Thank you for putting out the video. Having a Filipina with shared interest is very important. My Filipina lady is a teacher and loves to read, study and learn everything possible. Having the ability to have discussions on politics, economy, and everyday life keeps us closely connected. I am not saying a Filipina from the "province" is wrong but make sure she is not a "yes" lady.
I totally agree with you Matt Wilkie and very well said video. Intellectual match is very important so that a couple can discuss everyday topic of interest. This is especially significant as we all approach our golden years and companionship alone would be number one in our list. If sex is someone's priority, why get married. I would say choose your partner with the same intellectual and educational attainment, otherwise, what is there to talk about? Remember, any relationship should be a partnership and friendship.☺
Great video matt, makes a lot of sense.i was married to a filippina got her over to Australia and she was a different person found out she only used me to get herself and 3 yr old daughter into the country she was looking for a younger guy when she got to Australia,.marriage losted 3 yrs then i divorced her, i was 65 at the time, came back here when i was 69 after meeting a girl on fb was friends for over 2 yrs then decided to call it a day living in Australia as everything was so expensive to live,sold everything came over here to Philippines to see my then gf she just started to get a nice new home in an estate.i moved in with her only to find out she wanted me to pay everything as she didnt have a job, after 7 mths found out she was seeing other men while being with me a real bi pola person i ended up leaving her she was too aggressive to me, now i have another one ive been with for 4 yrs now but she gets too moody if we have an argument and wont talk to me for 2-3 days so at the moment just playing it by ear then looking for someone a bit older say 50 plus as this one is just 40 but at times a bit immature.in her ways.the ex gf i had was 42 but in the end a real nut case..
This is a great video. I just hate how one foreigner gets scammed or had a bad experience and suddenly the entire race is already stigmatized. You are right, people are people some should learn NOT to see base on skin color or race. Thankful for people like you for having a wider understanding. Such simple thing could actually make this world a better place. :)
I am an American who is widowed and not having any good experience in dating here in the US. I work with a lot of Filipina men and women and have dated a few Filipina women here and got a taste of what it is like dating a Filipina girl. I love asian women with there long black hair, tan like skin, petit body and shy behavior. Of all the asian women abroad the Filipinos mostly speak english very well. I meet a nice young Filipina girl at one of the christian dating websites and traveled there multiple times to meet her and her family and we fell in love with her and the islands there.We are engaged to be married and had a great time traveling and exploring different islands resorts from Subic bay to Cebu, Dipolog,Palawan and of course Boracay. Going to check out Illilo next to see if I may want to live there when I retire but will always have a home here in US.yes its mostly hot and humid there but there are places where it is not that bad but thank God for Aircon.I love how most of the people there have good family values and are generally happy, don't stress out and laid back. She is now pregnant and we are excited to have our first child. I am not a lazy fat old guy. I eat healthy and very active. I fell 40 years younger when i am there with her. When I come home after visiting there my daughter says I look and seem younger, happier and less stressed out. I you are looking for the fountain of youth I have found it in the Philippines. I love all water sports and the Philippines is a great place for that kind of activity. I am blessed to have all this energy at my age and to find a nice girl to spend the rest of my life with. thanks Matt for your information about the Philippines and Filipina people hooking up with foreigners who plan to live there
Glad you enjoy the videos, I agree with you totally I think its the "stress free" attitude with most Filipina women I have met. They don't seem to get caught up in the nonsense that often pollutes Western life. Often content with what they have and in no rush to change things. What is wrong with a less complicated life?? Answer is many people don't like seeing other people happy unfortunately.
Love your videos sir and thanks for sharing your knowledge. You give very balance and useful advice about my home country. I’m pinoy and have been living in London UK since 1983 and I can’t wait to go back to Pinas to live and start a new adventure.
For unmarried Expat, better to look for a matured/well-educated Filipina whose age is between 25 and 40 years old. But he needs lots of sacrifices to know/study her instinct and maturity in facing life through long-term relationships (probably at least 1 year) before deciding whether to marry her or not...
Good points. I have seen expats with girls that had married them without really liking them. I had one girl tell me that she would marry me and it did not matter what I looked like or what I wanted to do with my life, it was enough that I would support her and give her a child. Mind you she was attractive and a nurse, but she was 28 and desperate to do what her family told her she should do, ie married with a child. I finally told her that I could sense that she did not even like me and that I was unwilling to be in a relationship with her.
I like the Filipina tradition more than the women we have here in the U.S. It seems like a lot of guys are starting to get tired of the way the American women are.
Western/westernized women are ok (they're not all bad), it's all about the added warmth and sweetness of a Cebuana. And I'm not talking about the ones who just nod and say "yis" whenever I say something they don't quite understand like "This riesling is a bit too sweet, don't you think?" Matt is spot on in specifying finding a partner with an education and a level of independence so she's with you because she loves you and not because she sees you as the golden ticket out of poverty.
I dont think its a kind of brainwashing. I think, its just about the love and respect we have to our parents, that is why we filipina women dont just abandoned them as they grow older.
Amelita Gamutan thats true i also work for my whole family not only for myself.and my parents never said and brainwashing me to work and send bck money to them.its my heart that says my family is my life specially my parents that their already old they need my care and help bcoz we filipino grow up with a thighten family relationship no matter what. Family are everything. Sorry for my english thats only my openion.
The brainwashing has nothing to do by supporting the family...!, In case you don't know, supporting the family in Philippines even those Filipina's have already their own family, still they continue to support their parents or siblings financially, its a gesture of Love & care to the whole families w/c many Westerner's didn't care about their own, that's why Filipinos are been blessed bec. of this gesture's of Love to the families. We were not been forced to help out our families back home, but it's our love that care's so much to the families, what blessings we have, we are glad to share it also to our families, w/c many foreigners don't understand it.
The difference elder parents of American dont need there children money they have a safety net social security Medicare women dont abandoned them for most part it not about love and respect that still there.
Just FYI, educated Filipina women would not usually date any foreigner in the Philippines because they are already self sufficient financially, they would rather marry someone locally who has equal educational attainment (collegiate ) like they do. Most ex pats in the Philippines are on social security pensions and make less than $1000.00 per month. It would be very difficult to live with this pension unless you lower your standard of living. They mostly attract poor uneducated women, and this is a fact... just saying.
Hi Olivia, would have to say for the majority you are correct. But also knowing some women from fairly wealthy and well educated backgrounds the guys they seek is more to move away from the local issues. E.g. from political dynasty families they want a disconnect. But foreigners also includes South Korean's for example that I know several women have been looking for the right guy for the last 3 years.
I have alittle less than 700 $ pension a month and i have a wife who is a doctor and earning more than my pension by alot. i have also collages who found love with a very educated womens that earns more than them. i live here for years so.. im a living proof that what you said sir is not the majority of the cases.
Mr. Wilkie, I would like to add-on a counter view on why most Filipino/a wants kids (that is more than one) ...simple and practical reply is ...in order to have someone take care of them when they get old...usually this responsibility falls to the eldest or the youngest siblings or an unmarried sibling, or the one who is not financially dependent, but will be supported by other financially able siblings. Yes, It is a very selfish mentality that most traditional-minded Filipino have and they try to hide it as being family oriented and xtian value. If they really value their family they should think of the quality of lives that their children lived and not the number of kids they have...and the hopes that one of them be hostage of guilt to take care of them in old age.
While I agree with you that having too many kids are being irresponsible as parents, I would like to say that taking care of our parents is NOT a bad Filipino trait or tradition. We are proud and honored and love taking care of our parents. There are also other nationalities who take care of their parents. The only difference between us is, we take care of our parents out of love, while most of you take care of your parents out of practicality (It's much cheaper than putting them in a Nursing Home).
@thAlia88beachbabe 100% agree with you there. For me as a parent, I would not expect my daughter to look after me when get old. I would try and get that organise myself. We only have short life to live in this planet and it’s not my children’s fault that they were born. True love is about doing your job as a parent without expecting one in return. I would not want my children to have the burden of taking care of me when I get old. I want them to live their lives how they want and to fulfill their dreams free from the burden of looking after an old fart like me. By the way I’m pinoy.
How about where to rent in Baguio or San Felipe? I would like to research for a year for the chances to start a business there where my future wife lives. Never been on that part of the PI. Your suggestions are always welcome.
Another nice video! It will be harder for me being I don't want children. I spent a lot of my life raising my kids. I think almost 100% of women in the Philippines want kids. If she already have older kids, she is married. For me it is finding someone that likes adventure, and scuba diving. If she loves to swim, I can teach her to dive. I am in no hurry:)
Are there places there one can buy ' model trains , I am a swim, walk , watch moives . I a retired guy young 52 but very busy .I got to be busy . What are some good suggestions for hobbys there ?
Interesting one relating to model trains, as a lot of the available things I come across are sub standard or cheap (or both). Worth searching on Google as I am sure there are some like minded people out there that will know where to locate some of the better brand locomotives.
Matt Wilkie Thanks for the reply 'I am not looking for expensive things. I am not rich just middle class guy. I tried trains before three times, ha, ha, ha, I never could get it off the ground due to life eventes happing that sidetracted me . But I bought used and low cost trains even got a whole train set in the second hand store for $25 USA dollars. I keep very busy with walking and swimming for health . I have had many interest just was was thinking I might like to give trans one last try and that in the phillipens they might be more affordable , and could even be a family bonding experance. I do 100% agree with you one needs to relax in there retirement ,But also needs to have things to do so they do not get board. What are some other things there in the phillippenes you could recommend as possible hobbies????? Thank you ,Take Care
If it's not too personal a question, may I ask what, if any, is the age gap between you and your Filipino wife? And what are some of the common interests you two share? Too personal? Dismiss. Mahalo.
6 years, we both enjoy cooking, reading, dining out, travel and a lot of general topics e.g. when we dine out we discuss the ingredients in the food we are eating..lol hard to explain but we never run out of things to talk about.
Matt you are lucky I've been single 8years cos my work as taken me away, a friend says I should not join any site just go there my cousin franco as met a lovely person from mandaluyong. I wish I could lol
Good video Matt, have to agree with what you have said my wife is from Manila had a good job and was Very well educated, would I marry a girl from the province possible but very unlikely, once great video.
Great Video. Sophisticated matchmaking programs can tell you which countries you will be most and least compatible for dating; based on demographics of culture, tradition, religion, and other metrics that can be mathematically calculated. An atheist, nudist, child-free type who enjoys nuclear physics, probably would have difficulty finding a Filipina compatible for long-term. My previous observation is that most foreigners are there not for the cost of living or tropical location (sound points), but to get a higher SMV lady (younger and hotter) than they can get back home. I believe matchmaking programs would find most foreigners, especially those who are highly educated and less traditional, incompatible with Filipinas. So, they can only go for short-term "fun". As the saying goes, you can't find gold in a silver mine (not that there's anything wrong with silver if that's what you're into).
Interesting points and I would agree an education level above that of the average person may become an incapability issue if there was a mass influx. there are some very well educated Filipino's out there but they do not seek foreigners you need to seek them.
I'm a Filipino and are you sure Matt that Filipina in her 30's or 40's never met the right person or they never met the right person to dig in some valuable treasure ? Hahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bonzo T Alonzo there are plenty of Filipinas in their 30’s or 40’s with no children on Christian Filipina dating app. Ask them yourself. Matt is right get to know them for at least year n gave more than one friend have several to chat with n get to know them.
hey matt..very informative...I met my wife from cebu province of Lapu Lapu...I loved looking at how ppl there really live and just loved buying the chicken cooked over coals where u find the seller's at the road side stalls...great video again..Matt..
If you make another video, it would do you credibility to state your background, what knowledge and experience you have with the Philippines. In short. I first went to the Philippines in 1989. But before I went, and the internet was in it's infancy, I read every book I could find on the country and subject. Much attention was given the Philippines after the Marcos marshall law. I lived in Seattle, so even then, there was a large population of Filipino. Seattle has always been a gateway to the Orient. So I talked to them when I had a chance. I got married to my second Filipina in May of 1989. Married ten years. It didn't work out. One lone Philippine law makes a Filipino a sanctioned thief. This is the biggest trouble when married to one of those girls. Her family. Always creates friction. A law you the foreigner is never told about. Because of her attitude, I went to college to understand how a person could be as she was. Familiarity Breeds Contempt. Once you know everything about the common attitude of those girls, you actually see there is not much variation in there personalities. In 2001, I married my 3rd Filipino girl. Having been around them that much, I have learned more than the average guy. And lived in the PI more than 2 and half years. Sure you may say it was my fault somehow, or why was I stupid enough to get married that many times. But I don't give up easy. If I put my mind to something, I will invest the time to make it work. One old book I read talked about the traditional Filipina, of old. I wanted to see if it was true or not. Many of my classmates in college never graduated, all of them guys. There's a low graduation rate for men, where the majority of women do. So I would counter what you said about Filipina. They have a short list of variables. They are not much different from one another. Example. I was married in San Pedro Catholic Church in Davao. I went to the seminar required by the church to get married. About one hundred people were there. I was the only white guy. The speaker separated us. The men sat left to him the girls to the right. In our group of men, we had one Pinoy, who had that beaver type personality. ( See personality types). He had glasses. He wouldn't laugh like the rest of us joker boys. I fit in easy with Pinoys because I love to joke too. I looked at all the girls. None of them stuck out as being different from any of the others. Maybe my fiancee, because she was the best looking, but she acted like the rest of the hens. All laughing giggling, putting their hand over their mouth like Filipina do. Looking at each other. Telling each other who their next victim, I mean husband was. I could look at that as a control group. Learn something more about the Filipino. In the introduction of your video, you make general statements that can apply to many people. But they don't fit the context of the Filipino people. You have to know what Pinoy Pride is and Crab Mentality, traits that are common for them, and description coined in their country. They are an overly jealous people. Shallow, easy to be offended. Simple minded. Food is a big big part of their culture. Where westerners enjoy food/eating, an outsider can see it as excessive attention to it. It takes some getting use to when you visit a Filipino in their house and they shove food on you even when you are satisfied with what you ate. Just make sure none of it has patis in it.
Hi, my experience is 8 years in country and married 15 years. You are correct there are similarities, but also relates to the groupings. As you will find wealthier Filipinos suffer with the same problems that often occur with Westerners. But also I find the education and understanding of things is very different based on the social groups. But for the majority of foreigners they associate with the group you describe which makes the understanding of that type of mannerisms and traits familiar to most. But there are other groups out there along with different mentalities. However they aren’t as prevalent in expat communities.
@@mattwilkie correct. A person could never expect an old white dude go to Makati and hook up with a 20 year old girl. Like you said. A total difference in environment. But that's not the norm. One side of the fringe of the bell curve. Takes a good amount of money to live in places like that. And you have to have a car and live like we do in our own country. What is making these girls think they are the cutest thing on the planet ? Even barangay girls in rags ? But they have a cellphone, but no running water ? Filipina is a near borderline narcissist. What makes them this way ? Most women are an exhibitionist, but Filipina take it to the next level, wait till botox enters into the culture on the cheap. Especially this tick tock craze. My wife, Beth her friend and sister are going nuts on that thing. Is it because Filipino is addicted to the funny too ? Often overlooked about Filipino is this obsessive trait, of the funny. There's more to do in the Philippines than just chicks obsessed. In Quiapo I befriended a Pinoy that rewinds speaker voice coils on a blown woofer. Went to his house, and he taught me. My second wife, her father in Mindanao has a farm by a river. It flooded and left hardwood loggs on the corn field. I brought over a 090 chain saw. Cut the wood. An uncle. We went out fishing in south china Sea. I built a house. Planted a farm. Learned how to operate a Cabo, living tractor. Smuggled a 175 Yamaha. Cut the frame in 5 pieces to do it. There's a lot of things to do in the Philippines. I built A-7's, it's my house system, but the barangay uses it for their festivals. I don't see how these expats can just sit around, look at themselves, drink beer, and do nothing. I brought over from United States one pound of tomato 🍅 seeds.
Hello, I started watch your you tube channel and I love to chat with you one on one if possible, I went to Philippines last Feb, I got loads of ?'s can we chat?
H I MATTY HOPE YOUR WELL PAL SOME OF US ARE JUST LOOKING TO WHAT ELSE IS OUT THERE IM A BIT DIFFERENT I GUESS IVE BEEN DEVOICED FOR 18 YEARS BEEN SEEING THE SAME LADIE FOR 12 YEARS WE DONT LIVE TOGETHER BUT SPEND ON AVERAGE 3/4 NIGHTS WEEK TOGETHER IN 3 YEARS TIME IM 55 YEARS OLD AND I AM PREPARED TO CASH UP ON I MIGHT MOVE ON SELFISH YES !! BUT MAYBE NO !! IVE WORKED HARD IN THE CAR SALES INDUSTRY FOR THE LAST 30 YEARS , IVE NOW MADE MY MONEY TO A DEGREE A GOOD PENSION AT 55 PLUS OTHER INVESTMENTS THATS WHY IM OPEN TO A NEW LIFE SOME WHERE WARM AND NOT SPAIN OR GREECE LOL LOL KEEP WELL MATTY WARM REGARDS JAMESEY
This guy only appeals toFilipina that belongs to lower level in society. He only catches maids but not well educated intelligent and wealthy Filipina. A rich and well educated Filipina will never like your kind.
But why so much foriegner in dateng site scammer all I chatting need money not all women Philippines scammer also foreigners guys that why antel now I not find forienger men
Thank you for putting out the video. Having a Filipina with shared interest is very important. My Filipina lady is a teacher and loves to read, study and learn everything possible. Having the ability to have discussions on politics, economy, and everyday life keeps us closely connected. I am not saying a Filipina from the "province" is wrong but make sure she is not a "yes" lady.
thats right This amarican man is to fat never studying but talking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I totally agree with you Matt Wilkie and very well said video. Intellectual match is very important so that a couple can discuss everyday topic of interest. This is especially significant as we all approach our golden years and companionship alone would be number one in our list. If sex is someone's priority, why get married. I would say choose your partner with the same intellectual and educational attainment, otherwise, what is there to talk about? Remember, any relationship should be a partnership and friendship.☺
Great video matt, makes a lot of sense.i was married to a filippina got her over to Australia and she was a different person found out she only used me to get herself and 3 yr old daughter into the country she was looking for a younger guy when she got to Australia,.marriage losted 3 yrs then i divorced her, i was 65 at the time, came back here when i was 69 after meeting a girl on fb was friends for over 2 yrs then decided to call it a day living in Australia as everything was so expensive to live,sold everything came over here to Philippines to see my then gf she just started to get a nice new home in an estate.i moved in with her only to find out she wanted me to pay everything as she didnt have a job, after 7 mths found out she was seeing other men while being with me a real bi pola person i ended up leaving her she was too aggressive to me, now i have another one ive been with for 4 yrs now but she gets too moody if we have an argument and wont talk to me for 2-3 days so at the moment just playing it by ear then looking for someone a bit older say 50 plus as this one is just 40 but at times a bit immature.in her ways.the ex gf i had was 42 but in the end a real nut case..
This is a great video. I just hate how one foreigner gets scammed or had a bad experience and suddenly the entire race is already stigmatized. You are right, people are people some should learn NOT to see base on skin color or race. Thankful for people like you for having a wider understanding. Such simple thing could actually make this world a better place. :)
Thank you for your advice and perspective on relationships with filipinas.
I am an American who is widowed and not having any good experience in dating here in the US. I work with a lot of Filipina men and women and have dated a few Filipina women here and got a taste of what it is like dating a Filipina girl. I love asian women with there long black hair, tan like skin, petit body and shy behavior. Of all the asian women abroad the Filipinos mostly speak english very well. I meet a nice young Filipina girl at one of the christian dating websites and traveled there multiple times to meet her and her family and we fell in love with her and the islands there.We are engaged to be married and had a great time traveling and exploring different islands resorts from Subic bay to Cebu, Dipolog,Palawan and of course Boracay. Going to check out Illilo next to see if I may want to live there when I retire but will always have a home here in US.yes its mostly hot and humid there but there are places where it is not that bad but thank God for Aircon.I love how most of the people there have good family values and are generally happy, don't stress out and laid back. She is now pregnant and we are excited to have our first child. I am not a lazy fat old guy. I eat healthy and very active. I fell 40 years younger when i am there with her. When I come home after visiting there my daughter says I look and seem younger, happier and less stressed out. I you are looking for the fountain of youth I have found it in the Philippines. I love all water sports and the Philippines is a great place for that kind of activity. I am blessed to have all this energy at my age and to find a nice girl to spend the rest of my life with. thanks Matt for your information about the Philippines and Filipina people hooking up with foreigners who plan to live there
Glad you enjoy the videos, I agree with you totally I think its the "stress free" attitude with most Filipina women I have met. They don't seem to get caught up in the nonsense that often pollutes Western life. Often content with what they have and in no rush to change things. What is wrong with a less complicated life?? Answer is many people don't like seeing other people happy unfortunately.
Love your videos sir and thanks for sharing your knowledge. You give very balance and useful advice about my home country. I’m pinoy and have been living in London UK since 1983 and I can’t wait to go back to Pinas to live and start a new adventure.
For unmarried Expat, better to look for a matured/well-educated Filipina whose age is between 25 and 40 years old. But he needs lots of sacrifices to know/study her instinct and maturity in facing life through long-term relationships (probably at least 1 year) before deciding whether to marry her or not...
Thank you.
It´s helpfull and I like your opinion.
I am thinking of relocate and I find your way to describe things very helpfull.
Thank you Matt, your wisdom is very helpful to me. thanks mate.
You are welcome glad you found it useful.
Good points. I have seen expats with girls that had married them without really liking them. I had one girl tell me that she would marry me and it did not matter what I looked like or what I wanted to do with my life, it was enough that I would support her and give her a child. Mind you she was attractive and a nurse, but she was 28 and desperate to do what her family told her she should do, ie married with a child. I finally told her that I could sense that she did not even like me and that I was unwilling to be in a relationship with her.
I learned a lot today. Thank you.
Great video
I like the Filipina tradition more than the women we have here in the U.S. It seems like a lot of guys are starting to get tired of the way the American women are.
Western/westernized women are ok (they're not all bad), it's all about the added warmth and sweetness of a Cebuana. And I'm not talking about the ones who just nod and say "yis" whenever I say something they don't quite understand like "This riesling is a bit too sweet, don't you think?"
Matt is spot on in specifying finding a partner with an education and a level of independence so she's with you because she loves you and not because she sees you as the golden ticket out of poverty.
I dont think its a kind of brainwashing. I think, its just about the love and respect we have to our parents, that is why we filipina women dont just abandoned them as they grow older.
Amelita Gamutan thats true i also work for my whole family not only for myself.and my parents never said and brainwashing me to work and send bck money to them.its my heart that says my family is my life specially my parents that their already old they need my care and help bcoz we filipino grow up with a thighten family relationship no matter what. Family are everything. Sorry for my english thats only my openion.
The brainwashing has nothing to do by supporting the family...!, In case you don't know, supporting the family in Philippines even those Filipina's have already their own family, still they continue to support their parents or siblings financially, its a gesture of Love & care to the whole families w/c many Westerner's didn't care about their own, that's why Filipinos are been blessed bec. of this gesture's of Love to the families. We were not been forced to help out our families back home, but it's our love that care's so much to the families, what blessings we have, we are glad to share it also to our families, w/c many foreigners don't understand it.
The difference elder parents of American dont need there children money they have a safety net social security Medicare women dont abandoned them for most part it not about love and respect that still there.
Just FYI, educated Filipina women would not usually date any foreigner in the Philippines because they are already self sufficient financially, they would rather marry someone locally who has equal educational attainment (collegiate ) like they do. Most ex pats in the Philippines are on social security pensions and make less than $1000.00 per month. It would be very difficult to live with this pension unless you lower your standard of living. They mostly attract poor uneducated women, and this is a fact... just saying.
Hi Olivia, would have to say for the majority you are correct. But also knowing some women from fairly wealthy and well educated backgrounds the guys they seek is more to move away from the local issues. E.g. from political dynasty families they want a disconnect. But foreigners also includes South Korean's for example that I know several women have been looking for the right guy for the last 3 years.
How can you retire on less than $1000? Really?
I have alittle less than 700 $ pension a month and i have a wife who is a doctor and earning more than my pension by alot. i have also collages who found love with a very educated womens that earns more than them. i live here for years so.. im a living proof that what you said sir is not the majority of the cases.
Of course educated women will date foreigner if she dont make a good wage i know a Philipina like that she moving to states with him spousal visa.
@@Dandandone Thank you for your feedback! I thought he was generalizing a broad number of Filipina women.
Filipino is different culture, you need to know before you get married a Filipino , so your not be blindsided
Great Insight And Advice
Interesting guy. Solid videos. Quality channel.
Mr. Wilkie,
I would like to add-on a counter view on why most Filipino/a wants kids (that is more than one) ...simple and practical reply is ...in order to have someone take care of them when they get old...usually this responsibility falls to the eldest or the youngest siblings or an unmarried sibling, or the one who is not financially dependent, but will be supported by other financially able siblings.
Yes, It is a very selfish mentality that most traditional-minded Filipino have and they try to hide it as being family oriented and xtian value. If they really value their family they should think of the quality of lives that their children lived and not the number of kids they have...and the hopes that one of them be hostage of guilt to take care of them in old age.
While I agree with you that having too many kids are being irresponsible as parents, I would like to say that taking care of our parents is NOT a bad Filipino trait or tradition. We are proud and honored and love taking care of our parents. There are also other nationalities who take care of their parents. The only difference between us is, we take care of our parents out of love, while most of you take care of your parents out of practicality (It's much cheaper than putting them in a Nursing Home).
@thAlia88beachbabe
100% agree with you there. For me as a parent, I would not expect my daughter to look after me when get old. I would try and get that organise myself.
We only have short life to live in this planet and it’s not my children’s fault that they were born. True love is about doing your job as a parent without expecting one in return. I would not want my children to have the burden of taking care of me when I get old. I want them to live their lives how they want and to fulfill their dreams free from the burden of looking after an old fart like me.
By the way I’m pinoy.
How about where to rent in Baguio or San Felipe? I would like to research for a year for the chances to start a business there where my future wife lives. Never been on that part of the PI. Your suggestions are always welcome.
For me you are special person u have good hearts
you are right matt !!!
Spot on.
Another great video, sir.
Awesome video..thanks👍👍
Oh wow I've been binge watching! So much good information
Great vid. Helped me a lot Cheers
you are welcome.
Another nice video!
It will be harder for me being I don't want children. I spent a lot of my life raising my kids.
I think almost 100% of women in the Philippines want kids. If she already have older kids, she is married. For me it is finding someone that likes adventure, and scuba diving. If she loves to swim, I can teach her to dive. I am in no hurry:)
+Scuba Tom thats the main thing is taking time. No shortage of women to meet but not as many are an ideal match
I think this is just a fair and unbiased view.
Are there places there one can buy ' model trains , I am a swim, walk , watch moives .
I a retired guy young 52 but very busy .I got to be busy . What are some good suggestions for hobbys there ?
Interesting one relating to model trains, as a lot of the available things I come across are sub standard or cheap (or both). Worth searching on Google as I am sure there are some like minded people out there that will know where to locate some of the better brand locomotives.
Matt Wilkie Thanks for the reply 'I am not looking for expensive things. I am not rich just middle class guy.
I tried trains before three times, ha, ha, ha, I never could get it off the ground due to life eventes happing that sidetracted me . But I bought used and low cost trains even got a whole train set in the second hand store for $25 USA dollars. I keep very busy with walking and swimming for health . I have had many interest just was was thinking I might like to give trans one last try and that in the phillipens they might be more affordable , and could even be a family bonding experance. I do 100% agree with you one needs to relax in there retirement ,But also needs to have things to do so they do not get board. What are some other things there in the phillippenes you could recommend as possible hobbies?????
Thank you ,Take Care
I need to be more like them.
If it's not too personal a question, may I ask what, if any, is the age gap between you and your Filipino wife? And what are some of the common interests you two share? Too personal? Dismiss. Mahalo.
6 years, we both enjoy cooking, reading, dining out, travel and a lot of general topics e.g. when we dine out we discuss the ingredients in the food we are eating..lol hard to explain but we never run out of things to talk about.
+Matt Wilkie Appreciate the candor. Mahalo.
in other words a typical healthy relationship
Matt you are lucky I've been single 8years cos my work as taken me away, a friend says I should not join any site just go there my cousin franco as met a lovely person from mandaluyong. I wish I could lol
@@Gio-Chii soon you will find the right filipina lady that fits you
Good video Matt, have to agree with what you have said my wife is from Manila had a good job and was
Very well educated, would I marry a girl from the province possible but very unlikely, once great video.
Thanks for the comment and I agree.
I like your vids mate. You shoot square without clickbait and nonsense.
cheers mate, as i hate all that manipulation makes it a nightmare to find things when I am looking for them. So would hate to be part of that problem.
Great Video. Sophisticated matchmaking programs can tell you which countries you will be most and least compatible for dating; based on demographics of culture, tradition, religion, and other metrics that can be mathematically calculated. An atheist, nudist, child-free type who enjoys nuclear physics, probably would have difficulty finding a Filipina compatible for long-term. My previous observation is that most foreigners are there not for the cost of living or tropical location (sound points), but to get a higher SMV lady (younger and hotter) than they can get back home. I believe matchmaking programs would find most foreigners, especially those who are highly educated and less traditional, incompatible with Filipinas. So, they can only go for short-term "fun". As the saying goes, you can't find gold in a silver mine (not that there's anything wrong with silver if that's what you're into).
Interesting points and I would agree an education level above that of the average person may become an incapability issue if there was a mass influx. there are some very well educated Filipino's out there but they do not seek foreigners you need to seek them.
Very well said. FILIPINA WOMEN nowadays are also getting wiser. IF they can feel that you are also playing around, they will also do that for sure.
I see that People who don't understand this information. Won't Hear This. Like they are blind and deaf . Problems continue 🧐
filipina are family oriented, educated, competitive! have thier own classy and prerogative
So true Sir....
Sounds like Akuna Matata in a since. Don't worry about tomorrow live for today.
Sound advice. Have you ever met a Filipina in her 30's or 40's that never had children by choice ??
No, they simply never met the right person or had other priorities in their younger life.
I'm a Filipino and are you sure Matt that Filipina in her 30's or 40's never met the right person or they never met the right person to dig in some valuable treasure ? Hahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bonzo T Alonzo there are plenty of Filipinas in their 30’s or 40’s with no children on Christian Filipina dating app. Ask them yourself. Matt is right get to know them for at least year n gave more than one friend have several to chat with n get to know them.
hey matt..very informative...I met my wife from cebu province of Lapu Lapu...I loved looking at how ppl there really live and just loved buying the chicken cooked over coals where u find the seller's at the road side stalls...great video again..Matt..
Hi guys
Omg.just answer the question
If you make another video, it would do you credibility to state your background, what knowledge and experience you have with the Philippines.
In short. I first went to the Philippines in 1989. But before I went, and the internet was in it's infancy, I read every book I could find on the country and subject. Much attention was given the Philippines after the Marcos marshall law.
I lived in Seattle, so even then, there was a large population of Filipino. Seattle has always been a gateway to the Orient. So I talked to them when I had a chance.
I got married to my second Filipina in May of 1989.
Married ten years. It didn't work out.
One lone Philippine law makes a Filipino a sanctioned thief. This is the biggest trouble when married to one of those girls. Her family.
Always creates friction. A law you the foreigner is never told about.
Because of her attitude, I went to college to understand how a person could be as she was.
Familiarity Breeds Contempt. Once you know everything about the common attitude of those girls, you actually see there is not much variation in there personalities.
In 2001, I married my 3rd Filipino girl. Having been around them that much, I have learned more than the average guy. And lived in the PI more than 2 and half years.
Sure you may say it was my fault somehow, or why was I stupid enough to get married that many times.
But I don't give up easy. If I put my mind to something, I will invest the time to make it work. One old book I read talked about the traditional Filipina, of old. I wanted to see if it was true or not.
Many of my classmates in college never graduated, all of them guys. There's a low graduation rate for men, where the majority of women do.
So I would counter what you said about Filipina. They have a short list of variables.
They are not much different from one another.
Example. I was married in San Pedro Catholic Church in Davao. I went to the seminar required by the church to get married.
About one hundred people were there. I was the only white guy. The speaker separated us. The men sat left to him the girls to the right.
In our group of men, we had one Pinoy, who had that beaver type personality. ( See personality types). He had glasses. He wouldn't laugh like the rest of us joker boys. I fit in easy with Pinoys because I love to joke too.
I looked at all the girls. None of them stuck out as being different from any of the others. Maybe my fiancee, because she was the best looking, but she acted like the rest of the hens.
All laughing giggling, putting their hand over their mouth like Filipina do. Looking at each other. Telling each other who their next victim, I mean husband was.
I could look at that as a control group. Learn something more about the Filipino.
In the introduction of your video, you make general statements that can apply to many people. But they don't fit the context of the Filipino people.
You have to know what Pinoy Pride is and Crab Mentality, traits that are common for them, and description coined in their country.
They are an overly jealous people. Shallow, easy to be offended. Simple minded.
Food is a big big part of their culture. Where westerners enjoy food/eating, an outsider can see it as excessive attention to it.
It takes some getting use to when you visit a Filipino in their house and they shove food on you even when you are satisfied with what you ate.
Just make sure none of it has patis in it.
Hi, my experience is 8 years in country and married 15 years. You are correct there are similarities, but also relates to the groupings. As you will find wealthier Filipinos suffer with the same problems that often occur with Westerners. But also I find the education and understanding of things is very different based on the social groups.
But for the majority of foreigners they associate with the group you describe which makes the understanding of that type of mannerisms and traits familiar to most. But there are other groups out there along with different mentalities. However they aren’t as prevalent in expat communities.
@@mattwilkie correct. A person could never expect an old white dude go to Makati and hook up with a 20 year old girl.
Like you said. A total difference in environment. But that's not the norm. One side of the fringe of the bell curve.
Takes a good amount of money to live in places like that. And you have to have a car and live like we do in our own country.
What is making these girls think they are the cutest thing on the planet ?
Even barangay girls in rags ? But they have a cellphone, but no running water ?
Filipina is a near borderline narcissist. What makes them this way ?
Most women are an exhibitionist, but Filipina take it to the next level, wait till botox enters into the culture on the cheap.
Especially this tick tock craze.
My wife, Beth her friend and sister are going nuts on that thing.
Is it because Filipino is addicted to the funny too ?
Often overlooked about Filipino is this obsessive trait, of the funny.
There's more to do in the Philippines than just chicks obsessed.
In Quiapo I befriended a Pinoy that rewinds speaker voice coils on a blown woofer.
Went to his house, and he taught me.
My second wife, her father in Mindanao has a farm by a river. It flooded and left hardwood loggs on the corn field.
I brought over a 090 chain saw. Cut the wood.
An uncle. We went out fishing in south china Sea.
I built a house. Planted a farm. Learned how to operate a Cabo, living tractor.
Smuggled a 175 Yamaha. Cut the frame in 5 pieces to do it.
There's a lot of things to do in the Philippines.
I built A-7's, it's my house system, but the barangay uses it for their festivals.
I don't see how these expats can just sit around, look at themselves, drink beer, and do nothing.
I brought over from United States one pound of tomato 🍅 seeds.
Hello sir can you tell me what name dateng true guys not fake not scammer
had you met a filipina wife already.
Happy thanksgiving
You too.
Are you married to filipina. Just asking.
wow....people are fun
👍👍👍so true👋
Hello, I started watch your you tube channel and I love to chat with you one on one if possible, I went to Philippines last Feb, I got loads of ?'s can we chat?
Thanks for the great vlogs and info mattyregards jamesey
Morning
Morning
We filipinos are family oriented. I just want to meet someone from other country if there’s an opportunity
You have that right. I hope that your desire comes true.
We? Tlga? ,You are just referring for yourself. Not all filipina wants to marry foreigner.
Well means you better have a good budget.....
H I MATTY HOPE YOUR WELL PAL SOME OF US ARE JUST LOOKING TO WHAT ELSE IS OUT THERE IM A BIT DIFFERENT I GUESS IVE BEEN DEVOICED FOR 18 YEARS BEEN SEEING THE SAME LADIE FOR 12 YEARS WE DONT LIVE TOGETHER BUT SPEND ON AVERAGE 3/4 NIGHTS WEEK TOGETHER IN 3 YEARS TIME IM 55 YEARS OLD AND I AM PREPARED TO CASH UP ON I MIGHT MOVE ON SELFISH YES !! BUT MAYBE NO !! IVE WORKED HARD IN THE CAR SALES INDUSTRY FOR THE LAST 30 YEARS , IVE NOW MADE MY MONEY TO A DEGREE A GOOD PENSION AT 55 PLUS OTHER INVESTMENTS THATS WHY IM OPEN TO A NEW LIFE SOME WHERE WARM AND NOT SPAIN OR GREECE LOL LOL KEEP WELL MATTY WARM REGARDS JAMESEY
I am sure you will enjoy it and on the right track with planning ahead.
mark james hi what kind of Lady u wanted i have a friend separated have 3 children from Davao
nice video..☺
This guy only appeals toFilipina that belongs to lower level in society. He only catches maids but not well educated intelligent and wealthy Filipina. A rich and well educated Filipina will never like your kind.
i disagree...most province girls are more mature and humble
Ok…, so how many province ladies have you tried dating?
That’s what I thought 💭
Please clarify for me;
Is the Province like a country girl or is it a girl from a big city?
@@alocarioca province girl is like a country girl
😁interesting
What is the difference between an Al Qaeda terrorist armed to the teeth And a woman on PMT Answer You can negotiate with the terrorist
I wont my philipina to be westernized to learn there a better life for her.
econclly trapped
The culture of filipino and foreighners is conflict..
It can be. But many of those conflicts can be resolved.
But why so much foriegner in dateng site scammer all I chatting need money not all women Philippines scammer also foreigners guys that why antel now I not find forienger men
Problem with those scamming it's their business. So they sit on the online dating asking for money. While good women work.
marry poor always poor