The Role of a Mother and Father In a Home | Do you agree?

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  • Опубликовано: 11 май 2021
  • Growing up, what we’re the different roles your parents had and how has that impacted your role today?
    Today we talk about all that and more...
    Join us in this conversation in the comments below.
    Do share with us the different ways you’re teaching your children to fit into their future roles in the comments section.
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Комментарии • 130

  • @MeetAtlanta
    @MeetAtlanta 3 года назад +28

    Appreciated Pumla's honesty and lessons from her mistakes that takes maturity

  • @kembabazibianca3671
    @kembabazibianca3671 3 года назад +24

    Pumla's honesty is everything. I love how unique and real she is 😍

  • @biyinzikahellen23
    @biyinzikahellen23 3 года назад +8

    Am the Angie kind of a person, I hide nothing from my hubby and am glad he's supportive too. Though I never grew up with any of my parents

  • @norahrujumba1541
    @norahrujumba1541 3 года назад +13

    Pumla,I feel you gal,that's pure me. I love your sincerity. Love you ladies.

  • @eyatusabrina312
    @eyatusabrina312 3 года назад +4

    So helpful. I now understand my husband's character. My expectations have been tested 100%

  • @timk2447
    @timk2447 3 года назад +3

    I think whatever arrangement is let gratitude be part of the equation on both ends.

  • @shirleyenejessicah6752
    @shirleyenejessicah6752 3 года назад +8

    The part of u leaving the car on road instead of going to petrol station n u go home was hilarious for me...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @shamimkagere
    @shamimkagere Год назад +3

    Me too, my first paycheck was 500k

  • @jdm3762
    @jdm3762 3 года назад +4

    Angie summed it up really well, its about empathy. Naturally we may feel drown to one role more than another but in the end have to see what works best for our family and adapt to that. Each family is unique and so are the role divisions.

  • @atuhamiizemark9413
    @atuhamiizemark9413 Год назад +1

    While roles can/need be shared, there is need for leadership/responsibility over each of the areas/roles.

  • @annenagitta3269
    @annenagitta3269 Год назад +1

    Pumla is one person that any woman would love to have around ❤

  • @ernestinemugabekazi4406
    @ernestinemugabekazi4406 3 года назад +1

    Thank you ladies for your great job Ian sure you are impacting future mothers and fathers

  • @evelynkabahuma7035
    @evelynkabahuma7035 3 года назад +3

    Pumla, really really appreciated your honesty! Also appreciated your statement, about the fact that giving birth falls squarely on a woman and it is a life and death situation (mostly in this our beloved Uganda!!). Thank you Pumla, such a great perspective from you!

  • @graciegr2104
    @graciegr2104 2 года назад +1

    I love bump love. I really do. Am learning a lot. God bless you ladies.

  • @Flourish_today
    @Flourish_today 3 года назад +4

    OMG this takes me back. My dad too was the ultimate provider of all times. Mum worked too but my dad provided and took us to all our sports activities and all our doctors, dentist, optical appointments. My dad was on our school PTA comitee. My mum managed the home, bought clothes, organized our birthday parties, braided our hair etc. My friends say that the reason why I'm still single is because I have high expectations from men based on my dad as a role model in my life. For me I cannot relate to irresponsible men.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 3 года назад +2

      Angie actually says this to me too that we women with strong and responsible fathers usually have issues in relationships because our standards are high. Well, I'd honestly rather be single than unhappy. While (with growth) my views have evolved, the foundation remains - "Be responsible". We can work on the rest. Good men are out there. I'm not choosing the rotten one just because. 😎. P

    • @akatwijukaronasark1998
      @akatwijukaronasark1998 7 месяцев назад

      You people me I don't even know what to say , I grew up in a home where I had mum and Dad present but I just don't know why dad never took up any role,...But am happy now my Boyfriend helps with everything am just afraid he might just be pretending for now doing all that to convince me to move in with him . Still scared he might change to the man .my Dad is which I don't really need in my life.

    • @yolz555
      @yolz555 4 месяца назад

      ​@@akatwijukaronasark1998
      Please get married first and do counselling to learn more about each other and ask the hard questions in the beginning

  • @richardkamaki154
    @richardkamaki154 Год назад +5

    You guys are doing a great job, I love the Ugandan language especially the banange part 🤗

  • @aunties5798
    @aunties5798 3 года назад +13

    Pumla and Angie, I wish you could start your own talk show. You definitely have certain exceptional communication skills that are great.🙏🏽

    • @ahumuzajoyce1675
      @ahumuzajoyce1675 3 года назад +1

      For real though 🙌

    • @vickynaggayi544
      @vickynaggayi544 Год назад

      Pumla is great

    • @namugoomabarbra5903
      @namugoomabarbra5903 Год назад

      But all the five ladies compliment each other. I strongly disagree with your thought. People want division banange

    • @user-qg3lx2wo7v
      @user-qg3lx2wo7v 8 месяцев назад

      People dont want to see people progressing in teams. imagine such an idea.@@namugoomabarbra5903

  • @minah19845
    @minah19845 Год назад +1

    I stand with Pumla on this. I will only respect a man if he can provide, security... even if I became a millionaire
    Don't get me wrong, I can contribute to the well being of the family as a helper.
    I have no problem doing all other things.

  • @maryapolot4754
    @maryapolot4754 3 года назад

    I could hear the honesty and sadness in Pumla's voice at 17-19mins. I love this woman

  • @celiakareithi8651
    @celiakareithi8651 3 года назад

    Such a lovely episode. Thanks for sharing.

  • @peace_alinga
    @peace_alinga 3 года назад +2

    Wow I have loved today... Its been more lengthy and more detailed... And of course some learning insights

  • @doreenk.arinawe
    @doreenk.arinawe 3 года назад +3

    You ladies are awesome. I love the long episode too👏👏👏

  • @ketransimbi9734
    @ketransimbi9734 3 года назад +6

    Me I grew up in a boarding school....raised by a single mother...
    My marriage is learning by doing..

    • @lanis57
      @lanis57 3 года назад +1

      Wow me too..my parents divoriced and now i am married..i am learning what a complete house hold should look like..cuz i dont know.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 3 года назад +1

      Kudos to you! And as long as you're willing to keep learning, you'll keep doing. Keep going! P

  • @miris004
    @miris004 3 года назад

    Woooooow this has been really beautiful..thanx ladies.

  • @elviskatende4135
    @elviskatende4135 3 года назад +6

    Nabachwa, so real love u.

  • @catherinekamuli7756
    @catherinekamuli7756 3 года назад +1

    Thank you ladies as always i love this 😘

  • @mulokwaparvin6809
    @mulokwaparvin6809 Год назад +1

    I am like Pumla exactly, either you are Provider or no deal!

  • @nattaalachristine5841
    @nattaalachristine5841 Год назад +1

    Learning alot thanx ba dia

  • @asabacaroline5602
    @asabacaroline5602 2 года назад +1

    This is just hilarious! I can so relate..its important to appreciate each others backgrounds. Most people get shocked as you explained and struggle. I think the expectations should be shared in the beginning or better still have a discussion.

  • @geofreynyindo7985
    @geofreynyindo7985 3 года назад

    I love your shows. Keep it up Bump love very educative

  • @ABrenda
    @ABrenda 2 года назад

    Thank you Ladies I have learnt a lot,God bless you so so much

  • @esthernassali9003
    @esthernassali9003 3 года назад

    I love the discussion.Its helpful.

  • @marizaofficial7585
    @marizaofficial7585 3 года назад

    Wow.. Pumla.. Your example is a great insight for many of us

  • @manuelasayana8279
    @manuelasayana8279 2 года назад

    Thank you so so so... much for this👌 beautiful and intelligent ladies 👏👏👏👏👏

  • @shadiahfaisal6315
    @shadiahfaisal6315 3 года назад

    I love you ladies. Thanks for such knowledgeable content.

  • @estherkayongo2707
    @estherkayongo2707 3 года назад

    Very interesting discussion and very helpful. My house is chaos itself but I will definitely pick a few tips and see how it goes.

  • @moreennanyonjo8431
    @moreennanyonjo8431 3 года назад

    Thanks ladies. Very helpful

  • @kasozicaroline1513
    @kasozicaroline1513 3 года назад +1

    Thank you ladies for this topic, i only wish it came earlier in my marriage but any way i learn't the hard way and now after 8yrs thingz are flowing.

  • @henriettanyemera9710
    @henriettanyemera9710 Год назад +1

    well said Pumla

  • @k.j.claire2760
    @k.j.claire2760 3 года назад

    This is the best episode I've watched 💕💕

  • @stephenmagero283
    @stephenmagero283 3 года назад +6

    I am with Angie on this. All the ladies acknowledged that they had some issues due to going into their marriages with presets. Best to go in with empathy and adapt to what you find in your spouse.

  • @christineKnm
    @christineKnm 3 года назад +1

    Am with u pumula, I cld feel goosebumps all over men wn u spoke about child birth
    It makes so much sense...I always love da way u think ...

  • @eglanceprincess3213
    @eglanceprincess3213 3 года назад +3

    I am team Pumla💛💚💚💚💚all the way.

  • @kyobepatric5757
    @kyobepatric5757 Год назад +3

    Woooooow.... I love u so much Ladies. Even if I fail I will still listen to Pumla's advise....😄😄😄 As long as I give birth...

  • @evelynletstalk9793
    @evelynletstalk9793 Год назад

    Empathy empathy empathy. Thanks you Angie💐💐💐🥂🫂🤍. I have seen a number of people women and men alike struggle through relationships because they don't know how

  • @nankundabriget959
    @nankundabriget959 Год назад

    Soo real,, iam enlightened ladies,,just watched this with my husband and ts very helpful

  • @tukundashifa7939
    @tukundashifa7939 3 года назад

    Beautiful conversation

  • @DIVA2410
    @DIVA2410 3 года назад +24

    Thanks Ladies. I disagree with Rosette on the issue of what impression we should give our kids wrt gender roles. the world has changed and by the time our children are adults things will not be black and white. we need to domesticate our sons because women seem to be able to do everything. and men go out and work but in the home you'd think they are disabled or sth. that needs to change. every adult should have the ability to take care of themselves and those around them including providing financially and doing house chores because you do not know what hand life will deal your child when they grow up.

    • @agathanankwanga3748
      @agathanankwanga3748 Год назад

      I love this

    • @msf8297
      @msf8297 Год назад

      That's right. As a woman who also brings a pay check to the table, I am not return home to do all chores as if I am a single mother. So many women are in marriages as if they are single.

  • @Puree2023
    @Puree2023 3 года назад

    Wow...nice conversation...keep it up...hopefully we shall have longer sessions

  • @nyombikhalfan1930
    @nyombikhalfan1930 3 года назад +1

    I love the black and white dress code ❤️

  • @nambiliz3679
    @nambiliz3679 3 года назад

    Thanks ladies

  • @1godsamazinggrace
    @1godsamazinggrace 3 года назад

    The passion with which Pumla speaks ...

  • @user-gu5pf7gq4o
    @user-gu5pf7gq4o Год назад

    another beautiful session. i come to learn on the channel. thank you for sharing💓

  • @kyokushabashine7193
    @kyokushabashine7193 Год назад

    Thank you ladies

  • @namonomercy1697
    @namonomercy1697 3 года назад

    Wow this was great pumla I feel you

  • @afrisentwithbeatie7791
    @afrisentwithbeatie7791 3 года назад +2

    Yes Pumla and men are natured we have to expect of men in our generation should provide and protect am so grateful for Mwami Kasozi 🙏🏽 Yes let’s raise Boys who know that it’s their role is to provide

    • @Otto8507
      @Otto8507 Год назад

      But feminism is saying otherwise. Equality even in marriage has denied women lots of happiness they enjoyed

  • @maureenkitimbo1596
    @maureenkitimbo1596 3 года назад

    I've loooved the entire discusion

  • @lornatwins9944
    @lornatwins9944 3 года назад

    Team Reachel, thank u for the lesson.

  • @kokundavictoria5272
    @kokundavictoria5272 Год назад +1

    Pumla, I love your underlying principle

  • @mariafaria7787
    @mariafaria7787 3 года назад +2

    These stories are so rich for every young lady in our generation. We r indeed confused but with you pipo coming up with this, woo, God bless because I need to check myself. And by God's command, a man should provide leaving things constant and a mother should take care of a home.

  • @katusiimebarbie2204
    @katusiimebarbie2204 Год назад +1

    Wooow this is so real

  • @nandawulawinnie4241
    @nandawulawinnie4241 3 года назад +2

    Very educative😍😍

  • @nagadyaveronic3769
    @nagadyaveronic3769 3 года назад

    This was great

  • @nakazibwemartha4863
    @nakazibwemartha4863 3 года назад +1

    Wooow I love you ladies

  • @nassunajacqueline8074
    @nassunajacqueline8074 3 года назад

    This episode is wow

  • @naluwagapriscilla4032
    @naluwagapriscilla4032 3 года назад +2

    Pumla, the realest of them all.

  • @shamimkagere
    @shamimkagere Год назад +1

    I relate more with Rachael and how she was raised

  • @aheisibwejudith
    @aheisibwejudith Год назад

    pumlas honesty z beyond

  • @gloriahanabo7489
    @gloriahanabo7489 Год назад

    Dear Mwine
    You have described my daddy 100%

  • @juliataboko1093
    @juliataboko1093 3 года назад

    Angie..I hear you😊

  • @jemimah4870
    @jemimah4870 3 года назад +10

    I've seen my mom provide everything from basics to tuition including that of her stepkids yet we live with my dad. Ladies this has given emotional torture ,I'm even afraid of dating coz of "we marry men like our dads "
    I'm surely hurting n broken

    • @brendashendri6688
      @brendashendri6688 3 года назад +1

      I'm providing everything for my children, I too got emotional I fear getting married again

    • @Jeremiah0809
      @Jeremiah0809 3 года назад +3

      Your story doesn't have to be the same.
      Pray to God to lead you when making a choice of your mate.
      Command your destiny as well.
      Really pray and ask for guidance from God, He changes stories.
      Cheer up my dear.

    • @g-doxa
      @g-doxa 3 года назад +1

      My dear it's not always true that "we marry our dads"
      Me growing up I knew I would never marry a man like my dad and indeed my husband is not anywhere like my dad

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 3 года назад +4

      Hello Nantongo. You're my mom's clan (Nkiima).
      There is no harm in a woman providing if this is the situation that she finds herself in. I mean - Children have got to eat, right? The issue is in the choices we make. Just be careful about that. And yes, we are inclined to marry our fathers but if you dont like what your father is showing you, then aspire to be better. You are NOT your mom. Aspire to have more. Break that generational curse. Don't be doomed by your past. Be in charge of your future. You are actually lucky that you've been exposed to sad life early on. My maama (nanti my mother's clan), good life is out there and only you can go and get yours. Don't be held back by fear. You'll miss out on goodness. Your mother lived her life. Live yours. Great men are there and even if you don't happen to get one of them, normalise being great as an individual. Good Luck! P

    • @bambuuzaolivia8462
      @bambuuzaolivia8462 3 года назад +1

      I grew up in a home where dad provided everything , but later I joined a home where my Luvly antie provided everything but when the husband got money he would provide because he was on and off jobs naye life has taught me the hardest way

  • @eronebalayo7122
    @eronebalayo7122 3 года назад +3

    before i watch, am glad it is a longer episode

    • @sumayamya357
      @sumayamya357 3 года назад

      SAME HERE..I like longer episoded..just love these ladies

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 3 года назад

      Hahahaaa! This topic needed some time. P

  • @mbabazipillarthefavouredmukiga
    @mbabazipillarthefavouredmukiga Год назад +1

    But Pumla,
    The honesty and emphasis is just wow.
    And to the whole team,we appreciate you big time😊
    We learn so much from these shows.

  • @nancyoyula
    @nancyoyula Год назад

    I like what Pumla says from 28:23 . Love from Kenya ❤️

  • @GatherNowNetwork
    @GatherNowNetwork 3 года назад

    i really think parents play a vital role in shap;ing up; the children however as chidren are growing up,p;arents tend to think their role has stop;p;ed and yet in actual sense it is just started.

  • @nanduggaaisha1179
    @nanduggaaisha1179 2 года назад +1

    You ladies are all wawoo

  • @shamimkagere
    @shamimkagere Год назад +1

    Me and my partner are kind of like Manuela and Brian. I cook he cooks I clean he cleans etc. It is confusing and yet I am well trained to take care of a home but my man is the same, it is confusing 😄

  • @lilianbeerda
    @lilianbeerda 3 года назад +4

    Pumla you had agreat Dad.

  • @ampeirepraise9721
    @ampeirepraise9721 3 года назад

    I love you ladies
    Pumla

  • @florencebirungi8289
    @florencebirungi8289 2 года назад +1

    Pumula I really like you so talkative

  • @janeflavia9706
    @janeflavia9706 3 года назад +1

    Pumla u r the best

  • @ketransimbi9734
    @ketransimbi9734 3 года назад +3

    Pumla u are right.....100%

    • @angelanakimuli4293
      @angelanakimuli4293 3 года назад +2

      I love your sincerity ladies...Pumla, yo very honest gal......

  • @natsmartha7475
    @natsmartha7475 3 года назад

    I love you all

  • @NEC73B
    @NEC73B Год назад

    Haha what Brian saidceould be so normal for me. We both come from the school of letting money sold problems. We hire then enjoy our time. When he is home and o go to cook he says come we enjoy some wine and send for food. If I must cook I do so before he gets home otherwise when he is home it is our time.

  • @britah-edwardstendo
    @britah-edwardstendo 3 года назад +1

    Manuella I hear you... That is Britah 80%

  • @apio100
    @apio100 Год назад

    Ladies you are the best thanks for this great show so many of us can relate on what you are discussing and learning alot from it. Keep it up love you all ladies

  • @bayernaa5985
    @bayernaa5985 3 года назад

    40minutes yeiiii

  • @thisenthat
    @thisenthat 3 года назад

    Angie ❤️ missed you

  • @anonnona6433
    @anonnona6433 3 года назад +2

    Nice conversation ladies. That's why most couples are encouraged to go for post marital counselling. Premarital counselling is good but if you have not been living together, everything seems abstract...Couples get married and fail to communicate/ understand each other. The preconceived ideas of the gender roles from their upbringing can mess things up. If your dad is hands on, good at doing all 'manly ' things, then you marry a man who does not have those skills, it can cause a lot of misunderstanding😂....point is, if he cannot fix the broken things but can pay for them to be fixed, so be it 🤣🤣...if wifey cannot cook but you can afford the services of a good chef, hire one. There is so much more to home making, and companioship.

    • @diananantambi4611
      @diananantambi4611 3 года назад

      I wonder what this show would be without Pumla! So real! Love you Pumla🥰

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 3 года назад +1

      Indeed, there's so much more to homemaking and companionship. 🙏🏾. P

  • @K.H1553
    @K.H1553 3 года назад

    Team Angie and Manuela 😘

  • @angelarinaitwe2013
    @angelarinaitwe2013 3 года назад

    Pumula ,I love you 😂😂😂

  • @mskeysnote14
    @mskeysnote14 3 года назад +3

    28:30 When The Fall happened, God gave man a punishment to provide for his family for as long as he lives... and woman a punishment to experience child birth for as long as she lives... So, why should man put his punishment on the woman where the opposite cannot happen. Men need to take responsibility for their punishment and deal with it accordingly... Unless they're not truly religious men.

  • @kayeangella8220
    @kayeangella8220 3 года назад

    Heeeee heeeee heeeee kyoka pumla😅

  • @vestinemukakarangwa9129
    @vestinemukakarangwa9129 3 года назад

    Everyday on Valentine's day 🤔

  • @naff7552
    @naff7552 Год назад +1

    Did you girls notice you were wearing same colours?

  • @imeidamoraa3966
    @imeidamoraa3966 11 месяцев назад

    In Kenya mothers are the ones who come home with milk and bread....lol

  • @maryapolot4754
    @maryapolot4754 3 года назад

    Naye nga Pumla's handle @PNabacwa shows someone else.
    Pumplaaaaa

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 3 года назад +1

      Mary, I'm only on facebook and I use Pumla Nabachwa. P

    • @maryapolot4754
      @maryapolot4754 3 года назад

      @@pumlanabachwa8668 ppppeeeeeople.
      Pumpla responded....I'm dancing
      Twitter desrves a mind like yours

  • @maureenkakooza4223
    @maureenkakooza4223 3 года назад

    But Pumela nfaaa 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Fablyflane
    @Fablyflane 3 года назад

    😂😂

  • @lilianbeerda
    @lilianbeerda 3 года назад +1

    Pumla ur so right about giving birth for women is next to death.