This totally resonates. I had to walk away because I can only be so patient and I’ve learned from the past to not focus on the potential, but more on the present reality
This is crazily accurate and felt like a personal reading. You expressed everything I’m feeling, in words that I haven’t spoken to anyone, because I’ve been trying so hard to make sense of my thoughts. I love this person, our connection has been powerful and I’ve seen the future so brightly. But after 5 months of patiently waiting and watching him play out his other situations, I’m starting to lose myself - and hope. I actually decided today that I have to step back and if I’m worth it, he will start being the giver. Thank you xx
You are sooooo right You’re on point!!! It gets tiring. There is no reciprocation in this situation. It’s not a partnership, it has become frustrating and exhausting so I let it go without looking back. I love myself too. It’s exhilarating to be able to find my true self again.
Wow hit the spot w this one. I've been feeling I have been doing too much to help this person, who continues to ask for more..often have wondered is it love or survival. Thank u for this reading
Such an amazing and spot on reading . He is an Aquarius very closed off and fears commitment.. My patience has finally expired .. thank you 🙏 for this wonderful message
I'm a cross watcher (scorpio) which I also commented there that you're on point. He is Virgo. And I totally understand now that he is afraid to commit now because I asked him and for him it's too much so he dropped me just to save himself and not to repeat the cycle like his past relationships. If only he reached out to me and talked about this, we're still okay by now. But for him, less drama, less pain, so he dropped me and take all the blame.
I think this is reverse, I am a Gemini and he is Virgo. The reading is Virgo, very desapointing, cause I was willing to take the leap of faith, cause I saw so much potential in this connection
You are on point with my situation…I have stopped giving to this person and at the moment we aren’t speaking at all …I can’t give anymore and I’ve waited for 3 years for the relationship to go to the next level …IT HASN’T !! So I’m done ✔️ thank you
This is so on point. My husband has relied on me to carry the majority of our expenses for ten years. For years he’s lied and lied and lied about all this money he’s “about to get” but the money never comes or it comes and he blows through it immediately. Now I’m at a point where my income has gone down (temporarily because I’m starting an air bnb) so I need him to step up and pitch in more. He’s angry and is now acting like I’m using him for his money or something after so many years of me giving so much. It’s making me realize that he never intended to pitch in. All the lies he tells are baffling me too. I am honest with him and it’s like he doesn’t think it’s important to be honest with me at all.
He's emotionally unavailable because he's working on his trauma, military PTSD, and dismissive avoidant attachment in therapy. Right man, wrong timing. We like each other, but we cannot commit under these circumstances. From past experiences I know that trusting in potential is just hurting even more. Also, he still needs to get a divorce; they've been separated for a long time. He knows my stance toward his overall situation and thus we put boundaries in place to not get swept away in our communication. I don't fall easily for people or allow many close to me like him, so chances are I might still be available when he will be. But I need to rid myself of that painful hope; it's my empathy and compassion standing in my own way. I know he only wants the best for me though. It even hurt me when he suggested he could help me find a decent man, but I'm not even looking for a partner in general. Like him, people I'm interested in, they just stumble into my life one day and begin as friendships. I'm fully aware though that I'm the one in control as I'm the enabler of this unavailable situation and it's draining.
Sounds exactly like my poi!!! I know others have similar situations but It almost makes me feel freaky!?! Mine is a Cancer. We live an hour apart and to everyone around him...its like I dont't even exist or I'm just an old friend. Obviously, he wants to be appear very single when he isn't...on paper or otherwise. Hope to hear from you cause this is just kind of crazy.
@@Bonnie-wl6sm Well, yesterday, he stepped over our communication boundary and hinted at wanting to meet me... and when I reciprocated, the same thing played out as before. He became defensive, blamed me for wanting more commitment and cornering him with that, that I was unfair while he has to work on his mental health issues... yeah right, I was the one who put these boundaries in place and he crossed that line setting me up again with his fantasy of wanting to see me. I told him I'm not living in a fantasy and that he talked to me like a player, and that his indefinite statements are insincere. He just wanted to sweep it under the rug, but I confronted him, reminding him that we both came to the conclusion he needs to focus on his healing and we should just be (online) friends. He gaslighted me in believing I was the issue again wanting more while he clearly said he wanted to meet me, only to push me away again immediately. Then he acted like HE was confused because I said I wanted to be just friends and suddenly more? No, I had a right to be confused for him saying he wanted to hang out when, obviously, he did not. It really screws with my nervous system. At the same time, he said that many more people point out the same complaints about him, so he's definitely the common denominator in all of that and he knows it! I was in a relationship with a malignant narcissist before that got me onto my own healing journey, and it's sad to say that I'd rather deal with another narcissist, who clearly shows me that he's abusive, so I would walk away than a dismissive avoidant, who's all wishy-washy and wanting to do the right things, but screws up so badly time and time again. I try to reflect on myself why, again, I attract an emotionally unavailable man and keep entertaining him. I'm worth more than breadcrumbs, especially after what I've already been through.
Sounds like mine. The yo-yo...in and out crap. And his issues always take priority. I understand that but then don't draw someone into your life if you can't bring anything of value. They just expect you to be there when they have a need but then they change it up like you're the one being needy. I also wondered if mine had someone else on the side that lived near him because it seemed when things weren't good with her then he'd be texting and wanting to see me. Then when I'd think things are cool and let my guard down, he'd flip like a switch and text me saying he doesn't want me to come to his place and leave him alone! This was the day after I had just spent a couple days with him and he was like...call me when you get home..etc. I texted him after shopping and putting my things away. Said I'm home. Next evening I texted and said I hoped work went well. No reply. Next day ..nothing. I texted and said ..what's up? Then he blasted me. It threw me into a spin as I've been going through so so much major stuff and he knows this. I felt like I went back 10 steps and became so stuck again. I'm so drained from his crap, my family, my work and home responsibilities. And it's just me. You're much stronger than I am at this point. Been many years of constant doing, giving, running and being overloaded that I am totally drained and I'm dead serious. Standing up straight is difficult. I'm barely functioning. I am working on myself but it's really a struggle. I'm going to throw this out. Please don't think I'm totally crazy. Is this guy's initials TB?
@@Bonnie-wl6sm Fact is: WE BOTH DESERVE BETTER! ... And no, his initials are not TB. There's lots of people like this. It's not uncommon. But it's a small world indeed.
I don’t love his energy either he gives me bread crumbs and keeps me hanging on a thread. I give him so much and he doesn’t respect me. 😢😢😢 I don’t know how to protect myself. I don’t know how to get over him and let him go? I truly believe that I feel like I would never find someone that makes me feel comfortable and safe. That’s crazy thinking but I don’t know how to let him go. I’m in the savior role. He tells me he is sleeping with other women and won’t give them up while we work through this.
100% accurate. I ignored my gut telling me this was a repeat cycle from the beginning because they felt so good. He ended up dumping me because I asked for a weekly coffee date so that I didn't feel used 😂🫠
This totally resonates. I had to walk away because I can only be so patient and I’ve learned from the past to not focus on the potential, but more on the present reality
Amen 🙏…I’m at that point also 🥰
Well said.
Present reality over potential. 🎯
This is crazily accurate and felt like a personal reading. You expressed everything I’m feeling, in words that I haven’t spoken to anyone, because I’ve been trying so hard to make sense of my thoughts.
I love this person, our connection has been powerful and I’ve seen the future so brightly. But after 5 months of patiently waiting and watching him play out his other situations, I’m starting to lose myself - and hope. I actually decided today that I have to step back and if I’m worth it, he will start being the giver. Thank you xx
Gabrielle your readings are always so accurate it’s so scary, you’re definitely one of my favourite readers
Absolutely I second that 🙏🏼❤️✨particularly this one more than ever. It’s like a counselling session xo
You are sooooo right
You’re on point!!!
It gets tiring. There is no reciprocation in this situation. It’s not a partnership, it has become frustrating and exhausting so I let it go without looking back. I love myself too. It’s exhilarating to be able to find my true self again.
Wow hit the spot w this one. I've been feeling I have been doing too much to help this person, who continues to ask for more..often have wondered is it love or survival. Thank u for this reading
Such an amazing and spot on reading . He is an Aquarius very closed off and fears commitment.. My patience has finally expired .. thank you 🙏 for this wonderful message
You're really on point!!!
This totally resonated with me.. so much it was a little scary..
Holy cow this is so spot on right now word for word and it’s such a struggle
I'm a cross watcher (scorpio) which I also commented there that you're on point. He is Virgo. And I totally understand now that he is afraid to commit now because I asked him and for him it's too much so he dropped me just to save himself and not to repeat the cycle like his past relationships. If only he reached out to me and talked about this, we're still okay by now. But for him, less drama, less pain, so he dropped me and take all the blame.
my first time watchn you n it is spot tf on. it is crazy. iam virgo n he is a gemini. thank you for this 🖤
I think this is reverse, I am a Gemini and he is Virgo. The reading is Virgo, very desapointing, cause I was willing to take the leap of faith, cause I saw so much potential in this connection
You are on point with my situation…I have stopped giving to this person and at the moment we aren’t speaking at all …I can’t give anymore and I’ve waited for 3 years for the relationship to go to the next level …IT HASN’T !! So I’m done ✔️ thank you
Very accurate but roles are reversed.He (virgo) is the one making up excuses and not showing up for this connection
Agree with you 100%. I am Gemini and he is Virgo, making desapointmented about this connection
I'm also a crosswatcher, pisces and he is Virgo. I've waited 7 years for things to change. I'm giving up.
I smarten up awhile ago
This is so on point. My husband has relied on me to carry the majority of our expenses for ten years. For years he’s lied and lied and lied about all this money he’s “about to get” but the money never comes or it comes and he blows through it immediately. Now I’m at a point where my income has gone down (temporarily because I’m starting an air bnb) so I need him to step up and pitch in more. He’s angry and is now acting like I’m using him for his money or something after so many years of me giving so much. It’s making me realize that he never intended to pitch in. All the lies he tells are baffling me too. I am honest with him and it’s like he doesn’t think it’s important to be honest with me at all.
This is the Virgo in his own message..he did the leaving n hurting..after a month of I'm.never leaving you..
Agree with you spot-on
Wow wow wow wow WOW 👌🏼
He's emotionally unavailable because he's working on his trauma, military PTSD, and dismissive avoidant attachment in therapy. Right man, wrong timing. We like each other, but we cannot commit under these circumstances. From past experiences I know that trusting in potential is just hurting even more. Also, he still needs to get a divorce; they've been separated for a long time. He knows my stance toward his overall situation and thus we put boundaries in place to not get swept away in our communication. I don't fall easily for people or allow many close to me like him, so chances are I might still be available when he will be. But I need to rid myself of that painful hope; it's my empathy and compassion standing in my own way. I know he only wants the best for me though. It even hurt me when he suggested he could help me find a decent man, but I'm not even looking for a partner in general. Like him, people I'm interested in, they just stumble into my life one day and begin as friendships. I'm fully aware though that I'm the one in control as I'm the enabler of this unavailable situation and it's draining.
Sounds exactly like my poi!!! I know others have similar situations but It almost makes me feel freaky!?! Mine is a Cancer. We live an hour apart and to everyone around him...its like I dont't even exist or I'm just an old friend. Obviously, he wants to be appear very single when he isn't...on paper or otherwise. Hope to hear from you cause this is just kind of crazy.
@@Bonnie-wl6sm Well, yesterday, he stepped over our communication boundary and hinted at wanting to meet me... and when I reciprocated, the same thing played out as before. He became defensive, blamed me for wanting more commitment and cornering him with that, that I was unfair while he has to work on his mental health issues... yeah right, I was the one who put these boundaries in place and he crossed that line setting me up again with his fantasy of wanting to see me. I told him I'm not living in a fantasy and that he talked to me like a player, and that his indefinite statements are insincere. He just wanted to sweep it under the rug, but I confronted him, reminding him that we both came to the conclusion he needs to focus on his healing and we should just be (online) friends. He gaslighted me in believing I was the issue again wanting more while he clearly said he wanted to meet me, only to push me away again immediately. Then he acted like HE was confused because I said I wanted to be just friends and suddenly more? No, I had a right to be confused for him saying he wanted to hang out when, obviously, he did not. It really screws with my nervous system. At the same time, he said that many more people point out the same complaints about him, so he's definitely the common denominator in all of that and he knows it!
I was in a relationship with a malignant narcissist before that got me onto my own healing journey, and it's sad to say that I'd rather deal with another narcissist, who clearly shows me that he's abusive, so I would walk away than a dismissive avoidant, who's all wishy-washy and wanting to do the right things, but screws up so badly time and time again. I try to reflect on myself why, again, I attract an emotionally unavailable man and keep entertaining him. I'm worth more than breadcrumbs, especially after what I've already been through.
Sounds like mine. The yo-yo...in and out crap. And his issues always take priority. I understand that but then don't draw someone into your life if you can't bring anything of value. They just expect you to be there when they have a need but then they change it up like you're the one being needy. I also wondered if mine had someone else on the side that lived near him because it seemed when things weren't good with her then he'd be texting and wanting to see me. Then when I'd think things are cool and let my guard down, he'd flip like a switch and text me saying he doesn't want me to come to his place and leave him alone! This was the day after I had just spent a couple days with him and he was like...call me when you get home..etc. I texted him after shopping and putting my things away. Said I'm home. Next evening I texted and said I hoped work went well. No reply. Next day ..nothing. I texted and said ..what's up? Then he blasted me. It threw me into a spin as I've been going through so so much major stuff and he knows this. I felt like I went back 10 steps and became so stuck again. I'm so drained from his crap, my family, my work and home responsibilities. And it's just me. You're much stronger than I am at this point. Been many years of constant doing, giving, running and being overloaded that I am totally drained and I'm dead serious. Standing up straight is difficult. I'm barely functioning. I am working on myself but it's really a struggle. I'm going to throw this out. Please don't think I'm totally crazy. Is this guy's initials TB?
@@Bonnie-wl6sm Fact is: WE BOTH DESERVE BETTER! ... And no, his initials are not TB. There's lots of people like this. It's not uncommon. But it's a small world indeed.
Are you sure this isn't a personal reading? It couldn't be more on target 😢
I don’t love his energy either he gives me bread crumbs and keeps me hanging on a thread. I give him so much and he doesn’t respect me.
😢😢😢 I don’t know how to protect myself. I don’t know how to get over him and let him go? I truly believe that I feel like I would never find someone that makes me feel comfortable and safe. That’s crazy thinking but I don’t know how to let him go. I’m in the savior role. He tells me he is sleeping with other women and won’t give them up while we work through this.
Have some respect and drop him like hot potato 🥔
🙏👌🧐🤠
100% accurate. I ignored my gut telling me this was a repeat cycle from the beginning because they felt so good. He ended up dumping me because I asked for a weekly coffee date so that I didn't feel used 😂🫠