What’s crazy is Kevin spent 3 years telling men to be the best version of ourselves and was harder than us than he was on women. Last fall my girlfriend cried listening to how Kevin spoke to one of the male callers. Kevin is a big part of why I lost weight and stepped up my style game. What is the downside to being the best version of yourself? For men and women.
I got married young, 21. Literally, ALL of my friends were living it up, sleeping with men, partying, etc and I was at home raising kids and I was upset, but I stuck it out. I was upset and thought that was where I wanted to be. I though that I was missing out on life and having fun. I FELT trapped. Now, my friends are STILL single. Here I am 20 years later with the same guy, happy, and realizing I missed out on nothing.
@@victorlewis7635 I got married at 19 and I didn't want anything to do with clubbing and being single with my best friend. But my ex husband left me because he also thought he could do better. Found a Spanish chick and went through with divorcing me. He didn't want to make anything work. He wanted someone of a different race and with more money. Now I'm happy and he can't keep a relationship.
My ex wife divorced me and had her first kid by a man with 4 kids lol , I got a new job making an extra 30 grand a year, she hates me too this day for that
Could easily be a “born again” Christian. Realized that most non-religious single 40+ men are content with doing their own thing until some 28 year old hottie comes by and don’t want to play house with a middle aged baby mama
Precisely...how do you build...sacrifice for and make a family with this type of female. When she is not feeling it...she is out. Gents work on yourselves and be very choosy.
@@frussonj not only is she out, the government mandates that the husband has to maintain her lifestyle for up to the rest of her life, regardless of whether he continues to earn as much.
She was married, didn't have to work, wasn't cheated on, and all her children have the same father. Girl had it made and let it go. As a woman who wants the things listed she, and other women like her, make it harder for the rest of us. 🤦🏾♀️
@@jesussson3467 He had a younger female call in & she told him that she broke up with her loyal boyfriend because he works too much. He then asked her "why do y'all feel the need to inject chaos when everything is going right?".
@@tayemongreen3377 it must be a cultural thing. Honestly, dealing with that type of mindset is physically and spiritually exhausting; Especially after a long day of work. Men are taking notes and moving on to more peaceful pastures. No time for BS on the home front 👌🏾
@@JVP_thephobic Absolutely. I would say it's discouraging as well. She leaves you because you have a peaceful relationship? Who wants to deal with that?
I think you missed the point. She was 31 when she decided to dump her husband. Marriage is a big step. For a wife with 3 kids, divorce is an even bigger one.
Right! 27 years old is a grown grown woman! She just thought she was missing out with her friends partying and stuff or she was interested in someone else. I don't know any woman in her right mind that is leaving her husband for nothing. She didn't even have to work? She crazy as hell!
Damm this story hits home. My wife in the process of divorcing in hopes of doing better. High school married at 24 now divorcing at 33. We have a daughter. I won’t be talking to her unless it about my daughter. This ain’t just black women, cause we’re Asian. All women feeling entitled to a 6 figure income. For a year now she been telling me to go make 6 figures. When I couldn’t she was done. I feel for these men.
Damn hold your head up we should has man buy land and create a village for men who going through shit like this they can have plenty shoulders to lean on and a community of men their to up help them bounce back bigger better and stronger !
My ex left me three times and each time I took her back. She told our pastor that she did not want to be married anymore. I was so heartbroken nevertheless. In divorce court, the judge said he saw no reason for a divorce. He asked us did we want to reconsider and she said no, I teared up which I thought was something I would never do. Once I got over her I met my current wife of 27 years and we are very happy. My ex told me later she regretted that she left me and that if my wife and I did not work out I could come back. No thank you never going to happen. I would not want my worst enemy to suffer the type of pain I had.
My thing is why didn't she realize you were the best thing that happened to her, reconciling 3 times. But then want a fourth reconciliation after finding another woman?
I went through this with my ex wife. She didn’t have to work, we had one kid and she wasn’t happy having a husband that took care of all the financial needs. She thought she would be better off as a single mother. She got a dose of reality and after divorce, and living the hard life, she wanted to come back. I’m happy, successful, and living life and she’s miserable and trying to get me back but that ship has sailed.
She 'talks to her ex husband everyday' is code for ' she divorced him and put him on the back burner while she took away his kids, put him on child support and tried to find a better man'. . .nobody should take her seriously, not another man not her ex husband
I needed this. My wife of 16 years left me and our 2 children. I got full custody. And like a dumbass I would still call her to see how she was doing. Not no more ! Thank you brother
@@realSpook you'd be surprised what a few words can do.... Not saying that you should use any RUclips video as a guideline for life... But seeing the same situation over and over on here and watching KS dissect it all can open your eyes 🤷
@@kinguche9208 truth... I would never have imagined so many 40-something year-old black women going to bat HARD for Cardi B Megan the stallion / WAP SMH
This reminds me of myself and my high school sweetheart. We both came from poor families. I put us both through college and right when we were about to start a family, she cheated on me with my best friend and ended up marrying him. 9 years down the drain but I knew if I lived my life right things would happen for me. Now, I'm a millionaire and have 3 beautiful children and a loving, beautiful and feminine wife. Thanks for the favor.
For her being selfish. And after all, she still depends on him for anything and everything. She's using him. I bet if he was interested in some other woman, she would be in his ear saying the woman he met is bad and lies her ass off so he doesn't move on from her. I sincerely hope the man drops this woman who clearly is all about take take take. Never any give give give. An energy stealing person who will dry you out.
She doesn't Love her husband, her 1st question should of been how do I get the ❤️ of my life back. Instead, she came on seeking advice on how to obtain/attract another man.
I pray the man does not get back to her, because the reason she left him in the first place is still going to happen, and she will never respect the man. she still thinks she deserves better. women like this will keep frustrating men, thinking he is the cause of them still being on that level, especially if they have watched movies, hear their friends of media telling them to level up.
@ Cyn: Facts she has no love for him, it's over if that ooeey gooey feeling is not in the mix I don't care how much money or benefits he has to offer her. Remember the end of the movie "Indecent Proposal" when the old man told the young man, "she'll never look at me the way she looks at you."
I can’t STAND when a woman with children leaves a good, hardworking man for no reason (there was no abuse, cheating, danger, etc.) but then she wants sympathy from everyone for being a “struggling single mother”. 🙄 There really are people out here who are widowed or their spouse just abandoned the family one day, and they really don’t know what they’re going to do to survive. But when a woman chooses to leave and take the kids and go struggle when she had it made with her husband, she was able to stay home with the kids, didn’t have to work, didn’t have to worry about daycare, just had a loving home where she was supported financially, physically and mentally, then she decides to go off and then acts like everybody owes her charity and a medal for being being a “brave single mom” it drives me insane 😵💫 When you have kids, you have an obligation to make sure that you do everything in your power to give them the best possible environment and the best chance at growing up stable and happy
Patrick - He want's her back, but she don't want him. She would respect him if he wasn't so nice. He needs to disappear for about a year and she'll be begging him back. He's got more power than he realizes.
Dated a girl since high school... married her in y’all late 20s, had 3 kids by the girl, only for her to file for divorce 5 years later for no reason, and after alimony and taking half ur shit, files child support for the kids u was already raising before the divorce. Only for her to want to be friends with u years later and admitting she still loves you. Is this how women show love? I don’t want it.
My aunti, was jelouse single mom of 2, made sure lie and make my mom divorce my dad. My dead was wealthy. But my single mom with 3 kids, I grew up as poor child, she was jobless, emotionall abuse us. Brought my dad to court, his visa paspoort was taken for 3 years. This is true, I got true shit for no reason, this happens to a lot of kids out their. My dad became alcoholic and a depressed man now.
"We still love each other." Nah, he's moved on but you're being the bitter ex wife that breaks up all his relationships. "We talk everyday." Because you nag him everyday.
He hasn’t moved on because they’re still married as she states at around the 11:46 mark but he definitely should. No other woman or man deserves to get involved in dating either of them. It’s best for all involved that they just make their marriage work. She’s had plenty of time to find out that nobody else wants her
All of that. And the fact they started so young and there are no outside children was a plus too. She literally had it all. The ex husband is a fool to be talking to her daily still.
@@moneymakin317 _Jesus Christ, 27 _*_isn't_*_ young, stop downplaying and protecting her_ - she's blame-shifting at its finest! She divorced and made her husband's and each of their children's life miserable at the very age-bracket many w0m3n _today_ eagerly want to marry but can't find any m3n who's willing to take the risk. She literally blew her own marriage for riding past that infamous carousel past 32, how f-cking delusional can one be? You can't even downplay it saying she married and had the classical FOMO, *she was riding well to 27!* It was that fem-nistic urge to break free and listen to reason.
meh.....ok, a “lady” is a woman. That’s what I’m talking about. If it doesn’t describe you, then why defend the behavior? I guess you “ladies “ don’t think men are talking to each other about female behavior....
You have to understand that women are like children and once you treat them that way you have a whole different set of expectations and you're never disappointed
Probably still is. She most likely left her husband for another man but, as what usually happens, he didn't really want to be with her and left her. She starting to realize at 40 that men aren't interested in anything serious with her and can't understand why because they still will share a bed with her.
She also divided the kids from their father. Being apart from your children hurts men like crazy. She also denied the kids from seeing a home with both parents.
The court system makes it easy for women to divorce their husbands for no reason. He paid all the bills, was there for his kids, faithful, and sat her up so she didn’t have to ever work again. She divorced his behind for no reason, took the kids and ran and put him on child support now she has 3 kids in a broken home. The court system loves this behavior and this is what most women are doing these days.
See, looking back on the american society it was never like this. A marriage was meant for life unless something dire occured. A divorce wold be granted. For instance in 1930s america. If a woman was with a child and no husband, she'd be an outcast and ridiculed. My has the times changed for the worse
Bro, EXACTLY. I don’t buy her leaving her man because she was bored and thought she could get another man down the road. BS. She had her eyes already set on someone else and it blew up in her face. A woman doesn’t just leave a good dude and provider without something else in the works.
I always say, if you ask anything from the other person, ask if you have those youself. If not, you have no right to ask for anything you do not have yourself.
She kept her foot on the “young and dumb” gas pedal . she was the average marrying age for a woman ... people get proposed to even younger than she was smh
Kevin, thank you for putting this woman straight! I’m so sick and tired of hearing my black sisters do this to themselves, their children and black husbands. This is one of the many reasons our black families continue to struggle. You really need your own syndicated television show. Your words of advice and wisdom needs to be on television for all Americans to see and straight getting help. Take care, Dora.
She straight up divorced 90% of every woman’s DREAM husband because she was bored? The slap button required over time. We needed Rick James for this woman folks...Hell... We needed Deacon Jones...
This is why she was so vague with the timeline. You could possibly claim you are "young and dumb" at 27, which is the age she originally implied she got divorced. At 31? No, you can't claim that.
A high value man looks for a person that suplement him not compete with him, a person that have a understanding of what Integrity, Discretion, Loyalty means, and he wants to see if that person lives a life with actions that confirm the person understand what living by those words Suplement, Loyalty, Integrity, Discretion, thats an absolute non negotiable requirement, a woman that do or have some things like, talk down to him or about him, he says no to those be sees spreading rumours, share intimate information, claim popularity by trying to put others in their crosshair and defame their victims on socialmedia, media, in social networking situations, if the have done it or do it right now on the expense of her partner or her partners family, friends or business associated or colleauges, it doesn't matter if it's an ex or someone associated with that person she tries to use as a source to make herself the center of attention, then she can't ever be an option for a relationship for the thinking man who wants to be succesful in his life and keep on being it throughout his lifetime, the lack of patience in partnership with wishful thinking and the refusal to putting in the right amount of effort in doing the right choices for a partner in life have brought down many good men and the fall from glory down to hardship bad been brutal for many, wishful thinking is probably a mens worst enemy in the case of relations, allways remember yourself that you don't know that other person and those first joyfull months is mostly because you use that wishful thinking to decive you with fantazys in the places were you lack knowledge about that other person, it's your fantazys dream women you hang out with in your judgement there, but you should allways remind yourself that it's your lack of knowledge that constructs that ideal women, as soon the next period starts it's her self advertised women propaganda about her being the best person in the word that tries to lead you to belive the is flawless without any faults, it's only in the third stage when you starts to see the distortion between who she really is and the to other stages picture of her you have been living with, this is the hardest stage to go through if you want a long time relation because of two times two reasons, this is a stage to mature in for both partners, or the stage you have to break up or become dead inside and loose yourself as an free individual in selfsufficiant soul/spirit/body and forever becoming under someone elses control, it's her e we need to be able to give and take constructive criticism and that goes för the other part in the relation to, but it's also the stage were you have to be able to sort out what's destructive criticism made to break someones persona down and we need reject that behaviour in our lives we can't be silent when it happens and destroy our own future by being overly diplomatic, here we must put our feets down and say stop don't cross my borders, but also be introspective enough to be able to take the constructive criticism as a hint of something that a person who start to know ja may see and tell us because everybody else doesn't tell us about it, to mature demands more efforts of us, we shouldn't take a decission about having a long time relation before we been i stage three for long enough time to start to see things clearly for what they are. Remember that a womans makeup is a replica of small facial expressions that a fertile sexual arroused woman naturally express, if we don't think twice when looking at it we are going to be hypnotized into our animalic mating season like every other male animal on earth.
Then on top of that she’s still trying to find a new man and is only taking Kevin’s advice to try to win her ex husband back because he pointed out to her that she has no other options left. Kevin is right, he ex needs to run out of this and just deal with her on child basis levels
@@lrbanks25 that standard deflection tactic i.e. "well she wasn't a real feminist." This is a grown person with multiple kids... if she were to ever get locked up she isn't going to juvie
I’ve dealt with multiple women like this and after every breakup at some point they all tried to stay in my life or rather keep their foot in the door. An ex fiancée had a break down when she found out I got married and sent an inappropriate bouquet of flowers with a note expressing how she’ll never stop loving me. I threw them in the trash…I don’t get how women so easily throw away or sabotage a good thing for nothing!
But marriage sucks so there’s that. You have to be submissive to a man who’s cheating on you even if you make more and gives bad sex all in the name of money. Don’t have kids, work at McDonald’s and live in a cardboard box and then die. When you die you don’t have to pay bills. Problem solved.
You're not mean she's just dumb. I can't with her. She surely don't deserve another man. Why She even call. Do she want her Cake and eat it to like come on girl. 🤦🏽♀ we as women need to own our bs also because she's is twisted.
Yeah she gave him the classic "I need time, space for myself." In reality she's just using him, got him on child support while hoping to find someone new.
The irony is she said she wants a Christian man, yet she was married till death do her part and forsake her vows. Scriptural, she didn’t have grounds for divorce so what Christian man would marry into that?
A "Christian" man just like her--someone who re-invents God and His Word to suit their own sin that they don't want to give up. In other words, a fake and deceived person who thinks they are a Christian but are not.
Yup that makes absolutely no sense. Any actual christian that lives a christian life knows that they are not allowed to get with someone that's already been married.
@@kenethernandez6246 technically thats wrong. “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:39 KJV
She hasn’t learned her lesson because her ex husband STILL Wants her. And she’s repulsed by the fact that he STILL Wants her after she gave him ass to kiss. He need to throw her to the WOLVES And move on with HIS life. That’s the Only way she’ll REALLY Feel it.
Her question is, I'm 40, divorced with three kids, why can't I find A good man? The answer is,because men ain't checking for you. Now go home with your bottle of wine and read your urban fiction novel!
@Civil Rights Negative, that's not what most of us are trying to say. Of course, everyone deserves love and to be loved, but the reality of that happening, especially considering her baggage and her age, would make any sane man run the opposite direction. Yes, she could possibly find someone, but I'm sure no matter how many guys she comes across, that true feeling of love will never be there, just the feeling of settling...
But then have the nerve to say they are trying to work things out. She only said after Kevin was pressing and asking her more questions she wasn't prepared for. She dont know what she wants but think she has everything under control smh.
I like how his direct answer approach actually forces people to focus on their actions and outcomes versus their thoughts and feelings. A lot of what he says even hits home for me as a Man. Thank you Kevin
I was not able to move on, till I realized that being friends with my ex was like sipping a little poison every day. It contaminated a whole bunch of my relationships. Let go of toxic situations.
@@ThaRealCowboibishop my pleasure. Better for us all to be armed with information about the pitfalls of being in the wrong relationship and hanging on to the source of pain. I am glad I was able to help a fellow traveller. Peace to you.
It's what men deal with all the time. In their heads they communicate different than real life. Most men don't want long stories from women unless it's part of the game that leads to sex. It's just that simple.
As a black man it's worst than what you just heard. It's hidden agenda s on top of hidden agenda s. And they call it being honest and trustworthy . Sad sad sad
Yes it's mind blowing. God is not the God of confusion but the God of peace and of a sound mind. This talking in circles that you are observing is the work of the devil, for these women are in darkness and cannot see where they are going. They have been blinded by their own lies and cannot see the truth until someone shines light into them again.
@@wazxwazx6076 they learned that crap from the devil himself, remember the fall of man in the garden of eden, it was the devil that played on words with Eve and thats how she got caught up
Honestly? As much as i hate it.... Even if they were found not to be his because of him being married the states would STILL consider those his kids. Smh
@@douchebaggio2349 After reading up on those kind of laws, shit is scary. I'm not suicidal but if I was condemned to having to raise another man's child, a 🔫 might just look a little tempting phew 😰
@@douchebaggio2349 Your friend is in a very small minority of men WILLING to do that, just remember that. I'm with you, I'd raise hell and then fall into a deep depression. That is literally prison
I can't even do that anymore, he decided to marry knowing full well what the odds were, now the children, I still have the ability to feel sorry for them.
U see this all to often w women, before this show I didn't this was a huge problem as it is.. Women's dillusion the indirectness the talking in circles the deception... u see this on about 80% of the calls .. As much as I appreciate the show, This show doesn't really paint American black women well... And it's not Kevin's fault
She needs to go back to her husband and apologise for breaking up the family. But now all of a sudden you want someone. No. plus I also think she is still sleeping with him 😐
I have heard the story so many times as a matter of fact my son is living this story now. He married his high school sweetheart, ran a successful business, had three kids, two brand new cars, bought a nice little starter home and started fixing it up. His wife didn't have to work but she just up one day said that she wasn't happy and filed for divorce. My son was near suicidal for close to a year but he is now slowly pulling out of his depression and getting his life back together again. She has been roaming from job to job, apartment to apartment and back to her Mom's house and man to man. She tore my son and his children's worlds apart for no good apparent reason. She had it all and threw it away. A lot of her mail still comes to my son's house and she is constantly getting letters about non-payment of bills. I will never for the life of me understand female psychology!
But you sure understand men’s psychology when they trade the wife in for a gold digger that could be his grand daughter. I never hear you men moan about the crappy things you do to good wives.
@@missxmarvel show me an example of this that you're talking about and I will condemn it, easy as that. I have two daughters that I want to be treated well by their spouses. No one should put up with being abused or mistreated or cheated on.
@@missxmarvel men generally don't ditch women that built with them. Men have way more empathy. Women however have no problem destroying a man's life due to "grass is greener syndrome" If he is self made, then I have no problem with it. Even better he should be clear upfront and avoid marriage/cohabitation period.
she doesn't know what other women want because she was never one of those other women. being with one man and one man alone makes you curious certainly when the relationship get's hard those are facts. i doubt a man wouldn't get curious either if he couldn't get a sweeter girl. a nicer girl etc etc.
Proof that it doesn't matter how u treat them. Good or bad, respectful disrespectful doesn't matter they always leave. U give them what they want they leave, u don't they leave. U gotta be toxic and lie to them. Tell them ur Goin to the GAS station, take 30 mins normally so u take a whole hour to get back home. Drive slow, don't answer ur phone go look around at a store. Anytjing to eat up time to make her WONDER about u. Where he at who he with, lemme txt he won't answer, goes to voice male, who's he with again.. I saw that cashier lookin at him... And that girl like his Pic on fb.. He prolly w her.. Once u walk in 21 questions. It keeps her mind engaged w you so she don't have time to be doin all that leaving crap. 😂
@@daviedood2503 oh she will have time to leave you. the problem is would you want to live with a woman that would ask you 21 questions? a relationship is about being happy not miserable everytime you walk into the door. And no women don't just walk out. she doesn't have any experience and that is the difference she has the feeling she is missing out. because he was the only man she was with.
@@Jessicaro point is it don't matter What u do. If u do what u say, they treat u like ur weak. If u don't do what u say, they stay but ask u a million questions. They love having to wonder about u and what ur up to.
She's keeping her ex around as a last resort. She knows that he still loves her and if all else fails, she'll settle with him. He should move on to a woman who will treat him the way he deserves.
Yeeah she is TOTALLY disrespecting him, that is ashame she called in being deceptive from the jump, she wants a Christian man 🤣🤣🤣🤣 so she can do HIM wrong and go back to her ex hubby. She was trying to get game on how to get another dude for HER intermission smdh🤦🏾♀️...she was NOT slick AT ALL!
Right if the kids were young I’d say yeah it sounds like they are grown. That man most likely stayed cordial for them he deserves to live the rest of his life
As a young woman who wants to commit to a man and our marriage, this makes me sad. Men like this don’t come around every single day. They don’t deserve to be led on by a woman like this. Be careful out there.
Kevin busted this one up. She still have ex hanging around. Why don't these women leave good men alone. She hit the wall ex-hubby know that but e- is not stupid.
*kyla* strawberry I don’t have to explain myself to a female.If you can’t see it than its not my job to teach you.I don’t go back and forth with these females online or in reality
So this is what I think happened with this woman. She feels she got tied down early and she ad a bunch of single and or single acting female friends. She felt she was missing out. So she ease out the husband and hit the scene wth her single and or single acting female friends. It was all fun an games at first until slowly but surely she realised that that life was hollow and she had lost far more than she had gained. And here w are.
Sadly that is the norm. Too many women are terrible at who they select to entertain them. That is a reflection of themselves and their attraction for disfunction
Shin Dynamo X Men should be the head and leaders of their relationship and families; the woman shouldn’t make decisions unless it’s permitted by the man and that’s only to strengthen the family, everything she does is under the auspices of the man just like any organization the subordinate has to follow protocols laid down by the CEO they do not make managerial decisions (they can’t do their own thing) men concede too much power to women
Exactly and that’s because there is always some guy that will validate them. They don’t mind if he just fucks them and moves on. Any validation is still validation to some of them
My Wife (ex-to-be) fits this description. She is a 27 year old homemaker. I work full-time and pay all the bills and groceries including baby medication and provide her with enough money (which she doesn't use for household goods but instead sends money to her Mother and siblings back in Nigeria). She left the family home deceptively over 5 weeks ago (orchestrated by her Mother) and taken our 3 month old daughter and 2 year old son and has denied me access to them. I am in the process of making a court order.
@Jamie Co - thank you for your reply. Well, I made this comment 15 months ago. I made the court Order in October/November 2021. In April 2022, she now wants me to see our children (this was made clear at the 3rd online Hearing). We had our dispute resolution Hearing in September 2022. I can see our Children at a contact centre (close to where they live with their Mother) once a week. I have a face to face Court Hearing on 1 December 2022 - this is an update on contact so far and the next steps for extra days and other separated parent courses I would have completed (mandated by the court). The most important thing is that I have contact with our children and I can bond with them and be a good example as a father....
@KrissPerspective - thank you for the reply! 2 years already! It's actually 3 years in May 2024 we first separated. We are divorced now. Our daughter turned 3 in April 2024. Our son turns 5 in June 2024. I see them every 2 weeks, and I have video calls with them in-between. I have a wonderful bond with our children after 2 years of separation. All Praises to The Almighty. Am I winning? Well, my ex-wife asked me to get back with her on two occasions. It won't happen. I am courting a beautiful sister who takes good care of me. I take good care of her, too. We plan on getting married in the next few months, Insha'Allah. Watch this space.....
I’m 25, my dad went through this exact same divorce... he won custody raised my brother and I, i was a baby with a older brother about 4-5. And it’s the worst part of my life to have a mom who chose the choices this lady made. Learn from Kevin.
@@Esotericreation1618 when My parents where in fight, my ugky jelouse aunt who envyt my mom talk to my mom and made sure they divorce, because my auntie is a single mom of 2.
I've seen this story all the time, women leave their high school/college sweet heart or their first sex partner because they want to experience someone new or they feel they settled too early and didn't live life first.
She broke up her household, put her kids into a broken home to struggle, and split them up from their father because she was “young & dumb.” She deserves no second chance. She had it all but took it for granted, messed up her kids life, and now she wants 1. to keep her ex around for herself AND 2. find someone better for her future
Kevin is endangering the man in this situation by suggesting to her that she go back to him. Her ex needs to avoid her like the plague. She'll dump him AGAIN in a few years
Kevin isn't endangering the man at all. This man chose to have children with her and will choose whether or not to accept the woman back. Adults need to be held accountable for their actions.
Scenario: You’re dating her and she wants to talk about her problems. Who the f... is trying to deal with that for the remainder of their life?!? A woman with 3 kids that still talk with her ex on a daily bases. And will most likely expect you to cover all of the expenses because her ex did!
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What’s crazy is Kevin spent 3 years telling men to be the best version of ourselves and was harder than us than he was on women. Last fall my girlfriend cried listening to how Kevin spoke to one of the male callers.
Kevin is a big part of why I lost weight and stepped up my style game. What is the downside to being the best version of yourself? For men and women.
Exactly, he used to be hard on the men. Constructive criticism
She sounds like a lovely person to be so tender hearted. Marry her!
None
No downside at all.
Ain't it mane. I started working 70+ a week and eating better. My mood is 100X better.
High school sweet heart ✔️
Married you ✔️
3 kids ✔️
Didn't have to work ✔️
Didn't cheat on you ✔️
Duddddee 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️... 😐
In her mind... somewhere in the deep dark twisted crevices...he did something to warrant her infidelity... because it's never the woman's fault 🤔
This is a prime example of you reap what you sow and get some healthy friends. If she had one healthy friend they would have told her don't be a fool.
Imagine that....
She wanted to keep the inner child
I only took one statement from my mom which I've seen it happen countless times "women are never satisfied "
She's been married for 27 years
Her child support is about to run out and now she's looking for "companionship" 🤣
If you see relationships as transactional, female nature makes a lot more sense. Always looking for a better deal
Good fucking point
"Companionship" = pay day, free meals.
Hahahhahhahahhahahha
xD
I was young and immature is code for " i felt like I was missing out on all the fun my girlfriends were having"
Totally agree!
@Lo Livingston Flewed! Lol! 🤣🤣🤣
SPEAK❗️
Sounds like cheating to me, did she say they still married, but I think he's still hitting.
Facts until she realized it wasn't all that hyped up to what she thought it was cuz all her friends wanted what she had
I got married young, 21. Literally, ALL of my friends were living it up, sleeping with men, partying, etc and I was at home raising kids and I was upset, but I stuck it out. I was upset and thought that was where I wanted to be. I though that I was missing out on life and having fun. I FELT trapped.
Now, my friends are STILL single. Here I am 20 years later with the same guy, happy, and realizing I missed out on nothing.
Ik there's women ready to beef with you cuz you chose wisely lol. Happy for you 🙏🏾
@@victorlewis7635 I got married at 19 and I didn't want anything to do with clubbing and being single with my best friend. But my ex husband left me because he also thought he could do better. Found a Spanish chick and went through with divorcing me. He didn't want to make anything work. He wanted someone of a different race and with more money. Now I'm happy and he can't keep a relationship.
@@pennyproud1621 ouch, that sucks. But at the end of the day if it happened for the better for you then shit it is what it is
glad you didn’t make the biggest mistake of your life .
Good for you. You figured it out. Think before you ride the carousel
My ex wife divorced me and had her first kid by a man with 4 kids lol , I got a new job making an extra 30 grand a year, she hates me too this day for that
Not as much as she hates herself for doing YOU such a huge favour. When you see her next you must THANK HER.
☝🏿Facts
Lol the joke is, she hates you for maintaining yourself and following your purpose... Women love dysfunction so damn much...
You should send her flowers and a thank you note!
Congrats!
She is a “Christian” but divorced for a non-Biblical reason? These women are cringe at times.
Yep. Luke 16:18, Mark 10:2-12, Romans 7:2-3 all clearly show she is biblically off limits.
Could easily be a “born again” Christian. Realized that most non-religious single 40+ men are content with doing their own thing until some 28 year old hottie comes by and don’t want to play house with a middle aged baby mama
Precisely...how do you build...sacrifice for and make a family with this type of female. When she is not feeling it...she is out. Gents work on yourselves and be very choosy.
@@frussonj not only is she out, the government mandates that the husband has to maintain her lifestyle for up to the rest of her life, regardless of whether he continues to earn as much.
They don't believe the bible. They don't even know nor understand it.
She was married, didn't have to work, wasn't cheated on, and all her children have the same father. Girl had it made and let it go. As a woman who wants the things listed she, and other women like her, make it harder for the rest of us. 🤦🏾♀️
most women get bored when things are going smoothly, she needed a "roller coaster" relationship.
@@jesussson3467 He had a younger female call in & she told him that she broke up with her loyal boyfriend because he works too much. He then asked her "why do y'all feel the need to inject chaos when everything is going right?".
@@tayemongreen3377 I've never understood this logic either.
@@tayemongreen3377 it must be a cultural thing. Honestly, dealing with that type of mindset is physically and spiritually exhausting; Especially after a long day of work. Men are taking notes and moving on to more peaceful pastures. No time for BS on the home front 👌🏾
@@JVP_thephobic Absolutely. I would say it's discouraging as well. She leaves you because you have a peaceful relationship? Who wants to deal with that?
27 is not “young and dumb.” 18 sure, but you’re a grown woman.
Yea 27 is young and dumb? Like lol
That's not how she "Feel".
I think you missed the point. She was 31 when she decided to dump her husband.
Marriage is a big step. For a wife with 3 kids, divorce is an even bigger one.
Right! 27 years old is a grown grown woman! She just thought she was missing out with her friends partying and stuff or she was interested in someone else. I don't know any woman in her right mind that is leaving her husband for nothing. She didn't even have to work? She crazy as hell!
Not 27...she divorced him when she was 31. Thats when shes says she was young and dumb
Damm this story hits home. My wife in the process of divorcing in hopes of doing better. High school married at 24 now divorcing at 33. We have a daughter. I won’t be talking to her unless it about my daughter. This ain’t just black women, cause we’re Asian. All women feeling entitled to a 6 figure income. For a year now she been telling me to go make 6 figures. When I couldn’t she was done. I feel for these men.
Stay strong 💪,she dosen't deserve you
@@cooloreo662 appreciate it.
Damn hold your head up we should has man buy land and create a village for men who going through shit like this they can have plenty shoulders to lean on and a community of men their to up help them bounce back bigger better and stronger !
That’s trash
@@TheHales what’s trash
“I am not your average listener”
Proceeds to be an average listener
average caller*
@@morecarstuff yeah you’re right, but she said listener so I thought it made more sense
🤣🤣🤣spot on
"I am not like all the other women" = just like all the other women.
To be fair she didn't here saying she wants a "high value man" lol
most women get bored when things are going smoothly, she needed a "roller coaster" relationship.
Yep!
BOOM 🔥🔥💯💯💪💪
They are attracted to chaos.
Asian and African women are not like that
@@jbaru648 i grew up in africa and you are sadly mistaken
My ex left me three times and each time I took her back. She told our pastor that she did not want to be married anymore. I was so heartbroken nevertheless. In divorce court, the judge said he saw no reason for a divorce. He asked us did we want to reconsider and she said no, I teared up which I thought was something I would never do. Once I got over her I met my current wife of 27 years and we are very happy. My ex told me later she regretted that she left me and that if my wife and I did not work out I could come back. No thank you never going to happen. I would not want my worst enemy to suffer the type of pain I had.
Wow
Ruthless
Ouch
It’s sad that good that you walked away period good job self respect
My thing is why didn't she realize you were the best thing that happened to her, reconciling 3 times. But then want a fourth reconciliation after finding another woman?
I went through this with my ex wife. She didn’t have to work, we had one kid and she wasn’t happy having a husband that took care of all the financial needs. She thought she would be better off as a single mother. She got a dose of reality and after divorce, and living the hard life, she wanted to come back.
I’m happy, successful, and living life and she’s miserable and trying to get me back but that ship has sailed.
Mr Wright I'm so happy man you didn't take her back. Praise the Lord! She made her bed, now she gotta lay in it
Sounds familiar!
👏 👏 👏
Keep sailing away cos she helped you dodge a deadly bullet
I can't even imagine not having to work
She 'talks to her ex husband everyday' is code for ' she divorced him and put him on the back burner while she took away his kids, put him on child support and tried to find a better man'. . .nobody should take her seriously, not another man not her ex husband
If her ex husband move on, she'll try to poison his new relationship!
She sounds like a covert narcissists
.....Exactly.......
@@kuja5809 covert?...😂😂😂😂😂
Exactly and as a man why would I want to mess with a woman that still wants to be best friends with her ex, and 3 kids zero value/upside there
Her issue was she wanted to play the field because he was all she knew. That's what happened
I think you made a valid observation, that would make sense.
Facts
Fair enough
Probably surrounded with single friends in her younger years, which didn’t help
She wanted to ride that carousel
I needed this. My wife of 16 years left me and our 2 children. I got full custody. And like a dumbass I would still call her to see how she was doing. Not no more ! Thank you brother
Congrats on having full custody. You can still build a beutiful family.
Did you really need this video to realize that?
@@realSpook you'd be surprised what a few words can do.... Not saying that you should use any RUclips video as a guideline for life... But seeing the same situation over and over on here and watching KS dissect it all can open your eyes 🤷
Updates?
There needs to be more calls like this to wake up younger women.
Yes, because these older women would rather get shot in the foot then to put other young black women on game
They won't wake up till they hit the wall. They still listening to cardi B
@@kinguche9208 truth... I would never have imagined so many 40-something year-old black women going to bat HARD for Cardi B Megan the stallion / WAP SMH
@@peter5336 it's almost like some women are miserable and want company.
And men!
This reminds me of myself and my high school sweetheart. We both came from poor families. I put us both through college and right when we were about to start a family, she cheated on me with my best friend and ended up marrying him. 9 years down the drain but I knew if I lived my life right things would happen for me. Now, I'm a millionaire and have 3 beautiful children and a loving, beautiful and feminine wife. Thanks for the favor.
Congratulations brother! God had to get rid of the the trash In order for him to put jewels in your life💪🏼🙏
Heck of a story congrats 😯congrats Hunter 👏
Lol would have been a nice story if you didn't lie about being a millionaire😏
@@user-bv4sg1ui3n why do you think I'm lying? I have no debt and have over a million dollars in assets.
If she had not cheated and left you you would not be the man you are now.
My biggest takeaway is that so many people think that the grass is greener on the other when they really should be watering their own grass....
Yo. Im stealing this quote. 😎
Spoken like a genius
Exactly! That's what Older folks often said.
Truth!
FACTSSSSSSS!!!!
She ruined her OWN life and family. And possibly broke that man's heart for NO REASON. Wow.
Jesus. Jesus Christ.
For her being selfish. And after all, she still depends on him for anything and everything. She's using him. I bet if he was interested in some other woman, she would be in his ear saying the woman he met is bad and lies her ass off so he doesn't move on from her. I sincerely hope the man drops this woman who clearly is all about take take take. Never any give give give. An energy stealing person who will dry you out.
She doesn't Love her husband, her 1st question should of been how do I get the ❤️ of my life back. Instead, she came on seeking advice on how to obtain/attract another man.
I pray the man does not get back to her, because the reason she left him in the first place is still going to happen, and she will never respect the man. she still thinks she deserves better. women like this will keep frustrating men, thinking he is the cause of them still being on that level, especially if they have watched movies, hear their friends of media telling them to level up.
Exactly!
@ Cyn: Facts she has no love for him, it's over if that ooeey gooey feeling is not in the mix I don't care how much money or benefits he has to offer her. Remember the end of the movie "Indecent Proposal" when the old man told the young man, "she'll never look at me the way she looks at you."
HE CANT GET HER BACK...
HE HAS MOVED ON.....
facts
Why is it so hard for a woman to answer a yes or no question.
Bcz lying
Because feelings over facts ...
Theres so fucking complicated... for no reason... and bc they hate to admit they're wrong
Oh lord
Shit made me mad....I was like ANSWER THE DAMN QUESTION!!
She doesn’t love him. She would make him miserable. No, let him find someone who loves him...
Most likely she had an affair with another man and thought she could do better and move on
@@Mosaickool great point
Baby#1, baby#2, and after baby#3, she realized she wasn't in love. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@allnewmoney smh she probably cheated
@@thekorsh4230 🤔🤔 I'm sure she was....🙄 🙄
The ones that suffered the most from her decisions were her kids. Some people think about themselves too damn much
💯💯💯💯💯
I'm a 42 year old straight white guy. I've been listening for so long, I could get a high value black man before these girls.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 thanks for making my day...hilarious.
😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣👍🏼
Sad...but probably true.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣best yt comment ever
"Nobody is going to give you credit for struggling, you chose it!"
DONE
Sadly other women will give her full credit.
Dayum Cuz I though I was blunt....I like that tho😉
Hahahaha some of you dont deserve a second chance
Swishhhhh💯🏀
You can ask for help or you can ask for sympathy you cannot have both
This woman is very deceptive and sneaky. She lies and can’t answer a straight question. No good man deserves this. Run!
She's a crook....
Good to see you! Corona, NY
Dude, I imagine Kevin as a prosecutor in this video. He would have ate her alive on the witness stand...
You seem snakish, mr.elder
@@propheci 100!
I can’t STAND when a woman with children leaves a good, hardworking man for no reason (there was no abuse, cheating, danger, etc.) but then she wants sympathy from everyone for being a “struggling single mother”. 🙄 There really are people out here who are widowed or their spouse just abandoned the family one day, and they really don’t know what they’re going to do to survive. But when a woman chooses to leave and take the kids and go struggle when she had it made with her husband, she was able to stay home with the kids, didn’t have to work, didn’t have to worry about daycare, just had a loving home where she was supported financially, physically and mentally, then she decides to go off and then acts like everybody owes her charity and a medal for being being a “brave single mom” it drives me insane 😵💫 When you have kids, you have an obligation to make sure that you do everything in your power to give them the best possible environment and the best chance at growing up stable and happy
Black women SMH 🥶
They are simps Queen. I agree with you doesn't make sense.
Spread the word 👍🏼
@11:43 She said "we're still married", shes lying about being divorced, shes trying to find out how to get someone better.
Yup
I think you are right about that.
Yep....
That's exactly what I thought. Ain't nobody still talking to they're ex-wife everyday. Unless they still fucking.
Patrick - He want's her back, but she don't want him. She would respect him if he wasn't so nice. He needs to disappear for about a year and she'll be begging him back. He's got more power than he realizes.
Dated a girl since high school... married her in y’all late 20s, had 3 kids by the girl, only for her to file for divorce 5 years later for no reason, and after alimony and taking half ur shit, files child support for the kids u was already raising before the divorce. Only for her to want to be friends with u years later and admitting she still loves you. Is this how women show love? I don’t want it.
@@dylan120190 what do you mean by that?
Preach!!!!!
Don’t think you get alimony for only 4 years of marriage
Preach
Did you find another girl and is your ex wife still tryna get back with u or she found someone?
She ruined her husband's life and her kids life all for nothing Kevin I like the way you handled that
My aunti, was jelouse single mom of 2, made sure lie and make my mom divorce my dad. My dead was wealthy. But my single mom with 3 kids, I grew up as poor child, she was jobless, emotionall abuse us.
Brought my dad to court, his visa paspoort was taken for 3 years.
This is true, I got true shit for no reason, this happens to a lot of kids out their.
My dad became alcoholic and a depressed man now.
@@Moesie sorry you went through all that
And her life... when people say Kevin is rude, how rude is it to destroy 5 lives because you thought you could do better???
She got "Bored".
He BARELY kept it together. Barely! I was just as frustrated listening. WTF?
"We still love each other." Nah, he's moved on but you're being the bitter ex wife that breaks up all his relationships.
"We talk everyday." Because you nag him everyday.
True true
He hasn’t moved on because they’re still married as she states at around the 11:46 mark but he definitely should. No other woman or man deserves to get involved in dating either of them. It’s best for all involved that they just make their marriage work. She’s had plenty of time to find out that nobody else wants her
Girl you called that one true AF!!!
Pure facts...
He is the last resort plan. She cheated and regreted.
She wasn’t smart enough to understand that she won. Married, children, didn’t have to work, and had the audacity to toss it all away.
She makes me sick to my stomach
All of that. And the fact they started so young and there are no outside children was a plus too. She literally had it all. The ex husband is a fool to be talking to her daily still.
@Christian Griffin, sadly a woman will toss away solid gold, for a rumor of diamonds.
He probably didn’t make enough money so she thought he was nothing
@@moneymakin317 _Jesus Christ, 27 _*_isn't_*_ young, stop downplaying and protecting her_ - she's blame-shifting at its finest! She divorced and made her husband's and each of their children's life miserable at the very age-bracket many w0m3n _today_ eagerly want to marry but can't find any m3n who's willing to take the risk. She literally blew her own marriage for riding past that infamous carousel past 32, how f-cking delusional can one be?
You can't even downplay it saying she married and had the classical FOMO, *she was riding well to 27!* It was that fem-nistic urge to break free and listen to reason.
You married at 27 and divorced at 31 and claiming young and dumb? GTFOH
It’s very hard for a woman to admit their mistakes. VERY!!!
meh.....ok, a “lady” is a woman. That’s what I’m talking about. If it doesn’t describe you, then why defend the behavior? I guess you “ladies “ don’t think men are talking to each other about female behavior....
meh...it doesn’t matter. My original statement is a truth.
meh...I gotta ya! My fault, my brother. See....two women would never do what we just did! Lol....
Paola L....negative.
You have to understand that women are like children and once you treat them that way you have a whole different set of expectations and you're never disappointed
It’s the way he swiveled in that chair when she said they are very good friends and talk everyday 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂. This man funny lol
He ex is a safety net. She still wanna go out and meet other men
Yep.
She'll say she "Didn't get to experience her H03 phase!" Or "Experience Life" AKA MORE 🍆 ...Her friends on IG be everywhere xyz
Ayesha Curry
Probably still is. She most likely left her husband for another man but, as what usually happens, he didn't really want to be with her and left her. She starting to realize at 40 that men aren't interested in anything serious with her and can't understand why because they still will share a bed with her.
🤔 She said, "We're still MARRIED", then when Kevin asked again, she said we're still friends. She's been lying the whole time! 😳
yup
I heard that also.
I heard it too. Kevin took it easy on her! And her math is all over the place with her marriage and divorce
@@rjturnr27 that's cause she been cheating on him and telling Kevin wat she told other dudes.
Yep
Man I feel so sorry for the dude, imagine getting visitation for your kids just cause the wife felt like it.
THATS the part right there!! Toxic as hell
Why are you leaving??
Cause I feel like it....🙄
This is trash
And the sad part is GOD don't even approve of the way the courts handle lot marriages these days the system have changed lot rules for the h--s
Idk why this is so surprising to me. I saw it happen to my brother. Wife left him because she wasn't ready to move out from home
She also divided the kids from their father. Being apart from your children hurts men like crazy. She also denied the kids from seeing a home with both parents.
The court system makes it easy for women to divorce their husbands for no reason. He paid all the bills, was there for his kids, faithful, and sat her up so she didn’t have to ever work again. She divorced his behind for no reason, took the kids and ran and put him on child support now she has 3 kids in a broken home. The court system loves this behavior and this is what most women are doing these days.
That's so fukd up
Yep.
SMH
Straight up👍
See, looking back on the american society it was never like this. A marriage was meant for life unless something dire occured. A divorce wold be granted. For instance in 1930s america. If a woman was with a child and no husband, she'd be an outcast and ridiculed. My has the times changed for the worse
She’s lying about something 😂. It’s funny how a woman in 40s still can’t even tell the truth
Gets worse as they age
It's sad lmao this whole thing of not being a Decent human being with morals its ruining everything
She said she was 40 then 31
They lie and lie and lie!! Lol
Bro, EXACTLY. I don’t buy her leaving her man because she was bored and thought she could get another man down the road. BS. She had her eyes already set on someone else and it blew up in her face. A woman doesn’t just leave a good dude and provider without something else in the works.
“I’m looking for a good man.”
*goes on to show that she is not a good woman*
Spot on.
😂😂😂
I'm a really good man, We sr should have a conversation about the subject 🤣🤷🏾♂️
This is a crisis & sad. Not even realizing
I always say, if you ask anything from the other person, ask if you have those youself. If not, you have no right to ask for anything you do not have yourself.
She threw it away. That’s profound.
As a woman, it’s difficult to listen to other women try to communicate. I probably sound similar sometimes; bless my husband 🤣
Thank you for noticing, keep that in mind when dealing with your husband. You can be the balance to all this nonsense....
😂😂
Trust me by the sound of it if you are this self aware it can’t be worse than most women.
lol because women communicate covertly so it throws things off when a woman try's to have an open discussing with a male who communicates overtly
It’s because women don’t know what they want
She had it all and fumbled the bag. Hold the L sis 🤲🏾
She holding the capital L
She holding a big fat L
144 point, Arial Black capital L
LOL!!!
🤲🏾 she’s ignorant and now she realised that her husband was a good men .
She got divorced at 31? Can't pull the "young and stupid" card at that age.
"Young & dumb" at 31. That's pretty telling.
She kept her foot on the “young and dumb” gas pedal . she was the average marrying age for a woman ... people get proposed to even younger than she was smh
Women don’t mature till 45 . So that sounded about right to me
K Dazee ummm .. so since they say women mature faster, you telling me you got men maturing at what ? I mean the brain stops maturing at 25
@ 31 She wasn't even young... just dumb.
Kevin, thank you for putting this woman straight! I’m so sick and tired of hearing my black sisters do this to themselves, their children and black husbands. This is one of the many reasons our black families continue to struggle. You really need your own syndicated television show. Your words of advice and wisdom needs to be on television for all Americans to see and straight getting help. Take care, Dora.
Broke up a home and torn a family apart for no good reason. Trifling.
Im thinking the same thing !!! wow !!
Bet she was bored
There was a reason. She just didn't want to say it because it would have reflected badly on her.
@@HandSolitude probably
Lmaoooo
She straight up divorced 90% of every woman’s DREAM husband because she was bored? The slap button required over time. We needed Rick James for this woman folks...Hell... We needed Deacon Jones...
Ike Turner
@Strong Black Panther agree. With no fault divorce, its not worth it. Its a ticking time bomb.
Dad Egg I just don’t get how women get alimony for a no fault as well as when they cheat. Let a dude cheat and he loses half. Make it make sense.
@@TheDCGuitar13 it don't. This society is too far gone.
@Strong Black Panther why is that? Is it that entitlement or grass is greener on the other side mentality?
"Young and dumb" at 31? 31 isn't a child.
exactly.
That what I’m saying tho, like that doesn’t make any sense.
She was OLD and dumb.
This is why she was so vague with the timeline. You could possibly claim you are "young and dumb" at 27, which is the age she originally implied she got divorced. At 31? No, you can't claim that.
Seems to be these days.
It's insane that she has the audacity to claim she was "young & dumb" at 30yrs old. That's trifling.
If she does meet another man, she won't tell him what she told Kevin. She'll tell the usual, "He was abusive or he was a drug addict"!!
Say that again Boss
That's their hook. Give a sob story & be the victim at all costs.
Facts🔴
A high value man looks for a person that suplement him not compete with him, a person that have a understanding of what Integrity, Discretion, Loyalty means, and he wants to see if that person lives a life with actions that confirm the person understand what living by those words Suplement, Loyalty, Integrity, Discretion, thats an absolute non negotiable requirement, a woman that do or have some things like, talk down to him or about him, he says no to those be sees spreading rumours, share intimate information, claim popularity by trying to put others in their crosshair and defame their victims on socialmedia, media, in social networking situations, if the have done it or do it right now on the expense of her partner or her partners family, friends or business associated or colleauges, it doesn't matter if it's an ex or someone associated with that person she tries to use as a source to make herself the center of attention, then she can't ever be an option for a relationship for the thinking man who wants to be succesful in his life and keep on being it throughout his lifetime, the lack of patience in partnership with wishful thinking and the refusal to putting in the right amount of effort in doing the right choices for a partner in life have brought down many good men and the fall from glory down to hardship bad been brutal for many, wishful thinking is probably a mens worst enemy in the case of relations, allways remember yourself that you don't know that other person and those first joyfull months is mostly because you use that wishful thinking to decive you with fantazys in the places were you lack knowledge about that other person, it's your fantazys dream women you hang out with in your judgement there, but you should allways remind yourself that it's your lack of knowledge that constructs that ideal women, as soon the next period starts it's her self advertised women propaganda about her being the best person in the word that tries to lead you to belive the is flawless without any faults, it's only in the third stage when you starts to see the distortion between who she really is and the to other stages picture of her you have been living with, this is the hardest stage to go through if you want a long time relation because of two times two reasons, this is a stage to mature in for both partners, or the stage you have to break up or become dead inside and loose yourself as an free individual in selfsufficiant soul/spirit/body and forever becoming under someone elses control, it's her e we need to be able to give and take constructive criticism and that goes för the other part in the relation to, but it's also the stage were you have to be able to sort out what's destructive criticism made to break someones persona down and we need reject that behaviour in our lives we can't be silent when it happens and destroy our own future by being overly diplomatic, here we must put our feets down and say stop don't cross my borders, but also be introspective enough to be able to take the constructive criticism as a hint of something that a person who start to know ja may see and tell us because everybody else doesn't tell us about it, to mature demands more efforts of us, we shouldn't take a decission about having a long time relation before we been i stage three for long enough time to start to see things clearly for what they are.
Remember that a womans makeup is a replica of small facial expressions that a fertile sexual arroused woman naturally express, if we don't think twice when looking at it we are going to be hypnotized into our animalic mating season like every other male animal on earth.
@FormerDry Jacker i agree thats means she gave her sexual access to the worst of men, and rewarded hes behavior. Never take these women seriously.
She basically friend-zoned her husband b/c she thought she could do better...I'm so tired...
This is exactly what happened and still thinks she can do better than him. She is selfish and ignorant. She deserves just what she is getting NOTHING!
She will never have a good partner she’s always talking to the x.Once it’s a issue she will be telling her x everything
That's female hypergamy for ya
Then on top of that she’s still trying to find a new man and is only taking Kevin’s advice to try to win her ex husband back because he pointed out to her that she has no other options left. Kevin is right, he ex needs to run out of this and just deal with her on child basis levels
A woman always and I mean always feels she can do better. Something in the dna.
One thing I noticed is the man that brings women the most drama usually gets the most respect.
Not women, little girls.
Facts
Facts 💯
@@lrbanks25 that standard deflection tactic i.e. "well she wasn't a real feminist." This is a grown person with multiple kids... if she were to ever get locked up she isn't going to juvie
They love bums and trying to "fix" a man
I’ve dealt with multiple women like this and after every breakup at some point they all tried to stay in my life or rather keep their foot in the door. An ex fiancée had a break down when she found out I got married and sent an inappropriate bouquet of flowers with a note expressing how she’ll never stop loving me. I threw them in the trash…I don’t get how women so easily throw away or sabotage a good thing for nothing!
Married before you carry
How is she "young and dumb" at 27-32? That ain't young, ma'am
"I want I want I want" girl you had everything you NEEDED
💯
That Part
Say it louder please!
But marriage sucks so there’s that. You have to be submissive to a man who’s cheating on you even if you make more and gives bad sex all in the name of money. Don’t have kids, work at McDonald’s and live in a cardboard box and then die. When you die you don’t have to pay bills. Problem solved.
You're not mean she's just dumb. I can't with her. She surely don't deserve another man. Why She even call. Do she want her Cake and eat it to like come on girl. 🤦🏽♀ we as women need to own our bs also because she's is twisted.
Something not adding up. She says she’s divorced and then later said we still married
Yooooo I caught that too
She basically fruedian slipped meaning "I can have him whenever I want."
Yeah she gave him the classic "I need time, space for myself." In reality she's just using him, got him on child support while hoping to find someone new.
Facts.. 🤨
@LegalTender1 he seems to be, not sure though.
I was young and dumb, now I’m middle aged and dumb…
🤣🤣
Dumber
The irony is she said she wants a Christian man, yet she was married till death do her part and forsake her vows. Scriptural, she didn’t have grounds for divorce so what Christian man would marry into that?
@Antonio Perez some people have different interpretations of that
A "Christian" man just like her--someone who re-invents God and His Word to suit their own sin that they don't want to give up. In other words, a fake and deceived person who thinks they are a Christian but are not.
A real Christian man will have nothing to do with her because technically she still married.
Yup that makes absolutely no sense. Any actual christian that lives a christian life knows that they are not allowed to get with someone that's already been married.
@@kenethernandez6246 technically thats wrong. “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.”
1 Corinthians 7:39 KJV
This conversation alone exposes so much as to why men have chosen now to take the Red Pill...
What is the red pill?
@@dwightedwards6681 Matrix... Blue Pill and Red Pill..
@@dwightedwards6681 the red puts you in to reality, freeing you of this dream fake world. Blue pill is the idea of a beautiful prison, to sum it up.
@@dwightedwards6681 watch alpha male strategies
@@dwightedwards6681 or ‘black ram 313’ or ‘coach Greg Adams’...
This kind of thing needs to be showed to the court systems and law makers. This is just disgustingly unfair to men.
The court system already knows this. They depend on dysfunction to make money.
No reason he should pay child support
She hasn’t learned her lesson because her ex husband STILL Wants her. And she’s repulsed by the fact that he STILL Wants her after she gave him ass to kiss. He need to throw her to the WOLVES And move on with HIS life. That’s the Only way she’ll REALLY Feel it.
Her question is, I'm 40, divorced with three kids, why can't I find A good man? The answer is,because men ain't checking for you. Now go home with your bottle of wine and read your urban fiction novel!
😂😂😂 Brah! Bottle of wine and urban fiction novel though?!?!? LMAO
Books like, "This bitch got roaches in her crib"🤣🤣
@Civil Rights Negative, that's not what most of us are trying to say. Of course, everyone deserves love and to be loved, but the reality of that happening, especially considering her baggage and her age, would make any sane man run the opposite direction. Yes, she could possibly find someone, but I'm sure no matter how many guys she comes across, that true feeling of love will never be there, just the feeling of settling...
@Civil Rights I was saying it in general.
Whew 😭😭😭🥴
She called in wanting a new man, while still conversing with the old man (her ex husband). Incredible!
But then have the nerve to say they are trying to work things out. She only said after Kevin was pressing and asking her more questions she wasn't prepared for. She dont know what she wants but think she has everything under control smh.
She slept with a higher value man but he dumpt her. She is for the streets.
He’s her fallback
I like how his direct answer approach actually forces people to focus on their actions and outcomes versus their thoughts and feelings. A lot of what he says even hits home for me as a Man.
Thank you Kevin
I was not able to move on, till I realized that being friends with my ex was like sipping a little poison every day. It contaminated a whole bunch of my relationships. Let go of toxic situations.
Ur comment is right On time 4 me. Ty 4 this
@@ThaRealCowboibishop my pleasure. Better for us all to be armed with information about the pitfalls of being in the wrong relationship and hanging on to the source of pain. I am glad I was able to help a fellow traveller. Peace to you.
We’re you still sleeping with your ex??
@@harrypponder7396 she gave it up every time I seemed to really want someone else. Astute observation bro.
Man..... thank you
Listening to some of these women try to communicate (talking in circles) is mind blowing!
It's what men deal with all the time. In their heads they communicate different than real life. Most men don't want long stories from women unless it's part of the game that leads to sex. It's just that simple.
As a black man it's worst than what you just heard. It's hidden agenda s on top of hidden agenda s. And they call it being honest and trustworthy . Sad sad sad
Yes it's mind blowing.
God is not the God of confusion but the God of peace and of a sound mind. This talking in circles that you are observing is the work of the devil, for these women are in darkness and cannot see where they are going. They have been blinded by their own lies and cannot see the truth until someone shines light into them again.
Maaaaannnnn,,, all they do is try to play semantics and get caught up in it........its just a ploy to be dismissive deflective and aloof
@@wazxwazx6076 they learned that crap from the devil himself, remember the fall of man in the garden of eden, it was the devil that played on words with Eve and thats how she got caught up
This man should get a DNA test on all 3 of his kids like seriously. Really the last 1 for dam sure.
Honestly? As much as i hate it....
Even if they were found not to be his because of him being married the states would STILL consider those his kids. Smh
Yup. Glad Im not the only one who peeped. 12 years divorced and the youngest is 12. Maybe the youngest aint his.
@@douchebaggio2349 After reading up on those kind of laws, shit is scary. I'm not suicidal but if I was condemned to having to raise another man's child, a 🔫 might just look a little tempting phew 😰
@@equivalentexchangeisalie5726
I personally know a man who did.
I don't know how he did it...
I'm on your side. I couldn't. I'd raise hell on earth
@@douchebaggio2349 Your friend is in a very small minority of men WILLING to do that, just remember that. I'm with you, I'd raise hell and then fall into a deep depression. That is literally prison
I felt sorry for her ex-husband I almost squeezed down a tear!!
I can't even do that anymore, he decided to marry knowing full well what the odds were, now the children, I still have the ability to feel sorry for them.
She is upsetting me and my homegirls!!!!..
I'm SO upset!
@forgottenunknowen No 40yr old man wants that.
U see this all to often w women, before this show I didn't this was a huge problem as it is.. Women's dillusion the indirectness the talking in circles the deception... u see this on about 80% of the calls .. As much as I appreciate the show, This show doesn't really paint American black women well... And it's not Kevin's fault
@@jageee5227 yes. They all seem to lie& he catches them pretty quick & calls them out about simple question they lied about.
These kind of women will have men view women all like this, instead of taking a chance.
She needs to go back to her husband and apologise for breaking up the family. But now all of a sudden you want someone. No. plus I also think she is still sleeping with him 😐
Lol
She doesn't really deserve her husband he doesn't deserve him at all he should have kicked her to the curb for a long time ago
Right! Thanking she could do better with 3 kids
Kyron M crazy!
I hope he finds someone who will appreciate him.
I have heard the story so many times as a matter of fact my son is living this story now. He married his high school sweetheart, ran a successful business, had three kids, two brand new cars, bought a nice little starter home and started fixing it up. His wife didn't have to work but she just up one day said that she wasn't happy and filed for divorce. My son was near suicidal for close to a year but he is now slowly pulling out of his depression and getting his life back together again. She has been roaming from job to job, apartment to apartment and back to her Mom's house and man to man. She tore my son and his children's worlds apart for no good apparent reason. She had it all and threw it away. A lot of her mail still comes to my son's house and she is constantly getting letters about non-payment of bills. I will never for the life of me understand female psychology!
But you sure understand men’s psychology when they trade the wife in for a gold digger that could be his grand daughter. I never hear you men moan about the crappy things you do to good wives.
@@missxmarvel show me an example of this that you're talking about and I will condemn it, easy as that. I have two daughters that I want to be treated well by their spouses. No one should put up with being abused or mistreated or cheated on.
@MR. RICKLES FARTTENHOOS Apparently!!
@@missxmarvel 5 months later and nothing Emma?
@@missxmarvel men generally don't ditch women that built with them. Men have way more empathy.
Women however have no problem destroying a man's life due to "grass is greener syndrome"
If he is self made, then I have no problem with it. Even better he should be clear upfront and avoid marriage/cohabitation period.
This is why I left America once I started working remote. I feel bad for men in America.
It’s horrible dating in America bro!!! Lol we literally have the worst options to choose from
She literally had what most women want and threw it away over some bullshit
she doesn't know what other women want because she was never one of those other women. being with one man and one man alone makes you curious certainly when the relationship get's hard those are facts. i doubt a man wouldn't get curious either if he couldn't get a sweeter girl. a nicer girl etc etc.
Preach it
Proof that it doesn't matter how u treat them. Good or bad, respectful disrespectful doesn't matter they always leave. U give them what they want they leave, u don't they leave. U gotta be toxic and lie to them. Tell them ur Goin to the GAS station, take 30 mins normally so u take a whole hour to get back home. Drive slow, don't answer ur phone go look around at a store. Anytjing to eat up time to make her WONDER about u. Where he at who he with, lemme txt he won't answer, goes to voice male, who's he with again.. I saw that cashier lookin at him... And that girl like his Pic on fb.. He prolly w her..
Once u walk in 21 questions. It keeps her mind engaged w you so she don't have time to be doin all that leaving crap. 😂
@@daviedood2503 oh she will have time to leave you. the problem is would you want to live with a woman that would ask you 21 questions? a relationship is about being happy not miserable everytime you walk into the door.
And no women don't just walk out. she doesn't have any experience and that is the difference she has the feeling she is missing out.
because he was the only man she was with.
@@Jessicaro point is it don't matter What u do.
If u do what u say, they treat u like ur weak. If u don't do what u say, they stay but ask u a million questions. They love having to wonder about u and what ur up to.
She's keeping her ex around as a last resort. She knows that he still loves her and if all else fails, she'll settle with him. He should move on to a woman who will treat him the way he deserves.
Yes, he is her life line for 12 years!!!!! Wake up brother
red pill for life bro
or as the RP calls it _Monkeybranching_
If u r not in her starting lineup, you’re on the wrong team. You don’t want to be her backup boyfriend.
Yeeah she is TOTALLY disrespecting him, that is ashame she called in being deceptive from the jump, she wants a Christian man 🤣🤣🤣🤣 so she can do HIM wrong and go back to her ex hubby. She was trying to get game on how to get another dude for HER intermission smdh🤦🏾♀️...she was NOT slick AT ALL!
Noooooooo... don't send her back to her husband?
She don't deserve him.
Agreed
Lol if he foolish enough to still give her that energy.... nah bruh he deserves her
Nah he for sure does 😂
Right if the kids were young I’d say yeah it sounds like they are grown. That man most likely stayed cordial for them he deserves to live the rest of his life
The nerve of these ungrateful b@#$%s
As a young woman who wants to commit to a man and our marriage, this makes me sad. Men like this don’t come around every single day. They don’t deserve to be led on by a woman like this. Be careful out there.
This woman really hurts black women.She had a good husband and she divorced him.A man does not deserve this
As a female this was hard to hear because time and time again...WOMEN INITIATE THESE DIVORCES.
We have to swallow this pill.
Kevin busted this one up. She still have ex hanging around. Why don't these women leave good men alone. She hit the wall ex-hubby know that but e- is not stupid.
JADA?
@*kyla* strawberry There aren't any white guys here, so neither should you.
*kyla* strawberry I don’t have to explain myself to a female.If you can’t see it than its not my job to teach you.I don’t go back and forth with these females online or in reality
"not every woman deserves a second chance" 💯
AMEN!!! Only 1 out of 4 BW get married.... Then jokers like her make the odds even worst.
Cheating 304 do not deserve a second chance. She cheated but chad did not commit.
Or, more accurately, not every woman is going to get a second chance.
She wanted to ride the carousel. end of story .....
Real talk, it came down to her wanting other D, but when we wanna mess with other chicks they say we're wrong. 😣
👍👍
Took a ride of the cc
These women making us look bad 😫
@@MessiMathematician They are not making YOU look bad because you get it ! With your attitude you will always WIN !!!
So this is what I think happened with this woman. She feels she got tied down early and she ad a bunch of single and or single acting female friends. She felt she was missing out. So she ease out the husband and hit the scene wth her single and or single acting female friends. It was all fun an games at first until slowly but surely she realised that that life was hollow and she had lost far more than she had gained. And here w are.
"the wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands" - Proverbs 14:1 🤷🏾♂️ much L💓VE from South Africa 🇿🇦💯
Mzansi for sure 👍
@@TheBusinessCentral Awe gazi!
Nuclear explosion
Moon glow also can’t make a House into a Wife lol (that’s a fat joke)
@Moon glow 💓
You can't commit to women with long history's of poor decision making.
Sadly that is the norm. Too many women are terrible at who they select to entertain them. That is a reflection of themselves and their attraction for disfunction
Exactly
Take the decision making away from them when they submit to you
@@TheCritic9196 how do you do this exactly?
Shin Dynamo X Men should be the head and leaders of their relationship and families; the woman shouldn’t make decisions unless it’s permitted by the man and that’s only to strengthen the family, everything she does is under the auspices of the man just like any organization the subordinate has to follow protocols laid down by the CEO they do not make managerial decisions (they can’t do their own thing) men concede too much power to women
Its EXTREMELY hard for most women to admit anything of their faults or shortcomings when THEY mess up.
Exactly and that’s because there is always some guy that will validate them. They don’t mind if he just fucks them and moves on. Any validation is still validation to some of them
No accountability
Andre E: Change EXTREMELY HARD to IMPOSSIBLE. Fixed that for you...
Louder plz!!!😂
My Wife (ex-to-be) fits this description. She is a 27 year old homemaker. I work full-time and pay all the bills and groceries including baby medication and provide her with enough money (which she doesn't use for household goods but instead sends money to her Mother and siblings back in Nigeria).
She left the family home deceptively over 5 weeks ago (orchestrated by her Mother) and taken our 3 month old daughter and 2 year old son and has denied me access to them.
I am in the process of making a court order.
That sucks, any updates?
@Jamie Co - thank you for your reply.
Well, I made this comment 15 months ago. I made the court Order in October/November 2021.
In April 2022, she now wants me to see our children (this was made clear at the 3rd online Hearing).
We had our dispute resolution Hearing in September 2022. I can see our Children at a contact centre (close to where they live with their Mother) once a week.
I have a face to face Court Hearing on 1 December 2022 - this is an update on contact so far and the next steps for extra days and other separated parent courses I would have completed (mandated by the court).
The most important thing is that I have contact with our children and I can bond with them and be a good example as a father....
You winning brother?
@KrissPerspective - thank you for the reply! 2 years already! It's actually 3 years in May 2024 we first separated. We are divorced now. Our daughter turned 3 in April 2024. Our son turns 5 in June 2024. I see them every 2 weeks, and I have video calls with them in-between.
I have a wonderful bond with our children after 2 years of separation. All Praises to The Almighty.
Am I winning? Well, my ex-wife asked me to get back with her on two occasions. It won't happen.
I am courting a beautiful sister who takes good care of me. I take good care of her, too.
We plan on getting married in the next few months, Insha'Allah.
Watch this space.....
Daaammm bro you are relentless. Kudo's
I’m 25, my dad went through this exact same divorce... he won custody raised my brother and I, i was a baby with a older brother about 4-5. And it’s the worst part of my life to have a mom who chose the choices this lady made. Learn from Kevin.
im in the same boat bro but i dont have a brother i just have my self much love god bless
@@Esotericreation1618 when My parents where in fight, my ugky jelouse aunt who envyt my mom talk to my mom and made sure they divorce, because my auntie is a single mom of 2.
Sorry man. Hopefully you never blamed yourself for any of your mother's crappy choices.
@@Moesie with respect, but your mother is not a kid, she decided to take the advice of that snake.
@@Moesie embarrassing
This woman broke up her family and having the kids grow up without a dad present in the house
Kevin’s reaction when she said she’s still married to him is priceless
Caught her slipping
I've seen this story all the time, women leave their high school/college sweet heart or their first sex partner because they want to experience someone new or they feel they settled too early and didn't live life first.
Woman: Look at the mess I made! Look at me struggle from my own consequences! Please help me!
Men: *turns into Ray Charles*
😎
😎
Said Ray Charles to the bullshit
I see what you did there. 😉
Hit the road Jack..
She broke up her household, put her kids into a broken home to struggle, and split them up from their father because she was “young & dumb.” She deserves no second chance. She had it all but took it for granted, messed up her kids life, and now she wants 1. to keep her ex around for herself AND 2. find someone better for her future
She thought the grass was greener and it wasn’t. Now she has regrets.
Regret is the Heaviest substance in our Universe. Once you aquire it, it will stop you dead in your tracks and life will never be the same.
She's not looking for companionship. She's looking for a retirement plan via a man.
Kevin is endangering the man in this situation by suggesting to her that she go back to him.
Her ex needs to avoid her like the plague.
She'll dump him AGAIN in a few years
Kevin is also calculating the welfare of the children into this. Then that's two more potential Gremlins we will have to deal with in the future
facts
Kevin isn't endangering the man at all. This man chose to have children with her and will choose whether or not to accept the woman back. Adults need to be held accountable for their actions.
@@sandrachinazonwankwo6257 victim blaming
@K G like most women do when they lock down the provider
"we talk everyday" I don't even talk to my friends every day!!!
LMAO.
No bullshit
If her story is true... SHE BROKE HIM!
Please y'all pray for my man 🙏.
Scenario: You’re dating her and she wants to talk about her problems.
Who the f... is trying to deal with that for the remainder of their life?!? A woman with 3 kids that still talk with her ex on a daily bases. And will most likely expect you to cover all of the expenses because her ex did!