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- Published on Mar 14, 2026
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When You and The Narcissist Both Stop Contacting - What Happens Next Will Shock You || DR RAMANI
When You and The Narcissist Both Stop Contacting What Happens Next Will Shock You is a deep dive into the powerful psychology of no contact and narcissistic relationships explained through insights inspired by Doctor Ramani Durvasula. In this video you will understand what really happens when both you and a narcissist stop reaching out how narcissists react to silence what no contact does to a narcissist ego and how trauma bonds begin to shift. We explore narcissistic abuse recovery silent treatment dynamics narcissist discard patterns hoovering tactics and the emotional withdrawal phase. If you are dealing with narcissistic personality traits emotional manipulation gaslighting or toxic relationship cycles this video will help you understand the psychological impact of mutual silence and why the narcissist often resurfaces when control feels lost. Learn how healing begins when supply is cut off and why no contact is one of the most powerful tools for reclaiming your mental health and self worth
This video reveals the hidden emotional and psychological shifts that happen when communication stops on both sides
You will understand why silence triggers narcissistic injury and how it changes the power dynamic
It helps you prepare for hoovering manipulation attempts and emotional confusion
You will gain clarity about trauma bonds and how to break free permanently
This content empowers you with knowledge for narcissistic abuse recovery and emotional healing
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Detatching makes us find ourselves again and find peace.
This is so true…the peace I have now, I will not give up for a man.
@Katrn30 same... Never again... I'm gooddd... Single and free..... ❤
@Katrn30same
Corrects
Through free will, they choose hate. They are evil. 😢😢
They are the devil I hate he was put he in my life
It’s painful to see hatred in the world. Choosing love, compassion, and wisdom is always the better path. 🙏✨
Someone said, Satan picks a narcissist to antagonize "the chosen" Adversity is a way of life, a hard way !
He chose many in my life. I'm surrounded by them
@Freethnkr I pity you, I've had my share too.
Once you find yourself, you become unstoppable. 👊💪
@Freethnkrsame
@FreethnkrI was saying the same thing 21 years ago until I purged them! Now I only have one....my mother. I'm strong though 💪
Learn to RESPOND not react. Don't give them supply
No response
Is still a response and gives no supply
Narcs deserves only SILENCE!
Silence is best stratergy.
No response and reaction.
I have been living like this for 30 years, I let him lead and I began to become quite. He really changed when my mother died. I put him and his children first. If I'm not feeding his ego he feels neglected so now he want to divorce. I raised his children when their mother walked away. Now that they are grown I feel used. I have lost my feeling, honor, faith and integrity in myself. I have built this man up for someone else, he saids that I hold grudges but its not a grudge. I'm silent because he saids what I have to say is irrelevant. Lack of communication and disrespect is the problem. I have been put behind his children, mother, sister, and his friends. I now have no place within our house. All I do have is our Autistic son, for whom I'm trying to keep what ever you call this together. When we divorce he will be my responsibility I haven't had peace through out the marriage. My illness, my mom's death, and taking care of my son I have been stressed to no end. I was stupid enough to take care of this man and his kids, and not take care of myself. I do need peace, I will have it.
Never be ashamed of being loving and having compassion for others. Look, at it this way. You have done your part and beyond. YOU DON'T OWE THEM A DAM* THING! You don't even owe them a hello. Don't be hard on yourself. Go at your own pace. You will find yourself again. Trust, that process. Your on a learning journey right now. Keep going!
You aren't stupid. You wanted connection and love. Now you have clarity. Be nice to yourself and move forward. Even the tiniest step will feel nice. Play along for now and get all his financial info while you still have access.
God is watching and we will all be judged, narcissists are demons
TAKE IT, Nancy. It is *yours*!
Wait till God gets them
Hilarious
This was my family of origin exactly 💯! Sick, twisted, greed, abuse, entitlement, evil behind the masks. The End of a family, destroyed by narcissisum.
My sympathies, thanks for sharing..I have the same story
I also empathize. Mom, 91, just lost her husband, asked me to "help" and then treated me like an intruder. The hatred is still there, despite my prior absence, I felt 13 yrs old again ...... I never should have attempted to show her any love.....
Went through the same with gaslighting,smearing and hate mail. This went on for years and I developed an autoimmune and kidney failure. Has taken me years to recover.Been in isolation for years . I won’t tolerate anyones poor behaviour anymore.
@Lesa-x3x that is what they do. They want you to shrink and believe you are an idiot just so they feel powerful and safe.
Be assured, there is no safety for the wicked. They constantly fight a war against themselves. 😂
@Frankdisscutionpdx Yes, but knowledge doesn't lessen the grief. I struggle often .....
I don't really care what happens to him, but I don't wish him harm or evil. I'm SO GOOD in my life now! After the healing, life gets better and better. Thank you, God Almighty!!! ❤❤❤
I'm with u but the way he live by hurting women things bad are gonna happen
They deserve what they get. They are horrible people.
Thry are horrible persons. Gone through it
A point where the stress,emotional and stressful,takes its toll. Constant arguments are enough to drive anyone crazy!
They have moved on with the people they've been stringing along the whole time.Once you stop, you become the side show while someone else takes your place.They just juggle, no contact ever no matter what is the only way.
im hoping and praying that someone else take my place , so he can leave me and my kids alone
Yep I’ve been nc 1yr with a new numba I won’t fall that bs this time I’ve finally existed n released myself from the 5yr I refuse to be triangulated with anyone so Ik they Lyn makn of crap as if I’m jelly want them back makn fake pages stalkn etc they what they said the ex did n I’m now convinced it didn’t happen so Ik they Lyn on me I’m no where near them nor In any form of contact at all they do that to make themselves seem more desirable n it validates their false narrative about the exs Chile
@Clarisaforbush you have to cut the cord by yourself or else they feed on reactions
No Weapon formed against me Shall Prosper! Isaiah 54:17 Amen
Thats true!They hate loosing control of people.
Even if it’s AI THE INFORMATION IS useful. These are Facts!
You are absolutely correct about that!!!
@michaelwest6543agreed
I haven’t heard from him in over a year so I think he’s moved on thank goodness
lmao who made her eyes blue?
This is a fake copy. A.I
They work in the background, trying to gain back control and smearing you.
Yes. The smearing. I won't join in with that - I don't want people to have to take sides.
Yep 😂 I can only imagine what they saying about me n my kids and that’s exactly why I left they tails 1yr ago and got a new numba wth I wanna b n contact with their lying using 2faced future fakn bread crumbn selves nope I’ll pass
Yes mines did and twists things slander gossip turn people against you
We must all move forward from these toxic relationships they’ve taken a toll on our lives our family our health. We’re just so used to being treated like this. We don’t know any different. Time for us to wake up and take our lives back. Happiness is waiting for us.
Not my 1st Narcissist, unfortunately. BUT DEFINITELY MY LAST!
Silence now. Its beautiful!
Onward on my healing journey!
Made it to the point that I prioritize my life. My growth. May safety.
Thank you Universe!
welcome
You're very welcome
Finally! Welcome...❤
@4 min... You sit with the loss 😢 the hopes, the dreams, the future you had hoped for, a companion to share your life with. Not to mention the broken heart of the betrayal, the abuse & the knowledge that you were just supply. And allowed it to your own detriment and destruction, and the shock that not only was there a someone else, there were many someone elses. Only God can restore the soul, the mind, the broken heart 💔 and once again give us a Hope & a Future.
This
We've moved from apology, to confusion (even though I was absolutely clear), and now moved into hoovering. I'm expecting baiting next and anger. (I'm quite sure there's been bad-mouthing along the way, but for me it's not a war, so I won't ask others who may know as I don't want them to feel that they have to take sides.) It's starting to feel as if this process is rather like the 7 stages of grief, where there are predictable effects, not necessarily in a particular order, and sometimes skipping some. Gradually learning to really step back, but it's hard. I need my peace.
I think i just remain single for the rest of my life. I dont trust ANYBODY after living through that hell for 15 years
If you are a dude, you get peace because you don't have to deal with the egotistical shyte of the opposite gender constantly trying to barge into your life when you are being a normal person going about your day.
Same single and celibate for the rest of my life I'd rather be single
Same I lived with it for 15 years and raised 2 of his children. Presently learning he didn’t like my children because I gave them the same attention I gave his children. I tried to explain I am a mom for life. No matter how old my children are , if they call I come.
Great piece!! 😮 Silence is Biblical as well, which may add Confidence if you are religious or philosophical!!
Great content I finally find a way to let them go. Not fully but I am on my way.
Me too but wow way harder to do when you have siblings and Aunts they can talk through. Nonetheless I’m on way, it’s only been 2 days so here’s to hopefully changing our chaos to peace
Spot On. Absolutely 100% The Truth.
The saddest part is that all of this evil they create is the result of pain and trauma that they went through, likely in childhood. They’ve never known true peace or love. I always try to remind myself of this when their behavior gets too overwhelming.
Yes they like that cause they have been through all that it made them this way towards innocent people and loved ones too
It’s beautiful 🎉that he no longer tries to text me or trespass onto my property.
This is AI
AI can be very useful then. Thanks!
I left him....and now there is no contact for about six weeks
Im sure you are better off without him
Thanks again....my love has always been strong..but my Love Now, is for my self ,.it has been a draining, part of my soul, that I have given, that will go to a positive person, that is a true relationship in a good, positive way.!!
Reality check. I did the work. I told them dont contact me. What they do with that is their own closure.
I won. Thanks😊😊
Everything she said is what I've been going through for 46 years
I've been doing so much better since I've been giving him nothing
Been driving him crazy. Good luck all.of you
Thank you for the reminder and sharing your wisdom ❤
When the narcissist is devaluing you, you will notice they will grow distant, they'll stop engaging in conversation with you, even when you try to have a conversation with them like you normally would,. They'll shrug their shoulders, raise their eyebrows, and spread their arms open, palms u, like they have no idea what you mean. Continuing the devaluation process, they will get snarky with you, they'll start to treat you like you're stupid, they'll scoff at what you say when you ask what's wrong. They won't take anything you have to say seriously because they're no longer listening to you. And if they are listening to you, they will completely dismiss what you have to say in order to reply. They don't listen with the intent to understand what you're saying, because they don't care, they just want to reply and put you down. They will start mumbling about you undertheir breath, but just loud enough for you to hear what they're saying so that when you respond you will be accused of starting the argument that will definitely follow. They will make mountains out of molehills, and just generally act disgusted with your presence in their life. They will ignore you, they will go for days without speaking to you even if you live in the same house. They will brush past you like you're not even there. And when you have something to say they will act like it's a huge deal for them to respond and they will disagree with every single thing you have to say to them whether it's true or not. If you say the sky is blue they'll say it's black. If you say you feel like there's something wrong between the two of you, you will get that classic narcissistic pose of them raising their eyebrows and spreading their arms and say something to the effect of well you should know what's wrong you're here. What do you think is wrong? And whatever it is you say whether it's how you feel they're distancing themselves from you or they don't want to spend time with you anymore you'll get that classic narcissistic pose again and when you question that they will either just flat out ignore you or they will twist it around to where it is your fault that they're not speaking to you or that they're speaking of you in an inferior way. And they will make you feel inferior, you can't do anything right, you can't say anything right and you definitely cannot understand them the way they want you to understand them. You will catch them in a little lies, that will make you second guess yourself, and by the end, you'll be second-guessing everything you ever knew them to be, everything they've ever said to you, everything they did for you you won't be sure of anything. You will have changed so much of yourself to make them happy that you won't know who you are when you're left on your own and they still won't be happy they'll just want you to change more.
They'll start spending more time away from home, and when they get there they'll act like they want to be anywhere else but where they are. They'll stick their face in the TV and it will stay there and they will tune you out like you aren't even there. They'll ignore what you have to say any questions you have to ask will never get answered, and so you will be left to fill in the holes the best you can with what you're being given.
They will start calling you names, putting you down, treating you like you're a gnat that keeps flying in their face and they can't swat you away. You're a nuisance. A pest, and all they want to do is get rid of you
If you dare ask why they're treating you this way, they will turn it around on you and say that you've been treating them that way and they're just giving it back to you, even when they know they're the ones being mean and nasty and hateful to you. They can never be the guilty party, they must always play the victim and will announce it to the world how horribly you treated them. The thing they don't realize, in their infinite narcissistic wisdom, is that True victims don't generally announce to anyone that they are a victim. True victims are generally too ashamed and embarrssed to be a victim of anything or anyone. But the narcissist has to get on that smear campaign and beat you to the punch to safeguard that bullshit reputation that they conned everyone into believing. They don't tell people that they are a different person behind closed doors, only that you are a terrible horrible person and they just don't understand why youve become so awful towards them. This way they know that no one will believe you when you tell people how they treated you, and think you're crazy for leaving such a swell, upstand Ing guy like them.
Devaluation is the beginning of a confusing and detrimental nightmare, but is not as bad as the Discard phase that will soon follow.
And, of course, it's nothing they did to you. It's always twisted around to where nothing is their fault, and everything is laid on you. Additionally,If you’re dealing with a narcissist and suspect they’re cheating, Send a request to: MetaspyHub@gmail. com to get the evidence you need discreetly.
been going through this for the past 13 years and last Saturday 28 Feb I sat down with him and i call it quits , i told hime to move out since we both working he must go and start afresh whenever , i feel the loss yes but i will not contact him. Am done i so exhausted and withdrawn, i tolerated so much invested so much and i am done.
@Catuli-h6ostay strong mentally and emotionally 🌹
@RoseWater2225 thank you
Nailed it all! Play by ugly play! ❤
I have been served papers by the sheriff, about a broken TV I don't know about and unpaid rent for June and July for an apartment we moved in on August 1 🤔, 2025. He used my workplace address, he has my phone number but didn't include it while filing the case, he wants to make sure the drama goes to my place of work. People are really sick. I was off and my manager called saying the sheriff wanted me, I had to spend three hours of my day going through traffic and now have to answer and probably appear in court. But definitely going to countersue for harassment. If you're a lawyer and you can help me please reach out here. God bless y'all 🙏.
Try to contact something like a legal aid society!
the permanant riddance is good news enough.
Yes its all anout their convenience.
Lack of response is a narc injury for them. They feel entitled to have access to you whenever they want; even if its every couple of years or so. To close the door first by going no contact is a loss of control. They get mad, and some try to get even.
He always says I abandoned him
I did not know that both my tormentors were narcissistic. I only knew I'd had enough. Once I became indifferent they both got sick over time and died 😢 I was only trying to protect my heart 💜 and health by disconnecting.
Facing this situation since long years…. Tired
Boy you ain't kidding there my girlfriend lying her goddamn ass off about me all I did was try to help her and all she did was s*** on me
Yep they stingy selfish habitual liars n so called talk so highly n front like they have integrity wicked 2 faced selves tf I wanna b n contact w them for that’s phoney n of course if you do chat with them they telling whoever they around that u reached out etc n they listened when they be the one hoovering and aggravating people to meet up n talk I refuse to be that type of fool again
Spot on!
I was tired of sending money and she never came to meet me.
Really!,they expect you to return. The guilt is the worst part.
My Aunt was quite for 6 months and I thought now I will live peacefully but suddenly she started arguments and drama to bring in the attention but as Iam Super Empath , she finds herself broken from inside out. She is so much in distress now.
Thank you l needed to hear that.❤
Great content ..it's my situation with my FA ...I am secure❤❤
this is an Ai talking using Dr. Ramani's voice.
Alfred Hitchcock exaggeration movie a child will never mature so sad never will know when someone really love them that they never new Pray for people like this
Like the Joni Mitchell song, ‘you’ll NEVER know what you’ve lost till it’s gone’~ and seems even then unable to experience true feelings of loving someone else besides themselves. Poor wretches …
They already know what they did hurt me disrespected my harshly
Great info.
Glad you think so!
I do not contract mnoo one I. Do. Not deal with anyone
Ph🤬K Narcissist... that's all💯🤷🏾🤭🤣🤣🤣👋🏽👋🏽👋🏽✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽☺️
Never fear the created
Thank you x
I don't miss my narcissistic lying deceitful neighbors at all I will never speak to them again and go about my Mary Happy Life as a matter of fact I'm so much happier without them and I'm glad they put up that ridiculous childish outside curtain between my apartment and theirs don't take each other down their sisters and they don't even like each other
I ave a question is it illegal to trade on different time zones
Thank you for your knowledge and wisdom, Dr Ramani!
I needs a restraining order from Michelle Ashman and Ray Hayward. They have been stalking me for years!
I think I’m going to set my calendar to send a message to poke at him, all of them lol! With no intentions of be available lol! It is so predictable to see how they reach out every 2-3 months. These creatures are just disgusting
Want give in this time did that too many years
You just described my husband. I always reacted and begged. i learn to be silent and he goes crazy constantly trying to provoke me to get my reaction, i choose silence:)
I been round people with these kind of friends and family 🤮🤢
I cant let him go .nor can he. FA he reaches out. I was heavily zraumabonded.
I would suggest finding and following the real Dr Romani.
They then find a replacement quick as they can...learn nothing from the relationship and just start the cycle all over again with someone else
Yes they find others real fast very true same behaviors but with different partners in different people
I know I'm wondering it myself, but..I've found...if, so... what ever I feel...doesn't matter...( and I'm saying this about, a high school sweetheart and dating for 30+ years...,and recently marriage..I got dumped, for no, apparent, reason. Sucks.
Mine just found another victim.
Same mines always has the same pattern behaviors and finds other victims prey so fast too
Thank You
Stop giving a F. Move on they already did.
I pray that your heart heal ❤❤❤
Mine claimed shortly after the split that she had terminal cancer. I suggested she go with organ donation.
I feel at peace not speaking to the person who so tried to control me. Glad my sister is blocked. I don't hate her, just glad to be free from her. My husband was a different story till he started showing me his true colors which were lies upon lies and deceptions. We are now separated. God will deal with me as well I am certain, but he is showing me new things every time. I can finally focus on what I am doing in my walk.
My ex narc friend has gone practically mental, after I went no contact with her. She is panicking and desperately trying to get back in, by asking other people to get me to call her including her spineless, henpecked husband and all our mutual friends.
You are right. She did wait 6 - 12 months before realising that I had left her cunning games for ever.
How long is this stage going to last, does anyone know?
I got it, my father is the person who wants me his slave ,now am 53 realised after my mother died in 2023,
I'm going through this with my parent at the moment- I love my parent and I feel sorry for the NPD that ruins their own life as well as other peoples'. I always go back. But this time it's different. The narc is old and poorly, so if it starts an 'argument', even if I don't say a word, my, what a fine job it does of playing victim and succeeding in making me look like a monster to the flying monkeys. I am a caring person, so the character assassination is hurtful- it gets under my skin in a way only a narc can. I set a boundary- that I would not continue to visit if there were any arguments, which held for a while- then I got a speech about what I was, what I am, what will be- was told I should be 'deeply ashamed' ??? I apogogised, even though I hadn't said or done anything, I did my best to smooth things over but the 'argument' went on around me like a storm- I said I'm going'. Walked out and promised myself I'd never go back. It is so sad, but necessary. The parent has a lot of help, and my sibling looks after her, so she's not alone.
I constantly provoke the narcissist with reminders what evil she did staying with me and continuously say no forgiveness for her cheating
This is AI not her voice.
They feed us both the same bullshit
Im dealing with a greedy Narcissist over an inheritance, and just wonder how it affects the defence in a legal case, in a coreupt Country. Their is silence, denial and a system that seems to protect the Narcissist, despite thelaw states my rights clearly. Emotionally Im cold, but the battle Iface is the legal action itself.
For me, when I broke contact, I deliberately made it FINAL. Yes, she's still on my mind, but I'm not the least bit interested in knowing what she's doing. My progress (though slow) is something I'm content with compared to any other option. Each day (3 weeks now) has it's highs and lows, but it feels FAR MORE even Kiel than the chaos I left (and by left...I mean EVERYTHING and EVERYONE/moved to Florida). My new/temporary stress is building my new life (living in car), but I've found good paying work and I sleep PEACEFUL at night (despite being in a remote campground). Baby steps now with weekly/monthly attainable goals and only ME to support. Yes, it's primitive, but life really isn't all that bad. I have the means now to not only get by, but to thrive through patience and being responsible with my spending.
It's sad this disorder but I don't fell sorry for them
Wish them a Narcissist partner and walk away 😅
Have no clue what this even means
So, how do you protect yourself from them once you've left?
This no contact is killing families .
This no contact is saving families!
I wonder what personality type Sarah stone falls under??? Lmao!!!
The female psyche is destroying families
@Maryann7777-u9q❤❤❤
Involved the law and they will handle the case now
That's what I did and he was telling his neighbors family and friends that I was the villain involving courts acting like he did nothing wrong he out me in the hospital for a week and still was in denial blaming me
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When you separate what if their paranoid and they think your going to put them down so they start trying to seek revenge even if what their thinking is not true
Yep they gonna think that automatically which isn’t always true bcuz that’s the type of wicked messy crap they do it’s a projection.
❤ exactly
He was definitely scared that I was exposing the truth ( with proof). I heard that he was upset that quite a few mutual friends were shocked and want nothing to do with him... The rest tolerate him, some still support him, hey ho l let them go too...
One of my daughters in law is a narcissist. She worked tirelessly to eliminate me from my son's life. After they had a little girl, my husband and I were eliminated from their lives except an occasional dinner out in a restaurant. Her parents had everyday contact with the baby. We weren't allowed to see the baby the last year of my husband's life. When he was dying she didn't even bother to pick up the phone to inquire about him. I told my son she wasn't A part of our family at any other time in the past ten years, she wouldn't be with our family the day of the funeral. She pitched a fit the very morning before the funeral. I refuse to be in the same building with that woman. The times my son attempted to manipulate me into forgiving and forgetting. I told him I love him with all my heart, but there will be no contact between me and her. When I'm done, I'm done.
Been there done that all we already went to The grieving the processing evaluating accepting now and growing. It's all about my growth the love I still have in my heart for others and my family I've lost total control nada we can remain to be friends you'll never be allowed to overstep boundaries again. Not staying down got back up f*** myself from the pits of hell there ain't no going back it's only up up up up
If there is no relationship, what would be the reason to communicate? .... Who?
Yes agree, x hired people to get us killed as well, for years trying to get hold of us, now manage for the nassisist not to know where we are at all, no communication àt all
SUCH insight. ☀️ Thank you! 🫡
welcome
he has moved tto a new supply
But still trying to be with you There sick and demonic
Chile he will be reaching out or sending a msg thru a flyn monkey aka pawn which is anyone that will relay a msg good or bad to you they also will text or reach out to you
It cud even be vent /talk about whatever supply they with strokin your ego bcuz n your head u gonn b thinkn good she did that to him or hurt his feelings to yourself wrong that’s a trap also known as a Hoover to test where your head at I’m telling you if you allow it he gonna be back n forth btwn y’all/ triangulating n cheatn if they break up and you let him back then she gonna be calling n you gonna b pissed but not knowing the narc back Hoover sending msgs to her and she may b calling to defend herself but you won’t k ow 😂 the narc gonna lie n be like idk There their ex calling them private or playn on their phone they messy
@empress9857your absoultly right,but i told him i reported him fo the police so he blocked me
Mines too they move fast find new prey & victims same behaviors but with different partners
@user-tu6py7de5wyes
This is all true 💯❗️..the avoidant comes back .we teach each other and mirror ...the super empath. has power ..the FA reaches out but us colder now than before his ghosting. He has not moved on. The wants my warmth. I don't chase. He can't move on from me. Somehow he is bonded too. Its spirituell in a way ..deawn back to each other. Niw I decide the terms. Never a bad word to me. No break -up. But he shuts down in between
Many years ago I allowed her to stay in a room in my home. She remained for about 3 years. During that time there were some control issues that came up but they were not significantly disturbing. After she moved out the relationship continued but it was mostly her using me and also me using her when we needed something like a ride to the doctor or help moving. This went on until she started having some difficulties in her life. She had a car accident and started having back pain issues, she lost her job, actually she was offered a package to leave because she was having problems with her supervisor. As things got worse I noticed that she tried to exercise control over me. Even driving with her as a passenger became a nightmare. Talk about a back seat driver. It was almost like she was possessed. I would ask her to stop but it only became worse. I noticed something, I may be wrong, but the more stable she was in her life the less she tried to control people or get the smallest attention. Now that she is experiencing a lot of difficulties in her life it's like trying to soothe a colicky baby. We had a misunderstanding a few days ago after I had driven her to a medical appointment. We have not had contact since then.
Another term for psychopath? Xanthippe, wife of Socrates, comes to mind.
Ai .. find the real videos for accurate info