This song hits hard, and the video does an excellent job of showing generational trauma. My father was a hardass and could be very mean when I was growing up. He’s mellowed in his old age, but after seeing how his father, my grandfather, was I understand he was made that way. I try my best to be patient with my kids and hug them often, hopefully it can break a cycle.
Every time I need to cry it out, I put this song on. I mean “ugly cry”, too. This is one of the most beautiful and gut wrenching songs ever written! I always have and always will be a fan of The Chicks. Dixie or not! ❤
I know exactly what you mean. This song gets me pretty much every time. Such a heartbreaking portrayal of something so many people experience in real life - and the strength and love to break the cycle.
I’m 24 and my dad died of cancer last year. Everyone that knows me well, knows that I’d always had a strained relationship with my father. He was away most of the time for work, and when he was home he’d retreat into his room with a six-pack and I wouldn’t see him much. It wasn’t always like that, and there were years/months/days that were better or worse, but that emotionally-reserved distance really stuck with me. I didn’t start to understand him until I moved away for college, and it seemed like in the next moment, I blinked and he was dead. Even in the two years that we knew it was terminal, we still couldn’t seem to talk about anything. He continued to be reserved and I’ve never learned how to be the one to reach out, so even knowing that our time was short, we couldn’t resolve any of our issues. Now, I find myself struggling to connect and make time for the people in my life. I see myself falling into patterns that I saw in my dad, and in his dad. I know it’s harmful to shut everyone out and reach for a bottle every night, but knowing and doing are so difficult for me to consolidate. I can only hope there’s a better way forward. Considering the lyrics and video of this song, even thinking about it can make me break down into tears.
No other song out there like this. They are phenomenal.God bless these girls. Love em🙏🕊️🌹❤️🇨🇦 It's crazy insane how much I can relate to this song in terms to my father as I was his caregiver until the day he passed and the song is bittersweet for me. Dixie chicks or now they are called the chicks need to come back, take their place in music world again 🌹🕊️🙏
A shout-out to Emily of the Chicks, who did a stellar job as the cold mother, whose treatment produced the enclosed, seemingly unfeeling son/husband/father. Must admit I watched half the video wondering what role in which Emily had been cast. Then realized the make-up and hair, a la 1950s, gave her the proper look for the part. All three did a magnificent job. Video acting is a specialized form. Largely nonverbal if you're not the lead which can be tricky. Video poetry when done right. Impressive work for a formidable song. Kudos.
Kelly I completely agree and your words were so prolific 💙 I just listened and watched the Video for the umpteenth time, lol, this time i shed a few tears as it really got to me...and hit close to home. I LOVE Emily, Marty and Natalie and have seen them LIVE in Concert FOUR TIMES! Once in Oregon at the Rose Garden, same year I saw them in England on March 10, 2003 at Shepard's.... oh I forgot the name of the venue but it's in London, that was their opening tour when Natalie innocently upset the judgementals of the World, she meant no harm, just speaking her truth, I had such an amazing time watching them perform as it was my first time seeing them LIVE 💙 Other 2 shows were in Washington State in Seattle and also in Auburn at the White River Amphitheater...All shows were FANTASTIC! I HOPE TO SEE THEM AGAIN ONE DAY! 🎵 🎶 🎹 🎸. sorry so long, I just have alot to say, 😂 Shepard's Bush?!?!
Yeah girl, I agree. I’m a mother to a son, but I’m the daughter of a male rockstar. It’s a weird entrapment in a sense, but my son of just everything Beauty. Children are our greatest resource.
God bless ya'll that had a kind, loving Father and a mother that wasn't awol for her boyfriends....we came last.God bless them both ..I couldn't give anymore of my love to fake parents. Praying they are truly happy! Ten years of The US Army,Combat, purple heart, Bronze Star wasn't enough for her. However, I am enough for me now!! Happiness comes thru Yeshua!!
this song has made me so emotional since I was little & I never understood why. The last chorus I usually can’t make it through without crying. love them
"I pretend to be sleeping when you come in in the morning to whisper goodbye, go to work in the rain, I don't know why, don't know why" is one of my favorite lines of music ever.
The part that gets me is the "don't know why", he doesn't understand why he's doing it like he's a passenger to his own neglect, at any time he could reach out... but he doesn't, and he knows he's doing it, but know why.
This song just cuts me to the core almost every single time (typed as I sit here bawling from this heartwrenching song, that I just can't describe.) And yet in some ways one of my favourite songs and videos. So captivating and moving.
Absolutely gut wrenching, harsh, cold, neglectful, selfish, implosive, common, just life for some. Many, many other words I could list that I physically felt while watching this. What lyrics..what a song..what depth!! It’s very obvious that they each have some sibilance of this in their lives. POWERFUL
I know some people have been through far worse with their parents but this song makes me think of my father even as a grown woman it hurts I crave the love and acceptance I never got from him and i’m afraid because I have a bad feeling that he’ll probably go to his death bed not knowing he had two kids that needed his love. Parents need to realize that yes we appreciate the clothes you put on our backs the food in our belly’s the roof over our heads but we need a parent not just a provider.
This was me ...its so hard breaking family curses and cycles but i promise I'm trying im doing so much for my babies and im proud of myself in many ways .. the way this song makes me ugly cry
Work kept my father away for most of my childhood. We have a good relationship now, and I’m grown with a little boy of my own. I vowed that my son will never be secondary to my career. Having mom and dad get along and equally there makes a huge difference in a kid’s life.
It’s the most important thing and do any of us really have it? This song is as gut-wrenching as “Family Portrait” by Pink. I have cried so hard over that song every time I’ve heard it since 2001. Probably 50 plus big crys. ( I’m crying now just talking to this in.) Family Portrait was my childhood. From the outside it looked perfect. From the inside it was a war zone. Do we ever get over the wounds of our childhood? Can we break the damaged patterns? I have found the answer is yes, but the pain remains down in there and a song like this brings it right back to the top. I found this song today by going down a rabbit hole after Taylor Swift said she wrote Betty from a male’s perspective because of the lyrics to the song, Top of the World” written by Patty Griffin. OK, time to go put on my shoes and walk for a few miles listening to the daily affirmations:) I hope you all have the greatest day in life ever and make it what you want it to be- because you can.
When I first saw this video I was instantly hooked. It confused me - but also interested me because I'm a Brit and so much of the stuff shown in it was familiar from the 50s UK, but that wasn't all. I asked my family if they knew what it was about, but they didn't know or care. Years later I looked it up on Wikipedia and the penny dropped. It was about me and how I've wasted my life. The Chicks are the best, and this video is just one of the ones that hit me hardest - the other one is Not Ready To Make Nice, which also rang loud bells. Bless the Chicks.
i don't think they are depicting abuse so much as neglect which can be so much more painful coming from a parent. It mirrors my childhood so much and makes me wonder if I didn't do enough with my children. It makes me question if I tore the wings off my little girl at times
I know my parents tore my wings off. My dad by leaving and my mom by being so angry and always looking for a man and having to be responsible alone for three and then later 5 children. Its so sad. Parents should watch and listen and understand how what they are doing can make or break their children's lives.
I wished I was smarter I wished I was stronger I wished I loved Jesus The way my wife does I wish it had been easier Instead of any longer I wished I could have stood where you would have been proud But that won't happen now That won't happen now There's a whole lot of singing that's never gonna be heard Disappearing everyday without so much as a word somehow Think I broke the wings off that little song bird She's never gonna fly to the top of the world right now Top of the world I don't have to answer any of these questions Don't have no God to teach me no lessons I come home in the eveing Sit in my chair One night they called me for supper But I never got up I stayed right there in my chair There's a whole lot of singing that's never gonna be heard Disappearing everyday without so much as a word somehow Think I broke the wings off that little song bird She's never gonna fly to the top of the world right now Top of the world I wished I'd a known you Wished I'd a shown you All of the things I was on the inside I'd pretend to be sleeping When you come in in the morning To whisper good-bye Go to work in the rain I don't know why Don't know why 'Cause everone's singing We just wanna be heard Disappearing everyday without so much as a word somehow Wanna grab a hold of that little song bird Take her for a ride to the top of the world right now To the top of the world To the top of the world To the top of the world To the top of the world To the top of the world To the top of the world To the top of the world To the top of the world
This song still makes me cry all these years later. Growing up in a neglectful and abusive household, I knew I wasn't going to have children of my own to continue the cycle when I was very young.
I remember when this video was banned due to the depression factor, at one point you could only catch it at night on MTV or the only easily found version was a cartoon version. To this very day I cry when I listen to this song and the video just makes the tears come quicker, breaking generational cycles of abuse and neglect is such a lonely battle. Eternally Grateful to Patty Griffin for writing this song & to the Dixie Chicks for this version.
This song randomly pops into my head every now and then, and always makes me very emotional. The dad in the video looks very similar to my late grandfather, and I know he didn't always treat me dad right so this song always hits hard
This is so relevant, even today. I understand how the world can shoot you done, silence your voice, break your spirit and wings, so you can’t fly. It’s not just families, but this speaks very deeply to the pain of men, and how that revenge plays out on all of us in very destructive ways. I wish we could all sing, not just the ones on the tallest branches who silence everyone else. My heart breaks for you and me. I still fight this fight, but it’s hard. 💔😔
Absolutely one of the greatest songs of all time. It takes you on a journey, wrings out your heart....and leaves you to think about what it just taught you. It's really no wonder that these Ladies rank as one of my Top 5 Favourite Bands of All Time. ;-) “I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat.”
I cry everytime I hear this song.. I love my mom, but she could never love me like I loved her... maybe her mom was the same way... I love my children, but I shut down easy and I know it's because I wasn't shown unconditional love. This song breaks me, but also reminds me it starts with me to break the cycle.
To everyone who thinks this is a new video- it isn't. I have no idea why it was taken down but this video is the title song from an album released in 2003. It had many millions of views before now. But I am glad to see a new audience watching it now as it is an amazing performance with an important message.
+Hunter Hart Ikr, country today is an absolute trainwreck and I used to love country very much. Ever since they left, it started going down the drain. and this florida georgia line garbage is just embarrassing. I've mostly moved away from country and went on to classic rock with the dixie chicks being an exception
3 years later and it's still awful, guys. They're out there doing duets with rap and hip-hop artists and it makes my ears bleed. I miss the country music I grew up with, in the eighties and nineties. I'm not a fan of pop country.
So sad that people don't realize that this beautiful song and video had been out for over a decade now! I've been head over heals in love with this song since 2002. The video is just now being released on vevo but it's been around forever! It's from their 2002 album "home" they even named their tour from this albums the "top of the world tour" and their is a live album of the tour. This is their best work along with "not ready to make nice"
this was going to be the follow up song from home to be released as a single after traveling soldier ,which was the number 1 single in country music at the time they became the most dangerous band in America .
If you haven't already, you must listen to the original Patty Griffin version. I love the Diixie Chicks and actually saw them twice last time they toured, but Patty's raspy soulful voice gives this song an amazing depth. I think even Natalie herself would agree and that's what inspired her to cover it.
I agree I love nearly every song they have but this one and not ready to make nice are my top 2. And God speed. Their lyrics have so much meaning you feel every word.
Written by Patty Griffin and she wrote about neglect not about abuse. About stifling a child’s self esteem. The Chicks do a nice cover here but if you really want to feel the emotion of the song look up Patty Griffin’s version which is the original and best.
I have no personal reason why, but this song hurts me more than any other thing in my life. It's really odd how hard this hits me. There is technically much sadder things in this world, but this makes me cry harder than anything.
I really agree with you, it has always been one of my absolute favorites of theirs but even if you go into it fine, the lyrics are so beautifully and sad and exquisite and sorrowful, mixed with Natalie's alluring vocals will indisputably touch simply every human. Absolutely splendid
I've always loved this song but since my father passed it has hit home harder. I'm the eldest and lucky enough to remember him at his best, he was a wonderful father for my first 9yrs of life. Took me hiking, swimming etc. He was a soldier. A certain tour changed him. He became alcoholic but still a gentleman, just sat in his chair, in the corner, drinking. He was sober for 15 years before he died. I stayed with him at night in the hospital and kissed him goodbye in the morning. 3 days before he died, he asked to speak with my siblings one by one. He never asked for me. I loved this song long before he died and I've just found it again. It's not a sad song for me anymore xxxxx
Unfortunately parallels many lives. I know it does mine. It's so hard when you are brought up in a house filled with hate. You try and learn, then do the best you can.
@@1955RodHot : not always. Sometimes they turn into codependent "people pleasers" like me who keep trying trying trying to please abusers who will never ever be pleased. No excuses for those s.o.b.'s
This song really hurts my heart as an indigenous person in Canada with intergenerational trauma, my grandma was tough on my dad and my dad was tough on us and now im a parent... so much trauma 💔
Drama Trauma Karma ... "hurt people hurt people" untile ONE breaks this cycle. be or become the ONE healing not only yourself, also your whole lineage ... its possible, it might not be easy, it might take some time and there will be tears - it takes effort, but is worth it ... so worth it
This always makes me cry. My mama is 76 years old and still can’t figure out why her own mama didn’t love her. IMy grandmother died about 12 years ago, and the last thing she told my mom, was that it was my mother’s fault that my grandmother had broken her hip. I’m not exactly sure how, since my mama was at her home asleep when it happened. I won’t say my mama is perfect, but I have always known she loves me 0:15
This song reminds me of my dad because he's been emotionally abusive to my mom and I all my life. He likes to manipulate us and make us sound like we're the problem and he's a saint. When he grew up his mom was a single mom who treated him and his sisters badly, and he even admitted he doesn't know how to treat us because all he knew was the negativity his whole life. And I now have a 22 month old song so I want to break the cycle with him and make sure he grows up to be a happy and positive boy, who won't grew up the way my dad and I grew up as kids.
He sounds like a narcissist and they don’t want help. My father was a malignant narcissist and damaged me for life. Hopefully you can prevent yourself from being like him.
My dad, a violent chronic whiskey drinker, whose only quiet time was spent in that same green chair in the dark of the living room in a stupor. This was my whole young life. While I have had varying degrees of success with my own demons as a man I have grown to lean more and more on my personal Jesus and the light that shines so brightly in the souls of my grand babies . I remain deeply scared by my youth and I pray many times every day to do better. Bless your heart...........Sam..
My mom was abused as a kid. She had me 59 years ago and is the best mom I could have ever dreamed of having. She wanted us to have everything in life (love/happiness/family)... when she became a mom that was her life’s focus. I pray you can do that too.
This song has so many emotions and memories for me..All i ever wanted was to be taken to the top of the world .Its all i have been ...am ...and will be
Not sure I understand all of what the song is about. But watching the video, I couldn't stop crying. Such a powerful message. Even If I don't fully understand it yet.
Patty Griffin wrote this incredible song, to my ear her performance is still the best. The Dixie Chicks do a great job too but huge kudos for the director of this video or whomever had this vision. That vision really adds new meaning to the song.
Definitely agree. The best thing about the Chicks covering Patty's beautiful songs was... well more people knew about them I guess, even though they have no idea who actually wrote them and who sings them the best.
This song always makes me cry. I think about my dad and his alcoholism. I know his mom was depressed, negative and sometimes would neglect her children. I think that’s why he has an alcohol problem and thats why I’ve never really known my dad. I’m afraid he’ll pass suddenly and I’ll have the regret of never really knowing him.
Pretty powerful video and song. I feel like I am the daughter who ended up being there until the end. It is hard to love someone who also hurt you so very bad at times. But I do and always will.
these ladies are totally amazing such beautiful powerful soles who's lyrics touch our hearts. in coming history we will have so much to thank the Dixie Chicks for love from the UK 💕
My mom died of cancer a few years back and she had a beautiful voice. But, she loved the song and encouraged me to learn to sing it. She said it reminded her of my grandpa. He criticized my grandmother for taking all the children to church. Eventually her weak faith buckled under the pressure and the chorus resonated with Mom. My mom and dad divorced and she was not around for most of my life and I know she regretted it. I was honored to minister to her during her last days on this side of heaven and certainly make my mistakes. But, there is no doubt in my mind that the Jesus is the answer to all of life’s problems. You are never alone with Jesus. Life is not a fairytale, there will be rough roads. But, the Bible tells us that Gods righteousness is made perfect in these trials that we face. In Him,we are made strong in our suffering. He is sufficient.
Because emotional neglect, not being heard & seen, is trauma we can both inherit & pass down...it's our responsibility to heal ourselves & break the cycle! ❤💕
People don't talk about negligence/emotional abuse towards children enough--I love them for this. Having the courage and bravery to break the cycle is hard, but so worth it.
Thanks for uploading this Dixie Chicks :) i remember looking it up around November last year and couldn't find the video, for some reason this song makes me think of my Grandad who passed away last year in October and i have been crying all this week, i miss him soo much he use to call me "the bird" loved him very much, i wish i would of spent more time with him because god knows i had more than enough time, my mum looked after him for 13 years, he pulled through so many times he was a very strong willed man i guess i always thought there was time... R.I.P Grandad (Reginald Henry Milner) 11/04/1932 to 14/10/2015
I don’t have any abuse or neglect in my background but this video and song still affect me and touch something inside that I can’t even identify, but since I first heard it back in 2005, I have never been able to get through it without ugly crying
This song hits hard, and the video does an excellent job of showing generational trauma. My father was a hardass and could be very mean when I was growing up. He’s mellowed in his old age, but after seeing how his father, my grandfather, was I understand he was made that way. I try my best to be patient with my kids and hug them often, hopefully it can break a cycle.
This is one one of those songs that gets harder as you get older and you understand it more deeply.
This song hits me so hard, every single time. Bless all of us trying to pick up the pieces and break the family cycles 💜
Same here. I bawled my eyes out the first time I watched it
What does this song mean anyway ??
I cry every time I hear this one.
@@Ilikefrogs.. same. Moves me so deeply thing I’m going to get a song bird with a broken wing tattooed on me some day
@@stephanierobinette4425 My take is it's about parents neglecting their kids
Every time I need to cry it out, I put this song on. I mean “ugly cry”, too. This is one of the most beautiful and gut wrenching songs ever written! I always have and always will be a fan of The Chicks. Dixie or not! ❤
I know exactly what you mean. This song gets me pretty much every time. Such a heartbreaking portrayal of something so many people experience in real life - and the strength and love to break the cycle.
So I'm not the only one with a crying music list to help with that feeling.....
I wish I knew you you seem pretty cool
My heart. I've loved this song since childhood..Every time the violin enters at 4:08 it just sends me.
I’m 24 and my dad died of cancer last year. Everyone that knows me well, knows that I’d always had a strained relationship with my father. He was away most of the time for work, and when he was home he’d retreat into his room with a six-pack and I wouldn’t see him much. It wasn’t always like that, and there were years/months/days that were better or worse, but that emotionally-reserved distance really stuck with me. I didn’t start to understand him until I moved away for college, and it seemed like in the next moment, I blinked and he was dead. Even in the two years that we knew it was terminal, we still couldn’t seem to talk about anything. He continued to be reserved and I’ve never learned how to be the one to reach out, so even knowing that our time was short, we couldn’t resolve any of our issues. Now, I find myself struggling to connect and make time for the people in my life. I see myself falling into patterns that I saw in my dad, and in his dad. I know it’s harmful to shut everyone out and reach for a bottle every night, but knowing and doing are so difficult for me to consolidate. I can only hope there’s a better way forward. Considering the lyrics and video of this song, even thinking about it can make me break down into tears.
No other song out there like this. They are phenomenal.God bless these girls. Love em🙏🕊️🌹❤️🇨🇦
It's crazy insane how much I can relate to this song in terms to my father as I was his caregiver until the day he passed and the song is bittersweet for me. Dixie chicks or now they are called the chicks need to come back, take their place in music world again 🌹🕊️🙏
Listen to music by Patty Griffin...she wrote it and hundreds more like it.
To clarify, this song was written BY Patty Griffin
A shout-out to Emily of the Chicks, who did a stellar job as the cold mother, whose treatment produced the enclosed, seemingly unfeeling son/husband/father. Must admit I watched half the video wondering what role in which Emily had been cast. Then realized the make-up and hair, a la 1950s, gave her the proper look for the part. All three did a magnificent job. Video acting is a specialized form. Largely nonverbal if you're not the lead which can be tricky. Video poetry when done right. Impressive work for a formidable song. Kudos.
Very well said 👏
Kelly I completely agree and your words were so prolific 💙 I just listened and watched the Video for the umpteenth time, lol, this time i shed a few tears as it really got to me...and hit close to home. I LOVE Emily, Marty and Natalie and have seen them LIVE in Concert FOUR TIMES! Once in Oregon at the Rose Garden, same year I saw them in England on March 10, 2003 at Shepard's.... oh I forgot the name of the venue but it's in London, that was their opening tour when Natalie innocently upset the judgementals of the World, she meant no harm, just speaking her truth, I had such an amazing time watching them perform as it was my first time seeing them LIVE 💙 Other 2 shows were in Washington State in Seattle and also in Auburn at the White River Amphitheater...All shows were FANTASTIC! I HOPE TO SEE THEM AGAIN ONE DAY! 🎵 🎶 🎹 🎸. sorry so long, I just have alot to say, 😂 Shepard's Bush?!?!
Yeah girl, I agree. I’m a mother to a son, but I’m the daughter of a male rockstar. It’s a weird entrapment in a sense, but my son of just everything Beauty. Children are our greatest resource.
My son is * forgive my autocorrect
Emotional avoidance
If the term "generational trauma" doesn't make sense to you, just watch again. This is it. Haven't seen his video in years and now I get it.
Same. I understand what the song is saying is now, since I’ve been abused by my mom
I always thought this song was about depression. It wasn't until looking up the video just now I realized it was generational trauma.
I lived it.
God bless ya'll that had a kind, loving Father and a mother that wasn't awol for her boyfriends....we came last.God bless them both ..I couldn't give anymore of my love to fake parents. Praying they are truly happy! Ten years of The US Army,Combat, purple heart, Bronze Star wasn't enough for her. However, I am enough for me now!! Happiness comes thru Yeshua!!
this song has made me so emotional since I was little & I never understood why. The last chorus I usually can’t make it through without crying. love them
I've always been a big fan of the Chicks. This song is especially incredible.
This is the only song that causes to me to break down and bawl my eyes out uncontrollably any time I listen to it.
Chris Stapleton Fire Away
Me too
"I pretend to be sleeping when you come in in the morning to whisper goodbye, go to work in the rain, I don't know why, don't know why" is one of my favorite lines of music ever.
The part that gets me is the "don't know why", he doesn't understand why he's doing it like he's a passenger to his own neglect, at any time he could reach out... but he doesn't, and he knows he's doing it, but know why.
This song just cuts me to the core almost every single time (typed as I sit here bawling from this heartwrenching song, that I just can't describe.) And yet in some ways one of my favourite songs and videos. So captivating and moving.
The MESSAGE that this music video gives is such a wake up call!
Absolutely gut wrenching, harsh, cold, neglectful, selfish, implosive, common, just life for some. Many, many other words I could list that I physically felt while watching this. What lyrics..what a song..what depth!! It’s very obvious that they each have some sibilance of this in their lives. POWERFUL
It's a Patty Griffin song, this is a cover.
I know some people have been through far worse with their parents but this song makes me think of my father even as a grown woman it hurts I crave the love and acceptance I never got from him and i’m afraid because I have a bad feeling that he’ll probably go to his death bed not knowing he had two kids that needed his love. Parents need to realize that yes we appreciate the clothes you put on our backs the food in our belly’s the roof over our heads but we need a parent not just a provider.
BEAUTIFULLY SAID
This! Thank you for saying this!
This is the most emotional song I've ever heard.
This was me ...its so hard breaking family curses and cycles but i promise I'm trying im doing so much for my babies and im proud of myself in many ways .. the way this song makes me ugly cry
Happy Father's Day to everyone who dreamed of having a loving father.
Work kept my father away for most of my childhood. We have a good relationship now, and I’m grown with a little boy of my own. I vowed that my son will never be secondary to my career. Having mom and dad get along and equally there makes a huge difference in a kid’s life.
Amen, Darlin.
It’s the most important thing and do any of us really have it?
This song is as gut-wrenching as “Family Portrait” by Pink. I have cried so hard over that song every time I’ve heard it since 2001. Probably 50 plus big crys. ( I’m crying now just talking to this in.) Family Portrait was my childhood. From the outside it looked perfect. From the inside it was a war zone. Do we ever get over the wounds of our childhood? Can we break the damaged patterns? I have found the answer is yes, but the pain remains down in there and a song like this brings it right back to the top. I found this song today by going down a rabbit hole after Taylor Swift said she wrote Betty from a male’s perspective because of the lyrics to the song, Top of the World” written by Patty Griffin. OK, time to go put on my shoes and walk for a few miles listening to the daily affirmations:) I hope you all have the greatest day in life ever and make it what you want it to be- because you can.
@@CarolCarolDoddDodd
Thank you
When I first saw this video I was instantly hooked. It confused me - but also interested me because I'm a Brit and so much of the stuff shown in it was familiar from the 50s UK, but that wasn't all. I asked my family if they knew what it was about, but they didn't know or care. Years later I looked it up on Wikipedia and the penny dropped. It was about me and how I've wasted my life. The Chicks are the best, and this video is just one of the ones that hit me hardest - the other one is Not Ready To Make Nice, which also rang loud bells. Bless the Chicks.
This song and especially the video are so beautiful
One of the most beautiful and heartbreaking songs ever. The violin outro with Natalie’s voice makes me cry every time.
i don't think they are depicting abuse so much as neglect which can be so much more painful coming from a parent. It mirrors my childhood so much and makes me wonder if I didn't do enough with my children. It makes me question if I tore the wings off my little girl at times
Oh, girl. I'm so sorry. Me, too.
cassandranorman 😢😢😢😢
cassandranorman me too.🙁😞
I know my parents tore my wings off. My dad by leaving and my mom by being so angry and always looking for a man and having to be responsible alone for three and then later 5 children. Its so sad. Parents should watch and listen and understand how what they are doing can make or break their children's lives.
Not more painful but just as painful
This song makes me tear up (if not full on cry) every time I listen to it or watch this video. It is tragically beautiful.
I wished I was smarter
I wished I was stronger
I wished I loved Jesus
The way my wife does
I wish it had been easier
Instead of any longer
I wished I could have stood where you would have been proud
But that won't happen now
That won't happen now
There's a whole lot of singing that's never gonna be heard
Disappearing everyday without so much as a word somehow
Think I broke the wings off that little song bird
She's never gonna fly to the top of the world right now
Top of the world
I don't have to answer any of these questions
Don't have no God to teach me no lessons
I come home in the eveing
Sit in my chair
One night they called me for supper
But I never got up
I stayed right there in my chair
There's a whole lot of singing that's never gonna be heard
Disappearing everyday without so much as a word somehow
Think I broke the wings off that little song bird
She's never gonna fly to the top of the world right now
Top of the world
I wished I'd a known you
Wished I'd a shown you
All of the things I was on the inside
I'd pretend to be sleeping
When you come in in the morning
To whisper good-bye
Go to work in the rain
I don't know why
Don't know why
'Cause everone's singing
We just wanna be heard
Disappearing everyday without so much as a word somehow
Wanna grab a hold of that little song bird
Take her for a ride to the top of the world right now
To the top of the world
To the top of the world
To the top of the world
To the top of the world
To the top of the world
To the top of the world
To the top of the world
To the top of the world
Thank you.
Thank you
Happy to found this song again, so wonderful ❤❤❤❤
This song still makes me cry all these years later. Growing up in a neglectful and abusive household, I knew I wasn't going to have children of my own to continue the cycle when I was very young.
I understand where you come from I feel the same never wanted children knowing that I am not emotionally equipped for that hard task
I remember when this video was banned due to the depression factor, at one point you could only catch it at night on MTV or the only easily found version was a cartoon version. To this very day I cry when I listen to this song and the video just makes the tears come quicker, breaking generational cycles of abuse and neglect is such a lonely battle.
Eternally Grateful to Patty Griffin for writing this song & to the Dixie Chicks for this version.
my goodness... the video is so moving, I've never realized it this way. I LOVE DIXIE CHICKS.
I'm crying, god this song made me emotional
Astroboy101 Me toooooo. When I saw them live in Phoenix in 2003 (I think 2003) I bawled the whole song.
Goodness, the part where she's in the chair and goes back and forth with the Grandpa and then the back and forth scenes. 😭😢
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This song randomly pops into my head every now and then, and always makes me very emotional.
The dad in the video looks very similar to my late grandfather, and I know he didn't always treat me dad right so this song always hits hard
Crazy that their longest song is the one I most want more of
The more I listened this song . this is my life
I’m so happy she ended the cycle with her own daughter ❤️
Another beautiful and haunting music video by Sophie Muller.
Probably one of the most underappreciated directors of our time.
One of the most artistic and relevant videos I’ve seen. Thank you for sharing
This is so relevant, even today. I understand how the world can shoot you done, silence your voice, break your spirit and wings, so you can’t fly. It’s not just families, but this speaks very deeply to the pain of men, and how that revenge plays out on all of us in very destructive ways. I wish we could all sing, not just the ones on the tallest branches who silence everyone else. My heart breaks for you and me. I still fight this fight, but it’s hard. 💔😔
This songs been one of my favorite of theirs for a while now. Just saw the video today...hell.
Breaking the cycle is hard and it needs to be an active conscious choice, but it can be done.
❤
the hard part is you have to make the choice over and over again....every day....
@@josephmitchell5365 Yes yes yes. Thank you for seeing us, thank you for seeing how hard we work 😭
Absolutely one of the greatest songs of all time.
It takes you on a journey, wrings out your heart....and leaves you to think about what it just taught you.
It's really no wonder that these Ladies rank as one of my Top 5 Favourite Bands of All Time. ;-)
“I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat.”
I have three daughters & have tried to drill it in their heads the same thing. I can only hope when i'm gone they'll finally get it.
Did Natalie say that? That’s what I think too.
@@christar9527 it was Rebecca West 1913. She was a writer.
Patty Griffin took this song to another level, but this is obviously great.
@@banksta3 Patty's original is absolutely beautiful and brilliant, but The Dixie Chicks version is transcendent.
This video is what broke the cycle! Thank you Chicks!
I cry everytime I hear this song..
I love my mom, but she could never love me like I loved her... maybe her mom was the same way... I love my children, but I shut down easy and I know it's because I wasn't shown unconditional love. This song breaks me, but also reminds me it starts with me to break the cycle.
To everyone who thinks this is a new video- it isn't. I have no idea why it was taken down but this video is the title song from an album released in 2003. It had many millions of views before now. But I am glad to see a new audience watching it now as it is an amazing performance with an important message.
You have no idea why it was removed? I think it has all to do with their political standpoint they took. I'm glad it's back too altough ;)
1955RodHot a great album/ CD. They are great
1955RodHot yep your right
Stephanie Blonshine And a great DVD "An evening with the Dixie Chicks"
A lot of their other videos weren't removed during the BS. Goodbye Earl has over 12 million views, as one example.
I've loved Jesus for over 18 years now.
My Lord and Saviour
❤️✝️🙏
The Dixie Chick's are some of the last best country singers there are out there. Wish they would make a new album.
+Hunter Hart Ikr, country today is an absolute trainwreck and I used to love country very much. Ever since they left, it started going down the drain. and this florida georgia line garbage is just embarrassing. I've mostly moved away from country and went on to classic rock with the dixie chicks being an exception
3 years later and it's still awful, guys. They're out there doing duets with rap and hip-hop artists and it makes my ears bleed. I miss the country music I grew up with, in the eighties and nineties. I'm not a fan of pop country.
@@Zeleiah They were shunned away from country music because they were right about the war being stupid. No weapons of mass destruction after all.
If they would have kept politics out of it and not went round with Toby Keith they might be relevant.
@@mikegrassman4773 What are you talking about?
So sad that people don't realize that this beautiful song and video had been out for over a decade now! I've been head over heals in love with this song since 2002. The video is just now being released on vevo but it's been around forever! It's from their 2002 album "home" they even named their tour from this albums the "top of the world tour" and their is a live album of the tour. This is their best work along with
"not ready to make nice"
this was going to be the follow up song from home to be released as a single after traveling soldier ,which was the number 1 single in country music at the time they became the most dangerous band in America .
yeah this song is a gem so emotional and sad
If you haven't already, you must listen to the original Patty Griffin version. I love the Diixie Chicks and actually saw them twice last time they toured, but Patty's raspy soulful voice gives this song an amazing depth. I think even Natalie herself would agree and that's what inspired her to cover it.
@@illbeyourstumbleine had no idea this was a cover! thx ill def check it out
I agree I love nearly every song they have but this one and not ready to make nice are my top 2. And God speed. Their lyrics have so much meaning you feel every word.
Written by Patty Griffin and she wrote about neglect not about abuse. About stifling a child’s self esteem. The Chicks do a nice cover here but if you really want to feel the emotion of the song look up Patty Griffin’s version which is the original and best.
This is the most underrated music video in the world.... It´s a masterpiece!
This right here is my life story . every words
I don't think I've ever seen this video the song has a different meaning now
At least she broke the cycle at the end
Wow, powerful - just saw this from responses to a Carolyn Hax column. The neglect over generations is hurtful.
I have no personal reason why, but this song hurts me more than any other thing in my life. It's really odd how hard this hits me. There is technically much sadder things in this world, but this makes me cry harder than anything.
I really agree with you, it has always been one of my absolute favorites of theirs but even if you go into it fine, the lyrics are so beautifully and sad and exquisite and sorrowful, mixed with Natalie's alluring vocals will indisputably touch simply every human. Absolutely splendid
I'm sure that there are worse things but this song is very sad, if you understand it or have been thru it!
I've always loved this song but since my father passed it has hit home harder. I'm the eldest and lucky enough to remember him at his best, he was a wonderful father for my first 9yrs of life. Took me hiking, swimming etc. He was a soldier. A certain tour changed him. He became alcoholic but still a gentleman, just sat in his chair, in the corner, drinking. He was sober for 15 years before he died. I stayed with him at night in the hospital and kissed him goodbye in the morning. 3 days before he died, he asked to speak with my siblings one by one. He never asked for me. I loved this song long before he died and I've just found it again. It's not a sad song for me anymore xxxxx
Unfortunately parallels many lives. I know it does mine. It's so hard when you are brought up in a house filled with hate. You try and learn, then do the best you can.
So Deep! Makes us wonder how the mother was treated to become so callus. And her mother, and her mother's mother...... and all the fathers ......
Thank you Dixie Chicks for your service to humanity as a whole and being a light on the dark🙏🏻
This is like watching a really sad short movie. Loveless mother made his kid into an empty adult who couldn't show his daughter love.
Unfortunately, that's how it works in real life. The abused and neglected become abusers and neglectors.
Brenda G.P. sad I wonder if I dudvthis to my son
Narcissistic bastards
@@1955RodHot : not always. Sometimes they turn into codependent "people pleasers" like me who keep trying trying trying to please abusers who will never ever be pleased. No excuses for those s.o.b.'s
But the end is the best part - when the cycle is broken after generations. It's breathtaking and beautiful.
This song really hurts my heart as an indigenous person in Canada with intergenerational trauma, my grandma was tough on my dad and my dad was tough on us and now im a parent... so much trauma 💔
This couldn't have been released at a more fitting time for myself. Thank you truly.
Drama Trauma Karma ... "hurt people hurt people" untile ONE breaks this cycle.
be or become the ONE healing not only yourself, also your whole lineage ... its possible, it might not be easy, it might take some time and there will be tears - it takes effort, but is worth it ... so worth it
This always makes me cry. My mama is 76 years old and still can’t figure out why her own mama didn’t love her. IMy grandmother died about 12 years ago, and the last thing she told my mom, was that it was my mother’s fault that my grandmother had broken her hip. I’m not exactly sure how, since my mama was at her home asleep when it happened. I won’t say my mama is perfect, but I have always known she loves me 0:15
This is intense. Frightening
Since the first time I heard this song, I feel it in every inch of my soul. Break the generational hurt.
This song reminds me of my dad because he's been emotionally abusive to my mom and I all my life. He likes to manipulate us and make us sound like we're the problem and he's a saint. When he grew up his mom was a single mom who treated him and his sisters badly, and he even admitted he doesn't know how to treat us because all he knew was the negativity his whole life. And I now have a 22 month old song so I want to break the cycle with him and make sure he grows up to be a happy and positive boy, who won't grew up the way my dad and I grew up as kids.
Son** not song
He sounds like a narcissist and they don’t want help. My father was a malignant narcissist and damaged me for life. Hopefully you can prevent yourself from being like him.
...my mom and me*
My dad, a violent chronic whiskey drinker, whose only quiet time was spent in that same green chair in the dark of the living room in a stupor. This was my whole young life. While I have had varying degrees of success with my own demons as a man I have grown to lean more and more on my personal Jesus and the light that shines so brightly in the souls of my grand babies . I remain deeply scared by my youth and I pray many times every day to do better. Bless your heart...........Sam..
My mom was abused as a kid. She had me 59 years ago and is the best mom I could have ever dreamed of having. She wanted us to have everything in life (love/happiness/family)... when she became a mom that was her life’s focus. I pray you can do that too.
I already told them best place to put the core back what is needed everything. Even the part if what looking for king Solomon gold would cause.
This song has so many emotions and memories for me..All i ever wanted was to be taken to the top of the world .Its all i have been ...am ...and will be
Not sure I understand all of what the song is about. But watching the video, I couldn't stop crying. Such a powerful message. Even If I don't fully understand it yet.
Patty Griffin wrote this incredible song, to my ear her performance is still the best. The Dixie Chicks do a great job too but huge kudos for the director of this video or whomever had this vision. That vision really adds new meaning to the song.
In my opinion the Dixie Chicks sung it better because of the emotion in Natalies voice, but they both sang it amazing. And it’s such a great song
Definitely agree. The best thing about the Chicks covering Patty's beautiful songs was... well more people knew about them I guess, even though they have no idea who actually wrote them and who sings them the best.
❤️ So power-FULL!!!! Tears are coming... the amount of emotions and lessons they can take you on with their lyrics is absolutely MIND BLOWING!!
real artist has an opinion .. that what made you so real...and don't worry everybody knows that you were right .. love you dixie chicks
Its really brave making anonymous comments isn't it D123.
Y'all Make GREAT Music!! And You are Appreciated by Many, Many People who Do Love & Back You!! ;)
I wish I had these words of simple wisdom when I needed them, thank you Chicks anyway, better late than never :)
This song destroys me every time. And I had a perfectly happy childhood. 🤷🏼♀️
They're beauty starts at their souls and works it's way out to the universe.
Go to you video
All living and dead. Listen and do what Jesus Christ says. They are who they say they are.
My god. I love this song so much.
Так необычно видеть русского человека в комментариях к группе, которая в нашей стране вообще неизвестна.
It really is generational. Each of us giving what we got from our parents until we decide to have something different.
This song always makes me cry. I think about my dad and his alcoholism. I know his mom was depressed, negative and sometimes would neglect her children. I think that’s why he has an alcohol problem and thats why I’ve never really known my dad. I’m afraid he’ll pass suddenly and I’ll have the regret of never really knowing him.
😢 I truly feel your pain and I am 52 years old. God bless you 🙏
Feel this. So sorry for your pain, hope you can break the cycle
One of very few songs that has ever brought actual tears to my eyes.
Pretty powerful video and song. I feel like I am the daughter who ended up being there until the end. It is hard to love someone who also hurt you so very bad at times. But I do and always will.
Lynette Hazzard I just hope you don’t get hurt doing it.
The girl's did Patty justice, and that's hard to do! I was happy they included this on their tour a few years back. One of my favorites ❤
This song should get a billion views. And the clip is simply ingenious
isn't life just like that...when our loved ones die we wished we would of known more..RIP..MOM!! I LOVE YOU!!!
Wow.. moving. ❤
Their greatest song & music video, they still gives me goosebumps.
"Disappearing every day without so much as a word", just hits home way too much.
Amen!
This song is always guaranteed to make me cry. And such a beautiful video.
these ladies are totally amazing such beautiful powerful soles who's lyrics touch our hearts. in coming history we will have so much to thank the Dixie Chicks for love from the UK 💕
This song breaks my heart and makes me cry every time I hear it. So many parents could benefit to hear it and understand. Adult children too.
My mom died of cancer a few years back and she had a beautiful voice. But, she loved the song and encouraged me to learn to sing it. She said it reminded her of my grandpa. He criticized my grandmother for taking all the children to church. Eventually her weak faith buckled under the pressure and the chorus resonated with Mom. My mom and dad divorced and she was not around for most of my life and I know she regretted it. I was honored to minister to her during her last days on this side of heaven and certainly make my mistakes. But, there is no doubt in my mind that the Jesus is the answer to all of life’s problems. You are never alone with Jesus. Life is not a fairytale, there will be rough roads. But, the Bible tells us that Gods righteousness is made perfect in these trials that we face. In Him,we are made strong in our suffering. He is sufficient.
I´m crying now ,so deeply and emotional song!
I literally can't believe this song exists! 💕
This song means absolutely everything to me.
Because emotional neglect, not being heard & seen, is trauma we can both inherit & pass down...it's our responsibility to heal ourselves & break the cycle! ❤💕
People don't talk about negligence/emotional abuse towards children enough--I love them for this. Having the courage and bravery to break the cycle is hard, but so worth it.
Thanks for uploading this Dixie Chicks :) i remember looking it up around November last year and couldn't find the video, for some reason this song makes me think of my Grandad who passed away last year in October and i have been crying all this week, i miss him soo much he use to call me "the bird" loved him very much, i wish i would of spent more time with him because god knows i had more than enough time, my mum looked after him for 13 years, he pulled through so many times he was a very strong willed man i guess i always thought there was time... R.I.P Grandad (Reginald Henry Milner) 11/04/1932 to 14/10/2015
Wonderful song about intergenerational trauma and how abuse passes from one generation to another unless someone stops it. Stunning video and imagery.
Patti Griffin wrote the song, but the Chicks transformed it into a dirge of such sadness. Incomparably beautiful.
Makes me break down every time.
It’s Patty Griffin’s song! And her singing of it is just as if not more beautiful and impactful!
I always cry whenever I watch this music video
I don’t have any abuse or neglect in my background but this video and song still affect me and touch something inside that I can’t even identify, but since I first heard it back in 2005, I have never been able to get through it without ugly crying
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every time I hear travelling soldier I love it more, you are the greatest Dixie Chicks, and please lets have peace in the world.
Oh, man, these ladies know how to make some heart-wrenching songs...and the videos! Uggghhh!!! I'm in tears.