Living With Loss Series: Loss of a Spouse

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  • Опубликовано: 25 окт 2024

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  • @melis.j.
    @melis.j. 2 года назад +12

    I lost my beloved husband 8 years back from a heark attack. I lost many hopes. but today I am a Councillor for widows. God is good

  • @MariaTorres-wo8co
    @MariaTorres-wo8co 3 года назад +26

    I lost my husband of 34yrs together on April 10, 2019 Unexpected and suddenly 😭 I still think is a dream I miss him so much trying so much to stay strong and come to terms he's not here anymore that he's resting in peace 🙏 Prayers is what keeps me going Thank you for this video hopefully it will motivate or help any Widow & widowers in their times of grief is not easy there's no words that can describe the feelings of a spouse is your other half is the love of your life etc .

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..

    • @encouragingword1172
      @encouragingword1172 Год назад

      @@richardbradshaw7830 We all have to move on is not a helpful “encouragement”. And saying “we’ve all lost someone” is also not helpful. As a matter of fact, nothing is helpful but time and prayer. Platitudes only make people feel worse than they already do. If you want to comfort someone, just say “Thank you for sharing your heart with others. I’m praying for you.” Or something to that effect. Grieving people already know every platitude known to mankind, its all meaningless.

  • @mightymouse2098
    @mightymouse2098 Год назад +12

    I agree with Mary it is a nightmare that you wish you could awaken from. I went to bed a married woman and woke up a widow. I have had a hard time dealing with that. No kids, living in a foreign country very difficult.

  • @RodneyFreeman
    @RodneyFreeman 8 лет назад +28

    I lost my wife to cancer last year. :( Just seeing this video for the first time. So glad it's here for me to see. Thank you.

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf 5 лет назад +2

      sorry for your loss. you are not alone in this journey.

    • @justme6767
      @justme6767 3 года назад

      So sorry for your loss

  • @nyobibanks253
    @nyobibanks253 Год назад +4

    My prayer was for us to always go together.. i asked God for that ever since we got married. .My husband died on 9/11/23..The worse feeling ever.

  • @ladyluck5248
    @ladyluck5248 3 года назад +20

    I’ve been a widow from age 46. It’s been 8 years almost. My life has been a nightmare since my husband died.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад +2

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday!!!

    • @equynenergie
      @equynenergie Год назад +3

      I feel like my life is a nightmare too since my hubby passed …

    • @nyobibanks253
      @nyobibanks253 Год назад +2

      Oh my goodness...I am so sorry for your loss ..my husband died on 9/11/23😢😢😢😢it stings so bad..I don't even want to go on...I am so over this horrible, awful , sickening feeling.😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

    • @ladyluck5248
      @ladyluck5248 Год назад

      @@nyobibanks253I am 10 years in now and the sting you talk about isn’t near as bad. It basically becomes what you get used to and after 10 years I’m used to being without him. At first you feel like you’re in the Star Wars original movie when they are in the trash compactor : the walls ceiling and floor are closing in on you and there’s nothing you can do. I promise the raw raw pain lessens and you will cope better but for me , I’m so ticked I was widowed so young and will now have to work into my ‘70’s to support myself. It almost sounds crass but the financial aspect of this is really really difficult. :(. Plus I’ve been lonely all this time. It’s hard to make new friends in your forties and fifties because all of our couple friends headed for the hills.

  • @gwenking7700
    @gwenking7700 3 года назад +14

    I have been a widow for over 5 years. I am 59 years old. I hate being alone. I feel like half of me died with my husband. I have come to the acceptance stage finally but I don't expect to marry or date again. Who would want an old worn out woman? Even in the acceptance stage there is just a huge hole in my life. I isolate. I don't enjoy eating in restaurants because I deplore eating alone. I don't go to movies because I don't want to go alone. We loved to travel but I don't want to do it alone. My existence is one big alone and I have accepted that as well

    • @joannachristian6905
      @joannachristian6905 3 года назад +2

      You are describing my life. I could not eat in a restaurant and not see his face across the table. He died 7 months ago. But I am still married and we are still talking in a different way. I have the years and experience we had together and no one can replace that and it would not be fair to expect anyone to try.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад +2

      i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..

    • @ninashelley5044
      @ninashelley5044 2 года назад +1

      I understand

    • @gwenking7700
      @gwenking7700 2 года назад +2

      @@joannachristian6905 my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your husband. I just kept putting 1 foot in front of the other. It was all I could do ❤❤

    • @shotpusher
      @shotpusher 2 года назад +2

      I’m afraid to travel alone but I might do it anyway. He was looking for travel trailers so we could take our dogs & travel. We were cheated out of that. I wish I could find another widow to travel with me.

  • @brendaharris4487
    @brendaharris4487 6 лет назад +42

    I have been a widow for 3 months and there is no way i could ever marry again.. the thoughts of another man touching me just turns me off

    • @veronicacraigmorrow3300
      @veronicacraigmorrow3300 5 лет назад +9

      I feel the exact same way. My husband died in July.

    • @SweetJoyBG
      @SweetJoyBG 4 года назад +6

      I know exactly how you feel. I thought the same, but when I tried dating, it was worse. I had to worry about guys around my daughter and that pissed me off completely. Can't trust any men around your children. By the time they're grown and out on their own, you're just too old and fed up with me, that you learn to live the rest of your life alone. I settled that way. It's lonely, but safe.

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 4 года назад +1

      @@veronicacraigmorrow3300 I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

    • @megkag1977
      @megkag1977 3 года назад +7

      There's no way that I could ever marry again. We were together for 44 years, I love and miss him very much.

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 3 года назад +1

      @@megkag1977 it doesn't matter if you married again or not, but you could date and have a life partner, someone that will be there for you and stand by your side.

  • @maryashley1054
    @maryashley1054 4 года назад +12

    my husband if 28 years on January 2nd 2020 he had a heart attack it been 8 months he's been gone all I do is cry

    • @41blossoms
      @41blossoms 4 года назад +5

      I’m so sorry , my husband of 25 years passed away January 6th 2020 ... I know how your feeling ... most painful time in my life ... I’ll never be the same !

  • @jillyoung1282
    @jillyoung1282 Год назад +2

    What an amazing video. Thank you and Mary so much. ❤

  • @marilynpagliuca1478
    @marilynpagliuca1478 3 года назад +20

    I guess I would be considered to be one of the fortunate ones in that we were married 60 years and did grow old together but I feel to lose the love of your life after being together so long is more difficult ! We were still in love! I was totally broken. But my faith in God was the only thing. He picked me up and put me back together after 2 years and made me remember how much we loved one another and then all the good and bad memories started coming back. I laughed and cried and somehow woke up to the fact that I was still alive and just had to live with the pain. And so it goes till we’re together again. RIP my beloved Pete

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад +1

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday!!!

  • @richardpowers6576
    @richardpowers6576 3 года назад +16

    I have lost my wife of 41 yrs three days ago , my best friend . God we would laugh !!~!! now no more.

    • @richmilito5417
      @richmilito5417 Год назад

      You never know how much you love someone until they're gone. I miss her very, very much.

  • @brianh.5727
    @brianh.5727 2 года назад +2

    It’s so humorous how she talks about having to take up the responsibilities of that her spouse took care of before. I did that too and would mutter in my head, I just don’t know how she did this. Then I really realized how lucky I really was to have had her for the time we had together. Thank You so much for sharing this video. You are so wonderful and do really mean that.

  • @danjones9007
    @danjones9007 3 года назад +11

    2-1/2 months now. I pray each day to die in my sleep.

    • @caroleschachinger7908
      @caroleschachinger7908 2 года назад +5

      I understand, Dan. My beloved husband and I were sweethearts for 51 years. He died 2 months ago and I can't wait to be reunited with him. Life is so dark and meaningless without him. Please Lord, take me too. May God send His angels to comfort and sustain you, Dan.💔😭💔😭💔😭

    • @dannyjimenez9054
      @dannyjimenez9054 2 года назад +3

      I'm sorry for your loss. I can relate to what you're feeling. My wife passed on 4/6/22 I have zero will to live a life without her. I'll pray for you thank you for sharing.

    • @timsmith1020
      @timsmith1020 2 года назад +4

      Have faith Danny ❤

    • @dannyjimenez9054
      @dannyjimenez9054 2 года назад +3

      @@timsmith1020 Thank you Mr Smith, it means a lot to me. I do have faith Mr Smith. The hurt and pain is too much to bare. I thank you very much

    • @dannyjimenez9054
      @dannyjimenez9054 2 года назад +3

      @@caroleschachinger7908 thank you for your response Carole I appreciate it very much. Yes thats exactly what it feels like and so much more as you know. Honestly I don't see myself going forward, let alone be with someone else down the line. As people have said to me even though meeting someone down the line is not even something that I'm even thinking about at all. What's wrong with people? I'm just covering that aspect of it, I don't want anyone else I want I need my wife!! I don't want so called experts cliches. I'm sorry I'm just completely broken,I'm hurting badly. I miss my wife so much. How do you live your life without your life? Thank you so much Carole. I'll pray for you as well. If you need an ear to vent or what not I'm here. I don't judge anyone, that's not my place. Thank you

  • @maryashley1054
    @maryashley1054 4 года назад +9

    my husband dan was my life we had one son he's 28 now still helps me with taking me places

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 4 года назад

      I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday!!!

  • @Tamizsaelvi
    @Tamizsaelvi 3 года назад +2

    such a beautiful & transparent discussion...picking up from the pieces..

  • @chonghuijones1259
    @chonghuijones1259 3 года назад +14

    I lost my husband 2 months ago i am still grieving time so painful

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday!!!

    • @godschildyes
      @godschildyes Год назад

      God bless you dear heart!

    • @Minoinc
      @Minoinc Год назад

      @@richardbradshaw7830Yes, Yes!

  • @helenaskotowska5076
    @helenaskotowska5076 Год назад +1

    Excellent video. Thank you!

  • @amandamohammed3211
    @amandamohammed3211 2 года назад +12

    My husband passed away due to covid 19. We were only married for 1yr and it feels like we both got robbed of life together.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday!!!

    • @WeepingWidowSueAna
      @WeepingWidowSueAna 2 года назад +2

      I'm so sorry Amanda. I feel the same way. I lost my precious husband this month and I feel like we were robbed of life. We were just getting started and only had two years together as husband and wife. It's the hardest thing I have ever experienced. My heart goes out to you.

    • @PattyBio100
      @PattyBio100 Год назад +1

      So sorry for your loss.

    • @amandamohammed3211
      @amandamohammed3211 Год назад

      @@WeepingWidowSueAna thank you dear.

  • @kelleymcfadden9675
    @kelleymcfadden9675 2 года назад +1

    God bless you. I'm trying to share my best friend's story with everyone because she understands where real hope and comfort is found and I pray you find it too.
    Family Story
    Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
    My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
    That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
    a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
    Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
    His Story
    Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
    “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
    “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
    He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
    “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
    “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
    Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
    “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
    “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
    Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
    “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
    “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
    Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
    “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
    Your Story
    What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
    The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
    “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
    We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
    “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
    “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
    “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
    ******************************
    This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
    Tribute to Ethan Lakey
    ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html

  • @clarencehogrefe1220
    @clarencehogrefe1220 Год назад +2

    Just saw this video now, i can totally relate to every word you sooke. Today is 1yr 10 months since the LOVE OF MY LIFE WENT TO HEAVEN , i also have been very angry at God. Also i ALWAYS Talk about my Beautiful Wife Jan to anyone that will Listen. Always want people to know about the kind and Loving person Jan IS.. I very much want Jans memory to keep going forever. Iam now Jans voice and i will never ever stop what Iam doing. I always tell Jan i will NEVER let her down no matter how much my Heart Hurts. Always Cry and Break down,i try to keep going the best i can dor Jan and i. So Len your Videos help us all very much, they are drom your Heart.We all Live you Len and do feel your Pain. God Bless

    • @godschildyes
      @godschildyes Год назад

      God wraps His loving arms around you! God bless you for keeping Jan's memory alive on this earth Clarence! You know someday you'll be together again! Don't forget! This is only temporary!

  • @nessahughes4175
    @nessahughes4175 5 лет назад +11

    Lost my soulmate April 5 2019 while going thruogh my chemo for third stage,my last chemo next week and he is not here to celebrate with me...lost and wounded ,will be in search for local group...

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 4 года назад

      I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

    • @dannyjimenez9054
      @dannyjimenez9054 2 года назад

      I'm sorry for your loss. My wife had stage 3 cervical cancer she passed on the 6th of this month. I was there with her from the beginning till the end. I know it's extremely difficult to even to comprehend let alone deal with. Thank you for sharing your story. I'll pray for you and I wish you all the best!!

    • @nessahughes4175
      @nessahughes4175 2 года назад +1

      @@dannyjimenez9054 Thank-you.I am sorry for your loss xo

    • @dannyjimenez9054
      @dannyjimenez9054 2 года назад

      @@nessahughes4175 Thank you. Stay strong and God bless you always!!

  • @SweetJoyBG
    @SweetJoyBG 5 лет назад +8

    my husband passed away in 1991 from Leukemia. Then I lost my mom in 2007, and then my daughter moved away in 2015 to another state on the west coast. I miss them all so much. I have no friends, ones that I know I thought they were, but it turned out not to be true. They always say, who you consider as a best friend, might consider someone else to be more of a best friend. Here you think you have someone very close only to find out your not their best friend after all. So I have none. It sucks getting old and unwanted.

    • @jmask30
      @jmask30 4 года назад +2

      I lost my wife little over two years ago and i have some of these same thoughts. It then occurred to me that once i was young and had to make all my friends and that I had a happy life before i met my wife (and after), but i think its about adapting and continuing to try. I know its hard for me, but if I can work on making one new friend its good. I have several friends that i thought were good friends, but really weren't when it came down to it. Thats the way it is. Luckily, there are many ways to meet new people. Most ways online.

    • @SweetJoyBG
      @SweetJoyBG 4 года назад +2

      @@jmask30 sorry for your loss.

    • @yvonnerahui8729
      @yvonnerahui8729 4 года назад +1

      Maybe try not to see ones as best friends..rather; friend!

    • @SweetJoyBG
      @SweetJoyBG 4 года назад

      @@yvonnerahui8729 I tried that too, but eventually they stopped calling and chose others to hang with.

    • @yvonnerahui8729
      @yvonnerahui8729 4 года назад

      @@SweetJoyBG .it's soo hard isn't it..a very lonely walk.
      I encourage you to find a little church that feels alive when you go .find God through Jesus & life will take on a whole new meaning purposes.
      God bless you???

  • @jchambers5668
    @jchambers5668 3 года назад +1

    I love listening to Dr Bill Webster! He talks about hard issues, but always ends with Hope, Empowerment and the Resilience of the human mind and spirit. If you are someone out there struggling with any form of grief, large or small, watch all his videos.... Give them a chance!! You will experience healing and moments of surprise, touchpoints of healing along your journey of accepting, then releasing pain!
    You are on a new road. Embrace hope!

  • @Ann-xp9np
    @Ann-xp9np 3 года назад +4

    I thought this was very, very helpful.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..

  • @TerryManlove1
    @TerryManlove1 6 лет назад +7

    We can’t control many things and events in life. It’s just waking up and accepting it.

    • @brendadrumm9708
      @brendadrumm9708 4 года назад

      I know I will get some comments on this. But loosing a husband is nothing to loosing two adult children like I have would rather loose him

    • @Jade_902
      @Jade_902 2 года назад

      @@brendadrumm9708 death should NEVER be compared!

  • @duanevanwinkle3488
    @duanevanwinkle3488 2 года назад +1

    Lots of good advise in this conversation. I pulled out several nuggets!!!

  • @dianealbrecht496
    @dianealbrecht496 3 года назад +8

    Losing a spouse sucks.

    • @darrelljones3382
      @darrelljones3382 2 года назад

      Yes it does! It feels like your heart and life has been shattered into a thousand pieces and especially when you couldn't even be with them in the hospital much less get to see and say goodbye to your Soulmate, your best friend and lover.
      I am so sorry for your loss and my heart breaks for you. May God bless us and give us strength and comfort throughout our most difficult times.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..

  • @Dee-mj3pu
    @Dee-mj3pu Год назад

    Thank you!

  • @rositahuff4858
    @rositahuff4858 Год назад

    …I lost my wonderful husband 1 1/2 years ago….he lives in my 💜 heart….I miss him …..I am every day just as he would have wanted me….the way he loved me!

  • @denieseklinethatcher7361
    @denieseklinethatcher7361 5 лет назад +1

    Thanks so very much 🙏✝️🙏

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..

  • @angiesandovalzuniga7220
    @angiesandovalzuniga7220 2 года назад +3

    I have been following the series and I can really relate to this one, I thought I must have made my husband unhappy if he passed, I saw him as being given a choice to stay or go and he chose to go.. and feeling anger for him leaving me with young children to raise alone. Also asking God why! I realize I questioned but I was Not angry with God. Thank you for help with these feelings.

  • @TheTwistNews
    @TheTwistNews 3 года назад +6

    Having a woman who tells of how she is getting remarried is the last person I would have to counsel about grief because most do not get the opportunity to remarry.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday!!!

    • @jeannetteblais7108
      @jeannetteblais7108 2 года назад +2

      l lost my husband in February 14th I. am so. lonely all alone in arizona I know no body I wish I had a friend to talk to would help. God bless.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      @@jeannetteblais7108 i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..

  • @Marie-cp4yf
    @Marie-cp4yf 5 лет назад +1

    thanks for sharing this video. i can relate about being angry for losing my husband only because i miss him so much.
    true...looking forward to pull that anchor up and sail away...there's a life ahead of me and my dau.
    wow that was positive and inspiring.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday!!!

  • @anneharris9113
    @anneharris9113 7 лет назад +15

    I lost my husband of 27 wonderful years on Nov.18, 2014. I am still missing him and I get very lonely sometimes. Night time is the worse. How can she keep remarrying? That just does not seem right.

    • @CaseyKCRichards
      @CaseyKCRichards 6 лет назад +4

      Anne Harris: Some can move on and others like us continue to be devastated .. I think she’s able to go for survival reasons . I lost my spouse recently and trying to accept and comes to terms is eating my heart away. I’ve thought about being w someone else for I feel it could help me healing if I can meet the right person . I live in guilt too and feel to be with one else would be cheating . I think it’s a choice if u want to be alone or find someone . I feel your pain and suffering

    • @TerryManlove1
      @TerryManlove1 6 лет назад

      I appreciate the unique person she is and wish her much joy and success.

    • @54GARYBOY
      @54GARYBOY 3 года назад +1

      I found the story and her quickness to reattach a bit of a turn off. Then she did it again and while I appreciate what she says-shes way different from me and seemed almost eager to move on again.

    • @taenui
      @taenui 3 года назад

      She's a gold digger

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 2 года назад

      i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..

  • @janetcarbone4213
    @janetcarbone4213 Год назад +2

    This lady sure handled the death of her husband differently than I did. All due respect but she didn’t help much. Ten years later I only wished her well. She sounded more like a therapist than a widow

  • @tomsparks6099
    @tomsparks6099 Год назад +1

    At 59, I don't think a remarry is possible. Repacking this baggage isn't fair to another person.

  • @NicholasCampanella
    @NicholasCampanella 9 месяцев назад

    Your heart breaks when your girlfriend lies- when you lose your spouse it's your soul that cries.

  • @Rooster1508
    @Rooster1508 5 лет назад +3

    Your videos are great. They describe me pretty close.
    Describes me very close.

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf 5 лет назад +1

      hello Rooster1508 youre here too...its interesting seeing you in some related videos...hope you find comfort too.

    • @rha6840
      @rha6840 4 года назад +1

      @@Marie-cp4yf I recognize both you and Rooster from several videos that I've recently watched. Oddly comforting in a way.
      23 days in since my Maria passing on Feb. 1st. It was 7 weeks from a complaint of a pain in her back to being gone. Stage 4 lung cancer that had already spread.

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf 4 года назад +1

      @@rha6840 hello. we must do what we can do to make sense of things. and in the past 2 years this is how im coping with my pain and the loss...what i realized about giving yourself sometime to understand the grieving process and listening to other people's struggle i learned how to heal little by little and eventually move forward...losing a loved one is such a very traumatic experience but this same pain can actually turn into something positive you just need to learn how to repond properly and figure out things the hard way.
      My greatest help is my relationship with Jesus Christ..
      People around you and loved one will eventually get tired of listening to your story...and being able to write and express how you feel in venues like this and making others(strangers) know your pain and struggles helps alot.
      you are not alone...hope that you will be able to find your comfort and peace which i found only in Christ Jesus.
      Take care my friend. you can reach out to me in my channel, in my discussion box if you want to discuss things...
      God bless you and im praying for you in Christ Jesus. thanks for sharing your heart here and my heart goes out to you.

    • @rha6840
      @rha6840 4 года назад

      @@Marie-cp4yf Tried to figure out how to message on your channel. Think I'm missing something.
      Either way, thank you for reading and replying. It was nice to come home to and know that there are others. Never really gave it much thought until I became one.
      Working is helpful but even then, like today, there are some incredibly dark thoughts and the silence coming home can be brutal.
      Again, thank you. And my condolences on the loss of your husband.
      The passed few weeks without Maria and since seeking out these videos has taught me the true difference between the meanings of sympathy and empathy. Especially for people I don't actually know.

    • @JC-fm9ps
      @JC-fm9ps 4 года назад

      @@Marie-cp4yf my wife passed from gastric surgery, she wanted to lose weight my poor honey. She wasn't even that overweight. I told her not to do it cause she had a bad heart from a previous heart attack and almost died. The Dr from Round Rock TX told her all the good things about the surgery, but not the consequence, now I feel sad, lonely, and lost. It's been almost 6 months since she passed, I can't seem to let her go. Sometimes I just want to commit suicide cause I have nothing left in this life. My pups are the only thing that's keeping me alive. Never have your stomach cut, it will soon catch up with you, that's if you don't die two days later like my wife did.

  • @upstatenewyork
    @upstatenewyork 2 года назад +3

    She was no linger in pain and had “let go” of her husband when this interview took place. It’s very obvious I would have preferred to see more emotion instead of her being very intellectual about Stan’s death.

    • @godschildyes
      @godschildyes Год назад +1

      She also said that she was angry at God, but then said she really wasn't. I felt like she was not being authentic about her genuine anger towards God because so many Christians think it's wrong to get angry at God, or they don;t like to admit that they were.

    • @upstatenewyork
      @upstatenewyork Год назад

      @@godschildyes i agree

    • @upstatenewyork
      @upstatenewyork Год назад

      @@godschildyes agreed

  • @wandasewell4501
    @wandasewell4501 2 месяца назад

    I miss my husband so much ❤

  • @x2mars
    @x2mars 4 года назад +10

    Yes so much worse then I imagined

    • @debbienickelson800
      @debbienickelson800 4 года назад +2

      I lost my husband of twenty four years who died from a brain tumor and I have never been through anything so hard in my life he has been gone for eleven months I cannot move forward without him he was life and I feel like my life is gone

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 4 года назад +1

      @@debbienickelson800 I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

  • @roy-nk4vq
    @roy-nk4vq 5 лет назад +3

    8 weeks 2 days

  • @jeannetteblais7108
    @jeannetteblais7108 2 года назад +2

    I lost my lovb

  • @upstatenewyork
    @upstatenewyork 6 лет назад +14

    I love your series but this woman was not helpful at all. She comes across like the interview was all about her vs. an interview with her in order to help others. Cant even watch all of it. She is very dramatic and doesnt express pain..it hard to relate to her attitude.

    • @54GARYBOY
      @54GARYBOY 3 года назад +4

      She did have a "Merry Widow" attitude about her- a turn off to me as well.

    • @takinittotheheatandthestreet
      @takinittotheheatandthestreet 3 года назад +2

      So true . She acts as if she’s a super star getting interviewed . She gave no helpful words

    • @AymeeDonovan
      @AymeeDonovan 3 года назад +5

      Her attitude is very over the top and cheery and oh shes moved on and got re married
      This is not what grieving people want to hear at all .
      She didnt Express any pain at all

    • @54GARYBOY
      @54GARYBOY 3 года назад +3

      @@AymeeDonovan Pain- She couldnt have seemed any happier! Haha

    • @AymeeDonovan
      @AymeeDonovan 3 года назад +3

      @@54GARYBOY She was the worst choice of person to interview .. they could have chosen someone with empathy. She seems to be super happy ...I dont know any happy widows ...I'm certainly not happy

  • @taenui
    @taenui 3 года назад +10

    Mary Skarsten wouldn't be my ideal choice to interview; marrying the spouse of a friend within a year of her death. There are some lines you just don't cross. Even in her interview, she basically dismissed her husband's first wife. She admits she had a plan right from the start, to marry "someone" and have children. It was always about her, not about the bigger ethical picture. After his cancer diagnosis, she says, "This isn't happening TO ME." It's all about her. The life that she planned wasn't unfolding the way she wanted it. One would think she would have learned after watching her "good friends" go through the same thing. Nine months after his passing she goes to his grave and says angrily, "You left me with THESE children". Again, quite telling about the sort of self-centered person she is, Miss Me Myself and I goes to a grief group and lo and behold, she meets a man and marries him within a short time after her husband's death. It's ALL about her.
    Dr. Webster, of all the widows and widowers out there, you should not have selected her for this program, she has never experienced true love. She had needs and she went about meeting these methodically.

    • @Boutys_mom
      @Boutys_mom 2 года назад +4

      I felt bad ...because I was thinking the same things! When he asked her about how Stan felt after losing his wife, I don’t even think she answered the question! She just mentioned "getting on with her life!" 03:52 I actually rewinded it and everything. Honestly, this is the 1st video in the entire series that I would NOT forward to someone, because it was more of a distraction, hearing her talk about her "Bible study" and her "all I ever wanted" life, rather than discuss anything relatable or helpful - in regards to grief.
      On another note, I'm sorry you are here watching a video with this subject. I hope you are able to find comfort in your loss - in other videos, by speaking with friends or family. We grieve because we love. ❤️