Wow. You described perfectly the way things were during courtship and after. I don't remember in your other videos and in the Discovery seminar describing quite the way you did here at the 7:36 mark about the mode women switch into also. Very interesting and, I think, very true.
Seeing the issue is only the beginning and maybe the hardest part, but the real problem is how do you change, when you have been a dominate male for so long and have pursued the Lord as a way of life and yet failed in this area so drastically? You can't go back and yet you are held to the past by so many memories of your failure, you know there is forgiveness in the blood of Jesus, but some how that doesn't remove the entrenched behavior of the decision maker and really fix the problem of not knowing how to make your wife feel more important than you. Most men can't move and leave everything to go off to some school or pay hundreds of dollars a month when they are on a tight budget, there needs to be a clear step by step guideline and I know Ken say read the Bible, I have read the scriptures daily from cover to cover since 1974 and I love and enjoy God's fellowship daily as a way of life these 40 plus years and yet, I need help, real help to see through the forest of disappointments in my relationship with my wife where in have failed her. I think this is not just a rare thing for me but the real issue in most of the churches, especially the pastors who are so dominated by duty and the ego fulfillment of ministry and being important in front of the eyes of men, all the while like me, their wife struggles for purpose, identity and the feeling that if she rocks the boat she is opposing God. Some one need to address this so, I have. It's kind of like with my son, who was mildly autistic and always needing something we could never find an answer for. He struggled everyday of his life. Everyone had answers, but none of them worked and no one would ever come to help. They gave him a drug to help "mellow is anger", this killed his pancreas and made him a diabetic, which he could not handle and I found him dead on Easter Sunday at 32 years old a few years ago. Only in eternity will this be fixed. I hope this is not true for my wife. She deserves better, I just don't know how to get there from here.
@@davidhowell4679 my husband says this too. It's not a formula, or a class, but a change in attitude. Jesus did not consider himself ever! He left Home in order to be acquainted with suffering our infirmities. This attitude should be present with husbands too. They can't defend themselves, they must be like Jesus..with a quiet spirit. If men would do this women would exalt you to the highest like Jesus is exalted. When a wife praises her husband that is true praise. But if he has to defend, and bring himself Praise, his witness isn't true..because another person praising you brings true praise
This is so good Ken! Thank you. Such a good fire to be in.
This is brilliant! Wow! 😭😭😭😭🙏❤️
Thank you!
Wow. You described perfectly the way things were during courtship and after. I don't remember in your other videos and in the Discovery seminar describing quite the way you did here at the 7:36 mark about the mode women switch into also. Very interesting and, I think, very true.
Seeing the issue is only the beginning and maybe the hardest part, but the real problem is how do you change, when you have been a dominate male for so long and have pursued the Lord as a way of life and yet failed in this area so drastically? You can't go back and yet you are held to the past by so many memories of your failure, you know there is forgiveness in the blood of Jesus, but some how that doesn't remove the entrenched behavior of the decision maker and really fix the problem of not knowing how to make your wife feel more important than you.
Most men can't move and leave everything to go off to some school or pay hundreds of dollars a month when they are on a tight budget, there needs to be a clear step by step guideline and I know Ken say read the Bible, I have read the scriptures daily from cover to cover since 1974 and I love and enjoy God's fellowship daily as a way of life these 40 plus years and yet, I need help, real help to see through the forest of disappointments in my relationship with my wife where in have failed her. I think this is not just a rare thing for me but the real issue in most of the churches, especially the pastors who are so dominated by duty and the ego fulfillment of ministry and being important in front of the eyes of men, all the while
like me, their wife struggles for purpose, identity and the feeling that if she rocks the boat she is opposing God. Some one need to address this so, I have. It's kind of like with my son, who was mildly autistic and always needing something we could never find an answer for. He struggled everyday of his life. Everyone had answers, but none of them worked and no one would ever come to help. They gave him a drug to help "mellow is anger", this killed his pancreas and made him a diabetic, which he could not handle and I found him dead on Easter Sunday at 32 years old a few years ago. Only in eternity will this be fixed. I hope this is not true for my wife. She deserves better, I just don't know how to get there from here.
@@davidhowell4679 my husband says this too. It's not a formula, or a class, but a change in attitude. Jesus did not consider himself ever! He left Home in order to be acquainted with suffering our infirmities. This attitude should be present with husbands too. They can't defend themselves, they must be like Jesus..with a quiet spirit. If men would do this women would exalt you to the highest like Jesus is exalted. When a wife praises her husband that is true praise. But if he has to defend, and bring himself Praise, his witness isn't true..because another person praising you brings true praise
Thank you Ken
Great!
Why do you continue to say "The Christ?" This is a very new age term, and makes me uncomfortable. Not as much as the content of this video, though.