@@faidaimaidaiIt’s unfair for children to be born to parents that regret having them as it could lead to many issues in the future. It’s better that they don’t exist at all so that no one else suffers the consequences of regret.
That's why they are seen as selfish lol they live their entire life just focused on yourself. IMO life is a lot more beautiful and meaningful when you are raising kids. Without kids what's the point of life nothing and that's scary to me
@@Barbieinawheelchairbut it's more selfish to want a carbon copy of yourself than to not have one. Having kids is saying "I'm so great, the world needs more of me in it" that's selfish. Bringing life into the world regardless of the desire for life or consent of the people being created is selfish. There are no reasons to have children that isn't selfish." Focusing your entire life on yourself" as you claim child free people do as if they don't have family or friends that can require attention and affection is wild but forcing life into existence just so you can spend your life and focus your attention on someone else is selfish, that still makes the decision to have kids ultimately about you. Having kids is selfish because you are choosing to put more of yourself in the world and that's ok, being selfish is only a bad thing if you say it is, but call it what it is.
If your life has no meaning without kids then your only purpose was to indeed be a breeder. Everyone has different and more meaningful purposes. Living your owm life is very normal.
@@Barbieinawheelchairso my parents brought me here then I’m just supposed to bring kids that will in turn bring their kids here that will also bring kids here…. That sounds meaningless, you’re no different than a factory lmao
I was also thinking something along these lines. We have a crisis of seniors being homeless here in Florida and in other states. I would assume most of them have kids-why are they homeless? Especially if one of the reasons I always hear is “for someone to take care of you when older.”
@yoyosworld2773 They're homeless because they think getting older will never happen to them, so they don't plan for the future. They just assume their kids will take care of them because they don't recognize their children as people who have their own lives.
My mom works at a skilled nursing facility. She was shocked at just how many broken families there are. Not saying the adult children of these folks need to be there all the time, but wow. Most don’t show up more than once per year if at all. It’s sad
My boss is a single, childfree woman who's in her late 60s and looks at least 20 years younger than her age, has no regrets and has an amazing friend group that she's nutured for decades. She will never be lonely because her friends love her and have poterally dropped everything when she's needed them in the past, as she's done for them. Her sister loves on the other side of the world and is a happy grandmother several times over, and those kids and grandkids adore their aunt. She talks to them regularly and spends several weeks out of the year going to visit them. She's the embodiment of everything the forced birth crowd hates and has a happy, fulfilling life.
I'm decades younger than this woman, but this is somewhat similar to my life. I live abroad. I have loving, supportive friends spread around the world (and several in the country I live). And my sister has nieces that I love on and celebrate. It's a good life for me.
@jazzyj6640 Same here. LoL ME and my friend, have a running joke about which one of our id's will be scrutinized longer when we go somewhere. It's always her because she still looks like she's 15, , but I've been accused of using a fake ID, and I'm 37. No kids, just animals. That's the true secret to skincare. Lmao
Yeah. Apparently women should feel guilty every time they menstruate. Imagine how many potential human beings that don't come into existence. (Yet somehow no one wants to talk about all the wasted sperm.) 34 and very happily child free here. I knew since I was a young kid, and my mind is not changing.
As a childfree man, I get pushback mostly by other men who have children. They often tell me all these stupid things which include…… 1. You’ll change your mind. 2. You are missing out. 3. What about your legacy? 4. What about your bloodline? 5. Children are a blessing and a joy. 6. Fatherhood is the best thing in the world. 7. You are meant to have children. 8. Who is gonna take care of you when you are old? 9. You will regret it when you are 60. 10. You are selfish? Overall, it is just the “Why? Why? Why?” We are always put in that position where we have to explain ourselves.
Statistically women do most of the childcare and household chores, so these men probably do have it cosy with their woman taking on most of the responsibilities. I think their view, as a man, is fairly much spot on Lol. Good for you not wanting kids, enjoy your peace and quiet. As a woman if I had my time again I would not have had any either
They need to tell their faces that then because as they walk past my childfree partner and I with their moaning kids and stressed out wife, I see nothing but regret and longing in their eyes when they look at us, for the carefree life they gave up.
Try this response: It makes absolutely no sense to bring children into a late-stage crapitalist, collapsing empire speeding toward its own demise-- with no healthcare system, no social safety net in exchange for our taxes, and soon, not even a habitable planet. And if YOU think it makes sense, you live under a rock.
It's actually both genders that try to force women to have children, older women and unhappy mothers are just as likely to push other people into having children as men are. In fact I've seen more women trying to convince others to have children than men.
Parents: „I decided to have kids because my life is better with them in it.“ Childfree women: „I don’t want to have kids because my life is better without them.“ Parents: „You are so selfish!“
These are lies people tell themselves. No one’s life is better with children. Be honest…Life is more challenging with children. If you don’t have to put yourself through it, don’t. They have that right to remain child free and there’s nothing wrong with that!
@@keynoliviaI do actually believe some people are genuinely happy and happier being parents. I have no reason to believe no parents are happy or fulfilled. My best friend absolutely loves being a mom and she hasn't lost her personality to motherhood at all. But, I definitely wouldn't be happier or more fulfilled with kids. Both are fine.
@@keynolivia That's like saying: No one's life is better with friends/a partner. Like... yes having friends can be exhausting sometimes and there are challenges in friendship but a lot of people really enjoy having friends. Some people just love other people and the joy of loving someone and spending good times together is worth all the challenging times. Why is that so difficult to understand? I'm childfree and don't want children but acting like nobody ever loved their children is just fucked up.
@ducklingscap897 The point is that everyone is different. Being in my profession and hearing parents scream so loud about how miserable they are every day, it is difficult for some to believe that parenting is fulfilling. Parents truly do a poor job of making parenting look worthwhile, fun, or desirable. That is the reality.
It literally triggers me like that. I don't blame the child- I know that that's how young children communicate. But once I was stuck underground on the subway, stopped in a tunnel, with a toddler screaming in the same car. I wanted to badly to peel off my skin.
When I had to babysit my three argumentative and fighting young grandchildren almost every day, I felt like dying. On my days off I'd stay in bed and cry. Women don't realise they have maybe another 15 years of babysitting duties for grandchildren. I told my kids not to have babies but they went ahead anyway
@@rachelmdiamond it turns out you should definitely not scream "AY DOES YOUR BABY WANT A XAN" because the police will absolutely search you and make your forty mins late to work. So you didn't peel off your skin or homicide, or use a smart mouth to cause yourself problems. We're chalking this up to a win.
@@VMM34 You have been responsible for so long already, those grandchildren need to be raised by the people that made them. I hope that your children will understand that you need your own peace and boundaries when it comes to the grandchildren, because you do deserve time outside of family.
"You'll regret it when you're old!" Is that why I've had so many little old ladies tell me that if they could do it over again, they wouldn't have had any because it wasn't worth it, and even more tell me I made the right choice in not having them?
The ones who regret it when they are old are the women who WANT children and family but can't/didn't find them "in time". Most childfree women truly DO NOT WANT children, so what regret will we have? I am childfree but am not against adopting, so the only regret I will have is not adopting sooner enough or something. You can't regret what you don't want
Hi Childree women! 👋🏾 How did you spend your day today? I worked 6 days in a row in the hospital, so slept in today until 10am knowing my bills are all paid. I worked on my skincare last night, went to Sephora to buy my favorite high end Tatcha moisturizer and ate a nice meal. Now I’m going to work on my Calculus and Chemistry assignments because degrees keep the bills paid. Degrees don’t wake up one day and say, “I don’t love you anymore.” Keep hustling ladies.
I have all of that, but I also have two kids. They don't stop you from being great or getting a PhD. I take my 16yo to Sephora with me, she can get anything she wants. Life is just life for everyone. Kids ir no kids. ❤
I’m going back to school for nursing at 28! I did some studying today, worked a few hours at my WFH job, went for a walk around my local zoo, and then made dinner for myself and my wife. Tomorrow is her birthday and she’s requested that we just lounge around the house 😊
I laugh so hard everytime they say "have fun being single and alone forever" like dude if the women are single and alone forever then YOU are single and alone forever because who are you going to date? The other men? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Notice that not one of those badgerers who order you to have kids is around when a new mother needs a sitter for an hour so she can take a shower and lie down for a moment.
I love kids and my kids, but I wanted my kids, they weren't forced on me. Don't have kids you don't want. Foster homes, group homes, and morgues are filled with unwanted children and they deserved better. Even if it isn't that bad in their homes the child knows something is off. The parent or parents hate themselves and resent the child and/or the person who got them pregnant. None of this is necessary if you have the means of preventing that pregnancy from occurring/continuing. Stop telling people to make horrible decisions based on your wants, needs, and obligations because you don't get the consequences.
This is why I don't regret my decision not to have children I don't like children, never wanted them and know I am not mother material. How terrible I am with kids was high lighted by my brother having one recently my nephew is pretty much the only kid I do like but I'm not naturally maternal and struggle even talking to him. People who work with me are surprised when I tell them that because I'm actually really maternal and caring towards animals but human babies just not for me
One of the sickest reasons for having kids is that you need someone who will care for you in your old age. Most women I talk to who are more selfless mothers talk about NEVER wanting to be a burden on their children. I work in a nursing home and my mother’s close friend works there. She was discussing her plans life insurance, burial, etc. and she stated I don’t want to be a burden to my children. I hear the same from some fathers. I feel the same way about my daughter. I did not have her for her to take care of me. She is 13 and was talking about her dream of being a musician. She said she would get rich and give me money like most kids probably dream of. I told her that would be nice, but I did not have her for her to support me. LOL
You might not need your own kids to take care of you in your old age but you need someone elses kids. They will be running every service you require during your retirement, from grocery store worker to doctors.
@Hiforest but yet ain't it for free unlike a lot parents who is asking their kids to do that for them at no cost, Seriously at least childfree people compensate for the labor and the time is of these other people's children to provide their services to the childfree folks, who's parents want it for free, And honestly I wish people would just get a at home nurse and not use their kid/kids as free care takers.
Once my pastor said that childfree by choice people will never know the greatest love. When I told him that the bible said there is no greater love than the fact that Jesus laid down his life for his friends. So I thought we already know the greatest love. He was silent.😂
In my 30s and I love being CF! Everyone doesn’t want the same things in life and honestly there are waaaay less people qualified to be a good parent. Kids are optional folks. Many men are bothered by the rise of childfree women because most men RELY on the exploitation of women so they can thrive & survive. For centuries men were taught that even the most basic man can have a beautiful, submissive bangmaid. Many are now realizing they actually have to be worth knowing to have access to the women they want as well as their wombs. I love that women are raising the stakes. Protect your womb and your peace.
Yup! Married men are statistically happier than single men because they have everything taken care of for them from women. Single/childfree women are statistically happier than married women/mothers because they have opted out of doing any of that. Childfree women are a threat to the men who need women to take care of them. We are able to show other women that they do have a choice to opt out and can live very happy lives. They tell childfree people that we should be afraid of being alone but they are the ones at risk of being alone. Women create meaningful relationships outside of romantic ones and tend not to be as lonely as they want us to believe. And that’s why they try to shame us into having kids.
The audacity of men as well to say child free women are "bitter old maids" while they rant like a btch on reddit 😂 "How dare women stop being exploited and bamboozled by my hairy unwashed ass?" 🤡
Men have No need to step up...and you are correct..."for centuries men were taught to that even the most basic man could have a beautiful, submissive bangmaid "...and yet women are rewarding them with s-x and children... therefore, they have NO need to provide for and protect their children and women...non Childfree and non Antinatalist women are the majority of women world wide.
One of the most common times for men to start cheating is when his wife/girlfriend has a baby. The other is when she becomes seriously ill or disabled.
Yup! It's all about power, baby. For men, sex is about power. Making us do their labor is about power. Baby trapping us is about power. And if you ever doubt that, just know that morgues and coma wards avoid hiring straight men because of the disturbing rate at which they will f**k corpses and comatose women. They will literally stick it in anything. It's about. Power.
@@eurekamreum5458the mgtow guys are the worst. They say they are men going their own way, yet are 100% aggressive towards women doing that same thing. If men were really going their own way then they'd be happily employed in making their lives amazing without a partner, not seething because women don't want them. I'm so sick of hearing them condemn single women who have cats, like why? They don't like women feeling content in any way, that's the problem
It's all about power, baby. For men, sex is about power. Making us do their labor is about power. Baby trapping us is about power. And if you ever doubt that, just know that morgues and coma wards avoid hiring straight men because of the disturbing rate at which they will f**k corpses and comatose women. They will literally stick it in anything. It's about. Power.
@@VMM34I heard a you tuber... breakdown the psychology of males that have that behavior...he was reading the analysis of the famous psychologist Carl Jung... According, to Carl Jung... childhood trauma splits the mind in males...to where the become Peter Pan aka the perpetual child...the toxic feminine or homosexual...a lot of males have been physically and mentally abused mostly by their female parents and abandoned by their male parents...the video is called...Meechee X Scapegoats Gays for the Dysfunction
9:17 honestly, I have worked at a few eldery nursing homes, and I can confirm you some of the lonliest people indeed were the ones who _did_ have (already adult, obviously) children. They had put all the eggs in one basket, expecting their children to give them all their free time when they're old, just to realize that's not gonna happen. Their children had their own fun retirement plans, while their grand children were busy with their own children. Worse than being just alone, is to be alone while you had thought you wouldn't be. It was heartbreaking to whitness over and over again. However, it also made it so much easier for me to become CF, because "who's gonna take care of you when you're old" is the most common scare tactics when people hear you're not planning to have children at all.
yes exactly i said this last week to someone making fun of childfree by choice people. she is a mother and was saying “yall are gonna be lonely just wait” no YOU just wait when you realize your kids are gonna have whole lives of their own. you’ll spend days wondering why arent my kids here, yes your kids may still see you but the days they dont will be the loneliest days of your life. all the single, kidless residents were happy.. still walking around their rooms.. and were the most independent and needed the least assistance. the ones with kids were the ones who were far more miserable. unfortunately. in all ways
Pretty sure those elders you are speaking of were selfish/bad parents. Those who raised selfish terrible humans are always the ones crying about it in the end. Its the law of reaping what one sews.
@@OnyxKwina no. It's absurd to expect that adult children with their own busy lives would go to your nursery home first thing after work and leave the last thing. Or spend their full day on the nursery home with you if they're already retired. Many children also lived on another city far away, so it's not even possible for them to visit their parents daily even if they wanted. There were also children who did visit their parents regularly. But even that was hardly daily, and even if it was daily, it would still be just a couple of hours at maximum. There's still many, many more hours in a day to feel lonely about, if you've prepared yourself for your elder days to always have your family around.
@@bugzpudding I see it as a matter of mindset. You get used to have easy daily access to social connections when you have your family with children. You'll always have someone around, you both get used to it and get less and less used to seeking company from any other people. Just like married people may struggle to leave a miserable or even dangerous marriage even if they wanted to, because they've grown to be so dependent on their partner over the years. So many of the incompetences people have are rather psychological than practical.
@@OnyxKwinano, I use to be a psw and people who were amazing parents still had kids that moved away to live their own lives. They still loved their parents, however they have their own lives. Are you looking after your parents and your kids currently? That’s a lot of work
My mom told me to not wish to have children😄😄 It's so great that there are women who have their moms motivating them to be childFREE I genuinely thought that I was alone in that aspect. So much love for you❤❤❤❤
Im that adult child taking care of her family when they got old. . I take care of two households at the moment. NOTHING about my life is selfish. EVERYTHING I do and why I do it is for my family that I was born into. This ish is HARD! I cannot imagine doing this, plus having to care for my own kids and husband. My choice to not have kids had/has nothing to do with “putting myself first” I simply do not want to be pregnant or raise (anymore)children. I’m 36, child free , relationship free and GUILT / REGRET FREE!
I work seven days a week to make ends meet, for my family. I gave up my career in my passion for my family. Guess what? I work so much that I don’t have time to actually spend with the people that I’m taking care of. My interaction with them is caring for them doing something for them. But my grandparents, who I’m taking care of currently, are Lonely one of my grandmothers is a widow, and I can’t even go and visit her. And my other set of grandparents, the ones that are lonely, don’t really want to be around each other. They don’t even sleep in the same room.
The number one reason I don’t have kids is I believe people when they say ‘it takes a village’ and I don’t have one. Now that I’m 35 and over the baby fever phase of my life I’ve realized I’d be happy to part of someone’s village and help others with their kids…so my goal is to form a village. And if I really feel drawn to it later in life, when I have my village, I’ll take in a pregnant teenager and do the mom and grandma thing all at once, when I’m finally chill enough to deal with a traumatized adults baggage and their baby.
I think the village was destroyed over 500 years ago... but women continue to reward males with s-x and children... when it's obvious males have NO need to provide for and protect their children and women.
As a woman who REALLY wanted children, I've never had a problem understanding child free ppl. Different humans have different dreams and NEEDS from life. I'm grateful that I got to have my two, now young adult kids, but I back up child free ppl. So many ppl are not mentally/emotionally equipped to have their own kids. My own mother and several of my aunts and uncles were miserable as parents and it definitely had a traumatic effect on us kids. There are many reasons different ppl are child free and there is NOTHING wrong with that. My own children don't want to ever have kids and I back them up. Other ppl making different life choices do not validate or invalidate my own.
Children shouldn't be born with a job. If you are having children because you want someone to love you... get therapy and learn to love yourself first then and only then should you even consider having children. It is not your child's responsibility to regulate your emotional wellbeing
Remember this song called Cats in the Cradle. Boy grows up with dad not having time for him then when dad retires and wants time with son the son has no time for him. A.K.A the last line of the song "As I hung up the phone it occurred to me, he grown up just like me. My boy is just like me." I think the song was out in the 60's but the relativeness of the song is mind blowing. Kids and relationships with kids are hard work! If only ONE of us will put in the effort, dam right women won't do it!
I love that song and you’re absolutely right! Sadly, there are so many kids who grow up with absent fathers who come around once the kids no longer need raising. I’ve heard some cases where the absent fathers become livid when their kids express no interest in a relationship with them or when the daughter has her mother somebody else walking her down the aisle.
nobody can shame me into doing extra work for something I don't want when I could have a nice nap lol, yeah I'm selfish if that's what you want to call it. it seems more selfish to have a kid and expect them to care for you in your old age 😂
I'd rather regret not having children, than regret having them. A kid can sense when they aren't like, wanted, or if the parent is miserable. I don't want to push that on a child on the strong chance I'd regret it based on my personality. And if I feel the sudden urge to be maternal, then I will volunteer in positions where I can help kids such as volunteering at Child Hospitals, friends who need a babysitter, coaching sports, reading at libraries, etc.
Exactly! Same. Also, I think a lot of adoption agencies allow for the parent to be up to 60 years old so I have plenty of time to decide if I want a kid.
I could definitely sense how unhappy my mom was because she would lash out on me very often. She's one of the reasons I realized I shouldn't want kids because I have 0 patience for kids and wouldn't wanna make anyone feel like I felt.
The story out there about being childfree is often as offensive as the pressure to have children. Childfree people sleep in, have lots of money, drink and go on vacations! Obviously there are no non-shallow reasons not to have kids! @$#% off with that. I have a career, artistic pursuits, friendships and interests. When new parents tell me, "Once you have kids, you can't spend all day in your PJs anymore", I can see how they picture the childfree life and it's nothing like mine. I'm busy. And I want to live in adult spaces. Parents are expected to spend all of their time in children's spaces, restricting what they talk about, what they watch and listen to, how deep they can get into an idea or topic, to the preferences and attention spans of a child. Everything around them is expected to be safe for a child. I don't want to be manipulated and infantilized _through_ my child by people who would prefer that I not think deeply or do anything disruptive.
@@adammonks591instead of taking care of your parents, which is why they brought you here you’re on the internet bothering women. You’re not a good example of why I should have kids
@@adammonks591 oh, so you think we're stupid? 😂 Most if not all women that decides to be cf know the consequences of this decidion and are fine with that. It's not your bisness anyway. First of all, you're a man, so you don't have a clue how it is to be a woman or a mother. Second of all, you don't know us as individuals, so why the heck do you pretend to care for us so much, huh? I bet in reality you don't care at all. You just feel uncomfortable knowing there're women up there who doesn't want to carry your's or any other man seed, that's all. If I and up regreting my choice, it's fine, because it's a choice and it's ok to regret some choices in life, you know. 🤷♀ I better regret that, than regret having children when their already born. I don't want my hypothetical children to feel miserable knowing that their mother didn't want them, so I better not have them to begin with.
@@Enriquez2222 non sequitur. I'm not trying to prove myself to any of you 😂 Don't try to obsfucate the truth. Women need to know that not having children is detrimental to society. Your female shaming tactics won't work on me. I'll tell the truth no matter what.
I have changed my mind with age. When I was younger I wanted children very much. I didn't get to have then and now in my 50s I am so pleased I didn't. I now really couldn't afford them , couldn't offer them any of the opportunities my parents were able to offer me. I also don't have to worry about feeding or housing anyone but me. Life is tough these days and everyone dies alone in the end. Its a lot less stressful knowing I don't have to worry about a child's future as well as getting through life right now.
They call you irresponsible and selfish and tell you you're making poor choices for not having kids. But if you had kids you knew you couldn't afford, they'd say the same thing. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
I will say, I think it’s sad that women with children are jealous. But also, I struggle to imagine any mom who’s not jealous of childfree people acting like that
I'm 45 and have NEVER regretted not having a child. My husband has just turned 50 and, you guessed it! He also has never regretted us not having children either. We are currently planning the next phase of life when we will be completely mortgage free (hence debt free), are going to get easier jobs and focus on travelling as much as possible until we physically can't do it anymore. I know I never would have been as happy with my life if I was limited to what was left over when I wasn't focussed on my child...but that's just me.
My two female best friends are married with kids and they constantly tell me how much they envy that I’m single and childfree. They‘re both miserable, hate their husbands, and wish they didn’t have kids. One of them begged me to never get married and to never have children. I trust their word much more than all the bitter, single, childless xys in the world.
Your friends are deluded. Married women with children report higher satisfaction with life than single childless women. People say this to me all the time "I wish I lived on my own" when in reality seclusion is a punishment and not healthy. XYs aren't bitter about not having children. We can get women abroad that want families and appreciate us. It's the XXs that are bitter as all these videos show. It's just cope. I bet they won't tell their kids what they tell you, huh?
@K.C-2049 awww you can't handle facts. 🤡 truth hurts huh? I'm too good for any of you losers. You're all beneath me. That's why I have a foreign girlfriend. Can't handle a strong man, huh? Pathetic
@K.C-2049 bullshit? You mean cold hard facts? There is no important information in the video. It's just cope because you can't find a man and are too old to now have children. Sad.
@K.C-2049 phahahahahahahahaha you mean facts, not bullshit? There is no important information in the video, it's just cope because none of you can keep a man.
I had a client say to me “you can’t be selfish forever, doesn’t your husband want children?” I had been married 1 years, worked insane hours and knew we needed more to be able to bring babies into the world. That same client had 3 kids all on government assistance, unwed with multiple baby mothers/daddies. 🤦🏽♀️ she and her guttersnipes were a mess.
I find it funny that when we’re kids we’re told this all the time 😂 “Yes because you can doesn’t mean you should” and “just because your friends jumped off the cliff doesn’t mean you should.” The second one is even funnier because as an adult suddenly they’re telling you “well so and so had kids, what about you?” Like, good for them? 😂😂😂
Kids are NOT: A retirement plan A pet A trophy A milestone An accessory Employees Best friends that can’t leave Spousal replacement Dress up dolls Romantic/sexual partners Currency Required.
I'm in my 80s. I never had kids. With what I wanted to do in life, I knew I couldn't be dragging a kid with me. I took all precautions to make dam sure I never got pregnant. I have NEVER regretted it. NEVER.
I was called "selfish" by a gynecologist for not wanting children because other women are infertile while I am not. I was baffled lol, I told her "so, if I have a child, and according to your logic, will it cure infertility for all the women out there?". She was (it was a woman yes, AS USUAL) absolutely unbearable. At the end of the conversation she said, smirkly"I see, you don't have maternal instinct", and I think I said something like "well, since maternal instinct happens when you HAVE a child, I guess I don't, indeed". I believe she was frustrated that I belong to a younger generation where contraception and abortion are legal. It wasn't the case for her. ANd while I understand her frustration, it's not my fault if she was forced to birth. Ahole
I love how 'selfish' it is to not bring a human being into this world when you know you would not be a good parent. Good parents WANT to be parents. I think its so selfish to insist someone who would probably not handle raising a child well to still have them. What about that child?? What about how that child will feel and the trauma of having a parent who never wanted them? Make it make sense.
I've known at a very young age, if I remember right, around 7 or 8 years old, that I don't want my own biological children. Now, at nearly 40 years old, people have finally stopped trying to convince me otherwise. Until now, had I gotten a penny every time I heard a "you're going to regret that decision" or "you will hear your clock ticking, trust me" or, the most degrading by far, "but that's what women are meant for", I'd be rich.
We should normalize asking people why they want to have children instead of asking them why they do not. And what percent of the population were complete accidents? Most parents didn't legitimately Choose to become parents.
It's so so so easy for radical people to call out women who choose to not have kids as selfish. Yet they don't bat an eye on parents who poorly raise children, proving that not every parent deserves kids. That's giving them the benefit of the doubt but I'm very very sure that they will see those parents and say "wow those parents shouldn't have kids" Yikes bro.
People can learn a lot from wolves. Only the strong couple in the wolf pack produce offspring. The rest of the pack nurtures each other. Unfortunately, too many humans think too highly of themselves. Not everyone SHOULD have children.
The reason why I don’t have kids is I want to have a kid but I’m considering how the economy is, everything is expensive. Unless I become a multi millionaire since being a millionaire doesn’t mean anything in this economy, then I can’t have a kid. I also don’t want to bear a kid and then can’t support my kid.
My great-aunt-in-law is in her 70's, child-free, adored her two nephews and has always been active in her great-nieces and great-nephews lives. She travels, dates, relaxes, eats wonderful food, has a GORGEOUS house full of artwork, and now that she's older and needs care has plenty of savings to pay for it.
I also do this, and I also say I can’t afford adoption/surrogacy fees nor do I want to do those things. I always try to sound a little sad too so it’s convincing LOL
Alot Of Men Want Kids, But Put In Little To Effort To Help Raise Them! The Responsibility It Put On The Mom Majority Of Time! Yeah, No Thanks! I Don't Want Kids, I Have Pets And Taking Care Them Is Hard Enough! 🙅♀️🙅♀️🙅♀️🙅♀️🙅♀️😤😤😤
Proud to be child free. My friends who have adult children are always dealing with their kids needing help with childcare, money to pay the bills, places to live because they got divorced or lost their jobs, et cetera. These women are also being divorced for younger women once the kids leave home, and they don't know what to do with themselves because their whole identify was "wife and mother". They're the ones crying in their box wine and taking pills to get through the day. Not me. I'm just fine.
I can't think of any other reason people would be so against child-free people but pure jealousy. 😂 As a mom of two, please don't have kids if you don't want them. It is a life long commitment and it changes you. Parenthood is very hard. Of course, it can be rewarding also. But it's mostly a daily grind. You lose yourself, you have to rediscover yourself again. It's an arduous journey and not everyone is cut out for it. I absolutely love my children and would die for them. But it has not been easy. Feelings of inadequacy are always there, never feeling good enough. The self-esteem takes a huge blow as you understand you cannot be the parent you have envisioned. I stand with child-free people and will defend their decision to not have children as I know what it takes to raise them. And any parent pushing their lifestyle on a child-free person is doing everyone a disservice: this person, their potential child and the society in general. How many criminals come out of homes with abusive hateful parents who didn't want them? Don't let anyone pressure you into having kids!!!
One of my biggest bugbears in my 20s was when some of the most self absorbed people I knew had kids and then did a complete 180 into the whole 'you are selfish if you don't have kids'. Um. Okay. Good for them finding their parental instinct, but crapping on anyone who doesn't follow their lifestyle is just tacky.
Why in the world would you guilt someone into having children? If I said I didn't want a dog or pet that's fine because the pet needs a loving human. Are kids any less important than pets? don't kids need loving parents?
I have aunties who had kids to try and save their marriages. My cousins are miserable and the problems pre-kids just got amplified post-kids. The only difference is that now my cousins have first row seats to the chaos.
This woman that I had seen twice in my life (first time when I was a child) told me I was selfish for not having kids. "Wait, you've seen me twice in my life, and you expect me to change MY life to fit YOUR point of view? Hah, you're the selfish one for even considering it." My fam and I had to leave, she yelled at me like if I had wished cancer upon her mother.
Matt Walsh: “She’s too stupid to realize how depressing this is” So…she’s too stupid to be depressed? She’s so stupid she’s simply happy? How dare she lol. She didn’t realize she wasn’t SUPPOSED to be happy!
I was a nanny, I was a social worker and worked with elderly, children, teens, adults with mental disorders. I am good with being childfree. My nieces all turned out with issues and unwed pregnancy. I love my childfree life with childfree husband of 20 years with our dogs. Have fun with all that and all the expectations. Most times it just doesn't pan out and people are looking towards the movie industry with the beautiful life. It is rare to have that perfect house and perfect life.
The pressure and guilt trip permanent to have kids, but then when those women have kids, and the man decides to not be a father… They blame the woman for opening her legs and having kids😂😂
Most of the reasons have children are so self-centered it disqualifies them from being parents. If you want kids so bad, there are millions of children in foster care and group homes looking for loving parents. Quit being a narcissist about replicating your genes and learn how to love someone unconditionally that doesn't look like you. Ugh. Also, never listen to men pressure you for children. Many of them just trap women with babies to slow them down and make them dependent.
I'm 21 and Married. But Ive made myself clear to my husband that I will neveer be pregnant. However, I have had personal experience with the USA fostercare system espicially with siblings. So we have agreed that we will adopt, preferably a group of siblings who are older. We have agreed to this future plan through many collaborative discussions. However, before I met him I was fully planning on never being married and only a slim possibility of children. I'm so happy to see the women outwardly paving the way for my past self!
A guy i grew up whit is now fat looks tierd and have to peny pinch al the time before he had kids he was fine as hell looked zen and took care of hes health anyways he keeps asking me when i am gonna get married and have kids like there is somthing wrong whit me i never tell him how he looks becuse thats mean but i cant hold back the laufter when i get askd that becuse he looks tierd wile saying it my point is when you get attacked rember how the person attacking you looked before they had kids.
We all die anyway so none of this matters. some people really love to do too much. the government really wants those laborers to pay all that money they spent.
The woman with the perm and the glasses was spitting straight facts and nothing but facts!! She didn't hold ANYthing back!! Edit: I commented before I finished the video and all of these women were dropping truth bombs left and right!
I have children I don’t regret having them but I do regret the world they’re living in. But if a woman doesn’t want kids for god sake don’t force them!
Can someone please give me a reason to have kids that doesn’t mean that they will be brought into this evil abusive world where they will die of homelessness? I guess our parents didn’t think that we would ever grow up. Having us was all about them. Childless women know better.
My daughter and her husband wanted 2 kids. She's pregnant, with twins. Awesome, right? Now people are saying, "Do you think she'll have more? Why doesn't she want more? What if they're both girls? Or both boys? One friend said i hope she has a lot more."" Wtf is wrong with people. Kids are hard, and kids are expensive. Why would you want someone to have more kids than they want? I don't understand! I'm absolutely thrilled. She's having twins. That doesn't mean I want 5 more sets. I want what my kids want so they can be happy. My oldest daughter never had kids and never wanted kids. She had endometriosis and finally had a hysterectomy and was thrilled to get it done. I was thrilled for her. My son is 34, and I never wanted kids. He never had kids. People need to accept other people's choices. Just because I'm mom doesn't mean I have any right to an opinion on their choices. And if i don't, no one else does either.
I was childfree long before it was a “thing”. I was raised by an angry resentful mother who said her life ended when she had children, so it never seemed like anything I would want to do. However, I do think that a lot of the misery of child bearing and raising has to do with the lack of support, lack of respect and lack of agency that women (including my mother) experience when they have children. If men are serious about women becoming mothers, then they need to learn to step up, be more respectful of women and more willing to be equal parents. And even then, some women, like myself, would still not opt to have children.
Me and my boyfriend is child free. I almost raised my brother when I was a child, my boyfriend raised his brother and sister (he was 18 when his brother was born, and 21 when his sister was born). But his parents question us a lot about when we have a child. With minor children of their own(9 and 11 years old). We can't afford kids, I don't want them. I can't understand it.
Misery does love company and that’s what you get when you join “The Kid Club.” Good luck with that. We come into this world alone and die alone, period! Get a dog, get a cat and live your life!! 💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃
I worked in an elderly home as a teenager. I can verify that the parents ended up in these homes as their children DID NOT want to take care of them. Don’t like other people project their own shame on you. The fact is all choices comes with a set of consequences. Choose your hard. You be ok with your choice, you’re the one that has to live with it. You are also allowed to change your mind too, but what makes me peeved is again these people projecting and when you get underneath them telling you what to do…it’s often a case if these choose again, they would be childless.
I’d rather regret not having kids than regret having them.
Facts
Why the semantics gymnastics of this comment....nothing short of BRILLIANT!!!
But isn’t that still regret? That statement doesn’t really make sense?
Always 💜💜💜
@@faidaimaidaiIt’s unfair for children to be born to parents that regret having them as it could lead to many issues in the future. It’s better that they don’t exist at all so that no one else suffers the consequences of regret.
Childfree people being called "selfish" for putting themselves ahead of someone who literally does not exist. 🙄
That's why they are seen as selfish lol they live their entire life just focused on yourself. IMO life is a lot more beautiful and meaningful when you are raising kids. Without kids what's the point of life nothing and that's scary to me
@@Barbieinawheelchairbut it's more selfish to want a carbon copy of yourself than to not have one. Having kids is saying "I'm so great, the world needs more of me in it" that's selfish. Bringing life into the world regardless of the desire for life or consent of the people being created is selfish. There are no reasons to have children that isn't selfish." Focusing your entire life on yourself" as you claim child free people do as if they don't have family or friends that can require attention and affection is wild but forcing life into existence just so you can spend your life and focus your attention on someone else is selfish, that still makes the decision to have kids ultimately about you. Having kids is selfish because you are choosing to put more of yourself in the world and that's ok, being selfish is only a bad thing if you say it is, but call it what it is.
If your life has no meaning without kids then your only purpose was to indeed be a breeder. Everyone has different and more meaningful purposes. Living your owm life is very normal.
Truth hurts, huh?
@@Barbieinawheelchairso my parents brought me here then I’m just supposed to bring kids that will in turn bring their kids here that will also bring kids here…. That sounds meaningless, you’re no different than a factory lmao
Hospice nurse here.
Sooooo many of my elderly patients have been left alone and THEY HAVE KIDS. I was the only person visiting them for months.
I was also thinking something along these lines. We have a crisis of seniors being homeless here in Florida and in other states. I would assume most of them have kids-why are they homeless? Especially if one of the reasons I always hear is “for someone to take care of you when older.”
I’m actually thinking of volunteering at a local hospice. I was just looking up the requirements.
@yoyosworld2773 They're homeless because they think getting older will never happen to them, so they don't plan for the future. They just assume their kids will take care of them because they don't recognize their children as people who have their own lives.
My mom works at a skilled nursing facility. She was shocked at just how many broken families there are. Not saying the adult children of these folks need to be there all the time, but wow. Most don’t show up more than once per year if at all. It’s sad
@@GothicGali that is truly sad.
My boss is a single, childfree woman who's in her late 60s and looks at least 20 years younger than her age, has no regrets and has an amazing friend group that she's nutured for decades. She will never be lonely because her friends love her and have poterally dropped everything when she's needed them in the past, as she's done for them. Her sister loves on the other side of the world and is a happy grandmother several times over, and those kids and grandkids adore their aunt. She talks to them regularly and spends several weeks out of the year going to visit them. She's the embodiment of everything the forced birth crowd hates and has a happy, fulfilling life.
I'm decades younger than this woman, but this is somewhat similar to my life. I live abroad. I have loving, supportive friends spread around the world (and several in the country I live). And my sister has nieces that I love on and celebrate. It's a good life for me.
They are both happy, that's wonderful 💕
she's living my dream life ahah
Omg that’s why people think I’m freaking 22!! Age 31, no children. 😊 equates to no stress
@jazzyj6640 Same here. LoL ME and my friend, have a running joke about which one of our id's will be scrutinized longer when we go somewhere. It's always her because she still looks like she's 15, , but I've been accused of using a fake ID, and I'm 37. No kids, just animals. That's the true secret to skincare. Lmao
I've said it before and I'll say it again: you cannot be "selfish" towards someone who does not exist!
Yeah. Apparently women should feel guilty every time they menstruate.
Imagine how many potential human beings that don't come into existence.
(Yet somehow no one wants to talk about all the wasted sperm.)
34 and very happily child free here.
I knew since I was a young kid, and my mind is not changing.
Damn right 💯
As a childfree man, I get pushback mostly by other men who have children. They often tell me all these stupid things which include……
1. You’ll change your mind.
2. You are missing out.
3. What about your legacy?
4. What about your bloodline?
5. Children are a blessing and a joy.
6. Fatherhood is the best thing in the world.
7. You are meant to have children.
8. Who is gonna take care of you when you are old?
9. You will regret it when you are 60.
10. You are selfish?
Overall, it is just the “Why? Why? Why?” We are always put in that position where we have to explain ourselves.
Don’t listen to them. Some parents are miserable and they need company
Statistically women do most of the childcare and household chores, so these men probably do have it cosy with their woman taking on most of the responsibilities. I think their view, as a man, is fairly much spot on Lol. Good for you not wanting kids, enjoy your peace and quiet. As a woman if I had my time again I would not have had any either
Glad you made the choice that is right for you! It's tough facing thoughtless questions like these.
They need to tell their faces that then because as they walk past my childfree partner and I with their moaning kids and stressed out wife, I see nothing but regret and longing in their eyes when they look at us, for the carefree life they gave up.
Try this response: It makes absolutely no sense to bring children into a late-stage crapitalist, collapsing empire speeding toward its own demise-- with no healthcare system, no social safety net in exchange for our taxes, and soon, not even a habitable planet. And if YOU think it makes sense, you live under a rock.
These men are UNHINGED. It's mind-boggling how PRESSED they are about a woman choosing not to have children.
It's actually both genders that try to force women to have children, older women and unhappy mothers are just as likely to push other people into having children as men are. In fact I've seen more women trying to convince others to have children than men.
So, @adammonks? By forcing women to breed you are literally calling for reproductive sl@very.
@@adammonks591 You understand we don't give a shit, right?
@@kitsunephantom6155 all these videos prove otherwise.
@@adammonks591 All of these videos are about telling people to mind their business. None of them care about "species propagation".
Better child free then being a bad mother
Parents: „I decided to have kids because my life is better with them in it.“
Childfree women: „I don’t want to have kids because my life is better without them.“
Parents: „You are so selfish!“
These are lies people tell themselves. No one’s life is better with children.
Be honest…Life is more challenging with children. If you don’t have to put yourself through it, don’t. They have that right to remain child free and there’s nothing wrong with that!
@@keynoliviaI do actually believe some people are genuinely happy and happier being parents. I have no reason to believe no parents are happy or fulfilled. My best friend absolutely loves being a mom and she hasn't lost her personality to motherhood at all. But, I definitely wouldn't be happier or more fulfilled with kids. Both are fine.
@@keynolivia That's like saying: No one's life is better with friends/a partner.
Like... yes having friends can be exhausting sometimes and there are challenges in friendship but a lot of people really enjoy having friends. Some people just love other people and the joy of loving someone and spending good times together is worth all the challenging times.
Why is that so difficult to understand? I'm childfree and don't want children but acting like nobody ever loved their children is just fucked up.
@ducklingscap897 The point is that everyone is different. Being in my profession and hearing parents scream so loud about how miserable they are every day, it is difficult for some to believe that parenting is fulfilling. Parents truly do a poor job of making parenting look worthwhile, fun, or desirable. That is the reality.
Okay no kids for me 😊
The sound of babies crying or kids screaming for no reason would literally put me into a homicidal rage.
My thoughts exactly
It literally triggers me like that. I don't blame the child- I know that that's how young children communicate. But once I was stuck underground on the subway, stopped in a tunnel, with a toddler screaming in the same car. I wanted to badly to peel off my skin.
When I had to babysit my three argumentative and fighting young grandchildren almost every day, I felt like dying. On my days off I'd stay in bed and cry. Women don't realise they have maybe another 15 years of babysitting duties for grandchildren. I told my kids not to have babies but they went ahead anyway
@@rachelmdiamond it turns out you should definitely not scream "AY DOES YOUR BABY WANT A XAN" because the police will absolutely search you and make your forty mins late to work. So you didn't peel off your skin or homicide, or use a smart mouth to cause yourself problems. We're chalking this up to a win.
@@VMM34 You have been responsible for so long already, those grandchildren need to be raised by the people that made them. I hope that your children will understand that you need your own peace and boundaries when it comes to the grandchildren, because you do deserve time outside of family.
"You'll regret it when you're old!"
Is that why I've had so many little old ladies tell me that if they could do it over again, they wouldn't have had any because it wasn't worth it, and even more tell me I made the right choice in not having them?
The ones who regret it when they are old are the women who WANT children and family but can't/didn't find them "in time". Most childfree women truly DO NOT WANT children, so what regret will we have? I am childfree but am not against adopting, so the only regret I will have is not adopting sooner enough or something. You can't regret what you don't want
Exactly!
Some parents are honest enough to tell you the truth... they've actually told my wife that... she's a Wise Woman
“Don’t you want a mini-me?” No? I have enough self loathing already, why would I want to make more of me?
And also "mini-me" is not a healthy attitude towards a child, who is their own person.
They make it sound like the child is a doll when they mention "mini me" 😐🙄
@@non-applicable.EXACTLY! I'm nothing like my parents smh.
Hi Childree women! 👋🏾 How did you spend your day today? I worked 6 days in a row in the hospital, so slept in today until 10am knowing my bills are all paid.
I worked on my skincare last night, went to Sephora to buy my favorite high end Tatcha moisturizer and ate a nice meal. Now I’m going to work on my Calculus and Chemistry assignments because degrees keep the bills paid. Degrees don’t wake up one day and say, “I don’t love you anymore.”
Keep hustling ladies.
Go girl! 👏🏽🎉 Sounds like you live a wonderful life! From one child-free woman to another, keep being great! 👍🏽🫶🏽
I have all of that, but I also have two kids. They don't stop you from being great or getting a PhD. I take my 16yo to Sephora with me, she can get anything she wants. Life is just life for everyone. Kids ir no kids. ❤
I’m going back to school for nursing at 28! I did some studying today, worked a few hours at my WFH job, went for a walk around my local zoo, and then made dinner for myself and my wife. Tomorrow is her birthday and she’s requested that we just lounge around the house 😊
@HolisticManifesting Please stop it. Life is NOT the same when you have kids. Your comment was nothing but a competition, and you can't compete.
Hello there, I also worked. Came home and worked out and now planning on attending a dance class this evening and then some homework.
I laugh so hard everytime they say "have fun being single and alone forever" like dude if the women are single and alone forever then YOU are single and alone forever because who are you going to date? The other men? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Single men are the loneliest and most depressed group and they think it's other people's fault.
Notice that not one of those badgerers who order you to have kids is around when a new mother needs a sitter for an hour so she can take a shower and lie down for a moment.
Couldn't have said it better myself
They pay no price for being wrong. You do.
Now this is a word
I love kids and my kids, but I wanted my kids, they weren't forced on me. Don't have kids you don't want. Foster homes, group homes, and morgues are filled with unwanted children and they deserved better. Even if it isn't that bad in their homes the child knows something is off. The parent or parents hate themselves and resent the child and/or the person who got them pregnant. None of this is necessary if you have the means of preventing that pregnancy from occurring/continuing. Stop telling people to make horrible decisions based on your wants, needs, and obligations because you don't get the consequences.
This is why I don't regret my decision not to have children I don't like children, never wanted them and know I am not mother material. How terrible I am with kids was high lighted by my brother having one recently my nephew is pretty much the only kid I do like but I'm not naturally maternal and struggle even talking to him. People who work with me are surprised when I tell them that because I'm actually really maternal and caring towards animals but human babies just not for me
One of the sickest reasons for having kids is that you need someone who will care for you in your old age.
Most women I talk to who are more selfless mothers talk about NEVER wanting to be a burden on their children.
I work in a nursing home and my mother’s close friend works there. She was discussing her plans life insurance, burial, etc. and she stated I don’t want to be a burden to my children. I hear the same from some fathers. I feel the same way about my daughter.
I did not have her for her to take care of me. She is 13 and was talking about her dream of being a musician. She said she would get rich and give me money like most kids probably dream of. I told her that would be nice, but I did not have her for her to support me. LOL
You might not need your own kids to take care of you in your old age but you need someone elses kids. They will be running every service you require during your retirement, from grocery store worker to doctors.
@@Hiforest 🤡
@Hiforest but yet ain't it for free unlike a lot parents who is asking their kids to do that for them at no cost,
Seriously at least childfree people compensate for the labor and the time is of these other people's children to provide their services to the childfree folks, who's parents want it for free,
And honestly I wish people would just get a at home nurse and not use their kid/kids as free care takers.
@momoangel9243 I don't agree that anyone has an obligation to their parents to look after them in their old age.
@Hiforest I know I agree that nobody is obligated and should get a at home nurse instead, also i made a typo
Once my pastor said that childfree by choice people will never know the greatest love. When I told him that the bible said there is no greater love than the fact that Jesus laid down his life for his friends. So I thought we already know the greatest love. He was silent.😂
Oh, I need to use that line on these African male pastors! I’m tired of them. 😄
Perfect counter-argument!
This is brilliant! 😂😂
And what if the child turns out to be a drug addict or serial kîller? Yea.. greatest love my àss 😂
"laying down your life for your friends" is an act of love,; the love you have for your child is a feeling he is describing
In my 30s and I love being CF! Everyone doesn’t want the same things in life and honestly there are waaaay less people qualified to be a good parent. Kids are optional folks. Many men are bothered by the rise of childfree women because most men RELY on the exploitation of women so they can thrive & survive. For centuries men were taught that even the most basic man can have a beautiful, submissive bangmaid. Many are now realizing they actually have to be worth knowing to have access to the women they want as well as their wombs. I love that women are raising the stakes. Protect your womb and your peace.
Yup! Married men are statistically happier than single men because they have everything taken care of for them from women. Single/childfree women are statistically happier than married women/mothers because they have opted out of doing any of that. Childfree women are a threat to the men who need women to take care of them. We are able to show other women that they do have a choice to opt out and can live very happy lives. They tell childfree people that we should be afraid of being alone but they are the ones at risk of being alone. Women create meaningful relationships outside of romantic ones and tend not to be as lonely as they want us to believe. And that’s why they try to shame us into having kids.
Yes! This! All of it 💯💯‼️
🎉🙏🫶 "protect your womb and your peace” I’ve never related to anything more 🥰
The audacity of men as well to say child free women are "bitter old maids" while they rant like a btch on reddit 😂 "How dare women stop being exploited and bamboozled by my hairy unwashed ass?" 🤡
Men have No need to step up...and you are correct..."for centuries men were taught to that even the most basic man could have a beautiful, submissive bangmaid "...and yet women are rewarding them with s-x and children... therefore, they have NO need to provide for and protect their children and women...non Childfree and non Antinatalist women are the majority of women world wide.
If someone says “you don’t know unconditional love until you have kids” their partner should be seeing red flags waving in front of their face
Adults don't have unconditional love for each other. They just think they do. ❤
I always tell myself to remember that misery loves company. Eliminates irritation. Can't argue with stupid people. 👍
They hate the fact that you are happy without them and their children that they probably won't take care of anyway.
"Doesn't your husband want kids? No, he's very happy and doesn't have to fill a void that's not there" Oooohhhh, that's a top choice serve! 😂
Give that man a child and he will find another woman nonetheless
And will
One of the most common times for men to start cheating is when his wife/girlfriend has a baby.
The other is when she becomes seriously ill or disabled.
And he can go and find her lol.
Yes because sex, understandably so, becomes non existent.
Yup! It's all about power, baby. For men, sex is about power. Making us do their labor is about power. Baby trapping us is about power. And if you ever doubt that, just know that morgues and coma wards avoid hiring straight men because of the disturbing rate at which they will f**k corpses and comatose women. They will literally stick it in anything. It's about. Power.
People hating on and wishing harm on childfree women are inappropriate anyway. They not right in the head.
Honestly. I've chosen to remain single for over five years and have never wished harm on any man who chooses to do the same, it's madness.
@@eurekamreum5458the mgtow guys are the worst. They say they are men going their own way, yet are 100% aggressive towards women doing that same thing. If men were really going their own way then they'd be happily employed in making their lives amazing without a partner, not seething because women don't want them. I'm so sick of hearing them condemn single women who have cats, like why? They don't like women feeling content in any way, that's the problem
It's all about power, baby. For men, sex is about power. Making us do their labor is about power. Baby trapping us is about power. And if you ever doubt that, just know that morgues and coma wards avoid hiring straight men because of the disturbing rate at which they will f**k corpses and comatose women. They will literally stick it in anything. It's about. Power.
@@VMM34I heard a you tuber... breakdown the psychology of males that have that behavior...he was reading the analysis of the famous psychologist Carl Jung... According, to Carl Jung... childhood trauma splits the mind in males...to where the become Peter Pan aka the perpetual child...the toxic feminine or homosexual...a lot of males have been physically and mentally abused mostly by their female parents and abandoned by their male parents...the video is called...Meechee X Scapegoats Gays for the Dysfunction
9:17 honestly, I have worked at a few eldery nursing homes, and I can confirm you some of the lonliest people indeed were the ones who _did_ have (already adult, obviously) children. They had put all the eggs in one basket, expecting their children to give them all their free time when they're old, just to realize that's not gonna happen. Their children had their own fun retirement plans, while their grand children were busy with their own children. Worse than being just alone, is to be alone while you had thought you wouldn't be. It was heartbreaking to whitness over and over again.
However, it also made it so much easier for me to become CF, because "who's gonna take care of you when you're old" is the most common scare tactics when people hear you're not planning to have children at all.
yes exactly i said this last week to someone making fun of childfree by choice people. she is a mother and was saying “yall are gonna be lonely just wait” no YOU just wait when you realize your kids are gonna have whole lives of their own. you’ll spend days wondering why arent my kids here, yes your kids may still see you but the days they dont will be the loneliest days of your life. all the single, kidless residents were happy.. still walking around their rooms.. and were the most independent and needed the least assistance. the ones with kids were the ones who were far more miserable. unfortunately. in all ways
Pretty sure those elders you are speaking of were selfish/bad parents. Those who raised selfish terrible humans are always the ones crying about it in the end. Its the law of reaping what one sews.
@@OnyxKwina no. It's absurd to expect that adult children with their own busy lives would go to your nursery home first thing after work and leave the last thing. Or spend their full day on the nursery home with you if they're already retired. Many children also lived on another city far away, so it's not even possible for them to visit their parents daily even if they wanted. There were also children who did visit their parents regularly. But even that was hardly daily, and even if it was daily, it would still be just a couple of hours at maximum. There's still many, many more hours in a day to feel lonely about, if you've prepared yourself for your elder days to always have your family around.
@@bugzpudding I see it as a matter of mindset. You get used to have easy daily access to social connections when you have your family with children. You'll always have someone around, you both get used to it and get less and less used to seeking company from any other people. Just like married people may struggle to leave a miserable or even dangerous marriage even if they wanted to, because they've grown to be so dependent on their partner over the years. So many of the incompetences people have are rather psychological than practical.
@@OnyxKwinano, I use to be a psw and people who were amazing parents still had kids that moved away to live their own lives. They still loved their parents, however they have their own lives. Are you looking after your parents and your kids currently? That’s a lot of work
31 here. Even my mom is happy that I don’t have children and encourages me to live my life!❤❤
My mom told me to not wish to have children😄😄
It's so great that there are women who have their moms motivating them to be childFREE
I genuinely thought that I was alone in that aspect.
So much love for you❤❤❤❤
I would rather have a cat.
I’m a crazy cat lady in making. Proud of it!!
Same
Im that adult child taking care of her family when they got old. . I take care of two households at the moment. NOTHING about my life is selfish. EVERYTHING I do and why I do it is for my family that I was born into.
This ish is HARD! I cannot imagine doing this, plus having to care for my own kids and husband.
My choice to not have kids had/has nothing to do with “putting myself first” I simply do not want to be pregnant or raise (anymore)children.
I’m 36, child free , relationship free and GUILT / REGRET FREE!
I work seven days a week to make ends meet, for my family. I gave up my career in my passion for my family. Guess what? I work so much that I don’t have time to actually spend with the people that I’m taking care of. My interaction with them is caring for them doing something for them. But my grandparents, who I’m taking care of currently, are Lonely one of my grandmothers is a widow, and I can’t even go and visit her. And my other set of grandparents, the ones that are lonely, don’t really want to be around each other. They don’t even sleep in the same room.
The number one reason I don’t have kids is I believe people when they say ‘it takes a village’ and I don’t have one. Now that I’m 35 and over the baby fever phase of my life I’ve realized I’d be happy to part of someone’s village and help others with their kids…so my goal is to form a village.
And if I really feel drawn to it later in life, when I have my village, I’ll take in a pregnant teenager and do the mom and grandma thing all at once, when I’m finally chill enough to deal with a traumatized adults baggage and their baby.
I think the village was destroyed over 500 years ago... but women continue to reward males with s-x and children... when it's obvious males have NO need to provide for and protect their children and women.
Assuming your kids are going to take care of you when you're old is absolutely disgusting and selfish. Your kids don't owe you anything people.
As a woman who REALLY wanted children, I've never had a problem understanding child free ppl. Different humans have different dreams and NEEDS from life.
I'm grateful that I got to have my two, now young adult kids, but I back up child free ppl. So many ppl are not mentally/emotionally equipped to have their own kids. My own mother and several of my aunts and uncles were miserable as parents and it definitely had a traumatic effect on us kids.
There are many reasons different ppl are child free and there is NOTHING wrong with that.
My own children don't want to ever have kids and I back them up.
Other ppl making different life choices do not validate or invalidate my own.
Children shouldn't be born with a job. If you are having children because you want someone to love you... get therapy and learn to love yourself first then and only then should you even consider having children. It is not your child's responsibility to regulate your emotional wellbeing
Remember this song called Cats in the Cradle. Boy grows up with dad not having time for him then when dad retires and wants time with son the son has no time for him. A.K.A the last line of the song "As I hung up the phone it occurred to me, he grown up just like me. My boy is just like me." I think the song was out in the 60's but the relativeness of the song is mind blowing. Kids and relationships with kids are hard work! If only ONE of us will put in the effort, dam right women won't do it!
I love that song and you’re absolutely right! Sadly, there are so many kids who grow up with absent fathers who come around once the kids no longer need raising. I’ve heard some cases where the absent fathers become livid when their kids express no interest in a relationship with them or when the daughter has her mother somebody else walking her down the aisle.
nobody can shame me into doing extra work for something I don't want when I could have a nice nap lol, yeah I'm selfish if that's what you want to call it. it seems more selfish to have a kid and expect them to care for you in your old age 😂
Having a child so that they can take care of you is the ultimate selfishness! 19:59
People thinking their kids are their old age plans are in for a rude awakening 😂😂😂
What about having kids as a retirement plan? Isn t that selfish enough?!
I knew in highschool I wasn't going to want to be a mom. Fast forward and I'm a 50yo happily child free auntie. It's awesome. 5stars
I'd rather regret not having children, than regret having them. A kid can sense when they aren't like, wanted, or if the parent is miserable. I don't want to push that on a child on the strong chance I'd regret it based on my personality. And if I feel the sudden urge to be maternal, then I will volunteer in positions where I can help kids such as volunteering at Child Hospitals, friends who need a babysitter, coaching sports, reading at libraries, etc.
Exactly! Same.
Also, I think a lot of adoption agencies allow for the parent to be up to 60 years old so I have plenty of time to decide if I want a kid.
I could definitely sense how unhappy my mom was because she would lash out on me very often. She's one of the reasons I realized I shouldn't want kids because I have 0 patience for kids and wouldn't wanna make anyone feel like I felt.
@@lizzy4827 smart
The story out there about being childfree is often as offensive as the pressure to have children. Childfree people sleep in, have lots of money, drink and go on vacations! Obviously there are no non-shallow reasons not to have kids! @$#% off with that. I have a career, artistic pursuits, friendships and interests. When new parents tell me, "Once you have kids, you can't spend all day in your PJs anymore", I can see how they picture the childfree life and it's nothing like mine. I'm busy. And I want to live in adult spaces. Parents are expected to spend all of their time in children's spaces, restricting what they talk about, what they watch and listen to, how deep they can get into an idea or topic, to the preferences and attention spans of a child. Everything around them is expected to be safe for a child. I don't want to be manipulated and infantilized _through_ my child by people who would prefer that I not think deeply or do anything disruptive.
Its crazy how males.. who have no jdea what its like being female.... are going to tell wlmen how to feel. When they themselves say its hard work
@@adammonks591yes you are, you’re literally telling us to risk our mortality because you want to impregnate us. You’re low
@@adammonks591instead of taking care of your parents, which is why they brought you here you’re on the internet bothering women. You’re not a good example of why I should have kids
@@adammonks591 oh, so you think we're stupid? 😂 Most if not all women that decides to be cf know the consequences of this decidion and are fine with that. It's not your bisness anyway. First of all, you're a man, so you don't have a clue how it is to be a woman or a mother. Second of all, you don't know us as individuals, so why the heck do you pretend to care for us so much, huh? I bet in reality you don't care at all. You just feel uncomfortable knowing there're women up there who doesn't want to carry your's or any other man seed, that's all. If I and up regreting my choice, it's fine, because it's a choice and it's ok to regret some choices in life, you know. 🤷♀ I better regret that, than regret having children when their already born. I don't want my hypothetical children to feel miserable knowing that their mother didn't want them, so I better not have them to begin with.
they don't care how women feel, they just want to extract women's labor
@@Enriquez2222 non sequitur. I'm not trying to prove myself to any of you 😂
Don't try to obsfucate the truth. Women need to know that not having children is detrimental to society. Your female shaming tactics won't work on me. I'll tell the truth no matter what.
I have changed my mind with age. When I was younger I wanted children very much. I didn't get to have then and now in my 50s I am so pleased I didn't. I now really couldn't afford them , couldn't offer them any of the opportunities my parents were able to offer me. I also don't have to worry about feeding or housing anyone but me. Life is tough these days and everyone dies alone in the end. Its a lot less stressful knowing I don't have to worry about a child's future as well as getting through life right now.
Isn't it more selfish to bring kids into the world that you can't afford?And now they're forced to suffer because of your bad decision??
They call you irresponsible and selfish and tell you you're making poor choices for not having kids. But if you had kids you knew you couldn't afford, they'd say the same thing. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
When have they being able to afford children?
I will say, I think it’s sad that women with children are jealous. But also, I struggle to imagine any mom who’s not jealous of childfree people acting like that
I'm 45 and have NEVER regretted not having a child. My husband has just turned 50 and, you guessed it! He also has never regretted us not having children either.
We are currently planning the next phase of life when we will be completely mortgage free (hence debt free), are going to get easier jobs and focus on travelling as much as possible until we physically can't do it anymore.
I know I never would have been as happy with my life if I was limited to what was left over when I wasn't focussed on my child...but that's just me.
I love that! If she's not at home raising kids, then she has time to topple the patriarchy.😂❤😂
My two female best friends are married with kids and they constantly tell me how much they envy that I’m single and childfree. They‘re both miserable, hate their husbands, and wish they didn’t have kids. One of them begged me to never get married and to never have children. I trust their word much more than all the bitter, single, childless xys in the world.
Your friends are deluded. Married women with children report higher satisfaction with life than single childless women. People say this to me all the time "I wish I lived on my own" when in reality seclusion is a punishment and not healthy.
XYs aren't bitter about not having children. We can get women abroad that want families and appreciate us. It's the XXs that are bitter as all these videos show. It's just cope.
I bet they won't tell their kids what they tell you, huh?
@K.C-2049 awww you can't handle facts. 🤡 truth hurts huh?
I'm too good for any of you losers. You're all beneath me. That's why I have a foreign girlfriend. Can't handle a strong man, huh?
Pathetic
@K.C-2049 bullshit? You mean cold hard facts?
There is no important information in the video. It's just cope because you can't find a man and are too old to now have children. Sad.
@K.C-2049 phahahahahahahahaha you mean facts, not bullshit?
There is no important information in the video, it's just cope because none of you can keep a man.
@K.C-2049 phahahahahahahahaha you mean facts, not bullshit...
There is no important information here, just women seething that they can't keep a man
I had a client say to me “you can’t be selfish forever, doesn’t your husband want children?” I had been married 1 years, worked insane hours and knew we needed more to be able to bring babies into the world. That same client had 3 kids all on government assistance, unwed with multiple baby mothers/daddies. 🤦🏽♀️ she and her guttersnipes were a mess.
Just because we have the ability to have a baby does not mean you should
I find it funny that when we’re kids we’re told this all the time 😂 “Yes because you can doesn’t mean you should” and “just because your friends jumped off the cliff doesn’t mean you should.” The second one is even funnier because as an adult suddenly they’re telling you “well so and so had kids, what about you?” Like, good for them? 😂😂😂
Kids are NOT:
A retirement plan
A pet
A trophy
A milestone
An accessory
Employees
Best friends that can’t leave
Spousal replacement
Dress up dolls
Romantic/sexual partners
Currency
Required.
Next time i see some guys being beat up. Im just gonna ask why is he single?
I'm in my 80s. I never had kids. With what I wanted to do in life, I knew I couldn't be dragging a kid with me. I took all precautions to make dam sure I never got pregnant. I have NEVER regretted it. NEVER.
I was called "selfish" by a gynecologist for not wanting children because other women are infertile while I am not. I was baffled lol, I told her "so, if I have a child, and according to your logic, will it cure infertility for all the women out there?".
She was (it was a woman yes, AS USUAL) absolutely unbearable. At the end of the conversation she said, smirkly"I see, you don't have maternal instinct", and I think I said something like "well, since maternal instinct happens when you HAVE a child, I guess I don't, indeed".
I believe she was frustrated that I belong to a younger generation where contraception and abortion are legal. It wasn't the case for her. ANd while I understand her frustration, it's not my fault if she was forced to birth.
Ahole
I love how 'selfish' it is to not bring a human being into this world when you know you would not be a good parent. Good parents WANT to be parents. I think its so selfish to insist someone who would probably not handle raising a child well to still have them. What about that child?? What about how that child will feel and the trauma of having a parent who never wanted them? Make it make sense.
I love my daughters, but I tell them don't have kids.
Literally watching this 10:45am on a Saturday
Damn I’m up at 6:38am lmao I feel ya
8:25am here
It’s 7:33am for me 😭 happy Saturday
8:36am here 🇯🇲 watching hummingbirds in my garden 😌
11:30am on a Sunday got up an hour ago, eating some good food and slowly preparing to head to the gym
I've known at a very young age, if I remember right, around 7 or 8 years old, that I don't want my own biological children. Now, at nearly 40 years old, people have finally stopped trying to convince me otherwise. Until now, had I gotten a penny every time I heard a "you're going to regret that decision" or "you will hear your clock ticking, trust me" or, the most degrading by far, "but that's what women are meant for", I'd be rich.
We should normalize asking people why they want to have children instead of asking them why they do not.
And what percent of the population were complete accidents? Most parents didn't legitimately Choose to become parents.
"And what percent of the population were complete accidents?"
Statistically? About half.
It's so so so easy for radical people to call out women who choose to not have kids as selfish.
Yet they don't bat an eye on parents who poorly raise children, proving that not every parent deserves kids.
That's giving them the benefit of the doubt but I'm very very sure that they will see those parents and say "wow those parents shouldn't have kids"
Yikes bro.
People can learn a lot from wolves. Only the strong couple in the wolf pack produce offspring. The rest of the pack nurtures each other. Unfortunately, too many humans think too highly of themselves. Not everyone SHOULD have children.
The reason why I don’t have kids is I want to have a kid but I’m considering how the economy is, everything is expensive. Unless I become a multi millionaire since being a millionaire doesn’t mean anything in this economy, then I can’t have a kid. I also don’t want to bear a kid and then can’t support my kid.
My great-aunt-in-law is in her 70's, child-free, adored her two nephews and has always been active in her great-nieces and great-nephews lives. She travels, dates, relaxes, eats wonderful food, has a GORGEOUS house full of artwork, and now that she's older and needs care has plenty of savings to pay for it.
Because they become miserable when single and they wonder how women feel happy single lol
one word FREEDOOOM! lol
@@julieworsley5048 exactly 💯 😂😂
Statistically this isn't true. Single mums and married mums are happier. All demographics of men too. Single women are the least happy.
@@adammonks591 Where are you reading this ? Everything I've ever read on this subject has said the opposite.
@@lisameeks4964 American Family Survey 2020.
The powers that be have a vested interest in keeping us all single. Non married people are taxed more 🤑💰
I am high risk. I got told that my life means nothing and my whole purpose is to produce. 🤦♀️
I always tell people that i cant have them, it saves from alot of conversations
I also do this, and I also say I can’t afford adoption/surrogacy fees nor do I want to do those things. I always try to sound a little sad too so it’s convincing LOL
Alot Of Men Want Kids, But Put In Little To Effort To Help Raise Them! The Responsibility It Put On The Mom Majority Of Time! Yeah, No Thanks! I Don't Want Kids, I Have Pets And Taking Care Them Is Hard Enough! 🙅♀️🙅♀️🙅♀️🙅♀️🙅♀️😤😤😤
Proud to be child free. My friends who have adult children are always dealing with their kids needing help with childcare, money to pay the bills, places to live because they got divorced or lost their jobs, et cetera. These women are also being divorced for younger women once the kids leave home, and they don't know what to do with themselves because their whole identify was "wife and mother". They're the ones crying in their box wine and taking pills to get through the day. Not me. I'm just fine.
Parents: You're selfish for not wanting kids!
Also parents: have children just so someone can wipe their ass in their old age.
Make it make sense.
Came busting In like the Kool Aid Man 🤣🤣🤣
43 here! Childfree life is exactly what I think it will be, that's why I'm doing it.
13:39 Anyone notice how young and lively she still looks? That's because she's happy with her decision and her life is stress free.
I can't think of any other reason people would be so against child-free people but pure jealousy. 😂
As a mom of two, please don't have kids if you don't want them. It is a life long commitment and it changes you. Parenthood is very hard. Of course, it can be rewarding also. But it's mostly a daily grind. You lose yourself, you have to rediscover yourself again. It's an arduous journey and not everyone is cut out for it. I absolutely love my children and would die for them. But it has not been easy. Feelings of inadequacy are always there, never feeling good enough. The self-esteem takes a huge blow as you understand you cannot be the parent you have envisioned.
I stand with child-free people and will defend their decision to not have children as I know what it takes to raise them. And any parent pushing their lifestyle on a child-free person is doing everyone a disservice: this person, their potential child and the society in general. How many criminals come out of homes with abusive hateful parents who didn't want them?
Don't let anyone pressure you into having kids!!!
Women who have kids just get to hear different lies...
One of my biggest bugbears in my 20s was when some of the most self absorbed people I knew had kids and then did a complete 180 into the whole 'you are selfish if you don't have kids'. Um. Okay. Good for them finding their parental instinct, but crapping on anyone who doesn't follow their lifestyle is just tacky.
Why in the world would you guilt someone into having children? If I said I didn't want a dog or pet that's fine because the pet needs a loving human. Are kids any less important than pets? don't kids need loving parents?
I have aunties who had kids to try and save their marriages. My cousins are miserable and the problems pre-kids just got amplified post-kids. The only difference is that now my cousins have first row seats to the chaos.
Many marriages break up after children ahd the number of men who cheat on their pregnant wives is disturbingly high.
This woman that I had seen twice in my life (first time when I was a child) told me I was selfish for not having kids.
"Wait, you've seen me twice in my life, and you expect me to change MY life to fit YOUR point of view? Hah, you're the selfish one for even considering it."
My fam and I had to leave, she yelled at me like if I had wished cancer upon her mother.
Matt Walsh: “She’s too stupid to realize how depressing this is”
So…she’s too stupid to be depressed? She’s so stupid she’s simply happy? How dare she lol. She didn’t realize she wasn’t SUPPOSED to be happy!
I was a nanny, I was a social worker and worked with elderly, children, teens, adults with mental disorders. I am good with being childfree. My nieces all turned out with issues and unwed pregnancy. I love my childfree life with childfree husband of 20 years with our dogs. Have fun with all that and all the expectations. Most times it just doesn't pan out and people are looking towards the movie industry with the beautiful life. It is rare to have that perfect house and perfect life.
Chidless GenX here and thankful! Too many babies that no one wants to take care of in this upside down world
I'm finna get in my King size bed, and eat a bowl of peanut butter Captain Crunch!😅😅
3:26 the description of the men criticizing chelsea handler 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 omg.
The pressure and guilt trip permanent to have kids, but then when those women have kids, and the man decides to not be a father… They blame the woman for opening her legs and having kids😂😂
Most of the reasons have children are so self-centered it disqualifies them from being parents. If you want kids so bad, there are millions of children in foster care and group homes looking for loving parents. Quit being a narcissist about replicating your genes and learn how to love someone unconditionally that doesn't look like you. Ugh. Also, never listen to men pressure you for children. Many of them just trap women with babies to slow them down and make them dependent.
The only time in my life where I was the happiest in my best self in my PEACE when I was single and celibate
I'm 21 and Married. But Ive made myself clear to my husband that I will neveer be pregnant. However, I have had personal experience with the USA fostercare system espicially with siblings. So we have agreed that we will adopt, preferably a group of siblings who are older. We have agreed to this future plan through many collaborative discussions. However, before I met him I was fully planning on never being married and only a slim possibility of children. I'm so happy to see the women outwardly paving the way for my past self!
A guy i grew up whit is now fat looks tierd and have to peny pinch al the time before he had kids he was fine as hell looked zen and took care of hes health anyways he keeps asking me when i am gonna get married and have kids like there is somthing wrong whit me i never tell him how he looks becuse thats mean but i cant hold back the laufter when i get askd that becuse he looks tierd wile saying it my point is when you get attacked rember how the person attacking you looked before they had kids.
We all die anyway so none of this matters. some people really love to do too much. the government really wants those laborers to pay all that money they spent.
The woman with the perm and the glasses was spitting straight facts and nothing but facts!! She didn't hold ANYthing back!!
Edit: I commented before I finished the video and all of these women were dropping truth bombs left and right!
Amazing ppl that have millions of years of ascendants and choose to say no, my line stops here. Amazing! You got big balls lady. More power to you x
The 50 year old child free woman that entered the chat looks amazing!!!!!!
That's because she hasn't had the life sucked out of her by childbearing/raising.
I have children I don’t regret having them but I do regret the world they’re living in. But if a woman doesn’t want kids for god sake don’t force them!
Can someone please give me a reason to have kids that doesn’t mean that they will be brought into this evil abusive world where they will die of homelessness?
I guess our parents didn’t think that we would ever grow up. Having us was all about them. Childless women know better.
I still get side looks in my 50s because I never wanted them. Call me selfish because I don’t care.
My daughter and her husband wanted 2 kids. She's pregnant, with twins. Awesome, right? Now people are saying, "Do you think she'll have more? Why doesn't she want more? What if they're both girls? Or both boys? One friend said i hope she has a lot more."" Wtf is wrong with people. Kids are hard, and kids are expensive. Why would you want someone to have more kids than they want? I don't understand! I'm absolutely thrilled. She's having twins. That doesn't mean I want 5 more sets. I want what my kids want so they can be happy. My oldest daughter never had kids and never wanted kids. She had endometriosis and finally had a hysterectomy and was thrilled to get it done. I was thrilled for her. My son is 34, and I never wanted kids. He never had kids. People need to accept other people's choices. Just because I'm mom doesn't mean I have any right to an opinion on their choices. And if i don't, no one else does either.
I was childfree long before it was a “thing”. I was raised by an angry resentful mother who said her life ended when she had children, so it never seemed like anything I would want to do. However, I do think that a lot of the misery of child bearing and raising has to do with the lack of support, lack of respect and lack of agency that women (including my mother) experience when they have children. If men are serious about women becoming mothers, then they need to learn to step up, be more respectful of women and more willing to be equal parents. And even then, some women, like myself, would still not opt to have children.
Me and my boyfriend is child free. I almost raised my brother when I was a child, my boyfriend raised his brother and sister (he was 18 when his brother was born, and 21 when his sister was born).
But his parents question us a lot about when we have a child. With minor children of their own(9 and 11 years old). We can't afford kids, I don't want them.
I can't understand it.
Misery does love company and that’s what you get when you join “The Kid Club.” Good luck with that. We come into this world alone and die alone, period! Get a dog, get a cat and live your life!!
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I worked in an elderly home as a teenager.
I can verify that the parents ended up in these homes as their children DID NOT want to take care of them.
Don’t like other people project their own shame on you.
The fact is all choices comes with a set of consequences. Choose your hard.
You be ok with your choice, you’re the one that has to live with it.
You are also allowed to change your mind too, but what makes me peeved is again these people projecting and when you get underneath them telling you what to do…it’s often a case if these choose again, they would be childless.
Old age without children is not a problem... Not when you have weed, MDMA and chocolate... and rock and roll... No worries...