Shuler King - Ladies Would You Hand Over Your Check?
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
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Word of advice for life..
If you dont want people judging your business..Stop telling your business !
As for those two I say whatever works for them.
@@MrEasyNah the good gospel!!!
Right! No one needed to know that but those two involved.
@@Southern.Nappiness and no one needed to see that heifer in a bonnet and pajamas
Let the church say amen...
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If they’re married that’s perfectly fine. My dad was the bread winner in our house growing up and he literally gave his entire paycheck to my mom every week because she is good at handling money and bills. Marriage is a partnership. Aint no “my money”, it’s OUR money. As long as that brother is handling that money properly and is being 100% transparent with the spending then there is no problem. See, the real problem is people don’t understand that marriage is a Union. That’s why most marriages fail. My wife doesn’t even work.. but WE have an income. Not me, and not her. WE.
You said a mouthful, King! 👏🏾Peace & Blessings to you & your spouse!
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Amen 👏👏👏👏👍
It's nice to see a man say this 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. Some people think that if they are married and the wife doesn't work, the wife has no say in what goes on with the money. But it's their money not his. Same with if the wife is the breadwinner and the husband stays home, vice versa the man has no say, which I disagree with. But in marriage (not just a couple living together) his money is her money, and her money is his money.
100%.
It worked for my parents. My father would work and she too worked and he would give her his check and she would pay the bills but always tell him what needs paid, how much it is, and what we need to get and why. So it's a team work and it's a life long relationship. That's how it should be.
It’s usually the man who would hand over the check. Because his job was to work and provide. They didn’t mention if this boy has a job. These two don’t even look like they can walk across the street alone, let alone be married
@@melmel3703 ..... Chile i almost woke these patients up in the hospital from laughing so hard😂🤣💀Not "can't walk across the street alone" if judging a book by a cover was a person, it would be you😭😭🤣
@@melmel3703 walk across the street together omg 🤣🤣🤣
@@GodisMyBestieMrs.313 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@notbroku9528 😂😂😂
Why do people share such personal information about themselves, then, get upset when the public responds?
And the 'public' is 'responding' too.....I hope they have thick skin! 🤣
Yep!! They're getting wore out!😂😂😂😂😂
I am with you. Shuler telling people to mind their business, yet they are sharing their business on a social media platform…
Because they are not sure of themselves..... not sure how they suppose to feel about their situation
Exactly 🤷🏾♀️
I’ve been giving my check to my wife for the past 13 years and my credit has been better than I’ve ever seen it! I was in the Army and she gave me an allowance.
God bless you
😅😅😅 u good am not that good
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The thing is to know your strengths and mine, at the beginning of our marriage was NOT finances and we agreed that she would take care of that. She has done a HELLAVA good job at it. Know your strengths and weaknesses in a relationship and you bounce off each other. No room for an ego to ruin a good thing
Godbless ur unit💯
My mama use to tell me she would take my dad's check and give him enough money for his beer and cigarettes. Lol.
Hahaa mine too. She also made sure his other two kids got their share each payday. He got maybe 75 bucks for his OE and Salem 100s! Lol
Shidd it works
She already got the candy so 🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
OF SCHOOL KNOWNS
Period, no questions asked.
Cigarettes and beer.... 😉
Whoever is more responsible. As long as it's not someone being controlling.
I agree
I totally Agree with you @The Great Awakening😊
I agree
@@queentinadoire6931 : like our man Shuler said, she can buy knickknacks
Exactly!
My lady better not ever hand me her check. She works for it, so it is hers. BUT whatever she needs, I got it 💯
Cool Jay. You da man.
A REAL Man.@Jay
That’s a sugar daddy, and the money is the only reason she still around. If we equal the her money spending just like mine…
Thank you, You're a man, my husband would never allow it, he pays whatever Bill's needs to be paid and whenever I tell him I need anything he provides it, he never asks me where is my money going or where is my half
NEVER WOULD I IMAGINE
Maybe she's irresponsible and isn't good with money. Their home, their business 🤷🏽♀️
Maybe it just works for them.
Their home, they made it everyone's business to comment on with that post, though. ijs
Agreed
@@49ers_red_and_gold2 We agree 😂
@@MJ-ot8qx True, so they should be ready for opinions..both good and bad.
This is why people should quit telling all of their business… Unless you don’t mind being judged👀 But I agree with Shuler King… If it works for them, it works for them🤷🏽♀️
As long as they agree to this, they go over the bills together, and she knows what to do if something were to happen to him, then that's great.
Men will take all the money and go cheat!!!
@@aisha-3857 That's the risk. As a man, I think its not a smart move unless they are actually married. This boyfriend girlfriend thing, hell naw.
@@aisha-3857 you man hater, I bet you would!
Amen
Shwana, that's great advice. It's not good for one partner to be in the dark financially. Disasters have happened to couples when one person dies and the other didn't have a clue about the money.
My uncle was a gambler an he would bring his money home 1st. My aunt gave him his fun money and took care of the rest. You got to know you're person💯
Nice 👍
"Fun money" Never heard it put like that. But that's how you do it. Priorities first and foremost.
@@shonuf5152 lol got to keep him happy too or she knew no one would be happy.😉
Good for the discipline of your uncle not every gambler can be trusted to bring the money home first
that is commonly what happens. But the situation here is this man isn't bringing nothing to the table just taking. he is basically a child.
This works however, never be so dependent that if that person leaves by death or choice you are clueless or end up penniless. In the real world death happens and relationships end.
Exactly 💯.
That's wisdom young Lady
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾yes!
I worked with medicare recipients. I have had recently widowed women crying on the phone because they had to handle simple financial things. Their deceased husband always handled it. They don't feel confident that they can handle it. It is good if you have someone that is holding you down. You still need to know how to how to do basic things. That kind of dependence makes an elderly person even more vulnerable to predators than just the natural aging process itself. If a person is that helpless what if her husband became disabled and needed her to take care of him and look after things??
This would be a conversation to have before we put money into an account together. This was a trigger for a lot of women.
I think bcus a lot of women nowadays, one, are all about thier "bag" and "not needing a man" and two a lot of women again nowadays are not raised seeing mama and daddy work as a unit, work as one for the family. I can be wrong but this is my opinion.
@@a.mp.m7340 nailed it
@@a.mp.m7340 for some of us it is not needing our bag but it is a necessity and yes it does have something to do with how we were raised. My dad left my mom hanging the majority of the time and I watched her as they say rob Peter to pay Paul. As far as needing a man. Yes I do believe a man is needed because I have a son in the home and there are things that I can not teach him as a woman. But that is a whole other conversation.
This is a conversation to have before saying I do.
This is a conversation had BEFORE marriage. If you're married and still don't trust your mate....
I've seen things from both sides.
I was married and was in a similar situation that ended when on several occasions, the ex took the money to buy some shoes and some other crap, instead of paying for the rent and food for the house, KNOWING we had a baby on the way!
On the flip side...
Both my parents worked, but my dad always said my mom was the smartest woman he ever knew, and that he would not have half the things he had if it wasn't for her.
Educating yourself, and your posterity, along with building generational wealth, yields great stability.
Rest in peace and power daddy. The greatest, sweetest, most humble, toughest, kindhearted man I've ever known. 🙏🙏🙏
True, what’s work for them is for them but they put their business out there for the world to know. I personally wouldn’t tell the world my business.
there's literally been a couple on tiktok where the man gave his paycheck to his housewife who handles all financial responsibilities from bills/insurance/school fees. There was no backlash from society when the man was earning 6 figures and the wife and kids was living good.
Michael Chareka That's how it should be.👑
I think ppl just lazy and irresponsible . Be a damn adult 🙄
This couple is not married. I believe that’s why she is getting so much criticism.
Double standards. Society can critique men but never females! Stay safe and blessed 🙏🏽
And there never will be one. Cuz that is how this world was built adam in the garden working before he got to eve. Jacob worked for Racheal even after he got her sister leah worked another 7 more years. A man that values something and put down roots knows he invested. So Michael less sees the same story the woman is working and the sons and the daughters see mom laboring and the father doing nothing. What is that teaching the kids about their father or about their mother or teaching the kids to do. Now I see around here these caucasian men working and taking care of the kids as well. Its sad when it's promoted as it is okay or when people are looking like this is new. This happens all the time. Men are laying up with women getting them pregnant living off of their money and when the woman loses her job pushes her to get on food stamps and movement assistance and they live off of what she brings into the home. He just better hope nothing ever ever ever ever happens to her. because his mama may not be willing to support him all over again.
My husband and I have a joint account for bills and savings and separate personal accounts. My parents didn’t raise no fool.
That’s called insecurity, not ideal for a marriage
People has to put their important others to test, if you have a joint account, right, try to keep and eye on your expenses and how bills are being paid if things are not going well, sit and TALK, organization and some fun must be allow but constant chaos is not something to go after.
@@youngswoll3 How is that insecurity ? They pay bills and have their own money to the side.Who has all of their money in one account with a spouse ? You seem controlling if your spouse can't have anything separate from you.
@@kayjones3187 Um. When your married you become one. That pretty much means everything. Not you getting to cherry pick what things you want to become one wt, or if it’s convenient. But that mindset is why a lot of marriages don’t work.
"My parents didn't raise no fool." The reasons we do a thing has to be examined. Each couple will have to decide what WORKS BEST for them; however, we need to EXAMINE our MOTIVATION for WHY we do a thing. Many faulty ideas, ideals and principles have been handed down to us from our families of origin and we need to make sure we are MAKING SOUND DECISIONS and not just PARROTING what we see or experienced. The words that I have in quotes above carry a VERY POWERFUL MESSAGE and that is what was communicated from the author of those words. What do those words imply or mean? Are they saying to have joint everything is foolish? Do they imply you shouldn't trust your partner that much to have fully comingled funds? There is no judgment. I simply want ALL PEOPLE to EXAMINE their own MOTIVATION before taking a position and EXPLORE- "Why do I feel this way?"
This is how my grandparents operated until my grandmother passed away.
On the flip side... my brother and sister in law do as the couple in the video. My sil is a nurse and has pretty much always earned more in their 30+ years of marriage. It works because any and every time she swipes her debit card for something she wants the funds are available. In addition, all the bills in the home are paid on time... all the time.
I'm a housewife, but have my own$$. My husband pays all bills except what I choose to pay. You have to go with what works for you.
What people are not seeing the lack and the more. And a man is never going to leave what is comfortable. If I left my mammas house and got with another mamma the problem will never be that the man is leaving. Now I can get if the man is broken and can't work and tried is working from home. Dag help relieve some of the burden so we can get to that more and greater. But if it is all about what I bring. Does he cook clean, I ain't got to do anything at home ever ever ever. tub clean kids are handled. I don't know, but I can't get with the struggles all mines because we had sex. Sex is only but for that moment.
Yeahhhh....I did that nonsense too with my ex... when he decided to leave, guess who had no money? ME. He controlled all the money, I was at home. Never again. 'Giving me an allowance' what am I, 12? Lol nope
Marriage is a partnership and is all about trust. If you can't trust the one you're with on this level, you don't need to be with them. Not saying that every couple should operate like this, because I don't. But this level of trust is a must.
Yes indeed trust and communication very important in a relationship.
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My daddy would bring his check home and give it to my mama or sometimes she'd pick the check up. She'd buy groceries and pay the bills. Whatever was leftover she'd hand it to him. He'd give her some and the rest would be put away. We never lacked anything.
It worked for my Uncle/Dad back in the day. He gave my Aunt his whole check and she gave him a weekly allowance!!!!! Also I’d like to add I’ve never had a man like that, so I’m alone and okay about it 😊
That was in the 60s and 70s times have changed
Most them niggas was doing that cuz they got caught up soo damn much they ain't have a damn choice lol. Unc might not be apart of those brothas tho lol
@@lovepeace7373 It's current. Only a few men would admit, and too many men don't trust.
So you’re alone because you never had a man give you his whole check?
Plenty of men do the same thing no issue if it works it works someone has to be the responsible one
Maybe she’s bad with money 🤷🏽♀️. But if it works for them, go for it! We didn’t need to know this.
The older I get the more I realize everybody does something in their relationship that'll make people outside the relationship say "oh hell naw I wouldn't put up with that or even go for it from jump". 🤷🏽♂️
I've been married for 45 years and I've always paid the house note and most of the bills, my Wife pays the cable bill we split the groceries, she likes to shop for new clothes and shoes periodically and that's perfectly fine with me, happy Wife, happy life.
_My grandparents lived this way. Pop would give my grandma his check and she’d pay ALL the bills. My grandma worked at a daycare facility and her check would go in their savings account. It worked lol! Bills were paid, food was always in abundance (thank God) and a solid roof was over the family’s head - period. What works for them, works for them - God bless_ 🙏🏾💯
Yes. My parents and my in-laws were the same way. My husband and I continue this except every bill is auto payed from a joint account. We don’t do allowances, we have personal accounts.
My Husband and I have always done this, we both work, I transfer my check to his checking account, he pays all the bills and rent, then we decide what we need for the week and deposit the rest into our savings account. He also helps with the kidz, fixes our vehicles, cooks, and cleans after himself as do I. We raise our family together, 50/50.There is no problem with working together in everything.
My Daddy did it for my Mama & my hubby BEEN giving me that check even before we were married. I got a good'un! 🙂💕 Blessings to all for the New Year🥳🥂🎊🎉
He is not paying all the bills! She is! A real man is supposed to be the provider and handing over his check for her to manage the household expenses. This man is in his feminine energy and so is Shuler for promoting this.
My parents are almost like that. My mom’s money is her money and my dad pays the bills. He is head of the household and that’s how they’ve always done it. If my mom wants to contribute she will, but it’s mainly buying the groceries. They’ve been together 50 years married almost 40.
Sorry I will stay by myself because I’m not giving my check to anyone but hey to each it’s own
Thank You.
I'm reading these comments like 🤯. He gives her 100.00 of her hard warned money.While he dosen't work. Does that money include gas money ,clothing , feminine products? That's not enough . People put anything on the internet. This is most likely his version of submitting 🤦🏾♀️
@@kayjones3187 A lot of these people in the comment section don't think for themselves,whatever the content creator says they just roll with it.
I think she implied she has no clue where her money goes, has no access, and is not invited to understand his contribution fiscally. What if something happened to him? She would be wrecked.
Me and my husband established before we got married that I will keep my money I worked for. He is more than capable to handle us financially. In the four years we been married, I worked three of those years and my husband has never asked for one of my checks. This wasn’t a issue for us
Nothing wrong that’s how me and my husband do. He is the bread winner and he pays all the bills and I do give up 90 percent of my check to him and save the other 10 percent. Nothing wrong with teamwork. We getting the bills paid.
That's what's missing from this puzzle because I wouldn't have a problem with him handling the money but where is his?
@@msshug9995 I can’t speak for others, I’ve been married 16 yrs there are times when I was bread winner and he handed over his check to me as well. When your married things like financial stability is shared. I don’t make 80,000 a year so naturally i hand over 90 percent to pay bills and it been like that for 15 years. Everyone’s relationship is different, I wouldn’t expect everyone to understand do what works for your household!
But if he is the breadwinner and you still give him 90 percent of your paycheck...how much is really being spent equally?? I'm just asking because that's a lot of money saved on his end if it is not being saved in a shared account to really see a profit, especially if you are only withholding 10 percent of your own earnings. I'm not judging just going off what you've posted for a generalized understanding
@@YChef33 It’s fair considering how we live. I’m married and I own two homes so if giving up 90 percent of a job check is nothing. I have other income but we are a three person household with bills that fit our income. Our bills are not the average 1500 a month. There’s nothing wrong with how people work as a team. You look at 80,000 a year as something big not when you own homes. Maintenance is needed property tax is paid. So on that note……👍
My ex-husband used to hand over his check to me and I used to pay all our bills and then deposit his spending money into his spending account. He liked it this way as he was very reckless with money. His credit improved as I paid the bills on time. I believe that the person who is responsible should handle the money - husband or wife. When we divorced my ex-husband credit went down the drain, his new wife is also reckless with money- they are doomed for poverty.🤣🤣🤣
He got smart and stop giving you all his check, that's why you probably divorced him.. but we know what you and every black women say, he was toxic a narcissist, or the big one he cheat or mentality or verbally abusive..
@@deeflo6731 You don't know me. I made three times more than my ex-husband salary. I brought in more money. This is how we ran our home. As for why we divorced- I don't owe you any explanation. It was his loss. He is still begging to come back and my answer has always been a big fat NO. Not every black woman has the same perspective on life, relationship, money or social status. There are educated, classy and savvy black women out here. Toxic attracts toxic- Maybe this is why you are having bad experiences with the black women that you associate yourself with
@@deeflo6731 All black women 😒🤔? I hope you found love outside of the community so you don't have to endure us.😂😂
😂😂😂doomed for poverty😂😂😂
well birds of a feather flocks together.
Not every info needs to be shared! I wish l lived in a world without social media
We’re all different.
That’s how it supposed to be.
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Now the world don’t move
To the beat of just one drum
What might be right for you
May not be right for some
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@Jaylen E Turner How you doing today? 👊🏻
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Great man!
How are you?!
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My mother told me a funny story years ago. My dad was upset because he didn't know where the money was going when he turned over his paycheck my stay-at-home mother. She was frustrated and told him to pay all the bills. A couple of months later he comes home and we are sitting in the dark with the water shut-off and with no heat. He begged her to take over the bills again because he discovered he's good at making money but not taking care of things. I laughed when she told me. I guess she did alright because they live in a very exclusive neighborhood in a paid-off house now and he drives his favorite Cadillacs as long as I can remember. Moral-of-the-story stay in your lane. LOL
Do what works for you. We all have your strengths and weaknesses.
The issue isn't giving him her check, the question is does he work?
Thank you 🤷🏾♀️
They're working together, managing their household affairs and handling their business. That's a couple who have figured out what works for them. They're needs are met, they're happy and content. Everyone should have a stable and secure home life. Teamwork is part of the formula.
The partner who can manage money better should take care of the finances
If my significant other is financially responsible, investing, and trust worthy then I have no problem doing this. I know how much I make and how my money is spent/invested. This works for them.
I would give it to him with no problem. Trust is the key here. If you cannot trust your husband you shouldn't have married him.
Same here!!
Lol not true does he trust u tho
Sorry Shula, I'm not handing my check to NOBODY! He gives her an allowance with HER money??? LOL! "Boyfriend" should be getting the allowance and I'll pay my own damn bills.
I've seen lots of this over the years in several states! Some couples married, some just shacking up! 80% of the time, it was a Trainwreck!! 2 women stand out, both nurses. Both turned checks over to hubby and one had to get permission to buy shoes and underwear! The other was allowed ABSOLUTELY NO CASH! SHE HAD A CREDIT CARD AND A TRIPLE A CARD FOR CAR REPAIRS! ANYTHING SPENT ON CREDIT CARD HAD TO BE EXPLAINED!! SHE NEVER HAD CHANGE FOR A COKE OR PACK OF M&M'S WHICH ASTOUNDED ME! OH WELL...
My husband gave me his check for the 18 years we were married, that's how we were taught, my second husband did the same thing, only asking for $25 dollars spending money. Hope to find that in my next husband!!!
Aww thats so sweet beautiful hey long as your responsible and a good woman what ever works i feel cause after all we gone be together forever
So you got a man's check for at least 25 years. And you still found a reason to divorce both of them?🤔
Whatever Works For Their Marriage I Say Yea & Amen!!!😂🤣😂 & Happy New Years Eve & Day Shuler To You & Yours & To Everyone In The Comments 🎉🍾🎊
I work and pay all the bills AND give the rest to my wife. That's what a man's suppose to do😎
Now see how you put out that positive. And look how many people respond to it. Cuz real talk a lot of women are conditioned to lie this way. They can't relate to a man putting down his foot and saying I don't care what I have to do I am going to make sure my kids see me get up and walk out that door and bring back something even if it's a dollar more or a dollar less. For you, I did what I could. Nah this young guy needs a real man to talk some sense into him versus someone saying this is okay cus that woman dies. That's all she wrote cuz the next woman ain't going to be feeling I work and you sleep and spend up the money. This is beyond her just having bad spending. Go to a dag on money management class. And put his money in there too.
I'm so tired of people telling us what goes on in THEIR marriages n then get upset when people got something to say. Keep ur damn business to YOURSELF!
😨I ALL MOST BROKE THIS COMPUTER... WHEN HE SAID... HE GIVE HER, HER OWN 100 💲 AND HE IS PAYING ALL THE BILLS WITH THEIR 💰 MONEY😨
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I would do that if I was married. Paying bills is a headache by itself now balance that with working a full time job and keeping the house clean while trying to maintain a social life. It'll be one less headache for me. PERIOD
well how much are you paying rent, telephone if you need a man to take your money away from you and don't add anything to it, everything you buy including your cake is out of your own money and you have to buy his clothes, his soap, his tissue and his underwares dress him from head to toe, because you don't like paying your bills. Then you don't have a man you have a money manager that you are screwing and paying on the side. I don't think people don't understand what she is investing in her value and her worth. She just hired her man to be her man
What happens at home should be kept at home and should not be public information. It's time for people to realize that. You spread your business all over the internet and then you get mad when people start responding.
My S.O. and I pay BILLS together. We BOTH contribute to the "$$Pot"; we trust each other....and our Credit is much improved!
If any one of us come into a "windfall" we share with each other.
Ahhh! Anybody wanna tell me where I can find a man who will give me his whole pay check and let me handle the bills and I give him an allowance? 😂🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂 good one!
In Bama we callit pimpin!!🤣
@@quit2quilt525 😂🤣😅
@@cjbrown6754 😂😂🤣
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I’m a women and I give my husband my check because I’m bad with money. He pays the majority of the bills from his paycheck. We use my pay for food, entertainment, and savings. We’ve been together 16 years so it’s working.
How it should be. Awesome.
She gives him the money and he "delivers the goods".
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How much for the minutes because at the end of the day even that runs out.
Whatever works better for the building n ongoing of the household, works for me❤
If you put your personal business on social media, that means you give everyone the right ✅ permission to be in it...
My parents did the same except daddy brought his check home to mommy and she made sure the bills were paid. Itt was pretty much the same for everybody on my block! Mama gave him a weekly allowance for misc. And long as he had a good meal waiting daily, clean pressed uniforms and peace when he got home he was cool! I also did the same in my first marriage. We agreed to it and just did it.
There's an old couple I know back in the day where the man gives his check to his wife and she pays all the bills. It's not unheard of. But what works for one marriage might not work for another. I had a boyfriend that was bad at managing money so he gave me his check and I paid all the bills. He was also bad at driving so I drove us mostly everywhere. We had that trust between each other back then.
Both of my parents worked. My Dad would give his check to my Mom and tell her just give him a little play money. 🤣
It worked. We didn't want for anything. And they just celebrated their 58th wedding anniversary earlier this year.
Hell no!! I work hard for the money!! He better work for his!!!
This is why your Single 🤣
As long as they are happy!! Happy New Year!!
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👄That Bonnet is cute😍🤗
Happy New Year Shuler & chat family🙏🏽🎊 jus here 4 the comments on this 1🍾🥂
I have done that and only kept enough money just to keep going to work because home is more important than anything I live very comfortable
WHOEVER is the BEST with finance should handle the bills... If SHE is NOT GOOD with MONEY give up the responsibility
Welp! My brother gives his wife his whole check & she pays all the bills, but she still gives him $100 🤣🤣😂🤷♀️
Smdh 🤦🏾
@@LKS-M9323 He stretches that $100 to the last piece of change & she still be like no didn't I give you $100 for the month 🤣🤣😂🤣😂😂😂 He be pouting going turn in his change jar for gas 🤣🤣🤣😂I know it's not funny 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭But in her defense, there is a back story.
They like it...I love it. If it works for them, have at it🤣
Bimmer said 'Have at it' 🤣🤣🤣
Since they threw this out on the internet 😐 here's my opinion... If both couples work she can have a checking account, he can have a checking account and then they have the home checking account where all the bills get paid equally by each one.. that way whatever money is left in their own personal account ...they can do whatever the heck , they want to do with it...No big deal 🤔 But if only one person works, I don't think they should give their check to the other person to manage... doesn't matter if it's the male or the female... That one person who works should handles all finances and if they want to give their mate some money fine whatever.... But you just don't give money to someone who doesn't work and have them do the financing... you don't know what the heck is happening, they could be paying bills for a side person. But to each his own, I really don't give a crap either way 😑
I thought no at first but after thinking about it it's whatever works for them an teamwork makes the dream work so I'm all for it 💯
There was a time when men do the hunting. When they bring the meat home, the wife takes over. The man eats whatever portion the wife serves him. That is when men lived long healthy lives. If your wife works and gives you her check, she is testing you. You better not misbehave. Better yet, quickly walk with her to the nearest bank and open a joint account with her name listed first. You may spend the money but make sure she sees the receipts and know that you are taking care of the family. And go get a job and take care of your family. C'mon man.
There is never a reason to have joint accounts.
NEVER
That's their relationship dynamic. If it works for them, cool. It's weird as shit, but hey, that's their business. ✌🏾
I've done both (given money and received money) in two different long term relationships. In my first 12 year relationships my fiance deposited his full check in our account. I paid all the bills and made sure we had everything we need. He worked small business on the side for any money he needed for extracurricular activities. 2nd (4 year) relationships he was so much better with money and paying bills so I deposited my check for him to pay everything. I was very comfortable with that decision. I had absolutely no worries. I took out about $500 every two weeks for personal use. Didn't need much he took care of everything. Neither guy drink, party, or smoke. Both great guys. Even after we broke up we took only what was ours and the 2nd guy still paid a few of my bills for 4 additional months. I've been lucky to have no complaints with money and relationships. I will never take anything doesn't belong to me.
What ever works for 'Them' works for 'Them'.....BUT....It wouldn't work in my household
Yep I would, without hesitation. We are a unit. It all works out for the benefit of the family.
First off, the are not married. That’s already a red flag 🚩. Second off, has she seen the investments that he was put her money into and the fruit of it? Are there assets to her name alone? Why is she getting an allowance of a few dollars? Also we smiling too much something off and ain’t right. She needs her own money and bank account especially if things go left.
But hey to each their own… I like to warn of the walls coming. But some need to learn a rougher way.
Ps: if you are a man that’s a sugar baby or an f boy don’t even think about replying. Thank you 😊
This looks a whole mess. They don’t even look like they can cross the street alone. His smile says “I don’t work”.
I
Hope they aren’t married 🥴
@@melmel3703 Oh he works hard pushing her, but that's about it . I wouldn't even do that to my husband. 100$ every paycheck .Hell No
@@kayjones3187 right 😂😂😂
No thanks!! That's a whole train wreck right there!!
AGREED!! If it works for them…. Thats GREAT! (Couldn’t be me tho)
People would stay out their business
If they stopped posting it on Social media
Or putting it in the streets 😳😳😳
How about that?? 👀
Whoever is the best money manager. Each person has their strengths, maybe that's his.
Honestly I wouldn't feel comfortable taking all of my man's check. I'm 100% for a minimum of 3 accounts. His, mine, and ours. I'd be ok with both of us depositing money into the "ours" account to pay the bills, shared and maybe even some individual bills. If the person you fell in love with was independent, then each person should try to maintain some semblance of that Independence, if that's important to them.
I’ve never heard of the woman giving up the check always the man but what every works work
I mean if that's what she wants to do😶. In my religion my money is my money and his money is mine as well🤣
😂😂😂😂my goodness
True religion 😀
Nope! All our money goes on the same account... But hell no! Let him deal with that headache! I don't want anything to do with money! I have full access to whatever I want just as much as he does. I chose him and asked him to take on that part when we got married. Money is the number one reason for divorce. So I decided to eliminate the problem and we decided for him to take over all that. If I didn't have complete and total trust why would I marry him in front of God and Earth and everything in between! Love is magical if you let it be and not get distracted by money. 💗
That's what me and my wife do, we both work full time. I bring home $2200 every 2 weeks and it' goes into our joint account. Her check also goes into that account. Bills are paid, money is put into savings and we both have access to what ever extra is there. Nothing is wrong with a couple having this kind of arrangement. Now there would be a problem if the husband is able bodied and just doesn't work and isn't contributing to the finances of the house. But if he is working even if he makes less this sounds responsible to me.
Yes!!!!
And, usually one is better at budgeting money then the other.
Just cause he knows all the user id's and passwords doesn't mean he pays ALL the bills!
And it doesn't mean that he isn't paying ALL of their bills either...? 🙄
Blessed New Year everyone ❤️
This is why what you do in your house should stay in your house. It's no one's business. Do what works for you and be happy
It's working for them and I am happy for them.
When there is true love and trust and that team thinking in a marriage, it doesn’t matter who’s money it is and who’s paying.
Sad to say, nowadays that type of thinking is harder to find.
A young lady at my job direct deposited her check into her husband's credit union. He had a brand new truck and his mother that lived with them had a brand new car, but her little bug was broke down on the road daily. She was a fool. He gave her $25 a week for gas. She couldn't go anywhere but to work. The mother cooked for the son and the baby but never enough for her to eat. Now that is control!
I see nothing wrong here. I direct deposit $200 to my account and direct deposit the rest to wifey’s account each pay period as shes better with money than I am. She pays the bills, our credit is steadily increasing, and we rockin!💯
That's what up Wes. You're a strong, honest man secure in his manhood.
When you get married you become as one!!!! So it's their money! Not her's Not his. Nothing wrong with coming together to make things work. Hopefully he cooks and clean house as well. Look at it in a positive way, stop being so negative. GOD bless them.
@@donnacontreras993 Perfectly said Donna. Just beautiful.
Like they say " ain't no I in team" I would rather do it everything my self as a man can't trust noone
The only issue people are having with this is their youth. If this was coming from previous generations it would be met with understanding and "that's how it was in my day" talk.
What works often stops working once the other person wakes up( or shaken to their senses).