When i told my counselor about my self harm, she called my parents and made me tell them, and I felt terrible. Everyone at school alienated me and it was horrible. People still look at me weird, 2 years later.
Shevanna Young Actually her counselor was kind of in the wrong. They won't call your parents without your consent unless you're expressing violent behavior towards them or others and when they think you're close to attempting suicide. The counselor should've gotten her permission.
I started cutting on my wrists. My counselor he saw my wrists bandaged up and he made a big joke out of it. My whole class laughed at me. Everyone said "stop being so damn dramatic." I felt so disgusted with myself.
I have cuts on my wrists. I always try to hide them and I’m about to run out of long sleeves to wear. I’ve been scared about that. Don’t let them get to you. Stay strong
I agree to the fullest. My mom told me that depressed people are those whom were weak in their spirit, and that demons got the chance to enter their body and ruin them. Those demons keep whispering bad things to people's minds and make them as down as possible which leads people to commit suicide.
I told my grandmother I was depressed and she said that it was my fault that I want to die. I can't tell anything to her anymore for fear of being blamed.
Rain it's not ur fault because, just like feeling happy and scared,u can also feel sadness. It's not ur fault u feel a specific way. U r a human being and I think u can get through it. U seem like a very strong person so stay positive ✌🏼️❤️😔👏🏼🦄
I self harm. I get it. Everyone you are amazing and schools now a days SUCk we need to stick together and push aside school and just think about that we are loved
"No time" is the first reply to your comment and we all agree. You can't meet that kind of people in real life. It's an improbable task. There are still good people in the world at the same time. You just have to look really hard for them..........
Legit my mom asks me why I'm in a "bad mood" half the time and I say "I'm just tired" but like,,, then she threatens to take my phone away bc I'm supposedly staying up at night ?? It's pretty stupid but reasonable since she doesnt know I'm just really depressed
@@screamingcactus5505 same she tells at me saying your the worst daughter or your so rude I wouldn't want someone like you and when I told a doctor she lied to them and said I will take her to a mental help people (idk how to spell it and I forgot what it is) and she said to them that she always says she loves me but if that was true she would be saying it to me instead she brushed it off as soon as we went home its cause we had a test to describe how we feel every day and a lot of my answers where saying I feel like I deserve to die or I had dreams ever day that I would kill my family or my family would kill me and as I wrote this I looked at the all th scars on my wrist that are fresh and my mom said the bullying would stop once I went to 6th grad but it's even worse ppl make fun of me for cutting myself and I stabbed my self with my pencil and they said she reminds me of my brother she was that idiotc face she makes and they said this while I was cutting myself with the pencil is she trying to pop her veins off and I was trying to keep a straight face without looking in pain and they pretended to act me out by pretending to stab them self with a pencil and saying she probably wants to scream in pain and they made a stupid face looking like I was screaming I wanted to stab myself in my stomach right then there to see if they still be laughing
STUPID BITCH YOU NEED HELP YOUR PRETENDING TO BE THE VICTIM YOU ARE THE VICTIM BUT ALSO THE KILLER DO YOU GET IT? GROW UP YOU STUPID BITCH YOU LIVE IN A 1ST WORLD COUNTRY AND PROBALLY HAVE A NICE FAMILY JUDGING BY YOUR ROOM WHY ARE YOU SELF HARMING?
I think schools (middle and high) really need to get all the kids in the auditorium and bring in a recovered self harmer and for that person to talk about addiction. People aren’t educated enough on self harm so schools need to bring it up.
I think it’s the opposite people talk about it so much it’s a trend at my school my old bestie started cutting in 7th grade she had forced herself into the popular group and ditched me they had never liked her but faked it for awhile then she started doing the private message things for her sc story and god people were cruel that’s when she started by 8th grade it was bad but no one was talking about her anymore she was still doing the chat things 24/7 no one was saying anything mean but she kept cutting she even told me she just wanted to see if people cared she would introducehwrself to people by saying hi I’m blah blah and I cut it was literally just for attention in the end she would wear short shorts and crop tops on winter days while it was snowing just to show them
Tara jick I agree, some people think cutting is a trend but I’m saying that your ex bestie needs to understand what she is doing to herself and that starts with her teachers and parents
I think they should do it in 4-5th, and middle and high, not just middle and high, because I know alot of people that are in 4-5th grades that need to learn about mental health, so they'll stop joking about killing themselves.
yes, and I would be sent back to the mental hospital I had to sign stupid papers for so I just keep it to myself so I can pretend to be happy with my friends cause I don't want to be in a tiny little room by myself.
Yeah... I started cutting because, I know it might sound silly, I was jealous of my little brother. He always took the attention. I remember when I stopped for 2 months before it happened. my dad called me to help him on his homework. I complained so he told me to leave. I stayed because I felt guilty but my dad kept yelling,"Get out of here! Just get the fuck out of here!", I ran to my room and cried. I opened my drawer and cut my arms over and over. I was snapped out of my daze when I saw blood. I looked into the mirror. I thought I lost it, I began laughing. I laughed and laughed. I laughed but cried at the same time. Laughing while the tears were pouring down. Laughing at myself...
My mum is a nurse, so i’m scared she’s just gonna turn around and say “You do it for attention, you have nothing to be upset about” But she has no idea when i’m sat in my room with a blade.
Ya see that's why I take a pencil and scratch so deep it dosent bleed but still causes the same effect as a cut, so it will disappear in a day so they won't leave scars and people won't judge me for it
let me re-explain Depression can be described as a "not everyone is happy" lets just say i don't want people to waste there time with me. but thats my sub-concous, maybe i could be bipolar, but i'm not going to self diagnose.
cutting is not for attention (though there can be people that do it for that reason) people cut themselves to run away from the emotional pain by turning it into physical pain.
Take the bottom of an old t-shirt and cut it so it’s thin and wrap it around your wrist like bracelets, or take cord or something else and tie it and make a bracelet.
My school never found out about my selfharm but they caught my friend who went to a different school. It was absolutely awful... the principal made her strip while she and a counselor checked((which this totally uncalled for and inappropriate)) then they basically “arrested” her by getting the police to trick her into going into the cop car. They claimed that they were gonna take her home and tried to calm her down. But they freaking just took her to the mental institute where her parents had to fight to get her out. Social workers were sent to the parents for an investigation all while the staff in the mental institute were mistreating her. Apparently in the HS this has been a very common process to many mentally ill teens there. Truly disgusting and Idek how they’ve never been successfully sued
I almost got sent to a Mental Institute. My grandma was smart and didn't sign anything, so I was aloud to go legally. I'm still scared to tell anyone how I feel for the fear I'll get sent there.
in some states, like my own, they have a law where basically if someone (usually a teacher, counciler, therapist, etc etc) thinks you are in danger of hurting yourself or others you will be sent to a hospital until they think you are no longer a threat to yourself or others. your parent/guardian has no control of this either (so, like, they cant take you out of the hospital or refuse to let you go.) where i live its called a Baker Act. other than that i dont know much about it. I only know this much because i knew someone who got baker acted because she told her therapist she wanted to die.
I never told anybody about my self-harm, except for my closest friends. One day, I forgot to wear my bracelets and one student saw, then they told the counselor. Every week, the counselor would see me. People started getting suspicious. A few weeks later, someone told that I was self harming. Nobody hung out with me anymore and my teachers treated me differently. I’m so sorry for what happened to you.
*Does Self Harm* Teacher: "Go to the principal's office." *Goes there* Principal: "You are getting 3 detentions for self harm!" BECAUSE THAT WILL FUCKING HELP, RIGHT?! Fucking school ruins everything.
Imagen being homeschoooled and the person that finds out is your mom and every night you have to roll up your sleeve to show her you've stopped and feeling like you in trouble everytime you show her her. But she doesn't know you still cut on your thighs.
milana tew it really does but the people who don’t cut the self or harm them selfs don’t understand one of my best friends cut her self because she was fat but she was not super skinny but not fat she was normal and i would hug her and make her feel better and she slowly stopped and I’m happy for her now
I stopped selfharming after doing it for 3 months. I am really proud of myself and i hope people in the comments stop aswell. Know that you matter and you werent given a life for no reason.
Yeah... My mom punishes me for self harming instead of helping me. She takes my phone away, I can't meet my friends, she forbids me to go horse riding and she said if I ever cut again she will beat me...so at least your parents are helping you and nice to you... 💔💔💔
Bella Kiraly I’m keeping you in my thoughts. I love horseback riding and training them. I wish we could meet in real life and be friends. I hope your able to find people who listen and care about you. Sending much love to you ❤️😍🐎
same thing happened to me...it'll be better...just remember that you can do better and i know it's gonna suck right now but trust me...there will be a time you can do all of that again and be twice as strong. maybe confide in some friends at school for some help with your mom and always remember there will be a better day. listen to some music and don't care what others say. you'll be ok. we're here for you. 💜
My school is shit a kid said he was going to shoot up the school IN FRONT OF THE FUCKING PRINCIPLE AND SHE DIDINT DO SHIT he also tried to stab like 15 kids in the school and nothing happend to him
Is it just me or did anyone else use the excuse they were climbing a tree and got scratched or something? I used that so many times lol. This video really helped btw!
fun fact: this happened to me...i lost friends....my parents lost trust in me...my teachers and the staff put so much pressure on me...and i hate almost everyone there now...so i absolutely understand...you're amazing, i love you for making this and it's made me feel better...💜
I got suspended and taken out of my classes for three days after my school found out about my self-harm. The school now sees me as their "problem student" and they view me as someone who "needs to be fixed". plus, they day I left the school teachers had a conversation with everyone in the school about self-harm, so everybody knew it was me.
“Please, please, please keep yourself together and stay alive for me.” That hit me so hard. Thank you for making this type of context; a lot more people need to know about mental illness and it prevents future generations from having to suffer from exposure like you did.
In 8th grade, my math teacher saw my arm had cuts, she sent me to the nurse and she talked to me and made me call my parents and tell them everything and it just made everything worse. When I got home I was grounded and kinda made fun of by my dad. To this day, I still am ridiculed and made fun of. One day at Wendy's, a worker had some scars and my dad pointed it out and said to me (verbatim) "look at his arm. you see those scars? you want to look like that? you want to look like him? no boy will like that acy." It still fucks me up to this day.
ZARG 0 I’ve seen a lot of cringey things in my life but I NEVER wanted someone to end their life because of it. It’s never too hard to be nice and want someone to be happy. Open your eyes and see that she has went through so much that you would never be able to understand even with fine eyesight and ears. I pray you go to hell.
When my dad found out that I self harmed he said next time I did it he would ground me and that just made so so mad because he wasn't providing help and its just ugh he annoys me
I just don't get people who self harm, I get really irritated when people cut. most of the people who do cut just do it for attention or they think they have the hardest life ever when they really dont. I've been through abuse, beatings, bullies, rejections, sexual harassment. I've also been ignored by my family and apparently ghosts can't get enough of me! I hate my mom so much I've thought of killing her, I've seen my dad abuse my brothers! I know you probably think if me as an attention whore, but the reason I say all of this is because I want to say, after all I have been through, I have never cut myself! no matter how hard my life is, I never cut myself ever because I know other kids have worst lives than i do. I don't care if you think I just want attention or sympathy, I don't but think what you want. Rant over!
Some kid in school grabbed my arm, pulled my sleeve down, and held it up for all the kids to see. Then he yelled “look everyone, I know her secret!”. Yeah.. Edit: thanks for all the support I hope everyone’s having an awesome day :)
When I was 13, now I'm 14, but when I was 13 and because I live in one of the most suicidal states in the nation, the 7-12 grades have to watch a video about depression and suicide. When I was in 7th we did the same thing but at the time I wasn't depressed or self harming. In 8th we watched the same video but I thought the school had forgot to do it that year so I told some of my closer friends that I cut. Long story short they wrote my name on a slip of paper that said "I'm worried about [insert name]" and if your name was written, you got sent to the councillor. I got home that night and my parents were sitting on the couch I had to stay downstairs and talk to them about it. And I broke down crying, and they still didn't let me to me room. Then my mom started crying thinking that I did it because of her. And my dad just say confused because he didn't understand why I did it. And I got sent to the councillor again that year by what I heard was my P.E. teacher, she's super nice. And I got home and it was the same situation. And I dont know how long I've been clean but I'm starting to feel better but still a mildly insecure about the scars. Hey thanks if you read all of this ❤
Wow the same story happened to me I'm in middle school one of my friends saw my cuts and was worried and went up to the counselor and told her that I cut myself and I'm depressed. When. I arrived at home my dad gave me a hug randomly. I went to set my stuff down in my room, then my dad told me to come and sit down at the dining table to talk to them and told me that he got called from the counselor. We talked and I said that I have only cut myself once and I'm not going to do it anymore. My mom started to cry and they asked if I needed a therapist I said no. My dad told me that I was going to get called up to the counselor and they were going to do a body check of me. I was so stressed out the next day when I went to school. Personally I love school but I feared it that day. I didn't get called up to the counselor yet but I stopped cutting to prevent myself from going up to the counselor.
Bless you, sweetie. I am now 37 years old, and when I was a teen I used to cut myself. my dad was a sign painter, so I had an endless supply of brand new razor blades... I don't know why our when I stopped. probably when my drug addiction kicked in full gear. numbing the same pain I guess I was trying to address with my cutting? I don't have the answer to that. I'm over ten years clean from heroin now, and I don't cut. I used to cut or burn my tummy and my wrists, and still have scars to this day. youngsters, my heart goes out to you! God Bless you, bring healing, freedom from addictions! as I'm writing this comment, you are crying with emotion on my screen. my heart goes out to you!
I've always wonder why I never saw adults walking around with any scars or cuts on them but I started to worry what if some of us don't make it to adult hood now I know the story of someone who has not only fought something like this but has overcome that kinda thing
*Talking as a friend of a self harmer* we were in history class watching a movie when my friend julie was called by the teacher to go to the hallway. We were both confused and she left coming back crying i felt protective and put up my guard asking wat happened. She said they were happy tears because the teacher noticed her scars and told her she could talk to him about her problems and wat he could do to ever make her feel more comfortable. He, our English teacher and the art teacher all paired up to always check in on her. She cried because she always assumed people would judge her for it but they didnt. I have always made sure not to make her feel judged and this reminded me exactly why. Im sorry so many of you in the comments have bad experiences like this and i hope more can have a story like julies.
I know that you wrote this a long time ago but I just feel like I need to say you and those teachers are amazing. I wish my school would have that support for me. I wish every school had that support. This world needs more people like you. 💖
I was self harming,I was really hurting and I had to say something so I told my friends,at first it didn’t bleed,it would the scab.... At first I would use needles,then I started using razor blades... One day I was gripping my arms cause I was bleeding...I was wearing my moms hoodie that day so I had to keep secretly looking at my arms,then my friend realized and forced my to show my arms to her... I showed her my arms and I told her not to tell anyone,she told my other friends...and they scared me to death,they locked my into a bathroom stall,I started crying so I was let out of the stall,then the first friend that found out... Told the teacher.... Then my teacher walked up to me in class and told me my counselor wanted to see my so u went to the counselor...my heart was pounding...we had a talk about my self harm... She told my mom...and when me and my mom were talking about it...I was hiding something,she said “I know your hiding something...please tell me”I told her I’m lesbian,she supports me.. I still do it to this day,I still haven’t exactly haven’t gotten the help I need... But I use my nails now...but I’ve been keeping them short so I don’t hurt myself... That is my story...
I wish my friends did that to me cause it makes me sad that I'm keeping secrets from SO MANY people :( even my school counselor. I would tell her as long as I know that she wouldn't get mad or something idk but I'm glad you haven't hurt yourself as bad ever since
@@AjTheDarkestNarrator I'm also harming myself with nails and trust me this isn't such a big difference of doing it with a knife or doing it with nails... If u use nails u are scratching of your skin and there is also blood and all this shit...
... Im in middle school and im 12, I do it as well because my parents are homophobic and im pansexual and genderfluid, and im thinking about telling soneone like the counseler but 99% tell the school and your parents about it, only 1% acually help you.
i didn't know how common self harm is. reading the comments are making me cry because ive never done it and can't imagine what you must be going through to be hurting yourselves. please stop!!! i send my love to all of you!!!!!!
We can't stop. it's not that easy. It hurts, yes, But every cut is a window that our sadness flows out of. The deeper the cut, the more sadness we release, or that's what it feels like for me...
It is it made me cut to and it was getting worse and worse when my mom found out that I cut and she just screamed at me and told ne that I was fine and it's only stupidity making me cut and it just got worst and I wanted to die so I just cutted on my legs and stop cutting my arm's because it was easyer to hide the cut with long shorts and stuff... The arms cuts heald and my legs where full of cuts what where older because it was going to be summer soon so i stopped and stuff.... But sometimes I wanna cut again and i do but at places where it's visible and stuff like that and sometimes I have so hard suicidal thoughts that I cryed so much and wanted to die so hard 💔
Teachers: always tell a trusted adult at school or home if you are having problems or just need to talk student: I'm hurting myself I don't know what to do :( Teacher: oh... you can trust me I wont tell anyone *tells everyone in staff, makes you feel more self conscious about what others look at you like* Student: another thing to worry about thanks this is how it plays out in my head if I say anything :(
Floof Fox The Therian same for me. i need help, but i know getting my school involved is just gonna make things worse (especially because one of my classmates went through it as well but she had it worse, i dont wanna trigger some bad memories) so if things arent gonna be better by the end of the year, i'll tell my mom cause i dont wanna harm myself any longer. if you desperately need help please try to get it somehow, even if it's by using different ways than directly telling your parents, just calling a hotline helps a lot, there are a lot of them all around the world. i hope things will get better for you soon. 💜
That happened to me like 3 days ago and my family knows but my mum didn't under stand why they had to tell her - '- and I have to talk to the principal on Monday
Okay but if they can't help you, it's not only a legal issue but a moral issue. How would they feel if someone asked them for help that they couldn't provide, and didn't say anything, and then the kid killed theirself?
When I self harmed, I wasn’t planning on telling my parents but my mum noticed and she grounded me for weeks. Isolating me made it worse and I hurted more. I was treated like some strange being and not human and my friends, they got mad at me, only a few understood then it became a competition between my friends, who could do it more, and they got sympathy and I became an outcast, I had been doing it for years before then and no one noticed me at that point and the world let me continue. Ive stopped now but I still feel urges and wish I could do it but after all that, I know I shouldnt.
Same but my mum just screamed at me and told me self harm was because of stupidity and I'm fine there's no reason for me to cut and stuff but It wasn't stupidity It is my depression making me cut and stuff and they find out one year later that I had depression because I went to an physiologist in secret he ask me I he should call my parents and talk to them about it first so I didn't have to start and get said that I'm not having depression like the first time and it got better I don't really cut anymore only when i can't stio myself from it.. 😅💔
grounding is probably the worst punishment for something like that. did she think you were just gonna "learn your lesson"? that's just.. I don't get what she was expecting..
I saw a girl at a carnival last week who had scars all over her arms and legs. You couldn't see her skin. I just stopped, while people were walking behind me, and started crying. I wanted to tell her that it was ok. That she was loved. That she didn't need to do this to herself. I've started struggling with minor depression and anxiety. I've only ever thought about cutting, never done it. I want everyone feeling like this to feel better. I don't care about my low self image but when I see people like her, or the girl at the carnival, I want to help them. I just don't feel like I'm worth spending time on. The only way I'm ever able to say anything about it is when I type it and pretend no one will see it because I don't want people wasting their time on my problems.
I self harm, when my mom found out she told me I was fine and I can get over it. I still cant, She found out in 6th and 8th Im going to 9th grade. 😑😭😞💔
I guarantee you can get through this, it takes years to be happy again, and to find who you are. Finding who you truly are as a person is so important, because you're the only person that's gonna love and take care of you the way you deserve. Please don't hurt yourself, be strong and fight for you. Believe in yourself, love yourself and be the best you
Ok so this is my story. Age 10 (maybe 11) I was very upset, I was failing in school and stress and shit. Umm... So I took a box cutter from my mom's shelf and.... Did the worst thing in my life and it was the worst decision I had ever made, I did it constantly. Thighs arms and wrists. I it was insane and terrifying my and my mom found out because of the damned school and was in the hospital for 8 days and was put on Prozac. Age 11 1/2 And I became anorexic now I'm turning 12 in a few weeks and still going through it all. :( It's hard. But besides all that if anyone needs help. Ask me, I can give you my Instagram or number and you can vent or talk, because if I can't help me I can help someone else. Edit: I am no longer anorexic and I got the help I needed and suggest everyone to find the help you need.
Hi ace this is my story when i was 10 my ante die and got really sad so i just wanted to die then i a girl with cut and i asked her about it so after that i got a box cuter and cut my thighs because i owes wore Jeans so nobody else sall them but then i cut my wrist, ankles, thighs, and hips and i did these all on x-mas break so i whant back to school (I'm in 5th grade ) and 1 of my friend came to me and said she self harm so i said i did too but one day her mom sall them and said i did to so she called the counselor. The next day i whant to the counselor and she called my parents (I'm 11 by now ) so thay talked to me about it. Now I'm still cutting but only my friend knows about it but i just mit have depression but thank you for your time. Be safe :3 BTW im still in 5th grade and 11
oh god im so sorry that's horrible. i really hope that you have gotten over self harm. I don't self harm but i know that it's one of the most emotionally draining and stressful things someone can do. I know that the sadness is probably still there, but i hope that you're at least doing better.
I started to cut at age 6. Not because I was depressed, but because I love to feel pain and see the blood slowly appearing on my skin. I told this to my teacher, and she told me that I am a psychopath. But I don't have any symptoms of being a psychopath...
My school is shit and when they knew about my self harming all thy did was call my parents and tell me I need to go to a mental hospital and wouldn't let me back until I did and then when I got back all my teachers knew about it and would just watch me the whole hour (which is really uncomfortable for me cause I'm a really awkward person) I think that schools and stuff don't know how to handle stuff like that because most self harmers don't try to make people notice it so no one ever notices it
when are going to mind your own fucking business and stop calling people attention seekers what if she was your sister or someone you cared about and who in their right mind told you that if you did cut you wouldn't be embarrassed I don't cuss normally but 🖕
i once remember back in grade 9 (years ago) that i cut i arms completely from top to bottom with my depression. i tried to get out of gym class because my arms would be visible for a whole hour. i put 2 tenser bandages on both arms to make sure my cuts weren't visible when class started. but my dumbass gym teacher told me to take them off or she would take them off for me as everybody was staring at us arguing. eventually after arguing with her for 10 minutes, i took them off and she just stared at me for a solid 20 minutes basically and so did everybody else. i was so ashamed and embarrassed like nobody would believe. she told me "if you're gonna cut your arms, get out of my gym class!". i gladly dropped out of her class as soon as she said that
Ive been re-watching this video for years. Every time that I feel like hurting myself or I'm just sad and crying and I feel like a mess i come back and watch this. I'd say 8/10 times it'll stop me from cutting. I really thank you for that.💜 you should be a therapist☺
In September, my scars were very prominent from the summer. It was still scorching hot outside, so it was strange to see me in a hoodie. One time, someone I knew very closely and knew about my harming PULLED MY SLEEVE UP and acted like she never knew about the cuts. And she did all of this in front of my class! Needless to say, my parents were told the next day.
Savannah Gardner that is so messed up I would never do that to a friend or in class with millions of people. if my friend did that to me I would probably die and I would tell them we arnt friends anymore cause thats not appropriate in school to do even if someone is self harming if they are worried they should be talking to a counselor about it not showing the whole class about it. but its ok I cut too. we can get through this together I'm here if you need someone to talk to.
Before 1 year my classmate accidently saw my cuts and told all class and they all laughed about me and bullied me (again) but teachers luckly dont do nothing. :) but they knowed that I self harming because my school is small. Since that I cut in places where cant easy see.
I started self harming at 11. I went two days through it. I told my parents. They quickly set up therapy for me. No family support. I relapsed at the age of 12, a few days ago. I'm still fighting it. I have to hide them. But we'll all stay strong.
It’s ok guys I’m also 12 (lol) and we will all be able to stop doing this, We can all get over harming ourselves. It just people don’t get that you’re going through this, the only people you can ever tell are your best friends because they won’t *&*$ you over when things get tough.
I had an addiction. What helped me was starting a morning and night routine aimed at developing discipline. If you want science it helps with developing the prefrontal cortex that helps with controlling cravings and self control but better than that it feels better, boosting feel good hormones that we try to get from addictions
you should literally go to middle school-highschool assemblies and talk about this. this is a important matter that some people don't get and it should be taught. i know how i felt when the school got into my self harming and then the state got into it because i'm adopted. and it was at the start of my 7th grade year. i hated myself so much just because of it. i thought i was the bad guy and since then i've been wearing sweatshirts and skinny jeans and just anything that will cover my body, even though i don't cut anymore i just get scared that everyone will judge me and that i'm just an disgusting person. i've pushed all my friends away because of this. but seriously, you should teach this to people and go to assemblies (it really doesn't matter where you're teaching it) this should be a serious matter that people need to learn. and i honestly think you should be the one who teaches it to everyone.
You're not disgusting, you're beautiful. You're so so so so beautiful, don't let anyone tell you anything else than that. You're so important, you're more than "just another person with depression" , not a single cutter is "just another cutter". Im sorry i just don't want you or ANYONE for that matter, to feel that way. I love you, and so does everyone else .
one of my friends told my school counselor that i self harmed, and the counselor told my parents. it was absolutely terrible, and the only thing my parents did was ground me
omg, i rlly hate those stories where parents ground their child for self harming. it just makes me so mad at the parents. ugh i hate it so much because its not even your fault for not being happy. stay strong.
I self harm in a strange way. I punch myself in the chest, head and stomach. Sometimes I even slap myself really hard. I am a miserable monster. Edit: thanks for the support guys, now I know that I'm not alone.
Guys, My best friend is self harming herself..She showed me her cuts...I don't know what I need too do... //UPDATE: She got help, I asked If she wanted to tell her parents (I did not push), She refused, But did. She got help and is going uphils, Instead of cutting she draws on her hands, It helps she says. We'll get through it. Whatever could happen but i will always stay by her side. I really want to Thank you for all the help. I don't know what I had Done If I didn't ask you//
dance 22 i wish i had a friend who cared about it like you. i showed my friend once and she didnt do shit. she ended up doing really mean stuff to me and i befriended her cus of it. now because of that rumors about me at school are going around and now i am being bullied. there is a lot of backround to that but i bore anyone with that. *back to your thing* you should show her she had a friend. people do it because they are isolated and have no one. they think its their escape. i would show her she HAs a friend. and be a good friend to her.
Don't tell someone. Whatever you do, don't. My friend found out about my cuts and she yelled at me and said if I ever do it again she will tell someone and will never forgive me. And when she yelled at me we were in a place where a lot of people could hear. It was outside tho. But I'm so scared of her telling someone and if someone found out I would be terrified and I feel like I would have to explain why I do what I do and I have very valid reasons but whenever Someone asks why and I try and tell them but I feel like my reasons are stupid. Sorry for the rant
Why are people like this?... People be like, "Oh she/he is self harming he/she is different we need to punish them instead of help them." like what the fuck!? I'm a 14 year old girl who started cutting when I was 12. at the age of 13, 2 months before my 14th birthday, I was in my sister's room watching videos with my 2 sister's and my brother. suddenly my foster parents walk into the room and one of them goes, "I'm going to check your arms." and I refused at first but then i let her and she yells, "WHAT THE FUCK!?" at first i didn't cry. But then she told me, "Do you wanna turn out just like your mom!? is that why you're doing this!?" and it triggered me because I didn't. she didn't understand what i was going through! then she tells me to stop yeah like that FUCKING helps. I had to go and tell my counselor. and after that when i came to school I dont know how but everyone knew. I felt like an embarrassment and I literally started to become judged and started to be called an attention seeker and a whore. why do people do this to us? do they really think, " oh they're self-harming let's embarrass them and they'll know not to do it next time!" well they're wrong! They're just making things worse for us! I'm hurt and broken and torn inside and just people can't get that. and I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who feels this way.
@@Sam-wh3ik same bro, my dad checks every once in a while, the fourth or fifth time he cried, I couldn't believe my eyes, I stopped ever since, but I still want to do it since the kids in middle school suck.
You were really brave to tell her in the first place, I'm so sorry about what she said... I'm 13 too and have self harmed as well, so if you ever need to talk I'm here to listen😊💕
When I told my counselor about how I was feeling she straight up told me “stop lying to yourself, you’re sad and over acting”. Or something like that. She then told my parents and the rest of the school. I was pulled out of class almost every day to go to either her or another staff member. People would stare at me and look at me differently, it was terrible. One day I was so fed up with it; when I was called up to her room sat down and said “I’m fine will you all just leave me alone!” Walked out and I was never called back in there. Well not yet at least. Staff members, if you’re reading this I want you to go on your campus and do something about this “system” of yours and FIX it. I’m speaking for everyone who’s been through problems such as depression, anxiety, trauma, anything, we DON’T want to be told were insane, we DON’T want to be told we’re fine. we WANT to be feel sane and as if we are a normal person on campus. DON’T make us feel like we’re crazy. Give us patience, when we are ready to talk to you, we will. But until then, give us our space and let us figure our lives out.
I started self-harming with a pencil at 12 years old, but only recently have I actually used a knife. I'm stopping though. I don't want to be taken to a mental hospital; those will make your life hell.
Fandomfreak62 I started when I was 13 I’m 17 now, 18 in a few months. I’ve been clean for about 5 months now. Please try and stop as soon as you can. Talk to people you trust. Find other ways to cope with the pain. You’ll get through it ♥️
I self-harm too... I dont want to tell anyone and always play pretend... I fake being happy i try to feel happy but its hard....sometimes I forget what happiness even is...
Mysterious Person That’s how it is for me to I haven’t and don’t want to tell everyone I tell myself I’m the best actress because everyone thinks I’m the happiest person ever when I’m not
This made me cry. My best friend self harms and I dont know what go do. she just started 2 weeks ago. and I notice them but I'm so scared to say something to her about hem because that will make her feel worse. 2 weeks ago she had to go to the hospital because she tried to kill herself. I just want to help her but I dont want to make it worse. What do I do?
just ask her why she cuts if she doesn't answer just hug her and let her cry when u cry that means ur human just talk it all out and just let her cry..... ask for more advice from me if u want I had the same thing will a friend of mine
I know you want to help, but there's nothing you really can do if you want to help her talk and go out with her, like some place where you can have fun and you both enjoys the time you have together. You can only be supportive, by making a smile on her face, make her laugh and that should help her enjoy life again
Bro, I was in Freshman year, and my first experience was on the top of my forearms, but nobody could see the cuts or scars because of the way my skin looks on my arms. But before that, I stupidly took a razor to my cheeks and did something similar to the joker, or Jeff, before I even knew about the two characters, i was going through some shit at that time, so I thought "Oh, yeah, totally good idea to cut a smile into your cheeks". Instead of them coming to me and asking if I was okay, or if I was self harming, or if I needed someone to talk to, they were dragging me out of the school in handcuffs without asking me a single question, I spent 7 days in psych ward, under the "Baker-Act" law, essentially, they threw me in there against my will, without talking to my parents or teachers, this place was full of people who honestly should've been there, they needed serious mental help, I got my ass beat on a daily basis by the other patients. And I still believed my mother's "Do no harm" rule, so eventually I stood up for the one guy in there who was nice to me, who happened to be gay, and the others didn't like that, so I started trying to defend him by asking "What's so wrong with being gay?" and this big black guy (no racism intended) started getting heated and eventually started kicking my ass, so I'm standing there getting the merciless fuck beaten out of me, I just stood there, looking through the glass at the staff on-duty, and they SAT THERE AND FUCKING WATCHED. When I finally got out of that horrid place, my view on humanity and life itself was deteriorated, I later attempted suicide 3 times, but failed each time before my mother found out. What I learned: The baker-act law is the stupidest shit I've ever heard of, They take you against your will, throw you into a building heavily regulated, and full of psychotics who were there for strangling their moms and burning down their houses, the staff was corrupted as hell, and the more you plead to be let go, and that you don't belong there, they extend your stay. Aftermath: Everyone in school thought of me as the psycho, the guy gonna shoot up the school, the guy who probably murders animals in his spare time. My social life was ruined, and because I kept self harming, they sent me to a behavioral school, and my god... Oh my FUCKING god... Shit got bad... Whilst I was at this place, they said if I were on the gold level of this retarded point sheet for a month, I could go back to a regular school... I was there for 2 and a half years. This place baker-acted me an additional 7 times, for stupid reasons like saying I wanted to sharpen my machete in preparation for a camping trip. I was saying that to my friend, and I glanced over and saw the teacher on the phone with the school resource officer saying "He's planning to sharpen a machete and kill people"... Obviously I reacted badly to that, calling her a dumb c-word who didn't know shit about me. When I finally got out of that horrible place and spent my Senior year in a normal school, people still treated me as an outcast because of the scars and stories spread about me. One of the students also made it out alive and was sent to the same normal school as me, and they spread rumors behind my back. Now that I'm graduated, I still have night terrors of going back to that behavior school, I wake up covered in sweat, and hyperventilating almost every morning. Thankfully I'm doing a lot better now thanks to being out of school, and I'm applying for a job soon. This is just my experience, considering the video topic, I felt I should share my past. Peace.
Wolflore Schrödinger sure....You obviously don’t know what Baker acting is, you don’t get to decide. Also sounds like a lie, which it is. There is a difference between lying and being honest.
Weave Snatcher Everyone has the right to believe what they'd like to believe, I didn't post this comment to draw attention, I was only sharing my experiences
This is why I have lost my faith in humanity. How could anyone in their right mind do this to someone who wanted to be normal? These days, everything confuses me. What happened to the 'good' people in this world?
"Who are they going to run if they get hurt and feel isolated? They're going to run to the cigarettes. They're going to run to the drugs. They're going to run to their self harm.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. It makes a lot of people feel less alone. I have my own self harm story to share. School is really, really hard for me because I have no friends there who know about my depression. Like you said, self harmers are really good at pretending that they’re okay. I seemed like a happy person to most people. Then I get to rehearsal, and I break down. My theatre friends and I are so close, and I tell them everything. They know how isolated I feel at my school. I love them so much, and it feels like they are the only people who love me sometimes. I told them one at a time, and it really helped me to have them there for me. Then I told another one of my theatre friends that I was suicidal, and he freaked. He’s 15, so he’s a full two years older than me, and he’s tall and nerdy and very sarcastic. I didn’t know how fragile he was until I told him how much I wanted to kill myself and he nearly cried. He became so scared that I was going to commit that he got my mom’s phone number and called her. He didn’t tell her that I self harmed, even though I thought he did. All he said was that he was really scared for me, and that my mental health needed an intervention. So, my parents signed me up to talk with my school’s guidance counselor. That man is a terrible human being. I have never hated someone as much as I do him. At the beginning, he told me that our conversations were 100% confidential. What he didn’t do is tell me that if I told him about hurting myself, he would call my mom. So I was completely open, because I thought that it would lift a weight off of my shoulders. I showed him my scars, said how I had no friends at the school, etc. At then end of the conversation, he told me that he was going to tell my mom that I self harmed. I was so scared, even though I thought she knew. I had a breakdown as soon as I left that room. He is such a condescending person. I told him I have anxiety. He respond by saying, “Don’t self diagnose yourself. You’re fine.” I told him that I was going to go homeschooled after break because school is 90% of the reason I self harm. He told me, “ you’ll never make it into college if you go homeschool. You’re going to fail at life because you keep running away from your problems.” I don’t know who authorized that person to be a therapist, but it is NOT okay to tell a suicidal person that they are failing at life. That is not okay. I’m just so angry with this whole situation, because telling him has not helped me in the slightest. If anything, it has made me worse, and now he thinks that he’s some kind of hero and that we’re best friends, and that he cured me of any mental illness. I told him that I cut once, and that I didn’t like it. I’m pretty convincing, I guess, because I still do it daily. The only thing that helps me is seeing my theatre friends 3 times a weeks and crying out all of my problems to them. So, if you have any friends who are going through mental illness, don’t snitch them to a crappy guidance counselor. Some things that help me are: 1. Getting long hugs from my friends 2. Crying for a while 3. Listening to the Dear Evan Hansen soundtrack I was with one of my friends once, and he saw my scars, even though I told him that I didn’t do it anymore (which I did). He saw fresh marks on my wrist and broke down sobbing. Then I started crying. He told me how much he loved me and how he doesn’t understand how someone so kind and beautiful and such a good friend can be so hurt and go through so much pain. That hit me hard. I realized that he loved me, and that I had more friends who really cared about me. Let people know that they are loved. That helps more that you could imagine. Thank you for listening to my rant. Just know that I love you and that you deserve to live.
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When i told my counselor about my self harm, she called my parents and made me tell them, and I felt terrible. Everyone at school alienated me and it was horrible. People still look at me weird, 2 years later.
Similar things happened to me when I was in primary, and this is why I don't tell anyone anymore. :\
well it's illegal not to call parents if their child is a danger to themselves or others, so it's not your counselors fault
4 years later i still have no friends and people still talk about it
Shevanna Young Actually her counselor was kind of in the wrong. They won't call your parents without your consent unless you're expressing violent behavior towards them or others and when they think you're close to attempting suicide. The counselor should've gotten her permission.
+PopSicko they were allowed to, they shouldn't have but they were technically allowed.
every time she speaks her voice was trembling and every time she did that my heart broke x
Same omg
anna / mia same
Same :'(
anna / mia fuck I know I just want to hold her and tell its going to be okay
things like this will destroy you for a very long time
Your hair and fashion sense are on point!
Right?
so true ! she looks lovely
Ikr i love it
ikr? she's fucking gorgeous
+Kendra Brynn init
I started cutting on my wrists. My counselor he saw my wrists bandaged up and he made a big joke out of it. My whole class laughed at me. Everyone said "stop being so damn dramatic." I felt so disgusted with myself.
Bálor Club am I aloud to kill them?
thats the life most people have to live in this SHITY RUNDOWN FUCKING WORLD
Sheesh people can be rude sometimes. Stay strong!
I have cuts on my wrists. I always try to hide them and I’m about to run out of long sleeves to wear. I’ve been scared about that. Don’t let them get to you. Stay strong
*give me names*
*G I V E M E A D D R E S S E S*
her hair is so lovely
IKR!!
+Clorox Bleach HEY YOU! YEAH YOU! I WANT YOU BABEH
*opens cap* I have a flower flavour so that death will taste good. 😜😜
ikr!
i know rite? the best hair ever
“i think every self harmer is very good at lying because we’re always trying to prove we’re okay” i felt that deep in my heart
So true. I've lived through that.
True
Yup
Yeah I definitely agree
School is horrible 95% of the time people are getting bullied and 5% of the time we are actually learning
POND Parakeet I have never agreed with something more WRITE A DAMN BOOK
what if you're one of the cool kids?
Imagine a pie chart.
*98% Is Teachers Not Caring About Bullying.*
*1% Is Actually Caring About The Problems.*
*1% Educating.*
At our school basically everyone is friends, there isnt really any bullying
Who ever thinks the popular kids or cool kids dont get bullied your wrong bc I'm part of that group BUT GUESS WHAT 3 OUT OF 6 OF US HAS BEEN BULLIED
When students vent to their counselors about their feelings, the counselors
99% Call the student’s parents
1% *help*
Why is this so accurate?
I have depression and like nobody know cause I hide it
I acctually ended up going to a different counselor because of this
Gacha Llama Exactly, my councilor was a piece of shit for that.
That's why I'm afraid to tell mine
I want to jump through the screen and give her the biggest hug..
Same !!!!
Same
Same
*raises hand* is mayo an instrument
Can I get a hug??...
When I told my grandmother I had depression and was self harming, she said I was possessed. She wasn't wrong. Depression is a demon.
I have that book too bruh. Mark manson is a god
Pls post this everywhere
I agree to the fullest. My mom told me that depressed people are those whom were weak in their spirit, and that demons got the chance to enter their body and ruin them. Those demons keep whispering bad things to people's minds and make them as down as possible which leads people to commit suicide.
Depression is a b*tch
My grandma would say that too if i told her.
I told my grandmother I was depressed and she said that it was my fault that I want to die. I can't tell anything to her anymore for fear of being blamed.
Rain it’s not your fault ❤️💜🖤
Rain it's not ur fault because, just like feeling happy and scared,u can also feel sadness. It's not ur fault u feel a specific way. U r a human being and I think u can get through it. U seem like a very strong person so stay positive ✌🏼️❤️😔👏🏼🦄
Why would she say that???
Rain Let it go because else it will follow you like it always does to me
its not your fault, I promise. Please don't do anything bad to yourself, you can talk to me. I'm here for you.
I love this comment section
·Everyone is understanding
·Everyone is comforting
·Everyone is just so decent
But why can’t we meet anyone like that around us?!!
I self harm. I get it. Everyone you are amazing and schools now a days SUCk we need to stick together and push aside school and just think about that we are loved
@@chloecorrigan2652 Well said. Period.
"No time" is the first reply to your comment and we all agree. You can't meet that kind of people in real life. It's an improbable task. There are still good people in the world at the same time. You just have to look really hard for them..........
conan_ Yep. We're here for you. We understand each others pain. I'll understand yours and I hope you understand mine.
can anyone else hear the trembling in her voice 😟
me 😔
idk how she doesn’t cry
on nvm she did cry
Yes😢
Yes
Every time that her voice is trembling, my heart breaks
hello ARMY
mine too
also hello army
Ikr
VoCaLoId LoVeR ...really? Not to be rude but that came off kinda insensitive to me. I mean all you got from that was BTS? Wowza
Me too 😔
I think if someone made a book full of all the lies I’ve ever told, more than half of it would say “I’m fine” or “I’m just tired”
Legit my mom asks me why I'm in a "bad mood" half the time and I say "I'm just tired" but like,,, then she threatens to take my phone away bc I'm supposedly staying up at night ?? It's pretty stupid but reasonable since she doesnt know I'm just really depressed
Honestly though
"just sleepy"..
@@screamingcactus5505 same she tells at me saying your the worst daughter or your so rude I wouldn't want someone like you and when I told a doctor she lied to them and said I will take her to a mental help people (idk how to spell it and I forgot what it is) and she said to them that she always says she loves me but if that was true she would be saying it to me instead she brushed it off as soon as we went home its cause we had a test to describe how we feel every day and a lot of my answers where saying I feel like I deserve to die or I had dreams ever day that I would kill my family or my family would kill me and as I wrote this I looked at the all th scars on my wrist that are fresh and my mom said the bullying would stop once I went to 6th grad but it's even worse ppl make fun of me for cutting myself and I stabbed my self with my pencil and they said she reminds me of my brother she was that idiotc face she makes and they said this while I was cutting myself with the pencil is she trying to pop her veins off and I was trying to keep a straight face without looking in pain and they pretended to act me out by pretending to stab them self with a pencil and saying she probably wants to scream in pain and they made a stupid face looking like I was screaming I wanted to stab myself in my stomach right then there to see if they still be laughing
I hate the fact that I can relate to this so much.
I'm semi-addicted to self harm. I used to do it everyday, no I'm not getting better, it's just..Idk what it is..
Emo Bubble I’m not a week clean but the longest I’ve been clean was like 6 months? I lost count
I've only ever been about a week clean, which is when I'm at my dad's
I can relate
Ive cut every day for about 2 weeks(when I started) except yesterday I didn't for some reason but I did again today...
I was only clean because my family found out and now that eveythings calmed down I've started again
I self harm right now and I’m trying my best to get over it. My parents don’t know. I wish I could wear short sleeves again...
Beef_Cheese_lettuce me too, stay strong.
Stay strong
I do the same but I do my legs instead for that reason
same...
I do the same.. I regret the first cut, I can't stop. It's an addiction.
i fucking cried i don't usually cry but there's something about you that made me feel connected to you you're fucking amazing
same here..
I hope it feels good to cry and let it all out ❤️ thank you for your support it means the world to me
+Berry Balloon I didn't cry to this but death note that made me cry for a hour ;-;
STUPID BITCH YOU NEED HELP YOUR PRETENDING TO BE THE VICTIM YOU ARE THE VICTIM BUT ALSO THE KILLER DO YOU GET IT? GROW UP YOU STUPID BITCH YOU LIVE IN A 1ST WORLD COUNTRY AND PROBALLY HAVE A NICE FAMILY JUDGING BY YOUR ROOM WHY ARE YOU SELF HARMING?
+Tetris Well she did look for help, and that's what made her the victim as the school didn't help her they just punished her. Also, your a Bitch.
U can hear her trying to hold back the tears...love u babes❤️❤️❤️
A girl in my school told the principal about her self harm, she got expelled
Wtf this makes me mad
Omg....really?😔
Naty Alba what.the.actual.FUCK THAT IS SOME MESSED UP SHIT!
That's stupid
WHAT THE FLAP! HOW DARE THEY!
I think schools (middle and high) really need to get all the kids in the auditorium and bring in a recovered self harmer and for that person to talk about addiction. People aren’t educated enough on self harm so schools need to bring it up.
👏🏻👏🏻
I think it’s the opposite people talk about it so much it’s a trend at my school my old bestie started cutting in 7th grade she had forced herself into the popular group and ditched me they had never liked her but faked it for awhile then she started doing the private message things for her sc story and god people were cruel that’s when she started by 8th grade it was bad but no one was talking about her anymore she was still doing the chat things 24/7 no one was saying anything mean but she kept cutting she even told me she just wanted to see if people cared she would introducehwrself to people by saying hi I’m blah blah and I cut it was literally just for attention in the end she would wear short shorts and crop tops on winter days while it was snowing just to show them
Tara jick I agree, some people think cutting is a trend but I’m saying that your ex bestie needs to understand what she is doing to herself and that starts with her teachers and parents
I think they should do it in 4-5th, and middle and high, not just middle and high, because I know alot of people that are in 4-5th grades that need to learn about mental health, so they'll stop joking about killing themselves.
yes!!, people don’t even realize that it’s an addiction!
Anyone else to scared to tell their mom because you know she'll be like
"You just want attention you dont have a problem."
yes, and I would be sent back to the mental hospital I had to sign stupid papers for so I just keep it to myself so I can pretend to be happy with my friends cause I don't want to be in a tiny little room by myself.
Yes..
I told my mom I’m depressed and that’s exactly what she said. Honestly, it made it worse.
Yeah... I started cutting because, I know it might sound silly, I was jealous of my little brother. He always took the attention. I remember when I stopped for 2 months before it happened. my dad called me to help him on his homework. I complained so he told me to leave. I stayed because I felt guilty but my dad kept yelling,"Get out of here! Just get the fuck out of here!", I ran to my room and cried. I opened my drawer and cut my arms over and over. I was snapped out of my daze when I saw blood. I looked into the mirror. I thought I lost it, I began laughing. I laughed and laughed. I laughed but cried at the same time. Laughing while the tears were pouring down. Laughing at myself...
Not really but I dont want to tell her
I want to hug her SO bad but I cant sadly
*gives her a kitten on your behalf.
i'd thought you'd say OPEN UP or something
She's 14. (I dunno if she is I just wanna be funny-) *FBI OPEN UP*
dude wtf like she underage stawp ur gonna get in trouble
F.B.I
Yeah, if you hug her you're gonna have to "open up" on yourself
My mum is a nurse, so i’m scared she’s just gonna turn around and say
“You do it for attention, you have nothing to be upset about”
But she has no idea when i’m sat in my room with a blade.
Omfg same
Ya see that's why I take a pencil and scratch so deep it dosent bleed but still causes the same effect as a cut, so it will disappear in a day so they won't leave scars and people won't judge me for it
@@shyanneashwood9440 i did that 4 months ago and it's still there.... i got reported and i started melting in my counselor's room. :(
@@aangelaguo aww that sucks
Same
Im sick of wearing long sleeves in summer. I dont know how people believe Im cold.
Ikr, it's so sad :(
Ikr
WEIRDBUTAWESOME XD I wear hoodies every day then I mean every day☀️
Put hairties on your wrist if your a girl, it hurts but..
WEIRDBUTAWESOME XD same😢
Someone: Are You OK?
Me: *crying then stops* yea
Someone: OK.
dis, is, no.
A Leaf
This similarly happened in school in pe class
let me re-explain
Depression can be described as a "not everyone is happy"
lets just say i don't want people to waste there time with me.
but thats my sub-concous, maybe i could be bipolar, but i'm not going to self diagnose.
key word "Could"
cutting is not for attention (though there can be people that do it for that reason)
people cut themselves to run away from the emotional pain by turning it into physical pain.
A Leaf they think of it as a way out but don't relize that it dosent help it makes it worse
My mum smacked me right after my suicide attempt... my heart is still broken
Wtf, thats so messed up
@@winterbearlucy yes it is
my mum tried to tell me that life was okay when i tried
It's because she didn't knew what to do without you. She wanted you to know that it was a wrong doing. It wasn't the smartest way though
@@dashinypunnymarsking I guess you're right but all about they care is them selfs
When my teacher saw my scars
She said "Did you jump in a bush or what??"
Wow hahaha. I would very much prefer that.
Preferable to any other bullshit they say
Yeah a bush of blades and anger and anxiety
😂
x.Avacado .x Yeah and sadness and pain.
when the school got involved they suspended me
that is bull shit why punish someone that needs help... URGHHHHH
the boss channel what the fuck that's the dumbest shit ever.
the boss channel sounds like something my school would do
the boss channel Well... I'm so sorry. This is why I don't trust my school. I hope you're okay.
pusheen lover911. I agree, my mom wanted to tell my teacher. if she had I bet that I would have been suspended too...
I wish I never started cutting but you can't take it back and I don't have enough bracletes for P.E
I wear thin enough jackets to gym
I just wear long sleeve and shorts
I just say fuck it and tell anyone with an opinion to go shove it up their arse
Take the bottom of an old t-shirt and cut it so it’s thin and wrap it around your wrist like bracelets, or take cord or something else and tie it and make a bracelet.
I stopped going to PE over a year ago now :/
My school never found out about my selfharm but they caught my friend who went to a different school. It was absolutely awful... the principal made her strip while she and a counselor checked((which this totally uncalled for and inappropriate)) then they basically “arrested” her by getting the police to trick her into going into the cop car. They claimed that they were gonna take her home and tried to calm her down. But they freaking just took her to the mental institute where her parents had to fight to get her out. Social workers were sent to the parents for an investigation all while the staff in the mental institute were mistreating her. Apparently in the HS this has been a very common process to many mentally ill teens there. Truly disgusting and Idek how they’ve never been successfully sued
Sliver Wing That is honestly so disgusting. I’m so sorry your friend had to go through that.
I almost got sent to a Mental Institute. My grandma was smart and didn't sign anything, so I was aloud to go legally. I'm still scared to tell anyone how I feel for the fear I'll get sent there.
I_LUv_jOSh_dUN_ ll-// I just came back from the mental hospital. I was in there for almost two weeks
That’s honestly so messed up
in some states, like my own, they have a law where basically if someone (usually a teacher, counciler, therapist, etc etc) thinks you are in danger of hurting yourself or others you will be sent to a hospital until they think you are no longer a threat to yourself or others. your parent/guardian has no control of this either (so, like, they cant take you out of the hospital or refuse to let you go.) where i live its called a Baker Act. other than that i dont know much about it. I only know this much because i knew someone who got baker acted because she told her therapist she wanted to die.
I never told anybody about my self-harm, except for my closest friends. One day, I forgot to wear my bracelets and one student saw, then they told the counselor. Every week, the counselor would see me. People started getting suspicious. A few weeks later, someone told that I was self harming. Nobody hung out with me anymore and my teachers treated me differently. I’m so sorry for what happened to you.
*Does Self Harm*
Teacher: "Go to the principal's office."
*Goes there*
Principal: "You are getting 3 detentions for self harm!"
BECAUSE THAT WILL FUCKING HELP, RIGHT?!
Fucking school ruins everything.
Imagen being homeschoooled and the person that finds out is your mom and every night you have to roll up your sleeve to show her you've stopped and feeling like you in trouble everytime you show her her. But she doesn't know you still cut on your thighs.
Your principal gave you a detention for self harming???
OysterHunter
Yesh.
TwisterLord But why?? What on earth was the thought process behind that?
OysterHunter
How df would I know the school's dumbass desicions.
But they did say that its apparently for me to 'Stop being a bad boy'
Every time her voice trembled, it broke my heart. Btw I love your hair it is so beautiful..
Le Krab ikr I feel horrible for her my life is very similar too her story I'm sad she had too go through that
Poppy yeah me too😭
God sams
Same *
The worst feeling is when you get punished for self-harming and it makes everything worse
milana tew it really does but the people who don’t cut the self or harm them selfs don’t understand one of my best friends cut her self because she was fat but she was not super skinny but not fat she was normal and i would hug her and make her feel better and she slowly stopped and I’m happy for her now
milana tew No shit Sherlock
Jayden O Awwww that's nice. You a good friend boi.
Yes
My mum does i hate it and she says to me to stop but i can't my mum used to do it
I stopped selfharming after doing it for 3 months. I am really proud of myself and i hope people in the comments stop aswell. Know that you matter and you werent given a life for no reason.
girl of the nightcore I did it once but it hurt a lot so I stopped doing it
but I’m still suffering from everything else:’)
@@pickle8640 hope everything gets better for you
girl of the nightcore thank you ❤️
Pandora agreed
Maple Syrup it doesn’t hurt for me..
Yeah... My mom punishes me for self harming instead of helping me. She takes my phone away, I can't meet my friends, she forbids me to go horse riding and she said if I ever cut again she will beat me...so at least your parents are helping you and nice to you... 💔💔💔
Bella Kiraly I’m keeping you in my thoughts. I love horseback riding and training them. I wish we could meet in real life and be friends. I hope your able to find people who listen and care about you. Sending much love to you ❤️😍🐎
I think I'm your mom's secret family, cuz your mom sounds an awful lot like mines
same thing happened to me...it'll be better...just remember that you can do better and i know it's gonna suck right now but trust me...there will be a time you can do all of that again and be twice as strong. maybe confide in some friends at school for some help with your mom and always remember there will be a better day. listen to some music and don't care what others say. you'll be ok. we're here for you. 💜
My mom is the Same
Sameee
I hate it when school just yells at you for hurting yourself instead of helping
This is why school needs to change
My school is really good... its my parents that are the issue
Ikr
My school is shit a kid said he was going to shoot up the school IN FRONT OF THE FUCKING PRINCIPLE AND SHE DIDINT DO SHIT he also tried to stab like 15 kids in the school and nothing happend to him
Right!!! When my principle found out she called me stupid!!!
I got the same name as you
Is it just me or did anyone else use the excuse they were climbing a tree and got scratched or something? I used that so many times lol. This video really helped btw!
#survivor; ‘lol’ ???? It’s not that funny
hehe... yea. but then they got too deep... XD
I say I fell into a rosebush
they were horizontal you could tell it was self harm
It was a cat scratch
fun fact: this happened to me...i lost friends....my parents lost trust in me...my teachers and the staff put so much pressure on me...and i hate almost everyone there now...so i absolutely understand...you're amazing, i love you for making this and it's made me feel better...💜
I got suspended and taken out of my classes for three days after my school found out about my self-harm. The school now sees me as their "problem student" and they view me as someone who "needs to be fixed". plus, they day I left the school teachers had a conversation with everyone in the school about self-harm, so everybody knew it was me.
***** Thanks so much! that means a lot!
that's bullshit... I hope you are better now tho ❤❤
fudge nuggets220 Thanks so so so much! :))
I would lay low for awhile if I was you.
And did they get you any help?
Misti D Yes. They were also quite helpful at times. Thank you very much!
My school got involved. Everything got so much worse.
Emily Friedman hey I have gone through the same plz add me on Snapchat sharma.mohini and we can talk
Mohini Sharma I only have insta
then add me on insta mohini_0224
Mohini Sharma okay. Im emmy_the_lil_chicken_nugget
Emily Friedman Oml smae
Yes, Ppl that self-harm are good at lying...they say..."I'm fine..."
Lisa Playzz hey that’s my excuse ;-:
CRINGE
@@christinawatkins1790
Ummm how?
Lisa Playzz “they say “I’m fine...” 😂😂that sounds so stupid I’m sorry not sorry
@@christinawatkins1790 thats rude...
“Please, please, please keep yourself together and stay alive for me.” That hit me so hard. Thank you for making this type of context; a lot more people need to know about mental illness and it prevents future generations from having to suffer from exposure like you did.
You look beautiful...ps...I love your hair😊
Btw...i subed 😊❤️
CrybabyForever same
OneGayDolphin THIS COMMENT IS OLD, BUT I LOVE YOUR PROFILE PHOTO
In 8th grade, my math teacher saw my arm had cuts, she sent me to the nurse and she talked to me and made me call my parents and tell them everything and it just made everything worse. When I got home I was grounded and kinda made fun of by my dad. To this day, I still am ridiculed and made fun of. One day at Wendy's, a worker had some scars and my dad pointed it out and said to me (verbatim) "look at his arm. you see those scars? you want to look like that? you want to look like him? no boy will like that acy." It still fucks me up to this day.
I wanted to make a comment for this but I dont even know what to say.... I just feel so bad.
I am so sorry that all happened to you... 💔
GabePlays true true
GabePlays They don't do it "For Fun"
Acy Bost that’s awful. Your parents should give you support - not make you feel like you’ve done something wrong.
i draw on myself to try and stop myself from self harming.
me too
glenda roa I have a therapy book that suggests that! I want to get a bunch of markers soon 😊
glenda roa same
glenda roa it's a good practice
I think i'll be doing that
I just say my cat scratched me :)
me too :)
ZARG 0 that’s not funny wtf is wrong with you , you can’t go round telling people to cut themselves
ZARG 0 I don’t think you realise how sick in the head that is gtfo
ZARG 0 I’ve seen a lot of cringey things in my life but I NEVER wanted someone to end their life because of it. It’s never too hard to be nice and want someone to be happy. Open your eyes and see that she has went through so much that you would never be able to understand even with fine eyesight and ears. I pray you go to hell.
ZARG 0 lmao why u here if u find her cringey, stop hating and try to make ur own content
When my dad found out that I self harmed he said next time I did it he would ground me and that just made so so mad because he wasn't providing help and its just ugh he annoys me
self harming does nothing for you, GET HELP AND STOP CUTTING YOURSELF!! god, I swear I get so frustrated with people
they can't control it they feel unimportant and they want to die because of stupid bullies
I just don't get people who self harm, I get really irritated when people cut. most of the people who do cut just do it for attention or they think they have the hardest life ever when they really dont. I've been through abuse, beatings, bullies, rejections, sexual harassment. I've also been ignored by my family and apparently ghosts can't get enough of me! I hate my mom so much I've thought of killing her, I've seen my dad abuse my brothers! I know you probably think if me as an attention whore, but the reason I say all of this is because I want to say, after all I have been through, I have never cut myself! no matter how hard my life is, I never cut myself ever because I know other kids have worst lives than i do. I don't care if you think I just want attention or sympathy, I don't but think what you want. Rant over!
i hate when people cut for attention but other than that it's serious
do you still do it cause I will do my best to help you 😟
Some kid in school grabbed my arm, pulled my sleeve down, and held it up for all the kids to see. Then he yelled “look everyone, I know her secret!”. Yeah..
Edit: thanks for all the support I hope everyone’s having an awesome day :)
*THAT SUCKKKSSS I FEEL DO FREAKING BAD FOR U*
Hes messed up
what... the fuck
Same thing happened to me in pe
Illogical Logic what happened next? Did you smash his skull in the ground? Did the kids told him to fuck off?
She was so brave to do this.. 😭
To cut herself?
@@mycoachknowsthesheriff are u serious?
Walking Panda I think she meant to talk about it not about cutting herself..
To cut herself?
CGI Animates My Story no no to talk. About it p.
I want to jump through the screen and give her massive hugs and comfort her so much and cry together 💞❤️😘🙈💙💜🙏🤟
When I was 13, now I'm 14, but when I was 13 and because I live in one of the most suicidal states in the nation, the 7-12 grades have to watch a video about depression and suicide. When I was in 7th we did the same thing but at the time I wasn't depressed or self harming. In 8th we watched the same video but I thought the school had forgot to do it that year so I told some of my closer friends that I cut. Long story short they wrote my name on a slip of paper that said "I'm worried about [insert name]" and if your name was written, you got sent to the councillor. I got home that night and my parents were sitting on the couch I had to stay downstairs and talk to them about it. And I broke down crying, and they still didn't let me to me room. Then my mom started crying thinking that I did it because of her. And my dad just say confused because he didn't understand why I did it. And I got sent to the councillor again that year by what I heard was my P.E. teacher, she's super nice. And I got home and it was the same situation. And I dont know how long I've been clean but I'm starting to feel better but still a mildly insecure about the scars. Hey thanks if you read all of this ❤
I read it
I'm glad you over came it and that your parents were supper understanding, some people just don't get it or how it makes us feel.
Wow the same story happened to me I'm in middle school one of my friends saw my cuts and was worried and went up to the counselor and told her that I cut myself and I'm depressed. When. I arrived at home my dad gave me a hug randomly. I went to set my stuff down in my room, then my dad told me to come and sit down at the dining table to talk to them and told me that he got called from the counselor. We talked and I said that I have only cut myself once and I'm not going to do it anymore. My mom started to cry and they asked if I needed a therapist I said no. My dad told me that I was going to get called up to the counselor and they were going to do a body check of me. I was so stressed out the next day when I went to school. Personally I love school but I feared it that day. I didn't get called up to the counselor yet but I stopped cutting to prevent myself from going up to the counselor.
I read it all ❤️❤️
That's great
Bless you, sweetie.
I am now 37 years old, and when I was a teen I used to cut myself.
my dad was a sign painter, so I had an endless supply of brand new razor blades...
I don't know why our when I stopped. probably when my drug addiction kicked in full gear.
numbing the same pain I guess I was trying to address with my cutting? I don't have the answer to that.
I'm over ten years clean from heroin now, and I don't cut.
I used to cut or burn my tummy and my wrists, and still have scars to this day.
youngsters, my heart goes out to you!
God Bless you, bring healing, freedom from addictions! as I'm writing this comment, you are crying with emotion on my screen.
my heart goes out to you!
I like your inspiration I don't cut I like that u took the time to comment something nice
I've always wonder why I never saw adults walking around with any scars or cuts on them but I started to worry what if some of us don't make it to adult hood now I know the story of someone who has not only fought something like this but has overcome that kinda thing
You're a beautiful soul lady
i don't like pain no thnx
I agree. I stared crying. I need to stop cutting but I can't
*Talking as a friend of a self harmer*
we were in history class watching a movie when my friend julie was called by the teacher to go to the hallway. We were both confused and she left coming back crying i felt protective and put up my guard asking wat happened. She said they were happy tears because the teacher noticed her scars and told her she could talk to him about her problems and wat he could do to ever make her feel more comfortable. He, our English teacher and the art teacher all paired up to always check in on her. She cried because she always assumed people would judge her for it but they didnt. I have always made sure not to make her feel judged and this reminded me exactly why. Im sorry so many of you in the comments have bad experiences like this and i hope more can have a story like julies.
I know that you wrote this a long time ago but I just feel like I need to say you and those teachers are amazing. I wish my school would have that support for me. I wish every school had that support. This world needs more people like you. 💖
Your teachers are amazing.
mally cat
I want to have your friends teacher
I was self harming,I was really hurting and I had to say something so I told my friends,at first it didn’t bleed,it would the scab....
At first I would use needles,then I started using razor blades...
One day I was gripping my arms cause I was bleeding...I was wearing my moms hoodie that day so I had to keep secretly looking at my arms,then my friend realized and forced my to show my arms to her...
I showed her my arms and I told her not to tell anyone,she told my other friends...and they scared me to death,they locked my into a bathroom stall,I started crying so I was let out of the stall,then the first friend that found out...
Told the teacher....
Then my teacher walked up to me in class and told me my counselor wanted to see my so u went to the counselor...my heart was pounding...we had a talk about my self harm...
She told my mom...and when me and my mom were talking about it...I was hiding something,she said “I know your hiding something...please tell me”I told her I’m lesbian,she supports me..
I still do it to this day,I still haven’t exactly haven’t gotten the help I need...
But I use my nails now...but I’ve been keeping them short so I don’t hurt myself...
That is my story...
I wish my friends did that to me cause it makes me sad that I'm keeping secrets from SO MANY people :( even my school counselor. I would tell her as long as I know that she wouldn't get mad or something idk but I'm glad you haven't hurt yourself as bad ever since
@@AjTheDarkestNarrator I'm also harming myself with nails and trust me this isn't such a big difference of doing it with a knife or doing it with nails... If u use nails u are scratching of your skin and there is also blood and all this shit...
... Im in middle school and im 12, I do it as well because my parents are homophobic and im pansexual and genderfluid, and im thinking about telling soneone like the counseler but 99% tell the school and your parents about it, only 1% acually help you.
i didn't know how common self harm is. reading the comments are making me cry because ive never done it and can't imagine what you must be going through to be hurting yourselves. please stop!!! i send my love to all of you!!!!!!
Nat Bornel that is so meaningful. Thank you! 🖤
Me too..
We can't stop. it's not that easy. It hurts, yes, But every cut is a window that our sadness flows out of. The deeper the cut, the more sadness we release, or that's what it feels like for me...
Yaritza Alvarez I’m so happy/sad about this comment. It is so true. I share similar feelings. 💜🖤💜
BALEIGH PEOPLES can I help please?
School is a terrible place.
It is it made me cut to and it was getting worse and worse when my mom found out that I cut and she just screamed at me and told ne that I was fine and it's only stupidity making me cut and it just got worst and I wanted to die so I just cutted on my legs and stop cutting my arm's because it was easyer to hide the cut with long shorts and stuff... The arms cuts heald and my legs where full of cuts what where older because it was going to be summer soon so i stopped and stuff.... But sometimes I wanna cut again and i do but at places where it's visible and stuff like that and sometimes I have so hard suicidal thoughts that I cryed so much and wanted to die so hard 💔
Darkipasta its a fucking prison ;-; they ruin lives there...
It makes everything worse but adults don't understand or take it seriously when you say you wanna die
I agree.
YES IT IS I START 7TH GRADE TOMMOROW PRAY FOR ME
Your actually a very beautiful young lady! ❤️💛🧡💚💙
Yes
Teachers: always tell a trusted adult at school or home if you are having problems or just need to talk
student: I'm hurting myself I don't know what to do :(
Teacher: oh... you can trust me I wont tell anyone *tells everyone in staff, makes you feel more self conscious about what others look at you like*
Student: another thing to worry about thanks
this is how it plays out in my head if I say anything :(
Floof Fox The Therian same for me. i need help, but i know getting my school involved is just gonna make things worse (especially because one of my classmates went through it as well but she had it worse, i dont wanna trigger some bad memories) so if things arent gonna be better by the end of the year, i'll tell my mom cause i dont wanna harm myself any longer. if you desperately need help please try to get it somehow, even if it's by using different ways than directly telling your parents, just calling a hotline helps a lot, there are a lot of them all around the world. i hope things will get better for you soon. 💜
That happened to me like 3 days ago and my family knows but my mum didn't under stand why they had to tell her - '- and I have to talk to the principal on Monday
@@zypher6018 same ;~;
Okay but if they can't help you, it's not only a legal issue but a moral issue. How would they feel if someone asked them for help that they couldn't provide, and didn't say anything, and then the kid killed theirself?
Floof Fox The Therian that’s what actually happens, I would know
I want to hug her so bad. i know how this feels and I'm still struggling with depression myself but my self harm finally stopped.
Same
Same..... But sometimes I just have too... Self harm everyone who has done that and has depression nows how it is to cut..
You. Yes, you. YES I AM TALKING TO YOU! Pretend I hugged you. ( in a non creepy way )
Janine Napierala ty
thx :)
thanks :) sending a hug back (also in a not creepy way)
Janine Napierala Thanks 😊
*hugs back in a non creepy way* For some reason this made my day, thank you
I've never really been caught, but there have been so many times where it was close and it makes me so panicked.
When I self harmed, I wasn’t planning on telling my parents but my mum noticed and she grounded me for weeks. Isolating me made it worse and I hurted more. I was treated like some strange being and not human and my friends, they got mad at me, only a few understood then it became a competition between my friends, who could do it more, and they got sympathy and I became an outcast, I had been doing it for years before then and no one noticed me at that point and the world let me continue. Ive stopped now but I still feel urges and wish I could do it but after all that, I know I shouldnt.
Same but my mum just screamed at me and told me self harm was because of stupidity and I'm fine there's no reason for me to cut and stuff but It wasn't stupidity It is my depression making me cut and stuff and they find out one year later that I had depression because I went to an physiologist in secret he ask me I he should call my parents and talk to them about it first so I didn't have to start and get said that I'm not having depression like the first time and it got better I don't really cut anymore only when i can't stio myself from it.. 😅💔
grounding is probably the worst punishment for something like that. did she think you were just gonna "learn your lesson"? that's just.. I don't get what she was expecting..
Daisy Delano that’s why you cut on your legs because wrists just don’t cover up enough
I saw a girl at a carnival last week who had scars all over her arms and legs. You couldn't see her skin. I just stopped, while people were walking behind me, and started crying. I wanted to tell her that it was ok. That she was loved. That she didn't need to do this to herself. I've started struggling with minor depression and anxiety. I've only ever thought about cutting, never done it. I want everyone feeling like this to feel better.
I don't care about my low self image but when I see people like her, or the girl at the carnival, I want to help them. I just don't feel like I'm worth spending time on. The only way I'm ever able to say anything about it is when I type it and pretend no one will see it because I don't want people wasting their time on my problems.
I feel the same way...
Zoe Same thing here. You did the right thing, love.
I feel you.
I self harm, when my mom found out she told me I was fine and I can get over it. I still cant, She found out in 6th and 8th Im going to 9th grade. 😑😭😞💔
Megan A same...
I guarantee you can get through this, it takes years to be happy again, and to find who you are. Finding who you truly are as a person is so important, because you're the only person that's gonna love and take care of you the way you deserve.
Please don't hurt yourself, be strong and fight for you. Believe in yourself, love yourself and be the best you
Me too.... I’m so sorry.
Tell her again, and if that doesn't work tell your school counselor
Megan A me too..
Ok so this is my story.
Age 10 (maybe 11)
I was very upset, I was failing in school and stress and shit.
Umm... So I took a box cutter from my mom's shelf and.... Did the worst thing in my life and it was the worst decision I had ever made, I did it constantly. Thighs arms and wrists. I it was insane and terrifying my and my mom found out because of the damned school and was in the hospital for 8 days and was put on Prozac. Age 11 1/2
And I became anorexic now I'm turning 12 in a few weeks and still going through it all. :( It's hard. But besides all that if anyone needs help. Ask me, I can give you my Instagram or number and you can vent or talk, because if I can't help me I can help someone else.
Edit: I am no longer anorexic and I got the help I needed and suggest everyone to find the help you need.
ACE OF SPADES me pleaseeee
Hi ace this is my story when i was 10 my ante die and got really sad so i just wanted to die then i a girl with cut and i asked her about it so after that i got a box cuter and cut my thighs because i owes wore Jeans so nobody else sall them but then i cut my wrist, ankles, thighs, and hips and i did these all on x-mas break so i whant back to school (I'm in 5th grade ) and 1 of my friend came to me and said she self harm so i said i did too but one day her mom sall them and said i did to so she called the counselor. The next day i whant to the counselor and she called my parents (I'm 11 by now ) so thay talked to me about it. Now I'm still cutting but only my friend knows about it but i just mit have depression but thank you for your time. Be safe :3 BTW im still in 5th grade and 11
Idk if you still want to talk but it would be nice to have someone going through similar things to talk with
Your story is exactly mine...
Omg sweetie you are so young, you are crazy strong for dealing with that at such a young age
i told who I thought was my best friend that I self harm. the next day, my whole year knew.
CeriBerry c: aww I'm so sorry for you :c that really sucks
oh god im so sorry that's horrible. i really hope that you have gotten over self harm. I don't self harm but i know that it's one of the most emotionally draining and stressful things someone can do. I know that the sadness is probably still there, but i hope that you're at least doing better.
Awe I'm sorry but if it makes you feel better I like your profile picture (:
Ceriberry c: that's terrible
Ceriberry c: oh my god im so sorry
btw I love ur profile pic so much 😂
Thats true we become good liars 😔
Thats y i dont self harm because people might notice... I dont tell anyone anything
+Safa H same
What do you mean can you explain
Yepp
Yep😞
*hugs* I don't like seeing you cry
I started to cut at age 6. Not because I was depressed, but because I love to feel pain and see the blood slowly appearing on my skin. I told this to my teacher, and she told me that I am a psychopath. But I don't have any symptoms of being a psychopath...
Blood kink maybe
Evan ? girl, she was 6 wtf
6 is a very young age to start cutting yourself. Most kids that age injure themselves by accident, but not on purpose.
Your teacher was a bitch
@@kaisoliz2533the fuck man.
My school is shit and when they knew about my self harming all thy did was call my parents and tell me I need to go to a mental hospital and wouldn't let me back until I did and then when I got back all my teachers knew about it and would just watch me the whole hour (which is really uncomfortable for me cause I'm a really awkward person) I think that schools and stuff don't know how to handle stuff like that because most self harmers don't try to make people notice it so no one ever notices it
Just Gianna Things you want fucking attention if you didnt you wouldnt try to hide the scars since you wouuldnt be embaressed
+Itachi Uchiha what the fuck is WRONG with you?!?
Rorrx nothing im just fed up with this its bullshit you have no reason to ham your perfect bodyo
I personally don't, but you're encouraging them to do it.
when are going to mind your own fucking business and stop calling people attention seekers what if she was your sister or someone you cared about and who in their right mind told you that if you did cut you wouldn't be embarrassed I don't cuss normally but 🖕
This video is true. 100% people should show love to ppl who harm not isolate them
i once remember back in grade 9 (years ago) that i cut i arms completely from top to bottom with my depression. i tried to get out of gym class because my arms would be visible for a whole hour. i put 2 tenser bandages on both arms to make sure my cuts weren't visible when class started. but my dumbass gym teacher told me to take them off or she would take them off for me as everybody was staring at us arguing. eventually after arguing with her for 10 minutes, i took them off and she just stared at me for a solid 20 minutes basically and so did everybody else. i was so ashamed and embarrassed like nobody would believe. she told me "if you're gonna cut your arms, get out of my gym class!". i gladly dropped out of her class as soon as she said that
Brookep268 omg I want to beat your teacher so bad
thats exactily what you needed you self minded fuck
Itachi Uchiha what the hell? you're fucking disgusting, theres something wrong with you dude. fuck off.
justin walker SHUT UP YOU'RE NOT HELPING THE PROBLEM
justin walker you don't know why she did it so don't judge you are not making things better
Ive been re-watching this video for years. Every time that I feel like hurting myself or I'm just sad and crying and I feel like a mess i come back and watch this. I'd say 8/10 times it'll stop me from cutting. I really thank you for that.💜 you should be a therapist☺
Alpaca Sauce same
Wonka same here💞
In September, my scars were very prominent from the summer. It was still scorching hot outside, so it was strange to see me in a hoodie. One time, someone I knew very closely and knew about my harming PULLED MY SLEEVE UP and acted like she never knew about the cuts. And she did all of this in front of my class! Needless to say, my parents were told the next day.
Savannah Gardner that is so messed up I would never do that to a friend or in class with millions of people. if my friend did that to me I would probably die and I would tell them we arnt friends anymore cause thats not appropriate in school to do even if someone is self harming if they are worried they should be talking to a counselor about it not showing the whole class about it. but its ok I cut too. we can get through this together I'm here if you need someone to talk to.
oh my gosh...i'm so sorry...i know how it feels and it's terrible...
savannah gardner that’s fucked, you should’ve beat her face in if you’re both girls
Maybe she wanted to help...she just did it in a very wrong way.
Before 1 year my classmate accidently saw my cuts and told all class and they all laughed about me and bullied me (again) but teachers luckly dont do nothing. :) but they knowed that I self harming because my school is small. Since that I cut in places where cant easy see.
I started self harming at 11.
I went two days through it. I told my parents. They quickly set up therapy for me. No family support.
I relapsed at the age of 12, a few days ago. I'm still fighting it.
I have to hide them.
But we'll all stay strong.
ANerdyTaco Jr I'm 12 too, my family wasnt there for me either, but i didn't get any counseling
It’s ok guys I’m also 12 (lol) and we will all be able to stop doing this, We can all get over harming ourselves.
It just people don’t get that you’re going through this, the only people you can ever tell are your best friends because they won’t *&*$ you over when things get tough.
I had an addiction. What helped me was starting a morning and night routine aimed at developing discipline. If you want science it helps with developing the prefrontal cortex that helps with controlling cravings and self control but better than that it feels better, boosting feel good hormones that we try to get from addictions
Thank you, everyone.
Ima say yw from all of us! 😊✌️
you should literally go to middle school-highschool assemblies and talk about this. this is a important matter that some people don't get and it should be taught. i know how i felt when the school got into my self harming and then the state got into it because i'm adopted. and it was at the start of my 7th grade year. i hated myself so much just because of it. i thought i was the bad guy and since then i've been wearing sweatshirts and skinny jeans and just anything that will cover my body, even though i don't cut anymore i just get scared that everyone will judge me and that i'm just an disgusting person. i've pushed all my friends away because of this. but seriously, you should teach this to people and go to assemblies (it really doesn't matter where you're teaching it) this should be a serious matter that people need to learn. and i honestly think you should be the one who teaches it to everyone.
That has always been my dream! Motivational speaking for the youth c: I hope you're having a great day Bub xx
I agree she should!(:
You're not disgusting, you're beautiful. You're so so so so beautiful, don't let anyone tell you anything else than that. You're so important, you're more than "just another person with depression" , not a single cutter is "just another cutter". Im sorry i just don't want you or ANYONE for that matter, to feel that way. I love you, and so does everyone else .
+Howsenselessdeath Howpreciouslife I'm not can you help ne
+Reaghan Lightsey but why???!!!! Please tell me I don't understand why people do that! I need to know.
My classmates made fun of it when i was younger and was a suicidal/selfharmer....
But i couldnt tell anyone cuz no one knew about my selfharm.
one of my friends told my school counselor that i self harmed, and the counselor told my parents. it was absolutely terrible, and the only thing my parents did was ground me
Currently Phan That's fucking stupid. You can't punish someone for not being happy.
omg, i rlly hate those stories where parents ground their child for self harming. it just makes me so mad at the parents. ugh i hate it so much because its not even your fault for not being happy. stay strong.
that sucks. i know how you feel though because my parents grounded me for the entire summer because i tried to kill myself
That's fucking dumb to ground you for that wtf if my parents found out they probably would too
You should've talked to your friend before they started doing thT
And that's exactly why I hate school. Its horrible
smolbean you got that right
Stay alive fren
smolbean ||-//
Awww actually trembling while talking .. I just wanna hug you . You’re beautiful
I self harm in a strange way. I punch myself in the chest, head and stomach. Sometimes I even slap myself really hard.
I am a miserable monster.
Edit: thanks for the support guys, now I know that I'm not alone.
Chiary [*TMPandah AmorosoTM*] you aren’t a monster please don’t say that, this is gonna sound weird but just know I love you stay strong.
Chiary [*TMPandah AmorosoTM*] I ripped my toe nails off....
SyohH Tasonoh :(
chim chim wow BTS is amazing
chim chim thank you so much...
Guys, My best friend is self harming herself..She showed me her cuts...I don't know what I need too do...
//UPDATE: She got help, I asked If she wanted to tell her parents (I did not push), She refused, But did. She got help and is going uphils, Instead of cutting she draws on her hands, It helps she says.
We'll get through it. Whatever could happen but i will always stay by her side.
I really want to Thank you for all the help. I don't know what I had Done If I didn't ask you//
Sofiya tell someone ❤️😭🌎
ImNotYourMom - you legit have no friends i hope u get depressed u sket ur going to go hell anyway like ew
dance 22 i wish i had a friend who cared about it like you. i showed my friend once and she didnt do shit. she ended up doing really mean stuff to me and i befriended her cus of it. now because of that rumors about me at school are going around and now i am being bullied. there is a lot of backround to that but i bore anyone with that. *back to your thing* you should show her she had a friend. people do it because they are isolated and have no one. they think its their escape. i would show her she HAs a friend. and be a good friend to her.
dance 22 ask her why and if she wants help you can get her help
Don't tell someone. Whatever you do, don't. My friend found out about my cuts and she yelled at me and said if I ever do it again she will tell someone and will never forgive me. And when she yelled at me we were in a place where a lot of people could hear. It was outside tho. But I'm so scared of her telling someone and if someone found out I would be terrified and I feel like I would have to explain why I do what I do and I have very valid reasons but whenever Someone asks why and I try and tell them but I feel like my reasons are stupid. Sorry for the rant
Why are people like this?... People be like, "Oh she/he is self harming he/she is different we need to punish them instead of help them." like what the fuck!? I'm a 14 year old girl who started cutting when I was 12. at the age of 13, 2 months before my 14th birthday, I was in my sister's room watching videos with my 2 sister's and my brother. suddenly my foster parents walk into the room and one of them goes, "I'm going to check your arms." and I refused at first but then i let her and she yells, "WHAT THE FUCK!?" at first i didn't cry. But then she told me, "Do you wanna turn out just like your mom!? is that why you're doing this!?" and it triggered me because I didn't. she didn't understand what i was going through! then she tells me to stop yeah like that FUCKING helps. I had to go and tell my counselor. and after that when i came to school I dont know how but everyone knew. I felt like an embarrassment and I literally started to become judged and started to be called an attention seeker and a whore.
why do people do this to us? do they really think, " oh they're self-harming let's embarrass them and they'll know not to do it next time!" well they're wrong! They're just making things worse for us! I'm hurt and broken and torn inside and just people can't get that. and I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who feels this way.
Alyssa Cervantes stay strong. Don't let other people make things worse. Don't listen to them low lives who think they know everything.
Alyssa Cervantes you're a beautiful girl. stay strong
Alyssa Cervantes So sorry, love. Stay safe, beautiful
Alyssa Cervantes SHUT THE FUCK UP
RGS Cam Y DONT U SHUT THE F**K UP B**CH
Im 2 weeks clean but I'm have such I hard time not cutting
Same, but the only reason I'm not cutting is because it's getting so hard to hide
@@Sam-wh3ik same bro, my dad checks every once in a while, the fourth or fifth time he cried, I couldn't believe my eyes, I stopped ever since, but I still want to do it since the kids in middle school suck.
They put me in counseling. They don't react well, ever.
Same
Yeah, the school counselor called my parents just because I dug my nails into my hand. Just some pinches!
I told my mom about it
She said I'm 13 and I'm forcing myself to do it And she doesn't care
Philip Hamilton stay strong 🌹
You were really brave to tell her in the first place, I'm so sorry about what she said... I'm 13 too and have self harmed as well, so if you ever need to talk I'm here to listen😊💕
How could she fucking say she doesn't care.
Right... on a completely unrelated note, has anyone seen my rifle?
I’m totally not an assassin. I swear.
I’m actually not, I’m a heister.
Go to ur friends/ counselor
And this is why I have trust issues
Find Me // same
I have trust issues because OF THE DAMN RAISINS COOKIES THAT LOOK LIKE CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES
Find Me Exactly
When I told my counselor about how I was feeling she straight up told me “stop lying to yourself, you’re sad and over acting”. Or something like that. She then told my parents and the rest of the school. I was pulled out of class almost every day to go to either her or another staff member. People would stare at me and look at me differently, it was terrible. One day I was so fed up with it; when I was called up to her room sat down and said “I’m fine will you all just leave me alone!” Walked out and I was never called back in there. Well not yet at least. Staff members, if you’re reading this I want you to go on your campus and do something about this “system” of yours and FIX it. I’m speaking for everyone who’s been through problems such as depression, anxiety, trauma, anything, we DON’T want to be told were insane, we DON’T want to be told we’re fine. we WANT to be feel sane and as if we are a normal person on campus. DON’T make us feel like we’re crazy. Give us patience, when we are ready to talk to you, we will. But until then, give us our space and let us figure our lives out.
does most of people start cutting at the age of 11 and 12??
Pink Fluffy Unicorn I do 🤷🏻♀️
I started self-harming with a pencil at 12 years old, but only recently have I actually used a knife.
I'm stopping though. I don't want to be taken to a mental hospital; those will make your life hell.
I started at 13, but then again, im still 13 , so I started this year
Fandomfreak62 I started when I was 13 I’m 17 now, 18 in a few months. I’ve been clean for about 5 months now. Please try and stop as soon as you can. Talk to people you trust. Find other ways to cope with the pain. You’ll get through it ♥️
I was 11 (i'm know 13 and still cutting/carving)
I self-harm too... I dont want to tell anyone and always play pretend... I fake being happy i try to feel happy but its hard....sometimes I forget what happiness even is...
Mysterious Person That’s how it is for me to I haven’t and don’t want to tell everyone I tell myself I’m the best actress because everyone thinks I’m the happiest person ever when I’m not
@@savannah9620 ikr People know me as the most motivational person that is positive but somehow I can't motivate myself at all
Mysterious Person yea
Welcome to the internet now everyone knows
Oof that's relatable
This made me cry. My best friend self harms and I dont know what go do. she just started 2 weeks ago. and I notice them but I'm so scared to say something to her about hem because that will make her feel worse. 2 weeks ago she had to go to the hospital because she tried to kill herself. I just want to help her but I dont want to make it worse. What do I do?
No they dont know
they dont know shes self harming
talk to her
just ask her why she cuts if she doesn't answer just hug her and let her cry when u cry that means ur human just talk it all out and just let her cry..... ask for more advice from me if u want I had the same thing will a friend of mine
I know you want to help, but there's nothing you really can do
if you want to help her talk and go out with her, like some place where you can have fun and you both enjoys the time you have together.
You can only be supportive, by making a smile on her face, make her laugh and that should help her enjoy life again
i self harm a lot. i try so hard not to but it’s literally an addiction 💔
Bro, I was in Freshman year, and my first experience was on the top of my forearms, but nobody could see the cuts or scars because of the way my skin looks on my arms. But before that, I stupidly took a razor to my cheeks and did something similar to the joker, or Jeff, before I even knew about the two characters, i was going through some shit at that time, so I thought "Oh, yeah, totally good idea to cut a smile into your cheeks". Instead of them coming to me and asking if I was okay, or if I was self harming, or if I needed someone to talk to, they were dragging me out of the school in handcuffs without asking me a single question, I spent 7 days in psych ward, under the "Baker-Act" law, essentially, they threw me in there against my will, without talking to my parents or teachers, this place was full of people who honestly should've been there, they needed serious mental help, I got my ass beat on a daily basis by the other patients. And I still believed my mother's "Do no harm" rule, so eventually I stood up for the one guy in there who was nice to me, who happened to be gay, and the others didn't like that, so I started trying to defend him by asking "What's so wrong with being gay?" and this big black guy (no racism intended) started getting heated and eventually started kicking my ass, so I'm standing there getting the merciless fuck beaten out of me, I just stood there, looking through the glass at the staff on-duty, and they SAT THERE AND FUCKING WATCHED. When I finally got out of that horrid place, my view on humanity and life itself was deteriorated, I later attempted suicide 3 times, but failed each time before my mother found out.
What I learned: The baker-act law is the stupidest shit I've ever heard of, They take you against your will, throw you into a building heavily regulated, and full of psychotics who were there for strangling their moms and burning down their houses, the staff was corrupted as hell, and the more you plead to be let go, and that you don't belong there, they extend your stay.
Aftermath: Everyone in school thought of me as the psycho, the guy gonna shoot up the school, the guy who probably murders animals in his spare time. My social life was ruined, and because I kept self harming, they sent me to a behavioral school, and my god... Oh my FUCKING god... Shit got bad... Whilst I was at this place, they said if I were on the gold level of this retarded point sheet for a month, I could go back to a regular school... I was there for 2 and a half years. This place baker-acted me an additional 7 times, for stupid reasons like saying I wanted to sharpen my machete in preparation for a camping trip. I was saying that to my friend, and I glanced over and saw the teacher on the phone with the school resource officer saying "He's planning to sharpen a machete and kill people"... Obviously I reacted badly to that, calling her a dumb c-word who didn't know shit about me.
When I finally got out of that horrible place and spent my Senior year in a normal school, people still treated me as an outcast because of the scars and stories spread about me. One of the students also made it out alive and was sent to the same normal school as me, and they spread rumors behind my back. Now that I'm graduated, I still have night terrors of going back to that behavior school, I wake up covered in sweat, and hyperventilating almost every morning. Thankfully I'm doing a lot better now thanks to being out of school, and I'm applying for a job soon. This is just my experience, considering the video topic, I felt I should share my past. Peace.
That sounds horrible. I can't even imagine going through the same thing
Wolflore Schrödinger sure....You obviously don’t know what Baker acting is, you don’t get to decide. Also sounds like a lie, which it is. There is a difference between lying and being honest.
Weave Snatcher Everyone has the right to believe what they'd like to believe, I didn't post this comment to draw attention, I was only sharing my experiences
This is why I have lost my faith in humanity. How could anyone in their right mind do this to someone who wanted to be normal? These days, everything confuses me. What happened to the 'good' people in this world?
❤❤❤ my love and support to you buddy ❤❤❤
"Who are they going to run if they get hurt and feel isolated? They're going to run to the cigarettes. They're going to run to the drugs. They're going to run to their self harm.
I never thought I would see a RUclipsr that actually makes me feel like she knows me personally .
You are a life saver . Thank you .
Clean = 6 and a half weeks (Edited)
WaitWhosMario? Same here
really happy for your Progress.Youre lucky.
WaitWhosMario? I'm so happy for you ^.^
Congrats I'm clean a day😔 I'm ashamed I really am. I'm trying to stop. It was the first time in I think a month.
Clean 6 moths ☺
Thank you for sharing your experiences. It makes a lot of people feel less alone. I have my own self harm story to share. School is really, really hard for me because I have no friends there who know about my depression. Like you said, self harmers are really good at pretending that they’re okay. I seemed like a happy person to most people. Then I get to rehearsal, and I break down. My theatre friends and I are so close, and I tell them everything. They know how isolated I feel at my school. I love them so much, and it feels like they are the only people who love me sometimes. I told them one at a time, and it really helped me to have them there for me. Then I told another one of my theatre friends that I was suicidal, and he freaked. He’s 15, so he’s a full two years older than me, and he’s tall and nerdy and very sarcastic. I didn’t know how fragile he was until I told him how much I wanted to kill myself and he nearly cried. He became so scared that I was going to commit that he got my mom’s phone number and called her. He didn’t tell her that I self harmed, even though I thought he did. All he said was that he was really scared for me, and that my mental health needed an intervention. So, my parents signed me up to talk with my school’s guidance counselor. That man is a terrible human being. I have never hated someone as much as I do him. At the beginning, he told me that our conversations were 100% confidential. What he didn’t do is tell me that if I told him about hurting myself, he would call my mom. So I was completely open, because I thought that it would lift a weight off of my shoulders. I showed him my scars, said how I had no friends at the school, etc. At then end of the conversation, he told me that he was going to tell my mom that I self harmed. I was so scared, even though I thought she knew. I had a breakdown as soon as I left that room. He is such a condescending person. I told him I have anxiety. He respond by saying, “Don’t self diagnose yourself. You’re fine.” I told him that I was going to go homeschooled after break because school is 90% of the reason I self harm. He told me, “ you’ll never make it into college if you go homeschool. You’re going to fail at life because you keep running away from your problems.” I don’t know who authorized that person to be a therapist, but it is NOT okay to tell a suicidal person that they are failing at life. That is not okay. I’m just so angry with this whole situation, because telling him has not helped me in the slightest. If anything, it has made me worse, and now he thinks that he’s some kind of hero and that we’re best friends, and that he cured me of any mental illness. I told him that I cut once, and that I didn’t like it. I’m pretty convincing, I guess, because I still do it daily. The only thing that helps me is seeing my theatre friends 3 times a weeks and crying out all of my problems to them.
So, if you have any friends who are going through mental illness, don’t snitch them to a crappy guidance counselor. Some things that help me are:
1. Getting long hugs from my friends
2. Crying for a while
3. Listening to the Dear Evan Hansen soundtrack
I was with one of my friends once, and he saw my scars, even though I told him that I didn’t do it anymore (which I did). He saw fresh marks on my wrist and broke down sobbing. Then I started crying. He told me how much he loved me and how he doesn’t understand how someone so kind and beautiful and such a good friend can be so hurt and go through so much pain. That hit me hard. I realized that he loved me, and that I had more friends who really cared about me.
Let people know that they are loved. That helps more that you could imagine.
Thank you for listening to my rant. Just know that I love you and that you deserve to live.
I feel so bad, ive got a good counsellor, BUT FUCK THAT GUY. WHO HIRED HIM?! ID BEAT HIS ASS IF I KNEW HIM!
That is a terrible man, really, how was he hired to be a therapist!?
I feel terrible you went through that. I really do wish you the best.
This is the most underrated comment I've ever seen
Yes it's been 5 years but let's start a virtual hug chain
🫂
@epicverse42 man i thought i was the only one who came 7years late-
I'm clean for 5 months 🙌
Cristina Martis I'm so glad!! I'm very very happy that you have been clean for that long! :") You are doing amazing!
Cristina Martis Damn I could never do dat. Great work
Cristina Martis im clean for 2 weeks.
I'm clean for about 2 hours
3 weeks :)