I disagree with u. Despite the fact the guy is stupid, he can change. If both love themselves, good advice can change the guy’s character. We should stop advocating for divorce all the time. Sometimes devil uses this way to break a marriage that will yield good fruits. There are challenges in marriage, and sometimes , at a point in time, with good advice, one’s senses may come back. It’s obvious the guy wasn’t like that initially. I pray they both find peace and live peacefully as family.
How can a man who cannot provide for his family go out in the morning, come back in the evening drunk? It’s a clear evidence he’s irresponsible. Where do he get money to drink?
@@ayoolasylvanus4333 that’s a bad decision. That makes it worst. For the fact he has a hard working wife should motivate him. How about considering his responsible wife?
@@stephaniei.3424 The judge is very wise full of wisdom , this is a marital issue that goes beyond Nigeria but sadly the men need to stop the abuse of women. Marriages go through hard times but if you loose perspective and communication resentment sets in. The judge gave great advice and she didn't take sides in the matter🤔
@@stephaniei.3424 She is a judge and not sadly because she has no power under the law to force a woman who has approached the court to save her marriage to dissolve it. The law in Nigeria requires the judge to first try and reconcile a couple before granting a divorce. If its a statutory marriage they must have lived apart for minimum of two years before approaching the court for divorce and despite that, the chief registrar of the court must still file an affidavit disclosing that he has tried to reconcile the couple again before filing for divorce. This judge condemned the husband's act of beating the wife and advised him over the children of the marriage not to grow up believing its right to beat a wife. She recommended anger management classes and marriage counseling. The wife did not move out of the house after the incident and Judge Funmi can not force her to abandon her marriage. I personally believe she ought to have moved out if she actually want to divorce her husband and then approach the court. There is a procedure for granting divorce in Nigeria and Judge Funmi is in compliance. This is not western world, Nigeria has her own law. Unlike the western world it's the wife that will pack out of the matrimonial home in Nigeria if the house does not belong to her. The judge is acting within the province of the law.. Under penal code which is applicable in the Northern part of the country a husband is permitted under sharia law to met out corrective beating on the wife as long as it does not cause grievous harm, I made reference to this not because I support this law which I believe should be abolished but as at today December 2020, its an applicable, valid law at the Northern part of Nigeria. If you see a Judge applying that law you may think the judge is incompetent but that judge will merely be applying the law as it is. Its good to understand the law and know why judges hands are tied at times by the law. I have watched several of her cases on line and I believe she knows her onion. The laws of Nigeria is different and distinct from western world our culture is different, we have traditional marriage which is recognized by law and can be polygamous. The law of Lagos state now recognises baby mama too
I don’t support the direction this conversation is going. Why is the judge questioning why she wants to leave? Put the beating to the side, imagine having 3 kids and a husband that doesn’t work for over 7yrs!!! And he has the audacity to get drunk, with her money!!! She hasn’t left because she is stuck not because of any stupid love. Love has nothing to do with this! She has no respect for him at this point so forcing her to stay is ridiculous! I’m outraged! The better advise was to kick him out of the house so he has time to reflect on the streets and prove himself worthy. A separation so she can breathe easy. Scared in her own house!!! No consequence to him at all! I’m disappointed! Marriage isn’t the end all. 7years!!!! Judge, sorry but that wasn’t the right advise.
@@leonabanks5591 This is Nigeria, we have our laws and regulations and there is a procedure for dissolution of marriage. The judge is Mandated to first try and reconcile couples before granting divorce. In Nigeria the woman moves out of the matrimonial home if the house does not belong to her and seek redress thereafter from the court on assets sharing. She is not trapped all she has to do is pack her load and leave. The judge did not condone the husband's act but scolded him also advised him not raise children that would believe its right to beat a wife. The law of Nigeria recognise traditional marriage which could be polygamous, the penal code/sharia law allows a husband corrective beating of the wife, it's acceptable under the law, I do not support this but I have to state this so that you will understand why this judge treads carefully. She takes a lot of things you are not aware of into consideration before her rulings. You are not familiar with our laws and this is not your country, stop being judgemental on issues you know little or nothing about. The wife ought to have moved out of the matrimonial home before approaching the court for divorce if she actually desire it, she only sought for the help of the court to save her marriage. The judge recommended anger management classes and marriage counseling to the couple if that fails she could grant divorce nisi and later divorce absolute. These might be strange to you but that's our law
Hmmm... It is traumatic for the children. We still have a long to go in Nigeria. How can you tear the ear of someone you love? I don't get it. Also, they are not legally married so why come to court? I can see the judge is treading carefully. I hope the woman survives her 'loving marriage'.
By Nigeria law, we have decree nisi and decree absolute. The law does not just dissolve marriages. The judge must first explore to settle, there after they will live apart for six months and then come back together and if the marriage doesn't still work the judge will grant a divorce. All the people condemning the judge are not conversant with Nigeria law. She is doing the right thing
Nigeria in general is a failed country let's tell ourselves the truth. The useless and hopeless criminals in governaces are the roots of all the shit happening in Nigeria.
I appreciate Judge Funmi but it seems she does not know the gravity of some domestic violence. If a man can cause such damage to a woman's ear, the man can kill. Just imagine the level of anger that can cut an ear with bare hands. The guy I'm seeing on the screen is not remorseful. The lady needs to run for her dear life.
Thank you! I understand that the judge do not like a broken home,but at the same the guy is at remorseful at all,he is just sober because he was in front of a judge.
@@Royale4LifeGamers I truly agree with you, I do believe he will repeat his behavior again, this woman needs to be strong and have the courage to leave.
I understand that the judge probably doesn’t want to break any home without reasonable doubt but there is a proven case of extreme violence here. Love isn’t enough to sustain any marriage. MyView.
I got weak when the Judge’s initial reaction was “provocation by the wife” what does that even mean??? Hopefully, she’s alive to report another tale of physical abuse (also hopefully, it doesn’t come to that and the signed undertaking actually deters the beast marauding as a human 🙃). This clearly shows our social tolerance towards gender based violence
You don’t need to provoke a drunk to start a fight. This judge is something else. Do you understand what she is going through trying to raise her three kids and dealing with this drunk. It has to be difficult. He is abusing her. This woman is going through hell. She doesn’t know how to present her case well. What does love has to do with this? He can killed. It’s time this judge start taking domestic abuse seriously, or she needs to step down as a family court judge.
@@eboNYzozo76 you guys are not getting it, she says the guy did the wrong thing, but it is wrong to provoke a drunkard. She has right to vent her displeasure, but not when the guy is drunk.
Very disappointed that this judge is so lenient on domestic violence. Encouraging a women to go back into an abusive situation because she loves her husband and he says that he loves her is a recipe for disaster.
@Sue Shancha in Nigeria any judge approached for divorce must first try to reconcile the couple. Are you aware that the penal code applicable in the north allows husbands to give wives corrective beating? I do not support it but it's still the law. Judges hands are tied by the law at times. They must comply with it no matter what. This woman refused to move out of the matrimonial home despite everything because she want to save her marriage. The judge can not force her to leave either. Unlike the western world if the man owns the house they live, she wil be the one to move out and thereafter approach the court for asset sharing, before you condemn the judge, get yourself familiar with Nigeria law
Dispute resolution is always the first thing to do... the Woman did not say she wants to leave the house/husband She has to Apply for divorce, the Judge can not do that for her
If she’s paying bills, cleaning the house, raising the kids...for several YEARS.. what good is this husband? A man that does NOT work is a man that shall NOT eat (Thessalonians 3:10)
Thank you very much for this and I really don’t understand why the judge will advice a woman to stay in a relationship where she is being battered? And this isn’t the first time she has done so too. Its not even a safe place for the kids mentally and otherwise. I swear Nigeria is too backward! That’s why a lot of women die in marriages because everyone tells them to stay to salvage what’s a done deal already. Pathetic really! God help us Sha Amen!!🙏🏽
@@Quinnet2813 the woman opted to stay. The judge pointed out that if she actually desire divorce she would have moved out and not seek divorce while still cohabiting. The law mandates the judge to first try to reconcile the couple before granting divorce and she has no power to grant divorce for couples like this that are only seeking court's intervention to make their marriage work. Besides, why is the woman still living with him after what happened. This is Nigeria and we recognise traditional marriage too which is alien to the western world. Watch the video without a biased mind and you will see where Judge Funmi was scolding the husband
@@Quinnet2813 the woman sought court's intervention to save her marriage not to dissolve secondly there is a procedure for granting divorce in Nigeria, the judge must first try to settle the couple and as the judge said if she truly want a divorce she would have packed out of the house before seeking divorce from the court, did the judge force her to stay? She is an adult
@@bankiex7129 this isn’t the first comment of yours I have seen typing this same thing. I will address this now. Did you actually watch this video? Why do you sound like a potential Abuser? Firstly she complained of been beating and did you listen to what next The judge said? Some people needs nudges to set them on the right track. The woman firstly said she wants a divorce or didn’t you see that? But instead the judge to encourage her, she went straight to attack the victim as though she is the one at fault. A man that beats a woman to a pub to the extent of damaging her earlobe and all he got was you shouldn’t have done that!! Like a kid that ate the food meant for the younger sibling for the first time. Wtf! I pity the woman smh. The court that is suppose to be her safe haven still made her feel small and condemn her to more battering nonstop in future because we both know that man is not going to stop🛑
@@bankiex7129 Yes she did scold the man ., but she didn’t ask the efforts towards getting a job or doing something to help the woman. The judge paid little attention to his drinking habit., A married man with children. Habaah
You don’t caress a jobless irresponsible abuser 🙃. Interestingly, the man never mentioned wanting to remain in the marriage. Infact, he seemed perfectly fine when he said she told him she wanted a divorce and had no apology or tangible response to her allegations.
Once the judge started trying to paint a false narrative that the wife was inconsiderate towards her irresponsible alcoholic of a husband who has remained Jobless for 4 years... I knew this was going to be a sad tale...
Just wondering. I know some very drunk women in homes for 10 years. Woudl you advise me go meet their husbands as a concerned friend. Bros, you need to leave this woman, Look at how she talks to you and she gets drunk all the time. And in fact what value is she bringing to your home? I am just curious. Cause I don't have much experience. Maybe you could advise me.
That’s not what she said. She said it’s wrong. A state of drunkenness is a state of madness!! Ehn go and hit a max man and when he hits u back talk about domestic abuse. Stay away from extremely drunk men, women,
She said she just want an assurance that the man will not beat her again. She is not ready to leave the man, watch it again. The judge is not at fault. Upon that the judge said the man would sign an undertaking
Indicate where the judge said she must stay married to him. Judge Funmi even said if she actually want divorce she would have moved out of the house and approach the court from there which is very true, it's obvious she want her marriage to work
@@fapohundatemitope3117 what about the woman who left her husband's house a year ago because of violent and her husband calling her a barren woman but still did not get the divorce she requested. 99% of the population can not be lying about the judge. the judge is not handling matter concerning violent and physical abuse correctly. in front of the victim and the abuser her body language need to show that the abuser can be jailed for his act. or is she waiting on when the victim dies to make the abuser know the danger of his crime.
But the woman stated she is ready to stay that she only need assurance that he won't beat her again . The judge asked him to sign undertaking besides in Nigeria the judge must first explore settlement before granting a divorce
@@fapohundatemitope3117 that's after the judge started insinuating that the woman wants to leave just because he doesn't have money. I didn't like the way she handled it. She should have been harder on the man and made him more remorseful. Make him understand his behavior is totally unacceptable. Undertaking doesn't mean anything o. She didn't say what will happen if he does it again. She didn't even talk about the fact that he was coming home drunk despite having kids at home. Not well handled if you ask me
I cannot belive how a Women could convince another women to stay in a abusive relationship I can't believe what I'm witnessing from this judge unbelievable!!!!!!!
There needs to be more legal action for this practice, if you lay your hand on your wife is a domestic abuse and needed to be addressed with iron fist. I expect a serious undertaking that list consequences for repeat offense. "Am sorry", is not the answer to this madness. You don't have a job or money to support your family but have fund or means to support your drinking habit. Nigeria as a country need to address domestic abuse at federal level and we need serious awareness in the society.
@@TTHannah I have to respond to your message, I don't think she is too soft on domestic abuse, i have watched series of her court section and I came to understanding that she can't just be too strict because she will damage many marriages. from most of the case the couples are not ready to let go. Most couple are only upset because of current situation but love still exists, and to call you to an attention she can't just dissolve a marriage if both parties are not ready. She refers many marriage for counseling which is a very smart move. The country need lots of awareness, abuse ( physical and emotional) happen is many homes across Nigeria and before a iron fist is place on the matter, a need for awareness and trainings are needed. Please do not conclude just on one case, our society is not ready for many broken homes. Broken home will cause lot of hudlums, irresponsible children that will make irresponsible adult which will result in irresponsible country.
@@lawalbada3798 i agree with you to some extent; our society sure needs alot of education on the matter. i get when she didnt want to dissolve marriages because there's still love involved but love is not enough. If love is enough they wont be in court in the first place. Now marriage counselling is of absolute important way before marriage and of course marriage course in marriage to make it not only to work out but to make it beautiful. what I dont agree is that there no broken marriages; there are more broken marriages in our society than we are letting on. It takes two to tango in marriage, if there is a deadbeat husband or wife in one, its not what you can call marriage as there are many wives in Nigeria who are the only ones in their marriage with the husbands who are not physically or emotionally available. The women are living as single mothers in real life but to the world they are married. Their children suffer and we probably have more hoodlums than we care to admit. Dont get me wrong divorce is terrible and should be done when the marriage cant be salvaged but in my opinion its better that they live as singles whether in separation or divorce than to live a life of mystery. What i believe the country should put in place is to empower these women or men alike to look after themselves and their children, legalising child support, education on domestic violence, invest more on marriage counselors and counselings.
@@TTHannah Great way to respond, I feel your pain as a Nigerian/African lady. Our country and tradition had long silence our ladies/mothers and had not paid attention they deserve to thier pains and it frustrates me. In developed nations, judges don't just dissolve marriage at first appearance, they give opportunity for counseling and change. With love everything is possible. Am not saying that am perfect, at some point in my life I had to seek marriage counseling and it helped. The judge is doing the right thing by given the couple chance to redeem or save their marriage as it is done in developed nations. If the abuse continue, the abuser can be referred to criminal court for prosecution. Please do not misquote me, I do not support abuse in any form and I condemn anyone who abuse thier spouse. Also I don't know the judge or have any connection with her, am just a fan who love this development and like to support the program.
@@lawalbada3798 Probably like you im an advocate for justice and love blissful marriages. Lolll I have an amazing marriage actually as God gave me the Grace and I dont have Naija marriage experiences but I feel the pains of my country people. I love to see their marriages and life thrive; it hurts to see the injustice and inequalities that happen in thr country. I ve seen some people's marriages and I understands the struggles these people go through; I am sensitive to other people's needs, hence my passion. I perfectly understand your sentiment, just found out about her yesterday and enjoys the program because I connect some of the people.
At what point will this judge rule in favour of people leaving their marriages?? Even with domestic violence, she advices counselling. So shocking!! Is it when someone turns up dead that she’ll say “go your separate ways”. Some marriages DO NOT NEED SAVING!!!
I bet you are not Married. Go and check most women that go to court to seek divorce are no longer leaving with the man, they must have moved out of the man's house. Any woman that is in court with a man she is leaving with is actually seeking reconciliation not divorce, the Judge could read in between the lines. She is very smart and recommended marriage counselling.
@@patiencebello5552 I beg to differ. Some people feel stuck in their marriages and only stay because they feel they don’t have any choice. I don’t understand your point about reconciliation- they are in court seeking divorce but for some reason the judge and yourself somehow seem to know what’s best for them- reconciliation. Typical case of a tailor not sewing what the customer wants because “it’ll fit you better”. P.S I am married actually- even though I don’t understand why that is relevant!
She is applying the law as it is in Nigeria, divorce is not automatic here. It has a procedure and that's why divorce cases linger in our courts. The judge must first of all try to reconcile the couple before taking further steps besides the plaintiff sought the relief that its assurance that he won't beat her again she wanted and the judge said he would sign an undertaking. This is not final she is an adult that can always approach the court again but the judge has complied with the first step to be taking in divorce proceedings
nothing frustrates me more than see judge Fumni taking abuse likely, how do you tell man "why did you beat her?" like seriously? like it will change the fact that he has hurt her physically that at any moment would have changed into someones death. NO do better judge in these cases where a woman doesn't feel comfortable or safe around him/husband/boyfriend.
You are right. I like Judge Funmi, but this judgment was totally wrong. Did you see that lady's ear? Can you imagine the kind of anger that tore up someone's ear like that. That guy on the screen is not remorseful and he will kill his wife someday if she does not run for her life.
I agree as to the why? Not because I am for husbands beating their wives. But wives need to mind the way they talk to their husbands. Many wives are very disrespectful un their manners and shout violence. Women should learn how to talk. Men should be responsible and behave well with their wives by learning how to control their anger.
It’s sooo frustrating because she keeps mentioning the woman loves her husband and is willing to stay for love. Most battered women go back to their perpetuators for many reasons including no place to go, afraid, low self worth and esteem, conditioned to feel that they aren’t good enough and no one else will want them and are addicted to the toxic nature of the relationship and very little to do with love. Usually, the issue only gets worse and leads to death. This judge needs to be EDUCATED AND FAST. But then again, it brings awareness to the culture and tradition of Nigerians in terms of marriage.
What she is saying is terrible. How can she tell the woman she is 'provoking' him' what does she expect'. Really terrible attitude towards domestic violence! The man is not providing and still cones back drunk asking for food...what does he expect? ...a pat in the head?
This is so sad🙁 the poor lady looks broken. I’m not educated about the laws there, but praying for strength, peace and comfort. It’s never ok to be abused, sober or not. Also forcing a broken marriage can do mental damage to children.
@@moholugbenga8879 You think that the hopeless and criminals in governaces of the so called Nigeria cares? Nigeria is a failed country period. The country can only survive,if the right persons are in control of governaces.
@@mikeswaray4255 I know they don't but, sometimes maybe public outcry could reach them. It will also aid internally generated revenues and provides some level of employments to our teaming unemployed youth directly or indirectly.
God bless you Anabela. Being a Mother and grandmother myself,I know what to do,but won't say it here,Beating my beloved daughter?? He won't do that again.
@@lovelee883 love lee; a man can be frustrated and throw tantrum when he no longer have a job! That woman may have also contributed by throwing it on his face showing how useless he is by not having a job! Such situation could make a man an animal a times! But a loving woman can encourage the husband and make a better man out of her husband by supporting him emotionally and psychologically!
The judge mentioned that the man has to change not just say he is sorry, she said the children should not grow up to think its right to beat their wives, watch again, is there more to this? What am I missing?
Losing your job and remaining jobless for seven years is irresponsible. He has no money to take care of his family but has money to drink to stupor? Makes no sense. If he beats you once, he'll do it again and again. Don't die in an abusive marriage/relationship.
Hmm!! My sister, apart from being a judge, u should understand she is a wife and a mother. She has given the best judgement. Young ladies pass their judgement not looking into underlying factors responsible and not looking into the future. Many unsaid things were considered. I am product of a broken marriage. I know what it means for you to grow up with your parents apart. On the other hand, being jobless for 7 years doesn't mean he has not tried in between. He might have taken up jobs not worth it at the end of the day. I am not justifying beating up his wife to the extent of tearing up her ear lobe. Some ladies are not good psychologist naturally. I'm sure if he was a drunkard from the scratch , she couldn't have married him. The guy is drinking out of frustration. U can imagine what a jobless man can be drinking ( paraga ). Guys in the area can afford and share that in the joints. The lady might be cautioning him in the wrong way and time in his frustrated situation . Men are very easy to manage if u do it properly and will respect you.
@@debbiebalogun8803 " Don't die in abusive marriage ". U are technically saying she should leave her husband without considering the fate of their children. The judge has done a great thing by advising them to meet a "family consult" for councelling.The lady needs to be tutored on motivational speaking while the man needs lecture on anger management. Overall, they will be mentored on how to manage their family life.
Hmm watching 👀from the Caribbean unless she's authorized to speak on addictions, she should stick to ruling and send them for counseling with emphasis on him attending alcohol awareness classes
Nigerian law mandates the judge to first try and reconcile couples before granting divorce. The judge did not condone the husband act. There is a Procedure for divorce in Nigeria that the judge must comply with
I don’t see anything wrong with the judge judgment,people are saying she justifies beating because they didn’t watch till the end,she did her most best.
@@pjlolful she does that always because as a judge Nigeria law requires her to first explore reconciliation of couples seeking divorce before entertaining the divorce petition. Secondly the judge does not have the power to separate couples who are seeking interference of the court to save their marriage she cannot decide she want to put an end to their marriage. The judge condemned the act of the man but I wonder why the woman refused to move out of the house and the judge referred to the fact that if the woman actually want to divorce the husband she would have moved out after the ear incident. The judge will always first try to settle couples disputes because that is in accordance with Nigeria law
I agreed wIth her on the matter of a drunkard the same case as insanity at that moment the person isn’t thinking straight because he or she isn’t in the right state of mind , but what I’m not comfortable with is how lightly she took the abuse even after the big war injury inflicted on the woman . The inflictor called a mistake . Like totally unacceptable
The lady is very distressed and can't be still. She just had enough as well. There is no morning for this kind of relationship the man is frustated and the woman as well. Very sad for the children as they all would be weak and disturbed by seen their parents always arguing. Beating, Cursing, is not the answer.
But u also don't realize are miserable it's to be a single mother. Of it can still work while not try. At least she has spoken out about the domestic violence.
That's Nigeria law, divorce is not automatic, the judge must explore settlement of dispute between spouses first if it fails, thereafter we have decree nisi and finally decree absolute. It has a process it's not automatic. The judge is simply applying the law as it is
In that case, the laws against assault (an adult beating another adult) should apply here Section 351 of the Criminal Code Act, any person who unlawfully assaults another is guilty of a misdemeanor, and is liable, if no greater punishment is provided, to imprisonment for one year... Just saying
Reconciliation talks should be done through lawyers when dealing with violent people There is no guarantee of her safety. He could kill her and blame it on the alcohol.She will be dead he will get jail time.Doesnt make sense.
@@moholugbenga8879 Why So? Let me help Aige Elvis answer. She is doing a good job of giving these couples the counseling that they never received before they married. I want to bet you something. more than 90% of the people that are in support of broken marriages that comment on Justus CourtTV are not married, single and Female. And I am not a hater. I want everyone to settle down. But I only pray that as couples going through hard times, (Every home will experience one thing or another), that God may provide good friends close by to give good advice, not revenge advice, because of their own failed relationships. God Bless.
@@milligankafang2008 and yes before you say a word am happily married, Soo don't think it's about not understanding what marriage entails, a happy and beautiful marriage is possible we simply feel other womens pain # no to abusive marriage no one should die tolerating nonsense
People are blaming the judge for her judgement, but the fact is that this woman was unable to explain what she is facing, so the judge make her judgement base on what she said
I have noticed this Judge is very bad when it comes to marital issues infact she undermines threats and abuse. That's when she will be saying he still love you,she still love you. is that why they left their house
We need the human right and those fighting against domestic violence to always take things up after judge Funmi's emotional and lenient judgement on the men, what a bias judge! She lives in the 80s, the judge has probably been beating up by her husband a million times and she's also enduring that shit in her house.. That's why she's probably always lenient with the abusive men. Look deep, this might be true
If this woman dies after a subsequent beating from husband the judge should be responsible. She is encouraging people to remain in a volitile situation. She can arrange a separation and allow time for husband to go to anger management for one year? After one year if he improves then maybe if the wife trust him she may start talking about allowing him into her life not necessarily back together.
May GOD bless our divinely blessed Judge Funmi Asaolu for being honest in delivering sensible judgements every time. Other judges should keep watching this program and emulate our adorable beautiful judge Funmi Asaolu.
That his drunkenness should be addressed. Look at how he is looking fresh & the woman is looking worn-out. Where does he get all the money for his drunkenness. Even if you don't have work,there are other ways to help your wife like doing chores, being with the children when the woman is at her business. Wives are so disadvantaged in Nigeria. How can only one person carry all the responsibilities while the other partner is busy getting himself drunk. The woman just doesn't know how to express herself.
Again this is one of those days I will say, The judge has not done a good job, if you want to be a judge, be a judge and stop pulling in facts based on your own intution, believes or sentiments influenced by a clearly patriarchal society. I am a man, but what is wrong is wrong. Even the judge acknowledges she has issues with raising his hands on her, which I appreciate her acknowledgment of that, but I am still confused on why she still decides to go on a frolic of her own. What happen to talking about his drinking issues, not providing for the family? The lady clearly said when he goes out, and comes back he will start beating me. Judge: ofcourse I am trying to imagining you just sitting down and somebody comes in and starts beating you. And then she goes on and on recommending, in the morning you talk to him when is eyes are clear (His eyes were not clear, but he knows well enough not to run into an oncoming vehicle and get hit? His eyes were not clear, but he knows well enough not fight somebody who can obviously beat him up at the bar? His eyes were not clear, but his eyes were clear to start beating his wife?), which is obviously a good idea. But before getting to that conclusion, I will expect her to ask her if she has tried that and if it worked or not , instead of just going on and assuming more facts upon facts and end up painting the victim with a guilt brush. Another one, the lady talks about how she's being pitching in on the house rent, and the judge goes on to say "not to tell lies to justify it". I have seen some other episodes which she has done EXCELLENT JOB of asking people for receipts or bank statements to prove facts. What suddenly happened to that same line of thoughts here? She goes further to say "I know you must have seen him as a responsible man and somebody that was living up to expectation of what you wanted in a man……before you married him". Your honor, I am sorry to say, no you don't know. This is a mere assumption. People marry for different reasons: could have been for money, love, age (the lady might feel she's getting old), pressure from family or even she might have been bequeathed to this dude. This is Nigeria.That is not a fair or valid conclusion. There is a lot of making this woman seem like the bad one here or the one who is not doing something right, for lack of words. It is this woman who is being beaten, it is this woman, who is having to be reasonable for 2 people's issues and bills and then she is the one that gets the " are you saying you are not ready to struggle with any man?" The issue here is not struggling with a man, she is already doing that - taking care of the kids, doing the bills etc. The issue here is this woman is carrying all the weight and yet still get beaten, that is the issue. This is somebody's daughter. How do you beat someone so bad and pull earrings off her ears till you tear off her earlobe? That right there is an indication that this guy could have even done worse, like blind this lady. Then the judge goes in a soft tone and say - "you shouldn't have done that". We should be asking this lady if she wants the police to arrest this dude here and the state should try him for assault (maybe not for real, but at least as a threat to let this dude understand the gravity of his actions), instead of the "hand smacking" - "you shouldn't have done that". The poor lady is naïve and simply wants out, even though I advocate for married folks to try to resolve issues in marriage if they can (which is what the Nigeria Family law strives for as well), but I always say, once domestic violence comes into the picture, people, the life and safety of the victim should be the next thing we need to start talking about and not excuses or 'defense of drunkenness'. What happens if dude gets home later that night gets drunk again and kills this poor lady while beating her? Yes, the guy will sure get punished under the law, but guess what has happened to a nation? We've lost a potential solution to a problem in the world. We've 3 kids who are going to have to grow up without a mother and a father (most likely, because his stupid ass will be in jail) and now we have more kids who have a potential of causing the nation more problem down the line - simple "principle of ripple effect" Even though your honor ended up with an recommendation, not an award, your honor should have taken a step further to check with both party if that is fine by them, especially since this was not in the parties pleadings. Overall, this arbitration or reconciliation proceeding (whatever, you like you call it) was tainted with a lot of facts manufacturing on the side of your honor, assumptions, your honor going on a frolic of discovery of her own and relegation of the victim to the villian here. I had to come back to update my comment with this paragraph based on 2 items I ran into today. In this episode the judge talks about handing someone over to the police for being dubious - ruclips.net/video/_FxyRoL2-j8/видео.html (Not beating a woman oo, being dubious), and contrast it this news ruclips.net/video/txwWt05C3cs/видео.html maybe this will help add more context to to my above lines. In Arise News, I love Adesua's and Rufai's train of thoughts here, which is what I said earlier in my comments, we should be talking about how to get this guy arrested and prosecuted if possible.
Omg! I read everything you wrote and you are right 💯 %! You covered all fronts and even more! You stated it point blank! I am so proud of humans like you and I appreciate you million and one times. Thanks Again.
@@Quinnet2813 The judge did not condone the man's act, the judge even said if she want divorce she would be out the house after the ear incident which I agree with. This woman want solution to her marriage because she want the beating to stop. The judge did not ask her not to pack out. In fact the judge can not do that at this stage because she must first try to reconcile the couple before granting divorce, this is just the first step. Do we throw away the baby and the water, the woman is an adult and surely knows the way to the police station before opting to come to the court. She knows what she want, a mother of three children. I pray the anger therapy sessions work for the husband and the marriage counseling help their marriage
I like the judge but she sometimes justifies domestic violence!! These women are crying for help!!! Lots of our mothers, and sisters are suffering because of this mentality. Walk away sis!!
Unfortunately the judge did not handle this well, from blaming the victim (insinuating that she provoked her husband to beat her) to being judgmental and not really even addressing the DV at all. No wonder Nigeria is the way it is still.
@Ms. M. The Show needs to be subtitled so many people will understand the communication better. You misconstrued the Judge's counsel to the lady. I hope you will remember the Judge saying "the state of drunkenness is as good as the state of Insanity". That lady mentioned that her husband beats her when he is drunk and the judge advised that she should hold her conversation with him whenever he is drunk till when he is sober, because her conversation with him in drunken state is what typically provoked him to beat her. The lady saw wisdom in that counsel. She also mentioned that she had planned to divorce but she will like to stay in her marriage if the court can intervene to make him stop the beating to which the Judge made the man sign undertaking. I will advice you watch the episode again.
But Judge.. you See its not love all the time..its confusion where does a lady start from...she got married and leaving everything to husband is haaarrrrd.Ma beating ..please slap these Beating men before you send them to court sometimes..use your voice to slap them ..that was unfair vindication.
The judge didn't justify beating her but told her not to provoke him when he is drunk became state of drunkenness is a state of insanity.. She admitted to provoking him when he is drunk and I believe the Judge is right.
The judge did not justify the beating but condemned it . The woman agreed she provokes the husband when drunk and the judge advised that at the man's state of drunkenness is a state of insanity and it's not the best to provoke an insane man , that is the summary. As a judge the law in Nigeria does not permit her to automatically dissolve a marriage, she must first try to reconcile them which is the first thing she does in all the matrimonial disputes before her but ignorance of our law is making people to condemn her actions. Besides, as the judge said after the man injured her she would have moved out the matrimonial home and then seek for divorce
I don’t like this judge at all. This man hasn’t had a job in years, he’s not talking care of his family, he gets drunk all the time, AND HE BEATS HER!!!! There is no middle ground in that. Obviously he wasn’t an amazing man in the beginning, but this couldn’t have known the depth he would sink to.
That is as real a case as Ive seen on any of these court shows. She said some things that I agree with and some I Didnt, but there is some harsh truth in this depiction.
Okay, I'm pissed at this judge's tone, she was scolding the woman for wanting a divorce and talking very calmly to her husband. Is it until he kills her? Do you know how many women lose their lives to domestic abuse? It's appalling and saddening how much women's suffering are normalized by the society and a man is worshipped for doing the bare minimum like 'just exist'. I'M JUST PISSED!!
Yes sure u are right BT d little different between is that, with d Judge, u just stamps on d divorce decision BT with d counselor, u bring USELF in to d matter, try to settle them together by giving them another chance to think about It & if it's necessary to separate B4 he or she help in d divorce process
@@boltjawara4649 Instead of making an intelligible dissenting view, you came online to insult someone you don’t even know. Well that says a lot about you, your lack of intellect and obviously, your really poor education... it’s evident, you condone this type of beastly and highly irresponsible behavior because you’re clearly a perpetrator yourself. I’ll be doing myself a disservice addressing you further.
@@allurebyheebah9197 many words don’t fill a basket, Sometimes silence is golden. I see you have your RUclips channel, if you respond in this manner to comments from people you can’t even see, you might perpetually live in bitterness and anger. Bolt Jawara’s comment is not worthy of a response
@@goodscent9097 Nah I won’t.. I pray you don’t either but if your business is to go about hopping on people’s comments to decide on their behalf, what they should respond to or not, then you just might... Thank you for your faux “concern” but I’ll decide who I should respond to or not! You clearly have an issue with women standing up to bullies (of which you’re one) so miss me with the BS
The problem the plaintiff has is that she can't properly explain what she has passed through. I think there should be a section where both the plaintiff and defendant can express themselves in their preferred language ( dialect).
You're very correct but the animal will sign an undertaking with the court that he's not going to abuse the wife again. I personally don't support divorce but separation for some time is sensible.
This is just annoying, she literally said she gets bitten why does she have to stay. One day this man will kill her. I low-key feel like the judge was justifying this guy’s actions.
The woman is workig and feeding the family and got beaten by a drunkard husband and yet she is blamed? From kindagarten people should be taught not to use their fists (if they are not boxers) but to use their words. He doesnt contribute anything to the house but have enough money to drink to be point of intoxication and yet this is justified. You can't blame her for wanting to leave him... Domestic violence kills; one of them will kill the other one day. When it comes to issue of marriage i dont take advice from African people...
There is no reason for domestic violence, on both sides. Provoking is not an excuse to put your hands on your spouse. The judge shouldn't have said what she said about provoking him.
I pray she leaves this man beating her, he doesn’t work wanna come home at night and eat up the food, then beat her. She’s caring for the 3 children, that’s a lot of stress, she’s the only one taking care of the family. If he loves her he won’t beat her.
Poor lady she cannot put her case logically 4years is long to frustrate a lady providing for the family by a drunkard How did he get money to drink, but no money to take care of his children
‘ What do you expect’ she is tired and frustrated with this Lazy man called Husband 😪
Queen please leave for your own sake and safety on top of that for your children domestic violence can lead to your death please be wise
I disagree with u. Despite the fact the guy is stupid, he can change. If both love themselves, good advice can change the guy’s character.
We should stop advocating for divorce all the time. Sometimes devil uses this way to break a marriage that will yield good fruits.
There are challenges in marriage, and sometimes , at a point in time, with good advice, one’s senses may come back.
It’s obvious the guy wasn’t like that initially.
I pray they both find peace and live peacefully as family.
@@moneymase180 once a man put hands on woman that it she needs to leave
How can a man who cannot provide for his family go out in the morning, come back in the evening drunk? It’s a clear evidence he’s irresponsible. Where do he get money to drink?
Exactly! It's madness
I beg to defer. His financial situation can make him depressed & not knowing how best to handle it he decides to start drinking.
@@ayoolasylvanus4333 that’s a bad decision. That makes it worst. For the fact he has a hard working wife should motivate him.
How about considering his responsible wife?
Different people handle depression and frustration in different ways. I do think this guy is depressed. As the Judge stated, he really needs a job.
They drink on credit.sad
If you’re reading this please run for your life. Why does this judge excuse domestic violence? It makes no sense at all
Is she a real judge just asking ?
@@coollady9853 she is. Sadly, this is how many Nigerians in Nigeria think
@@stephaniei.3424 The judge is very wise full of wisdom , this is a marital issue that goes beyond Nigeria but sadly the men need to stop the abuse of women. Marriages go through hard times but if you loose perspective and communication resentment sets in. The judge gave great advice and she didn't take sides in the matter🤔
exactly. i thought she had sense
@@stephaniei.3424 She is a judge and not sadly because she has no power under the law to force a woman who has approached the court to save her marriage to dissolve it. The law in Nigeria requires the judge to first try and reconcile a couple before granting a divorce. If its a statutory marriage they must have lived apart for minimum of two years before approaching the court for divorce and despite that, the chief registrar of the court must still file an affidavit disclosing that he has tried to reconcile the couple again before filing for divorce. This judge condemned the husband's act of beating the wife and advised him over the children of the marriage not to grow up believing its right to beat a wife. She recommended anger management classes and marriage counseling. The wife did not move out of the house after the incident and Judge Funmi can not force her to abandon her marriage. I personally believe she ought to have moved out if she actually want to divorce her husband and then approach the court. There is a procedure for granting divorce in Nigeria and Judge Funmi is in compliance. This is not western world, Nigeria has her own law. Unlike the western world it's the wife that will pack out of the matrimonial home in Nigeria if the house does not belong to her. The judge is acting within the province of the law.. Under penal code which is applicable in the Northern part of the country a husband is permitted under sharia law to met out corrective beating on the wife as long as it does not cause grievous harm, I made reference to this not because I support this law which I believe should be abolished but as at today December 2020, its an applicable, valid law at the Northern part of Nigeria. If you see a Judge applying that law you may think the judge is incompetent but that judge will merely be applying the law as it is. Its good to understand the law and know why judges hands are tied at times by the law. I have watched several of her cases on line and I believe she knows her onion. The laws of Nigeria is different and distinct from western world our culture is different, we have traditional marriage which is recognized by law and can be polygamous. The law of Lagos state now recognises baby mama too
I don’t support the direction this conversation is going. Why is the judge questioning why she wants to leave? Put the beating to the side, imagine having 3 kids and a husband that doesn’t work for over 7yrs!!! And he has the audacity to get drunk, with her money!!! She hasn’t left because she is stuck not because of any stupid love. Love has nothing to do with this! She has no respect for him at this point so forcing her to stay is ridiculous! I’m outraged! The better advise was to kick him out of the house so he has time to reflect on the streets and prove himself worthy. A separation so she can breathe easy. Scared in her own house!!! No consequence to him at all! I’m disappointed! Marriage isn’t the end all. 7years!!!! Judge, sorry but that wasn’t the right advise.
CheeksO The judge must first explore settlement by Nigeria law before granting divorce. It's the law
@@fapohundatemitope3117 I said nothing about divorce dear.
@@cheekso786 she wasent even forced to stay...did the judge put a gun on her head
@@missdee9501 She feels TRAPPED with 3 kids. This Judge should be FIRED and DISBARRED.
@@leonabanks5591 This is Nigeria, we have our laws and regulations and there is a procedure for dissolution of marriage. The judge is Mandated to first try and reconcile couples before granting divorce. In Nigeria the woman moves out of the matrimonial home if the house does not belong to her and seek redress thereafter from the court on assets sharing. She is not trapped all she has to do is pack her load and leave. The judge did not condone the husband's act but scolded him also advised him not raise children that would believe its right to beat a wife. The law of Nigeria recognise traditional marriage which could be polygamous, the penal code/sharia law allows a husband corrective beating of the wife, it's acceptable under the law, I do not support this but I have to state this so that you will understand why this judge treads carefully. She takes a lot of things you are not aware of into consideration before her rulings. You are not familiar with our laws and this is not your country, stop being judgemental on issues you know little or nothing about. The wife ought to have moved out of the matrimonial home before approaching the court for divorce if she actually desire it, she only sought for the help of the court to save her marriage. The judge recommended anger management classes and marriage counseling to the couple if that fails she could grant divorce nisi and later divorce absolute. These might be strange to you but that's our law
In as much as I like this judge it's as if she justifies domestic violence
Did you listen to her condemning what the man did. She was only saying to avoid provocation during his been drunk.
Hmmm... It is traumatic for the children. We still have a long to go in Nigeria. How can you tear the ear of someone you love? I don't get it. Also, they are not legally married so why come to court? I can see the judge is treading carefully. I hope the woman survives her 'loving marriage'.
He is going to sign an undertaking. I like her Judgement.
Is Nigerian thing the guys are always right
By Nigeria law, we have decree nisi and decree absolute. The law does not just dissolve marriages. The judge must first explore to settle, there after they will live apart for six months and then come back together and if the marriage doesn't still work the judge will grant a divorce. All the people condemning the judge are not conversant with Nigeria law. She is doing the right thing
The woman looked very stressed. It is quite obvious that the man is not taking responsibility of his duties as a husband.
Nigeria in general is a failed country let's tell ourselves the truth. The useless and hopeless criminals in governaces are the roots of all the shit happening in Nigeria.
She is even looking older bcos of stress
I appreciate Judge Funmi but it seems she does not know the gravity of some domestic violence. If a man can cause such damage to a woman's ear, the man can kill. Just imagine the level of anger that can cut an ear with bare hands. The guy I'm seeing on the screen is not remorseful. The lady needs to run for her dear life.
Thank you! I understand that the judge do not like a broken home,but at the same the guy is at remorseful at all,he is just sober because he was in front of a judge.
@@Royale4LifeGamers
I truly agree with you, I do believe he will repeat his behavior again, this woman needs to be strong and have the courage to leave.
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I think I understand what the Judge was trying to say, when a person is drunk his behaviour may turn deadly unfortunately.
It is left for her to make a wise dicision
I understand that the judge probably doesn’t want to break any home without reasonable doubt but there is a proven case of extreme violence here. Love isn’t enough to sustain any marriage. MyView.
I got weak when the Judge’s initial reaction was “provocation by the wife” what does that even mean??? Hopefully, she’s alive to report another tale of physical abuse (also hopefully, it doesn’t come to that and the signed undertaking actually deters the beast marauding as a human 🙃). This clearly shows our social tolerance towards gender based violence
Exactly
You don’t need to provoke a drunk to start a fight. This judge is something else. Do you understand what she is going through trying to raise her three kids and dealing with this drunk. It has to be difficult. He is abusing her. This woman is going through hell. She doesn’t know how to present her case well. What does love has to do with this? He can killed. It’s time this judge start taking domestic abuse seriously, or she needs to step down as a family court judge.
@@Angela-hm3xt I am not sure the judge has a clue about drunks. They do whatever they feel like. And after they have done it claim they don't remember
Yea...i was like wtf?? Who says that?.
@@eboNYzozo76 you guys are not getting it, she says the guy did the wrong thing, but it is wrong to provoke a drunkard. She has right to vent her displeasure, but not when the guy is drunk.
Very disappointed that this judge is so lenient on domestic violence. Encouraging a women to go back into an abusive situation because she loves her husband and he says that he loves her is a recipe for disaster.
@Sue Shancha in Nigeria any judge approached for divorce must first try to reconcile the couple. Are you aware that the penal code applicable in the north allows husbands to give wives corrective beating? I do not support it but it's still the law. Judges hands are tied by the law at times. They must comply with it no matter what. This woman refused to move out of the matrimonial home despite everything because she want to save her marriage. The judge can not force her to leave either. Unlike the western world if the man owns the house they live, she wil be the one to move out and thereafter approach the court for asset sharing, before you condemn the judge, get yourself familiar with Nigeria law
Dispute resolution is always the first thing to do...
the Woman did not say she wants to leave the house/husband
She has to Apply for divorce, the Judge can not do that for her
If she’s paying bills, cleaning the house, raising the kids...for several YEARS.. what good is this husband? A man that does NOT work is a man that shall NOT eat
(Thessalonians 3:10)
Thank you very much for this and I really don’t understand why the judge will advice a woman to stay in a relationship where she is being battered? And this isn’t the first time she has done so too. Its not even a safe place for the kids mentally and otherwise. I swear Nigeria is too backward! That’s why a lot of women die in marriages because everyone tells them to stay to salvage what’s a done deal already. Pathetic really! God help us Sha Amen!!🙏🏽
@@Quinnet2813 the woman opted to stay. The judge pointed out that if she actually desire divorce she would have moved out and not seek divorce while still cohabiting. The law mandates the judge to first try to reconcile the couple before granting divorce and she has no power to grant divorce for couples like this that are only seeking court's intervention to make their marriage work. Besides, why is the woman still living with him after what happened. This is Nigeria and we recognise traditional marriage too which is alien to the western world. Watch the video without a biased mind and you will see where Judge Funmi was scolding the husband
@@Quinnet2813 the woman sought court's intervention to save her marriage not to dissolve secondly there is a procedure for granting divorce in Nigeria, the judge must first try to settle the couple and as the judge said if she truly want a divorce she would have packed out of the house before seeking divorce from the court, did the judge force her to stay? She is an adult
@@bankiex7129 this isn’t the first comment of yours I have seen typing this same thing. I will address this now. Did you actually watch this video? Why do you sound like a potential Abuser? Firstly she complained of been beating and did you listen to what next The judge said? Some people needs nudges to set them on the right track. The woman firstly said she wants a divorce or didn’t you see that? But instead the judge to encourage her, she went straight to attack the victim as though she is the one at fault. A man that beats a woman to a pub to the extent of damaging her earlobe and all he got was you shouldn’t have done that!! Like a kid that ate the food meant for the younger sibling for the first time. Wtf! I pity the woman smh. The court that is suppose to be her safe haven still made her feel small and condemn her to more battering nonstop in future because we both know that man is not going to stop🛑
@@bankiex7129 Yes she did scold the man ., but she didn’t ask the efforts towards getting a job or doing something to help the woman. The judge paid little attention to his drinking habit., A married man with children. Habaah
You don’t caress a jobless irresponsible abuser 🙃. Interestingly, the man never mentioned wanting to remain in the marriage. Infact, he seemed perfectly fine when he said she told him she wanted a divorce and had no apology or tangible response to her allegations.
Exactly… he is beating her because he knows he can not take care of her and the kids. He wants them to leave. He does not want the responsibility.
Once the judge started trying to paint a false narrative that the wife was inconsiderate towards her irresponsible alcoholic of a husband who has remained Jobless for 4 years... I knew this was going to be a sad tale...
Just wondering. I know some very drunk women in homes for 10 years. Woudl you advise me go meet their husbands as a concerned friend. Bros, you need to leave this woman, Look at how she talks to you and she gets drunk all the time. And in fact what value is she bringing to your home? I am just curious. Cause I don't have much experience. Maybe you could advise me.
That’s not what she said. She said it’s wrong. A state of drunkenness is a state of madness!! Ehn go and hit a max man and when he hits u back talk about domestic abuse. Stay away from extremely drunk men, women,
Im not Nigerian, but it's sad to see so many in these comments expect the wife to stay w/ a drunkard who hasnt worked in 7 years
But judge how can this lady stay with a guy who beat her all the tyme seriously 🙄
I can tell you right now is the cultural believe it or not, ans that is a big problem.
She said she just want an assurance that the man will not beat her again. She is not ready to leave the man, watch it again. The judge is not at fault. Upon that the judge said the man would sign an undertaking
Is she forcing her to stay? Watch again
Indicate where the judge said she must stay married to him. Judge Funmi even said if she actually want divorce she would have moved out of the house and approach the court from there which is very true, it's obvious she want her marriage to work
@@fapohundatemitope3117 what about the woman who left her husband's house a year ago because of violent and her husband calling her a barren woman but still did not get the divorce she requested. 99% of the population can not be lying about the judge. the judge is not handling matter concerning violent and physical abuse correctly. in front of the victim and the abuser her body language need to show that the abuser can be jailed for his act. or is she waiting on when the victim dies to make the abuser know the danger of his crime.
You contribute nothing, she feeds you, you beat her on top of it, look at her ear.....Nawaooooo
But the woman stated she is ready to stay that she only need assurance that he won't beat her again . The judge asked him to sign undertaking besides in Nigeria the judge must first explore settlement before granting a divorce
@@fapohundatemitope3117 True
@@fapohundatemitope3117 that's after the judge started insinuating that the woman wants to leave just because he doesn't have money. I didn't like the way she handled it. She should have been harder on the man and made him more remorseful. Make him understand his behavior is totally unacceptable. Undertaking doesn't mean anything o. She didn't say what will happen if he does it again. She didn't even talk about the fact that he was coming home drunk despite having kids at home. Not well handled if you ask me
In a civilised society this man would be jailed for assault..
Its sickening!
Men don't beat cuz they have muscles, they beat cuz of what's coming out of women's mouth, it hurts them; they think they can beat it out....Lol!
You are better off as a marriage councillor than a judge.some marriages will never work no matter what you do .
This ruling dint sit well.
She should leave him the word says its ok!
The guy will still beat her.
I cannot belive how a Women could convince another women to stay in a abusive relationship I can't believe what I'm witnessing from this judge unbelievable!!!!!!!
This mom judges is a wise woman of God.bless to u 💖💖
There needs to be more legal action for this practice, if you lay your hand on your wife is a domestic abuse and needed to be addressed with iron fist. I expect a serious undertaking that list consequences for repeat offense. "Am sorry", is not the answer to this madness. You don't have a job or money to support your family but have fund or means to support your drinking habit. Nigeria as a country need to address domestic abuse at federal level and we need serious awareness in the society.
I couldn't agree more, it seems we treat domestic abuse with levity..she is way too soft on domestic violence
@@TTHannah I have to respond to your message, I don't think she is too soft on domestic abuse, i have watched series of her court section and I came to understanding that she can't just be too strict because she will damage many marriages. from most of the case the couples are not ready to let go. Most couple are only upset because of current situation but love still exists, and to call you to an attention she can't just dissolve a marriage if both parties are not ready. She refers many marriage for counseling which is a very smart move. The country need lots of awareness, abuse ( physical and emotional) happen is many homes across Nigeria and before a iron fist is place on the matter, a need for awareness and trainings are needed. Please do not conclude just on one case, our society is not ready for many broken homes. Broken home will cause lot of hudlums, irresponsible children that will make irresponsible adult which will result in irresponsible country.
@@lawalbada3798 i agree with you to some extent; our society sure needs alot of education on the matter. i get when she didnt want to dissolve marriages because there's still love involved but love is not enough. If love is enough they wont be in court in the first place. Now marriage counselling is of absolute important way before marriage and of course marriage course in marriage to make it not only to work out but to make it beautiful. what I dont agree is that there no broken marriages; there are more broken marriages in our society than we are letting on. It takes two to tango in marriage, if there is a deadbeat husband or wife in one, its not what you can call marriage as there are many wives in Nigeria who are the only ones in their marriage with the husbands who are not physically or emotionally available. The women are living as single mothers in real life but to the world they are married. Their children suffer and we probably have more hoodlums than we care to admit. Dont get me wrong divorce is terrible and should be done when the marriage cant be salvaged but in my opinion its better that they live as singles whether in separation or divorce than to live a life of mystery. What i believe the country should put in place is to empower these women or men alike to look after themselves and their children, legalising child support, education on domestic violence, invest more on marriage counselors and counselings.
@@TTHannah Great way to respond, I feel your pain as a Nigerian/African lady. Our country and tradition had long silence our ladies/mothers and had not paid attention they deserve to thier pains and it frustrates me. In developed nations, judges don't just dissolve marriage at first appearance, they give opportunity for counseling and change. With love everything is possible. Am not saying that am perfect, at some point in my life I had to seek marriage counseling and it helped. The judge is doing the right thing by given the couple chance to redeem or save their marriage as it is done in developed nations. If the abuse continue, the abuser can be referred to criminal court for prosecution. Please do not misquote me, I do not support abuse in any form and I condemn anyone who abuse thier spouse. Also I don't know the judge or have any connection with her, am just a fan who love this development and like to support the program.
@@lawalbada3798 Probably like you im an advocate for justice and love blissful marriages. Lolll I have an amazing marriage actually as God gave me the Grace and I dont have Naija marriage experiences but I feel the pains of my country people. I love to see their marriages and life thrive; it hurts to see the injustice and inequalities that happen in thr country. I ve seen some people's marriages and I understands the struggles these people go through; I am sensitive to other people's needs, hence my passion.
I perfectly understand your sentiment, just found out about her yesterday and enjoys the program because I connect some of the people.
At what point will this judge rule in favour of people leaving their marriages?? Even with domestic violence, she advices counselling. So shocking!! Is it when someone turns up dead that she’ll say “go your separate ways”. Some marriages DO NOT NEED SAVING!!!
I bet you are not Married. Go and check most women that go to court to seek divorce are no longer leaving with the man, they must have moved out of the man's house. Any woman that is in court with a man she is leaving with is actually seeking reconciliation not divorce, the Judge could read in between the lines. She is very smart and recommended marriage counselling.
@@patiencebello5552 I beg to differ. Some people feel stuck in their marriages and only stay because they feel they don’t have any choice. I don’t understand your point about reconciliation- they are in court seeking divorce but for some reason the judge and yourself somehow seem to know what’s best for them- reconciliation. Typical case of a tailor not sewing what the customer wants because “it’ll fit you better”. P.S I am married actually- even though I don’t understand why that is relevant!
Is the judge doing her judgment from the law side or from her own believe side. Because I don't understand her judgment at all.
She is applying the law as it is in Nigeria, divorce is not automatic here. It has a procedure and that's why divorce cases linger in our courts. The judge must first of all try to reconcile the couple before taking further steps besides the plaintiff sought the relief that its assurance that he won't beat her again she wanted and the judge said he would sign an undertaking. This is not final she is an adult that can always approach the court again but the judge has complied with the first step to be taking in divorce proceedings
nothing frustrates me more than see judge Fumni taking abuse likely, how do you tell man "why did you beat her?" like seriously? like it will change the fact that he has hurt her physically that at any moment would have changed into someones death. NO do better judge in these cases where a woman doesn't feel comfortable or safe around him/husband/boyfriend.
You are right. I like Judge Funmi, but this judgment was totally wrong. Did you see that lady's ear? Can you imagine the kind of anger that tore up someone's ear like that. That guy on the screen is not remorseful and he will kill his wife someday if she does not run for her life.
I agree as to the why? Not because I am for husbands beating their wives. But wives need to mind the way they talk to their husbands. Many wives are very disrespectful un their manners and shout violence. Women should learn how to talk. Men should be responsible and behave well with their wives by learning how to control their anger.
I think the judge is putting words into the plaintiff's mouth.
Allow her to land
It’s sooo frustrating because she keeps mentioning the woman loves her husband and is willing to stay for love. Most battered women go back to their perpetuators for many reasons including no place to go, afraid, low self worth and esteem, conditioned to feel that they aren’t good enough and no one else will want them and are addicted to the toxic nature of the relationship and very little to do with love. Usually, the issue only gets worse and leads to death. This judge needs to be EDUCATED AND FAST. But then again, it brings awareness to the culture and tradition of Nigerians in terms of marriage.
Judge Funmi does not grant divorce easily oh
I've never seen an episode where she granted divorce
She doesn’t… court hardly divorced marriage
Court hardly dissolve marriage
Your honor, this poor woman needs a divorce please before that guy does the crazy
The judge is really pissing me off with all she's saying, really
I swear... She's not doing well on this case abeg
What she is saying is terrible. How can she tell the woman she is 'provoking' him' what does she expect'. Really terrible attitude towards domestic violence!
The man is not providing and still cones back drunk asking for food...what does he expect? ...a pat in the head?
This is so sad🙁 the poor lady looks broken. I’m not educated about the laws there, but praying for strength, peace and comfort. It’s never ok to be abused, sober or not. Also forcing a broken marriage can do mental damage to children.
@@femilicious but she is right. Why provoke a drunkard? It's like provoking a mad man. She could have been killed.
I need ur contact
The judge 🧑⚖️ is a smart woman, very intelligent, I love 💕 her way of thinking
Not this time
Not this time ohhh I almost slaped her from my phone like wtf how can a woman think or act like this towards a fellow womans domestic violence
Honestly my brother. Her wisdom nothing nothing nothing to compare with.
Can we see more cases of DNA issues? And Nigerian government has to do something about the price of DNA test......
Sincerely
Is DNA tests Nigerians mean problems? Unemployment is the biggest issue in a failed country called Nigeria. Not dna tests
Yes we need it alot. Lagos state already have DNA test center, so they should effect it.
And we also needs a special court for Medical cases too.
@@moholugbenga8879 You think that the hopeless and criminals in governaces of the so called Nigeria cares? Nigeria is a failed country period. The country can only survive,if the right persons are in control of governaces.
@@mikeswaray4255 I know they don't but, sometimes maybe public outcry could reach them.
It will also aid internally generated revenues and provides some level of employments to our teaming unemployed youth directly or indirectly.
She's just unable to explain in details
Look how she's stressed out .
So you can't conclude she's lieing
to leave her marriage.
God bless you Anabela.
Being a Mother and grandmother myself,I know what to do,but won't say it here,Beating my beloved daughter??
He won't do that again.
You read my mind. That lady doesn’t know how to explain herself.
The judge makes terrible decisions. How many beating does it take to get a divorce??? She condones domestic violence.
Exactly my point
Beating is bad but don’t u ever be hasty in leaving a marriage ! U may think u feel better when u go but my dear try and find a solution to issues!
@@rtdmyrs8030 he was physically abusive and jobless.
@@lovelee883 love lee; a man can be frustrated and throw tantrum when he no longer have a job! That woman may have also contributed by throwing it on his face showing how useless he is by not having a job! Such situation could make a man an animal a times! But a loving woman can encourage the husband and make a better man out of her husband by supporting him emotionally and psychologically!
@@rtdmyrs8030 He is an adult. Frustrating or not keep your hands to yourself. No excuses.
The judge mentioned that the man has to change not just say he is sorry, she said the children should not grow up to think its right to beat their wives, watch again, is there more to this? What am I missing?
I just salute and like this judge ,you are a judge who knows her job and full of compassion. Good job Ma!
Watching from Kenya
Losing your job and remaining jobless for seven years is irresponsible.
He has no money to take care of his family but has money to drink to stupor? Makes no sense.
If he beats you once, he'll do it again and again. Don't die in an abusive marriage/relationship.
Hmm!! My sister, apart from being a judge, u should understand she is a wife and a mother. She has given the best judgement. Young ladies pass their judgement not looking into underlying factors responsible and not looking into the future. Many unsaid things were considered. I am product of a broken marriage. I know what it means for you to grow up with your parents apart. On the other hand, being jobless for 7 years doesn't mean he has not tried in between. He might have taken up jobs not worth it at the end of the day. I am not justifying beating up his wife to the extent of tearing up her ear lobe. Some ladies are not good psychologist naturally. I'm sure if he was a drunkard from the scratch , she couldn't have married him. The guy is drinking out of frustration. U can imagine what a jobless man can be drinking ( paraga ). Guys in the area can afford and share that in the joints. The lady might be cautioning him in the wrong way and time in his frustrated situation . Men are very easy to manage if u do it properly and will respect you.
@@damolaaderoju3073 what part of my comment criticized the judgment?
I totally disagree with her.
@@debbiebalogun8803 " Don't die in abusive marriage ". U are technically saying she should leave her husband without considering the fate of their children. The judge has done a great thing by advising them to meet a "family consult" for councelling.The lady needs to be tutored on motivational speaking while the man needs lecture on anger management. Overall, they will be mentored on how to manage their family life.
@@damolaaderoju3073 to each its own
Hmm watching 👀from the Caribbean unless she's authorized to speak on addictions, she should stick to ruling and send them for counseling with emphasis on him attending alcohol awareness classes
agreed
Nigerian law mandates the judge to first try and reconcile couples before granting divorce. The judge did not condone the husband act. There is a Procedure for divorce in Nigeria that the judge must comply with
I call her..... (mom). Truly, she is a mother. Mom, ride on.
This lady looks veryyyyyy stressed!!!!! They need to separate for now because of her sanity and self esteem......God have mercy.
I know judge funmi will not dissolve the marriage, she must look for a way to settle it. That was a good judge right there
This the best ever judge on earth, judges are not there to break marriages but to help to resolve their differences
90 percent of marriage issues centers on finance. If things are no longer working well for the man, there's band to be problem in that home
That tear in her ear is unbelievable. OMG he needs help big time
The man is looking robust while the woman is looking haggard
How many of you love the way judge funmi appreciates Akin?👋👋
My love for judge funmi is 🤞
judge, I disagree with you. Been provoked does not mean he should put his hand on her. I cringed when I heard you say he was provoked.
Wisdom dictates that you do not provoke a drunk person. She could loose her life. The violence is not however excused.
Thank you. Don’t provoke a mad man!!!
I don’t see anything wrong with the judge judgment,people are saying she justifies beating because they didn’t watch till the end,she did her most best.
It’s not just based on this case. There are other cases.
@@pjlolful ✔️✔️✔️✔️
@@pjlolful she does that always because as a judge Nigeria law requires her to first explore reconciliation of couples seeking divorce before entertaining the divorce petition. Secondly the judge does not have the power to separate couples who are seeking interference of the court to save their marriage she cannot decide she want to put an end to their marriage. The judge condemned the act of the man but I wonder why the woman refused to move out of the house and the judge referred to the fact that if the woman actually want to divorce the husband she would have moved out after the ear incident. The judge will always first try to settle couples disputes because that is in accordance with Nigeria law
You don't need to beat your wife I feel so bad😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Honestly that was such a pathetic comment. She should have been more stern and not baby the abusive man
The judge is right if she wants to run why come to court????
No matter how provoked a partner is they have no right, absolutely no right, to raise their hands over another! No excuse is good enough
I agreed wIth her on the matter of a drunkard the same case as insanity at that moment the person isn’t thinking straight because he or she isn’t in the right state of mind , but what I’m not comfortable with is how lightly she took the abuse even after the big war injury inflicted on the woman . The inflictor called a mistake . Like totally unacceptable
ear injury *
The lady is very distressed and can't be still. She just had enough as well. There is no morning for this kind of relationship the man is frustated and the woman as well. Very sad for the children as they all would be weak and disturbed by seen their parents always arguing. Beating, Cursing, is not the answer.
This judge doesn't understand what domestic abuse is like nor the nature of an abuser...
But u also don't realize are miserable it's to be a single mother. Of it can still work while not try. At least she has spoken out about the domestic violence.
I think the grammar was too much for her to comprehend. However, thanks to the judge who made it easier for her to understand .
I CANT BELIEVE THIS WTF??? LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. PLEASE. THIS IS AN ABUSIVE MARRIAGE
More grace your honor!!!
Give her the divorce. 1 time is too much if any man hits a woman. This judge is crazy. She should be sending him to jail.
Am not happy about the Judges decision on this case.
Ma'am please let Nigerian legal system introduce domestic violence.
Your honour, Judge Fummi Asaolu God bless you for the good work you're doing, you're always on point, the Deborah of our time. I love you dearly.
Is this a joke or what?... This judge is judgemental... I’m not insulting her degree but what the hell? This is not professional
That's Nigeria law, divorce is not automatic, the judge must explore settlement of dispute between spouses first if it fails, thereafter we have decree nisi and finally decree absolute. It has a process it's not automatic. The judge is simply applying the law as it is
yes, her response was disgusting, she often talks as if she is uneducated
@@fapohundatemitope3117 Thanks, people don't realize that applicable laws differ from place to place.
In that case, the laws against assault (an adult beating another adult) should apply here
Section 351 of the Criminal Code Act, any person who unlawfully assaults another is guilty of a misdemeanor, and is liable, if no greater punishment is provided, to imprisonment for one year...
Just saying
That was kind of fucked up of what she said, talking about provoke.
"State of drunkenness is as good as a state of insanity"
I was just about to say that 🤣🤣
Reconciliation talks should be done through lawyers when dealing with violent people
There is no guarantee of her safety. He could kill her and blame it on the alcohol.She will be dead he will get jail time.Doesnt make sense.
This is very educative for everyone to always listen to and learn more about life, especially some people that lives inhuman life..
This juge is even better than pastor
Lol..why did u say so?
@@moholugbenga8879 Why So? Let me help Aige Elvis answer. She is doing a good job of giving these couples the counseling that they never received before they married. I want to bet you something. more than 90% of the people that are in support of broken marriages that comment on Justus CourtTV are not married, single and Female. And I am not a hater. I want everyone to settle down. But I only pray that as couples going through hard times, (Every home will experience one thing or another), that God may provide good friends close by to give good advice, not revenge advice, because of their own failed relationships. God Bless.
@@milligankafang2008 correction not revenge advive,but rescue advice
@@milligankafang2008 and yes before you say a word am happily married, Soo don't think it's about not understanding what marriage entails, a happy and beautiful marriage is possible we simply feel other womens pain # no to abusive marriage no one should die tolerating nonsense
People are blaming the judge for her judgement, but the fact is that this woman was unable to explain what she is facing, so the judge make her judgement base on what she said
I have noticed this Judge is very bad when it comes to marital issues infact she undermines threats and abuse. That's when she will be saying he still love you,she still love you. is that why they left their house
We need the human right and those fighting against domestic violence to always take things up after judge Funmi's emotional and lenient judgement on the men, what a bias judge! She lives in the 80s, the judge has probably been beating up by her husband a million times and she's also enduring that shit in her house.. That's why she's probably always lenient with the abusive men. Look deep, this might be true
The judge is merely trying to reconcile them before exploring divorce besides this woman obviously want to save her marriage not destroy it
Your honour you're such an amazing person, I love the way you intervened in this matter.
The judge simply had a soft spot for the man. He finds favour in her sight. Such is life. I love the judge anyway. She is good.
If this woman dies after a subsequent beating from husband the judge should be responsible. She is encouraging people to remain in a volitile situation.
She can arrange a separation and allow time for husband to go to anger management for one year? After one year if he improves then maybe if the wife trust him she may start talking about allowing him into her life not necessarily back together.
May GOD bless our divinely blessed Judge Funmi Asaolu for being honest in delivering sensible judgements every time. Other judges should keep watching this program and emulate our adorable beautiful judge Funmi Asaolu.
That his drunkenness should be addressed. Look at how he is looking fresh & the woman is looking worn-out. Where does he get all the money for his drunkenness. Even if you don't have work,there are other ways to help your wife like doing chores, being with the children when the woman is at her business. Wives are so disadvantaged in Nigeria. How can only one person carry all the responsibilities while the other partner is busy getting himself drunk. The woman just doesn't know how to express herself.
I really love this, God bless you.
Again this is one of those days I will say, The judge has not done a good job, if you want to be a judge, be a judge and stop pulling in facts based on your own intution, believes or sentiments influenced by a clearly patriarchal society. I am a man, but what is wrong is wrong.
Even the judge acknowledges she has issues with raising his hands on her, which I appreciate her acknowledgment of that, but I am still confused on why she still decides to go on a frolic of her own. What happen to talking about his drinking issues, not providing for the family?
The lady clearly said when he goes out, and comes back he will start beating me.
Judge: ofcourse I am trying to imagining you just sitting down and somebody comes in and starts beating you.
And then she goes on and on recommending, in the morning you talk to him when is eyes are clear (His eyes were not clear, but he knows well enough not to run into an oncoming vehicle and get hit? His eyes were not clear, but he knows well enough not fight somebody who can obviously beat him up at the bar? His eyes were not clear, but his eyes were clear to start beating his wife?), which is obviously a good idea. But before getting to that conclusion, I will expect her to ask her if she has tried that and if it worked or not , instead of just going on and assuming more facts upon facts and end up painting the victim with a guilt brush.
Another one, the lady talks about how she's being pitching in on the house rent, and the judge goes on to say "not to tell lies to justify it". I have seen some other episodes which she has done EXCELLENT JOB of asking people for receipts or bank statements to prove facts. What suddenly happened to that same line of thoughts here? She goes further to say "I know you must have seen him as a responsible man and somebody that was living up to expectation of what you wanted in a man……before you married him". Your honor, I am sorry to say, no you don't know. This is a mere assumption. People marry for different reasons: could have been for money, love, age (the lady might feel she's getting old), pressure from family or even she might have been bequeathed to this dude. This is Nigeria.That is not a fair or valid conclusion.
There is a lot of making this woman seem like the bad one here or the one who is not doing something right, for lack of words. It is this woman who is being beaten, it is this woman, who is having to be reasonable for 2 people's issues and bills and then she is the one that gets the " are you saying you are not ready to struggle with any man?" The issue here is not struggling with a man, she is already doing that - taking care of the kids, doing the bills etc. The issue here is this woman is carrying all the weight and yet still get beaten, that is the issue. This is somebody's daughter. How do you beat someone so bad and pull earrings off her ears till you tear off her earlobe?
That right there is an indication that this guy could have even done worse, like blind this lady. Then the judge goes in a soft tone and say - "you shouldn't have done that". We should be asking this lady if she wants the police to arrest this dude here and the state should try him for assault (maybe not for real, but at least as a threat to let this dude understand the gravity of his actions), instead of the "hand smacking" - "you shouldn't have done that".
The poor lady is naïve and simply wants out, even though I advocate for married folks to try to resolve issues in marriage if they can (which is what the Nigeria Family law strives for as well), but I always say, once domestic violence comes into the picture, people, the life and safety of the victim should be the next thing we need to start talking about and not excuses or 'defense of drunkenness'. What happens if dude gets home later that night gets drunk again and kills this poor lady while beating her? Yes, the guy will sure get punished under the law, but guess what has happened to a nation? We've lost a potential solution to a problem in the world. We've 3 kids who are going to have to grow up without a mother and a father (most likely, because his stupid ass will be in jail) and now we have more kids who have a potential of causing the nation more problem down the line - simple "principle of ripple effect"
Even though your honor ended up with an recommendation, not an award, your honor should have taken a step further to check with both party if that is fine by them, especially since this was not in the parties pleadings.
Overall, this arbitration or reconciliation proceeding (whatever, you like you call it) was tainted with a lot of facts manufacturing on the side of your honor, assumptions, your honor going on a frolic of discovery of her own and relegation of the victim to the villian here.
I had to come back to update my comment with this paragraph based on 2 items I ran into today. In this episode the judge talks about handing someone over to the police for being dubious - ruclips.net/video/_FxyRoL2-j8/видео.html (Not beating a woman oo, being dubious), and contrast it this news ruclips.net/video/txwWt05C3cs/видео.html maybe this will help add more context to to my above lines. In Arise News, I love Adesua's and Rufai's train of thoughts here, which is what I said earlier in my comments, we should be talking about how to get this guy arrested and prosecuted if possible.
Omg! I read everything you wrote and you are right 💯 %! You covered all fronts and even more! You stated it point blank! I am so proud of humans like you and I appreciate you million and one times. Thanks Again.
@@Quinnet2813 The judge did not condone the man's act, the judge even said if she want divorce she would be out the house after the ear incident which I agree with. This woman want solution to her marriage because she want the beating to stop. The judge did not ask her not to pack out. In fact the judge can not do that at this stage because she must first try to reconcile the couple before granting divorce, this is just the first step. Do we throw away the baby and the water, the woman is an adult and surely knows the way to the police station before opting to come to the court. She knows what she want, a mother of three children. I pray the anger therapy sessions work for the husband and the marriage counseling help their marriage
I like the judge but she sometimes justifies domestic violence!! These women are crying for help!!! Lots of our mothers, and sisters are suffering because of this mentality. Walk away sis!!
Unfortunately the judge did not handle this well, from blaming the victim (insinuating that she provoked her husband to beat her) to being judgmental and not really even addressing the DV at all. No wonder Nigeria is the way it is still.
@Ms. M. The Show needs to be subtitled so many people will understand the communication better. You misconstrued the Judge's counsel to the lady. I hope you will remember the Judge saying "the state of drunkenness is as good as the state of Insanity". That lady mentioned that her husband beats her when he is drunk and the judge advised that she should hold her conversation with him whenever he is drunk till when he is sober, because her conversation with him in drunken state is what typically provoked him to beat her. The lady saw wisdom in that counsel. She also mentioned that she had planned to divorce but she will like to stay in her marriage if the court can intervene to make him stop the beating to which the Judge made the man sign undertaking. I will advice you watch the episode again.
But Judge.. you See its not love all the time..its confusion where does a lady start from...she got married and leaving everything to husband is haaarrrrd.Ma beating ..please slap these Beating men before you send them to court sometimes..use your voice to slap them ..that was unfair vindication.
The judge is wrong, him been drunk doesn’t justify why he should hit her.
The judge didn't justify beating her but told her not to provoke him when he is drunk became state of drunkenness is a state of insanity.. She admitted to provoking him when he is drunk and I believe the Judge is right.
The judge never justified anything.
Because she is Yourba judge and the husband is also Yourba
@@vivinwa9657 Your conclusion is baseless, unfounded, petty and ridiculous.
The judge did not justify the beating but condemned it . The woman agreed she provokes the husband when drunk and the judge advised that at the man's state of drunkenness is a state of insanity and it's not the best to provoke an insane man , that is the summary. As a judge the law in Nigeria does not permit her to automatically dissolve a marriage, she must first try to reconcile them which is the first thing she does in all the matrimonial disputes before her but ignorance of our law is making people to condemn her actions. Besides, as the judge said after the man injured her she would have moved out the matrimonial home and then seek for divorce
Provocation doesn’t give the right for the man to beat his wife.😞
If a marriage isnt working its best they go separate ways
U want marry ex wife?? Yes or no???
And with kids. U want marry her???
This woman is educating Nigerians, may God bless you judge Funmi Asaodo.
God bless you ma'am. This really is a huge salvage. Wisdom is what they call what you've got ma'am. God bless you!!!!!!!!!!
I don’t like this judge at all. This man hasn’t had a job in years, he’s not talking care of his family, he gets drunk all the time, AND HE BEATS HER!!!! There is no middle ground in that. Obviously he wasn’t an amazing man in the beginning, but this couldn’t have known the depth he would sink to.
That is as real a case as Ive seen on any of these court shows. She said some things that I agree with and some I Didnt, but there is some harsh truth in this depiction.
Okay, I'm pissed at this judge's tone, she was scolding the woman for wanting a divorce and talking very calmly to her husband. Is it until he kills her? Do you know how many women lose their lives to domestic abuse? It's appalling and saddening how much women's suffering are normalized by the society and a man is worshipped for doing the bare minimum like 'just exist'. I'M JUST PISSED!!
Justice fumi, I am loving you so much 💝💖❤️💞🌷💗💐
A broke man is a frustrated man coupled with an uncooperative wife is a disaster.
There’s no thin line between being a Judge and Marriage Counselor 🙃
Yes sure u are right BT d little different between is that, with d Judge, u just stamps on d divorce decision BT with d counselor, u bring USELF in to d matter, try to settle them together by giving them another chance to think about It & if it's necessary to separate B4 he or she help in d divorce process
Shut up my sister plz your education and experience is too low
@@boltjawara4649 Instead of making an intelligible dissenting view, you came online to insult someone you don’t even know. Well that says a lot about you, your lack of intellect and obviously, your really poor education... it’s evident, you condone this type of beastly and highly irresponsible behavior because you’re clearly a perpetrator yourself. I’ll be doing myself a disservice addressing you further.
@@allurebyheebah9197 many words don’t fill a basket, Sometimes silence is golden. I see you have your RUclips channel, if you respond in this manner to comments from people you can’t even see, you might perpetually live in bitterness and anger. Bolt Jawara’s comment is not worthy of a response
@@goodscent9097 Nah I won’t.. I pray you don’t either but if your business is to go about hopping on people’s comments to decide on their behalf, what they should respond to or not, then you just might... Thank you for your faux “concern” but I’ll decide who I should respond to or not! You clearly have an issue with women standing up to bullies (of which you’re one) so miss me with the BS
The problem the plaintiff has is that she can't properly explain what she has passed through. I think there should be a section where both the plaintiff and defendant can express themselves in their preferred language ( dialect).
You're very correct but the animal will sign an undertaking with the court that he's not going to abuse the wife again. I personally don't support divorce but separation for some time is sensible.
Honourable judge I appreciate your God's calling job.Keep it up
Wow, this Judge is amazing , its takes only a God given wisdom to deliver such judgement.
The way this woman is shaking, she needs to run for her life away from that man. A court should not have the authority to decline a divorce request
This is just annoying, she literally said she gets bitten why does she have to stay. One day this man will kill her. I low-key feel like the judge was justifying this guy’s actions.
The woman is workig and feeding the family and got beaten by a drunkard husband and yet she is blamed? From kindagarten people should be taught not to use their fists (if they are not boxers) but to use their words. He doesnt contribute anything to the house but have enough money to drink to be point of intoxication and yet this is justified. You can't blame her for wanting to leave him... Domestic violence kills; one of them will kill the other one day. When it comes to issue of marriage i dont take advice from African people...
Stress is written all over that woman only God knows what she has gone through sometimes people don't really know how to tell their stories
Yesssssssss.... mtcheew
Exactly,look at her looking so old and d jobless one looks all fresh and plumpy
There is no reason for domestic violence, on both sides. Provoking is not an excuse to put your hands on your spouse. The judge shouldn't have said what she said about provoking him.
He can not kill himself, that means he is a timaya
I pray she leaves this man beating her, he doesn’t work wanna come home at night and eat up the food, then beat her. She’s caring for the 3 children, that’s a lot of stress, she’s the only one taking care of the family. If he loves her he won’t beat her.
Judge Funmi is very good very intelligent a good adviser a mother experienced a good counsellor and a beautiful woman
Poor lady she cannot put her case logically
4years is long to frustrate a lady providing for the family by a drunkard
How did he get money to drink, but no money to take care of his children