the homeless. You will pull out of it. Reach out and keep posting videos. My Mom passed, and I know what it's like. You sound like a great person, worthy of friendships. I have a small family, but feel left out. Hang in there, Sending hugs. I am thinking of foster care.
Thumbs up, subscribed. Thank you very much. All holidays with my dog have been the best ever in my life. Get a cat if you cannot get a dog. Just because they share same DNA does not mean you owe them a single thing or second of your life! My Christmas years without relatives have been the best ones in my life! Get a dog or cat and workout outdoors with dogs at paid dog park. Life goes on.
I feel for you. I'm in a little similar situation & have been for years. It is not easy. And as I'm listening to you I'm thinking you should get involved with like agencies that help other people at Xmas. That would give you joy I believe & take the focus off of you feeling bad. Then it hit me. I should do the same!! It would make me feel good to help others have a good Xmas. It is Xmas Eve as I'm writing this so a little late this year but I just may have to volunteer in other ways. God bless you! Merry Xmas!
Hi, i just found this channel. I am absolutely positively sure that your mother is there with you now & always. I am positive she is always near look for all the signs they send because they really do! All we have to do is look. May GOD BLESS YOU! Remember look for the signs, she is always near. ❤
The expectations for these holidays make people feel depressed. Christmas is another day. I have family and told my husband we are not exchanging gifts with one another this year. We are not having a Christmas party this year as we have hosted a few in the past. It will be a small intimate Christmas. Just he and I and our adult children and later I am sure they will leave and hang out with their friends. Truthfully, I am tired of the hype of Christmas year after year.
I just happen to run across this video and I kind of feel the same and I have family. I have three kids and I have a grandson two of them and one I see all the time. I think it might just be the way the world is it’s hard to get into that but you know what I’m wishing you a peaceful happy day. Hope you enjoy something good to eatand you can always be in your feelings.
I am alone again this year - every year since I lost my Mum in 2019. I have developed a little routine that just pleases me. I let others phone me ( if they think of it ), but the day is mine . I get up when I like , I eat what I like when I like. I watch what I want on tv when I like . I have a tree and decorations, and I do spend some time (when I like) looking through photos of my family in other Christmas years. I, too, am single, no children. I do have siblings, but they live some distance away, so that's that. I wish you peace and joy and would love to hear after Christmas that you get through it OK doing what you like , when you like . Spoil yourself, reflect on the good times, AND get Mommas decorations out when you are ready (she'd love that) . I have my Mums- I love unpacking them and remembering what joy she had from them. I wish I could have your email so I can email you ? Take care: wrap yourself in grace No, it will never be the same, but you will find new traditions .. Love and Blessings Janice 🇬🇧 xxx👵
Do you have any pets? I do have family but the time i get with them isnt always during the whole holiday so alone on Christmas eve. I have my fur baby and i have joy with him. Everyone should have something alive they live with. A cat if a dog isnt possible.
I tried to recreate what I missed and lost , it wasn't the same. I went out and bought everything new..tree, ornaments, etc and tried that. It helped, new memories you know but still it's just me and the pain is here. I'm sorry your having to experience all these feelings and emotions.
I have spent many Christmases alone. For my family Thanksgiving is more like our Christmas. That’s when we get together and everything since everyone lives so far away. I find doing something special helps on Christmas Day. Order something you normally wouldn’t eat, read a really good book or watch a great movie, if you have an animal cuddle with them a little more. Anything you have to do to get yourself through. Many hugs. Many of us have been in the same boat and are in the same boat with you.
I spent Christmas alone today and it was great. I miss my little fur baby that passed away. Other than that part I prefer to watch what I want to watch, eat what I want.
I'm spending Christmas alone again & I have been married & I have adult children too. I come from a huge family, but they live far away now. I doubt that Christmas will ever be anything like it was most of my life.again. I will still eat something special & watch some good movies & be thankful that I'm not homeless.
Yes, there are always things to be grateful for and it is best to look at the bright side. 💖
@@CreateSparklesStudio I lost my mom this year in 2024 and she was my best friend. My dad died five years ago and all of my grandparents died decades ago. I also consider myself an orphan at 60. To me my mom was Christmas. My siblings were able to move on with their lives after our parents died because they all have children and grandchildren. My parents were my world and were always there for me. I also never married or had children...I am now alone. Christmas is just another day to me now...and I will probably never decorate for the holidays anymore. I do not care to be around people and stay isolated most of the time...and I used to be a huge people person before my mom's death. Life is hard. The older we get...the more life takes away from us. God bless you.
I don't have a family. Tomorrow is Christmas. I'll put a roast in for dinner. Kick back and write in my journal, read in my current book. Then eat in peace and solitude. I'll be just fine.
Merry Christmas to all the other solos out there.
Spent Christmas alone again today. I have never been a huge fan of this season (my b-day is 12-29 so maybe that's why?) so I really just try to get through it as quickly as possible.
Same here I have my bf but he had to go back home to go to work and it's a long distance relationship ❤❤❤❤
I’m also single, 50, never married and no kids. When my parents passed, I truly felt like I was walking the earth alone. I get joy in my dogs, hobbies , and working on myself. Honestly , when hearing my friends speak of their martial issues and kids problems , I appreciate my freedom and drama free life.
Me too just my son he went to Australia to see cousins. I love the drama free day, no over spending and on the 26 th I hit the stores for sale items especially the food and I throw a party in February just for fun.
Patty, I totally get it. I’m in the same situation. Know you’re not alone Merry Christmas!!!🎄 🌟♥️
I've learned to enjoy my own company so much I can't stand to deal with any drama from others.
Hear, hear. Same ! 60 years old and I don't have any kids or grandkids working me to death and bleeding me dry like everybody else I know. I have my Persians. I do have a husband and he's enough of a pain in the butt so I don't need kids on top of it. We live away from his family too and that's a big, big plus believe me. He has FIVE sisters and two brothers who all nose in each other's business. Drama, drama. Thank God we live on the other side of the country or I'd never have a minute of peace or quiet because of them
@ oh Tina I am right there with!!!😁👍
I have spent many holidays alone . I have no family also. I'd rather be alone than feel alone in a strangers house for an afternoon. I actually enjoy going out to eat, going to movies, and going to amusement parks by myself... because I know the Holy Spirit walks with me constantly.
I wouldn't want it any other way. I like my life and like myself. I'm my own good company.
And Jesus will hold your hand throughout it all. Be at peace, Knowing Jesus means your Christmas is so much better than for those who don't. It's all about Him! Be blessed 🕊️ Praying for you, Carol, that this Christmas you will draw even nearer to the Holy Spirit. And you will be so blessed with joy and peace
And you hit the nail on the head right there! As nice as it is to have Christmas with a warm and loving family, Christmas is about something profoundly personal. God's only begotten Son (who WAS God in the flesh) came to us to save us. From our sin, from our wrong ways, from our scars, from everything that has hurt us in our lives. He came & took the penalty for our sins so that if we choose, we can have Him as our very best friend forever - to always be with us and bring us joy, no matter the circumstances of our lives. He made it possible for us to be a part of His Family on Earth (the Church, which is composed of all people who have chosen Him and carry His Spirit within them).
@@sheilastanaland Amen!
Well said, I also don’t like people in my house I feel like my space is being invaded lol. Most of my family are judgmental and annoying so I’m around then only when I need to be. Me and my daughter and the cat spend the day alone but we have fun, we watch holiday, movies, cook, bake and play games on our tablets and then we walk around the neighborhood to look at holiday decorations.
🙌 I spend every Christmas alone 🎄other than my dogs. But I’m ok with it. I get a lil sad but I count my blessings … food, shelter, vehicle to drive to my job and able to pay my bills .
Same. I'm so happy to have my dog Roland, a great job, and a warm place to live. Hope you have a great Christmas with the pups. 💖🎄
I too take time to thank God for all my blessings on Christmas (and Thanksgiving). Life for me ((a lot of people) could be so much worse, homeless, broke, etc.
You are never, ever alone when you have dogs - they are fabulous company.
You are never alone when you have Lord Jesus❤️🔥✝️🇮🇱
I have a friend she never married, no children, both parents deceased. About 15 years ago she started her "Christmas" tradition. She doesn't decorate at home, because she goes on a cruise! Apparently, she gets good rates the week of Christmas. She has been so many places. She saves and treats herself to 7 days of enjoyment.
I think the cruise is a fantastic idea I am definitely looking in to that next year. God willing!! Merry Christmas!!!🎄 🌟♥️ and thank you!!!
Great idea but I could never go on holiday on my own. I would find it too lonely, especially when people are in their little cliques & don’t include single childless women.
As a widow Christmas has changed forever. It helps me to reach out and help others. Maybe volunteering serving Christmas dinner to the homeless or volunteering at a local animal shelter? Getting outdoors really helps. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself grace.
You’re not alone with being alone at Christmas or any holidays. So many of us are. BUT I’m okay with the peace and I’m very spiritual so I actually don’t feel lonely❤. I enjoy nature and all it brings❤
Look at this! There are a whole bunch of people sharing their stories❤❤❤
I have the same feeling, I remember the big family, food and crazy gift giving! I usually am blue around this time too! Stay strong ❤
Time for a new mindset.
So glad I don't have to put up with that baloney anymore. All that food, all that gossip, all that drama, all that gift giving. DEPRESSING ! I don't even decorate anymore and haven't in years. That way I don't have to take it down.
I think you are right when you said that you have to find traditions for yourself. This takes time and it's absolutely okay to not feel okay yet. I haven't celebrated Christmas with my family in nearly two decades (I stopped as soon as I moved out as a teenager because my mother was very emotionally abusive) and have spent this time of year alone, with friends, partners, etc etc. I truly enjoy spending this time by myself but I also established a lot of traditions. And if I don't feel very Christmassy one year, that's okay - I'll just go with the flow. Anyway, all this to say: there is no right or wrong way to spend this time. Give yourself the grace to feel meh if that's how you feel - and to speak about those feelings. I hope you're still having a lovely time and that knowing that there are other people out here spending this time by themselves gives you comfort.
Mom passed in January I basically have no one this year and I'm happy about it! A time for peace n quiet and reflection.
Well, I’m in a 20 year live in relationship, and I’m lonely in the relationship. He’s in his mid 70’s, I’m in my early 60’s, I have 3 adult kids, they’re not married and don’t have any kids. The grass is not always greener on the other side either. His family has conflicts, and holidays can be difficult because of that. My 3 older brothers and their family, I don’t see, and my sister and I don’t talk with each other, she is toxic and for my own preservation, I don’t think it will change. I hope you can have a pet, it makes a world of difference. You’re not the only one who feels the loneliness during the holidays, lots of company in that respect. Keep the vlogs coming, we will be your family. Hugs to you ! ✨🎄✨
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me-it really means a lot. I can imagine how challenging it must be to feel lonely even within a relationship, and to navigate the complexities of family dynamics during the holidays. It’s a reminder that everyone’s situation comes with its own struggles, and you’re so right-the grass isn’t always greener.
I do have a pet (His Majesty, The Beast, AKA my corgi Roland), and he truly is such a comfort, especially during times like these. It’s heartwarming to hear that this little community can feel like a family-I’m so grateful for that and for thoughtful people like you. Sending hugs and wishing you peace and moments of joy this holiday season. Thank you for being here and for your kind encouragement. ❤️✨🎄
Que bonita comunidad, yo soy de España.
@@CreateSparklesStudio Animals are wonderful, wonderful company and in many ways, I prefer spending time with them rather than with people. I hope you and your doggy have a wonderful Christmas - I am spending mine with my two sweet cats, and we plan to have a great holiday.
Watching your video just now was very comforting to me. I’ve been doing holidays mostly alone for about 11 years now. Never been married and in my 40s. My child is a little furry, but he’s house trained so that counts for a lot. Some years are easier/better than others. I thought I was doing better than I was. Thank you for being so kind and honest about how things are. I really needed your gentle honesty today, and it made me feel a little less alone. May God bless and lift up your heart.
Thank you for sharing. My furry companion is the best thing. Love to you and the fur baby.
I have spent many Christmases alone due to divorce. I decided I would make every effort to have a good day anyway. So I would make Christmas wreaths and decorate them for someone that was down and out and wouldn't be able to give anything in return. I can tell you I had the most amazing experiences. Blessing those who wouldn't have otherwise been blessed and it turned what could have been a negative opportunity into life-changing memorable moments. Look around and see who in your world you could bless because there's always people that have it way worse than we do. Make it a Merry Christmas. God bless
I decided to spend Christmas on my own this year as a positive choice. I'm 57, not married and no children. My mum sadly passed away this year. We have always spent Christmas together and had a wonderful time. I decided to do something different and go on holiday to Turkey to have lots of free time and relaxation and a bit of adventure. It was a good decision. Travelling home on Christmas day which I don't mind as thus us the first year without my mum. I wanted to spend time alone at Christmas to remember my mum and how precious she was.
Thank you for sharing your story-it sounds like you’ve made a thoughtful and meaningful choice for your first Christmas without your mum. I’m so sorry for your loss, and it’s beautiful that you’re honoring her memory in a way that feels right for you.
Your trip to Turkey sounds like a wonderful blend of relaxation, adventure, and reflection-a great way to care for yourself during a time that can be so emotional. I hope your journey back home is peaceful and that you continue to find comfort in the memories of your mum. Wishing you all the best as you move through this new chapter. ❤️✨
I miss my mom too 💕🙏🏼
Thank you so much for your very kind and most thoughtful reply. I've had a great holiday and lots of time to rest and reflect ❤@CreateSparklesStudio
I have a friend who's 73 now and never married or had kids either. Her dad died young and her mom died in 2014. She prefers to be alone on holidays and says she's happier that way. She's one of the most content person I've ever met.❤
Have a Merry Xmas ❤
My mom died 30 plus years ago. The first years after she pass were hard since she was the only family I had locally. After a couple of years I was invited to friends homes which was nice but I always felt out of place. I appreciated my friends having me over but it just felt odd. As time passed it gave me perspective. Growing up holidays usually ended up a shite show. So now I happily spend holidays alone. It is calm and enjoyable. Doing holidays on your own can be enjoyable. Fix yourself some of your favorite snacks, enjoy movies, or read.
Thanks for sharing this, it is helpful to know I am not alone in this.
I think it's a great channel idea to talk about midlife alone; there are lots of people out there who can relate to that. Even if someone has a family and friends they can still feel lost or alone. Maybe a new holiday tradition could be doing a holiday livestream and chatting with others who don't have friends and family. Maybe create a Friendsgiving with other alone locals. Or volunteer on holidays.
The problem itself isn't being alone on Christmas (and after it too), but not having a family (regardless if by choice or other reasons) to spend it with.
Society tells you, something's wrong with you living like that, especially on Christmas.
For the majority of people who celebrate Christmas it's about family. So without one you stick out, you're strange in their eyes. Or you have to be lonely.
I'm 50 plus. I'm single. I don't have a family, no husband, no kids, no relatives at all.
All year long it's ok.
My church doesn't celebrate Christmas, so I'm not alone with it.
But the people around me, strangers, neighbors ecetera make me feel uncomfortable being different these days.
I’m a widow of two years now I have an adult daughter who is married and I’m very close to, but she has other family to visit during the holidays who live far. I just don’t put much stock into Christmas. I don’t decorate my house not because I’m being Bah humbug. It’s just when I’m at home. I don’t wanna be reminded of the holidays 24 seven but when I go walking shopping or to others homes that are decorated, I thoroughly enjoy them. I decorated my home for the holidays for years and now I silently and secretly laugh at everybody who has to take down all the decorations and drag out their tree to the curb or stuff it back in the garage or closet until next year, I don’t have to do a thing Merry Christmas to me
Prayers ❤️ I’m spending my first Christmas alone 🥹
I don't know your story, but I truly hope you have a Merry Christmas no matter where you find yourself. I'm sorry if times are hard now. Remember the positive things in your life and maybe read the Christmas story. God sees and loves you.
@ thank you so much new Subby here God bless you as well
When you have Our Saviour in your heart you are never alone❤️💪👍
I’m 45 and never been married( and no kids) and sometimes I feel like the odd man out because I’ve never been married. But then it makes me feel good to see other women who have never gotten married either! I feel less strange. I’m glad you have your friend to spend Christmas Eve with!
Thanks for the comment. I love meeting other women in the same situation 💕❤️
I've never been married either, at 51 yrs old. You're not alone! I think I'm finally ready though 😂 and I'm going to start with a dating app. I hope you are well and have a very Merry Christmas✨🎄⛄🎅✨
@@vikkilenore1370They don't show up though.
@@vikkilenore1370 I stopped dating in 2017. 🤣 It stresses me out too much. Maybe one day I’ll try again. I hope you have great luck with it! Merry Christmas to you as well.
Some of the couples you see are not as happy as you.
I have been 100 percent alone on Christmas since 2016. My mom passed and all of a sudden my family forgot I existed. It’s so depressing!
I watched your video today because I met a girl through a friend of mine who is in your situation, her mother passed this summer and she has no one. I lost my mother 28 years ago and it still hurts especially as I get older, life will never be the same again. I try to push forward, this year I volunteered at the Salvation Army’s Red Kettle, which I enjoyed and will do it again next year. If I didn’t have my husband I would think about serving dinners to the homeless or less fortunate. I have read that we need to look forward, not backward to miss all the old customs. I hope that you can find something that helps you feel happy again. I am very fortunate because I have God in my life to walk beside me everyday. I wish for everyone to be able to confess their sin and ask the Lord to come into your heart so you are never alone, you can talk to Him whenever you want and ask for comfort.❤
I have been an adult orphan for 24 years. I did the same and started new traditions for myself. Some of them stuck and some of them I did for a while and realized they weren’t fulfilling my heart. It can be hard to get motivation when you’re only motivated by yourself and not for sharing it with someone else. It may fill your heart to do acts of service during this time of year to fill that need and space in you .sending you a giant hug of love, motivation, and understanding.💗💗💗🎄
Thank you so much for sharing your journey and for your beautiful words-they really mean a lot to me. I love the idea of creating new traditions, even if some don’t stick; it’s all part of finding what truly resonates with our hearts. You’re so right about how motivation can feel different when it’s just for ourselves, and I think your suggestion of acts of service is such a wonderful way to bring meaning and connection during the holidays.
Sending you a big hug right back, filled with gratitude and understanding. Wishing you peace and warmth this season and always. 💗✨🎄
New traditions are great! I donate toys and food to animal rescues at this time of year, and I enjoy it so much.
There is an awful lot of pressure on people at this time of year. The truth is there doesn’t have to be a big gathering. You haven’t failed miserably, you tried something and it didn’t work. You can keep going until you find something that fits for you. You don’t need to have decorations or a tree or a big meal if you don’t want to. All the best for 2025 from Scotland
I've been ostracized from my family, and my in-laws don't care for me or our children! So it's just our little family, I'm grateful for my little family but do feel the loneliness of not wanted by either side of our families. Something I have to work on, and just keep moving forward.
It’s heartbreaking to feel like you’re not wanted, but it’s so good you have your little family to lean on. 💕
First year spending Christmas alone, after a 10 year relationship. This is the loneliest I’ve felt since the split up
It's tough after a divorce, but it gets easier. Do good things for yourself.
It's tuff . Lots of us are alone ..I watch funny movies 🎥...helps a little
My second year alone with my dog. Usually spend it with my Nan but she’s in a care home
@@patriciawright8786yes it is difficult
But trust God he sees and knows
Me too after 25 year relationship
Just returned from Christmas eve candlelight service. I took my brother. It was wonderful worshipping the Lord. Settling down with tea and cake at this late hour. Folks are already sending greetings and photos.
To all on this message board - Merry Christmas and God bless. Oh Holy Night 🎶 We have each other. Thanks to Create Sparkles
May God bless you all that are alone. I want to send each one you a big hug.❤
I've lived a loner life, and for longer. Nostalgia often makes us sad. Conversely, be grateful for those years of connection and happy memories. Emotions are heightened during the holidays. I've come full circle; coming to terms with it, being in perfect peace, and integrating it into my life. Start your own tradition, or do whatever feels right for you that year.
I'm almost 73 and my 33 year old daughter stopped talking to me 4 years ago We were very close but now that is gone because of a lie someone told her. I NEVER thought this would happen to me. I'm all alone and it hurts so much.
I am so sorry about the circumstances you are facing. Have you tried reaching out to your daughter to see if you can reconcile, and move forward? I feel like Christmas is a great time to give it another try 🙏🏻
Reach out to your daughter. Write her a letter of apology and ask for her forgiveness, even if it was a lie, she believes it. Holding a grudge is like swallowing poison and waiting for the other person to die. Help her to get over it and get on with it. Life is too short.
Same here, it’s hard I cry a lot. 😔
I’m here for anyone needs to talk.
Yes. Difficult mom/ daughter history
I actually have come to love being alone on holidays. (This took a long time to achieve :) I had to acknowledge that Christmas would never be the same as my childhood; I figured I could come up with some new traditions. I take my little dog out to breakfast. (Dunkin Donuts is open in my area for a few hours on Christmas day. My pup and I split a bagel.) Then, we go on a long drive down roads I have never been able to explore. (I usually get lost, but that's ok.) Then, I find a nice and safe place to pull off the road and do a little goal setting for the next year (or I go home and do this). On the way home, my pup and I go for a walk at the park. (We almost always meet some folks to share greetings with.) Finally, we go home and have Christmas lunch and watch some old movies. Maybe we don't have the most exciting day, but we like it :) Merry Christmas, Everyone.
I am new to your channel. There are so many people, including myself that spend most Christmas alone. I remember wonderful times i had when my parents were alive. It certainly is not easy to get used to.
Thank you so much for joining the channel and for sharing your experience. It can be strange adjusting to spending Christmas without those we love, especially when we hold such cherished memories of the past. It’s not easy, and it’s okay to feel that. I hope you find moments of comfort and connection, even in the quiet times. Please know you’re not alone with this. Wishing you peace and warmth this holiday season. ❤️✨
@@vonalaird1883 Start a tradition of your own. Something that you love and can share. People are waiting on that special talent of yours.
Have yourself a merry little Christmas now.😊
I am in the same situation as you. It is so hard. I put up a tree this year to try to make it better, but it hasn’t helped. What has helped a bit though is getting a kitty a few years ago. He helps with my loneliness, but I still want the human connection.
I completely understand how hard it can be. Putting up a tree is such a thoughtful way to try to bring some cheer, even if it doesn’t always make the loneliness go away. I’m so glad you have your kitty-they really can bring so much comfort and companionship.
That longing for human connection is something I deeply relate to, and I hope you find moments of warmth and connection, even in small ways. Sending you lots of love and understanding this season. ❤️✨
After my grandparents died, so did the Christmas traditions for me. I lived with my grandparents and were extremely close to them. They were like my second parents. They are the only people I miss along with my aunts and uncle who also passed away. As we get older, we make our own traditions. Do something special for yourself and buy the things that make you happy.❤
I'm alone again this year. I have four kids but we aren't talking. I used to have huge Christmas parties. I had lots of traditions I really long to do with my grandsons. Thank God I do have custody of them on some weekends. But not Christmas. Even though I'm involved in a church, I'm just alone on Christmas. But after I get through this financial hump, if I ever do I guess. It seems like I've been saying that for my whole life. But if I get through this, I will spend the rest of my life making Christmas for those who have no one.
I so get it. You have the right to feel as you do. When the emotions come, let them move through you so they don’t get trapped in your body. You put your tree up, and some decorations, and should be proud of that! 😊 That’s more than I’ve done. Make something delicious, watch movies, and try to do whatever brings you joy. Each day, ask God to bring you your tribe. You will be amazed at how you will meet new people. Sending you a huge hug!!
Me too, trying my best not to cry Boo Hoo, life goes on =) Thankful!
I'm pretty much the same situation as you but my mom died 14 years ago. I'm good now with carrying on as if the holidays didn't even exist. Christmas is just another day like any other.
Thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry about your mom, the holidays bring up a lot of emotions, even years later. It’s perfectly okay to treat Christmas like any other day if that’s what feels right for you-it’s all about doing what works for your peace of mind. I hope you’re able to find little moments of joy and comfort during the season, even if it’s not tied to traditional celebrations that's what I'm working toward. Sending you warmth and understanding. ❤️
We seem to forget what Christmas is all about. Family getting together, being with the ones you love are great and give us connection but that's not "Christmas".
We are literally celebrating the BIRTH of Jesus Christ. The ONLY one who loved us enough to die for us ~ for YOU! His resurrection gives all of us eternal life. That is worth
celebrating!! Turn to Him!! He is ALWAYS there. Talk with Him, tell him your deepest feelings, the ones in your heart. He hears and He will bless your life.
Christmas is no time to be SAD ! He literally will heal us if we invite Him into our lives and seek His will. Jesus Christ lives! Be thankful for that. That is Christmas!
I'm single never married, no children. 66 yrs. old - still love Christmas!
Amen 🙏🏾 come into my life Jesus!
When I was solo at Christmas I went to the nursing home and delivered some homemade cookies. Many of them don't have a family either
I thought of doing that but my Mom passed in a nursing home so I can’t go there it would break my heart. 😔
My first yr spending holidays with friends instead of family. I feel sad and like an orphan. Tagging along with friends is odd. I’m grateful but it’s just not the holidays of the past.
Wishing you a blessed day
Thank you for sharing how you’re feeling-that first time is a bittersweet experience. It’s wonderful that you have friends to spend the holidays with, but I completely understand how it can feel different and even a little strange compared to past traditions. I feel included with my friend's family but it still isn't the same. It’s okay to feel both grateful and sad at the same time-those emotions can coexist, especially during a season so tied to memories and family.
Wishing you peace and comfort as you navigate this new chapter, and I hope you’re able to find little moments of joy along the way. Sending you warm thoughts and a blessed day as well. ❤️✨
I am somewhat estranged from my family and feeling isolated from them. This is their way of making me drive a long way to see them or nothing. The feelings are depressing, but I do all I can to keep my spirits up. Decorating, food, and celebrating my way is the plan. I am wishing you a very Merry Christmas✨🙏🎄🎅⛄
I’m so sorry to hear that you're going through this. I hope you're able to create a joyful and meaningful Christmas for yourself. 💖
Agree with you. Some toxic families use Christmas as a way to reunite with you without apologizing…
I'm sorry to hear about ur mom. I also lost my mom in march of 2021. It's not easy losing ur mom. But I guarantee u she is still with u in spirit. I use to have huge Christmas parties with my family, but now most of the members are passed away or moved away. So it will just be my daughter and myself this year. I'm so grateful to have my daughter with me. We will eat Christmas dinner, and play some games together and it will be lovely. I'm very grateful to God that we're not homeless. Merry Christmas to u... May ur Christmas be merry and bright.
Time to save up and go on a holiday for the holidays!
My son and his girlfriend will be over for Christmas. They live behind my house in their own apartment. I probably won't see either of my grandchildren or my daughter. My daughter is in Paris. Back when I was a kid, the holidays were all about getting together with your family. We all lived in the same neighborhood. It was great seeing both grandmothers on Christmas! I miss those days.
I am so sorry for your loneliness! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and how it feels for you. I wish you a beautiful day tomorrow on Christmas day!
No family gatherings for 3 years. I fill my time with good friends, free activities and keeping busy. I'm into making gifts, don't spend much on retail. I've been doing thrift shop gifts for 20 years, buy a nice thrift basket or ceramic container, buy a new item to coordinate with thrift item, a cute ornament & baked goodies.
I'm 74, still work at a gallery 1.5 days a week and live the best life I can. Christmas is tomorrow. I'm meeting friends at a local church for a free holiday meal. I've done this for years. We donate cash but not necessary.
Keeping positive vibes is essential!!!
I slept through Christmas day.
I just subscribed. I am in the same situation and I have learned over the years that many people wish they could be in our shoes so the grass is not always greener. I enjoy ME! I am my best company.
Yeah, I’ll be spending Christmas alone also. All of my immediate family members are dead and my partner passed away a little over a year ago. Also, my extended family stopped having holiday get togethers. As we get a little older, it’s easier to regret not getting married or having children. I try to remind myself that all these perfect looking families on social media are not actually perfect. We all tend to try make our online lives look perfect. Truth is, everybody is dealing with stuff and issues, even if it looks perfect in their photos. I’m getting better with just accepting it and making the most of my situation. Merry Christmas to you! -Jim in Atlanta
Thank you for sharing, Jim. I’m so sorry for your losses-it’s clear you’ve faced a lot of heartache, especially around the holidays. You’re absolutely right that those picture-perfect families on social media rarely reflect the whole story, and it’s a great reminder not to compare our lives to what we see online.
It’s inspiring that you’re working toward accepting your situation and finding ways to make the most of it-that takes a lot of strength. Wishing you peace and comfort this Christmas, and thank you for being part of this conversation. Merry Christmas to you too! ❤️✨
I lost my partner last year and my mum this year, I am 64, no children and its just me and my little dog. I'm not sad though, I am an introvert and happy in my own company.
Yes Me...welcome to the Club
I grew up in Brilliant just south of Steubenville. It took me back hearing you talk about it. I can't take away your loneliness but I hope you have a good holiday and find some traditions of your own that bring you joy.
Thank you for this video. First Christmas alone for me.
It is the most depressing time of the year😢
@Stellagalloway444 I wish they,d cancel it yikes
Spent all my Christmases except one since 2016 alone. I am still figuring it out, I can spend a fair bit without really having that festive mojo. Maybe I will get Chinese food delivered I have enjoyed that in the past. I do enjoy the Christmas radio stations you get online. You have mentioned elsewhere comments help the algorithm get videos out to those who need to hear it, I think your message is very worthwhile, so just wanted to send Christmas greetings to you and your online community from Glasgow, Scotland.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for taking the time to share your thoughts. Christmas radio stations are such a wonderful way to bring some cheer, too; it’s amazing how music can lift the spirit.
I’m so grateful for your support and for being part of this community-it really does make a difference. Sending warm Christmas greetings right back to you and everyone in Glasgow! May your holiday be peaceful, and here’s to figuring out what works for each of us during this season. ❤️✨🎄
Yes, we can do it! Thanks for the video!
You’re story sounds so real and honest, the feelings within it hit home but in a comforting way. Thank you for sharing. Sending you love from Ireland ☘️❤❤❤❤
Over the years my family circle has become smaller, too. My dad is an @$$, also; I have had to grieve the loss of someone who is still alive and walking this earth. I have to say once I got past the 5 year mark everything became easier. I have learned to enjoy my own company and lean in to how peaceful it is.
God bless you for making this video.I lost my mom at the same rime you did. Since then, I see no point to celebrating Christmas without her. My father....he's pretty much cut from the same cloth as yours. Thank you. We are not alone
I'm in a similar position to yourself, except I'm divorced. Since my mum died in 2000, apart from the first Christmas in 2001, I have spent every one alone. I actually prefer it this way now, as I wouldn't want to spend it with a family. It is after all, just one day. Time does heal love, so try to stay strong and positive. So long as I have a roof over my head, a TV and some nice food, I'm fine. All the very best from the UK. 🤗
Thanks for sharing, Lisa. I have been so sad lately. It is unbearable at times. Seeing this video gives me a little comfort. What area of the US do you live in?
I am sorry you are going through some rough times.
Feeling this sentiment so much! Thank you for sharing this, it’s easy to feel like you’re the only one who feels this way during this time of year. I hope we can all find new Xmas joy in coming years ❤
Love the video. I spent Christmas relatively alone even though I am married. Lots of transitions. I was alone with my cherished dog all day and then I pushed myself out the door to a Christmas party at a resource center nearby. I think I will take note of all of those for people. This one was open to anyone and was at an LGBTQ center. Our local mental health organization also has a support circle for people at the holiday. It was at the same time as the other one. Both were great ideas. I sure miss the other Christmases too but you know what we Christmas alone people are important too and Thank God for RUclips. Also, I though your authentic talk about wanting a family was so important. I never had kids either. I married late in life and now my husband is so ill that I am mostly on my own. Thanks again
I am a single orphan. I actually have spent most of my adult life during Christmas alone. I grew up with the traditional having to visit two grandmothers' houses for Christmas where I got to hang with my cousins and even with the family being disfunctional, I looked forward to being with my cousins, going to midnight mass and experiencing the magic of Christmas eve. Christmas day has always been an anti climax for me though after the presents are open and breakfast, my cousins and I would go see a movie. By my 20s I was living in another state and couldn't afford flying home. I actually made that as an excuse to be honest because I just got tired of the family drama and wanted a peaceful holiday season. I am now in my 70's and I divorced my family a few years ago because of the toxic relationship was getting worse to the point where I was seeing a therapist again. Holidays are hard being single, plus my friends are always with their families and out of state during Christmas. It sucks worse because my birthday is on the 27th so no friend was ever around on my birthday so I am alone. So what do you do? You have to reinvent your Christmas/Yule/Winter Solstice and every holiday during this season. I listen to Christmas music, listen to Old Time Radio Programs that have a Christmas theme, make my favorite food, decorate for the season and watch the classical Christmas movies and tv cartoons like Mr.Magoo's Christmas Carol. I have a fake fireplace turned on, flameless candles lit and I just have a peaceful time where I remember why we celebrate the season. This is a spiritual holiday so bring joy and happiness into it. For those of you who need more, volunteer at a food bank or a soup kitchen where you help feed the homeless and poor. Help collect toys for kids whose parents can afford much. Do something in the community which in turn gives you positivity in return. Just enjoy this special season the best way you can. I have been learning about Yule and that has actually helped me embrace the season better. Learn traditions you might not be aware of and put some into practice. Have fun. Those who are lonely, rescue an animal from the shelter My cat has kept me sane.
Hi. Thank you for sharing your feelings. I have a family and don’t know what it’s like not to have one. I do give thanks to God for everything he has given me. Life isn’t easy for me either. Even with my beautiful children and wonderful husband I still get sad at times. It’s life. We all have our crosses to carry. I rely on prayer and a true relationship with God to get me through. All this to say we all go through times of sadness but hang in there. I like how you try to have a positive outlook. See what you have when things get you down. You will be in my prayers. May you have a penitential and reflective advent and a Blessed Merry Christmas 🙏🏼🎄
Thank you for such a kind and uplifting message. Have a wonderful Christmas. 💕
Thank you for this vlog. We’re in similar circumstances. I also am single no children and 48 year old woman. I have no friends or extended family. My fur baby passed last month and I haven’t felt in the Christmas spirit like I usually do. Thanks for being venerable and candid about your situation. I always feel like I’m the only one ❤
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I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your fur baby. That’s such a hard thing to go through, especially around the holidays when everything feels even more emotional.
I really appreciate you watching and connecting with my vlog. You’re definitely not alone, and it means so much to know this resonated with you. Sending you love and comfort this season-take care of yourself. ❤️✨
@@CreateSparklesStudio aww thanks for the response. It’s so nice not to be commenting into to void and know your reading your comments. I’m
new subscriber look forward to your content it really resonates with me.
Even worse is having some family that excludes you I would rather it be I was alone
Single mom alone. Daughter took off with a loser never to be seen again. I am going to enjoy Christmas without drama.
You are still grieving the loss of the traditions you did have with family. I lost my mom some years back and holidays generally are hard. I did not celebrate any of them for a number of years--just too triggering. With recent years, I have changed the menu for holidays to include 1 of 'her' recipes. I also changed how I decorated and what I did during the different holidays. If family or friends want to visit, I prepare for tea and the sweet treats--not a dinner. It is diffcult getting through Thanksgiving-Christimas. It is really about taking change and making the traditions 'fit' for where you are. Good luck.
Being alone is hard. Being alone AND dealing with cancer over the holidays is a nightmare! Hang in there.
It is i agree ❤❤
New subbie here. This was pretty brave. I think you are on the right track by creating new traditions. Merry Christmas!
This is so exciting!!! You're going to hit 10k on this video! 🎉🎉🎉
never had a family, never done xmas, always stay alone and thankful I don't have to buy gifts.
Yep, you do you! We as a society are just invaded by the holidays. Everywhere you look people are trying to sell you something. Buy this and it will make you happy, do this and you'll have the perfect holiday season, be this, make this to have the best holiday season ever. Oh man! I am in the last year of the autumn of my life and I am in the process of down sizing with the philosophy of "less is more. " I cannot believe all the Christmas crap that I have accumulated in 58 years. Times and circumstances change and in the end, we all must all do the same. So I am donating and gifting almost all of my Christmas crap away to those that are need or in want of it. MERRY CHRISTMAS to me!
I have been alone on Christmas for many years. I put the tree up and my outdoor lights just like l did when my parents were here and l do very well. Tv. R
Plus l am an only child so l am used to being alone. I decorate the same.And l leave most of it up All year. This really helps me get through and be excited about it. Don’t forget the real reason for the season.
I lost my mom this year in 2024 and she was my best friend. My dad died five years ago and all of my grandparents died decades ago. I also consider myself an orphan at 60. To me my mom was Christmas. My siblings were able to move on with their lives after our parents died because they all have children and grandchildren. My parents were my world and were always there for me. I also never married or had children...I am now alone. Christmas is just another day to me now...and I will probably never decorate for the holidays anymore. I do not care to be around people and stay isolated most of the time...and I used to be a huge people person before my mom's death. Life is hard. The older we get...the more life takes away from us. God bless you.
Merry Christmas! 🎄🎄🎄
Me and my cats hang out together for the holidays! I have had to get adjusted to spending them with only people who truly love and support me emotionally. Sometimes that means being alone. I still prefer my own company to most other people 😂
I have a family but as a mom of grown girls I always spend Christmas alone everyone goes their own way
Thank you so much for sharing. Coming from a smaller family that moved around a lot, one of the reasons my daughter and I wanted to start a channel was to find community and to find a RUclips family. Seeing how many people can relate helps to put into perspective that not everyone has the picture perfect holiday and that if we all reach out to one other during this season with something as simple as a smile or asking how their day is going it sure can make a difference. I hope this year gets a little brighter. Sending some smiles your way. 💛
That depends on you. Not everyone has the same picture perfect holiday, but it can still be a joyful and meaningful one.
As tough as this is, I feel that you will find peace and gratitude in volunteering and giving. Help those less fortunate, there is always someone doing life tougher than us. When you come home later on Christmas Day and you're exhausted, have something wonderful that was previously prepared. Enjoy that, watch the special movie, cry if you want to and think..."Yeah, I've survived another one and I feel ok".
I tried that. But oddly many of those places aren't as easy to get involved in or they don't like newcomers. Or you still feel really alone while there and don't really help anyone. I'm going to still try to find a place where I can fit in and volunteer to bring others happiness but I haven't yet.
I usually had jobs where I worked holidays and sometimes I would sign up for because it was double time and a half. My kids are grown and out of state where it snows so traveling is hard. When you work you are there with everyone else who had or wanted to work. Some places advertise for seasonal workers and it's a productive way to spend Christmas and Thanksgiving. You can always volunteer too. Work is always at the hospitals, truck stops, hotels, nursing homes, homeless shelters, and animal rescues. 🎄🎀
Yep totally agree 💯
22 yrs ago, separated and gf left I remember having leftover Chinese takeout for Christmas dinner. Now married 20 yrs and so grateful. Regards to all.
I'm so glad you mentioned crochet, I find that keeping my hands busy, crocheting hats for the homeless. You will pull out of it. Reach out and keep posting videos. My Mom passed, and I know what it's like. You sound like a great person, worthy of friendships. I have a small family, but feel left out. Hang in there, Sending hugs. I am thinking of foster care.
Thumbs up, subscribed. Thank you very much. All holidays with my dog have been the best ever in my life. Get a cat if you cannot get a dog. Just because they share same DNA does not mean you owe them a single thing or second of your life! My Christmas years without relatives have been the best ones in my life! Get a dog or cat and workout outdoors with dogs at paid dog park. Life goes on.
I feel for you. I'm in a little similar situation & have been for years. It is not easy. And as I'm listening to you I'm thinking you should get involved with like agencies that help other people at Xmas. That would give you joy I believe & take the focus off of you feeling bad. Then it hit me. I should do the same!! It would make me feel good to help others have a good Xmas. It is Xmas Eve as I'm writing this so a little late this year but I just may have to volunteer in other ways. God bless you! Merry Xmas!
I totally get it!!!❤
Hi, i just found this channel. I am absolutely positively sure that your mother is there with you now & always. I am positive she is always near look for all the signs they send because they really do! All we have to do is look. May GOD BLESS YOU! Remember look for the signs, she is always near. ❤
Thank you for your kind words.
The expectations for these holidays make people feel depressed. Christmas is another day. I have family and told my husband we are not exchanging gifts with one another this year. We are not having a Christmas party this year as we have hosted a few in the past. It will be a small intimate Christmas. Just he and I and our adult children and later I am sure they will leave and hang out with their friends. Truthfully, I am tired of the hype of Christmas year after year.
I just happen to run across this video and I kind of feel the same and I have family. I have three kids and I have a grandson two of them and one I see all the time. I think it might just be the way the world is it’s hard to get into that but you know what I’m wishing you a peaceful happy day. Hope you enjoy something good to eatand you can always be in your feelings.
I am alone again this year - every year since I lost my Mum in 2019.
I have developed a little routine that just pleases me. I let others phone me ( if they think of it ), but the day is mine . I get up when I like , I eat what I like when I like.
I watch what I want on tv when I like .
I have a tree and decorations, and I do spend some time (when I like) looking through photos of my family in other Christmas years.
I, too, am single, no children.
I do have siblings, but they live some distance away, so that's that.
I wish you peace and joy and would love to hear after Christmas that you get through it OK doing what you like , when you like .
Spoil yourself, reflect on the good times, AND get Mommas decorations out when you are ready (she'd love that) .
I have my Mums- I love unpacking them and remembering what joy she had from them.
I wish I could have your email so I can email you ?
Take care: wrap yourself in grace
No, it will never be the same, but you will find new traditions ..
Love and Blessings
Janice 🇬🇧 xxx👵
Hey merry Christmas! I pray you have an awesome Christmas this year, what’s left of it.
Do you have any pets? I do have family but the time i get with them isnt always during the whole holiday so alone on Christmas eve. I have my fur baby and i have joy with him. Everyone should have something alive they live with. A cat if a dog isnt possible.
I tried to recreate what I missed and lost , it wasn't the same. I went out and bought everything new..tree, ornaments, etc and tried that. It helped, new memories you know but still it's just me and the pain is here. I'm sorry your having to experience all these feelings and emotions.
I have spent many Christmases alone. For my family Thanksgiving is more like our Christmas. That’s when we get together and everything since everyone lives so far away. I find doing something special helps on Christmas Day. Order something you normally wouldn’t eat, read a really good book or watch a great movie, if you have an animal cuddle with them a little more. Anything you have to do to get yourself through. Many hugs. Many of us have been in the same boat and are in the same boat with you.
I spent Christmas alone today and it was great. I miss my little fur baby that passed away. Other than that part I prefer to watch what I want to watch, eat what I want.