Exactly, to me parenting is the toughest part. I thought I was busy before we had our first child, however, after she (absolutely adorable little thing!) got into the world we honestly never have time for anything else anymore. Every single running minute has to be scheduled in. The amount of flexibility you need to have towards the child and wife compared to before you having kids is just next level. Work, yeah, if I can barely be successful, great! Hobbies? You can forget about those. Friends? hahaha funny!
I wanted to say this exact thing. Come home from work and start running? How? Husband is not home yet, kid needs to eat, and put to bed. When she is asleep and my husband is home, then I can run…. Getting up early is not an option, as I work from 8 tot 18.00. And before I got to go to work, kid needs to eat, get dressed etc
Zone 2 / Low HR!! I'm in a "once per decade", HIGHLY stressful situation right now, and I can literally see how my body is taking twice as much time to recover, so I switched focus in my training to low HR runs. Training load dropped by half, but I'm still being productive in my runs, AND, the low HR runs force me to relax, slow down, focus on big slow breaths, and being in the moment... and yesterday was the day I realized I was literally meditating while running. It's actually keeping me together as I work 50+ hours / week for a VFX deadline, while I sold my house to move out of the city and have 2 months left to find a place to live. WIthout those low HR runs I would be an absolute mess right now.
Stress is a killer! I went through a horrible situation with my dog in January where he pretty much started bleeding to death because of low platelet count and my Hamstrings literally seized on me because of the tension in my body. I agree that just getting out and cruising slowly is highly therapeutic, especially in the woods. BTW, I have been in the same situation as you where my house was sold and I only had a month to find a new one, it was insanely stressful😂
The truth about missing some runs can be hard to accept, but just accepting it and looking at it long-term is probably the healthiest way to approach running for life. Great points! =D
So true!!!!! 70 hours a week 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ On one hand I’m annoyed you aren’t already at 100k subs but on the other hand I’m excited for when it happens real soon ❤❤ keep being awesome you two!
I live in a building with a fully equipped gym and I don't think I can ever go without now. In winter it's dark so early and I don't feel safe going for a run alone in the dark, or sometimes the weather is just deplorable, and I don't feel like getting covered in muck and guck for a short easy run, being able to go down to the building gym is such luxury. I'm sure I would have missed so many more training sessions through the winter months without such easy access to a treadmill and gym.
I’m really happy that I found this channel. I’ve been on my running journey for 3 months now and just yesterday ran my first 10k (only training, not an event or race), and I’m always looking for every bit of advice I can find. Whatever it is, this channel seems to have it covered and it’s always done really well. Thank you, and keep up the hard work! Looking forward to 100k subscribers!!!
Ben and Mary, the pragmatic and balanced advice you give - the experience you both bring - is always clear and actionable. Thanks for the thought and generosity of this vlog.
Very true.. some sessions are shit and you run on a discipline in order to feel the same joy later once more. Sometimes you miss a run, but zooming out and general consistency is key.
I work 12 hour shifts in a hospital days and nights can happen in one week. For example over the past two weeks my schedule has been, two 12 hour days, one off, two 12 hour days on, one off, two 12 hour night shifts. When this happens I know I have to prioritise sleep and recovery otherwise my runs suffer. I just about manage to juggle both but I ache constantly 😂
Half marathon training while in second year of grad school, clinical internship, and working full time… I really needed this video today. ❤ Thank you for putting out such uplifting content. It really helps me to keep my focus and perspective during the challenges.
Fitness Instructor here!!! It's so hard to balance work and training sometimes because my body, of course, absorbs all of it as a whole. Therefore, there are days when I'm exhausted before even lacing up my shoes 😂 Fantastic video (again). I wish I could meet you in Chicago next October. Love your channel.
It's funny how Ben is always the "sleep model" in the videos, leaving the viewers to believe Mary must never sleep and therefore her legend of a vampire runner is born. 😂
Another great video! I wanted to tell you I ran my first marathon yesterday in Reykjavik and your videos really helped me stay disciplined and motivated! Keep it up!❤
@@50Something It took me 4:52:49, I'm quite a slow runner but I'm happy I was able to run the same pace throughout the race! Also the views were amazing, people were encouraging and even though I kinda hit a wall at around 30km, I finished strong and full of adrenaline for the last 5km 😊
I found that with a busy job (resident doctor in my first few years of practice in the UK) I was able to keep up my running mileage because of how much I love running. BUT, everything else running related I used to do such as strength training, stretching routines, cooking healthier meals and fueling well fell by the wayside… they were just less fun and more effort after a loooong day. I found going on regular runs to be a great way to relax, but I slowly but surely developed achilles tendinitis without the proper supportive activities. It’s been a real bummer and it’s taking me month upon months to rehab the right achilles (which no longer hurts, just tight) as I’m also on my feet a lot at work and cannot rest it properly either. Does anyone else relate?
Absolutely… I’m not a doctor, but I own my own farm. It’s all physical work and time on feet… but if I don’t do it, it doesn’t get done, which simply isn’t an option when you care for animals. The work is throughout the day and night, making healthy meals, yoga, strength etc more difficult to squeeze in, along with running. I’ve finally accepted 10-15 minutes of working out is better than nothing, and a quick fruit and veg smoothie is better than the junk, and it really has helped. Best wishes on your fitness journey!
It really can be hard to schedule running into the day with everything that everyone has going on. You make an excellent point about not beating yourself up if you miss one run.
Brilliant video, brilliant channel. Come on everyone - let's get these two to 100k subscriptions. They more than deserve this. And for me the key is HABITS AND ROUTINES where you don't have to think too much or dig deep to find motivation. I worked in health promotion for many years and the philosophy was "Make the healthy choice easy". Same for running. It's all about planning and rewards and your environment etc. Using motivation as your only tool can be so draining. You can only go to the well so many times. So be creative to make the good training choices easier. If your tyres aren't pumped up and your chain not oiled, you're not gonna use your bike to pop out to the shops! Hurrah for Messy Happy.🎉🎉
I started running 5 months ago with a full time job. I remember when it was so hard to get my weekly mileage up to 20 mpw. Not because of time but because my body would start to break down because I was averaging 40k-45k steps for the day if I ran before work. Now I just hit my 3rd week in a row over 50 mpw all while working full time. My goal is to get up to 70 mpw before my first half marathon. Recovery was critical for me as my body adapted and I feel better at higher mileage then when I started. Discipline is not an issue, I be there no matter what. I can't wait to train for the marathon next.
Something that probably came with getting older, am now 64 is that i can take a 10 minute power nap when i come home from work, fall asleep almost immediately and wakeup refreshed and ready to run. Do not use an alarm but never sleep longer than 10 - 15 minutes.
great stuff.., i definitely fit into this category, having a full-time job and coaching gridiron here in the states and still trying to run. Great video
As someone who really dislikes doing the strength and mobility work, I really resent having to devote more time to that than I spend running. For background, I'm doing a couch to 5k (for the third or fourth time!) to get back into running, and repeating each week at least a couple of times to ensure I don't do too much too soon (being prone to _all_ the usual running injuries). So I'm only running for 15 to 20 minutes, three times per week. Even if I adopted _only_ Ben's 15 to 20 minutes of pre-breakfast mobility work, I'd be spending over twice as much time per week doing that as actually running, and that's really hard to raise the motivation for.
Please don’t take this as a rude comment as it’s not meant to be but I wonder if the reluctance to do anything else that can long term benefit you and your running could be the reason for the injuries and the doing the couch to 5k more than once? A little physical investment in these kinds of things can actually open you up to being able to run more and further, even if you don’t really like it. Neither do I to be fair but I do it because it allows me to do the thing I actually love even more 😊
@@ThisMessyHappy Haha! No offence taken here. I completely accept that this is all on me, and that I ought to do the strength and mobility - or, more accurately, _need_ to do it - but that doesn't make it any more enjoyable. Imagine if you owned a nice car which you enjoyed driving, but had to spend an hour maintaining it for every hour spent driving it. If you thoroughly disliked the maintenance bit, I think this might affect how much time you spent driving. If you then had to double the maintenance time for each hour driven, you might be a little less inclined to drive it. Double it again - now four hours maintenance per hour of driving - and you'd have to really, _really_ love driving that car to ever take it out of the garage. I know the analogy doesn't quite work, because most of us pay someone else to maintain our cars. I just need to figure out a way to pay someone else to do my strength and mobility training 🤔
I relate a lot. When you’re exhausted after a long day’s work, something you do not enjoy is the LAST thing you want to do. Even if you had a decent day at work… mental fatigue makes mobility and strength training sometimes feel like pushing a wall.
But please be assured that if you are consistent, a breakthrough will come where you’re running a lot for a lot more time than you are spending on the maintenance activities. (Or perhaps you’ll find a different sport you are happier to do the maintenance for.)
Ha ha I do get you but look at it this way, I now probably do 2 hours of s&c per week but run 6ish hours. And to be honest I could get away with doing 1 hour for every 6 hours running. So that’s a way better ratio that 1:1 now 😊
I often do very physical contracts throughout the year, so my running always declines during those times. It’s hard to go for a run after a day of building and already at 10k - 15k steps. I let schedules go to the way side to take the pressure off and just go for a run when I’m feeling it. So at least a couple of times a week, but without any pressure on pace or distance.
I work 60+ hours a week in hospitality (where it’s a stressful and energy draining job) but I still have time to run 4km every few days. My next aim is 5km and at the moment I’m not looking at time I just want to make it happen!
I switched to the evening shift because there was no way I could force myself out the door for a run after 8 hours of work and up to 3 hours of driving per day. Now I have the luxury of sleeping until my body is ready for a run.
Every time I’m tempted not to run or to take the short bath, I ask in my head, easy or hard? Seems to work for me when I have a choice. Agree on eliminating a decision
Hi guys, i do have a question, as you use Garmin, is there any reason you dont use the HRV function from Garmin? I ask because i have thought about getting a ring to track mine among the other aspects of what it does, but im on the fence because im not seeing a reason to have HRV monitored across 2 different platforms
I wear my Garmin all the time and see no need for an extra device. Some people don't like wearing a watch while sleeping, but it's no big deal. If you nap with your watch on, you can sleep with your watch on.
It’s funny you slammed me. I’m working now to pay off some medical bills for my wife close to two full-time jobs and still trying to fit in that training plate program but I keep saying that exact same thing I keep saying if I had enough to do this ha ha I could be a knockout shape and you know yeah I got 62 years old. I’m gonna get into the Olympics or something butstill knocking it out but it is funny. That’s my excuse to say so you got me I’m guilty.
#1 works backwards for me - arriving home mentally tired or angry is a prime motivator. Someone once said, and I believe there's a grain of thuth there, that to run a good 5K you must channel all your hate...
My problem isn't balancing work and running, it's balancing work and running and hobbies and parenting and my relationship 😅
Exactly, to me parenting is the toughest part. I thought I was busy before we had our first child, however, after she (absolutely adorable little thing!) got into the world we honestly never have time for anything else anymore. Every single running minute has to be scheduled in. The amount of flexibility you need to have towards the child and wife compared to before you having kids is just next level. Work, yeah, if I can barely be successful, great! Hobbies? You can forget about those. Friends? hahaha funny!
This is the truth!!
I second this👆🏻
I wanted to say this exact thing.
Come home from work and start running? How? Husband is not home yet, kid needs to eat, and put to bed. When she is asleep and my husband is home, then I can run….
Getting up early is not an option, as I work from 8 tot 18.00. And before I got to go to work, kid needs to eat, get dressed etc
Training for a marathon don’t really have other hobbies right now. 😂
Zone 2 / Low HR!! I'm in a "once per decade", HIGHLY stressful situation right now, and I can literally see how my body is taking twice as much time to recover, so I switched focus in my training to low HR runs. Training load dropped by half, but I'm still being productive in my runs, AND, the low HR runs force me to relax, slow down, focus on big slow breaths, and being in the moment... and yesterday was the day I realized I was literally meditating while running. It's actually keeping me together as I work 50+ hours / week for a VFX deadline, while I sold my house to move out of the city and have 2 months left to find a place to live. WIthout those low HR runs I would be an absolute mess right now.
Stress is a killer! I went through a horrible situation with my dog in January where he pretty much started bleeding to death because of low platelet count and my Hamstrings literally seized on me because of the tension in my body. I agree that just getting out and cruising slowly is highly therapeutic, especially in the woods. BTW, I have been in the same situation as you where my house was sold and I only had a month to find a new one, it was insanely stressful😂
Keep fighting! You got this.
The truth about missing some runs can be hard to accept, but just accepting it and looking at it long-term is probably the healthiest way to approach running for life. Great points! =D
So true!!!!! 70 hours a week 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ On one hand I’m annoyed you aren’t already at 100k subs but on the other hand I’m excited for when it happens real soon ❤❤ keep being awesome you two!
Thank you, my brother! Gutted you're not at Chicago so we can hang but some day soon. Hope training is going well for you too?
What works for me is having a treadmill. I know is not the same as running outside, but it does help to build endurance.
I live in a building with a fully equipped gym and I don't think I can ever go without now. In winter it's dark so early and I don't feel safe going for a run alone in the dark, or sometimes the weather is just deplorable, and I don't feel like getting covered in muck and guck for a short easy run, being able to go down to the building gym is such luxury. I'm sure I would have missed so many more training sessions through the winter months without such easy access to a treadmill and gym.
I’m really happy that I found this channel. I’ve been on my running journey for 3 months now and just yesterday ran my first 10k (only training, not an event or race), and I’m always looking for every bit of advice I can find.
Whatever it is, this channel seems to have it covered and it’s always done really well.
Thank you, and keep up the hard work! Looking forward to 100k subscribers!!!
Ben and Mary, the pragmatic and balanced advice you give - the experience you both bring - is always clear and actionable. Thanks for the thought and generosity of this vlog.
Very true.. some sessions are shit and you run on a discipline in order to feel the same joy later once more. Sometimes you miss a run, but zooming out and general consistency is key.
It's a matter of priority.... Everyone makes time for their priorities. If it's a priority, it will fit in to the schedule.
I work 12 hour shifts in a hospital days and nights can happen in one week. For example over the past two weeks my schedule has been, two 12 hour days, one off, two 12 hour days on, one off, two 12 hour night shifts. When this happens I know I have to prioritise sleep and recovery otherwise my runs suffer. I just about manage to juggle both but I ache constantly 😂
Half marathon training while in second year of grad school, clinical internship, and working full time…
I really needed this video today. ❤
Thank you for putting out such uplifting content. It really helps me to keep my focus and perspective during the challenges.
Fitness Instructor here!!! It's so hard to balance work and training sometimes because my body, of course, absorbs all of it as a whole. Therefore, there are days when I'm exhausted before even lacing up my shoes 😂
Fantastic video (again). I wish I could meet you in Chicago next October. Love your channel.
It's funny how Ben is always the "sleep model" in the videos, leaving the viewers to believe Mary must never sleep and therefore her legend of a vampire runner is born. 😂
Another great video! I wanted to tell you I ran my first marathon yesterday in Reykjavik and your videos really helped me stay disciplined and motivated! Keep it up!❤
Tell us how it went! I'm running my second in early October and love to read about this stuff.
@@50Something It took me 4:52:49, I'm quite a slow runner but I'm happy I was able to run the same pace throughout the race! Also the views were amazing, people were encouraging and even though I kinda hit a wall at around 30km, I finished strong and full of adrenaline for the last 5km 😊
I found that with a busy job (resident doctor in my first few years of practice in the UK) I was able to keep up my running mileage because of how much I love running. BUT, everything else running related I used to do such as strength training, stretching routines, cooking healthier meals and fueling well fell by the wayside… they were just less fun and more effort after a loooong day. I found going on regular runs to be a great way to relax, but I slowly but surely developed achilles tendinitis without the proper supportive activities. It’s been a real bummer and it’s taking me month upon months to rehab the right achilles (which no longer hurts, just tight) as I’m also on my feet a lot at work and cannot rest it properly either. Does anyone else relate?
Can relate… not such a stressful job, but having kids and then having VERY limited time before bed makes things a bit tight sometimes!
Absolutely… I’m not a doctor, but I own my own farm. It’s all physical work and time on feet… but if I don’t do it, it doesn’t get done, which simply isn’t an option when you care for animals. The work is throughout the day and night, making healthy meals, yoga, strength etc more difficult to squeeze in, along with running. I’ve finally accepted 10-15 minutes of working out is better than nothing, and a quick fruit and veg smoothie is better than the junk, and it really has helped. Best wishes on your fitness journey!
It really can be hard to schedule running into the day with everything that everyone has going on. You make an excellent point about not beating yourself up if you miss one run.
The shaking finger reminds me of terminator - shutting off the emotions before twisting the door knob to go for a run! Great video as ever.
Brilliant video, brilliant channel. Come on everyone - let's get these two to 100k subscriptions. They more than deserve this. And for me the key is HABITS AND ROUTINES where you don't have to think too much or dig deep to find motivation. I worked in health promotion for many years and the philosophy was "Make the healthy choice easy". Same for running. It's all about planning and rewards and your environment etc. Using motivation as your only tool can be so draining. You can only go to the well so many times. So be creative to make the good training choices easier. If your tyres aren't pumped up and your chain not oiled, you're not gonna use your bike to pop out to the shops! Hurrah for Messy Happy.🎉🎉
I know this is gonna sound girlie and silly but Mary’s running outfit’s are perfection 😍🙌🏻
I started running 5 months ago with a full time job. I remember when it was so hard to get my weekly mileage up to 20 mpw. Not because of time but because my body would start to break down because I was averaging 40k-45k steps for the day if I ran before work. Now I just hit my 3rd week in a row over 50 mpw all while working full time. My goal is to get up to 70 mpw before my first half marathon. Recovery was critical for me as my body adapted and I feel better at higher mileage then when I started. Discipline is not an issue, I be there no matter what. I can't wait to train for the marathon next.
I had to get an A/C unit for my bedroom because my apartment complex doesn't have any. Seems to be working so far, my sleep quality has gotten better!
Something that probably came with getting older, am now 64 is that i can take a 10 minute power nap when i come home from work, fall asleep almost immediately and wakeup refreshed and ready to run. Do not use an alarm but never sleep longer than 10 - 15 minutes.
Such a superpower. I'm a little envious 😅
I needed this video, thank you
great stuff.., i definitely fit into this category, having a full-time job and coaching gridiron here in the states and still trying to run. Great video
You have put on muscle. Keep it up.
As someone who really dislikes doing the strength and mobility work, I really resent having to devote more time to that than I spend running.
For background, I'm doing a couch to 5k (for the third or fourth time!) to get back into running, and repeating each week at least a couple of times to ensure I don't do too much too soon (being prone to _all_ the usual running injuries). So I'm only running for 15 to 20 minutes, three times per week. Even if I adopted _only_ Ben's 15 to 20 minutes of pre-breakfast mobility work, I'd be spending over twice as much time per week doing that as actually running, and that's really hard to raise the motivation for.
Please don’t take this as a rude comment as it’s not meant to be but I wonder if the reluctance to do anything else that can long term benefit you and your running could be the reason for the injuries and the doing the couch to 5k more than once? A little physical investment in these kinds of things can actually open you up to being able to run more and further, even if you don’t really like it. Neither do I to be fair but I do it because it allows me to do the thing I actually love even more 😊
@@ThisMessyHappy Haha! No offence taken here. I completely accept that this is all on me, and that I ought to do the strength and mobility - or, more accurately, _need_ to do it - but that doesn't make it any more enjoyable.
Imagine if you owned a nice car which you enjoyed driving, but had to spend an hour maintaining it for every hour spent driving it. If you thoroughly disliked the maintenance bit, I think this might affect how much time you spent driving.
If you then had to double the maintenance time for each hour driven, you might be a little less inclined to drive it.
Double it again - now four hours maintenance per hour of driving - and you'd have to really, _really_ love driving that car to ever take it out of the garage.
I know the analogy doesn't quite work, because most of us pay someone else to maintain our cars. I just need to figure out a way to pay someone else to do my strength and mobility training 🤔
I relate a lot. When you’re exhausted after a long day’s work, something you do not enjoy is the LAST thing you want to do. Even if you had a decent day at work… mental fatigue makes mobility and strength training sometimes feel like pushing a wall.
But please be assured that if you are consistent, a breakthrough will come where you’re running a lot for a lot more time than you are spending on the maintenance activities. (Or perhaps you’ll find a different sport you are happier to do the maintenance for.)
Ha ha I do get you but look at it this way, I now probably do 2 hours of s&c per week but run 6ish hours. And to be honest I could get away with doing 1 hour for every 6 hours running. So that’s a way better ratio that 1:1 now 😊
I often do very physical contracts throughout the year, so my running always declines during those times. It’s hard to go for a run after a day of building and already at 10k - 15k steps. I let schedules go to the way side to take the pressure off and just go for a run when I’m feeling it. So at least a couple of times a week, but without any pressure on pace or distance.
I work 60+ hours a week in hospitality (where it’s a stressful and energy draining job) but I still have time to run 4km every few days.
My next aim is 5km and at the moment I’m not looking at time I just want to make it happen!
I switched to the evening shift because there was no way I could force myself out the door for a run after 8 hours of work and up to 3 hours of driving per day. Now I have the luxury of sleeping until my body is ready for a run.
3:19 I couldn't concentrate on the remainder of the video because I was thinking about the way Ben pronounced 'sedentary'.
Every time I’m tempted not to run or to take the short bath, I ask in my head, easy or hard? Seems to work for me when I have a choice. Agree on eliminating a decision
I have to literally schedule runs in as part of my work week or they won’t happen. They go on my work calendar so nothing can get scheduled over them.
The BEHAVE made me laugh so loud lol lol lol ...now, let me go back to finishing the video.
Can someone tell me what the shoes and socks are in the thumbnail?
Hi guys, i do have a question, as you use Garmin, is there any reason you dont use the HRV function from Garmin?
I ask because i have thought about getting a ring to track mine among the other aspects of what it does, but im on the fence because im not seeing a reason to have HRV monitored across 2 different platforms
I wear my Garmin all the time and see no need for an extra device. Some people don't like wearing a watch while sleeping, but it's no big deal. If you nap with your watch on, you can sleep with your watch on.
35 years and 50weeks and counting Ben.😜
What about training with a full time job and young kids? 😂
I walk on all my breaks at work. 10,000 steps a night
It’s funny you slammed me. I’m working now to pay off some medical bills for my wife close to two full-time jobs and still trying to fit in that training plate program but I keep saying that exact same thing I keep saying if I had enough to do this ha ha I could be a knockout shape and you know yeah I got 62 years old. I’m gonna get into the Olympics or something butstill knocking it out but it is funny. That’s my excuse to say so you got me I’m guilty.
Time machine @5:54 :P
Did you run up Khao Takiap? 11:25 I walked it once or twice
Ben's watching Ben on telly while doing squats
Ha ha I wondered if anyone would spot all the people I was watching! 😂
#1 works backwards for me - arriving home mentally tired or angry is a prime motivator. Someone once said, and I believe there's a grain of thuth there, that to run a good 5K you must channel all your hate...
Try working nights and see what a shit show that creates