If it's that expensive, do it less frequently. Cook cheaper food. Stop doing it if it's too tiresome. But don't ask people to pay for dinner at your home that you invited them to. Maybe, even potluck is a good idea. Just don't expect Martha Stewart type of dinner party.
Downgrade the food during visits , like hamburgers and soups for dinner and cold cereal and toast for breakfast. Thanksgiving, host does turkey and dressing, someone brings mashed potatoes and candied yams, someone brings salad and rolls and another brings deserts
I don’t know about everyone else, but our family always asks “What can I bring to help with our stay?” and if they say “Just yourselves”, we bring food, paper supplies (some of you know what I mean) anyway especially if we have a pack of kids. With big family gatherings, everyone brings food to share. There is always more than enough and no one has hard feelings or financial burdens when hosting.
I agree. I always bring food when I go to visit ovrnight. My sons tell me not to but I do anyway. It usually is something I use to make from their childhood.
The problem with people today all very entitled. Who goes to a persons house knowing they are going to eat and stay and brings NOTHING? Self fish people.
Id feel uncomfortable asking for money, even tho it’s expensive to host a big gathering. I used to do a big Thanksgiving with miscellaneous friends when I lived in Alaska, as many dont get home first the holidays. I made enough to cover the meal, and it was just once a year. I loved doing it and feeding everybody. Great memories. 😊
Are you Katie IRL? Because you sound like her. Let me invite myself along with my husband and two teenagers to your home for four or five days and expect you to prepare elaborate meals, clean up after us, and have larger utility bills due to extra laundry, showers, etc. and see how you like paying for all that every time I invite ourselves over, sweetie. Go buy yourself a clue because you seriously need one.
She's not always inviting people. Some family just assumed she'd host and do everything, some people invited themselves. Even if one is invited, one should OFFER to chip in financially, come a bit early to help cook or clean or shop or bring potluck or clean up after, something. There's being a good host, but there's also such a thing as being a good guest.
Judging from most the title - yes! It is an a hole move to ask money from guests who visit your house to pay for dinners. How is this even a controversial topic. If you don’t have money then don’t invite guests. Tell them no
Just tell Katie not to ever come over for overnight stay as , her husband said” they should have stayed at a hotel for breakfast provided! “ You need to tell friends and family that you only have just so much money per month for food . Why couldn’t they chip in !?
Were they invited? If so they don’t pay for the meal. If they weren’t, they should pay up. They should bring food with them, offer to pay for groceries, a carry out, or a meal in a restaurant. Don’t make such elaborate meals unless you want to, or host less often.
Unfortunately there are a lot of people who want something for nothing. There are many who are not as generous as you are, do not continue to host these soirées. You really have to consider your family and your finances. Potluck s would be a consideration if you decide to continue these traditions.
Maybe my generation had more common sense. But if I visited family for days along with my family, I would of brought baked goods and also make meals while I visited. Also, knowing how much it cost to feed a family, I would also give money. If they refuse, I would either put it somewhere that they would find or send a thank you gift card.
I bring posh chocolates wine or gin & mixers. Then last night i buy a takeaway or the sunday lunch in a pub. Stay max fri to sunday any longer i would be in a hotel. Dont impose hosting is hard work the prep and the clean up after.
If these people are inviting themselves to your place, then they should bring some food items. Also, stop inviting so many families and for heaven's sake stop putting out a feast!!. You are putting yourself under too much pressure!!
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Stop making elaborate meals. They’ll quit imposing
Did you invite them? If you invited them to come then no they dont pay, if they wanted to come and asked to come to stay then they should help
If it's that expensive, do it less frequently. Cook cheaper food. Stop doing it if it's too tiresome. But don't ask people to pay for dinner at your home that you invited them to. Maybe, even potluck is a good idea. Just don't expect Martha Stewart type of dinner party.
Downgrade the food during visits , like hamburgers and soups for dinner and cold cereal and toast for breakfast.
Thanksgiving, host does turkey and dressing, someone brings mashed potatoes and candied yams, someone brings salad and rolls and another brings deserts
I don’t know about everyone else, but our family always asks “What can I bring to help with our stay?” and if they say “Just yourselves”, we bring food, paper supplies (some of you know what I mean) anyway especially if we have a pack of kids. With big family gatherings, everyone brings food to share. There is always more than enough and no one has hard feelings or financial burdens when hosting.
I agree. I always bring food when I go to visit ovrnight. My sons tell me not to but I do anyway. It usually is something I use to make from their childhood.
The problem with people today all very entitled. Who goes to a persons house knowing they are going to eat and stay and brings NOTHING? Self fish people.
Id feel uncomfortable asking for money, even tho it’s expensive to host a big gathering. I used to do a big Thanksgiving with miscellaneous friends when I lived in Alaska, as many dont get home first the holidays. I made enough to cover the meal, and it was just once a year. I loved doing it and feeding everybody. Great memories. 😊
If you can't afford to have guests then don't have guests. OP's an idiot. 😂
Charging invited guests? Are you kidding?
LOL. Say you didn't listen to the story without saying you didn't listen to the story.
Are you Katie IRL? Because you sound like her. Let me invite myself along with my husband and two teenagers to your home for four or five days and expect you to prepare elaborate meals, clean up after us, and have larger utility bills due to extra laundry, showers, etc. and see how you like paying for all that every time I invite ourselves over, sweetie. Go buy yourself a clue because you seriously need one.
Quit inviting or hosting. Problem solved.
Don't worry. No one will want to go anymore anyways. No more problems for anyone 😂
Dude.. an entire family. Nta.
YTA. If you invited them then make less expensive meals. You don't need to prepare gourmet meals just because it make you feel good.
She's not always inviting people. Some family just assumed she'd host and do everything, some people invited themselves. Even if one is invited, one should OFFER to chip in financially, come a bit early to help cook or clean or shop or bring potluck or clean up after, something. There's being a good host, but there's also such a thing as being a good guest.
Also need to remember if they are staying, increased utilities and washing - theirs as well if there for 5 days with children!
Judging from most the title - yes! It is an a hole move to ask money from guests who visit your house to pay for dinners. How is this even a controversial topic. If you don’t have money then don’t invite guests. Tell them no
After years of hosting without asking for financial help, you suddenly change things. If everyone stays home, problem solved! 😀
Wait, you asked in advance and they agreed then they were dicks about it?
Just tell Katie not to ever come over for overnight stay as , her husband said” they should have stayed at a hotel for breakfast provided! “ You need to tell friends and family that you only have just so much money per month for food . Why couldn’t they chip in !?
Don't ask for money but go out to purchase food together or have her cook and provide food.
YTA. Don't invite people, downgrade the food or meet at an inexpensive restaurant but you DO NOT charge people you have invited
Were they invited? If so they don’t pay for the meal. If they weren’t, they should pay up. They should bring food with them, offer to pay for groceries, a carry out, or a meal in a restaurant. Don’t make such elaborate meals unless you want to, or host less often.
I have always automatically bought meals or groceries or something else when staying at someone else’s home. This is common sense.
Regarding Christmas, tell the people that you will be out of town for the holiday.
You shouldn't have to ask for their help
Unfortunately there are a lot of people who want something for nothing. There are many who are not as generous as you are, do not continue to host these soirées. You really have to consider your family and your finances. Potluck s would be a consideration if you decide to continue these traditions.
Maybe my generation had more common sense. But if I visited family for days along with my family, I would of brought baked goods and also make meals while I visited. Also, knowing how much it cost to feed a family, I would also give money. If they refuse, I would either put it somewhere that they would find or send a thank you gift card.
I bring posh chocolates wine or gin & mixers. Then last night i buy a takeaway or the sunday lunch in a pub. Stay max fri to sunday any longer i would be in a hotel. Dont impose hosting is hard work the prep and the clean up after.
Why doesn't everyone bring something?
If these people are inviting themselves to your place, then they should bring some food items. Also, stop inviting so many families and for heaven's sake stop putting out a feast!!. You are putting yourself under too much pressure!!
Are you running a bed and breakfast or hotel? Are you inviting them or are they asking to visit? It is poor etiquette to ask, but do what you must.
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Next time you can host dinner, OK? Or, how about you take us out for dinner???