❤️ what they tend to show on social media is sometimes goofy women doing goofy things. You are so likable and mainstream. Smart too, obviously. And I’m glad you dress the way you do. Sensible and stylish.
Dr Laura, People can say what they want about your positions on things and I think you are one of the most compassionate humans on the nation circuit. Thank you for staying strong all these years and keeping yourself on our airwaves on these many years. You gave this woman compassion and a fair read on a situation when no one else was. Angel on earth.
I could have used this advice early in on in my marriage almost 50 years ago. He was infinitely cruel. He was actually deliberately mean! When I called him on it, he turned it on me, saying I was a “horrible person.” Oh, and a burden. Marriage counselling taught me to ignore it, but it didn’t work. He just upped his game until I kicked him out and then played the victim. Often, they do horrendous things with a smile on their faces, just to add to the confusion.
It can take time to recognize passive abusive behavior because, being raised with it by a parent, we not only tolerate it but think we deserve it. It is possible (my case) to end up choosing a PA partner because it is what we are used to. It took years but when my husband realized that I loved him for just who he was, he stopped the PA, and then I began to gain the confidence to develop my art talents when older. The only one who criticized was my mother, may she rest in peace. PS: I sold much of my work and now display my favorites all over my home.
That certainly is mean and cruel of her abusive husband! Great call on your part. ❤. She probably has PTSD from 4 years old! #DontTolerateAbuse #YouCanDoThis
It’s possible her parents were doing the best they could, and she at 4 took this burden on anyway. My daughter is 17 and thank God she’s shared her internalized angst from as early as age 6 when she absorbed the stress I and her dad were dealing with while caring for her grandfather. She has intrusive OCD patterns which may stem from this or became activated from this time period.
I know a woman who was always disagreeable and critical She had a way of sitting upright in her car,sunglasses on,superior smirk ,looking me up and down and she would say anything she wanted,no feelings spared.I always felt like I was 5 years old with that woman.
Yes, it's not nice to lock the door on your wife. But, listening to her and her uncontrollable talk talk talk - with a stranger on a public forum, yet -I can see why he would need some way to get away from her near-hysteria. So I don't find him cruel and abusive - she needs to be able to control herself if he is to feel comfortable getting out of his shell.
Exactly. Most likely she goes three steps away from Batshit crazy and her husband just tries to get some peace and quiet from her. That’s why this is her third marriage.
Lol. You obviously don’t know how to be observant and accept words of truth that’s not SUGAR COATED. Dr Laura is not using abusive words to the caller. At all. She’s helping her see what’s happening by helping her face the truth. THATS what real help, love and caring for other people looks like.
No, Dr. Laura, you’re rude. I understand why you have to cut through the ongoing babbling of your collars but all too often you were just plain rude. That’s why you got canceled. I often recommend your books, but I do not recommend your program because in your books, you don’t have the opportunity to be rude to people.
You don’t know if he’s being abusive or not. He might be just trying to get away from her neurotic behavior and have some peace and quiet without lashing out at her insanity. Bad advice
As an aside, I am glad to see you posting some calls on youtube. We don't see enough older beautiful articulate women on camera.
Wow, thank you!
❤️ what they tend to show on social media is sometimes goofy women doing goofy things. You are so likable and mainstream. Smart too, obviously. And I’m glad you dress the way you do. Sensible and stylish.
ALL OF IT!❤
That long pause after you said, "You don't deserve it." That tells you everything. What a dear lady. Thank you for helping her Dr. Laura.
😊 thank you
I think that was at least a year of therapy in about 5 minutes. Wow!
Dr Laura, People can say what they want about your positions on things and I think you are one of the most compassionate humans on the nation circuit. Thank you for staying strong all these years and keeping yourself on our airwaves on these many years. You gave this woman compassion and a fair read on a situation when no one else was. Angel on earth.
That was awesome Dr Laura. You cut to heart of it whereas it could've taken a very long time in therapy to get there. YAY 🎉
Amazing insight at the last part of the call when the caller said she equated virtue with how much abuse she could handle.
I could have used this advice early in on in my marriage almost 50 years ago. He was infinitely cruel. He was actually deliberately mean! When I called him on it, he turned it on me, saying I was a “horrible person.” Oh, and a burden. Marriage counselling taught me to ignore it, but it didn’t work. He just upped his game until I kicked him out and then played the victim. Often, they do horrendous things with a smile on their faces, just to add to the confusion.
It can take time to recognize passive abusive behavior because, being raised with it by a parent, we not only tolerate it but think we deserve it. It is possible (my case) to end up choosing a PA partner because it is what we are used to. It took years but when my husband realized that I loved him for just who he was, he stopped the PA, and then I began to gain the confidence to develop my art talents when older. The only one who criticized was my mother, may she rest in peace. PS: I sold much of my work and now display my favorites all over my home.
That certainly is mean and cruel of her abusive husband! Great call on your part. ❤. She probably has PTSD from 4 years old! #DontTolerateAbuse #YouCanDoThis
So sad to me at that age women just do not get it..much has to do with not being financially independent..
I would of asked where her parents were when she was worrying about her sister. It's their job to worry about the sister not hers.
It’s possible her parents were doing the best they could, and she at 4 took this burden on anyway. My daughter is 17 and thank God she’s shared her internalized angst from as early as age 6 when she absorbed the stress I and her dad were dealing with while caring for her grandfather. She has intrusive OCD patterns which may stem from this or became activated from this time period.
I know a woman who was always disagreeable and critical
She had a way of sitting upright in her car,sunglasses on,superior smirk ,looking me up and down and she would say anything she wanted,no feelings spared.I always felt like I was 5 years old with that woman.
I hate it when these callers don't listen....
Geesh! Give her a little grace! She's like in her 80's. Poor lady.
@@arreola891 all the more reason
I would have to think long and hard marrying someone who had never married. We learn flexibility, compromise, grace and forgiveness --- we grow up.
I would think long and hard before marrying someone with two failed marriages.
@@OneSevenandTwentyplus Lovely women hook up with abusers because of childhood trauma.
I have learned so much from you.
Wow. Amazing.
Thank you for saying Truth
Damnit, thank you, Dr Laura.
Indeed.
Yes, it's not nice to lock the door on your wife. But, listening to her and her uncontrollable talk talk talk - with a stranger on a public forum, yet -I can see why he would need some way to get away from her near-hysteria. So I don't find him cruel and abusive - she needs to be able to control herself if he is to feel comfortable getting out of his shell.
Excellent
How do I stop feeling like I am 5 with certain people or is it better to avoid them?
Call me to discuss, 1-800-DR-LAURA
@@drlaura Can't .I'm in South Africa😣
This lady won't listen to both her husband or Dr. Laura.
Exactly. Most likely she goes three steps away from Batshit crazy and her husband just tries to get some peace and quiet from her. That’s why this is her third marriage.
Why does Dr. Laura Preach about calling out and recognizing abuse but then actually is abusive in her own words and actions. How very ugly of her.
Lol. You obviously don’t know how to be observant and accept words of truth that’s not SUGAR COATED. Dr Laura is not using abusive words to the caller. At all. She’s helping her see what’s happening by helping her face the truth. THATS what real help, love and caring for other people looks like.
I preach, teach, and nag!!
No, Dr. Laura, you’re rude. I understand why you have to cut through the ongoing babbling of your collars but all too often you were just plain rude. That’s why you got canceled. I often recommend your books, but I do not recommend your program because in your books, you don’t have the opportunity to be rude to people.
@@OneSevenandTwentypluslol. Not canceled. She’s till around after 50 years!!!! THAT says something. And BTW, that is a fact.
@@drlaura Love it.
You don’t know if he’s being abusive or not. He might be just trying to get away from her neurotic behavior and have some peace and quiet without lashing out at her insanity. Bad advice
Feelings have no IQ.