Hi Everybody, I saw your comments about the Talkie ad and wanted to clarify a few things: 1) The ad is no longer in the video (this is the reason why the video was private for a week). 2) The reason I took this ad in the first place was because it's a role-play chatbot app. At the time, I didn't believe that it was the type of AI product that takes away from artists. But a lot of you guys pointed out that the app uses AI generated photos. So from this point on, we aren't going to promote anything AI. Thanks:) Missy
Love this! I understand it can be a hit financially as a creator when you have to drop a problematic ad, but I really respect you for being honest and sticking to your values. This will pay you back in spades!
EXACTLY. Having a kid is a way bigger commitment and you're tied to that partner for life after that, I'm still waiting for a guy to explain that one to me
I dated an ex for 8 years and when he told me he wanted to wait other 10 to get married…… I left. I found someone else, we got married, had a baby and bought a house. When you realize you and your partner want different futures, move on and stop wasting your time being unhappy.
Yes! True love takes some sacrifice, so you may have to compromise on certain things. Waiting 10 years to get married is ridiculous and you better have a airtight reason for it (losing disability benefits, tax reasons, etc.). Glad you saw through it and took your life back.
@@Clairewithvertigo I thought I was never getting married when I was 28. I got married at 33 (after a year - we gays move pretty fast 😂). My parents got married when they were 36 and 40 (after 7 years), my ex's aunt got remarried at 60 (after 2) Some people get married at 20, some at 50. There's no age limit on marriage, love, or happiness. If you want a family, you're young. You've got time. Make sure you're clear on that being what you want. There are men, women, and enbies out there who are not only willing to make that commitment, they want to.
THIS. Some differences are deal breakers and not worth spending much time discussing. If you want different things out of life, don't try changing each other. Find someone who's a better fit.
If both people agree to not get married for whatever reason, then that's perfectly fine - that's how me and my partner are - but it's weird to me when you *know* that's what your partner wants from their life and you continuously string them along. It's mean and it's a power play.
Yes, fully agree! Ideally you should know what life goals each want or at least are open to within the first year of a relationship if not the first few dates. Anything less than that over a greater period of time is a recipe for wasted time, and worse you're prone to bad decisions due to time-investment bias.
On the flip side, don't talk like you don't want something serious, just to switch up and force marriage later. Quit lying and being nonchalant if you're actually looking for marriage.
Exactly. I'd like to get married sometime simply because of the legal benefits and a fun party with family sounds nice. But I've been committed for over a decade. I don't need old world certification over a political/inheritance move to "prove" my love. My partner is on board with this and is in no hurry. If either of us felt so strongly, we'd talk about it. If it's a deal breaker, then it just plain is. Quite a few things are, like kids, pets, and work life if it's pulling people in different directions. No one should stick around to hope someone changes their mind over something that is that important to them. And no one should string them along about the idea of "maybe" if they know it's just not something that's in the cards on their side.
Matt's song is gross. My older brother cheated on his wife for over 5 years with a woman from work before she found out. His excuse / defense for cheating was almost verbatim Matt's song lyrics. "I'm depressed, I look at my two kids and you and think I have it all, but I'm still not happy, I wanted more, I feel like I deserved better, I don’t get to pursue MY passions because you and the kids hold me back." Seriously, I heard him say all of this to his poor wife of 17 years. They divorced, and the woman he cheated with left him too because it was only fun for her when it was an affair, she didn't actually want to be with him. He had the nerve to beg his wife to take him back and I was so proud of her when she told him no. Now he goes around slandering her to the rest of the family and he still hasn't pursued those passions of his.
If it was only fun for the other woman when it was an affair, I can't help but wonder if she was actually the husband's sugar baby and he was stupid enough to think she actually wanted the whole enchilada. Idk 🤷♀️ I know not all females look out for other girls, but I can't imagine any woman being all "Yeah, I LOOOOVE being a side piece! I get all the perks and none of the jerk! I don't need a man farting in *my* bed! Side piece for life, bitches!!!" Unless she's a sugar baby. (No shade to SB's! In this economy, get your bag however you can.)
@@gypsywoman9140some women are just gross too though and have no standards and like the “validation” they get from being desirable to these lame men. i do agree it really seems like they reap no benefit unless they’re being paid, some women are just desperate and delusional enough to think being a side piece is an accomplishment though.
@@gypsywoman9140Maybe her life was very fulfilled without ANY men. Maybe she liked to follow her dreams and passions, she was career driven or goal oriented. Men are just a sidekick in her life and are there for fun. Women who are like that don’t care about marriage or a long term relationship because their happiness doesn’t depend on men. It’s still shady what she did as he was not a single. It’s also possible that he has put her on a pedestal when they were having an affair but once he divorced his wife and started an official relationship with her he started to treat her worse so she broke up with him.
@@gypsywoman9140 many women are interested in being in situationships that require no commitment. some even have a kink where they are only interested if the romance is "forbidden". just because that doesn't sound ideal to you, does not mean that's the case for all women. not all women are aiming to be in a long term, committed relationship.
The Costco ring one. Dude, his problem wasn't the hundred something dollar ring, it was that he said "I haven't found anyone to marry". That's disgusting. Whether he or she sees it as a joke, that's horrendous. He's not worth wasting the time on
The man lacks tack. If he really feels like he doesn't want to marry her, he needs to stop stringing her along and just leave. But telling her to her face that she isn't the person he wants to marry when she clearly wants that is pretty cruel.
The guy saying "I will smack that ass every chance I get" as his wedding vows had every chance to fix it. The officiant asked like four times "is that it? You sure?" and he just doubled down. My guy... you were throw multiple lifesavers and still chose to drown.
And it's sad because he could have saved it with a couple of simple thoughts like "Thank you for marrying me or I love the way you smile at me in this moment, I will treasure it forever." But dude was NO THOUGHTS HEAD EMPTY.
Nah but imma be honest: I broke up my situationship bc while we were fighting you posted a video with you hubby and I was like “I want a relationship like that, mutual respect” so yeah, it ended up being a very good decision
You want a relationship based on one you see of an Internet personality? Where you don’t know what they have going on besides the moments they show you? You’re either a bot or just as smart as one.
with matt and abby, abby has literally said she doesnt really like influencing all the time and sometimes thinks of quitting, cuz its mostly Matts dream. But she brings in the most views so she has to run sponsorships and things.
I don’t think it’s a millennial epidemic as much as it is a societal epidemic. Today’s men are learning from men who thought less of yesterday’s women… so unlearning the mistreatment is a slow trickle. Shouldn’t be, but it is. Less than 100 years ago women couldn’t vote or have bank accounts, so husbands of today learned from men who widely saw that as acceptable in real time. Emotional neglect wasn’t even a thought, when women barely had human rights. Luckily, it’s being brought up now. Society has to unlearn the bullshit that was upheld for 1000s of years. Unfortunately, it will realistically take HUNDREDS more before equitable treatment is seen as the expectation, not the exception, on a mass scale.
Right? Who are the women who are attracted to these "men"? I would never be with someone who wanted me to be his mother and wash his poo stained underpants!
When listening to Matt's song I dont really hear someone depressed/frustrated/desperate. To me it sounds like he's saying: I have all these great things, but I'm not sure I want them anymore. Poor me. Why is life so unfair? It's just whining about having responsibilities as a husband and father. Suprising her with a clean house? He's ridiculous.
I hesitate to say this because Matt is clearly a douchebag and I don't want to sound like I'm defending him...but that sounds exactly like depression to me. Full disclosure, I have only heard the bit that's in this video, so forgive me if there's context from the rest of the song I'm missing. But as someone who has suffered from major depressive disorder for years, this kinda rings true to me. With clinical depression (as opposed to situational depression), your sadness is chemical in nature and not really connected to your circumstances. You could literally have everything you ever wanted, but your brain refuses to let you be happy. That said, he could still be full of shit and be ungrateful for the life he had. Plus that doesn't excuse his other red flag behavior. My only point is that if you separate the lyrics from the man singing them, that 10000% sounds like my experience with depression.
@@user-oj3zr3qg6q the fact that he's smiling so much in the video, even when looking at his wifes face full of concern - to me it shows some unhealthy dynamic is happening here. Either he's doing this to make her feel like shes to blame for everything, make her pity him and do less, or something. I've even been a fan of their random shorts popping up on my feed and have Bipolar disorder, so if anything im biased in his favor, but oof
I mean I would say that’s what depression is- he is still not happy despite all he has. But playing that song for her was crazy lol he basically just told her how unhappy and unfulfilled he is Idk much about them except for some clips I’ve seen but it looks like he doesn’t want to be with her and maybe doesn’t even want to be a husband or father really either
@@adaaa11 I mean if he has depression- she knows. It would be insanely hard and unhealthy to try and hide that and make his depressive episodes worse. And let's remember this is a video they made for the purpose of putting it on the internet. And yeah it's not easy to be involved with someone who has depression. But I think a lot of us grew up a lot on the love conquers all narrative that makes it harder. Idk anything about this guy, but that's what depression does, it makes you feel unhappy and unfulfilled even when you have a wonderful life and people you love and care about.
@@mordecaiissad8529 I think a lot of mental health terms like depression are over used but everyone shows it differently. However I don’t think he’s depressed as much as he is just unhappy in his marriage lol he doesn’t like that girl
No, don't ever ask, just observe. If you ask, they can still lie to you. They can't if they don't suspect you are observing their behavior and actions.
Or you can: ASK A GUY TO MARRY YOU. Why wait for him? Ask him to marry you. He may say "no" or need to think about it, but that's what men are asked to do. And to heck with new, mined diamond rings.
I do believe that a conversation about marriage should be had before a proposal happens - purely because this person may not be interested in getting married. I also believe that the woman can propose perfectly fine on her own - but the thing is, if you're going to set up some kind of special thing, perhaps in public, perhaps with friends and family present, that's a lot of pressure on your SO and they may say yes because of the pressure but then later say no in private, or they may just say no right there because they don't want to have to tell everyone else present that the wedding isn't happening after they all already believe that it is. So talk to your SO about their opinions on marriage first. And then, if they say they want to get married but time passes and nothing happens... If you're pressuring them about it and they seem reluctant... Then you have to assume that they lied to you and they're leading you on. And if that person doesn't want to get married (or perhaps doesn't want to get married to you) but you do want marriage for yourself, then you have to accept that this relationship is not right for you and go find someone who won't string you along. If you force a parson who doesn't want to marry you to do it anyway, that marriage is doomed, because one person doesn't actually want to be there.
Not me watching these clips going “break up with him”, “divorce him now”, “why were you with him for so long?” when I’m now 40, on my second marriage, and having run through a bunch of fuck boys in between. My first marriage was a thousand red flags. Like a huge bundle of red flags in a trench coat which was also made from red flags. And I was with him from ages 21-31! I don’t know how I have so much audacity.
When we’re 21 we’re still so young and we really grow up and learn about who we are, what we want, what we believe in, what’s acceptable in a relationship and what’s not. It’s why ppl tell people not to get married young. But I did too. Unfortunately we were great until I got into a very bad accident that turned our lives upside down, and he met a physically able woman and also became like a different person when he turned 40. And then I was also suffering from FTD but wasn’t diagnosed until 10 years after we split. 22 years and it’s really difficult because I understand on one hand but I don’t on the other. But if I hadn’t had the accident I know we’d still be together and happy. There were a lot of outside sources of stress we had to deal with like my family not understanding or doing anything to help because I looked ok. And his very large family taking up a lot of our free time. It’s hard to explain it all but what I’ll never forgive is his cowardice in not talking to me about problems and then not wanting to be the one to leave his disabled wife, so he made the last 2 years hell of course wanting me to kick him out. But he’s married to what my in-laws call a “completely miserable B” and what a mistake he made. But I’m terminal now with the FTD so we really had horrible luck. Or I did since I suffered a hell of a lot more. So I guess we’re not the best example. Oh she also thought he needed kids to be happy and he did get a vasectomy but they could still extract some and they did IVF. We still talked often for years until I realized he was having his cake and eating it too. They’re now 53 with a 10 year old. No thanks! But I’m glad you didn’t drag it out and have a better marriage now. Life is very complex that’s for sure.
I wouldn’t say audacity. Perhaps naïveté back then, but you’ve learned and grown. Possibly you just wanted to see the good in them. Males really do like to play on our emotions and trick us.
And this is why those toxic, alpha, red-pilled influencers are telling men to date girls from 18 - 23 years old. “The younger the better” because they’re easier to manipulate and “mold” into their perfect, obedient girlfriend. They lack experience and won’t even know how to pick up red flags because they’ve never experienced those before.
I am soon to be happily married w my wife (as another woman myself) and I noticed straight people either have a cute relationship like yours and Bryce or it's...this. I am a woman defender til i die but i think its SO weird to have to beg your man for a ring and also kinda weird to push someone into such a big life decision. have some self respect girlie like... if they aren't ready then wait or leave if you see they clearly aren't serious and acting like a manchild putting "da boys!!" before you. Don't make them get you a 128$+ shut up ring that is worth absolutely nothing emotionally speaking and that will cost you a more expensive marriage only for you two to divorce the next year. A lot of straight people seem to date because they feel pressured to socially, or only because they both think the other looks hot and absolutely nothing else, they don't even have actual conversations. it's sad.
It's a huge problem that's continued for centuries. Committed, traditionally sexually and romantically straight, monogamous relationships just aren't for everyone but we're all fed this one mold of how to pursue life. There's so many people trying to force themselves into it, and it creates problems for everyone involved.
Honestly it’s more like it’s REALLY hard to find a real genuine guy on the market these days. It’s a lottery because some guys turn out to be gay(not that it’s a bad thing but I’ve had some instances where they end up coming out as gay! Good for them but I’ve also had instances where they wanna mess with my feelings), taken or they’re single but they’re a dick or just want a fling. This is based from my own (as a bisexual with a preference for men ) and my friends’ experiences. Some settle for less than they deserve, but I know of some who stay together because they’ve known them for so long it feels wrong to part with them. It’s not just because the one they like is hot. And there is always a pressure to date for all sides because a lot of the time, most of their circle is most likely dating. A lot of the time, people fall in love with the idea of the relationship and that tends to backfire.
When they showed the groom I was stunned. She waited for someone who not only looks but also *acts* (which is far worse) like a 12-year old boy? It makes me think she was taught to give everything up for a man, to ignore her own suffering as long as he’s happy, even if he shows he doesn’t like her that much. To me it also screams that the manchild was raised like only his needs matter. I won’t be surprised if it turns out he’s a very selfish husband. That clip was a very painful (in a cringy way) watch.
Men who say they don’t want to get married because it’s “just a piece of paper” confuse me because if it’s only a piece of paper and it’s important to your girlfriend, why won’t you just do do it?
Not siding with men here cause they deserve nothing BUT I, as a woman, have this same mindset so I sort of understand where they're coming from. Why would I do something that's legally binding just to appease another person if I don't see the point of it? Legally, marriage comes with a lot of stipulations. Plus, it really wouldn't be fair to my partner or myself if I went along with something that's so important to them just for the sake of doing it when it means nothing to me. But then again, I wouldn't sit in a long term relationship with someone who wants marriage knowing I couldn't give them that.
Or maybe just don't marry and break up. Why would a person marry someone to appease them if they don't believe in marriage? Saying they should marry because they believe it's just a piece of paper is stupid. If they believe that, then it means they don't want to marry.
@@AIgeneratedHumanit doesnt sound like it "means nothing to you" it sounds like its too many strings for you. I think saying people dont care aboht marriage is a miscommunication. You actively want to avoid stipulations marriage comes eith.
About matt's song...I've been diagnosed with depression. My bf is the one person in the world who makes me feel better. Depression tends to make you feel like you are not good enough for anything and you never will be. Not that your life isn't good enough for you. That song is not about depression, it's about him hating his family
As a person whos literally depressed as we speak and has had times in their were they literally didn't even wanna be on earth for years i wholeheartedly disagree with you ,you dont know this man nor do i or any person in these comments so to say he doesnt have depression based off a literal 30 second clip of music is actually crazy by your logic any depressed student burdened by the crazy amount of work and their lack of pride in their accomplishments because they still have a empty whole in their heart is a faker , i seriously hate the online culture of calling people fakers because their disability is different than the other persons disability you nor i have any right to say this man isnt depressed we dont know him , i dont know you nor your intent i dont wanna come off as rude either i just dont like the idea of people you dont know denying your mental illness because thers doesnt come up in the same way yours does it reminds me of the allistic people telling a high masking low support needs autistic woman they arent autistic because their family member whoes autistic and dont mask + high support needs doesnt act like the woman ,moral of the story we dont know these people we have no right telling them if they have a mental illness or not . (Hope this came off as readable my autocorrect acting up lol)
@@yassine8935maybe proofread before posting, and stop using auto correct as an excuse for your posts lack of comprehension. People are basing their opinions on more than a 30 second clip of Matt. The guy is a crybaby, and it's 100% not from depression. He's trying to upstage his wife's postpartum depression.
Missy , you should definitely do deep dive on Matt and Abby channel coz there is more to go. In one tiktok of their podcast Abby said that after just giving birth to their second baby Matt wasn't talking to Abby at all because he was looking back and realising he can't have a music career now that he have kids to look out for. Like your wife just got her stomach ripped off to give birth to YOUR baby (mind u Abby got pregnant again when his first baby was only 5-6 month old).
You make it sound like another living being is a love offering...honestly, she's screwing up by being with someone like that And it seems like those two don't know about contraceptives if they are literally having one baby after another.
@@AraneaTempestatum true that's very irresponsible of them. I also think they got married very young and they follow conventional rules because they had their first time after marriage. I Even this influencer thing was all Matt wishes , Abby has said many times how she didn't even know how to turn on the video camera or anything.
yeah the song matt wrote and filmed her listening/reacting to it gave me the major ick but knowing this now I think he's straight up a POS lmao. abby's way in too deep and bringing another kid into it just barely 6 months after her first is crazy to me. IIRC it wasn't planned either?
@@caitlingill my vision is standard jean jacket with multi colored glass pieces either sewn on or glued. in this situation i think i will pick glue because i would rather eat glue, denim and glass than sing about hating my current life to my wife i built it with.
So expressing you emotions ??? Post pardum depression is now widly seen as a completely normal thing in society and the socalled progressive part of the world likes to say men should hold in heir emotions as ut leads to the high rate of suicide and depression in men yet when a man is literally doing those things its somehow a problem ??? I really do want to understand how a man sharing his emotions to his partner is a bad thing at this point we really are fulfilling the hirse shoe theory the right says men such in your emotions its weak and now progressive liberals are saying dam near the same thing . The fake acceptance of mental health is seriously showing ngl .
@@yassine8935 this isn’t me hating on a man showing his emotions this is me shitting on a man setting up a camera and making his wife listen to a song about how he’s not happy in his relationship. he’s not having a conversation about his emotions. did you watch the video? if a wife did this i would shit on her too! it’s simply a weird thing to do
It's apparently not being told enough, women are not obliged to make up for what these spoiled men didn't receive in childhood or assume their wives will do for them just like their mother did, marriage is made up of two adults not one overly giving adult and a man-child.
Societally they just can't adjust not having everything be brought on a silver platter and spoonfed for the merit of simply being born. And claim it's something wrong with women, not spending lives solely to serve them.
i am a horny heterosexual woman and I've never tolerated crap like this from men. You can theoretically enter a relationship with pos man and tolerate crap even while being aroace, for cultural reasons.
I watched Stephanie Soo’s wedding recently and for the first time in my life bawled like a baby while listening to someone’s vows. I promised myself then I want either that or nothing. If you have to BEG to get a shred of love from your partner, then it was never love to begin with.
This gonna sound silly but I always remind myself that that’s how it’s supposed to be, the way they never fail to show appreciation and interest in each other but also tease each other in a loving way. Because my parents for sure did not give me that impression for the longest time. Even though now I know my parents care about each other, in my culture you’re not supposed to show affection or appreciation towards your partner in front of the children. They always act like they just tolerate each other’s existence and if the wife communicates then the husband usually acts in an uninterested way and just grunts something back instead of acting interested and talking properly. So the children don’t even get to learn what a healthy dynamic is. I still remember believing my parents didn’t like each other until one evening when I was a child and woke up to go to the toilet, I passed by the living room and accidentally saw my parents cuddled up on the couch while talking to each other with a smile on their faces. That shocked me more than anything, I felt like I was betrayed but also made me relieved. I’m 25 but to this day I’ve never seen them give even a peck on each other’s cheek in front of me and my siblings. Their love language is making fun of each other until one of the two gets slightly annoyed.
This is why I loved the show "kevin can fuck himself" - I watched it recently and cant stop recommending it to people. It shows the trope of the sitcom wife and abusive sitcom husband played for laughs. (similarly these tiktok style relationships- were these men are so awful but of course "its just a joke!")Then the minute the camera is off him and pans to her, it goes from his fun life thats a multi-cam sitcom, to a single cam drama showing how miserable his abuse makes her and how she feels about him. Its so well done and shows what these cruel relationships are actually like
People who are constantly posting about their relationship and talking how sublimely happy they are multiple times per week and how amazing the other is… they’re compensating.
That or they're in the early stages. Everyone gets a honeymoon phase. Chemically, it's called obsession stage and to your brain, generally speaking you don't see any faults. Lasts around 3-4 years. Most people break up when it goes out and don't move on to long term. You see this a lot in hollywood marriages.
@@vixxcelacea2778yeah that too. I was more like that in the beginning of my relationship and everyone was so over it. 😂 I was just really really happy though. Finally. And now that we have been married awhile, I don’t bother posting. It just feels like I’m doing a victory lap lol. It’s too much. I’ve seen people over compensate though and it’s painful.
@@vixxcelacea2778People in the early stages of a relationship don’t typically choose to obsessively post about their relationship on social media. I’m about to celebrate a fourth year anniversary with my partner and not once have I had the urge to create a TikTok/Instagram/Facebook account for us as a couple.
Uh no ladies. This is gross. We don’t beg for men to love of. We don’t beg for men to marry us. You ask them if they are planning on marrying you. It’s simple. If they say yes then great. If they say anything other than yes, then you leave. You don’t pressure a man. You don’t beg a man. If they wanted to, they would. Anything less than that is gross, and we leave. We don’t pressure. We don’t “make”. We don’t accept a “shut up ring”…. We don’t accept this. If he plans to marry you, the. You know that’s the plan and you leave it alone. If it doesn’t happen on your timeline then you leave. We don’t have time for men that want to waste our time. If he doesn’t “recognize” what he has… then you get away from him. It’s very simple. If they wanted to they would. It’s simple. We also aren’t going to shame the cost of the ring. That’s also gross.
While the guys in the video are well, what they are like, I will say it's also not fair to a good guy who simply has different plans and feelings. A relationship is two people who compromise and gel together. But there are things for people that are too important (regardless of what they are) in which they become deal breakers. Wanting to get married or not and how that goes down is one of them. It's a big event, it's expensive and for many it means a lot. It's not fair to either party to have one person feel pressure to do something they don't want to do and the other to feel like them not doing so means they don't "love them enough". Mutual respect means mutual respect, including if someone doesn't want to get married. You discuss it like adults, see how everyone feels and if it's a deal breaker, well, then it just plain is. People are allowed to like and dislike various things that simply clash with the other person.
@@vixxcelacea2778 that's essentially what they are say though. You have a right to leave a relationship you feel disrespected in or that core values don't align. Marriage is a core value to some people. I doubt most people would leave if there was a good reason to not get married right away. The men in this video seem like they are fine with stringing their partners along and their partners should not have to put up with that.
@@vixxcelacea2778 That's exactly why it's best to cut losses early and look for someone on the same page as you. Then there'll be less heartbreak and resentment for having to sacrifice something. Men - commitment and not acting like you hate her guts, women - time and energy. Either they come out right or don't come at all. Pressure is not it, societal or from a partner, in any matter. The issue is many men not being upfront in order to keep up wifey or even REPRODUCTIVE benefits FOR DECADES. And women giving them 5 million chances and endless amounts of grace and good faith. That's not a happy relationship but being hostage, men for comfort, women for appearances and brainwashing, I guess? That's why it's suggested to date for your dream lifestyle as a woman, his actions and habits outside the relationship should align or it's a facade that will fall off one day. You'll never be the exception.
It’s okay to say that they need some time or that they aren’t ready, especially if it’s early on. But they will know if they want to by year 3, at the latest. If they don’t know by then, then it ain’t going anywhere.
Yes! I would like to add: It's a good option to have a serious talk to him about if he wants to marry at all or not. Maybe he has some concerns that can be managed (like compromising on a cheap wedding or getting prenups to make sure that he does not worry about problems at a possible divorce). I think that prenups are a great idea for many people anyway (we did them and while we don't think that we will ever divorce, we look at it like at an insurance - you can get a fire insurance for your house although houses burn down quite rarely). But if he does not want to, don't beg or try to force him. It may be hard to leave a long-time relationship, but I'm sure that being left shortly before the wedding ("because he realised he did not want to get married") or divorce a year after is MUCH worse.
Can easily be retorted that anyone who cares so much about what you make over who you are as a person doesn't see you as a person. Men & women want different things. Women want a stable man who can at least provide a fair share, while men want a woman who cares about them yet also want to ensure any possible children will be his. Ensuring the child is yours isn't a problem women have. You already know whose it is because it came out of you. If women are going to do the "men shouldnt have a say bc my body" argument for abortion, then women don't get to comment about how men ensure they are providing to their child alone & not being stolen from. Bc thats what it is, theft. Theft of time & resources, similar to wage theft, but for 18yrs. If Im committing 18yr+ to providing & caring for a child then I have every right to take precautionary steps to make sure I'm not being cheated or stolen from.
@@opdinkleberg7078 i think you're having a different conversation here. i would definitely agree with the first sentence you said! i think the lesson to take here is that you should value your partner for who they are, not what they can/cannot give you. this goes for people of all genders :)
I think how many people you sleep with IS a reflection of who you are as a person. Also the more people you have slept with (either men or women), the higher the rights of divorce.
For the engagement part - Never understood waiting for a man to propose to you. For my fiance and I we talked about engagement together like adults and we agreed that I can propose. I proposed valentines day 2020 at a science centre and he cried. He loved it. It made him feel so loved and special.
My ex was one of those guys that shit his pants pretty frequently, alcoholism and IBS are a deadly combination. I'm so glad I got out of that truly shitty relationship.
my dad aint a millennial hes a gen x but he acts just like this and overall acts like a man child i feel genuinely so bad for my mom because shes the only one holding this relationship together.. 😭😭
And then there's my husband, who's been calling me "wifey" and "future wife" since year 2 🥰 I'm lucky I found a good one but I had to go through a whole lotta bad ones first 😆
Missy I understand getting that bag, but please don't fall for AI slop like this. i mean for one thing, the information about Marie Antoinette is painfully wrong. the first paragraphs of the wikipedia could have told u more valuable information
My dad was upset at my mom because she "wouldn't let him" go to the bathroom while she was in labor. She also took me to work with her every day for 18 months because he told her "I can only watch three", being my three older brothers. She also home schooled us every day, prepared lunch and dinner, cleaned, and worked from 5 to 10pm everyday...To this day, I'm amazed they're still together.
@@thatcreepygirl Such men wanted a surrogate mother figure more than a wife, and so see a wife as a ball and chain instead of a partner to cherish and love
There are literally women who talk crap about their husbands all the time. Sometimes marriages aren't perfect or legal issues stop you from leaving. Ik many men stay in relationships because its just cheaper & you won't be ripping a family apart or they feel their wife would use every lever to make his life hell for daring to leave her. Women can be just as toxic about breakups as men, but typically go for social/financial destruction. Women of the past feared leaving their husbands for social & financial reasons too so lets remember to be fair about respecting peoples problems/fears. Plus venting like that could be a sign of mistreatment. Many men don't leave abusive relationships because of how society treats & views men who are victims of abuse. I don't think shaming venting language is the right step, instead lets ask why & properly digest/work through the issues. Shaming only serves to delay & obsfucate the problem in society actually getting addressed fully. Often times bc the group shaming is projecting & fearful their own skeletons in the closet will be found at some point.
That funny guy at work thing is SO real. You have to fake laugh. Also I had a coworker like that who was also a wife guy and he ended up getting fired for stealing and had CP on his work laptop. So…
My parents got married after mom told dad "We've been working pretty well so far and I'd like a family with you but if that's not what you want let's split up and keep looking". And dad just shrugged and said "Okay, marriage it is". Plain and simple, no mind games, no having to beg.
Everytine i see those sorts of things i think about two things: 1. Do these people ever actually have clear communication and talk about their expectations and pros and cons of a marriage? Do they just publicly guilt trip? 2. Do millennial women know that they too have the right to propose? Dont get me wrong, the dudes suck too because they seem to have commitment issues (or they don't like the concept of narriage for other reasons, which might be more reasonable) but I really dont think a marriage will last long if it's a result of tiktok-shaming or an amount of likes
if you ever find someone so fixated about social media validation just walk away I had an ex that made fun of me for having less followers (I don't use social media) and it was the the weirdest way anyone ever tried to "Shame" me lmao
Those are exactly my questions. Most of the women in those videos seem like they’re truly unaware they are just as able of proposing as their boyfriends, and that publicly shaming their partners for not asking for marriage is a good and healthy strategy. Just yikes all around.
If the person you're with doesn't match your life timeline, you need to make a decision. Not them. It's hard but you have to make a choice as to what life will look like in 5-10 years. Either choice is a gamble.
wait what is this ai sponsorship? are the "historical chats" actually fact checked? is it AI in the stolen-data-AI way or is it AI that was built with intention to connect the youth to the past in an interesting way? not a critique of you, just very curious & confused about the sponsorship as AI ethics is a hot topic - maybe you can give more info in the next ad read if you work with them again? loved the video!
yeah I'm iffy too, especially when it started talking about Marie Antoinette. Even the most surface research on goddamn wikipedia will tell you that their relationship was awkward at best, to the point that public newspapers mocked Louis for being impotent and Marie of being infertile. they were both also 15 and 14 respectively, and the art used looks like AI as well. i understand getting that bag but also. ew
The optimist in me wants to think that the second man was already planning to propose and didn’t like his girlfriend calling him her husband because it might ruin a surprise proposal 😇😇 I would love it if videos like yours helped change the culture! But in the meantime I’m happy for the laughs
I didn't rush my wedding with my ex and after 7 years, 2 years moved in together, he dropped me and our dog with my parents like a damn sack of potatoes and went running home to his family saying he didnt want to be an adult. I'm pretty sure the ring (which was his birthstone, modest, not even diamond and might be fake on top of it). Didn't even visit the dog for a month after when he said he wanted visitation basically. People can be great, but men are not socialized well in this country, and they don't value others properly.
A girl at my husbands job has 2 kids with her high school sweet heart and she’s asking him if it’s unreasonable that she wants to get married, I’m like ?!?!?!?!?!?!? It’s such a crazy red flag that she’s asking other people this like he’s been gaslighting her MORE THAN HALF HER LIFE AT THIS POINT. LEAVE MAMA
tbh if a man is this open about not wanting to marry you, have a conversation with him and find out why. My bf and I have had a few conversations about it, and now I know that he wants to get married too and he's actually been thinking about it a lot, but we aren't in a place where it would be financially possible yet for what we want. Communicate and be willing to consider that who you're with might not be the best person for you if you're goals don't align. If you want to have a husband and he doesn't ever wanna be one, you are not compatible for the long run
Just keep notes people, if he says “flowers are too expensive” WHEN YOU HAVE SAID COUNTLESS TIMES YOU LOVE GETTING THEM. RUN. If he can’t buy you flowers even out of curtesy, he can’t buy you a ring. He can’t buy you anything that you love and want. NO. RUN.
So re: Matt from Matt and Abby: my mom and little sister both dealt with extremely serious medical issues and the same time and my dad spent literal weeks sleeping in a hospital chair. We literally had to force that man to go home and shower. I shudder to think what would happen if, God forbid, their family was in a similar situation. My dad is not a perfect person (like all of us), but if there's one thing he's really darn good at, it's being there and making sure we're all okay.
My husband later told me he knew he wanted to marry me in the very beginning. He put a ring on it after 7 months. Men know when they know. I’m grateful to have such a good man. ESP after seeing this… dude
Folks, if YOU are dying for a proposal, please just ask your partner. Don’t wait around! If they don’t have the same goals and desire to have that commitment, find someone who will. You can love someone more than anything in the world and they still won’t be the one. And that’s ok. I PROMISE.
This 100,000% communication is key men nor women are mind readers your girlfriends wont know you dont wanna get married unless you tell her same with boyfriends wont know you want marriage unless you tell him things like this should be communicated in the beginning and just throught the relationship period bc whats the point of having a relationship if you dont want to communicate your wants and needs .
When I got together with my husband, we talked about our plans for the future right away. Of course, I don't expect talking about life plans from 16 year olds, but if they stay together, they should have a serious talk at some point when they are grown up. Don't ever hope that your partner magically fulfills your wishes. That would be very nice, but it's not realistic.
@@nriamond8010 I mean, yeah… that’s not really what I’m talking about. These women are in sometimes 4-5 year long relationships as adults where it is clear that both partners are aware that the woman would like to get engaged and the men are not interested in that but unwilling to end the relationship.
21:05 its like he wrote the song that she was supposed to sing. He was smiling singing about being depressed and she is sitting there , kinda depressed?
This video is a certified banger. Every section and quote had me gasping for breath from laughing. Thank you for braving through these areas of social media that I will never have any inclination to watch. Your commentary makes some of the cringe Tik Toks that you analyze on this channel just a tiny bit more bearable. You a real one.
we need to stop engaging in this content, even (especially?) hate watching. these people are emotionally abusing each other for money and the proper response is to stonewall them. it’s completely inappropriate to post arguments with your partner online and they’ll never have motivation to work out their issues if they’re making money off of being cruel to each other ….
I watched both everybody loves Raymond and King of Queens. Both husbands definitely don't respect their wives on the show and are man childs, honestly idk why they always portrayed relationships like that
I had assumed that the millenial men were continuing the trope from having grown up watching those sort of shows on TV tbh and that's what the thumbnail was getting at. I should watch the video and see
My fiance had a timeliness planned out with me, and we actually got engaged on the date we discussed. And he actually teared up when he got down to do the proposal. He and I are immensely happy. If he loves you, it'll show.
Aussie TV have been rerunning Everybody Loves Raymond for years so seeing the star of that show in the thumbnail was a bit startling, never thought I'd see him anywhere other than TV, lol.
5:30 This!!! Women in their late twenties and thirties have self respect! Men who just wanna play around and don’t know what they want or want a doting woman with no self respect who will put with with their bs will then claim that younger women are “more fun” and get along with them better and have “less baggage.” Boy who do you think is creating the baggage???
I’m just going to say, I was cool about not being married until my BF (and person who’s account the rent came out of) was in the hospital and unable to communicate with me because I had zero rights legally to see him or control his finances. So girls if you’re not married, AT LEAST be his power of attorney. If he can’t do that, leave him OR make sure you don’t need him. (And truly every woman should make sure she doesn’t depend on her partner but that’s a whole other story.)
It always so weird to me that Nate is well-known in the fundie blogger sphere now. I came across him online 10+ years ago when going through jaw surgery, way before he met his wife.
I can't imagine having so little respect for myself to try and force someone to propose to me. Just propose to him and if he says no move on. These women are living such sad lives.
im kind of disappointed to see the ai sponsorship tbh. id be more understanding if it were just a chatbots (i dont like them, but w/e) but the blatant use of ai art is gross to me. ik this comment wont mean much to you since im a random guy on the internet, but its important to me to say something when i see this stuff being pushed. ai "art" should not be supported, its not being used as a tool, its being used to steal art from non-consenting artists. people are using chatbots to write fanfics and scripts which, again, often rips from real authors without their permission. like i get you need the money, so i cant judge you based off what sponsorships you take, but its still disappointing to see. especially if youre being honest about the use of ai to write your shorts. sorry for the nasty comment, i promise im not trying to be a dick.
@@Just_a_Goth I'm a real boy. Could a robot do th🐇is- woah wtf what was that??? Did u guys see that????? I think something strange is afoot..... we better split up and look for clues.
All hail Nate, Toolbaggius Rex, Lord of Douchenozzles and Hypocritical Men, Crusader of Tone Deafness, Savior of Misogyny, and Breaker of Sacred Vows. Long may he feign. 🙄
My (maybe gonna be a ex husband soon) didn’t even propose… he put on Facebook that we were getting married, I woke up one morning to a bunch of congratulations texts
Stop begging men to marry you, you are only hurting yourself. Wear something nice, take a pic and post it everywhere. Go out to places alone in your nice dress. Do not wait for him to let you go, always be the first to leave as soon as you feel any kind of way even if it a small feeling. Life is way more then you and your feelings and that boy. Nature is out there creating beautiful things while you sit with that thing. Just smile and say your piece, block and go. It time you meet what really was meant for you in the world because it been dying to meet you, to experience it or to see..
Straight people are either really cute but also way to PDA, or whatever this is, where they don’t actually like eachother and just spend their time together because they settled
Forgetting the anniversary is bad, but just playing devil's advocate it is weird that no convos happened in the weeks prior like "hey what should we do for our anniversary?"
Hi Everybody, I saw your comments about the Talkie ad and wanted to clarify a few things:
1) The ad is no longer in the video (this is the reason why the video was private for a week).
2) The reason I took this ad in the first place was because it's a role-play chatbot app. At the time, I didn't believe that it was the type of AI product that takes away from artists. But a lot of you guys pointed out that the app uses AI generated photos. So from this point on, we aren't going to promote anything AI.
Thanks:) Missy
Thank you Missy for this actions 🙏
thank you Missy for addressing these actions and apologizing ^﹏^
Love this! I understand it can be a hit financially as a creator when you have to drop a problematic ad, but I really respect you for being honest and sticking to your values. This will pay you back in spades!
Goated
ur the best missy
A lot of guys love to say ‘Marriage is too expensive, marriage is a big commitment ect ect’ but will have 3 kids and act like it’s nothing-
EXACTLY. Having a kid is a way bigger commitment and you're tied to that partner for life after that, I'm still waiting for a guy to explain that one to me
cuz they don’t take care of their kids lol
@@clairecunningham1271 no fr 😭💀
Like you can stop being married annytime you can't just stop being a parent.
It really sounds like fricking boymath.
@@juliaboskamp9666you fell from a coconut tree? Yes, you can,
I dated an ex for 8 years and when he told me he wanted to wait other 10 to get married…… I left. I found someone else, we got married, had a baby and bought a house.
When you realize you and your partner want different futures, move on and stop wasting your time being unhappy.
Yes! True love takes some sacrifice, so you may have to compromise on certain things. Waiting 10 years to get married is ridiculous and you better have a airtight reason for it (losing disability benefits, tax reasons, etc.). Glad you saw through it and took your life back.
May I ask how old are you? I’m in the same place right now, 28.
Afraid that it’s too late for me
@@ClairewithvertigoDefinitely not too late. I'm 29 getting married next week and there are people who get married even later than that.
@@Clairewithvertigo I thought I was never getting married when I was 28.
I got married at 33 (after a year - we gays move pretty fast 😂).
My parents got married when they were 36 and 40 (after 7 years), my ex's aunt got remarried at 60 (after 2)
Some people get married at 20, some at 50. There's no age limit on marriage, love, or happiness.
If you want a family, you're young. You've got time. Make sure you're clear on that being what you want.
There are men, women, and enbies out there who are not only willing to make that commitment, they want to.
THIS. Some differences are deal breakers and not worth spending much time discussing. If you want different things out of life, don't try changing each other. Find someone who's a better fit.
The fact that I am still attracted to men after watching this video proves that sexuality is not a choice
I hate it , I wish I was gay
So is the fact that I'm still attracted to (some) men after 31 years of experiencing life in this world
It's not a choice. I wish I could like women and date them because I don't like men at all, but it's biology
So glad I’m bisexual.
Brain rot moment
If both people agree to not get married for whatever reason, then that's perfectly fine - that's how me and my partner are - but it's weird to me when you *know* that's what your partner wants from their life and you continuously string them along. It's mean and it's a power play.
Yes, fully agree! Ideally you should know what life goals each want or at least are open to within the first year of a relationship if not the first few dates. Anything less than that over a greater period of time is a recipe for wasted time, and worse you're prone to bad decisions due to time-investment bias.
You don't get stringed along,you have a choice
On the flip side, don't talk like you don't want something serious, just to switch up and force marriage later. Quit lying and being nonchalant if you're actually looking for marriage.
Exactly.
I'd like to get married sometime simply because of the legal benefits and a fun party with family sounds nice. But I've been committed for over a decade. I don't need old world certification over a political/inheritance move to "prove" my love. My partner is on board with this and is in no hurry.
If either of us felt so strongly, we'd talk about it. If it's a deal breaker, then it just plain is. Quite a few things are, like kids, pets, and work life if it's pulling people in different directions.
No one should stick around to hope someone changes their mind over something that is that important to them. And no one should string them along about the idea of "maybe" if they know it's just not something that's in the cards on their side.
@@purplelove3666because they don't tell you they don't want marriage and pretend like they do but aren't ready yet.
Matt's song is gross. My older brother cheated on his wife for over 5 years with a woman from work before she found out. His excuse / defense for cheating was almost verbatim Matt's song lyrics. "I'm depressed, I look at my two kids and you and think I have it all, but I'm still not happy, I wanted more, I feel like I deserved better, I don’t get to pursue MY passions because you and the kids hold me back." Seriously, I heard him say all of this to his poor wife of 17 years. They divorced, and the woman he cheated with left him too because it was only fun for her when it was an affair, she didn't actually want to be with him. He had the nerve to beg his wife to take him back and I was so proud of her when she told him no. Now he goes around slandering her to the rest of the family and he still hasn't pursued those passions of his.
If it was only fun for the other woman when it was an affair, I can't help but wonder if she was actually the husband's sugar baby and he was stupid enough to think she actually wanted the whole enchilada. Idk 🤷♀️ I know not all females look out for other girls, but I can't imagine any woman being all "Yeah, I LOOOOVE being a side piece! I get all the perks and none of the jerk! I don't need a man farting in *my* bed! Side piece for life, bitches!!!" Unless she's a sugar baby. (No shade to SB's! In this economy, get your bag however you can.)
@@gypsywoman9140some women are just gross too though and have no standards and like the “validation” they get from being desirable to these lame men. i do agree it really seems like they reap no benefit unless they’re being paid, some women are just desperate and delusional enough to think being a side piece is an accomplishment though.
@@gypsywoman9140Maybe her life was very fulfilled without ANY men. Maybe she liked to follow her dreams and passions, she was career driven or goal oriented. Men are just a sidekick in her life and are there for fun. Women who are like that don’t care about marriage or a long term relationship because their happiness doesn’t depend on men. It’s still shady what she did as he was not a single. It’s also possible that he has put her on a pedestal when they were having an affair but once he divorced his wife and started an official relationship with her he started to treat her worse so she broke up with him.
@@elenahauser6617 you talk as if a career driven woman are some superior being...
It's not
@@gypsywoman9140 many women are interested in being in situationships that require no commitment. some even have a kink where they are only interested if the romance is "forbidden". just because that doesn't sound ideal to you, does not mean that's the case for all women. not all women are aiming to be in a long term, committed relationship.
The Costco ring one. Dude, his problem wasn't the hundred something dollar ring, it was that he said "I haven't found anyone to marry". That's disgusting. Whether he or she sees it as a joke, that's horrendous. He's not worth wasting the time on
That’s the point I was just like “you’re both terrible.” He’s a total coward, but she’s literally delusional
That's what I thought too! Fuck the price of the ring, for him she is just a stand in before he meets his 'true love'
They also had kids too if I remember correctly. That was super shitty.
@@ariellenathanson1640 what???!!! 😮
The man lacks tack. If he really feels like he doesn't want to marry her, he needs to stop stringing her along and just leave. But telling her to her face that she isn't the person he wants to marry when she clearly wants that is pretty cruel.
The guy saying "I will smack that ass every chance I get" as his wedding vows had every chance to fix it. The officiant asked like four times "is that it? You sure?" and he just doubled down. My guy... you were throw multiple lifesavers and still chose to drown.
LITERALLY Looking for this 😂 even the official was like “get yo sh*t together!”
And it's sad because he could have saved it with a couple of simple thoughts like "Thank you for marrying me or I love the way you smile at me in this moment, I will treasure it forever." But dude was NO THOUGHTS HEAD EMPTY.
She better get ready to get cheated on the moment she is pregnant and unavailable for him to continue to objectify her
Nah but imma be honest: I broke up my situationship bc while we were fighting you posted a video with you hubby and I was like “I want a relationship like that, mutual respect” so yeah, it ended up being a very good decision
Love that for you. 👏
Ur so pretty n u did the right thing!! Wishing u can find someone better in the future
@@Wallflowerzizme thank you bbyyy ♥️
You want a relationship based on one you see of an Internet personality? Where you don’t know what they have going on besides the moments they show you? You’re either a bot or just as smart as one.
You called it a situationship. Clearly it wasn't that serious to begin with.
with matt and abby, abby has literally said she doesnt really like influencing all the time and sometimes thinks of quitting, cuz its mostly Matts dream. But she brings in the most views so she has to run sponsorships and things.
The more I hear about 5em, the more depressing it is, and you just know lil girls are looking up to her like “omg goals, that’s who I wanna be 😍😍” 😢
Typical of these men to life off these women.
I don’t think it’s a millennial epidemic as much as it is a societal epidemic. Today’s men are learning from men who thought less of yesterday’s women… so unlearning the mistreatment is a slow trickle. Shouldn’t be, but it is. Less than 100 years ago women couldn’t vote or have bank accounts, so husbands of today learned from men who widely saw that as acceptable in real time. Emotional neglect wasn’t even a thought, when women barely had human rights. Luckily, it’s being brought up now.
Society has to unlearn the bullshit that was upheld for 1000s of years. Unfortunately, it will realistically take HUNDREDS more before equitable treatment is seen as the expectation, not the exception, on a mass scale.
That being said, make no time for a man that isn’t with it. The past is no excuse. Sucky men still suck. No pity found here 💀
Well said.
This comment should be pinned 📌
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Yes, exactly. The very language we speak is full of past perceptions.
interesting thing I've come to notice - guys like that tend to look generally eerily familiar
Midwestern male mold
Yeah, they look bland and lack any charm or intelligence
Sweet home Alabama vibes.
Girl your the best❤
It's the smile for me. They all got the same psychopath smile
Men bragging about pooping themselves are wild
It’s giving Nikocado ✋💀
Right? Like bro, you aren't a baby. You don't need mommy-gf to change your diaper. Wash your own drawers.
Right? Who are the women who are attracted to these "men"? I would never be with someone who wanted me to be his mother and wash his poo stained underpants!
Right, like they're proud of themselves for crapping in their pants like a baby... And they want women to want them 😐
@@spOOkytimesokay but what if it was flipped lmaooo men would be SO PRESSED
If someone looked at me and said, "I haven't found someone I want to marry yet." I'd take the hint and be single once we parked the car at home.
I was thinking that too
Absolutely, those women keep themselves in those toxic relationships, I can't feel bad for them 😂
When listening to Matt's song I dont really hear someone depressed/frustrated/desperate. To me it sounds like he's saying: I have all these great things, but I'm not sure I want them anymore. Poor me. Why is life so unfair?
It's just whining about having responsibilities as a husband and father. Suprising her with a clean house? He's ridiculous.
I hesitate to say this because Matt is clearly a douchebag and I don't want to sound like I'm defending him...but that sounds exactly like depression to me.
Full disclosure, I have only heard the bit that's in this video, so forgive me if there's context from the rest of the song I'm missing. But as someone who has suffered from major depressive disorder for years, this kinda rings true to me. With clinical depression (as opposed to situational depression), your sadness is chemical in nature and not really connected to your circumstances. You could literally have everything you ever wanted, but your brain refuses to let you be happy.
That said, he could still be full of shit and be ungrateful for the life he had. Plus that doesn't excuse his other red flag behavior. My only point is that if you separate the lyrics from the man singing them, that 10000% sounds like my experience with depression.
@@user-oj3zr3qg6q the fact that he's smiling so much in the video, even when looking at his wifes face full of concern - to me it shows some unhealthy dynamic is happening here. Either he's doing this to make her feel like shes to blame for everything, make her pity him and do less, or something. I've even been a fan of their random shorts popping up on my feed and have Bipolar disorder, so if anything im biased in his favor, but oof
I mean I would say that’s what depression is- he is still not happy despite all he has. But playing that song for her was crazy lol he basically just told her how unhappy and unfulfilled he is
Idk much about them except for some clips I’ve seen but it looks like he doesn’t want to be with her and maybe doesn’t even want to be a husband or father really either
@@adaaa11 I mean if he has depression- she knows. It would be insanely hard and unhealthy to try and hide that and make his depressive episodes worse. And let's remember this is a video they made for the purpose of putting it on the internet.
And yeah it's not easy to be involved with someone who has depression. But I think a lot of us grew up a lot on the love conquers all narrative that makes it harder.
Idk anything about this guy, but that's what depression does, it makes you feel unhappy and unfulfilled even when you have a wonderful life and people you love and care about.
@@mordecaiissad8529 I think a lot of mental health terms like depression are over used but everyone shows it differently.
However I don’t think he’s depressed as much as he is just unhappy in his marriage lol he doesn’t like that girl
"Take whatever I say with a grain of salt... I *did* date two people that are in prison.. " girl stop I'm dying 🤣🤣
Ladies, don't ask or pressure him to propose. If he wanted to he would. If he hasn't married you do not give him a baby!!
Ask so you know you are both on the same page. If you aren’t, then move on.
No, don't ever ask, just observe. If you ask, they can still lie to you. They can't if they don't suspect you are observing their behavior and actions.
Don't give 'em the cookie either.
Or you can: ASK A GUY TO MARRY YOU. Why wait for him? Ask him to marry you. He may say "no" or need to think about it, but that's what men are asked to do. And to heck with new, mined diamond rings.
I do believe that a conversation about marriage should be had before a proposal happens - purely because this person may not be interested in getting married. I also believe that the woman can propose perfectly fine on her own - but the thing is, if you're going to set up some kind of special thing, perhaps in public, perhaps with friends and family present, that's a lot of pressure on your SO and they may say yes because of the pressure but then later say no in private, or they may just say no right there because they don't want to have to tell everyone else present that the wedding isn't happening after they all already believe that it is. So talk to your SO about their opinions on marriage first.
And then, if they say they want to get married but time passes and nothing happens... If you're pressuring them about it and they seem reluctant... Then you have to assume that they lied to you and they're leading you on. And if that person doesn't want to get married (or perhaps doesn't want to get married to you) but you do want marriage for yourself, then you have to accept that this relationship is not right for you and go find someone who won't string you along. If you force a parson who doesn't want to marry you to do it anyway, that marriage is doomed, because one person doesn't actually want to be there.
Not me watching these clips going “break up with him”, “divorce him now”, “why were you with him for so long?” when I’m now 40, on my second marriage, and having run through a bunch of fuck boys in between.
My first marriage was a thousand red flags. Like a huge bundle of red flags in a trench coat which was also made from red flags. And I was with him from ages 21-31! I don’t know how I have so much audacity.
We can't accept that type of nativity anymore it's enough for real now
I wouldn't call it audacity. You've grown and learned and want to be the voice of reason for others that you yourself might not have had.
When we’re 21 we’re still so young and we really grow up and learn about who we are, what we want, what we believe in, what’s acceptable in a relationship and what’s not. It’s why ppl tell people not to get married young. But I did too. Unfortunately we were great until I got into a very bad accident that turned our lives upside down, and he met a physically able woman and also became like a different person when he turned 40. And then I was also suffering from FTD but wasn’t diagnosed until 10 years after we split. 22 years and it’s really difficult because I understand on one hand but I don’t on the other. But if I hadn’t had the accident I know we’d still be together and happy. There were a lot of outside sources of stress we had to deal with like my family not understanding or doing anything to help because I looked ok. And his very large family taking up a lot of our free time. It’s hard to explain it all but what I’ll never forgive is his cowardice in not talking to me about problems and then not wanting to be the one to leave his disabled wife, so he made the last 2 years hell of course wanting me to kick him out. But he’s married to what my in-laws call a “completely miserable B” and what a mistake he made. But I’m terminal now with the FTD so we really had horrible luck. Or I did since I suffered a hell of a lot more. So I guess we’re not the best example. Oh she also thought he needed kids to be happy and he did get a vasectomy but they could still extract some and they did IVF. We still talked often for years until I realized he was having his cake and eating it too. They’re now 53 with a 10 year old. No thanks! But I’m glad you didn’t drag it out and have a better marriage now. Life is very complex that’s for sure.
I wouldn’t say audacity. Perhaps naïveté back then, but you’ve learned and grown. Possibly you just wanted to see the good in them. Males really do like to play on our emotions and trick us.
And this is why those toxic, alpha, red-pilled influencers are telling men to date girls from 18 - 23 years old. “The younger the better” because they’re easier to manipulate and “mold” into their perfect, obedient girlfriend. They lack experience and won’t even know how to pick up red flags because they’ve never experienced those before.
I am soon to be happily married w my wife (as another woman myself) and I noticed straight people either have a cute relationship like yours and Bryce or it's...this. I am a woman defender til i die but i think its SO weird to have to beg your man for a ring and also kinda weird to push someone into such a big life decision. have some self respect girlie like... if they aren't ready then wait or leave if you see they clearly aren't serious and acting like a manchild putting "da boys!!" before you. Don't make them get you a 128$+ shut up ring that is worth absolutely nothing emotionally speaking and that will cost you a more expensive marriage only for you two to divorce the next year. A lot of straight people seem to date because they feel pressured to socially, or only because they both think the other looks hot and absolutely nothing else, they don't even have actual conversations. it's sad.
You are completely right. All my straight engaged friends are either happily in love, or low key hate each other.
It's a huge problem that's continued for centuries. Committed, traditionally sexually and romantically straight, monogamous relationships just aren't for everyone but we're all fed this one mold of how to pursue life. There's so many people trying to force themselves into it, and it creates problems for everyone involved.
Agreed. Most straight couples seem to despise each other. Fucking weird.
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Yeah. To date heterosexually. That’s the pressure.
Honestly it’s more like it’s REALLY hard to find a real genuine guy on the market these days. It’s a lottery because some guys turn out to be gay(not that it’s a bad thing but I’ve had some instances where they end up coming out as gay! Good for them but I’ve also had instances where they wanna mess with my feelings), taken or they’re single but they’re a dick or just want a fling. This is based from my own (as a bisexual with a preference for men ) and my friends’ experiences. Some settle for less than they deserve, but I know of some who stay together because they’ve known them for so long it feels wrong to part with them. It’s not just because the one they like is hot. And there is always a pressure to date for all sides because a lot of the time, most of their circle is most likely dating. A lot of the time, people fall in love with the idea of the relationship and that tends to backfire.
Omg the bridesmaid behind the bride crying about her groom dumping her for 8 months 😹😹😹😹 she was NOT having it
She was like, “Girl, you are delusional.”
Bridesmaid probably already told her too when her friend first mentioned going out with the ex who dumped her.
When they showed the groom I was stunned. She waited for someone who not only looks but also *acts* (which is far worse) like a 12-year old boy?
It makes me think she was taught to give everything up for a man, to ignore her own suffering as long as he’s happy, even if he shows he doesn’t like her that much.
To me it also screams that the manchild was raised like only his needs matter. I won’t be surprised if it turns out he’s a very selfish husband. That clip was a very painful (in a cringy way) watch.
@@udontevenwannaknowbruv Yes so crazy, she is more attractive than him AND he treated her badly. Shows that psychology is real…
But you skipped over the Matt not talking to Abby for days after she gave birth because he wouldn't be able to pursue his music career🤣🤣
Men who say they don’t want to get married because it’s “just a piece of paper” confuse me because if it’s only a piece of paper and it’s important to your girlfriend, why won’t you just do do it?
Not siding with men here cause they deserve nothing BUT I, as a woman, have this same mindset so I sort of understand where they're coming from. Why would I do something that's legally binding just to appease another person if I don't see the point of it? Legally, marriage comes with a lot of stipulations. Plus, it really wouldn't be fair to my partner or myself if I went along with something that's so important to them just for the sake of doing it when it means nothing to me. But then again, I wouldn't sit in a long term relationship with someone who wants marriage knowing I couldn't give them that.
Or maybe just don't marry and break up. Why would a person marry someone to appease them if they don't believe in marriage? Saying they should marry because they believe it's just a piece of paper is stupid. If they believe that, then it means they don't want to marry.
@@AIgeneratedHumanit doesnt sound like it "means nothing to you" it sounds like its too many strings for you.
I think saying people dont care aboht marriage is a miscommunication. You actively want to avoid stipulations marriage comes eith.
@@brocksampson2590 lol I mean exactly what I say, there is no miscommunication
People have died for the right to have that piece of paper.
About matt's song...I've been diagnosed with depression. My bf is the one person in the world who makes me feel better. Depression tends to make you feel like you are not good enough for anything and you never will be. Not that your life isn't good enough for you. That song is not about depression, it's about him hating his family
As a person whos literally depressed as we speak and has had times in their were they literally didn't even wanna be on earth for years i wholeheartedly disagree with you ,you dont know this man nor do i or any person in these comments so to say he doesnt have depression based off a literal 30 second clip of music is actually crazy by your logic any depressed student burdened by the crazy amount of work and their lack of pride in their accomplishments because they still have a empty whole in their heart is a faker , i seriously hate the online culture of calling people fakers because their disability is different than the other persons disability you nor i have any right to say this man isnt depressed we dont know him , i dont know you nor your intent i dont wanna come off as rude either i just dont like the idea of people you dont know denying your mental illness because thers doesnt come up in the same way yours does it reminds me of the allistic people telling a high masking low support needs autistic woman they arent autistic because their family member whoes autistic and dont mask + high support needs doesnt act like the woman ,moral of the story we dont know these people we have no right telling them if they have a mental illness or not . (Hope this came off as readable my autocorrect acting up lol)
@@yassine8935He might have depression, he might not. But whatever the truth, he’s also an inconsiderate asshole.
@@yassine8935maybe proofread before posting, and stop using auto correct as an excuse for your posts lack of comprehension. People are basing their opinions on more than a 30 second clip of Matt. The guy is a crybaby, and it's 100% not from depression. He's trying to upstage his wife's postpartum depression.
@@yassine8935 I hate when people use depression as an excuse to be a terrible person.
@@yassine8935 this literally could have been just summed up in one fucking sentence lmao
Missy , you should definitely do deep dive on Matt and Abby channel coz there is more to go.
In one tiktok of their podcast Abby said that after just giving birth to their second baby Matt wasn't talking to Abby at all because he was looking back and realising he can't have a music career now that he have kids to look out for.
Like your wife just got her stomach ripped off to give birth to YOUR baby (mind u Abby got pregnant again when his first baby was only 5-6 month old).
Yikes I had no idea. I’d seen only their cuter videos and thought they were fine. I want the deep dive now
You make it sound like another living being is a love offering...honestly, she's screwing up by being with someone like that And it seems like those two don't know about contraceptives if they are literally having one baby after another.
@@AraneaTempestatum true that's very irresponsible of them. I also think they got married very young and they follow conventional rules because they had their first time after marriage. I Even this influencer thing was all Matt wishes , Abby has said many times how she didn't even know how to turn on the video camera or anything.
@@AraneaTempestatum😂 she literally thought that she couldn't get pregnant while breastfeeding.
yeah the song matt wrote and filmed her listening/reacting to it gave me the major ick but knowing this now I think he's straight up a POS lmao. abby's way in too deep and bringing another kid into it just barely 6 months after her first is crazy to me. IIRC it wasn't planned either?
i would rather eat a glass shard jean jacket than be like “i have kids with you and i thought id be happier” in front of my girl
How would a glass shard Jean jacket even work or look like?
@@caitlingill my vision is standard jean jacket with multi colored glass pieces either sewn on or glued. in this situation i think i will pick glue because i would rather eat glue, denim and glass than sing about hating my current life to my wife i built it with.
Now I can't stop trying to picture this 😊
So expressing you emotions ??? Post pardum depression is now widly seen as a completely normal thing in society and the socalled progressive part of the world likes to say men should hold in heir emotions as ut leads to the high rate of suicide and depression in men yet when a man is literally doing those things its somehow a problem ??? I really do want to understand how a man sharing his emotions to his partner is a bad thing at this point we really are fulfilling the hirse shoe theory the right says men such in your emotions its weak and now progressive liberals are saying dam near the same thing . The fake acceptance of mental health is seriously showing ngl .
@@yassine8935 this isn’t me hating on a man showing his emotions this is me shitting on a man setting up a camera and making his wife listen to a song about how he’s not happy in his relationship. he’s not having a conversation about his emotions. did you watch the video? if a wife did this i would shit on her too! it’s simply a weird thing to do
It's apparently not being told enough, women are not obliged to make up for what these spoiled men didn't receive in childhood or assume their wives will do for them just like their mother did, marriage is made up of two adults not one overly giving adult and a man-child.
She couldnt even see through an obvious joke tiktok
Sounds like youre a maggot (replace the m with an f)
Societally they just can't adjust not having everything be brought on a silver platter and spoonfed for the merit of simply being born. And claim it's something wrong with women, not spending lives solely to serve them.
Sometimes i think me being aroace is just a blessing, because it means i will never have to tolerante the bullcrap of men like this.
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Honestly same. But my parents don't know and think I'll get married one day and give them grandkids 😃
Ikr, ill forever be grateful ill never have this kind of drama in my life
@@muskaan3711buy lots of cats or dogs and introduce them as your kids 😂
i am a horny heterosexual woman and I've never tolerated crap like this from men. You can theoretically enter a relationship with pos man and tolerate crap even while being aroace, for cultural reasons.
I watched Stephanie Soo’s wedding recently and for the first time in my life bawled like a baby while listening to someone’s vows. I promised myself then I want either that or nothing.
If you have to BEG to get a shred of love from your partner, then it was never love to begin with.
This gonna sound silly but I always remind myself that that’s how it’s supposed to be, the way they never fail to show appreciation and interest in each other but also tease each other in a loving way.
Because my parents for sure did not give me that impression for the longest time. Even though now I know my parents care about each other, in my culture you’re not supposed to show affection or appreciation towards your partner in front of the children. They always act like they just tolerate each other’s existence and if the wife communicates then the husband usually acts in an uninterested way and just grunts something back instead of acting interested and talking properly. So the children don’t even get to learn what a healthy dynamic is.
I still remember believing my parents didn’t like each other until one evening when I was a child and woke up to go to the toilet, I passed by the living room and accidentally saw my parents cuddled up on the couch while talking to each other with a smile on their faces. That shocked me more than anything, I felt like I was betrayed but also made me relieved. I’m 25 but to this day I’ve never seen them give even a peck on each other’s cheek in front of me and my siblings. Their love language is making fun of each other until one of the two gets slightly annoyed.
Hello fellow BISS
This is why I loved the show "kevin can fuck himself" - I watched it recently and cant stop recommending it to people. It shows the trope of the sitcom wife and abusive sitcom husband played for laughs. (similarly these tiktok style relationships- were these men are so awful but of course "its just a joke!")Then the minute the camera is off him and pans to her, it goes from his fun life thats a multi-cam sitcom, to a single cam drama showing how miserable his abuse makes her and how she feels about him. Its so well done and shows what these cruel relationships are actually like
this
Read your comment, went to binge all 8 episodes, came back here to say thank you, that was an awesome recommendation
I clicked onto this video to share about this show as well! Genius
His song is so rude lmao surprising your wife with a song about how unhappy you are with your life with her and your kids and want more
His song is like a Disney princesss i want song and gives me the ick. Where's your testosterone, dude?? Grow up!
People who are constantly posting about their relationship and talking how sublimely happy they are multiple times per week and how amazing the other is… they’re compensating.
Betching as soon as the camera turns off 😂
That or they're in the early stages. Everyone gets a honeymoon phase. Chemically, it's called obsession stage and to your brain, generally speaking you don't see any faults. Lasts around 3-4 years. Most people break up when it goes out and don't move on to long term. You see this a lot in hollywood marriages.
@@vixxcelacea2778yeah that too. I was more like that in the beginning of my relationship and everyone was so over it. 😂 I was just really really happy though. Finally.
And now that we have been married awhile, I don’t bother posting. It just feels like I’m doing a victory lap lol. It’s too much.
I’ve seen people over compensate though and it’s painful.
@@vixxcelacea2778People in the early stages of a relationship don’t typically choose to obsessively post about their relationship on social media. I’m about to celebrate a fourth year anniversary with my partner and not once have I had the urge to create a TikTok/Instagram/Facebook account for us as a couple.
Uh no ladies. This is gross. We don’t beg for men to love of. We don’t beg for men to marry us. You ask them if they are planning on marrying you. It’s simple. If they say yes then great. If they say anything other than yes, then you leave. You don’t pressure a man. You don’t beg a man. If they wanted to, they would. Anything less than that is gross, and we leave. We don’t pressure. We don’t “make”. We don’t accept a “shut up ring”…. We don’t accept this. If he plans to marry you, the. You know that’s the plan and you leave it alone. If it doesn’t happen on your timeline then you leave. We don’t have time for men that want to waste our time. If he doesn’t “recognize” what he has… then you get away from him. It’s very simple. If they wanted to they would. It’s simple. We also aren’t going to shame the cost of the ring. That’s also gross.
While the guys in the video are well, what they are like, I will say it's also not fair to a good guy who simply has different plans and feelings.
A relationship is two people who compromise and gel together. But there are things for people that are too important (regardless of what they are) in which they become deal breakers. Wanting to get married or not and how that goes down is one of them. It's a big event, it's expensive and for many it means a lot.
It's not fair to either party to have one person feel pressure to do something they don't want to do and the other to feel like them not doing so means they don't "love them enough". Mutual respect means mutual respect, including if someone doesn't want to get married. You discuss it like adults, see how everyone feels and if it's a deal breaker, well, then it just plain is. People are allowed to like and dislike various things that simply clash with the other person.
@@vixxcelacea2778 that's essentially what they are say though. You have a right to leave a relationship you feel disrespected in or that core values don't align. Marriage is a core value to some people. I doubt most people would leave if there was a good reason to not get married right away. The men in this video seem like they are fine with stringing their partners along and their partners should not have to put up with that.
@@vixxcelacea2778 That's exactly why it's best to cut losses early and look for someone on the same page as you. Then there'll be less heartbreak and resentment for having to sacrifice something. Men - commitment and not acting like you hate her guts, women - time and energy. Either they come out right or don't come at all. Pressure is not it, societal or from a partner, in any matter. The issue is many men not being upfront in order to keep up wifey or even REPRODUCTIVE benefits FOR DECADES. And women giving them 5 million chances and endless amounts of grace and good faith. That's not a happy relationship but being hostage, men for comfort, women for appearances and brainwashing, I guess? That's why it's suggested to date for your dream lifestyle as a woman, his actions and habits outside the relationship should align or it's a facade that will fall off one day. You'll never be the exception.
It’s okay to say that they need some time or that they aren’t ready, especially if it’s early on. But they will know if they want to by year 3, at the latest. If they don’t know by then, then it ain’t going anywhere.
Yes! I would like to add: It's a good option to have a serious talk to him about if he wants to marry at all or not. Maybe he has some concerns that can be managed (like compromising on a cheap wedding or getting prenups to make sure that he does not worry about problems at a possible divorce). I think that prenups are a great idea for many people anyway (we did them and while we don't think that we will ever divorce, we look at it like at an insurance - you can get a fire insurance for your house although houses burn down quite rarely).
But if he does not want to, don't beg or try to force him. It may be hard to leave a long-time relationship, but I'm sure that being left shortly before the wedding ("because he realised he did not want to get married") or divorce a year after is MUCH worse.
any man that values your virginity over who you are just genuinely does not view you as a person ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Can easily be retorted that anyone who cares so much about what you make over who you are as a person doesn't see you as a person.
Men & women want different things. Women want a stable man who can at least provide a fair share, while men want a woman who cares about them yet also want to ensure any possible children will be his. Ensuring the child is yours isn't a problem women have. You already know whose it is because it came out of you. If women are going to do the "men shouldnt have a say bc my body" argument for abortion, then women don't get to comment about how men ensure they are providing to their child alone & not being stolen from. Bc thats what it is, theft. Theft of time & resources, similar to wage theft, but for 18yrs. If Im committing 18yr+ to providing & caring for a child then I have every right to take precautionary steps to make sure I'm not being cheated or stolen from.
@@opdinkleberg7078 i think you're having a different conversation here. i would definitely agree with the first sentence you said! i think the lesson to take here is that you should value your partner for who they are, not what they can/cannot give you. this goes for people of all genders :)
@@opdinkleberg7078 Are you a virgin?
@@opdinkleberg7078 Are you virginial yourself?
I think how many people you sleep with IS a reflection of who you are as a person. Also the more people you have slept with (either men or women), the higher the rights of divorce.
For the engagement part - Never understood waiting for a man to propose to you. For my fiance and I we talked about engagement together like adults and we agreed that I can propose. I proposed valentines day 2020 at a science centre and he cried. He loved it. It made him feel so loved and special.
That's so sweet ❤ you sound like an amazing couple and I wish you two all the best!
We did the same, but we were just engaged after the conservation 🤷🏼♀️ no proposal really 🤔 congrats!
awww, that's so nice!!
U proposed to a man?
@@pizzadogmaAnd? What's wrong with that?
So excited that people are finally talking about Matt and Abby. It’s insane.
Where have you been? People have been talking about them for quite some time now, like at least a year.
My ex was one of those guys that shit his pants pretty frequently, alcoholism and IBS are a deadly combination. I'm so glad I got out of that truly shitty relationship.
my dad aint a millennial hes a gen x but he acts just like this and overall acts like a man child i feel genuinely so bad for my mom because shes the only one holding this relationship together.. 😭😭
And then there's my husband, who's been calling me "wifey" and "future wife" since year 2 🥰 I'm lucky I found a good one but I had to go through a whole lotta bad ones first 😆
Congrats on getting picked!
@@someusername4129 Why did you say that as if she was a pick me. She just said that she found a good guy who actually loved her to marry.
@@amokay746why do you read it that way? Says a lot more about you than me tbh. Stay mad I guess 👍
@@someusername4129 I read it like that too, the internet is a very mean place and usually when people comment that they mean it in a negative light
@@Barkinglikeiwantitbbg right?! Guess I'm not crazy
Missy I understand getting that bag, but please don't fall for AI slop like this. i mean for one thing, the information about Marie Antoinette is painfully wrong. the first paragraphs of the wikipedia could have told u more valuable information
The second I see "humor" that disrespects either the husband or the wife, I block. Ridiculing or embarrassing your spouse is despicable.
My dad was upset at my mom because she "wouldn't let him" go to the bathroom while she was in labor. She also took me to work with her every day for 18 months because he told her "I can only watch three", being my three older brothers. She also home schooled us every day, prepared lunch and dinner, cleaned, and worked from 5 to 10pm everyday...To this day, I'm amazed they're still together.
Remember when Matt gave Abby the silent treatment for two days after giving birth? That is a full on Kyle horror story lol, beats Nate any day.
"Wife bad" memes have been around at least since the boomers, and we shouldn't normalize anyone pressuring the other into relationship milestones.
Yeah, and it's time to leave those memes behind. If one's wife is so bad, this person must ask himself how he ended up with that horrendous woman.
Wife bad articles and books have been around for centuries. Centuries of men infantilizing and talking down about wives
I told my dad his "I hate my wife" jokes aren't funny and spread misogyny (I had to explain what that word means btw) and he got SO mad
@@thatcreepygirl Such men wanted a surrogate mother figure more than a wife, and so see a wife as a ball and chain instead of a partner to cherish and love
There are literally women who talk crap about their husbands all the time. Sometimes marriages aren't perfect or legal issues stop you from leaving. Ik many men stay in relationships because its just cheaper & you won't be ripping a family apart or they feel their wife would use every lever to make his life hell for daring to leave her. Women can be just as toxic about breakups as men, but typically go for social/financial destruction.
Women of the past feared leaving their husbands for social & financial reasons too so lets remember to be fair about respecting peoples problems/fears.
Plus venting like that could be a sign of mistreatment. Many men don't leave abusive relationships because of how society treats & views men who are victims of abuse. I don't think shaming venting language is the right step, instead lets ask why & properly digest/work through the issues. Shaming only serves to delay & obsfucate the problem in society actually getting addressed fully. Often times bc the group shaming is projecting & fearful their own skeletons in the closet will be found at some point.
That funny guy at work thing is SO real. You have to fake laugh. Also I had a coworker like that who was also a wife guy and he ended up getting fired for stealing and had CP on his work laptop. So…
Just give em a dumb look and turn around, don´t fake laugh😭💀
“Someone made a tinder profile with my husbands photos…”
Oh honey…
the volume on the struggle bus (these women's "relationships") is ASTRONOMICAL 😭😭😭
My parents got married after mom told dad "We've been working pretty well so far and I'd like a family with you but if that's not what you want let's split up and keep looking". And dad just shrugged and said "Okay, marriage it is". Plain and simple, no mind games, no having to beg.
No bc when Matt started singing the cringe was so hard I needed to pause the video and mentally prepare
It was genuinely so cringy, I physically recoiled! I don’t know how he was so proud of it, it was pathetic 💀
Everytine i see those sorts of things i think about two things:
1. Do these people ever actually have clear communication and talk about their expectations and pros and cons of a marriage? Do they just publicly guilt trip?
2. Do millennial women know that they too have the right to propose?
Dont get me wrong, the dudes suck too because they seem to have commitment issues (or they don't like the concept of narriage for other reasons, which might be more reasonable) but I really dont think a marriage will last long if it's a result of tiktok-shaming or an amount of likes
if you ever find someone so fixated about social media validation
just walk away
I had an ex that made fun of me for having less followers (I don't use social media) and it was the the weirdest way anyone ever tried to "Shame" me lmao
Those are exactly my questions. Most of the women in those videos seem like they’re truly unaware they are just as able of proposing as their boyfriends, and that publicly shaming their partners for not asking for marriage is a good and healthy strategy. Just yikes all around.
If the person you're with doesn't match your life timeline, you need to make a decision. Not them. It's hard but you have to make a choice as to what life will look like in 5-10 years. Either choice is a gamble.
2:29 - yeah, my husband of 5 years (been together for 10) called me his wife since the 3rd month of dating 😂
My bf and I are geeks, and he calls me his waifu…I love him so much 😆
wait what is this ai sponsorship? are the "historical chats" actually fact checked? is it AI in the stolen-data-AI way or is it AI that was built with intention to connect the youth to the past in an interesting way? not a critique of you, just very curious & confused about the sponsorship as AI ethics is a hot topic - maybe you can give more info in the next ad read if you work with them again? loved the video!
yeah I'm iffy too, especially when it started talking about Marie Antoinette. Even the most surface research on goddamn wikipedia will tell you that their relationship was awkward at best, to the point that public newspapers mocked Louis for being impotent and Marie of being infertile.
they were both also 15 and 14 respectively, and the art used looks like AI as well. i understand getting that bag but also. ew
@@ButterflyScarletreal
The optimist in me wants to think that the second man was already planning to propose and didn’t like his girlfriend calling him her husband because it might ruin a surprise proposal 😇😇
I would love it if videos like yours helped change the culture! But in the meantime I’m happy for the laughs
Part of me feels like they hadnt been dating very long because he didnt seem mad, he just seemed uncomfortable.
@@Altmetalpunk That would totally make sense. But wouldn’t make sense why they became engaged soon thereafter?
I didn't rush my wedding with my ex and after 7 years, 2 years moved in together, he dropped me and our dog with my parents like a damn sack of potatoes and went running home to his family saying he didnt want to be an adult. I'm pretty sure the ring (which was his birthstone, modest, not even diamond and might be fake on top of it). Didn't even visit the dog for a month after when he said he wanted visitation basically.
People can be great, but men are not socialized well in this country, and they don't value others properly.
A girl at my husbands job has 2 kids with her high school sweet heart and she’s asking him if it’s unreasonable that she wants to get married, I’m like ?!?!?!?!?!?!? It’s such a crazy red flag that she’s asking other people this like he’s been gaslighting her MORE THAN HALF HER LIFE AT THIS POINT. LEAVE MAMA
“the two men that i dated before him… are in prison” i audibly gasped
I honestly never understood the "i hate my wife" trope. Never will
tbh if a man is this open about not wanting to marry you, have a conversation with him and find out why. My bf and I have had a few conversations about it, and now I know that he wants to get married too and he's actually been thinking about it a lot, but we aren't in a place where it would be financially possible yet for what we want. Communicate and be willing to consider that who you're with might not be the best person for you if you're goals don't align. If you want to have a husband and he doesn't ever wanna be one, you are not compatible for the long run
Just keep notes people, if he says “flowers are too expensive” WHEN YOU HAVE SAID COUNTLESS TIMES YOU LOVE GETTING THEM. RUN.
If he can’t buy you flowers even out of curtesy, he can’t buy you a ring. He can’t buy you anything that you love and want. NO. RUN.
So re: Matt from Matt and Abby: my mom and little sister both dealt with extremely serious medical issues and the same time and my dad spent literal weeks sleeping in a hospital chair. We literally had to force that man to go home and shower. I shudder to think what would happen if, God forbid, their family was in a similar situation. My dad is not a perfect person (like all of us), but if there's one thing he's really darn good at, it's being there and making sure we're all okay.
My ex-wife still misses me.
But her aim is getting better.
Get it!? CAUSE MARRIAGE IS TERRIBLE!!
@@Devilslov then don't get married.. leave those women alone
No dude that’s the punchline from a cartoon.
@@violetvictoria7248 It's a gravity falls reference, DW :)
@@violetvictoria7248 r/ woooosh
My husband later told me he knew he wanted to marry me in the very beginning. He put a ring on it after 7 months. Men know when they know. I’m grateful to have such a good man. ESP after seeing this… dude
Folks, if YOU are dying for a proposal, please just ask your partner. Don’t wait around! If they don’t have the same goals and desire to have that commitment, find someone who will. You can love someone more than anything in the world and they still won’t be the one. And that’s ok. I PROMISE.
This is *really* important so thank you for voicing this.
This 100,000% communication is key men nor women are mind readers your girlfriends wont know you dont wanna get married unless you tell her same with boyfriends wont know you want marriage unless you tell him things like this should be communicated in the beginning and just throught the relationship period bc whats the point of having a relationship if you dont want to communicate your wants and needs .
When I got together with my husband, we talked about our plans for the future right away. Of course, I don't expect talking about life plans from 16 year olds, but if they stay together, they should have a serious talk at some point when they are grown up. Don't ever hope that your partner magically fulfills your wishes. That would be very nice, but it's not realistic.
@@nriamond8010 I mean, yeah… that’s not really what I’m talking about. These women are in sometimes 4-5 year long relationships as adults where it is clear that both partners are aware that the woman would like to get engaged and the men are not interested in that but unwilling to end the relationship.
No because the way the minister tried to save him
That song was one of the most disturbing things I've ever seen. It actually made me feel sick with shock
21:05 its like he wrote the song that she was supposed to sing. He was smiling singing about being depressed and she is sitting there , kinda depressed?
This video is a certified banger. Every section and quote had me gasping for breath from laughing. Thank you for braving through these areas of social media that I will never have any inclination to watch. Your commentary makes some of the cringe Tik Toks that you analyze on this channel just a tiny bit more bearable. You a real one.
Not the AI ad 🤢
3:18 Dre's echoing laugh lmaooooo
we need to stop engaging in this content, even (especially?) hate watching. these people are emotionally abusing each other for money and the proper response is to stonewall them. it’s completely inappropriate to post arguments with your partner online and they’ll never have motivation to work out their issues if they’re making money off of being cruel to each other ….
“Summon Drew Afualo” 💀💀💀 these mfs need it
AI is theft. PAY artists & writers if you’re going to train AI with their hard work.
Two of the men in the thumbnail are Gen X 😭
I think those two are more supposed to be representative haha but you’re right
I watched both everybody loves Raymond and King of Queens. Both husbands definitely don't respect their wives on the show and are man childs, honestly idk why they always portrayed relationships like that
I had assumed that the millenial men were continuing the trope from having grown up watching those sort of shows on TV tbh and that's what the thumbnail was getting at. I should watch the video and see
It's just a joke lol
She’s saying that’s how millennials are acting now.
5:20 nah she needs to break up with him wtf???? 13 years?????
My fiance had a timeliness planned out with me, and we actually got engaged on the date we discussed. And he actually teared up when he got down to do the proposal. He and I are immensely happy. If he loves you, it'll show.
Aussie TV have been rerunning Everybody Loves Raymond for years so seeing the star of that show in the thumbnail was a bit startling, never thought I'd see him anywhere other than TV, lol.
5:30 This!!! Women in their late twenties and thirties have self respect! Men who just wanna play around and don’t know what they want or want a doting woman with no self respect who will put with with their bs will then claim that younger women are “more fun” and get along with them better and have “less baggage.” Boy who do you think is creating the baggage???
I’m just going to say, I was cool about not being married until my BF (and person who’s account the rent came out of) was in the hospital and unable to communicate with me because I had zero rights legally to see him or control his finances. So girls if you’re not married, AT LEAST be his power of attorney. If he can’t do that, leave him OR make sure you don’t need him. (And truly every woman should make sure she doesn’t depend on her partner but that’s a whole other story.)
If these men are so unhappy, why are they still in these relationships
This is so sad and crazy to me because my boyfriend gets upset when I dont call him my husband lol
Love that for you! Thats how it should be! 💗
Not until he puts a ring on it at least
If it makes him so upset he better propose to you
Guys he cant propose to me yet we’re in highschool lmao 😭 personally I think its cute
@@Saltwateryum-el4fb Aw, I guess he's thinking ahead.
It always so weird to me that Nate is well-known in the fundie blogger sphere now. I came across him online 10+ years ago when going through jaw surgery, way before he met his wife.
No way girl promotes AI apps now
Don't support AI :/
I can't imagine having so little respect for myself to try and force someone to propose to me. Just propose to him and if he says no move on. These women are living such sad lives.
im kind of disappointed to see the ai sponsorship tbh. id be more understanding if it were just a chatbots (i dont like them, but w/e) but the blatant use of ai art is gross to me. ik this comment wont mean much to you since im a random guy on the internet, but its important to me to say something when i see this stuff being pushed.
ai "art" should not be supported, its not being used as a tool, its being used to steal art from non-consenting artists. people are using chatbots to write fanfics and scripts which, again, often rips from real authors without their permission. like i get you need the money, so i cant judge you based off what sponsorships you take, but its still disappointing to see. especially if youre being honest about the use of ai to write your shorts.
sorry for the nasty comment, i promise im not trying to be a dick.
This feels like a copypasta.
@@Just_a_Goth I'm a real boy. Could a robot do th🐇is- woah wtf what was that??? Did u guys see that????? I think something strange is afoot..... we better split up and look for clues.
@@LemonicStarling So you're an attention seeker. Go talk to your parents.
Fully agree, AI art is garbage, and the boomers on Facebook can’t even tell what images are real or not anymore
Missy looking amazing as usual
All hail Nate, Toolbaggius Rex, Lord of Douchenozzles and Hypocritical Men, Crusader of Tone Deafness, Savior of Misogyny, and Breaker of Sacred Vows. Long may he feign.
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Considering I’m dating someone named Kyle, this whole video felt like an ominous prophecy 😂😂😂 I guess Kyle gotta go
“b*tch where’s the joke?” was too real
Yes girlie, the older I get the more petty I became 😂
I died laughing more times than I have been a runaway bride (...3 times). Subscribed!
The Matt guy is giving family annihilator vibes.
that is soo harshh
10:43 why I feel like if he had to help wash a menstrual-stained garment he would be in despair
My (maybe gonna be a ex husband soon) didn’t even propose… he put on Facebook that we were getting married, I woke up one morning to a bunch of congratulations texts
The babadook husband is so on point 😂😂😂
Stop begging men to marry you, you are only hurting yourself. Wear something nice, take a pic and post it everywhere. Go out to places alone in your nice dress. Do not wait for him to let you go, always be the first to leave as soon as you feel any kind of way even if it a small feeling. Life is way more then you and your feelings and that boy. Nature is out there creating beautiful things while you sit with that thing. Just smile and say your piece, block and go. It time you meet what really was meant for you in the world because it been dying to meet you, to experience it or to see..
That self shitting guy is a toddler not wanting to get potty trained and want a mother to get it clean .. not a wife
YOU WERE SPONSERED BY TALKIE??!!‘😭😭😭💀
Straight people are either really cute but also way to PDA, or whatever this is, where they don’t actually like eachother and just spend their time together because they settled
Forgetting the anniversary is bad, but just playing devil's advocate it is weird that no convos happened in the weeks prior like "hey what should we do for our anniversary?"